Ladies we need to teach our young girls about gender roles. I’m not a parent but found that many blk girls are asking guys out and paying half. Nahhhhhh we gotta teach them that their pearls are precious and that a man needs to be a men. Ok that is all 😬
What are you talking about? Black women outnumber black men and they're last when it comes to sexual market value. It's a buyers market. Black women NEED to be asking guys out if they want a black man otherwise they'll perish.
@@pottnosticator3907 now don't start with that b.s.. Black women don't need to do anything except be feminine, have self love, and elevate our standards. By doing those 3 things alpha men of means no matter the shape or race will come like a moth attracted to a flame. Women only need to ask men out because society fooled us into thinking being masculine, independent, & strong is attractive and we pushed alpha men away. Thus becoming desperate. Embracing feminity alone will increase sexual market value. A woman should NEVER chase a man.
My mother is a narcissist and never helped us with much, especially me because I'm the scapegoat. It's not just older black women besides I think some women just don't know. I did have some family members constantly sabotage my life by saying things like such to me during most of my childhood, "don't ever have children, don't ever get married". They would whisper that to me at Christmas and other family gatherings. Then years later ask me if I was married when they would see me, then tell me that same BS again. That's just not right to do to anyone.
J. Rising I have tried to talk to my nieces for years. They do not listen. I didn’t listen to my father when he was trying to tell me. Life is a strict teacher and you will eventually learn.
I remember about 2 years ago now when my boyfriend at the time(now my fiancé) asked me to move in with him. He informed me that I didn’t have to pay for anything that I could just focus on school and he’ll take care of everything. I remember when my friends found out one of them in particular started calling me a gold digger saying I should at least give him half the rent. I informed her that the only person I’m splitting the rent with is a roommate. To this day, she’s still going half with guys on dates and me, the feminine woman who knows her worth is getting married in 6 months to that same amazing guy. Ladies you HAVE to know your worth and don’t apologize for it!
Jay Fin I completely ignored them lol I don’t waste my time worrying about what will happen if the relationship doesn’t work, that’s counterproductive in my opinion. I just let them talk and continue to do what I want. When they’re older and stuck with dusties they’ll wish they had done what you did 💁🏾♀️. Follow your own path!
Black does crack. My advice for younger women is to exercise now. Create lean muscle and it will keep you snatched for years with very little maintenance.
Bw get triggered when it comes to health and fitness. I'm I'm my mid 30s and have one child. My body looks better than women 10 years younger and have zero children. I told young women to start taking care of their bodies NOW cause it will determine how it functions later. All I got was "you're fatphobic!"
@@faefae2260 Great advice! I will ask them where do you think you're going if you look like this in your 20, 30, 40 ? down hill faster than you can believe most would rather keep a fat butt than to lose dangerous belly fat.
black does NOT crack, but an excessive amount of body fat will make anyone look older. When the extra weight is gone people feel and look better, also much younger. I'm a proud 56 yr woman who has always weight trained since my late teens. Only if age comes up in a conversation do most people guess I'm 20 yrs younger😁 Ladies, weight training, cardio, and good nutrition makes a huge difference. TY Lord 🙏 Don't be afraid to add muscle - it takes time to gain it but you will not be disappointed. You will NOT look like a man either. Myth Also, the fake "fat ass" trend is going to die off, and it does not look good at all. The terrible BBL health issues is not worth it and mostly attracts Dustys🌪 Tighten that body up and rock what ya God gave you💃🏽Black women are beautiful👑
@@faefae2260 sadly, their refusal will cause them to deal with Dustys a lot longer than they have to. Dustys are going to encourage the wrong health ideals and then complain to his buddies how unfit she is.
I have always despised being called strong. I cannot stand that euphemism especially as a black women. No one refers to white woman as strong. I love being a woman not a man. I renounce that cliche.
Same here! And my name means Strong Warrior! I wrote a blog about it and its overuse when describing the Black woman; instead, we should be called sensible and free to be delicate, feminine, vulnerable and at peace.
No one cares being strong doesn’t mean you aren’t feminine it’s a good thing ya’ll stuck in the 1950s while women are getting rich and marrying rich husbands in the same field
I worked two times for very masculine, domineering Black women while I was in the private sector and working in the government sector. One was married but miserable and the other was old, single and alone, they were both very angry. Both women caused me soooo much grief as a young married 20 something! It was my feminity that made them hate on me and I didn’t even know it! I ignorantly used to be envious of them because they had “power”. But little did I know, they were jealous of my power. Go figure!!!!! Ladies, we’ve been duped! Career and education are not everything!!!!! Nuture that little girl inside of you that always loved the color pink, Barbie, and want Ken and her Dream house! It’s never too late! As stay at home mom, I am now teaching my daughters to embrace their natural feminine nature that God have us!
Yes, I had an old lady get me fired. Blew me away. Found out later she was crushing on my then husband etc. Was crazy. I didn’t understand at the time.
This is exactly my situation, I’m in nursing school. Majority of my family tell to be a doctor, I’m like ya career is not everything! Not shading doctors but I don’t want to spend my 20s studying. Many woman in my family don’t get it, they are the strong independent woman. But I don’t want to be independent, I want a man to provide for me. I don’t put career above all else like majority of woman do. The woman in my family did that, and let me tell you something. They are miserable in the marriages. WOMAN WE ARE MEANT TO BE PROVIDED FOR! Any woman that’s tells your differently is lying to you!
Being confident + educated + having a bag secured(quietly) + career options + having standards + FEMININITY is thee combo. Allow yourself to have options, that's the best way to live.
Chanel R. Long Maybe you misunderstood ... I think the combos are no brainers, lifes necessary basics education, career options, confidence, standards, being feminine this is where you allow yourself to find balance.
Jane Men don’t care how many degrees you have. Telling everyone how you’re a “strong black woman” that “don’t need no man” is why black women remain single and have the lowest marriage rate. Men don’t want strong woman, we want FEMININE women! Stop reading off your resume. A PHD won’t get you a husband. Degrees don’t come with a husband. We want young, thin, feminine and submissive women, not a bunch of fat, angry, bitter, masculine, out of shape, middle aged career women well into their thirties and forties, crying about how they can’t get no man. Lose the weight, lose the weave and lose the attitude.
Rabbi Daniel Lapin says "The more you take care of someone, work for them, and look after their well being, the more you will love that person. This is why people love their children more than they love their parents, you have to do literally 100% for the child and they give nothing tangible back in return"... This is so wise and explains perfectly why men fall in love and risk it all for feminine women, but will leave bob the builder in a second after she spent 20 years building him up.
I'll spare the details but as a kid I remember telling myself once I became an adult I wanted to work so I could secure my own. I did that and just completed my MBA this year. I worked FT while I went to school PT. The same weekend of graduation I realized just how tired I was. I stopped caring about the corporate ladder. I was working just as hard as a man and getting very little in return. As black women we feel we have to catch up since history has held us back. Society has told us that we aren't smart enough and that we don't belong in certain spaces. Trying to prove all that has been detrimental. I'm 30 and decided to take an easier job with a lesser title (more money though) in a less stressful environment because I was wearing myself thin. I want to start a family soon and I don't want my black to crack lol. I'm glad this is being discussed. Being a stay at home mom is not lazy. Let the men be men. It makes sense and feels so much better!😊
Spot on. Once I moved into my feminine energy, I started to attract providers. You will be surprised that real men actually want to take care of women. After working for so many years and it causing me so many health issues, I finally surrendered, starting putting myself first, pampering myself, and lo and behold the providers starting coming at me left and right! Femininity is our power, not trying to be men. It is never too late to start living a feminine life. We have to unlearn the conditioning we have received though!
I'm Guilty. I'm that older BW who failed (1 day) in her duties to school the younger generation. My spouse and I went to a movie, I wanted 🍿 he wanted a drink. He gave $20 to get both. I went to the concession stand and waited in a line that had blk teens around 13 and 14 in age (2bys, 2grls) that were in front of me (they appear to be on a double date)...... There was another line with a Hispanic m & f, around the same age as be the BLK kids. The two black boys order their items and paid, with one telling his date he will not be buying her 'nothing'. In the other line the Hispanic boys order and paid for both he and his dates items. The two black girls pulled their money together and bought candy. I watched the seen in horror. WTF was this. How did the Hispanic boys know his roll but the BLK boys didn't. Yet the blk boys were displaying sexual agression towards their dates, with Hispanic boy being ok with holding hands. Tears came to my eyes. I should have said something. But I didn't. I didn't want to cause a seen. I should have told the BLK girls to run. But I didn't. My guilty.
Because there are educational gaps in our communities, black boys who witness their moma being the breadwinner and etc. it’s sD to see, for I have witness this a lot in my age group and this younger generation. It’s really disappointing. I remember opening a door for myself and out of no where this teenager went in front of me, I was so stunned. There is a huge lack of manners missing.
@lolo the discrepancy exists because the Hispanic boys have fathers, male role models who teach them. And the black girls should have told these boys DO NOT TOUCH ME, you can"t even buy me a small box of popcorn and you think you have any rights to anything that is Me??? Young girls need fathers also to teach them their worth. My parents have been separated all of my life ( even though still legally married) but my father visited me and my brother and gave me Excellent advice on the male perspective, know my value, don't settle for any treatment except being treated like a lady, and many other valuable lessons. There is an entire generation of women and men that were raised without a Real Man"s teachings, knowledge and perspective.
I love having a provider as a husband and he makes all of the decisions. When you find the right one, submission comes easily. Plus, having kids by yourself is for the birds, I could never imagine doing it alone.
Actually , most birds pair for life and build nests before they lay eggs , so I am not sure where that saying came from. Birds have it in order, ,we can learn from them!
@@toussaintstraditions547 Good catch! I love watching the elaborate nest making and mating dances of birds, just to get the lady bird's attention! It's the same with male humans! Not sure where that saying came from, probably pop culture.
So true! Good for you. My big sis did it in the wrong order and now my parents and I are helping her raise her son. And his dad is where?.. who knows? The nonsense stops with me
Black women just need to have a mind of their own to think for themselves because if you don't have a mind of your own to think for yourself, you'll fall for anything.
I had to heal myself from what my mother taught me...she was and still is masculine and hard. I am soft feminine pliable warm and enchanting now..i had to go through hell to break those strongholds..but I am that rose that grew through concrete!🙌🙌I am so glad I found your page!! #Salute Queen
@knowthyself what steps did you have to take if you don’t mind. I really never considered myself masculine but my pockets won’t allow me to be the feminine butterfly I truly am. If I could live the life I want and could actually afford it then it would be easier for me.
@@melindajones3218 femininity has nothing to do money Dollar Tree have their ownmakeup line under 5 bucks (not cheap I use l love it). rainbow have black dresses for $25. practice your femininity and don't even think about money. High-end quotes it's a frame of mind just do it where you are
I too healed myself I wrote a book I healed Me. It wasn’t easy but I was determined to break through all those strongholds that was feeding me. It’s nothing pretty when you do that inner work it gets ugly. Don’t stop because then you are facing the mirror reflection of you. I had to literally reprogram my mind from my upbringing. Expect people to get mad at you that means you are doing something right. Also confidence changes Swift’s in any room. Also by the way I get my most compliments on my $10 holler. Dollar tree is awesome as well.
I worked 2 jobs in my early twenties and it was to fill my life with activity. My coworkers became my family because I did not have one of my own. I have built up my career and that has never suffered. But relationships have always been train wrecks. I made some very poor choices in relationships. I am sad that at 39, I have no kids, no spouse and my heart breaks so much. I did not learn until now how much femininity matters. I am scared to death and it hurts to admit it. I see families and feel so left out. The longing is real. I do not want to give up, but just be realistic. It is never too late to be feminine, but realize that it may not be enough to turn the tide of attention when you get older. I always rejected femininity as getting the wrong type of attention, but I was so wrong. Dressing and being feminine makes me feel good inside and out. I am going with the feminine grain now instead of against it. I see now. Thanks for this channel Chloe.
Hey sis? How are you? I fostered with my mom when she retired a few years ago. It was a learning experience and there are A LOT of precious babies that need homes. I say don't give up hope ever, but also keep this in mind. I am not a mom YET either, but this was fulfilling work. Fostering and adoption are great options if you find that you're not healthy enough or just don't want to try carrying a baby anymore. Wishing you the best!! xo
Providing for a feminine women is in a mans blood. You’ll definitely find the right one. And your only 39. My father is 42 still in the game. It’s not too late for you.
I had a difficult life and I was forced to be independent at an eaely age like many black women are, but I hate it. I don't want to compete with men, I want to be soft and feminine.
First step is knowing. Second is to find a feminine woman (one that attracts the type of men you desire) to model yourself after. Then read her bio. Also find a charm school or a woman that teaches charm.
I have noticed that men of means like educated women who are feminine. They want their children's first teacher to be a smart woman and a help them build their "SIDE HUSLTE"/ own business.
I see my father every Saturday, and he's sometimes feels distant. It made put my walls up and it hurts. My mom is raising me by herself and she's wants me a strong independent black woman. I don't want that 😥😥
Thank you so much... Your channel is amazing... I started my hypergamy journey 1 year ago... I'm 26y now... I have a lot work to do but my life is better right. Kisses from Paris...
I wasn’t taught how to be feminine, but me and my mom had a unhealthy relationship..I started wearing makeup and going to the salons in my early 20s she would laugh, but not encourage me..and I notice I do attract feminine men by me being so independent lol.. I wanna change, I just don’t know where to start
Baby girlllllllllll, you better preach!!!!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I just subscribed and have been binge watching all your vids all day. Just watched you toxic mother video in front of my mother (I’m petty) 😩😂😂 boy did you read her up and down! I’m 28 and I wish I had found you when I was 12 or 13 years old!!!!!!!! ❤️
I'm 25 and wished I heard about this movement before I moved in with my current boyfriend. Currently a dust bunny with a stingy man and am dreading having the conversation about money soon.
My wealthy older brother married a grocery store cashier. My sisters and nieces were mad, they don’t trust her; calling her a gold-digger. Asking why he didn’t choose the independent career women at his level he dated before this one. I however understood and supported my brother and new sis in-law. My independent sisters and nieces have struggled with men and have never been able to attract and keep a financially successful Alpha male. Myself included. Which is why I have subscribed to this channel. I’m new to this channel. There are truths from this RUclipsr that are hard to swallow. But I know most of what is being said is true because I have seen and experienced it.
negrita305 Many career women are very masculine without knowing it. You don’t have to be a cashier honey. In fact you have more access to these men than they do. And you having your own income helps you cushion the blow if it doesn’t work out. I think a lot of career women fail to use their position and status in society to find and keep a successful man because they are so driven to succeed they neglect the subconscious hypergamous nature underneath. Focusing on the masculine and neglecting or subduing their feminine nature. Career women compete with these men. By the time their hypergamous nature kicks in, you now realize you are competing with the cashier. And the cashier is feminine and in need of a strong successful man in her life. Her feminine and in need persona activates his need to provide and protect. That doesn’t make him weak. It makes him a man.
Sophia ATN Black and dark skinned. She is former military and keeps herself fit. She wears feminine outfits. In fact my brother is so funny, he asked me to help him find her an outfit through online shopping as a gift. Also because she worked as a cashier she had dry cracked hands. I make skin softening oils and creams. He asked me to make her something to help her hands.
@@Mrs.T305 That's not the point. Its about the masculine attitude a lot of career women come with. You can be an independent kept woman. No masculine man wants to be in competition with a woman.
I like to think I’m in the middle of my life🙄🤔 I’m 31 and single but I give girls or young ladies under me all sorts of advice I have a 13 year old daughter 🙌🏾😍 and I’m CURRENTLY teaching her to HARNESS her femininity at all times of her being 💯🙌🏾I will not allow my beautiful daughter to be a work mule or a free screw I’m here for her and she we walk to her throne without a hair outta place💯🙌🏾😍🏆
You still dont understand. A daughter needs a MAN in her life to build self-esteem. You single mothers are destroying your children's esteem and confidence. You can't do it on your own! Duh!
@Elle D how hard is it to find a man who is educated and has a good job? Problem is black women don't choose men based off education. They choose men based off swag and tattoos and sex. All superficial qualities. Miss me with the bs
I’m tired and I am doing everything in my power to get a man with means I am tired of working 16 hrs a day but I have taken care of myself and I am very feminine
I told my niece over a holiday gathering to not pass up the guys she meets in college that are interested in her because she doesn’t have as much time as she thinks she does. This was received with a lot of backlash from the other adults in he room. “She needs to concentrate on school, she doesn’t have time for that” this was spoken by her aunts and uncles whom are all married except for one who is not happy at all because she is well past child bearing years and is difficult to get along with in general. Basically, she is too masculine. She (my niece) didn’t listen. She is now working on her PhD. That’s good but a dude she met in the past, got married, and that wedding was elaborate and he was perfect for my niece , smart, attractive, a graduate if Princeton but she was “focusing on my goals”. I have older friends in their 50’s that are very unhappy with dogs. Every time I hang out with them, they are talking about men problems. All young women listening to this need to take heed to what Chloe is saying and not pass up these “nice guys” telling yourself you don’t need a man for anything. I almost did. I have my doctorate degree, husband and daughter. THANK YOU GOD. I owe it ALL to Him. Chloe, keep spreading these great messages.
I dont think it's too late. We are ALL going to age. I'm 46. Age is nothing but a number. I do believe that being masculine emasculate these men and attract Dustys. I do believe we should take care of our health and bodies in general for quality longevity of life not just to attract a man. That's an awesome benefit with taking care of yourself. I have an adult daughter so I definitely want to pass these principles down to her.
Chloe I LOVE your channel. Thank you! Don’t do it ladies, waste your best years PLEASE love and pamper yourself, put yourself first. I tell my 15 year old daughter that she deserves the best. The years go by so fast.
Debbie Lipscomb well Black women are very strong. Statically, Black women suicide rate is very low compared to White women, men and Black men. Statically, Black women hold down the home while having 3, 4 etc kids, without having a man. Black women work harder more than any another. That’s why we are considered strong. Should I go on?
@@AmberSumerall Forced to be strong by circumstances. First we are women plus we are black. Some say it's a double whammy but that is what makes us special. A feminine beautiful black woman is also strong because we have so many negatives trying to indoctrine the opposite (ugliness, low self esteem ,masculinity) since we were little girls. Yet we learned to love ourselves. That's strength and beauty.
I could say I'm almost in tears watching this. I have worked in law enforcement for the past 9 years, served in the military for 8 years. I can truly say I lost my femininity. Hair have to be a certain way. Nail cant be done, uniform everytime I go to work.
Their are super gorgeous extremely natural wigs now for after work and weekends. Beautiful strip lashes, sexy heels, feminine dresses, perfumes, natural glowy makeup, sexy jewelry, good undergarments that enhance your figure and make you feel womanly. Give the new you a name and purpose. Be her after work and on off days. You can do this. It will feel awkward at first to present as super feminine when you're so used to being stripped down but do it anyway and you'll get used to it. You also can do what you can at work such as makeup, lashes and perfume perhaps nail polish in a neutral color, sparkly small earrings. Talk sweetly.
As a 61 year old former masculine energy woman, it is possible to reconnect with your feminine energy AND date masculine energy, provider men. I am doing it and so can other mature women. You must be willing to do the work: change your mindset, belief systems; wear feminine colors and clothes; keep your mouth closed with friends who do not want to change. It’s all possible. Just commit to doing it. Will it be easy? No. Is it worth it? Absolutely!
I agree so much with this video. I wasted all of my 20s with my sons father. To this day he doesn’t have a job and can’t pay child support. He moved away to another state with a younger white woman. I met someone who is older than me and had another child and he turned out to be a loser as well. I work my butt off to care for both of my kids and I am always exhausted and I want to go back to school so bad but I feel like I can’t.
@Stacey dont take this the wrong way. Have u thought of possibly getting a sugar daddy. Someone much older. Also look into sheraseven1 youtube videos shes great. Good luck I'm rooting for u
Chloe spoke the truth on this one! It's so sad that many women in these comments do not agree with her. Let me just say this from a man's perspective, "Men are looking for a feminine women. We absolutely don't fine masculine women attractive. They absolutely aren't." But remember ladies, When you are looking for love, look for what you want. Whether it's a simp or an Alpha. But if you want an Alpha Male... We only desire FEMININE WOMEN.
I see some truth to this statement. My first child is due next month and I'm coming up on my last week at my job. This isn't maternity leave, this is my shift to stay at home motherhood, which I'm blessed and excited to be able to do. When I tell you the older women in the office are SALTY about it, I say it with absolute certainty. I know with my whole heart that they're jealous that they couldn't do the same when their children were young and love to make comments like "You'll be bored,". I know not every woman wants to be a mom and not every mom wants to stay at home, but the vast majority of moms I've worked with have major working mom guilt, especially when they're fresh off maternity leave and all they wanna do is show you pictures and videos of their kids every day. Sidebar: It's worth mentioning that the male attorneys in the office are excited for me and have even said, "Your husband is a lucky guy to have you give up your career to raise your daughter." Why? Because these men LOVE femininity and being providers!
My mom did open up about her regrets of not taking better care of her health and staying married to man she does not respect. She is 65 now and I don't know where she'd be without me, my big sis, her grandson and small old lady gang. Ladies, please think about not only today and finding a man and making babies, but how you want your final chapter to look. I know I want to be unafraid of change at any age, continue to put myself first and enjoy life. Great share!
negrita305 that depends on the men a woman attracts. The more feminine a woman becomes , the more masculine (providers) the attract. Yes dnt just stop working but get out of the masculine energy and way of thinking. Masculine men can smell that from a mile away
negrita305 continue being feminine AND work/secure the bag but don’t treat your career as the sole (or even main) reason why a man should be with the you. However also do not look for men beneath your career standing/income. Try to date non-black men if you can.
I'm in tears and ashamed of myself. That's me all day long. 50 years old and I know I'm masculine and I don't want to do it anymore!! I will watch your videos and learn to break this lifestyle. Thank you for being honest ❤️
This video helped my realize how masculine I’ve been. I’m educated, have a career, a mother, Independent but single and couldn’t figure out why. Now I know...
Good for you but old habits die hard. You're gonna really have to work to change that mindset you had but I give you kudos and positive energy for figuring it out.
You are 100 percent correct my man tells me all the time he loves how feminine I am it’s like he’s shocked because he said most black women are masculine. It’s our power ladies. My femininity has attracted him to my life my last relationship my ex was feminine and it was so unattractive and unfulfilling my current bf sometimes jokes about “men” these days that do 50-50 he said when we eventually move in together I won’t have to work 🤗
Women just need to know how to balance their masculine and feminine energy Yes sometimes we need to use our masculine energy but we need to now how to balance You can be a successful women and still being feminine
It’s never to late to be feminine. However it pays to learn quickly when the information is given so that one does not suffer years or decades of the pitfalls and sorrow of getting the opposite of what your heart desires . Femininity is the key 🔑 to unlock the door of masculine protection and love. It’s a Universal multi-cultural key. Great Post Chloe!
Not ever too late. I think overall the message is that you have to love yourself and that is good at any age. It can even make you look youthful to self love. I am 47 and I am loving myself. I left the dusty. I left that dust bunny lifestyle as my past. I am committed to improvement. I left the dusty, left the toxic job, I feel younger, new job and buying a house. Alone but, with God in my corner and wisdom. I notice men looking. Young and old. So at 47; yes, it's still possible.
You hit the nail on the head. I am so hard...rigid...difficult...harsh. I am the provider in my 18 year relationship to a man 12 years my senior. Im 37 overweight...just had my 2nd baby and nobody ever told me any of this, now I am angry... mean... mugging... full of regret...bitter and if Im being honest unhappy. Im in the process of unlearning because the things that I thought I knew....I had no idea. What I can say is I appreciate these spaces where we are able to be taught properly regarding things that affect our quality of life. My mother is lonely and miserable weather she will admit it and unfortunately I have inherited the misery and she seems content with passing this torch to me as if this is an honor to be fat, black and alone. I never wanted this life but didn't even see it coming, although I should have. I didn't give myself a chance.
I’ve always been slim ,pretty ,extremely feminine ,but had no idea about hypergamy. I wasted many years on now what I know to be dusty men. Now I’m 34 I still look good feel good feminine look 25 but truth is I’m 34 so it’s to late for me. Good luck to you women 20-33 take advantage of this women’s powerful wisdom.💋
Muharrar Beyah darling it’s never too late your still very young, Meghan Markle met Prince Harry when she was 36! Now she’s 37 has a baby son and is happily married to her prince it’s not too late just date older man
I haven't done bad for myself all these years but there's always room for improvement and never too late to learn whether you're married or not! I'm proof! I am grateful for your videos at this stage in life. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, Chloe! Schooling my daughters and granddaughters! Hell! Friends too!
Men are attracted to softness! They don't need a loud talking woman, in their face telling them that they are less then them! Trying to fight them. A woman knows his status in life! That hits them in the stomach and cuts deep! Showing no kindness at all; will leave you alone!
I stopped being masculine in my mid to late 30s and it cost me my marriage. Because I had degrees I was expected to be the primary bread winner. I wanted to stay at home with the second baby we had planned. Had at least one family member tell me (I'm sure others were thinking it) that it was unrealistic for me to expect my husband to be the sole or main provider. The idea was for me to go back to work after our son finished school . 50 yrs old next year and I've never been more feminine and never looked better. They just can't understand it. So, I say ,no it's not too late.
Good testimony, I'm mid-30's and I want to be a stay at home mom, my husband expect me to earn more and said I've not done enough income wise!!!! I'm like I supported when you had nothing, now it's my turn. So i guess I'll be losing this. I'm determined to be more feminine and will nurture my side business. ~nolongerbreadwinner
Bottom line if we don't Feel safe secured or comfortable Protected we are not gonna Fully show our Soft vulnerable side we have to feel like we been let our guard down and we can trust u we don't Feel like we are just a door 🚪 mat to you
This is great counsel ladies. I know quite a few women who declare that they are strong black women. In most cases they are loud oppositional, and aggressive. It led me to try to educate myself about this behavior in SOME women. Please ladies, try to educate your friends about this madness - spread the word. I am cheering for my enlightened sisters, black relationships, and the black community.
Mybrwnisbeautiful Hin Walking down the street, screwing up their faces at everyone just mean mugging everyone. Telling everyone you’re a “strong black woman” and how you “don’t need no man”. Masculine men don’t want masculine women. You’ll only attract feminine men and men that just want to fuck and leave. Stop being so masculine unless you’re trying to attract other women.
Some African American dads encourage tbeir daughters to be masculine. I remember I was about 5 crying about being bullied. I remember being told to shut up that crying and deal with this like a man. Huh?😃
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So glad I found this channel. I love what you say. I might have missed a video of you addressing this so forgive me if this has already been discussed. There is a difference in running. If you are running to win the race that is masculine. If you are running from danger to safety that is feminine. Now here is the problem. While you’re running no one can tell the difference. Meaning most black women young and old are running from danger to safety. Running from bad neighborhoods to college to good jobs that will provide us a safe place to live, food on the table, and a weekly yoga class if we are lucky. Sure maybe there are black women who have the luxury of running to win the race, but I’m willing to bet that most are running away from danger to safety. They are damsels in distress that have to rescue themselves that are disguised as “strong and independent.” And if she is a waitress chances are she’s working at Popeye’s behind bulletproof glass. There is a chance that a man of means will show up at her job, but there is also a chance that his means may lead her to even more danger. Often times we not only have to get to safety, we have to stay there. And unfortunately that requires masculine energy. A woman who didn’t have to run from danger has the luxury of a safe place to land, and most likely someone to catch her. If you are with a man with not quite enough means to protect you with enough alimony if things go wrong you are going to be in big trouble if you’ve been a stay at home wife for 10 years. Black college students are in a similar situation. The rich kids can afford the non-paying summer internships, where as the poor kids have to get a job in the summer. Most black women need a bridge to femininity, not a road to femininity. I don’t know what that bridge is or looks like I just know it’s not safe without it.
@spicybeachgirl1 you’re a beautiful person and well spoken. What you said is so true because when you’ve been beat up by society and KNOW you deserve the same rights as other races it’s hard when you you’re told that you’re being a difficult person when you want to stand up for yourself. Being black is hard and people make it harder. All I want is support from the ppl who supposedly love me most.
I was told by this guy that if I wanted to be married I have to be subservient in order to attract a men that is establish. My problem is I came from a broken home only raise with my mother. I didn't have a good relationship with my father. I also didn't have good relationship with the men that I dated in pass.
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Through watching many videos thus far, I’ve learned that it’s not too late to get back into touch with ones feminine energy. However, there’s a tough reality that one has to face and accept; and there’s work that one has to do within this energy. One has to be willing to put in the work to change. And that’s for anything.
New subbie here . I’m 55 and I guess past my prime however I look 15 to 20 yrs younger. I’m attracting 30ish young men . And yes they think I’m in my 30s . Listening to your channel I wonder now if these guys are just Dusties looking to be housed and provided for.Please do a video for us older ladies
You're not past your prime, lady. I used to think my prime ended with my 20s until I saw 50 year old Lauren Sanchez get engaged to 56 year old Jeff Bezos, the richest man in the world who could pretty much get almost any woman he desires. Because of this I am now of the belief that your prime stretches to whatever age you want your prime to be, as long as you invest in your looks and femininity. I have read articles of Lauren and people say that she always had a great figure, wore dresses that showed cleavage and was very flirty. She's my current woman inspiration.
This is the ultimate channel. I'm so glad I found it! In mid life, most of the men are accomplished; so hypergamy is easily attainable. Barbara Streisand married James Brolin, black executive Melody Hobson married George Lucas and her life is amazing!
It’s never too late if ur down for adventure. Women have to step outside of our comfort zones and think about self. Stop saying I’m a queen and treat /act urself like a queen and expect nothing less from ANYONE.
You can be a strong successful black woman without letting go your femininity. Most men are attracted and want that feminine energy in their significant other.
Time is esp wasted time is the greatest enemy for an independent woman. Being taught to chase the bag as a young lady I never thought to invest in a feminine education. Although I I tried to look the part and I wanted a masculine man I didn't think they exist for women like myself. Esp after my first and only fiancee and I broke up. Motivated by fear and insecurities conditioned me to think a man would never allow me to be a stay at home wife or I worried about my bills and being self sufficient if he leaves me. Fear and insecurities and misinformed women kept me independent for so long. But as Chloe stated in a video independence wore me out and frustrated me. Sometimes I feel it's too late.
Yes I wish I'd done things different. I was married at 23 (still married) I did not marry hypergamous I just wanted someone who loved and supported me and would be there for me unconditionally and who I could share in building a life together with. I wasnt thinking about securing the bag. Over time we raised our children and have accomplished goals and acquired material things and still continue to do so. My daughter who is now 15 is almost certain she does not want to be married. Does not want children, prefers to be career driven and self sufficient. I am always dressing up, wearing makeup and heels and she prefers a more relaxed look. She rebelled against the feminine qualities I tried to instill in her younger years. I'm almost afraid to hit her with the you better change your ways or you won't get a man to marry you because she is in no way interested in having one. Not sure how to handle but I'll give her more time.
@@angelicaa.3062 To be honest I don't know. It may be a confidence thing? I know I had to pull teeth to get her dolled up for homecoming but when it was finished she felt amazing everyone was telling her how beautiful she was. So she's been a little better about it. Also it doesn't help that it seems boys she identifies with does not seem to like black girl's in general. Its being thrown in her face everyday that we are the least wanted especially on tik tok. They have these skits that show how much white/Latina girls are wanted and boys falling all over themselves but no ones checking for black girls. And I'm not just pushing her to be with black men but the white ones are not checking for her either. Its just a weird day and age for our girls. I'm not sure what to do. Send her to a HBCU?
Candy C She’s still young. These little boys don’t what type of women they want. And the only people who have TikTok are children, women, and feminine men. I’m a senior in high school my self and I don’t get what the hype is about these light skinned girls as opposed to darker skinned. Only thing I can think of is everyone is still young and don’t know what they want.
A lot of black women didn't know until now. Know better do better, this Channel is everything for us❤ Subscribe! Like! Comments! Support with what you have!
So many of us have to deal with our lives "Single,the father of our children are deceased ,ghosted,immature Incarcerated,,irresponsible or just not there,,you still are a vital living loving woman nu yourself baby yourself take care of your body your health and the best thing you can own is a smile and a good attitude .Love your videos Chloe keep um coming......
thank you for this video. yes some of us are just having our eyes opened by you. I believe its not too late. even if you are in your fiffties. its not too late because you are still alive. It only too late if you are dead. each day comes with possibilities. Aot depends on your attitude. its important not to be bitter or exhibit any traces of it because people will assume you must be, and so ready to judge you from that stand point.
What a beautiful video that’s finally telling the truth. For some reason whenever a man tells a woman this, we’re called male chauvinist pigs but if you do it, it’s called a great video. Hey either way, it’s about the message and not the messenger today and this video should have a wayyyyyyyyyyy higher view count. Please push this with more promotion and ads cause this is what us MGTOW men what from wives.
I cant really agree with the independant women theory... because you can be an independant women who makes alot of money online and has real estate and employees and doesnt have to work much as far as going to a 9 to 5 and have a lot of free time
Growing up in the 90's, the feminine energy was downplayed as bad by feminism; (pregnancy was gross, "we can hold our own doors, thank you"). Schools taught that education was everything, and most of my black female friends were told (by mothers and fathers) that education was vital for life success. Raising a family was not important. Now women show off their baby bumps and young men don't know how to be chivalrous. I'm glad we're talking about these things.
I mean I do like the concept of your channel and you do have some very good points; but there are some things which are said that has be me like, "huh?!" I totally agree that most of us women have too much masculine energy and need to get in touch with our femininity; as this enhanced masculine energy was passed on from generation to generation. But, the vibe I get from your content is as if to say us women should sit around and depend solely on the man to be the bread winner. Now, I have absolutely no issues with a man doing what a man is to do i.e. Lead, Provide, Protect etc. I certainly desire that; but from past experiences I've learnt that men (when angered) can use that to belittle a woman. I think women should have their own means and not solely depend on a man financially; because if he chooses to leave her for whatever reason, who does she have to rely on. My dad have told me to always make sure I have my own money if I was on a date or in a relationship. Case in point, in the past a guy offered to take me on a date...and I thought ok lets go on this date, but I ensured to walk with my own money in my purse. And surprise, surprise at the end of the date the guy asked for me to go halves on the bill....I stared at him and asked if he was serious. And he was. I paid for my meal and never went on another date with him. (This going dutch only ever happened once in my life btw lol) So, in instances such as those (and other dramatic cases i.e. divorce or breakup) I believe a woman should have more than just "next to nothing" as you mentioned that these men prefer. In my opinion, like I said I welcome a masculine man to play his role so I can play mine; but I think although he can be the sole breadwinner of the household, a woman should still have her own money...especially enough money to not be left flat out on her face in the event the relationship doesn't work.
The awful thing is that we realize this after we’re divorced from the dusty '! So at that point we’re taught to make sure we don’t talk down to the kids about their father! Sooooo.... we’re trying to educate our daughters in this weird incognito fashion about how to avoid men like their DADS!
Ladies we need to teach our young girls about gender roles. I’m not a parent but found that many blk girls are asking guys out and paying half. Nahhhhhh we gotta teach them that their pearls are precious and that a man needs to be a men. Ok that is all 😬
What are you talking about? Black women outnumber black men and they're last when it comes to sexual market value. It's a buyers market. Black women NEED to be asking guys out if they want a black man otherwise they'll perish.
@@pottnosticator3907 now don't start with that b.s.. Black women don't need to do anything except be feminine, have self love, and elevate our standards. By doing those 3 things alpha men of means no matter the shape or race will come like a moth attracted to a flame. Women only need to ask men out because society fooled us into thinking being masculine, independent, & strong is attractive and we pushed alpha men away. Thus becoming desperate. Embracing feminity alone will increase sexual market value. A woman should NEVER chase a man.
I got a little girl I'll be sure to tell her that
Black men are the ones pushing that pay half crap on black women, but are willing to pay for mixed, Hispanic, Asian, and white women
Agree. 50/50? WE DONT KNOW HER
It really sucks that older Black women are not honest with young girls about their mistakes & regrets.
#facts.
Men have a hard time having just one woman 😂 It's in the Bible.
My mother is a narcissist and never helped us with much, especially me because I'm the scapegoat. It's not just older black women besides I think some women just don't know. I did have some family members constantly sabotage my life by saying things like such to me during most of my childhood, "don't ever have children, don't ever get married". They would whisper that to me at Christmas and other family gatherings. Then years later ask me if I was married when they would see me, then tell me that same BS again. That's just not right to do to anyone.
MzBrOdUs18 🤷🏽♀️ I think many of these 30,40,50+ yrs marriages aren’t all they seem on the surface
J. Rising I have tried to talk to my nieces for years. They do not listen. I didn’t listen to my father when he was trying to tell me.
Life is a strict teacher and you will eventually learn.
I remember about 2 years ago now when my boyfriend at the time(now my fiancé) asked me to move in with him. He informed me that I didn’t have to pay for anything that I could just focus on school and he’ll take care of everything. I remember when my friends found out one of them in particular started calling me a gold digger saying I should at least give him half the rent. I informed her that the only person I’m splitting the rent with is a roommate. To this day, she’s still going half with guys on dates and me, the feminine woman who knows her worth is getting married in 6 months to that same amazing guy. Ladies you HAVE to know your worth and don’t apologize for it!
How did you overcome the judgmental friends? My friends like to make snarky comments like “well what are u gonna do if he decides to leave you?”
Jay Fin I completely ignored them lol I don’t waste my time worrying about what will happen if the relationship doesn’t work, that’s counterproductive in my opinion. I just let them talk and continue to do what I want. When they’re older and stuck with dusties they’ll wish they had done what you did 💁🏾♀️. Follow your own path!
Girl, u just changed my life!! Thank u for this.. I'm learning.
I'm taking notes, sis.
Your fiancé is A real man 👏🏽 congratulations on your engagement and union. I believe that a real man will build you up before he will lay you down.
Black does crack. My advice for younger women is to exercise now. Create lean muscle and it will keep you snatched for years with very little maintenance.
Bw get triggered when it comes to health and fitness. I'm I'm my mid 30s and have one child. My body looks better than women 10 years younger and have zero children. I told young women to start taking care of their bodies NOW cause it will determine how it functions later. All I got was "you're fatphobic!"
Speak so they can hear you in the back. Drink water, it helps so much.
@@faefae2260 Great advice! I will ask them where do you think you're going if you look like this in your 20, 30, 40 ? down hill faster than you can believe most would rather keep a fat butt than to lose dangerous belly fat.
black does NOT crack, but an excessive amount of body fat will make anyone look older. When the extra weight is gone people feel and look better, also much younger. I'm a proud 56 yr woman who has always weight trained since my late teens. Only if age comes up in a conversation do most people guess I'm 20 yrs younger😁 Ladies, weight training, cardio, and good nutrition makes a huge difference. TY Lord 🙏 Don't be afraid to add muscle - it takes time to gain it but you will not be disappointed. You will NOT look like a man either. Myth Also, the fake "fat ass" trend is going to die off, and it does not look good at all. The terrible BBL health issues is not worth it and mostly attracts Dustys🌪 Tighten that body up and rock what ya God gave you💃🏽Black women are beautiful👑
@@faefae2260 sadly, their refusal will cause them to deal with Dustys a lot longer than they have to. Dustys are going to encourage the wrong health ideals and then complain to his buddies how unfit she is.
I have always despised being called strong. I cannot stand that euphemism especially as a black women. No one refers to white woman as strong. I love being a woman not a man. I renounce that cliche.
Same here! And my name means Strong Warrior! I wrote a blog about it and its overuse when describing the Black woman; instead, we should be called sensible and free to be delicate, feminine, vulnerable and at peace.
No one cares being strong doesn’t mean you aren’t feminine it’s a good thing ya’ll stuck in the 1950s while women are getting rich and marrying rich husbands in the same field
Yesss! 👏🏽
It’s is but when they say it to us they mean it in a masculine “warrior “ way
I worked two times for very masculine, domineering Black women while I was in the private sector and working in the government sector. One was married but miserable and the other was old, single and alone, they were both very angry. Both women caused me soooo much grief as a young married 20 something! It was my feminity that made them hate on me and I didn’t even know it! I ignorantly used to be envious of them because they had “power”. But little did I know, they were jealous of my power. Go figure!!!!! Ladies, we’ve been duped! Career and education are not everything!!!!! Nuture that little girl inside of you that always loved the color pink, Barbie, and want Ken and her Dream house! It’s never too late! As stay at home mom, I am now teaching my daughters to embrace their natural feminine nature that God have us!
Yes, I had an old lady get me fired. Blew me away. Found out later she was crushing on my then husband etc. Was crazy. I didn’t understand at the time.
Exactly! You better start your channel and start teaching these young black girls cause they're losing out BIG TIME.
Pottnosticator I agree!
@@pottnosticator3907 Right. They keep dating black males only
This is exactly my situation, I’m in nursing school. Majority of my family tell to be a doctor, I’m like ya career is not everything! Not shading doctors but I don’t want to spend my 20s studying. Many woman in my family don’t get it, they are the strong independent woman. But I don’t want to be independent, I want a man to provide for me. I don’t put career above all else like majority of woman do. The woman in my family did that, and let me tell you something. They are miserable in the marriages. WOMAN WE ARE MEANT TO BE PROVIDED FOR! Any woman that’s tells your differently is lying to you!
Being confident + educated + having a bag secured(quietly) + career options + having standards + FEMININITY is thee combo. Allow yourself to have options, that's the best way to live.
Chanel R. Long yes
Chanel R. Long Maybe you misunderstood ... I think the combos are no brainers, lifes necessary basics education, career options, confidence, standards, being feminine this is where you allow yourself to find balance.
Jane Men don’t care how many degrees you have. Telling everyone how you’re a “strong black woman” that “don’t need no man” is why black women remain single and have the lowest marriage rate. Men don’t want strong woman, we want FEMININE women! Stop reading off your resume. A PHD won’t get you a husband. Degrees don’t come with a husband. We want young, thin, feminine and submissive women, not a bunch of fat, angry, bitter, masculine, out of shape, middle aged career women well into their thirties and forties, crying about how they can’t get no man. Lose the weight, lose the weave and lose the attitude.
John Smith How much do you make?
Jane How much do you weigh?
Rabbi Daniel Lapin says "The more you take care of someone, work for them, and look after their well being, the more you will love that person. This is why people love their children more than they love their parents, you have to do literally 100% for the child and they give nothing tangible back in return"... This is so wise and explains perfectly why men fall in love and risk it all for feminine women, but will leave bob the builder in a second after she spent 20 years building him up.
@Rebeca Mercedes Wise statement. Btw, you are really gorgeous (based on your profile pic)
AlieYIN Goddess Awww Thank You love 🥰 🥰
Lmao not Bob the Builder 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣
I'll spare the details but as a kid I remember telling myself once I became an adult I wanted to work so I could secure my own. I did that and just completed my MBA this year. I worked FT while I went to school PT. The same weekend of graduation I realized just how tired I was. I stopped caring about the corporate ladder. I was working just as hard as a man and getting very little in return.
As black women we feel we have to catch up since history has held us back. Society has told us that we aren't smart enough and that we don't belong in certain spaces. Trying to prove all that has been detrimental. I'm 30 and decided to take an easier job with a lesser title (more money though) in a less stressful environment because I was wearing myself thin. I want to start a family soon and I don't want my black to crack lol.
I'm glad this is being discussed. Being a stay at home mom is not lazy. Let the men be men. It makes sense and feels so much better!😊
I identify with so much of what you said. Wish we could talk lol
Spot on. Once I moved into my feminine energy, I started to attract providers. You will be surprised that real men actually want to take care of women. After working for so many years and it causing me so many health issues, I finally surrendered, starting putting myself first, pampering myself, and lo and behold the providers starting coming at me left and right! Femininity is our power, not trying to be men. It is never too late to start living a feminine life. We have to unlearn the conditioning we have received though!
I'm Guilty. I'm that older BW who failed (1 day) in her duties to school the younger generation. My spouse and I went to a movie, I wanted 🍿 he wanted a drink. He gave $20 to get both. I went to the concession stand and waited in a line that had blk teens around 13 and 14 in age (2bys, 2grls) that were in front of me (they appear to be on a double date)...... There was another line with a Hispanic m & f, around the same age as be the BLK kids. The two black boys order their items and paid, with one telling his date he will not be buying her 'nothing'. In the other line the Hispanic boys order and paid for both he and his dates items. The two black girls pulled their money together and bought candy. I watched the seen in horror. WTF was this. How did the Hispanic boys know his roll but the BLK boys didn't. Yet the blk boys were displaying sexual agression towards their dates, with Hispanic boy being ok with holding hands. Tears came to my eyes. I should have said something. But I didn't. I didn't want to cause a seen. I should have told the BLK girls to run. But I didn't. My guilty.
Because Hispanic guys are taught how to treat women and most
Of them are providers
Because there are educational gaps in our communities, black boys who witness their moma being the breadwinner and etc. it’s sD to see, for I have witness this a lot in my age group and this younger generation. It’s really disappointing. I remember opening a door for myself and out of no where this teenager went in front of me, I was so stunned. There is a huge lack of manners missing.
@lolo the discrepancy exists because the Hispanic boys have fathers, male role models who teach them. And the black girls should have told these boys DO NOT TOUCH ME, you can"t even buy me a small box of popcorn and you think you have any rights to anything that is Me??? Young girls need fathers also to teach them their worth. My parents have been separated all of my life ( even though still legally married) but my father visited me and my brother and gave me Excellent advice on the male perspective, know my value, don't settle for any treatment except being treated like a lady, and many other valuable lessons. There is an entire generation of women and men that were raised without a Real Man"s teachings, knowledge and perspective.
lolo Tragic. I live in South Florida. Hispanic women stay in their feminine energy. It forces men to be masculine.
cynt1908 exactly. I mean there is not a thing wrong with that.
I love having a provider as a husband and he makes all of the decisions. When you find the right one, submission comes easily. Plus, having kids by yourself is for the birds, I could never imagine doing it alone.
Actually , most birds pair for life and build nests before they lay eggs , so I am not sure where that saying came from. Birds have it in order, ,we can learn from them!
You're a wise woman.
The provider part is good. Do you not have any input on decisions?
@@toussaintstraditions547 Good catch! I love watching the elaborate nest making and mating dances of birds, just to get the lady bird's attention! It's the same with male humans! Not sure where that saying came from, probably pop culture.
So true! Good for you. My big sis did it in the wrong order and now my parents and I are helping her raise her son. And his dad is where?.. who knows? The nonsense stops with me
I'm rooting for all the black women on this chanel learning the lessons & taking time to reflect & level ourself up! We deserve💅👑
Black women just need to have a mind of their own to think for themselves because if you don't have a mind of your own to think for yourself, you'll fall for anything.
🥰Facts!
I had to heal myself from what my mother taught me...she was and still is masculine and hard. I am soft feminine pliable warm and enchanting now..i had to go through hell to break those strongholds..but I am that rose that grew through concrete!🙌🙌I am so glad I found your page!! #Salute Queen
@knowthyself what steps did you have to take if you don’t mind. I really never considered myself masculine but my pockets won’t allow me to be the feminine butterfly I truly am. If I could live the life I want and could actually afford it then it would be easier for me.
@@melindajones3218 femininity has nothing to do money Dollar Tree have their ownmakeup line under 5 bucks (not cheap I use l love it). rainbow have black dresses for $25. practice your femininity and don't even think about money. High-end quotes it's a frame of mind just do it where you are
I too healed myself I wrote a book I healed Me. It wasn’t easy but I was determined to break through all those strongholds that was feeding me. It’s nothing pretty when you do that inner work it gets ugly. Don’t stop because then you are facing the mirror reflection of you. I had to literally reprogram my mind from my upbringing. Expect people to get mad at you that means you are doing something right. Also confidence changes Swift’s in any room. Also by the way I get my most compliments on my $10 holler. Dollar tree is awesome as well.
same!
I worked 2 jobs in my early twenties and it was to fill my life with activity. My coworkers became my family because I did not have one of my own. I have built up my career and that has never suffered. But relationships have always been train wrecks. I made some very poor choices in relationships. I am sad that at 39, I have no kids, no spouse and my heart breaks so much. I did not learn until now how much femininity matters. I am scared to death and it hurts to admit it. I see families and feel so left out. The longing is real. I do not want to give up, but just be realistic. It is never too late to be feminine, but realize that it may not be enough to turn the tide of attention when you get older. I always rejected femininity as getting the wrong type of attention, but I was so wrong. Dressing and being feminine makes me feel good inside and out. I am going with the feminine grain now instead of against it. I see now. Thanks for this channel Chloe.
IM ROOTING FOR YOU. Just know that we men suffer too trying to help our sistahs heal.
Christina Masemo thanks for your encouraging words
Marlin Joseph , don’t be too desperate, a dusty will get you.
Hey sis? How are you? I fostered with my mom when she retired a few years ago. It was a learning experience and there are A LOT of precious babies that need homes. I say don't give up hope ever, but also keep this in mind. I am not a mom YET either, but this was fulfilling work. Fostering and adoption are great options if you find that you're not healthy enough or just don't want to try carrying a baby anymore.
Wishing you the best!! xo
Providing for a feminine women is in a mans blood. You’ll definitely find the right one.
And your only 39. My father is 42 still in the game. It’s not too late for you.
I had a difficult life and I was forced to be independent at an eaely age like many black women are, but I hate it. I don't want to compete with men, I want to be soft and feminine.
First step is knowing. Second is to find a feminine woman (one that attracts the type of men you desire) to model yourself after. Then read her bio. Also find a charm school or a woman that teaches charm.
Bubbly Bubbles smh... I agree with that 1000 percent
Being independent doesn’t mean you aren’t feminine lmao
@@void6752 frrr
Me too sis me too
The majority of older black women are very misleading
I have noticed that men of means like educated women who are feminine. They want their children's first teacher to be a smart woman and a help them build their "SIDE HUSLTE"/ own business.
Growing up poor , mad me masculine. My father NEVER giving me anything made me masculine. Constantly attracting dusties made me masculine.
I see my father every Saturday, and he's sometimes feels distant. It made put my walls up and it hurts. My mom is raising me by herself and she's wants me a strong independent black woman. I don't want that 😥😥
Yessss
Thank you so much... Your channel is amazing... I started my hypergamy journey 1 year ago... I'm 26y now... I have a lot work to do but my life is better right. Kisses from Paris...
Your so pretty
I wasn’t taught how to be feminine, but me and my mom had a unhealthy relationship..I started wearing makeup and going to the salons in my early 20s she would laugh, but not encourage me..and I notice I do attract feminine men by me being so independent lol.. I wanna change, I just don’t know where to start
Stop hanging around hood black girls and find a women that teaches charm school and learn.
Do you have any married more life experienced co-workers you could talk to?
2400 Chris_ Some not a lot, but I’ll try them thanks 😊
Baby girlllllllllll, you better preach!!!!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I just subscribed and have been binge watching all your vids all day. Just watched you toxic mother video in front of my mother (I’m petty) 😩😂😂 boy did you read her up and down! I’m 28 and I wish I had found you when I was 12 or 13 years old!!!!!!!! ❤️
Clear The Fog Exactly, mine kept trying to walk out the room. They should’ve done a little better lol 😩😂😂
Loool sry im laughing at this comment
Lol
I'm 25 and wished I heard about this movement before I moved in with my current boyfriend. Currently a dust bunny with a stingy man and am dreading having the conversation about money soon.
My wealthy older brother married a grocery store cashier. My sisters and nieces were mad, they don’t trust her; calling her a gold-digger. Asking why he didn’t choose the independent career women at his level he dated before this one.
I however understood and supported my brother and new sis in-law. My independent sisters and nieces have struggled with men and have never been able to attract and keep a financially successful Alpha male. Myself included. Which is why I have subscribed to this channel.
I’m new to this channel. There are truths from this RUclipsr that are hard to swallow. But I know most of what is being said is true because I have seen and experienced it.
negrita305 no they aren’t. They just don’t want masculine women. Career women are often masculine. That’s why u don’t brag about ur degrees.
negrita305 Many career women are very masculine without knowing it. You don’t have to be a cashier honey. In fact you have more access to these men than they do. And you having your own income helps you cushion the blow if it doesn’t work out.
I think a lot of career women fail to use their position and status in society to find and keep a successful man because they are so driven to succeed they neglect the subconscious hypergamous nature underneath. Focusing on the masculine and neglecting or subduing their feminine nature.
Career women compete with these men. By the time their hypergamous nature kicks in, you now realize you are competing with the cashier. And the cashier is feminine and in need of a strong successful man in her life. Her feminine and in need persona activates his need to provide and protect. That doesn’t make him weak. It makes him a man.
Sophia ATN Black and dark skinned. She is former military and keeps herself fit. She wears feminine outfits. In fact my brother is so funny, he asked me to help him find her an outfit through online shopping as a gift.
Also because she worked as a cashier she had dry cracked hands. I make skin softening oils and creams. He asked me to make her something to help her hands.
@@Mrs.T305 That's not the point. Its about the masculine attitude a lot of career women come with. You can be an independent kept woman. No masculine man wants to be in competition with a woman.
This is inspiring to me because I’m currently a cashier lol
I like to think I’m in the middle of my life🙄🤔 I’m 31 and single but I give girls or young ladies under me all sorts of advice I have a 13 year old daughter 🙌🏾😍 and I’m CURRENTLY teaching her to HARNESS her femininity at all times of her being 💯🙌🏾I will not allow my beautiful daughter to be a work mule or a free screw I’m here for her and she we walk to her throne without a hair outta place💯🙌🏾😍🏆
You still dont understand. A daughter needs a MAN in her life to build self-esteem. You single mothers are destroying your children's esteem and confidence. You can't do it on your own! Duh!
@Elle D how hard is it to find a man who is educated and has a good job? Problem is black women don't choose men based off education. They choose men based off swag and tattoos and sex. All superficial qualities. Miss me with the bs
SARA thank u so much💯🙏🏽🙌🏾💋
I’m tired and I am doing everything in my power to get a man with means I am tired of working 16 hrs a day but I have taken care of myself and I am very feminine
I agree I'm tired of working too full time jobs myself. I'm glad I found this channel in order to gain some knowledge and tips.
I told my niece over a holiday gathering to not pass up the guys she meets in college that are interested in her because she doesn’t have as much time as she thinks she does. This was received with a lot of backlash from the other adults in he room. “She needs to concentrate on school, she doesn’t have time for that” this was spoken by her aunts and uncles whom are all married except for one who is not happy at all because she is well past child bearing years and is difficult to get along with in general. Basically, she is too masculine. She (my niece) didn’t listen. She is now working on her PhD. That’s good but a dude she met in the past, got married, and that wedding was elaborate and he was perfect for my niece , smart, attractive, a graduate if Princeton but she was “focusing on my goals”.
I have older friends in their 50’s that are very unhappy with dogs. Every time I hang out with them, they are talking about men problems.
All young women listening to this need to take heed to what Chloe is saying and not pass up these “nice guys” telling yourself you don’t need a man for anything. I almost did. I have my doctorate degree, husband and daughter. THANK YOU GOD. I owe it ALL to Him. Chloe, keep spreading these great messages.
I dont think it's too late. We are ALL going to age. I'm 46. Age is nothing but a number. I do believe that being masculine emasculate these men and attract Dustys. I do believe we should take care of our health and bodies in general for quality longevity of life not just to attract a man. That's an awesome benefit with taking care of yourself. I have an adult daughter so I definitely want to pass these principles down to her.
Chloe I LOVE your channel. Thank you! Don’t do it ladies, waste your best years PLEASE love and pamper yourself, put yourself first. I tell my 15 year old daughter that she deserves the best. The years go by so fast.
Why Do We Always Have To Say...”Strong” Black Women??? You Never Hear White, Asian, Latino Etc. Say It!!! 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Debbie Lipscomb well Black women are very strong. Statically, Black women suicide rate is very low compared to White women, men and Black men. Statically, Black women hold down the home while having 3, 4 etc kids, without having a man. Black women work harder more than any another. That’s why we are considered strong. Should I go on?
@@AmberSumerall Forced to be strong by circumstances. First we are women plus we are black. Some say it's a double whammy but that is what makes us special. A feminine beautiful black woman is also strong because we have so many negatives trying to indoctrine the opposite (ugliness, low self esteem ,masculinity) since we were little girls. Yet we learned to love ourselves. That's strength and beauty.
Right. I only hear to them referred to as strong if they're lesbians or athletes.
Andrew Wilkins Lol...Right...Just Like Your Mammy!!! 🤣🤣🤣
You're right. I'm a black latina and we never refer to ourselves using that term nor does anyone else.
Yes your videos are not meant for every woman glad you cleared that up. I'm glad that God/ Universe sent me to your channel
I’m not ASHAMED to say this video is for me I’m just starting to level up .
I could say I'm almost in tears watching this. I have worked in law enforcement for the past 9 years, served in the military for 8 years. I can truly say I lost my femininity. Hair have to be a certain way. Nail cant be done, uniform everytime I go to work.
Vania Thomas Damn sis. 😢
Wow u have the same name is my mom. It's never too late my dear. Have faith and push through😊
Their are super gorgeous extremely natural wigs now for after work and weekends. Beautiful strip lashes, sexy heels, feminine dresses, perfumes, natural glowy makeup, sexy jewelry, good undergarments that enhance your figure and make you feel womanly. Give the new you a name and purpose. Be her after work and on off days. You can do this. It will feel awkward at first to present as super feminine when you're so used to being stripped down but do it anyway and you'll get used to it. You also can do what you can at work such as makeup, lashes and perfume perhaps nail polish in a neutral color, sparkly small earrings. Talk sweetly.
As a 61 year old former masculine energy woman, it is possible to reconnect with your feminine energy AND date masculine energy, provider men. I am doing it and so can other mature women. You must be willing to do the work: change your mindset, belief systems; wear feminine colors and clothes; keep your mouth closed with friends who do not want to change. It’s all possible. Just commit to doing it. Will it be easy? No. Is it worth it? Absolutely!
I agree so much with this video. I wasted all of my 20s with my sons father. To this day he doesn’t have a job and can’t pay child support. He moved away to another state with a younger white woman. I met someone who is older than me and had another child and he turned out to be a loser as well. I work my butt off to care for both of my kids and I am always exhausted and I want to go back to school so bad but I feel like I can’t.
Stacey British loooool good for u thats ur own fault daft woman
@Stacey dont take this the wrong way. Have u thought of possibly getting a sugar daddy. Someone much older. Also look into sheraseven1 youtube videos shes great. Good luck I'm rooting for u
@@quin6324 Because unfortunately you are what you attract. You get better quality men by being a better quality woman.
@@Big617E Go to hell
You can ! ❤️
Chloe spoke the truth on this one!
It's so sad that many women in these comments do not agree with her.
Let me just say this from a man's perspective, "Men are looking for a feminine women. We absolutely don't fine masculine women attractive. They absolutely aren't."
But remember ladies, When you are looking for love, look for what you want. Whether it's a simp or an Alpha.
But if you want an Alpha Male... We only desire FEMININE WOMEN.
Old women don't want young women to succeed.
I do
I see some truth to this statement. My first child is due next month and I'm coming up on my last week at my job. This isn't maternity leave, this is my shift to stay at home motherhood, which I'm blessed and excited to be able to do. When I tell you the older women in the office are SALTY about it, I say it with absolute certainty. I know with my whole heart that they're jealous that they couldn't do the same when their children were young and love to make comments like "You'll be bored,". I know not every woman wants to be a mom and not every mom wants to stay at home, but the vast majority of moms I've worked with have major working mom guilt, especially when they're fresh off maternity leave and all they wanna do is show you pictures and videos of their kids every day. Sidebar: It's worth mentioning that the male attorneys in the office are excited for me and have even said, "Your husband is a lucky guy to have you give up your career to raise your daughter." Why? Because these men LOVE femininity and being providers!
My mom did open up about her regrets of not taking better care of her health and staying married to man she does not respect. She is 65 now and I don't know where she'd be without me, my big sis, her grandson and small old lady gang. Ladies, please think about not only today and finding a man and making babies, but how you want your final chapter to look. I know I want to be unafraid of change at any age, continue to put myself first and enjoy life.
Great share!
Soooo true Iam independent, separated from a dusty and yes Iam tired to do all by myself.
negrita305 that depends on the men a woman attracts. The more feminine a woman becomes , the more masculine (providers) the attract. Yes dnt just stop working but get out of the masculine energy and way of thinking. Masculine men can smell that from a mile away
negrita305 continue being feminine AND work/secure the bag but don’t treat your career as the sole (or even main) reason why a man should be with the you. However also do not look for men beneath your career standing/income. Try to date non-black men if you can.
@@Mrs.T305 Yup work hard, pay on dates 50/50. Feminizm is really great. That's why men are losing Vigour to be traditional providers.
I’m not into role reversal period I am a woman I do not desire to be a man in no way shape or form I was never happy working at jobs.
As long as you have breath in your body and are armed with the RIGHT knowledge its not too late. I'm 35.
Learning this at 40🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ My soon to be ex husband told me I'm too masculine, didn't understand until your video
I'm in tears and ashamed of myself. That's me all day long. 50 years old and I know I'm masculine and I don't want to do it anymore!! I will watch your videos and learn to break this lifestyle. Thank you for being honest ❤️
This video helped my realize how masculine I’ve been. I’m educated, have a career, a mother, Independent but single and couldn’t figure out why. Now I know...
Good for you but old habits die hard. You're gonna really have to work to change that mindset you had but I give you kudos and positive energy for figuring it out.
How couldnt u figure it out tho it baffles me women in ur position who always lead with education yet still single
You are 100 percent correct my man tells me all the time he loves how feminine I am it’s like he’s shocked because he said most black women are masculine. It’s our power ladies. My femininity has attracted him to my life my last relationship my ex was feminine and it was so unattractive and unfulfilling my current bf sometimes jokes about “men” these days that do 50-50 he said when we eventually move in together I won’t have to work 🤗
Women just need to know how to balance their masculine and feminine energy
Yes sometimes we need to use our masculine energy but we need to now how to balance
You can be a successful women and still being feminine
Nope
This is so true ! So glad I found your channel!!
It’s never to late to be feminine. However it pays to learn quickly when the information is given so that one does not suffer years or decades of the pitfalls and sorrow of getting the opposite of what your heart desires . Femininity is the key 🔑 to unlock the door of masculine protection and love. It’s a Universal multi-cultural key. Great Post Chloe!
Not ever too late. I think overall the message is that you have to love yourself and that is good at any age. It can even make you look youthful to self love. I am 47 and I am loving myself. I left the dusty. I left that dust bunny lifestyle as my past. I am committed to improvement. I left the dusty, left the toxic job, I feel younger, new job and buying a house. Alone but, with God in my corner and wisdom. I notice men looking. Young and old. So at 47; yes, it's still possible.
As a Man. I have met both over masculine women and I have met very beautiful feminine women. I can tell you, I love beautiful black feminine women
It's the "skrong" for me lol
You hit the nail on the head. I am so hard...rigid...difficult...harsh. I am the provider in my 18 year relationship to a man 12 years my senior. Im 37 overweight...just had my 2nd baby and nobody ever told me any of this, now I am angry... mean... mugging... full of regret...bitter and if Im being honest unhappy. Im in the process of unlearning because the things that I thought I knew....I had no idea. What I can say is I appreciate these spaces where we are able to be taught properly regarding things that affect our quality of life. My mother is lonely and miserable weather she will admit it and unfortunately I have inherited the misery and she seems content with passing this torch to me as if this is an honor to be fat, black and alone. I never wanted this life but didn't even see it coming, although I should have. I didn't give myself a chance.
I’ve always been slim ,pretty ,extremely feminine ,but had no idea about hypergamy. I wasted many years on now what I know to be dusty men. Now I’m 34 I still look good feel good feminine look 25 but truth is I’m 34 so it’s to late for me. Good luck to you women 20-33 take advantage of this women’s powerful wisdom.💋
Muharrar Beyah darling it’s never too late your still very young, Meghan Markle met Prince Harry when she was 36! Now she’s 37 has a baby son and is happily married to her prince it’s not too late just date older man
Sandra Jefferson Thank you 😊 so much I felt like it’s to late, I don’t want to give up I truly appreciate your encouraging words!!❤️
I haven't done bad for myself all these years but there's always room for improvement and never too late to learn whether you're married or not! I'm proof! I am grateful for your videos at this stage in life. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, Chloe! Schooling my daughters and granddaughters! Hell! Friends too!
Thanks so much for these videos!!! I’m 32 but I am so glad I ran across your channel! I wish I would have heard this in my early 20s!!!
Men are attracted to softness! They don't need a loud talking woman, in their face telling them that they are less then them! Trying to fight them. A woman knows his status in life! That hits them in the stomach and cuts deep!
Showing no kindness at all; will leave you alone!
Im so grateful for this channel.
For all of us whose Moms didn't teach us, thank God for Chloe.
I stopped being masculine in my mid to late 30s and it cost me my marriage. Because I had degrees I was expected to be the primary bread winner. I wanted to stay at home with the second baby we had planned. Had at least one family member tell me (I'm sure others were thinking it) that it was unrealistic for me to expect my husband to be the sole or main provider. The idea was for me to go back to work after our son finished school . 50 yrs old next year and I've never been more feminine and never looked better. They just can't understand it. So, I say ,no it's not too late.
Good testimony, I'm mid-30's and I want to be a stay at home mom, my husband expect me to earn more and said I've not done enough income wise!!!! I'm like I supported when you had nothing, now it's my turn. So i guess I'll be losing this. I'm determined to be more feminine and will nurture my side business. ~nolongerbreadwinner
Bottom line if we don't
Feel safe secured or comfortable
Protected we are not gonna Fully show our Soft vulnerable side we have to feel like we been let our guard down and we can trust u we don't
Feel like we are just a door 🚪 mat to you
This is great counsel ladies. I know quite a few women who declare that they are strong black women. In most cases they are loud oppositional, and aggressive. It led me to try to educate myself about this behavior in SOME women. Please ladies, try to educate your friends about this madness - spread the word. I am cheering for my enlightened sisters, black relationships, and the black community.
When I tell you this channel is blessing my soul!
How do we identify if we possess these masculine traits? I think some women may not know they they give off masculine energy
Mybrwnisbeautiful Hin Walking down the street, screwing up their faces at everyone just mean mugging everyone. Telling everyone you’re a “strong black woman” and how you “don’t need no man”. Masculine men don’t want masculine women. You’ll only attract feminine men and men that just want to fuck and leave. Stop being so masculine unless you’re trying to attract other women.
Look at the men you attract
Some African American dads encourage tbeir daughters to be masculine. I remember I was about 5 crying about being bullied. I remember being told to shut up that crying and deal with this like a man. Huh?😃
Totally true.
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So glad I found this channel. I love what you say. I might have missed a video of you addressing this so forgive me if this has already been discussed. There is a difference in running. If you are running to win the race that is masculine. If you are running from danger to safety that is feminine. Now here is the problem. While you’re running no one can tell the difference. Meaning most black women young and old are running from danger to safety. Running from bad neighborhoods to college to good jobs that will provide us a safe place to live, food on the table, and a weekly yoga class if we are lucky. Sure maybe there are black women who have the luxury of running to win the race, but I’m willing to bet that most are running away from danger to safety. They are damsels in distress that have to rescue themselves that are disguised as “strong and independent.” And if she is a waitress chances are she’s working at Popeye’s behind bulletproof glass. There is a chance that a man of means will show up at her job, but there is also a chance that his means may lead her to even more danger. Often times we not only have to get to safety, we have to stay there. And unfortunately that requires masculine energy. A woman who didn’t have to run from danger has the luxury of a safe place to land, and most likely someone to catch her. If you are with a man with not quite enough means to protect you with enough alimony if things go wrong you are going to be in big trouble if you’ve been a stay at home wife for 10 years. Black college students are in a similar situation. The rich kids can afford the non-paying summer internships, where as the poor kids have to get a job in the summer. Most black women need a bridge to femininity, not a road to femininity. I don’t know what that bridge is or looks like I just know it’s not safe without it.
@spicybeachgirl1 you’re a beautiful person and well spoken. What you said is so true because when you’ve been beat up by society and KNOW you deserve the same rights as other races it’s hard when you you’re told that you’re being a difficult person when you want to stand up for yourself. Being black is hard and people make it harder. All I want is support from the ppl who supposedly love me most.
Well put together........never be ashamed or belittle yourself for saving yourself.
Your videos are a godsend! Thank you
I was told by this guy that if I wanted to be married I have to be subservient in order to attract a men that is establish. My problem is I came from a broken home only raise with my mother. I didn't have a good relationship with my father. I also didn't have good relationship with the men that I dated in pass.
I know that unfortunately because I have watched my mom being a married independent woman and it only backfired on her. 😢💔
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Through watching many videos thus far, I’ve learned that it’s not too late to get back into touch with ones feminine energy. However, there’s a tough reality that one has to face and accept; and there’s work that one has to do within this energy. One has to be willing to put in the work to change. And that’s for anything.
New subbie here . I’m 55 and I guess past my prime however I look 15 to 20 yrs younger. I’m attracting 30ish young men . And yes they think I’m in my 30s . Listening to your channel I wonder now if these guys are just Dusties looking to be housed and provided for.Please do a video for us older ladies
You're not past your prime, lady. I used to think my prime ended with my 20s until I saw 50 year old Lauren Sanchez get engaged to 56 year old Jeff Bezos, the richest man in the world who could pretty much get almost any woman he desires. Because of this I am now of the belief that your prime stretches to whatever age you want your prime to be, as long as you invest in your looks and femininity. I have read articles of Lauren and people say that she always had a great figure, wore dresses that showed cleavage and was very flirty. She's my current woman inspiration.
I would think men in there 30s have already established their careers. Do they have Jobs or they just bums looking for a sugar mama?
2400 Chris_ the latter I believe.
I’ve stopped being bitter ever since I started watching your content.Thank you Chloe.❤️
This is the ultimate channel. I'm so glad I found it! In mid life, most of the men are accomplished; so hypergamy is easily attainable.
Barbara Streisand married James Brolin, black executive Melody Hobson married George Lucas and her life is amazing!
Their "hate" has to do with their self esteem
Let's support our sisters who are trying to educate and change things brothers.
It’s never too late if ur down for adventure. Women have to step outside of our comfort zones and think about self. Stop saying I’m a queen and treat /act urself like a queen and expect nothing less from ANYONE.
You can be a strong successful black woman without letting go your femininity. Most men are attracted and want that feminine energy in their significant other.
I agree I was ok with working n busting my butt till I had kids then I decided being a mother n being their for my kids is more important,
Very informative and helpful. Thank you SO MUCH Chloe_😇👍❤️
I'm optimistic it's never too late if you're willing to do the work. However the earlier the better💃
Time is esp wasted time is the greatest enemy for an independent woman. Being taught to chase the bag as a young lady I never thought to invest in a feminine education. Although I I tried to look the part and I wanted a masculine man I didn't think they exist for women like myself. Esp after my first and only fiancee and I broke up. Motivated by fear and insecurities conditioned me to think a man would never allow me to be a stay at home wife or I worried about my bills and being self sufficient if he leaves me. Fear and insecurities and misinformed women kept me independent for so long. But as Chloe stated in a video independence wore me out and frustrated me. Sometimes I feel it's too late.
Some may tithe waiting in Jesus to send them a king! I can’t with Chloe!
I'm 27 and I know I can be a Tom boy but I'm also very kind and sweet (my feminine type)
Yes I wish I'd done things different. I was married at 23 (still married) I did not marry hypergamous I just wanted someone who loved and supported me and would be there for me unconditionally and who I could share in building a life together with. I wasnt thinking about securing the bag. Over time we raised our children and have accomplished goals and acquired material things and still continue to do so. My daughter who is now 15 is almost certain she does not want to be married. Does not want children, prefers to be career driven and self sufficient. I am always dressing up, wearing makeup and heels and she prefers a more relaxed look. She rebelled against the feminine qualities I tried to instill in her younger years. I'm almost afraid to hit her with the you better change your ways or you won't get a man to marry you because she is in no way interested in having one. Not sure how to handle but I'll give her more time.
Why she rebelled ?
@@angelicaa.3062 To be honest I don't know. It may be a confidence thing? I know I had to pull teeth to get her dolled up for homecoming but when it was finished she felt amazing everyone was telling her how beautiful she was. So she's been a little better about it. Also it doesn't help that it seems boys she identifies with does not seem to like black girl's in general. Its being thrown in her face everyday that we are the least wanted especially on tik tok. They have these skits that show how much white/Latina girls are wanted and boys falling all over themselves but no ones checking for black girls. And I'm not just pushing her to be with black men but the white ones are not checking for her either. Its just a weird day and age for our girls. I'm not sure what to do. Send her to a HBCU?
Candy C She’s still young. These little boys don’t what type of women they want. And the only people who have TikTok are children, women, and feminine men.
I’m a senior in high school my self and I don’t get what the hype is about these light skinned girls as opposed to darker skinned. Only thing I can think of is everyone is still young and don’t know what they want.
The yin always conquers the ☯ yang with her gentle touch!!!
A lot of black women didn't know until now. Know better do better, this Channel is everything for us❤
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So many of us have to deal with our lives "Single,the father of our children are deceased ,ghosted,immature Incarcerated,,irresponsible or just not there,,you still are a vital living loving woman nu yourself baby yourself take care of your body your health and the best thing you can own is a smile and a good attitude .Love your videos Chloe keep um coming......
Why are litter brown and light skin women always portrayed as feminine, but darker women portrayed as masculine and “angry”
U lot are though
thank you for this video. yes some of us are just having our eyes opened by you. I believe its not too late. even if you are in your fiffties. its not too late because you are still alive. It only too late if you are dead. each day comes with possibilities. Aot depends on your attitude. its important not to be bitter or exhibit any traces of it because people will assume you must be, and so ready to judge you from that stand point.
What a beautiful video that’s finally telling the truth. For some reason whenever a man tells a woman this, we’re called male chauvinist pigs but if you do it, it’s called a great video. Hey either way, it’s about the message and not the messenger today and this video should have a wayyyyyyyyyyy higher view count. Please push this with more promotion and ads cause this is what us MGTOW men what from wives.
Beautiful mind you have, I applaud you.
I cant really agree with the independant women theory... because you can be an independant women who makes alot of money online and has real estate and employees and doesnt have to work much as far as going to a 9 to 5 and have a lot of free time
Growing up in the 90's, the feminine energy was downplayed as bad by feminism; (pregnancy was gross, "we can hold our own doors, thank you"). Schools taught that education was everything, and most of my black female friends were told (by mothers and fathers) that education was vital for life success. Raising a family was not important. Now women show off their baby bumps and young men don't know how to be chivalrous. I'm glad we're talking about these things.
who else is here binge watching all of Chloe's video in 2020?
Isha Webber me !
I mean I do like the concept of your channel and you do have some very good points; but there are some things which are said that has be me like, "huh?!"
I totally agree that most of us women have too much masculine energy and need to get in touch with our femininity; as this enhanced masculine energy was passed on from generation to generation. But, the vibe I get from your content is as if to say us women should sit around and depend solely on the man to be the bread winner.
Now, I have absolutely no issues with a man doing what a man is to do i.e. Lead, Provide, Protect etc. I certainly desire that; but from past experiences I've learnt that men (when angered) can use that to belittle a woman.
I think women should have their own means and not solely depend on a man financially; because if he chooses to leave her for whatever reason, who does she have to rely on.
My dad have told me to always make sure I have my own money if I was on a date or in a relationship.
Case in point, in the past a guy offered to take me on a date...and I thought ok lets go on this date, but I ensured to walk with my own money in my purse. And surprise, surprise at the end of the date the guy asked for me to go halves on the bill....I stared at him and asked if he was serious. And he was. I paid for my meal and never went on another date with him. (This going dutch only ever happened once in my life btw lol)
So, in instances such as those (and other dramatic cases i.e. divorce or breakup) I believe a woman should have more than just "next to nothing" as you mentioned that these men prefer.
In my opinion, like I said I welcome a masculine man to play his role so I can play mine; but I think although he can be the sole breadwinner of the household, a woman should still have her own money...especially enough money to not be left flat out on her face in the event the relationship doesn't work.
Brilliant speech, it really hits home 👏👏👏👏
I’m sharing every single mistake I have made with my daughter so she can be ahead of game…❤️
The awful thing is that we realize this after we’re divorced from the dusty '! So at that point we’re taught to make sure we don’t talk down to the kids about their father! Sooooo.... we’re trying to educate our daughters in this weird incognito fashion about how to avoid men like their DADS!
This is every feeling that I am feeling right now!!!! How do I balance this with out dropping ball 😭😭😭 at 43yr old
It's not too late if it's something you want to do.
Is it possible to be successful and carry yourself with femininity at the same time?
Yes. Be pretty. Don't constantly talk about degrees and your career.
These are hard pills to swallow but they are healing me🙏🏾