Do you have Impostor Syndrome ... too? | Phil McKinney | TEDxBoulder
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- Опубликовано: 16 окт 2018
- "What happens when you share the secret that has been feeding your impostor syndrome for more than 25 years? Phil McKinney, retired Chief Technology Officer for Hewlett-Packard and currently CEO at CableLabs, shares a secret that he kept hidden for 25 years and the result of that secret being revealed on the front page of a national newspaper. Through this journey, Phil comes face-to-face with the impact impostor syndrome has on the individual and their career.
Can you push back against impostor syndrome? Yes, and Phil shares the lessons learned and the steps to overcome the lies of the impostor syndrome that tells you that you are not good enough." A trailblazer in technology innovation, Phil McKinney is passionate about tapping into creativity to drive successful innovation in his personal and professional life. He is an avid blogger, author, speaker and host of the award-winning nationally syndicated radio show and podcast in its 14th season, Killer Innovations. Across his platforms, McKinney invites leading innovators to share their personal stories of innovation and creative success. In his book, “Beyond the Obvious,” he advises on the skills and planning needed to make both revolutionary changes and nuanced tweaks required for success. McKinney serves as the president and CEO of CableLabs, on the advisory board for Hacking Autism, chairs the board for Pioneer Education Africa and oversees the Techtrend Group, which invests in entrepreneurs in developing countries to create jobs that fuel economic growth. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I'm literally using watching this video and combatting my imposter syndrome as a means to procrastinate. I'm so, so afraid of failure and of disappointing my colleagues.
If 75% of the people have this "syndrome", why is it that we're talking about it and not about the 25% who don't have it?
I met him in person in Central Square, Cambridge in early 2000s. what a nice guy.
Wow! Seriously. I have been suffering for so long and I didn’t know why. Phil giving me his eg of what he was “ hiding” made me think of what I was “ hiding” -and I figured out exactly what it was. The main reason and things tied to it- are not something to be embarassed about in reality- but it “is” to me. I have been suffering with it for 25 years! I feel a cloud over me every single day. I feel unworthy because of it all. And on top of that, having envious family and people for my acheivements made it worse. I hide my achievements to avoid the spotlight and from getting the jealous eye and envious comments. I did my best with what I was given, I did put in effort, I deserve what I achieved, sorry that I disappointed the ones who hoped and thought I would amount to “nothing”. Damn! Phil. I have seen a few therapists over the years. And no one could help me. I wish I could talk to someone as wise as you. Just a safe person who got me- but that’s okay, for this moment, this talk of yours has greatly helped me. I will stop feeling embarassed and move forward with confidence no matter what anyone says.Wow- great talk, made for me- thank you.
Thanks. So glad you found your secret. Remember - you are not an impostor. You earned and deserved your success.
i'm 15 and i have had imposter syndrome for at least the past three years. I am an overachiever and a workaholic, yet i deliberatly sabotarge myself so i end up doing no assignemnts to the best of my ablity. The worst part of it all is that i know i'll never be good enough, for the people around me, i know that i am, but for me, from my perspective, i'll never be able to live up to my own epectations for myself. So i will, no matter what, be a failure in my eyes. It sucks, but at least it means that i will always want more from myself. i dont know why im sharing this here, but i just thought it might be helpful for someone out there if they can realte to this too.
Hey, i totally understand you, i perfectly relate to that and it's kind of reassuring to know that there are also "very" young people with this syndrome (im 17 actually and i just discovered that i have had this syndrome for a long time). I really hope you're on your way to understand that you worth it, that you have the skills, that you have perfectly your place no matter where you are or with whom. I wish you the best :) (sorry for my english, it's not my mother tongue)
I’m 15 as well, going thru the same thing. :( this sucks
Age is not the issue...you are only identifying or giving a name to sth that others have suffered for so long... I am 37 but the syndrome has plagued me over 20 yrs...knowing it at your age means you can deal and have your best life... You are now on a path to freedom... I have just started living mine.
There is freedom in just naming it... Your glass half full not half empty... Watch more videos on the topic and you will get insight and discover even more ways to deal.
as bad as it sounds, failure is your best solution. EVERYONE fails. You are soo young you havent had big failures yet, I sure have haha. I have imposter syndrome in my new job but yeah man I trained kids my whole life- their first job. Many of them never failed. I purposely let kids fail to teach them a lesson that its not the end of the world. The first 'big' failure is by far the hardest yet most helpful learning experience.
I just realized today I suffer of this syndrome ! I can’t describe the scale of revelation . A whole new chapter. An opportunity to do something about it
My impostor syndrome isn't helped in the slightest by me being told at two separate jobs by the people who interviewed me that "we almost didn't hire you." So I got the job but now I feel like I rightfully shouldn't have and I feel a desperate, overwhelming need to overperform on every possible metric as I feel like I've got to prove them wrong every single minute that I'm on the clock because doing so helps to ensure my continued employment, and that if I should ever fail to be anything less than spectacular, then those same people will have their suspicions confirmed that hiring me was a mistake and they won't hesitate to can me.
The thing is, now I feel like a bigger imposter for thinking I'm just part of the 75% who suffer from imposter syndrome. I feel like if I met Phil he would say "Oh dude, forget it. You, you should be arrested!" *cue Curb Your Enthusiasm theme*
Phil, you are amazing! Thank you so much for this. God bless!
Thank you.
This needs more views.
ME - 2 (But we may have secret weaknesses, as you say, that need work and help)
I struggled with college teaching for many years, but I did not work on my weaknesses.
Now, we have computers and RUclips to clue us in, so we can work on weaknesses ...
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Thank You ..
I really needed this, but the part at 9:52 , I stopped doing that to one of my colleagues because his arrogance has gone from 5 to 10. Sure he has vast experience on all things tech-related but at times needed some corrections on his code, but telling him how awesome he was, those compliments bloat his already massive ego
your colleague wasn't suffering from negative self talk if he had a "massive ego". Someone along the narcissistic line shouldn't be told they're awesome at things unless their also being told of what they're not so good at...otherwise it'd be compounding his problem
I think I'm not capable of learning new skills, so I give up right after I start taking up something.
I didn't go to my prom dance because I went through high-school without studying so I did not feel like I deserved to go 😔
I agree!
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Experiencing severe imposter syndrome today and I know it's the reason for me procrastinating.
Phil is amazing! This is a great talk and highlights just how amazing and motivational Phil is not to mention most importantly AUTHENTIC!
Thanks for the kind words and support.
Find a way to share your secret or be an encourager
acording to my teachers am the top student in our feild in the university for the past three years , but i don't beleave it because last year i had deppression and ptsd i couldn't understand any of the courses we were having i managed to get my score but i don't know how because i can't remember what happened the past year ,i still beleave am an imposter because i have a bachlor degree withour remembering what i even studied i don't think i can ever beleave otherwise
Oh no! What you learned, is yours! And it will become to you, when it's needed. Don't worry. :)
I'm even bad at having imposter syndrome. Great.. just.. great!
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Yes to 98% of his questions about the syndrome.
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I'm in the midst of this now!
Know that 75% have, are or will go through it. You are not alone.
Don't let negative talk take over. Everyone has self doubt. You are better/more qualified than you think.
How are you now? Are you feeling better? I got a new job and this is my second week, I am suffering A LOT, have lost 2kg already, and feeling depressed, can't even focus at work...
@@shitta1422 What is the situation now? Did things get better? Also, whatever happened/happens I wish you all the best in your life.
I´ve finished all my degrees and milestone steps and still feel not good enough or that my knowledge is worthless, or are asking me to be something I´m not, so I don´t know if what I feel falls into the same category...
It’s the first time I talk about it
This sounds more like performance anxiety
When he's pretending to talk to his co worker, I like to pretend he's talking to me personally to kick me out of it.
Thank you.
I think he got stats wrong a bit there. If 75% of the population will have impostor syndrome symptoms at some point, it doesn't follow that 75% of that audience will too. It's possible that more will considering they went to see a talk about impostor syndrome. You can't squash stats down onto individuals like that.
I saw one of these where the speaker told the audience to look at the people either side of them, and said that one of them _definitely_ has this thing that 50% of people have. 🤔.. 🤨
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We were TAUGHT to be imposters! The bigger/more convincing the BETTER. And now our success at that is "imposter syndrome ".Being "real" goes in and out with the fad/trend.
Who taught you to be the imposter? A red astronaut with a knife?
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