What a coincidence Yesterday I asked this question in Men’s Image Lab that how should I improve my communication skills and Alex today you posted a whole video about it..Great Job 💪🏻
Leaving a conversation with a hot topic is a lot like a writing technique for writing novels. I forgot which author said it. But basically, to never have writers block stop right before you feel you're reaching the end of something. Leave room for wonder. Also, don't think about writing when you're not writing. Which i think can also apply to conversations. I often find myself being overly critical when analyzing past conversations.
I FORM new people I meet. Family, Organization, Recreation, Motivations. People like talking about themselves. Let them. Where are you from? What do you do for work? What do you do for fun? What motivated you to start that? I can talk to anyone and form a genuine connection. Works every time.
There's no genuine connection these days anymore. All you have is disagreement and disappointment amongst people these days, and judgement. It simply doesn't work out like that for everyone, to have genuine connections or else I would had friends, and or a family in this world that would've accepted me. Theres no genuine love exists today either, except for the self love I have for myself.
Need more videos like these bro, You're my life time role model, I have watched every single video of yours including your past gaming videos to till today's video. I've learnt many things from you and still happy to learn. Thank you so much and huge love bro. ❤
I completely agree. Noticed this at college, i would be very social but then when i went home to the countryside where there were barely any people around. I would always start a new semester a bit out of rhythm and then i would slip back into it after a week or so.
I am from nepal and right now i am here in romania I have been watching your videos since 2019 and you helped me lot to learn english and better more style❤
To be honest, I think frameworks like these make conversations more complicated bc. you’re trying to stick to some conceptual system, making it harder to be in the moment and follow the natural flow of the conversation. Just be ACTUALLY interested in what someone has to say and what you can learn from them, you’ll be fine :)
Above all it is always good to depreciate yourself a little bit, but not much. They let their natural guard down, and makes them feel more comfortable with you. Like, "wow, you play guitar? as hard as I tried to at least learn a little, I was a huge failure.". Never try to diminish whatever their accomplishments, even if you doubt it. Everybody likes to talk about themselves the most, so let them. Be humble and honest always.
I am following you from last 2-3 yeare now on Tuesday I am will go and talk to the girl whom I like. Let's see is this trick are worth it. Thanks Alex🧬🧬❤❤❤.
really good video. getting back into dating & watching a lot of these types of videos. most videos give either unactionable advice or are based in anecdotal pseudo-psychology garbage. this is none of that. really helpful. def gonna rewatch before my date tomorrow lol
Hi alex a long time subscriber here , just wanted to let u know u stop coming in my recommendations these few years and i stop watching you a long time ago mainly after covid 19 pandemic, i search for ur channel and it feels go to see you after a long time , ur advices and tricks work well mainly not touching ur face with ur hands to reduce pimples , and style tips for all body sizes , i hope u have a great day and hope u r healthy both mentally and physically, love from INDIA
Lets dissect some of the things he says in this video. He gave some helpful tips but some ridiculous ones also. 1. 0:00 - What's up with him? Why would we have a conversation with everyone we meet in the next 24 hours? Who is he to dictate who we must talk to? Anyone would naturally and should feel nervous speaking to people they have no business speaking to. 2. 0:30 - He keeps acting like talking to strangers is the best thing in the world. He says we may be missing out on creating new friendships, business partners etc. Why hasn't he considered that we may have saved us tons of agony by not connecting with a potential sociopath or narcissist? 3. 0:40 - He is providing us a "framework" just to talk to people. As if this is coding. He also has the audacity to say he's keeping it simple. 4. 1:58 - He tells us to not pretend like we know everything about them. But later at 3:53 he gives an alternative for asking "What type of music donyiu listen to". He wants us to say "You seem like you'll be into Morgan Wallen". That's just lame. Be consistent dude. There are more things I can point out but it's getting boring typing so much
I know many have said this already. But i literally have been trying to figure out the last like week how to approach people (mainly girls i find attractive) and talk to them. There's this girl in my film class that is shy who i really want to get to know more. And i just want to be able to not be awkward. Anyways i saw this video and i was like, "No way" so thanks!!!
Conversations are so hard! I spend alot of time away from people. Ive gone months without speaking outloud, then when i do try to talk its like i forget how and i stutter and mumble lol
I don't like the fifth rule bcs imo its just artificial. Just be urself. If u enjoy the talk just stick to it and talk. If ppl leave bcs converstation didn't end well just go find better ppl. Let's be honest u prob can't have all the time good conversation so if that is the criteria for someone to make friends then he/she is not worth ur time. I think that's it. Just DO what YOU want.
I think to some extent a boring opening can work but you wanna smile and have good energy (and maybe poke fun at how boring the said opening you just made is😂)
What about those who think no one is like you and no one for you here Who think that he is in wrong place or society. Who bored after some time by pretending that hi like her
I dont blame social media of this one since I had anxiety in this well before social mdeia exists, and I bet many others did too. These days I go usually, since as he said, to talk about something we have in commond:"Im wearing red underpants today, what color thong you got today if any?".
Seriously Alex🤨, how could you take Better help as a sponsor for this video. They've been found notorious for selling their customer data to Drugs & Pharmaceutical companies. So, that these medical companies can show anti-depressants products ads to make these people buy their products.
What a coincidence Yesterday I asked this question in Men’s Image Lab that how should I improve my communication skills and Alex today you posted a whole video about it..Great Job 💪🏻
Thank you for being a valued member!
Its been 7 years alex i am loving ur videos always ❤
Keep posting love from India❤
I needed this! I am on my way to a family reunion 😂
😂 I've been there, they are usually so awkward, how'd it go for you?
Good luck!
@@alexcosta thanks Alex 😄
@@dr.santanic_marco1800 😂
@@TheDarkCornerX Definitely a lot better with Alex’s tips haha!
Don't forget to follow me on instagram.com/alexcosta
Thank you for watching and have a great week!
-AC
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Leaving a conversation with a hot topic is a lot like a writing technique for writing novels. I forgot which author said it. But basically, to never have writers block stop right before you feel you're reaching the end of something. Leave room for wonder. Also, don't think about writing when you're not writing. Which i think can also apply to conversations. I often find myself being overly critical when analyzing past conversations.
This is a really good example of how powerful perspective is.
really needed this..merci Alex
Love the videos Bruv 🔥 keep helping the bros ❤
A really good video, watched you after a long time, same energy. Love Costa
I FORM new people I meet. Family, Organization, Recreation, Motivations. People like talking about themselves. Let them. Where are you from? What do you do for work? What do you do for fun? What motivated you to start that? I can talk to anyone and form a genuine connection. Works every time.
There's no genuine connection these days anymore. All you have is disagreement and disappointment amongst people these days, and judgement. It simply doesn't work out like that for everyone, to have genuine connections or else I would had friends, and or a family in this world that would've accepted me. Theres no genuine love exists today either, except for the self love I have for myself.
@@Majesty12-12 deep 😢
iam literally ryan gosling
Ian Somerhalder :)
I am David goggins 💀
Great choice!!
I am literally myself
I'm DEADPOOL
Need more videos like these bro, You're my life time role model, I have watched every single video of yours including your past gaming videos to till today's video. I've learnt many things from you and still happy to learn. Thank you so much and huge love bro. ❤
I completely agree. Noticed this at college, i would be very social but then when i went home to the countryside where there were barely any people around. I would always start a new semester a bit out of rhythm and then i would slip back into it after a week or so.
I am from nepal and right now i am here in romania I have been watching your videos since 2019 and you helped me lot to learn english and better more style❤
Alex, this is exactly what I needed. Please keep posting videos like these.
I need this this, dude always post the right thing so cool alex!!
that video came just in time man
Great education to all of us, alex, thanks! Sending u love from Singapore😘
To be honest, I think frameworks like these make conversations more complicated bc. you’re trying to stick to some conceptual system, making it harder to be in the moment and follow the natural flow of the conversation. Just be ACTUALLY interested in what someone has to say and what you can learn from them, you’ll be fine :)
a person who has gone from ordinary to extraordinary!
love from bangladesh🇧🇩❤️
🇵🇰❤️🇧🇩
@@WTF_whatthefootball abdul bond love from Spain
Awesome points! How did you learn all of this, Alex?
Above all it is always good to depreciate yourself a little bit, but not much. They let their natural guard down, and makes them feel more comfortable with you. Like, "wow, you play guitar? as hard as I tried to at least learn a little, I was a huge failure.".
Never try to diminish whatever their accomplishments, even if you doubt it. Everybody likes to talk about themselves the most, so let them. Be humble and honest always.
More of these types of videos! Alex you inspire me to self develop as a man and improve all areas and see big progress over time!
I am following you from last 2-3 yeare now on Tuesday I am will go and talk to the girl whom I like. Let's see is this trick are worth it. Thanks Alex🧬🧬❤❤❤.
You should recommend a book about this topic on how to speak to people.
Ngl, have watched quite some videos on this topic, and you have given some solid tips
really good video. getting back into dating & watching a lot of these types of videos. most videos give either unactionable advice or are based in anecdotal pseudo-psychology garbage. this is none of that. really helpful. def gonna rewatch before my date tomorrow lol
Hi alex a long time subscriber here , just wanted to let u know u stop coming in my recommendations these few years and i stop watching you a long time ago mainly after covid 19 pandemic, i search for ur channel and it feels go to see you after a long time , ur advices and tricks work well mainly not touching ur face with ur hands to reduce pimples , and style tips for all body sizes , i hope u have a great day and hope u r healthy both mentally and physically, love from INDIA
Ye man same with me
I really needed this and I haven’t even watched the video yet
Lets dissect some of the things he says in this video. He gave some helpful tips but some ridiculous ones also.
1. 0:00 - What's up with him? Why would we have a conversation with everyone we meet in the next 24 hours? Who is he to dictate who we must talk to? Anyone would naturally and should feel nervous speaking to people they have no business speaking to.
2. 0:30 - He keeps acting like talking to strangers is the best thing in the world. He says we may be missing out on creating new friendships, business partners etc. Why hasn't he considered that we may have saved us tons of agony by not connecting with a potential sociopath or narcissist?
3. 0:40 - He is providing us a "framework" just to talk to people. As if this is coding. He also has the audacity to say he's keeping it simple.
4. 1:58 - He tells us to not pretend like we know everything about them. But later at 3:53 he gives an alternative for asking "What type of music donyiu listen to". He wants us to say "You seem like you'll be into Morgan Wallen". That's just lame. Be consistent dude.
There are more things I can point out but it's getting boring typing so much
bro is turning every video into a business/advertisement
Who doesn't do that? At least he is giving valuable advice for free that our parents couldn't have, unless they went to a specialist
love' you brother I'm was also struggling from this problem but after the video I feel confident thanx ❤
Glad to hear that, thank you! Stay strong
UNIQUE MASTER-CLASS :) thanks AC
Great value
I know many have said this already. But i literally have been trying to figure out the last like week how to approach people (mainly girls i find attractive) and talk to them. There's this girl in my film class that is shy who i really want to get to know more. And i just want to be able to not be awkward. Anyways i saw this video and i was like, "No way" so thanks!!!
Good video, comes at the perfect time !👌🏻💯
love from Bangladesh ❤
Great video, this honestly seems like it'll help.
Fascinating STEPS ✅ ALEX ❤️ LOVE FROM INDIA 🇮🇳
Brother make video on mewing, best age to start mewing for boys, guide, results, etc.
Please 🙏🏻
Conversations are so hard! I spend alot of time away from people. Ive gone months without speaking outloud, then when i do try to talk its like i forget how and i stutter and mumble lol
i like this guy.
He’s so handsome ❤
Man Why Don't You Make Fashion Inspiration Lookbook ?? Why Did You Stop It ?? It Helped Me Alot
Yeah maybe it’s easy in america but I live in Europe and this is a whole new world here!
I leave in India....quite tough
Alex def make a vid on how to do this but in a college setting
Alex ❤
It was impressive
This video is great, more please Alex. :) Jon
I don't like the fifth rule bcs imo its just artificial. Just be urself. If u enjoy the talk just stick to it and talk. If ppl leave bcs converstation didn't end well just go find better ppl. Let's be honest u prob can't have all the time good conversation so if that is the criteria for someone to make friends then he/she is not worth ur time. I think that's it. Just DO what YOU want.
I like how every video you suggest a therapist and then plug your sponsor. We are not stupid
God forbid the youtube content creator tries to make money on youtube
@@tempestandacomputer6951 it's snake oil.. putting therapy as an answer to everything he does to sell his shit
I have social anxiety, at the age of 28, it has affected my life
Love from india❤
Could you make a video where,
You talk to your 17/18 year old self
And tell him, 3 things to do and 3 things not to do…❤🇧🇩
Genuine
Hi
Where did you get that polo shirt?
i don't care about conversations and about people in this point of my life, and i think i feel better now..
I get you but sometimes, you just need people for something. Not because you want to but because you have to
True!!!@@mbank3832
Just talk to someone like nothing bad will happen
I think to some extent a boring opening can work but you wanna smile and have good energy (and maybe poke fun at how boring the said opening you just made is😂)
wheres ur polo shirt from? looks amazing
Polo shirts went out of style about 10 years ago just FYI
@@neo7759no they didn’t they’re classic. Especially if you know how to style it. Trends are so short lived. Classic is best.
@@anandabliss9997 Not even close , they are about as classic as cargo shorts. I don't do trends
What about those who think no one is like you and no one for you here
Who think that he is in wrong place or society.
Who bored after some time by pretending that hi like her
W video ❤
Im literally Tyler Durden
Ugh. I hate people. But too bad I need to connect with them since they are useful to me
I am cheteshwar Pujara
Alex you still take finasteride and minoxidil? Hair lookin better
Yes I do, thank you
@@alexcostacan I ask what dose finasteride you take 🙂
Iam literally ryan gosling
thanks Tony Stark ❤
Hi bro
first !
Where’s Robbi?
They split about a year ago, bro🙂
My Mom said I shouldn't talk to strangers 😂
🤣 thats so funny
I am literally Johnny Sins
I already talk to so many people a day.
Please tell me how not to talk to so many people.
I want to know fully about the girl that is in room😂😂 so i keep looking at her
It's a great shame we need this video.
Yes, it truly is a shame
I literally talk toooo much
Is ok to have a fixed mindset
I don’t enjoy Learning as I got learning disability
I dont blame social media of this one since I had anxiety in this well before social mdeia exists, and I bet many others did too.
These days I go usually, since as he said, to talk about something we have in commond:"Im wearing red underpants today, what color thong you got today if any?".
What to do if you have a Stutter?
Cooked
@@thomass07. fuck.
i am batman
I am only afraid to start conversation with girl otherwise i can do with anyone
Stop changing your thumbnail every 2 minutes
Let him do what he wants, it's his page
RUclipsrs do it to get more views as their original thumbnail might not work
I just wanted to know about your actual job.
How about your job?
One in five?
Gotta be like three in five
I am ironman
Seriously Alex🤨, how could you take Better help as a sponsor for this video.
They've been found notorious for selling their customer data to Drugs & Pharmaceutical companies.
So, that these medical companies can show anti-depressants products ads to make these people buy their products.
I am Doom
14th comment
first comment pin please
When are you getting married my man?
He already was
Hes to busy pimping.
No, he hasn't been married
How was he married. Robbi dumped him not that long ago
Iam patrick Bateman
This guy is a scam!