I love how Lysanne just up and gives a Baby anatomy lesson throughout the video. Causal "Babies don't have knee caps" and baby mobility depends on the deepening of the hip socket, like what?!? My mind was completely blown! Great content, tons to learn, wonderful as always :)
I have an adult sized offspring with mobility issues due to hip problems from birth and I had no idea!! What wonderful information, this should be something that all parents should be taught, it's amazing how little bodies work and develop. :)
Me too! I don't have a baby, won't have a baby, and found Lysanne a completely engaging and delightful speaker. I watched enthralled. I think Rupert really liked her hair. As did I!
There are so many people who are telling you, that you shouldn't or can't be a parent (one of them Was me to myself so...) because you are queer or trans or disabled. And seeing Jessica, being the wonderfull and strong mother she is, makes me feel good. And gives me so much hope and confidence.
As a mom with some mobility issues, it is possible. I may sound crazy but I always tell people to stop listening to society and themselves even. If you want kids and you have the ability to take care of kids financially (even if you have to be super frugal) then you should do it. I thought I didn't want kids because our society told me I wasn't good enough. Physically, mentally, financially... I have 2 amazing kids now and I've even been a foster parent and this is the best thing I ever did. My only regret so far is not doing it sooner! We gotta stop telling people to wait till they are "ready". There's no such thing, you'll never be "ready" ❤️
My favorite part of this is how Lysanne acknowledges your disabilities and worries but also explains how those worries are common amongst all parents. I love her accessibility and reassurance!
59° thoracic and 39° lumbar curves myself and I wish they had more "tools" when I was younger. I hope the pregnancy isn't too uncomfortable for you and CONGRATS!
At the risk of unleashing a hate-storm upon myself… I am child free by choice, I don’t want kids, and I’m not particularly fond of children anyways. I still watch ALL of your videos. For some reason the way you explain things, and your styling, articulation, and the way you present information, keeps me engaged even if it’s a topic that doesn’t pertain to me in the slightest. 😅
As someone who has struggled with fertility and gone through the mourning process of never being able to have another baby I never would have thought I could watch content about babies… Then my favorite influencer couple had a baby and I am so happy for them it completely eclipses the pain I usually feel when etching such content.
Gloria, sorry this has happened to you. I can't have kids either, but I certainly not doing well with the mourning process. There's always something throwing it up in my face. At least happy videos like this are quite enjoyable. I might be miserable but it is nicer for me to see people so happy than it would be to see everyone else being as fed up as I am.
Being a baby carrier fitter/expert sounds like my dream job. And I love how Lysanne was very aware of mobility needs and what works and doesn’t work depending on a person’s unique body. When Jess was talking about her body at the beginning and Lysanne was just like “yep!” I was like, they must have heard these sort of descriptions before and it seemed like they really knew what they were doing. I want to be like Lysanne. What a lovely person!
I love the tip about the wraps that fit parents of different sizes. There's a 15cm (6in) difference in height between my husband and I. Ideally we want to use the same stuff so our future baby can be comfortable. He also has a number of back and knee problems so this video was incredibly helpful.
I don’t plan on having kids for a long time, but all of this feels so informational/helpful/eye-opening & I feel like it will stick with me for a while ✨
I completely agree with you! 🥰 I originally found this channel for the fashion videos but I absolutely adore it all (even if it's not super relevant to me yet)
just know that depending on how long you wait, things may change by the time you decide to do it lol so make sure you still go back and rewatch everything and see if it's still relevant. There are some things, like baby anatomy of course, that won't change, but recommendations change fairly often as we find out more about babies and human nature, so always try to keep up to date :)
I wish this information had been out there when my littles were babies. I remember trying to figure out tying a baby wrap before RUclips. There was no discussion of doing so with semi-functioning hands and hip problems. There’s been so much more content for disabled grownups with children the last few years and I am here for it! 😃
Thank you for making this. I have a huge scar on my lower back that interferes with the way my muscles knit together and I get a lot of back pain. People have LOVED telling me how I won't be able to hold my little boy in a baby sling because of my scar, but this gives me SO MUCH HOPE just to try.
There is a way to carry your child you just will have to test a bit more just like Jessica did here. People love to tell disabled people what we all can't do instead of just being supportive in our endeavor of figuring stuff out for us.
Urgh people need to hush up, they don't live with the changes you have. People love giving definitive statements even if they know not much about your condition or even eg baby carrying. Glad this video is available! You can get help from a baby sling library, or mother Rucker. Good luck x
Woven wraps can be tied in many many ways, I am sure you can find a way to carry your baby. Check the Wrapyouinlove channel here on RUclips - she has tons of tutorials for different ways to tie a woven wrap and much more.
I remember my parents refusing to use baby carriers because it would end up with needing more than one adult to put one on and alot of back pain. This gives me hope that one day when I have a little one, I can explore the option of using one.
When the time comes, definitely check out baby carriers. Can not recommend them enough and there are so many options to find comfortable ones for all ages (wore all 3 of my kiddos). And baby-wearing is a lifesaver if your baby has colic
Definitely try to use a baby carrier when you have kids in the future! For the first few months the sling ones are the best. Babies feel really secure in them and I found they slept a lot better! Practically baby carriers are easier too, so many places are difficult to access with a pram!
I am a gran now so the best carrier is a rocking chair for me and a lap for baby🥰. Blessings dear and hope you have a wonderful first Christmas with Roo.
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Jessica I really love and appreciate that your parenting videos is about you being a parent and not Rupert is the star. These feel so genuine and fun and educational, really loving this.
I have never expected to enjoy baby carrier fitting videos so much, but here we are! Jessica is serving us some great looks while wearing baby carriers and slings, I audibly went "awww" when she gave Rupert a little kiss as he turned his face to her.
Babies with EDS always feel much heavier as well. Mainly because they don't have the muscle tone of other babies, and feel like "dead weight". My wife and daughters all have EDS, so that magnified the problem.
@@arnicepernice8656 I don't know, I don't think so. But given that the audience here is slightly more likely to have EDS, and therefore more likely to have EDS kids, I thought it worth mentioning. :)
@@toerag572 thank you for your reply, I understand your reasoning. I have neither EDS or children but find the reality of living with multiple disabilities and this channel resonate
I don’t know why I watched this (other than being a fan) because I’m not having kids any time soon, but finding out how to use a sling fascinated me because I was always so confused over how they work.
My dad who is completely blind used to carry me in a baby carrier. It allowed him to use his guide dog or white cane; strollers wouldn’t work with the cane or dog. My mom is partially sighted and preferred using the stroller, because she was petite, and I was a very tall baby. But both agree carriers are convenient when you have to use public transportation. Strollers, especially big ones, can be a bit of a hassle to get on and off buses.
My mum has always sworn by the ring sling. She's had 3 of us and collectively used them for I don't even know how long. I've worn them and they do just work. You can also just stick them in the washing machine when baby throws up or has a nappy leak on it. I feel being machine washable is a vital feature for any baby product.
I'm amazed at how the designs have improved and changed since I was a new Mum. I remember my son was especially fussy and I needed to get on with the house work. I found a stretchy sheet, and remembered how my African neighbour wore her baby, and tied him onto my back. He stopped grizzling, and started giggling, then I felt him go to sleep. I checked his airways every couple of seconds, because I was a worried Mum, and because he had gone so quiet. But he was fine, he just missed being carried. I wish there had been someone like Lysanne and her club when mine were tiny!
I have no baby, I have no desire for a baby, but I genuinely enjoyed listening to Lysanne talk about these baby carriers. It's always enjoyable to listen to an expert who loves the work she does!
I'm so jealous of the fact that new parents now have so much great information and advice available so easily. My son is nearly 18-years-old now. Back when he was a baby it was hard to find anything like this video (and the carriers that were accessible to me weren't nearly as good).
I have a 18 and 19 year old and we had the baby bjorn, the maya wrap, and the one I still hold onto, the new native. I had home births back then, too, though, and baby wearing was just part of that community. It is very nice to see both home birthing and baby wearing becoming more mainstream.
My scoliosis has me in the same position lol. It’s kind of nice to see someone talking about how it impacts life and why adjustments are needed instead of just acting like it’s as inconsequential to your life as having a tattoo or a third nipple.
Your videos are my cats favorite. He tracks your hands across the screen and reacts to your head moving too! His two favorite things to watch with me are you and Critical Role!
I am an avid babywearer and I have seen A LOT of babywearing videos but this is by far the best I have ever seen! I love how comprehensive and inclusive the information is, the anatomy information is also really well explained! I hope that you enjoy wearing your beautiful son, it's a lovely bonding experience x
OMG this infant physiology lesson was AMAZING! And helpful for anyone, including pharmacists like myself who get regular face to face contact with new mums and can be a reassuring force putting minds at ease- especially when large branches of Boots and Superdrug and supermarkets sell baby carriers!
I wish this video had existed when I had my first! I remember sitting there with my tiny preemie in tears because I just could not figure out the stretchy wrap and I somehow had to get myself to the doctor down the road for bloodwork -- or later when I'd been using the narrow base carrier and freaked out because someone told me it could be damaging his hips -- or later still when I felt like I HAD to buy a foam rug because of his little knees. (He's seven now and doing great.) This video is going to help so many new parents
Wow this sling expert is an absolute expert! We used slings for 8 years with our two and didn't expect to learn new information in this video but wow, she was amazing! We went from stretchy wraps to woven wraps for heavier babies, absolutely brilliant for us.
My mum never liked the slings/carriers when she had me and my sister because she felt like we’d drop. However that first sling you tried on looked the most secure because it fully enclosed the baby. Also Rupert’s little cap was adorable!
As someone with EDS and scoliosis who plans on starting a family in the next few years, this (and all your parenting videos) have been so helpful! I've been spending a lot of time with my best friend and her baby and becoming increasingly more worried about all the ways my body may fail me with my own child. Your videos have helped calm my nerves. Thank you
I'm so glad you found some that are comfortable and user-friendly for you, and that you can use even as Rupert gets older, especially in the wheelchair. Yay!!
I’m now an oldie. My children are 41 and 37 and slingy types of carriers, plus a more rigid framed on for your back when baby was a bit bigger were all appearing when my babies came along. Like you Jessica I have a double scoliosis plus a whole slew of other back problems but these new items were touted to be fantastic. They weren’t. Front or back, they killed me. The time it takes to put a wrap on, solo at that, was way WAY too long form my babies who wriggled like electric eels and screamed like devils. Taking them off, same problem. They were never as accommodating as dear little Dave…or Rupert! I also found that, like when I was 7-9 months pregnant I couldn’t stand at the sink, to pour a glass or water let alone reach the taps. It was back to sideways on. Also babies as you know are so warm and squishy and mostly the same temperature as ourselves so when one pees heavily you don’t feel it…it’s all warm and delightful on your tummy area…until you take baby off, usually by this time in a group of family and friends at some lovely get together - only to find your beautiful dress is sodden from nipple to knicker level! Needless to say both husband and I gave up… and used the pushchair outside …
i love that we are learning with you aswell! you come not across as... arrogant like "i am now a mother i know everything" but you do yours and willing to learn everyday while teaching us too. its very genuine or what the word is ...english is not my language but i mean authentic
I honestly am entranced by her teaching you Jessica. I learned so much from her and truly, truly wish I had seen this before I tried to carry my grands. I have CF/ME, lupus, scoliosis, 5 damaged ribs, Raynaud’s in my hands and feet and a damaged thoracic spine plus a few more things! I imagined she freaked out when she saw Rachel Markle carrying her “child” in Canada 🇨🇦😱😱
As someone with an autoimmune desease, this was extremely informative! I have weird pains and numbness in my back, so it was great of you to include handicapped bodies. I love this so much! Thank you!
Just in time! We've a six week old and my scoliosis is pretty similar to what Jess described. Most people/carrier sellers don't think of special needs of the parents. So thank you for the info!
I wore this kind of sling for a while but my tiny 5 month old was a jelly mass. Rupert is so firm and strong it's a delight to see him stand on your shoulder.
I worked in a baby store and my favourite all around was the Baby Bjorn Carrier One. It attaches to you body first, has a wide bottom, and then had really easy but secure clips to help get baby in and out. It was the easiest to teach people to use and I think to use safely. The only issue is it is definitely nit as comfortable as other carriers for some people.
@@motherruckeruk for sure! It was always the one I got people to try first and then moved up in complexity so people wouldn't get super scared by carriers, but could still find the perfect one for them :) BTW love this video and it brought back really good memories :D
My favorite carriers are Happy Baby buckle carrier (so soft, made out of linen), and a woven wrap that you tie in a similar fashion to the stretchy wrap. Woven wraps take a bit more learning but perfectly molds to wearer and baby every time. And for quick ups I use a ring sling. It doesn't feel good for a long time on my body, but just while I'm heating up food or something it's very nice.
I'm very short (less than 5 feet tall), and sometimes when I've been helping provide childcare for families with older infants, wearing the baby has been amazing for me because it allows me to distribute the baby's weight throughout my entire upper body so I don't over-stress any of my muscles! I've just used whatever brand the family already has, so this was a cool comparison :)
I LOVED baby wearing. My daughter lived in a wrap or a sling for two years. When she was a baby it was awesome how much work I could get done by putting her in a sling and vacuuming.
@@KindCountsDeb3773 she really did love it. She was a colicky baby and cried whenever she wasn’t held, so baby wearing was the perfect solution for both of us. The doctor at the lactation clinic even said she recommends baby wearing for all moms, so I think it is helping people realize how great it is.
With my first child I didn't have the chance to try this but now with the second, this has been a terrific discovery! It does indeed distribute the baby weight in a better way. I do feel like there could be more weight on my shoulders but I might need to play with the straps more and see if that improves.I absolutely recommend this to every single parent out there!
As someone who will be embarking on the baby journey soon (hopefully), I am loving all this baby content. I hope to be able to wear my baby a lot and this seems like a great primer on the logistics of so many carriers!
Oh my god! Thank you so much for this video. I have scoliosis and I had always worried about wether I would be able to use a carrier. Honestly so graceful for your disabled mum video it is really helping my anxieties.
I wish you and your wife was on RUclips around when I had kids 25 years ago. That’s how long I have been dealing with endometriosis with kids. (Son 25, daughter 22 years old )I didn’t have anyone to get tips. I’am so glad you can help other parents with chronic illness xox
i really appreciate the explanation on why some people think slings and wraps are bad for the baby, i've been told so many times by my moms generation the same thing but i really want to do it, given the now known facts:)
I have a carrier similar to ergobaby, that just fits my body slightly better. It is possible to cross the straps on the back in many such carriers too, which make them more comfortable. A child development expert I know don't reccomend wearing your baby outwards at all, or at least limited. Babies uses the parents face to help process their surroundings. This is especially important in noisy or heavily visual environments, like outside or a in a mall. Strollers should also always be turned towards the handle, she insists. For parents like Jessica, who is deaf, I would think this is extra important, since baby is learning that Mama communicates mostly visually.
I've got a buckle carrier & the thought that it just might not be right for me never even entered my head! Thankyou for your fabtastic educational content. Im off to my local sling library:)
STRAPS ARE AMAZING! My mother used to have some when my siblings were growing up, so although I wasn't old and patient enough to learn the patterns for it, I was delighted with how it allowed EVEN me, barely 10 or 11, to carry around my baby brother! She also had a sling with crossed straps in the back and a waistband only padded at the hips that she made herself, and that one was pretty versatile and very comfortable too!
I wore my baby until she was about 2 years old or so. My go to carrier was the Baby Bjorn ones (I had a couple of different models as she grew). I'm not that tall and also would carry her bag and my work bag on public transport. I liked the structure of them and she always felt more secure in them. I would use a soft one while in the house. I never got a hang of the stretchy fabric ones. Getting the right sling is definitely trial and error but I loved wearing her when she was little. Enjoy every minute with little Rupert👶💖
I used a woven wrap and LOVED it. I could wrap my children up in the front for snuggles, and toss them on my back when I needed to get chores or some cooking done. My husband joked they were never down on the floor their first year. For the infant stage, I used a stretchy Mobi wrap. My husband preferred the Bjorn and my son in particular liked to walks with dad.
Do I have a baby or would like to have one? No. Will I watch anything Jessica uploads? Hack yeah! And I always learn something new!! Babies don’t have knee caps? What?!? So interesting!
Ah... so... I'm just leaving this info for anyone that might need it. There are some stores where you can buy a different kind of strap and buckle for anything, be it a bag or a carrier. The only thing you'd be missing is someone you can adapt it to the carrier. And there you have your buckle problem solved. I loved this video. continue the amazing work you are doing. :)
Thank you so much for this video. My youngest is 2 weeks younger than Rupert. She insists on being carried basically nonstop but is so very heavy. I’ve been struggling to find a sling that works for her, but now I’ve got more to look at.
What an amazing consultant! It's great to see you get all that advice with all the clever reasoning around it, the stuff about baby's bones development was great to hear and refresh for me too :) I started babywearing when beb was 6 months old and I am pretty sorry I was not able to do it sooner (I hope for early babywearing with our expected second baby). Started with a full buckle carrier, but soon fell into the rabbit hole of woven wraps. They are beautiful and amazing. The possibilities of carries are endless and it truly fits every kind of body type and shape. In the UK you have the scotish Oscha brand really accessible, they make the most beautiful designs. After Brexit they are awfully pricey for the rest of Europe though. We're still using wraps/slings, ring slings and carriers (czech made Jožánek and then Aloe Two made in Russia for bigger kids) interchangeably with my husband, for every purpose a different thing is convenient. Babywearing saves parents and kids lives and nerves, really, I can't recommend it enough (while the pram is useful too :) ).
Love this video! I have a disability and had a baby recently and I'm always looking to see what is the easiest carrier for me. Not easy. Thank you for the video
If you wanted to try and save the pretty shell one, maybe take it to a seamstress. I know my seamstress at the dry cleaner’s cound swap out the trilock clips for regular ones and re-thread the straps to not be doubled up, all for maybe 20$ cad? PS the cross-back fold-up one is the sort I used with my kids, and gave me the most comfortable hold with my arthritis.
My last baby is 10 now and I still don't know how I would have survived having 2 little ones just 23 months apart without a stretchy wrap. It was a sanity saver for sure!
I don't have a baby, nor will I, but I found this totally engaging. The consultant was charming and had so much interesting information, Jessica, as ever, delightful, and we had a glimpse of Rupert.
I've moved away from Sussex and I'm not even trying for a baby for at least a year and I'm already planning my consultation. Great video - I have EDS and I am so grateful to have this content and learning available - thank you so much for sharing x
😍😍 watched this yesterday and decided I needed to find a soft sling, and surprise a friend set me one today! This was very helpful thank you. Especially Lysanne because my instructions have the extra wrap around at the end, but as a plus size I can't. It was nice to see that she also didn't do the extra wrap and that it's still okay for bab6
Just watching this video made me exhausted hahah major props, Jess, for figuring all this out, explaining it all (and having an amazing expert to share her knowledge) - I can’t imagine how much effort and energy that expended, but such valuable information! 🤍
My sister is a Postpartum Doula and she prefers using a wrap and then maybe a buckle carrier if the parent(s) are lucky enough to find one that ticks all the boxes. I've seen her wrap my niece and nephew and it seems like knowing what works best for the parent(s) body will work out the best. This was super informative and insightful thank you :)
I'm a doula and I used to work a shop selling carriers and I'm obsessed with them. My favorites are by far a stretch wrap or a ring sling, which you didn't have here and I don't think would be good for you because it puts the weight only on one side BUT for people without a curvy back who find it easy to hold a baby on their hip i think they're amazing. Some even have pockets!
We lived in our Omni 360, loved how easy it was to get on and off. When babe was really little, I used stretchy wraps, just wore them like a shirt. I had a fussy baby who needed a lot of physical contact, and wraps and carriers were real saviors on my back, which has a scoliosis as well.
I have a bad lower back and found that woven wraps and ring slings worked the best for me. I love the convenience of buckle carriers but every one I've tried hurt my back and/or shoulders after long periods, unlike woven wraps. And I'm sooo glad that someone outside the babywearing community is getting the message out about narrow-based carriers. A lot of groups I was in there were people trying to shame people who use NBCs (usually by suggesting they get another carrier).
Aw, poor Rupert! Hope the little sweety gers well real soon! On an entirely different note: Motherrucker has got to be the best business name in the history of business names!
I love my Lenny lamb half wrap. It’s easy to adjust on my own and the perfect balance between buckle carrier’s and wraps. And it helps that it’s super pretty
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I love how Lysanne just up and gives a Baby anatomy lesson throughout the video. Causal "Babies don't have knee caps" and baby mobility depends on the deepening of the hip socket, like what?!? My mind was completely blown! Great content, tons to learn, wonderful as always :)
Aww thank you!
What an excellent primer on baby carriers. Wish all new moms could view this
I have an adult sized offspring with mobility issues due to hip problems from birth and I had no idea!! What wonderful information, this should be something that all parents should be taught, it's amazing how little bodies work and develop. :)
she is so thorough and KNOWS her stuff !
Me too! I don't have a baby, won't have a baby, and found Lysanne a completely engaging and delightful speaker. I watched enthralled. I think Rupert really liked her hair. As did I!
Me, who has neither scoliosis nor a baby: yes i absolutely need to watch this
(A delightful video as always, thanks Jessica!)
Glad I’m not the only one 🤣
Ditto! 😆😆😆
Yes same, feeling a bit young to be watching videos about baby straps, but I just like Jessica's lightheartedness so much !
I'm not having kids but I love Jessica's baby content because I feel like it's going to make me a better aunt 🥰
There are so many people who are telling you, that you shouldn't or can't be a parent (one of them Was me to myself so...) because you are queer or trans or disabled. And seeing Jessica, being the wonderfull and strong mother she is, makes me feel good. And gives me so much hope and confidence.
I get a confidence boost, too!
As a mom with some mobility issues, it is possible. I may sound crazy but I always tell people to stop listening to society and themselves even. If you want kids and you have the ability to take care of kids financially (even if you have to be super frugal) then you should do it. I thought I didn't want kids because our society told me I wasn't good enough. Physically, mentally, financially... I have 2 amazing kids now and I've even been a foster parent and this is the best thing I ever did. My only regret so far is not doing it sooner! We gotta stop telling people to wait till they are "ready". There's no such thing, you'll never be "ready" ❤️
My favorite part of this is how Lysanne acknowledges your disabilities and worries but also explains how those worries are common amongst all parents. I love her accessibility and reassurance!
As a currently pregnant mom to be with a 43 upper curve and 38 lower curve this may be the most perfectly targeted video for me
wishing you the best
Congrats! Always here if you have questions 😉
@@motherruckeruk omgosh thank you! I will be following you close, we bought Moby wraps but it may be better for my hubs than for me
omg we have the exact same curve degrees
59° thoracic and 39° lumbar curves myself and I wish they had more "tools" when I was younger. I hope the pregnancy isn't too uncomfortable for you and CONGRATS!
At the risk of unleashing a hate-storm upon myself… I am child free by choice, I don’t want kids, and I’m not particularly fond of children anyways.
I still watch ALL of your videos. For some reason the way you explain things, and your styling, articulation, and the way you present information, keeps me engaged even if it’s a topic that doesn’t pertain to me in the slightest. 😅
Same here! I watch everything despite that fact that I don't (and won't) have children. 😄
I probably don't want any kids either but I still watch all of the baby content from Jessica 🙈
I will probably never have children (by choice) but I love watching the cuteness overload by this channel
Same here, child free by choice. I can't tolerate them. Still adore her videos!
Same here! I absolutely love Jessica's videos! ❤
As someone who has struggled with fertility and gone through the mourning process of never being able to have another baby I never would have thought I could watch content about babies… Then my favorite influencer couple had a baby and I am so happy for them it completely eclipses the pain I usually feel when etching such content.
I'm so sorry for you Gloria, but I'm glad you're able to enjoy this without feeling that pain! I cannot imagine what it's like.
Gloria, sorry this has happened to you. I can't have kids either, but I certainly not doing well with the mourning process. There's always something throwing it up in my face. At least happy videos like this are quite enjoyable. I might be miserable but it is nicer for me to see people so happy than it would be to see everyone else being as fed up as I am.
@@dees3179 same here. It hurts to see such cute babies and happy families. But Jessica and Claudia are just so lovely that it lessens the pain for me.
She's a great consultant, well informed, educational and charismatic!
Aww thank you!
This is so wonderful. Inclusive parenting is vital, and we as an audience are honored and thankful for your information.
Being a baby carrier fitter/expert sounds like my dream job. And I love how Lysanne was very aware of mobility needs and what works and doesn’t work depending on a person’s unique body. When Jess was talking about her body at the beginning and Lysanne was just like “yep!” I was like, they must have heard these sort of descriptions before and it seemed like they really knew what they were doing. I want to be like Lysanne. What a lovely person!
I love the tip about the wraps that fit parents of different sizes. There's a 15cm (6in) difference in height between my husband and I. Ideally we want to use the same stuff so our future baby can be comfortable. He also has a number of back and knee problems so this video was incredibly helpful.
Glad to hear it 😊
I don’t plan on having kids for a long time, but all of this feels so informational/helpful/eye-opening & I feel like it will stick with me for a while ✨
I completely agree with you! 🥰 I originally found this channel for the fashion videos but I absolutely adore it all (even if it's not super relevant to me yet)
just know that depending on how long you wait, things may change by the time you decide to do it lol so make sure you still go back and rewatch everything and see if it's still relevant. There are some things, like baby anatomy of course, that won't change, but recommendations change fairly often as we find out more about babies and human nature, so always try to keep up to date :)
No knee caps at 5months old!!🤯 I’m 58yrs old and this is the 1st time I’ve ever heard that. My brain exploded!
Lysanne was both educational and a delight!
Thank you so much x
Dave is the most uncanny valley baby doll I've ever seen. I'm kinda terrified, kinda love it
and we got to see is face !! lol
Rupert seemed pretty suspicious of him. lol
@@stellamax1734 wise bubba xxx
that's why they make that last one so cute, it's cause you're stuck in it forever so it better look good
I wish this information had been out there when my littles were babies. I remember trying to figure out tying a baby wrap before RUclips. There was no discussion of doing so with semi-functioning hands and hip problems. There’s been so much more content for disabled grownups with children the last few years and I am here for it! 😃
Thank you for making this. I have a huge scar on my lower back that interferes with the way my muscles knit together and I get a lot of back pain. People have LOVED telling me how I won't be able to hold my little boy in a baby sling because of my scar, but this gives me SO MUCH HOPE just to try.
There is a way to carry your child you just will have to test a bit more just like Jessica did here.
People love to tell disabled people what we all can't do instead of just being supportive in our endeavor of figuring stuff out for us.
Urgh people need to hush up, they don't live with the changes you have. People love giving definitive statements even if they know not much about your condition or even eg baby carrying. Glad this video is available! You can get help from a baby sling library, or mother Rucker. Good luck x
Woven wraps can be tied in many many ways, I am sure you can find a way to carry your baby. Check the Wrapyouinlove channel here on RUclips - she has tons of tutorials for different ways to tie a woven wrap and much more.
I remember my parents refusing to use baby carriers because it would end up with needing more than one adult to put one on and alot of back pain. This gives me hope that one day when I have a little one, I can explore the option of using one.
Absolutely you can! There’s always a way x
then this video is really helpful and Jessica has done it again !! YAY
When the time comes, definitely check out baby carriers. Can not recommend them enough and there are so many options to find comfortable ones for all ages (wore all 3 of my kiddos). And baby-wearing is a lifesaver if your baby has colic
Definitely try to use a baby carrier when you have kids in the future! For the first few months the sling ones are the best. Babies feel really secure in them and I found they slept a lot better!
Practically baby carriers are easier too, so many places are difficult to access with a pram!
I am a gran now so the best carrier is a rocking chair for me and a lap for baby🥰. Blessings dear and hope you have a wonderful first Christmas with Roo.
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Thank you so much for having me!
@@motherruckeruk Thank YOU Lysanne, you are a delight!
Pin the comment pls :)
@@franny5156 can I ask, what is the effect /significance of 'pinning' a comment? (old not quite techy enough person here!)
@@judebrown4103 when a comment is pinned it shows up at the beginning of the comment section! So everybody sees it
Jessica I really love and appreciate that your parenting videos is about you being a parent and not Rupert is the star. These feel so genuine and fun and educational, really loving this.
I have never expected to enjoy baby carrier fitting videos so much, but here we are! Jessica is serving us some great looks while wearing baby carriers and slings, I audibly went "awww" when she gave Rupert a little kiss as he turned his face to her.
Babies with EDS always feel much heavier as well. Mainly because they don't have the muscle tone of other babies, and feel like "dead weight". My wife and daughters all have EDS, so that magnified the problem.
Does Rupert have EDS pls?
@@arnicepernice8656 I don’t think so, statistically not anyway
@@arnicepernice8656 I don't know, I don't think so. But given that the audience here is slightly more likely to have EDS, and therefore more likely to have EDS kids, I thought it worth mentioning. :)
@@toerag572 thank you for your reply, I understand your reasoning.
I have neither EDS or children but find the reality of living with multiple disabilities and this channel resonate
@@toerag572 pardon me for asking, but are you the same Dr Toerag as the one who appears on how to murder time?
I don’t know why I watched this (other than being a fan) because I’m not having kids any time soon, but finding out how to use a sling fascinated me because I was always so confused over how they work.
I couldn't do that first sling if it came with a prize. Whoa
My dad who is completely blind used to carry me in a baby carrier. It allowed him to use his guide dog or white cane; strollers wouldn’t work with the cane or dog.
My mom is partially sighted and preferred using the stroller, because she was petite, and I was a very tall baby.
But both agree carriers are convenient when you have to use public transportation. Strollers, especially big ones, can be a bit of a hassle to get on and off buses.
The obvious delight on your face when Rupert is even near you is delightful.
My mum has always sworn by the ring sling. She's had 3 of us and collectively used them for I don't even know how long.
I've worn them and they do just work. You can also just stick them in the washing machine when baby throws up or has a nappy leak on it. I feel being machine washable is a vital feature for any baby product.
5 months already!? My oh my! Time moves quickly!
I'm amazed at how the designs have improved and changed since I was a new Mum. I remember my son was especially fussy and I needed to get on with the house work. I found a stretchy sheet, and remembered how my African neighbour wore her baby, and tied him onto my back. He stopped grizzling, and started giggling, then I felt him go to sleep. I checked his airways every couple of seconds, because I was a worried Mum, and because he had gone so quiet. But he was fine, he just missed being carried. I wish there had been someone like Lysanne and her club when mine were tiny!
I have no baby, I have no desire for a baby, but I genuinely enjoyed listening to Lysanne talk about these baby carriers. It's always enjoyable to listen to an expert who loves the work she does!
I'm so jealous of the fact that new parents now have so much great information and advice available so easily. My son is nearly 18-years-old now. Back when he was a baby it was hard to find anything like this video (and the carriers that were accessible to me weren't nearly as good).
I have a 18 and 19 year old and we had the baby bjorn, the maya wrap, and the one I still hold onto, the new native. I had home births back then, too, though, and baby wearing was just part of that community. It is very nice to see both home birthing and baby wearing becoming more mainstream.
My scoliosis has me in the same position lol. It’s kind of nice to see someone talking about how it impacts life and why adjustments are needed instead of just acting like it’s as inconsequential to your life as having a tattoo or a third nipple.
Your videos are my cats favorite. He tracks your hands across the screen and reacts to your head moving too! His two favorite things to watch with me are you and Critical Role!
I am an avid babywearer and I have seen A LOT of babywearing videos but this is by far the best I have ever seen! I love how comprehensive and inclusive the information is, the anatomy information is also really well explained! I hope that you enjoy wearing your beautiful son, it's a lovely bonding experience x
OMG this infant physiology lesson was AMAZING! And helpful for anyone, including pharmacists like myself who get regular face to face contact with new mums and can be a reassuring force putting minds at ease- especially when large branches of Boots and Superdrug and supermarkets sell baby carriers!
I wish this video had existed when I had my first! I remember sitting there with my tiny preemie in tears because I just could not figure out the stretchy wrap and I somehow had to get myself to the doctor down the road for bloodwork -- or later when I'd been using the narrow base carrier and freaked out because someone told me it could be damaging his hips -- or later still when I felt like I HAD to buy a foam rug because of his little knees. (He's seven now and doing great.) This video is going to help so many new parents
Wow this sling expert is an absolute expert! We used slings for 8 years with our two and didn't expect to learn new information in this video but wow, she was amazing! We went from stretchy wraps to woven wraps for heavier babies, absolutely brilliant for us.
My mum never liked the slings/carriers when she had me and my sister because she felt like we’d drop.
However that first sling you tried on looked the most secure because it fully enclosed the baby.
Also Rupert’s little cap was adorable!
As someone with EDS and scoliosis who plans on starting a family in the next few years, this (and all your parenting videos) have been so helpful! I've been spending a lot of time with my best friend and her baby and becoming increasingly more worried about all the ways my body may fail me with my own child. Your videos have helped calm my nerves. Thank you
I'm so glad you found some that are comfortable and user-friendly for you, and that you can use even as Rupert gets older, especially in the wheelchair. Yay!!
I’m now an oldie. My children are 41 and 37 and slingy types of carriers, plus a more rigid framed on for your back when baby was a bit bigger were all appearing when my babies came along. Like you Jessica I have a double scoliosis plus a whole slew of other back problems but these new items were touted to be fantastic. They weren’t. Front or back, they killed me. The time it takes to put a wrap on, solo at that, was way WAY too long form my babies who wriggled like electric eels and screamed like devils. Taking them off, same problem. They were never as accommodating as dear little Dave…or Rupert! I also found that, like when I was 7-9 months pregnant I couldn’t stand at the sink, to pour a glass or water let alone reach the taps. It was back to sideways on. Also babies as you know are so warm and squishy and mostly the same temperature as ourselves so when one pees heavily you don’t feel it…it’s all warm and delightful on your tummy area…until you take baby off, usually by this time in a group of family and friends at some lovely get together - only to find your beautiful dress is sodden from nipple to knicker level! Needless to say both husband and I gave up… and used the pushchair outside …
i love that we are learning with you aswell! you come not across as... arrogant like "i am now a mother i know everything" but you do yours and willing to learn everyday while teaching us too. its very genuine or what the word is ...english is not my language but i mean authentic
I honestly am entranced by her teaching you Jessica. I learned so much from her and truly, truly wish I had seen this before I tried to carry my grands. I have CF/ME, lupus, scoliosis, 5 damaged ribs, Raynaud’s in my hands and feet and a damaged thoracic spine plus a few more things!
I imagined she freaked out when she saw Rachel Markle carrying her “child” in Canada 🇨🇦😱😱
As someone with an autoimmune desease, this was extremely informative! I have weird pains and numbness in my back, so it was great of you to include handicapped bodies. I love this so much! Thank you!
honestly, not just the content, but i love jessica's audience too. yall are so helpful and diverse in experience
Just in time! We've a six week old and my scoliosis is pretty similar to what Jess described. Most people/carrier sellers don't think of special needs of the parents. So thank you for the info!
THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS!!!!!!
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The consultant's expertise was so cool to hear !!! This video made me excited to carry other babies around 😅😅
Lysanne explains so well how the carries can fit to you with your skloiosies.
I wore this kind of sling for a while but my tiny 5 month old was a jelly mass. Rupert is so firm and strong it's a delight to see him stand on your shoulder.
I worked in a baby store and my favourite all around was the Baby Bjorn Carrier One. It attaches to you body first, has a wide bottom, and then had really easy but secure clips to help get baby in and out. It was the easiest to teach people to use and I think to use safely. The only issue is it is definitely nit as comfortable as other carriers for some people.
It’s all about what works for each person’s body… like jeans!
@@motherruckeruk for sure! It was always the one I got people to try first and then moved up in complexity so people wouldn't get super scared by carriers, but could still find the perfect one for them :) BTW love this video and it brought back really good memories :D
My favorite carriers are Happy Baby buckle carrier (so soft, made out of linen), and a woven wrap that you tie in a similar fashion to the stretchy wrap. Woven wraps take a bit more learning but perfectly molds to wearer and baby every time. And for quick ups I use a ring sling. It doesn't feel good for a long time on my body, but just while I'm heating up food or something it's very nice.
Yes! The Happy Baby is similar to the Integra Baby. We don’t have Happy Baby in the UK 😭
It hurt my 'floppy' EDS hands just watching you work that tri lock clasp. Ouch!
I’m in love with these baby videos
I'm very short (less than 5 feet tall), and sometimes when I've been helping provide childcare for families with older infants, wearing the baby has been amazing for me because it allows me to distribute the baby's weight throughout my entire upper body so I don't over-stress any of my muscles! I've just used whatever brand the family already has, so this was a cool comparison :)
I LOVED baby wearing. My daughter lived in a wrap or a sling for two years. When she was a baby it was awesome how much work I could get done by putting her in a sling and vacuuming.
and I'm guessing the baby loved being so close to her Mama
@@KindCountsDeb3773 she really did love it. She was a colicky baby and cried whenever she wasn’t held, so baby wearing was the perfect solution for both of us. The doctor at the lactation clinic even said she recommends baby wearing for all moms, so I think it is helping people realize how great it is.
@@lauracarrier6158 Glad it worked so well for you. A colicky baby is sick and if this helps, YAY! You are a good Mama !
She is such a great communicator.
Yes, and I'm always impressed with Jessica's videos, her tutorials, the knowledge and delivery. She just nails it !
Kneecaps! That fact totally blew me away.
With my first child I didn't have the chance to try this but now with the second, this has been a terrific discovery! It does indeed distribute the baby weight in a better way. I do feel like there could be more weight on my shoulders but I might need to play with the straps more and see if that improves.I absolutely recommend this to every single parent out there!
As someone who will be embarking on the baby journey soon (hopefully), I am loving all this baby content. I hope to be able to wear my baby a lot and this seems like a great primer on the logistics of so many carriers!
Beautifully timed. Just pulled out my bab carrier today. I have already learned a couple of mistakes I made this morning!
i can’t believe i’m so interested in this stuff even though i genuinely don’t plan on having kids
Oh my god! Thank you so much for this video. I have scoliosis and I had always worried about wether I would be able to use a carrier. Honestly so graceful for your disabled mum video it is really helping my anxieties.
I wish you and your wife was on RUclips around when I had kids 25 years ago. That’s how long I have been dealing with endometriosis with kids. (Son 25, daughter 22 years old )I didn’t have anyone to get tips. I’am so glad you can help other parents with chronic illness xox
i really appreciate the explanation on why some people think slings and wraps are bad for the baby, i've been told so many times by my moms generation the same thing but i really want to do it, given the now known facts:)
Rupert's little green cap is beyond adorable x x x
currently pregnant and very happy that you have just the right content at the right time :)
Thank you for showing the different types of baby carriers. Back in the day, the carriers were very bulked
I have a carrier similar to ergobaby, that just fits my body slightly better. It is possible to cross the straps on the back in many such carriers too, which make them more comfortable.
A child development expert I know don't reccomend wearing your baby outwards at all, or at least limited. Babies uses the parents face to help process their surroundings. This is especially important in noisy or heavily visual environments, like outside or a in a mall. Strollers should also always be turned towards the handle, she insists. For parents like Jessica, who is deaf, I would think this is extra important, since baby is learning that Mama communicates mostly visually.
I've got a buckle carrier & the thought that it just might not be right for me never even entered my head! Thankyou for your fabtastic educational content. Im off to my local sling library:)
She knows a tremendous amount of information! Very impressive!
I adore the dress you are wearing with the baby carrying trainer
STRAPS ARE AMAZING! My mother used to have some when my siblings were growing up, so although I wasn't old and patient enough to learn the patterns for it, I was delighted with how it allowed EVEN me, barely 10 or 11, to carry around my baby brother! She also had a sling with crossed straps in the back and a waistband only padded at the hips that she made herself, and that one was pretty versatile and very comfortable too!
I wore my baby until she was about 2 years old or so. My go to carrier was the Baby Bjorn ones (I had a couple of different models as she grew). I'm not that tall and also would carry her bag and my work bag on public transport. I liked the structure of them and she always felt more secure in them. I would use a soft one while in the house. I never got a hang of the stretchy fabric ones. Getting the right sling is definitely trial and error but I loved wearing her when she was little. Enjoy every minute with little Rupert👶💖
I used a woven wrap and LOVED it. I could wrap my children up in the front for snuggles, and toss them on my back when I needed to get chores or some cooking done. My husband joked they were never down on the floor their first year. For the infant stage, I used a stretchy Mobi wrap. My husband preferred the Bjorn and my son in particular liked to walks with dad.
Do I have a baby or would like to have one? No. Will I watch anything Jessica uploads? Hack yeah! And I always learn something new!! Babies don’t have knee caps? What?!? So interesting!
Ah... so... I'm just leaving this info for anyone that might need it. There are some stores where you can buy a different kind of strap and buckle for anything, be it a bag or a carrier. The only thing you'd be missing is someone you can adapt it to the carrier. And there you have your buckle problem solved. I loved this video. continue the amazing work you are doing. :)
Thank you so much for this video. My youngest is 2 weeks younger than Rupert. She insists on being carried basically nonstop but is so very heavy. I’ve been struggling to find a sling that works for her, but now I’ve got more to look at.
Best thing, if you can is always to get a baby wearing consultant to bring a load to you and help you choose, just like Jessica did
What an amazing consultant! It's great to see you get all that advice with all the clever reasoning around it, the stuff about baby's bones development was great to hear and refresh for me too :)
I started babywearing when beb was 6 months old and I am pretty sorry I was not able to do it sooner (I hope for early babywearing with our expected second baby). Started with a full buckle carrier, but soon fell into the rabbit hole of woven wraps. They are beautiful and amazing. The possibilities of carries are endless and it truly fits every kind of body type and shape. In the UK you have the scotish Oscha brand really accessible, they make the most beautiful designs. After Brexit they are awfully pricey for the rest of Europe though.
We're still using wraps/slings, ring slings and carriers (czech made Jožánek and then Aloe Two made in Russia for bigger kids) interchangeably with my husband, for every purpose a different thing is convenient. Babywearing saves parents and kids lives and nerves, really, I can't recommend it enough (while the pram is useful too :) ).
Love this video! I have a disability and had a baby recently and I'm always looking to see what is the easiest carrier for me. Not easy. Thank you for the video
Jessica can make any topic interesting! I purposefully never had kids, and yet I sit here with rapt attention to this video!
We loved our Baby Bjorn. LOVED it. It was easily our favorite carrier and our very large babies were carried in it to 9 months with no difficulty.
My scoliotic, baby fever suffering ass is LOVING this content
If you wanted to try and save the pretty shell one, maybe take it to a seamstress. I know my seamstress at the dry cleaner’s cound swap out the trilock clips for regular ones and re-thread the straps to not be doubled up, all for maybe 20$ cad?
PS the cross-back fold-up one is the sort I used with my kids, and gave me the most comfortable hold with my arthritis.
My last baby is 10 now and I still don't know how I would have survived having 2 little ones just 23 months apart without a stretchy wrap. It was a sanity saver for sure!
was it as complicated to wrap as the first one? At least I thought it was, but I'm a boomer and no babies. lol
I don't have a baby, nor will I, but I found this totally engaging. The consultant was charming and had so much interesting information, Jessica, as ever, delightful, and we had a glimpse of Rupert.
I've moved away from Sussex and I'm not even trying for a baby for at least a year and I'm already planning my consultation. Great video - I have EDS and I am so grateful to have this content and learning available - thank you so much for sharing x
The classic stretchy sling seems great. Finally I understand how they work. Very informative, thank you!
I have EDS and I’m so glad you are making this so I know better advice when we have kids so I can be as active and hands on as possible
😍😍 watched this yesterday and decided I needed to find a soft sling, and surprise a friend set me one today! This was very helpful thank you. Especially Lysanne because my instructions have the extra wrap around at the end, but as a plus size I can't. It was nice to see that she also didn't do the extra wrap and that it's still okay for bab6
Just watching this video made me exhausted hahah major props, Jess, for figuring all this out, explaining it all (and having an amazing expert to share her knowledge) - I can’t imagine how much effort and energy that expended, but such valuable information! 🤍
My sister is a Postpartum Doula and she prefers using a wrap and then maybe a buckle carrier if the parent(s) are lucky enough to find one that ticks all the boxes. I've seen her wrap my niece and nephew and it seems like knowing what works best for the parent(s) body will work out the best. This was super informative and insightful thank you :)
I'm a doula and I used to work a shop selling carriers and I'm obsessed with them. My favorites are by far a stretch wrap or a ring sling, which you didn't have here and I don't think would be good for you because it puts the weight only on one side BUT for people without a curvy back who find it easy to hold a baby on their hip i think they're amazing. Some even have pockets!
We lived in our Omni 360, loved how easy it was to get on and off. When babe was really little, I used stretchy wraps, just wore them like a shirt. I had a fussy baby who needed a lot of physical contact, and wraps and carriers were real saviors on my back, which has a scoliosis as well.
I have a bad lower back and found that woven wraps and ring slings worked the best for me. I love the convenience of buckle carriers but every one I've tried hurt my back and/or shoulders after long periods, unlike woven wraps. And I'm sooo glad that someone outside the babywearing community is getting the message out about narrow-based carriers. A lot of groups I was in there were people trying to shame people who use NBCs (usually by suggesting they get another carrier).
Aw, poor Rupert! Hope the little sweety gers well real soon! On an entirely different note: Motherrucker has got to be the best business name in the history of business names!
My favorite was the boba wrap, everything else hurt my shoulders & back so much
Your guest was a very good teacher and clear explainer. Congrats on finding such a good advisor.
I love my Lenny lamb half wrap. It’s easy to adjust on my own and the perfect balance between buckle carrier’s and wraps. And it helps that it’s super pretty