I guess I get all these signs😢 What if you poured your heart out to this guy and promised to meet him later, and he is your ex and he says : okay don't worry
I know an ex of mine has ghosted,stalked and harassed me and did admit it to me. And when he and I broke up he asked for his Space and Time away from me then years go by and he rekindled several times and then he kept his distance away from me. Not sure if he will come back again or not to me. He is currently in a rebound relationship with someone new. Any advice
What if your ex says they are too busy right now to even try. Cause my friends say being too busy is a bad excuse to break up since we are in grad school and we are all busy. Also to me is off cause felt sudden and never fought before. Said we could talk after the semester ends. :/
how about if you tell your ex you miss her badly and you're thinkin' of her? and she replies with I dont want you to keep thinking of this, yeah...I understand, it's just that I am involved in a relationship///// Guess I blew my chances, right ?
It’s been a year since he broke up with he though he reached out and we nearly got back - but since then he still reaches out every month by text .. i don’t see any of these 5 signs
So we did the no contact for about a month, and we have had contact with eachother via text, on one day I she told me she had a treatment for her knee wich has a tumor in it. So on the day of the treatment I decided to show balls and call her, she picked up immidiatily as she was laying in bed on the phone. She was very very surprised but it was soon clear tha she was happy surprised. We had an amazing talk and I managed to make her laugh and even throw in a little flirt in with she baited and accepted. I had to go so the call wasn't too long, but after the call I wanted to show her a funny video via text to make her laugh, she reacted very cold and distant. She has a treatment every wednesday so I called her up again the next week, she didn't pick up and I texted something like 'hey I tried to call you to ask you something, I'll try again tomorrow'. Inn wich she reacted very cold and distant again but didn't say she doesn't wanna call. So the next day after school she texted me 'Hey I'm home, you can call me' so after dinner I called her and again, We had an amazing time, she sounded like she misses talking to someone like the way she can talk to me and she kept on going and going. I was actually planning on keeping it short, but she had so much to talk about. In this phone call I found out she had been dating a guy she met in school from withing a week after the breakup. I managed to find out she had sex with that guy rather quickly. I reacted very maturally and confident and she was very surprised by that. She alsmost seemed bothered that I was over her or something, becasue I really made it seem like I didn't care that much. She begun about this topic by asking if I already met someone. After she saw that I didn't care that much she said sarcasticly "and this is the moment I realised you are 100% over me" followed by a rather painful laugh. She said several times in this phone call that it really sucks that we didn't work out and she said several times that she sees all the changes I made and said with a sarcastic tone "now we broke up you do all these new things and make these changes". She also said she misses the good things and several times that she really enjoys talking with me but it isnt fair for her new guy, so its probably best to only talk on whatsapp. Later in the conversation I was like "Hey don't be surprised if I call you suddenly in the future, it's just that I put more value into calling now and it's more personal, faster and better than texting" and then she was like "yea sure! no problem". So she's being so controversal... A few days later I send her another something to laugh about and again she was cold and distant. What should I do? keep calling her every week, because I know she's attracted by my new confidence? Or should I wait and let her rebound relationship break first or something? I'm really stuck here. She's also starting to show gifts she gets from the new guy on snapchat but deletes the story rather quickly after she posted it... wich looks weird to me. It looks to me that she is confused and doesn't know what she is doing and therefore making decisions too fast. I can honestly say she is delighted to talk with me on the phone as she really blossoms when we talk. But when I text her, it's like she hates me or something. Please help me! I feel like im on the right path, but I realy wanna stay on the right path. I should also mention, We've had a realtionship for over 4 years and it was long distance. We pulled eachother trough very though times wich made our bond very special.
It is very normal to have this hot and cold behavior. Mirror her behavior and you should be fine. Sometimes when an ex pulls away it makes people want to chase and then it creates that fear in the ex. If you pull away when she pulls away she wont get scared off.
@@chrisseitercoaching awesome! thanks for replying, I think I'm gonna call her one more time later this week to have a really fun conversation to leave some extra positive emotions on her mind and then I'm gonna backoff for a while. Let her chew on her on thoughts and emotions and let her come to me, although I doubt she'l be reaching out because she has a rebound now.
What if your ex says she doesn't want to be with you and says she's not with anyone else but showing signs she is without direct proof? My intuition (gut feeling) says otherwise. Strong gut feeling. For my daughter's sake I wanted to reconcile with my ex wife so she could have both parents at home but ex doesn't want to. She's indifferent and distant physically and vocally. Going to the gym every day changed her wardrobe and hair etc but when I asked about if she didn't want to reconcile if there was someone new, she got immediately defensive and didn't want to be around me when I wasn't being confrontational, showing signs of distress or being a pathetic beta. I just tried to talk to her about the issue and I just want to be able to see my daughter every day like before. My daughter is only 4 and showing signs of being affected by the divorce. I really hurts to see my daughter go through that but makes it worse is her mother is allowing her to go through that. Instead of trying to restart and fix our relationship she'd rather be a booty call to committed guys. I've been working on myself and not causing problems or getting involved in her life since that discussion. When talking about reconciliation, mentioning we both could work together on our issues and she can never take responsibility for what she did but I do for my own problems. To her, everything is everyone else's problem that she's never responsible for anything.
Hey John....it sounds like you are handling things as well as you can given the complexities of the situation. Try to keep the communication channels open and keep things as positive as possible with a focus on being there for your daughter. It may be that your ex is needing to work through her own journey and sometime time has a way of helping people get more emotionally centered about what is right for all involved.
@@chrisseitercoaching Thank you for taking the time to respond. I appreciate your help and advice not only to myself but to everyone else too. Keep up the good work!
I told my ex-beau who I loved and wanted to be with and even marry and it was mutual - yet I still broke up with him and in the end, it is the best thing I ever did. I told him that it was over and that I said "Tough luck" and moved on and blocked him entirely. He took it hard and it was painful during the confrontation, but I still did it. Unlike most, I never looked back. Now I have met with and married another man who is after dating for eleven years, now married to.
Hi Jovencio...getting blocked in after the heat of conflict is not unusual these days and times. People tend to switch things off impulsively, only but to unblock later. Chatting it up with someone else could mean nothing or a little something or it could be a jealousy ploy. Best to focus on your on ex recovery plan and not get caught up in the waves of things you hear
Hi I need help my ex and I reconnected like 2 months ago we been friends with benefits though texting we keep planning a day but something keeps coming up here keep canceling bc of work or vacation he has how do I get him to meet me??
Hard to let go, keep thinking of the time I sent her packing, she never came back, drove her into another mans arms
I guess I get all these signs😢
What if you poured your heart out to this guy and promised to meet him later, and he is your ex and he says : okay don't worry
he has my daughter so how am i suppose to not have contact and be alienated for 7 months now
I know an ex of mine has ghosted,stalked and harassed me and did admit it to me. And when he and I broke up he asked for his Space and Time away from me then years go by and he rekindled several times and then he kept his distance away from me. Not sure if he will come back again or not to me. He is currently in a rebound relationship with someone new. Any advice
What if your ex says they are too busy right now to even try. Cause my friends say being too busy is a bad excuse to break up since we are in grad school and we are all busy. Also to me is off cause felt sudden and never fought before. Said we could talk after the semester ends. :/
how about if you tell your ex you miss her badly and you're thinkin' of her? and she replies with I dont want you to keep thinking of this, yeah...I understand, it's just that I am involved in a relationship///// Guess I blew my chances, right ?
*Update* ?
My ex messaged me after a month that he is liking a girl and the girl's full name
It’s been a year since he broke up with he though he reached out and we nearly got back - but since then he still reaches out every month by text .. i don’t see any of these 5 signs
Have you pushed the idea of a date yet? If he's initiating he's probably interested.
I said to my ex miss him and he reply i'm sorry what it mean?
So we did the no contact for about a month, and we have had contact with eachother via text, on one day I she told me she had a treatment for her knee wich has a tumor in it. So on the day of the treatment I decided to show balls and call her, she picked up immidiatily as she was laying in bed on the phone. She was very very surprised but it was soon clear tha she was happy surprised. We had an amazing talk and I managed to make her laugh and even throw in a little flirt in with she baited and accepted. I had to go so the call wasn't too long, but after the call I wanted to show her a funny video via text to make her laugh, she reacted very cold and distant. She has a treatment every wednesday so I called her up again the next week, she didn't pick up and I texted something like 'hey I tried to call you to ask you something, I'll try again tomorrow'. Inn wich she reacted very cold and distant again but didn't say she doesn't wanna call. So the next day after school she texted me 'Hey I'm home, you can call me' so after dinner I called her and again, We had an amazing time, she sounded like she misses talking to someone like the way she can talk to me and she kept on going and going. I was actually planning on keeping it short, but she had so much to talk about. In this phone call I found out she had been dating a guy she met in school from withing a week after the breakup. I managed to find out she had sex with that guy rather quickly. I reacted very maturally and confident and she was very surprised by that. She alsmost seemed bothered that I was over her or something, becasue I really made it seem like I didn't care that much. She begun about this topic by asking if I already met someone. After she saw that I didn't care that much she said sarcasticly "and this is the moment I realised you are 100% over me" followed by a rather painful laugh. She said several times in this phone call that it really sucks that we didn't work out and she said several times that she sees all the changes I made and said with a sarcastic tone "now we broke up you do all these new things and make these changes". She also said she misses the good things and several times that she really enjoys talking with me but it isnt fair for her new guy, so its probably best to only talk on whatsapp. Later in the conversation I was like "Hey don't be surprised if I call you suddenly in the future, it's just that I put more value into calling now and it's more personal, faster and better than texting" and then she was like "yea sure! no problem". So she's being so controversal... A few days later I send her another something to laugh about and again she was cold and distant. What should I do? keep calling her every week, because I know she's attracted by my new confidence? Or should I wait and let her rebound relationship break first or something? I'm really stuck here. She's also starting to show gifts she gets from the new guy on snapchat but deletes the story rather quickly after she posted it... wich looks weird to me. It looks to me that she is confused and doesn't know what she is doing and therefore making decisions too fast. I can honestly say she is delighted to talk with me on the phone as she really blossoms when we talk. But when I text her, it's like she hates me or something. Please help me! I feel like im on the right path, but I realy wanna stay on the right path. I should also mention, We've had a realtionship for over 4 years and it was long distance. We pulled eachother trough very though times wich made our bond very special.
It is very normal to have this hot and cold behavior. Mirror her behavior and you should be fine. Sometimes when an ex pulls away it makes people want to chase and then it creates that fear in the ex. If you pull away when she pulls away she wont get scared off.
@@chrisseitercoaching awesome! thanks for replying, I think I'm gonna call her one more time later this week to have a really fun conversation to leave some extra positive emotions on her mind and then I'm gonna backoff for a while. Let her chew on her on thoughts and emotions and let her come to me, although I doubt she'l be reaching out because she has a rebound now.
What if your ex says she doesn't want to be with you and says she's not with anyone else but showing signs she is without direct proof? My intuition (gut feeling) says otherwise. Strong gut feeling. For my daughter's sake I wanted to reconcile with my ex wife so she could have both parents at home but ex doesn't want to. She's indifferent and distant physically and vocally. Going to the gym every day changed her wardrobe and hair etc but when I asked about if she didn't want to reconcile if there was someone new, she got immediately defensive and didn't want to be around me when I wasn't being confrontational, showing signs of distress or being a pathetic beta. I just tried to talk to her about the issue and I just want to be able to see my daughter every day like before. My daughter is only 4 and showing signs of being affected by the divorce. I really hurts to see my daughter go through that but makes it worse is her mother is allowing her to go through that. Instead of trying to restart and fix our relationship she'd rather be a booty call to committed guys. I've been working on myself and not causing problems or getting involved in her life since that discussion. When talking about reconciliation, mentioning we both could work together on our issues and she can never take responsibility for what she did but I do for my own problems. To her, everything is everyone else's problem that she's never responsible for anything.
Hey John....it sounds like you are handling things as well as you can given the complexities of the situation. Try to keep the communication channels open and keep things as positive as possible with a focus on being there for your daughter. It may be that your ex is needing to work through her own journey and sometime time has a way of helping people get more emotionally centered about what is right for all involved.
@@chrisseitercoaching Thank you for taking the time to respond. I appreciate your help and advice not only to myself but to everyone else too. Keep up the good work!
Thanks John...most kind of you. I am sure you will land on your feet.
but he says he single and he watches my post and he texts me but I don't talk to him everyday
I told my ex-beau who I loved and wanted to be with and even marry and it was mutual - yet I still broke up with him and in the end, it is the best thing I ever did. I told him that it was over and that I said "Tough luck" and moved on and blocked him entirely. He took it hard and it was painful during the confrontation, but I still did it. Unlike most, I never looked back. Now I have met with and married another man who is after dating for eleven years, now married to.
My ex just block me in messenger after an argument. And i also heard from my close friend that he is chatting with someone else. How's that??
Hi Jovencio...getting blocked in after the heat of conflict is not unusual these days and times. People tend to switch things off impulsively, only but to unblock later. Chatting it up with someone else could mean nothing or a little something or it could be a jealousy ploy. Best to focus on your on ex recovery plan and not get caught up in the waves of things you hear
Chris what if he is seeing someone else but lied to me bout it
If he is hiding someone new from you then that is a sign that the new person is not serious yet
@@chrisseitercoaching interesting... can you explain this?
I just got cutoff from the session
Hi Shauna...are you talking about one of my webinar sessions. You can re-register as its presently set on replay.
Hi I need help my ex and I reconnected like 2 months ago we been friends with benefits though texting we keep planning a day but something keeps coming up here keep canceling bc of work or vacation he has how do I get him to meet me??
Your issue is agreeing to FWB. He will always choose you last if he can have you easily. I would recommend doing a no contact for 2 weeks.
@@chrisseitercoaching thank u for responding Chris and what should I do after 2 weeks no contact?