It actually destroys you when beeing socially excluded and isolated. You feel anger and humiliation and leads to suicidal thoughts and what makes me angry it wouldnt been like this if I had my social life and love-life intact.
In the final year of school my group of friends began to get up and leave whenever I sat down with them. At a b'day party, they left me all alone at the table even though I said I felt humiliated, and pleaded them not to leave. They later invited me over but locked me out and started laughing at me. It was awful, and this went on for the entire final year of school Ontop of this, during the same time, my other bestfriend told me I was an embarrassment, mocked/laughed at me, called me fat and unfriended me on fb. At the same time another close friend blocked me for the whole year and cropped me from all her pics. I couldn't take it anymore, I began locking myself in the bathroom cubicles crying. It was painful, like literally painful. In my final months of school, I was convinced there was something wrong with me and sat away from everyone. During this time, everything began to feel numb and disconnected and I resorted to self harming to avoid this feeling. I went to university the next year, but the numbness continued, and I had to drop out. I was later diagnosed with clinical depression, and went on medication for months before recovering.
Just please please continue to survive brother. Find something you really like and stick to it no matter what it is. Be the best at it. Limit your gaze and focus on your tasks and mission in life. Those friends are trash-God removed them from your life for a reason. Continue to push and struggle, I promise you’ll end up in a better position than them, and you will love yourself for it.
People blame the ability of managing your life objectively as antisocial, but when you look at social exclusion, that's a natural down side of humanity. People fall into exclusion because they still hold on to humanity even when it's turning against themselves.
What is actually being done about social exclusion,poverty,isolation,ghosting,discrimination,hate,neglect,unemployment, and all these other horrendous issues that should not even be happening but sadly for me are the very real,harsh reality that I as a 23 yr old British born,ethnic,female,living alone am experiencing despite asking countless people and places,daiky,online,offline,by phone & in person for help! How and why is this happening? I have volunteered & studied & contributed to the economy. I am a very innocent & unbelievably conscientious, law abiding citizen.How do these so called social staff sleep at night knowing their discriminative, ignorance & dismissive behaviour has left me sucidal,poor,further anxious &destroyed my faith in humanity. How dare you.
@/ / Hi Sir/Madam. Thank you for encouraging me to stay alive. I hope not giving up ends up being the right choice. I am still unemployed. It's days away until Christmas. I've been trying every avenue but clearly not working. I am continuing to volunteer and go part time college but it's not good enough. I deserve to earn money and make progress and purchase better things and improve my quality of life.If no one is employing me even at 23 yrs old, what hope do I have? I am doing all I can! People have got away with their discrimination and neglect. I have no support. I only have me and my faith in the almighty. Please pray for me.
@/ /Hi there. Thanks so much for sharing an account of your experiences with unemployment and poor employment. I am ashamed to say that unlike yourself, I am reliant on state benefits (not with pride) or else I literally would be on the streets and I am of course in social housing, which comes with its own problems. I cannot afford to take driving lessons and I receive no help with this. Having a license may have made my possibility of being offered job better. The very rare times I have been employed including a carer was beyond a joke. When I say it was zero hours I mean it was literally a case of being called once in a blue moon . I was better off not in employment. I also always attract extreme and pretty nastiness from people, which is not helped by being an unattractive, ethnic brit born female in this situation.I wish I had friends but sadly I do not, making itmillions of times more mortifying and isolating. I know I spend a lot of time online, and you may think that me being here typing comments on social media platforms is procrastination but I need some kind of outlet.Thanks again for the words of encouragement. Yes I am continuing to apply for many jobs daily as well as contacting agencies and other employment and care companies. The fact I come fromt he most unproductive,disadvantaged, uneducated, unemployed immigrant background makes this even more unbearable. I want and deserve a totally different and dignified life to the one I have been raised in. I deserve to prove that regardless of my name, background, heritage,ethnicity,upbringing etc that I can be my own person and succeed in every aspect. I know I have dreams that right now are laughable but I have to use such wishful thinking to motivate myself. Yes I am lucky to be English-speaking, healthy enough and have internet but quite frankly I deserve a lot better. I am worthy of employment, progression, social support, money and good things in life.
@/ / Believe it or not, even though I call and go to these places in person, and get promised they'll 'be in touch' or 'get back' to me- they never do! There is only so many time I can keep pestering them! And as for the interviews, the most recent one was actually for an apprenticeship,which is typically for 16-18s but I still went as nothing to lose. I apply for every type of job.I never in a million years would have though that in spite of my volunteering, my basic qualifications, my attitude, my skills and my abilities etc that I would be in this awful reality at 23. I don't feel young. I feel like I am a freak/outcast/anomaly especially when I see these 16 yr olds driving around town in their fancy cars with their squads of friends and flowing with money. Sorry for my whinging.I feel helpless.But like you I am fighting. I refuse to commit suicide as many have even encouraged me to. I am determined, more than most, to be in suitable and steady employment, and have a better life for myself. Well one of a plethora of things I need help with is actually deciding what is the best route for me from here, other than going college,trying to pass gcse's and continuing to apply like a machine to every matched job I can find!I have never been one with a fixed vision/plan/goal! I have no sense of intuition! I am beyond lost & very upset & angry. Especially when all my peers have now graduated, and are in good paying employment, driving snazzy cars, travelling the world, in relationships, achieving their dreams, prevailing. You sound like an incredible human being, a rarity in this world. I am baffled that someone of your intelligence, experience & sheer resilience has struggled with employment! You're still really young too! I have no doubt your years of persistence will pay off immensely in your favour. Thanks for being more helpful in a few RUclips reply comments than any so called 'professional'(of the hundreds I have reached out to unsuccessfully) has ever bothered to be! You have helped me believe there is still good in the world! In spite of my own failure, I am genuinely wishing you all the best in all your endeavours. Merry Christmas and best of wishes for the new year! :)
Just keep pushing-keep surviving and struggling sister-God will make things right for you. This world is just a challenge-it’s just a test. Nothing more.
I wonder how many people who are classified as terrorists have felt socially excluded. Its not hard to imagine that terrorist groups can empower individuals who feel excluded and hurt by society.
Exactly. It’s a vicious cycle where those that feel left out find belonging in bad organizations but are marked as desperados and so are further excluded leading to more alienated people and crimes it’s just a big societal failure and mess.
hey guys i dont feel like i belong anywhere and thinking of ending it all due to many people hating me for some reason but im nice and caring and help them through most but they just see me as a extra
and do not support me in any way through life and i've been looking online but the same thing just happens over a over again to time to time passing by.
Hang in there, buddy. It may be good to reach out for some professional help from a GP or counsellor to get on track to receiving a differential diagnosis for whatever is holding you back from forming healthy relationships, whether it is psychological, psychiatric, or neurological in nature (or a combination). This is a really common dilemma for many people in the world and from that perspective, at least, you are not alone in what you are going through. I can't be sure but it sounds like you may have experienced complex trauma at some point in your life which can affect the way we relate to people and how they treat us. It's fairly common to experience complex trauma and there is specific help if you can access professional guidance or even start by looking for sources of information from reliable psychology resources.
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Good video, I have to deal with this on a daily basis...
This is a very useful resource. I'm teaching a class and we have to discuss social inclusion and exclusion. Your video was very useful to me. I used it to start the class and the students really got the concept. Thank you!
FR FR day in day out it completely changed my world, my personality, my thoughts, opinions, everything. Facing this type of shit as a youth will change you psychologically for the rest of your life.
@@Puniciaunfortunately i think you're right. Being socially isolated in high school has irreversibly changed the course of my life. There's nothing to do but leave when you're being socially excluded, because it is like physical pain. At one point, it becomes impossible to endure. But enduring it has made me realise that I will never experience anything as painful in my life ever again, which makes me feel strong.
I am experiencing it at the moment. At work. I am an adult, a college graduate too. They started to exclude me when I started standing up for my rights as an employee. Everyone. Not a single person remembers my kindness to them. All the good deeds are gone. It hurts so much that I am drowning into depression. I live alone too. This is how I understand exclusion kills people. Because if I don't believe in God, I might committed suicide already 💔
Do you have anyone to talk to about how you feel, because it sounds like your going through a difficult time at the moment. If you feel suicidal and want to talk about it then you could talk to people at an organisation like Samaritans for emotional support. I hope your situation at your work improves, I do think its important to not fear and hate your work as it takes up so much of your time.
I faced Workplace Bullying too. It turns out everybody hated the manager. And most staff didn't last a year at the place I was at. They usually just scrambled to find a different job.
good one sir! can you also please explain to the viewers what makes social exclusion as multidisciplinary/multidimensional as separate discipline? why should we study social exclusion as separate discipline when we can include it in economics, sociology, public health, psychology, and political science and so on?
I used to work In a place where I was between exclusions and segregation in a Company. However, I was being ended up excluded. The company was "Coco and Juice" Own by a massive company in Taiwan. None of the worker here in Aus was capable to speak English fluently nor do they understand well. This wasn't the issues. The issues occurred when I started to become a Store manager. Lots of things I was being blame on which I have not done. I would say lots of bullshit is happening in different branch. I was being pay differently than the others as well :)
Your existance alone makes you worthy, you're not what you are doing or not doing.. But I should tell your father this instead of you.. Human beings, not human "doings"
I really benefit from you videos and I subscribed to your channel. I am just requesting one thing that will be more beneficial to the viewers and will give your videos more credibility. You should be referring to the source of information. If you include for example the main theorist that came up with thses ideas that will make your videos greater and will give the viewer the chance to investigate them in dept. Saying for example according to Bordieu, cultural capital is ....
Is the arguement that you can't segregate for socialism? I don't see why social segregation or even cultural segregation is bad unless you can explain why? Also would you consider political segregation like Democrats vs Republicans as a form of cultural or social segregation. If not why not?
@@HGZie Were you watching the same presentation. How is it correct? Reduced rights? Really! Reduced resources huh interesting. Lack of knowledge of economics. Society is that like a cooperative community or is it more like a state or government where you have two classes leaders and follwers. He didn't take into consideration necessary variables. Also I only came to the video to see if it discussed legitimate discrimination like political discrimination.
Who cares. The world itself will exclude you from existence one day. You're still going where your enemies are going and leaving behind those ideologies
It actually destroys you when beeing socially excluded and isolated. You feel anger and humiliation and leads to suicidal thoughts and what makes me angry it wouldnt been like this if I had my social life and love-life intact.
In the final year of school my group of friends began to get up and leave whenever I sat down with them. At a b'day party, they left me all alone at the table even though I said I felt humiliated, and pleaded them not to leave. They later invited me over but locked me out and started laughing at me. It was awful, and this went on for the entire final year of school
Ontop of this, during the same time, my other bestfriend told me I was an embarrassment, mocked/laughed at me, called me fat and unfriended me on fb. At the same time another close friend blocked me for the whole year and cropped me from all her pics. I couldn't take it anymore, I began locking myself in the bathroom cubicles crying. It was painful, like literally painful.
In my final months of school, I was convinced there was something wrong with me and sat away from everyone. During this time, everything began to feel numb and disconnected and I resorted to self harming to avoid this feeling. I went to university the next year, but the numbness continued, and I had to drop out. I was later diagnosed with clinical depression, and went on medication for months before recovering.
people honestly fucking suck. I'm glad i dont have a gun because if i did i would probably go apeshit tbh lmao
im so sorry you went through this
"When you are the only normal person in the group."
I know how you feel, Friend.
Those parasites will suffer. I hope you are having a good time.
Just please please continue to survive brother. Find something you really like and stick to it no matter what it is. Be the best at it. Limit your gaze and focus on your tasks and mission in life. Those friends are trash-God removed them from your life for a reason. Continue to push and struggle, I promise you’ll end up in a better position than them, and you will love yourself for it.
People blame the ability of managing your life objectively as antisocial, but when you look at social exclusion, that's a natural down side of humanity. People fall into exclusion because they still hold on to humanity even when it's turning against themselves.
What is actually being done about social exclusion,poverty,isolation,ghosting,discrimination,hate,neglect,unemployment, and all these other horrendous issues that should not even be happening but sadly for me are the very real,harsh reality that I as a 23 yr old British born,ethnic,female,living alone am experiencing despite asking countless people and places,daiky,online,offline,by phone & in person for help! How and why is this happening? I have volunteered & studied & contributed to the economy. I am a very innocent & unbelievably conscientious, law abiding citizen.How do these so called social staff sleep at night knowing their discriminative, ignorance & dismissive behaviour has left me sucidal,poor,further anxious &destroyed my faith in humanity. How dare you.
@/ / Hi Sir/Madam. Thank you for encouraging me to stay alive. I hope not giving up ends up being the right choice. I am still unemployed. It's days away until Christmas. I've been trying every avenue but clearly not working. I am continuing to volunteer and go part time college but it's not good enough. I deserve to earn money and make progress and purchase better things and improve my quality of life.If no one is employing me even at 23 yrs old, what hope do I have? I am doing all I can! People have got away with their discrimination and neglect. I have no support. I only have me and my faith in the almighty. Please pray for me.
@/ /Hi there. Thanks so much for sharing an account of your experiences with unemployment and poor employment. I am ashamed to say that unlike yourself, I am reliant on state benefits (not with pride) or else I literally would be on the streets and I am of course in social housing, which comes with its own problems. I cannot afford to take driving lessons and I receive no help with this. Having a license may have made my possibility of being offered job better. The very rare times I have been employed including a carer was beyond a joke. When I say it was zero hours I mean it was literally a case of being called once in a blue moon .
I was better off not in employment. I also always attract extreme and pretty nastiness from people, which is not helped by being an unattractive, ethnic brit born female in this situation.I wish I had friends but sadly I do not, making itmillions of times more mortifying and isolating. I know I spend a lot of time online, and you may think that me being here typing comments on social media platforms is procrastination but I need some kind of outlet.Thanks again for the words of encouragement. Yes I am continuing to apply for many jobs daily as well as contacting agencies and other employment and care companies.
The fact I come fromt he most unproductive,disadvantaged, uneducated, unemployed immigrant background makes this even more unbearable. I want and deserve a totally different and dignified life to the one I have been raised in. I deserve to prove that regardless of my name, background, heritage,ethnicity,upbringing etc that I can be my own person and succeed in every aspect. I know I have dreams that right now are laughable but I have to use such wishful thinking to motivate myself. Yes I am lucky to be English-speaking, healthy enough and have internet but quite frankly I deserve a lot better. I am worthy of employment, progression, social support, money and good things in life.
@/ / Believe it or not, even though I call and go to these places in person, and get promised they'll 'be in touch' or 'get back' to me- they never do! There is only so many time I can keep pestering them! And as for the interviews, the most recent one was actually for an apprenticeship,which is typically for 16-18s but I still went as nothing to lose. I apply for every type of job.I never in a million years would have though that in spite of my volunteering, my basic qualifications, my attitude, my skills and my abilities etc that I would be in this awful reality at 23. I don't feel young. I feel like I am a freak/outcast/anomaly especially when I see these 16 yr olds driving around town in their fancy cars with their squads of friends and flowing with money. Sorry for my whinging.I feel helpless.But like you I am fighting. I refuse to commit suicide as many have even encouraged me to. I am determined, more than most, to be in suitable and steady employment, and have a better life for myself.
Well one of a plethora of things I need help with is actually deciding what is the best route for me from here, other than going college,trying to pass gcse's and continuing to apply like a machine to every matched job I can find!I have never been one with a fixed vision/plan/goal! I have no sense of intuition! I am beyond lost & very upset & angry. Especially when all my peers have now graduated, and are in good paying employment, driving snazzy cars, travelling the world, in relationships, achieving their dreams, prevailing.
You sound like an incredible human being, a rarity in this world. I am baffled that someone of your intelligence, experience & sheer resilience has struggled with employment!
You're still really young too! I have no doubt your years of persistence will pay off immensely in your favour. Thanks for being more helpful in a few RUclips reply comments than any so called 'professional'(of the hundreds I have reached out to unsuccessfully) has ever bothered to be! You have helped me believe there is still good in the world! In spite of my own failure, I am genuinely wishing you all the best in all your endeavours.
Merry Christmas and best of wishes for the new year! :)
Narcissism. That's all you need to know.
Greetings from the United States.
Just keep pushing-keep surviving and struggling sister-God will make things right for you. This world is just a challenge-it’s just a test. Nothing more.
I wonder how many people who are classified as terrorists have felt socially excluded. Its not hard to imagine that terrorist groups can empower individuals who feel excluded and hurt by society.
Exactly. It’s a vicious cycle where those that feel left out find belonging in bad organizations but are marked as desperados and so are further excluded leading to more alienated people and crimes it’s just a big societal failure and mess.
hey guys i dont feel like i belong anywhere and thinking of ending it all due to many people hating me for some reason but im nice and caring and help them through most but they just see me as a extra
and do not support me in any way through life and i've been looking online but the same thing just happens over a over again to time to time passing by.
Hang in there, buddy. It may be good to reach out for some professional help from a GP or counsellor to get on track to receiving a differential diagnosis for whatever is holding you back from forming healthy relationships, whether it is psychological, psychiatric, or neurological in nature (or a combination). This is a really common dilemma for many people in the world and from that perspective, at least, you are not alone in what you are going through.
I can't be sure but it sounds like you may have experienced complex trauma at some point in your life which can affect the way we relate to people and how they treat us. It's fairly common to experience complex trauma and there is specific help if you can access professional guidance or even start by looking for sources of information from reliable psychology resources.
Good video, I have to deal with this on a daily basis...
This is a very useful resource. I'm teaching a class and we have to discuss social inclusion and exclusion. Your video was very useful to me. I used it to start the class and the students really got the concept. Thank you!
Imagine being a child and experiencing this, it gave me homicidal thoughts back then. This world is ghetto.
FR FR day in day out it completely changed my world, my personality, my thoughts, opinions, everything. Facing this type of shit as a youth will change you psychologically for the rest of your life.
@@Puniciaunfortunately i think you're right. Being socially isolated in high school has irreversibly changed the course of my life. There's nothing to do but leave when you're being socially excluded, because it is like physical pain. At one point, it becomes impossible to endure. But enduring it has made me realise that I will never experience anything as painful in my life ever again, which makes me feel strong.
I am experiencing it at the moment. At work. I am an adult, a college graduate too. They started to exclude me when I started standing up for my rights as an employee. Everyone. Not a single person remembers my kindness to them. All the good deeds are gone. It hurts so much that I am drowning into depression. I live alone too. This is how I understand exclusion kills people. Because if I don't believe in God, I might committed suicide already 💔
Do you have anyone to talk to about how you feel, because it sounds like your going through a difficult time at the moment. If you feel suicidal and want to talk about it then you could talk to people at an organisation like Samaritans for emotional support. I hope your situation at your work improves, I do think its important to not fear and hate your work as it takes up so much of your time.
Always remember what don't kill you makes you stronger. Death is inevitable, but don't rush it, let time heal you and solve all your problems love.
I faced Workplace Bullying too.
It turns out everybody hated the manager. And most staff didn't last a year at the place I was at.
They usually just scrambled to find a different job.
@@elton7425Light Love & Mercy🙏❤️🕊✨
thank you. excellent information and description
good one sir! can you also please explain to the viewers what makes social exclusion as multidisciplinary/multidimensional as separate discipline? why should we study social exclusion as separate discipline when we can include it in economics, sociology, public health, psychology, and political science and so on?
The Inherent Truth of Hierarchy.
The inherent truth of systematic dehumanization and evil.
I used to work In a place where I was between exclusions and segregation in a Company. However, I was being ended up excluded. The company was "Coco and Juice" Own by a massive company in Taiwan. None of the worker here in Aus was capable to speak English fluently nor do they understand well. This wasn't the issues. The issues occurred when I started to become a Store manager. Lots of things I was being blame on which I have not done. I would say lots of bullshit is happening in different branch.
I was being pay differently than the others as well :)
I'm being excluded by my father because I haven't found a job.I feel worthless at home.
Your existance alone makes you worthy, you're not what you are doing or not doing.. But I should tell your father this instead of you.. Human beings, not human "doings"
@@Metaphoria_Music now i work 2 jobs i changed my life i don't need love of my father 😂
I really benefit from you videos and I subscribed to your channel. I am just requesting one thing that will be more beneficial to the viewers and will give your videos more credibility. You should be referring to the source of information. If you include for example the main theorist that came up with thses ideas that will make your videos greater and will give the viewer the chance to investigate them in dept. Saying for example according to Bordieu, cultural capital is ....
This is what road it goes down I agree
Can I cite this?
Poverty isolates. Trust me no one cares.
I can attest to that. I've got a trauma-related Disability.
It's surprising how people would rather argue with you about that...
Je like. C'est pas une blague. C'est réel.
Very helpful
guys need your help can you site an theory that talks about the effect of isolation on the emotional and mental health, please help me for my research
great job brother'
a really great lecture! Thank you!
But look at the upside, these people eventually find a position where they can exact extreme violent retribution
Is the arguement that you can't segregate for socialism? I don't see why social segregation or even cultural segregation is bad unless you can explain why? Also would you consider political segregation like Democrats vs Republicans as a form of cultural or social segregation. If not why not?
Discrimination is a virtue
They're CURSED
The model looks incorrect.
How so
@@HGZie Were you watching the same presentation. How is it correct? Reduced rights? Really! Reduced resources huh interesting. Lack of knowledge of economics. Society is that like a cooperative community or is it more like a state or government where you have two classes leaders and follwers. He didn't take into consideration necessary variables. Also I only came to the video to see if it discussed legitimate discrimination like political discrimination.
No one cares about me because I’m annoying and awkward
im dead 🔪 one more push and im gone
Agreed
exclusion>inclusion
And why is that?
Civilization > Tribalism
Who cares. The world itself will exclude you from existence one day. You're still going where your enemies are going and leaving behind those ideologies
Salut la toți băieții care se uită de la mine din clasă
Salut la băieții de la mine din clasă
This reminds me of what joker went through in the the 2019 movie 🎥
Bullshit!