3 Signs That Most Depressed People Have
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- Опубликовано: 10 ноя 2020
- Depression comes with a number of symptoms that that cause a certain level of impairment in your day to day functioning. I talk about what it means to have functional impairment in this video on What is a Normal Depression? • Feeling Depressed vs H...
So anyone of these symptoms in isolation doesn’t establish depression. Instead, the way to think of it is people with depression usually have one of these symptoms along with several other symptoms like sleep problems, irritability, inability to enjoy things, trouble focusing, etc.
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Liu RT, Kleiman EM, Nestor BA, Cheek SM. The Hopelessness Theory of Depression: A Quarter Century in Review. Clin Psychol (New York). 2015;22(4):345-365.
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Suscribed. Thank you for such important videos. Can you recommend what kind of specialist you recommend when you have these symptoms? I have been trying to find a psychiatrist for months now, un successfully
@@Paz66 A general psychiatrist can handle this. If you can't find a psychiatrist, many primary care physicians (internal medicine and family practice) will also treat depression. Therapy is also a treatment for depression. You could see a master's level therapist or a psychologist.
@@DrTraceyMarks thanks so much for taking the time to respond. I truly appreciate what you are doing for this community. God bless you
I have a question, I believe I'm struggling with certain problems. I'm not sure if I'm trying to get attention or I'm trying to give myself reasons to feel depressed. I've injured myself in the past and then talked to a teacher about it. Then I've watched this sort of videos trying to see if what I have is an issue. I'm not sure how to go around proving whether I actually have a problem or I'm creating one in my head.
I think that i need therapy cause i feel like i have depression but im afraid to tell my mom cause we don't talk much about that kind of stuff
Depression is a lonely disease. Many years ago, when I was grappling with major depression, a family member said, "If you had joined the military, this wouldn't happen. They would have made a man out of you." I replied, "Is that why veterans never commit suicide?"
I'm sorry *hugs*
@@Churlz thank you. That comment made me stronger. I realized that I had to save myself, because no one else could see that I was drowning.
Here in the UK in London about 20% of the homeless population is ex forces. Men with serious mental health problems abandoned by the same country they served. They disproportionately suffer from depression/ anxiety so your family member is talking nonsense
@@user-gi6ee8vj1y Trust me, I know that fact more than I could count. You're not alone, but in the end you have to decide for yourself. It's lonely as hell and I wish it weren't the case, but it is. I wish things were better for us.
After I read your comment, I cried. Truly. That made me cry. I cried from the frustration it must have made you feel. I cried because of the stupidity of it and how unhelpful it was. I cried because of how completely alone, misunderstood, and
“Easily overwhelmed”, that’s me. The worst part of my depression is that I know very well EXACTLY the things that would make me feel better (exercise more, meditate, eat better) but consistency is so hard. Being an emotional person on top of all of that, is the icing on the cake.
If you feel like you need some help... You can talk to me
I know that feeling. It hurts to have very few friends. I often feel alone and sad.
100% this. It's difficult not to be so hard on ourselves when we dealing with this. Like we can see all the things that would help but there's a lot of barriers so the consistency just goes the window, and that feeds into the spiral of negative feelings.
I understand exactly what u mean.
So true
1. Low motivation in combination with fatigue
2. Hopelessness or Helplessness
3. Indecisiveness
Thank you!
2 out of three...
All of these are me, oh well idc about my suffering anymore I'm used to it.
i Can't make my mind up if i have two or all of them . . .
All 3...😏
It's frustrating when you accomplish something you felt was difficult like getting out of bed, exercising and doing the dishes but get taken for granted and criticized for not doing more.
Hi bananian....hope your doing better ...God bless
I hear you. Sorry they do not understand. I feel your pain.
Very frustrating!
I understand. I have memories of family members saying, "Just get up! Just push through it!". I couldn't even get out of bed and brush my teeth. If I did get up and shower, I would hear "OK great! What are you gonna do next?". They never knew how hard just getting out of bed was. Unless you have suffered, your family, friends and even therapists will never completely understand. I like this therapist, but unless they have suffered themselves I just don't think they can fully help a person like they need. Sorry, just my opinion and I've had multiple therapists.
@@katr9923 I don't like therapy either and I've been to several therapists. Helping myself works out better, plus watching these educational vids and reading about it.
When I am depressed, I eat more, I sleep less, I have bad mood swings, my room gets messier, I don't take care of my hygiene, I tend to constantly go into my own world and block out others.
I can relate
Do you live in my head...Thankyou for verbalizing my thoughts...
Relatable AF
I sleep more and eat less. Rest are the same.
It’s a battle hang in there. What did Jesus he will help you
i just don't know the feeling of being "better" anymore. i honestly have no idea. i've always been this way. it's difficult for me to think that people just wake up happy and go on in their day.
I've learned to live with hopelessness. I have been on treatment for depression for about 20 years. I know that will never change and I don't really care anymore, I don't look for "happiness", I just want peace of mind. And motivation.
I hope you don't have to struggle with treatment resistant depression too.
@@chilenapromedioRU - te entiendo! Lo único que busco es tranquilidad pues es lo más fácil que puedo hacer sin depender de otras personas que normalmente son desconsideradas sin empatía. Un abrazo 🤗
@@chilenapromedioRU
“We don’t even ask for happiness, just a little less pain.”
-Charles Bukowski
Your comment made me think of this quote from him ❤
@@chilenapromedioRU thank you for your kind words. it made me feel that i'm not alone. i have been struggling ever since i was child (exactly a decade now bc i am turning 20). i always thought that i was problematic because i get irritated easily. it took me so long that i really couldn't express myself properly because i was basically told to suck it all up. i am slowly forgiving others as i am also asking for their forgiveness. and of course, i am learning to forgive myself. it's a difficult process. i am wondering if i should seek proper treatment. will it ease my way into life somehow? thank you.
@@lilyq4434 hi. We have similar experiences. I've been struggling like you since childhood until mid twenties. It's been almost 1 year already since I've been getting treatment with my psychiatrist. It's a long journey to fight but it'll be getting a bit easier. Hoping everything will soon be alright with you.
Last week my therapist said he had never been depressed. After being in treatment for bipolar for 35 years, I felt like I was talking to an alien. No depression? What a life that must be.
I have a good friend who says he's literally incapable of feeling sadness, hopelessness, or anything of the sort. Having also stated a journey struggling through Bipolar Disorder, I literally cannot comprehend what that must be like... It makes me envious he can feel that way about life, depressed that I can't and yet, incredibly thankful to have such a friend to help me see the brighter sides of the darkness that so frequently envelops me in these sorta episodes.
That friend also has ADHD, so he's definitely not perfect either, but we can both connect over struggles and such.
Wow...
That friend wuld annoy me
He must ignore reality. Everyone should be depressed if they’re paying attention at all.
The best counsellors and therapists seem to be those who have some “lived experience”.
When I'm depressed I don't eat, I sleep too much and I don't take care of my hygiene and my room is messy.
Me too-can’t eat. Don’t want to do anything!
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@Bird Watcher wow!! So happy you could get that extra financial help. Would you mind sharing where you live?
@@REL602 yep they're just nasty AF LOL
Soooo true.. I promise you taking a shower is an accomplishment while depressed even gettin up using the bathroom is an accomplishment.. it’s times when I have hold my urine because I didn’t wanna get up
Dr. Marks I have to say, when I'm depressed every movement is forced. My mother thought for a long time it was laziness. But years ago during one of my hospital stays, Mom asked my psychiatrist about it. He told her miss, I have people here that can't lift a fork to their mouths. Mom got it. Our relationship was changed that day. She's been gone many years now. But I smile when I think of it. Thank you.
Woww I wish my mom could be like that
It’s even more distressing when family members refuse to understand that depression is a legitimate health issue. It’s such a relief to have a professional stand up for you and advocate for.
Paranoia, hopelessness, sadness, extreme loneliness, and the feeling that everyone hates me all the time. It doesn’t ever stay gone, but I have moments where it leaves me alone. 😪
1yr away from two decades of no love
@@McRemmyBaby 😶
@@shadowbannedagain6753 after about 14yrs loneliness really started hitting me, past 5 years its gotten worse n worse, if you’re younger snap out of it and open up, trust me
@@McRemmyBaby how old are you? I’m sorry you are lonely. You aren’t alone. I deal with a lot of hateful people. I feel like the world is full of crazy, insecure, jealous and overall sick people who like to make life miserable for me. I am totally withdrawn and have pretty much given up thinking anyone will understand... I’m hoping to try ayahuasca one day to help. ❤️
@@shadowbannedagain6753 34... ayahuasca lol
“Lingering indecisiveness” really kind of hit the nail on the head....
Yup, I am definitely clinically depressed. It is scary to not be able to feel happiness anymore. Always feeling like there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I'm just going through the motions everyday.
i just hold on to the thought that it will end soon. its really scary i know. wishing u better days ASAP💜
@@annipsy2185 thank you. Wishing you well ❤
I wish you both better days ❤️
@@DrTraceyMarks thank you . I'm trying ❤
Your words brought tears to my eyes.......this is something that we wouldn't wish on our worst enemy! Wouldnt you agree with that?
I have a nice big motorbike in the shed. I have a licence. On a nice warm day i cant even take it out on the road anymore!!! What's happened to me????!!
This doctor is amazing. She's the best, she gets is right ALL the time.
Thanks so much LD 😊
I like her too I wish she could talk to me
@y y True :)
And yet I still can’t find a way to end or cope w my depression. It’s been 15 years and the only time I have relief is when I give up and use illegal drugs. Then, for a couple of hours, I feel normal. And as soon as the high wears off or as soon as I wake up, I immediately wake up disappointed that I didn’t die in my sleep.
@@joleaneshmoleane8358 Please try vitamin B3, please look into it for depression and other psychiatric disorders. It's incredible...better than any other drug.
God she is talking about me. My depression comes in waves. Im in it now. It feels like a chemical imbalance I cant fight. Having no control is scary
Da niella, If needed visit a psychologiost without delay. There is a solution to every problem. Reduce negative thoughts to feel healthier. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. No deep inhalation-exhalation is needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Listen I was severely depressed for almost a year and I had to force myself to eat better and exercise. I know it’s hard but it REALLY helps. Stay strong…❤️
Yes. The menstrual cycle is very scary.
Same.
Yes! That’s me! 👈🏽👈🏽👈🏽
Why don’t u post anymore me and my dad loves ur songs rip man
Not Tay Zonday watching a video on how to pinpoint depression 😭😭 u good???
It's very common... we are living in very very bad times. I feel bad for anyone experiencing this and I totally understand.
Goat
Don’t be so happy with it...it promotes the stigma that everyone wants validation by getting categorized as having depression...
I struggle to get out bed every day. I wake up with this feeling of emptiness and sadness. It’s been 10 years.
Hi L.A.... Hope your feeling better ...your not alone in this ...god bless
@@jaykulina9386 Reduce negative thoughts to feel healthier. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. No deep inhalation-exhalation is needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
LA, Reduce negative thoughts to feel healthier. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. No deep inhalation-exhalation is needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Have you tried psychedelics?
Same thing with me!
You have described clinical depression perfectly. Only someone who has been there could ever understand.
Yes It is very frustrating to be thought of as lazy when you are truly depressed.
This.
I can relate to this. Also feeling void, empty, completely alone - like it's you against the world. It's exhausting. I feel like alot of people have no clue what we go through on a daily basis.
Very true 👍
i haven't cut my nails yet even though i've been planning to for days. same goes for taking a shower, brushing my teeth, taking out my trash. i've been sitting at my computer for weeks without doing anything that would take any effort at all. i had one meal today and it's 4am. There's so much that i want and need to do, but i just can't make myself.
People who can afford a therapist are so lucky.
5 months later, how are you feeling. When I seen your comment..... I was like I don't remember writing this (??)
It's a horrible feeling. And people just don't understand. You are in my prayers
I'm sure that depends on the therapist
The best therapist is you. Even a good therapist can't do anything if you don't help yourself.
Shut off the computer. It is distracting you from your life.
@@marinette6894 Reduce negative thoughts to feel healthier and reprogramme the mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. No deep inhalation-exhalation is needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I have never before heard the nature of depression expressed so well. Friends and family of genuinely depressed people should watch this presentation and others like it. They should make it their job to become aware of what depression is really like - there are no excuses, not educating yourself is tantamount to neglect. I feel strongly about this because ignorance is so damaging to someone who is depressed and it hinders any chance they have of getting better.
You're extremely correct in that. I feel the exact same way all my life I've been told that I could just get over it, I am too sensitive, etc. I had a lot of people who never tried to help or supported me. It not only hinders any chance of progress but is a recipe for suicide in many cases. Mine included. Thank you for sharing 🙂take care🌬💕
@@amandasligar9269 I have been called lazy by someone who is so strongly opinionated and just thinks she can have opinion over other people’s lives gosh I so much hate her so ignorant and immature. I was around her during the early manifestation of this depression and I could have escaped it and not fallen completely into it if someone like her hadn’t been around me and trust me her words and actions made me sink deeper into it and have no chance of healing or not falling into it at all and it has made my life so difficult.
Do you know how many millions of people have depression? People cant always make it their “job” to understand the illnesses of others, I mean, how much do you know about the illnesses of others? The key is therapy and figuring out ways to explain and encourage people in your life to do the research because they love you- not because they have to.
@@amandasligar9269 How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media, take morning sunlight walks and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
“Not educating yourself is tantamount to neglect.” 👏🏼
Amazing.
I suffer with depression for years.but now I can get up and pray early in the morning thank you JESUS..but DOC...you are so correct.
Watching this video brought me to tears. I've had depression for 40+ years. I was off work on stress leave 6 months before COVID-19 started. Being off work for the last 20 months and living alone has been very challenging. My motivation to do housework and basic self-care has practically disappeared.
Please keep strong! 🙏🙏
Me too. Lost job and live alone. BAD combination.
I feel the same. Been pretty much alone for 3 years since my Bf left me. I hardly do anything with this pandemic. Besides l hate going anyplace alone, so l rarely go out. Very depressing
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@@Jennifer-cj4qf Thanks for being brave enought to say it. A lot of times, I CANNOT brush my teeth, comb my hair or wash my face. The minimal easiest quick things.
It takes a couple of ovaries to recognize and write it down and let me tell you how f' ing balsamic it was to read it. Thank you, Jennifer, thank you.
Speaking as someone who suffers from major depressive disorder; even when symptoms are reduced, it's very difficult to work through modes of unproductive behavior learned over years of semi-functional depression.
Along with my medications, I have to actively examine my thoughts and behaviors to see if I'm operating on a behavioral script I created while living depressed. Cognitive Behavioral therapists can be invaluable to people in this situation, helping to identify, understand, and rebuild thought patterns and behavioral routines.
Good post R.J., thanks.
Thank you so much for sharing that. I've recognized that issue in myself. Once you've solved the - what for me were - essentially debilitating brain chemistry and nervous system issues, I found myself left with dysfunctional behavioral patterns and bad habits that I now needed to change to reclaim my life and full functionality again.
It was weird to recognize that - I felt conflicted and consternated at the discovery of that part of recovering. I was like "1) I'm an adult, why am I not behaving like one one now that I'm physically and mentally capable again? and 2) I don't like a mess, and I like organization. So why am I being so messy? I wasn't always like this, etc.,etc."
Ive found CBT and James Clear's Atomic Habits teachings of the importance of systems and morning, evening, daily and weekly routines to be very helpful too.
It's weird but necessary that in addition to fixing one's brain chemistry, nervous system, and possibly nutrition and other related health issues, that you then have to kind of rebuild and retrain / rewire your brain with the practice of awareness, very consciously chosen thoughts and thought patterns, and their corresponding new actions and behaviors.
You have to rebuild how you think, act, and behave in a way that serves your goals and your life. There's definitely a second part to it all - getting healthy and functional again - that requires not impossible and definitely worthwhile but definitely real and persistent, committed hard work (that in time does get easier because with consistent practice, you do get better at it).
It requires educating yourself on learning new cognitive and behavioral skills (or relearning old ones that you used to do when you were healthy - if lucky enough to have been healthier at one time before experiencing mental health issues).
Living with a partner who has depression, seasonal, etc, is fucking awful. There, I said it. We've been together 27 years and I found out along the way that it would be very tough sometimes. When it hits, I find that i no longer have a partner anymore as far as paying bills / trying to get out of debt, housecleaning, fixing stuff around the house, etc. It's not fun to try to work through. Plus the other factors involved in it all, such as pets, teenagers, etc.
@@kbanghart im sorry, im sure uour partner doesnt want to make things harder for you. I am in same spot as he is i think, im afriad im not the same energetic fun guy that she married, i feel so guilty and useless on top of this depression. After my mom died, i just went to shit i guess
@@clerictamer damn I'm sorry. I hate it when I get those hours of depression also
Thanks Dr. Marks - this may be the best video on depression, I've ever seen.
Thanks a lot both of you. 👍🏽
The good news has once again come to you today. You can inherit the kingdom of God even if you are a sinner.. after all we are all sinners in God's standards of justice and holyness (he says that if a man looks at a woman with lust he has already committed adulterly with her in his heart NO MAN IS THAT PURE😅).....All you have to do is to honestly humbly pray repent turn away from sins (read the10 commandments) and trust that Jesus for his love❤❤ for you he left his throne in heaven and came to the world he was humbled humiliated betrayed beaten and killed for your sake to pay the fine of your sins and mine so that we won't spend our eternity in hell but with him in heaven...this might be the last time you read the gospel...Look around🔥🔥 be smart..the end is nigh🔥 ..He is coming back soooon not as the sacrificed lamb of God🐑..but as King of Kings🤴 the judge of the whole world..Your soul is on the line😭😭. Eternity is a long time.
I feel dead...💔 i don’t feel anything, I’m empty, my heart is broken 💔 I feel alone when someone is next to me, I’m alive but I’m dead, I don’t wanna be here, I feel like I have no purpose, but all my “ friends “ Come to me when they are sad and I help them feel better by giving advice that I can’t even give myself. 🤦🏽♀️ nobody checks up on me when I check on other people.
@makaelah how are you doing? I hope you're finding some new reasons to enjoy your one life.
How are you lately? Sending some love your way.
Sending some healing energy your way....
It’s important to rule out medical causes of depression and anxiety. My son was diagnosed with anxiety but the cause of it was ‘moderate anaemia’. The first several doctors never did bloodwork to discover the anemia. It wasn’t found until he was hospitalized. It’s important to be thorough.
Yes this is very true. There are definite psychiatric manifestations of many medical problems
Everybody needs a Dr Marks in their life! I cannot tell you what a comfort and relief it would be to describe the situations she describes and have someone genuinely empathise and understand! One of the worst things (for me) about depression is how totally isolating it feels.. it's like literally nobody can see, hear or understand your misery and, you seem to be the ONLY person who feels that way (since we all spend what little energy we have pretending were ok).
Spot on about spending all your energy on pretending your ok.
"why I'm even alive?" I literally said that today
Keep pushing through
Same & it's Christmas :)
I say it every day, all the time. I am 13. And i am not sure whether i am in depressed or not.
Allah has said in the Qu'ran that he has created us to test us, to see which of us is best in deeds. He is not testing us to know, in the sense that he doesn't already know, but this world is a test for us in order again that we can grow spiritually
The purpose of this life is the worship of Allah, this life is a test. A test for us, will we worship Allah, or will we forget Him. This is where our focus has to begin.
Cameron how is things going for you
Some early signs of poor mental health might be:👍
poor concentration.
being easily distracted.
worrying more.
finding it hard to make decisions.
feeling less interested in day-to-day activities.
low mood.
Thanks Daily dose!
I feel this way all the time
Damn I have all of these.We will all get through this together
Many of these are also ADHD symptoms. It's interesting seeing how they often correspond.
@@b1_ferg I was just thinking that. Sounds a lot like ADHD! Well, I’m about to take a med that will make it clear to me what it really is. We shall see!
This made me so sad, I just want my life back to normal. I hate this so much.
Now imagine depression with cerebral palsy and a wheelchair EVERYTHING IS SO HARD
I bet. Some of us depressed people do realize how lucky we are because we can get up and do things. Bless you. Hope you can find happiness, a joy in your life.
Various add-on health or social issues (disability, mobility, chronic pain, invalidating family, poverty, racism, trauma, stigma, etc) can really start to stack up ‘like a game of Tetris’. It’s so very true!
Yes exactly. God bless you.
absolutely. relying on others to do your personal care would be hard
@@nicksterp2805 dude... I don't I have a toddler
Low motivation with fatigue? Failure to follow through with things in a timely manner? Damn, that’s me for as long as I can remember! 😅
Once again you have helped me by letting me know that I’m really not the only person in the world that has dealt with this! That means so much❤️
Sandra, there are many of us and you're certainly not alone!
Same
Remaining indecisive after coming out of depression is a huge factor. I've had my ups and downs and it's partly due to my ADHD that I slip back into the next pit of depression. The times when I have felt at my best is when I've consistently taken action on both the minor day-to-day items and major overarching life goals on my to-do list(s). If I begin to let things slide, even in one area, it's difficult to get back on track. It's a bit of a snowball effect.
Absolutely this is me as well. It's hard to get over the hump sometimes but knowing it will help can typically motivate me if my symptoms are mild enough
Your description of depression is honestly the most accurate one I have ever heard to describe exactly how I feel. I have never really been able to accurately explain just what it is I am feeling all of the time. It has helped me to understand my illness a little better and will be helpful when I have my next medical (phone because of Covid) appointment in October. Thank you for that.
I agree
Omg, the getting out of bed "in a minute" and then after an hour you're half out of bed! That is ME!
I have 2 of the 3 of these (I'm not indecisive and I do trust my judgment, though I do have severe difficulties with focus, motivation and concentration). I feel hopeless but not helpless.
I can't deal with household chores and other basic care tasks. Right now I literally have 2 months worth of laundry to do, but every time I look at the growing pile, my brain just feels exhausted and like it's in a fog of anxiety and boredom.
Dr Tracey, you look gorgeous in that red and gold outfit, by the way! 😍
2 months laundry piled up make me feel exhausted imagining it. 😊 thanks for the compliment. I film in batches so you’ll see this red blouse a couple more times 😃
@@DrTraceyMarks Looking forward to it! lol
In the "helpless vs hopelessness" part, I see a crucial point. Its like being on a highway, waiting to get hit, and actually wanting to get hit. Longing for the wait to be over and for the pain and anxiety to finally end. Welcoming the blackness. Fatigue combined with a wish for continuous sleep often results in a long time spent in bed. Definitely resonate with the watching stuff mindlessly also
I suffered through 10 years of depression due to my mother and 2 siblings all dying within a 3-year span. I felt like nothing mattered. I was in a very dark place! I also have to still fight with low levels of indecision. I use a lot of positive self-talk and my wife to get through it.
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Thank you Dr.Marks. As a black man I appreciate this coming from you. Your delivery is concise and firm. I’ll be sharing this video with my loved ones because I think this will be the best way for them to understand what I’m going thru. Thank you again.
Now I think most blk people in the US is depressed? nah...are mean people are not depressed.
This is a very good description of Depression that I can totally relate to when I’m depressed. Also the most prominent thing for me is always that I feel a burden on everyone and that everyone would be better off without me. It’s such a horrible feeling and when I’m well I can see how totally ridiculous it is that I’m actually thinking like that.
Me: I wonder if I am in a burnout or am actually depressed
Dr.Tracy Marks: If you have Low motivation + fatigue, Hopelessness or helplessness, and indecisiveness you might be depressed
Me: Oh I have all three
Dr.Tracy Marks: If you have ONE of these
ME: ...
ive had almost all of these symptoms at quite possibly the worst possible time, when i was doing my diploma semester in uni. Sense of hopelessness, trouble concentrating, misremembering things, constant procrastination, bad sleep, fear under pressure, lack of belief in my skills and abilities. Depression isn't just about feeling sad all the time, you just stop functioning altogether as a person, you feel your body and mental health deteriorate with each passing day. It gets so bad, that instead you would rather just lay in bed all day.
This video gave an excellent example of depression vs laziness. One can’t get out of bed the other doesn’t want to get out of bed.
In many shamanic societies, if you came to a medicine person complaining of being disheartened, dispirited, or depressed, they would ask one of four questions: "When did you stop dancing? When did you stop singing? When did you stop being enchanted by stories? When did you stop being comforted by the sweet territory of silence?
(not my quote, but i love it a lot, it helped me to find back to my soul again that I thought I had lost)
Thanks for sharing 😁
That’s beautiful!
If that works for you, you are not depressed you are just sad.
@@aarondiaz7196 I have been diagnosed with clinical depression and have worked as a psyche nurse myself for 6 years, I think I know what I am talking about and what has truly helped me and many other heal
@@aarondiaz7196 and have also Borderline and Anxiety diagnosed as well.
literally had 2 suicide attempts and I don‘t even know why I‘m trying to justify myself to a stranger on the internet.
I dismissed these sorts of healing techniques for the longest time myself.
until I realized it‘s the only true way to deeply heal within.
I‘m on no meds anymore and have built myself a pretty decent life and can cope with without going back to old destructive behaviors.
and yes depression always sits in the back, there are many days I fall back as well, and this quote (with many other things) helps me remember the essential again and to keep going and keep existing bc it‘s still worth it.
True deep healing lies in very simple things, but through my own journey I know our ego mostly can‘t handle it. (I battled with that inside myself for a long time too)
thank you for articulating the symptoms so well. i struggle severely with daily activities like getting up early, brushing my teeth, flossing, taking a shower, exercise, although i know they are good and necessary for my well being. growing up in a stressful house with egomaniac, narcissist parents doesn't help.
Me too
I wish I could see her. She’s absolutely fantastic and hits so many points for me. After losing my job of 11 years and my my mom (age 83) in July of 2020 I’m a wreck. Alcohol had been a poor mood stabilizer.
Her videos are absolutely spot on.
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Such a simple and straightforward explanation of these symptoms. Thank you so much.
Mine is not just hopelessness and helplessness but also powerlessness. I have no options and everything is against me. My depression and anxiety grew out of PTSD from childhood abuse.
I've never related to a video more. I wish my GP could understand that my feeling of hopelessness and indecisiveness are not choices.I literally don't trust myself to make decisions and can't commit to things because I feel so hopeless so around and around I go 🤦♀️
I wish you could share this with your GP.
Eternal life in heaven is a free gift from God. No human being deserves it due to his/her good works. We have all sinned and fall short in glory of God(eg.Jesus says if any man looks at woman with lust he has committed adulterly with her in his heart..No man is that pure😅). So how did God give us this free gift🤔? He sent his only begotten son to be betrayed,humiliated ,beaten and die as fine/payment for our sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Since he is a just God and has to punish sin. All you have to do is humbly repent of all your sins(read the 10 commandments) honestly turn away from them. Believe in/trust that Jesus did that for you. Confess with your mouth that he is your lord and saviour..You will be saved from hell🔥. The holyspirit(his omnipresent spirit) will in dwell within you and convert your cold heart of stone into that of flesh that can truly love God and be a slave of righteousness and not of sin. This might be the last time you read the true gospel of salvation..look around 🔥🔥 the end is nigh. Please don't reject God's gift. Your soul is on the line.Jesus loves you❤
@@DrTraceyMarks I have and will continue to be honest with her. She's a good GP and I understand she is probably wondering what more she can do to help me as it's been a year and we tried meds,cbt and daily exercise and unfortunately I still struggle every day.
Thank you for your videos and your reply.
@@Lisa-yh6zi if you have the ability to get a psychiatrist, I would highly reccomend that for mental illness and meds over GP. They aren't specialized.
@Heather Boughton I hope you start to feel better soon and have more good days, then bad. Its tough going feeling like you don't know when you'll feel better.
You have helped me and my family sooo much. Thank you! I’ve struggled with the issues for so long and never knew what it was! I always thought the depression meant you were suicidal, but I was never suicidal, just lacked the desire/motivation to do anything and got to the point I didn’t care anymore and felt like what’s the point! Now I see how sinister that is and feel like I know what the enemy is. Thank you! God bless you!
My tears can’t stop falling because I’m just so happy to find this channel like I’ve been in such a dark spot for years tears of relief
Thanks so much for making this video, it's difficult most times to describe what I go through on a daily basis but these 3 points you raised are all me, especially the first one. Some days are worse than others. I appreciate your explanation. Clear and concise and with great examples.
Amazing doctor and wish there were more compassionate doctors like her who are willing to explain diseases and conditions as eloquently as she did. Amazing. Thank you 🙏🏽
This video is spot on, Dr. Marks. The hopelessness and helplessness is overwhelming. Trying to do cognitive behavioral techniques feels like a joke.
This video was extremely eye-opening. As a mother of young teen who is exactly what this video described, I am full of appreciation for this info and am beginning to understand him more. Thank you so much.
Dr. Tracey, your channel is amazing. Thank you for addressing these serious issues.
Thank you again, and as always, for your clarity and understanding.
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! this information is so helpful!!!! "... Being in a funk because of situational factors..." Is most definitely me!!! I got a major breakthrough because of this video!!! Thanks again have a great day everyone.
This was excellent. I am a practitioner who has survived bouts of depression. This was spot on as far as decisive factors go. I will be following you regularly.
I've dealt with fairly severe depression since childhood, and one thing I've heard a lot is, "what do you have to be depressed about?"
Sometimes it is useful to find out what causes it tho. On a serious note. Not in a patronising way. Just for yourself. It helps to pinpoint what causes it, and where it first started and what was the cause. For me it was anxiety and feeling medicore in anything i do
This is the first time i'm watching your content and it's really been putting things into perspective for me, the kindness in your voice helps a lot with that as well. Thank you!
I think this will help a lot of people! For me, I also have MS and most of my 33 brain lesions are on the right parietal lobe that manages mood. It really complicates things re diagnosis, meds etc. Overwhelming is a great word to describe it. If you are out there suffering, you are not alone. Keep fighting! Don’t lose hope. Help is out there! It may take time to get things right chemically, but you CAN live a much happier life.
Dr. Marks does an exemplary job
defining the signs of depression…This information is much needed in these stressful, uncertain times we live in…..
Hi Dr. Tracey Marks, you're just amazing, I've been diagnosed bipolar long long time ago, that was a deliverance to put word on it.
Since I'm listening to your video, my comprehension and approach of it have completely change.
Thank you so much to share your knowledge.
Every video you've made is a gem. You're the kind of person all of our mothers want us to be.
Mental health has sometimes been described as, "the capacity to love and work". This description resonated with me; I think it's appropriate and empowering, too.
Thanks for all the help Dr. Marks! You've helped a lot of people with their mental health
You're welcome Saven, thanks! I really enjoy conveying helpful/useful information
Dr Marks, you are the best! So glad you are here for us. Thank you
Remember one day was unable to leave my bedroom, let alone the house. Bad day..
I've had three separate depression episodes lasting a few years or a few months. Very hard to explain the feeling of utter worthlessness and misery.
A few pathetic suicide attempts left me feeling worse because I couldn't complete the task. It's weird feeling this way. There's a world of difference between sadness and depression. I've found that time is the only healer.
Thank you for this Dr. Tracy! 💕 Please do videos on how to be a carer for someone with depression or to someone struggling with mental health 🙏🙏🙏 your work is lifechanging
Oh, you are so sweet.
You have helped a young sister out so much.
I'm already on my own journey, reading Jung.
But this video gave me a ton of help. You provided me the information which is the tools to get better.
You even gave me what could happen with consistency.
Thank you.
So now I just need to get the therapist.
I just recently found Dr. Marks videos and they have cleared up so many thoughts and stigmas for me. I suffer from GAD and have been medicated for 4 months, however recently I have experienced mania like episodes and even more anxiety and panic attacks. I wonder if there are other explanations that I need to explore and seek help for now that I know the symptoms of other more probable outcomes for me. I would love to meet this DR. Finally someone who understands and can treat people properly with so much genuine compassion for her field! Keep posting and sharing your knowledge, you are doing so much for people, probably more than you know.
I've had "long covid' been 6 months of inability to breath well. Severe lung pain. Was dx on 5/6 as a nurse who worked on a covid wing. Im severely depressed.. I wish I had my health back. I survived but the effects of the covid pneumonia are aweful..it won't go away..
Hi Dr Tracey I love your videos. I have seen loved ones suffering from depression, it is so hard to imagine it. I myself suffer from ansiety and now..."pandemic melancolia " and your videos really help me!😘😘 love from Brazil!
I really appreciate you acting out the half-out-of-bed part.
As a kid I used to struggle to get out of bed most days but when I slept at a friend’s house I’d be the first one up and out the door.
It is a hideous vile illness that I would not wish on anyone. The guilt the panic and the crippling hopelessness, the rumination and regret of everything you’ve done and haven’t done. You utterly despise yourself to the core and it’s very frightening. Every morning you awake is complete and utter hell. My heart goes out to those going through this I understand exactly how you feel. Please keep working through it and take each hour at a time. With much love and support to you.
I’m depressed and I needed this♥️
Same
Man, this lady is always right...I am a depression survivor....I can relate ...
This is the best description of depression in simple and easy to understand language that I have ever seen. It's incredibly difficult to describe depression to non-depressed people. In their minds you are mostly making it up and refuse to pull yourself together. Even if they really cared to try to understand your problem, which they usually won't, they will never fully believe you. I ended up hating those who keep telling me "do some sport" and "eat healthy" as insensitive dicks who never really paid attention to what I told them a thousand times.
Another great video, its interesting to differentiate because I’ve been thinking a lot about this myself lately! I’m training in low intensity CBT interventions at the moment but there was a time in the past where I definitely can see it was clinical depression, I was dragging myself up the stairs with all my effort
This video really helps. I've been battling Major Depressive disorder for over 20 years and this video has helped me understand why I couldn't get motivated to get out of bed the last time I had a major episode. I was in a relationship and everything was great but as my health got worse, I had a hard time doing housework and even bathing on a regular basis. My ex would come over and when I couldn't get "happy" or just go do something, he would tell me I was lazy and should be happy that he drove about 2 hours to come see me. What I felt was very tired, guilty (for not being excited he drove to see me), uninterested in watching our date night movies, and just hollow inside. It's like I just wanted to sleep and he wanted to go walk around. He wanted us to cook together and I didn't really want to move. I couldn't see eating as a good thing even though I was hungry. Plus hearing him call me lazy and needing to force myself, just made me feel worse.
This video really helps me understand now that I wasn't lazy. Thanks for this informative video. I like how you make the technical terms into layman's terms without being sarcastic or trying to get popular by making jokes on others expense. You are an amazing psychiatrist. I wish you lived in my city so you could be my dr.
Ive just found your videos today and they are fantastic. I'm currently signed off work due to suicidal thoughts, depression and frequent panic attacks. I am really struggling but I am trying to just focus on looking after myself for now. Thank you for creating these videos ❤
You’re welcome Samantha. I hope you’re able to feel better and get back to work soon. 😊
Stay strong 🙏🙏
You’re not alone dear, but we can get through it and get better!!!
Suicide thoughts are so hard to sit with...any advice hw to deal with them?
Thank you for your info Dr Tracey! You laid out the info so easy to understand and I identify with it so much.
I have had depression for over 20 years and it has been hard to live with, for the last two weeks I have felt anxious less motivated, and feel a heavyweight even though I am on a better antidepressant now but I am glad I found your website which is helping to understand what I have
sometimes i am just watching these videos to feel like i know someone who genuinely understands. I have way more anxiety than depression but these symptoms are really about to ruin the final semester of my degree...
I really hope that doesn’t happen. Hang in there.
I've just recently come off my own medication, having worked on a lot of personal skills for improving self-esteem and managing thought cycles. One of the big differences this time is decisiveness. But decisiveness for me was linked to trusting myself (and having the self esteem) to work out how to deal with the consequences on the fly, or how to find help in dealing with them, etc. In previous times, this wasn't the case, I would still be anxious over decisions, which depleted my energy, and thus reduced the energy to then deal with negative thought cycles, and I'd just end up back where I started.
Listening to your video is really helping to put some words to what I have managed to do (with the help of my very delightful psych) and why this time feels different. Which honestly gives me more hope and confidence that this time IS different, and if I have a depressive period again, those will be different, too.
Like, did you know you can be stressed at work and it doesn't have to make you feel like shit internally?
Anyway, your videos are fascinating and I'm really enjoying watching them (:
People who don't understand depression bc they've never been... they don't know how blessed they are. It's absolutely awful.
Thank you! This is a really important video and I hope more people watch.
I have been diagnosed with depression and have been pursuing treatment for many years now.
I can definitely relate to the concept of feeling the low motivation with fatigue and staying in bed with no stimulation during a depressive episode. I can differentiate because when I'm not in the middle of an episode I can't stay in bed unstimulated for extended periods of time. But I occasionally do find myself trying to stay in bed when I'm not actively depressed and that just reinforces something that I learned in treatment about the triangular relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors so I try to intervene when I can.
I was doing a research paper for my chaplaincy class and I noticed these symptoms in my husband . He is a hoarder, I felt the last part about breaking task into smaller ones may be helpful. Thank You!
I’m so thankful I stumbled upon this wonderful human.. I am currently waiting to be out in intake for a behavioral health center.. my anxiety has gotten so bad that it has lead to depression, and the fear of not getting better makes feel “like is this gonna make new in-alive myself” which i don’t know if that’s the same as having suicidal thoughts.. but either way it terrifies me to feel like I won’t get better.. I love myself and my son so much so the thought of potentially hurting myself creates more anxiety/ depression.. getting the help I need I just pray to God we all stay strong and get healthy.
Thank you for being so down to earth and easy to understand.
I've struggled with this for years along with severe panic attacks. It's never been as hellish as the past 9 mths. REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT ALONE. GOD BLESS EVERYONE OF YOU PRECIOUS PPL!!! I'M putting myself into a treatment center in 2 day's. I'm fighting this cause it's horrible! You're not alone. I promise
I have had depression since I'm about 12 years old although not officially diagnosed until I was16. I'm now in my forties and still struggle. This video describes myself perfectly. I hear what you're saying. I hope the treatment helps you and applaud you for making the decision to do it. Hang in there and I will too! You are not alone also. ; ) ❤
This is really helpful and informative. I had been thinking about going off of my meds because so many of my symptoms have improved. The big one that I still struggle with every day is indecisiveness. This video helps me know that its okay to keep getting help, I’m still on the road to getting well, I’m not there yet. Thank you 🙏
I have depression for 20yrs now .medications only made me worse and never good . Finally stopped all ,feeling better thoughts become clearer and able to function much much better
@@saywhatyouwant888 Reduce negative thoughts to feel healthier. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. No deep inhalation-exhalation is needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Dr Tracey, you really understand these things. You are amazing
You are so very clear and concise, thank you.
Dra. Thank you. Is a pain when people keep telling me "I should do this and that". It makes me even more tired and harder to move and do something. I have many thing I want to do, but its impossible. Having mayor depression for most of my life since I was a child people never understand... Like I get you're having a hard time right now and you may feel a bit sad, tired or anxious and stressed. But you can still hold your job, do your everyday things and enjoys some fun time. I can't.
This video is amazing! It describes what I go through so perfectly
I am going to send it
To my husband and sister to take a look at thank you DR. I love your videos.
Thank you for providing citations!