Emotional Eating and Feeling Unappreciated (at times) / Spousal Communication / Over 60
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- A good day…and then a ‘not so good day’…Nanny goes off to Del Taco for the first time in a month! Why? In this case she is seeking comfort and distraction… and fast food today…is the answer. Let’s talk about this strange biological connection between …..STRESS AND EMOTIONAL EATING. ❤️
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Thanks for sharing your real life feelings. You wouldn’t believe how many of us can relate. ❤️
Nanny, you are a phenomenal woman! Always remember that. xoxo
Definitely us older women had to learn to speak up. I think a lot of breakup’s come from not expressing our feelings until it’s too late
I understand exactly what you are talking about. I have lost a husband of 38 years and then a boyfriend of 9 years so I have been very depressed. I have struggled with obesity all my life. I love food and am fighting the demon of insulin resistance, and I live alone so it is truly a battle. I love you, Nanny. It helps me to hear your advice.
So Sorry for your losses, Janet..stay strong.🥰❤️
Nanny, U r a Survivor, keep crafting its good therapy and so are the donuts lol.
I feel retirement is completely different for a man than with a woman. The man stops doing anything. Mine sits and watches tv all day and night and takes the totem to the end of driveway and back to the house after garbage crew are done and sometimes he takes t out. Me, well that’s different. I go buy all groceries, carry it all in house 99% of the time, gas up both vehicles, pick up prescriptions, wash clothes, care for the three dogs completely including giving them water. I could go on and on. When do women get to retire? I am tired of this honestly. I did not raise my son to think he is the “man” and a woman should be honored to wait on him hand and foot. Forgive me for sounding off.
I can so relate. My husband gets on his iPhone from the minute he gets up ,has breakfast and then to computer games. If he does anything like bring in mail or take out trash he announces it like it’s a big deal. We are both retired but I still do all the food shopping , cooking ,laundry , cleaning the house, pay the bills . 😩. I battled serious breast cancer during the pandemic and chemo was so hard I was going to give up but my husband had horrible bike accident and I had to take care of him while going thru chemo by myself( Covid) . Never gave thanks. We both do exercise, I dance and he rides bike ,but I then do errands after and he rests.🙁.whoever said a woman’s work is never done was a genius
I hear you, my friend…I think it’s a generational thing sometimes.❤️
I tell my hubs you go with me grocery shopping or you can go yourself with a list! He goes with me most times but you have to insist he helps in or out of the house! I’m 79 and he’s 82 but I’m in better shape than he is! Love always wins!! ❤️💕❤️
@@lindaturner8320 if I made him come with me I would hear him complain the whole time. That would get on my nerves till I screamed. Glad it works for you. I do not mind him not going but feel he can at least help me without complaining with each bag he carries.
@@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose I agree
I think the caregivers have a hard job, often unsung. Often it falls to wives or daughters to do the caregiving. The tank gets empty fast. Then one feels guilty because the tank is empty. I am so glad you mentioned to the ladies to gently remind the one needing attention that they are feeling under appreciated. Moosie is a champ for being perceptive enough to realize you were hurting too. Your breakfast looked fabulous. Heck, we are alive, and nothing is as delightful as our favorite treat once in a while. I had a Dairy Queen blizzard for dinner during the heat wave. The rest of the time I am off sugar. You are so right. A treat dies lift our dopamine level and reset us somehow. Much love to Moosie, and you. I think this real life series has been a great teaching moment for all of us. You are handling it all with such Grace, Nanny. I can only imagine how proud Moosie is when he sees your beautiful self walk into the room. Hugs, judy
Thanks, Judy…you get it!❤️
Nanny you do soooo much! Like a 35 yo woman. Take care of your precious self. Love you.
I think we women FEEL like martyrs now and then. We do it all. And we get tired after so many years of being amazing. Good for you for taking a break and treating yourself! Hugs!
Ok, I'll try again. I was an advocate, POA for a lady of 98 in a Care home. I know all the stress and she had lots of money. I still had to manage a private care giver to be sure she was cared for. I think you should have one or more of your children as part of the care team. I loved this lady so it was wonderful to care for her but the reality is that it's very stressful to do it well. At your age you SHOULD NOT be caring this whole load! Where are your children? Just having to talk to the administrator of these places is stressful and it never ends. Please set up a team so you do not have to do it all. " The Moose Advocate team." So they can go in and push the administrator weekly, as well.
I’ve said many times, Amy…that our 6 children are all very involved in our lives…and they HAVE formed a team … where each one handles a certain area of our lives. Although I have my moments of stress, I am not debilitated by it and am very capable of talking to people about Moosie’s care…successfully….and don’t need to call our children constantly. ❤️
You care for Nanny so much!👍🏽
@@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose You have a most wonderful family,Nanny! Sending hugs and prayers!
Well good on you girlfriend !!!! ❤❤❤❤. - I feel proud to belong to the female species!!!! We do have our own way to deal with things 💃💅🎨🖌️🍩☕🌮🌄🌄
Nanny I love your vase ❤
I’d be skinny as a rail if it weren’t for emotional eating!!😊❤ Hugs!!
I emotional eat sweets when in pain and upset. I've actually eaten 6 glazed donuts in one setting, I don't keep icecream in the house because I'll eat the whole thing in two days, I'll go and get 2 large blizzards and eat both in two days. All I can say it's a good thing I don't usually have extreme pain. 😂
I just came across your videos via RUclips recommendation. I am an 82 year old African American women and we have so much in common. I am a former teacher- I like to sketch and paint -I was a caregiver for over 10 years - I sew and love clothes - over 26 cruises and absolutely not a minimalist. I have been watching your older videos and so happy that you find the time to share your experiences and advice. Thank you.
Thanks so much my friend, for the nice comment…welcome …and I’m so glad you’re here with us..it sure does sound like we are both from the same mold.❤️
You are so artistic in everything you do. Beautiful job! My 96 year old father-in-law takes care of my 90 year old mother-in-law. We kids pitch in and help where needed. There is a fine line between watching him do so much for her that she doesn’t do for herself the things she could do. They have been married 72 years. Take care of you. Love watching!
When this video popped up today I was overcome with emotion as I had lost track of your channel in the past year. But I remember the delight my sister Kate received in viewing your video when I had 2 yrs ago introduced her to them. She was ill and going through pain, weakness, depression & despair. I lost Kate last October, she was 76 yrs old & suffered from blood cancer (A plastic anemia). Not much gave her a few moments of distraction from her pain, but you provided short escapes from her reality. Chocolate covered raisins were a comfort food for Kate.
I am so sorry you lost your sweet sister, Sunny…welcome back🥰❤️
Nanny, I truly empathize with your feelings. My husband underwent a major surgery in February, followed by the commencement of chemotherapy in April, which is ongoing, making this year incredibly stressful and challenging. Even though I am not the one experiencing the pain and such, the strain and exhaustion for the caregiver is still significant. I've given in to the temptation of cake more than once and subsequently felt quite guilty. This October, we will celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary, and hopefully, we'll enjoy many more years together. Sending you love and prayers to you and Moosie xx
Sending love and prayers right back to you, too,Susan, and to your Hubby ..❤️
Praying for better days ahead for both of you!
Any - you are helping me soooo much. I am 78 and so alone … when you put out a new video I have a nice visit with a good friend … thank you for sharing such personal details, I really do feel you🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺
Sending hugs and love, Patricia🥰❤️
We've all been there! WE are here to support you ❣️ and Moosie ❣️
Absolutely - been there many times.
THANK YOU Nanny I just went through this with my husband after his heart surgery I am so very grateful to still have him but in the end a thank you for taking care of the home the mowing the animals and coming to the hospital would have sure sounded nice and done my heart good/ XXXX
Vicki…tell him❤
Go Nanny……Enjoy your del taco, your coffee, your donuts and whatever else you feel you want or need to get thru! You are very blessed Moosie can and will apologize…my husband of almost 50 years is never wrong and it’s always been my fault! He never misses church tho!
Food is comfort, food can be like a warm blanket when we are chilled. Please don’t say you are a “bad” girl…you filled a need. There is nothing wrong with that. You are entitled to take care of yourself and if you don’t you will be down…and you don’t want that…my hubby has had 4 heart surgeries since 2021….Im 80 and he just turned 69…it’s a lot I know for you. You are blessed to have family near as we have no family near us…closest one is 8 hours away…I pray for you and Moosie…
Praying for you, too, Glenda..❤️
❤❤❤It’s emotionally healthy to have an outlet such as comfort food, shopping or arts and crafts!❤❤❤
My hubby and I were married 5 years before our first child was born. He was an only child and a menopause baby on top of that. His cousins were grown with children and their children were his age. He was alone at family affairs because the only other kids lived in other areas. His mother was a holistic nurse who had contracted tuberculosis from the patients and later terminal cancer, so he had a dreadful childhood spending a lot of time home alone. His story broke my heart and seemed a lot different from my childhood. I tried to make a positive impact on him, and it perhaps made him a wee bit self indulged if you know what I mean. Bless his heart he doesn’t know how to worry and fret over others. He had a UTI this summer and was hospitalized for a few days. At the age of 80, he refused to help me help him, but argued with me over everything that really did not matter. One minute he whined profusely because they were out of apple juice and then was angry because he was hungry and they were late serving his meal. I just have to remember that I created this very large child. I never told him NO! Luckily he is still on the mend, but there were some complications so he is still healing. There are still days when I wish I had been more like you and spoken up for myself.
Mossie’s life right now is consumed with the pain of a broken neck…and his frustrations are understandable . But under normal circumstances…he’s very different,TG.. and so am I.❤️❤️
Nanny, those donut holes are microscopic! Don't feel a bit guilty for having 2. You could have eaten all 4 and it wouldn't even amount to a half of a regular donut! Glad you enjoyed your favorite meal; you certainly deserve it! You set a wonderful example for us!
Nanny I adore you! You are a wonderful, inspirational lady! I had my first great grandchild ten months ago. I pondered what my great grandma name should be. I thought and thought! Then it hit me! It had to be Nanny! So in honor of you I am now Nanny too! ❤
Oh,Paula…how sweet! Congratulations…You’ll love being Nanny❤️
I like your vase. I haven't done decoupage in years and I always enjoyed it. Art has always been a mood lifter for me,.
Glad you listened to your very wise daughter.and you took some time for you. ❤
Boy, I needed this pep talk today!! My brother died July 8 unexpectedly, and I have been grieving him and can’t seem to snap myself out of this dark place. My precious brother would be the first to tell me to snap out of this. I’m going to take it one day at a time - today is going to be a good day!! My husband has been so patient and kind through this and I need to concentrate on making him happy and not my sadness & loss. Thank you Nanny for being a constant voice of reason!! Love & prayers for you & Moosie!! Praying his PT is working well & that he will soon be home with you!! ❤️🙏🏻❤️
I am so sorry you lost your brother, Annette…hugs and love,🙏❤️🥰
I’m so glad to hear your story. Wise words. It made me happy to know you went to Del Taco😊
Thank you again for making all of us feel “normal”. It’s absolutely the one thing that seems to help when we are feeling overwhelmed and unappreciated. Bless you for all you’re doing for Moosie and still taking care of everything on the home front 😍😇😍😇
Thanks Nanny. You are such a dear sweet down to earth person. God bless.
Nanny! We are all in the same boat!! I find if I don’t give in to that craving I’ll eat everything and still not be happy. Sooo now I have that treat just not the whole thing and then tell myself that’s a good thing !! And I feel much better. We just need to take care of ourselves!! You look beautiful and thank you for all the fun knowing you. Hugs.
We all have are weak moments and it alright to treat ourselves.
Nanny you are doing great❤ hang in there ❤things will fall into place! We love you 😍
I’m so glad you’re feeling better Nanny! This can be such a hard time in our golden years! Love you so much!!!💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
I love you Nanny. Take care of yourself. Good luck.
May God bless you indeed. AMEN
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 😀 ohhh been there. But ya have to take some “Me Time” … ya have to do it.
Right on Nanny. Calories from Del Taco do not count when you really need to pamper yourself.
😂😂😂 I wish!❤️
Hello nanny. Continued prayers for nanny & moose. God bless nanny & moose ❤💗❤️
This is a scary, off-balance season for you & for Moosie. Sometimes we just aren't ourselves for a while like during this health crisis which affects the two of you so much.
Hi Nanny. I’m 78, been widowed for 16 years. I can relate to the taking advantage of. I hurt inside because I don’t get hugs, or I love you’s from my grandsons or daughter, I’m dealing with it. 😢. Thank you for your wisdom, I really enjoy your videos. Keep busy what you love.
Sending hugs, Donna…❤️❤️❤️
You aren't alone. Many people in their 60s, 70s, 80s and up feel like you, unloved and unappreciated. Always remember God is watching. He will love you in ways you may not see when those closest to you don't. When you find yourself looking sadly back, live in the moment good or bad. Stop. You're alive. Even now, your comment is helping someone feeling just like you. Thank you for sharing. As Nanny says, " God bless us all." He's holding you in His loving arms. He sees all.
So glad you took the time to do your dried flowers, it looks great. Nanny, yes, you take care of yourself. We all love you!
I so admire your self control NO way would 2 doughnuts be left The vase is so pretty Continue in looking after yourself in all ways and talk to The Lord May you be showered with extra blessings this week and may you feel his arms around you God bless ❤
Hi Nanny! So glad you had a wonderful treat.Sending you love and a big hug to Moosie.
Good for you Nanny. You deserve a treat ❤
You go for it Nanny…your treats are important - when partnered - with -an Aries!
Nanny, you sound just like me. I have had emotional eating all my life, and it continues at the age of 73. You and Mr. Moose are just the sweetest people. I love every one of your videos, Please always take care of you. Prayers for you and that sweet Mr. Moose. Love you both.
Love you Nanny’ the craft project was awesome! yes again you are right 🥰good pic of Moosey& the baby! take care
I love you Nanny.I feel that way sometimes to.I live by myself and try not to feel like that very much.
Thank you for being human, genuine & sincere.... love you for that ...❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Love all your artistry and the talent you show us! That vase is so pretty! Glad you had a chance to work on it. Thank you for your pep talk this morning.! Have a wonderful day
😻I went to a new coffee shop today and treated myself to an Iced Vanilla coffee. Enjoyed it. I am glad you treated yourself. Thank you, Nanny for your positive and sharing with us. Pottery is beautiful.
Thank you so much Nanny for this video, big hug, i adore you💚✨☕💐🦋💙
Nanny, you are so right about this. Sending you much love and prayers ❤️
Thank you Nanny..Loved your breakfast, your decoupage vase and all of your heartfelt words. We all love your honesty and your very helpful feelings as we walk through these years of our lives.❤
Hard to speak up, easy to play the martyr... I need to learn to speak up for myself without sounding accusatory. Good for you, Nanny!
Love love love the placement of the flowers on the vase, looks fabulous!!
Halt! My 12 step program advocates, don’t get too Hungry, too Angry, too Lonely, Or Tired. This has been a great suggestion for me. Love ya. Perhaps you were all 4 my friend. Keep up your self care Nanny. Prayers from the Central Valley, Turlock. Peace and comfort!
Cindy
P.S. Your craft is beautiful! Thanks for the great idea! I’m on the road to Michaels. The wind chime in the background is so soothing!
Thank you for these wise words, Nanny. I'm not at your stage of life and I'm not caretaking my husband, but I thank God for having you share this today. I also have things to speak up about and I'm encouraged to do just that. God bless you and Moosie. I love your style and persistence, your determination to enjoy your life however it's going, xo karen
What a pretty idea for the flowers. The colors are so beautiful. Good therapy for you.
Nanny don't let anyone tell you not to do the videos.I have only written you twice since I found you 2 years ago but. ......I watch you EVERYDAY
I wrote you about my problem of getting older.I'm 79 years old and can't wait to see your next video You brighten up my life so much.Keep on videoing as long as you can and I will keep watching as long as I can.Have a wonderful day.I live in Ohio .
Thank you, my friend,,❤️
Hi Nanny,
Thanks for sharing your flower art. I loved it and want to try it also!
Love and prayers for you and your Moosie💖
Good for you for letting Moosie know how you are feeling. It must be very frustrating for Moosie to have to co-habit with someone who keeps him awake during the night. Glad you enjoyed your Del Taco breakfast…not need to feel guilty. Take care Nanny🇨🇦❤️
Nanny your awesome !!!!❤❤
Yes I hear you loud and clear. You are allowed to have a chat about Feelings needs. It's hard work Nanny. And I agree Speak up... ❤
Hi Nanny! I completely understand how you were feeling! I had a bad day Saturday with my hubby of 56 years, who is suffering from sacroiliitis, and yes I did eat some sweets. There's nothing like comfort food when you are upset. You are right, speaking up is the right thing to do. Yay! 💕🥰 I love your flower decorating!
That’s exactly what you needed Del taco treat your vase came out very nice maybe just more of a flat flower but it’s still turned out good yes I know caretaking can be emotional up and down whether they’re home or they’re at a rehab somehow we seem to get through it sending lots of prayers for you and Moosie 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Yes an part of our therapy also!!
You are absolutely right about everything.
I am selfish, I am one of those viewers that want you to be with me every day, even though you have a lot to do.
Love you and may God bless us all..
❤❤❤❤❤😍
Goodnight Nanny
Sleep well
Yes, emotional eating is how i cope at times, too.
Just take a day off from Moosie…go to thrift shops, eat what you want and just be….or stay in your bed all day…you decide..Just love ‘ya! I’m 80 and I get it.
You know what. I went to the grocery store yesterday and picked up some things that I didn't need. Plus a few of the things that I did need. I knew that I didn't need those items, (cookies and apple fritters) but, I felt the need for them. I have been working so hard and long hours at my older age. Just turned 71. I have lived alone for a long time, and think that I need to be bad sometimes to make myself feel better. Then I am miserable. Guess it's worth the suffering of gaining a few pounds and uncomfortable. Take care of yourself and be happy. I am glad that Moose is doing better.❤
Know what you mean! I do exactly the same thing!!!
I am so glad you spoiled yourself a little today! Running back-and-forth to the hospital can be hard even when we’re glad to do it. I know you meant for the vase flowers to turn out flat but I think it looks interesting with the dimensional quality that the lower flowers give it to it. 🙏🏻🙏🏻 take care of yourself drive safe💛
Nanny this was just the best video ever. I just love you like family. Thank you for this video. It really meant a lot!❤
I love the vase. What a wonderful idea. I’m so glad you got to feeling better. ❤ I’m still praying for you both. Food is comfort to me too.
I gave in and had a cinnamon roll today too. Thanks Nanny for all the sweet advice. I hope yall have a wonderful week. Love u 😊 The vase is beautiful.
Nanny, thank you for showing us how to do your arts and crafts. I can see how it uplifts you. And I feel sorry for Moosie, he must be stressed at times to. Can't wait for him to come home and things go back to normal.
I totally support emotional eating. It's important to know when you're doing it that that's exactly what you're doing. It's twice as satifying and that often helps me feel satisfied more quickly. Thanks for sharing this topic. Love to you.
It’s okay to indulge yourself. You are a true trooper with all you have been through this past month. Hang in there you are very loved by so many people. I think you are an angel from heaven.
Nanny, I understand this whole situation. I have been there. This was a wonderful message for all of us to reflect on! - Belinda
You do a fantastic job, Nanny, of helping us to understand what may lay ahead for many of us, in terms of taking care of a loved one who is in need. You show great strength and we are learning from you so much. Love your posts. Super topics. xox
Hi Nanny, I love it when you are doing Arts and Crafts..... That was great you went to Del Taco and treated yourself a nice breakfast and donuts....Sending Love and Prayers to you and Moosie ❤🙏❤❤
I am enjoying your chats! I am glad you are having fun going to Del Taco and the flowers you Mogpodged on the vase!
I do it too Nanny😋I eat whatever I want usually donuts emotional eating and enjoy it then get back to normalcy 😂. Love to you and Moose!
Glad you are going and doing things you enjoy! You deserve it gal! Hang in there gal!!🥰
I always watch you from the UK and I always feel more positive, take care nanny and I'm praying for you both 🙏xx
You always say and do the right things, Nanny! Way to live life to the fullest!
Good lessons all the way around.
Broccoli would not be on my crave list--warm donuts?Absolutely!❤️👵🏻
Oh my dear, wonderful Nanny
I am SO HAPPY for you because I have been waiting for you to speak up
I understand what you are going through and, yes, I have been there
You do everything and more
I wish you had two quesadillas
You deserve everything and more
Moose is a very lucky guy to have you and I hope he knows it
You are not sounding like a martyr….you are a Saint (Saint Nanny)
I admire, respect and love ❤️ you, my friend
Don’t you feel anything but happy tonight
So glad I caught this video before I went to bed because I feel so happy for you
It doesn’t matter how long any of us are married….we still need appreciation and acknowledgment
I love you
Barbara
Tons of big hugs to my frien
Thanks , Barbara, for the nice comment and the hugs..for you, too❤️❤️
I relate my friend still praying love and blessings
Yummy,that donut looked Deeeeeelicious! IM GLAD YOUDon't feel guilty, LOL 😂you deserve it! I have been sick with covid,under stress, and I will eat like that as well. Thank You, again, for another wonderful video. ❤️ U!!😊
Nanny , I’m so glad that you know how to speak up for yourself. That is really the best thing for you and Mossie also
Loved your pressed flowers. Hope Bill is feeling better.
Thinking of you both Nanny. I am praying for you all. Glad you had a great breakfast. You deserve it. You do so much for everybody!!😇♥️🙏🫶
Love you Nanny!❤
Enjoy your food Nanny - a lot of people can't unfortunately.... it's one of the best pleasures in life for me!! :)
I just ate a bag of baby 3 musketeers
Oh Nanny you are so funny about DelTaco!!! I think your feelings are very normal with spouses in these hard times . I had that with my husband too you did the right thing. I think and hope the worst is over and it could have been much worse.
Love those pigtails!!!!
I did the same thing today, drive thru and my favorite dessert, ice cream 🍦🤩
Nanny your wonderful ❤❤❤