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Something that really helps me is some religious songs that truly reminds me we are all struggling, but blessed. Most of them are joyful even if you don't really listen to the song. Some Gospel music really pushes me to stand up and keep going
Each night after I clean up the dishes and then my sink, I do my little “Diane in Denmark” routine of drying and polishing the sink, and I always wonder how many people AROUND THE WORLD are also thinking of you as they polish their sink dry every night.
Thank you for the tips. My husband passed in January we were married 40 years some days I have found myself sitting all day! I’m going to try them next time I’m stuck in the chair. Hugs to you
I lost my Mom in October of 2017 and my Husband of 20 years in December of n2017. Then we had COVID. I gave myself permission to take my time to grieve. There was some many things that I needed to do. I took my time going through their things. When I felt overwhelmed I put aside the items that were so stressing and did something simple. I was living on automatic pilot. In 2023 I found that I had done a lot and now I was ready to tackle the hard stuff with a clearer understanding of what was important to keep. This is what worked for me. Give yourself time to process your loss, there is no set timetable.
I lost my beloved father a year ago and I’ve sunk into a black hole. So I completely understand you sitting in a chair all day. Grief can paralyse. Be very gentle with yourself.
I do get depressed for no good reason. Chatting with people really helps. I phone or go for a walk and say hello to people I pass, even a trip to the grocery store and chat with the clerks helps.
I got up and started a load of laundry. Then, I started checking my fall wardrobe. Seeing my tops all together gave me a shudder. Most were varying shades of gray. I will be donating most and adding more color to my tops. Have a lovely day. 😊
This may seem like a crazy tip - but on days when I sink into too much RUclips I have managed to end up with some super productive days despite. I press the play button, start to watch something and as soon as the video has caught my attention I immediately press pause and force myself to get up and do 2-3 tasks - big or small. The paused video becomes my incentive to move quickly! It is surprising how much you can accomplish on this "pause/work fast/play" mode repeated during the day!
I do a 20/20/20 pattern, set a timer for 20 minutes and do stuff, when 20 minutes is up set it for another 20 minutes and relax, either read or watch RUclips, then when the timer goes off again do another 20 minutes of tidying.
When I start cleaning after dinner I can be awake till 3 in the morning without effort. Because I don't get interrupted... But my family doesn't like the noise 😂
While I'm waiting for my tea water to get hot, I clean something in the kitchen, wipe off a counter or finger marks from the fridge. If nothing else gets done that day, at least I made my bed when I got up and did that bit of cleaning.👍
Thanks so much! I was very recently diagnosed with ADHD, at 70 years old. My new therapist says she almost never meets a new client my age. For the first time in years, I have hope.
5-Second Rule is a Mel Robbins book. Monday, I started off so motivated, but my kitchen was a disaster and I was immediately defeated. After my morning walk with my friend, she was super motivated to declutter and organize in her home. I was super motivated too, but not to clean the kitchen. What I wanted to do was move furniture and style our hallway (we moved in to a new house in April). BUT, subconsciously I felt guilty and as if it would be a waste of time and energy that “should” be used to clean the kitchen. I wasn’t aware this is how I was feeling until I reflected on it yesterday. So instead of doing what I was motivated and longing to do, and instead of cleaning the kitchen, I sat on the couch all day - paralyzed. “Just one more video” and didn’t get up until late afternoon. 🤷🏻♀️
Get some Bluetooth headphones and pick a long video that you can listen to and clean the kitchen during the video. It helps me fold my laundry and get things done.
Hi Diane, I also put a load of laundry in the machine and get the dishwasher loaded up and running. I usually find this enough to get me going, but if not at least I've done something constructive! The other evening I had unwisely gone to sit down in front of the TV, without clearing up in the kitchen and didn't want to get up again. Then I heard you saying 'You don't have to want to do it, you just have to do it.' I did it and I was so glad the following morning. Thank you.
I must admit it’s not often that I watch the Television but when I was going through a bad patch some years ago, I got into the habit of watching daytime shows and I made myself get up and do something productive every time a commercial came on. It sounds so small and insignificant but it did add up at the end of the morning.
A music teacher told the kids to practice their music homework and exercises just in the 4-5 min commercials and those kids all ended up playing in primary school and high school bands. Small things….compound and add up to big achievements.
You, more than anyone, have taught me the value of 5 minutes. 5 minutes of tidying or resetting a room lifts my spirits as does gardening which is my therapy.🦋🦋🦋
I can relate to the countdown - the days when you cannot get out of the chair, that's what they do when you bungee or Zipline! Huge leap.... It works. That To-do list I do in reverse: Write EVERYTHING down. Feeding dog, getting dressed, folding washing, everything... Then, in stead of scratching it out, take a highligher and highlight the stuff you DID do. I find that at the end of the day, even if you just manage a few items, you will know that you didn't end up doing nothing (the scratch outs make you feel you didn't get much done, while recognizing the highlights, you are aware of the positive).
Grief is just the hardest thing. I miss my Mum every day. We are doing ‘firsts’ of everything without her. There are days where I am stuck, but mostly I get through one step at a time and doing my routines.
I keep my daily 'to do' list, to a maximum of 3 items only - that way, its rare I don't complete those tasks each day. That gives me a boost to do a few more from my 'master rolling list', or simply to pat myself on the back and go off and do something enjoyable.
Hi Diane! Happy Wednesday! Thank you for these tips. Very helpful! I find when I am having the blahs or stressed I tend to isolate myself. Next time I am going to try the texting to connect. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day! 🤗
Thank you for this! I just moved, things are not all unpacked yet, and I needed motivation. The flylady home blessing hour is just what I needed to be reminded of! Thank you for your smile and your helpful words!
I like the idea of starting a load of laundry or the dishwasher. Another tip is to make yourself a very nice drink and snack using a beautiful cup or glass and plate like you would for a visiting friend. Maybe that is more of a self-care tip but it always makes me feel a bit better and helps me get moving.
On the days when I have the blahs and no energy I follow your advice about the top of the hour. Also I do a load of washing. Other days I set a time that I have to start a task.I find it works. 😀
Sometimes when I'm stuck in my chair, I start seriously small - sometimes I have to start just wiggling my fingers, then my toes, then maybe gently move my head from side to side, then nod it up and down; then maybe stretch an arm, the other arm, a leg.... untill slowly my body is literally moving. Then I stand up. And when I do I congratulate myself for getting up!
Thank you, Diane, for these great tips. I had one of those days today. I slept later than I meant to and then just couldn't get moving. Doing something small helps. Also, making the bed wakes me up and makes me realise that, yes, the day has started!🎉
I’ve heard people talk about having a list of things that make you feel good (that are also good for you, not self destructive) that you can choose from when you need a little boost or nourishment. Also looking for the smallest thing you could do and complete right now, even if it’s just picking up a fallen piece of trash or washing your mug. A tiny triumph! I use the countdown to get myself out of the shower when I get caught up in overthinking.
My Dad passed away 7 weeks ago now, and yes moving through the grief can be hard some days. Music for me is always something helpful to get me motivated while doing certain tasks 🥰🎵
Hi Diane! Thank you for making this video! We all have moments at different times. When im in this spot I try to do something of comfort a walk with my dog, lighting candles and just cleaning my space. Something that makes me focus on gratitude.
I love all of these ideas! Some days it is hard to just get started because there seems to be so much to do. One quick task can break the ice and get me moving.
Sending love in your time of grief bc of your mother’s passing. I lost my mom over 20 years ago, so I can relate. Thanks for the good tips! The countdown is from Mel Robbins, a popular podcaster in the U.S. it definitely works! Cheers!
Hello, I suffer from depression and often find myself stuck but also thinking that I need to get going. Some hears ago I found a helpful tip and that is to visualize a task completed or visualize how you want your room to look. I find that a great motivation and also as you and others say, just do one small task to get yourself going. A number of years ago I could not see what was wrong with my living room, very tidy (ocd) but something amiss. I took pictures with my iPad and there it was, the open shelf at the bottom of the sideboard was tidy but cluttered. Since then I use this technique to get my visualization started. Doing this I find I often think of things I can do whilst nodding off to sleep. Thanks so much for this very helpful video.
Diane, thank you so much for your beautiful content you share so consistently 🌸 I love the quick pupa 🧡 In the morning I felt slightly depleted, and what can I say ... in the afternoon I was doing my kitchen and had little dances to Creedence Clearwater Revival's greatest hits 💜👏
I love watching your videos as I work. It motivates me to get up and get something done. It also helps to have a base level of everyday tasks that need to get done. Not to many items, just the bare level to keep the house somewhat tidy.
Water water water!!! So important. I heard once that fatigue and water intake are linked. Don’t get fatigued and THEN grab some water. Head off the fatigue by being proactive with your water intake.
What a great point to just text and feel connection without that feeling of having to talk while grieving or stressed. I tend to isolate myself because conversations while I’m not myself is just exhausting. I will remember this! Thank you Diane ❤
Thank you for your wonderful helpful suggestions and tips Diane! To reach out and help others in your time of grief is 🙌. Another tip of mine is when you start a task and get some progress and momentum going. Put up your hand and then reach down with it and give yourself a big pat on the back. I used to use this as a teacher…..but it is good for everyone….particularly those who live alone.
I lost my sister on the 31st of July of cancer. There are times that I go into a frenzy of action tidying my house AND sorting out her house also, documents, clothes, books all the silly things that a person accumulates during hers-his life. But there are times that I can only sit and stare. I have my son to take care of and that helps but it's really difficult. I have an appointment with a psychologist on the 11th and with a lawyer on the 12th for the inheritance detail. Be strong people and my best regards. THANK YOU DIANE!!!
When I lost my baby five years ago it felt like my world stopped moving. But I still had to keep going somehow behause I had two other kids. Some Friends suggested to cook for our family for two weeks. That was so helpful! It really meant a lot as I wasnt able to decide on what to cook/ i lost my appetite.
I find that a walk does wonders! Even if it's only a few minutes, I usually come back feeling much better. 💛 Still thinking of you Diane and wishing you much support and comfort as you navigate your grief. Much love from France!
Je me sens souvent très près de vous, Diane, quand vous décrivez ces journées où rien ne va et l'on arrive pas à commencer quoi que ce soit. Les petits trucs que vous utilisez sont les miens aussi. ça me fait toujours du bien de vous voir et de vous entendre. Je vous offre aussi mes plus sincères condoléances. J'ai perdu ma mère voilà 5 ans, j'avais 55 ans, ça été très dur parce qu'elle était si aimable. elle souffrait aussi d'une forme de démence.
The 10 minute pick ups really jump start my motivation. Now, I'm finding that using a spare 5 minutes or even 1 minute can help me tackle my "to do" list. Speaking of "to do" lists, I start every day with a scrap of paper with my 3 tasks, some long-term tasks and I use the rest of the paper to record how much water I am drinking and for thoughts or information I hear througout the day. I've been trying to transfer useful information, like a book I want to read, a song I just heard or a cleaning hack to a notebook. I don't always have the discipline to transfer this info, so this is one reason why I am drowning in paper clutter. Working on it, but dealing with paper clutter is SO tedious.
Another idea you had given us in the past was to start doing something at the "Top of the Hour." I've done that in the past to get me started. Great video and great ideas! Thanks for all you motivation.
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Good day, Diane! All great tips again today. I was the caregiver for my grandmother and then both of my parents. My dad passed first, and then mom just 39 months later. It doesn't matter how they pass away it totally blows our world apart!! We'll never get over it, but it is very possible to be able to come through it and find some more happy days ahead. I'm praying for you and everyone on here that's ever experienced any kind of loss that's blown their world apart. Here's to happy days ahead 🥂😊
Thank you Diane. My youngest son lost his first baby with a second trimester miscarriage so I’ve found myself somewhat paralyzed lately. Slowly starting to get back at things so these tips are very timely.
Every morning after I put in my LOL I stop and get my water bottle filled with electrolytes. It’s a little self care and removes that low grade headache I wake up with. Then I am ready to tackle the rest of my AM routine before getting out the door! These routines were encouraged by Diane over the years and they help me so much! Thank you Diane!🎉🎉🎉
Oh, dear Diane! I am so sorry for your loss! losing a mom is hard. Even when you know it is time and her body is all worn out. I am so thankful to you for sharing this hard time with us and allowing us to learn from you ways to handle grief. You are so open and generous. Also as always, thank you for sharing your declutterring process. I had to laugh as you explained why you were letting go of your 5 K bib. As I was listening to you, I was putting away things from a cruise we have just returned from. I had moments before tucked into our drawer to save my cruise key card. It has absolutely no use now and I have plenty of better ways to remember the cruise. So out it goes! Thank you!
How to Keep House While Drowning has a similar note to that countdown tip. Just decide only to stand up. Once you are up you have WON. Then you can do a 1 min task or realize you need the restroom etc. but the key is you have to be serious that you just stand up. Because if you yell at yourself to go do the whole FlyLady home blessing or you failed, you won’t stand up the next time. It’s so helpful. I usually just walk to the kitchen and life goes on somehow while I’m up in a way that seems impossible before I stand!
It's like you read my mind. I sat down expecting to see a decluttering video but instead found one targeted to exactly how i'm feeling. A bad back laid me up earlier in the summer and i had to sit and do nothing for a few days. No exercise, no cleaning, etc., and now that i'm better i'm having trouble getting back to those activities. I especially like the countdown suggestion and will do that right after this video! Thank you!
Thank you, Diane. When I’m in a slump I think to myself “just do the next right thing”. I think about what that is (if I could get one thing done, what would it be, and start there) then I tell myself that if I get that done it’s enough. Once that’s completed I assess. It’s usually enough to get me moving but if not, I do it again. What is the next right thing to do? It could be to have a cup of tea. It could be folding 5 items of laundry. It helps me every single time.
3-2-1 🎉🎉 go go go!! Thanks for showing up Diane and everyone ❤ Mostly you showed up for yourself!! that’s the important thing. FLY stands for finally loving yourself (or first love yourself) That’s the key ❤
Thank you for sharing your journey with grief. You help so many with the tools you give us. When I was paralyzed with grief after losing my daughter, Rachel, a tip that helped me was to engage the 5 senses to bring me back to the present and be able to function and take the next step forward for the day. Always appreciate you, Diane. I’m loving watching your subscriber numbers go up! 🎉🎉🎉
Great tips Diane. I find routines help me to move if I’m not feeling good. Mornings I tidy as I move through the house and afternoons I potter in the garden if it’s dry. Just simple tasks, nothing big. Having something to look forward to is also a great motivator……..even if it’s having a bubble bath or watching a favourite film at the end of the day 😊
Hello Diane. I’ve listened to your request about asking us to leave a comment on your videos in return for you putting out three videos a week. I felt bad because I’ve been watching your videos previously and enjoying them so much but rarely commenting, sorry. So I am trying to comment on each of your videos that I watch now 🤗 I just wanted to say that I love your little white brooch. It really adds something special to the outfit. Thank you for motivating us. Looking forward to hearing your talk next Tuesday. Love from Hayley in the UK
Thank you Diane - feeling low today. Laundry going, off to tackle the visual clutter and finally getting rid of things I have been holding onto for too long. Appreciate you.
When I have a difficult day I dress extra fancy, put some lipstick and make up on and perfume. So I feel special and want to have also an elegant clean home 😊 Started already with christmas menu planning 😅 My husband was so happy last year that it worked so well so he started with his ideas 🎉❤
Thank you, Diane - that’s what I needed! 🤗 I‘m back to work and having a rather rough start. Starting off with a small task works well for me, also making myself a cup of tea and start doing my chores afterwards. ☕️
Thanks Diane it really does work and is also productive decluttered the medicine cupboard go rid of all the out of date stuff made a list of what needs replacing👍
The thing that gets me started the best is promising myself I can quit whenever I want to. Usually the hardest part is getting started, so I can keep going for a while. But once in a while I cash in on that promise and stop, knowing that at least some things got done. It makes it easier to get up and go the next time it's needed.
Yes! I tell myself, you only have to do it (cleaning, decluttering, whatever) for five minutes, and it almost always turns into longer. It’s that getting started that’s the hardest part.
I am donating to families that are in the position I was in 20 years ago. It feels good to help even though we all have needs and challenges. You are teaching me to let go it is becoming easier and more enjoyable! Thank You. So much dear.
🙋🇳🇱 I am at the other side of the voltmeter ⏲️ I feel like a pinball ball that gets launched over and over🚀 and has to score in each corner of life. All positive and exciting things that give loads of energy but maybe a bit too dazzling.Who is familiar to that feeling? Like you are in a rollercoaster🎢 that never stops🤸🤾🏋️🤹The good news: here the 5-minute-reset and the routines almost works out like self-care. I try to do stick to the little routines and pupa's and that gives me time to breathe and to slow down a bit. 🧘🧚🌻Thank you 🙏
Thank you for this video and tips and the honesty in it. It’s so nice to hear others get overwhelmed and paralyzed too and end up just sitting ….like a “lump on a log” as my grampa used to say. Going to clean the cat litter in 5..4..3..2..1 -I’m up!
Good morning Diane! Being 57 and in a period of grief and mourning, I can fully agree with playing games with our emotions. It's like slipping out of the darkness behind our emotions back. Some of my tips...I keep a movie playing on repeat in the living room: it helps me to think about the dialogue and not my grief. Texting is also a way to reach out without getting into a long verbal conversation. Vacuuming gets my blood pumping and gets me moving on to do other things and a LOL(Load of Laundry) is another thing that always gives me the boost to get up and get moving. Thank you for your tips and sweet videos you take the time to film and share! Have a lovely day!~Angel
I have been so overwhelmed recently. Everything is getting on top of me. I've come to this video and I've tidied up after dinner. I feel a bit better already. Xx
Sometimes you can wake up in the morning and for no particular reason feel blah. For me some sort of exercise usually helps, if it's nice outside a long walk is great or if it the weather is nasty a lady on RUclips from Australia has some great exercise videos, Fabulous Fifties Workout. She is very encouraging and the exercises are doable, unlike some of the other RUclipsrs. When I am over thinking things I like to listen to music, usually early rock n roll which is very upbeat and not something manufactured in a studio. I especially like Come Dancing by the Kinks and I Knew The Bride When She Used To Rock and Roll by Nick Lowe, their videos are also funny. If I am just brushing my teeth or getting a meal ready I will watch a video and it really does improve my mood. Of course Diane's videos are always uplifting. The blue dress is fabulous and it brings out the colour your eyes.
You will be needed more now than ever, no pressure but a big thank you ahead of time. I have already been dealing with Fibromyalgia and RA and now waiting to see if I have a heart condition. Would explain my total lack of energy and motivation. You have given me tips on how to still function and that every little bit counts. So thankful for all you do for us especially in this season of loss you are going through.
Helpful tips ❤ I lost my mom about the same time you did, also suddenly, and you’ve helped me get up and accomplish what needs done even on the low days. Thank you for sharing with us ❤
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Something that really helps me is some religious songs that truly reminds me we are all struggling, but blessed.
Most of them are joyful even if you don't really listen to the song. Some Gospel music really pushes me to stand up and keep going
I really needed a reset and having your playlists in the background was a big help. Big hugs ❤
Each night after I clean up the dishes and then my sink, I do my little “Diane in Denmark” routine of drying and polishing the sink, and I always wonder how many people AROUND THE WORLD are also thinking of you as they polish their sink dry every night.
That's lovely! 🧽✨☺️
Yes I do the same above all I don't have courage to do it
Thank you for the tips. My husband passed in January we were married 40 years some days I have found myself sitting all day! I’m going to try them next time I’m stuck in the chair. Hugs to you
I hope they will be helpful, big hug to you, Novella!
I lost my Mom in October of 2017 and my Husband of 20 years in December of n2017. Then we had COVID. I gave myself permission to take my time to grieve. There was some many things that I needed to do. I took my time going through their things. When I felt overwhelmed I put aside the items that were so stressing and did something simple. I was living on automatic pilot. In 2023 I found that I had done a lot and now I was ready to tackle the hard stuff with a clearer understanding of what was important to keep. This is what worked for me. Give yourself time to process your loss, there is no set timetable.
I lost my sister 63 years old on 31st of July quite suddenly and I am absolutely numb Have courage
I lost my beloved father a year ago and I’ve sunk into a black hole. So I completely understand you sitting in a chair all day. Grief can paralyse. Be very gentle with yourself.
I am so so sorry for your loss. Sending you a warm hug and lots of love from South Africa. ❤
I do get depressed for no good reason. Chatting with people really helps. I phone or go for a walk and say hello to people I pass, even a trip to the grocery store and chat with the clerks helps.
I got up and started a load of laundry. Then, I started checking my fall wardrobe. Seeing my tops all together gave me a shudder. Most were varying shades of gray. I will be donating most and adding more color to my tops. Have a lovely day. 😊
This may seem like a crazy tip - but on days when I sink into too much RUclips I have managed to end up with some super productive days despite. I press the play button, start to watch something and as soon as the video has caught my attention I immediately press pause and force myself to get up and do 2-3 tasks - big or small. The paused video becomes my incentive to move quickly! It is surprising how much you can accomplish on this "pause/work fast/play" mode repeated during the day!
Thank you for sharing! That's a great idea.
I do a 20/20/20 pattern, set a timer for 20 minutes and do stuff, when 20 minutes is up set it for another 20 minutes and relax, either read or watch RUclips, then when the timer goes off again do another 20 minutes of tidying.
Sometimes just starting is the hardest
Yes
When I start cleaning after dinner I can be awake till 3 in the morning without effort. Because I don't get interrupted... But my family doesn't like the noise 😂
While I'm waiting for my tea water to get hot, I clean something in the kitchen, wipe off a counter or finger marks from the fridge. If nothing else gets done that day, at least I made my bed when I got up and did that bit of cleaning.👍
Well done, Gwen! Yes, all those little minutes add up. Keep moving forward!
Thanks so much! I was very recently diagnosed with ADHD, at 70 years old. My new therapist says she almost never meets a new client my age. For the first time in years, I have hope.
5-Second Rule is a Mel Robbins book. Monday, I started off so motivated, but my kitchen was a disaster and I was immediately defeated. After my morning walk with my friend, she was super motivated to declutter and organize in her home. I was super motivated too, but not to clean the kitchen. What I wanted to do was move furniture and style our hallway (we moved in to a new house in April). BUT, subconsciously I felt guilty and as if it would be a waste of time and energy that “should” be used to clean the kitchen. I wasn’t aware this is how I was feeling until I reflected on it yesterday. So instead of doing what I was motivated and longing to do, and instead of cleaning the kitchen, I sat on the couch all day - paralyzed. “Just one more video” and didn’t get up until late afternoon. 🤷🏻♀️
Get some Bluetooth headphones and pick a long video that you can listen to and clean the kitchen during the video. It helps me fold my laundry and get things done.
Thank you for the reminder Diane! I feel often perpetually stuck! Time to do something; even one thing; and press on.
Hi Diane, I also put a load of laundry in the machine and get the dishwasher loaded up and running. I usually find this enough to get me going, but if not at least I've done something constructive! The other evening I had unwisely gone to sit down in front of the TV, without clearing up in the kitchen and didn't want to get up again. Then I heard you saying 'You don't have to want to do it, you just have to do it.' I did it and I was so glad the following morning. Thank you.
Yay, well done for following through with your Routines!
I must admit it’s not often that I watch the Television but when I was going through a bad patch some years ago, I got into the habit of watching daytime shows and I made myself get up and do something productive every time a commercial came on. It sounds so small and insignificant but it did add up at the end of the morning.
A music teacher told the kids to practice their music homework and exercises just in the 4-5 min commercials and those kids all ended up playing in primary school and high school bands. Small things….compound and add up to big achievements.
You, more than anyone, have taught me the value of 5 minutes. 5 minutes of tidying or resetting a room lifts my spirits as does gardening which is my therapy.🦋🦋🦋
I can relate to the countdown - the days when you cannot get out of the chair, that's what they do when you bungee or Zipline! Huge leap.... It works.
That To-do list I do in reverse:
Write EVERYTHING down. Feeding dog, getting dressed, folding washing, everything...
Then, in stead of scratching it out, take a highligher and highlight the stuff you DID do.
I find that at the end of the day, even if you just manage a few items, you will know that you didn't end up doing nothing (the scratch outs make you feel you didn't get much done, while recognizing the highlights, you are aware of the positive).
Grief is just the hardest thing. I miss my Mum every day. We are doing ‘firsts’ of everything without her. There are days where I am stuck, but mostly I get through one step at a time and doing my routines.
So sorry about your mum. Thinking of you.
I keep my daily 'to do' list, to a maximum of 3 items only - that way, its rare I don't complete those tasks each day. That gives me a boost to do a few more from my 'master rolling list', or simply to pat myself on the back and go off and do something enjoyable.
Hi Diane! Happy Wednesday! Thank you for these tips. Very helpful! I find when I am having the blahs or stressed I tend to isolate myself. Next time I am going to try the texting to connect. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day! 🤗
Thank you for this! I just moved, things are not all unpacked yet, and I needed motivation. The flylady home blessing hour is just what I needed to be reminded of! Thank you for your smile and your helpful words!
I like the idea of starting a load of laundry or the dishwasher. Another tip is to make yourself a very nice drink and snack using a beautiful cup or glass and plate like you would for a visiting friend. Maybe that is more of a self-care tip but it always makes me feel a bit better and helps me get moving.
On the days when I have the blahs and no energy I follow your advice about the top of the hour. Also I do a load of washing. Other days I set a time that I have to start a task.I find it works. 😀
When I was diagnosed with a chronic pain syndrome and was going to pain management they would remind us " Inch by inch anything is a cinch".
Sometimes when I'm stuck in my chair, I start seriously small - sometimes I have to start just wiggling my fingers, then my toes, then maybe gently move my head from side to side, then nod it up and down; then maybe stretch an arm, the other arm, a leg.... untill slowly my body is literally moving. Then I stand up. And when I do I congratulate myself for getting up!
Ha! I'm stuck in a rut - and this just popped up on my phone. Sounds like I need to take my own advice right now! 🥰
Thank you, Diane, for these great tips. I had one of those days today. I slept later than I meant to and then just couldn't get moving. Doing something small helps. Also, making the bed wakes me up and makes me realise that, yes, the day has started!🎉
Wonderful - have a great day, Margaret!
I’ve heard people talk about having a list of things that make you feel good (that are also good for you, not self destructive) that you can choose from when you need a little boost or nourishment. Also looking for the smallest thing you could do and complete right now, even if it’s just picking up a fallen piece of trash or washing your mug. A tiny triumph! I use the countdown to get myself out of the shower when I get caught up in overthinking.
Thanks for this, Diane! I find the simple act of putting on hand lotion helps me to reset and get started again.
Lovely idea, Karin!
My Dad passed away 7 weeks ago now, and yes moving through the grief can be hard some days. Music for me is always something helpful to get me motivated while doing certain tasks 🥰🎵
Hi Diane!
Thank you for making this video! We all have moments at different times. When im in this spot I try to do something of comfort a walk with my dog, lighting candles and just cleaning my space. Something that makes me focus on gratitude.
I love your dress, Yes when I start to clean I put on music it really helps
Some useful ideas. Thank you, Diane. Also go outside and walk for a bit can help to stimulate the body. xx
Love your reset routine. If I can get myself to do 1 small thing, it leads to progress since more almost always follows.
I love all of these ideas! Some days it is hard to just get started because there seems to be so much to do. One quick task can break the ice and get me moving.
Sending love in your time of grief bc of your mother’s passing. I lost my mom over 20 years ago, so I can relate. Thanks for the good tips! The countdown is from Mel Robbins, a popular podcaster in the U.S. it definitely works! Cheers!
Hello, I suffer from depression and often find myself stuck but also thinking that I need to get going. Some hears ago I found a helpful tip and that is to visualize a task completed or visualize how you want your room to look. I find that a great motivation and also as you and others say, just do one small task to get yourself going. A number of years ago I could not see what was wrong with my living room, very tidy (ocd) but something amiss. I took pictures with my iPad and there it was, the open shelf at the bottom of the sideboard was tidy but cluttered. Since then I use this technique to get my visualization started. Doing this I find I often think of things I can do whilst nodding off to sleep. Thanks so much for this very helpful video.
I have been doing the countdown since college and it works. 😊
Diane, thank you so much for your beautiful content you share so consistently 🌸 I love the quick pupa 🧡 In the morning I felt slightly depleted, and what can I say ... in the afternoon I was doing my kitchen and had little dances to Creedence Clearwater Revival's greatest hits 💜👏
I love watching your videos as I work. It motivates me to get up and get something done. It also helps to have a base level of everyday tasks that need to get done. Not to many items, just the bare level to keep the house somewhat tidy.
Water water water!!! So important. I heard once that fatigue and water intake are linked. Don’t get fatigued and THEN grab some water. Head off the fatigue by being proactive with your water intake.
Yes, Dell! I notice immediately when I'm not getting enough water - soooo important!
What a great point to just text and feel connection without that feeling of having to talk while grieving or stressed. I tend to isolate myself because conversations while I’m not myself is just exhausting. I will remember this! Thank you Diane ❤
You are so welcome, my friend!
Thank you for your wonderful helpful suggestions and tips Diane! To reach out and help others in your time of grief is 🙌. Another tip of mine is when you start a task and get some progress and momentum going. Put up your hand and then reach down with it and give yourself a big pat on the back. I used to use this as a teacher…..but it is good for everyone….particularly those who live alone.
I lost my sister on the 31st of July of cancer. There are times that I go into a frenzy of action tidying my house AND sorting out her house also, documents, clothes, books all the silly things that a person accumulates during hers-his life. But there are times that I can only sit and stare. I have my son to take care of and that helps but it's really difficult. I have an appointment with a psychologist on the 11th and with a lawyer on the 12th for the inheritance detail. Be strong people and my best regards. THANK YOU DIANE!!!
My sincere condolences to you. 🙏
I''m so sorry for the loss of your sister. Hugs!
hugs and blessings x
Great shareable tips! Good for me and good for me to share with those I love experiencing the blahs. 🥰
When I lost my baby five years ago it felt like my world stopped moving. But I still had to keep going somehow behause I had two other kids. Some Friends suggested to cook for our family for two weeks. That was so helpful! It really meant a lot as I wasnt able to decide on what to cook/ i lost my appetite.
I find that a walk does wonders! Even if it's only a few minutes, I usually come back feeling much better. 💛 Still thinking of you Diane and wishing you much support and comfort as you navigate your grief. Much love from France!
Je me sens souvent très près de vous, Diane, quand vous décrivez ces journées où rien ne va et l'on arrive pas à commencer quoi que ce soit. Les petits trucs que vous utilisez sont les miens aussi. ça me fait toujours du bien de vous voir et de vous entendre. Je vous offre aussi mes plus sincères condoléances. J'ai perdu ma mère voilà 5 ans, j'avais 55 ans, ça été très dur parce qu'elle était si aimable. elle souffrait aussi d'une forme de démence.
The 10 minute pick ups really jump start my motivation. Now, I'm finding that using a spare 5 minutes or even 1 minute can help me tackle my "to do" list. Speaking of "to do" lists, I start every day with a scrap of paper with my 3 tasks, some long-term tasks and I use the rest of the paper to record how much water I am drinking and for thoughts or information I hear througout the day. I've been trying to transfer useful information, like a book I want to read, a song I just heard or a cleaning hack to a notebook. I don't always have the discipline to transfer this info, so this is one reason why I am drowning in paper clutter. Working on it, but dealing with paper clutter is SO tedious.
You're so bright and cherry, even when you don't feel it and you make me smile 😊
Another idea you had given us in the past was to start doing something at the "Top of the Hour." I've done that in the past to get me started. Great video and great ideas! Thanks for all you motivation.
Yay, glad it's been helpful! Did you see I'm doing a full class on Top of the Hour next week at Get Organized? Here's your FREE ticket to the whole event! thegetorganizedhq.com/gohqv2024-freeticket-dianeindenmark/?a_aid=DianeinDenmark&a_bid=540b8b6d
Thanks for the tips! Will try them when I’m feeling stucked
Hi Diane. Great tips for those difficult times. The 54321 is from Mel Robbins. She has good ideas as well
Good day, Diane! All great tips again today. I was the caregiver for my grandmother and then both of my parents. My dad passed first, and then mom just 39 months later. It doesn't matter how they pass away it totally blows our world apart!! We'll never get over it, but it is very possible to be able to come through it and find some more happy days ahead. I'm praying for you and everyone on here that's ever experienced any kind of loss that's blown their world apart. Here's to happy days ahead 🥂😊
Thank you Diane. My youngest son lost his first baby with a second trimester miscarriage so I’ve found myself somewhat paralyzed lately. Slowly starting to get back at things so these tips are very timely.
Every morning after I put in my LOL I stop and get my water bottle filled with electrolytes. It’s a little self care and removes that low grade headache I wake up with. Then I am ready to tackle the rest of my AM routine before getting out the door! These routines were encouraged by Diane over the years and they help me so much! Thank you Diane!🎉🎉🎉
Oh, dear Diane! I am so sorry for your loss! losing a mom is hard. Even when you know it is time and her body is all worn out. I am so thankful to you for sharing this hard time with us and allowing us to learn from you ways to handle grief. You are so open and generous. Also as always, thank you for sharing your declutterring process. I had to laugh as you explained why you were letting go of your 5 K bib. As I was listening to you, I was putting away things from a cruise we have just returned from. I had moments before tucked into our drawer to save my cruise key card. It has absolutely no use now and I have plenty of better ways to remember the cruise. So out it goes! Thank you!
How to Keep House While Drowning has a similar note to that countdown tip. Just decide only to stand up. Once you are up you have WON. Then you can do a 1 min task or realize you need the restroom etc. but the key is you have to be serious that you just stand up. Because if you yell at yourself to go do the whole FlyLady home blessing or you failed, you won’t stand up the next time. It’s so helpful. I usually just walk to the kitchen and life goes on somehow while I’m up in a way that seems impossible before I stand!
I have days like that. Today is one. Nothing wrong just blah. It was good to see your happy smiling face❤
Hi Diane - that's a Mel.Robins tip, I use it often when I find I can't be bothered. Lovely to see you back ❤
Thank you for these five tips! I hope you’re holding up ok with the loss of your dear Mom. Thank you for encouraging us!
It's like you read my mind. I sat down expecting to see a decluttering video but instead found one targeted to exactly how i'm feeling. A bad back laid me up earlier in the summer and i had to sit and do nothing for a few days. No exercise, no cleaning, etc., and now that i'm better i'm having trouble getting back to those activities. I especially like the countdown suggestion and will do that right after this video! Thank you!
You've got this, Anna! 🎉🎉🎉
I love the count down idea Diane & Erica ❤❤
Thank you, Diane. When I’m in a slump I think to myself “just do the next right thing”. I think about what that is (if I could get one thing done, what would it be, and start there) then I tell myself that if I get that done it’s enough. Once that’s completed I assess. It’s usually enough to get me moving but if not, I do it again. What is the next right thing to do? It could be to have a cup of tea. It could be folding 5 items of laundry. It helps me every single time.
Just what I need this morning, thank you!
You are so very welcome, Julia and good morning to you!
3-2-1 🎉🎉 go go go!!
Thanks for showing up Diane and everyone ❤
Mostly you showed up for yourself!! that’s the important thing. FLY stands for finally loving yourself (or first love yourself)
That’s the key ❤
Thank you for sharing your journey with grief. You help so many with the tools you give us. When I was paralyzed with grief after losing my daughter, Rachel, a tip that helped me was to engage the 5 senses to bring me back to the present and be able to function and take the next step forward for the day. Always appreciate you, Diane. I’m loving watching your subscriber numbers go up! 🎉🎉🎉
Wow! That shade of blue is fantastic for you! You look so lovely!
I definitely have days where I just feel blahhhh. These are good tips. Thank you.
Great tips Diane. I find routines help me to move if I’m not feeling good. Mornings I tidy as I move through the house and afternoons I potter in the garden if it’s dry. Just simple tasks, nothing big. Having something to look forward to is also a great motivator……..even if it’s having a bubble bath or watching a favourite film at the end of the day 😊
Hello Diane. I’ve listened to your request about asking us to leave a comment on your videos in return for you putting out three videos a week. I felt bad because I’ve been watching your videos previously and enjoying them so much but rarely commenting, sorry. So I am trying to comment on each of your videos that I watch now 🤗 I just wanted to say that I love your little white brooch. It really adds something special to the outfit. Thank you for motivating us. Looking forward to hearing your talk next Tuesday. Love from Hayley in the UK
Aww, thank you so much for taking the time to comment, Hayley - I appreciate that!!! 😍
5 4 3 2 1.....Rah rah Rah! Thanks Diane ❤
Thank you Diane - feeling low today. Laundry going, off to tackle the visual clutter and finally getting rid of things I have been holding onto for too long. Appreciate you.
When I have a difficult day I dress extra fancy, put some lipstick and make up on and perfume. So I feel special and want to have also an elegant clean home 😊 Started already with christmas menu planning 😅 My husband was so happy last year that it worked so well so he started with his ideas 🎉❤
Thank you, Diane - that’s what I needed! 🤗 I‘m back to work and having a rather rough start. Starting off with a small task works well for me, also making myself a cup of tea and start doing my chores afterwards. ☕️
Thanks Diane it really does work and is also productive decluttered the medicine cupboard go rid of all the out of date stuff made a list of what needs replacing👍
Wonderful!
Thank you Diane, great advice, hope you’re doing well ❤
The thing that gets me started the best is promising myself I can quit whenever I want to. Usually the hardest part is getting started, so I can keep going for a while. But once in a while I cash in on that promise and stop, knowing that at least some things got done. It makes it easier to get up and go the next time it's needed.
Awesome, I find a 2min pupa and working alongside you helps me get going greatly!
Diane, you look great in that shade of blue-it brings out your eyes. 💙
Yes! I tell myself, you only have to do it (cleaning, decluttering, whatever) for five minutes, and it almost always turns into longer. It’s that getting started that’s the hardest part.
Thank you for all your tips Diane!! Sending much love.
The countdown tip most likely from Mel Robbin’s called 5 seconds rule❤❤
How did you know I was needing this 😂
I needed to see this today. Thank you. I am now going to get a glass of water and cook myself a stir-fry!
Such great tips! So practical. Thanks for the reminder to drink water--over 100 degrees here in California this week!
Wow, keep cool, Amy! Heatwave here too but different temperatures, obviously! 😄
I am donating to families that are in the position I was in 20 years ago. It feels good to help even though we all have needs and challenges. You are teaching me to let go it is becoming easier and more enjoyable! Thank You. So much dear.
Wonderful, Melissa - go you!
🙋🇳🇱 I am at the other side of the voltmeter ⏲️ I feel like a pinball ball that gets launched over and over🚀 and has to score in each corner of life. All positive and exciting things that give loads of energy but maybe a bit too dazzling.Who is familiar to that feeling? Like you are in a rollercoaster🎢 that never stops🤸🤾🏋️🤹The good news: here the 5-minute-reset and the routines almost works out like self-care. I try to do stick to the little routines and pupa's and that gives me time to breathe and to slow down a bit. 🧘🧚🌻Thank you 🙏
Moving my body and getting outside helps me!
Thank you for this video and tips and the honesty in it. It’s so nice to hear others get overwhelmed and paralyzed too and end up just sitting ….like a “lump on a log” as my grampa used to say. Going to clean the cat litter in 5..4..3..2..1 -I’m up!
Even listening to you Diane, you start feeling much better! All is left, just jump and start doing something (baby steps, as Flylady sugests) :-)
Good morning Diane! Being 57 and in a period of grief and mourning, I can fully agree with playing games with our emotions. It's like slipping out of the darkness behind our emotions back. Some of my tips...I keep a movie playing on repeat in the living room: it helps me to think about the dialogue and not my grief. Texting is also a way to reach out without getting into a long verbal conversation. Vacuuming gets my blood pumping and gets me moving on to do other things and a LOL(Load of Laundry) is another thing that always gives me the boost to get up and get moving. Thank you for your tips and sweet videos you take the time to film and share! Have a lovely day!~Angel
Love those ideas, Angel! I do the same with talk radio in the background, feels like I am not alone and can "switch off" from my thoughts 😊😊
Wow I'll think of vacuuming differently now! Thanks!
I have been so overwhelmed recently. Everything is getting on top of me. I've come to this video and I've tidied up after dinner. I feel a bit better already. Xx
Dianne, your friend Erica from America probably got her tip from Mel Robbin’s. She swears by the count down from 5. Thank you for your tips. 👏
Sometimes you can wake up in the morning and for no particular reason feel blah. For me some sort of exercise usually helps, if it's nice outside a long walk is great or if it the weather is nasty a lady on RUclips from Australia has some great exercise videos, Fabulous Fifties Workout. She is very encouraging and the exercises are doable, unlike some of the other RUclipsrs. When I am over thinking things I like to listen to music, usually early rock n roll which is very upbeat and not something manufactured in a studio. I especially like Come Dancing by the Kinks and I Knew The Bride When She Used To Rock and Roll by Nick Lowe, their videos are also funny. If I am just brushing my teeth or getting a meal ready I will watch a video and it really does improve my mood. Of course Diane's videos are always uplifting. The blue dress is fabulous and it brings out the colour your eyes.
You will be needed more now than ever, no pressure but a big thank you ahead of time. I have already been dealing with Fibromyalgia and RA and now waiting to see if I have a heart condition. Would explain my total lack of energy and motivation. You have given me tips on how to still function and that every little bit counts. So thankful for all you do for us especially in this season of loss you are going through.
Your Video came right in time ❤️🌻🌞🌹
I use the countdown all the time. I’m recovering from surgeries and it gets me through the challenges of getting up and going.
Thank you Diane for the tips.
I’m glad that you’re being patient with yourself while you grieve. Sending hugs & warm thoughts your way Diane. ❤
I havea 3 jobs a day to achieve, works for me. ❤
Helpful tips ❤ I lost my mom about the same time you did, also suddenly, and you’ve helped me get up and accomplish what needs done even on the low days. Thank you for sharing with us ❤