Thank you for sharing. It is honestly unreal how many people out there can relate to each other’s story and just want honestly be loved and or have someone to talk/listen to.
never lost anyone irl yet but my mom had stage 3 breast cancer earlier (fought off with surgery and chemo/radio) and did lost friends online due to unforeseen circumstances, this further affirmed me to not say no to company
Sending you all the love. My mom also had cancer. Fortunately, she's still in my life, but it's frightening knowing someone you care most about might not make it.
Ive lost my mom, my grandma, my nanny, my father, my brothers, my nieces... Brothers are in jail. One of my nieces passed and ill never see the other 2 again. But the worst was my mom I was 11 years old it was a friday and i had already had the worst day at school...little did i know itd only get worse
This is truly one of my worst fears, props to her for being so brave and sharing her story. And thanks to Syrmor as always for bring these stories to light.
I lost my parents many years ago. While it's absolutely normal to want to feel pain and grief, at some point, we need to forgive ourselves for feeling this way, and make peace with our past. Time doesn't heal, but we can heal ourselves.
The basketball scene is honestly brilliant, its so silly but also so interesting to see her persisting until she gets the ball in, while talking about something so difficult to deal with
Nephew died a month ago from shallow water blackout. There was serendipities before his death too. He left a video message on his siblings pc, something he would never do. He was 18
I lost my Dad to suicide earlier this year. The months leading up to his death can be described as the worst summer of my life. He was admitted into crisis centers, hospitals for various health issues. Having to stay with him for hours at his couch because the things he was saying were scary. I eventually became numb, as numb one could be, to my situation. It was a hard morning, but I was able to speak with him. It felt nice to have a conversation with him. It felt like things were looking up, we would get him to therapy the start of next week. I told him that I love him. My brother soon called me out of work because my dad "hurt himself." The last images of that night was the squad of police cars surrounding my house, my crying brother, the medflight carrying him away, and the blood on the floor. I visited him in the hospital the day after, and he looked dead. He would later be pronounced brain dead as the amount of blood he lost was "nonsurvivable." How my brain protects me from the trauma is by actively choosing not to think about it. Whenever I do think, however, my heart gets tied in knots. I wish he were here.
My wife found it odd i would wake her in the morning before i left for work to tell her "i love you" and even before bed, not in a mean way but unusual. I used to work some seriously dangerous job where a million things could go wrong and kill me and didnt want the last words she hears to be anything other than my love for her. She now makes sure i do it even with a far safer job and now with our son she makes sure he gets that love even at 2 months right now. Im sorry for your loss, keep the fun memories of him close, his love for you must never be forgotten even for a moment.
It's terrifying how quickly everything could end, how any one of us could be gone at any time for no reason at all. Cherish your life and the lives of the people you care about, none of us have forever. I wholeheartedly dread the days I'll lose the people I love the most, but hearing Lowhren's story helps because it shows that life still goes on and things get better, even if it won't feel like it at the moment, even if it'll take a long time. Thanks for the upload Syrmor and thanks Lowrhen for the story
Coming up on 2 years without my mom… I can’t believe it. It’s incredibly hard and it feels like no one around me understands the pain, but it’s somewhat comforting to know that there are people out there who do.
Wow, Lowrhen, I feel like I'm in a similar boat. My dad died when I was 15 (he died May 4th, 2009), and I was right at the cusp of transitioning from Middle to High School. And it still feels surreal. Like, a lot has changed but I still don't feel as whole as I did when he died. I remember the last time he and I talked. He was drunk (and a major depressive) and he talked about how he was going to die tonight. He kept insisting that I needed to be with him (I was at my mom's place at the time) and as a 15-year-old, I was used to his drunken ramblings and just said, "It's okay, Papa, I'll see you on Wednesday." (This call happened on a Monday.) Then the next day my mom picked me up from school and informed me of his death. Then for some reason, his funeral was the following Wednesday. So in a way, I was right. I got to see him on Wednesday (which was the last time before I cremated him and scattered his ashes in the Deleware river). Every day gets a little easier to process and be at peace with, but no one ever gets over the death of a loved one. To anyone grieving or still processing/coming to terms with, whatever you're feeling is valid, and take it as part of the journey. Love doesn't go away, it just becomes a part of your being.
Jeez, to hear about her dad and then look at the date of watching and realising that today (October 25th, 2022) is the 10th anniversary she describes in the video... I'm glad and grateful she could take the time to tell us and share this feeling with us. What an unconscionable and life altering loss for someone so young.
That was...rough...to listen to. If you read this Lowrhen, we're sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your story. I hope things continue to get better for you.
I lost my dad last year in March from COVID around the one year mark. We thought he’d improve but we didn’t know how bad he really was until the day before he passed when we spoke with his nurse, Renee. She told us bluntly the reality of his situation, that he could pull through or that he could end up on a ventilator and which she thought he’d end up on… me and my mom sobbed in the car… the next day when he passed my mom had to make the decision to put him on the vent and speak to him about it… he refused.. he knew he wasn’t going to make it… but he ended up agreeing to be put on a vent and passed hours later… when my mom got home from the hospital I was playing Xbox with my boyfriend and our friend on destiny, I heard her car pull up and she had the car phone on with my uncle and all I heard was “he’s their dad how am I gonna do this?” And a few minuets later my uncle and mom walked into the house and they called my brother down who’s lazy butt didn’t want to come down and.. I knew.. I knew he was gone.. my uncles eyes were red.. then my mom told us “he’s gone. Daddy’s gone” and my brother and mom just started sobbing I stood there in shock… I thought I was gonna faint.. my chest hurt so much I thought I was having a heart attack and then my uncle grabbed me and we just started sobbing… it’s over a year and it still just sucks but I can’t believe how fast time has flown since he passed and how much I’ve gotten done in life… I got my license, I moved in with my bf to another state, got a full time job with benefits.. I just wish he was here so I could tell him… I miss him so damn much but I find comfort in the fact that I called him up Sunday, he passed on a Tuesday, and just told him how much I loved him.. how great of a dad he was to me and my brother, I also texted him a bit on Monday but he didn’t really respond because he was in pain..
Hello syrmor, just wanted to say, I love your videos. Thanks for bringing a light to the struggles of so many people! I really appreciate it, and I know alot of others do to!
In 2004 my dad died unexpectedly when I was 9. My younger brother was 3, my older sister was 11, my older brother was 14 and my oldest brother was 17. My mum went into bankruptcy and terrible years came to be. Looking back I don’t know how she managed. It was so easy to blame her for mistakes but she was one person raising 5 kids. She’s so amazing, I love her so much. I’m 27 now, I graduated university, I’ve had some hiccups but who doesn’t when growing up. I just love my mum so much, I’m so thankful and I tell her multiple times a day how much I fucking love her and I’m so proud of her.
Hearing her story was a pretty stark reminder that I'm not as alone as I thought I was, all of it just being contained to family. Lost my dad back in February to illness and what I think was partially self-neglect, and that's something that I've sat battling with for a while now. Hearing that chance to bond with him was exactly what I was hoping to do before he came down so badly sick, I still remember the cough he had that sounded like it hurt every single time. I've come to accept that by the time that he was sick, it was already too late. I couldn't do anything to change it at that point, and that was a weight that had devastated me for month after month. I still wish I'd given him more time away from work to enjoy himself instead of taking all of that time for myself. To anyone else who is struggling, I wish you the best.
Absolutely sobbing at this story. I am so sorry for your loss, I can’t even begin to imagine. I lost my uncle last year to COVID but I spent so much time with my cousins and him that he felt like a dad to me. My dad was absent while I was growing up and he was the closest thing to it. It’s been extremely hard and I miss him every single day. I can’t imagine the pain that came with this. Thank you for sharing your story, Lowrhen.
I lost my dad when I was 15. This video really hits close to home. I hope anyone who is going through hard times will get better. (Sorry my english is not the best)
I feel a connection here. My dad died suddenly of sepsis when I, the oldest of four, was 18 and we had just finally been reconnecting during the last year or so of his life. I am so grateful that I got to have a dream where we got one last day together. To suddenly go from having a dad to not having a dad is impossible to comprehend until you get there.
"Keep going, it gets better" damn good advice, I can confirm that one. There's terrible things you can't even imagine that will happen to you, sure, but people often seem to forget that there's amazing, great things you can't even imagine that will happen to you aswell. It worth to keep going for those good things, and you will be more prepared for the bad things the older you get.
my dad died at 39, very suddenly at work, one month after i turned 7. i'll never forget that day. i am 43 now. you are lucky you have that letter. i don't have anything. no last words, no memory of my last moment with him. treasure that letter.
I love these stories so much, they make me feel connected to just... people in general I guess. And they make me so thankful for the people still in my life that I get to love. Thank you to Lowrhen for telling such a difficult story and giving such encouraging words to all of us watching :)
My house used to have a TV and it had internet access, there was a built-in RUclips app, and I used to play Syrmor's videos and watched with my dad, he seemed to be uninterested :)))))), but back in the day, I wanted to introduce him to new stuff, he sit for a while and walked to my mom :). Now the TV is gone, where it was placed now lies my dad's altar (I'm a VIetnamese and that's our tradition to hornor our passed-away loved one), and now I come back to your channel, watching the exact interview that I've always needed. Thank you, Lowrhen and Syrmor !
One thing that wasn't mentioned that I think is useful to understand is that everyone grieves differently. Your experience will be different to that of others so there is no point in comparing how you're doing to other people. Some need to talk, others need to think to process the situation. Some need months, others years to get past the worst of it. Work out what you need and give yourself time. Also if you're looking to help a friend, reach out offering two things: to listen and to spend time with them like everything's normal. I've found that to be a pretty good response
this one hit particularly hard. Not that I've really had a family member die, just the sibling stuff, choosing games over family, not crying at first, walking out of class, and disassociating. People handle trauma in different ways, and while I wouldn't consider my struggles traumatic, Me and Lowrhen handle trauma the exact same way. was very cathartic watching this one
My mother passed away 10 year ago in the past month. I definitely have such a similar experience and it is something I can very much relate to. 100% it is something that will never go away. Just know he is always there for you!
This is a good story to tell and Lowrhen if you're listening to this, I am sorry for your father's loss and my condolences and prayers goes out to you and your family 👪 ❤📕
This was brave of her to share. The same thing happened to me but with my uncle. Hes was the greatest person to have ever lived. He was like a 3rd dad. (The others being my actual dad and my other relative). One day my aunt comes home tearing up and told us that he past. I remember It traumatized me for week. I even thought to myself "What did my siblings or I do to deserve this?" Many thoughts were circling me the day after.
One of my cats died a few days ago of old age (he was 17). I suppose it's different from a parent's death but it still hit quite hard. This video helped me process it a little. Thank you.
I have to put mine down tomorrow because she's terminal and has stopped eating. I'm hoping this is the right decision, I'd rather she didn't starve to death. This is my first big loss. I feel your pain.
@@CMON75 there comes a point in their aging that you just know. If you’ve come to that conclusion, you haven’t made the wrong choice. They tell us, it makes it obvious, and that choice ultimately comes from a place of love.
The moment I recognized the location this interview took place in, I knew the "loss" was gonna be a person, I was bracing myself for it and still teared up. The worst part is even if I told my dad exactly what Lowrhen says at the end I don't think he'd understand the message yet, it's hard losing family you're close to.
I debated on whether I should post this or not, but here goes. My last conversation I remember with my Dad before he passed away, was how he wasn’t really ready to go. Here I was, 28, knowing my dad to be this invincible person, and was now reduced to a shell, who was wishing for more time to spend with his family. There isn’t really a right way to be sad, I have good days and bad days. Losing a parent is devastating.
Whenever I watch videos from this channel I think about what story I would tell if I had the chance, and it would be about my dad dying when I was young. So it's reassuring to see that someone is telling their story, and it does hit close to home for a lot of people; we're not alone in this. Thank you Lowrhen for sharing your story.
Almost 11 years ago, my sister had pulmonary hypertension and it basically destroyed her lungs. She ended up getting a double lung transplant and surviving with barely any problems for 10 years. She passed this February randomly that the doctors blame covid. All I can can say is love your brother and never miss any time you have with him. I've had cancer and my dad's had cancer. I almost lost both of my parents to freak accidents this year after February. My grandma died in May from breast cancer (she had Alzheimer's so they really couldn't do anything about it) . I lost a good friend late last year who was murdered for no reason. When life hits you, it hits hard. All you can do is be strong. You got this.
I love every video you put out and I love everyone who talks to you about their stories. It's comforting and therapeutic for me to listen to these people talk about their problems and/or their triumphs and to be able to relate and connect in some way with them even though they are total strangers. Thanks for your story Lowrhen!
Don't take your loved ones, or even yourself for granted. You aren't important to the world, it'll take people from you without a second thought. Value what you have.
I was 8 when my dad passed away, my brother and I were at a amusement park with our uncle when it happened. When he dropped us off he walked us in to find our house and was there mom and with dad's lawyer if I remember correctly. That's when they sat me down and told me what happened, I didn't cry, I didn't even feel bad because of other things going on between us as a family. I remember thinking "oh, so I'm not going to see him anymore", I didn't really react until I was around 18 when I learned more details about what exactly happened. Apparently there was a note, apparently his last day might have been planned out. The note said nothing but "I hope my boys live happy lives", I bawled my eyes out like a baby the millisecond I learned this. I felt so much guilt and shame for never feeling bad or not even crying when I was told he died, now nearing my mid 20s I think of my dad as someone that made mistakes but truly loved me despite everything that was between us. Cherish those you love while you can and be kind to those around you, you never know when they'll be gone or what they're going through
thank you syrmor for bringing these stories to light, and all the best prayers goes out to her family, and i wish for nothing but the best for them : )
Love these videos so much. The humanity emanating through these VR avatars is fascinating. Props to you girly for being so strong and keeping on. Thanks for sharing, you two.
Dad is still alive but idk where he is. Parents divorced when I was young. After i graduated High school, things faded. COVID made sure i didn't see him more before he went traveling or whatever. I just want more Dad time man.
Sad thing is … it’ll never go away completely but it’ll idk, become sorta bearable, but it depends on the individual I know from experience To everyone big hugs
Thanks for sharing your story, my father is undergoing cancer treatment and im scared as hell! Things are moving smootly considering everything but there are days that i just feel so anxious and afraid... Today he and my mom argued and the mood i nthe house was so extremely heavy and that just made this fear and anxiety im feeling with the whole situation even worse... he has been so moody these last days and that made my mind instantly start fearing he may be with depressive thoughts or something... constant nightmares of what may happen during treatment... the doc did say that mood changes may happen because of the treatment but even so... im just so scared for my father... We must treasure our parents every day man
Lost my dad in 2021.. many months of fighting medical issues caused by doctors who didn't car.. We had finally found a doctor who cared.. but he wanted to wait two days to talk with my mom. Two days later I admitted him to the hospital, joked around with him about getting better soon because he owed me a steak dinner from a few days prior when he just ran out of energy.. It would be the last time I heard his tired laugh.. He died less than a week later and I had to say goodbye via a phone call and I still blame myself for not doing more..
ladder related accidents are way too common, I saw a man fall from the fourth story and since he was workin on a elevator shaft he hit the other side of the second floor, half his body hit the floor half hanged down. paralyzed from the waist up. If you work in the trades be your brothers keeper. If ur not in the trades make sure the ladder is properly secured and the right one for the job is being used. lets make sure ladder related accidents go down to zero.
I want to say something but i dont know what. I guess i`ll say that she seems like an amazing person and hope the best for her and her family and that i think i needed someone to tell me to keep going lately so thanks for that final message.
I had similar happen. My aunt was in the hospital and I just wanted to transfer my contacts from my broken phone to a new phone and I had the chance to see her and i refused cause I was transferring the contacts. I missed that chance to talk to my aunt one last time and I wasted it transferring my contacts. so since then, I've tried my best to never let that make me miss an opportunity with my family cause I never want that on me. It ain't my dad. So I'll never feel that pain, but I'm sorry for your loss.
Yeah this one really hits home i also lost my dad a few days after his birthday after 3 days the police came to our house asked my mom about him and who he knew and sometime later she was crying and came to us myself and my older brother and said dad is gone he was killed and that was the worse thing you do not want to hear everyone broke down after she said those words it's the worst fealing i've felt and still today i feel the pain October 2010 will never be the same. well time to grab a drink and sob for abit but all good.
I think I was 5 or 4 when I lost my dad, it took me some years to notice how much it affected me, the day he died is engraved in my head but i remember almost nothing about him , he was not a good person, i only forgave him last year when I was 17, I hope he is fine, I am not prepared to deal with people dying
There's always the strange knowledge with a Syrmor video that whenever there's somebody baring their soul and getting deep about loss, or disability, or trauma, or just a shitty job, they're doing it whilst being stared at by Peter Griffin.
I lost my German shepherd on june 3rd 2021 after 12 days when i graduated out of highschool leaving it for good and i was told to say goodbye to my dog one last time and i wish i still had him to kerp me company so i am not so lonley but i know me and him will be together someday.
This hit weidrdly close to Home. When i was 8, i found out that a Aunt of mine had been murderd, tho i think i was to young to realise the weight of the situation really. What hit even closer to Home was was the part of Her mom getting breast cancer, when i was 16 I went to a shop to buy beer for a party i was Invited the next day (Legal drinking age over here) I called my dad and asked him to pick up the beer, since i knew he was on his way home soon from work, and Legal driving age is 18. He told me on the parkinglot that my Sister had been diagnosed with stage 4 Lymphnode cancer. My entire world just broke into a million pieces in that moment. I went to that party anyway, and only really early in the morning while outside of the party and away from everybody else i started crying. For thise wondering yes, my sister is alive and well, the cancer has been gone now for a while, sorry for the suspense.
Not talking to your sibling about your feelings because you just kinda innately understand. I have a twin sibling and that sentiment resonates SO hard lol
To those who are struggling with the weight life often brings... you are seen, and you are not alone. I hope my story could help you understand this
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing. It is honestly unreal how many people out there can relate to each other’s story and just want honestly be loved and or have someone to talk/listen to.
never lost anyone irl yet but my mom had stage 3 breast cancer earlier (fought off with surgery and chemo/radio) and did lost friends online due to unforeseen circumstances, this further affirmed me to not say no to company
Sending you all the love. My mom also had cancer. Fortunately, she's still in my life, but it's frightening knowing someone you care most about might not make it.
Ive lost my mom, my grandma, my nanny, my father, my brothers, my nieces...
Brothers are in jail. One of my nieces passed and ill never see the other 2 again.
But the worst was my mom
I was 11 years old it was a friday and i had already had the worst day at school...little did i know itd only get worse
This is truly one of my worst fears, props to her for being so brave and sharing her story. And thanks to Syrmor as always for bring these stories to light.
Truly, Ky kiske from Guilty Gear XX Accent Core +R.
When you lose someone you love, time doesn’t “heal all wounds” like people say. You just get used to the pain.
I lost my parents many years ago. While it's absolutely normal to want to feel pain and grief, at some point, we need to forgive ourselves for feeling this way, and make peace with our past. Time doesn't heal, but we can heal ourselves.
I'm a dad with a 16 yr old daughter. I'm like her dad, wanting to connect with her. But she has her own life now. This is really sad.
The basketball scene is honestly brilliant, its so silly but also so interesting to see her persisting until she gets the ball in, while talking about something so difficult to deal with
Nephew died a month ago from shallow water blackout. There was serendipities before his death too. He left a video message on his siblings pc, something he would never do. He was 18
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to eventually find peace.
One day at a time homie. Sending peace and love your way. My condolences.
I lost my Dad to suicide earlier this year. The months leading up to his death can be described as the worst summer of my life. He was admitted into crisis centers, hospitals for various health issues. Having to stay with him for hours at his couch because the things he was saying were scary.
I eventually became numb, as numb one could be, to my situation. It was a hard morning, but I was able to speak with him. It felt nice to have a conversation with him. It felt like things were looking up, we would get him to therapy the start of next week. I told him that I love him. My brother soon called me out of work because my dad "hurt himself." The last images of that night was the squad of police cars surrounding my house, my crying brother, the medflight carrying him away, and the blood on the floor. I visited him in the hospital the day after, and he looked dead. He would later be pronounced brain dead as the amount of blood he lost was "nonsurvivable."
How my brain protects me from the trauma is by actively choosing not to think about it. Whenever I do think, however, my heart gets tied in knots. I wish he were here.
i'm with you
Incredibly powerful story, this is the kind that sticks in the back of your mind with you for months
Years
My wife found it odd i would wake her in the morning before i left for work to tell her "i love you" and even before bed, not in a mean way but unusual. I used to work some seriously dangerous job where a million things could go wrong and kill me and didnt want the last words she hears to be anything other than my love for her. She now makes sure i do it even with a far safer job and now with our son she makes sure he gets that love even at 2 months right now. Im sorry for your loss, keep the fun memories of him close, his love for you must never be forgotten even for a moment.
Even though I lost my dad 9 years ago, I still don't think I could watch this video cause I'll just end up immensely sad.
You need to allow yourself to feel sad. And forgive yourself for feeling this way. It's easier said than done, sure. But still.
It's terrifying how quickly everything could end, how any one of us could be gone at any time for no reason at all. Cherish your life and the lives of the people you care about, none of us have forever. I wholeheartedly dread the days I'll lose the people I love the most, but hearing Lowhren's story helps because it shows that life still goes on and things get better, even if it won't feel like it at the moment, even if it'll take a long time. Thanks for the upload Syrmor and thanks Lowrhen for the story
what a beautiful soul she is. Godspeed, struggler. life will get better.
Coming up on 2 years without my mom… I can’t believe it. It’s incredibly hard and it feels like no one around me understands the pain, but it’s somewhat comforting to know that there are people out there who do.
Wow, Lowrhen, I feel like I'm in a similar boat. My dad died when I was 15 (he died May 4th, 2009), and I was right at the cusp of transitioning from Middle to High School. And it still feels surreal. Like, a lot has changed but I still don't feel as whole as I did when he died.
I remember the last time he and I talked. He was drunk (and a major depressive) and he talked about how he was going to die tonight. He kept insisting that I needed to be with him (I was at my mom's place at the time) and as a 15-year-old, I was used to his drunken ramblings and just said, "It's okay, Papa, I'll see you on Wednesday." (This call happened on a Monday.) Then the next day my mom picked me up from school and informed me of his death. Then for some reason, his funeral was the following Wednesday. So in a way, I was right. I got to see him on Wednesday (which was the last time before I cremated him and scattered his ashes in the Deleware river). Every day gets a little easier to process and be at peace with, but no one ever gets over the death of a loved one.
To anyone grieving or still processing/coming to terms with, whatever you're feeling is valid, and take it as part of the journey. Love doesn't go away, it just becomes a part of your being.
Jeez, to hear about her dad and then look at the date of watching and realising that today (October 25th, 2022) is the 10th anniversary she describes in the video...
I'm glad and grateful she could take the time to tell us and share this feeling with us. What an unconscionable and life altering loss for someone so young.
That was...rough...to listen to. If you read this Lowrhen, we're sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your story. I hope things continue to get better for you.
I lost my dad last year in March from COVID around the one year mark. We thought he’d improve but we didn’t know how bad he really was until the day before he passed when we spoke with his nurse, Renee. She told us bluntly the reality of his situation, that he could pull through or that he could end up on a ventilator and which she thought he’d end up on… me and my mom sobbed in the car… the next day when he passed my mom had to make the decision to put him on the vent and speak to him about it… he refused.. he knew he wasn’t going to make it… but he ended up agreeing to be put on a vent and passed hours later… when my mom got home from the hospital I was playing Xbox with my boyfriend and our friend on destiny, I heard her car pull up and she had the car phone on with my uncle and all I heard was “he’s their dad how am I gonna do this?” And a few minuets later my uncle and mom walked into the house and they called my brother down who’s lazy butt didn’t want to come down and.. I knew.. I knew he was gone.. my uncles eyes were red.. then my mom told us “he’s gone. Daddy’s gone” and my brother and mom just started sobbing I stood there in shock… I thought I was gonna faint.. my chest hurt so much I thought I was having a heart attack and then my uncle grabbed me and we just started sobbing… it’s over a year and it still just sucks but I can’t believe how fast time has flown since he passed and how much I’ve gotten done in life… I got my license, I moved in with my bf to another state, got a full time job with benefits.. I just wish he was here so I could tell him… I miss him so damn much but I find comfort in the fact that I called him up Sunday, he passed on a Tuesday, and just told him how much I loved him.. how great of a dad he was to me and my brother, I also texted him a bit on Monday but he didn’t really respond because he was in pain..
As a depressed man struggling through life the advice ad the end hit me fking hard.
Thank you both.
Hello syrmor, just wanted to say, I love your videos.
Thanks for bringing a light to the struggles of so many people!
I really appreciate it, and I know alot of others do to!
In 2004 my dad died unexpectedly when I was 9. My younger brother was 3, my older sister was 11, my older brother was 14 and my oldest brother was 17.
My mum went into bankruptcy and terrible years came to be. Looking back I don’t know how she managed. It was so easy to blame her for mistakes but she was one person raising 5 kids. She’s so amazing, I love her so much. I’m 27 now, I graduated university, I’ve had some hiccups but who doesn’t when growing up.
I just love my mum so much, I’m so thankful and I tell her multiple times a day how much I fucking love her and I’m so proud of her.
Hearing her story was a pretty stark reminder that I'm not as alone as I thought I was, all of it just being contained to family. Lost my dad back in February to illness and what I think was partially self-neglect, and that's something that I've sat battling with for a while now. Hearing that chance to bond with him was exactly what I was hoping to do before he came down so badly sick, I still remember the cough he had that sounded like it hurt every single time.
I've come to accept that by the time that he was sick, it was already too late. I couldn't do anything to change it at that point, and that was a weight that had devastated me for month after month. I still wish I'd given him more time away from work to enjoy himself instead of taking all of that time for myself.
To anyone else who is struggling, I wish you the best.
Absolutely sobbing at this story. I am so sorry for your loss, I can’t even begin to imagine. I lost my uncle last year to COVID but I spent so much time with my cousins and him that he felt like a dad to me. My dad was absent while I was growing up and he was the closest thing to it. It’s been extremely hard and I miss him every single day. I can’t imagine the pain that came with this. Thank you for sharing your story, Lowrhen.
I lost my dad when I was 15. This video really hits close to home. I hope anyone who is going through hard times will get better.
(Sorry my english is not the best)
these videos always hit me like a truck, beautiful.
This stuff hurts my heart so much. I lost my dad too, not as quickly as her, but we had way less time with him than was predicted.
I feel a connection here. My dad died suddenly of sepsis when I, the oldest of four, was 18 and we had just finally been reconnecting during the last year or so of his life. I am so grateful that I got to have a dream where we got one last day together. To suddenly go from having a dad to not having a dad is impossible to comprehend until you get there.
ty to lowrhen for sharing this story :3 it helped me a lot to hear her tell it
"Keep going, it gets better"
damn good advice, I can confirm that one. There's terrible things you can't even imagine that will happen to you, sure, but people often seem to forget that there's amazing, great things you can't even imagine that will happen to you aswell. It worth to keep going for those good things, and you will be more prepared for the bad things the older you get.
i lost my dad to cancer at 15, i understand all of this, and i thank you for sharing your story.
my dad died at 39, very suddenly at work, one month after i turned 7. i'll never forget that day. i am 43 now. you are lucky you have that letter. i don't have anything. no last words, no memory of my last moment with him. treasure that letter.
I love these stories so much, they make me feel connected to just... people in general I guess. And they make me so thankful for the people still in my life that I get to love. Thank you to Lowrhen for telling such a difficult story and giving such encouraging words to all of us watching :)
My house used to have a TV and it had internet access, there was a built-in RUclips app, and I used to play Syrmor's videos and watched with my dad, he seemed to be uninterested :)))))), but back in the day, I wanted to introduce him to new stuff, he sit for a while and walked to my mom :). Now the TV is gone, where it was placed now lies my dad's altar (I'm a VIetnamese and that's our tradition to hornor our passed-away loved one), and now I come back to your channel, watching the exact interview that I've always needed. Thank you, Lowrhen and Syrmor !
One thing that wasn't mentioned that I think is useful to understand is that everyone grieves differently. Your experience will be different to that of others so there is no point in comparing how you're doing to other people. Some need to talk, others need to think to process the situation. Some need months, others years to get past the worst of it. Work out what you need and give yourself time. Also if you're looking to help a friend, reach out offering two things: to listen and to spend time with them like everything's normal. I've found that to be a pretty good response
I’m crying too… I’m so glad that this person is ok! I love how strong this person is!
Their message at the end killed me!
this one hit particularly hard. Not that I've really had a family member die, just the sibling stuff, choosing games over family, not crying at first, walking out of class, and disassociating. People handle trauma in different ways, and while I wouldn't consider my struggles traumatic, Me and Lowrhen handle trauma the exact same way. was very cathartic watching this one
My mother passed away 10 year ago in the past month. I definitely have such a similar experience and it is something I can very much relate to. 100% it is something that will never go away. Just know he is always there for you!
This is a good story to tell and Lowrhen if you're listening to this, I am sorry for your father's loss and my condolences and prayers goes out to you and your family 👪 ❤📕
This was brave of her to share.
The same thing happened to me but with my uncle. Hes was the greatest person to have ever lived. He was like a 3rd dad. (The others being my actual dad and my other relative). One day my aunt comes home tearing up and told us that he past.
I remember It traumatized me for week.
I even thought to myself "What did my siblings or I do to deserve this?" Many thoughts were circling me the day after.
One of my cats died a few days ago of old age (he was 17). I suppose it's different from a parent's death but it still hit quite hard. This video helped me process it a little. Thank you.
I have to put mine down tomorrow because she's terminal and has stopped eating. I'm hoping this is the right decision, I'd rather she didn't starve to death. This is my first big loss. I feel your pain.
@@CMON75 there comes a point in their aging that you just know. If you’ve come to that conclusion, you haven’t made the wrong choice. They tell us, it makes it obvious, and that choice ultimately comes from a place of love.
@@MrAgentEcho Thank you, I appreciate this comment very much ❤
The moment I recognized the location this interview took place in, I knew the "loss" was gonna be a person, I was bracing myself for it and still teared up. The worst part is even if I told my dad exactly what Lowrhen says at the end I don't think he'd understand the message yet, it's hard losing family you're close to.
I just wanna give her a hug. Having lost my dad earlier this year has me on the verge of breaking down hearing her tell her story.
I debated on whether I should post this or not, but here goes.
My last conversation I remember with my Dad before he passed away, was how he wasn’t really ready to go. Here I was, 28, knowing my dad to be this invincible person, and was now reduced to a shell, who was wishing for more time to spend with his family.
There isn’t really a right way to be sad, I have good days and bad days.
Losing a parent is devastating.
I think the more the average person opens up, the more they seem not average at all.
Whenever I watch videos from this channel I think about what story I would tell if I had the chance, and it would be about my dad dying when I was young. So it's reassuring to see that someone is telling their story, and it does hit close to home for a lot of people; we're not alone in this. Thank you Lowrhen for sharing your story.
Almost 11 years ago, my sister had pulmonary hypertension and it basically destroyed her lungs. She ended up getting a double lung transplant and surviving with barely any problems for 10 years. She passed this February randomly that the doctors blame covid. All I can can say is love your brother and never miss any time you have with him. I've had cancer and my dad's had cancer. I almost lost both of my parents to freak accidents this year after February. My grandma died in May from breast cancer (she had Alzheimer's so they really couldn't do anything about it) . I lost a good friend late last year who was murdered for no reason. When life hits you, it hits hard. All you can do is be strong. You got this.
Thank you so much for sharing Lowrhen, best wishes
I love every video you put out and I love everyone who talks to you about their stories. It's comforting and therapeutic for me to listen to these people talk about their problems and/or their triumphs and to be able to relate and connect in some way with them even though they are total strangers. Thanks for your story Lowrhen!
Don't take your loved ones, or even yourself for granted. You aren't important to the world, it'll take people from you without a second thought. Value what you have.
This is the best one... the story and message are so heart felt... thank you so much for sharing this, the both of you.
I was 8 when my dad passed away, my brother and I were at a amusement park with our uncle when it happened. When he dropped us off he walked us in to find our house and was there mom and with dad's lawyer if I remember correctly. That's when they sat me down and told me what happened, I didn't cry, I didn't even feel bad because of other things going on between us as a family. I remember thinking "oh, so I'm not going to see him anymore", I didn't really react until I was around 18 when I learned more details about what exactly happened. Apparently there was a note, apparently his last day might have been planned out. The note said nothing but "I hope my boys live happy lives", I bawled my eyes out like a baby the millisecond I learned this. I felt so much guilt and shame for never feeling bad or not even crying when I was told he died, now nearing my mid 20s I think of my dad as someone that made mistakes but truly loved me despite everything that was between us. Cherish those you love while you can and be kind to those around you, you never know when they'll be gone or what they're going through
thank you syrmor for bringing these stories to light, and all the best prayers goes out to her family, and i wish for nothing but the best for them : )
i love her story i have a similar one stay brave and cherish the good times you got with him
Love these videos so much. The humanity emanating through these VR avatars is fascinating. Props to you girly for being so strong and keeping on. Thanks for sharing, you two.
Dad is still alive but idk where he is. Parents divorced when I was young. After i graduated High school, things faded. COVID made sure i didn't see him more before he went traveling or whatever.
I just want more Dad time man.
I wish I had VR or learn how to do VR just to express how I feel of a certain event related to this. You're a good friend
Time really flies when you spend your time without your loved ones around you
I wish I had a friendly relationship like that with my mom before she died
Or at least knew her
im crying man, like ive dealt with alot of stuff and this brought back memories TT~TT
Sad thing is … it’ll never go away completely but it’ll idk, become sorta bearable, but it depends on the individual
I know from experience
To everyone big hugs
Thanks for sharing your story, my father is undergoing cancer treatment and im scared as hell! Things are moving smootly considering everything but there are days that i just feel so anxious and afraid...
Today he and my mom argued and the mood i nthe house was so extremely heavy and that just made this fear and anxiety im feeling with the whole situation even worse... he has been so moody these last days and that made my mind instantly start fearing he may be with depressive thoughts or something... constant nightmares of what may happen during treatment... the doc did say that mood changes may happen because of the treatment but even so... im just so scared for my father...
We must treasure our parents every day man
This was so heavy but wooo was it amazing… she’s amazing. All the love to her ❤️
Awww :( cherrish every moment.
Lost my dad in 2021.. many months of fighting medical issues caused by doctors who didn't car.. We had finally found a doctor who cared.. but he wanted to wait two days to talk with my mom. Two days later I admitted him to the hospital, joked around with him about getting better soon because he owed me a steak dinner from a few days prior when he just ran out of energy.. It would be the last time I heard his tired laugh.. He died less than a week later and I had to say goodbye via a phone call and I still blame myself for not doing more..
i really needed to here this today
ladder related accidents are way too common, I saw a man fall from the fourth story and since he was workin on a elevator shaft he hit the other side of the second floor, half his body hit the floor half hanged down. paralyzed from the waist up. If you work in the trades be your brothers keeper. If ur not in the trades make sure the ladder is properly secured and the right one for the job is being used. lets make sure ladder related accidents go down to zero.
I want to say something but i dont know what. I guess i`ll say that she seems like an amazing person and hope the best for her and her family and that i think i needed someone to tell me to keep going lately so thanks for that final message.
Sorry I lost my brother suddenly. The shock of it is strange. Nothing ever felt like that.
I really didn't need this today...
I had similar happen. My aunt was in the hospital and I just wanted to transfer my contacts from my broken phone to a new phone and I had the chance to see her and i refused cause I was transferring the contacts. I missed that chance to talk to my aunt one last time and I wasted it transferring my contacts. so since then, I've tried my best to never let that make me miss an opportunity with my family cause I never want that on me. It ain't my dad. So I'll never feel that pain, but I'm sorry for your loss.
Yeah this one really hits home i also lost my dad a few days after his birthday after 3 days the police came to our house asked my mom about him and who he knew and sometime later she was crying and came to us myself and my older brother and said dad is gone he was killed and that was the worse thing you do not want to hear everyone broke down after she said those words it's the worst fealing i've felt and still today i feel the pain October 2010 will never be the same. well time to grab a drink and sob for abit but all good.
“Yeah I’m pretty great” 😭
RUclips likes u. Got this notification 9 hours early with no idea who you are.
Also may your father rest in peace
This makes me really wish I had a sibling to share my experiences with 💔
I think I was 5 or 4 when I lost my dad, it took me some years to notice how much it affected me, the day he died is engraved in my head but i remember almost nothing about him , he was not a good person, i only forgave him last year when I was 17, I hope he is fine, I am not prepared to deal with people dying
and now i'm crying
I teared up listening to this . 😿😿💝
You broke me at 16:21 having tears while at work is something else.
Thank you!
Why tf would you watch this at work?
@@ludvigluddarn9488 idk to pass time also to improve my english? iguesssss
I appreciate that final shot of her avatar's eye inside one of the chain links when she replied to your last question. It's hopeful
There's always the strange knowledge with a Syrmor video that whenever there's somebody baring their soul and getting deep about loss, or disability, or trauma, or just a shitty job, they're doing it whilst being stared at by Peter Griffin.
May he Rest In Peace
I lost my German shepherd on june 3rd 2021 after 12 days when i graduated out of highschool leaving it for good and i was told to say goodbye to my dog one last time and i wish i still had him to kerp me company so i am not so lonley but i know me and him will be together someday.
This hit weidrdly close to Home. When i was 8, i found out that a Aunt of mine had been murderd, tho i think i was to young to realise the weight of the situation really.
What hit even closer to Home was was the part of Her mom getting breast cancer, when i was 16 I went to a shop to buy beer for a party i was Invited the next day (Legal drinking age over here) I called my dad and asked him to pick up the beer, since i knew he was on his way home soon from work, and Legal driving age is 18. He told me on the parkinglot that my Sister had been diagnosed with stage 4 Lymphnode cancer. My entire world just broke into a million pieces in that moment.
I went to that party anyway, and only really early in the morning while outside of the party and away from everybody else i started crying. For thise wondering yes, my sister is alive and well, the cancer has been gone now for a while, sorry for the suspense.
I dread the day.....
I hope my daughter loves me this much one day.
Whenever we get sympr vids like this it reminds me of the beginning of surfs up like the basket ball part lmao
These are the most interesting videos I've ever seen.
This shit hurts. I wish my brother had more time on this earth to figure it out.
I lost my Sister Saturday Oct 15th 2022. She was 24. Its definitely hard going through the motions.
Quality. Class. Beautiful stuff man. 🥲
The Lon Lon ranch song really pushes the feels at that moment
Edit from moo moo, oops
My mother has cancer. Will still can’t get over our differences. Such Is life
And you're both sitting at a bench at a park with a tree, virtually.
Long time since i watched ur videos man
This was so sad wow 😢
God bless. That wrecked me
Not talking to your sibling about your feelings because you just kinda innately understand. I have a twin sibling and that sentiment resonates SO hard lol
i remember there was a poem written about a similar experience called mid term break.
My heart strings
i will be celebrating his life october 25th i swear by that