Reverse culture shock since leaving Japan! (USA has me shooketh)

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  • Опубликовано: 17 ноя 2024

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  • @Lucariia
    @Lucariia 2 года назад +35

    I remember that when my husband and I came back from only two weeks on vacation in Tokyo, back home (Munich, Germany) everything in public transport seemed SO LOUD AND NOISY. People are constantly on the phone, babbling with their friend, listening on music on their phone, laughing, complaining... I loved how quiet and relaxed it felt while traveling with the train in Tokyo. Everyone was only minding their own business without interfering personal space. I wanna travel again!

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +1

      HAHA I felt that too!😂 when I returned to San Francisco after studying abroad in Tokyo I was SHOOK by how wild people were acting on the bus! Even the bus drivers would scream at the passengers😧

  • @caistea
    @caistea 2 года назад +36

    This was a very interesting take on culture shock! I'm from California as well and, yep, public bathrooms tend to be nasty (and why are the gaps around the doors so wide??? I feel so exposed!). When I find a nice, clean bathroom I am truly amazed lol. After spending time living in Scotland years ago I realized how lucky we are in California to have such a huge array of foods available--not the portion sizes, but the actual variety of foods, especially fresh produce.

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +4

      Yessss I feel so exposed every time!!😂 like are the gaps getting wider and wider?!
      And oh my gosh I completely feel you on the array of foods. We have so many options in California I really missed that!

  • @nadinedaryl8514
    @nadinedaryl8514 2 года назад +6

    I remember in high school I made friends with a Japanese exchange student. I complimented her skirt because it was cute and had a bunch of stars on it. She was so taken back and kept thanking me for saying something so nice to her since it’s something she didn’t really experience back home from strangers. I miss her a lot and we still keep contact to this day :)

  • @Hirari103
    @Hirari103 2 года назад +6

    Yesss I'm so glad to hear this! 😭😭💖
    Coming from ireland, I really really missed how everyone was so warm and talkative, stangers will start to joke around or have small talk with you and I love it. But in Japan I couldn't really do that. I 100% agree when you say Japanese people are polite but it doesn't feel genuine, more just out of respect

  • @ralu_ioana_
    @ralu_ioana_ 2 года назад +12

    Proud fan. Can't wait for your your channel to get the recognition it deserves. Love u ♡♡♡

    • @mitceel
      @mitceel 2 года назад +4

      me toooo
      cant wait to be called an early fan

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +3

      Wow how sweet thank you!!🥺 much love:)) 💗💗

  • @mikemontesa3181
    @mikemontesa3181 11 месяцев назад +1

    I know this is a year-old video, and it seems you've moved on with your life, but I can definitely relate about reverse culture shock. I lived in Japan for 16 years after I graduated from college. I basically spent my 20s and 30s living in Tokyo. When I finally moved back to the U.S. I totally felt like a foreigner. I didn't realize how much I had adapted to Japan, and how much readjustment I'd have to go through. Particularly American work culture - that was a shock. I've been back now as long as I lived in Japan, and readjusted, but I still carry that experience with me. It's part of who I am now, and I feel fortunate because whenever I visit Japan, I feel as comfortable there as I do in the U.S. (and to be honest, I'd move back to Tokyo in a heartbeat if I could)...

    • @qwertyuiopqwertyuiop-bb4mi
      @qwertyuiopqwertyuiop-bb4mi 7 месяцев назад +1

      If I may ask, what’s stopping you from moving back to Tokyo? Just curious :)

    • @mikemontesa3181
      @mikemontesa3181 7 месяцев назад

      @@qwertyuiopqwertyuiop-bb4miI'm older now, with more commitments. It's not as easy to just pack up and go as it was when I'd just graduated college. But perhaps, when I retire...

  • @iman3724
    @iman3724 2 года назад +20

    Reverse culture shock is so jarring! I’ve had it three times 😭 when I moved to the UK I was so confused by just about everything. Particularly that people acted up in school and were rude to teachers. At least at the time growing up we didn’t have that cos most good schools were paid for and you dare not make a fuss lest your parents sent you to a trash school. Also, I was in shock at how many Caucasians were around and for the first time realised I was a minority 😭😂 to make it worse, going back to Nigeria a few years ago I got the opposite where I realised the country and culture moved on without me and the cities I knew didn’t exist in the same way. Then coming back to London again after 5 months in Lagos I was in shock over random things like orderly queuing to get on a bus/train, or how expensive natural hair dressers are here 😂

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +1

      Yesss it really is so shocking!! Ya some teachers are also treated like garbage in the US but some of our schools (actually most public schools) are really underfunded:(
      Wow that must have felt so strange!! I also felt like my hometown moved on without me! I’m trying to get used to all the new changes!

  • @XSemperIdem5
    @XSemperIdem5 2 года назад +15

    Oh no, the chattiness here (California) is not for me. I do not need to hear someone's medical history when they just sat next to me at the bus stop 😳
    But the bathrooms, I do not need to live in another country to know our bathroom stall doors are just plain wrong. If you can make direct eye contact through the mirror while on the toilet with someone washing their hands, that's just plain wrong.

  • @ivanbudianto1962
    @ivanbudianto1962 2 года назад +8

    In Japan, there are also many people who like to talk in the city of Osaka, even Osaka is more friendly than Tokyo from the perception of foreigners who have lived in these two cities.
    Speaking of compliments, that also happened in Osaka, once there was a youtuber who was taking his son on the train, sitting next to a middle-aged woman, and the woman suddenly said "kawai ne".

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +1

      Yes I noticed that when I was traveling in Osaka! I had many friendly encounters there:)
      And yes I’ve also noticed even in Tokyo many people give compliments to cute children and babies!😅

    • @ivanbudianto1962
      @ivanbudianto1962 2 года назад

      @@leilanirika Maybe if you want to have a lot of friends then stay in Osaka 😅

  • @laradigar
    @laradigar 2 года назад +11

    I was recently very shook while visiting Seattle for a couple of weeks coming from the UK, everyone asked how your day was going and even what your plans were and they MEANT IT, it was not like out for politeness, they showed real interest about your answer? After two weeks I had got used to it and was doing it myself haha

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +3

      RIGHT!! I was like oh people actually see me and are interested in how my day is going? I’m not invisible??! I never thought about it growing up but now I love it haha

  • @itiskelpy
    @itiskelpy 2 года назад +2

    As a Canadian I have def noticed Americans are way more talkative. I love how friendly Americans are!

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад

      Haha I’ve always noticed how friendly all the Canadians I’ve met are!

  • @mixelle_0
    @mixelle_0 2 года назад +4

    I literally cannot fathom going to Tokyo until I can honestly say my outfits are ON POINT like from everything that I’ve watched I just cannot let myself go there looking a hot mess and embarrassing myself 😖 lol

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +1

      HAHAHAH it’s ok girly I would go out looking like a hot mess sometimes;) also when in doubt, dressing really simple is in fashion there! Like an all monochrome look or wearing all neutrals is super popular!

  • @carolinestephenson711
    @carolinestephenson711 2 года назад +4

    Mmm, agree, Japanese bathrooms are blessed lol. I kinda like the casual dress of the US, but it do be fun to dress up sometimes

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +2

      Love a Japanese bathroom🚽✨👌🏼
      Ya I like how I can get dressed up depending on my mood for that day!

  • @lukabratzee873
    @lukabratzee873 2 года назад

    Aloha Leilani!🤙Happened upon your channel a couple days ago and loving your energy! Not to mention the your sense of humor! Newest sub here. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us. Be blessed! Mahalo -Luka🤙

  • @mariekegeelen502
    @mariekegeelen502 2 года назад +3

    Here in the Netherlands public transportation is also pretty big, pretty much all students take the train because they get free public transportation from the government. I only got my driver's license last week and I love driving, but if I have to go to uni I will still take the train/bus.

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +1

      That’s amazing!! I definitely feel like students should have free access to public transportation👍🏻 and yesss having access to both driving and public transport would be my ideal!

  • @celylove
    @celylove 2 года назад

    So funny u posted this video in the last days! I had my first reverse cultural shock last week after going back Spain after three years🤯🤯🤯 I felt so out of place

  • @USMarshmallow
    @USMarshmallow 3 месяца назад

    I lived in Japan from 2013-2016. I've been back in the states for eight years... I'm still getting reverse culture shock. I don't like being back in my home country anymore. It's supposed to only last a year or two...I still have it.

  • @GingerByrn1
    @GingerByrn1 2 года назад

    We lived in Germany for three years, and I miss public transit sooooo much. Sometimes I like a good long drive, but I do really miss a street car. We also walked a lot just during the day or along the paths through the fields and forests around our village. I also found that I could taste all the preservatives in U.S. food.

  • @adriennehilll
    @adriennehilll 2 года назад

    Yes!!! I live in korea and am visiting the U.S right now and I’m experiencing almost all of the same stuff!!! 😅

  • @julia5669
    @julia5669 2 года назад +5

    This was so interesting! I would love to live out of my country at some point so that I can feel this hahaha and I know there are going to be many culture shocks, even within my own country, just by getting out of my city 😂

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +2

      Yesss many of my friends and I felt reverse culture shock when we moved out of our hometown for college! Coming back home put so many things into perspective😅 it’s so fascinating seeing how many different bubbles there are in the world!!

  • @SunnyApril
    @SunnyApril 2 года назад +1

    Im living in northern France and the public transportation are on point too here, really efficient and convenient :) I have been twice in japan, and it is true i have felt that fast pace in tokyo, but not at all in Okinawa nor in Kyoto. People over there are really friendly and welcoming ! In fact, Tokyo was my less favorite part of my whole japan trip 😆 love your content btw ! Cheers from 🇫🇷

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +1

      That’s amazing, I would love to visit France one day!!🥰 ooo I’ve never been to Okinawa but yes the energy is very different in Kyoto! Every restaurant I dined at was so welcoming and the owners were always so sweet and warm!
      And thank you so much!💖💖

    • @missplainjane3905
      @missplainjane3905 2 года назад

      Because of the vibes ?

  • @_noutarin
    @_noutarin 2 года назад +8

    I really enjoyed this video! I related to your experiences so much when I visited AZ from Japan two and a half years ago. Like you said, public restrooms are absolutely disgusting and everyone & everything is huge. The US public restrooms are disgusting to the point that I could probably count on one hand the number of times I've actually used one since I avoid them like the plague.
    I think I may actually be one of the few Americans who doesn't have a license and can't drive 😭 so I really like the convenience of the trains here in Japan.
    When you first got back to the US, did you ever accidentally use Japanese with a stranger or acquaintance? One time I said はい to the mailman when he asked me something lol.

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +4

      HAHA I try to avoid the restrooms as much as possible too!😭😂😂
      And OMG hahaha I don’t think I ever accidentally used Japanese since being back but for some reason I instinctively bow a lot to the point that it’s embarrassing OOPS! Like when I’m leaving a store or restaurant I start bowing when I say thank you😅😅

    • @missplainjane3905
      @missplainjane3905 2 года назад

      Are you fluent in japanese ?

  • @DaRandomOhana
    @DaRandomOhana 2 года назад +4

    Me and my family went to Japan a few years ago for my cousins wedding. It was amazing! Everything was impeccably clean, there wasn’t any litter on the streets & no trash cans so I had to remember to have a small bag for my trash in my backpack. I had to bring my own hand wipes since the bathrooms didn’t have dryers or paper towels. The fact that there’s SO MANY vending machines everywhere. And how not child friendly Osaka and Tokyo was with taking the trains. There are so many stairs with no elevators most of the time so having my stroller made it really hard. I rode a taxi twice and the first time I thought I was gonna die, he was speeding and going in & out of traffic as if he was racing or chasing someone. Lmao!! OH! And the taxi doors open and close on their own! & I did experience racism a few times, once while I was trying to take a taxi to leave Disneyland and once at a restaurant.

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +2

      Yes yes yes to all of these! I would have to find convenience stores like 711 to throw away my trash haha😂 and yes if you aren’t familiar with the stations it can be really complicated finding elevators! I usually had to ask a worker every time haha
      And oh my goodness I’m so sorry you had to deal with racism😞 I’ve had friends with similar experiences in Japan. Sometimes I’ve been out with other foreigner friends and restaurants would decline to serve us

    • @ivanbudianto1962
      @ivanbudianto1962 2 года назад

      But Japan is not a racist country, of course there are racists all over the world, only many of them foreigners who live in Japan rarely get racist, because Japanese people have been taught from a young age about morals to respect differences, so if there are racist people it's not represents that all Japanese people are like that.

    • @DaRandomOhana
      @DaRandomOhana 2 года назад

      @@ivanbudianto1962 yes, I know they mostly aren’t a racist country. I’m okinawan so I do know the history of the horrible racism us Okinawan’s went through when Japan took over.
      We were there for 10 days and many of the people were extremely nice, I even gave a lot of them omiyage from here in Hawaii. But I was totally shocked when we were at the restaurant in Osaka….my cousins wife and friend were with us and they’re born and raised there. We didn’t get all of the food we ordered and we had horrible service even though they weren’t busy. They gave us our check and asked us to leave(without our food). The owner even came to walk us out. My cousins wife was speaking to him in Japanese and he said “you speak very well” she goes on to say that she’s from there. He was extremely apologetic and bowing a LOT and asked us to come back in. But we didn’t.

    • @DaRandomOhana
      @DaRandomOhana 2 года назад

      @@leilanirika i did that too!!! Hahaha! As soon as I’d see a convenience store I’d dump everything I could. &i never bothered the workers because we were always in a rush. LOL I had all my family with me so everyone would grab a corner of the stroller and carry it but man that got really tiring! Hahaha
      Btw, I always wondered how you have a Hawaiian name. Did your parents live here or were you born here??

    • @missplainjane3905
      @missplainjane3905 2 года назад

      @@DaRandomOhana
      Don't mind me asking these questions.
      1) Do you consider Japan as a highly developed and advanced country ?
      2) How would you personally rate Japan (from culture to technology, architecture, food, local products, scenery/landscape, standard of living/quality of life, etc.) on a scale level of 1 to 10 ?
      3) What is your overall impression with the Japanese people ?
      4) If you have 3 words or more to describe Japan, what would it be ?

  • @808jin
    @808jin 2 года назад +2

    I had the same reverse culture shock when I returned to the states after living in Japan.... Garbage trucks in the US look like Transformers compared to small Japanese ones lol.

    • @missplainjane3905
      @missplainjane3905 2 года назад

      Don't mind me asking these questions.
      1) Do you consider Japan as a highly developed and advanced country ?
      2) How would you personally rate Japan (from culture to technology, architecture, food, local products, scenery/landscape, standard of living/quality of life, etc.) on a scale level of 1 to 10 ?
      3) What is your overall impression with the Japanese people ?
      4) If you have 3 words or more to describe Japan, what would it be ?

  • @RoseHoneyRitual
    @RoseHoneyRitual 2 года назад

    I used to LOOOVE car rides but now I have really intense car anxiety. I do know what you mean and miss (enjoying) that!

  • @saiyorihime
    @saiyorihime 2 года назад +1

    Super interesting video! I like a mixture of both cultures! In America's defense, I do like the "freedom" of wearing what you want because it really doesn't define you as a person and you wear what you want for yourself if that makes sense. This is not taking into account how judgemental people can be, but I'm of the opinion of be your best self, well dressed or not! ❤️✨❤️✨❤️

  • @blackanimequeen253
    @blackanimequeen253 2 года назад +1

    Amazing video queen 👸

  • @xrubyxlightx
    @xrubyxlightx 2 года назад

    Lol i remember back in undergrad, i had a roommate from tokyo and she'd ALWAYS dress up even if she was going down for a coffee at our nearby cafe. I didnt like that i looked like shit next to her so i changed my style and the rest is history. Now i'm arguably the most dressed up person wherever i go :)

  • @LeireFB
    @LeireFB 2 года назад +3

    I'd be so stressed in Japan having to look good all the time! I don't even know how to do my make up and the only hairstyle I've ever mastered is the high ponytail. I know I want to visit Japan, but I just wouldn't thrive living there 😅

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +2

      Haha I felt stressed too but it’s all in my head!😂 as long as you own your look no one actually really cares! I just need to stop comparing so much hehe😅

  • @bangnandawalker7298
    @bangnandawalker7298 2 года назад

    Good Content 🇺🇸🇯🇵, greeting from Bandung City in Indonesia 🇮🇩🇮🇩🇮🇩🇮🇩🇮🇩, nice to meet you

  • @cj4607
    @cj4607 2 года назад +1

    OMG I love your glasses!

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад

      Thank you!! Just my snazzy blue light blocking glasses🤓 they help out a lot when I’m starring at my screen for hours while editing😅

  • @RoseHoneyRitual
    @RoseHoneyRitual 2 года назад

    Wow this is so interesting!!

  • @lynnontherun
    @lynnontherun 2 года назад

    When I visited my parents (who were living in Hamburg, Germany at the time) I looooved walking, taking the train, and taking buses everywhere. Their public transport is way better than America so it wasn’t a burden at all. In Seattle though I’d rather drive and search for parking than take the bus most of the time, because if you aren’t going north-south it’s another hour on the bus.
    When I got home from my year in the UK I also had driving culture shock lol. I still don’t think I’ve gotten my old driving confidence back tbh, even though it’s been years since I came home. That may be bc I’m in a city though, and the traffic in the city is different from the ‘burbs.
    Do you plan on getting an apartment or staying with your parents? I moved back in with my parents for 6 months after I came home from studying abroad, but that was obvs different bc I was a recent grad vs a working professional lol.

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +1

      Ahh I would love to visit Germany! Ya it’s so nice being able to walk everywhere it really feels like you are present in your environment!
      And yesss driving in busier cities still makes me nervous💧 all the one way streets and speedy drivers make me uneasy hahaha
      I don’t have any plans for moving out just yet but I guess it depends how everything works out this year!

  • @luzperras728
    @luzperras728 2 года назад

    Girl, I used to judge people that look like they shop in Walmart but now I have become one of them! Sometimes you just want to grab and go and jump right back into bed 😂 😂 😂

  • @KianaMid
    @KianaMid 2 года назад +1

    Love the necklaces

  • @zackaryarm
    @zackaryarm 2 года назад

    When i returned from japan, when i landed in LAX is was STUPID LOUD!!!!!! there were 20 different languages being spoken on the phone in public and i had to really adjust to how invasive the american people are on your personal privacy.

  • @learudolf
    @learudolf 2 года назад +1

    Hey gurl, so glad to have news from you! Really loving all your Californian videos you made till now, you still have the same sweet pink energy 💗
    I had a huge reverse culture shock too when I came back to France in the past months after 1 year in Japan, I mean... damn can Paris be loud and disgustinggg 😩
    PS: Where the heck is Cinnamoroll? I miss its offendedness 💢

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад

      Awww pink energy I love that!🥺💗💗
      HAHAH I’ve never visited Paris before I would still love to see it for myself!!
      Cinnamoroll was NASTY so we had to throw her in the wash!😂 she’s sparkling clean now✨ I’ll show her glow up process soon;)

  • @GlassShark86
    @GlassShark86 2 года назад

    Do you tip at all in Japan? I feel like your waiter/waitress in the US is busting butt for some tips and chat you up.

  • @MissEleana06
    @MissEleana06 2 года назад

    wait a minute...where did the cinnamoroll plushie go ? :'(
    edit : nevermind, i check the comments, glad she was just taking a bath :)

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад +1

      She will be back cleaner than ever!!✨💕

  • @MMAKEUPK
    @MMAKEUPK 2 года назад

    9:31 BAHAHAHAHAHAH

    • @MMAKEUPK
      @MMAKEUPK 2 года назад +1

      Omg I’d go running when I lived in Chiba in the morning commute hours w leggings, and all the salary men passing me on the way to work would be like (~_~;)

    • @leilanirika
      @leilanirika  2 года назад

      HAHAH OH GORL IM SHOOK💀
      I lived in China too when I first studied abroad and when I went out bra-less the salary men were not ready😂😭 needless to say I learned my lesson and I’ve worn a bra ever since…

  • @KianaMid
    @KianaMid 2 года назад +2

    Omg first comment