Can Guys and Girls Just Be Friends? - Omar Suleiman
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- Опубликовано: 8 авг 2012
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Sheikh does not shy away from the truth. May Allah preserve him
Jack Bob Why are you here troll? To spread your islamophobia, or to feed your ego? At least we Muslims talk about these issues unlike you people whose daughters give birth to fatherless children, and those children grow up to make the same mistakes as you - a neverending cycle of ignorance and broken families.
Ameen ya Rabb
@@allbboss There is no doubt that those problems exist in Western culture, but we don't engage in the much graver practices of 'honour killings' and forced marriages.
@@maxb9315 Show me a authentic hadith or a verse from from the Quran that validates "honor killings" and "forced marriages"? Both of issues mentioned are linked to cultural practices, not Islam.
I didn't claim these were advocated in Islamic scripture. I merely pointed out that they are associated with Muslim culture. Do you suppose that fatherless children and broken families are validated in the New Testament?
Here because i saw this video on tiktok and he is so understanding!!
Same here
@@ferdausmalon6120 😊
All of Islam is this way
Actually😅😅
Same here
Islam is based on the norm, not the exception. Truly fantastic
As-Salaam-Alaikum
Allah lead me to Islam and I am so touched about how no one or prophet or anything is worthy of worship except Allah, I am touched about the morals, and I am touched about donating 2.5 percent of one's income to orphans and homeless. Islam is a true blessing and I am joyful I said my Shahada a couple days ago and I'm now enrolled in a program, New Muslim Academy. :) From a humanly perspective a guy and a girl are probably friends on social media. But guys really are friends with guys. How can guys really be friends with other girls!? It doesn't make sense. There are cultural differences between my Dad's Latino side growing up and Mom's English/Welsh/Canadian side. I view Latinos as more family orientated but I know cousin relationships can happen in both cultures. I was really surprised as a Kid when I first heard my Chinese Uncle mention how cousin relationships happen in China. I pray people will recognize that Islam is the norm Inshallah and I pray that people will submit. Aameen
@@iowagirl9563 These thought apply not only to muslim men, but to all men around the world regardless of religion. As he was also informing us in the video, all men are made to be biologically attracted to women, wether or not you may accept it, people can think of these thoughts. Of course that does not mean all of us think that way.
Iowa Girl listen I can also put you down and speak in a foul language about your religion and race but I choose to be a bigger person than you and I’m a Muslim! Your not winning anything by putting down a religious belief or a race at the end of your internet bullying you got nothing from it please go educated yourself or else you’ll burn in hell!
If someone's intentions are not clear,he is not a true believer.
Norms are based on intentions,intentions balance the norms,and norms could be on situations,persons but the blanket norms of the real believers is not a over strict segregation but norms of decency and respect in the open places,yes and but the khalwah is prohibited
I am an agnostic, ex catholic Christian. I have been thinking long and hard about the dangers of Islam as a political system, the immigration crisis in Europe and the downfall of western values.
I am coming to the conclusion that Islam has the strength to overtake the west, and maybe that's the only salvation for humanity. The west has lost its morals, we are lost children at each other's throats, we don't recognize the value of community, family, everything is relativism.
I see muslims around the world, they are decent people, that value family, loyalty, morality, rules and ethic.
We will not like it, but without those things we are doomed.
do you even realize why these things happen in west?
Islam will always be hated, it is a religion of red pill. When you ignore all the bullshit, and read the Qu’ran you will understand why it is so hated. Being a muslim doesnt have an ethnicity, like christianity does. Anyone can be Muslim, no one can represent Islam besides the prophets. PBUT.
Look into Islam, even if you dont want to convert just gain knowledge of Islam.
@@phantom-xb6wv what are you talking about? Christianity doesnt have an ethnicity either. You may not know much about history but in olden times, christian preachers would travel to china part of asia to teach and bring christianity to different people. Are you saying those Chinese who became Christians turn white? I have black friends that are christians but apparently to you they arent black but european? I'm Muslim but dont lie and deceit about other religions just to make Islam more appealing. Its like lying to someone just for them to be your friend. You shouldnt pretend to be rich just for someone to be your friend. You should have them like you for you. You should invite people to Islam for what Islam offers. Not lie about what other religions lack. These arent political campaign ads.
Yes brother islam will take over as the ruling system of the world. But i assure you the peace at that time would be unprecedented in human history. Things like immorality poverty capitalism racism etc etc would be abolished. It is the system we humans in general really need, whether we agree or not.
Ghulam Mustafa one could say the same about their religion
And they say Friendship is the first step of Relationship/Love
Yes so
I presume that if you feel like you’re becoming friends with a female, you should hold back on your desires that could cause you to sin. Instead get to know the individual to the core and be patient as time will reveal if you and her resonate and can potentially pursue a life long happy marriage, which will be halal by default. I think that this may be the meaning of true love, when you marry the woman that you’ve been patient enough to persevere all her qualities in the most beautiful and authentic form.
@@heshamhegazy4264 but teenagers can be friends with different genders with respect
@@blue-sj4mf Your point is important however, it's generic and doesn't correlate with the principle intended in this video. Respect is important regardless of the relationship and age. However, one should not embrace that word as an excuse to shadow over the pursuit of unlawful acts. Teenagers could respect one another while committing sin with each other. The flavours and colours of premarital respect in Islam between opposite sexes differ from the common idea of mutual respect because it doesn't tie in with any protocols of the Islamic faith. A man respecting another female in Islam is the same way a man respects his sister in Islam, hence why Muslims who fear Allah always reference each other as sisters and brothers.
@@heshamhegazy4264 yes thats what i meant they can be friends with respect without sins
I really like this changed me to a better Muslim and I'm just a kid 14 years old
Ismail Aden lol London east academy boy I'm I right
May Allah keep you on the straight path brother!!
I'm 11
So youre 19 now...and im 15...hows life brother ?
i love what he said, "exception is not an example". jazak allahu khairan.
100 % correct .... I agree
wife : who is she?
husband: my friend.
wife : yeah, I was your friend.
Ahmad Vawaid Sulthon exactly!
*spits coffee from mouth at speed of light*
@@muhammadarian8493 🤣
So it is haram for them to get together then!
I see a lot of people arguing baselessly. The point here is, a straight man will have some sort of attraction towards a woman or vice versa sometimes. It's a universal fact! Unnecessary interaction will lead to Haram or Fitnah. You can be strictly professional and share no personal space( Allah knows the best) but there's always going to be one who'll catch feelings. This causes scarring of hearts which is not a consensus in Islam. Sharing pictures, personal space, knowledge beyond which a person is not allowed to know you, physical attraction, so many other Haram stuff. And from my personal experience I'd certainly agree "Guys and girls can't be friends"!
I will never doing this
I am 19 year old male and i have my class mate who is a girl....we are friends for two years and i don't have any wrong intentions for her. Is this wrong?
I don't really interact with guys. However, I had this cousin who seemed really inocent , we used to talk from time to time when we met each other at family gatherings and stuff like that. We always talked when we were with others, but there was one time : everyone left and it was just us. I didn't really pay too much attention to that because I didn't have any further intentions, in fact, I had never thought about it. That was until he suddenly touched my behind. I was shocked. I felt rage, anger...I will never forgive him for that. Guys can't be friends.
A straight man will NOT invariably have some sort of attraction towards a woman and vice versa. Put crudely, there are some women he'll fancy and some he won't.
:(
This was very well said! Most logical and consistent speech I've heard on the topic.
"How can you know the intentions of the other person?"
To the non muslims commenting nasty things here, if u r not interested in muslim affairs, why don't you go and troll somewhere else and let us be?
+xasanaat Tv It is simple. Because you immigrate into Western world, we have to think how to deal with your morals, traditions, things you teach your children. We don't want to wake up one day, where Muslims democratically impose on us, in public spaces rules of "decency", "sex segregation" etc.
Besides, some of us find your rules, your teachings as creating very probable risks of harming people, even if it harms themselves on their own, such as:
- if Muslim boys are taught that only "covered" women are decent, it influences how they treat noncovered,
- if boys and girls are not allowed to flirt before marriage, then the West should accept arranged marriages, and this contradicts our values (like valuing love, freedom of choice, and it is quite reasonable to think that Islam brainwashes, along with Muslim community, believers not to find love as necessary reason to marry or that their choice is truly free, when in fact they choose a person they don't know, but wish to respect parents choice etc).
Jack Bob
Dude you did your homework!
That's impressive.
+Aysha A My last comment, since you don't wish to respond: I think you are probably very nice looking, I love your eyes, though I prefer women not having any make-up. Your niqab doesn't make me less interested of your physicality, even though I see naked women when I am watching erotics, porn on a daily basis.
Jack Bob
I'm surprised you didn't get the sarcasm in that...
That's a BIG bummer....guys, like you, are 'suppose' to be smart.
empty vessels make the most noise!
You commenting on/watching ISLAMIC videos is like casting PEARLS before swine!
JUST a friendly reminder "beauty is only skin deep"
+Aysha A Yes, you are right. It could be just sarcasm, but there was some probability that you are not biased against someone who doesn't respect Islam. I wished to think that you might be a different kind of Muslim. Sorry for disappointing you with my low intelligence. Good day to you.
A year ago i found out that it's haaram to be friends with a girl so when i was ready to tell her we are not gonna friends anymore before i could tell her that she said that she is gonna switch school and i'm never gonna see her again. So i didn't even need to tell her don't know if it is a win win🤣 either way it was much easier to me( sorry for my bad english)
Turk
Alhamdulillah! Allah made it easier for you. You are a very lucky person.
So helpful ... Mashallah
Such a good video Ma Sha'a Allah
The best teaching is from islam , you like it or no
I am a Muslim man and I am looking for a woman who converted to Islam 00212602917255 💖💖
THAT WAS ACTUALLY REALLY WELL SAID. 👏
WHY ARE THERE SO MANY CHRISTIANS IN THE COMMENTS RUINING OUR EMAAN
Don’t let them affect your eman, they sometimes are paid to bash Islam with false comments and try to hate on the true Rleigion with Proof and Evidence and actually it’s easy to answer eid false claims with proof and evidence in Islam ALHAMDULILLAH
Ikr and they are even disrespectful sometimes!
@@hellowhatsup4622 really ??!! omg! alhamdulilah tysm!! i was so confuse and scared. alot of other islmaic based videoes have people who say many fake stuff about our religion, and it makes me scared if i will lose my iman. well alhammdulillah, now i know that those people are trying to trick us with the real religion, thank you so much~!!
may allah bless you !!
The Muslims that say male-female friendship is alright are definitely the ones who doesn't keep their gazes low.
You can deal with someone professionally being atmost modest with pure intention to deal with work.
It's not about friendship, it's about how modest do you carry yourself in the way you present your appearance, behaviour, gaze anything of that sort with pure intentions.
@@user-hq8sl7om9i Islam has no issue with professional talking and interacting but friendship with other gender is like playing with fire.Even in professional dealing gaze should be low,talking should be straight word to word not like lame jokes and flirting thing going on.
@@ahsanaliiqbalansari2354 I AM 18 YEARS OLD I WILL BE FRIENDS WITH WHOEVER I WANT TO YOU MDRXHOD KI ULAD IMAGINE GOING TO JHNAM JUST BECAUSE I HAVE FEMALE FRIENDS 😂😂😂
Tujh jese mdrcxcd islam ko barbad kartehein gndu
So i should avoid girls you whrr son
Reading the comments from my fellow Muslims makes me realize how much we prioritize our religion. Our desires and wants come before what Allah has ordered us to do.
We can be friends with different GENDERS with respect
@@blue-sj4mf have a shame of your sweet name, please... Such a sweet name and such bad thinking
@@hasnain9654 PPL LIKE YOU GIVE ISLAM MY BEUTIFUL RELIGION A BAD NAME DONT YOU FEEL embarrassed you son if a whrr
@@blue-sj4mf please my bro Mustafa please... male and female can never be friends
@@blue-sj4mf ALLAH says in Quran Surah Noor Verse No 30 "Lower your gaze towards forbidden things" and women are called "Na Mehrams" of man for a reason...Mehram relations are only brother, husband, father, grandfather, father-in-law, uncles; all others are na mehrams for you...
mashaallah true words shukran Jazzakallahu kheiran ya Akhi.much love from kenya brother.Hijjab its a need for Humanity
JazakALLAH Brother. .!
Love how clearly he explained jt
I needed this
He is absolutely right.
Great video/neatly educative.
Those who understands I,e
The last lines were savage.. loved it
I have à mâle best friend but after seeing this video I told him we shouldn't be friends anymore I mean my intention are pure and I thinks his is also pure cause we have been friends like forever.
May allah reward you
But, most scholers said it's not haram. I feel bad for him, you just ended your relationship without much evidence :'(
@@rocketpencil5948 plz can u tell me it is ok for me i just chat with a guy and i call him brother he also talk to me like i am his sis so is it ok for me 😢 or you have any idea about this according to islam
@@lionessqueen6979 no sister it is not ok. Please remember one thing. Allah warned us not to follow the foot steps of shaitan. Which means you don't have to follow him all at once it's like a quick sand. Once u step in its keeps pulling you deeper. So be on the safer side. We all have to die one day and face Allah alone.
@@naghsnsh thank uhhh so much sis and plz guide me how I can get rid of him because we are too close plz must ans me I will be truely grateful to uhh
Before you quickly label someone as a heretic as soon as you disagree with one of their opinions; stop to consider for a moment that they might be more beloved and closer to Allah than you are, and that Allah might decide to defend their honour against you on the day of judgement. If you disagree, do so respectfully, as even one wrong opinion (which I’m not saying this is) doesn’t nullify all of someone’s good deeds and render them non-Muslim
I love how he addresses painpoints and doesn't simply scratches the surface.
Last half an hour is true wisdom...Alhamdulillah
I have a “female friend” and i am a very Allah fearing muslim, i know it is not permissable but we speak in public and are never alone together to prevent shaytaan, we dont talk about topics that would lead us to haraam and we both lower our gaze to eachother, only making eye contact when neccesary. We talk about Islam and life in general.
May allah bless u
May Allah bless
May allah bless you and have mercy on you inchaallah
Simply speaking in public does not make it halal. It is still khalwa unless you have a trusted mahram between you. If you want a female friend, find a wife.
Does she feel the same way? In such relationships, most of the time either one of the two will eventually gain feelings for the other
No doubt having a friend with a different gender will definitely develop feelings in each other lmao that’s why it has limits. Girls can’t just hang out in a dude’s room that casually. It’s rlly weird for me
U are right , they can be friends in a positive way but not in a way which is out of limits
Right its soo weird
what about people who aren’t even sexually attracted to the opposite gender
It’s haram too they might do something to you 😳
@@user-mh3ps4ld8k you just need to be careful and still have it in your mind and not be in places where you are both alone
Barak Allah Lakum
Love U from Kashmir I'm very keen to meet U ,Omar U R a great muslim..
i like this man alot
I dropped my bsf today.because i heard that its haram to be friends with the opposite gender. Hmdlh
Now that is what a Muslim does. MashaAllah. It might be difficult at first but Allah will ease things for you and open your doors insha'Allah.
May Allah bless you and grant you high rewards for putting him first.
Alhmdla today I too dropped my bsf.
ITS NOT HARAM
@@blue-sj4mf can you elaborate?
@@alishaafreen6019 I WILL BE FRIENDS WITH DIFFERENT GENDERS AND WHOEVER I WANT
Beautiful answer
Well said I agree mashAllah
A girl a guy can't be friends
One of them have secret attraction towards another one
It's alwys
I don't think it's true. You can't be attracted to everyone from the opposite sex no matter how good looking they are. I have a male best friend i've known for 2 years and our friendship is just so pure.
@@aditidwivedi6719 nope, if Islam says u cant interact with a non mahram without proper reasoning then u cant. Doesnt matter what u think
@@shehryarfaisal_ lots of things islam addressed changed with the times
@@mosart7068 no they didnt. Islam is the same as it was 1400 years ago. Quran has stayed the same, Sunnah has stayed the same. The evergrowing immoral baseline does not mean Islam should succumb to them. Nothing has changed
Yeah, that's what straight people think.
keep spreading islam
I like your explanation,you right
+SweetieMeeh Faith Which explanation? That boys are sexual predators who will not respect women when they are both left alone? Great. The truth is that boys fantasize about having sex (girls too, but maybe a bit less, but not all). Boys are attracted to sexy girls, that doesn't mean they can't control themselves. It depends on a culture, on upbringing. Besides, what is wrong in wishing to have sex with your friend, yet your friend is not interested in doing it. You respect it, that is all. Moreover, a boy or a man can be a friend very easy if he doesn't find her attractive.
I love this guy
Dude I love this sha5
Thank u so much for wonderful advice👍👍😘
Incredibly relatable
After watching all the 'can guys and girls be friends' video, and after hearing all those people's answer on it, I find just this guy's answer really good and justice.
It's all about the Intention, and I believe that, if we have a bad intention, even making friends with our same gender is not allowed!
And Allah knows the best :)
Subhan Allah سبحان الله
It is possible but not common. Most guys have ulterior motives. This has been my experience.
Growing up non-Muslim, my closest friends were always male. My intentions were always pure believing he was "like my brother". But like Suleiman says, I didn't know their intentions. Every male friend I had, attempted to crossed the friend line. Now I know why Allah (swt) says we aren't to be friends with opposite genders.
Very good points “The shariah is followed through the norms not the exceptions”
2:17-3:51 What if my intentions are pure
I do have a question though what if that friend is married or in a relationship with another
Though, if one is going to make a law, the exceptions should also be considered, taken into consideration. It is completely possible for the people of opposite gender who are straight to be just friends, there are many people like this on earth not even in the West but also in many other parts of the world. Stopping interacting with, socializing with, befriending with the half of the world's population except for one's wife and female close relatives just because one might get aroused or cannot control oneself doesn't seem right.
Awesome
MASHAALLAH
To grope someone is an assault, it is a form of sexual abuse, as well as being an abuse of another person's boundaries. You talk about exceptions - surely abuse of this nature is an exception. A man does not have to act on his urges, just because he has a libido, or perhaps has thoughts that in some way relate to sex about someone.
Thank you!
Being friendly and in a vulnerable place emotionally some “friends” CANT WAIT TO CROSS THE LINE Of FRIENDSHIP😕hoping that bcuz “the friendship wAs special” they now finally can have their opportunity to be your trueLOVE☹️🙅🏻♀️ ....asswhole weasel all along😢🤦🏻♀️
@@leemastouch170 Maybe there's something in the polygamy idea afterall?
Absolutely true
I think its the same for men and women too about what he talks about at the end
Having secret, private, relationship or more bluntly have sex without nikah is forbiden its sin. Other then that you can keep your work relations your business relations.
Being friendly and in a vulnerable place emotionally some “friends” CANT WAIT TO CROSS THE LINE Of FRIENDSHIP😕hoping that bcuz “the friendship wAs special” they now finally can have their opportunity to be your trueLOVE☹️🙅🏻♀️ ....asswhole weasel all along😢🤦🏻♀️
And do not come near to adultery, it is a shameful deed and an evil, and opening the road to other evils.
Surah No. 24, An Noor, Ayat No. 2
This sheikh is on fiyaaaah
the apostle Paul writes for Christians "abstain from the appearance of evil." Your liberty can "become a stumblingblock to them that are weak."
True
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I am friends with a Muslim woman named Iyarun Miah and I have been since primary school she came from India to Britain at the age of 4 I've known her since she was 6 we went to the same school and lived a few doors away from my house on the same street. We became close friends because like me she was shy and awkward we didn't fit in with everyone else's ideas so popularity was something that evaded us both lol we didn't care though. We still talk a lot on Facebook and in phone calls that can last for hours. We haven't seen each other for over 10 years but the friendship is still strong. We are both 27 and happily married to our own partners and both of us have no intention on ruining that.
Was there any need to mention her name? Just curious
Then you are an exception like the sheikh said’ Allah [swt] addresses the norms.
For me the way I see it is if you mean it as a boyfriend / girlfriend then no but as a colleagues or work mates then yes
Or normal friends
Why is it men and women see reality in such polar opposite ways. The men i see are willing to see reality more objectively.
same to u too...
I don’t agree with many views that are those of Muslims but on this I think he is right , my partner put on fb that we had split the very same day so called friends of the opposite sex were asking to go on a date with my ex , I however have no friends at all I just get on with everyone I meet I’m polite treat them how I want to be treated but do my own thing life is so much easier that way
CAN SOMEONE PLEASE ANSWER: . I have a question...when it comes to marriage before getting married in the presence of some other person too can i talk to that man? Like have a conversation or something just to get to know him and am i allowed to get information about him from his relative?
Yes. Just always be mindful of your intentions when doing something and make sure you're not alone with him before you're married. Seek refuge through Allah from the shaytan's influence and insha Allah may He make it easier for you.
@@aphr0d thank you for your answer i appreciate it and inshallah Allah will make such matters easier for all of us
Yes, you must have the presence of at least 1 of your mahram (like your father or mother) when you want to talk to your possible soon-to-be-spouse privately. This is so you guys don't do anything sinful when alone!
Yes u can
Whomever says their intentions are pure, they are only presenting how arrogant they are. Allah created us, and knows us better, He gives guidelines for intersex interactions and certain limitations so we won't hurt ourselves and protect us from saying things like "oh that was not my intention, it was just a joke...etc."
With due respect, i completely understand your point but my question is, what is the solution to this problem? In 21st century, kids are taught to be inspired and chase their dreams and aim for the best universities where gender discrimination does not or 'is supposed to not' exist and obviously that leads to genderfree friendships. If a muslim wants to follow his dreams of becoming whatever future holds for him to the fullest, then in what exact way is he capable of doing that?
Jazakallah
Just remain your boundaries. Kinda like presidents. Clinton couldn't help back,, if you know what I mean
We all know the limits and it is in our fitrah ...and circumstances will be forgiven but not trying to stay away from it by all the means u have , then I don't think so it will be forgiven, Allah knows...believe me if we really wish and ask Allah's help no matter what circumstances u r in ...u know the history of Yusuf pbuh...god doesn't test u with more than u can burden ....
Hate to break it to you but being in the 21st century doesn't mean humans are any less primitive than they were 1000s of years ago. Humans still fight over money and land and are still greedy and lustful. Advancements in technology or knowledge doesn't mean their baser emotions and instincts have evolved.
There's a guy I saw once, we became intimate. He's Muslim and I'm Catholic. It was a deal breaker for him that I was planning to leave for another country. Relationship wise, he said his 7 exes "left him". When I said I like him, he said don't fall for me/I'm not ready for a relationship. I was broken. We still talked even after the supposed casual sex. Then, he suddenly told me I think we should talk about Islam, after knowing that I'm not leaving anymore. To which I replied, sure. Now, does he want something serious or just being a religious man sharing his faith?
Maybe both
Nope. I mean you can do your research about Islam bc it is a beautiful faith which gives you inner peace. However I don‘t thing that that guy is the one who should be talking to you about Islam. He committed a sin by sleeping with you. And he used you. My honest opinion is that you should lose contact with that guy. And maybe do you own research about Islam. Don‘t convert for a person. If he wants that bc his family wouldn‘t accept a non muslim. Thats bullshit. Convert for your own sake. Only for God.
@@seiji99 well said may allah bless you
Dont hv sex with him tell him he has to marry ( niqah ) with u first . Sister if he loves u he ' ll tlk abt converting u & marrying u . Men are hunters if they really want smthing theyll go & get it.
By the way also women are sexually attracted to boys or friendzoned. Just saying. Unless he is very ugly or gay. My friend is gay so I know he is not attracted to me, and will never try to hook up. On the other hand some girls are bisexual. I live in the Uk, and one od my friends is bi. To be friends with a guy you need to be both not attracted to each other, or uncompatible. For example I know my very halal guy friend online will never disrespect me because he is a virgin and quite shy.
The fact that islamic sholars depicture women as being less sexual of men makes me cringe, cause some women have high libido too or more. I am tryig to get married because I am keeping my self out from temptation, and I still do imagine guys in a sexual way. Unless Im not attracted to them. Sometimes I see these innocent halal guys and I think wow I'm the one whos thining weird.
Halal guys are so attractive tbh, they look hard to get.
I'm trying to keep it halal, wish me luck sisters/brothers
May allah grant you the best husband and married life
Like he said in the video, Allah subhana wa ta'ala addresses norms when rules are made. Men generally have a higher libido than women. This is something that has been ascertained by science too. It is completely normal if a woman has a higher libido and a man has a lower one too. I hope you get married to somebody who will be the best for you physically and mentally. 💕
Hey umm I have a friend online aswell who is 6 years older than me and we both dont have attraction towards each other ofc. will I be fine ?
And also where did u get all of this info from? Just asking to make sure
I want to stop talking to my friends, but that will be hard. Y'all please help me 😭I do like talking to them because guys sometimes are better friends than girls, but like you said, we don't know what they're thinking about. But it is okay to be friends without physical contact??
No, There is mental euphoria even if without touching. Actually, girls’ friendships are much better because they are kind and understand you. Boys will not benefit you with anything, and of course you will not be able to approach them for support, for example, unlike girls.
@@malakm8143Actually I'm afraid your wrong, you see I'm a girl and for many years I've been having friendships the way that is expected of me (with girls) and I can say with confidence that I had developed many mental issues to the point where I just wanted to give up on everything. Those girls broke me bit by bit and rarely showed me any of the kindness and support your talking about but I stayed and dealt with it because at the time I had no where else to go. In fact I felt extremely depressed and alone until one day I met this really kind boy who actually did show me appreciation I never got from the girls and look I'm not saying all girls are like this some of them are actually extremely nice and sweet but saying that boys can't show love and support just as good if not in some cases better then girls is just absolutely wrong. I'll never forget what my best friend did for me when I was at my lowest. If you made it this far thanks for hearing me out, I don't usually write comments but I just felt like I had to say something to this.
No you might just wanna leave Islam
The Intentions of the others are not your fault and not your concern. If your Intentions are pure, that's all that matters.
not your fault? yeah
not your concern? eehh im not too sure about that
When your action has potential consequences and you are aware of them, it is your concern and your fault. Intentions are not all that matter. If you're a Muslim this thinking is cherry picking of rules of Quran and Sunnah where they suit you and ignoring them otherwise.
@@JustOneHumanSoul They are rules nonetheless so you gotta follow them as a muslim.
Tell that to the pure girls that were sexually assaulted because of their “friendly” boy friends
I agree.
what is the ringing noise in the background??
Clip he was talking about - ruclips.net/video/T_lh5fR4DMA/видео.html
I always claim that...each guy who used to be my friend in the past I could at least have sex with them. For me relationship is to share my thoughts and be opened with a man who feels the same and then u build the love. For me attraction comes in that way bcs after I feel close with someone then i start to like his looks as well. But for a man it may be different that he needs to like her physically as well beside being opened with her.
Wtf🤣
This is true.
May Allah help you bro :/
I always planned on listening to the prophet(saw) and choosing a woman for her religion.
Lol my mom was friends with a guy, but she ended up marrying a different guy
Cause he was just a friend people dont marry friends 🤣
Yeah he was just her bed partner not life partner.. Lol
Basharat Ali 🤣🤣🤣🤣
That’s rare
@@auliyasufisrealheroesofisl4730 what is wrong with you?
Pls my question is,my husband always calling one particular girl and it always brings a problem between us into getting us in a divorce because he will call her when am not around is it good in Islam? Please I really need an answer for the week of Allah
Ask your husband about it. Dont judge him dont spy him. Ask him nicely.
Its not ok, at any cost, if shz not mahram for him and he cant ring her with you around then thers something definitely wrong. The wife comes first and so do her feelings. Its not islamic or correct
@@thehourglassfan3515 What if he lies? He might be speaking to her because they might be having an emotional affair. And also, if nothing is serious why is it causing problems between them? There are men who speak to women due to sexual attraction because it feeds their male ego. Plus, is the girl his only co worker? Where are others? Why is he speaking to her always? And y when the wife is not around?
@@mrtuffguy2388 What if he lies? He might be speaking to her because they might be having an emotional affair. And also, if nothing is serious why is it causing problems between them? There are men who speak to women due to sexual attraction because it feeds their male ego. Plus, is the girl his only co worker? Where are others? Why is he speaking to her always? And why when the wife is not around?
sister are you doing well now?
Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullah
Walaikumasaalaam warehmathullahi wabarakatuhu 😊
God is only for truth.
We recently have a group of friends we all are friends in it some boys are there is it ok to remain friends?
As long as you and the boys don't touch, flirt or have any deep emotional connection and that you be careful, as far as I have researched it is permissible. Please do not talk one-on-one and always talk in your group with other ladies, mind your words, your gestures etc.
No it is Haram, please do not turn away from what the Quran and sunnah say and taught us, Non Muslims want us to do all what they do, these are all shaitans tricks!
3:24 "guys play s lot of games"
The game girls play are beyond even understandings of guys, compared to that guys' games are nothing
Let me tell u something. Girls are usually strait up with these stuff, and even if she isn’t, you ofc will know, especially men, they know when a girl has something. Yes, girls are smart they know how to trick, but again in Islam, they are no where near that. In Islam or let’s say Arab, the women is who is weak, yes she is extremely strong but our society lowers the fact that she could even be stronger than 10 armed men. But the man takes advantage, he is stronger.
Someone tell me the full speech link? Thanks! :)
would u or anyone else give the link to the video u guys are mentioning about?
Wow sheikh is looking so gorgeous in beard
Mashallah
Can guys & girls be friends...Islam is the Haqq...Allahu Akbar...
Islam the Natural Way...
We can be friends with different GENDERS with good intentions
Please share
Don't play with fire
Should this apply to Non-Muslims as well?
A lot of non Muslim men will admit that they can't be just friends a woman
No like if they wanna be frnds to you , you hve to deny them
no force in islam remember that islam never ever allows to force someone emotionally or physically it shows right path ...so its on your choice without 0% force 😇🙂
so basically what im getting from this video is that if my intentions are pure with my female friends, I can continue the friendship so aslong I'm sure nothing wont happen and if it did drop that friend.
Im trying to become a better Muslim day by day now but dropping my female friends all at once, when I built a strong friendship with them, helped me go through the toughest times of my life is just the most difficult thing I'm gonna have to do since I will still be crossing path with them in university etc...
I really hope so as long my intentions are pure and avoid physical touching to the best of my ability is enough.
@@whyamialive2357 but we can be friends with different GENDERS with respect and with good intentions
That means u kinda gay
@@tripelon or u have no sense of control
No you can't from what I believe
@@unnamed843 yes i can
This is a clip which is beneficial.
However, I was wondering why the brother insinuated that only men are burning with desire when they claim that they just want to be friends with one of the opposite sex. This is an anti-male stereotype which one encounters in Western culture.
Mos def not, are you like crazy... and stuff?
I am gonna say something. I have grown up in a very religious community, and I’ve seen many, by many I mean MANY guys and girls be friends and not be sexually attracted. My best friend is a guy, and I am sure we are just friends. This is a mindset people created overtime. We have to change.
Then ask him whether he wants to smash and see what'll happen
I definitely agree With you
@@sebanydaniel1057 ikr
Would you consider your best friend for a marriage if he proposed you? Rationally?
@@user-hq8sl7om9i where did that come from