The emotional pain that you can see play out in the eyes of Chris Rock, as he tries to process and regain himself is so heartbreaking. The fact that Will Smith clearly states he was close to the Rock family makes this so much more painful. As he would have known of the history and trauma experienced by Chris previously. The fact it was a slap is also so degrading. I have so much respect for Chris Rock for how he dealt with this incident. The control you see plays out in micro seconds as he controls emotional stress and instinct directly after the slap. He steps back and lifts an arm in a very true human defense response to retaliate but he masters it in fractions of seconds, to stand there and purposely place his arms behind his back in a non aggressive non threatening stance. Will Smith and Jada disgust me. The icon of Will fell.
I would’ve liked to see Will escorted out of the Oscars after assaulting a man. Not stay and get rewarded. It is clear Chris does not want to continue to give this attention publicly. Yet the Smith’s keep doing so.
Good point yeah Chris doesn't highlight it.. he had a show called "everybody hates Chris" that was about his horrible childhood being assaulted constantly. Like he was making light out of his plight. He isn't a victim of it. He's not a victim of Will either..kept it moving.. he goes to therapy 5 days a week he always has. He is a complex reflective deep person. Will is showing he is so much more shallow .. almost inexperienced in Male culture. Oh yeah he gets Dominated by Jada all day long so why would he know about male hierarchy.
That’s what really gets to me about this. Will Smith specifically states in this video that Chris isn’t ready to reach out to him yet and THEN STILL proceeds to apologize directly to him. How disrespectful. That alone tells me it was 100% for Will’s own sake and he doesn’t care about Chris’s feelings beyond wanting this to go away from the public eye.
@@kimc.3104 I mean…for one thing, you can be a victim whether or not you make light of it. Poking fun at yourself is a way to cope with that sort of thing. So yes, by definition (which is really just means "someone who has been hurt/killed by a crime") he is still a victim, he's just let it roll off like water on a duck's back. And he's probably able to have better control over his emotions because of that constant therapeutic source. None of this to say your main point is wrong. I do agree with the sentiment that Chris has handled himself far better in this situation than Will has, which speaks volumes to their characters.
@@slsthewriter1299 yes - There are still two ways of looking at it - lets say Chris for example - he does not view himself as "victim", rather, he is just someone that a lot of bad stuff happened too. very different mindsets.
Why should Chris Rock talk to him? He owes him nothing. I hope they can both move on with their lives and be happy but I don't see the point of them having a public conversation about this.
When I was a kid, my mom would make me apologize to my sister when we fought. I would intentionally say, "I apologize" instead of "I'm sorry" because I was never sorry. I was doing the right thing under coercion. That's how I know this was not sincere- because Smith was just going through the motions of an apology to put this to bed. What he doesn't understand is that we know better than to believe his words when he's smugly trying to conceal a grin throughout.
That’s such a good point considering he said “I apologize” when apologizing to Chris and Chris’s family, but then “I’m sorry” when he was apologizing to his own family
@@Kennylovessandwiches That's what I said! Lol And so true. Sorry, I shared the motion on say sorry with Moist-y penguin Charlie (totally official name, totally not a loving nickname for all of his names lol) on the matter and felt the same. I said it before, I will say it again. It's harder to say sorry for a reason.
Devil's advocate, a lot of people feel the phrase "I'm sorry" is worn out and hollow. So it could be a hint at his lack of sincerity, or it could be him trying to find more meaningful words, and possibly failing.
Something about his pattern of speech on top of his non-verbal indicators makes me think this apology was purely for placating the fans and negative press rather than true regret for his actions. I think he regrets the consequences and not really the act itself.
tbh yeah. the public shouldn't have demanded an apology. it should've been a private matter between them immediately. he was forced to be fake bc people don't want to see him as different than their idea of him.
Exactly. Also, he used product placement to advertise for his and Jada's brands in this video. His hat had the logo for their film company and the water had a logo for their water. 😕 Why would it be necessary to do that if he was sincerely apologizing?
100% He ONLY showed emotion when speaking about how he is 'hurting' (which is entirely due to HIS OWN actions). But he showed absolutely no genuine emotion when speaking on how he hurt another human being, let alone a colleague and friend. (or someone that at some point was considered a friend) It's one of those "I'm not sorry I did it, I"m sorry I'm being held accountable for my own actions" type of situations.
And kids. The water on the table is a flipping advert for Jaden. That water is a product of his son's. I mean here he is making this grand (cough bullshit cough) gesture to apologize but they strategically placed that damn water there. Like, really?
@@sowhitney in my humble opinion posting something on Instagram isn't the same as an apology and 3 months to reflect on something that's pretty basic. But I understand
"Fogged out" and yet he pulled it together to make his acceptance speech? Gotta call BS. This was filled with deflections and self pity in my opinion. Chris handled the entire situation with incredible grace and restraint. He is actually representing the community the way Will tries to project as a public persona.
He would have ran or stomped onto the stage if he was “fogged out”, probably red-faced with heavy breathing. To calmly assault someone like that gives the impression that this is how you regularly conduct yourself.
I just finished watching the apology and was thinking about his body language and was looking forward to watching this but assumed it wouldn’t be out for a few days but then this video was suggested and posted 5 minutes ago 😭😭 allow this comment to be a formal acknowledgment of this man’s hustle 🙌🏽
I also had a gut feeling that as rehearsed or as de synchronized as Will appeared, there is a sadness and a sense of defeat that left me feeling that something is terribly off with Will Smith at this moment. We don’t know what it is , but it must be something concerning as he really acted in a reckless out of character way at the Oscars . I see a lost man right now .
Same here. The length of time that it took to make this apology also stands out to me as there being more behind the scenes that we don't know about. It doesn't excuse his behaviour but "normal" people wouldn't do what he did and it feels like there's more to what happened that none of us are aware of.
I think there marriage has been on the rocks for a while now. And he laughed, then realized he laughed at a joke that offended his wife, so to make up for his laughing he slapped Chris rock. He was more focused on pleasing his wife bc they are already struggling to agree w one another, and though she probably didn’t say anything, he wasn’t thinking about anything else, other than the possibility of a fight when they get home.. Now their relationship is even rockier. All bc he assumed he needed to “defend her honor” as if she couldn’t… this is purely speculation, but their relationship doesn’t seem solid at all, their relationship seems like it’s meant to look solid in photos, but behind closed doors it’s an emotional argumentative mess. And that’s where that defeat and sadness comes from in my opinion. But idk.
@@ekamarie6632 i mean, yea. Will and Jada’s relationship is ROUGH. Jada has cheated on Will in the past, and then continues to joke/bring it up in lighthearted manners, and will talk about “how nice it was” in front of wills face. it’s really gross. and also their social media posts just, idk how to word it, but it comes off so forced and odd. there’s points Jada will record Will and it’s obvious he doesn’t want to be recorded and is uncomfortable, but she just keeps doing it? I’m no expert and i’m not trying to speak for them, but that’s just the energy i’ve gotten.
I watched it live at home in the UK and was absolutely horrified not just by Will's behaviour but by the lack of intervention or recognition by the whole theatre audience and staff. If I had been there, I would have left in disgust well before they ridiculously handed Will an Oscar, gave him a standing ovation, and then partied with him all night. I'd like to believe Will is genuinely sorry for how he behaved but this seems like one of those damage control apologies where he's only really sorry for how his own behaviour has impacted his own relationships, status, money and career. Will Smith has a lot more work to do on himself, and getting out of his toxic marriage would be a good first step. I'm glad Chris is rightly protecting himself from any fake apology or PR stunts, IF he ever chooses to speak to Will again, it should be on his own terms.
It just feels so disrespectful to use the public to STILL apologize to Chris Rock if Chris has literally let him know he doesn’t want to talk, using the camera to speak directly to him and all that... That’s manipulative to me... Will could at the very least have been like “I’ll address the public/fans but Chris doesn’t want to talk about this so I’ll respect that”, but nope... This was all about himself. 😕
Chris also. has a tour right now and is doing very very well for himself. He is too busy to stop his life for Will Smith. Myabe one day he will be ready to address it, but he isnt going to let any of it effect his career right now and his tour, and good for him.
Bunch of hyper rich people at an event intended to inflate all of their egos, I suspect that they initially assumed it was a bit then realized it wasn't. Then assumed the Oscar's staff would handle it and when they didn't they all just went with the flow. Doesn't excuse it. I appreciate the few celebs that straight up spoke out against it like Jim Carrey.
Like you I watched it at home in the UK and like you was disgusted by his actions he should have been removed from the event immediately after the assualt if some non famous person had assualted someone on stage they would have been arrested. I think it just shows the fakeness of it all especially when they gave him a standing ovation and speaking of fakeness this apology seems to belong in that category. I agree with you its damage control to save his career and image and I hope people recognise it for what it is.
I think a lot of people were wondering if it was scripted/ part of the night. They waited to see if it would be a bit or would lead somewhere else. Once that confusion wore off, a lot of people were genuinely upset. I would have left as well. Or at least have stayed close to Chris all night (for those of them who are supposed to be his friends).
Every single time someone apologizes by saying “I’m human” I ignore everything else they say. I’m human, I’m not the same person, I was in a dark place, I’m sorry if you was hurt, and people make mistakes are so infuriating to hear. You just shouldn’t have said “I’m sorry” if these are in your apology.
Omg, so true - in fact - I don't accept any apologies at all - if one truly doesn't want to hurt someone, they wouldn't do it, and cause the need for apology. A mistake or accident is different, like stepping on my foot on accident I will accept an apology! But anything with intent, calculation, execution - uhm.. keep your apology!
I agree with you, and perhaps he shouldn’t have stated that. But in therapy I’ve always been reassured to remind myself these things so that I don’t completely crumble internally and think I’m a piece of shit. But maybe he should’ve kept that part to himself.
@@ohhemmgeeitsjenna it is good in therapy to be reminded these things. You’re healing and working on you. When you use them as part of your apology, you are manipulating the person(s) you are apologizing to for your benefit. People might as well say “you have to feel bad for me, because we both suffer from the human condition.” When no we don’t both do xyz. When apologizing to yourself for being less than nice to yourself, telling yourself that you are sorry for the words/actions used is appropriate. It is also appropriate to lean on these reasonings “I’m not perfect” “I was in a dark place” “I’m only human” “my expectations of myself was broken” an all the other internal conflicts and conversations you have with yourself are more than fair. Always remember to apologize to yourself for being less than ideal to yourself. Those aren’t the same as “I fucked up, an I’m sorry. These are the actions I’m going to take to undo my fuck up. I’m so sorry that I laid my hands on you an I’m sorry for the ripple effect I caused, because I was unable to control my emotions in that moment. I’ve started therapy and promise to be a better person moving forward.” That’s how you apologize in a public setting while taking ownership of your actions and promising to put your best foot forward. Not by saying just hold on you’ll be my friend again an I’m only human. Anyway, sorry for the word dump, I hope you continue to find grace for yourself and that I’ve cleared up any confusion. I am really sorry that I made you second guess the healing you’ve been doing in therapy.
Who the hell thought that staging the video in that way was a good idea? Having him sit down on camera with said camera following his movements, showing there was a camera man. It all looks like a production rather than a sincere video. Will, just set up a camera, sit on the couch, and speak from the heart. Unless you have something to hide? This was a total disaster. Who came up with that?? I feel MORE let down than before the apology video.
I hear the buzzwords of a PR motivated apology coming out of his mouth, but it's disingenuous. I truly think he believes that as he is will Smith, he has the right to do what he wants and despite having to apologise, he still believes that. When answering the question about why he didn't apologise to Rock in his acceptance speech, he said he was fogged out by that point... not quite fogged out enough to mention how 'love makes you do crazy things' which is already him justifying what he had just done and not regretting it one bit... sure, you were fogged out. The most authentic part was when he said he feels bad for how he has let people down and I think he probably got a talking to from his mum who I believe was abused by Smith's father. Never once does he say he feels bad for deciding to get up and physically assault a person in front of millions. It's not up to any of us to forgive him anyway but that whole apology was for the people who buy tickets to see his films and not the actual victim of his assault. When he said he has reached out to Chris to apologise and chris' response was that it was too soon to talk to him, I kinda got a virtual signalling kinda vibe. Like - I've reached out and apologised and its out of my hands now. I'll show restraint and patience and be there whenever Chris is ready. It's almost victim blaming as if Chris doesn't forgive him, then it's not his problem as he 'reached out to apologise' and its passive aggressively putting a time restraint for Chris to get over it.
That. My abusive ex used that on me all the time. Her shallow "I’m sorrys” were out of her mouth so quickly, I could feel a stopwatch ticking off the seconds, which meant the ball was now in my court and I had better forgive right then or I would be THE UNREASONABLE ONE. Oh, the clever manipulators. Their routine steals a person’s right to be genuinely and appropriately hurt, upset, or blazing angry about what's happened, for their’s no time AT ALL in which to work one’s way around to an emotionally and authentic forgiveness. It’s ugly and intensional abuse. When the apology’s phony, the forgiveness won’t be genuine. Ever. If this sounds familiar to anyone, get counseling and/or get OUT.
i'm fairly certain he just doesnt think he has anything to apologize for. It seems to me that he did what he did for reasons he believes are right which is standing up for his wife. I dont agree with him slapping Chris however i do understand what it means to have someone you love who is sick and within all that turmoil, the last thing, the one thing that can make you snap, is someone telling a joke about it as if it's not a big deal. Idk how long she has been dealing with alopecia but it sounds like it was new enough at the time to spark emotion.
@@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed but he was laughing at the joke right up until he looked at Jada and it was a very mild joke and certainly not of the caliber which would make anyone 'lose it' to that extent. It wasn't an act of honour, it was an act of pure ego and entitlement which he still feels. Hence, his apology is vapid. Also, Jada had publicly stated that she doesn't care about the haters and loves her baldness.
Saying "I apologize" is more eloquent when formally apologizing to someone is my take on it. To me, saying "I'm sorry" sounds a little juvenile, but that's just my opinion.
@@lovebythemoon57 I’m sorry is more personal to me. I would definitely want a more personal apology if someone physically assaulted me 😂 Like you done violated my personal space and then some, fess up
@Flower7 It gets tossed around all the time in the office-work environment, it lost its true meaning for me a long time ago. It's not hard to say it, it's hard to actually mean it.
Sometimes it’s hard to believe actors, but this didn’t feel genuine. It’s as if Smith believes his own hype and thinks he can do anything and be forgiven. Who would have the nerve to do this at the Oscars? It was a long-ish walk to Chris, didn’t he rethink this at that moment? It suggests he can’t control his anger, which was not proportionate to the joke, and that physical violence is not foreign to him. He’s not a newbie, he knows the biz, he understands how important reputation is to a successful actor, he’s heard the critiques about his marriage etc. Why did this upset him this much? I’m not impressed at all with Smith or his apology.
And even after slapping Chris and calmly walking back to his seat, he KEPT ON screaming, sounding completely in a rage. Rewatching it now months later I still can barely believe it. And the way he smiled in this video when he said “stick around, I promise we can be friends again”... in his mind, he seems to already be assuming the public will forgive him once he’s put this out there. People keep putting blame on his wife but there’s so much directly from Will Smith giving me red flags. He thinks he’s untouchable and there’s a smugness to it that feels so uncomfortable.
once I saw his son's "Just water" product on that table, I immediately thought, oh this isn't genuine. this is a promo for his sons product. also, he should have apologized to Chris privately, like any good friend should. it shows you care. Will should have apologized for showing violence to millions of people on national television publicly.
@@LunalovaniaGaming and the fact that he says Chris isn’t ready to talk to him yet and he STILL goes publicly to “apologize” to him despite that... oh boy
I learned a looooong time ago. An expeditious “oh! Im sorry! I did not mean to cause offense/i wont do that again/ill do better” goes a long way to resolving issues. Avoiding acknowledging you made an error can really cause long term problems.
"Letting People Down is my Central Trauma"... in that one sentence he makes himself the victim by saying he is traumatised by letting people down - most people say "I hate" or "I dont like letting people down" - which indicates they know they have the control to let someone down or not....He also doesnt want to be ashamed of himself - he should be - there is nothing wrong with being human and saying "I did something stupid and I am ashamed" but his Ego wont allow that. The man has been on his own pedestal for too long, thinking he can do no wrong...He has to accept that he is no longer on that pedestal and IS Human and will mess up..but without the knowledge of how to BE Human and appologise from the heart, he will never really move on from this PR Stunt. I am sure he was reading some main points that he wanted to mention which I think made it feel a lot less natural. He thinks that his entire future/success is held in the hands of his fans, and not Chris Rock - after all they are the ones who will pay to watch him (or not) in movies.
Thats what I was thinking. Even if that's true, this was NOT the place for it. He let people down because of something he had control over and now he's trying to guilt people with buzz words for being upset or let down by him acting out. In that same vein, physical violence [even a blindsided slap] is triggering to a lot of people, why should HIS trauma be held in a different regard than anyone else's? I know that's not what he's exactly saying, but I personally feel like that's what he's implying when he almost blatantly blames people for exacerbating his trauma by them telling him they were disappointed that he had acted like a 2 year old. The whole thing just felt disingenuous and gross.
@@Burscutum I agree. The way he was screaming alone at Chris was enough to make my heart beat faster and body tense up, just from watching it through a screen, let alone the physical violence and the audience then just laughing at it. There’s a difference between being hypervigilant about letting people down due to trauma even when there’s no actual reason for it, and bringing it up in relation to something very wrong that you did that people are now disappointed at you for. You shouldn’t be thinking the anxiety and bad feelings you have about that is somehow rooted in your past trauma. He DID do something bad, let people down, and SHOULD feel guilty about it, past trauma or not.
Will lost as soon as he got up off his seat. No amount of damage control will take back the slap but then everyone whose name isn’t Chris Rock needs to chill out about it.
He isn’t sorry about his inappropriate behaviour, he’s sorry about the consequences and the fallout. I’ve sadly seen and heard this in many a courtroom before. Perpetrators usually feel remorse about getting convicted, not about their actions.
Chris would have every right to hold a grudge the rest of his life. I would, can you imagine embarrassed internationally AND assaulted for doing your job.
He’s “devoted to putting light love and joy into the world” but, can’t whole heartedly say sorry for a physical abuse attack on a comedian? Sure, ok Will 🙄🙄
His apology has Scientology written all over it. Listen to the words he uses to describe how he is working through it..."replaying and understanding the nuances and complexities of what happened in that moment" in an attempt to understand it is Auditing.
Like when he used the catchphrase "my central trauma". Who even talks like that? Sounds like something he learned to say from some lame "guru" or something.
Or it’s how Jada talks… I think she plays a big role in how he is now perceived in the public eye/saying they are always working on themselves and digging deeper with therapy and what not on her own show. I dislike her persona and what she shows to the world in general. it’s also a language pattern to seem above people and that you are more emotionally intelligent. 🤷🏻♀️
If you read his book, "Will", you learn that he uses laughter to feel safe, and self-placate after experiencing/witnessing his father's abuse. So I think some of what might come across as desync "smirking" is actually him trying to self-placate.
Totally! Sometimes I think Non-Verbal communication Analysts forget about base behaviour (probably written different in English, which is not my native language). The thing is, every person has certain gestures/behaviours that are natural in their normal interactions, and this gesture might mean something either good or bad, but if someone uses it commonly, it might not have an extra meaning because it’s just the way this person communicates. For example, some people laugh when they feel nervous (in funerals or critical situations) and it might be very hard to control it even if they don’t feel happy about it; or some people smile naturally like doing a smirk (which is considered a negative gesture). It’s important to notice base behaviour before providing an analysis and I’m not sure this has been done this time.
Will smith laughing and then going up there and slapping him has always been the hardest part for me to get over. Was he mad that jada was mad about the joke and saw him laughing. Was he trying to avoid the couch scenario? How do you go from thinking the joke is funny to being so offended you go and slap Chris. To me he probably isn’t lying about jada not asking him to do it but we know this is mainly because of her and their dynamic relationship. Will showed his insecurities in so many ways with the slap and I don’t hear him recognizing that and addressing that in this video because he didn’t want to unpack it but unfortunately for him that was the main thing he needed to do to show he understood what happen that night. Chris did nothing wrong. Shouldn’t matter that jada got mad. That night something snapped in him and that’s what will needs to address
I'm not sure. my daughter has alopecia and there are some things about it that are funny for us but there are a ton of things we would never say about or around her. But even those statements that would be ok at home would definitely not be ok in public...it's not a joke and it's not ok to laugh at someone who loses their hair. That's what Chris Rock intended and I still don't understand why. So i dont agree that he did nothing wrong. that joke wouldn't have been allowed by the Academy so obviously he was improvising there. But more than that, I don't understand why Will was laughing at all
@@rosestewart1606 because will thought it was funny. He was probably glad someone is making a joke about her because he probably has rarely seen that. Jadas reaction also shows that she probably isn’t use to be the bunt end of a joke either. I have a feeling at his home that will is probably the one that gets crapped on in his own home. If someone made a joke about your daughter would you go slap the comedian??? Probably not. No one likes to be made fun of but when your a public person you have to expect to be mocked or made fun of. These people are elite. They are celebrities and always told they are great so I am not going to cry because someone made a joke on their behalf. We’re so sensitive now that even jokes are being censored. Jokes are jokes and the way to handle them is to laugh or be shocked and move on with our lives.
@@rosestewart1606 I stand by this: she had a shaved head wearing a green dress. It had army vibes whether she liked it or not. Whether she has alopecia or not. Hers isn't even so obvious - I didn't know she had it. Her loss is like what, a single line along her hairline running parallel to her actual hairline? You can't fucking even tell. She chooses to talk about it which is probably how anyone even knows. Will suddenly snapping reads of bipolar or other disorder. Bipolar mania can present as sudden bouts of rage and if not controlled, results in poor impulse control and potentially violent behavior. Idk if that was what happened, but if his excuse of "I was in a haze" was true, and given the number of people who almost immediately swarmed him to talk him down, I wonder of he does have some known issue amongst some of his closest fellow actors but it doesn't normally happen in the public eye.
@@rosestewart1606 Most people never even heard of it let alone knew she suffered from it. It was a stupid joke that most people got because of GI Jane(stupid movie) not because of an actual illness.
First thing I notice is the self soothing hand gestures Will does as he's sitting down. As far as the joke and Jada herself, it's pretty rich of her to think that everyone knows about her condition. I don't think there's as many people following her and her show as she believes there to be. I never watched her show, other than The Matrix, I don't know any of her movies, I had no idea she has alopecia. She's had short hair for so long and she is such an... odd person, I just thought it was a style choice.
This wasn't the first time Chris has made jokes about Jadas condition publicly. He knew exactly what he was saying about her and he did it to shame her publicly under the guise of it being "a joke". He crossed a line, but shouldn't have been slapped for it.
@@ravenzrozze Hi Mel - I have alopecia - it can take many forms, auto immune, from self-pulling her pulling (a compulsive condition) scaring LLP (like mine) traction (often not - reversible), receding hairline, and odd-shaped patches in random places. It is well known she has it, and she has talked about it several times, you can see it in her pictures over the years. Like many of us she decided to shave her head rather than fight it - I was bald for years, but have regained some of my hair now. BUT that said I'm actually not a big fan of Jada and I do think Chris thought it was a style choice.
@@lovebythemoon57 The thing though is that 1) Chris was literally there to humble the elite. That is what comedians are there for. If your ego can't take it, you shouldn't be at the Oscars. Theoretically, anyway. 2) Jada could've _easily_ taken that joke as a compliment. Sure, the movie flopped on release and the like, however, many people do regard that movie as one for female empowerment. And the main (female) lead was bald throughout. Jada could've easily taken it as a compliment of empowerment, but no, her ego had to roll her eyes. Honestly the whole thing is stupid. It's rich people slapping each other and taking things personally. Yeah, the joke wasn't a great one, it did cross a line lol, but nobody would've remembered it if Will didn't go up and slap. Which like…yeah, as you said, Chris shouldn't have been slapped for it.
Notice the strategically placed water on the table. He's advertising his son's company. That's Jayden's product. I think this is one of the worst apologies in history and I've seen a lot of bad ones. It served no purpose (or missed the mark completely if there was one) and changed nothing. It just brought attention back on him, his family, etc to get people talking about something no one was talking about anymore. He, or someone in the family, must have something they need to promote soon but they needed to get this out of the way first. Will is a very intelligent and emotionally connected (or at least was) person. Not only couldn't he feel it, he couldn't even muster it up acting-wise. Amber Heard did a better job during the trial than Will did here. Then again, Amber believes her own bullshit and lives in an entirely different reality. Will don't believe his words nor does he even care if you ask me. That or he is physically and emotionally incapable of any emotion in that moment. I've seen him get so emotional over things both personal and professional. Never shied away from showing his emotion He literally was completely void the ability to feel it, or even dig it up to the surface as an actor. It's like he's on a massive dose of antidepressants or something.
While I watch this video, my gut/instinct picks up on the same things you comment on and explain. However, I can not verbalize it the way you do. I don't know what I see wrong exactly, I just know it is wrong/suspicious/false. Thanks so much for delving deeper, helping to clarify what my gut felt/picked up on! I learn more about human behavior, and to trust my own instinct.
I have my own theory about Will. The best way I can say it is just to be honest about it. There’s a possibility that Will has been a victim of domestic abuse. I’ve wondered about that since the ‘entanglement’ situation, but his reaction to the joke Chris made, and how he immediately switched up when he saw that Jada wasn’t laughing just makes me wonder. Again, this is just my opinion, I could absolutely be wrong. I hope I am wrong. And I’m not excusing his behavior towards Chris. He’s a grown man, he should know better.
I've seen "attack dog manipulation" happen in person. Slight displeasure in the controller's face triggers anger and aggression in the attack dog. I'm not going to jump to serious accusations of abuse, but I AM going to say it was him trying to win her favour (Jada cheated on him, and if he still loves her, he may respond to her displeasure in order to get her to love him again) it's not inherently a sign of abuse (though can also exist there, as in my real life example)
@@myheartismadeofstars I completely agree. He saw she wasn’t happy and he immediately switched from laughing to hitting and yelling. His immediate change in behavior is a red flag.
@Heather Marie -- Thank you for bringing this up. This is exactly the context everyone seems to be missing / not talking about. Will, his siblings and mother were physically abused growing up (by his father). His comedic personality was a coping mechanism. He has deep trauma around this and his inability to protect his mother. No one is talking about how certain things could trigger a fear response from an abuse victim, which I believe - in this case - manifested in assault to Chris Rock. Definitely not excusing it, but it's frustrating to see the complete lack of context of his upbringing and him being open about his fears and traumas, and how this factored.
Logan just want to say that I hope you are doing well. I have watched your videos for along time and recently feel like maybe you’ve been going through something. Hope all is ok and keep up the awesome videos!
“I apologize” is dismissive . “ I apologize BUT..” is an insult. “ I am sorry” is a genuine apology. It’s really quite simple. Adults teach our kids to say “I’m sorry” yet cannot seem to say those three words.
This reminds me of the apologies you give as a kid when you are forced to say sorry for something you did. The white (ish) clothes, dim soft lights, and perfectly placed sponsored water doesn't have me buying it.
Let's get one thing clear here. Rock's joke wasn't insensitive. It wasn't about Alopecia. It was about her hairstyle being similar to GI Jane - a positive badass role model, which Rock alludes she could play in the sequel. People are conflating this distinction. If someone tells a young bald actor that he can play Walter White, it's highly doubtful they will look at it as negative. Smith even laughs out loud initially until he realizes it shouldn't. He knows it was a benign innocuous joke. The kind you expect at the Oscars where the stars get roasted lightly which this was.
Yeah, except you don't get to tell the butt of the "joke" how they should take it. She didn't appreciate it and it hurt. Either everyone laughs or it's not a joke.
Right, K.H. Also, shaving your head because you want to try something new and/or make a fashion statement is NOT the same thing as shaving your head because your trying to camouflage bald spots from your hair falling out due to a medical condition. Alopecia doesn’t have to be a life-threatening medical condition for the joke to be insensitive…whether the teller of the joke is aware of the medical condition or not. Now, none of this makes the slap okay…at all. But the assertion that Jada didn’t have the right to react to a joke at her expense the way she did because others found it funny is absurd…even if her shaved head was, in fact, a fashion statement.
@@Stopthisrightnow560 Guess who else laughed, dummy? Will Smith. Until he learned not to. Do you understand how all of these things work - how jokes work? They are in a venue where the stars are all lightly roasted. They All know this and they all participate in it. This was an entirely innocuous joke. Jada and Smith had a far more pointed joke about their marriage earlier by the females hosts and they laughed without issue especially Jada because it kinda poked fun at Smith for being a simp due to their open marriage. Are you advocating that people take a survey before a joke is told? This is not an Alopecia joke. Don't make it so. Learn nuance and context.
@@Stopthisrightnow560 “either everyone laughs or it’s not a joke” is stupid and doesn’t represent real life. i agree we can be sensitive to jada for not appreciating the joke and feeling like chris could’ve apologized for that effect, but the joke was REAL mild.
It's the product placement, editing cuts, the "poor me Tony won't talk to me ever again" & the Jada Q for me!🤦🏼♀️ At least it wasn't at the Red Table this time. Feels like he did it for the public more than Chris. He owes Quest a huge apology too.
Yes the joke was somewhat insensitive however lets not forget that Will himself saw the joke as very amusing until that was, he caught sight of Jada's expression. Is he just trauma bonded? It almost seems ''Stockholm-ish'' to me
I honestly don’t think Chris knew about Jada’s health issue , a lot of people didn’t , she used to have her hair short a lot back in the days , so older people like my mom had no clue. We can’t tell someone how to feel about something tbh , even if i feel like the joke wasn’t that serious considering how dark comedians can really get , but obviously that joke wasn’t a reason to slap someone over. Jada and Will , both two grown adults with kids , could’ve spoken to Chris privately about the joke if they were as close as to his family as Will claims.
And does she genuinely have alopecia? She showed a photo of a scar across her head that she claimed popped up overnight. A plastic surgery channel says it's a scar from a brow lift. If she felt insecure she could wear a wig.
@@SamStone1964 That is exactly what my husband and I thought, too. It was a very light-hearted joke and honestly kind of a compliment. Jada would make a badass G.I. Jane 2. I could actually see her in that role. We didn't feel that there was any malice at all in Chris's joke and who knows if he even knew about her alopecia. We didn't.
@@songbird1307 Totally. Even if she is open about her alopecia…98% of the population don’t follow her podcast or whatever it was that I heard she has. It’s not like he compared her to a balding person…he compared her to a person with a full head of luscious hair that chose to buzz cut it for a badass role.
He has a movie that has been waiting to be released. It keeps being pushed back. His apology has to do with his career going forward and the possibility of his MONEY and the MONEY lost while the movie's release date is continually pushed back.
I saw a news article where a “supposed” body language expert, says his apology was sincere while I didn’t fully believe it. I noticed something not mentioned, was how he was putting his lower jaw forward which isn’t his relaxed state. Matter of fact, I’ve never seen him speak this way. It looked almost like he was still angry to me.
I feel like he's angry that us normies have the nerve to question him. It's just a gut feeling that I have. He's not making this apology for the fans or even for Chris, he's doing it so big companies will still work with him. Just my feelings on the matter 🤷♀️
Am I the only one finding it weird how short of a time he spend apologizing to Chris while spending the rest apologizing to everyone else. Like I know he's a celebrity and influencers usually apologize to their audience, but I think that's kinda weird, especially in the same video. Like if someone slapped me, the only person I'd expect them to apologize to is me. If they then went to say and sorry to your mom cause I was close to her I'm like ??? you're sorry to her that you slapped me? What?
How Will Smith went from genuine laughter to smacking someone in the face and yelling in less than 30 seconds is terrifying. How he can yuk it up - regardless of Jada - to going all CAVEMAN to defend her feelings … or name… or honor … or hair or lack of hair, is deplorable. As for that precious timing of his, I sense some juicy role is hanging on the other side of those cameras and he won’t stand a chance in getting it without apologizing first.I don’t like being this cynical, tho.
Its obvious that Will is already extremely hard on himself. It's important to note that him acknowledging that he is doesn't want to see himself as a piece of shit or be ashamed but rather recognize that he's human that makes mistakes, and he feels remorseful are big signs that he's in therapy and doing the work or trying to forgive himself because he KNOWS what he did to Chris was EXACLTY what his father did to his mother and he NEVER wants to be the kind of man his father was. That tears him up to his core. That's what he's trying to heal.
This apology is not only far too late, it is self-serving tripe. He is just trying to do some damage control to save his career. Like you said, the only time he seemed sincere was when pleading for himself. IMO.
At the end of the day he assaulted someone for a joke... Call the joke tasteless, mean, whatever you want, there is no joke that should result in assault... Also we aren't in the 1% like Will, you will go to jail and have charges pressed against you if you assault someone for any reason other than self defense..This isn't an apology unless he gives a true apology to Chris and his mother, no one else deserves an apology except for maybe Jada, only her because of his embarrassing actions that negatively effected her, though her attitude never puts her in a good light for most people I think...
APOLOGIES ARE DIFFICULT AND UNCOMFORTABLE, especially know that you've messed up big time, it leaves people feeling vulnerable. WHO CAN ACCURATELY EXPLAIN THE COMPLEXITY OF THE HUMAN CONDITION AND INTENTIONS when they faced with such a vulnerable, raw situation.
People will use self-protective mechanisms for self-preservation (whether it be trying to lesson the discomfort through a prepared speech or a safe environment). Shit, there have plenty of times when I've f'ed up big time, and it took me months to garner the courage to apologize to the person I wronged. BASING JUDGMENTS ABOUT A HUMAN BEING'S INTENTIONS AND SINCERITY FROM A HANDFUL OF FACIAL GESTURES IS GROSSLY SIMPLISTIC and FRANKLY CARELESS, and OVER-REACHING.
He has a bottle of Water in the table next to him. If I’m not mistaken, Jaden promotes/owns that product. You don’t need that in an apology. Disrespectful.
There's no way for him to go on Maron and talk honestly about his life and what led him to that moment of madness without also talking about scientology and his relationship. He's trapped and doesn't come off as genuine, because he's hiding so much of himself. I think his career is over.
Exactly. People are so quick to judge but I actually feel bad for both him and Chris… Will is dealing with a lot on the inside and we all have breaking points.
@@tdob6067 If your breaking point is that you assault another person, you deserve to be called out for it, not coddled. That being said, I do hope for healing for both Chris and Will. But Will did really eff up, all on his own, with this one.
He sounds like hes struggling to get this apology out even tho he had months to prepare for it. And hes a good actor ontop of it he can definitely make it into a believable apology if he wanted to
Why can't he just say Chris I'm sorry for what I did, I should not have done that etc ... he sounds so disingenuous... and I'm only 5 minutes in I used to like will smith so much ... but I don't think he's a nice person anymore He's only sorry for the consequences he has now. And maybe his family... but no one else ...
I hate it when people say I want to apologize, saying I want to apologize and not actually saying I'm sorry, are two different things.. It isn't sincere.
I don't really know how to phrase this without it coming out as me making excuses for him - It makes me sad that he changes his behavior after Jadas reaction. It's like he's scared and now has to fix it. First he laughs and then he's like "Oh shit...". It feels like a toxic relationship to me.
if it offended her, he really should be sorry for laughing at the joke to a degree. could their relationship play into it, sure, but he could have absolutely made a stand for her without doing exactly what he did. that reaction has to be on him.
He says his biggest trauma is to dissapoint people. In that moment he saw he dissapointed Jada. Then he did something that dissapointed millions of people. He needs to address this trigger that he absolutely needs to please people on every cost. He takes it as an honorable thing but it will just destroy him. Its astonoshing how he has all the resources to go to the best physhologists in this planet and he clearly suffers from this basic unroselved traumas from his childhood
That's a good excuse to make for him according to me. I have seen a video where Jada was recording him without his concern, when he asked her not to film him, Jada just continued to film and said something demeaning about him to the camera.
@@idesel does not change what happened. he could have given a grandiose speech about his wife as he was winning his oscar and put anyone insulting her hair in their place. he didn't do that. I don't judge him for his reaction. I honestly don't care. but it wasn't Jada who hit anyone.
The slightly off-center “halo” of the lamp behind his head is a master stroke of distraction. Whoever set that up is a genius. It’s difficult to pay attention to indicators that occur during his “apology”.
At this point, I think therapy for anger issues is a fair consequence for Will. He’s lucky nobody pressed charges or else he’d be in jail. Hard to say whether or not therapy will be enough.
His trigger is Jada. His anger was misplaced. Jada has openly humiliated him more than once. Until he deals with that, he will continue to suffer. I know that he and Jada made a fortune off of their "brand" (even pimping out their kids), but it's over. The only thing he can do at this point is start over without this woman who abuses him. Until he does, he's lost, and frankly, he deserves to be. Will needs to get better psychiatric help.I know he was tinkering in Scientology for a while, and I do wonder if he's trying to work things through with their rather peculiar "techniques." He's just pathetic.
I'm glad that most people understand that what Will did wasn't right. Sadly a lot of people celebrated him for the slap back then. And even though Will's apology doesn't seem sincere, I still feel some kind of satisfaction that he acknowledges how people think about the slap, even though he might not feel the same way.
He should be ashamed of himself! There's nothing wrong with a little shame now and then. He not only embarrassed himself, but Chris Rock and everyone else who believed him. I don't care if he embarrassed his wife. She embarrasses herself on the daily with her own nonsense. I don't buy one word he said. He's trying to find a way back into Hollywood. Sounds like his wife is rubbing off of on him
I think there was something behind that second question, especially when Will's initial reaction was to laugh at the joke. I'm not going to claim that Jada told Will to slap Chris, but she definitely had a part in it, whether directly or indirectly.
I am no fan of Jada, but Will is responsible for his actions. I'm real tired of people blaming women for what their men do. Full stop with that bullsh!t.
@@makeupchick9544 Will is definitely responsible for his actions, but I find it odd that someone goes from laughing to intense anger that quickly. And to note, Jada has not been the best partner historically. It may not be causation, but I think there's some correlation.
@@elijahharris1113 infidelity doesn't make her guilty in this. if he realized she was offended after laughing that is still on him. stop blaming women for mens actions, period.
Note: He said he apologized earlier than this, to Chris, in this video. It was also in the news months ago. I think this is hard to analyze without a psych breakdown so... Current state: His eyes are puffy, lack of sleep/crying, tense. Emotional history/upbringing: Being the person he was raised to be, emotions are hard to relay and is seen as weakness. You can see the internal battle peaking through here. He grew up surrounded by toxic masculinity and because of this he wasn't allowed to show weakness(any emotion besides anger and happy) and is in a weak state leading to self preservation/reactive emotions/shutting down(which is being read as being disingenuous). He fully understands the world would pick this apart which keeps him from being completely vulnerable(crying memes we know would be circulating). His brain is in a trauma state having to relive the worst decision of his life(not giving him excuses, just trying to take a peek in his mind). View of self- He's a perfectionist type A personality. He has been an idol/father figure to many so he feels like he failed as that father figure, just like his father failed him. Big bag of repressed trauma here. Visual queues: Micro smile due to incredulous introspection; he still cannot believe he's here, that he made the choice he did. Definitely detached to get out the apology without losing it. He's angry/spiteful at himself for being weak, insecure, and reactive. I'm sure this had to be taped many times over many days due to breaking down hence why it feels scripted. Synopsis- Valid apology from a guy in duress, desperately trying to get it right. Feeling ashamed. Trying to understand the reason why he would react like he did. World on his shoulders picking apart his every move while he attempts to work through this hopefully, in therapy. My POV.
I think Will is suffering from some severe narcissistic abuse. This is on top of the childhood trauma he experienced. He got into all of this trouble defending his primary abuser. I don't think he believes that what he did is wrong, he still thinks Chris disrespected his wife. Even if the joke was tasteless, it had zero malice behind it and he only reacted when he realised that Jada didn't find it funny. He's sorry for the public backlash and the repercussions of what he did, he's sorry for the effect it has in his self-perception which ties back to his public persona and how other people see him, he isn't sorry for the act itself, while he acknowledges that he shouldn't have hit Chris, he doesn't seem to think that it was unjustified and that's the saddest thing about this. He's still doesn't think it was wrong.
People making comments about this seeming rehearsed .. I would absolutely practice this too. Look how many people are going to be scrutinizing this video and apology plus experts in body language. However, he is an amazing actor so you'd think it would come across as more sincere. Scientologists seem like they are all about their image. I don't think he is sorry for the actual slap. I think he is sorry because of the backlash.
I'm not sure what else people could possibly want from him. It happened months ago and none the privileged people involved are really suffering that much.
She rolled her eyes at Will laughing at the joke, I think, and he took the shame/ frustration of this out on Chris. I don't think it was about standing up for her, as much as reclaiming his pride.
Damage control of the highest level. I don’t hear him explain “why” Why did he awkwardly strut on that platform and slap a comedian for such a soft joke. Why Will?
Nah , the slap was his attempt at damage limitation. Imagine the media response if after he laughed and Jada'eye roll he did nothing . Not to mention the louder hue and cry from alopecia sufferers etc. His response wasn't to defend Jada but to make himself look good, too bad , it blew up in his face
I commend Chris Rock for keeping it so together after and finishing the show. It had to hard to keep it together after being not only being publically humiliated but that spread worldwide for weeks. I'm sure he doesn't appreciate that when you google Chris, rather than seeing him come up for his comedy or other things he's done, that slap is mentioned in several places and Will comes up as well. I don't think that the Oscars got so much attention in the over 90 years they have been on. Lots of people were demanding a public apology, more than the short blurb he wrote on social media. I don't think that any apology (sincerely done or not) would be accepted by those people who hate him now for the incident. It's a shame because I think he had a lot of people who were following him for his insight on the world, people, and how to handle situations. He didn't handle that situation well, he knows it and he threw his credibility off all he was building over the years. "Being human" hurt his image and people are never going to forget that night.
Will Smith comes across as someone who’s deeply introspective of their own emotions and want to be a “good” person, but he is too focused on (and maybe full of) HIMSELF to come across as genuine. It makes sense, if you’ve been through trauma like he has and then you’re famous on top of that, that you could be hypervigilant about people’s opinions of you. It’s heartbreaking that Chris Rock has been through trauma too though, and Will Smith was the one who decided to put him through more by slapping him in front of the whole world. What about the trauma of having the public not just maybe be disappointed in you, but instead see you be physically assaulted?? While those around do nothing but actually give Will Smith a trophy and standing ovation not much later? This apology felt to me like he’s been waiting for Chris Rock to reach out to him, but since Chris hasn’t, Will decided he just HAD to finally go ahead and make a public apology. Completely for his own sake. Chris is the victim in this situation, and if he doesn’t want to talk about it, the polite thing would be to leave it be for now. If Smith truly cared about Rock’s feelings, he could’ve just put out a public statement saying something like “I’m very sorry for what I did, but Chris isn’t ready to talk about it which I respect, so I won’t be commenting more on it for now”. But I believe Will Smith’s only able to be concerned about his own public image and emotional distress in all of this. That’s why the apology comes across as overall not that genuine to me. Also, the people blaming his wife for the slap are wild. I’ve been abused and it’s never made me assault another person. And it’s not like it was some long ploy where she’s been brainwashing him and whispered into his ear to go slap Chris Rock at the Oscars. Whatever they have going on at home, I don’t think there’s any reason to take away from Will Smith’s own accountability in this specific situation.
I have also been very verbally abused. I am NOT justifying what Will did! However, from personal experience the abuse from someone who is narcissistic can lead the victim to act and react to some situations in a manner that makes the victim look like the crazy one. We have no idea what he has been through in his personal life. It may have been a very inappropriate time for him to try and provf to his abuser that he's not "a piece of shit". I don't disagree that he likely has a lot of issues from his own past that he needs to deal with. My opinion is that he's doing what he knows how to do. It seems to me that he's been the abuser AND the abused. Not a happy place to live.
@@stacygyuricza2187 Yeah, I’ve been abused too, my whole childhood. Still working on my PTSD from it all, so definitely know what it’s like to be reactive in ways that sometimes won’t make sense to those around you. I’m so sorry for what you went through too. The sad thing though is that a lot of abusers have been through abuse. That’s usually where it comes from in my experience, getting hurt and never being taught the right way to deal with that (or any other of your emotions) and continuing with what’s been modeled for you. I do feel bad for what Will Smith has been through in the past. But like so many other people do, you can decide you never want to put someone else through the same pain you’ve been through. The way he was talking about disappointing people being one of his core traumas etc felt very much like the way I would talk in therapy to make sense of myself and my emotions, which is fine. It’s good to be aware and examine all of that. The way he brought it up in this moment, when he’s actually done something really bad, was so off to me though. And he just already crossed a hard line for me when he went up and slapped Chris Rock, where I don’t care whatever he might be going through at home. Physically harming someone else like he did, who is NOT your abuser, with that level of both rage and confidence... he doesn’t “seem” like the crazy one like with reactive abuse anymore, in that moment he was the abusive one, plain and simple. Sorry for the rambling and thinking out loud lol. I agree he doesn’t seem to have a very happy life. I do wish he finds peace and happiness, if for nothing else so he doesn’t continue the cycle of abuse any longer.
@@thoughtsintowords Makes me think of when someone hurts you and you try to distance yourself from them, even tell them to give you space, and then you hear through your mutual friends that they’ve been talking about you or want your friends to pass on messages from them. Except worse, this is in front of millions in public and Chris can’t escape it; others will no doubt bring this up and try to talk about it again now too (and I’m sure some might even pressure Chris about why he won’t just talk to Will and stuff like that). Just seems like the work of someone who (still) has no respect for people’s boundaries and it was very uncomfortable to watch.
I seen no genuine apology to Chris it looked more like dupers delight and the only person he showed genuine emotional pain for was himself. That was extremely poor at best!
I think he had the small smile when he talked about his family because, behind closed doors, they are, or at least were, proud of his reaction. Remember Jaden’s tweet.
Saying Chris' joke was insensitive is like complaining about a doctor hurting you when they give you a shot. it's part of the job, that's what he's supposed to do in this moment, making fun of things or people is literally it.
The whole video bothers me….. he really needs to toss jada to the side and figure out what kind of man he is right now… then he should decide what kind of man he wants to be. He is so confused about his life and I don’t blame him, how could the wrong choices make you such a known figure? But life does what it wants to who it wants and he needs to sort it out.
We have to remember who these people are. Think of how Chris reacted when Will smacked him. As a comedian, even in a terrible situation, his default, his defense mechanism was to laugh, to joke, to smile and push away the negative emotion. Comedians are built to compartmentalize their emotions. I think Will is a jokester and his default is to smile laugh and move on. He did the same smiles and laughs when speaking to Jada on Red Table Talks about her extramarital relationship. It's weird to witness at times for sure, but I see it as authentic because I have seen him handle other seemingly awful situations similarly.
I'm surprised that Logan didn't say anything about the product placement. The hat showing Will & Jada's production company and the water bottle from Jaden Smith's bottled water company.
Public apologies have become such a load of crap and it's sad. They know the public wants them to apologize, but is it better to get no apology at all or get one they don't mean?
The globe light directly behind his head bothered me because it kept looking like his head was warped. I thought his handlers had really messed up. Then considering the water bottle product placement, I thought maybe the globe was deliberate too - a halo! Saint Willsmith.
I just finished watching this video on my TV and HAD to come and comment on the changes in your appearance on your videos. I LOVE this change of your hair groing in, your tattoos showing, change in attire, and the occasional casual jewelry showing. You look more relaxed in your videos about who you are while also being knowledgeable. Don't stop being who you are!
I think you’ve completely missed that Will Smith is a solid Scientologist and being so is very disciplined with his emotions and private life, so when he lost self control at the awards there would of been underlying issues that were going on outside of this and this would of just been a breaking point, and that slap would of had a massive impact on him emotionally because he broke his own self discipline. Scientologists are very controlled in everything they do, look at Tom Cruise for example, and process emotional situations differently on an analytical level because of the disciplines in the religion. I don’t think this has been taken into consideration in this analysis.
I literally still cry for Chris Rock when seeing his reaction after the slap... he's been a joke, belittled or bullied most of his childhood and even a bit past that, to only end up having all that trauma come back up so many years later. I have been in the same place he was when he was younger, and to know how he was really feeling after that slap breaks my heart! He is an exceptional person, and a great host, holding back all those emotions and continuing on like he was expected to do was amazing! I really hope you'll grow and become stronger from this Chris, you're a lovely person and always been a inspiration to me. I'd love to have the kindness that you have, and be able to share my love like you do all the time. The best to you!
I feel so sad for Chris Rock. That joke was tame & after being assaulted & humiliated in front of the whole world, he still finds it within himself to firmly assure Will that he will not repeat what he said. He experienced a time bomb that went off & understood at that moment that he needs to handle the situation delicately. He had been in the position of hardship & going off in his childhood; yet he still managed it well despite having to relive the trauma. So I would understand and agree that at the end of this, Chris deserves the right to accept or decline Will Smith's olive branch. As for Will Smith, i think his facade broke. With everything that had happened with his wife's confessions at the Red Table; something about her reaction that night triggered his timer. He is fully responsible for reacting this way, but he had been influenced as he did say that disappointing people had been his trauma. This apology though isn't as helpful as he thought it would be. Yes, it's never too late to apologise but the only part that looks & sounds sincere is the answer to the last question. Will Smith, i fear, have fallen into a very toxic persona cultivated by the environment that he chosen to stay in. He may never be fully happy & himself if he chooses to stay.
“Lovely Swindler” is my ringtone now🤣 very excited for this video. Hope you, Piper, and the fur babies are doing amazing. Also, does “I’m human” irk you in this situation? I totally thought of Demi’s apology video when they said it after Will said it!
It makes sense that Will said he is a people pleaser and the situation that happened, as he was trying in his way to please or stand up for his wife. His deep rooted trauma in this does provide a reason (albeit not a justification) for his action. I found his apology sincere but well rehearsed, as you would expect given this was several months later. I hope that all parties can find peace.
Yes he did say he was a people pleaser and I feel so much empathy for him. I cried when I watched the apology because it’s not much of what he said it was his eyes that were telling a deeper story
It’s interesting to hear the different analysis on this apology. One therapist said Will should have waited longer to further process his behavior/emotions. I agree with that because doing that internal work is a long process but in order to understand where irrational behavior came from, it’s needed. As for the non-verbal cues, I would say I’m a very anxious person and have what other describe as shifty eyes when I’m nervous. I can apologize but I sometimes have to have a bit of armor around me to do it. Will could do the same (and has in the past with humor) and why he had to steel himself. Apologies are hard. Point blank. I’ve had an sincere apology thrown back in my face because it wasn’t to their standards. Overall, I just want both Will and Chris to heal and continue on. I am glad that Will did apologize after he reflected because that’s something in today’s world that more people need to do.
Man, I just saw this video yesterday and thought:" I really need a body language analyst for this, cuz I can't tell if it's genuine or not". Great video as always!
16:42, you hit the nail on the head. This wasn't (supposed to be) about him, and he only showed emotion when he was talking about himself. He wasn't emotional when he spoke of hurting another human being, but he was emotional when he spoke about how HE is 'being hurt'. (which is entirely due to his own actions) This just really struck me as phony, especially the end of his apology, bleating about supporting peace and love, blah blah blah.
There's something about that second question that absolutely rubbed me the wrong way. Now, I didn't not believe him when he said no, but at the same time, there's something about it (probably his voice, honestly) that tells me that the eye-roll isn't the full picture. To me at least, it sounded like a habitual cover-up. As in he's covering for his wife, he's supporting her to the very end, which is good in itself, but… Yeah, no. It really was the point in the interview that had me deterred in the first watch, and it managed to do the same here.
Yeah, that moment caught my attention too, a lot of vocal fry when his voice is typically very clear. The question was, did she tell him something, and she probably didn't. But when you live with a narcissistic person, you are hyper aware of their every mood, so she didn't need to "tell" him anything for information to be communicated.
@@lizblock9593 That's along my line of thought. I don't think she did, but I think the stress of the relationship really just drove him to direct the emotions out. Both during the Oscars and here.
The fact is, that this is hard to watch because it now makes all his fans reassess his character. This apology was not genuine. No matter how many times he said sorry, I couldn't see any genuine emotion.
It's interesting that Will thinks shame isn't a valid emotion in this situation. All emotions are healthy in the right context. This is the right context for shame to show up and hopefully prevent him from doing this again.
@@archaedia that's actually not how psychology defines it. Guilt is when you feel you broke your own moral code. Shame is when you have broken society's moral code. He should feel both guilt and shame right now. Neither emotion defines his whole person.
I didn’t pick up on sincerity in his “apology”. He spent the majority of time talking about himself (me, my, I), blame shifting, and avoiding direct responses. I think deep down he doesn’t believe he did anything wrong
Honestly, I think the sincerity comes from the fact that he's a mess. Lol. Like the man's not in a good place. But, whether or not it was because Chris is and has been done with this, Will barely addressed him in this apology. Like, he addressed the _family_ of Chris more than Chris himself. Cuz Will, I don't care if you were tight with his brother (don't really buy it but whatever). Tony wasn't the one slapped. xD Like it's a pile of shit, but I don't necessarily buy that it's insincere the same way a lot of apology videos are. It's honestly just a weird video.
I disagree. He can only speak for himself and his perspective. People who spoke with him during the actual Oscars even talk about how he regretted it in the moment. This is someone grappling with their own shame and trying to repair what has been damaged by their own actions.
The reason I believe Will popped off was because Jada reacted negatively. Their relationship is a complicated one. Jada never wanted to be married. When she got pregnant with Wills baby her grandmother insisted they marry. Jada was pressured enough that she relented and married Will. Will Smith has always wanted to be married and raise a family, so for him it was a dream come true to marry her. Everyone in Hollywood knows they have an 'open' marriage so to speak and I think Will just puts up with it because he loves her. That being said, I suspect when Chris made the comment and Jada reacted negatively, Will felt it was important to put on a show for Jada by slapping Chris. I don't think it had anything to do with Chris or his statement. It gave Will the opportunity to bellow out that she was his wife (keep MY WIFE'S name out of your mouth). as well as a sign of possession not only to Jada but live on international television. I think Will was simply taking the opportunity to try to impress Jada by standing up for her in a very big way.
A lot of "I statements". He talks about "insults", thereby making him the victim and Chris the aggressor (even though Chris didn't know about the alopecia). Most telling is how Smith initially laughed at the joke until he got the side-eye from JPS. He knew most people didn't know about the alopecia, and neither did Chris.
The emotional pain that you can see play out in the eyes of Chris Rock, as he tries to process and regain himself is so heartbreaking. The fact that Will Smith clearly states he was close to the Rock family makes this so much more painful. As he would have known of the history and trauma experienced by Chris previously. The fact it was a slap is also so degrading. I have so much respect for Chris Rock for how he dealt with this incident. The control you see plays out in micro seconds as he controls emotional stress and instinct directly after the slap. He steps back and lifts an arm in a very true human defense response to retaliate but he masters it in fractions of seconds, to stand there and purposely place his arms behind his back in a non aggressive non threatening stance. Will Smith and Jada disgust me. The icon of Will fell.
very well said
I agree. Essentially he was assaulted in front many witnesses who did nothing and then later gave the assailant a standing ovation.
Totally agree and thanks for putting focus on the real victim here. i was really feeling it for Chris. seen many a bully
Well said!! 💯💯
yeah will lost a lifetime of having a wholesome , likeable, chill, funny persona in one deranged live public outburst, so sad for all involved
I would’ve liked to see Will escorted out of the Oscars after assaulting a man. Not stay and get rewarded. It is clear Chris does not want to continue to give this attention publicly. Yet the Smith’s keep doing so.
Good point yeah Chris doesn't highlight it.. he had a show called "everybody hates Chris" that was about his horrible childhood being assaulted constantly. Like he was making light out of his plight. He isn't a victim of it. He's not a victim of Will either..kept it moving.. he goes to therapy 5 days a week he always has. He is a complex reflective deep person. Will is showing he is so much more shallow .. almost inexperienced in Male culture. Oh yeah he gets Dominated by Jada all day long so why would he know about male hierarchy.
That’s what really gets to me about this. Will Smith specifically states in this video that Chris isn’t ready to reach out to him yet and THEN STILL proceeds to apologize directly to him. How disrespectful. That alone tells me it was 100% for Will’s own sake and he doesn’t care about Chris’s feelings beyond wanting this to go away from the public eye.
@@kimc.3104 I mean…for one thing, you can be a victim whether or not you make light of it. Poking fun at yourself is a way to cope with that sort of thing. So yes, by definition (which is really just means "someone who has been hurt/killed by a crime") he is still a victim, he's just let it roll off like water on a duck's back. And he's probably able to have better control over his emotions because of that constant therapeutic source.
None of this to say your main point is wrong. I do agree with the sentiment that Chris has handled himself far better in this situation than Will has, which speaks volumes to their characters.
Good point.
@@slsthewriter1299 yes - There are still two ways of looking at it - lets say Chris for example - he does not view himself as "victim", rather, he is just someone that a lot of bad stuff happened too. very different mindsets.
Why should Chris Rock talk to him? He owes him nothing. I hope they can both move on with their lives and be happy but I don't see the point of them having a public conversation about this.
Chris Rock HAS moved on with his life. he is on on an epic tour right now. Will needs to freaking let it go. Enough.
@@pambennett3390 yeah he’s also said several times that he doesn’t want to talk about it, Will needs to leave the poor man alone
I agree no conversation but Chris rock should roast Will Smith on an epic scale in his shows lol
When I was a kid, my mom would make me apologize to my sister when we fought. I would intentionally say, "I apologize" instead of "I'm sorry" because I was never sorry. I was doing the right thing under coercion. That's how I know this was not sincere- because Smith was just going through the motions of an apology to put this to bed. What he doesn't understand is that we know better than to believe his words when he's smugly trying to conceal a grin throughout.
That’s such a good point considering he said “I apologize” when apologizing to Chris and Chris’s family, but then “I’m sorry” when he was apologizing to his own family
@@Kennylovessandwiches That's what I said! Lol And so true. Sorry, I shared the motion on say sorry with Moist-y penguin Charlie (totally official name, totally not a loving nickname for all of his names lol) on the matter and felt the same.
I said it before, I will say it again. It's harder to say sorry for a reason.
Devil's advocate, a lot of people feel the phrase "I'm sorry" is worn out and hollow. So it could be a hint at his lack of sincerity, or it could be him trying to find more meaningful words, and possibly failing.
I agree. I apologize creates distance. Many people find it very difficult to say "I'm sorry". Big pet peeve of mine.
My dad used to say “I know he’s sorry. Now apologise.”
Something about his pattern of speech on top of his non-verbal indicators makes me think this apology was purely for placating the fans and negative press rather than true regret for his actions. I think he regrets the consequences and not really the act itself.
tbh yeah. the public shouldn't have demanded an apology. it should've been a private matter between them immediately. he was forced to be fake bc people don't want to see him as different than their idea of him.
Agree 💯
Exactly. Also, he used product placement to advertise for his and Jada's brands in this video. His hat had the logo for their film company and the water had a logo for their water. 😕
Why would it be necessary to do that if he was sincerely apologizing?
100% He ONLY showed emotion when speaking about how he is 'hurting' (which is entirely due to HIS OWN actions). But he showed absolutely no genuine emotion when speaking on how he hurt another human being, let alone a colleague and friend. (or someone that at some point was considered a friend) It's one of those "I'm not sorry I did it, I"m sorry I'm being held accountable for my own actions" type of situations.
He seems like he’s being held hostage and being forced to make this video.
To see the incident again I'm still impressed with the way Chris handled the situation. Will's apology is more than embarrassing.
It didn't help his situation. Whatever demon that was in him that night he slapped Chris is still in him on this apology.
All you people talking about this. Where was all of you when the Oscar's was racist towards us! I don't hear no one's opinion on that.
It’s all code acting but I’m surprised you didn’t know it’s all scripted you actually think this stuff is real? 😂😂😂
If he was sorry it wouldn't have taken 3 months. He's doing this for his career and Jada
And kids. The water on the table is a flipping advert for Jaden. That water is a product of his son's. I mean here he is making this grand (cough bullshit cough) gesture to apologize but they strategically placed that damn water there. Like, really?
He publicly said he's apologies the day before hun... 🤦🏽 On Instagram.... 🤦🏽
so somebody can't take the time to reflect on how shitty their behavior was?
and he also apologized right after
@@sowhitney in my humble opinion posting something on Instagram isn't the same as an apology and 3 months to reflect on something that's pretty basic. But I understand
"Fogged out" and yet he pulled it together to make his acceptance speech? Gotta call BS. This was filled with deflections and self pity in my opinion.
Chris handled the entire situation with incredible grace and restraint. He is actually representing the community the way Will tries to project as a public persona.
He would have ran or stomped onto the stage if he was “fogged out”, probably red-faced with heavy breathing. To calmly assault someone like that gives the impression that this is how you regularly conduct yourself.
I just finished watching the apology and was thinking about his body language and was looking forward to watching this but assumed it wouldn’t be out for a few days but then this video was suggested and posted 5 minutes ago 😭😭 allow this comment to be a formal acknowledgment of this man’s hustle 🙌🏽
Lol i justed posted a comment i wanted this.
Ditto, what they said!
Amen to that
I'll allow it.
I also had a gut feeling that as rehearsed or as de synchronized as Will appeared, there is a sadness and a sense of defeat that left me feeling that something is terribly off with Will Smith at this moment. We don’t know what it is , but it must be something concerning as he really acted in a reckless out of character way at the Oscars . I see a lost man right now .
Same here. The length of time that it took to make this apology also stands out to me as there being more behind the scenes that we don't know about. It doesn't excuse his behaviour but "normal" people wouldn't do what he did and it feels like there's more to what happened that none of us are aware of.
Yes he absolutely looks depressed, kind of like he doesn’t have the spark that gave him his charisma.
It's because of two things, Scientology and Jada. Until he leaves both, he's fucked.
I think there marriage has been on the rocks for a while now. And he laughed, then realized he laughed at a joke that offended his wife, so to make up for his laughing he slapped Chris rock. He was more focused on pleasing his wife bc they are already struggling to agree w one another, and though she probably didn’t say anything, he wasn’t thinking about anything else, other than the possibility of a fight when they get home.. Now their relationship is even rockier. All bc he assumed he needed to “defend her honor” as if she couldn’t… this is purely speculation, but their relationship doesn’t seem solid at all, their relationship seems like it’s meant to look solid in photos, but behind closed doors it’s an emotional argumentative mess. And that’s where that defeat and sadness comes from in my opinion. But idk.
@@ekamarie6632 i mean, yea. Will and Jada’s relationship is ROUGH. Jada has cheated on Will in the past, and then continues to joke/bring it up in lighthearted manners, and will talk about “how nice it was” in front of wills face. it’s really gross. and also their social media posts just, idk how to word it, but it comes off so forced and odd. there’s points Jada will record Will and it’s obvious he doesn’t want to be recorded and is uncomfortable, but she just keeps doing it? I’m no expert and i’m not trying to speak for them, but that’s just the energy i’ve gotten.
I watched it live at home in the UK and was absolutely horrified not just by Will's behaviour but by the lack of intervention or recognition by the whole theatre audience and staff. If I had been there, I would have left in disgust well before they ridiculously handed Will an Oscar, gave him a standing ovation, and then partied with him all night. I'd like to believe Will is genuinely sorry for how he behaved but this seems like one of those damage control apologies where he's only really sorry for how his own behaviour has impacted his own relationships, status, money and career. Will Smith has a lot more work to do on himself, and getting out of his toxic marriage would be a good first step. I'm glad Chris is rightly protecting himself from any fake apology or PR stunts, IF he ever chooses to speak to Will again, it should be on his own terms.
It just feels so disrespectful to use the public to STILL apologize to Chris Rock if Chris has literally let him know he doesn’t want to talk, using the camera to speak directly to him and all that... That’s manipulative to me... Will could at the very least have been like “I’ll address the public/fans but Chris doesn’t want to talk about this so I’ll respect that”, but nope... This was all about himself. 😕
Chris also. has a tour right now and is doing very very well for himself. He is too busy to stop his life for Will Smith. Myabe one day he will be ready to address it, but he isnt going to let any of it effect his career right now and his tour, and good for him.
Bunch of hyper rich people at an event intended to inflate all of their egos, I suspect that they initially assumed it was a bit then realized it wasn't. Then assumed the Oscar's staff would handle it and when they didn't they all just went with the flow.
Doesn't excuse it. I appreciate the few celebs that straight up spoke out against it like Jim Carrey.
Like you I watched it at home in the UK and like you was disgusted by his actions he should have been removed from the event immediately after the assualt if some non famous person had assualted someone on stage they would have been arrested. I think it just shows the fakeness of it all especially when they gave him a standing ovation and speaking of fakeness this apology seems to belong in that category. I agree with you its damage control to save his career and image and I hope people recognise it for what it is.
I think a lot of people were wondering if it was scripted/ part of the night. They waited to see if it would be a bit or would lead somewhere else. Once that confusion wore off, a lot of people were genuinely upset.
I would have left as well. Or at least have stayed close to Chris all night (for those of them who are supposed to be his friends).
Every single time someone apologizes by saying “I’m human” I ignore everything else they say. I’m human, I’m not the same person, I was in a dark place, I’m sorry if you was hurt, and people make mistakes are so infuriating to hear. You just shouldn’t have said “I’m sorry” if these are in your apology.
Omg, so true - in fact - I don't accept any apologies at all - if one truly doesn't want to hurt someone, they wouldn't do it, and cause the need for apology. A mistake or accident is different, like stepping on my foot on accident I will accept an apology! But anything with intent, calculation, execution - uhm.. keep your apology!
I agree with you, and perhaps he shouldn’t have stated that. But in therapy I’ve always been reassured to remind myself these things so that I don’t completely crumble internally and think I’m a piece of shit. But maybe he should’ve kept that part to himself.
When he said if you hang on we'll be friends again. WHAT THE ACTUAL 🤬? Your arrogance is showing hun.
@@ohhemmgeeitsjenna it is good in therapy to be reminded these things. You’re healing and working on you. When you use them as part of your apology, you are manipulating the person(s) you are apologizing to for your benefit. People might as well say “you have to feel bad for me, because we both suffer from the human condition.” When no we don’t both do xyz. When apologizing to yourself for being less than nice to yourself, telling yourself that you are sorry for the words/actions used is appropriate. It is also appropriate to lean on these reasonings “I’m not perfect” “I was in a dark place” “I’m only human” “my expectations of myself was broken” an all the other internal conflicts and conversations you have with yourself are more than fair. Always remember to apologize to yourself for being less than ideal to yourself. Those aren’t the same as “I fucked up, an I’m sorry. These are the actions I’m going to take to undo my fuck up. I’m so sorry that I laid my hands on you an I’m sorry for the ripple effect I caused, because I was unable to control my emotions in that moment. I’ve started therapy and promise to be a better person moving forward.” That’s how you apologize in a public setting while taking ownership of your actions and promising to put your best foot forward. Not by saying just hold on you’ll be my friend again an I’m only human. Anyway, sorry for the word dump, I hope you continue to find grace for yourself and that I’ve cleared up any confusion. I am really sorry that I made you second guess the healing you’ve been doing in therapy.
So true because later on he said "I'm sorry" to Jada and his kids.
Who the hell thought that staging the video in that way was a good idea? Having him sit down on camera with said camera following his movements, showing there was a camera man. It all looks like a production rather than a sincere video. Will, just set up a camera, sit on the couch, and speak from the heart. Unless you have something to hide? This was a total disaster. Who came up with that??
I feel MORE let down than before the apology video.
I hear the buzzwords of a PR motivated apology coming out of his mouth, but it's disingenuous. I truly think he believes that as he is will Smith, he has the right to do what he wants and despite having to apologise, he still believes that.
When answering the question about why he didn't apologise to Rock in his acceptance speech, he said he was fogged out by that point... not quite fogged out enough to mention how 'love makes you do crazy things' which is already him justifying what he had just done and not regretting it one bit... sure, you were fogged out.
The most authentic part was when he said he feels bad for how he has let people down and I think he probably got a talking to from his mum who I believe was abused by Smith's father. Never once does he say he feels bad for deciding to get up and physically assault a person in front of millions. It's not up to any of us to forgive him anyway but that whole apology was for the people who buy tickets to see his films and not the actual victim of his assault.
When he said he has reached out to Chris to apologise and chris' response was that it was too soon to talk to him, I kinda got a virtual signalling kinda vibe. Like - I've reached out and apologised and its out of my hands now. I'll show restraint and patience and be there whenever Chris is ready. It's almost victim blaming as if Chris doesn't forgive him, then it's not his problem as he 'reached out to apologise' and its passive aggressively putting a time restraint for Chris to get over it.
That. My abusive ex used that on me all the time. Her shallow "I’m sorrys” were out of her mouth so quickly, I could feel a stopwatch ticking off the seconds, which meant the ball was now in my court and I had better forgive right then or I would be THE UNREASONABLE ONE. Oh, the clever manipulators. Their routine steals a person’s right to be genuinely and appropriately hurt, upset, or blazing angry about what's happened, for their’s no time AT ALL in which to work one’s way around to an emotionally and authentic forgiveness. It’s ugly and intensional abuse. When the apology’s phony, the forgiveness won’t be genuine. Ever. If this sounds familiar to anyone, get counseling and/or get OUT.
i'm fairly certain he just doesnt think he has anything to apologize for. It seems to me that he did what he did for reasons he believes are right which is standing up for his wife. I dont agree with him slapping Chris however i do understand what it means to have someone you love who is sick and within all that turmoil, the last thing, the one thing that can make you snap, is someone telling a joke about it as if it's not a big deal. Idk how long she has been dealing with alopecia but it sounds like it was new enough at the time to spark emotion.
@@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed but he was laughing at the joke right up until he looked at Jada and it was a very mild joke and certainly not of the caliber which would make anyone 'lose it' to that extent. It wasn't an act of honour, it was an act of pure ego and entitlement which he still feels. Hence, his apology is vapid. Also, Jada had publicly stated that she doesn't care about the haters and loves her baldness.
Exactly
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Says "I apologize" to Chris and Chris's mother, but says "I'm sorry" to his own family and friends.
Interesting.
Saying "I apologize" is more eloquent when formally apologizing to someone is my take on it. To me, saying "I'm sorry" sounds a little juvenile, but that's just my opinion.
@@lovebythemoon57 I’m sorry is more personal to me. I would definitely want a more personal apology if someone physically assaulted me 😂 Like you done violated my personal space and then some, fess up
@@lovebythemoon57 he has more than enough time to say he is sorry to his family. That was all PR BS.
@Flower7 It gets tossed around all the time in the office-work environment, it lost its true meaning for me a long time ago. It's not hard to say it, it's hard to actually mean it.
Tired of this dragging this old ting when there are so much more important things to debate about time for talking g about other things
Sometimes it’s hard to believe actors, but this didn’t feel genuine. It’s as if Smith believes his own hype and thinks he can do anything and be forgiven. Who would have the nerve to do this at the Oscars? It was a long-ish walk to Chris, didn’t he rethink this at that moment? It suggests he can’t control his anger, which was not proportionate to the joke, and that physical violence is not foreign to him. He’s not a newbie, he knows the biz, he understands how important reputation is to a successful actor, he’s heard the critiques about his marriage etc. Why did this upset him this much? I’m not impressed at all with Smith or his apology.
And even after slapping Chris and calmly walking back to his seat, he KEPT ON screaming, sounding completely in a rage. Rewatching it now months later I still can barely believe it. And the way he smiled in this video when he said “stick around, I promise we can be friends again”... in his mind, he seems to already be assuming the public will forgive him once he’s put this out there. People keep putting blame on his wife but there’s so much directly from Will Smith giving me red flags. He thinks he’s untouchable and there’s a smugness to it that feels so uncomfortable.
once I saw his son's "Just water" product on that table, I immediately thought, oh this isn't genuine. this is a promo for his sons product. also, he should have apologized to Chris privately, like any good friend should. it shows you care. Will should have apologized for showing violence to millions of people on national television publicly.
@@LunalovaniaGaming and the fact that he says Chris isn’t ready to talk to him yet and he STILL goes publicly to “apologize” to him despite that... oh boy
@@ixizn yep, exactly.
or his"lovely wife"
I learned a looooong time ago. An expeditious “oh! Im sorry! I did not mean to cause offense/i wont do that again/ill do better”
goes a long way to resolving issues. Avoiding acknowledging you made an error can really cause long term problems.
"Letting People Down is my Central Trauma"... in that one sentence he makes himself the victim by saying he is traumatised by letting people down - most people say "I hate" or "I dont like letting people down" - which indicates they know they have the control to let someone down or not....He also doesnt want to be ashamed of himself - he should be - there is nothing wrong with being human and saying "I did something stupid and I am ashamed" but his Ego wont allow that. The man has been on his own pedestal for too long, thinking he can do no wrong...He has to accept that he is no longer on that pedestal and IS Human and will mess up..but without the knowledge of how to BE Human and appologise from the heart, he will never really move on from this PR Stunt. I am sure he was reading some main points that he wanted to mention which I think made it feel a lot less natural.
He thinks that his entire future/success is held in the hands of his fans, and not Chris Rock - after all they are the ones who will pay to watch him (or not) in movies.
That was a weird comment. Trauma is what happens TO you by others, not what you allegedly do to yourself. Puhleez!!
@@EmbraceTerror do yourself a favor and reread it!
Thats what I was thinking. Even if that's true, this was NOT the place for it. He let people down because of something he had control over and now he's trying to guilt people with buzz words for being upset or let down by him acting out.
In that same vein, physical violence [even a blindsided slap] is triggering to a lot of people, why should HIS trauma be held in a different regard than anyone else's? I know that's not what he's exactly saying, but I personally feel like that's what he's implying when he almost blatantly blames people for exacerbating his trauma by them telling him they were disappointed that he had acted like a 2 year old.
The whole thing just felt disingenuous and gross.
@@debbiedebster5806 they're talking about Will saying the thing about trauma, not this comment lmao
@@Burscutum I agree. The way he was screaming alone at Chris was enough to make my heart beat faster and body tense up, just from watching it through a screen, let alone the physical violence and the audience then just laughing at it. There’s a difference between being hypervigilant about letting people down due to trauma even when there’s no actual reason for it, and bringing it up in relation to something very wrong that you did that people are now disappointed at you for. You shouldn’t be thinking the anxiety and bad feelings you have about that is somehow rooted in your past trauma. He DID do something bad, let people down, and SHOULD feel guilty about it, past trauma or not.
Will lost as soon as he got up off his seat. No amount of damage control will take back the slap but then everyone whose name isn’t Chris Rock needs to chill out about it.
Sadly thats how everone acted at time, they made Chris just carry on and even gave Will a standing ovation! Disgusting!
He isn’t sorry about his inappropriate behaviour, he’s sorry about the consequences and the fallout. I’ve sadly seen and heard this in many a courtroom before. Perpetrators usually feel remorse about getting convicted, not about their actions.
Yes! This!
Chris would have every right to hold a grudge the rest of his life. I would, can you imagine embarrassed internationally AND assaulted for doing your job.
He’s “devoted to putting light love and joy into the world” but, can’t whole heartedly say sorry for a physical abuse attack on a comedian? Sure, ok Will 🙄🙄
His apology has Scientology written all over it. Listen to the words he uses to describe how he is working through it..."replaying and understanding the nuances and complexities of what happened in that moment" in an attempt to understand it is Auditing.
Like when he used the catchphrase "my central trauma". Who even talks like that? Sounds like something he learned to say from some lame "guru" or something.
Or it’s how Jada talks… I think she plays a big role in how he is now perceived in the public eye/saying they are always working on themselves and digging deeper with therapy and what not on her own show. I dislike her persona and what she shows to the world in general.
it’s also a language pattern to seem above people and that you are more emotionally intelligent. 🤷🏻♀️
@@TrulyJefferson maybe someone's who been to therapy and talking to a professional.
The Smiths are NOT scientologist, never have been. This has been debunked by countless former member like Leah Remini and Mike Rinder.
@@EricTitansSmith lol like people won’t understand that he went to seek therapy and help immediately after
I see a promotional hat and bottle. Takes away all sincerity for me.
If you read his book, "Will", you learn that he uses laughter to feel safe, and self-placate after experiencing/witnessing his father's abuse. So I think some of what might come across as desync "smirking" is actually him trying to self-placate.
Totally! Sometimes I think Non-Verbal communication Analysts forget about base behaviour (probably written different in English, which is not my native language). The thing is, every person has certain gestures/behaviours that are natural in their normal interactions, and this gesture might mean something either good or bad, but if someone uses it commonly, it might not have an extra meaning because it’s just the way this person communicates.
For example, some people laugh when they feel nervous (in funerals or critical situations) and it might be very hard to control it even if they don’t feel happy about it; or some people smile naturally like doing a smirk (which is considered a negative gesture).
It’s important to notice base behaviour before providing an analysis and I’m not sure this has been done this time.
Will smith laughing and then going up there and slapping him has always been the hardest part for me to get over. Was he mad that jada was mad about the joke and saw him laughing. Was he trying to avoid the couch scenario? How do you go from thinking the joke is funny to being so offended you go and slap Chris. To me he probably isn’t lying about jada not asking him to do it but we know this is mainly because of her and their dynamic relationship. Will showed his insecurities in so many ways with the slap and I don’t hear him recognizing that and addressing that in this video because he didn’t want to unpack it but unfortunately for him that was the main thing he needed to do to show he understood what happen that night. Chris did nothing wrong. Shouldn’t matter that jada got mad. That night something snapped in him and that’s what will needs to address
Well said
I'm not sure. my daughter has alopecia and there are some things about it that are funny for us but there are a ton of things we would never say about or around her. But even those statements that would be ok at home would definitely not be ok in public...it's not a joke and it's not ok to laugh at someone who loses their hair. That's what Chris Rock intended and I still don't understand why. So i dont agree that he did nothing wrong. that joke wouldn't have been allowed by the Academy so obviously he was improvising there.
But more than that, I don't understand why Will was laughing at all
@@rosestewart1606 because will thought it was funny. He was probably glad someone is making a joke about her because he probably has rarely seen that. Jadas reaction also shows that she probably isn’t use to be the bunt end of a joke either. I have a feeling at his home that will is probably the one that gets crapped on in his own home.
If someone made a joke about your daughter would you go slap the comedian??? Probably not. No one likes to be made fun of but when your a public person you have to expect to be mocked or made fun of. These people are elite. They are celebrities and always told they are great so I am not going to cry because someone made a joke on their behalf. We’re so sensitive now that even jokes are being censored. Jokes are jokes and the way to handle them is to laugh or be shocked and move on with our lives.
@@rosestewart1606 I stand by this: she had a shaved head wearing a green dress. It had army vibes whether she liked it or not. Whether she has alopecia or not. Hers isn't even so obvious - I didn't know she had it. Her loss is like what, a single line along her hairline running parallel to her actual hairline? You can't fucking even tell. She chooses to talk about it which is probably how anyone even knows.
Will suddenly snapping reads of bipolar or other disorder. Bipolar mania can present as sudden bouts of rage and if not controlled, results in poor impulse control and potentially violent behavior.
Idk if that was what happened, but if his excuse of "I was in a haze" was true, and given the number of people who almost immediately swarmed him to talk him down, I wonder of he does have some known issue amongst some of his closest fellow actors but it doesn't normally happen in the public eye.
@@rosestewart1606 Most people never even heard of it let alone knew she suffered from it. It was a stupid joke that most people got because of GI Jane(stupid movie) not because of an actual illness.
First thing I notice is the self soothing hand gestures Will does as he's sitting down.
As far as the joke and Jada herself, it's pretty rich of her to think that everyone knows about her condition. I don't think there's as many people following her and her show as she believes there to be. I never watched her show, other than The Matrix, I don't know any of her movies, I had no idea she has alopecia. She's had short hair for so long and she is such an... odd person, I just thought it was a style choice.
This wasn't the first time Chris has made jokes about Jadas condition publicly. He knew exactly what he was saying about her and he did it to shame her publicly under the guise of it being "a joke". He crossed a line, but shouldn't have been slapped for it.
And Will should have apologized to Chris much sooner, and preferably in private. Not on camera like this.
@@ravenzrozze Hi Mel - I have alopecia - it can take many forms, auto immune, from self-pulling her pulling (a compulsive condition) scaring LLP (like mine) traction (often not - reversible), receding hairline, and odd-shaped patches in random places. It is well known she has it, and she has talked about it several times, you can see it in her pictures over the years. Like many of us she decided to shave her head rather than fight it - I was bald for years, but have regained some of my hair now. BUT that said I'm actually not a big fan of Jada and I do think Chris thought it was a style choice.
Exactly 👍🏾
@@lovebythemoon57 The thing though is that 1) Chris was literally there to humble the elite. That is what comedians are there for. If your ego can't take it, you shouldn't be at the Oscars. Theoretically, anyway. 2) Jada could've _easily_ taken that joke as a compliment. Sure, the movie flopped on release and the like, however, many people do regard that movie as one for female empowerment. And the main (female) lead was bald throughout. Jada could've easily taken it as a compliment of empowerment, but no, her ego had to roll her eyes.
Honestly the whole thing is stupid. It's rich people slapping each other and taking things personally. Yeah, the joke wasn't a great one, it did cross a line lol, but nobody would've remembered it if Will didn't go up and slap. Which like…yeah, as you said, Chris shouldn't have been slapped for it.
“Well letting people down is MY central trauma.” You said it perfectly. He’s not a victim. Chris is the victim.
He seems resistant to vulnerability and sincerely apologizing requires vulnerability and empathy.
Which is just weird and out of character for him, tbh. It's almost frightening to see. Like a shell of himself is all we saw here.
Notice the strategically placed water on the table. He's advertising his son's company. That's Jayden's product. I think this is one of the worst apologies in history and I've seen a lot of bad ones. It served no purpose (or missed the mark completely if there was one) and changed nothing. It just brought attention back on him, his family, etc to get people talking about something no one was talking about anymore. He, or someone in the family, must have something they need to promote soon but they needed to get this out of the way first. Will is a very intelligent and emotionally connected (or at least was) person. Not only couldn't he feel it, he couldn't even muster it up acting-wise. Amber Heard did a better job during the trial than Will did here. Then again, Amber believes her own bullshit and lives in an entirely different reality. Will don't believe his words nor does he even care if you ask me. That or he is physically and emotionally incapable of any emotion in that moment. I've seen him get so emotional over things both personal and professional. Never shied away from showing his emotion He literally was completely void the ability to feel it, or even dig it up to the surface as an actor. It's like he's on a massive dose of antidepressants or something.
Worst apology in history???? Really? Have you seen ANY politician apology or youtuber.
@@angelsmilkyway4352 yep. And I still believe this is one of the worst. I never said it was thee worst. Just one of thee worst.
Ugh! really? gross
"i didnt realize Chris had a mother until i saw a video of his mother" - said the complete sociopath
@@truestory_4 worse than Travis Scott’s? Never.
For the first question. I think he didn’t apologize because I don’t think he was sorry.
While I watch this video, my gut/instinct picks up on the same things you comment on and explain. However, I can not verbalize it the way you do. I don't know what I see wrong exactly, I just know it is wrong/suspicious/false. Thanks so much for delving deeper, helping to clarify what my gut felt/picked up on! I learn more about human behavior, and to trust my own instinct.
I have my own theory about Will. The best way I can say it is just to be honest about it. There’s a possibility that Will has been a victim of domestic abuse. I’ve wondered about that since the ‘entanglement’ situation, but his reaction to the joke Chris made, and how he immediately switched up when he saw that Jada wasn’t laughing just makes me wonder. Again, this is just my opinion, I could absolutely be wrong. I hope I am wrong. And I’m not excusing his behavior towards Chris. He’s a grown man, he should know better.
I've seen "attack dog manipulation" happen in person. Slight displeasure in the controller's face triggers anger and aggression in the attack dog. I'm not going to jump to serious accusations of abuse, but I AM going to say it was him trying to win her favour (Jada cheated on him, and if he still loves her, he may respond to her displeasure in order to get her to love him again) it's not inherently a sign of abuse (though can also exist there, as in my real life example)
@@myheartismadeofstars I completely agree. He saw she wasn’t happy and he immediately switched from laughing to hitting and yelling. His immediate change in behavior is a red flag.
@Heather Marie -- Thank you for bringing this up. This is exactly the context everyone seems to be missing / not talking about. Will, his siblings and mother were physically abused growing up (by his father). His comedic personality was a coping mechanism. He has deep trauma around this and his inability to protect his mother. No one is talking about how certain things could trigger a fear response from an abuse victim, which I believe - in this case - manifested in assault to Chris Rock. Definitely not excusing it, but it's frustrating to see the complete lack of context of his upbringing and him being open about his fears and traumas, and how this factored.
If he were a victim he wouldn't have laughed
Logan just want to say that I hope you are doing well. I have watched your videos for along time and recently feel like maybe you’ve been going through something. Hope all is ok and keep up the awesome videos!
I was scrolling through the comments to see if I was the only one who sadly felt that from the recent videos.
I said the same a few months back. His eyes look so haunted😢
damn all he did was grow his hair out lol
Same!! I hope all is well for him.
No cause I noticed that at too, he almost sounds close to tears at the start :(
“I apologize” is dismissive .
“ I apologize BUT..” is an insult.
“ I am sorry” is a genuine apology.
It’s really quite simple. Adults teach our kids to say “I’m sorry” yet cannot seem to say those three words.
This reminds me of the apologies you give as a kid when you are forced to say sorry for something you did. The white (ish) clothes, dim soft lights, and perfectly placed sponsored water doesn't have me buying it.
The white short reminded me of Amber Heard's first deposition. POS.
Sponsored water 😂😂😂💀
Let's get one thing clear here. Rock's joke wasn't insensitive. It wasn't about Alopecia. It was about her hairstyle being similar to GI Jane - a positive badass role model, which Rock alludes she could play in the sequel. People are conflating this distinction. If someone tells a young bald actor that he can play Walter White, it's highly doubtful they will look at it as negative. Smith even laughs out loud initially until he realizes it shouldn't. He knows it was a benign innocuous joke. The kind you expect at the Oscars where the stars get roasted lightly which this was.
Yeah, except you don't get to tell the butt of the "joke" how they should take it. She didn't appreciate it and it hurt.
Either everyone laughs or it's not a joke.
Right, K.H.
Also, shaving your head because you want to try something new and/or make a fashion statement is NOT the same thing as shaving your head because your trying to camouflage bald spots from your hair falling out due to a medical condition. Alopecia doesn’t have to be a life-threatening medical condition for the joke to be insensitive…whether the teller of the joke is aware of the medical condition or not.
Now, none of this makes the slap okay…at all. But the assertion that Jada didn’t have the right to react to a joke at her expense the way she did because others found it funny is absurd…even if her shaved head was, in fact, a fashion statement.
@@Stopthisrightnow560 Guess who else laughed, dummy? Will Smith. Until he learned not to. Do you understand how all of these things work - how jokes work? They are in a venue where the stars are all lightly roasted. They All know this and they all participate in it. This was an entirely innocuous joke. Jada and Smith had a far more pointed joke about their marriage earlier by the females hosts and they laughed without issue especially Jada because it kinda poked fun at Smith for being a simp due to their open marriage. Are you advocating that people take a survey before a joke is told? This is not an Alopecia joke. Don't make it so. Learn nuance and context.
@@Stopthisrightnow560 “either everyone laughs or it’s not a joke” is stupid and doesn’t represent real life. i agree we can be sensitive to jada for not appreciating the joke and feeling like chris could’ve apologized for that effect, but the joke was REAL mild.
Exactly. After the slap, Chris came out and stated that he was not aware of Jada's "medical condition"
It's the product placement, editing cuts, the "poor me Tony won't talk to me ever again" & the Jada Q for me!🤦🏼♀️ At least it wasn't at the Red Table this time. Feels like he did it for the public more than Chris. He owes Quest a huge apology too.
Yes the joke was somewhat insensitive however lets not forget that Will himself saw the joke as very amusing until that was, he caught sight of Jada's expression. Is he just trauma bonded? It almost seems ''Stockholm-ish'' to me
It was not insensitive. It was a compliment. Demi Moore looked spectacular with a buzz cut as does Jada (I didn't see the movie, just photos).
I honestly don’t think Chris knew about Jada’s health issue , a lot of people didn’t , she used to have her hair short a lot back in the days , so older people like my mom had no clue. We can’t tell someone how to feel about something tbh , even if i feel like the joke wasn’t that serious considering how dark comedians can really get , but obviously that joke wasn’t a reason to slap someone over. Jada and Will , both two grown adults with kids , could’ve spoken to Chris privately about the joke if they were as close as to his family as Will claims.
And does she genuinely have alopecia? She showed a photo of a scar across her head that she claimed popped up overnight. A plastic surgery channel says it's a scar from a brow lift. If she felt insecure she could wear a wig.
@@SamStone1964 That is exactly what my husband and I thought, too. It was a very light-hearted joke and honestly kind of a compliment. Jada would make a badass G.I. Jane 2. I could actually see her in that role. We didn't feel that there was any malice at all in Chris's joke and who knows if he even knew about her alopecia. We didn't.
@@songbird1307 Totally. Even if she is open about her alopecia…98% of the population don’t follow her podcast or whatever it was that I heard she has. It’s not like he compared her to a balding person…he compared her to a person with a full head of luscious hair that chose to buzz cut it for a badass role.
Someone needs to save Will from Jada. He's being abused the same way Amber abused Johnny and we're not seeing it.
You got it.
Thank you!
Is there physical abuse evidence for them aswell? It makes me sad that I used to think they were the best couple, now I just hope he's ok
Not that there needs to be evidence, defs not what I mean, but I'm just curious if pictures similar to the johnny situation have surfaced
i'd have to say in Will's case it's purely mental abuse.
He has a movie that has been waiting to be released. It keeps being pushed back. His apology has to do with his career going forward and the possibility of his MONEY and the MONEY lost while the movie's release date is continually pushed back.
It's not set i thought it was out he's making a movie about being a slave now ?
I saw a news article where a “supposed” body language expert, says his apology was sincere while I didn’t fully believe it. I noticed something not mentioned, was how he was putting his lower jaw forward which isn’t his relaxed state. Matter of fact, I’ve never seen him speak this way. It looked almost like he was still angry to me.
I feel like he's angry that us normies have the nerve to question him. It's just a gut feeling that I have. He's not making this apology for the fans or even for Chris, he's doing it so big companies will still work with him. Just my feelings on the matter 🤷♀️
@@queenb1119 I have to agree.
@@queenb1119 I think you are absolutely right...especially that it took almost 4 months to appologize!?
@@joseebenoit5748 this is the second apology
Am I the only one finding it weird how short of a time he spend apologizing to Chris while spending the rest apologizing to everyone else. Like I know he's a celebrity and influencers usually apologize to their audience, but I think that's kinda weird, especially in the same video. Like if someone slapped me, the only person I'd expect them to apologize to is me. If they then went to say and sorry to your mom cause I was close to her I'm like ??? you're sorry to her that you slapped me? What?
How Will Smith went from genuine laughter to smacking someone in the face and yelling in less than 30 seconds is terrifying. How he can yuk it up - regardless of Jada - to going all CAVEMAN to defend her feelings … or name… or honor … or hair or lack of hair, is deplorable. As for that precious timing of his, I sense some juicy role is hanging on the other side of those cameras and he won’t stand a chance in getting it without apologizing first.I don’t like being this cynical, tho.
The implications of referring to a black man as “going all caveman” is extraordinarily racist
@@Twinkdoesdrag Agreed. A gross use of a descriptive wording.
Its obvious that Will is already extremely hard on himself. It's important to note that him acknowledging that he is doesn't want to see himself as a piece of shit or be ashamed but rather recognize that he's human that makes mistakes, and he feels remorseful are big signs that he's in therapy and doing the work or trying to forgive himself because he KNOWS what he did to Chris was EXACLTY what his father did to his mother and he NEVER wants to be the kind of man his father was. That tears him up to his core. That's what he's trying to heal.
This apology is not only far too late, it is self-serving tripe. He is just trying to do some damage control to save his career. Like you said, the only time he seemed sincere was when pleading for himself. IMO.
At the end of the day he assaulted someone for a joke... Call the joke tasteless, mean, whatever you want, there is no joke that should result in assault... Also we aren't in the 1% like Will, you will go to jail and have charges pressed against you if you assault someone for any reason other than self defense..This isn't an apology unless he gives a true apology to Chris and his mother, no one else deserves an apology except for maybe Jada, only her because of his embarrassing actions that negatively effected her, though her attitude never puts her in a good light for most people I think...
APOLOGIES ARE DIFFICULT AND UNCOMFORTABLE, especially know that you've messed up big time, it leaves people feeling vulnerable. WHO CAN ACCURATELY EXPLAIN THE COMPLEXITY OF THE HUMAN CONDITION AND INTENTIONS when they faced with such a vulnerable, raw situation.
People will use self-protective mechanisms for self-preservation (whether it be trying to lesson the discomfort through a prepared speech or a safe environment). Shit, there have plenty of times when I've f'ed up big time, and it took me months to garner the courage to apologize to the person I wronged. BASING JUDGMENTS ABOUT A HUMAN BEING'S INTENTIONS AND SINCERITY FROM A HANDFUL OF FACIAL GESTURES IS GROSSLY SIMPLISTIC and FRANKLY CARELESS, and OVER-REACHING.
fair, but many people spend their whole lives trying to do just that- not for nothing! the human experience is worth studying and discussing :)
He has a bottle of Water in the table next to him. If I’m not mistaken, Jaden promotes/owns that product. You don’t need that in an apology. Disrespectful.
There's no way for him to go on Maron and talk honestly about his life and what led him to that moment of madness without also talking about scientology and his relationship. He's trapped and doesn't come off as genuine, because he's hiding so much of himself. I think his career is over.
Exactly. People are so quick to judge but I actually feel bad for both him and Chris… Will is dealing with a lot on the inside and we all have breaking points.
@@tdob6067 If your breaking point is that you assault another person, you deserve to be called out for it, not coddled. That being said, I do hope for healing for both Chris and Will. But Will did really eff up, all on his own, with this one.
Wait is Will Smith a scientologist 🤮
He sounds like hes struggling to get this apology out even tho he had months to prepare for it. And hes a good actor ontop of it he can definitely make it into a believable apology if he wanted to
Why can't he just say Chris I'm sorry for what I did, I should not have done that etc ... he sounds so disingenuous... and I'm only 5 minutes in
I used to like will smith so much ... but I don't think he's a nice person anymore
He's only sorry for the consequences he has now. And maybe his family... but no one else ...
Yeah I agree. It just feels fake
A mistake? A mistake? He freaking assaulted another human being!! That’s not a mere mistake!
I hate it when people say I want to apologize, saying I want to apologize and not actually saying I'm sorry, are two different things.. It isn't sincere.
I don't really know how to phrase this without it coming out as me making excuses for him - It makes me sad that he changes his behavior after Jadas reaction. It's like he's scared and now has to fix it. First he laughs and then he's like "Oh shit...". It feels like a toxic relationship to me.
if it offended her, he really should be sorry for laughing at the joke to a degree. could their relationship play into it, sure, but he could have absolutely made a stand for her without doing exactly what he did. that reaction has to be on him.
He says his biggest trauma is to dissapoint people. In that moment he saw he dissapointed Jada. Then he did something that dissapointed millions of people. He needs to address this trigger that he absolutely needs to please people on every cost. He takes it as an honorable thing but it will just destroy him. Its astonoshing how he has all the resources to go to the best physhologists in this planet and he clearly suffers from this basic unroselved traumas from his childhood
That's a good excuse to make for him according to me. I have seen a video where Jada was recording him without his concern, when he asked her not to film him, Jada just continued to film and said something demeaning about him to the camera.
@@idesel does not change what happened. he could have given a grandiose speech about his wife as he was winning his oscar and put anyone insulting her hair in their place. he didn't do that. I don't judge him for his reaction. I honestly don't care. but it wasn't Jada who hit anyone.
The slightly off-center “halo” of the lamp behind his head is a master stroke of distraction. Whoever set that up is a genius. It’s difficult to pay attention to indicators that occur during his “apology”.
Will Smith’s brain snapped in front of millions I’m glad he’s in therapy. But maybe therapy’s just not enough!? He just seems so alone!
At this point, I think therapy for anger issues is a fair consequence for Will. He’s lucky nobody pressed charges or else he’d be in jail. Hard to say whether or not therapy will be enough.
Therapy’s not a enough? What would be??
His trigger is Jada. His anger was misplaced. Jada has openly humiliated him more than once. Until he deals with that, he will continue to suffer. I know that he and Jada made a fortune off of their "brand" (even pimping out their kids), but it's over. The only thing he can do at this point is start over without this woman who abuses him. Until he does, he's lost, and frankly, he deserves to be. Will needs to get better psychiatric help.I know he was tinkering in Scientology for a while, and I do wonder if he's trying to work things through with their rather peculiar "techniques." He's just pathetic.
I'm glad that most people understand that what Will did wasn't right. Sadly a lot of people celebrated him for the slap back then.
And even though Will's apology doesn't seem sincere, I still feel some kind of satisfaction that he acknowledges how people think about the slap, even though he might not feel the same way.
He should be ashamed of himself! There's nothing wrong with a little shame now and then. He not only embarrassed himself, but Chris Rock and everyone else who believed him. I don't care if he embarrassed his wife. She embarrasses herself on the daily with her own nonsense. I don't buy one word he said. He's trying to find a way back into Hollywood. Sounds like his wife is rubbing off of on him
I think there was something behind that second question, especially when Will's initial reaction was to laugh at the joke. I'm not going to claim that Jada told Will to slap Chris, but she definitely had a part in it, whether directly or indirectly.
I am no fan of Jada, but Will is responsible for his actions. I'm real tired of people blaming women for what their men do. Full stop with that bullsh!t.
It's the kinda shit you see in high school, when you leave your masculinity in the hands of your girl, that's when you become a weakling.
@@makeupchick9544 Will is definitely responsible for his actions, but I find it odd that someone goes from laughing to intense anger that quickly. And to note, Jada has not been the best partner historically. It may not be causation, but I think there's some correlation.
@@elijahharris1113 Nope. He's responsible, period. He's not a victim. Nope.
@@elijahharris1113 infidelity doesn't make her guilty in this. if he realized she was offended after laughing that is still on him. stop blaming women for mens actions, period.
Note: He said he apologized earlier than this, to Chris, in this video. It was also in the news months ago. I think this is hard to analyze without a psych breakdown so...
Current state: His eyes are puffy, lack of sleep/crying, tense.
Emotional history/upbringing: Being the person he was raised to be, emotions are hard to relay and is seen as weakness. You can see the internal battle peaking through here. He grew up surrounded by toxic masculinity and because of this he wasn't allowed to show weakness(any emotion besides anger and happy) and is in a weak state leading to self preservation/reactive emotions/shutting down(which is being read as being disingenuous). He fully understands the world would pick this apart which keeps him from being completely vulnerable(crying memes we know would be circulating). His brain is in a trauma state having to relive the worst decision of his life(not giving him excuses, just trying to take a peek in his mind).
View of self- He's a perfectionist type A personality. He has been an idol/father figure to many so he feels like he failed as that father figure, just like his father failed him. Big bag of repressed trauma here.
Visual queues: Micro smile due to incredulous introspection; he still cannot believe he's here, that he made the choice he did. Definitely detached to get out the apology without losing it. He's angry/spiteful at himself for being weak, insecure, and reactive. I'm sure this had to be taped many times over many days due to breaking down hence why it feels scripted.
Synopsis- Valid apology from a guy in duress, desperately trying to get it right. Feeling ashamed. Trying to understand the reason why he would react like he did. World on his shoulders picking apart his every move while he attempts to work through this hopefully, in therapy. My POV.
This is absolutely on point. Exactly thoughts. We'll said.
I think Will is suffering from some severe narcissistic abuse. This is on top of the childhood trauma he experienced. He got into all of this trouble defending his primary abuser. I don't think he believes that what he did is wrong, he still thinks Chris disrespected his wife.
Even if the joke was tasteless, it had zero malice behind it and he only reacted when he realised that Jada didn't find it funny.
He's sorry for the public backlash and the repercussions of what he did, he's sorry for the effect it has in his self-perception which ties back to his public persona and how other people see him, he isn't sorry for the act itself, while he acknowledges that he shouldn't have hit Chris, he doesn't seem to think that it was unjustified and that's the saddest thing about this.
He's still doesn't think it was wrong.
"Calculated" and "Rehearsed" says it all. Will saying he is trying not to "feel ashamed" but he SHOULD feel ashamed. What he did was shameful.
People making comments about this seeming rehearsed .. I would absolutely practice this too. Look how many people are going to be scrutinizing this video and apology plus experts in body language. However, he is an amazing actor so you'd think it would come across as more sincere.
Scientologists seem like they are all about their image. I don't think he is sorry for the actual slap. I think he is sorry because of the backlash.
I'm not sure what else people could possibly want from him. It happened months ago and none the privileged people involved are really suffering that much.
Notice that he referred to saying "sorry" a couple times but he never actually said, "I'm sorry."
She rolled her eyes at Will laughing at the joke, I think, and he took the shame/ frustration of this out on Chris. I don't think it was about standing up for her, as much as reclaiming his pride.
My thoughts exactly, his mad at himself for laughing at his wife. His defending his image cause his portraying that he is team Jada
Damage control of the highest level. I don’t hear him explain “why” Why did he awkwardly strut on that platform and slap a comedian for such a soft joke. Why Will?
Nah , the slap was his attempt at damage limitation. Imagine the media response if after he laughed and Jada'eye roll he did nothing . Not to mention the louder hue and cry from alopecia sufferers etc. His response wasn't to defend Jada but to make himself look good, too bad , it blew up in his face
I commend Chris Rock for keeping it so together after and finishing the show. It had to hard to keep it together after being not only being publically humiliated but that spread worldwide for weeks. I'm sure he doesn't appreciate that when you google Chris, rather than seeing him come up for his comedy or other things he's done, that slap is mentioned in several places and Will comes up as well. I don't think that the Oscars got so much attention in the over 90 years they have been on. Lots of people were demanding a public apology, more than the short blurb he wrote on social media. I don't think that any apology (sincerely done or not) would be accepted by those people who hate him now for the incident. It's a shame because I think he had a lot of people who were following him for his insight on the world, people, and how to handle situations. He didn't handle that situation well, he knows it and he threw his credibility off all he was building over the years. "Being human" hurt his image and people are never going to forget that night.
Will Smith comes across as someone who’s deeply introspective of their own emotions and want to be a “good” person, but he is too focused on (and maybe full of) HIMSELF to come across as genuine. It makes sense, if you’ve been through trauma like he has and then you’re famous on top of that, that you could be hypervigilant about people’s opinions of you. It’s heartbreaking that Chris Rock has been through trauma too though, and Will Smith was the one who decided to put him through more by slapping him in front of the whole world. What about the trauma of having the public not just maybe be disappointed in you, but instead see you be physically assaulted?? While those around do nothing but actually give Will Smith a trophy and standing ovation not much later?
This apology felt to me like he’s been waiting for Chris Rock to reach out to him, but since Chris hasn’t, Will decided he just HAD to finally go ahead and make a public apology. Completely for his own sake. Chris is the victim in this situation, and if he doesn’t want to talk about it, the polite thing would be to leave it be for now. If Smith truly cared about Rock’s feelings, he could’ve just put out a public statement saying something like “I’m very sorry for what I did, but Chris isn’t ready to talk about it which I respect, so I won’t be commenting more on it for now”. But I believe Will Smith’s only able to be concerned about his own public image and emotional distress in all of this. That’s why the apology comes across as overall not that genuine to me.
Also, the people blaming his wife for the slap are wild. I’ve been abused and it’s never made me assault another person. And it’s not like it was some long ploy where she’s been brainwashing him and whispered into his ear to go slap Chris Rock at the Oscars. Whatever they have going on at home, I don’t think there’s any reason to take away from Will Smith’s own accountability in this specific situation.
I have also been very verbally abused. I am NOT justifying what Will did! However, from personal experience the abuse from someone who is narcissistic can lead the victim to act and react to some situations in a manner that makes the victim look like the crazy one.
We have no idea what he has been through in his personal life. It may have been a very inappropriate time for him to try and provf to his abuser that he's not "a piece of shit".
I don't disagree that he likely has a lot of issues from his own past that he needs to deal with. My opinion is that he's doing what he knows how to do. It seems to me that he's been the abuser AND the abused. Not a happy place to live.
My thoughts exactly about him making the apology despite Chris stating he's not ready to discuss it. It seems so disrespectful and selfish
@@stacygyuricza2187 Yeah, I’ve been abused too, my whole childhood. Still working on my PTSD from it all, so definitely know what it’s like to be reactive in ways that sometimes won’t make sense to those around you. I’m so sorry for what you went through too.
The sad thing though is that a lot of abusers have been through abuse. That’s usually where it comes from in my experience, getting hurt and never being taught the right way to deal with that (or any other of your emotions) and continuing with what’s been modeled for you. I do feel bad for what Will Smith has been through in the past. But like so many other people do, you can decide you never want to put someone else through the same pain you’ve been through. The way he was talking about disappointing people being one of his core traumas etc felt very much like the way I would talk in therapy to make sense of myself and my emotions, which is fine. It’s good to be aware and examine all of that. The way he brought it up in this moment, when he’s actually done something really bad, was so off to me though. And he just already crossed a hard line for me when he went up and slapped Chris Rock, where I don’t care whatever he might be going through at home. Physically harming someone else like he did, who is NOT your abuser, with that level of both rage and confidence... he doesn’t “seem” like the crazy one like with reactive abuse anymore, in that moment he was the abusive one, plain and simple.
Sorry for the rambling and thinking out loud lol. I agree he doesn’t seem to have a very happy life. I do wish he finds peace and happiness, if for nothing else so he doesn’t continue the cycle of abuse any longer.
@@thoughtsintowords Makes me think of when someone hurts you and you try to distance yourself from them, even tell them to give you space, and then you hear through your mutual friends that they’ve been talking about you or want your friends to pass on messages from them. Except worse, this is in front of millions in public and Chris can’t escape it; others will no doubt bring this up and try to talk about it again now too (and I’m sure some might even pressure Chris about why he won’t just talk to Will and stuff like that).
Just seems like the work of someone who (still) has no respect for people’s boundaries and it was very uncomfortable to watch.
@@ixizn agreed!
I seen no genuine apology to Chris it looked more like dupers delight and the only person he showed genuine emotional pain for was himself. That was extremely poor at best!
I think he had the small smile when he talked about his family because, behind closed doors, they are, or at least were, proud of his reaction. Remember Jaden’s tweet.
He did a mistake clearly but damn I tell you I have a gut feeling .....I am concerned for him and feel sorry...something really dark is going on :(
Yes,I feel the same.
Agree. See if you can find my comment. I think I hit on what your saying
He is a shell of who he used to be. I wish he would dump Jada. It would probably do wonders for his soul.
Until he divorces Jada, nothing changes for him. She will manipulate him again to make him less than because of her jealousy of his success.
I was trying to figure out what happened to his face and then I realised it’s because he has hair 🤯
Saying Chris' joke was insensitive is like complaining about a doctor hurting you when they give you a shot. it's part of the job, that's what he's supposed to do in this moment, making fun of things or people is literally it.
He is a comedian! What do people expect. And Jada has made it clear that she’s a tough woman so she should be able to take a little ribbing.
The most insincere apology I've ever heard. I can't watch him because it gives me a visceral reaction that feels awful.
The whole video bothers me….. he really needs to toss jada to the side and figure out what kind of man he is right now… then he should decide what kind of man he wants to be. He is so confused about his life and I don’t blame him, how could the wrong choices make you such a known figure? But life does what it wants to who it wants and he needs to sort it out.
We have to remember who these people are. Think of how Chris reacted when Will smacked him. As a comedian, even in a terrible situation, his default, his defense mechanism was to laugh, to joke, to smile and push away the negative emotion. Comedians are built to compartmentalize their emotions. I think Will is a jokester and his default is to smile laugh and move on. He did the same smiles and laughs when speaking to Jada on Red Table Talks about her extramarital relationship. It's weird to witness at times for sure, but I see it as authentic because I have seen him handle other seemingly awful situations similarly.
I'm surprised that Logan didn't say anything about the product placement. The hat showing Will & Jada's production company and the water bottle from Jaden Smith's bottled water company.
I was wondering what that meant!
Public apologies have become such a load of crap and it's sad. They know the public wants them to apologize, but is it better to get no apology at all or get one they don't mean?
The globe light directly behind his head bothered me because it kept looking like his head was warped. I thought his handlers had really messed up. Then considering the water bottle product placement, I thought maybe the globe was deliberate too - a halo! Saint Willsmith.
Oh for sure! Good observation! It’s all incredibly staged and disingenuous
I just finished watching this video on my TV and HAD to come and comment on the changes in your appearance on your videos. I LOVE this change of your hair groing in, your tattoos showing, change in attire, and the occasional casual jewelry showing. You look more relaxed in your videos about who you are while also being knowledgeable. Don't stop being who you are!
I think you’ve completely missed that Will Smith is a solid Scientologist and being so is very disciplined with his emotions and private life, so when he lost self control at the awards there would of been underlying issues that were going on outside of this and this would of just been a breaking point, and that slap would of had a massive impact on him emotionally because he broke his own self discipline. Scientologists are very controlled in everything they do, look at Tom Cruise for example, and process emotional situations differently on an analytical level because of the disciplines in the religion.
I don’t think this has been taken into consideration in this analysis.
Don't read the tabloids. He isn't a scientologist.
I don’t believe Will and Jada are devout Scientologists. From my understanding they’ve only taken a few classes.
I literally still cry for Chris Rock when seeing his reaction after the slap... he's been a joke, belittled or bullied most of his childhood and even a bit past that, to only end up having all that trauma come back up so many years later. I have been in the same place he was when he was younger, and to know how he was really feeling after that slap breaks my heart! He is an exceptional person, and a great host, holding back all those emotions and continuing on like he was expected to do was amazing! I really hope you'll grow and become stronger from this Chris, you're a lovely person and always been a inspiration to me. I'd love to have the kindness that you have, and be able to share my love like you do all the time. The best to you!
I feel so sad for Chris Rock. That joke was tame & after being assaulted & humiliated in front of the whole world, he still finds it within himself to firmly assure Will that he will not repeat what he said. He experienced a time bomb that went off & understood at that moment that he needs to handle the situation delicately. He had been in the position of hardship & going off in his childhood; yet he still managed it well despite having to relive the trauma. So I would understand and agree that at the end of this, Chris deserves the right to accept or decline Will Smith's olive branch.
As for Will Smith, i think his facade broke. With everything that had happened with his wife's confessions at the Red Table; something about her reaction that night triggered his timer. He is fully responsible for reacting this way, but he had been influenced as he did say that disappointing people had been his trauma. This apology though isn't as helpful as he thought it would be. Yes, it's never too late to apologise but the only part that looks & sounds sincere is the answer to the last question. Will Smith, i fear, have fallen into a very toxic persona cultivated by the environment that he chosen to stay in. He may never be fully happy & himself if he chooses to stay.
“Lovely Swindler” is my ringtone now🤣 very excited for this video. Hope you, Piper, and the fur babies are doing amazing.
Also, does “I’m human” irk you in this situation? I totally thought of Demi’s apology video when they said it after Will said it!
It makes sense that Will said he is a people pleaser and the situation that happened, as he was trying in his way to please or stand up for his wife. His deep rooted trauma in this does provide a reason (albeit not a justification) for his action. I found his apology sincere but well rehearsed, as you would expect given this was several months later. I hope that all parties can find peace.
Yes he did say he was a people pleaser and I feel so much empathy for him. I cried when I watched the apology because it’s not much of what he said it was his eyes that were telling a deeper story
It’s interesting to hear the different analysis on this apology. One therapist said Will should have waited longer to further process his behavior/emotions. I agree with that because doing that internal work is a long process but in order to understand where irrational behavior came from, it’s needed.
As for the non-verbal cues, I would say I’m a very anxious person and have what other describe as shifty eyes when I’m nervous. I can apologize but I sometimes have to have a bit of armor around me to do it. Will could do the same (and has in the past with humor) and why he had to steel himself.
Apologies are hard. Point blank. I’ve had an sincere apology thrown back in my face because it wasn’t to their standards. Overall, I just want both Will and Chris to heal and continue on. I am glad that Will did apologize after he reflected because that’s something in today’s world that more people need to do.
Man, I just saw this video yesterday and thought:" I really need a body language analyst for this, cuz I can't tell if it's genuine or not". Great video as always!
Will Smith received an Oscar for BEST ACTOR. Why can't he ACT sincere for this apology? He could if he wanted to. He must not want to.
He sounds like my narcissistic father trying to apologize to me, but ends up making it about himself.
16:42, you hit the nail on the head. This wasn't (supposed to be) about him, and he only showed emotion when he was talking about himself. He wasn't emotional when he spoke of hurting another human being, but he was emotional when he spoke about how HE is 'being hurt'. (which is entirely due to his own actions) This just really struck me as phony, especially the end of his apology, bleating about supporting peace and love, blah blah blah.
Logan, I don't mean to alarm you, but I think your beard is quietly sneaking onto your head...
No 1. anybody hear that sigh, right in the beginning? Second... According to Jaden, isn't that how the family rolls?? 😭
There's something about that second question that absolutely rubbed me the wrong way. Now, I didn't not believe him when he said no, but at the same time, there's something about it (probably his voice, honestly) that tells me that the eye-roll isn't the full picture. To me at least, it sounded like a habitual cover-up. As in he's covering for his wife, he's supporting her to the very end, which is good in itself, but… Yeah, no. It really was the point in the interview that had me deterred in the first watch, and it managed to do the same here.
Please read my comment for the text content analysis. It's a more direct way of telling that the apology is fake. Compare it to Bill Clintons denial.
Yeah, that moment caught my attention too, a lot of vocal fry when his voice is typically very clear. The question was, did she tell him something, and she probably didn't. But when you live with a narcissistic person, you are hyper aware of their every mood, so she didn't need to "tell" him anything for information to be communicated.
@@lizblock9593 That's along my line of thought. I don't think she did, but I think the stress of the relationship really just drove him to direct the emotions out. Both during the Oscars and here.
The fact is, that this is hard to watch because it now makes all his fans reassess his character.
This apology was not genuine. No matter how many times he said sorry, I couldn't see any genuine emotion.
Personally, I don’t buy it. He’s a very good actor, and I think he was saying what he thought people wanted to hear.
It's interesting that Will thinks shame isn't a valid emotion in this situation. All emotions are healthy in the right context. This is the right context for shame to show up and hopefully prevent him from doing this again.
Guilt: I did a bad thing, vs shame: I am a bad person. He should feel remorse for his actions, but not feel that that defines his whole person.
@@archaedia that's actually not how psychology defines it. Guilt is when you feel you broke your own moral code. Shame is when you have broken society's moral code. He should feel both guilt and shame right now. Neither emotion defines his whole person.
I didn’t pick up on sincerity in his “apology”. He spent the majority of time talking about himself (me, my, I), blame shifting, and avoiding direct responses. I think deep down he doesn’t believe he did anything wrong
Honestly, I think the sincerity comes from the fact that he's a mess. Lol. Like the man's not in a good place. But, whether or not it was because Chris is and has been done with this, Will barely addressed him in this apology. Like, he addressed the _family_ of Chris more than Chris himself. Cuz Will, I don't care if you were tight with his brother (don't really buy it but whatever). Tony wasn't the one slapped. xD
Like it's a pile of shit, but I don't necessarily buy that it's insincere the same way a lot of apology videos are. It's honestly just a weird video.
I disagree. He can only speak for himself and his perspective. People who spoke with him during the actual Oscars even talk about how he regretted it in the moment. This is someone grappling with their own shame and trying to repair what has been damaged by their own actions.
There's no excuse for his behaviour. Will is finished and he knows it. smh
The reason I believe Will popped off was because Jada reacted negatively. Their relationship is a complicated one. Jada never wanted to be married. When she got pregnant with Wills baby her grandmother insisted they marry. Jada was pressured enough that she relented and married Will. Will Smith has always wanted to be married and raise a family, so for him it was a dream come true to marry her. Everyone in Hollywood knows they have an 'open' marriage so to speak and I think Will just puts up with it because he loves her. That being said, I suspect when Chris made the comment and Jada reacted negatively, Will felt it was important to put on a show for Jada by slapping Chris. I don't think it had anything to do with Chris or his statement. It gave Will the opportunity to bellow out that she was his wife (keep MY WIFE'S name out of your mouth). as well as a sign of possession not only to Jada but live on international television. I think Will was simply taking the opportunity to try to impress Jada by standing up for her in a very big way.
A lot of "I statements". He talks about "insults", thereby making him the victim and Chris the aggressor (even though Chris didn't know about the alopecia). Most telling is how Smith initially laughed at the joke until he got the side-eye from JPS. He knew most people didn't know about the alopecia, and neither did Chris.