I think you handled that really respectfully, with good advice. The one that gave me a lot of comfort was you saying that even if you have in laws that treat you well it can still be hard. I've been feeling guilt over it and I can feel the silent pressure to "have adjusted by now" after a year and struggling to feel at "home" when you're living in someone elses home and are supposed to adjust to their way of doing things.
My experience was fine in the first few months, it's after that my MIL got very comfortable insulting me all the time. I still don't say anything back, I hope to leave quietly for my husbands sake. And RE: having kids, just made it x10 worse. I don't get the help I should and I was expected to get back to work a week after my horrible c section
I just got married last week to a pakistani, and we decided to move into our own place. I am so glad. I personally think living with in laws is not as great as it sounds, it depends on the family and their values. I know were paying rent but I'd rather pay rent than have to deal with family disagreements and less privacy. Even living outside of the family I've noticed they have so many disagreements that I am so happy I can take a back seat from!
I have been living with my Pakistani in laws for nearly a year now and my husband wants me to take a 100% role in chores, even when I work etc. He doesn't like it when his mum lays a finger and when she does I get passive remarks and he makes me feel bad or guilty even though she's bored and has no job so she cooks and cleans to keep herself busy. I help my in-laws as much as I can but I don't know what to do in the mean time. I can't move out right now because we can't financially afford it, maybe in a year we might. Do you have any advice for the mean time
I hope you have moved out but if not I hope things are better if not then i implore you to speak with your husband that you need him to hear you when you speak and tell him how you feel and i hope he hears you and he speaks to your in laws to treat you with the respect you deserve
Sorry but the men need to man up and not rely on their parents. I’m not being rude here at all and I don’t want anyone to think I’m mocking people’s culture or religion but I find it so sexist the way the woman is expected to live with her in laws. My friend got married in 2019 in Glasgow however she had to basically give up her life and career to move up north for him and live with his family for three years and she has had a baby too along with some health issues but she is away from her parents. They have their own place now but they lived with them for three years or something ridiculous. I think that’s shocking and isn’t right in this day in age especially as she has been left alone a lot of the time as her husband is an off shore worker. She makes out everything is great but I think it’s a show personally as she was a very ambitious person before marriage. She has a social media presence and if I’m honest I think that’s why she got married. The husband should man up and stop relying on mummy. Apparently they will always have to live near his family as “he is the one who provides.” Sorry that is BS especially as she is raising the child. There needs to be more equality sorry.
i lived with my mother in law for about 4 years. in the beginning it was sooo hard and everybody around who was married just not long ago had a home and we just had a room for us own. As it wasnt our home the rules were made by mummy in law - and she had strict rules- so we had a lot of problems - but as i said- just in the beginning. After 4 years we finally bought our own house and now im missing the time with her in the same house 😂😂 yupp, very strange! it was more easier living with her - and she cooked every day and it was just delicious and as Zeinah said - no rents! - best thing ever! Mommy was doing everything and now we have to do all by out own 😩
Why are you so beautiful??♥️♥️♥️ Ma sha Allah,, 😘 And its not easy living with in laws,. If I have choice , I would rather prefer to raise my kids on my own than living with in laws , not because they aren't nice but because it will keep our relationships much better n healthier..
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I think there’s more love in living separately instead of being in each other’s face everyday
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totally!
I live with my in laws for almost 4 years. I really want just a studio flat I need my freedoom. Please make dua for me girls
I have been living with my in laws for 11 years now !!! Hang in there my dear ! One day things will become brighter for us ia !
@@wiam1301 ان شاء الله sis
@@samirahhz6250 ان شاء الله حبيبتي 👍🌷
Lol I would have refused my parents won’t let me live with in-laws I need my own separate house don’t like living with many ppl either
Hey girls, I have been getting in INFLUX of Q's on the dress I am wearing, I have LINKED the dress in the description box. Happy shopping! x
I think you handled that really respectfully, with good advice. The one that gave me a lot of comfort was you saying that even if you have in laws that treat you well it can still be hard. I've been feeling guilt over it and I can feel the silent pressure to "have adjusted by now" after a year and struggling to feel at "home" when you're living in someone elses home and are supposed to adjust to their way of doing things.
My experience was fine in the first few months, it's after that my MIL got very comfortable insulting me all the time. I still don't say anything back, I hope to leave quietly for my husbands sake. And RE: having kids, just made it x10 worse. I don't get the help I should and I was expected to get back to work a week after my horrible c section
I just got married last week to a pakistani, and we decided to move into our own place. I am so glad. I personally think living with in laws is not as great as it sounds, it depends on the family and their values. I know were paying rent but I'd rather pay rent than have to deal with family disagreements and less privacy. Even living outside of the family I've noticed they have so many disagreements that I am so happy I can take a back seat from!
You are right.
Congrats darling! And I totally agree! I wish you all the best 💖
Congratulations love. Wish you nothing but happiness x
@@atikaahmed2304 thanks xxx
@@ZeinahNur thanks girl xx
Your Dress Like wow!
queenqueen73 thank you 😘😘
Where is it from, it's so pretty
I have been living with my Pakistani in laws for nearly a year now and my husband wants me to take a 100% role in chores, even when I work etc. He doesn't like it when his mum lays a finger and when she does I get passive remarks and he makes me feel bad or guilty even though she's bored and has no job so she cooks and cleans to keep herself busy. I help my in-laws as much as I can but I don't know what to do in the mean time. I can't move out right now because we can't financially afford it, maybe in a year we might. Do you have any advice for the mean time
I hope you have moved out but if not I hope things are better if not then i implore you to speak with your husband that you need him to hear you when you speak and tell him how you feel and i hope he hears you and he speaks to your in laws to treat you with the respect you deserve
Yeah divorce the guy. Don't put up with abuse. Why should you do everything.
So, you are becoming the maid, bit by bit.
Been waiting for this. Glad you uploaded it now. 😍😍😍😍
flowergirl xx aww thank you darling, hope you enjoyed it 😘
i totally understand when you said "absolutely nothing" lol. I feel exactly the same! alhamdulillah for everything.
can you pls do an updated makeup routine?! your makeup looks flawless
Of course I can! Thank you 😘
I go just for holidays to see them and is very difficult to live with them I stay with them for a week or 2 weeks is very difficult to have privacy
Wow your skin looks amaaaazing Ma Sha Allah. Looks airbrushed☺️
Why thank you! All down to my skincare routine 😘
Salaam sis could you please link your dresse it’s so gorgeous MashaAllah
wan ku faraxsanahay sidaad udhowrtay diintaada iyo dhaqankaada allaha ku xifduyo adiga iyo dhamaan reerkaada
Xafuuz Xarako Mansha allah Lakiin Somali armey eheen
Waa soomali abaayo waa gabadh soomaaliyeed
It's also not Somali culture so its not something you see or are prepped for at all so it must be hard when you do and its foreign to your culture
U looking gorgeous ma sha Allah and it was a great topic I remember a lot of painful memories while u were answering questions...
Bushra Hussain thank you hun! Aww I pray you’re happy now xx
Zeinah Nur thanks for replying 😍 and allhamdolillah I’m very happy now in our own house small happy family thank you again 😊🥰🥰
Where is the dress from?!
Your outfit looks amazing Ma Sha Allah 😍😍😍😍
Thank you doll 😘
Zeinah pls give us the link to your dress :") it's gorgeous!
todoroki stan acc I will do babe! I’ll link it in a little bit xx
Congratulations on your 1000k
Woww where's your dress from?
she put in the desc box
Sorry but the men need to man up and not rely on their parents. I’m not being rude here at all and I don’t want anyone to think I’m mocking people’s culture or religion but I find it so sexist the way the woman is expected to live with her in laws. My friend got married in 2019 in Glasgow however she had to basically give up her life and career to move up north for him and live with his family for three years and she has had a baby too along with some health issues but she is away from her parents. They have their own place now but they lived with them for three years or something ridiculous. I think that’s shocking and isn’t right in this day in age especially as she has been left alone a lot of the time as her husband is an off shore worker. She makes out everything is great but I think it’s a show personally as she was a very ambitious person before marriage. She has a social media presence and if I’m honest I think that’s why she got married. The husband should man up and stop relying on mummy. Apparently they will always have to live near his family as “he is the one who provides.” Sorry that is BS especially as she is raising the child. There needs to be more equality sorry.
You look amazing Zeinah😘
COOKING CORNER thank you so much hunny 😘😘
Maa shaa Allah Zeinah Nur ! Det är jättefin 😍
Congrats on 100k subscribers 🤗
Thank you beautiful 😘
Great video - as always :)
Ma shaa Allah TabarakAllah very nice Q & A so sweet you n family members 😍😍😘😘
Ismath Althaf thank you 💖
I don’t even wear hijab in front my brother in-law 😂#hesyoung
You should
Bad woman 😳
Nope, not if he’s still a kid!!
What's wrong with you, so easy to judge, someone?
Hey zeinah, 25 seconds and first viewer yay never this early
Bushra Hussain yayy! 💕
i lived with my mother in law for about 4 years. in the beginning it was sooo hard and everybody around who was married just not long ago had a home and we just had a room for us own. As it wasnt our home the rules were made by mummy in law - and she had strict rules- so we had a lot of problems - but as i said- just in the beginning. After 4 years we finally bought our own house and now im missing the time with her in the same house 😂😂 yupp, very strange! it was more easier living with her - and she cooked every day and it was just delicious and as Zeinah said - no rents! - best thing ever! Mommy was doing everything and now we have to do all by out own 😩
Love this dress! 😍😍 where is it from zeinah?? XX
Masha Allah gorgeous and love your dress
Thank you 😘
hi nice video can u ask wears ur dress from ma sha Allah looks lovely
Lool at absolutely nothing 😂😂
You’re looking amazing 😉 masha allh
And i love your RUclips Chanel wllhi ❣️❣️🥰
Najah Nalka you’re so kind! Thank you my love 😘
You look so lovely thanks you for doing the vlog x
Congrats on ur 100k subscribers sister
Looking beautiful mashaAllah and you chose a very sensitive topic...thats very good of you😊
Loveeeee your outfit 😍😍😍😍😍
Why are you so beautiful??♥️♥️♥️ Ma sha Allah,, 😘
And its not easy living with in laws,. If I have choice , I would rather prefer to raise my kids on my own than living with in laws , not because they aren't nice but because it will keep our relationships much better n healthier..
From where ur dress is from. You look amazing💕
Lovely video sis.
❤️
Never been this early lmfaooo first
Same
Beautiful
Hi I ll watch once my daughter in bed where is ur dress from really suits u
Iram shahzadi shahzadi it’ll be linked hun xx
Zeinah N
I need this dress in my Lyf rn
It’s linked hun 😘
I love all your videos MashAllah 🥰x
Amina Siddique aww thank you hunny 😘😘
I asked your first question lol x
Its very late here in kenya but i can't miss this face...Masha Allah great video,
you look gorgeous mashallah
Hi beautiful dress ma shaa Allah. Can i have the link for the dress please
I have linked it& thank you 😘
Thank you
@@cookwithfatou4837 i don't see the link
100k 🤗
Masha allh sister❤🏅
First x
Assalamu Alykum sister the dress is from Zara
It is not from Zara, I have linked it. X
Jazakallah khairan sis🤗