I do believe that feelings are a quality of perception, such as the way we hear, listen, and see. We do choose to create what to feel, we are responsible for what we do with it. Therefore, managing stress, anger, sadness or anxiety does not necessarily mean suppressing, rejecting or fighting against these feelings. Negative feelings are consequences of a specific situation and provide us with information about ourselves and our state, about how we perceive the situation. Therefore, it is important not to reject them but to listen to the message that they convey. Remember the idea of “detachment”. People can achieve happiness by letting go of their attachments and living in the present moment.
Thanks Dee. Yes, a friendly supportive group of people. Thank you for being at our hub with all your positivity, helping us all to deal with what comes our way with mindfulness and calm. It really helps.😊 Take very good care too. X
Thank you Dee - as you said - the mind likes to find the negative - stand back from it - and point out the positive to yourself- it is still a wonderful world if you look for it. Love X
When he hears your voice, Morkie, my cat jumps on sofa to listen as I pet him. He does not do that for anyone else. Thank you from both of us. Have a lovely day everyone.
That is so lovely. I have had to have words with Myschka this morning - I have a spare toilet roll tucked away in bathroom. Been keeping them in same place for many years. He discovered it and decided it was a good toy - so he set to and began shredding it. Looks liike an internal snow storm as he didn't stay in one place - thanks a bunch Myschka!! Have put out the shreds to see if the birds use for keeping warm!! D
Thank you for another timely reminder Dee. Allow feelings in but also allow them to leave rather than fill you with anxiety, fear, doubt etc. and keep your senses busy looking for small and often beautiful things. Something to work on daily I think. This morning I’ve been watching the birds in the garden. They are very entertaining but don’t always get on with one another! ❤
Hi there Dee. You’re looking lovely…as always. So very cold outside today. Windy. Didn’t see the feral cats I feed, but they may be in their huge shelters in my back little yard area. Hunkering down, keeping warm I hope. Poured hot kettle water into outside cats water bowls. Freezes up quickly. Usually, if I’m working on my yard…or weeding ..or painting, I find myself humming songs that pop into my head. I do this a lot. Humming and/or singing a song distracts me and as I hum or sing, I focus on whatever I’m doing with the plants, the dirt, the few empty plant pots I have left over …or I’ll transplant a few branches of my rose bushes. I had one huge rose bush for years…now I’ve got 3 more. I don’t know why the one rose I branch I cut from (like a dusky rose color) is regrowing into a a sort of purple/red rose bush. And the 3rd one is in my side area. Pink roses..another huge bush. My grandmother had rose bushes and lilacs. She had some type of wire thing that her roses would grown on around, I don’t have that. Must look it up and see if I can make one. Or buy one. Things ok here. Grandson called to ask if he could come by to get more of his stuff. He moved a lot into that back room. Sort of have an edgy feeling that if this relationship doesn’t work out (they’ve been seeing each other for about 6/7 months. She seems nice. But my grandson’s track record has not been good. Dreading the thought already of him comping back. No key..but he’d probably end up trying to come back here. Spooooky. Don’t like that…so I’m letting that go right now. Your flowers and plants are always so beautiful. My rhododendron really blossomed out last spring. I want to thank you again, Dee. For being so gentle and wise. For telling us about Donna Ashworth. For everything you’ve spoken about and for taking us along on your strolls… everything there looks like a mixture of many plants, trees, luscious flowers (brings to mind ‘the enchanted forest’). Take care of yourself, Myschka and Percy. Much love and hugs to you and Myschka and Percy. So thankful I found you and your channel. 🙏🏻🌟🌟🌟💖💖💖
Lately sudden and short anxious feeling is disturbing my peace, trying to work on it. Thank you for the video. You bring so much calmness. Like everything’s okay and will be okay. Love you Dee ❤
@g.s3654 keeping busy can be a short term solution which you say works for you. However, we do need a break from busyness to recharge our physical, emotional batteries otherwise they become drained and we struggle. D
My old Labrador had selective hearing. He'd lie there and not make any response....but open his treat box and BINGO! Fully alert doggo. 😂 God, I miss him. If we sit behind a wall, trying to stay safe, what we are actually doing is dwelling in fear (usually fear). But if we allow the emotion, remove the wall, and let it flow, it flows away. Not my wisdom, but that of a Buddhist....I now can't remember who. But it does work. Takes courage. And practice. And recognising that we're doing it. Your topics often make me look back and remember what I've learnt. And remember to actually DO it 😂😂 I've all but nailed 3 songs. No chance of hitting the top E atm with this Kermit voice. 😅
Oh yes ref your dog! As for looking back and remembering - when things work, we use them, but then if the problem has lessened or disappeared, we stop. We then don't always re-use if the problem, or a similar one intrude on our lives. Doe we forget, or what I wonder? D
@ yes! I breeze along these days, and when something comes up and bites me, I'm all kinds of surprised! It's a pretty constant reminding.....which is why your topics are so good for us. I wonder if it's wilful forgetting.....a bit like my dog's wilful deafness. 😄
Thank you Dee for what appeared to be a personal message to me ( I recognise that it wasn’t really) I’m still working through the grief of losing my Mum and you are right in that fighting the feelings gives them power, so I try not to give in to their full blown effects too often. On a lighter note, I have selected vision when it comes to jobs around the house that I can pass on if I don’t like them, like not noticing how full the recycling bin is getting so that “him indoors “ ends up emptying it 🤭 oops 😬. xx
I am sorry, but that last bit has me chuckling. I am sure that my ex would have climbed over things overflowing from a bin and not have a passing thought about emptying - unless specifically asked!! Do take care of yourself - don't hold back on your grieving - it is very much a process which allows out anger, allows cathartic tears and comes round to being dominated by happy memories. . at a time that is right for you. Take care lovely lady - don't see it as something you are working through, rather a natural part of life you are living and feelings you experiencing about the loss of your Mum. Thinking of you. D
Good morning Dee Llately I’ve been trying to settle down and listen to that inner voice. I know it’s very important to pay attention to what’s going on inside. I must admit I’m a bit guilty of pushing the feelings down. So, thank you for your encouraging words today❤
@ladyyaya6782 You are so welcome - I think that pushing down feelings we don't want to acknowledge or deal with is a normal reaction - but they can just linger and bite you on the backside at a later date as you have let them know that you are affected by them. Let them drift on by - and you are the strong one! Take care D
I can tell you from experience in the past, after week upon week (2 years before injury) of risking my life for 38-50 hours for what was barely enough to keep the lights on, I was exhausted and needed weekends and after work for recovery, I attempted on multiple occasions to enforce and even find suitable people like gardeners, electiricians, plumbers - only to be told it wasn't good enough. *I had to perform the work* - This resulted in an injury that has taken me 5 years to recover from, be very, very careful what you ask for.
I think men do... but I feel I do more since I want to hear positive things and not a burst of loud disappointment. I want a perfect atmosphere and want my surroundings to be a place of refuge. Can't avoid it all the times, but when I find that place to relax and enjoy the day's positive things... I feel happy... and less depressed.
Great to have a place of refuge, safety and sometimes escape. Aiming for a perfect atmosphere may not be a good aim - I believe that perfection very rarely happens. Maybe find an alternative word so that you are not aiming too high which could lead to disappointment. I too have my special place, it is what I need but it is far from perfect. D
@Cheshirelass I agree that i used a far spectrum word... never can have the perfect place to chill, but your words keep me aware that I will have no perfect place. Even when I go for walks... to escape the loud disappointing conversations helps me let go and not be pulled into anything negative.
@ So glad. When you go for those walks - I hope that you make use of all of your senses - ie walk mindfully. I find this to be so beneficial and certainly makes the walk so much better. Take care. D
I love you so muchhhhhhhhh. ❤️✨🩷You are so so so one of the cutes nanny that I have ever seen. I am english and french translator but I camnot describe my feelings towards you. Love and greetings from Türkiye! I am fall in love british accent.😍💌
I do believe that feelings are a quality of perception, such as the way we hear, listen, and see. We do choose to create what to feel, we are responsible for what we do with it. Therefore, managing stress, anger, sadness or anxiety does not necessarily mean suppressing, rejecting or fighting against these feelings. Negative feelings are consequences of a specific situation and provide us with information about ourselves and our state, about how we perceive the situation. Therefore, it is important not to reject them but to listen to the message that they convey. Remember the idea of “detachment”. People can achieve happiness by letting go of their attachments and living in the present moment.
thank you so much for sharing that message with us. i hope you don't mind - am going to pin it. D
This is great advice. Thank you.❤
I just love your voice!! It comforts me…esp when I am feeling a little low.
I'm so glad to be able to help. D
Thank you Dee I'm looking forward to seeing some sunshine and all the spring flowers coming up .Have a lovely day everyone ❤
Me too!! D
Thanks Dee. Yes, a friendly supportive group of people. Thank you for being at our hub with all your positivity, helping us all to deal with what comes our way with mindfulness and calm. It really helps.😊 Take very good care too. X
You too Julia - and thanks for your comment - D
Thank you Dee - as you said - the mind likes to find the negative - stand back from it - and point out the positive to yourself- it is still a wonderful world if you look for it. Love X
Well said! D
When he hears your voice, Morkie, my cat jumps on sofa to listen as I pet him. He does not do that for anyone else. Thank you from both of us. Have a lovely day everyone.
That is so lovely. I have had to have words with Myschka this morning - I have a spare toilet roll tucked away in bathroom. Been keeping them in same place for many years. He discovered it and decided it was a good toy - so he set to and began shredding it. Looks liike an internal snow storm as he didn't stay in one place - thanks a bunch Myschka!! Have put out the shreds to see if the birds use for keeping warm!! D
Thank you for another timely reminder Dee. Allow feelings in but also allow them to leave rather than fill you with anxiety, fear, doubt etc. and keep your senses busy looking for small and often beautiful things. Something to work on daily I think. This morning I’ve been watching the birds in the garden. They are very entertaining but don’t always get on with one another! ❤
Yes! Percy gets really vocal with much wing flapping if any other robins approach when I am feeding him! D
Hi there Dee. You’re looking lovely…as always. So very cold outside today. Windy. Didn’t see the feral cats I feed, but they may be in their huge shelters in my back little yard area. Hunkering down, keeping warm I hope. Poured hot kettle water into outside cats water bowls. Freezes up quickly.
Usually, if I’m working on my yard…or weeding ..or painting, I find myself humming songs that pop into my head. I do this a lot. Humming and/or singing a song distracts me and as I hum or sing, I focus on whatever I’m doing with the plants, the dirt, the few empty plant pots I have left over …or I’ll transplant a few branches of my rose bushes. I had one huge rose bush for years…now I’ve got 3 more. I don’t know why the one rose I branch I cut from (like a dusky rose color) is regrowing into a a sort of purple/red rose bush. And the 3rd one is in my side area. Pink roses..another huge bush. My grandmother had rose bushes and lilacs. She had some type of wire thing that her roses would grown on around, I don’t have that. Must look it up and see if I can make one. Or buy one.
Things ok here. Grandson called to ask if he could come by to get more of his stuff. He moved a lot into that back room. Sort of have an edgy feeling that if this relationship doesn’t work out (they’ve been seeing each other for about 6/7 months. She seems nice. But my grandson’s track record has not been good. Dreading the thought already of him comping back. No key..but he’d probably end up trying to come back here. Spooooky. Don’t like that…so I’m letting that go right now.
Your flowers and plants are always so beautiful. My rhododendron really blossomed out last spring.
I want to thank you again, Dee. For being so gentle and wise. For telling us about Donna Ashworth. For everything you’ve spoken about and for taking us along on your strolls… everything there looks like a mixture of many plants, trees, luscious flowers (brings to mind ‘the enchanted forest’).
Take care of yourself, Myschka and Percy. Much love and hugs to you and Myschka and Percy. So thankful I found you and your channel. 🙏🏻🌟🌟🌟💖💖💖
I wish that I was as good with roses as you. I hope that your grandson's relationship keeps on keeping on going! Take care - keep warm and safe. D
Another great video! Thank you Dee. Up to 295k subscribers 🎉
Have a lovely day. 🌹🌹🌹
So amazing!
Lately sudden and short anxious feeling is disturbing my peace, trying to work on it. Thank you for the video. You bring so much calmness. Like everything’s okay and will be okay. Love you Dee ❤
I too feel same and keeping busy is the easiest remedy possible in my case
When I feel like this I say to myself ‘ all is well and I am safe’ I hope this is true for you.
I try grounding....more difficult incold weather...but be in nature. Listen to birds, hug a tree. Send gratitude to everything that brings you joy. ❤
Keep giving yourself those positive messages - your brain and your body need reminding. Take care. D
@g.s3654 keeping busy can be a short term solution which you say works for you. However, we do need a break from busyness to recharge our physical, emotional batteries otherwise they become drained and we struggle. D
My old Labrador had selective hearing. He'd lie there and not make any response....but open his treat box and BINGO! Fully alert doggo. 😂 God, I miss him.
If we sit behind a wall, trying to stay safe, what we are actually doing is dwelling in fear (usually fear). But if we allow the emotion, remove the wall, and let it flow, it flows away. Not my wisdom, but that of a Buddhist....I now can't remember who. But it does work. Takes courage. And practice. And recognising that we're doing it.
Your topics often make me look back and remember what I've learnt. And remember to actually DO it 😂😂
I've all but nailed 3 songs. No chance of hitting the top E atm with this Kermit voice. 😅
Oh yes ref your dog!
As for looking back and remembering - when things work, we use them, but then if the problem has lessened or disappeared, we stop. We then don't always re-use if the problem, or a similar one intrude on our lives. Doe we forget, or what I wonder? D
@ yes! I breeze along these days, and when something comes up and bites me, I'm all kinds of surprised! It's a pretty constant reminding.....which is why your topics are so good for us. I wonder if it's wilful forgetting.....a bit like my dog's wilful deafness. 😄
@@amanitamuscaria7500 Thank you - I do my best! D
Dear Dee thanks for the interesting video❣️Take care ☕️🥯✨️
Your videos & voice bring me so much peace. Thankyou ❤️
You're an inspiration to me as a brand new RUclipsr. Thank you.
Thank you - good luck with your channel - be patient. D
Wonderful advice !! Peace to all!☮️✌️
Another thoughtful thought provoking video Dee ❤ big love from Scotland ❤
Thank you. D
Thank you Dee, as always , much love to you. ❤❤❤
Thank you too. D
Thank you Dee for what appeared to be a personal message to me ( I recognise that it wasn’t really) I’m still working through the grief of losing my Mum and you are right in that fighting the feelings gives them power, so I try not to give in to their full blown effects too often.
On a lighter note, I have selected vision when it comes to jobs around the house that I can pass on if I don’t like them, like not noticing how full the recycling bin is getting so that “him indoors “ ends up emptying it 🤭 oops 😬. xx
I am sorry, but that last bit has me chuckling. I am sure that my ex would have climbed over things overflowing from a bin and not have a passing thought about emptying - unless specifically asked!!
Do take care of yourself - don't hold back on your grieving - it is very much a process which allows out anger, allows cathartic tears and comes round to being dominated by happy memories. . at a time that is right for you.
Take care lovely lady - don't see it as something you are working through, rather a natural part of life you are living and feelings you experiencing about the loss of your Mum.
Thinking of you. D
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Thanks for continuing to do you as only you can. You encourage me for my own channel, to just get back to doing what I do best, too.
Thank you - go for it D
Good morning Dee
Llately I’ve been trying to settle down and listen to that inner voice. I know it’s very important to pay attention to what’s going on inside. I must admit I’m a bit guilty of pushing the feelings down. So, thank you for your encouraging words today❤
@ladyyaya6782 You are so welcome -
I think that pushing down feelings we don't want to acknowledge or deal with is a normal reaction - but they can just linger and bite you on the backside at a later date as you have let them know that you are affected by them. Let them drift on by - and you are the strong one! Take care D
@ Thank you! I appreciate hearing that🥰
thank you dee! have a great day :)
I'm with you Dee I'm a one headphone in one ear girl I feel you still need some senses to be safe
Morning Dee, have wonderful day 🎉
Thank you Dee
Thank you💐
I can tell you from experience in the past, after week upon week (2 years before injury) of risking my life for 38-50 hours for what was barely enough to keep the lights on, I was exhausted and needed weekends and after work for recovery, I attempted on multiple occasions to enforce and even find suitable people like gardeners, electiricians, plumbers - only to be told it wasn't good enough. *I had to perform the work* - This resulted in an injury that has taken me 5 years to recover from, be very, very careful what you ask for.
Was that a message that you gave to yourself - or was it given by others? D
thank you very much.)
I think men do... but I feel I do more since I want to hear positive things and not a burst of loud disappointment. I want a perfect atmosphere and want my surroundings to be a place of refuge. Can't avoid it all the times, but when I find that place to relax and enjoy the day's positive things... I feel happy... and less depressed.
Great to have a place of refuge, safety and sometimes escape. Aiming for a perfect atmosphere may not be a good aim - I believe that perfection very rarely happens. Maybe find an alternative word so that you are not aiming too high which could lead to disappointment. I too have my special place, it is what I need but it is far from perfect. D
@Cheshirelass I agree that i used a far spectrum word... never can have the perfect place to chill, but your words keep me aware that I will have no perfect place. Even when I go for walks... to escape the loud disappointing conversations helps me let go and not be pulled into anything negative.
@ So glad. When you go for those walks - I hope that you make use of all of your senses - ie walk mindfully. I find this to be so beneficial and certainly makes the walk so much better. Take care. D
Your voice would be great for narrating audio books ❤
Our voice is a look at our soul and sends our vibe into the world. Dee's is comforting and gentle. 😊
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I love you so muchhhhhhhhh. ❤️✨🩷You are so so so one of the cutes nanny that I have ever seen. I am english and french translator but I camnot describe my feelings towards you. Love and greetings from Türkiye! I am fall in love british accent.😍💌
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