I gave so many chances to people who did not deserve it in my life. And one day i was listening to a psychologist on the radio and he said that doing that would only give people the permission to go on with the abuse. They take for granted that you are allowing them to do and say what ever they want to you. And he was so right. Thank you for this video Andrew 😘💜✨️
After nearly 5 years being on my own & the last 2 & a half years going complete solitude I met someone that I finally like she likes me. No more narc BS she’s very quiet & chilled. Thought I was never going to meet anyone ever again. Give yourself space & time things do change & get better. It’s a process & you have to through it
They will never pay you back. They are not programmed with anything even remotely moral. They are hollow, shallow and live in a shadow. What a fantastic video! The light is incredible and so uplifting. Thank you Andrew ❤️
The pinnacle of indifference… I finally reached it and promised myself to post this once I hit this mountaintop, as testament to the community for the truth in your videos. I have missed out a lot of your recent material, only because I felt no need. Yet, your voice for a long period had been a solace and regulation during very difficult times. Thank you, Andrew, for your kindness, wisdom, and ceaseless energy. “And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not” John 1:5
Remember when we couldn't even fathom arriving where we enjoy being now? All the lessons and great pep talks from our dearest Andrew got us over Narc Mountain... and guess what? It didn't even take 40 years! 🥰
What’s concerning is how easy it actually is to fall in love with a narcissist. I swear, the next time someone seems literally perfect, THAT is going to be a major red flag to analyze. They’ll be exactly what you want and need. It’ll be peppered with red flags and odd vibes though. Never again. This is part of the reason I no longer drink alcohol or use any substance. It will definitely skew your perception and your gut feelings.
When there are no more chances to give, you find yourself standing at the crossroads of heartbreak and liberation. It's the moment when hope dies, but clarity is born. You finally see that every chance you gave wasn’t for them to change-it was for you to convince yourself they could. And now, there’s nothing left to give except the gift of freedom to yourself.
I seen a big ask Bright red Cardinal 🐦🔥 today right before I pulled out my driveway in Chicagoland in January temperatures at 10° f. Probably 0° with the wind chill. No bull 💩. A jaw dropper. 🙏😇🎯💯
This is where I am at At age 78, I decided last night not to unblock my 47- year old daughter ever. Not to act as my Mother role further. Forgive her Ask for her forgiveness for her litany of childhood complaints. Refrain from hopes for her. Just STOP. The repetitive litany of assaults, accusations, and insults just Kees insanely repeating unexpectedly. I really can but expect she will not revert to these very hurtful behaviors.
My 42 year old son just got blocked too.He also had a litany of complaints. But his father who brainwashed him is not someone in his life anymore. Then, my mother passes and my finances improve and all of a sudden the calls come flooding in. It's devastating.
most of the times the mother who makes these complaints about kid is the NARC, KIDS do not hate parents for no reason, and ususally when they do, massive abuse went on, that's a fact.
I came dangerously close to losing my house because of giving chances. My unsolicited advice would be if you aren’t getting as much as you give out of any given situation, you are fighting a losing battle and the sooner you can extricate yourself from that situation, the better. Absolutely nothing wrong with rational self-interest 👍🙂
I to end up in the same situation I got a settlement from my X so a old friend want to help and show me how he was a good guy the after taking my house apart and kinda put it back together I was without a kitchen for 2 years so I ended up with a neck surgery then he changed over night 3 month things got bad so I told him to get out ....then he put a lean on my house he wasn't entitled to any of it because it was a settlement he still went to court to try at same time I ended up with a second surgery I still have my house but I'm struggling
I totally agree!! I've also given far too many chances! Hoping ,time after time ,he would improve after a break from him. I'm now putting myself first, I'm exhausted with this.
A good practice for healing is exiting a situation without saying a word . Try it sometime you don't feel comfortable with someone . E.G in a restaurant with a narcissist who thinks they can be passive aggressive and you wont call them out because you wont want it to turn into a scene . Don't say a word but let your body and expression do the talking . get up and walk . A narcissist will never do or say a thing because it will draw attention to them as a person being abandoned , not worthy. A true friend will be more concerned about what they have done to make you walk off .
Settling into making yourself the priority is a challenge, but Im getting better & better at it with each passing minute. Im finally beginning to understand the exquisite glory in finding ME again. Still working at not feeling guilty tho. ❤
Thank you Andrew ❤ It's been a particularly challenging week. I saw him, we started chatting, he tried to hoover me again.... I've done it in the past, giving him chances, one time after another. I can't do this anymore, my emotions have been churned up again. Its time for me to give MYSELF A CHANCE instead!!
This video spoke very much to me. I was thisclose today to breaking my own no contact with my narc adult son to accept blame (for what I don’t know) and accept whatever breadcrumbs he’d throw my way knowing it’s destroying me and would continue to do so. You’ve given me the strength to hold on to my ground again. I hope I can continue. ❤ from California.
I loved the use of the sunlight in this one! Very beautiful, and as you were saying it, i was in an oversized hoodie, under a fuzzy blanky, with a lapdesk, holding a journal, enjoying the peace. Good luck on your journey, Everyone - this channel has been critical in mine. 🙏💙❣️
One of the narcs I used to know would apologize when I would call them out on their narc abuse, but after apologizing to me the narc would continue with the abuse. This happened over and over again. So one of the last times the narc apologized to me (a few days before I left), the narc said they had apologized to me and so what else do I want them to do and why won't I accept their apology, and they were angry at me because I didn't accept the apology. I told the narc that they had apologized to me many many times before but they never change their behavior, so I do not accept their apology because it's not sincere. The narc had no response to that.
Your videos... word for word; thank you so much -- sometimes I feel like I will never heal, but one step back, two steps forward, better than no forward at all. I think I can actually do no contact now. It was weird today... just suddenly, I had the strength to actually do it.
🎯💯. They don't know the whole story. Which puts them at a disadvantage. No more shots to give. The truth is the truth. This is also why you should always document everything.
Andrew does a very nice job of explaining these issues. I think that he is putting a lot of psychologists out of business " How does that make you feel"? The bill is in the mail!!😅
Thank you Andrew. A lovely "good morning" message with another beautiful glorious view of the Carolinas, this time an awesome sunrise. We are in the "sunrise" part of our lives becaue of our awareness, that is an experience of truth, and God is the Truth and the Life, we are new to life and Life.
" When there are no more chances to give " The day cognitive dissonance dies. The day you take your first full breath of fresh air. The days afterwards your windfall of funds from not paying for future faking with expensive dine out and take out. The day you learn a little run to the store, a "local" work trip...are fifty miles away, then feed the beast on way back. btw....always always mid to top shelf. The day you realize no one is good enough. The day you learn the narcs serial personality disorder mens rea. The day you realize you have been played, admit it and learn from it. The several years later on you smile knowing you stuck to your new knowledge. The day you are missing nothing....but chaos. The day you wonder....just what was i then and figure out how you got there. Success. Peace brothers and sisters.
Hi Cowboy.. it is a process for sure! Glad you came upon this channel & you know I had to stop by to say hi. Nice seeing you & continue to take good care 👍🙏💥❤ 🌈🎀😘
"They were trying to get you to pay their rent/their way through life." Andrew, everything you say is descriptive, including things that I thought might be a stretch: multiple smart phones, the love of one thing more than her money...your money, the need to feed off your energy and destroy your aspirations, determination to be seen as victim or hero, never accountable, and immense secretiveness, exploitation, extortion, abuse, and coercive control. "Once you see it (years ago) you can't un-see it." THANK YOU FOR ALL THE DOSES OF REALITY. I need to know how they think. "Stop giving chances. Stop believing people will change." Hurts so good.
I never felt at peace throughout the relationship. Now I can honestly say I have peace! Not worrying anything about them. I had so much love to give, but it’s their loss. I have a wonderful relationship with my grown children. I am very cautious now that I have been in that horrible marriage. Thank you Andrew, your videos make me feel so much better!❤️🙏🏻✨
Only now, after being divorced from my ex-narc for 3 years, do I realize the tremendous damage he has done to me over the 10 years plus minus that I was with him. I left with my 1 and a half year old son which will shortly turn 5. I have been raising him alone from the start. My ex-narc almost ruined my life. He told me on 2 seperate occasions I don't deserve love.....he almost destroyed my entire soul, left it for dead in the sun to rot like a curled up raisin..... take care, thanks for the video xxx
Thank you so much for all your wisdom. I just recently got out of a 6-year narcissistic relationship. I wish I could block/delete him but unfortunately I can't. I have a 1-year-old son with him so that means I will be stuck dealing with him for another 17 years. But watching your videos really helps understand more of what I dealt with & how to avoid being manipulated again. & most importantly how to say NO! I'm getting stronger & stronger everyday. My light is returning. I actually haven't felt this happy in a very long time.
It's lovely to see your beaming smile at the end of your videos, Andrew. 💖 I always enjoy watching the squirrels scurrying on the steps behind you. 🐿️ Another great message! The more I focus on my inner peace, the easier it gets to deflect the drama and chaos. My daily routine consists of yoga, meditation, walking for miles, reading, and listening to channels like this. I feel soooooooo much better (almost like the 'old self' that felt like a memory last year). Much love! 🙏💖💫
I'm going to yoga this Friday (I've read it's good for parts of the brain trauma effected) I'm wearing my narcissistic abuse survivor t-shirt (so anyone in the town who's heard the smear, or seen the unconsented photo's of me can know what's what without me speaking) narcissistic abuse (any abuse) has a way of making you feel undeserved of good, if you feel that way please fight against it so no self sabotage of good happens WE ARE MORE THAN DESERVING OF GOOD IN OUR LIFES (especially after what's happened to us) 😗💖💙
The examples you gave , like what happens in the family are formulas for abuse. You are correct , the old bs does not apply any more. esp when dealing with these demons knows as narcs. great info keeping us all safe Thanks
The Hoover just came in for the 2nd time. My phone was blowing up after 3 months late at night. She will never hear my voice again. Thanks Andrew❤️🔥 South Carolina in the building👋🏻
When they're out...they're out....enough means ENOUGH! Being kind is something I had to learn to take a back seat to my well being. One of the hardest rearrangements I had to face in my healing journey, but its a must! Be Well, Be Wise, 🌈🎀😘
I have found my inner light now! Thank you for guiding me to it! Your words are the truth! I have given chances after chances. I gave up a happy home, relocated hundreds of miles, started all over again in a new provinces with someone that lied over and over again. It wasn’t until he destroyed my relationship with my family, imploded my job, and threatened my life, and put me in a place where I was now afraid he would come after my family, that the chances ran out! No more chances to give! I went no contact, the court order was suppose to help me there, but it didn’t. Now I have gone into hiding and living my life as a new bright shining light! Thank you, Andrew for helping me get here! ❣️❤️❣️
Back in 2017, my cheating wife was living in an apartment with her boyfriend. I called her on our 25th wedding anniversary to invite her to dinner at her favorite restaurant. She just raged at me for half an hour about what a horrible husband she thought I was. (I’m actually an empath.) After the phone call, I took off my wedding ring and called a divorce attorney. Enough is enough… I was done with her crazy narcissism. Now she is 51 years old: alone, struggling, depressed, bitter, looks fading, etc. She threw away a perfectly good man… me! She has tried a few Hoovers over the year… but I’m smart enough to know: Don’t ever fall for a Hoover!
Wow, man.. I can relate. It sounds like you are much better off though. It’s amazing how these people turn on a dime and are willing to throw away truly good men. Men like us are always what women claim to want, but women don’t seem to actually want good men. If they do, it’s temporary. It sounds like you did everything right to me. My ex wife of 14 years is living in her parents attic, broke and depressed. She thought it wasn’t immoral if she let me know she was going to go cheat on me, then she demanded an open relationship.. but only her. I wasn’t allowed to be with anyone else, but she was. She also wanted to live alone and have me pay for it and stay married. So she wanted To be single while I was married, get a free ride and continue to use me for the rest of my life, while she simultaneously ditches any responsibility for being a wife and a mother. Narcissists are outright crazy people. I obviously forced her to sign divorce papers but it took almost a year to get her to sign.
@michaelmorrison6540 Man alive! You really couldn't, (and certainly wouldn't), make this stuff up.! I know that opposites, (allegedly), attract. Is it only in humans that this happens for such a destructive outcome? I would say, 'At least you know', but these words are so futile in such a desperate situation. Shine bright, keep on marchin'!!!! XXX
@@michaelmorrison6540 I keep hearing that my Covert Narcissist Ex-Wife of 8.5 years will do the same thing down the road regarding " Hoovering ". However, I am having a hard time in believing that she will. She is living in San Diego with her New Supply that she was having an affair with behind my back. I live in Fort Worth Texas. It's been 14 months since the Discard, and she left Texas in mid November 2024 to be with him .
Thank you Andrew , your daily messages have got alot of us through the emotional turmoil! and it so sad there are shallow people who go around hurting the vulnerable all for a quick ride ... I'll never fall prey to a narcissist ever again and know what behaviors to look out for now ... us empaths are just so pure, we believe we can never get hurt , or our love is enough to fix the broken but in the end we are left empty and confused ! Never again 🤕
Good Morning Andrew,, from.France🌟🌟🌟🇫🇷🦋🙏💜I shared this vedio with my French husband!! Because ,, He has always had my Best interest!! And He is Full of BRIGHT LIGHT🌟🌟🌞WE have no fear!! In what we are faced with,,, meaning a Narc/ sister,,, who feels & believes she is intitled to EVERYTHING,,, since I found out my own Mother died!! Her bright shining light is upon me too!! Thank you Andrew for your daily support🙏💜🇫🇷HAVE a fanastic day with Noah & Nelson🐶🐶
Andrew you and this channel is the Truth . Iam so Grateful for your WISDOM, You are speaking my language and each video has been a true blessing. Thank you light, love be with you always.🙏❤️
Andrew, you speak my language. I am so hurt and messed up and been messed with. Someone who was really my best friend died a year ago, we did have problems but now, I can’t find a friend in the world.
I visted my mother for the first time after 6 months why because my head is getting clearer and i suddenly have chance many many more, my alcohol intake is now down to 20%, I no longer keep late nights only if i have to, I basically do the things that serves me, Now I will never give a narcissist or any narcissist a single chance once detected, This move is more than life saving but also changing if this teachings from narc can work in western Africa 🌍 then people are all the same and this people are everywhere
allways makes me smile when you say bye everybody lol but everythink you say is true my life with my narcisist was super high super low i never knew myself anymore i acted out of character was blamed for everything it was a horrible 5 years so glad i walked away thank you andrew you changed my life
That’s what happened with narcissist sibling, kept getting burned over and over again, this has been going on since childhood. He won’t change, and he hates me, really mean, and uses all the tools, especially gaslighting, blame shifting, lies, devaluing. I finally said “no more” and have been no contact. I don’t know why I’m expected to endure a lifetime of this in other’s eyes, but that has been the outcome; the smear campaign has been brutal. I used to care about him, even through all the abuse, and now, I don’t have any loving feelings for him or care ever to see him again. When the last straw breaks, you know it.
Aging narcissistic siblings do become dangerous. It is abuse. We do have to break free of them for the rest of our lives. Continue to untie the relationship knot. Best wishes.
Can really relate to this,as same here with my brother no one except maybe you could understand what l have been through for decades, the final straw came at Christmas, with nasty passive aggressive words, l said nothing at the time, but at that moment l knew l was done. He is so self-absorbed he doesn;t realize it yet.......
@@amandaroberts5111 I’m sorry, I do understand. The last time I saw my brother he raged at me in public and I had done nothing wrong. I knew in that moment I could not take anymore. Same, decades of abuse that has never stopped. He has smeared me to everyone with lies as punishment for standing up for myself and saying “no more.” I have lost a lot of people, including my niece. But, I’m learning I need to have my own back always in life, and we have endured enough to know it won’t change; they don’t change, and they won’t let you out of the scapegoat role. Read the other comment from Kathleen, has good insight too. 💜✨🤗
Commitment should be to make yourself value your own self-worth. Those's people who do not treat you with respect & honesty are not worth your time or energy 💯 Years back, growing up with a narcissistic mother & sister. Everything was what happened behind closed doors, stays behind closed doors. I didn't have a voice because that's what I thought was normal, as my mother told me as a young child. Children are seen not heard. That's how it was for me. Nothing could be further from the truth. Believe in yourself & you can make your own choices & decisions. Don't let anyone take away your beautiful soul ♥️ ✨️
I feel for you and sorry you had to live in that environment while being a child and learning about the outside world too; I was in a similar childhood, with narcissist mother and her narcissist golden son. We are healing, I didn’t think it was possible until this education and community thanks to Andrew. 💜✨
Some corrupt a day, others a week, months-years-decades many more... It's those that corrupt your eternity by changing you into one of them are the ones to ditch and never look back. These relationships corrupt the very SOUL
I’ve come to know a lot of what happened to me! I never felt peace all through that relationship. Now I feel peace and I don’t have to deal with my ex or a friend I had for 20 years. I am very cautious now with people! Thank you Andrew! You always make me feel so much better! I know I lost a lot of years that didn’t go the way I thought they would. I had so much love to give, but that’s their loss! Thankful of my wonderful grown children! 🙏🏻❤️✨
I look at the narc ex as 'The Bride of Satan' nowadays...!! And I have a mental image of him, bags packed, sitting outside The Pearly Gates, sobbing, begging to be let in...!!! It makes me chuckle, softens the harsh reality, and gives me hope. Don't forget, sometimes, laughter is the best medicine.... And love, of course. Shine bright, love to all XXX
I gave so many chances to people who did not deserve it in my life. And one day i was listening to a psychologist on the radio and he said that doing that would only give people the permission to go on with the abuse. They take for granted that you are allowing them to do and say what ever they want to you. And he was so right. Thank you for this video Andrew 😘💜✨️
Welcome..😌😌💜🙏
After nearly 5 years being on my own & the last 2 & a half years going complete solitude I met someone that I finally like she likes me. No more narc BS she’s very quiet & chilled. Thought I was never going to meet anyone ever again. Give yourself space & time things do change & get better. It’s a process & you have to through it
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The more chances you give, the less they think of you.
Love the positive energy around you. ☀️🌳 Byeeee Andrew, lol. 😉😁💜✨️
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As always Andrew, your message speaks to my core. Pls don't stop sharing your wisdom . Namaste
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Enpower me to stay calm and keep going
They will never pay you back. They are not programmed with anything even remotely moral. They are hollow, shallow and live in a shadow.
What a fantastic video! The light is incredible and so uplifting. Thank you Andrew ❤️
The pinnacle of indifference…
I finally reached it and promised myself to post this once I hit this mountaintop,
as testament to the community for the truth in your videos.
I have missed out a lot of your recent material, only because I felt no need.
Yet, your voice for a long period had been a solace and regulation during very difficult times.
Thank you, Andrew, for your kindness, wisdom, and ceaseless energy.
“And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not”
John 1:5
Beautiful message of healing and growth..😌💜🙏⛰️✨☀️
Happy for you, blessings 💪💥🙏❤
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Congratulations!
I understand you're no need to stay I feel the same way but I stay to pray for those who are struggling
Remember when we couldn't even fathom arriving where we enjoy being now? All the lessons and great pep talks from our dearest Andrew got us over Narc Mountain... and guess what? It didn't even take 40 years! 🥰
What’s concerning is how easy it actually is to fall in love with a narcissist. I swear, the next time someone seems literally perfect, THAT is going to be a major red flag to analyze. They’ll be exactly what you want and need. It’ll be peppered with red flags and odd vibes though. Never again. This is part of the reason I no longer drink alcohol or use any substance. It will definitely skew your perception and your gut feelings.
NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE EVIL HEARTED
When there are no more Fs to give !
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Yep you got that right 💯🛡️
I said that for emphasis as well. 🔥❤
When there are no more chances to give, you find yourself standing at the crossroads of heartbreak and liberation. It's the moment when hope dies, but clarity is born. You finally see that every chance you gave wasn’t for them to change-it was for you to convince yourself they could. And now, there’s nothing left to give except the gift of freedom to yourself.
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Yes James...heartbreak & liberation,
nailed it again friend 👍💥🙏❤
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Beautifully said ❤
I seen a big ask Bright red Cardinal 🐦🔥 today right before I pulled out my driveway in Chicagoland in January temperatures at 10° f. Probably 0° with the wind chill. No bull 💩. A jaw dropper. 🙏😇🎯💯
Perfectly said!!
Thanks, Andrew. Encouraging and calming as usual. Namaste.💐
Narcissists are definitely everywhere!! Thank you Andrew!!! ❤🎉😊
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Yes sir appreciate your consistency ❤
Welcome..💜😌⛰️🙏
This is where I am at
At age 78, I decided last night not to unblock my 47- year old daughter ever.
Not to act as my Mother role further.
Forgive her
Ask for her forgiveness for her litany of childhood complaints.
Refrain from hopes for her.
Just STOP.
The repetitive litany of assaults, accusations, and insults just Kees insanely repeating unexpectedly.
I really can but expect she will not revert to these very hurtful behaviors.
My 42 year old son just got blocked too.He also had a litany of complaints. But his father who brainwashed him is not someone in his life anymore. Then, my mother passes and my finances improve and all of a sudden the calls come flooding in. It's devastating.
I’m RIGHT where you are with 2 of my daughters. Will NEVER. Unblock. NO MORE CHANCES TO GIVE. None. 🙏
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You can do it! I'm in the same boat
most of the times the mother who makes these complaints about kid is the NARC, KIDS do not hate parents for no reason, and ususally when they do, massive abuse went on, that's a fact.
Thank you for the reminder, Andrew. I am that bright, beautiful abundance of light. Worked so hard to be where I'm at 2 years later. No more chances!!
Ouah ! Thank you for reminding me that toxicity is everywhere.
I'm 62. Need to find a job, to make money so that I can recover my sovereignty.
I came dangerously close to losing my house because of giving chances. My unsolicited advice would be if you aren’t getting as much as you give out of any given situation, you are fighting a losing battle and the sooner you can extricate yourself from that situation, the better. Absolutely nothing wrong with rational self-interest 👍🙂
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Good for you. I relinquished the house to him.❤️
Me too
I to end up in the same situation I got a settlement from my X so a old friend want to help and show me how he was a good guy the after taking my house apart and kinda put it back together I was without a kitchen for 2 years so I ended up with a neck surgery then he changed over night 3 month things got bad so I told him to get out ....then he put a lean on my house he wasn't entitled to any of it because it was a settlement he still went to court to try at same time I ended up with a second surgery I still have my house but I'm struggling
I totally agree!!
I've also given far too many chances!
Hoping ,time after time ,he would improve after a break from him.
I'm now putting myself first, I'm exhausted with this.
A good practice for healing is exiting a situation without saying a word . Try it sometime you don't feel comfortable with someone . E.G in a restaurant with a narcissist who thinks they can be passive aggressive and you wont call them out because you wont want it to turn into a scene . Don't say a word but let your body and expression do the talking . get up and walk . A narcissist will never do or say a thing because it will draw attention to them as a person being abandoned , not worthy. A true friend will be more concerned about what they have done to make you walk off .
This is so beautiful and helpful. So much fun not to give them the sustanence of "that word." Courage, guys. Let's end this cycle.
Settling into making yourself the priority is a challenge, but Im getting better & better at it with each passing minute. Im finally beginning to understand the exquisite glory in finding ME again. Still working at not feeling guilty tho. ❤
Thank you Andrew ❤
It's been a particularly challenging week.
I saw him, we started chatting, he tried to hoover me again....
I've done it in the past, giving him chances, one time after another.
I can't do this anymore, my emotions have been churned up again. Its time for me to give MYSELF A CHANCE instead!!
I get a different lightbulb moment from every one of your videos. A different piece of the puzzle emerges.
Once was enough ❤🎉😊. Actions speak more louder than words. Beautiful sunshine behind you. Reflects on you and your teaching ❤
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This video spoke very much to me. I was thisclose today to breaking my own no contact with my narc adult son to accept blame (for what I don’t know) and accept whatever breadcrumbs he’d throw my way knowing it’s destroying me and would continue to do so. You’ve given me the strength to hold on to my ground again. I hope I can continue. ❤ from California.
I loved the use of the sunlight in this one! Very beautiful, and as you were saying it, i was in an oversized hoodie, under a fuzzy blanky, with a lapdesk, holding a journal, enjoying the peace. Good luck on your journey, Everyone - this channel has been critical in mine. 🙏💙❣️
One of the narcs I used to know would apologize when I would call them out on their narc abuse, but after apologizing to me the narc would continue with the abuse. This happened over and over again. So one of the last times the narc apologized to me (a few days before I left), the narc said they had apologized to me and so what else do I want them to do and why won't I accept their apology, and they were angry at me because I didn't accept the apology. I told the narc that they had apologized to me many many times before but they never change their behavior, so I do not accept their apology because it's not sincere. The narc had no response to that.
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I learned that the hard way, I keep thinking the person would change, the change did not happen. I've got to keep my mug full. Thank you, Andrew☺
Your videos... word for word; thank you so much -- sometimes I feel like I will never heal, but one step back, two steps forward, better than no forward at all. I think I can actually do no contact now. It was weird today... just suddenly, I had the strength to actually do it.
Welcome..💜⛰️✨
🎯💯. They don't know the whole story. Which puts them at a disadvantage. No more shots to give. The truth is the truth. This is also why you should always document everything.
Hay Andrew ❤ I hope you’re doing well. From London uk 🇬🇧 you have helped me on my journey and I’m truly grateful to you. God bless you 🙏
Welcome..😌💜☀️✨⛰️🇬🇧😊
Andrew does a very nice job of explaining these issues. I think that he is putting a lot of psychologists out of business " How does that make you feel"? The bill is in the mail!!😅
Thank you Andrew. A lovely "good morning" message with another beautiful glorious view of the Carolinas, this time an awesome sunrise. We are in the "sunrise" part of our lives becaue of our awareness, that is an experience of truth, and God is the Truth and the Life, we are new to life and Life.
We appreciate your daily effort, Andrew, you're a blessing to us all, I know. 💜
Correct!
Love the LIGHT enveloping your vision, Andrew! 💫💫💫💫💫
Good One Andrew and TY
" When there are no more chances to give " The day cognitive dissonance dies. The day you take your first full breath of fresh air. The days afterwards your windfall of funds from not paying for future faking with expensive dine out and take out. The day you learn a little run to the store, a "local" work trip...are fifty miles away, then feed the beast on way back. btw....always always mid to top shelf. The day you realize no one is good enough. The day you learn the narcs serial personality disorder mens rea. The day you realize you have been played, admit it and learn from it. The several years later on you smile knowing you stuck to your new knowledge. The day you are missing nothing....but chaos. The day you wonder....just what was i then and figure out how you got there. Success. Peace brothers and sisters.
Love this video today Andrew. Thank you for the message. ❤🙏🏻
Today I am 421 Days out from my day of the Discard!
It's a Miracle that I am here 🙏
Hi Cowboy.. it is a process for sure! Glad you came upon this channel & you know I had to stop by to say hi. Nice seeing you & continue to take good care 👍🙏💥❤
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@marieeakin8534 So glad to hear from you 😊
"They were trying to get you to pay their rent/their way through life."
Andrew, everything you say is descriptive, including things that I thought might be a stretch: multiple smart phones, the love of one thing more than her money...your money, the need to feed off your energy and destroy your aspirations, determination to be seen as victim or hero, never accountable, and immense secretiveness, exploitation, extortion, abuse, and coercive control. "Once you see it (years ago) you can't un-see it."
THANK YOU FOR ALL THE DOSES OF REALITY. I need to know how they think.
"Stop giving chances. Stop believing people will change." Hurts so good.
The bright shining light is behind you, shining on ALL of us ✨️ 💛 ☀️🕯
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YES INDEED!!! 🌞🌞🌞
GOD GIVES GRACE TO THE HUMBLE AND CONFUSION TO THE WISE
@@JamieLynnMorris Indeed!👍😃
I really needed to hear this right now. 🙏😇
Fantastic message! No more chances.....we owe it to ourselves now to shine......thank you Andrew....God bless you too!
Hey Andrew and friends! LOVE that sun shining behind you, Andrew! 🙌🙌☺️☀️🏔️🌲🫂❤️💜
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If it's not about Love, then it's about something else. The only thing that matters is to Love and Be Loved. Peace
I never felt at peace throughout the relationship. Now I can honestly say I have peace! Not worrying anything about them. I had so much love to give, but it’s their loss. I have a wonderful relationship with my grown children. I am very cautious now that I have been in that horrible marriage. Thank you Andrew, your videos make me feel so much better!❤️🙏🏻✨
Only now, after being divorced from my ex-narc for 3 years, do I realize the tremendous damage he has done to me over the 10 years plus minus that I was with him. I left with my 1 and a half year old son which will shortly turn 5. I have been raising him alone from the start. My ex-narc almost ruined my life. He told me on 2 seperate occasions I don't deserve love.....he almost destroyed my entire soul, left it for dead in the sun to rot like a curled up raisin..... take care, thanks for the video xxx
Thank you so much for all your wisdom. I just recently got out of a 6-year narcissistic relationship. I wish I could block/delete him but unfortunately I can't. I have a 1-year-old son with him so that means I will be stuck dealing with him for another 17 years. But watching your videos really helps understand more of what I dealt with & how to avoid being manipulated again. & most importantly how to say NO! I'm getting stronger & stronger everyday. My light is returning. I actually haven't felt this happy in a very long time.
I actually told him No yesterday & it felt so freaking good!
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It's lovely to see your beaming smile at the end of your videos, Andrew. 💖 I always enjoy watching the squirrels scurrying on the steps behind you. 🐿️ Another great message! The more I focus on my inner peace, the easier it gets to deflect the drama and chaos. My daily routine consists of yoga, meditation, walking for miles, reading, and listening to channels like this. I feel soooooooo much better (almost like the 'old self' that felt like a memory last year). Much love! 🙏💖💫
Thank you Andrew… this video was so encouraging… needed the realism coupled with positivity and motivation… you’re appreciated 💝🙏🏽
I'm going to yoga this Friday (I've read it's good for parts of the brain trauma effected) I'm wearing my narcissistic abuse survivor t-shirt (so anyone in the town who's heard the smear, or seen the unconsented photo's of me can know what's what without me speaking) narcissistic abuse (any abuse) has a way of making you feel undeserved of good, if you feel that way please fight against it so no self sabotage of good happens WE ARE MORE THAN DESERVING OF GOOD IN OUR LIFES (especially after what's happened to us) 😗💖💙
don’t forget you are a bright shining light andrew ❤😊
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Excellent Video 🙏 Namaste 🙏
The examples you gave , like what happens in the family are formulas for abuse. You are correct , the old bs does not apply any more. esp when dealing with these demons knows as narcs. great info keeping us all safe Thanks
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Give them an inch they'll want a mile if you let them. Knowledge is power! Thank you Andrew! ❤
And when there's also no more F's to give, (the pinnacle if indifference), it helps with no more chances 🤗.
Brilliant work andrew
The Hoover just came in for the 2nd time. My phone was blowing up after 3 months late at night. She will never hear my voice again. Thanks Andrew❤️🔥 South Carolina in the building👋🏻
When they're out...they're out....enough means ENOUGH! Being kind is something I had to learn to take a back seat to my well being. One of the hardest rearrangements I had to face in my healing journey, but its a must!
Be Well, Be Wise, 🌈🎀😘
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Boom! ❤
@@marieeakin8534 Good advice 💡! 💜
👍👍👍👍👍💪💪💪💪💪💪👉 You!
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Thanks Joe Joe 👍☕☕😉
I have found my inner light now! Thank you for guiding me to it! Your words are the truth! I have given chances after chances. I gave up a happy home, relocated hundreds of miles, started all over again in a new provinces with someone that lied over and over again. It wasn’t until he destroyed my relationship with my family, imploded my job, and threatened my life, and put me in a place where I was now afraid he would come after my family, that the chances ran out! No more chances to give! I went no contact, the court order was suppose to help me there, but it didn’t. Now I have gone into hiding and living my life as a new bright shining light! Thank you, Andrew for helping me get here!
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Beautiful sunset
Back in 2017, my cheating wife was living in an apartment with her boyfriend. I called her on our 25th wedding anniversary to invite her to dinner at her favorite restaurant. She just raged at me for half an hour about what a horrible husband she thought I was. (I’m actually an empath.) After the phone call, I took off my wedding ring and called a divorce attorney. Enough is enough… I was done with her crazy narcissism. Now she is 51 years old: alone, struggling, depressed, bitter, looks fading, etc. She threw away a perfectly good man… me! She has tried a few Hoovers over the year… but I’m smart enough to know: Don’t ever fall for a Hoover!
Good for you. Stay strong.
Wow, man.. I can relate. It sounds like you are much better off though. It’s amazing how these people turn on a dime and are willing to throw away truly good men. Men like us are always what women claim to want, but women don’t seem to actually want good men. If they do, it’s temporary. It sounds like you did everything right to me. My ex wife of 14 years is living in her parents attic, broke and depressed. She thought it wasn’t immoral if she let me know she was going to go cheat on me, then she demanded an open relationship.. but only her. I wasn’t allowed to be with anyone else, but she was. She also wanted to live alone and have me pay for it and stay married. So she wanted
To be single while I was married, get a free ride and continue to use me for the rest of my life, while she simultaneously ditches any responsibility for being a wife and a mother. Narcissists are outright crazy people. I obviously forced her to sign divorce papers but it took almost a year to get her to sign.
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Man alive! You really couldn't, (and certainly wouldn't), make this stuff up.!
I know that opposites, (allegedly), attract. Is it only in humans that this happens for such a destructive outcome?
I would say, 'At least you know', but these words are so futile in such a desperate situation.
Shine bright, keep on marchin'!!!! XXX
@@AndrewKimmons I want to have a good man but I am unfortunately married to a narcissistic husband, I agree, they are crazy.
@@michaelmorrison6540 I keep hearing that my Covert Narcissist Ex-Wife of 8.5 years will do the same thing down the road regarding " Hoovering ". However, I am having a hard time in believing that she will. She is living in San Diego with her New Supply that she was having an affair with behind my back. I live in Fort Worth Texas. It's been 14 months since the Discard, and she left Texas in mid November 2024 to be with him .
Thank you Andrew , your daily messages have got alot of us through the emotional turmoil! and it so sad there are shallow people who go around hurting the vulnerable all for a quick ride ... I'll never fall prey to a narcissist ever again and know what behaviors to look out for now ... us empaths are just so pure, we believe we can never get hurt , or our love is enough to fix the broken but in the end we are left empty and confused ! Never again 🤕
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Good Morning Andrew,, from.France🌟🌟🌟🇫🇷🦋🙏💜I shared this vedio with my French husband!! Because ,, He has always had my Best interest!! And He is Full of BRIGHT LIGHT🌟🌟🌞WE have no fear!! In what we are faced with,,, meaning a Narc/ sister,,, who feels & believes she is intitled to EVERYTHING,,, since I found out my own Mother died!! Her bright shining light is upon me too!! Thank you Andrew for your daily support🙏💜🇫🇷HAVE a fanastic day with Noah & Nelson🐶🐶
Andrew you and this channel is the Truth .
Iam so Grateful for your WISDOM,
You are speaking my language and each video has been a true blessing. Thank you light, love be with you always.🙏❤️
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*They* are not genuinely interested but more often are deceptive with their intentions(!).
The relationship becomes more transactional.
After 20+ years of marriage to a narcissist i was robbed of 3 out of 4 of my children. Its called parental alienation. I gave too many chances 😢
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Amen 🙏🏼
Thank you Andrew 🫶🏼
Sooo much love ,for you💗💕💕💕💕💕
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❤ A new educated you .... A new chain breaking generation 🙌🏽💎⛰️☕️🐶🐶🥰
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We really appreciate you Andrew. Thank you so much.
Andrew, you speak my language. I am so hurt and messed up and been messed with. Someone who was really my best friend died a year ago, we did have problems but now, I can’t find a friend in the world.
I’m people pleaser
I like doing things for everyone
No more F's to give (pardon the emphasis but necessary at times) 🙏🏼
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So true andrew🎉 god bless you
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Awe thank you for this video Andrew 🎉
Thanks Andrew!
Thank you Andrew. Namaste 🙏💖🕉️
No more chances to give🎉🎉🎉🎉
Neato video. 😊
I visted my mother for the first time after 6 months why because my head is getting clearer and i suddenly have chance many many more, my alcohol intake is now down to 20%, I no longer keep late nights only if i have to, I basically do the things that serves me, Now I will never give a narcissist or any narcissist a single chance once detected, This move is more than life saving but also changing if this teachings from narc can work in western Africa 🌍 then people are all the same and this people are everywhere
Thanks Andrew and have a good Day 🙂👍
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allways makes me smile when you say bye everybody lol but everythink you say is true my life with my narcisist was super high super low i never knew myself anymore i acted out of character was blamed for everything it was a horrible 5 years so glad i walked away thank you andrew you changed my life
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Beautifully explained!!!! ❤
I TRULY L❤VES WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS,,,TRUE,,,,EVERYTHING YOUR SAYING IS SO TRUE.THANK GOD FOR THE LIGHT,,,🙏🏾
Thank you andrew,bless you all ❤
Thank you so much Andrew! Love to you and community ❤️ 🙏
Great video/info thank you brother 🙏💖
🙏🏻❤️. from Montana here 🙋🏼♀️
😊😊😊🎉❤Thank you!
Oceans of blessings y'all ❤❤❤❤❤
This is how I feel about college it took me 8 yrs to get my 2 yr associates degree
That was powerful and so insightful im completely stunned by your wisdom 🙂
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i leavened not everyone has the same heart ❤
That’s what happened with narcissist sibling, kept getting burned over and over again, this has been going on since childhood. He won’t change, and he hates me, really mean, and uses all the tools, especially gaslighting, blame shifting, lies, devaluing. I finally said “no more” and have been no contact. I don’t know why I’m expected to endure a lifetime of this in other’s eyes, but that has been the outcome; the smear campaign has been brutal. I used to care about him, even through all the abuse, and now, I don’t have any loving feelings for him or care ever to see him again. When the last straw breaks, you know it.
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Aging narcissistic siblings do become dangerous. It is abuse. We do have to break free of them for the rest of our lives. Continue to untie the relationship knot. Best wishes.
@ thank you, this helps for validation, and I agree. Best wishes to you too.
Can really relate to this,as same here with my brother no one except maybe you could understand what l have been through for decades, the final straw came at Christmas, with nasty passive aggressive words, l said nothing at the time, but at that moment l knew l was done. He is so self-absorbed he doesn;t realize it yet.......
@@amandaroberts5111 I’m sorry, I do understand. The last time I saw my brother he raged at me in public and I had done nothing wrong. I knew in that moment I could not take anymore. Same, decades of abuse that has never stopped. He has smeared me to everyone with lies as punishment for standing up for myself and saying “no more.” I have lost a lot of people, including my niece. But, I’m learning I need to have my own back always in life, and we have endured enough to know it won’t change; they don’t change, and they won’t let you out of the scapegoat role. Read the other comment from Kathleen, has good insight too. 💜✨🤗
Commitment should be to make yourself value your own self-worth. Those's people who do not treat you with respect & honesty are not worth your time or energy 💯 Years back, growing up with a narcissistic mother & sister. Everything was what happened behind closed doors, stays behind closed doors. I didn't have a voice because that's what I thought was normal, as my mother told me as a young child. Children are seen not heard. That's how it was for me. Nothing could be further from the truth. Believe in yourself & you can make your own choices & decisions. Don't let anyone take away your beautiful soul ♥️ ✨️
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I feel for you and sorry you had to live in that environment while being a child and learning about the outside world too; I was in a similar childhood, with narcissist mother and her narcissist golden son. We are healing, I didn’t think it was possible until this education and community thanks to Andrew.
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No more fux to give, know that place well😅
Some corrupt a day, others a week, months-years-decades many more... It's those that corrupt your eternity by changing you into one of them are the ones to ditch and never look back. These relationships corrupt the very SOUL
The light shines on you and your helpfulness everyday,knowing that theirs others out there is comforting to me😎
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Yes thank God as opposed to the users 👍
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I’ve come to know a lot of what happened to me! I never felt peace all through that relationship. Now I feel peace and I don’t have to deal with my ex or a friend I had for 20 years. I am very cautious now with people! Thank you Andrew! You always make me feel so much better! I know I lost a lot of years that didn’t go the way I thought they would. I had so much love to give, but that’s their loss! Thankful of my wonderful grown children! 🙏🏻❤️✨
I look at the narc ex as 'The Bride of Satan' nowadays...!!
And I have a mental image of him, bags packed, sitting outside The Pearly Gates, sobbing, begging to be let in...!!!
It makes me chuckle, softens the harsh reality, and gives me hope.
Don't forget, sometimes, laughter is the best medicine....
And love, of course.
Shine bright, love to all
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By 'him', I am referring to the naughty Devil.
Things can get so easily misconstrued!!!
I'm sure you know what I meant...!!! X
My God,,,,,THANK YOU ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️💯👍