Dating Shows Are Gaslighting YOU

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  • Опубликовано: 24 янв 2025

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  • @Namtrewnam
    @Namtrewnam 2 месяца назад +213

    I’ll be honest I’m not even interested in this topic but I’m watching this because your content is so well made 😅

    • @MoMo-nk9jk
      @MoMo-nk9jk 2 месяца назад +6

      Same!

    • @crumplehornedsnorcack
      @crumplehornedsnorcack 2 месяца назад +10

      are you in my mind? I was thinking the exact same thing when It popped up on my page. She kills it

    • @jessicalynne1359
      @jessicalynne1359 2 месяца назад +3

      The human behavior aspect is still interesting! I also don’t watch this kind of thing(aside from a couple seasons of Love is Blind - mostly bc of the drama 😅) but Scandy does make it interesting

    • @sarahissersohn5495
      @sarahissersohn5495 2 месяца назад +3

      You took the comment right outta my mouth- same same ;)

    • @emmmmmmmm603
      @emmmmmmmm603 2 месяца назад +1

      I second this!!!! Couldn't care any less than I already do about dating shows, but your videos are so excellently made that I need to watch them!!!!

  • @S.ash.
    @S.ash. 2 месяца назад +45

    Trauma bonded doesn’t mean bonding over a trauma, like the contestants of a show would with each other. It’s the toxic bond between a narcissist and their victim that bond them “through” the trauma

    • @BITCOINisJOKE
      @BITCOINisJOKE 2 месяца назад +8

      Spoken like a true survivor. 💪🏻

    • @S.ash.
      @S.ash. 2 месяца назад +3

      @@BITCOINisJOKE right back at ya!

    • @jillscheer3677
      @jillscheer3677 Месяц назад

      Thank you! So annoying hearing people get so many of these terms wrong. I.e-gaslighting, narcissist, etc. very minimizing to abuse survivors!

  • @ReeCrowsFray
    @ReeCrowsFray 2 месяца назад +26

    I loved the show unReal. It’s so good and has really been one of the only shows (even though it isn’t very relatable in a larger scale) that really set that familiar feeling of depression, panic, anxiety, rage, confusion and that feeling you get when you’ve lost yourself etc. I think it was really a great visual to understand those feelings and the inner battle we all have and how some people really suffer from it without anyone really seeing it

  • @katief7047
    @katief7047 2 месяца назад +8

    13:58 when she said “epitOME” I came straight to the comments 😂

    • @ronnijara
      @ronnijara 2 месяца назад

      Ok I came here for this. So I'm not the only one?

  • @cassandral.5840
    @cassandral.5840 2 месяца назад +9

    This is such a great video breaking down narcissistic traits and how they look. Especially in reality tv shows. Great explanation and showing what they look like!

  • @africangirl90
    @africangirl90 2 месяца назад +24

    I genuinely loved "Love is Blind" until I found out about what goes on behind the scenes - the contestants are plied with alcohol and little food to keep them drunk (esp in earlier seasons), producers nudge them into situations and conversations to start up drama, the contestants are CLEARLY forced to stay on because you can see couples who have no chemistry still professing to love each other up to their vows, and FINALLY, the fact that the contestants have spoken about how the producers EDIT the content, even the pod conversations!!

  • @sr28774
    @sr28774 2 месяца назад +24

    What about Married at first sight? Thats a crazy show

  • @marotiem
    @marotiem 2 месяца назад +12

    Being a producer is a menial job. You are basically a servant of the audience. If you do not provide interesting enough content you will have no food on your table. This is the reason they are so desperate to use psychological tools to make their shows more interesting. In today's world, fast entertainment like youtube, tiktok and shorts are more interesting. Long form content such as reality shows get increasingly boring and lose audience. Instead of them investing money in a soon to be extinct genre and pushing psychological mind games on the contestants, producers should take an online course on how to invest money 101.

  • @paperlionkid1787
    @paperlionkid1787 2 месяца назад +6

    I have to thank you for making a video about how these shows work. Ive always wondered how they they truly work even though I don't watch them. I've been looking for something like this for some time.

  • @xdarockstar095x
    @xdarockstar095x 2 месяца назад +3

    I don't watch or like any of the shows mentioned. I am watching because I love how informative you are and how you break down the facts!!🖤✨️

  • @ameliashostak4764
    @ameliashostak4764 2 месяца назад +1

    Not only was I with a person who was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, I had a child with him. It is almost scary how our relationship followed THIS script to the letter. We haven't been together in YEARS, and I STILL haven't dated anyone since because of the PTSD I developed. I feel like I can no longer trust my own judgement.

  • @kalisederoche
    @kalisederoche 2 месяца назад +3

    these shows/apps have always been so creepy to me. greed n love don’t mix.
    sidenote i love your hair/makeup!!! reminds me so much of how i used to look year 3 of uni now i feel nostalgic ☺️

  • @mentalbrookedown.
    @mentalbrookedown. 2 месяца назад +3

    I’m so impressed with your videos!

  • @JadeMadison-e6h
    @JadeMadison-e6h 2 месяца назад +11

    Unreal had me in a chokehold when it came out 😭 and I was today years old finding out who the producers were behind the show 😑

    • @DeluluNews
      @DeluluNews 2 месяца назад

      It was truly ahead of its time..

    • @ObahemaAfua1287
      @ObahemaAfua1287 2 месяца назад

      Yes!! Was so hooked watching the show and mind blown at how the producers hid stuff and participated in the fuckary with no accountability. Gaslighting victims and ppl who questioned what they were doing.

  • @StateofKait
    @StateofKait 2 месяца назад +2

    Your content is so freaking good, you're going to be huuuuuuuuge

  • @MsFeline81
    @MsFeline81 2 месяца назад +4

    I really wish I could read all the sources for this specific episode. So helpful. Is there a shared google doc or something I missed?

  • @SamiaZouirech
    @SamiaZouirech 2 месяца назад +3

    My Queen is back!!!!

  • @Fizzypoptunes
    @Fizzypoptunes 2 месяца назад +5

    14:00 not ‘epitome’ 🤦🏻‍♂️

  • @katieivana
    @katieivana 2 месяца назад +2

    The higher success of BIP vs the original format of “the bachelor” is also due to multiple couples coming out of one season as opposed to just one couple for one season (if it works out). So it’s really silly to compare success rates anyway.

  • @melekdhaouadi3980
    @melekdhaouadi3980 2 месяца назад

    Haven't been this excited about an upload in a while

  • @Colton8964
    @Colton8964 2 месяца назад +1

    Don’t knock my trash tv 😂.
    I like to know, no matter what I’ve done in my life, no matter how stupid I think I’ve been, I can rest easy knowing I was never dumb enough to go on one of these shows.

  • @robleyanne
    @robleyanne 2 месяца назад +2

    I don’t watch these shows because I think they’re dangerous but I’ll watch your video on them!

  • @Brooklyn.fjjsjsjfj
    @Brooklyn.fjjsjsjfj 2 месяца назад +10

    Scandy is one of the only channels that I don’t hesitate to watch as soon as I see a new video, it’s always so interesting and I love the effort of this channel to show all the facts 🫶

    • @R0CKST4RMK
      @R0CKST4RMK 2 месяца назад +2

      yeah though some of her videos have misinformation but if you do your own research it wont be a big problem

  • @DeluluNews
    @DeluluNews 2 месяца назад +5

    UnReal was WAY before it's time... I LOVED that show

    • @mentalbrookedown.
      @mentalbrookedown. 2 месяца назад

      I just watched it a couple months ago thinking it was new. It was so good!

    • @DeluluNews
      @DeluluNews 2 месяца назад

      @mentalbrookedown. Yeah it has been out for years... My best friend and I loved it when it first came out... I think it was on Lifetime originally..

  • @free2radke777
    @free2radke777 2 месяца назад

    My favorite version of these shows is “Jury Duty” sooo good and fun. Think they even tried to get him to be rude but he was super nice.

  • @randomedits-l1m
    @randomedits-l1m 2 месяца назад +4

    W video, liking it already

  • @garypasquill2355
    @garypasquill2355 2 месяца назад +4

    Appearance helps but isn't the main focus, that's where these shows go wrong, everything is centered on looks,attractive people are untrustworthy

  • @lauraburmeister6182
    @lauraburmeister6182 2 месяца назад

    Forgot about Sean and Catherine from the bachelor. One of the best

  • @chelseaxjaye
    @chelseaxjaye 2 месяца назад +2

    i miss how chaotic these dating shows were in the early 00's 😅

  • @sr28774
    @sr28774 2 месяца назад +1

    I remember that Harry show, it was crazy 😅

  • @FallingStar85
    @FallingStar85 2 месяца назад

    The way the girl in that one TikTok about Chelsea pronounced the word "epitome" though 😬

  • @paperlionkid1787
    @paperlionkid1787 2 месяца назад

    This is going to be a good one.

  • @moustik31
    @moustik31 2 месяца назад

    That Travis Kelce's footage is CURSED!!!
    🤣

  • @BIGMACTV-Live
    @BIGMACTV-Live 2 месяца назад

    You deserve all the likes Scandy, you are awesome!

  • @Livingingratitudeforever
    @Livingingratitudeforever 2 месяца назад +1

    My ex did this all to me. I’m so happy to be free.

  • @emmmmmmmm603
    @emmmmmmmm603 2 месяца назад +3

    Why did that person say epitome like that

    • @Quizack
      @Quizack 2 месяца назад +1

      Lmao. The “Epee-tohm”. Reminds me of how some people say “hyper-bowl”.

    • @emmmmmmmm603
      @emmmmmmmm603 Месяц назад

      @@Quizack not hyperbowl 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @katieivana
    @katieivana 2 месяца назад

    At the end of the day, everyone already knows that the producers are super manipulative. Being on these shows is not worth it, a person can expose themselves and their family to public hate. Most people only do it because they are trying to make it as an influencer.
    Real valuable partners would never go on a show like that because they actually respect themselves too much to endure that type of poor treatment. That is why success rate is pretty bad. The low quality environment will attract people who are okay with being manipulated for the fame or experience of it all.

  • @Lispylisperson
    @Lispylisperson 2 месяца назад +2

    Did that girl really pronounce epitome as “epi-tohm”?

  • @pinksugar8344
    @pinksugar8344 2 месяца назад

    15:25 that's not Katie Thurston ❓️❓️❓️

  • @jrjefferson01
    @jrjefferson01 2 месяца назад +1

    I knew these were fake. Just didnt know to what depth they were.

  • @AnimeArchaeologist
    @AnimeArchaeologist 2 месяца назад

    Does this also apply to the 90 Day Fiance franchise?

  • @rashidareeves78
    @rashidareeves78 2 месяца назад +2

    “Epitome” wow🤦🏾

    • @mentalbrookedown.
      @mentalbrookedown. 2 месяца назад

      I’m 23 min in and STILL thinking about that 😂

    • @ronnijara
      @ronnijara 2 месяца назад

      ​@mentalbrookedown. I'm 18 min in just to make sure I wasn't the only one. I was wondering "is this a different word or said wrong

  • @KS04304
    @KS04304 2 месяца назад

    14:01 LOL on that terribly incorrect pronunciation of ‘epitome’.

  • @Areyoutalkingtome
    @Areyoutalkingtome 2 месяца назад

    How do you do your hair like that? Looks good

  • @Bignuke87
    @Bignuke87 10 дней назад

    "The epi-tome 😂"

  • @arwen_2.0
    @arwen_2.0 2 месяца назад +3

    I m so sick of love is blind: uk, Arab world, Brazil, Argentina.. BORING!

  • @alexiscannon9618
    @alexiscannon9618 2 месяца назад

    listen i would have been pissed if i was one of the girls, BUT i wanna marry harry was kinda hilarious for that

  • @Quizack
    @Quizack 2 месяца назад

    Please tell me women aren’t just finding this out now? I cannot handle it.

  • @TheHomemakingWildflower
    @TheHomemakingWildflower 2 месяца назад

    Wooow it all makes sense now

  • @ronnijara
    @ronnijara 2 месяца назад

    Is it just me or was epitome pronounced wrong? Is epitom a different word?

  • @Momnpop98
    @Momnpop98 2 месяца назад +1

    And this is why I don't watch reality tv.

  • @marcusellby
    @marcusellby 2 месяца назад

    I'm shocked!

  • @alextaylorstan
    @alextaylorstan 2 месяца назад

    13:58 is it just ME or did she mispronounce epitome

  • @ameliaevans5211
    @ameliaevans5211 2 месяца назад

    To be honest, I can't stand dating shows, I hate how superficial it all seems

  • @Livingingratitudeforever
    @Livingingratitudeforever 2 месяца назад

    I can’t believe Molly and Tommy broke up from love island UK 😭😭

  • @jarellano1014
    @jarellano1014 2 месяца назад

    I honestly think most go on these shows for 15 mins of fame and if there is money prize!

  • @variuswolf6612
    @variuswolf6612 2 месяца назад +1

    Yes final firsttttt

  • @RandomHouseDudeChats
    @RandomHouseDudeChats 2 месяца назад

    (Hmmmm....)
    "When The 'TRUTH About REALITY TV' Is That It 'ISN'T REALLY REALITY At ALL', Folks!!!!!!!!"
    *Yet, if "SCANDY'S Covering The Story", I'm Here For It*....
    💯👍🏽😎✌🏽

  • @i_am_io
    @i_am_io 2 месяца назад +2

    It’s pronounced as: “epi-tomee”… Not “epi-toum”

    • @ScandyStories
      @ScandyStories  2 месяца назад

      We had a good laugh with that one

  • @Whookieee
    @Whookieee 2 месяца назад +1

    "Epi TOME"

  • @Chris-lk9ug
    @Chris-lk9ug 2 месяца назад

    9:02 “The *VICTIM”* 😂 That’s cute.

  • @DianaOsazenaye
    @DianaOsazenaye 2 месяца назад

    of couse they killed it

  • @Victorcolongarcia
    @Victorcolongarcia 2 месяца назад

    I never watched that stupid show. I’ll watch your video though 😂

  • @Pleurigloss
    @Pleurigloss 2 месяца назад

    I'm stuck on that one TikToker pronouncing epitome phonetically.
    No, boo boo.
    No.

  • @enmanuelperez7564
    @enmanuelperez7564 2 месяца назад

    Fundió privado pensó peor

  • @darrelljohnston8676
    @darrelljohnston8676 2 месяца назад

    ABBIE!!!

  • @featherlegs
    @featherlegs 2 месяца назад

    Idk... take care of yourself

  • @rankoorovic7904
    @rankoorovic7904 2 месяца назад +3

    They are fake noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @ezaf5989
    @ezaf5989 2 месяца назад +1

    VID ON KAMALA AT THE DIDDY PARTY NEXT?

    • @SocialExperiment232
      @SocialExperiment232 2 месяца назад

      Oh they would never lol wokies don’t wanna know the truth. They love their lie too much.