I am so glad your video popped up in my feed. Just this one video has been so helpful. I can't wait to watch your other videos. I'm 53 now and have lived my entire life feeling sad, empty, lonely, bored and broken. I now have hope that I can turn this around. Thank you so much!
I left America and retired in Latin America. Going from the speed to America and constantly “doing” to a very laid back, slow culture, I’m struggling with emptiness and boredom now. This helped me a lot because my time was always dictated by parents and bosses. Now I have to face this suppression of my needs and wants. I am heading over to your video on needs and wants. Thank you.
i am 19 and on a gap year and feel the exact same way. i feel so empty and bored it has been making me stressed but learning about healing and recovering makes me feel purposeful
@@lolabuttercup I hope this emptiness you feel goes away. The only way I have found lately is to help someone or something suffer less. It gets me out of my own head.
A lot of this really hits home with me! I get so numb that I take naps to try to escape the emptiness for a bit. I feel better after a nap and coffee so it works to lift me! My childhood was exactly that! 🤦♀️ Feeling empty is the worst! It’s unbearable Kenny! 😫😖😢I am Not sure normal people feel emptiness???
This is a great video! Thank you for all you share and for being real & authentic. One of the reason's I appreciate you is because you put words to how I feel. When you say you don't speak as eloquently as Gabor Mate' or can't find the word to better convey an idea, I'd just like you to know I appreciate your real-ness more than I would appreciate you finding the perfect word. In one of your other great video's you admitted you had to look at your script occasionally because you don't always remember what you want to say. I was SO impressed with your humility and genuineness that it almost made me cry. My first experience with trauma was a head injury at 4 years old and I've struggled with my memory ever since. I've worked very hard all my life to cover up my secret of a poor memory and here you are, openly admitting it. Kenny, if I could hug you for what you are doing for me, you'd be smooshed! Thank you. All the best to you as you successfully help to heal a hurting world.
Awesome! Thanks Kenny! Boredom is the root of my addictions. Never even considered that loss of autonomy during childhood was the reason. I had to endure so many excruciatingly boring doctor's waiting rooms for my mom and sibling. Nothing to play with, nothing to read, completely ignored. All I could do was zone out into my imagination or stare at some crappy piece of motel art or ceiling tile. With the addictions, we really are retraumatizing ourselves again. Porn only feels better than boredom - in the moment - but, wow, it certainly demands a pound of flesh on the back end!
I’m loving your videos. They have such a 180 degree from the stuff I was listening to. This is so mind opening and pointing the finger at myself is certainly a new perspective. I’m thinking one can’t heal until we take responsibility. I buried my narcissistic mother this summer and can’t believe the crazy journey it’s been since she passed. I thought I was over it all until she passed.
@@estherann7407 thank you that’s very kind. Things are better. I told myself enough is enough and it’s just time to move forward. One cannot drag the past around in a satchel all the time. I had expected everything to just go away once she passed. Oops, lol. Does not work that way.
Thank you so much at 50And a widow I'm really feeling the pain I've had this intense urge to want to learn to play drums I Love music and would love to play drums I've always wanted that and just realized that now
Just do it! It’s relatively cheap to get a drum and there are so many great videos available. Maybe watch them first and you can figure out what to buy.
I've been listening to Irene Lyons online and it has been transformative how she describes doing exactly what you're talking about. I hope in the time since you've left this message you were doing well.❤
Wow, another truth buried deep. Got me crying 😢. My mom was on heroin always sleeping with the house dark. No stories, no hobbies, no anything but to make sure I watched over my siblings.
This is such a good video. I never really understood what was wrong with me. Thank you for helping me to see my emotional issues and face them but more importantly, to do something about them. Im a new subscriber and grateful. ❤
You explained about it not being blame really well. I was always turned off 12 step because meetings I went to were shaming. You have put it much better. We aren't bad. We learned the wrong things from our upbringing and then picked up the baton and carried on running with self neglect, self abuse and interacting unskilfully with others.
It’s strange, I feel like I’m doing relatively good in life. I own my home, have money in the bank and yet I battle with this feeling of pure emptiness. It’s a daily battle, I’ve tried what feels like everything to make it better and nothing is working. Not sure how much longer I can do this
Thanks Kenny for sharing this topic. Since I've walked away from all their TOXIC Behavior.1yr ago. I do struggling at time. I just shake it off. But sometimes it don't help.😢 I'm going though this by myself. Not easy to do. 😢
It's not easy to do the work alone and I can totally relate. I've walked the journey alone and it's painful. I tried counselors over the years but, WOW unless they've done the work themselves, they'll put a few hurdles in the way instead of helping a person to clear the path. Hang in the zabra arms, you're not alone; you're in good company. I wish you all the best on your road to wholeness. ❤🩹
I was laughed at and mocked if I had ever shared that I had a need. my mom never spoke to me and if she did she was mean and mocking. I never had a husband or kids or a wedding, I was never special or even thought of as anything but as IT.
Are you still dealing with the issue you recently became aware of that caused you to need to block out time away from work and meditate on it? How is this going?
Whatever psychologists I went to, they all sucked, couldn't say anything valuable... should all be fired. As for rehab, it's simply unaffordable... so, no way out
You are an absolute genius. No one can speak to my life like you do, thank you for this
Man I teared up listening to this. Your ability to articulate the human condition is really therapeutic.
I am so glad your video popped up in my feed. Just this one video has been so helpful. I can't wait to watch your other videos. I'm 53 now and have lived my entire life feeling sad, empty, lonely, bored and broken. I now have hope that I can turn this around. Thank you so much!
I left America and retired in Latin America. Going from the speed to America and constantly “doing” to a very laid back, slow culture, I’m struggling with emptiness and boredom now. This helped me a lot because my time was always dictated by parents and bosses. Now I have to face this suppression of my needs and wants. I am heading over to your video on needs and wants. Thank you.
i am 19 and on a gap year and feel the exact same way. i feel so empty and bored it has been making me stressed but learning about healing and recovering makes me feel purposeful
@@lolabuttercup I hope this emptiness you feel goes away. The only way I have found lately is to help someone or something suffer less. It gets me out of my own head.
A lot of this really hits home with me! I get so numb that I take naps to try to escape the emptiness for a bit. I feel better after a nap and coffee so it works to lift me! My childhood was exactly that! 🤦♀️
Feeling empty is the worst! It’s unbearable Kenny! 😫😖😢I am
Not sure normal people feel emptiness???
That’s me. CPTSD trying to survive abuse from infancy. Thanks lots Kenny.
Have a beautiful day everybody.sending love and support to all xx
This is a great video! Thank you for all you share and for being real & authentic. One of the reason's I appreciate you is because you put words to how I feel. When you say you don't speak as eloquently as Gabor Mate' or can't find the word to better convey an idea, I'd just like you to know I appreciate your real-ness more than I would appreciate you finding the perfect word.
In one of your other great video's you admitted you had to look at your script occasionally because you don't always remember what you want to say. I was SO impressed with your humility and genuineness that it almost made me cry. My first experience with trauma was a head injury at 4 years old and I've struggled with my memory ever since. I've worked very hard all my life to cover up my secret of a poor memory and here you are, openly admitting it.
Kenny, if I could hug you for what you are doing for me, you'd be smooshed! Thank you. All the best to you as you successfully help to heal a hurting world.
Awesome! Thanks Kenny!
Boredom is the root of my addictions. Never even considered that loss of autonomy during childhood was the reason. I had to endure so many excruciatingly boring doctor's waiting rooms for my mom and sibling. Nothing to play with, nothing to read, completely ignored. All I could do was zone out into my imagination or stare at some crappy piece of motel art or ceiling tile.
With the addictions, we really are retraumatizing ourselves again. Porn only feels better than boredom - in the moment - but, wow, it certainly demands a pound of flesh on the back end!
I’m loving your videos. They have such a 180 degree from the stuff I was listening to. This is so mind opening and pointing the finger at myself is certainly a new perspective. I’m thinking one can’t heal until we take responsibility. I buried my narcissistic mother this summer and can’t believe the crazy journey it’s been since she passed. I thought I was over it all until she passed.
Beautiful sad. In my life experience recovery requires two things. Truth and responsibility.
My whole platform is based on those two principles
@Dbb27 You have my sympathy in the passing of your Mother. I wish you well on your journey to wholeness and healing.
@@estherann7407 thank you that’s very kind. Things are better. I told myself enough is enough and it’s just time to move forward. One cannot drag the past around in a satchel all the time. I had expected everything to just go away once she passed. Oops, lol. Does not work that way.
Thank you so much for your honesty, vulnerability, and insight ❤
You are so welcome
Thank you!!!! Wow. These are the answers I’ve been looking for, in a way that actually makes sense!!!! You’ve saved me. ❤
Thank you so much at 50And a widow I'm really feeling the pain I've had this intense urge to want to learn to play drums I Love music and would love to play drums I've always wanted that and just realized that now
Go for it Jen 🥁
Just do it! It’s relatively cheap to get a drum and there are so many great videos available. Maybe watch them first and you can figure out what to buy.
@@margyrowland Thank you God-bless
I've been in the freeze state for 2 years now. I'm ready to break out but my mind resists.
I've been listening to Irene Lyons online and it has been transformative how she describes doing exactly what you're talking about. I hope in the time since you've left this message you were doing well.❤
Wow, another truth buried deep. Got me crying 😢. My mom was on heroin always sleeping with the house dark. No stories, no hobbies, no anything but to make sure I watched over my siblings.
Thank you for this!
Where have you been all my life ❤
This is such a good video. I never really understood what was wrong with me. Thank you for helping me to see my emotional issues and face them but more importantly, to do something about them. Im a new subscriber and grateful. ❤
You’re awesome Kenny. I sincerely appreciate you.
Starting 14:10 got me all teared up.Thank you sir!
You explained about it not being blame really well. I was always turned off 12 step because meetings I went to were shaming. You have put it much better. We aren't bad. We learned the wrong things from our upbringing and then picked up the baton and carried on running with self neglect, self abuse and interacting unskilfully with others.
Absolutely spot on. Really helpful thank you.
Great Video! Thanks 🙏🏾
Glad it was helpful!
It’s strange, I feel like I’m doing relatively good in life. I own my home, have money in the bank and yet I battle with this feeling of pure emptiness. It’s a daily battle, I’ve tried what feels like everything to make it better and nothing is working. Not sure how much longer I can do this
That’s exactly how I feel it’s awful 😞
try weed
Don’t try drugs please
Cause that’s the worst thing I could have done to myself
It’s cover up once high leave you feel worst
Thanks Kenny for sharing this topic. Since I've walked away from all their TOXIC Behavior.1yr ago. I do struggling at time. I just shake it off. But sometimes it don't help.😢 I'm going though this by myself. Not easy to do. 😢
You are so welcome
It's not easy to do the work alone and I can totally relate. I've walked the journey alone and it's painful. I tried counselors over the years but, WOW unless they've done the work themselves, they'll put a few hurdles in the way instead of helping a person to clear the path.
Hang in the zabra arms, you're not alone; you're in good company. I wish you all the best on your road to wholeness.
❤🩹
Why does this hit me at 59 yrs. Old.
Me as well I will be 59 next week
Thanks for this!
My pleasure!
Thank you Kenny, I like listening to your videos.
Wow… my mother used to say “children should be seen and not heard”
thanx 😎
Thanks, Kenny! This makes a lot of sense! P.S. I love the décor! Another channel idea?😉
Thank you
You bet😁
It’s crazy when I was in a relationship I was ok ,now I’m not I have this feeling of what do I do now .
So good
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊
Is the journey to success available in libraries?
It might be! You'd have to check your local library.
Can you name what those needs and wants are????
I was laughed at and mocked if I had ever shared that I had a need. my mom never spoke to me and if she did she was mean and mocking. I never had a husband or kids or a wedding, I was never special or even thought of as anything but as IT.
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Are you still dealing with the issue you recently became aware of that caused you to need to block out time away from work and meditate on it? How is this going?
The suit brings out those baby blues. I listen to your messages but your suits and decor compete, lol
I love his décor and would like to peak into his closet...I covet his suit jackets! 😆
"We need outside help" ok so now what if i cant get outside help
I m so bored
Whatever psychologists I went to, they all sucked, couldn't say anything valuable... should all be fired. As for rehab, it's simply unaffordable... so, no way out
No problem is permanent
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Saddest thing is parents get away with causing trauma.Suffer whole life trying fix their cock ups.Why don't they suffer for cruelty they do to kids.
Everything isn't koom-biar 😅
There's nothing wrong with children.Its the vile parents😡