This was very soul, encouraging as I’ve just walked through some disappointment that is affecting me deeply. My husband of 50+ years is not owning any of the hurt he has caused me, and the church seems to be taking his side and not listening to the deeper issues.
This is so timely! I’ve been through church hurt. I have been obsessed with justice and at times, get frustrated with God for not acting when I expect. I started to feel seeds of bitterness. The Holy Spirit has been working through this work me. Looks like I have a book to read
So good. I’m learning to even just trust in myself as when I was growing up, I was implicitly being taught to not trust myself so then I trusted so many people who were unsafe for me because I looked to others to define my reality for me. As a significant relationship is ending, I’m also having to learn when I feel frustrated or like a victim for not being able to do something that the significant other used to do for me (while demeaning me at the same time, years on end), I have to slow down, breathe and remind myself “you can learn and try. Failing is a great way to learn.” I became so codependent on the other person to help me thru life, but it wasn’t even really helping - it was more of like, yeah I’ll help you while I remind you of what a nitwit and incapable lowlife you are, or that I was this incredible burden to even deal with). But I did realize eventually that’s how he treats himself, so there was no way he was gonna be able to treat me with care and respect. No one can speak into my identity except for my Father!!
Great discussion. It all helps 🙏🙏 Thank you so much. Healing from molestation as a small child also divorced after 19 years of marriage due to infidelity from ex husband.
My christian husband filed for divorce because i tried to get church input for domestic abuse & wrong/deceptive accusations that have been going on for years. He's still in the church & thriving. I left after having a breakdown & moving home to my parents hundreds of miles away. I now see narcissistic traits throughout the marriage. There's no compassion no accountability. Only cold rejection & divorce papers. I feel so angry & misunderstood. I've since discovered his church is a cult. My faith is hanging by a thread. I had a relationship with God before i slowly lost myself over 5 years with this man. I need to somehow rebuild myself. Thankyou for your ministry Lysa. ❤
My husband had "lady" friends?! We divorced and he went on his merry way. His life appeared to me and others that he didn't ever acknowledge that he did wrong. I couldn't ever trust him again and I am not married to him anymore. We were married for 20 years. I was left with money problems, no child support sometimes and raising children as they started their tough teen years without a father in the home. I went to two churches where both long time ministers had affairs. I almost wanted to quit going to church because it happened when I was very vulnerable. I know it wasn't my fault, but why was this happening when I had just started getting back with the Lord? Thankfully I stayed at my church!
I so needed this. God is my defender. God is trustworthy. God loves me.
This was very soul, encouraging as I’ve just walked through some disappointment that is affecting me deeply. My husband of 50+ years is not owning any of the hurt he has caused me, and the church seems to be taking his side and not listening to the deeper issues.
This is so timely! I’ve been through church hurt. I have been obsessed with justice and at times, get frustrated with God for not acting when I expect. I started to feel seeds of bitterness. The Holy Spirit has been working through this work me. Looks like I have a book to read
So good. I’m learning to even just trust in myself as when I was growing up, I was implicitly being taught to not trust myself so then I trusted so many people who were unsafe for me because I looked to others to define my reality for me. As a significant relationship is ending, I’m also having to learn when I feel frustrated or like a victim for not being able to do something that the significant other used to do for me (while demeaning me at the same time, years on end), I have to slow down, breathe and remind myself “you can learn and try. Failing is a great way to learn.” I became so codependent on the other person to help me thru life, but it wasn’t even really helping - it was more of like, yeah I’ll help you while I remind you of what a nitwit and incapable lowlife you are, or that I was this incredible burden to even deal with). But I did realize eventually that’s how he treats himself, so there was no way he was gonna be able to treat me with care and respect. No one can speak into my identity except for my Father!!
Great discussion! Spot on! 🎯 Thank you ladies for sharing what you have learned from these experiences.
Great discussion.
It all helps 🙏🙏
Thank you so much. Healing from molestation as a small child also divorced after 19 years of marriage due to infidelity from ex husband.
My christian husband filed for divorce because i tried to get church input for domestic abuse & wrong/deceptive accusations that have been going on for years. He's still in the church & thriving. I left after having a breakdown & moving home to my parents hundreds of miles away. I now see narcissistic traits throughout the marriage. There's no compassion no accountability. Only cold rejection & divorce papers. I feel so angry & misunderstood. I've since discovered his church is a cult. My faith is hanging by a thread. I had a relationship with God before i slowly lost myself over 5 years with this man. I need to somehow rebuild myself. Thankyou for your ministry Lysa. ❤
Don't get up o n Jesus because of those misrepresentations of him
Always a good reminder to grow from your experiences ❤.
Two of my favorite people 🎉
Good stuff🙏🏽
My husband had "lady" friends?! We divorced and he went on his merry way. His life appeared to me and others that he didn't ever acknowledge that he did wrong. I couldn't ever trust him again and I am not married to him anymore. We were married for 20 years. I was left with money problems, no child support sometimes and raising children as they started their tough teen years without a father in the home.
I went to two churches where both long time ministers had affairs. I almost wanted to quit going to church because it happened when I was very vulnerable. I know it wasn't my fault, but why was this happening when I had just started getting back with the Lord? Thankfully I stayed at my church!
I walked after 35 years.