I felt slow my whole life - Timers and alarms are a must have for me daily because I tend to let time drift and not finish the task - or even know what I completed - Admitting I am slow is hard - I'm intelligent but I'm slow? I don't want this apart of me because then I accept that there is room to grow- room to improve - I hope this makes sense -
Ni mind friends, Ni mind. This reminds me of the third part of Queen's song I Want It All where Freddie Mercury sings I'm a man with a one track mind, too much to do in a one lifetime. It's kind of the opposite in reality, but it actually looks that way. Our minds have so many tracks that it's difficult for us to deal with the external reality. We are simply not into concrete things or if we are for a sertain thing we forget all the surrounding world. For example my father loves to ask concrete questions and it irritates me so much because concrete things or concrete requirements mess up my mind and inner balance, but when I set my own paralel reality no one can get out of what I have began, especially writing a book. When I once begin to write I will write for days and nights an once, if I once stop it will be otherwise. It's said that we have some ADHD in us. It's that difficulties of stepping into a concrete and limited case or situation.
We need 50% extra time for away with the fairies time. Or I like your 4 times better. .we benefit from naming down a hard list, shopping is not joy unless you double the time and budget. Self discipline is or superpower Perfecting imperfection is my new challenge. It's not the destination or product. It's the discipline of regular doing of it.
This is very accurate to me. I always feel frustrated whenever I can't get stuff done faster than they should. Thank you for pointing out that as INFJs we should do more than we think. Sometimes we as INFJs get too caught up in our head which makes us feel satisfied instead of doing the necessary work itself. Dang, you got me with this video.
My problem is that I keep feeling compelled to tell people in my life about what I am planning to do and then feeling bad about not having it done the next several times I see them again.
dont tell anyone, you get dopamine hit for talking about goals. your brain doesn't know the difference between doing something or talking about it. find accountability partner. to build trust in yourself you need to build evidence. do it for others who need you to win, its amazing what are capable of achieving for others. check video of mayron golden on influence. i don't wish you good luck go create your own!
I was just getting impatient why can't I get my goals done faster. And your notification pops up. Imma watch the whole video and update soon. You're a lifesaver.
It sucks when corporate is the one that sets the guidelines. They are not the ones doing our job. They have no idea! They say this is how long this task should take . They don't consider any outside factors like customers asking questions or other interruptions. Things never go smoothly. I have been having to take shortcuts, taking away from the quality of my work and I'm still falling short of their guidelines. I just stopped going to work because I'm tired of fighting with my superiors everyday. I can't handle the constant tension in my environment. If I feel unappreciated and my efforts go unnoticed, why bother investing? This is why I always do better working for myself.
Oh I do like your happy ending from 16:19 to 16:58 leading up to the concept that "you now actually teach your subconscious that you're somebody who gets stuff done!" That sure would be nice 🤗
I have an internal auditor at my job this week. So much stuff is incomplete or just not done. That being said, a lot of it IS and is high quality. I just can’t do everything and have to prioritize the most important things. It drives me nuts being so finely scrutinized and making me very tense and anxious.
I really needed to hear this one. It’s important to not get overwhelmed and set a schedule stick to it and give myself plenty of time. This helps a lot. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I always felt stressed at school because I always felt rushed to learn things and always felt like I never had enough time to get work done. I always ended up having homework every night. Needless to say, I never enjoyed school much at all.
I go general and simple with this. Basically, I intend to just get task 1 done today and how great that will benefit me. No pressure, as I remind myself that overextending myself getting hundreds of tasks done doesn’t really feel good. I feel exhausted. I want to enjoy and be proud of each thing as I go at a calm steady pace. Then I have time for the next task that I hadn’t planned for and feel really good about myself. If I learned one big sobering thing about work, it’s that your always replaceable and nobody gives a crap about you burning yourself out to please them. Really, you get a good attaboy or expectation to always perform that way. No thanks! I saw a manager at my company die from cancer and he was replaced and all the new people that came in never knew him. He’s a memory for some and nonexistent to others. My point is, life is bigger than external validation and when you see the big picture, it’s really not that satisfying
The only race I'm in is the race with myself. This video is a grand awakening to my senses. Gone are the days where I am frustrated by how slow I am at my tasks. It's about getting things done at my own pace. Thanks Wenzes, you are a life saver!
Yes! I struggled with this for so long. It’s another moment where I’m grateful for mbti because those productivity videos or books really can’t understand this process we go through. Your advice is practically what I had to learn to implement a little while ago and that’s the only time where my ideas made it to completion consistently. Such a good video!
Im pulling through rn! No longer looking towards a boyfriend, a boss, family members, parents or even peers to cheer me on. Im slowly learnimg how to motivate myself to move towards fulfilling my vision, even if im just inching along. I accomplished a lot in the past 10 yrs but it was based on comparison and competition and to get others who were achieving their goals to respect me. No more!!!!! This is abt me learning to let go of the addiction of feeling good from dopamine daydreams and dealing with the sobering reality through focus, grit, problem-solving + faith, intuition, and flow. Having a framework does make a huge difference and Im grateful to you for it, Wenzes!😘
If I have problems getting something done, it's usually because of what's beyond my control. Nonetheless, I like making To-Do lists to help keep me on track. I don't always get everything marked off, but I still commend myself for what I do get completed. Whatever I don't finish, I just list for the next day's tasks. Keeping deadlines for book releases can be hard though, like babies, they don't always come at the expected due date, especially for self-publishers, but I try to keep them as best as I can. Regardless, I don't care who doubts my capabilities because whatever I do I'm really doing it for myself and not others.
Yes, and again I say YES! 🙂 As an "older" INFJ, I can say that for sure. The two things that stood out for me were: 1. Allowing extra time to get things done. 2. The value of "taking action." I learned early to arrive to places on time - long story - but taught myself to allow for extra time. It was a good habit to learn, especially because my work now demands that I be in a different place each day. But sometimes I need to remind myself to apply that wisdom about other things as well. Taking action (the dubious relationship we INFJ - especially me - have with Se. But thankfully, I have some good experiences of when I've taken action and it's worked well, and I try to remind myself when I find myself getting caught up in thinking rather than acting.
Perfect... This will help me as I finish my kitchen remodel that I started 11 months ago. I have found that scheduling a specific time period is great, giving myself plenty of time to get the job done. When I hit those times, I get energized for the next project that day, avoiding getting overwhelmed by giving myself the extra time. It really does feel like 20 minutes and not an hour, even though it is the same hour you were dreading earlier.
The promise at the end is the truth. I made a promise to someone. I still haven’t fulfilled. Loser or winner? Is popping up in my mind. Damn it,I can feel both perspectives out and obviously the winner will lead to more better outcomes hopefully. It’s the risk damn it.
My problem is, I have 300 things mostly finished, mostly, but not completely. Life's responsibilities get very distracting. Something comes up and I get distracted, then something else, then something else, and I never seen to get back to the original task. I'm working on that!!! I'm not beating myself up over it, lol! Like the saying goes, " life is what happens when you are making plans."
You don't know just how much grateful I am with you! A lot of your videos really help me and you are the only youtuber I know that talk about INFJs like a serious topic, almost all of the rest just repeat the stereotypes and It gets really boring. But your content it's just something really special. Thank you very much!
Thanks for taking the time to actually make a video in response (I believe) to my comment on a video asking for a tip on tackling procrastination. Many thanks
Being self-employed I have no routine, so when I'm really busy I'm more motivated to do things but I've got less time. But when work is quiet and I've got more time to do things I'm less motivated. Then when I look at all the things that need doing I often get overwhelmed and hardly anything gets done. So I try to do all the things that are a priority first. But as time goes by other things become a priority and I hardly get back to the things that have less priority but still need doing. And somewhere in there is my personal life. I just can't win!
My grad school program is self-driven. I was particular ill this semester and had to do the minimum. When my professor told me to be kind to myself and see the good in the physical output, I wanted to be really mean to myself because I hadn't done enough - but I was putting myself on an arbitrary deadline. My perception of time is so skewed.
Thank you so much, Wenzes! I tried this today and it really reduced the amount of anxiety that I otherwise feel on a day-to-day basis due to not being able to get things done on time!
I'm really enjoy your videos I have not took a test but everything in every single video I've watched the info given has helped resolve so things about me I've never been able to understand ... Why some stuff happens like it does..,. Even though I have allot to do ahead of me I was grateful for even just b the mental peace of mind I got and didn't feel so alienated or like I didn't belong here. I am excepting my weird seeming function processes and try to use it on how to get more about what I'm looking for. I'm focusing on me and my family and learning that I don't have to bend over backwards and give to everyone all the time and do without for myself. I'm dealing with manic depression and anxiety and with having them and trying to kinda rewire myself from walling up and holding back since I was a teen that now I feel caused lot's of inter damage with my preceptor of everything I start exhausted but learning about this helped allot bc it got me out of my loop and I was able to come up with more ways to get up and push on ...... I'm finially starting to feel ok with being me and ok with how I function way different and need different things to understand how each prices works. Knowing the why behind the way I function helped more than anything Thank you
After analyzing why I don't like to grocery shop, I realized it's due to certain things: the parking, the noise, the crowds, all of which can feel overwhelming both inside the store and out. To manage this successfully, I now go to the store to stock up on basics only once a month. I set my alarm, get up early, get to the store when it first opens, park up front, and the store is usually practically empty of other customers. I despise the obnoxious background music, so I take my own music and put in my earplugs so I can listen to what I enjoy and drown out the ugly stuff. The other thing I do is I make sure I bustle! I don't stroll leisurely through the isles, I move as quickly as possible and fill my cart with multiples of each item. I buy only a week's worth of fresh food like fruits and vegetables, but otherwise I buy a month's worth of everything else. I'm usually able to get through the checkout process quickly and make the minimum effort of small talk with the cashier. By the time I leave, usually in 30 minutes total, the store is beginning to fill up with people, but I'm on my way out of there and heading home to peace and quiet. It's only once a month, but it's totally worth it to make the effort on my terms and my comfort level.
Spot on I literally got stuck between going for groceries today but being compelled to write a few pages of my "book" 😜 it's not easy being INFJ with ADHD too 😊
I am one of those "older" INFJs. Things that really helped me were studying project management and tracking work time. I hope it is okay to recommend another RUclips video. Chris Croft has two that really helped me regarding project management (which translates to making realistic time estimates). He has one on Gannt charts, and maybe a second on developing a Gannt chart of Gannt charts. (I don't always go into that much detail, but the concept and doing it partially makes me recognize that I cannot do too many things that take 1/hour/3 months or two years at one time.) He also has a way of estimating how long tasks will take (which previous information on how much time they have taken me before or even just Googling how long it takes most people). It is doing a bell curve of the shortest and longest a project is likely to take then estimating the amount of time required to be successful 90% of the time. And then, of course, being okay with 1/10 things not happening on schedule as it is a calculated risk. (Of course the exact number/% depends on how much the project is quality/cost/schedule, and which are flexible if you get behind.) Tracking my work time really helped me in being able to tell myself and others how much time things will really take. At the beginning of this year I stopped doing so as workload got too heavy to take time to track, but had the previous year's data (and further back) so now that I am having so much trouble keeping up, I can try to get at least temporary help.
I'm doing my school project late like always. hahaha In the end the teacher tell me I did an awesome job and that the quality and info is really good. Then they say they will rest 3 point because of the deadline , so from a 10 score I get 7. It's been like this for years so is my seven curse. Tried to change before and be practical like everyone but just ended with an 7 or less and with a project that I hate it. After struggling a lot with this I finally understood: "I like to learn and I enjoy every part of my projects. If I'm learning I don't care anymore about grades." An insecure INFJ will think that their grades = their value as a person. I prefer when my "perfectionism" come from a place of curiosity and love for knowledge.
I also think that I learned better when I took my time and learned on my own or through webinars or an online challenge where I had more time to work on a project and was able to watch many webinars in order for the information to sink in and helped me to remember the facts better.
Wow, this is scarily accurate. 🙏🏻 As most of her videos are. I can relate to this on a fundamental level. Hit all the targets with this one. Wenzes. 🎯🎯🎯🎯
I love your page you're like right on the money with how I am in life about my learning just everything you're like right on the money I didn't even know about this stuff
Do I feel like I have an inherent problem with finishing stuff in time? Yes. It depends on what has to be done though. If it has low priority and is not a "show stopper" if I don't accomplish it right away, then it gets put on the back burner. It gets done eventually. However, if it has high priority and cannot wait, then it gets done right away.
I can totally understand this....my prob is that it's not just me realizing something takes way longer than I thought..,...my issue is my job is actually the issue. I have certain things to do at work depending on the shift I work.... I have come to terms with it takes me longer to do, even what they think is a basic simple task, way longer than other s there.. I have tried several ways to attempt these tasks and no matter what I do everyone at work tells me I'm slow and need to get faster and I have issue of always being 10 to 15 min late everywhere. so even if I plan to be early and actually start early. They single me out allot andi feel like they talk to me like I'm dumb. I have my personal work ethic I have to maintain and I've tried explaining to them as best I could on how I function differently and why these easy things that they said I take to long to do TJ you what's fore6ver . I have looked and studied stuff at home to help me with my job and they treat me like I'm the worst smoke and only do stuff my way and when I want to do them that I have no respect for my job or ppl that work there. And sure manager told me that she was not gonna take me seriously or listen to me until I got my butt to work on time everyday. I'm in customer service and customers on other side of the counter give me nothing but great feedback' and compliment me even if I didn't find what they needed. So I'm confused on how to handle freaking with this. I mean I hear my name all day when I work and counter one time and just in 4 hours it was hollered out 67 times I mean come on....I have to finish what I'm doing before starting something else or I tend to be slow with the brain fog feeling and moving even slower. I like my job and I like learning but how I feel mentally when I'm there is horrible and draining and customers notice something with me is and constantly get asked what's wrong.. this is one of my top 3 things to work on first and not try to do and fix all of me at once
For a long definitely was terrible at this. Going to recommend the book The Goal by Eliyahu M. Goldratt. The theory of constraints helped a lot with this
Wenzes, I've watched a number of videos, it literally sounds like you're talking to me directly. Thank you for the incredible content! :) I'm really confused as to if I'm INFJ or INFP. I did a basic free test and it came up with INFP and then when I checked out some comparisons, I feel connected to some of both while specifically being disconnected with some ideas for both. Is there a chance I could be a bit of both?
I actually have a job where I'm required to do certain things in a specific time and I always seem to do those things way I have scheduled just in case there's something that restricts my ability to do them on time so don't even know where this concept is coming from¿¿??¿
Unrealistic expectations of our own capacity in real physical life. Time blindness In our joined up magical mind it's a sinch. 😂 At least double Reslistically triple and you still just sneek it in. Too ma y choices. Cerebral!! Love the word. Im gonna steal that. We need 50% 'away with the fairies' time.
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Do you feel like you have an inherent problem with finishing stuff in time?
I felt slow my whole life - Timers and alarms are a must have for me daily because I tend to let time drift and not finish the task - or even know what I completed - Admitting I am slow is hard - I'm intelligent but I'm slow? I don't want this apart of me because then I accept that there is room to grow- room to improve - I hope this makes sense -
nope not really, I either wanna get it done or dont.
Ni mind friends, Ni mind. This reminds me of the third part of Queen's song I Want It All where Freddie Mercury sings I'm a man with a one track mind, too much to do in a one lifetime. It's kind of the opposite in reality, but it actually looks that way. Our minds have so many tracks that it's difficult for us to deal with the external reality. We are simply not into concrete things or if we are for a sertain thing we forget all the surrounding world. For example my father loves to ask concrete questions and it irritates me so much because concrete things or concrete requirements mess up my mind and inner balance, but when I set my own paralel reality no one can get out of what I have began, especially writing a book. When I once begin to write I will write for days and nights an once, if I once stop it will be otherwise. It's said that we have some ADHD in us. It's that difficulties of stepping into a concrete and limited case or situation.
We need 50% extra time for away with the fairies time.
Or I like your 4 times better.
.we benefit from naming down a hard list, shopping is not joy unless you double the time and budget.
Self discipline is or superpower
Perfecting imperfection is my new challenge.
It's not the destination or product.
It's the discipline of regular doing of it.
This is very accurate to me. I always feel frustrated whenever I can't get stuff done faster than they should. Thank you for pointing out that as INFJs we should do more than we think. Sometimes we as INFJs get too caught up in our head which makes us feel satisfied instead of doing the necessary work itself. Dang, you got me with this video.
My problem is that I keep feeling compelled to tell people in my life about what I am planning to do and then feeling bad about not having it done the next several times I see them again.
I do that too!
I experience this, as well.
Same here
dont tell anyone, you get dopamine hit for talking about goals. your brain doesn't know the difference between doing something or talking about it. find accountability partner. to build trust in yourself you need to build evidence. do it for others who need you to win, its amazing what are capable of achieving for others. check video of mayron golden on influence. i don't wish you good luck go create your own!
I was just getting impatient why can't I get my goals done faster. And your notification pops up. Imma watch the whole video and update soon. You're a lifesaver.
It sucks when corporate is the one that sets the guidelines. They are not the ones doing our job. They have no idea! They say this is how long this task should take . They don't consider any outside factors like customers asking questions or other interruptions. Things never go smoothly. I have been having to take shortcuts, taking away from the quality of my work and I'm still falling short of their guidelines. I just stopped going to work because I'm tired of fighting with my superiors everyday. I can't handle the constant tension in my environment. If I feel unappreciated and my efforts go unnoticed, why bother investing? This is why I always do better working for myself.
Oh I do like your happy ending from 16:19 to 16:58 leading up to the concept that "you now actually teach your subconscious that you're somebody who gets stuff done!" That sure would be nice 🤗
I have an internal auditor at my job this week. So much stuff is incomplete or just not done. That being said, a lot of it IS and is high quality. I just can’t do everything and have to prioritize the most important things. It drives me nuts being so finely scrutinized and making me very tense and anxious.
I really needed to hear this one. It’s important to not get overwhelmed and set a schedule stick to it and give myself plenty of time. This helps a lot. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I always felt stressed at school because I always felt rushed to learn things and always felt like I never had enough time to get work done. I always ended up having homework every night. Needless to say, I never enjoyed school much at all.
Great points about feeling behind or slow and how it affects your self-esteem. Thanks for sharing these insights!
I go general and simple with this. Basically, I intend to just get task 1 done today and how great that will benefit me. No pressure, as I remind myself that overextending myself getting hundreds of tasks done doesn’t really feel good. I feel exhausted. I want to enjoy and be proud of each thing as I go at a calm steady pace. Then I have time for the next task that I hadn’t planned for and feel really good about myself. If I learned one big sobering thing about work, it’s that your always replaceable and nobody gives a crap about you burning yourself out to please them. Really, you get a good attaboy or expectation to always perform that way. No thanks! I saw a manager at my company die from cancer and he was replaced and all the new people that came in never knew him. He’s a memory for some and nonexistent to others. My point is, life is bigger than external validation and when you see the big picture, it’s really not that satisfying
The only race I'm in is the race with myself. This video is a grand awakening to my senses. Gone are the days where I am frustrated by how slow I am at my tasks. It's about getting things done at my own pace. Thanks Wenzes, you are a life saver!
Yes! I struggled with this for so long. It’s another moment where I’m grateful for mbti because those productivity videos or books really can’t understand this process we go through. Your advice is practically what I had to learn to implement a little while ago and that’s the only time where my ideas made it to completion consistently. Such a good video!
Im pulling through rn! No longer looking towards a boyfriend, a boss, family members, parents or even peers to cheer me on. Im slowly learnimg how to motivate myself to move towards fulfilling my vision, even if im just inching along. I accomplished a lot in the past 10 yrs but it was based on comparison and competition and to get others who were achieving their goals to respect me. No more!!!!! This is abt me learning to let go of the addiction of feeling good from dopamine daydreams and dealing with the sobering reality through focus, grit, problem-solving + faith, intuition, and flow. Having a framework does make a huge difference and Im grateful to you for it, Wenzes!😘
If I have problems getting something done, it's usually because of what's beyond my control. Nonetheless, I like making To-Do lists to help keep me on track. I don't always get everything marked off, but I still commend myself for what I do get completed. Whatever I don't finish, I just list for the next day's tasks. Keeping deadlines for book releases can be hard though, like babies, they don't always come at the expected due date, especially for self-publishers, but I try to keep them as best as I can. Regardless, I don't care who doubts my capabilities because whatever I do I'm really doing it for myself and not others.
Yes, and again I say YES! 🙂 As an "older" INFJ, I can say that for sure.
The two things that stood out for me were:
1. Allowing extra time to get things done.
2. The value of "taking action."
I learned early to arrive to places on time - long story - but taught myself to allow for extra time. It was a good habit to learn, especially because my work now demands that I be in a different place each day.
But sometimes I need to remind myself to apply that wisdom about other things as well.
Taking action (the dubious relationship we INFJ - especially me - have with Se. But thankfully, I have some good experiences of when I've taken action and it's worked well, and I try to remind myself when I find myself getting caught up in thinking rather than acting.
Perfect... This will help me as I finish my kitchen remodel that I started 11 months ago. I have found that scheduling a specific time period is great, giving myself plenty of time to get the job done. When I hit those times, I get energized for the next project that day, avoiding getting overwhelmed by giving myself the extra time. It really does feel like 20 minutes and not an hour, even though it is the same hour you were dreading earlier.
The promise at the end is the truth. I made a promise to someone. I still haven’t fulfilled. Loser or winner? Is popping up in my mind. Damn it,I can feel both perspectives out and obviously the winner will lead to more better outcomes hopefully. It’s the risk damn it.
My problem is, I have 300 things mostly finished, mostly, but not completely. Life's responsibilities get very distracting. Something comes up and I get distracted, then something else, then something else, and I never seen to get back to the original task. I'm working on that!!! I'm not beating myself up over it, lol! Like the saying goes, " life is what happens when you are making plans."
You don't know just how much grateful I am with you!
A lot of your videos really help me and you are the only youtuber I know that talk about INFJs like a serious topic, almost all of the rest just repeat the stereotypes and It gets really boring. But your content it's just something really special. Thank you very much!
Thanks for taking the time to actually make a video in response (I believe) to my comment on a video asking for a tip on tackling procrastination. Many thanks
Being self-employed I have no routine, so when I'm really busy I'm more motivated to do things but I've got less time. But when work is quiet and I've got more time to do things I'm less motivated. Then when I look at all the things that need doing I often get overwhelmed and hardly anything gets done. So I try to do all the things that are a priority first. But as time goes by other things become a priority and I hardly get back to the things that have less priority but still need doing. And somewhere in there is my personal life. I just can't win!
Wow Wenzes, you're the best INFJ advisor I've seen yet. So unexpectedly accurate and at the same time, so useful the advises you are giving!
So true. I have been doing it for years. Now I feel better and know what to do. Thanks so much for this video. ❤
My grad school program is self-driven. I was particular ill this semester and had to do the minimum.
When my professor told me to be kind to myself and see the good in the physical output, I wanted to be really mean to myself because I hadn't done enough - but I was putting myself on an arbitrary deadline. My perception of time is so skewed.
Thank you so much, Wenzes! I tried this today and it really reduced the amount of anxiety that I otherwise feel on a day-to-day basis due to not being able to get things done on time!
That was really insightful...will definitely work on this. From tomorrow it's a - New day, new schedule
I'm really enjoy your videos I have not took a test but everything in every single video I've watched the info given has helped resolve so things about me I've never been able to understand ... Why some stuff happens like it does..,. Even though I have allot to do ahead of me I was grateful for even just b the mental peace of mind I got and didn't feel so alienated or like I didn't belong here. I am excepting my weird seeming function processes and try to use it on how to get more about what I'm looking for. I'm focusing on me and my family and learning that I don't have to bend over backwards and give to everyone all the time and do without for myself. I'm dealing with manic depression and anxiety and with having them and trying to kinda rewire myself from walling up and holding back since I was a teen that now I feel caused lot's of inter damage with my preceptor of everything I start exhausted but learning about this helped allot bc it got me out of my loop and I was able to come up with more ways to get up and push on ...... I'm finially starting to feel ok with being me and ok with how I function way different and need different things to understand how each prices works. Knowing the why behind the way I function helped more than anything
Thank you
This is me in so many ways! Wenzeslawa, thank you for you for your vey actionable insights!!!
After analyzing why I don't like to grocery shop, I realized it's due to certain things: the parking, the noise, the crowds, all of which can feel overwhelming both inside the store and out. To manage this successfully, I now go to the store to stock up on basics only once a month. I set my alarm, get up early, get to the store when it first opens, park up front, and the store is usually practically empty of other customers. I despise the obnoxious background music, so I take my own music and put in my earplugs so I can listen to what I enjoy and drown out the ugly stuff. The other thing I do is I make sure I bustle! I don't stroll leisurely through the isles, I move as quickly as possible and fill my cart with multiples of each item. I buy only a week's worth of fresh food like fruits and vegetables, but otherwise I buy a month's worth of everything else. I'm usually able to get through the checkout process quickly and make the minimum effort of small talk with the cashier. By the time I leave, usually in 30 minutes total, the store is beginning to fill up with people, but I'm on my way out of there and heading home to peace and quiet. It's only once a month, but it's totally worth it to make the effort on my terms and my comfort level.
Spot on I literally got stuck between going for groceries today but being compelled to write a few pages of my "book" 😜 it's not easy being INFJ with ADHD too 😊
Wow! This is so accurate for me. Really helpful video. Thanks a lot
I am one of those "older" INFJs. Things that really helped me were studying project management and tracking work time. I hope it is okay to recommend another RUclips video.
Chris Croft has two that really helped me regarding project management (which translates to making realistic time estimates).
He has one on Gannt charts, and maybe a second on developing a Gannt chart of Gannt charts. (I don't always go into that much detail, but the concept and doing it partially makes me recognize that I cannot do too many things that take 1/hour/3 months or two years at one time.)
He also has a way of estimating how long tasks will take (which previous information on how much time they have taken me before or even just Googling how long it takes most people). It is doing a bell curve of the shortest and longest a project is likely to take then estimating the amount of time required to be successful 90% of the time. And then, of course, being okay with 1/10 things not happening on schedule as it is a calculated risk. (Of course the exact number/% depends on how much the project is quality/cost/schedule, and which are flexible if you get behind.)
Tracking my work time really helped me in being able to tell myself and others how much time things will really take. At the beginning of this year I stopped doing so as workload got too heavy to take time to track, but had the previous year's data (and further back) so now that I am having so much trouble keeping up, I can try to get at least temporary help.
you have been talking about this since I started watching two years ago and I am now just getting it! 😂 yes INFJs sure learn slowly
It always was so frustrating to be me!! If I had known these concepts years ago!
I'm doing my school project late like always. hahaha In the end the teacher tell me I did an awesome job and that the quality and info is really good. Then they say they will rest 3 point because of the deadline , so from a 10 score I get 7. It's been like this for years so is my seven curse. Tried to change before and be practical like everyone but just ended with an 7 or less and with a project that I hate it.
After struggling a lot with this I finally understood: "I like to learn and I enjoy every part of my projects. If I'm learning I don't care anymore about grades." An insecure INFJ will think that their grades = their value as a person. I prefer when my "perfectionism" come from a place of curiosity and love for knowledge.
Im infj and i cant procrastinate. Like i cant even feel like i can relax until whatever needs done is done. Maybe im special
I also think that I learned better when I took my time and learned on my own or through webinars or an online challenge where I had more time to work on a project and was able to watch many webinars in order for the information to sink in and helped me to remember the facts better.
Is it me? Or are we being spied on!
I needed to hear this just on the right time
We are often IN time without being ON time. :-) :-)
Wow, this is scarily accurate. 🙏🏻 As most of her videos are. I can relate to this on a fundamental level. Hit all the targets with this one. Wenzes. 🎯🎯🎯🎯
I love your page you're like right on the money with how I am in life about my learning just everything you're like right on the money I didn't even know about this stuff
Thank you so much!!!!!!!😭😭❤❤
I have a really bad habit of grossly underestimating how much time is needed to get somethings done.
Is there a correlation with INFJ and autism by any chance?
I have both autism and adhd as an infj
Do I feel like I have an inherent problem with finishing stuff in time? Yes. It depends on what has to be done though. If it has low priority and is not a "show stopper" if I don't accomplish it right away, then it gets put on the back burner. It gets done eventually. However, if it has high priority and cannot wait, then it gets done right away.
I can totally understand this....my prob is that it's not just me realizing something takes way longer than I thought..,...my issue is my job is actually the issue. I have certain things to do at work depending on the shift I work.... I have come to terms with it takes me longer to do, even what they think is a basic simple task, way longer than other s there.. I have tried several ways to attempt these tasks and no matter what I do everyone at work tells me I'm slow and need to get faster and I have issue of always being 10 to 15 min late everywhere. so even if I plan to be early and actually start early. They single me out allot andi feel like they talk to me like I'm dumb. I have my personal work ethic I have to maintain and I've tried explaining to them as best I could on how I function differently and why these easy things that they said I take to long to do TJ you what's fore6ver . I have looked and studied stuff at home to help me with my job and they treat me like I'm the worst smoke and only do stuff my way and when I want to do them that I have no respect for my job or ppl that work there. And sure manager told me that she was not gonna take me seriously or listen to me until I got my butt to work on time everyday. I'm in customer service and customers on other side of the counter give me nothing but great feedback' and compliment me even if I didn't find what they needed. So I'm confused on how to handle freaking with this. I mean I hear my name
all day when I work and counter one time and just in 4 hours it was hollered out 67 times I mean come on....I have to finish what I'm doing before starting something else or I tend to be slow with the brain fog feeling and moving even slower. I like my job and I like learning but how I feel mentally when I'm there is horrible and draining and customers notice something with me is and constantly get asked what's wrong.. this is one of my top 3 things to work on first and not try to do and fix all of me at once
For a long definitely was terrible at this. Going to recommend the book The Goal by Eliyahu M. Goldratt. The theory of constraints helped a lot with this
^ Company I was at never missed a deadline for 7 years using this
wow I actually did this today
Very relatable 😊
We are INFJ. We see REAL people...
Wenzes, I've watched a number of videos, it literally sounds like you're talking to me directly. Thank you for the incredible content! :)
I'm really confused as to if I'm INFJ or INFP. I did a basic free test and it came up with INFP and then when I checked out some comparisons, I feel connected to some of both while specifically being disconnected with some ideas for both. Is there a chance I could be a bit of both?
Me right now. So much things to do but can't seem to finish my stuffs on time. 🙄😭
We don’t want to keep loved ones waiting on us that’s why we minimize the actual time so we don’t upset other people’s feelings
DO NOT DO THIS !!
Stressed to the Max
When the world doesn’t match the way we think. Lol. Focus on the task and not the timeframe.
I actually have a job where I'm required to do certain things in a specific time and I always seem to do those things way I have scheduled just in case there's something that restricts my ability to do them on time so don't even know where this concept is coming from¿¿??¿
There is NO WORDS on earth that will defeat Gods will for his children’s lives 😂
You will SUCCEED in the end, I promise 😇
Stay focused and true to god ❤️
🤣yes, all the above!
Unrealistic expectations of our own capacity in real physical life. Time blindness
In our joined up magical mind it's a sinch.
😂
At least double
Reslistically triple and you still just sneek it in.
Too ma y choices.
Cerebral!!
Love the word.
Im gonna steal that.
We need 50% 'away with the fairies' time.
When you surpass other people’s standards they can’t handle the 💨
Haters! Get away ASAP!
We are inner beings because even our intermediate family wants the worst for us! Thank you
I thought I'm the only one that looses focus as much as I do
Are you INfJ too?🙆🙋
Your videos are not time fluid...I m going to send you a picture..