yeah now i just steal peoples personalities based upon who i’m around with at the time. when i’m alone it sucks soo much, i don’t even feel like a human.
I have a real struggle to open up to people but somehow people open up a lot to me. This results on me knowing about others and others knowing almost nothing about me
I usually do that too 😅 It takes time and practice but I started trying to open up to my family and I've been getting better at it. I even open up to one of my friends now (which is something I never did before)
I have a hard time opening up to people I don't know to start a conversation or build a relationship with my biggest fear is being rejected in terms of them not liking me
Rejection has always been my biggest fear too 🙉 but I’m learning to get out of my head and just be... instead of constantly wondering what others will think of me or if they’ll “accept” me or not. It’s easier said than done but it’s definitely possible!
I was a very open person until somebody in highschool bullied me and I stopped being that person. Now, I'm trying to open back up again and it's hard because I'm stilled hurt by it. One day at a time I suppose.
I had some insight in what might cause this. I think its all rooting in our childhood. If the child could not be himself or herself, if parents rejected parts of the childs behavior… the child understands that something isn’t good about them (not in a rational way, but it feels like. “Watch out if i do this my parents reject me and thats not good for my survival” kinda way… so the child learns from early on to not show themselves fully. They learn to play a role within the boundaries of the family structure. That’s why its so hard for me to be myself or open up with others because of a fear that people might not like me the way i am because in the past my parents didn’t liked my true self aswel… this was a deep realization for me. Some Parents don’t really know what love is. They act as if they know but its very rational, conditional, transactional… not unconditional love. They don’t know it because the never felt it themselves for themselves… they too got rejected and heartbroken by the very people who should loved them.
I mainly don’t want them or myself to feel pressured into entering each other’s lives. I like to let fate does its thing. I like to take things slowly too, it’s more natural for me. I’ve noticed that those who wait and don’t leave are the ones that stay forever, and it’s beautiful.
I know how it feels not to open up I don't open up the people because some people can betray you sometimes when you share your secrets or you open up you end up getting hurt I don't open up to people because I'm scared that they might betray me
I am 39 and I closed off after most of my so called friends mostly put my worth down and also flirted with my partner. So I have very little friends as I dont trust nobody anymore.😢
Good video but my problem is I can’t find anyone who’s worth opening up to. I am an INFJ so its easy for me to pick up signals of astonishment whether it be good or bad. I might do something and the other person gives off just a little sign of discomfort and I’m done I’m out for the rest of the time I’m with that group until I say alright guys I’m heading out see ya.
I had been broken up with and he told me it was me who wouldn’t let him love him. I’ve never been good at opening up and trusting people. It’s hard because I feel like they’ll leave me and use what I tell them against me. I just want to be able to allow myself to receive love instead of shielding away from it...
I totally understand the fear of thinking people we'll use what you tell them against you and I think that fear comes from past experiences. Unfortunately love or just opening up always leaves the risk of being hurt but without love or opening up to a certain extent, we can never really have genuine and intimate relationships 😪
You are not alone my love. The same thing JUST happened to me and I feel so bad because I liked them so much.I feel the EXACT same way but it’s time to work on this for me. The first part is acknowledgement. I have faith I’ll be able to open up again and I hope you do to.We will get there soon as long as we don’t give up!
I have been working on overcoming the past. Years of bitterness, hatred, and anger. I want it gone for good. I also have experienced childhood trauma and verbal abuse from others. I'm also on the Autism spectrum via Aspergers syndrome. I never had an easy life and to many people I'm a mystery.
It's not a fear of rejection or judgement that stops me from opening up to people. I have never spoken with anyone that seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me better. And maybe they are interested but I just don't see nor sense it. I'm often told by others that it's easy for them to talk to me, many often tell me things they wouldn't normally tell anyone else. Some have expressed knowing very little about me despite having known me for several years. I recently met someone with whom I almost instantly started getting along with. We've been dating for 8 months and things have been great. But I caught myself thinking "I know so much about him, but what does he know about me?" I love this man, and I know he loves me. I want to propose to him. But I don't know how to open to him, I don't even understand how to start that kind of conversation. Maybe I'm stressing over nothing. I don't know what to do.
You are absolutely gorgeous! I was just going through one of my old friends instas and noticed that I wasn't a part of her 2019 memories even though we were still somewhat close then. I was going through a lot during 2019 and started pulling away from everyone. I noticed that no one really reached out to check in on me and that was probably the worst part of that year. I jumped on here to find something that could help me feel better and understand myself a little better! Anyways thank you for making these videos!
Thank you Amber ❤ I'm sorry you had to go through that with some of the people you were close to and as hurtful as it was perhaps you needed to see where your relationships truly stand!
i'm so glad i found this video of yours! im so aware that i dont open up to people as much anymore and i really hate myself from it because like what you mentioned that i ended up always feeling alone and hurt and its not their fault but mine! I'm scared that i'll grow old alone because i won't be able to learn or grow from not being able to open up. Thank you so much for making this video and also you're so beautiful 💕 and love the earrings (ngl it caught my attention too many times that i had to go rewind and listen again)
Thats why I don't got a lot of friends because sometimes I think they won't liking me because I don't open up to them, I have a best friend that always looking after me and everytime we talked, she always pushing me to able to opened myself up. I wish I can tell her everything but it takes time for me to open up to her. I'm gonna be honest, I dont like to be judge at or thinks that am just nerivous. The only way I can open myself is writing my journal... (Subbed from New York)
I'm glad you have an outlet though! Journaling is definitely one of the best ways that I use to open up about my feelings or what I'm going through. Hopefully overtime, with a bit of practice and baby steps, you'll be able to open up to those close to you cause it would really build a level of intimacy and bond that you could have never imagined. Thank you for Subscribing 🥰
@@ThandekaMalinga oh and by the way, I like to draw as well because it helps me put in my feelings in my mind like sometimes I draw sad moments, happy moments, angry moments and so on!
You are literally a mirror of me. I've made some new friends over the internet and they are great to hang out with. But I don't think they know the real me bc when we hang out I try to be fun and interesting bc I like making ppl laugh. But when I tried opening up about a problem I had, they kind of brushed it off bc I think they assumed I wasn't serious. I want to open up but it hurts when ppl shrug u off when u do.
It does hurt when you try to open up and it's not "well-received" 😪 but it also helps to understand who you can open to because maybe other people are not emotionally mature to take it when we open up to them and that's not on us!
It might but we'll keep trying to open up right? 😅 Cause the results of not opening up are way more severe than being hurt by someone who perhaps didn't want to listen 😪
The way you talk about this subject is uplifting to hear💜I struggle with the same feelings you described. I just want to grow and move past it...I enjoyed watching this and liked it even more when I realized you are a Christian like me.😊
I am on the autism spectrum, so opening up to people is something I do only rarely, and slowly. It is much better for me to keep people guessing than to say the wrong thing
Ooof. I’ve very much been there (and I’m still there in some ways). My one breakthrough is that I’ve stopped caring so much about whether people like me or not, and I did that by accepting the truth that I am *inherently likable.* Once I realized that, and the fact that how people feel about me is ultimately not about me (and therefore, none of my business), I felt a loooot better about social situations overall.
I don't know if you still read the comments but I could you an advice. I really struggle to opening up, to the point of been afraid of crying in front of other people. I literally rather to pinch myself until the hurt distracts me from the urge to cry, or run into any bathroom and lock myself until I am able to hold it in again. I _can't_ cry infront of others, and I know is not something bad (to cry, I mean) but for some reason I just have this almost phobia-like feeling towards crying infront of people, and it translates also into just not telling people when I feel down (which right now is a lot of the time). I don't know how to speak to my family about things I am feeling, I am afraid that they might feel guilt or hurt or might not even care if I tell them; its easier to pretend to be the happiest person alive but it hurts at the time, it hurts so much. I always feel lonely, and I don't think this will change any time sooner, its already been more than ten years of this. I don't know what to do.
@@ThandekaMalinga yes, I wish I could go to counseling but I am still underage (this year I turn 18), and even once I become of age I still depend economically of my family and where I live there is no public service of this kind. I know that the only way is talking to my family about it but I am really afraid of telling them, I just panic every time they even ask me "How are you?" in a serious tone. That's probably the biggest reason why a searched this video. (Not completely on topic, but thank you for taking the time to reading amd answering this. It means a lot.)
It's my pleasure 😊 and I know this will sound overly simple but it does get better. Keep the faith cause you won't always feel like this and it won't always be like that.
I’m scared of being judged. I’ve been made my whole life to feel like I’m weird and talk too much. People keep pointing out my flaws than to encourage me and compliment me. I’ve been hurt so many times because of it.
Omg I just discovered you. And I have to say, the first thing I noticed is your nose.😍 I have never seen such an unique and pretty nose like yours. I am truly fascinated how well it fits your face😍😍😍😍😍
I just got off of weed which made me really closed up and isolated from people, friends, family. Which is really sad but the good thing is that i'm willing to change and i've been off of chronic weed abuse for a good 5 months. I was never that type when I was younger the thing is my weed use made keep my problems to myself even to my mother. Even with my dad it's always awkward and i'm always thinking what to say or I don't hang out with people cause i fear my awkwardness. :/
Thank you so much for making this it is super hard to open up to friends I really needed this I also love the scripture you used and your kind and sweet personality!
Firstly, it's definitely not going be easy if you're someone like me, who is not used to opening up, so keep that in mind so that you're not hard on yourself. I'd say open up to a friend you trust and start by maybe sharing something about yourself that you've never shared before BUT something that's not major so that you can test the waters and feel what it feels like to open up to someone.
Thank you for posting!! This message was very relatable to me personally, I loved the Bible verses you quoted. I do have a huge fear of judgement, so much that it paralyzes me sometimes, and I do not let people know the real me is. This video will definitely help, and I know it will help others! Great job!!
my boyfriend is getting know me, and well i think im more interesting than he is considering our hobbies, ideas and major food choices and things i know about that he swears hes never heard of. i keep getting criticzed and judged . so im slowly building the wall back up because , i was used to my ex being more open minded and everything else that was positive for 4 years ( minus i could never get him to dance with me) and i felt like i could be more myself and later a guy friend helped me increase my confidence. Now, i just feel like closing shop and live in secret.
i have trouble being myself in social situations and end up being quiet the whole time so i dont have any friends and its really lonely and i really wanna be myself but i just cant
I’ve kinda found myself in the same situation. I used to deal with depression and anxiety and by the grace of god i’m freed from both of those things. But everyday it’s still a battle to not suppress what I am feeling. I often find myself shutting down internally around certain people, I’ve sadly have made it a bad habit to close myself from emotional relationships with people. But I’m getting better and so will you! Just take it one day at a time!
Im extroverted and can still after 40 years struggle a little bit opening up to people. Especially about life choices and perspectives that I know can cause others to judge me. For example I am poly amourus, wich means I can both love and desire more than one person at once, and compared to cheating (wich I also have) I think it is better to just be upfront whenever I meet someone I am interested in, regardless if Im interested in love, friendship or sex, or all of it. Its not easy, but its who I am. And there is a lot of judgement surrounding this: I must be a shallow slut. Or a home wrecker. Or a poor door mat with no self respect. Im none of those things. I am however someone who sometimes take the chance of challenging my fears, so I thaught the comment section below this video was a great oppurtunity. ☺
My first actually relationship ever when i lost my virginity. (Which is a beautiful treasure to us)He would always text me "goodmorning" and call in the beginning!! But ever since I started dating he became inconsistent and texting me and calling less and less and I asked him what's going on but it had been excuses!! "I'm sorry baby I'm been busy" that's it. So after about 8 months I broke it off. And then the past few months I started talking to this other guy for about 3 months (we became intimate) but idk what I'm feeling he even told me "you don't really open up" I guess when he said that kind of affected my past relationship.. And me kinda of pushing him away. He texts me "goodmorning" and all I be feeling like he just getting what he wants. I feel like it's another one. I need answer of why I'm feeling this way.
wow! I have a very beautiful daughter; she could date many guys and they ask she will not date at all? She just goes to work each day comes home and goes to her room until its time to go to work again. I don’t know how to help her over come whats holding her back, she will shut you down when you try and talk to her. There is a nice guy who has been friends with for over a year ; very nice guy and he wants to just date her to see if it would go anywhere and she just refuses to go there , she did say she liked him but don’t want to get involved in dating? How do i get her to open up? Im at a loss here.
I was exactly like her and while maybe our stories maybe be different but for me I was closed off because I had a lot of anxiety and even resentment towards my own family for not understanding me AND not even trying to understand me. I felt like I couldn't trust anyone with my heart and with my space. So I would just shut myself away from the world. What helped me was starting counseling which helped me to start addressing fears, anxieties and my general indifference to life. And God did the rest. Being an introvert doesn't equal to shutting people out and the world out. I'm learning that I can be an introvert but still be able and willing to give a healthy amount of my time and energy to those I care about. I hope this helps ❤ thanks for watching.
Such a surprise ! I didn’t know your content yet And felt suspicious about getting answers… But Your vibe & Your knowledge provided me what I needed to grow +1 for the quotation from the Bible [proverbs 29:25] To sum up : I came with a gloomy mood and questions but « left » with a big smile and a new strength. ManyManyMany Thanks to You ! 🙏🏾^^
Lol sometimes it means crying but personally I can't allow myself to cry or else I judge myself for it... and I really shouldn't because crying is a normal part of expressing our emotions.
How about opening up to our parents. Yea most of this relate to me in term on meeting new people and friends. But idk it's really hard for me to open up to my parents and i need 1 day of preparation before saying something to them. And it was like i use to think i can do it without saying out. For me speaking up is as hard as lifting a weight. 🙂 I really don't know how to improve.
Wow. That was relatable. Really loved the video. Also, not too be rude, saying God's name disrespectfully, like in 'Oh my God', is disrespecting Him, pls dont. Overall lovely video. Gos bess you!
Thank you. I've really been trying to avoid saying "oh my God" 😅 cause as a born again Christian I know it's not right. I think it's has just become a force of habit now but I'll definitely be mindful next time 🤗
Maybe you should care less what people think don’t read the comments sometimes challenged urself don’t read the comments look at the likes instead focus on the ones who like you and see if you like them check them out and see if people who like you are actually fruitful people … considering the source will also teach you a lot about yourself
This was so relatable thank you!
I’m glad it was 😇
I honestly think I’ve been suppressing my true self for so long that I’ve forgotten who I am. Judgement sucks 😔
It really does 😪
yeah now i just steal peoples personalities based upon who i’m around with at the time. when i’m alone it sucks soo much, i don’t even feel like a human.
@@squiddyft.insecurities3549 true
I have a real struggle to open up to people but somehow people open up a lot to me. This results on me knowing about others and others knowing almost nothing about me
Oh wow... isn't easier to open to them after they have opened up to you?
@@ThandekaMalinga to because people either keep talking about themselves or when they ask me I just brush it off
I usually do that too 😅
It takes time and practice but I started trying to open up to my family and I've been getting better at it.
I even open up to one of my friends now (which is something I never did before)
I have a hard time opening up to people I don't know to start a conversation or build a relationship with my biggest fear is being rejected in terms of them not liking me
Rejection has always been my biggest fear too 🙉 but I’m learning to get out of my head and just be... instead of constantly wondering what others will think of me or if they’ll “accept” me or not. It’s easier said than done but it’s definitely possible!
I'm not scared of rejection I'm just quiet n never have anything important to talk to people who 😐 idk.
So you hate small talk too? 😅
@@ThandekaMalinga yeah I guess that's what it is
Then I'll accept you, as a person on the Autism spectrum via Aspergers syndrome I understand what it's like to open up to others.
I was a very open person until somebody in highschool bullied me and I stopped being that person. Now, I'm trying to open back up again and it's hard because I'm stilled hurt by it. One day at a time I suppose.
One day at a time, you'll get there 🤞🏽
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I had some insight in what might cause this. I think its all rooting in our childhood. If the child could not be himself or herself, if parents rejected parts of the childs behavior… the child understands that something isn’t good about them (not in a rational way, but it feels like. “Watch out if i do this my parents reject me and thats not good for my survival” kinda way… so the child learns from early on to not show themselves fully. They learn to play a role within the boundaries of the family structure. That’s why its so hard for me to be myself or open up with others because of a fear that people might not like me the way i am because in the past my parents didn’t liked my true self aswel… this was a deep realization for me. Some Parents don’t really know what love is. They act as if they know but its very rational, conditional, transactional… not unconditional love. They don’t know it because the never felt it themselves for themselves… they too got rejected and heartbroken by the very people who should loved them.
I agree with this a 100% 🤞🏽😔
I mainly don’t want them or myself to feel pressured into entering each other’s lives. I like to let fate does its thing. I like to take things slowly too, it’s more natural for me. I’ve noticed that those who wait and don’t leave are the ones that stay forever, and it’s beautiful.
Taking things slowly seems to always work out for the best 🤗
I know how it feels not to open up I don't open up the people because some people can betray you sometimes when you share your secrets or you open up you end up getting hurt I don't open up to people because I'm scared that they might betray me
I am 39 and I closed off after most of my so called friends mostly put my worth down and also flirted with my partner. So I have very little friends as I dont trust nobody anymore.😢
Good video but my problem is I can’t find anyone who’s worth opening up to. I am an INFJ so its easy for me to pick up signals of astonishment whether it be good or bad. I might do something and the other person gives off just a little sign of discomfort and I’m done I’m out for the rest of the time I’m with that group until I say alright guys I’m heading out see ya.
I’ve totally been there too 😪
This comment is exactly how I feel😣
I feel this so much. Just went through this a moment ago.
I just started watching the video but wanted to start off by saying girllllll your hair is so cute in this video. Ok back to watching lol
Lol thanks girlfriend 😄
I had been broken up with and he told me it was me who wouldn’t let him love him. I’ve never been good at opening up and trusting people. It’s hard because I feel like they’ll leave me and use what I tell them against me. I just want to be able to allow myself to receive love instead of shielding away from it...
*wouldn’t let him love me (typo)
I totally understand the fear of thinking people we'll use what you tell them against you and I think that fear comes from past experiences.
Unfortunately love or just opening up always leaves the risk of being hurt but without love or opening up to a certain extent, we can never really have genuine and intimate relationships 😪
You are not alone my love. The same thing JUST happened to me and I feel so bad because I liked them so much.I feel the EXACT same way but it’s time to work on this for me. The first part is acknowledgement. I have faith I’ll be able to open up again and I hope you do to.We will get there soon as long as we don’t give up!
i don’t understand this why my bf says the same thing? like me not sharing my problems with him has nothing to do with him
I have been working on overcoming the past. Years of bitterness, hatred, and anger. I want it gone for good. I also have experienced childhood trauma and verbal abuse from others. I'm also on the Autism spectrum via Aspergers syndrome. I never had an easy life and to many people I'm a mystery.
And overcoming past hurt is not easy but it's definitely possible 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽
It's not a fear of rejection or judgement that stops me from opening up to people. I have never spoken with anyone that seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me better. And maybe they are interested but I just don't see nor sense it.
I'm often told by others that it's easy for them to talk to me, many often tell me things they wouldn't normally tell anyone else. Some have expressed knowing very little about me despite having known me for several years.
I recently met someone with whom I almost instantly started getting along with. We've been dating for 8 months and things have been great. But I caught myself thinking "I know so much about him, but what does he know about me?" I love this man, and I know he loves me. I want to propose to him. But I don't know how to open to him, I don't even understand how to start that kind of conversation. Maybe I'm stressing over nothing. I don't know what to do.
You are absolutely gorgeous! I was just going through one of my old friends instas and noticed that I wasn't a part of her 2019 memories even though we were still somewhat close then. I was going through a lot during 2019 and started pulling away from everyone. I noticed that no one really reached out to check in on me and that was probably the worst part of that year. I jumped on here to find something that could help me feel better and understand myself a little better! Anyways thank you for making these videos!
Thank you Amber ❤
I'm sorry you had to go through that with some of the people you were close to and as hurtful as it was perhaps you needed to see where your relationships truly stand!
i'm so glad i found this video of yours! im so aware that i dont open up to people as much anymore and i really hate myself from it because like what you mentioned that i ended up always feeling alone and hurt and its not their fault but mine! I'm scared that i'll grow old alone because i won't be able to learn or grow from not being able to open up. Thank you so much for making this video and also you're so beautiful 💕 and love the earrings (ngl it caught my attention too many times that i had to go rewind and listen again)
Thank you 🙂 I'm glad I could be of some help!
personally it’s hard for me to open up to people because of my insecurities and the fear of being rejected and not liked
Same here :(
Thats why I don't got a lot of friends because sometimes I think they won't liking me because I don't open up to them, I have a best friend that always looking after me and everytime we talked, she always pushing me to able to opened myself up. I wish I can tell her everything but it takes time for me to open up to her. I'm gonna be honest, I dont like to be judge at or thinks that am just nerivous. The only way I can open myself is writing my journal...
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I'm glad you have an outlet though!
Journaling is definitely one of the best ways that I use to open up about my feelings or what I'm going through.
Hopefully overtime, with a bit of practice and baby steps, you'll be able to open up to those close to you cause it would really build a level of intimacy and bond that you could have never imagined.
Thank you for Subscribing 🥰
@@ThandekaMalinga oh and by the way, I like to draw as well because it helps me put in my feelings in my mind like sometimes I draw sad moments, happy moments, angry moments and so on!
That's cool 😃
You are literally a mirror of me. I've made some new friends over the internet and they are great to hang out with. But I don't think they know the real me bc when we hang out I try to be fun and interesting bc I like making ppl laugh. But when I tried opening up about a problem I had, they kind of brushed it off bc I think they assumed I wasn't serious. I want to open up but it hurts when ppl shrug u off when u do.
It does hurt when you try to open up and it's not "well-received" 😪 but it also helps to understand who you can open to because maybe other people are not emotionally mature to take it when we open up to them and that's not on us!
@@ThandekaMalinga This is true. I guess it will just take time to find the one who's willing to listening.
It might but we'll keep trying to open up right? 😅
Cause the results of not opening up are way more severe than being hurt by someone who perhaps didn't want to listen 😪
@@ThandekaMalinga exactly
i wish people actually cared about how i feel and the well-being of me 😕
I’m working on this trait, and this video helped me not feel so alone in this 😌
I’m glad it did Jess 🥰
The way you talk about this subject is uplifting to hear💜I struggle with the same feelings you described. I just want to grow and move past it...I enjoyed watching this and liked it even more when I realized you are a Christian like me.😊
I'm glad you could relate and its always nice meeting a fellow Christian 🙂 ❤
I am on the autism spectrum, so opening up to people is something I do only rarely, and slowly. It is much better for me to keep people guessing than to say the wrong thing
Thank you
Ooof. I’ve very much been there (and I’m still there in some ways). My one breakthrough is that I’ve stopped caring so much about whether people like me or not, and I did that by accepting the truth that I am *inherently likable.* Once I realized that, and the fact that how people feel about me is ultimately not about me (and therefore, none of my business), I felt a loooot better about social situations overall.
I'm glad 😊 I'm also getting there.
Thank you I will absolutely repeat, I am inherently likable, ♥️
I don't know if you still read the comments but I could you an advice.
I really struggle to opening up, to the point of been afraid of crying in front of other people. I literally rather to pinch myself until the hurt distracts me from the urge to cry, or run into any bathroom and lock myself until I am able to hold it in again. I _can't_ cry infront of others, and I know is not something bad (to cry, I mean) but for some reason I just have this almost phobia-like feeling towards crying infront of people, and it translates also into just not telling people when I feel down (which right now is a lot of the time). I don't know how to speak to my family about things I am feeling, I am afraid that they might feel guilt or hurt or might not even care if I tell them; its easier to pretend to be the happiest person alive but it hurts at the time, it hurts so much. I always feel lonely, and I don't think this will change any time sooner, its already been more than ten years of this. I don't know what to do.
I'm sorry to hear that and I know exactly how you feel but I believe there's still hope for us. Have you ever considered counseling?
@@ThandekaMalinga yes, I wish I could go to counseling but I am still underage (this year I turn 18), and even once I become of age I still depend economically of my family and where I live there is no public service of this kind. I know that the only way is talking to my family about it but I am really afraid of telling them, I just panic every time they even ask me "How are you?" in a serious tone. That's probably the biggest reason why a searched this video.
(Not completely on topic, but thank you for taking the time to reading amd answering this. It means a lot.)
It's my pleasure 😊 and I know this will sound overly simple but it does get better. Keep the faith cause you won't always feel like this and it won't always be like that.
@@ThandekaMalinga thank you ❤ I hope it gets better
You did great appreciate your points
ThankQ 🙂
Thank you for uploading I am happy that you did refer to scriptures. Keep doing you
Thank you for watching 😁
I’m scared of being judged. I’ve been made my whole life to feel like I’m weird and talk too much. People keep pointing out my flaws than to encourage me and compliment me. I’ve been hurt so many times because of it.
"I choose to just give it to the Lord"
Amen
Yes and Amen!
i think for me im scared of judgment, but also scared of feeling like a burden
Thanks for sharing! You have a nice voice that should be heard 🙂
Omg I just discovered you. And I have to say, the first thing I noticed is your nose.😍 I have never seen such an unique and pretty nose like yours. I am truly fascinated how well it fits your face😍😍😍😍😍
Wow 😅 this is the first time anyone has ever said anything about my nose, thank you ☺️
I just got off of weed which made me really closed up and isolated from people, friends, family. Which is really sad but the good thing is that i'm willing to change and i've been off of chronic weed abuse for a good 5 months. I was never that type when I was younger the thing is my weed use made keep my problems to myself even to my mother. Even with my dad it's always awkward and i'm always thinking what to say or I don't hang out with people cause i fear my awkwardness. :/
I know that feeling 😔
But I'm happy for you for getting off weed 👏🏽
Thank you so much for making this it is super hard to open up to friends I really needed this I also love the scripture you used and your kind and sweet personality!
Thank you, I'm glad you loved the scripture 🙂
thank you for putting this out! so helpful
I'm glad it was helpful!
Loved this! Needed this!
Thank you
I m afraid of not being open to my partner which might ruin my relationship. I want a happy future with him 🌻
Maybe you could try counseling
You have a good heart ♥️ I respect it. ✊🏽
I can absolutely relatable, thank you for posting this 🙏🏽
Pleasure 🤗
This is the first video of yours I’ve seen and I like your vibe it’s really comforting
Can you explain how to open up more with friends specially staying in hostel
Firstly, it's definitely not going be easy if you're someone like me, who is not used to opening up, so keep that in mind so that you're not hard on yourself.
I'd say open up to a friend you trust and start by maybe sharing something about yourself that you've never shared before BUT something that's not major so that you can test the waters and feel what it feels like to open up to someone.
Thank you for posting!! This message was very relatable to me personally, I loved the Bible verses you quoted. I do have a huge fear of judgement, so much that it paralyzes me sometimes, and I do not let people know the real me is. This video will definitely help, and I know it will help others! Great job!!
Thanks Geoffrey 😄 I'm glad it helped!
I literally could not have asked for a better video❤️ thank you so much ❤️ God bless
I'm glad you found it helpful ❤
Your video is great I can totally relate and I so love you. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability ❤
my boyfriend is getting know me, and well i think im more interesting than he is considering our hobbies, ideas and major food choices and things i know about that he swears hes never heard of. i keep getting criticzed and judged . so im slowly building the wall back up because , i was used to my ex being more open minded and everything else that was positive for 4 years ( minus i could never get him to dance with me) and i felt like i could be more myself and later a guy friend helped me increase my confidence. Now, i just feel like closing shop and live in secret.
i have trouble being myself in social situations and end up being quiet the whole time so i dont have any friends and its really lonely and i really wanna be myself but i just cant
I can totally relate to this. It's hard being social and it's hard to make friends.
I’ve kinda found myself in the same situation. I used to deal with depression and anxiety and by the grace of god i’m freed from both of those things. But everyday it’s still a battle to not suppress what I am feeling. I often find myself shutting down internally around certain people, I’ve sadly have made it a bad habit to close myself from emotional relationships with people. But I’m getting better and so will you! Just take it one day at a time!
Im extroverted and can still after 40 years struggle a little bit opening up to people.
Especially about life choices and perspectives that I know can cause others to judge me. For example I am poly amourus, wich means I can both love and desire more than one person at once, and compared to cheating (wich I also have)
I think it is better to just be upfront whenever I meet someone I am interested in, regardless if Im interested in love, friendship or sex, or all of it.
Its not easy, but its who I am.
And there is a lot of judgement surrounding this:
I must be a shallow slut.
Or a home wrecker.
Or a poor door mat with no self respect.
Im none of those things.
I am however someone who sometimes take the chance of challenging my fears,
so I thaught the comment section below this video was a great oppurtunity.
☺
I discovered your channel for this video and I'm really grateful. Your content is light.
Thank you 💫
Yes. Scared of judgement. And being hurt. Bingo.
Can use this video for my app please?
My first actually relationship ever when i lost my virginity. (Which is a beautiful treasure to us)He would always text me "goodmorning" and call in the beginning!! But ever since I started dating he became inconsistent and texting me and calling less and less and I asked him what's going on but it had been excuses!! "I'm sorry baby I'm been busy" that's it. So after about 8 months I broke it off. And then the past few months I started talking to this other guy for about 3 months (we became intimate) but idk what I'm feeling he even told me "you don't really open up" I guess when he said that kind of affected my past relationship.. And me kinda of pushing him away. He texts me "goodmorning" and all I be feeling like he just getting what he wants. I feel like it's another one. I need answer of why I'm feeling this way.
I'm really trynna understand cause I don't get it 🤔
I like how you stated that your saying your opinion in the beginning of the video
wow! I have a very beautiful daughter; she could date many guys and they ask she will not date at all? She just goes to work each day comes home and goes to her room until its time to go to work again. I don’t know
how to help her over come whats holding her back, she will shut you down when you try and talk to her. There is a nice guy who has been friends with for over a year ; very nice guy and he wants to just date her to see if it would go anywhere and she just refuses to go there , she did say she liked him but don’t want to get involved in dating? How do i get her to open up? Im at a loss here.
I was exactly like her and while maybe our stories maybe be different but for me I was closed off because I had a lot of anxiety and even resentment towards my own family for not understanding me AND not even trying to understand me.
I felt like I couldn't trust anyone with my heart and with my space. So I would just shut myself away from the world.
What helped me was starting counseling which helped me to start addressing fears, anxieties and my general indifference to life. And God did the rest.
Being an introvert doesn't equal to shutting people out and the world out. I'm learning that I can be an introvert but still be able and willing to give a healthy amount of my time and energy to those I care about.
I hope this helps ❤ thanks for watching.
Thank you, it helped💕
I'm glad 😊
Such a surprise !
I didn’t know your content yet
And
felt suspicious about getting answers…
But
Your vibe & Your knowledge
provided me what I needed to grow
+1 for the quotation from the Bible [proverbs 29:25]
To sum up :
I came with a gloomy mood and questions
but « left » with a big smile and a new strength.
ManyManyMany Thanks to You !
🙏🏾^^
I'm so glad 😊
Does open up mean crying to someone? I can’t figure it out lol
Lol sometimes it means crying but personally I can't allow myself to cry or else I judge myself for it... and I really shouldn't because crying is a normal part of expressing our emotions.
Have to talk to a phycologist but I can’t see myself talking to him pls bless me with knowledge !!
I've never really tried that route but I definitely think it's one of the best ways to deal with what you're going through/what you've been through.
Hey i searched this i just want you to know somebody is watching ur videos
Thank you 🙂 I really appreciate that
I can relate when you said you want everyone to like you 😞
Same train 😪
I only have problem opening up at school
Thank you so much this was amazing you were amazing!
Thank you ❤
How about opening up to our parents. Yea most of this relate to me in term on meeting new people and friends. But idk it's really hard for me to open up to my parents and i need 1 day of preparation before saying something to them. And it was like i use to think i can do it without saying out. For me speaking up is as hard as lifting a weight. 🙂 I really don't know how to improve.
Yeah I get that 💯
awhh why you stop uploading :( Great video 💪👍
Thank you for making this video
It's only my pleasure 😁
God loves you
He loves you too 🥰
🙏
God bless you beautiful lady!
Thank you 😁 God bless you too ♥️
Wow. That was relatable. Really loved the video. Also, not too be rude, saying God's name disrespectfully, like in 'Oh my God', is disrespecting Him, pls dont. Overall lovely video. Gos bess you!
Thank you. I've really been trying to avoid saying "oh my God" 😅 cause as a born again Christian I know it's not right. I think it's has just become a force of habit now but I'll definitely be mindful next time 🤗
do you know what your mbti type is?
no I don't
@@ThandekaMalinga you should take the sakinorva or key2cognition mbti test! i feel like you would be interested in it
Great video!
thank you, this was great. you just got yourself a new subscriber :D Love the vibe of the video!!
Thank you 🥰 I'm glad you loved it.
I did open up to someone. I wish i hadnt.
So relatable
thank you also I subscribed and I like your hair
ThankQ!
And thanks for subscribing ♥️
Maybe you should care less what people think don’t read the comments sometimes challenged urself don’t read the comments look at the likes instead focus on the ones who like you and see if you like them check them out and see if people who like you are actually fruitful people … considering the source will also teach you a lot about yourself
Love your earrings!
ThankQ!
Having a hard time opening up to people? aka Having a hard time letting people steal your shit and getting killed?
Woahhh I’m the 600th subscriber! Loved this video and immediately subscribed right after :)
Thanks for making it 600 subscribers 😁 I'm glad you got something from the video too!
Hi
Hi Melissa
I feel like she is me lol
😅
Focus more one WHO is saying more then WHAT there saying some peoples opinion of you will be completely Ignorant coming from ignorant people
Yep. Opening up is such a scam. Why do this useless shit when there are better ways to impact others?
Thank you this was really helpful 🤍