Coach Ken, on the situationship test, guy told me that he wasn't ready, was emotionally unavailable and too old to be in a committed relationship. We are both 56. I told him, I won't take up anymore of your time and ended the call. I blocked him from all communications. A year later, I found out from a family member, that he couldn't understand why I wasn't taking his calls and texts. He told me he wasn't ready, what was I supposed to do, wait for him?! My time is valuable and I wasn't wasting any more of my time. At 56, he should have it together by now.
@Coach Ken Canion I’ve asked a man what are we doing before…after that the communication got less and less. What I finally did was mirror him & eventually cut off all communication. This is good stuff. Thank you!
1) He will nag you---> Off comments about you, insult you.Hevis trying to see how you are going to react. You don't do this or that. It's a doorway to control. Temporary insults lowers the self esteem of the other person. This way I can control you. If you let it go and you let slide is wrong. Chin ✔️ Don't raise your voice! and say very calmly how you feel that it was disrespectful what he said. A man always has to know that you love yourself more than you love him. 2) They don't text back just to see how you will see react. He is trying to figure out how you are you going to react. How attached you are to him says to him that he is controlling your emotions----> You go to him and you communicate the communication protocol. If he breaks it you lower your voice and we agreed on that and now you do something different. 3) They try to give you little orders to do something. They want to see your eagerness to please him. Men invest in a relationship when its valuable to him. Don't invest in him more than he is willing to invest in you otherwise he will devalue you. Solution---> Maybe later I don't think you earned that. 4) They invite you to their house in their first a couple of dates. He is minimum wage's you !!! Minimum amount of effort to achieve what he wants. He associates your brand with pussy delivery girl. He puts you in that category. Men go on what you DO not what you say. The picture in his mind. Your personal brand is tainted. 5) The situationship test: You have been giving him your cookie and you ask him what are we doing and where are we going ? His answer is I don't want a relationship/to be serious, don't want a tittle etc. Why would I buy the cow if I can get the milk for free ? You MUST say this: Listen..... Everybody deserves to be happy. You ..me all of us. Go date out there other women and find the woman of your dreams and I will go date other man and find the man of my dreams. I may be available, I may not be available. I may be married and we will just be friends. I respect you & you respect me. Any woman that is willing to walk away you can't control her !! I can't give you my best to get your worst -----> A woman is the gate keeper of sex and the man is the gate keeper of commitment.
I love your advise. A guy I dated didn't want to commit after 6 months. Although he gave me about $2500 during our situationship.I told him I care for him but this current relationship isn't going for me. I initiated complete no contact. He contact me 8 months later. I told him I am involved. He got mad and hung up on me. He told me I am stubborn I told him that I learned it from him.
Loved watching this video. Just a few days ago I asked the guy I was dating how he introduced me to his family before I arrived for a family cookout. He said I was his friend. I told him friends don’t have sex and got up during a kissing session which I’m sure he hoped would be more. I told him to go find someone that will be his fwb but it wasn’t going to be me. After that he texted me to see if I got home ok and I replied 20 minutes after his text. I sent a message of good night and he responded the same . That’s been it. We will see what happens.
I had not seen this video, I just got relationship faked by this ex who's a narc, told me we were gonna be together and things were gonna change. Then a week later he told me no labels and he won't know for sure if I am the one till 1 to 2 years in the future. I walked away that same night. But this video is gold, I know my value after a lot of personal growth work. But this is the play book that I need to really show my value and not just know my value, to men. Thank you coach Canion
I recently met a guy & the very 1st round of dialogue via dm, he stopped responding. He followed up the next day saying he fell asleep. OK…day 3 it appeared to be a pattern. He reached out, I responded after a few hours, and nothing!! It’s been 2 days no contact whatsoever. I wouldn’t even entertain the idea of reaching out to him. Bye Bruh
Wow! Such a good video especially the situationship advice I love how blunt and to the point you are, more women need a relationship coach like you, your advice is so refreshing to hear, don't ever change 😊
Ken we need you to put your phone on DND cause every video we can hear your interruptions and what you’re saying is so good it shouldn’t be interrupted!!!! Thanks 🙏🏼 @coachkencanion
I've been giving him all that and some ....it did not work for what I want. Now I told him and mean it " Go out there and find the woman of your dreams,obviously I am not it ,and I will date other men.I can be only friends with you " It hurts me so bad but I am worth so much more than what he is giving (not giving) me .We will see what happens!!!
I just met a guy who kept saying making him wait for sex was holding my past against him. 😒 I only knew him 1 day. He was saying everything right. Love bombing etc. It takes more than that. But it felt like manipulation.
Beautiful teaching I’m a widow I was abused by two men that I was married to I married young at 19 divorced young caught my husband embarrassing my cousin then secondly I got married at 33 and after 35 years just found out that he was married to another woman at the same time hit me with a baseball bat I made him get a divorce
Thanks Coach Ken for this. I remember dating back in the 80's, I did these same tactics back then. Guys were more patient. Now, alot of women made it easy today, that now guys ghosts me or complain that I have too many restrictions.
I’ve done all of these wrong, thank you for the ammunition. Should I decide to accept another call from him, I’m using what I learned tonight and will update you. I’m 63 and he’s 70, I promise you’re all in whatever we’re doing.
If I were in your position, I would advise the women how to spot the tests and then would advise them to walk away. Women, do not waste your time on a man who will test you. Why would a woman want a man who will test them? He’s already showing you who he is and that he’s not a high value man. Men pull this crap because women give into it and let them get away with this.
26:24 Have been with this guy for the past 7months with no proper communication, i always try my possible best to do what he says and instructs,i mean i shouldn't call him continuously when he hasn't replied my messages and also let him know when I'm coming over on his approval before i do so. Just this weekend he texted he was going to get back late so i shouldn't sleep cos he's going to update me so i come over, of which i couldn't and slept off and woke up the next day to apologise but haven't heard from him for days now,so i decided to do same since he's ignoring me.
How likely is it for a woman to be able to redeem herself after letting a man "minimum wage" her. I JUST found your videos and just realized I let myself get into this exact situation. Luckily, I have not given up s** to him but I have been VERY supportive with little in return. At first I received so much love bombing. I just don't like to feel like I got GOT or played. I think I've been "minimum waged" for about at least a month. Is all lost?
One thing I disagree with you on Ken is the friend part. Once I tell a man what you say to tell him there is NO friendship. For me I don’t need or want no male friends at my age. For what? A male friend is of no use to me, maybe to get a quick perspective of the male mind but other than that no thanks. He is dead to me at that point.
Hi I love listening to you perhaps you can help me, well I m talking with someone since August but this person dose no talk too much I m always texting him he do respond but he doesn’t express himself much an I’m really in to this guy I imagine all kind of stuff for us what to do? He don’t want me to call him he don’t call me we just text I know who it is but he don’t even send me a picture please tell me to do ? Do I continue texting him?😮
Coach Ken, on the situationship test, guy told me that he wasn't ready, was emotionally unavailable and too old to be in a committed relationship. We are both 56. I told him, I won't take up anymore of your time and ended the call. I blocked him from all communications. A year later, I found out from a family member, that he couldn't understand why I wasn't taking his calls and texts. He told me he wasn't ready, what was I supposed to do, wait for him?! My time is valuable and I wasn't wasting any more of my time. At 56, he should have it together by now.
“I can not give you my best, and you give me your worst.” This statement really resonated with me❣️❣️
Love that!
I wrote it down to my quotes list !
Thank you Coach
@Coach Ken Canion I’ve asked a man what are we doing before…after that the communication got less and less. What I finally did was mirror him & eventually cut off all communication. This is good stuff. Thank you!
Good work
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1) He will nag you---> Off comments about you, insult you.Hevis trying to see how you are going to react. You don't do this or that. It's a doorway to control. Temporary insults lowers the self esteem of the other person. This way I can control you. If you let it go and you let slide is wrong. Chin ✔️ Don't raise your voice! and say very calmly how you feel that it was disrespectful what he said. A man always has to know that you love yourself more than you love him. 2) They don't text back just to see how you will see react. He is trying to figure out how you are you going to react. How attached you are to him says to him that he is controlling your emotions----> You go to him and you communicate the communication protocol. If he breaks it you lower your voice and we agreed on that and now you do something different. 3) They try to give you little orders to do something. They want to see your eagerness to please him. Men invest in a relationship when its valuable to him. Don't invest in him more than he is willing to invest in you otherwise he will devalue you. Solution---> Maybe later I don't think you earned that. 4) They invite you to their house in their first a couple of dates. He is minimum wage's you !!! Minimum amount of effort to achieve what he wants. He associates your brand with pussy delivery girl. He puts you in that category. Men go on what you DO not what you say. The picture in his mind. Your personal brand is tainted. 5) The situationship test: You have been giving him your cookie and you ask him what are we doing and where are we going ? His answer is I don't want a relationship/to be serious, don't want a tittle etc. Why would I buy the cow if I can get the milk for free ? You MUST say this: Listen..... Everybody deserves to be happy. You ..me all of us. Go date out there other women and find the woman of your dreams and I will go date other man and find the man of my dreams. I may be available, I may not be available. I may be married and we will just be friends. I respect you & you respect me. Any woman that is willing to walk away you can't control her !! I can't give you my best to get your worst -----> A woman is the gate keeper of sex and the man is the gate keeper of commitment.
I love your advise. A guy I dated didn't want to commit after 6 months. Although he gave me about $2500 during our situationship.I told him I care for him but this current relationship isn't going for me. I initiated complete no contact. He contact me 8 months later. I told him I am involved. He got mad and hung up on me. He told me I am stubborn I told him that I learned it from him.
I love how hype you are.. energy is everything 😂❤️
LOL. I do get hyped!!! I love what I do. #changinglives
“Invest in me fool!” 😂
Loved watching this video. Just a few days ago I asked the guy I was dating how he introduced me to his family before I arrived for a family cookout. He said I was his friend. I told him friends don’t have sex and got up during a kissing session which I’m sure he hoped would be more. I told him to go find someone that will be his fwb but it wasn’t going to be me. After that he texted me to see if I got home ok and I replied 20 minutes after his text. I sent a message of good night and he responded the same . That’s been it. We will see what happens.
I had not seen this video, I just got relationship faked by this ex who's a narc, told me we were gonna be together and things were gonna change. Then a week later he told me no labels and he won't know for sure if I am the one till 1 to 2 years in the future. I walked away that same night. But this video is gold, I know my value after a lot of personal growth work. But this is the play book that I need to really show my value and not just know my value, to men. Thank you coach Canion
Thank you for watching
Amen hallelujah!!!
You're a real one Coach Ken. Tried and true. Keep up the good work!
I appreciate you. I am on a mission to put relationships together and keep relationships together
Not being bothered bywalking away I learned this as I got older. But thank you for this video. You covered some great points.
THANK YOU MR. COACH FOR YOUR WISDOM
I recently met a guy & the very 1st round of dialogue via dm, he stopped responding. He followed up the next day saying he fell asleep. OK…day 3 it appeared to be a pattern. He reached out, I responded after a few hours, and nothing!! It’s been 2 days no contact whatsoever. I wouldn’t even entertain the idea of reaching out to him. Bye Bruh
Wow! Such a good video especially the situationship advice
I love how blunt and to the point you are, more women need a relationship coach like you, your advice is so refreshing to hear, don't ever change 😊
"Powerful"!! Coach you're giving up the game fa real, fa real! This is some good stuff!!💯 Thanks!!
Always
Ken we need you to put your phone on DND cause every video we can hear your interruptions and what you’re saying is so good it shouldn’t be interrupted!!!! Thanks 🙏🏼 @coachkencanion
Love it ❤ Thank you ❤️
I've been giving him all that and some ....it did not work for what I want.
Now I told him and mean it " Go out there and find the woman of your dreams,obviously I am not it ,and I will date other men.I can be only friends with you " It hurts me so bad but I am worth so much more than what he is giving (not giving) me .We will see what happens!!!
This is really good. I love #3. OMG
I just met a guy who kept saying making him wait for sex was holding my past against him. 😒 I only knew him 1 day. He was saying everything right. Love bombing etc. It takes more than that. But it felt like manipulation.
I wish I knew all of this before I started my last relationship. He broke up with me but he’s still looming around “friendship”.
Your videos helped me so much. Reminding me the truth of who I am .
I need to hear this!
You're absolutely right! This is great information. We appreciate it.
Geeeeesh I wish I saw this 10 months ago. The whole favor thing was on point...I didn't know though
I love this ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m LOVING THIS!!! I just discovered your channel and I’m loving it.
Beautiful teaching I’m a widow I was abused by two men that I was married to I married young at 19 divorced young caught my husband embarrassing my cousin then secondly I got married at 33 and after 35 years just found out that he was married to another woman at the same time hit me with a baseball bat I made him get a divorce
It’s the energy for me!!💯
Thanks Coach Ken for this. I remember dating back in the 80's, I did these same tactics back then. Guys were more patient. Now, alot of women made it easy today, that now guys ghosts me or complain that I have too many restrictions.
So informative, never looked at these from that point of view . Thank you
Thanks for watching!
You rock!
I’ve done all of these wrong, thank you for the ammunition. Should I decide to accept another call from him, I’m using what I learned tonight and will update you. I’m 63 and he’s 70, I promise you’re all in whatever we’re doing.
Ken u are simply amazing👏 your advice is sound!
Thank you so much for this message! Sending to my girlfriend right now.
Now I understand my friend is and has been testing me since I met him .Amen 🤔💯❤🙏👍
Pow, Pow, Pow!!👊👊👊
Great teaching
Thank you!
Thank you 🙏🏽 coach always dropping gems to us women😃♥️
More to come!
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If I were in your position, I would advise the women how to spot the tests and then would advise them to walk away. Women, do not waste your time on a man who will test you. Why would a woman want a man who will test them? He’s already showing you who he is and that he’s not a high value man. Men pull this crap because women give into it and let them get away with this.
Thats why im a single parent because i gave him more when he didnt earn it. That was my biggest mistake i ever made
26:24 Have been with this guy for the past 7months with no proper communication, i always try my possible best to do what he says and instructs,i mean i shouldn't call him continuously when he hasn't replied my messages and also let him know when I'm coming over on his approval before i do so. Just this weekend he texted he was going to get back late so i shouldn't sleep cos he's going to update me so i come over, of which i couldn't and slept off and woke up the next day to apologise but haven't heard from him for days now,so i decided to do same since he's ignoring me.
The huge investment you can give a man when he has not earned you is your body (sex)
How likely is it for a woman to be able to redeem herself after letting a man "minimum wage" her. I JUST found your videos and just realized I let myself get into this exact situation. Luckily, I have not given up s** to him but I have been VERY supportive with little in return. At first I received so much love bombing. I just don't like to feel like I got GOT or played. I think I've been "minimum waged" for about at least a month. Is all lost?
Will not waste my time play with kids be yourself
I am curious what you theory is on the guy who tested the woman with the pic and your response
Wow, I just answered that question in a video that I am uploading to youtube right now. I will send you the link when it gets up
ruclips.net/user/shortsalzCOtMFWJU
One thing I disagree with you on Ken is the friend part. Once I tell a man what you say to tell him there is NO friendship. For me I don’t need or want no male friends at my age. For what? A male friend is of no use to me, maybe to get a quick perspective of the male mind but other than that no thanks. He is dead to me at that point.
Sending that pic is not okay
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Why being affectionate after only 2 weeks?
Ummm... he would be gone the first time he attempts any of that BS! That is the first notice that he ain't it! BYE AH!
I never come with the comments where are going I want him to come with his own agenda because he has to want to commit first
That’s Narcissistic
Hi I love listening to you perhaps you can help me, well I m talking with someone since August but this person dose no talk too much I m always texting him he do respond but he doesn’t express himself much an I’m really in to this guy I imagine all kind of stuff for us what to do? He don’t want me to call him he don’t call me we just text I know who it is but he don’t even send me a picture please tell me to do ? Do I continue texting him?😮
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Do You really Like such kind of tests Even though it's not really is that way?
I can insult men too if you think Its a Good way of joking like that about a woman