My father left our family when I was 5 years old and he decided to continue his life with another woman. He just forgot about me for the next 5-7 years but he was living about 500 meters near my house. It was really hard for me to figure out how to be a real good man and how to behave as a man because I had no one who could tell or show me that... The only good thing is that my father taught me a lesson because he showed me the behavior that I must eliminate from mine. He showed me the version of a person that I shouldn't ever become...
“Pursue making how you feel align with reality as opposed to letting reality be aligned to how you feel.” Extremely powerful words and a great lesson to everyone.
@@oakla-video512 from what i understand, it's, in simple terms: feel whats actually happening in reality. dont change reality in your head by following your emotions. "pursue making how you feel align with reality" means "feel things that reflect reality." eg. if you got a job, be happy. yes, you didnt get the job you wanted, but you got a job, so dont ignore that by ONLY focusing on what you didnt get. the opposite is also true, "letting reality be aligned to how you feel," which means, "dont change reality in your head by following your emotions." following the previous example, it means feeling SO sad abt the job you never got that you literally forget you got your 2nd top choice. (thats what i got but someone better fact check me)
Ending is clearly an emotional roller coaster. Also best tip about productivity: if you feel unproductive check on 3 simple things: - physical activity - eating - sleep If you lack any of those it gets a lot harder to gain motivation
And start doing even though you don't feel like you wanna do. I watched a video on motication from a channel(which is related to mental health), It's a cycle were you get motivation when you do and accomplish something that you like, and you need motivation to do the same. Motivating yourself is about beaking that cycle and start *DOING* things. Hope this helps
@@sharathkumark9692 a lot of youtube channels about mental health simply don't know what they're talking about. you have to figure out the line between "i'm feeling a bit lazy to start" vs "i'm burnt out on this thing" and forcing yourself to start in the latter case is incredibly unhealthy. for the former case, you should still try to figure out what that barrier is to starting in the first place, so rather than having to force yourself to start, you can craft an environment for yourself where starting, if you're actually enjoying it, becomes easier. relying on "motivation" isn't necessarily the best idea in the first place - you have to rely on the environment to be set up to make you succeed. and if you can't craft that environment... that's where you have to look deeper.
I really really appreciate your "hot takes", they're resourceful and inspiring actually, and more of a wise man's advice than a hot take in my opinion.
Short time watcher, first time commentor, Botswana citizen from South Africa here. Started watching your videos a few weeks ago and I cannot get enough of them. Thank you so much for posting and I am looking forward to more.
No hablo inglés, no hago programación y tampoco soy ingeniero todavía pero me encantan tus videos. Tu filosofía de vida y tu forma de ser tú mismo me inspiran y motivan a ser un poco mejor en lo que hago cada día. Gracias por motivarnos a todos, no dejes de hacer videos ❤
Love the advice series: keep it up! Focused on software for over 20 years, and these are some of the least communicated, hardest to learn topics... I came for the vim, I stay for the friendship!
Dude, this hit me harder than I thought it would... Your "I cant let how I feel dictate what I should be doing" is my new motivational mantra. Thank you.
I relate 100%. Going through a moment in life where I’m forced to reflect back over a decade: accomplishments, motivation, and lack thereof. Thanks for putting your thoughts and feelings out there in these videos. They come at a very timely moment for me…
I grew up without a dad too, and this shit still hits home at 28 years old still trying to get a career in tech and do so many things that simply go against my entire background. I would like to deeply thank you for this series since I actually watch this more than your techie stuff (promise will watch it once I'm done with basics of C++ and DSA). I never realize how much I need this before actually setting down and watching it since I simply don't understand my own feelings.
These are the talks that makes you connect with a youtuber. That's makes a follower to a passionate follower, since you gave something that is so valuable to them. Thank you.
Never saw a content creator deliver such passionate energy as you do Prime! Always get absolutely hyped when I watch these hot takes. Also appreciate not cutting out the emotional part! We're all humans, let's gooooooo! Legend!
Thanks for this video. I kind of needed that. - "pursue making how you fell align with reality as oppose to letting reality align on how you feel" - "I can't let how I feel dictate what I should be doing"
As a longtime psychotherapist (turning into a software dev), I can't tell you how many young college students would come to therapy and want to "find their motivation" again. This rings so true. It was such a shock to the system to have to do stuff that wasn't on the top of their list of things to do when there were so many other fun things to do. I love it. I always said, "Motivation is not something that you find and keep. It's something that keeps you doing things. When you start something hard, you have to realize it's gonna feel uncomfortable and difficult. Fight the feeling to do nothing!!!
Thank you so much for taking your time to make these videos. As someone who is self taught, it's tough to know what's normal and what isn't. To me, goals aren't achieved by motivation, motivation is created when goals are reached. I have so many goals I want to achieve for myself. I'm often referred to as a machine in my company because I'm constantly studying and building in my free time. This isn't because I'm explicitly motivated to do these things, but because these goals are important to me. When I start to see some real progress, I start to feel motivation to do more. I really do appreciate you making these videos for people like me who are newer to the tech world. There is a lot to learn and it makes it much easier to wade through the water with the advice you give.
"it's tough to know what's normal and what isn't" so relatable, especially if you are the only one with a specific job desc in the company. Man, I need a mentor just for the sake of experience sharing.
@@Rey_R_ That's my current situation and I'm really hitting some burnout. A mentor would be perfect. I'm probably going to start a twitch channel and code live. That way I can have people tell me what I'm doing wrong.
As someone still working on building that real sense of maturity myself, and who doesn't have a strong father figure to have learned it from, it means a lot just hearing the reality of it from someone whos' gone somewhere and made something of themselves. Thank you man.
I'm in the same boat as you. Growing without a father is not an easy task, or rather a very difficult one. But it is doable. And that warm feeling of achievement is highly intensified, because of all the trials and errors you had to go through to get there. Appreciate you not cutting out that emotional part at the end of the video. Keep doing what you're doing.
Thanks for sharing this, completely agree. Also love the fact that you're one of the few videos that I don't have to increase the playback to at least 1.5 times for. :D Keep them coming.
I also grew up without a dad. I got bullied all my life and never really got anywhere. I’ll be 30 in a few months and in the last 2 years I’ve learned so much about myself on my own from talking to other people, the one thing I was always so apprehensive about. I really appreciate you making this video. The end spoke to me as well the entire video but the ending really tied it all together and motivates me even more to pursue the knowledge I’m seeking. I’m a newer subscriber but I just wanna say thank you. You are a great man and I am glad I found you. ❤
Thank you so much for this. You and your videos are the reason why i started learning Vim. Your videos about how to be a better senior engineer has personally helped me a lot. I can never thank you enough.
You’re the reason I fell in love with coding again, after couple years of hating it. I started using vim and rust and doing side projects thanks to your videos.
Man. I love seeing truthful and not fake displays, because they are so scarce on the internet... Yeah, there are moments to laugh as there are moments to cry. Appreciate the advice, and the authenticity 💪
I can say that from my side the motivation is coming from people like you. fighters and passionate people ramp up my motivation. so I make sure to surround myself with inspiration and people I admire. And I can tell you that I'm doing and refining this for the last 14 years, and it is working pretty well for me. 😄 Cheers to ThePrimeagen and to all of you!
I think this is spot on. There are many great resources that dive really deep into motivation and drive, but also I think there's much more that are hurtful and somewhat dangerous. People to tend to go to extremes, so they would either sit and wait for the magical motivation to come or the would go and become that grind machine that will eventually lead to depression and burnout. I deeply believe that the only reasonable way to move forward in life is to set a goal, and then just go towards it, celebrating every step along the way. Every time I don't feel like it but I actually put the work in and accomplish something I feel amazing. Worst thing one can do it to put oneself down whenever something goes south, or feel unmotivated. As we age we tend to better understand ourselves and what drives us, what's actually important and we start making better decisions and it's easier to just keep going. Time in the saddle at the finest.
I usually don't comment, but man no words can describe how much this is meaningful to me. I always appreciate your energy and enthusiasm which why I always keep coming back to watching your videos.. and to see that you sometimes struggle with that just gives me so much hope and energy to dedicate more towards the goal that I am looking for.
I love this video. Thanks for keeping the emotional part in. It let everything you said hit in a real way and showed that you actually care about what you're talking about. I really appreciate that. I have a lot of issues with keeping motivated and it's nice to see others talk about it without it just being another video they need to crank out for the week.
Motivation comes so much more when you are in motion. How many times have you started something you didn't want to do at first and then thought it was not so bad? I also think it comes so much more when you are in a creator mindset (coding) rather than consumer mindset (reading news/social medias) and have a clear end in mind.
I agree, I often find concrete objectives/goals to be helpful! 👍👍👍 I also am concerned about over-consumption of passive content (I've quit social media outside of that one "professional network"...)
I needed this today. I got trashed in an interview two days ago. I got the bad news from the recruiter yesterday. It was so hard to sit down to my "childish" project running on dev boards thinking I'm doing something "irrelevant to industry" but I'm still trying. I see the value in my work. I didn't communicate my position well, I got treated pretty poorly in a passive aggressive way. But I'm trying to not let that kill my "motivation" my "passion" no matter how crap I feel in my heart. My head knows how what I am working on is important, regardless of how I feel. Thanks guy, I appreciate you.
I was bingeing your channel and wasn't prepared for this video to shlapp that hard at the end. it got to me, as a coder and as a millennial going through therapy, massive respect my guy, and thank you.
was gonna comment "Aww you're the greatest" but I don't feel it really does you justice. I just wanna say I think we are really lucky to have such a positive and healthy person to look up to
I love and respect the energy that you put out. Naturally getting the motivation is hard for me too and I find that showing up even when it's rough is what helps me be in a motivated state. I use the same for gym motivation as with my work. Especially for me as someone who has ADHD personality, There are so many distractions these days that will easily break any momentum requiring more motivation the next time, further depleting the resource pool of available motivation. So for me, I use the steps: 1) show up 2) close off any distractions 3) start with a easy win for warmup 4) go for the toughest thing that needs to be completed.
Bro this really hits home for me. Ive been feeling like this, which is crazy because this is deft my best year in terms of career, but there is just SO MUCH work to do that i struggle making meaningful progress on my free time. I have two web app projects, a full time job as senior dev and im helping my wife start he makeup brand as well. So im on the computer 24/7 and there are some points where i know i should be working and mentally i feel good to work but there is this anxiety getting in the way because how much work there is to do, I consume a lot of work related content during these times but i struggle to get to coding. The fact that you feel this way or somewhat similar really helps me accept it as part of the lifestyle. I have to learn how to deal with it. It is a hard pill to swallow but starting is the only thing that makes the difference. I really appreciate the content you put out bro. If you ever need anything dont hesitate to ask
Thanks, I needed to hear this right now. Even if my job should be fun right now, actually I did not feel so unmotivated for a long time. Your advice is simple, but when you have never thought about it like that, it is pretty profound.
You know I love you Prime UwU. Y'all got this (Me included, hopefully). Can totally relate with the not feeling motivated at all to do crap. I had the notion that the novel feeling I felt when I started off would be constant. The apathy set in within a year of being in engineering. Now I am making changes in my perspective so that I stay connected to what reality is because this crushing feeling in my case was caused by the hyperrealistic expectation of enjoyment from my work. TLDR: (In my opinion) Do stuff, you'll feel great at best and meh at worst. But do stuff because you made this choice. You got this!
I've always been frustrating by quotes like "just show up every day". Like WHY? WHY and exactly HOW does that help? Even worse, it ends up being good advice if I follow through with it. I think this video actually elaborates on why "showing up every day" is an effective strategy for productivity, happiness, and wellbeing. So thank you and please don't stop hahah
This so true, I have had the exact experience of getting motivated after starting to do what I really wanted to do for so long but just didn't feel like. I could be still waiting to somehow get motivated if I never gave myself a force to start it.
Man I feel you and I also I felt so emotional coz I also lost my dad when I was a kid and its so hard for me growing up and I also struggled till i became a Software Developer. I always go through your videos and today i'm SUBSCRIBING to your channel. Thank you sir for being real and honest in all your videos especially the one on Netflix where you left because you didn't want to listen . I have noticed a lot of Software Developers are so egotistical and cocky so I try to stay in my lane. Keep up the good work
Amazing advice. I have been letting my mental barriers get in the way of what I know I really want, I needed this. Love how you can talk about everything from vim to this. Keep up the great work, been watching you for a long time and will continue to do so.
Bro, you're really an amazing person. Im super thankful for your videos and just overall presence and energy. I truly am a fan. Thanks alot for all of this effort.
spot on advices prime, i've been feeling axiety sometimes in the last months by doing work on a project that is always on a brink of a disaster with deadlines but i'm just pushing through anyway and greasing myself with coconut oil to stay motivated
@@ThePrimeagen yeah one thing that always helped me, is doing exercises almost everyday after working and getting good nights of sleep. That helps alot and play a great role on staying motivated
This is some straight fatherly wisdom! I really appreciate the transparency and honesty my man. By powering through to finish this video it shows how you’re walking the walk and giving the advice you wanted but didn’t get growing up. You’re being a dad to the next generation with this video. That is such a huge gift to men that are growing up like you did that find this video. Thank you for your encouragement and helping others learn what you learned the hard way.
You're great man, the tears on face of a men that's gold, wish you all the best, i still have not even fully understand my garbage vimrc but i will keep on doing it, thank you.
I’m 22 and I didn’t grow up with a dad either, it’s heartbreaking and tough, people who aren’t in that situation wouldn’t understand, I’m glad you’re someone who I can look up to and take pointers from as I’m on my way to getting my cs degree. Thanks for everything
Ok, Prime. This one was a hard-hit. It makes me happy to know that you're doing well and I wish you the best. If I was your dad, dude, I'll be so happy to have such an awesome personality as my son! Thank you.
Many of the greatest people grow up with shit life guidance. Very unfortunate. The great silver-lining is that everything you make for yourself, the growth in your life, that is all first-hand perseverance. Strive for growth and understanding and harmony within your life, it will set you free.
This hits me right in the feels. I have the same issue growing up without a father to now teaching my almost teenage daughter lessons. Soon, It will be my son.
I grew up in a similar upbringing and seeing you tear up motivated me hard because you know what it is like and I know what it is like, you inspired me truly to make it happen and I deeply appreciate you from the bottom of my heart you are a real impact on the world at large your chaotic energy is so fun to absorb you are a true inspiration!
wow, man this is the best one ever! I never expected the last bit to be emotional and I decided to comment even before I watched that bit anyway. And I wish there was a plus button on the damn thumbs-up button! I'm going to watch this one over and over, it's gold, sorry my English is not strong enough to give you the best appreciation. I'm not sure even you can beat this video, and that's a compliment. respect prime! respect! 🙏
Had to write an exam about java this semester, failed hard because i couldn't get any motivation learning this language. I've started reading books about rust and go, but that uni forces me to learn java really kills alot of motivation :(
yeah. this is truly where maturity needs to play a key role. You have to set aside how you feel and just push through for the sake of winning. I totally get not working in a language you love. I work in c++ all the time and I absolutely hate that language.
Man you're the f*king best, I literally can't continue with my journal without watching the 6th video of vim as your editor or watching your "hot takes" videos...you make the difference and I learn so much about you
The end really got me......I look to RUclips for guidance on my life because I didn't have someone to give me the proper guidance I needed as a man. Dad wasn't in my life either.. thanks for the video man
I can absolutely relate with this. Thank you for being vulnerable. Motivation usually comes to me after I start working, not before. And then I think "man, this is awesome!"
The more I watch your videos, the more I love you. You feel so down to earth, humble. More developers should be like you! You are truly the man. Thank you for all of your videos, appreciate it a lot
You’re the man Prime. I agree with you. It’s not always thinking about the short view (how you feel today), but about getting in the saddle to get you where you want to go.
So much truth in this.. Small anecdote - when I started working out regularly, everything else in my life started going out well. Why? Because working out on a schedule taught me the value of showing up and doing it despite not wanting to, and it now applies to everything else in life as well.
"I would just kind of quit everything I would have just done what I have need to do to barely get by in life" this really inspires me, thanks Primeagen!!!
Thank you!! You always bring these and they hot when I need them most. You’re always pushing out great content and you’ve help me rethink things and place and different, more mature, perspective on them. Thank you!
100% man, this is great advice! Love the content, the raw hot takes, and delivery, don’t stop being you :-) As a developer of 15 yrs, in IT for 20, I know this advice will help many in tech survive. Heck, great advice in general in any field. Thanks for what you do sir.
The last bunch of videos you've put out have been full of amazing content, not just because you have a knack for articulating experience into sound, relatable advice, but because they exude a degree of sincerity and integrity that frankly you don't find a lot of on this website. Thank you sir.
dear primeagen my friend, some statements to you: - you have one of the most beautiful heart I ever seen in this platform - i cried listening to you, i believe in your cause/life objective -i admire your work -anything you need to make this channel greater, I'll spend my time/resources on it -count on us(your community) -thanks for being the "father" of most of this programming "younglings", it's more important than some "do my crash course and be hired by faang" -THANK YOU
Prime your content is amazing, but this video is chefs kiss. Thank you for being so honest with us, the audience. Appreciate you and the content, keep being you!
Love your content please never stop doing this type of videos! You really help junior devs and I can bet that even mid and seniors with mental help and motivation. We need more people like you
This video has been the best no-bullshit, real talk video I’ve seen on software development for a while. Thank you for having the courage to upload this.
I appreciate you very much. I watched a few tech videos first, because they caught my attention. But after hearing you talk about private stuff and unpopular opinions, I felt an even deeper connection. I am 28 years old and have a wife and 2 wonderful kids. I was diagnosed with ADHD ~1 year ago. I struggled to be a husband and father for a long time, I always felt distracted at work. I was really disappointed of myself and unhappy with my situation. But for some time now, after visiting a psychotherapist and with gods help, I can start to see my career and private life from a completely different angle. When you said "how I feel versus what I need to get done I call maturity", I could not agree more. I think that more responsibility that is taken care of can lead to a more fulfilled life, as long as it's balanced. Embracing that for 2 months now boosted my wellbeing to over 9000. Thank you
That's really great you've made that video and said that out loud. When I watching stream/video, reading twitter or blog posts of people that are great devs or other "successful" people, I often have a feeling that I'm doing something wrong or I'm not smart enough to do things like they are. That makes me feel awful, even if "logically" I KNOW that isn't reality and only my idea of someone. So, if someone telling it's not a full reality (like you here), makes me feel better and doesn't deceit myself that I would never be like someone. Thanks.
bro, thank you so much for that. thank you for being so real and human, this means a lot to all of us. i'm a junior just starting my career and your videos have a imense impact for me, because I can point to a clear objective: I wanna be like him when I grow up. And that's priceless, bro. Thank you again.
I just found your channel and I am honestly blown away. I appreciate the transparency and realness that you give. I never thought I would find my passion. I felt like a “jack of all trade, master of none”. I started learning to code, and am finally really excited about something. I finally found my passion, but am also going through major life changes and trying not to sink into depression. I really needed this video. Thank you for pushing through how you felt, because this video really inspired me and gave confirmation that I needed.
I love your content and your spontaneous personality. You always make me laugh on all your videos I watch and I love you for that man. First time you got me in the feelings. Your dad would be extremely proud of the man you become, at least I would. I respect you even more for being able to open up to your community. When I first started watching your videos, I had no idea what you were doing since I'm not a programmer but I loved the energy in your videos. And after watching you for a couple of years now, I slowly exposed myself to coding thanks to you, so thank you for the educational content you put out there and thank you for just being you (:
oh dang! NOT Even a programmer?? Wowza. Well that is pretty awesome that you are starting down that road :) best of fortunes and thanks for the nice note.
Also not a programmer :). But I recently started seriously learning, and am working on an ML-powered trading bot as a hobby. I met a programmer on a public discord server who basically just told me to "read the python docs" (which was singularly the most useful thing I have ever done to try and learn to program) and pointed me to Prime's channel a few months ago, and yeah, Prime is an all-around G. I would definitely like to see how Prime would approach data science and ML and advice for beginners. I've set my life on the path towards nanotechnology R&D, and programming is a skill I am developing more to supplement that.
Thank you sir for your kind words of advice, we can clearly see how deep and emotional it got to you and everything you said makes sense. We all appreciate your work and dedication for bringing this content to all!
Amazing and incredibly valuable video!!! Thank you so much for making it!!! You made me cry... This kind of honesty is extremely rare, and you made me love your videos and work from the very first video I watched! I also did grow up without a father, and not having someone there for you to navigate you is extremely hard... Thank you once again for this video, it's a gem!
Hey, thanks for sharing a little bit of how you feel sometimes and a little bit of your story. I also grown up without a dad but I had my mon and my grandma which gave me a solid base to do whatever I wanted. I didn't get to college but I'm a self-taught software engineer and my learning resources are people like you (specially you). I'm pretty happy with all the things I know and the things I have today. Thank you so much for doing what you do, you really deserves everything good you have in your life. Keep doing the awesome work you do, you're my hero!
My father left our family when I was 5 years old and he decided to continue his life with another woman. He just forgot about me for the next 5-7 years but he was living about 500 meters near my house. It was really hard for me to figure out how to be a real good man and how to behave as a man because I had no one who could tell or show me that... The only good thing is that my father taught me a lesson because he showed me the behavior that I must eliminate from mine. He showed me the version of a person that I shouldn't ever become...
“Pursue making how you feel align with reality as opposed to letting reality be aligned to how you feel.”
Extremely powerful words and a great lesson to everyone.
That's a worry, because I don't understand what they mean. Help?
@@oakla-video512 from what i understand, it's, in simple terms:
feel whats actually happening in reality. dont change reality in your head by following your emotions.
"pursue making how you feel align with reality" means "feel things that reflect reality." eg. if you got a job, be happy. yes, you didnt get the job you wanted, but you got a job, so dont ignore that by ONLY focusing on what you didnt get.
the opposite is also true, "letting reality be aligned to how you feel," which means, "dont change reality in your head by following your emotions." following the previous example, it means feeling SO sad abt the job you never got that you literally forget you got your 2nd top choice.
(thats what i got but someone better fact check me)
I didn't it tho...
hmm i have a way to find thing around the reality that can inspire or make me feel better when doing some task
start doing the action first, the motivation will follow. don't wait for the motivation to appear for you to take the action.
Ending is clearly an emotional roller coaster.
Also best tip about productivity: if you feel unproductive check on 3 simple things:
- physical activity
- eating
- sleep
If you lack any of those it gets a lot harder to gain motivation
yeah, i assume general wellness. you aren't doing these, there is no way you can accomplish anything.
I think I know mine but even doing that requires time & motivation, its so easy to not do stuff but it just puts you deeper into a rut.
pretty much
And start doing even though you don't feel like you wanna do.
I watched a video on motication from a channel(which is related to mental health), It's a cycle were you get motivation when you do and accomplish something that you like, and you need motivation to do the same. Motivating yourself is about beaking that cycle and start *DOING* things.
Hope this helps
@@sharathkumark9692 a lot of youtube channels about mental health simply don't know what they're talking about. you have to figure out the line between "i'm feeling a bit lazy to start" vs "i'm burnt out on this thing" and forcing yourself to start in the latter case is incredibly unhealthy. for the former case, you should still try to figure out what that barrier is to starting in the first place, so rather than having to force yourself to start, you can craft an environment for yourself where starting, if you're actually enjoying it, becomes easier.
relying on "motivation" isn't necessarily the best idea in the first place - you have to rely on the environment to be set up to make you succeed. and if you can't craft that environment... that's where you have to look deeper.
Thank you for sharing this.
I had quit 3 jobs thinking I'm not enough and it was not normal to feel that way.
yeah, we all feel this. Its completely normal.
dude, dont stop making these kind of videos, they r super helperful
mega helpful! The advice he puts out is incredible!
hio! thanks bud :)
@@ThePrimeagen can you please provide detail of your headphone. Apart from that video is superuseful
Seriously.. i generally ignore every video with useful title but I always click yours. Because I know you say the truth
Thank you for these videos Prime, the general developer community is extremely luck to have you as a role model. Keep it up dude!
that is pretty dang nice my friend.
I really really appreciate your "hot takes", they're resourceful and inspiring actually, and more of a wise man's advice than a hot take in my opinion.
just trying out here :)
Me too🙌🏻🙏🏻
😗 Me too.
Short time watcher, first time commentor, Botswana citizen from South Africa here. Started watching your videos a few weeks ago and I cannot get enough of them. Thank you so much for posting and I am looking forward to more.
4:57 was too close to home for me; I, too, had no one telling me these things earlier, and it is difficult, but that is what strengthens you.
I needed to watch this video this morning. Thanks you for putting yourself out there and being vulnerable.
I love these. A virtual mentor.
out here trying
No hablo inglés, no hago programación y tampoco soy ingeniero todavía pero me encantan tus videos. Tu filosofía de vida y tu forma de ser tú mismo me inspiran y motivan a ser un poco mejor en lo que hago cada día. Gracias por motivarnos a todos, no dejes de hacer videos ❤
Love the advice series: keep it up! Focused on software for over 20 years, and these are some of the least communicated, hardest to learn topics...
I came for the vim, I stay for the friendship!
snap! thanks bud :)
Yoda voice: "Vim leads to friendship." 👽😂
@@avidrucker Yoda: Friendship Vim leads to"
Dude, this hit me harder than I thought it would...
Your "I cant let how I feel dictate what I should be doing" is my new motivational mantra.
Thank you.
I relate 100%. Going through a moment in life where I’m forced to reflect back over a decade: accomplishments, motivation, and lack thereof.
Thanks for putting your thoughts and feelings out there in these videos. They come at a very timely moment for me…
that is great to hear. thanks for the nice note.
I grew up without a dad too, and this shit still hits home at 28 years old still trying to get a career in tech and do so many things that simply go against my entire background. I would like to deeply thank you for this series since I actually watch this more than your techie stuff (promise will watch it once I'm done with basics of C++ and DSA). I never realize how much I need this before actually setting down and watching it since I simply don't understand my own feelings.
my man. sorry to hear about the dad
its hard
You are motivation for many. Thanks for sharing that. You have no idea of the impact of what you do on people's lives.
that is cool to hear :)
These are the talks that makes you connect with a youtuber. That's makes a follower to a passionate follower, since you gave something that is so valuable to them. Thank you.
Dang bro, right in the feels ❤️ get after it 💪
a lot of feels in there
@@ThePrimeagen you the man… man 🫡
Never saw a content creator deliver such passionate energy as you do Prime! Always get absolutely hyped when I watch these hot takes. Also appreciate not cutting out the emotional part! We're all humans, let's gooooooo! Legend!
Thanks for this video. I kind of needed that.
- "pursue making how you fell align with reality as oppose to letting reality align on how you feel"
- "I can't let how I feel dictate what I should be doing"
the good fight right there.
As a longtime psychotherapist (turning into a software dev), I can't tell you how many young college students would come to therapy and want to "find their motivation" again. This rings so true. It was such a shock to the system to have to do stuff that wasn't on the top of their list of things to do when there were so many other fun things to do. I love it. I always said, "Motivation is not something that you find and keep. It's something that keeps you doing things. When you start something hard, you have to realize it's gonna feel uncomfortable and difficult. Fight the feeling to do nothing!!!
" stop your fellings dictate your motivation " that hit me hard . thanks for the vid sir
"Motivation Inspires Action is MIA... The truth is Action Inspires Motivation... You need to AIM for what you want."
Thank you so much for taking your time to make these videos. As someone who is self taught, it's tough to know what's normal and what isn't. To me, goals aren't achieved by motivation, motivation is created when goals are reached. I have so many goals I want to achieve for myself. I'm often referred to as a machine in my company because I'm constantly studying and building in my free time. This isn't because I'm explicitly motivated to do these things, but because these goals are important to me. When I start to see some real progress, I start to feel motivation to do more.
I really do appreciate you making these videos for people like me who are newer to the tech world. There is a lot to learn and it makes it much easier to wade through the water with the advice you give.
you are welcome there Brad :)
"it's tough to know what's normal and what isn't" so relatable, especially if you are the only one with a specific job desc in the company.
Man, I need a mentor just for the sake of experience sharing.
@@Rey_R_ That's my current situation and I'm really hitting some burnout. A mentor would be perfect. I'm probably going to start a twitch channel and code live. That way I can have people tell me what I'm doing wrong.
As someone still working on building that real sense of maturity myself, and who doesn't have a strong father figure to have learned it from, it means a lot just hearing the reality of it from someone whos' gone somewhere and made something of themselves. Thank you man.
I'm in the same boat as you. Growing without a father is not an easy task, or rather a very difficult one. But it is doable.
And that warm feeling of achievement is highly intensified, because of all the trials and errors you had to go through to get there.
Appreciate you not cutting out that emotional part at the end of the video. Keep doing what you're doing.
yaya! thanks bud. we decided to keep it and happy about that.
Thanks for sharing this, completely agree. Also love the fact that you're one of the few videos that I don't have to increase the playback to at least 1.5 times for. :D Keep them coming.
This is the most valuable and down to earth advice video I have ever seen in youtube. Thank you for giving out this for free.
I also grew up without a dad. I got bullied all my life and never really got anywhere. I’ll be 30 in a few months and in the last 2 years I’ve learned so much about myself on my own from talking to other people, the one thing I was always so apprehensive about. I really appreciate you making this video. The end spoke to me as well the entire video but the ending really tied it all together and motivates me even more to pursue the knowledge I’m seeking. I’m a newer subscriber but I just wanna say thank you. You are a great man and I am glad I found you. ❤
Thank you so much for this.
You and your videos are the reason why i started learning Vim.
Your videos about how to be a better senior engineer has personally helped me a lot.
I can never thank you enough.
you are welcome bud :)
You are an inspiration to me, the way you turned out your life is so inspiring , you give me hope
You’re the reason I fell in love with coding again, after couple years of hating it. I started using vim and rust and doing side projects thanks to your videos.
dang! Thanks bud for such a nice note. I really appreciate that :)
Man. I love seeing truthful and not fake displays, because they are so scarce on the internet... Yeah, there are moments to laugh as there are moments to cry. Appreciate the advice, and the authenticity 💪
I can say that from my side the motivation is coming from people like you.
fighters and passionate people ramp up my motivation.
so I make sure to surround myself with inspiration and people I admire.
And I can tell you that I'm doing and refining this for the last 14 years, and it is working pretty well for me. 😄
Cheers to ThePrimeagen and to all of you!
thanks :) I really appreciate that nice comment.
I think this is spot on. There are many great resources that dive really deep into motivation and drive, but also I think there's much more that are hurtful and somewhat dangerous. People to tend to go to extremes, so they would either sit and wait for the magical motivation to come or the would go and become that grind machine that will eventually lead to depression and burnout.
I deeply believe that the only reasonable way to move forward in life is to set a goal, and then just go towards it, celebrating every step along the way. Every time I don't feel like it but I actually put the work in and accomplish something I feel amazing.
Worst thing one can do it to put oneself down whenever something goes south, or feel unmotivated. As we age we tend to better understand ourselves and what drives us, what's actually important and we start making better decisions and it's easier to just keep going.
Time in the saddle at the finest.
As always - great video. Keep it up, fren.
I usually don't comment, but man no words can describe how much this is meaningful to me. I always appreciate your energy and enthusiasm which why I always keep coming back to watching your videos.. and to see that you sometimes struggle with that just gives me so much hope and energy to dedicate more towards the goal that I am looking for.
! I am glad I could do that for you :)
Its true though, I don't always feel on fire constantly. I make my own fire.
Love you man. Can relate to dad stuff. Proud of you across the Internet and across the pond 😊
I love this video. Thanks for keeping the emotional part in. It let everything you said hit in a real way and showed that you actually care about what you're talking about. I really appreciate that.
I have a lot of issues with keeping motivated and it's nice to see others talk about it without it just being another video they need to crank out for the week.
Watched it till the end, gotta say this is damn good advice Prime. Thank you good sir
Motivation comes so much more when you are in motion. How many times have you started something you didn't want to do at first and then thought it was not so bad? I also think it comes so much more when you are in a creator mindset (coding) rather than consumer mindset (reading news/social medias) and have a clear end in mind.
yayaya. such facts.
I agree, I often find concrete objectives/goals to be helpful! 👍👍👍 I also am concerned about over-consumption of passive content (I've quit social media outside of that one "professional network"...)
I needed this today. I got trashed in an interview two days ago. I got the bad news from the recruiter yesterday. It was so hard to sit down to my "childish" project running on dev boards thinking I'm doing something "irrelevant to industry" but I'm still trying. I see the value in my work. I didn't communicate my position well, I got treated pretty poorly in a passive aggressive way. But I'm trying to not let that kill my "motivation" my "passion" no matter how crap I feel in my heart. My head knows how what I am working on is important, regardless of how I feel. Thanks guy, I appreciate you.
I was bingeing your channel and wasn't prepared for this video to shlapp that hard at the end. it got to me, as a coder and as a millennial going through therapy, massive respect my guy, and thank you.
was gonna comment "Aww you're the greatest" but I don't feel it really does you justice. I just wanna say I think we are really lucky to have such a positive and healthy person to look up to
Hot take: the most important skill in tech is being unmotivated and yet be able to stay rational and make progress.
Definitely agree, it's all about habits
dude, you're killing it, thank you so much for making these videos!
I love and respect the energy that you put out. Naturally getting the motivation is hard for me too and I find that showing up even when it's rough is what helps me be in a motivated state. I use the same for gym motivation as with my work. Especially for me as someone who has ADHD personality, There are so many distractions these days that will easily break any momentum requiring more motivation the next time, further depleting the resource pool of available motivation. So for me, I use the steps:
1) show up 2) close off any distractions 3) start with a easy win for warmup 4) go for the toughest thing that needs to be completed.
Bro this really hits home for me. Ive been feeling like this, which is crazy because this is deft my best year in terms of career, but there is just SO MUCH work to do that i struggle making meaningful progress on my free time. I have two web app projects, a full time job as senior dev and im helping my wife start he makeup brand as well. So im on the computer 24/7 and there are some points where i know i should be working and mentally i feel good to work but there is this anxiety getting in the way because how much work there is to do, I consume a lot of work related content during these times but i struggle to get to coding. The fact that you feel this way or somewhat similar really helps me accept it as part of the lifestyle. I have to learn how to deal with it. It is a hard pill to swallow but starting is the only thing that makes the difference. I really appreciate the content you put out bro. If you ever need anything dont hesitate to ask
Thanks, I needed to hear this right now. Even if my job should be fun right now, actually I did not feel so unmotivated for a long time. Your advice is simple, but when you have never thought about it like that, it is pretty profound.
well hears to some accomplishments in the future.
Thank you. I was feeling really down the past few days and unable to work and you said exactly what I needed to hear. Time to just go do it!
its hard but its often needed.
You know I love you Prime UwU. Y'all got this (Me included, hopefully).
Can totally relate with the not feeling motivated at all to do crap. I had the notion that the novel feeling I felt when I started off would be constant. The apathy set in within a year of being in engineering. Now I am making changes in my perspective so that I stay connected to what reality is because this crushing feeling in my case was caused by the hyperrealistic expectation of enjoyment from my work.
TLDR: (In my opinion) Do stuff, you'll feel great at best and meh at worst. But do stuff because you made this choice. You got this!
yayaya!
I've always been frustrating by quotes like "just show up every day". Like WHY? WHY and exactly HOW does that help? Even worse, it ends up being good advice if I follow through with it. I think this video actually elaborates on why "showing up every day" is an effective strategy for productivity, happiness, and wellbeing. So thank you and please don't stop hahah
This so true, I have had the exact experience of getting motivated after starting to do what I really wanted to do for so long but just didn't feel like. I could be still waiting to somehow get motivated if I never gave myself a force to start it.
gotta force it. it works SOOOO often.
Man I feel you and I also I felt so emotional coz I also lost my dad when I was a kid and its so hard for me growing up and I also struggled till i became a Software Developer. I always go through your videos and today i'm SUBSCRIBING to your channel. Thank you sir for being real and honest in all your videos especially the one on Netflix where you left because you didn't want to listen . I have noticed a lot of Software Developers are so egotistical and cocky so I try to stay in my lane. Keep up the good work
Amazing advice. I have been letting my mental barriers get in the way of what I know I really want, I needed this. Love how you can talk about everything from vim to this. Keep up the great work, been watching you for a long time and will continue to do so.
yayaya
same!
Bro, you're really an amazing person. Im super thankful for your videos and just overall presence and energy. I truly am a fan. Thanks alot for all of this effort.
thank you daniel. i appreciate that
spot on advices prime, i've been feeling axiety sometimes in the last months by doing work on a project that is always on a brink of a disaster with deadlines
but i'm just pushing through anyway and greasing myself with coconut oil to stay motivated
careful. them extrinsic ones can be very hurtful. I hope that you get through all the deadlines and shit. Those are rough.
@@ThePrimeagen yeah one thing that always helped me, is doing exercises almost everyday after working and getting good nights of sleep.
That helps alot and play a great role on staying motivated
thanks man, you're a true big bro for a lot of us
by all means, keep doing these videos so because we learn so much from you
love and respect brother
Tytyty :) glad to be that to many
This is some straight fatherly wisdom! I really appreciate the transparency and honesty my man. By powering through to finish this video it shows how you’re walking the walk and giving the advice you wanted but didn’t get growing up. You’re being a dad to the next generation with this video. That is such a huge gift to men that are growing up like you did that find this video. Thank you for your encouragement and helping others learn what you learned the hard way.
You're great man, the tears on face of a men that's gold, wish you all the best, i still have not even fully understand my garbage vimrc but i will keep on doing it, thank you.
Awesome videos man, don't stop them. I appreciate your personal takes and wisdom. Much appreciated. Best of wishes!
I’m 22 and I didn’t grow up with a dad either, it’s heartbreaking and tough, people who aren’t in that situation wouldn’t understand, I’m glad you’re someone who I can look up to and take pointers from as I’m on my way to getting my cs degree. Thanks for everything
Ok, Prime. This one was a hard-hit.
It makes me happy to know that you're doing well and I wish you the best.
If I was your dad, dude, I'll be so happy to have such an awesome personality as my son!
Thank you.
ty man :) what a nice comment.
Many of the greatest people grow up with shit life guidance. Very unfortunate. The great silver-lining is that everything you make for yourself, the growth in your life, that is all first-hand perseverance. Strive for growth and understanding and harmony within your life, it will set you free.
This hits me right in the feels. I have the same issue growing up without a father to now teaching my almost teenage daughter lessons. Soon, It will be my son.
hah, only an 8 yo son right now (oldest). Haven't quite got to the advice years.
I grew up in a similar upbringing and seeing you tear up motivated me hard because you know what it is like and I know what it is like, you inspired me truly to make it happen and I deeply appreciate you from the bottom of my heart you are a real impact on the world at large your chaotic energy is so fun to absorb you are a true inspiration!
Waiting for the new “bun” runtime hot take -
BLAZINGLY FAST 🔥
i heard these things. i 'll probably do something with it shortly.
wow, man this is the best one ever! I never expected the last bit to be emotional and I decided to comment even before I watched that bit anyway. And I wish there was a plus button on the damn thumbs-up button! I'm going to watch this one over and over, it's gold, sorry my English is not strong enough to give you the best appreciation. I'm not sure even you can beat this video, and that's a compliment. respect prime! respect! 🙏
yayaya! Thanks bud. I recognize you from practically every video I have ever released. Thanks for always commenting and engaging :)
Thank you for that video and also for being so honest. Keep up the great work!
Had to write an exam about java this semester, failed hard because i couldn't get any motivation learning this language. I've started reading books about rust and go, but that uni forces me to learn java really kills alot of motivation :(
yeah. this is truly where maturity needs to play a key role. You have to set aside how you feel and just push through for the sake of winning. I totally get not working in a language you love. I work in c++ all the time and I absolutely hate that language.
I love your videos. This one really hit home. Thanks for the advice and virtual support.
How do you maintain that gorgeous mustache as a Software Engineer?
he commits small and often
shaving... properly
Man you're the f*king best, I literally can't continue with my journal without watching the 6th video of vim as your editor or watching your "hot takes" videos...you make the difference and I learn so much about you
The end really got me......I look to RUclips for guidance on my life because I didn't have someone to give me the proper guidance I needed as a man. Dad wasn't in my life either.. thanks for the video man
Prime, I appreciate you so much for doing this. You are truly an authentic person trying to help others and that is invaluable to me. Thank you
I can absolutely relate with this. Thank you for being vulnerable.
Motivation usually comes to me after I start working, not before. And then I think "man, this is awesome!"
:) thanks bud and i totally agree
The more I watch your videos, the more I love you. You feel so down to earth, humble. More developers should be like you!
You are truly the man. Thank you for all of your videos, appreciate it a lot
You’re the man Prime. I agree with you. It’s not always thinking about the short view (how you feel today), but about getting in the saddle to get you where you want to go.
I am so glad you shared your story. It's very inspiring how you managed to keep this positive attitude given what you have been through.
"Pursue making how you feel align with reality as opposed to letting reality be aligned to how you feel."
Couldn't agree more with this quote.
So much truth in this..
Small anecdote - when I started working out regularly, everything else in my life started going out well. Why? Because working out on a schedule taught me the value of showing up and doing it despite not wanting to, and it now applies to everything else in life as well.
i like this
"I would just kind of quit everything I would have just done what I have need to do to barely get by in life" this really inspires me, thanks Primeagen!!!
Thank you!! You always bring these and they hot when I need them most. You’re always pushing out great content and you’ve help me rethink things and place and different, more mature, perspective on them. Thank you!
100% man, this is great advice! Love the content, the raw hot takes, and delivery, don’t stop being you :-)
As a developer of 15 yrs, in IT for 20, I know this advice will help many in tech survive. Heck, great advice in general in any field.
Thanks for what you do sir.
The last bunch of videos you've put out have been full of amazing content, not just because you have a knack for articulating experience into sound, relatable advice, but because they exude a degree of sincerity and integrity that frankly you don't find a lot of on this website.
Thank you sir.
dear primeagen my friend, some statements to you:
- you have one of the most beautiful heart I ever seen in this platform
- i cried listening to you, i believe in your cause/life objective
-i admire your work
-anything you need to make this channel greater, I'll spend my time/resources on it
-count on us(your community)
-thanks for being the "father" of most of this programming "younglings", it's more important than some "do my crash course and be hired by faang"
-THANK YOU
oh snap! Thank you for such a nice comment.
Prime your content is amazing, but this video is chefs kiss. Thank you for being so honest with us, the audience. Appreciate you and the content, keep being you!
hio! Thanks bud :)
Love your content please never stop doing this type of videos! You really help junior devs and I can bet that even mid and seniors with mental help and motivation. We need more people like you
I'm not crying 🥺 u crying. This is a one of a kind advice. Everyone should watch this video.
This video has been the best no-bullshit, real talk video I’ve seen on software development for a while. Thank you for having the courage to upload this.
I appreciate you very much. I watched a few tech videos first, because they caught my attention. But after hearing you talk about private stuff and unpopular opinions, I felt an even deeper connection. I am 28 years old and have a wife and 2 wonderful kids. I was diagnosed with ADHD ~1 year ago. I struggled to be a husband and father for a long time, I always felt distracted at work. I was really disappointed of myself and unhappy with my situation. But for some time now, after visiting a psychotherapist and with gods help, I can start to see my career and private life from a completely different angle. When you said "how I feel versus what I need to get done I call maturity", I could not agree more. I think that more responsibility that is taken care of can lead to a more fulfilled life, as long as it's balanced. Embracing that for 2 months now boosted my wellbeing to over 9000. Thank you
That's really great you've made that video and said that out loud. When I watching stream/video, reading twitter or blog posts of people that are great devs or other "successful" people, I often have a feeling that I'm doing something wrong or I'm not smart enough to do things like they are. That makes me feel awful, even if "logically" I KNOW that isn't reality and only my idea of someone. So, if someone telling it's not a full reality (like you here), makes me feel better and doesn't deceit myself that I would never be like someone. Thanks.
bro, thank you so much for that. thank you for being so real and human, this means a lot to all of us. i'm a junior just starting my career and your videos have a imense impact for me, because I can point to a clear objective: I wanna be like him when I grow up. And that's priceless, bro. Thank you again.
I just found your channel and I am honestly blown away. I appreciate the transparency and realness that you give. I never thought I would find my passion. I felt like a “jack of all trade, master of none”. I started learning to code, and am finally really excited about something. I finally found my passion, but am also going through major life changes and trying not to sink into depression. I really needed this video. Thank you for pushing through how you felt, because this video really inspired me and gave confirmation that I needed.
Awesome advice! Keep it coming and always keep it as genuine as you do today!
I love your content and your spontaneous personality. You always make me laugh on all your videos I watch and I love you for that man. First time you got me in the feelings. Your dad would be extremely proud of the man you become, at least I would. I respect you even more for being able to open up to your community. When I first started watching your videos, I had no idea what you were doing since I'm not a programmer but I loved the energy in your videos. And after watching you for a couple of years now, I slowly exposed myself to coding thanks to you, so thank you for the educational content you put out there and thank you for just being you (:
oh dang! NOT Even a programmer?? Wowza. Well that is pretty awesome that you are starting down that road :) best of fortunes and thanks for the nice note.
Also not a programmer :). But I recently started seriously learning, and am working on an ML-powered trading bot as a hobby. I met a programmer on a public discord server who basically just told me to "read the python docs" (which was singularly the most useful thing I have ever done to try and learn to program) and pointed me to Prime's channel a few months ago, and yeah, Prime is an all-around G. I would definitely like to see how Prime would approach data science and ML and advice for beginners. I've set my life on the path towards nanotechnology R&D, and programming is a skill I am developing more to supplement that.
Thank you sir for your kind words of advice, we can clearly see how deep and emotional it got to you and everything you said makes sense.
We all appreciate your work and dedication for bringing this content to all!
You are welcome and thanks for the nice note :)
Amazing and incredibly valuable video!!! Thank you so much for making it!!!
You made me cry... This kind of honesty is extremely rare, and you made me love your videos and work from the very first video I watched!
I also did grow up without a father, and not having someone there for you to navigate you is extremely hard...
Thank you once again for this video, it's a gem!
ty ty ty :)
Its been a hell of an eye opener seeing the obstacles you overcame and wanting better for everyone else, kudos to you man
Hey, thanks for sharing a little bit of how you feel sometimes and a little bit of your story. I also grown up without a dad but I had my mon and my grandma which gave me a solid base to do whatever I wanted. I didn't get to college but I'm a self-taught software engineer and my learning resources are people like you (specially you). I'm pretty happy with all the things I know and the things I have today. Thank you so much for doing what you do, you really deserves everything good you have in your life. Keep doing the awesome work you do, you're my hero!