Why I Chose to Leave Bedside Nursing as a New Grad Nurse | + Tips to Actually Leave

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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024

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  • @mcemaryngcobobusisiwe8857
    @mcemaryngcobobusisiwe8857 8 месяцев назад +31

    nurses need to be kind to each other cause the job nurses do is not easy team work is important,thank you for sharing your story

  • @smh2tvb
    @smh2tvb 8 месяцев назад +16

    OMG, everything you said I’m experiencing now! 2 months in and ready to go, I’m actually speaking with my unit manager on tomorrow about seeking other opportunities! I would love to speak with the charge nurse, however they’re all friends…. And honestly even if I did have another preceptor I’m over the whole vibe of the floor and can’t imagine working there full time. Everything you said is so spot on. It goes beyond my new grad learning deficits it so much more going on. I find my self unusually nervous, anxious about the next shifts that’s a few days away 😢it’s just a feeling that’s not healthy and not right! I know it will not be easy as a new grad BUT this is just not it !!! Thank you for this it lets me know I’m not crazy ❤😊

    • @loviebills6546
      @loviebills6546 8 месяцев назад +3

      Wow..this is my exact experience..6 months in and I know this shouldn't be..this could never be right..I already put in my application for another role..I just can't anymore.

  • @simple-asian-boy
    @simple-asian-boy 2 месяца назад +27

    I just gave my resgination today! and instantly my anxiety decreases! I am free!!

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  2 месяца назад +3

      Congrats friend!!! If you are taking a break, enjoy your reset!!

    • @demishaellis7076
      @demishaellis7076 2 месяца назад +1

      Congratulations!!!

    • @katlemarie
      @katlemarie Месяц назад

      @@nursingwithashleythis is a real phenomenon called horizontal violence. They bully through assignments. I am so happy you stood up for yourself and the license you worked so hard for! You look happy and well rested. I was a bedside nurse at one of the best hospitals in New York and experienced this. An article was also written called “Nurses eat their young” on this subject. Continue your nursing journey and advocating for your patients who really need good nurses like you!

  • @akaliapace9428
    @akaliapace9428 8 месяцев назад +19

    Girl, this was my experience as a tech. The nurses were definitely bullies, especially some of the ones who had.a little authority. Our DON acted like he was afraid of the nurses so every time a tech complained, he would call a meeting to call us out for our "whining" when we would most times work with 1 or 2 techs to 25 patients. Our patients were also patients that required a lot of care, most recovering from hip or knee surgeries, trachs, completely bed bound, etc. I'm in nursing school now and that experience is one of the main reasons why I am against bedside nursing for me. I'm also at a school where they advocate and help you get jobs in specialties that you want. No one is pushing med-surg.

  • @alexcyabasilio8547
    @alexcyabasilio8547 26 дней назад +3

    Seasoned nurses look at me like I’m crazy when I say I left the hospital within 6 months of graduating….but I decided I knew what was best for me. The same nurses looking down on me were the ones who looked miserable themselves…I left for home health and I’ve never been happier 🥰

  • @kind2423
    @kind2423 Год назад +82

    I’m so sorry dear you went through all of that dear. I understand what you are saying. As a black nurse, I went through hell at the bedside. Wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

    • @pers6e
      @pers6e Месяц назад

      And it is still happens and its always that nurses issue....

  • @jeordanchavannes5239
    @jeordanchavannes5239 6 месяцев назад +53

    Bullying doesn't happen if management doesn't allow it. Co-workers will bully others because they know they will get away with it. The person being bullied usually the ones to go, and the bully stays to attack the next person. I notice bullies usually are friends with the managers.

  • @nalaamour
    @nalaamour 11 месяцев назад +43

    Exactly!!! 💯 People need to stop gaslighting the real reasons why places are short staffed. They BEEN leaving and left BEFORE covid! They want so much from you with all of the unrealistic expectations on top of the treatment and lousy pay. Everybody talking about each other, then smiling in their face is crazy. Management is terrible, ans they need to stop thinking they're doing something with buying pizza! Who wants pizza smh?! I cant stand this profession forreal. You spoke ALL FACTS!!!

  • @gingerandspice1209
    @gingerandspice1209 6 месяцев назад +61

    New grads ! You have more options out of school than just the hospital. You can do Homehealth, Hospice, peds, skilled nursing facility, and even IV therapy. There is so much.

    • @ms.deflorimonte1690
      @ms.deflorimonte1690 3 месяца назад

      It’s hard to get into IV therapy…I been trying for 6 months…home health is more flexible to get into…

    • @alexcyabasilio8547
      @alexcyabasilio8547 26 дней назад +1

      Yes, more new grads need to know that. One of the greatest things about nursing is the opportunity to work in various settings. There really is a place for everyone 🥰

    • @ChinaDoll305
      @ChinaDoll305 2 дня назад

      My former supervisors daughter was making 1k a day. She was working part time as an RN doing IV therapy.

  • @marys3738
    @marys3738 5 месяцев назад +25

    I wanted to be a nurse but when I was doing my research, I came across “nurses eat their young” phrase. I asked nurses and everyone would say “that’s so true!!!” I was like oh hell no! I’m not going into a stressful career to be bullied.

  • @prettyrose9528
    @prettyrose9528 3 месяца назад +26

    Thank you for this! Bottom line is ….we sick of people & allllll the bullsh!t !

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  2 месяца назад +3

      I know that’s right!!! The healthcare system as a whole needs to make some MAJOR changes!!

    • @Nicole-gb3vl
      @Nicole-gb3vl 24 дня назад

      ​@@nursingwithashleyright!!

  • @TheAverageFisherman99
    @TheAverageFisherman99 5 месяцев назад +28

    As a nurse myself for the past 22 years, this is 100% accurate.

    • @pers6e
      @pers6e Месяц назад

      Ditto! 25 for me.

  • @kiearacelina
    @kiearacelina 3 месяца назад +21

    WHAT is up with nursing for real? I recently heard a theory that states, (and I’m paraphrasing here) All the people who were school bullies somehow end up being nurses and, the more I hear these stories, the more I believe it. This stuff is absolutely insane and that nurse with the blood transfusion was straight up petty. I’m sorry you even encountered a nurse like that, some people don’t shouldn’t to be in this field and it’s so sad because, nurses like that are pushing away the nurses who actually love it. Been an LPN for 5 years, going for my RN and then the bedside will NEVER see my face again.
    Great video, new sub ❤

    • @brandylagrone4939
      @brandylagrone4939 3 месяца назад +1

      Girl, when I say this is nothing further from the truth! I recently came across my bullies from the school's Facebook page and why are they ALL nurses! Like bffr. I know that ppl can change with time but based on their recent posts, nothing about them has changed and it's truly sad. I pray for those who are under their care.

  • @natural3378
    @natural3378 10 месяцев назад +39

    I can hear the pain and frustration in your voice, almost made me cry because I’m going through the same thing now. Thought something was wrong with me, thought I was stupid, thought I was in over my head. So I left bedside too. I start my dialysis job at fresenus next month. Wish me luck!! And good luck to u sweet mama

    • @KAMROXX2K11
      @KAMROXX2K11 8 месяцев назад +3

      How is it going? I recently left my medsurg job after 7 months as a newgrad

    • @natural3378
      @natural3378 8 месяцев назад +8

      @@KAMROXX2K11 so far so good . I love it. Much better than bedside

    • @adennega556
      @adennega556 2 месяца назад +1

      Chile the horror stories of when I attempted bedside as new grad. There’s a lot of miserable people there. You have to watch your back and pray you get lucky enough to find a good floor with supportive people but it is hard to find.

  • @spiffy197
    @spiffy197 17 дней назад +1

    I work on a med/surg intermediate care unit. The first shift I had off orientation I had 4 stepdown patients 2 of which were fresh craniotomy patients and 1 oncology patient that needed constant transfusions. I did not feel safe with that assignment nor did I feel like I was trained properly to handle that assignment because during orientation, I had a total of 8 preceptors. I feel like I was set up to fail as I wasn’t seeing certain types of patients. Even now that I’m 8 months in, I a still not getting the exposure I need to be a good nurse on the floor. I’m not new to the work environment, I became an RN at 28, and had a career before I transitioned into nursing. I am now trying to get out of bedside nursing even though I have under a year experience because I’m honestly so depressed and burned out because of my job.

  • @bribella_xo7083
    @bribella_xo7083 Год назад +31

    Your video was very relatable! 💗 I’ve been a Nurse for almost 7 years and I’m looking to transition into a remote nursing role… possibly Utilization Management. I’m done with the bedside. I’ve given it 6+ years and needless to say it has cost me my mental health.

  • @ollyalea7453
    @ollyalea7453 9 месяцев назад +14

    I am not a new nurse by any means I’ve been a nurse for almost 9 years but this spoke to me so hard. I recently went from being a charge nurse in long term care to the hospital bedside for the experience and girl when I say catty doesn’t begin to describe what I’ve been going through. The bedside is killing me I think I’m going to put in two apps when I get off tonight because this video was my sign. Thank you❤

  • @nediniamodelo2758
    @nediniamodelo2758 2 месяца назад +4

    The government needs to make this type of treatment and short staffing illegal in the health industry. It is only going to gets worse. Remember you have options where you want to work as a nurse. Toxic work environment can result to potential danger to your license. Your license first before any nursing job. Always follow your intuition. I am so proud of you. You made the right decision.❤ RN for 27 years.

  • @user-qy1pg7dl8v
    @user-qy1pg7dl8v 10 месяцев назад +11

    I agree 💯. Im a new nurse, 9 months now, I switched to pediatric private duty nursing and I absolutely love it 🙏💖🤗. I went from 55 patients bedside to 1 patient. Amen. Also you have great and kind energy, please post more videos! God bless

  • @Lolasante
    @Lolasante 3 месяца назад +8

    Girl you are me n I am you. Been a nurse 5 years now n even travel nursing isn’t cutting it. The anxiety I’ve been suffering n I’ve been seeking the Lord to help me thru this for so long but sometimes it’s just not the place for u to be so I’m def looking into transitioning to a non-bedside position. I wanna send this vid to all the toxic managers, secretaries, supervisors, nurses n pcts out there that made my nurse experience hell. U are not alone n this same experience is ALOT of our stories. Sucks cus I love patient care but the rest of it is so garbage. Praying for joy n fulfillment in all our next endeavors💕thank u so much for speaking out

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  2 месяца назад

      Thank you so much friend!! Sending you positive and healing energy your way as well! You will find the position that is right for you♥️♥️

  • @ChristinaLilly777
    @ChristinaLilly777 2 месяца назад +2

    Girl…. I am late to your video but all I have to say is this is 100% accurate. You are a smart women. I wish I could get it in me to walk away from it. It’s like a cycle of abuse I am stuck in.

  • @Ophelia11
    @Ophelia11 16 дней назад

    I am 43 years old. I have a MSW, worked for years as a social worker, and have worked as a home health aide in the past. Needless to say, I really enjoy helping people. That said, I was contemplating becoming a nurse until I saw the videos about all the absolute HELL nurses go through. God bless you all, but at my age, I don't think I could do it.

  • @cathyalingard4757
    @cathyalingard4757 4 месяца назад +6

    I haven’t even finished watching your video but this was me as a new grad 6.5 yrs ago on a Neonatal ICU UNIT. In my experience the biggest bullies were the nurses with less than 5yrs experience. I loved the older nurses. I remember my preceptor and her girl gang talk so much shit with me about all the newer nurses and telling me what not to do. It was so uncomfortable, and I’m talking as early as my first week as a nurse. I used to wake up in panic wondering if I did something wrong or missed something and if my preceptor was going to scold me for not stocking enough supplies. I had PTSD for years it wasn’t until my 4th ish year as a nurse/traveler that I stopped caring what others thought of me. You video is spot on!

  • @fatimadiallo6947
    @fatimadiallo6947 Год назад +8

    Same here when I was a pct I didn’t see the toxicity and the cattiness but now I’m a nurse I see it all.

  • @brianaadamu7160
    @brianaadamu7160 9 месяцев назад +4

    I’m so sorry that this happened in your experience! I too went through something similar and was bullied when I first started working as a new grad RN and this was when COVID first started. I had no support from my manager at that time but I was able to get in with another preceptor. I made it out of training got my first year done and quit after that. I’ve now been a nurse for four years and become a Charge Nurse. I ended up leaving bedside just because of the toxicity, management pretty much everything you discussed in your video and now I work Dialysis outpatient as a Nurse. It’s definitely a better work life balance.

  • @joyduncan4058
    @joyduncan4058 2 месяца назад +2

    I just left the bedside and I'm so glad I did.

  • @peacefreedom4930
    @peacefreedom4930 2 месяца назад +1

    Young lady I want to thank you for making this video. I experienced all of this and more. It caused me a lot of trauma and loss. I am seeing more and more nurses coming out to expose this culture. It’s good because it lets nurses know this is about them, it’s the system. We need to spend some time and energy figuring out what we can do to create a system that works for us and supports us. The hospitals can not work without us. Individually we are weak. Together nurses can demand changes.

  • @jeremyjones5140
    @jeremyjones5140 8 месяцев назад +10

    Hey Nurse Ashley, I like your video and agree with alot of the points you made. However, I do disagree with one point. The conduct of bedside nursing is beyond toxic at this point which has now turned healthcare into nothing but systemic capitalism. I remember when I was on nursing clinicals when I would be somewhat excited to learn. Then started working as a nurse while having students. Those poor students would come up and think they are going to be the best nurse. Just sad, but kuddos to them.
    I would also say the miscommunication between the physicians and the physicians not showing up to see their patients for sometimes days was also a major hassle.
    The good thing though about bedside nursing (medsurg) is that you do learn alot about medicine, different disease processes, NG tubes, blood draws, blood transfusions, heparin drips, labs, multi -electrolyte drips, jackson-pratt drains, insulin drips, all the types of dressings, central line removals, Picc lines, dialysis permacaths, fistulas, port access, sepsis protocols, lactulose enemas, foley catheters, etc etc lol.
    Alot of the time, the physicians (especially hospitalists) would ask us medsurge nurses what do we feel is an appropriate treatment recommendation for a patient or if we agree with a certain treatment plan. I would say medsurge gives you a good foundation of medical knowledge before switching to a certain specialty.
    Nurse colleagues of mine would say medsurge for nurses is very similar to how internal medicine is for physicians before and if they wanted to specialize. It will suck but your knowledge level is very high compared to many other nurses who have never worked a medsurge floor.

  • @DarkAmethystMoon
    @DarkAmethystMoon 3 дня назад

    Yep I left my new grad residency in the OR. The environment and staff were beyond fake. They belittle you 😅 I’m so happy and at peace with leaving. Thank you for speaking facts ❤️

  • @sqd8
    @sqd8 11 месяцев назад +6

    You hit it on the head with all your points. I am 1.5 year out of school and at the bedside and you said it all. Patient safety only matters when convenient yet the nurse is still liable for the total care of too many acute patients. I too am leaving bedside nursing cause I am not able to be the nurse I know I am supposed to be. I have conviction about that and that's enough.

  • @thosecrazyarkwrights
    @thosecrazyarkwrights 8 месяцев назад +6

    Nurses eat the young is so true! Also nurse to nurse bulling is horrible!

    • @fnuphurbuchoezom620
      @fnuphurbuchoezom620 5 месяцев назад

      very true shouldnt mean to their team,feeling overwelmed

  • @drenette1
    @drenette1 2 месяца назад +1

    Ashley, you have hit all the right points about Nursing. It is not what it used to be. It has become toxic in certain areas especially Bedside Nursing. You do get overworked, disrespected, unfairness, and emotionally abused. It does make you have a lot of anxiety. The workload sometimes can cause you to not get your bathroom breaks, Lunch break in a timely fashion. Then you have the Nurses in their groups who get preferential treatment. So, they get the easier assignments which now gives them time to go sit at the Nurses Station to chitchat while you are struggling with your heavy assignment. It does not phase them one bit to go give you a hand so that you can catch up. It’s as if they get pleasure in seeing you struggle and drown in your work. I am happy for you that you were able to get out of Bedside Nursing and that you found something better to relieve your anxiety and stress!

  • @Sashi96
    @Sashi96 Год назад +14

    Girl l could relate to everything you said. It is so sad that these things happen to us new nurses💯 Thank you so much for sharing...I look forward to your other videos❤

  • @jingleinthepalace5083
    @jingleinthepalace5083 9 месяцев назад +6

    I got you thats what happened to me the preceptor was so mean she didnt want to help me as a graduate nurse and the management left me alone for the first tine i didnt know the ward and patients which was the knew that thats my first duty in the ward that gave so stressed and anxiety every day thats i know i made the right decision to quit last week and now i can smile even i dont have job now il mental health is so important

  • @o.7373
    @o.7373 10 месяцев назад +3

    Im sorry for your bad experience, i think generally that's the culture in the US!
    Im from Canada and i can tell you from my experience as s new nurse, to every unit i go to as an NRT nurse, everyone was very welcoming, super nice, always willing to help and to teach. Every unit has an educator nurse, amazing team work, amazing managers. Everyone wants you to succeed. I love nursing, i do most medicine units sometimes ED and mental health.
    I think it really depends on the environment as you mentioned and it sounds like you got PTSD from bedside nursing. I jad that kind of experience when i used to work at Walmart back in the day....
    Im glad you found something better!

  • @NurseMiMiJ
    @NurseMiMiJ 2 месяца назад +2

    As soon as I started listening to you!! Sis!!! This !!! This!!!

  • @AD_2314
    @AD_2314 8 месяцев назад +2

    I wholeheartedly agree with everything you’ve said in this video! 100%! 👏🏼 good for you for listening to your gut and getting out. Nothing is worth your mental health and peace of mind. ❤

  • @loveblessingsandfavor
    @loveblessingsandfavor 2 месяца назад +1

    Hi! Thank you, Thank you! This is soooooo true in healthcare/bedside nursing. What you have said is so true! I’m not a new grad, I do travel nurse and let me tell you it’s such a prejudice against travel/agency nursing. Everything you said has happened to me. And everyday I struggle with going to work. It wasn’t just by accident I came across your video, it was for a reason. Thank you!

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  2 месяца назад

      Thank you for watching! Sending positive energy on your journey!

  • @leahw2392
    @leahw2392 2 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for being open and honest! You're described my story literally😢😢😢 the bullying and abuse left me physically and mentally ill😢. I left but still looking for a job outside the bedside.

  • @myakinney7138
    @myakinney7138 11 месяцев назад +11

    Everything u have been saying to you self on if you should leave or not is what I’m doing now. I’m on orientation and I hate it some days are better than other but I can’t. I keep saying maybe after orientation it’ll get better or let me wait another month. I’m looking at videos, articles and all the above about leaving. I’m almost two months in and I feel like crying every time I’m here because I don’t like.

    • @growingthefamilyfourup9214
      @growingthefamilyfourup9214 11 месяцев назад +4

      I have 2 weeks left of orientation and contacted HR today about resigning. The environment is too toxic and I refused to let anyone belittle me etc. Great thing about nursing is that it is so many avenues

    • @laydiasay5304
      @laydiasay5304 11 месяцев назад +2

      I’m in the same boat, 1 and 1/2 month into orientation and I really don’t like it. I’m just praying and trusting God for this next steps

    • @growingthefamilyfourup9214
      @growingthefamilyfourup9214 10 месяцев назад +4

      @@laydiasay5304 How are you hanging in there? I had left my job and have an interview in the morning at a facility I use to work at long ago but a different location. Wish me luck ☺️

  • @kaylahood1000
    @kaylahood1000 Год назад +4

    I don’t have the flexibility to switch jobs like that. I’m a teacher and I want to be a pediatric nurse or even a school nurse. My intro to anatomy and physiology class had me stressed out and I felt like I wasn’t smart enough. As a teacher I don’t have the flexibility to work from home or working in a clinic. I’m barely making it as a teacher and I am in debt I am barely making enough. Getting into nursing school isn’t easy. I’m not in nursing school. I’m really trying to create a better life for myself. Any job is stressful. Even teaching is stressful. I want to be a nurse though. Sorry that happen to you. Glad you’re at a job that brings you peace.

  • @theblondeone8426
    @theblondeone8426 21 день назад

    thankyou sis for speaking truth to power - im a ten yr medsurg nurse on nights and im dealing with these clicky nurses with 2 yrs experience that are “free” charges and they dont do anything to help with these unfair horrid assignments!!! Unfairness makes allll the difference.

  • @gibsongirl6816
    @gibsongirl6816 3 месяца назад +2

    I am a 53yr old Nurse. Been doing it 30yrs. I am in a SNF facility. I am going through absolutely every single thing you discussed including my first panic attack. I have been slowly building the depression and anxiety issues. I of coarse am worried about leaving what I know thinking I am not good enough or too old. However, I absolutely know I have to get out. Every single issue you spoke of is 100% accurate and it's horrible. Thank you for sharing.

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  2 месяца назад +2

      Yes!! I find myself sometimes having self-doubt too but I hope you push through! Your knowledge and wisdom will be appreciated in your next position! I am wishing nothing but peace and joy in your next endeavors!

    • @sassysoutherngirl7658
      @sassysoutherngirl7658 2 месяца назад

      I'm 53 an LPN. I absolutely hate the house politics IE... don't tell any visitors or patients family we are short staffed. Please do your charting and med pass and admissions and...................
      Patients having their SNACKS taken away by the facility due to BUDGET CUTS ( MANAGEMENT BONUSES.) Meals for the patients are SH*T. Nurses are gaslit. We have to eat crap from families of patients rude , bullying and absolutely insane entitlement. I voice my opinions I don't care who likes it or not. I moved to 7p to 7am. To keep from having to look and deal with management. I stay tired and feel unhealthy some days. I have to pray , ask God to forgive me for my shortcomings. I have to pray not to reach out and hurt someone for being an a$$. This job is the worst mistake I ever made. NOW, with that said I have made connections and have met some incredible patients. I still don't think that's a fair exchange due to my health. My last job admissions wanted to dump a critical patient on me when I had too many acute patients to deal with safely and professionally . I ask for help. I didn't get it. I told the DON take the keys I'm not losing my FUC(&% LICENSE. Now I'm at another job working 3rd. The aggravation has lessoned but I feel so tired. You are spot ON. ITS A BUSINESS WITH OUT COMPASSION TOWARDS STAFF AND PATIENTS. Buying my time until 62.

  • @fhenderson8925
    @fhenderson8925 2 месяца назад +1

    Well said young woman. Sad that many nurses are feeling this way. I am rwtired after 46 years service, saw this creeping in a few decades ago, its immoral. Bless you for speaking up and mainly, for caring. Bless you and yours.

  • @domj1804
    @domj1804 9 месяцев назад +2

    Yes!!! Pushed you need atleast 1 year of medsurg. Graduate in May as a bridger but I’m positive I’m not starting out there unless I go through a residency program.

  • @RN_YAYA
    @RN_YAYA 8 месяцев назад +9

    I could relate to everything you said and unfortunately wether people want to admit it being a minority you get treated differently and if your not part of the clicks you might as well be a minority. And I agree with every point you had on that damn paper lol 😂

  • @elizabethwywrot1276
    @elizabethwywrot1276 2 месяца назад +1

    May God Bless You 💟 Ashley you are 100 precent correct. I feel like You are talking about My experience. I have resign after 3 months working in a hospital. Good Luck to You ❤ Hugs ❣

  • @islandrn876kimbt6
    @islandrn876kimbt6 5 месяцев назад +1

    Big facts ! All of this ! This should get to every ceo cno and hospital administrator because this is all true !

  • @rosepainting1
    @rosepainting1 5 месяцев назад +2

    I’m an old nurse, 45 years. I am very sorry. Some of what you explain has been there forever unfortunately. Some of us older nurses have been through it too. Some of us remember and try not to pass the nastiness we can control on.

  • @kaydiangeddes2023
    @kaydiangeddes2023 6 месяцев назад +2

    Well done! It's hard being in an environment where your values, whether it be surrounding health care or life in general, are not shared. That was my experience, and so I've made the leap myself. 10 more shifts to go then outpatient here I come. Never been happier even with the loss of stipend and differential pay 😊

  • @mckennatopp4069
    @mckennatopp4069 6 месяцев назад +2

    Going through the same thing as a new grad, two months in and only a few days off of orientation and I’m struggling hardcore. Thank you for this video 🩷

  • @richnurse1171
    @richnurse1171 Месяц назад

    Great video. Although I've gone through some of this myself, I'm apologizing to everyone else that has experienced any of this. I will be sharing my stories soon. Thanks for the inspiration. I've been hesitant about sharing.

  • @KandyGTV
    @KandyGTV 5 месяцев назад +2

    Not one lie told. I'm already back in school and I've only been a nurse for a year. I'm giving it one more year and then I'm going PRN until I graduate with my PMHNP.

  • @123f89
    @123f89 28 дней назад

    I graduated 2006 as an RN in Canada. Worst experience of my life was the university experience specially clinical rotation. Nothing changed when I started working as bedside nurse. I left bedside nursing during Covid

  • @emeliag.kolleh828
    @emeliag.kolleh828 5 месяцев назад +2

    I resonate with this video sis like I’m literally going through similar situation and just going back and forth with the decision although I keep telling myself to just do it and maybe it’ll get better with time but I know it won’t.

  • @irish.7564
    @irish.7564 Год назад +8

    I’m glad you were able escape the toxicity sis! You made all great points, I had the same experience and anxiety. I left bedside about 2 years ago after doing med surg night shift for 5 years for these exact reasons.I too am BSN, RN and it’s sad that you don’t know the behind the scenes issues you may endure as a new grad until you’re in the midst of it. I switched to outpatient office nursing and has been great for me, so many options available. Thank you for sharing! 🤎

  • @TheJoker1716
    @TheJoker1716 Год назад +12

    Girl you might wanna seek therapy cause once you said panic attack that made me nervous. Work shouldn’t make you feel like that and I’ve heard that from many nurses

  • @alastraattisha2970
    @alastraattisha2970 9 месяцев назад +3

    The most relatable video!!!!

  • @organicniki6
    @organicniki6 3 месяца назад

    I must say for a new graduate, you are very sharp! I am proud of how in depth and passionate that you are. I also terribly sorry for your experiences. You have painted a very adequate picture of where nursing is. I pray that we can get out of this horrible, toxic culture or there will be no one left.

  • @Plans2do
    @Plans2do 4 месяца назад +1

    Yes Ashley, I agree with everything you said. I experienced the bullying and anxiety that came with the high stress; 12 hour shifts were awful; and felt little to no support from management. I was actually medical forced to leave my RN job due to pregnancy complications... 20 years out of nursing and I am considering going back, I would need to take a RN refresher course. You asked "If We left bedside Nursing what did we do?". I stayed home and raised 2 kiddos. I was fortunate, some would say, I had a spouse who provided while I stayed at home with the kids. Well, one kiddo successfully launched into college and one just about to. Now, I'm really wanted to go back to work, it's time. I sometimes wish I would have at least stayed in Nursing part time, because I've heard no one will hire a RN after 5 years of leave. However, in all honesty, I had so much anxiety just like you described that kept me NOT running back. I'm wondering what advice people might have in my case? Do I spend the Money, effort and time to do a RN refresher course in hopes someone will hire me? or ???? I'm open to suggestions...

  • @marathongirl1000
    @marathongirl1000 Месяц назад +1

    Everything that you said in your video is a thousand percent on point! I have been a nurse for 25 years It was racist and toxic as hell then and it's probably even more so now! And what is even more sad is how as usual Black nurses don't know how to stick together. I feel your pain my sister And I hope you eventually found somewhere in nursing that you could thrive. I wouldn't wish a nursing career on my worst enemy but since a lot of my worst enemies are already nurses ........

  • @nalaamour
    @nalaamour 11 месяцев назад +2

    Yes please share what you do and how you got the job! Im looking for a work from home position.

  • @fiduwg.3485
    @fiduwg.3485 11 месяцев назад +3

    I couldn’t agree with you more about the fact that it’s a checklist. We aren’t even able to educate adequately.

  • @catherineamanda1034
    @catherineamanda1034 5 месяцев назад +1

    I just came across your channel, and i can relate to everything you said. Ive been going back and forth with the decisions if i should leave my current employment.

  • @ykwtfim
    @ykwtfim 2 месяца назад

    Just subbed. I am so grateful for you. I am in nursing school and I just know that bedside is not for me. This is probably my 100th video watched about how terrible the work culture is at the bedside… and I appreciate your perspective so much. I am so happy you got out of bedside. Keep taking care of yourself sis and thank you for posting this video, again ♥️

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  2 месяца назад

      Yas sis! You got this! I am sending you nothing but positive vibes on your journey!!

  • @MissCda1
    @MissCda1 4 месяца назад

    Omg!!! Everything you said is true!!! I experience this as well. It really hurts to go through all that hard work and finally get to the point where you can carry out your passion and you can’t because of everything you said. I quit my grad nurse position as well the culture was totally messed up and it definitely hinders new nurses that’s just starting out and trying to learn. I just don’t understand it’s like they all forgot when they first came to the floor. Well said!!! Change needs to come!!!

  • @myimperfectdiary890
    @myimperfectdiary890 6 месяцев назад

    I love having these types of conversations. I had to leave my nursing job in North Carolina due to bullying and discrimination, which took a toll on my mental health.

  • @shantaeevans9471
    @shantaeevans9471 Год назад +4

    oh my gosh lol I usually don't comment on videos I remember you its been so long you were always nice and sweet! I remember working with you. Yes that unit was tough!

  • @victoriaporsiempre
    @victoriaporsiempre 7 месяцев назад +1

    Very relatable and spot on! even here in Europe, exactly the same reasons i decided to quit nursing and look for another field that might be better for my mental health 😢

    • @samanthagasmire9508
      @samanthagasmire9508 7 месяцев назад

      Oh no! I’m so sorry, which country are you in? What has your experience been?

  • @th5144
    @th5144 3 месяца назад

    Thanks for sharing this video. New Grad here and I'm so glad to hear the self advocacy and transparency.Love your energy
    You're destined for great things.🫶🏾🫶🏾🥰

  • @hollyamell5505
    @hollyamell5505 3 месяца назад

    I just watched your video and it was like listening to my experience as an RN at a specialty hospital. I toughed it for 4 years and kept stringing myself along, saying it will get better with this new Supervisor or it will get better with this new manager, but it never did. I gave my all and more to support the team and my patients and was always chosen to be the preceptor for all the new hires because of my patient, thorough work ethic. I never wanted anyone to feel alone or unsupported while they were working with me. I also worked nights. I was approached to be a supervisor, took the job for 19 days and resigned to go back to the floor. The politics, culture and environment were “all about the money honey!” I finally reached my limit and resigned from that job. I’ve been home for 2 years caring for my sick husband. I need to get back into the workforce and have been really feeling guilty about not going back to nursing. Your video has helped me make a decision today and I thank you for sharing your experience. It’s been very inspiring to know that I’m not alone in my feelings and that there’s light at the end of the tunnel 😊
    Thanks again!

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  2 месяца назад

      Sending you and your family love, light, and healing energy! Thank you so much for sharing your story!!♥️♥️ Your story has really touched me! I am so grateful for you and this beautiful comment. It means so much!

  • @sonyag1471
    @sonyag1471 Месяц назад +1

    This was my exact experience in med/surg, I left after 6 weeks.

    • @AD_2314
      @AD_2314 Месяц назад

      Same for me

    • @sonyag1471
      @sonyag1471 Месяц назад +1

      @@AD_2314 this is so sad!

  • @lovejoy4465
    @lovejoy4465 6 месяцев назад +2

    You know what I’ve noticed there is a lot of “Gaslighting & Gatekeeping “ in the nursing field which then leads to nurses just kind of figuring things out for themselves only to be corrected and proven to be wrong in the future when a new nurse comes around to question how something is done and that now experienced nurse can’t actually tell them how to do it because they’ve been gaslit & gate-kept so then they repeat the cycle …..and so on and so forth …
    Creating toxic work environments which just gets more toxic with time because there will always be additional “DUTIES/TASKS” thrown upon nurse on a regular bases to add to the already overwhelming job duties

  • @joyduncan4058
    @joyduncan4058 2 месяца назад

    Your so right the job I applied for I got because I did great at the interview. A lot of times it's not your experience but how you present yourself.

  • @RealNatureSounds1
    @RealNatureSounds1 4 месяца назад +1

    Bedside nursing is no joke , the bullying is on point . New grad nurses are always being picked on . I’m thinking about dialysis or wound care . Still not sure yet but I definitely don’t want to do bedside forever.

  • @user-xj9pn3vs6r
    @user-xj9pn3vs6r Месяц назад

    I'm still a student and never worked a day as a nurse, obviously. So Idk much about different kinds of nursing jobs. If not bedside nursing, what else is there? I see there's a lot of nurses watching the video and leaving comments. So I hope for your advice and expertise. Please advise what fields of nursing are better. Thank you!

  • @brittanymack802
    @brittanymack802 4 месяца назад +1

    Me too Nurse Case Manager for almost 1 year😂😂😂…. Immediately want to go back to the floor. I just wish my bedside experience had been better 🙃 my dream was NNP

  • @bunnycarns8668
    @bunnycarns8668 Месяц назад

    So proud of you

  • @cnkis
    @cnkis 2 месяца назад +1

    I got floated to another floor and I was the only one with 3 discharges and 2 admits! Just cuz I floated. SMDH. I hear that!!!

    • @AD_2314
      @AD_2314 Месяц назад

      That’s insane

  • @AdvancedNursesEdConsultant
    @AdvancedNursesEdConsultant 5 месяцев назад +1

    @13:32 well when you have engineers and project managers with no clinical background who were trained on machine operations developing the workflow, this is what you get. We need more clinical folks in the C suite.

  • @blesseddiva1624
    @blesseddiva1624 Год назад +9

    Can you please make a video of what you do now, and how you got it? What are the experiences you need for the job? I’m new coming coming into nursing from bank management. I left it because of the anxiety attacks I was getting. I am coming into the health field because it’s more diverse but I don’t want to do bedside nursing. Do you have any suggestions for me? I’m told that I have to have my RN first then specialize into something.

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  Год назад +6

      Thanks for watching the video. ❤️❤️Yes, I got you, girl, I can definitely do a video on what I do now. There is so much you can do with your nursing degree, so don’t let anyone try to put you into a box. What you are being told is correct that you do need your RN (associate in nursing), LPN ( licensed practical nurse), or BSN (bachelor's in nursing) to work as a nurse. Many nursing specialties hire nurses without much experience and not bedside like behavior health, some clinics, dialysis, home health, home hospice, certain case management positions, corrections nursing, etc. If you don't know what specialty you are interested in (I was in the same boat), my advice is during your clinical rotations in nursing school, soak up all that hands-on experience and pay attention to what patient population you enjoy working with and what type of environment you like. You may be surprised by what specialty you end up liking the most. You can also see if you can find a part-time or pool position in a certain specialty to see if you like it now. For example, if you know you want to work in behavioral health, you can try to find a job as a behavioral health technician or behavioral health clinic receptionist to see if you like the environment and patient population while gaining experience. You would also have your foot in the door and make connections to have a job after graduation. RUclips, nursing vlogs, Instagram, TikTok, and just talking with other nurses also helped me. So you are off to a great start, by just researching and watching RUclips videos. Don't let it overwhelm you though. What is meant for you will be for you.❤️Let me know if I answered your question. I can go into more detail in my next video.

    • @blesseddiva1624
      @blesseddiva1624 Год назад +1

      @@nursingwithashley Thank you so much for taking you time and promptly responding to my question. You’re definitely an assist to nursing. Yes please if you can elaborate more in your next video, that would be great. I took the CNA class and did clinicals , but I was not intrigued by bedside nursing for a number reasons. Do they have nursing jobs that are intellectual, like more trouble shooting and problem solving? Thank you so much for helping me.

    • @blesseddiva1624
      @blesseddiva1624 Год назад

      @@nursingwithashley Also I wanted to make sure that I understood, did you say that you can specialize in a field as LPN?

    • @brittanydoffoney5147
      @brittanydoffoney5147 Год назад +1

      What would be a perfect specialty for an introvert? I'm a pct on medsurg and lost all compassion for finishing nursing school. Everything you said is true. It's not the job that bothers me but it's the ppl. Toxic coworkers, crazy families, rude doctors. Ive seen many of my nurses have breakdowns mid shift. I'm seriously considering becoming a sleep tech, lab tech or anything where I don't have to juggle so many personalities at once. I feel guilty because I've already completed my prereqs for lpn and now I'm ready to back out. Looking forward to more content from you❤

    • @charityalley2271
      @charityalley2271 11 месяцев назад

      @@blesseddiva1624hi just to chime in, there is informatics nursing and research you can look into.

  • @TanyaSmith-t7b
    @TanyaSmith-t7b 3 месяца назад +1

    Sounds like you had a rough experience. Nursing isnt for the weak it sounds like to me that you may like to go into community nursing. So you can get more involved with preventive health care
    Not all places treat their employers like this. It is good for someone to get a couple years experience with bedside nursing in med surg or some form of syb acute care it will make your next endeavors a little easier

  • @catherinekuria7251
    @catherinekuria7251 3 месяца назад

    Great video.Thanks for sharing your expirience

  • @JoJo-vi6xx
    @JoJo-vi6xx 2 месяца назад

    I quit 6 months in. Got a “soft girl nursing” job then went right back to bedside … ER . Because even in soft girl jobs, when an emergency hits and you don’t do the right thing ur still liable. Be careful with ur nursing liscence guys . Nursing never was and will never be easy. But I would like to hear from u guys what soft nursing jobs do you do? Did you leave the field ? Put me on ❤
    Edit: to piggyback off you I was also a CNA and a PCA . Yes the stress from being now a leader it’s very tough. I use to just do my job go home and tell the nurse everything so she can figure it out. Now I have to be the one to prioritize. And it takes time. Everyone will bully you. I really hope u give it a second chance. I’m going to watch to see if you have any updates. What are you doing now ?

  • @malmalm5352
    @malmalm5352 9 месяцев назад +1

    I soooooooo feel you!!!

    • @malmalm5352
      @malmalm5352 9 месяцев назад

      And please do make more videos...

  • @christianfiguroa7147
    @christianfiguroa7147 2 месяца назад

    That’s why when people have kids and they see how people are and how there nature is they should really be considerate and think do I really want to bring someone into this world that’s never been wanted and after ALL this time never will be. Especially if all they do is make others uncomfortable.

  • @johnstockton9211
    @johnstockton9211 Год назад +7

    5 miles during a shift easy. If I didn't work in healthcare and someone told me they walk 5 mile's during a work shift idk if I would believe them ha.

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  Год назад

      Haha absolutely!! It is crazy to think about!

    • @katrinastevenson352
      @katrinastevenson352 Год назад

      I work 3 12 hours shifts from 3-3 . Sometimes I hit the 5 miles mark before 12. It's no joke!

    • @kelleycrider1985
      @kelleycrider1985 Год назад

      So relatable! Thanks for sharing ❤️

  • @Dcjc25
    @Dcjc25 4 месяца назад +1

    Nah eff med surg. EVERY SINGLE NURSE I’ve shadowed in clinicals/at my internship HATES it! Every single one! Told me all I needed to know. I’m looking to specialize asap! Either postpartum or the OR… I felt at ease there and so did the nurses who worked there.

  • @tanyawhite6746
    @tanyawhite6746 10 месяцев назад +1

    Same on the Cna, MA… level

  • @eallen1996
    @eallen1996 7 месяцев назад

    You did the right thing sister.

  • @gingerandspice1209
    @gingerandspice1209 6 месяцев назад +2

    This is why they should not have taken Lvn 's out of the hospital. this was bound to happen. Now they have LVNs in SNF and got 20-30pts to 1 nurse.

  • @gingerquartimon
    @gingerquartimon 11 месяцев назад

    Thank you for sharing!

  • @sweetdnosmoke5006
    @sweetdnosmoke5006 4 месяца назад

    I understand.. You wete being dumped on. Im in oversight and compliance but moonlight in a swanky retirement home so Im somewhat removed. Its not perfect but its workable.

  • @wilson8979
    @wilson8979 3 месяца назад

    I’m an esthetician and work in waxing and we go through the same. It’s terrible. So toxic.

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  2 месяца назад

      Thank you for watching and sharing your unique perspective! It is such a shame the toxic stuff we put up with on these jobs!

  • @sitharasatyan8471
    @sitharasatyan8471 Месяц назад

    Hi Ashley. How's Tissue Viability Nursing?? Plz reply.

  • @FOhlookajew
    @FOhlookajew 3 месяца назад

    Soooo relatable!

  • @PhyllishaAnkh
    @PhyllishaAnkh 9 месяцев назад

    Kudos to you hun.

  • @BreeMarieRN
    @BreeMarieRN 4 месяца назад

    I just started my new grad job i'm so nervous ;-;

  • @audrianalalaxoxo
    @audrianalalaxoxo 2 месяца назад

    People have tried to bully me in many sections of my life. They failed lol Now in the military studying to be a nurse and commission.

  • @majorkira395
    @majorkira395 Месяц назад

    If the nurse had shown her how to do the blood transfusion the nurse would have had another staff member who could do it the next time.