I absolutely adore this song. This is the empath anthem I've always needed. People don't really understand what its like to feel others pain so deeply it brings physical pain to yourself.
I put everything into others because it takes focus off my needs and pain. Its actually selfishness on my part to be this way cause sometimes i hurt so bad my soul starts to grieve. This song seemed to be calling me out. Ive just cried and cried over this song
As a fixer, I've never heard a song more true to my mentality. You don't feel like you're worthy to be fixed. So to ignore yourself breaking apart, you fix others. Hoping one day you'll care about yourself as much as you care about others. At least that's what I do.
I can't relate more. I like to ignore the fact that I'm hurting to help others. I forget that I need help too and when I meet that breaking point I realize that I'm the one that needs fixed.
I'm finally fixing myself & it's tough and it's beautiful and it's a wake up call,my wish is for all the fixer's is to know your worth, don't wait till your 60 years old
@@catlynnnounoute8953 please do fix yourself. My sister was always the fixer until she took her life last year. I only wished she told me she needed fixed. She hid it so well. We all thought she was happy and she was always there fixing all our problems. I miss her so much.
I know how you feel. My relationship is on the rocks. I am giving birth this Friday. I don't feel myself anymore. I always try to help everyone else... but I forget I need to heal my wounds as well
@@haleylemaire2262 Congratulations on your new arrival. God bless you and your bundle of joy, and know that no matter what your never really alone. We are strong because we must be, but call on the Lord and JE will raise you up dearest new mama. Your in my prayers Darlene Marie
I'm dedicating this song to my past self-the old me. Hang in there, sweetheart. You are going to get through this, I promise, and things will get so much better. I love you. ❤
@@Godisfirst21 I almost killed myself. A small part reached out. Not even my parents realized what was going on. Everyone thought I had it together and was so happy. The cutting was 5 years ago. Hold on friend. You don't have to do this alone. Let someone in. It helped me.
So I decided to write a response to it... Here y'all go. Same tune different words. I also just did a video of me singing this, vocals only, since there were many requests to do so. Thank you! - ruclips.net/video/u9D1HcZ3-Tw/видео.html I’m a fixer who found my fixer I’m a lover being loved in return My heart’s shattered and dazed from all the pain But this fixer has a fixer herself. I’m a fighter with people behind her In a corner they ensure my health. He pulls me away from a terrible place. He’ll fix every scar he can find. Oh, She fixed all the lonely, fixed all the broke. Now he’s fixing the one who needs fixing the most. Cleaning the wounds and fighting her hell This fixer found a fixer herself. I’m a liar, alive with a fire Shamed that I burden you But he whispers my name, and I am saved. No more lies, I’ll be honest and true. Oh, she fixed all the lonely, fixed all the broke. Now he’s fixing the one who needs fixing the most. Backed with persistence, fighting the hell. This fixer found a fixer herself. I’m a handful A whole lot to handle. But he says it’s no trouble, he’s fine. He’s my sunrise each day from my darkest place He’s fixing the fixer each night. He’s my sunrise each day from my darkest place He’s fixing the fixer each night. Hope you enjoy and thank you for this glorious song and inspiration!
I'm crying to this. I always believe no one is gonna fix this fixer. I hope someone will be willing to as I will fix that person too. I am glad you found yourself one 👏👏👏👏👏👏
I cried when i heard this song for the first time. it felt like someone finally understood what i am going through 😟 and how on edge i am. thank you for this song💛
She's addicted to fixing others, so she doesn't have to face and deal with her own brokeness. Saving other people is a coping mechanism. It's escapism. It's running away from a victim mentality by escaping into it.
Talked with a friend and we started talking about what each others theme songs would be. I sent him his theme song and then he took almost 10 minutes going through his history to find this song. And right after he sent it he said, "Just in case you thought nobody noticed what you've done for everyone around you.", and then he said he had to go. After the call ended I listened to this and I nearly cried. My heart you guys, it feels.
We are officially dating now! And I couldn't be happier, he is super caring about everyone he meets and makes sure to take extra care to help me when I'm nervous or upset.
As a fixer, I always focus my energy on those who need me. Focusing on myself only causes me pain and anxiety of the past and present that haunt my thoughts when I am alone. This is a beautiful song that has put perspective on my emotional health.
Fixers cant fix themselves because they are to busy fixing others. And maybe they are like me and run away when people try to help. This song hits home for me
Lyrics: She's a fixer with no one to fix her She's a lover who won't love herself She's a heartbreak away from a horrible place 'Cause fixers never fix themselves She's a fighter with no one beside her In a corner alone on the ropes She's a let down away from a terrible place She'll fix every scar but her own Oh, she fixes the lonely, fixes the broke But tends to forget who needs fixin' the most Buried in bandages, hiding the hell 'Cause fixers never fix themselves She's a liar, a calm to the fire Shamed when we all follow suit She's a whisper away from a dangerous place 'Cause lies aren't a fix for the truth Oh, she fixes the lonely, fixes the broke But tends to forget who need fixin' the most Packed with prescriptions, disguising the hell 'Cause fixers never fix themselves She's a handful A whole lot to handle But worth every thorn in my side She's a sunset away from the darkest of days No fix for the fixer tonight She's a sunset away from the darkest of days No fix for the fixer tonight
to anyone who's listening to this with me, i hope you know that you are loved. you are enough. you are worthy of being loved and you should be kind to yourself, too. you can do that. when you feel that no one's there to fix you, you can come back to this song and remember that you are your own fixer... and you don't have to fix others.
I became the Fixer early in life, I was as a child when I was powerlessness over my mother’s mental and emotional health. When I was young the stigma of mental health problems meant my family survived by learning to hide the truth about the hell we were living behind closed doors. My mother was institutionalized many times, all her breakdowns and outbursts, being present or finding her after multiple suicide attempts, I was the daughter who learned to carry the burdens of others. Our family was about rescuing my mother in order to save our whole family. Over time I was conditioned to fix problems. So I’d respond to certain things like when I heard "I can't" that meant they can't, so I assumed the role that "I can". I saw my father as Superhero who always helped our family. I wanted to be like him so I helped him, I was the little superhero I assumed that role costume and all. It meant I was good and worthy for helping my family like my father. I spent many years in chaos where I learned to believe that’s what families, especially parents do, they help one another. Marriage meant in sickness and in health but that meant sacrificing my needs and myself. I was conditioned to carry the weight of others, and their problems. It takes a toll over the years as it became too heavy at times making me angry, and resentful when I couldn’t help the people I loved. I thought being needed was being loved. I placed the needs of others above myself sacrificing time and energy from my own life to help others on their path forgetting my own since I was a young child. I did like fairytales but I learned quickly the stories many girls are told are lies. People who become fixers learn that the only real way to connect with others is to rescue them and or fix them not realizing the cost is too much to carry and heartbreaks too many. I lived this life for over 40 years. The hardest thing I did was something nobody in my family had done before, I divorced my husband of 20 years, he became an alcoholic, and his anger grew with age. I believed for years if I did this or that he would change, but he didn’t want to change. I couldn’t make him care about me or our children, that was his job. It’s exhausting watching your family fall apart. I even felt guilty when he got in trouble, lost his job, went to jail, he had girlfriends who harassed me and my children. That wasn’t my mess to fix nor clean up so i quit helping him. The mess was his, he made that choice when he didn’t want to fix anything when he had that choice or he had to leave. He chose to leave our family behind. He looked for women like me, anyone to take care of him. I learned the hard way that it wasn’t my job to make him better. It’s hard to know my children suffer with the fact he left and the choices I made that kept him around too long. I know now that what he does is his choice and his problem. There’s times i feel the need to watch from afar and say it’s about our children but I know it’s me. Truth that’s hard to accept is that if he loved me or our children he would have stayed. His choices are not mine, his burdens of his choice aren’t mine either. I hope others realize their self worth and their identity is not found in someone else, and free themselves from a life in chains. I spent too many years caring for people who didn’t care for me. It’s hard to comprehend and heal the brokenness caused by giving your all to love someone and it’s not returned. Do not be a doormat or assume your own identity in someone else. If this is you know you’re drawn to unhealthy relationships, attracted like a magnet for anyone needing a rescue, it’s a vicious cycle, a cycle that has to be broken. You must love yourself before you can love someone else. Most important message I’ve heard in a song, thank you!
I’m sorry you’ve had to go through so much, and I know it’s hard to carry other people’s burdens and feel like they are more important than what you go through. It makes me glad to know there is more people that deal with the same things as me, and I’m glad you’ve kept going, even through all of that. I love you and you are so strong, I hope you find something and someone that makes you happy💕
You have found a way to so eloquently reach me with your story. Validated me in ways I didn't even know I needed. It is times like these that I love the internet. 🎶 " I guess you're just what I needed!" 🎵 - she sang in her head. 😊 Thank you. ❤
She's a fixer with no one to fix her She's a lover who won't love herself She's a heartbreak away from a horrible place 'Cause fixers never fix themselves She's a fighter with no one beside her In a corner alone on the ropes She's a let down away from a terrible place She'll fix every scar but her own Oh, she fixes the lonely, fixes the broke But tends to forget who needs fixin' the most Buried in bandages, hiding the hell 'Cause fixers never fix themselves She's a liar, a calm to the fire Shamed when we all follow suit She's a whisper away from a dangerous place 'Cause lies aren't a fix for the truth Oh, she fixes the lonely, fixes the broke But tends to forget who need fixin' the most Packed with prescriptions, disguisin' the hell 'Cause fixers never fix themselves She's a handful A whole lot to handle But worth every thorn in my side She's a sunset away from the darkest of days No fix for the fixer tonight She's a sunset away from the darkest of days No fix for the fixer tonight
As an empath, I really don't know how to feel about this song. I always reach out to people who are sad and I offer an ear when I think people need it cuz I love helping, but it's astronomically hard for me to open up about myself because I feel so misunderstood. I feel like a liar and an entitled person though, for relating to this...
I do to and as a fellow empath I can say that we need to realize we give everything and get nothing it’s not selfish to won’t help and praise or even some emotional stability its natural. Put yourself first it’s not selfish.
I totally feel you, but try to understand that the way you feel is valid and just because you may not be able to help yourself with your problems yet doesn't mean you a lair just means you haven't figured out the puzzle quite yet.
Hospice nurse here… this could be our anthem in hospice. We take care of the patients and the families (no matter how crazy a situation we walk into) and we have to keep staying strong no matter what.
I never knew this song existed and now that I am sitting here raw, broken, and frustrated I feel like I just learned alot about myself. Thank you. -A fixer
It's sad that we instantly have a name in our minds the moment we heard this song. I hope everyone finds someone who's willing to fix them and have someone to fix them.
As a fixer myself, this hit really hard. It's been a long and difficult journey to understanding that it's not my responsibility to fix anyone...especially when doing so only breaks me even more. Thank you for this.
My daughter told me to listen to this, after a traumatic event. I’m in tears!! 🥺 do the work!! Stand tall, even when it hurts it’s worth the work! Tape and glue only works for so long!
I can’t listen to this without crying! 🎁It’s so meee!! A I agree, us empaths feel the pain and don’t worry about our own. Thank you for this beautiful beautiful blessing🥺❤️
Sitting here feeling numb and came across this song. I'm crying. I lost my myself in healing someone else and loving him too. Really loved these words sang.
Finished my therapy session, left crying and disturbed with thousands of questions, take out my phone, open RUclips, this song pops up first. Damn you life with your coincidences, thank you!
@@Anna.21. I started by no longer allowing those who abused my kindness into my energy, or space. I completely cut them all off. It is now my fundamental rule to only give where I am appreciated, where my kindness is reciprocated 💖🦋🙂🦋💖. I wish you all the love and wisdom in caring for your beautiful fixer souls 💯❤️🌹.
Thank you for such a beautiful lyrically written song from those who are highly sensitive and dealing with depression. This is a masterpiece the world needs to hear. We are all creatures of habit. Some of us just get sick in a continuous loop until someone is courageous enough to see the beauty beneath the broken!!
Admit it, you didn’t look for this song. It just found you and now you get to cry by yourself cuz it’s probably not the best that you relate lol. ;w; Edit: Whoa that's a lot of likes...
This song made me feel so raw and naked, all I did to hide away my issues and this song rips them from my hiding places slowly and painfully. I'm tired, I'm sad, I'm lost, I'm lonely in a house full of family this Thanksgiving. I can't get over them leaving me here, I miss them so much I can barely breathe 😪 I just want my dad, mom, and brother back 💔
I study counselling psychology and counsel some people myself. While we are taught the importance of self care and keeping ourselves happy etc, I'm going to share this with my program classmates. A lot of them will resonate and others maybe can use this song to help put what the clients feel into words
Beautiful❤️ I'm a broken fixer. I make others smile as I hide pain,I'm there for others as I fight demons alone.I've given sunsets to others,there isn't any left for me♡ seeing them shine makes me happy❤ God Bless the kind hearted & the broken fixers
I don't even know why I'm here. But I'm crying when he sang the first line. And now I'm a crying mess. This song made me realize that I was always the "shoulder to cry on," the one who's always available and "one call away" and the one who listens to either the loudest rants or most silent chaos, but no one bothers to do the same for me.
For me, it's not that nobody bothers to do the same for me... It's that I'm always too reluctant to reach out for their help until I'm super close to the despair even horizon...
Thanks to Brent Morgan, whenever I feel like there's no room for me anymore, I come to his channel, and feel better in the end. God bless you because you may have saved many lives0
I was always told I was a fixer, even though I was the most broken inside. I was fighting my own battles and didn't feel like anyone was there to help me. This song relates to me so much. Thank you so much for such a beautiful song as this one.
Super relatable as a male, my whole life story tbh. Ive always found it easy to help others but can never help myself. I choose others over me, i mean I am even pursuing a career in psychology... this song hits hard tbh
This song paints a perfect image of me. River of tears shed. My friend's are pointing out how much of a fighter I am, but can't tell them I am a fighter with no one beside her. Oh, how I yearn for things to be different. Those animations with a hug is hit the most.
wow this song makes my soul ache. sometimes you really dont notice how badly you need to fix yourself when you focus on fixing others. being there for others all the time is a crushing task.
This has to be the most beautiful song I've heard in a long time. The imagery, the melody and the lyrics work beautifully and you delivered it perfectly. It moved me as a good song should. Thank you Brent
This song is so beautiful. This year I have faced being abused my husband, missing my son who would of been 2, I didn’t get to see my step daughter, I lost my job, he took the car, and I blamed myself for it all. I’m finally looking forward and trying to care for myself, and this reminds me I can’t help others if I don’t care for myself ❤️ I found my new repeat 🥰
I know I am In need of fixing. I have no prescriptions at all ... though Ironically enough we both know what we want and besides him needing his girls but me... his dedicated loyal subject of his hearts and his loins longing
Think shes already in a horrible place. Surrounded by people who lied to her while she was forced to be transparent and never allowed to sit down and feel.
with tears down my face, this one hits deep to my soul.. thank you for putting words to our feelings... God bless! May I fix anything or you while i'm up???!?!
It's been over 2 years and each time this song plays, silent tears still flow without fail. The warmth from feeling seen turns into ache from becoming aware of my reality all over again. It is strong enough to lift the heaviest floodgates. Thank you, Brent. 💜
The first 2 lines started and my tears started to roll down endlessly!! I don't know why listening to this, makes me feels like someone is comforting me.
Never heard a song that absolutely speaks about EVERYTHING I feel. I literally had a crying spell this morning around 6am. All alone, in the dark, in my room. I felt every emotion that he's singing about. I feel so overwhelmed so often and under loved and appreciated every single day of my life. I feel like I'm always trying to please someone and be a helper, and I'm constantly shown that I'm an afterthought to (almost) everyone in my life. No one knows what I go through daily because I just put on a smile and act as if everything is okay! Thank you for this song. I know I'm not alone or special in this, but it sure helps knowing that I'm not alone. (Not that that's a good thing) I'm done rambling now gn.
This song is so beautiful... I’m so happy that someone finally put this into words. It sucks feeling like this but not having a way to convey it to someone. Thank you for making me and so many others feel heard. A masterpiece. I cannot believe I didn’t find you sooner. I’m a new fan and proud of it.
This made me cry. After all these years of fixing others I finally realized a few weeks ago that I'm the one who needs fixing. This song is so relatable. Kinda freaked out about how accurate it is as this came in my recommended. I love this so much omg
Found this on a RUclips rabbit trail and....my God. This is a masterpiece and yet disturbingly specific to my life 😂 thank you for sharing this with the world!
Well, I certainly feel called out!! Beautifully tragic song that a lot of us who are healer’s that can’t heal ourselves but we absorb the suffering of others to lighten their burden.
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“Fixers never fix themselves”
It hit hard...
Much love Julia!
But we can with help xox
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It is
I don't understand exactly how to not be who I am.
I absolutely adore this song. This is the empath anthem I've always needed. People don't really understand what its like to feel others pain so deeply it brings physical pain to yourself.
thank you so much
Indeed it is
I understand I try to stay away from people because of it
I too am a empath. And a healer... No one understands the physical pain and the emotional pain. Thank God for this song......
I put everything into others because it takes focus off my needs and pain. Its actually selfishness on my part to be this way cause sometimes i hurt so bad my soul starts to grieve. This song seemed to be calling me out. Ive just cried and cried over this song
As a fixer, I've never heard a song more true to my mentality. You don't feel like you're worthy to be fixed. So to ignore yourself breaking apart, you fix others. Hoping one day you'll care about yourself as much as you care about others. At least that's what I do.
I can't relate more. I like to ignore the fact that I'm hurting to help others. I forget that I need help too and when I meet that breaking point I realize that I'm the one that needs fixed.
I'm finally fixing myself & it's tough and it's beautiful and it's a wake up call,my wish is for all the fixer's is to know your worth, don't wait till your 60 years old
so there with you.
I don't think I've ever agreed with a sentence more
Amen! Right there with you
To all the fixers out there…Here’s a guy who has us figured out.
this song is deep🥺
It really is. Makes me cry every single time, but damn it's beautiful.
Very deep. My life song and it’s so hard.
Yeah, and mean.
😔 yep.
Agree😢
I dont care if I'm a man, I'm dedicating this to myself. Beautiful song.
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Same, bro. Same.
This is the energy I want. A start to "fixing" myself.
@@catlynnnounoute8953 please do fix yourself. My sister was always the fixer until she took her life last year. I only wished she told me she needed fixed. She hid it so well. We all thought she was happy and she was always there fixing all our problems. I miss her so much.
@@debbieoneal3371 Sorry to hear that.
Who told Brent my life's story!!! Such a comforting song just cause someone else feels our pain!
love you!
I know how you feel. My relationship is on the rocks. I am giving birth this Friday. I don't feel myself anymore. I always try to help everyone else... but I forget I need to heal my wounds as well
I was thinking the same thing!!!!
Tell me about it💕
@@haleylemaire2262 Congratulations on your new arrival. God bless you and your bundle of joy, and know that no matter what your never really alone. We are strong because we must be, but call on the Lord and JE will raise you up dearest new mama. Your in my prayers Darlene Marie
this songs hits you when you’re always by your friends side but they’re not on yours.
Much love
Feelin it
Yeah facts
True ..heartbreaking 😔
Hurts so bad
I'm dedicating this song to my past self-the old me.
Hang in there, sweetheart. You are going to get through this, I promise, and things will get so much better.
I love you. ❤
Thank you for the hope.
@@Godisfirst21
I almost killed myself. A small part reached out. Not even my parents realized what was going on. Everyone thought I had it together and was so happy. The cutting was 5 years ago.
Hold on friend. You don't have to do this alone. Let someone in.
It helped me.
@@matthewjames5598 Thank you. I hope you have a great day today.
Your beautiful ❤ take care of you beautiful soul ❤
❤❤ for you~
Smart choice of words!
thanks alex!
Nu ma asteptam sa te gasesc aici sincer :))
Good word pickin
Hi brent i loveyourvoice❤️🥰
Yesss !!
So I decided to write a response to it... Here y'all go. Same tune different words. I also just did a video of me singing this, vocals only, since there were many requests to do so. Thank you! - ruclips.net/video/u9D1HcZ3-Tw/видео.html
I’m a fixer who found my fixer
I’m a lover being loved in return
My heart’s shattered and dazed from all the pain
But this fixer has a fixer herself.
I’m a fighter with people behind her
In a corner they ensure my health.
He pulls me away from a terrible place.
He’ll fix every scar he can find.
Oh, She fixed all the lonely, fixed all the broke.
Now he’s fixing the one who needs fixing the most.
Cleaning the wounds and fighting her hell
This fixer found a fixer herself.
I’m a liar, alive with a fire
Shamed that I burden you
But he whispers my name, and I am saved.
No more lies, I’ll be honest and true.
Oh, she fixed all the lonely, fixed all the broke.
Now he’s fixing the one who needs fixing the most.
Backed with persistence, fighting the hell.
This fixer found a fixer herself.
I’m a handful
A whole lot to handle.
But he says it’s no trouble, he’s fine.
He’s my sunrise each day from my darkest place
He’s fixing the fixer each night.
He’s my sunrise each day from my darkest place
He’s fixing the fixer each night.
Hope you enjoy and thank you for this glorious song and inspiration!
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Whooaah! Hand's up to you! 👏👏
I'm crying to this. I always believe no one is gonna fix this fixer. I hope someone will be willing to as I will fix that person too. I am glad you found yourself one 👏👏👏👏👏👏
@@ksorangeeee840 As am I! I think you'll find someone eventually, give it time.
@@hazelfabricante1337 Thank you!!!
I didn't search for it ,I found this song by coincidence. what a lovely coincidence
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@@katerigolden2838 a lucky coincidence
I normally don't click on song suggestions but this one seemed like it called out to me. It sings to my soul
Same :')
@@skrip_skrip4814 same someone sent me another song to listen to and this was a suggestion and like you said it felt like it was callin me
I cried when i heard this song for the first time. it felt like someone finally understood what i am going through 😟 and how on edge i am. thank you for this song💛
Exactly how I’m feeling
Praying for you my dear❤❤
Kept in my tears till i saw your comment. Then the watrerfall started rolling down my cheeks
True . Me too 😢
I just broke down myself. I needed this
I'm in love with this song 🥺💖
honestly we all are
@@kudr_ :)
Thanks aura!!!!
sameee hereee♥️
Me too!
She's addicted to fixing others, so she doesn't have to face and deal with her own brokeness.
Saving other people is a coping mechanism. It's escapism. It's running away from a victim mentality by escaping into it.
oh now i see why i do it. 😮🖤
That hit deep
Woah..
Spot on.
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Talked with a friend and we started talking about what each others theme songs would be. I sent him his theme song and then he took almost 10 minutes going through his history to find this song. And right after he sent it he said, "Just in case you thought nobody noticed what you've done for everyone around you.", and then he said he had to go. After the call ended I listened to this and I nearly cried. My heart you guys, it feels.
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i think this comment suits to the book i just fished reading week ago😭❤️😊
Did you two date? 🤗he appreciates you
We are officially dating now! And I couldn't be happier, he is super caring about everyone he meets and makes sure to take extra care to help me when I'm nervous or upset.
@@zety4228 what book was that
As a fixer, I always focus my energy on those who need me. Focusing on myself only causes me pain and anxiety of the past and present that haunt my thoughts when I am alone. This is a beautiful song that has put perspective on my emotional health.
Same
Not going to fix others any more ❤
Ditto
We accept the love we think we deserve
YT is doing a fucking good job with the recomandations. Why am I crying, again?
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Reminds me of a Mother going through a hard time being a single mother
Much love
Exactly
Single mom here of two who agrees
my mother is a single mother of 3.
@You Tube I didnt mean to make you cry lol
All I did was click on this suggested song and now I’m crying
Same
Me too!!! 🤦🏻♀️
My bad!!! 💚
@@itsyourmumma 💚
Omg same. I am crying inside
The tears won't stop. This is my life in a nut shell.
I have never felt more personally attacked by a song in my life.
And never had a song put my feeling into words better than this.
Me 2
Ditto
Fixers cant fix themselves because they are to busy fixing others. And maybe they are like me and run away when people try to help. This song hits home for me
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Lyrics:
She's a fixer with no one to fix her
She's a lover who won't love herself
She's a heartbreak away from a horrible place
'Cause fixers never fix themselves
She's a fighter with no one beside her
In a corner alone on the ropes
She's a let down away from a terrible place
She'll fix every scar but her own
Oh, she fixes the lonely, fixes the broke
But tends to forget who needs fixin' the most
Buried in bandages, hiding the hell
'Cause fixers never fix themselves
She's a liar, a calm to the fire
Shamed when we all follow suit
She's a whisper away from a dangerous place
'Cause lies aren't a fix for the truth
Oh, she fixes the lonely, fixes the broke
But tends to forget who need fixin' the most
Packed with prescriptions, disguising the hell
'Cause fixers never fix themselves
She's a handful
A whole lot to handle
But worth every thorn in my side
She's a sunset away from the darkest of days
No fix for the fixer tonight
She's a sunset away from the darkest of days
No fix for the fixer tonight
Thanks
Somebody DOES understand !! Thank you for this song !!
to anyone who's listening to this with me, i hope you know that you are loved. you are enough. you are worthy of being loved and you should be kind to yourself, too. you can do that. when you feel that no one's there to fix you, you can come back to this song and remember that you are your own fixer... and you don't have to fix others.
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This is exactly what I needed to see today, I have not been kind to myself lately. Thank you
I cried after this comment 😭
Thank you much
"She's lover who won't love herself" damn, it stabbed me
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I felt that
You're not alone.
I'll be 70 this yr, and all of it still applies to me.
Fr I'm leakin
@@janicehammersmith4728 so it really doesn't get better with age?
"Lies aren't a fix for the truth" Yes thats true but it sure makes a great bandaid.
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@@BrentMorganMusic Thank you for the like and comment. I hope you are doing well and have an amazing night/day!
Some songs just hit you so hard that all you find yourself doing is crying to them at almost 4am…thank you for this beautiful masterpiece!
Hey that's my name!
I became the Fixer early in life, I was as a child when I was powerlessness over my mother’s mental and emotional health. When I was young the stigma of mental health problems meant my family survived by learning to hide the truth about the hell we were living behind closed doors. My mother was institutionalized many times, all her breakdowns and outbursts, being present or finding her after multiple suicide attempts, I was the daughter who learned to carry the burdens of others. Our family was about rescuing my mother in order to save our whole family. Over time I was conditioned to fix problems. So I’d respond to certain things like when I heard "I can't" that meant they can't, so I assumed the role that "I can". I saw my father as Superhero who always helped our family. I wanted to be like him so I helped him, I was the little superhero I assumed that role costume and all. It meant I was good and worthy for helping my family like my father. I spent many years in chaos where I learned to believe that’s what families, especially parents do, they help one another. Marriage meant in sickness and in health but that meant sacrificing my needs and myself. I was conditioned to carry the weight of others, and their problems. It takes a toll over the years as it became too heavy at times making me angry, and resentful when I couldn’t help the people I loved. I thought being needed was being loved. I placed the needs of others above myself sacrificing time and energy from my own life to help others on their path forgetting my own since I was a young child. I did like fairytales but I learned quickly the stories many girls are told are lies. People who become fixers learn that the only real way to connect with others is to rescue them and or fix them not realizing the cost is too much to carry and heartbreaks too many. I lived this life for over 40 years. The hardest thing I did was something nobody in my family had done before, I divorced my husband of 20 years, he became an alcoholic, and his anger grew with age. I believed for years if I did this or that he would change, but he didn’t want to change.
I couldn’t make him care about me or our children, that was his job. It’s exhausting watching your family fall apart. I even felt guilty when he got in trouble, lost his job, went to jail, he had girlfriends who harassed me and my children. That wasn’t my mess to fix nor clean up so i quit helping him. The mess was his, he made that choice when he didn’t want to fix anything when he had that choice or he had to leave. He chose to leave our family behind. He looked for women like me, anyone to take care of him. I learned the hard way that it wasn’t my job to make him better. It’s hard to know my children suffer with the fact he left and the choices I made that kept him around too long. I know now that what he does is his choice and his problem. There’s times i feel the need to watch from afar and say it’s about our children but I know it’s me. Truth that’s hard to accept is that if he loved me or our children he would have stayed. His choices are not mine, his burdens of his choice aren’t mine either. I hope others realize their self worth and their identity is not found in someone else, and free themselves from a life in chains. I spent too many years caring for people who didn’t care for me. It’s hard to comprehend and heal the brokenness caused by giving your all to love someone and it’s not returned. Do not be a doormat or assume your own identity in someone else. If this is you know you’re drawn to unhealthy relationships, attracted like a magnet for anyone needing a rescue, it’s a vicious cycle, a cycle that has to be broken. You must love yourself before you can love someone else. Most important message I’ve heard in a song, thank you!
Thanks for this comment!! Much love 💚
😊your strong and I got a lot from you
I’m sorry you’ve had to go through so much, and I know it’s hard to carry other people’s burdens and feel like they are more important than what you go through. It makes me glad to know there is more people that deal with the same things as me, and I’m glad you’ve kept going, even through all of that. I love you and you are so strong, I hope you find something and someone that makes you happy💕
How are you? Hope you’re well and taking care of yourself
You have found a way to so eloquently reach me with your story. Validated me in ways I didn't even know I needed. It is times like these that I love the internet. 🎶 " I guess you're just what I needed!" 🎵 - she sang in her head. 😊 Thank you. ❤
I've never felt so understood in my life. This song makes me feel relieved whenever I feel stressed. Thank you!
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My soul is naked and spirit is broken. This song was able to rip tears out of my eyes that I didn't even know I'd been holding back.
Much love
She's a fixer with no one to fix her
She's a lover who won't love herself
She's a heartbreak away from a horrible place
'Cause fixers never fix themselves
She's a fighter with no one beside her
In a corner alone on the ropes
She's a let down away from a terrible place
She'll fix every scar but her own
Oh, she fixes the lonely, fixes the broke
But tends to forget who needs fixin' the most
Buried in bandages, hiding the hell
'Cause fixers never fix themselves
She's a liar, a calm to the fire
Shamed when we all follow suit
She's a whisper away from a dangerous place
'Cause lies aren't a fix for the truth
Oh, she fixes the lonely, fixes the broke
But tends to forget who need fixin' the most
Packed with prescriptions, disguisin' the hell
'Cause fixers never fix themselves
She's a handful
A whole lot to handle
But worth every thorn in my side
She's a sunset away from the darkest of days
No fix for the fixer tonight
She's a sunset away from the darkest of days
No fix for the fixer tonight
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"Buried in bandages
Hiding the hell"
Guys I'm 7 days free! I know it's not much but I'm very proud of myself!
I’m proud of you☺️❤️
THATS AMAZING IM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!!!!! :D
How is it going? Hopefully life is getting better every day for you!
@@msmsmarissa Honestly things were a lot better!But last night I did it again..I really hate myself for this...
@@nanananna9667 it's only one day..you didn't throw everything away! Don't hate yourself, just try again
As an empath, I really don't know how to feel about this song. I always reach out to people who are sad and I offer an ear when I think people need it cuz I love helping, but it's astronomically hard for me to open up about myself because I feel so misunderstood. I feel like a liar and an entitled person though, for relating to this...
It's all good but you sound relatable to me.
We do need healthy boundaries.
Observe others feelings and issues, don’t absorb them. You can’t help anyone when the weight of the world drowns you.
I do to and as a fellow empath I can say that we need to realize we give everything and get nothing it’s not selfish to won’t help and praise or even some emotional stability its natural. Put yourself first it’s not selfish.
You explained how i feel so badly, thank you for putting it in words
I totally feel you, but try to understand that the way you feel is valid and just because you may not be able to help yourself with your problems yet doesn't mean you a lair just means you haven't figured out the puzzle quite yet.
Who else didn't want to miss a single line because when you heard the first line you already know that this song is all about youuu. 💓💓
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Hospice nurse here… this could be our anthem in hospice. We take care of the patients and the families (no matter how crazy a situation we walk into) and we have to keep staying strong no matter what.
I love hospice nurses. So much respect going out to you.
When youtube recommendations know you better than your friends.
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So true 😄😒💙
Right?!?
Fucking oof
You wrote this for me. No question. I’m her. The bleeding heart fixer of everyone. Yet drowning in my silence
Sending you love sister ❤️ we're here for each other 💕✨✨
Of course I did 💚
Same ♥ thats for u if u need me im here
Same. You're not alone.
Virtual hug!
I'm always trying to help ppl probably cause I can't help myself..
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Beautiful song... why do i have tears in my eyes.... bless ur heart...
Hugs
Damn this made me emotional. This song is relatable as hell
much love!
I never knew this song existed and now that I am sitting here raw, broken, and frustrated I feel like I just learned alot about myself. Thank you. -A fixer
It's sad that we instantly have a name in our minds the moment we heard this song. I hope everyone finds someone who's willing to fix them and have someone to fix them.
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That's my mom, man. I just don't know how to help her sometimes, because she doesn't let me.
As a fixer myself, this hit really hard. It's been a long and difficult journey to understanding that it's not my responsibility to fix anyone...especially when doing so only breaks me even more. Thank you for this.
My daughter told me to listen to this, after a traumatic event. I’m in tears!! 🥺 do the work!! Stand tall, even when it hurts it’s worth the work! Tape and glue only works for so long!
Much love!
I can’t listen to this without crying! 🎁It’s so meee!! A I agree, us empaths feel the pain and don’t worry about our own. Thank you for this beautiful beautiful blessing🥺❤️
Thanks for bieng here!
Ikr
I feel noticed when listening to this song. I'm listening to this everyday from now on and showing all my friends that need to hear it
How is it going
@@the_sky_is_blue_and_so_am_I oh hey I am good. Just going to school.
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Oh what a beautiful song. The trumpet is beautiful.
Sitting here feeling numb and came across this song. I'm crying. I lost my myself in healing someone else and loving him too.
Really loved these words sang.
This
Finished my therapy session, left crying and disturbed with thousands of questions, take out my phone, open RUclips, this song pops up first. Damn you life with your coincidences, thank you!
Wow!!!!! I'm in tears listening to this beautiful truth!
I am a fixer who now prioritizes fixing myself first, and I now only fix people who ask for it, and appreciate my energy. We are learning 💪🏾.
How did you start?
@@Anna.21. I started by no longer allowing those who abused my kindness into my energy, or space. I completely cut them all off.
It is now my fundamental rule to only give where I am appreciated, where my kindness is reciprocated
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I wish you all the love and wisdom in caring for your beautiful fixer souls 💯❤️🌹.
SO proud of you! It sounds simple, but most of us fixers understand how much fight it takes to get to where you are now. Good for you.
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I could've written this! ❤️
I prayed for healing and comfort and this is what I got. Thank you!
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This is not just a song,this is a feeling 💜
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Thank you for such a beautiful lyrically written song from those who are highly sensitive and dealing with depression. This is a masterpiece the world needs to hear. We are all creatures of habit. Some of us just get sick in a continuous loop until someone is courageous enough to see the beauty beneath the broken!!
I never knew I needed a song, until I heard this beautiful song!
This song found me. I've been listening for months. It's my go to when I need that reminder to fix myself before trying to help others.
Admit it, you didn’t look for this song. It just found you and now you get to cry by yourself cuz it’s probably not the best that you relate lol. ;w;
Edit: Whoa that's a lot of likes...
Why you gotta call me out like this
Stop calling me out (｡ŏ﹏ŏ)
No shit thanks
yes actually-
So true
I almost forgot about this song. Thank you for recommending this to me randomly.
My beautiful daughter (16) sent me this song. I have never felt as seen and validated. Of course I cried! Hehe
This song made me feel so raw and naked, all I did to hide away my issues and this song rips them from my hiding places slowly and painfully. I'm tired, I'm sad, I'm lost, I'm lonely in a house full of family this Thanksgiving. I can't get over them leaving me here, I miss them so much I can barely breathe 😪 I just want my dad, mom, and brother back 💔
I study counselling psychology and counsel some people myself. While we are taught the importance of self care and keeping ourselves happy etc, I'm going to share this with my program classmates. A lot of them will resonate and others maybe can use this song to help put what the clients feel into words
Much love to all Fixers who are trying their best to fix others and to survive this world
Beautiful❤️ I'm a broken fixer. I make others smile as I hide pain,I'm there for others as I fight demons alone.I've given sunsets to others,there isn't any left for me♡ seeing them shine makes me happy❤ God Bless the kind hearted & the broken fixers
I'm sure the songwriter is such a gentleman who understands women. God bless you.
I don't even know why I'm here. But I'm crying when he sang the first line. And now I'm a crying mess. This song made me realize that I was always the "shoulder to cry on," the one who's always available and "one call away" and the one who listens to either the loudest rants or most silent chaos, but no one bothers to do the same for me.
Welcome to the club....
You are not alone ❤ I know it's hard but you are loved and I'm here fighting just like you are
For me, it's not that nobody bothers to do the same for me... It's that I'm always too reluctant to reach out for their help until I'm super close to the despair even horizon...
Thanks to Brent Morgan, whenever I feel like there's no room for me anymore, I come to his channel, and feel better in the end. God bless you because you may have saved many lives0
I was always told I was a fixer, even though I was the most broken inside. I was fighting my own battles and didn't feel like anyone was there to help me. This song relates to me so much. Thank you so much for such a beautiful song as this one.
I'm dedicating this song to my mother because my mother is always helping us fix our problems while she always hides her problems and cries alone.
Super relatable as a male, my whole life story tbh. Ive always found it easy to help others but can never help myself. I choose others over me, i mean I am even pursuing a career in psychology... this song hits hard tbh
Amen,which is how i became a doormat.Now only more focused on myself.
I can relate!
U guys i hope this makes it to the top im a female but i hope u find someone to help fix u ♥
Love love love this song!!! Congrats Brent! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks Laurie!
This song paints a perfect image of me. River of tears shed. My friend's are pointing out how much of a fighter I am, but can't tell them I am a fighter with no one beside her. Oh, how I yearn for things to be different. Those animations with a hug is hit the most.
wow this song makes my soul ache. sometimes you really dont notice how badly you need to fix yourself when you focus on fixing others. being there for others all the time is a crushing task.
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I Really Love this Song it made me feel like Someone's Understand my Side.. really appreciated the lyrics and Brent Morgan Voice ❤️❤️❤️
This has to be the most beautiful song I've heard in a long time. The imagery, the melody and the lyrics work beautifully and you delivered it perfectly. It moved me as a good song should. Thank you Brent
What he said!
When a song puts yourself into perspective and you know things have got to change.
This song is so beautiful. This year I have faced being abused my husband, missing my son who would of been 2, I didn’t get to see my step daughter, I lost my job, he took the car, and I blamed myself for it all. I’m finally looking forward and trying to care for myself, and this reminds me I can’t help others if I don’t care for myself ❤️ I found my new repeat 🥰
thanks alissa!!!!
You hang in there sweetei. I'm a former fixer and former abused woman. You can do anything you put your mind to!
I'm sorry about all of this! There's a world still full of joy and love- it's for you❤❤
I've been waiting for this
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I know I am In need of fixing. I have no prescriptions at all ... though Ironically enough we both know what we want and besides him needing his girls but me... his dedicated loyal subject of his hearts and his loins longing
Think shes already in a horrible place. Surrounded by people who lied to her while she was forced to be transparent and never allowed to sit down and feel.
with tears down my face, this one hits deep to my soul.. thank you for putting words to our feelings... God bless! May I fix anything or you while i'm up???!?!
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Hands down... this is a beautiful song 🥰
It's been over 2 years and each time this song plays, silent tears still flow without fail. The warmth from feeling seen turns into ache from becoming aware of my reality all over again. It is strong enough to lift the heaviest floodgates. Thank you, Brent. 💜
This song makes me think of my mom. Love her so much. Hope she never grows old
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The first 2 lines started and my tears started to roll down endlessly!! I don't know why listening to this, makes me feels like someone is comforting me.
I.. cried.. thank you for this beautiful song.
Learning to heal my own soul but the healing others keeps you going..
"She's a lover, who won't love herself"
Calling me out again I see
My bad
This song speaks my heart & soul. Thank you ❤️
This song speaks to me at the exact moment I need it most. Thank you.
Just when I felt like giving up. This gave me strength. And comfort.
The music is so soothing.. The lyrics are so emotional... It's really beautiful. The whole song is like an emotional rollercoaster.
I have never seen such beautiful and coherent lyrics before... This is amazing and magical and needs to be shared with the entire world!💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
I’ve never heard a more incredibly true song! Wow!!
I can’t stop replaying!
I love this. Hits home, 5 years of fixing myself, empathy can be controlled and you can fall in love with yourself
I'm glad this randomly showed up, I really needed this. It's such a great, sweet song❤️
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LEGEND!!! You are such an inspiration man. This song is so touching. God bless you Brent 😇❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Riana!
Never heard a song that absolutely speaks about EVERYTHING I feel. I literally had a crying spell this morning around 6am. All alone, in the dark, in my room. I felt every emotion that he's singing about. I feel so overwhelmed so often and under loved and appreciated every single day of my life. I feel like I'm always trying to please someone and be a helper, and I'm constantly shown that I'm an afterthought to (almost) everyone in my life. No one knows what I go through daily because I just put on a smile and act as if everything is okay! Thank you for this song. I know I'm not alone or special in this, but it sure helps knowing that I'm not alone. (Not that that's a good thing) I'm done rambling now gn.
This song is so beautiful... I’m so happy that someone finally put this into words. It sucks feeling like this but not having a way to convey it to someone. Thank you for making me and so many others feel heard.
A masterpiece.
I cannot believe I didn’t find you sooner.
I’m a new fan and proud of it.
This made me cry. After all these years of fixing others I finally realized a few weeks ago that I'm the one who needs fixing. This song is so relatable. Kinda freaked out about how accurate it is as this came in my recommended. I love this so much omg
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Found this on a RUclips rabbit trail and....my God. This is a masterpiece and yet disturbingly specific to my life 😂 thank you for sharing this with the world!
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Well, I certainly feel called out!! Beautifully tragic song that a lot of us who are healer’s that can’t heal ourselves but we absorb the suffering of others to lighten their burden.