It's quite refreshing, in our youth-obsessed culture, to hear a discussion of the benefits of aging. I have male friends in their 70s and 80s, and these gentlemen are the most self-assured, content-with-themselves people I know. By contrast, many 20-somethings appear to be eternally anxious, unsure of themselves, and sadly, almost lost to the world.
Thanks, I'm 56 and just starting to figure out that I am mortal! I appreciate the time I have, try not to dwell on my faults too much, and when I can I try to pass on some of the extensive and quirky knowledge that I have amassed. I have to agree that not giving a damn is a brilliant aspect of having grey whiskers. Something I've noticed, I will talk to anybody. Conversing with strangers, telling a story, puts a lasting smile on my face.
My life changed the day I decided to dress better. I was a late developer in the dressing well department. I was in my early 40s. Little did I know by dressing in a certain way would transform my world. I gained confidence and as a result I become more content. Youth is overrated today. We gain knowledge and a sense of well being which eluded us in our youth. Great video Ash.
You imbue so much wisdom and useful information in your videos...I just turned 37 and realized I need to start dressing better and dress more appropriately for my age and your videos have been very helpful. thank you for your excellent content 👏 🙏 😊
This is without a doubt one of your best videos yet. As a 65 year old I agree wholeheartedly with everything you said. Every day is a gift, every breath we take is a gift, every heartbeat precious. So many wonderful people don’t get these gifts that we have, they were cut short And never got a chance to grow older. Well done my friend.
Your advice and insights are absolutely spot on. I especially like the fact that you are not reading from a script...you are speaking as a friend would to another friend...all good advice here...all spoken from a position of experience...thank you so much for this video.
My friend, you have done many great videos, but this one is special to me. I love your message and the way that you deliver it. I swear, if I ever got across the big pond I would have to find a way to meet and thank you face to face. I turned 59 this week and I have thought about my most recent "mid-life crisis" and it is that I don't give a damn. I will wear what I want and I won't worry about what others may think. I will distinguish myself from others and strive for self improvement. Thank you.
Dear Sir You are certainly a gift for mankind - this has to be the most thoughtful and compassionate speech on living a life as fully and responsibly as one can - to love and honour the people who gave so much for our betterment - ❤
Wise words indeed Ash, and because you’ve made those points I’m going to be a bit more frivolous. 1. Making money when I was younger enabled me to retire early, so, at 62 I am free to be as eccentric as I like. I dress like a time traveller from the 1940s and enjoy conversations and doffing my hat to passers by. 2. Taking my dog on long strolls by the rugged north east coast. 3. Entertaining my beautiful wife and her charming lady friends. 4. Being much less angry than I used to be. When I look back back I realise what a Tartar I was! 5. Being able to do 22 pull-ups and unashamedly smirking when I beat a young lad when challenged to do so. (I am probably more of a bounder than a chap, but definitely not a cad!)
Wonderful insight into a process we all go through, whether we want it or not. And the fact that you've learned from the lessons you've experienced, and feel they're worth sharing, makes it just as valuable for us. Thank you.
One other benefit is a raised level of confidence. This stems from experience and not giving a damn about what people think. With confidence comes being able to assert.
I think I may have needed that, I’m turning 38 this year-yeah, not that old, but I have already started to think about these things and it’s exceptionally frightening in some ways. Though it’s also a challenge to live far more intentionally.
Great video, as a young adult I appreciate all the wisdom that you passed down in this video. Especially on wealth because I am very much like yojr older self when it comes to that aspect and this perspective is very welcomed. Thanks and all the best!
Absolutely agree in every aspect sir. I don't give a damn either anymore. I am free I am courteous and helpful to others. I am myself and cherish life. I wish this wisdom would have come a bit sooner in life.
It's interesting when you talk about attire in the workplace. A colleague and I were recalling when the humble neck tie fell out of fashion in the office. So we have started to fasten that top button and wear a neck tie. The effect was almost instant. The number of people who have noticed and complemented on how smart we look. More importantly it makes me stand out and look more professional.
A positive for me is that I can wear "old man's watches" like small gold dress watches. I have a Seiko 'Tank" and a Omega DeVille 33mm and nobody bats an eye when I wear them. A negative is definately that I need more time to recover from sports injuries. (I'm 43 by the way)
Hello sir, thank you for making another informative and enlightening video. Your work and the chap's guide helped me quite a bit to find my place in the 21st century as a young person. I am 21 years old and I still have a long way to go in this life. As I am grateful for my parents for giving me the enormous opportunities and sacrifices they have, I often found my own ways to teach myself and get better as a person growing up in our modern age. When I watch your videos it often feels like I am receiving fatherly advices that I have not yet received, and for that thank you very much. I wish you and your family much health and prosperity, looking forward for your next videos. - an aspiring chaplet
Hey Ash, lots to think and reflect about life. I have two kids in university. I want them to have better opportunities and for them to make better choices than I did. I don’t see it as a sacrifice but as my love for my kids. I don’t miss going on holidays or buying a new vehicle or shop for new clothes or jewelry. I volunteer as a volleyball and football (soccer) coach. I find this extremely rewarding. I’m looking forward my retirement in a few years. At work I try to help and advice my young colleagues. Some pay attention some don’t. I try to pass and share my knowledge with the younger crowd. Thank you for the great advice. Looking forward more videos.
Just watched your video Very informative & inspiring I really connect with what you’re about but through life choices I’m now 58 - renting- no super & yes alcohol has played a part I’m going to follow all the advice & philosophy you’ve shown & let you know how things turn out
Hi Ash, I fully agree with ALL your aspects on getting older, I myself just started my journey as a senior at an age of 65 but I still enjoy driving my 200 hp motorcycle 🙂. You are still a “young” person in my opinion and you have many years ahead, so please continue to enjoy your life together your family and friends, your watches and other aspects of your life (as I do), but mostly continue to be young in the mind, which I personally find most important. Regards from Sweden….
What a great ideology sir. I always live my life with little regard to the number of my age. I am actually fitter and healthier now, than I was 10-years ago - so I press ahead with optimism and the quiet advantage of life experience. My regards to beautiful Sweden sir - I visited about 4-years ago, a magnificent place (stayed in Gotland).
@@TheChapsGuide Dear Ash, thanks for your personal reply, great to hear. Once again I follow your channel for quite a long time and most of your issues and recommendations are very much in line with my personal way of living. Also your watch collection is very close to mine, but also some vintage watches are present. I'm also glad to see that Gotland is a spot you've visited 🙂, UK is one of our personal favorites. Please continue to create your good content, which is definitely good thing for the "new generation" of viewers. Regards from Sweden.....
Totally agree with all those Ash. Especially number 4. I used to look like mutton dressed as lamb. Now I’m 50 I don’t care and I’m now sporting a blazer and trousers and have never looked back. 50 is amazing. Great video as always. Next step the double breasted blazer.
I don't spend much on cars or holidays but I like to feel comfortable in what I'm wearing everyday and have functional clothing which is smart casual. I dress for my self in a process which started twenty years ago. I think though I'm at a stage where I have enough. I've been cycling with people who are ex military and you can't fault their disipline. I like Barbour Loake and Viyella shirts.
Ash. I'm 63 and I must say you really nailed it. I think and do everything you said. One in particular I will challenge my boss when I see he is wrong. And the acknowledgment of the ones who gave their lives for our freedom. And advice the the young people to day need to understand the most is you have to work for what you want. You won't appreciate things unless you work for them. Cheers Ron.
Great video, Ash. And, my favorite so far. It is incredible how similar our lives are. I too, am 51. I served 8 years in the military (U.S.), 2 combat tours. And when I was young drank as much as I could--because I was young. Back then, one of the senior NCOs in my unit said to me, "If you have your health, you have everything." Little did I know how true that was. The things that are important to me now are: health, family, friends, positive life experiences, knowledge and a good book. And, I agree that I care less and less about what other people think.
Thank you Ash for these wise words. This video has prompted me to subscribe rather than just dabble on your channel. One of the things I realise as I have got older is that my Dad’s advice on friends, family, being nice and giving back were spot on.
I very much enjoyed, and agree with all these points Ash, especially point nos. Two. I would imagine nobody lies on their death bed wishing that they had more money in the bank..
Brilliant video, Ash. I agree wholeheartedly with all your points. I am in the first half of the seventh decade of my life, and my 50's were the best full decade of my adult life. Mainly because of all the reasons you stated. I developed a much calmer and better daily attitude in my 50's, and truly learned how to live in the moment. And also learned how to express gratitude daily. Happiness is often a choice and I choose to be happy. Take care and keep up the good work!
One of the positives of growing older: I don't look as ridiculous when smoking my pipe as I certainly did fifteen years ago, when I was in my early twenties, puffing away on my first Vauen billard. ;) Always a great pleasure to watch your videos, Ash!
Having recently become a parent, this video was particularly poignant for me. I think many of your points are related, as I find myself 'dressing authentically' both to be an example to my son to avoid conformity, and as a form of self expression. As Oscar Wilde once quipped 'be yourself, everyone else is taken'. Keep up the great content!
The sacrifice you give to your loved ones or things which matter to you are not a burden. No nicer way of putting it. I would go as far as to say that they are a privilege.
Hi Ash, thank you very much for sharing these private matters. I really enjoy your videos and follow you since early of last year. I was wondering if you would like to share your thoughts on parenthood, as well. If I am not mistaken you are a father, too., as am I. What is a "good" dad in your point of view? How can one become a good father (to a son)? Thank you and best regards from Switzerland!
It's quite refreshing, in our youth-obsessed culture, to hear a discussion of the benefits of aging. I have male friends in their 70s and 80s, and these gentlemen are the most self-assured, content-with-themselves people I know. By contrast, many 20-somethings appear to be eternally anxious, unsure of themselves, and sadly, almost lost to the world.
Thanks, I'm 56 and just starting to figure out that I am mortal! I appreciate the time I have, try not to dwell on my faults too much, and when I can I try to pass on some of the extensive and quirky knowledge that I have amassed. I have to agree that not giving a damn is a brilliant aspect of having grey whiskers. Something I've noticed, I will talk to anybody. Conversing with strangers, telling a story, puts a lasting smile on my face.
The “I don’t give a damn” was the best part for me. 😩
Thanks for this information as always!
My life changed the day I decided to dress better. I was a late developer in the dressing well department. I was in my early 40s. Little did I know by dressing in a certain way would transform my world. I gained confidence and as a result I become more content. Youth is overrated today. We gain knowledge and a sense of well being which eluded us in our youth. Great video Ash.
You get it!!
Yes i prefer being in my 40s much better. I’ve got way more stamina for my ice skating too.
Same here, happened in 2023, early 40s, incredible difference in all areas of my life. Cheers Gents 🤝
You imbue so much wisdom and useful information in your videos...I just turned 37 and realized I need to start dressing better and dress more appropriately for my age and your videos have been very helpful. thank you for your excellent content 👏 🙏 😊
This is without a doubt one of your best videos yet. As a 65 year old I agree wholeheartedly with everything you said. Every day is a gift, every breath we take is a gift, every heartbeat precious. So many wonderful people don’t get these gifts that we have, they were cut short And never got a chance to grow older. Well done my friend.
Thank you sir. We are in total agreement on that score.
Best ever, total agreement
Your advice and insights are absolutely spot on. I especially like the fact that you are not reading from a script...you are speaking as a friend would to another friend...all good advice here...all spoken from a position of experience...thank you so much for this video.
Absolutely loved it, eloquently put and distinctively British!👍 That's your gift to the world most of us savour and cherish!🤗🎉😘
My friend, you have done many great videos, but this one is special to me. I love your message and the way that you deliver it. I swear, if I ever got across the big pond I would have to find a way to meet and thank you face to face. I turned 59 this week and I have thought about my most recent "mid-life crisis" and it is that I don't give a damn. I will wear what I want and I won't worry about what others may think. I will distinguish myself from others and strive for self improvement. Thank you.
For me, it's being a Dad and watching my kids develop and grow.
Dear Sir
You are certainly a gift for mankind - this has to be the most thoughtful and compassionate speech on living a life as fully and responsibly as one can - to love and honour the people who gave so much for our betterment - ❤
Not giving a shit is truly liberating. I wonder where I'd be today if I had discovered Marcus Aurelius in my twenties.
Wise words indeed Ash, and because you’ve made those points I’m going to be a bit more frivolous.
1. Making money when I was younger enabled me to retire early, so, at 62 I am free to be as eccentric as I like. I dress like a time traveller from the 1940s and enjoy conversations and doffing my hat to passers by.
2. Taking my dog on long strolls by the rugged north east coast.
3. Entertaining my beautiful wife and her charming lady friends.
4. Being much less angry than I used to be. When I look back back I realise what a Tartar I was!
5. Being able to do 22 pull-ups and unashamedly smirking when I beat a young lad when challenged to do so.
(I am probably more of a bounder than a chap, but definitely not a cad!)
Wonderful insight into a process we all go through, whether we want it or not. And the fact that you've learned from the lessons you've experienced, and feel they're worth sharing, makes it just as valuable for us. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Appreciate your service sir. Commenting from the great state of Texas.
Yet another sterling tutorial, everything said really resonates with me. Superb!
One other benefit is a raised level of confidence. This stems from experience and not giving a damn about what people think. With confidence comes being able to assert.
Excelente manera de ver la vida. Saludos desde México.
Well said ,respect to you
I think I may have needed that, I’m turning 38 this year-yeah, not that old, but I have already started to think about these things and it’s exceptionally frightening in some ways. Though it’s also a challenge to live far more intentionally.
As I enjoy my three year old grand-child, I take time to relax & recharge! Every day is a gift. Thank you, sir for an inspiring video!
Great video, as a young adult I appreciate all the wisdom that you passed down in this video. Especially on wealth because I am very much like yojr older self when it comes to that aspect and this perspective is very welcomed. Thanks and all the best!
Lots of great points, well made, old friend. Really appreciating this channel 👍. x
Cheers Mike - glad you like it. Congrats on your new svelte look. Very dapper!
Many Thanks.
Brilliant video and great advice Ash.
Glad it was helpful!
How postive .
Absolutely agree in every aspect sir. I don't give a damn either anymore. I am free I am courteous and helpful to others. I am myself and cherish life. I wish this wisdom would have come a bit sooner in life.
With age comes wisdom, but sometimes age comes alone. 😊
Good Morning Ash! This video was a treat after waking up early, just enjoying it with a coffee, cheers!
Great tips .
It's interesting when you talk about attire in the workplace. A colleague and I were recalling when the humble neck tie fell out of fashion in the office. So we have started to fasten that top button and wear a neck tie. The effect was almost instant. The number of people who have noticed and complemented on how smart we look. More importantly it makes me stand out and look more professional.
A positive for me is that I can wear "old man's watches" like small gold dress watches. I have a Seiko 'Tank" and a Omega DeVille 33mm and nobody bats an eye when I wear them. A negative is definately that I need more time to recover from sports injuries. (I'm 43 by the way)
Wonderful video!
Excellent points, every birthday is victory!
Hello sir, thank you for making another informative and enlightening video. Your work and the chap's guide helped me quite a bit to find my place in the 21st century as a young person. I am 21 years old and I still have a long way to go in this life. As I am grateful for my parents for giving me the enormous opportunities and sacrifices they have, I often found my own ways to teach myself and get better as a person growing up in our modern age. When I watch your videos it often feels like I am receiving fatherly advices that I have not yet received, and for that thank you very much. I wish you and your family much health and prosperity, looking forward for your next videos.
- an aspiring chaplet
Ah young chaplet - you are already wise beyond your years and are already head and shoulders above your contemporaries!
Wise words! Thanks and take care
Well said. Thanks from an American in his 50's.
Hey Ash, lots to think and reflect about life. I have two kids in university. I want them to have better opportunities and for them to make better choices than I did. I don’t see it as a sacrifice but as my love for my kids. I don’t miss going on holidays or buying a new vehicle or shop for new clothes or jewelry.
I volunteer as a volleyball and football (soccer) coach. I find this extremely rewarding. I’m looking forward my retirement in a few years. At work I try to help and advice my young colleagues. Some pay attention some don’t. I try to pass and share my knowledge with the younger crowd. Thank you for the great advice. Looking forward more videos.
Just watched your video
Very informative & inspiring
I really connect with what you’re about but through life choices I’m now 58 - renting- no super & yes alcohol has played a part
I’m going to follow all the advice & philosophy you’ve shown & let you know how things turn out
Good luck sir
Nice touch, Ash. Thanks
Well done. Thank you for your valuable message.
I will be turning 61 in just a few days and as each year passes, one quickly comes to realize just how few people's opinion really matters.
Hi Ash, I fully agree with ALL your aspects on getting older, I myself just started my journey as a senior at an age of 65 but I still enjoy driving my 200 hp motorcycle 🙂. You are still a “young” person in my opinion and you have many years ahead, so please continue to enjoy your life together your family and friends, your watches and other aspects of your life (as I do), but mostly continue to be young in the mind, which I personally find most important. Regards from Sweden….
What a great ideology sir. I always live my life with little regard to the number of my age. I am actually fitter and healthier now, than I was 10-years ago - so I press ahead with optimism and the quiet advantage of life experience. My regards to beautiful Sweden sir - I visited about 4-years ago, a magnificent place (stayed in Gotland).
@@TheChapsGuide Dear Ash, thanks for your personal reply, great to hear. Once again I follow your channel for quite a long time and most of your issues and recommendations are very much in line with my personal way of living. Also your watch collection is very close to mine, but also some vintage watches are present. I'm also glad to see that Gotland is a spot you've visited 🙂, UK is one of our personal favorites. Please continue to create your good content, which is definitely good thing for the "new generation" of viewers. Regards from Sweden.....
Totally agree with all those Ash. Especially number 4. I used to look like mutton dressed as lamb. Now I’m 50 I don’t care and I’m now sporting a blazer and trousers and have never looked back. 50 is amazing. Great video as always. Next step the double breasted blazer.
I don't spend much on cars or holidays but I like to feel comfortable in what I'm wearing everyday and have functional clothing which is smart casual. I dress for my self in a process which started twenty years ago. I think though I'm at a stage where I have enough. I've been cycling with people who are ex military and you can't fault their disipline. I like Barbour Loake and Viyella shirts.
Ash. I'm 63 and I must say you really nailed it. I think and do everything you said. One in particular I will challenge my boss when I see he is wrong. And the acknowledgment of the ones who gave their lives for our freedom. And advice the the young people to day need to understand the most is you have to work for what you want. You won't appreciate things unless you work for them. Cheers Ron.
This was a very interesting video. I highly enjoyed. Thanks, Sir.
Great video, Ash. And, my favorite so far. It is incredible how similar our lives are. I too, am 51. I served 8 years in the military (U.S.), 2 combat tours. And when I was young drank as much as I could--because I was young. Back then, one of the senior NCOs in my unit said to me, "If you have your health, you have everything." Little did I know how true that was.
The things that are important to me now are: health, family, friends, positive life experiences, knowledge and a good book. And, I agree that I care less and less about what other people think.
Salute to you sir, especially in this week of remembrance! Let the good times remain good for us survivors!
Thank you Ash for these wise words. This video has prompted me to subscribe rather than just dabble on your channel. One of the things I realise as I have got older is that my Dad’s advice on friends, family, being nice and giving back were spot on.
Good on you Ash - great video!
Fantastic video great words of wisdom thank you Ash.
Very very interesting, sir.
I very much enjoyed, and agree with all these points Ash, especially point nos. Two. I would imagine nobody lies on their death bed wishing that they had more money in the bank..
What a great analogy. Die poor - that’s my goal (which I’m working at quite well).
Brilliant video, Ash. I agree wholeheartedly with all your points. I am in the first half of the seventh decade of my life, and my 50's were the best full decade of my adult life. Mainly because of all the reasons you stated. I developed a much calmer and better daily attitude in my 50's, and truly learned how to live in the moment. And also learned how to express gratitude daily. Happiness is often a choice and I choose to be happy. Take care and keep up the good work!
thanks ash, well put
well said. thank you
One of the positives of growing older: I don't look as ridiculous when smoking my pipe as I certainly did fifteen years ago, when I was in my early twenties, puffing away on my first Vauen billard. ;)
Always a great pleasure to watch your videos, Ash!
Having recently become a parent, this video was particularly poignant for me. I think many of your points are related, as I find myself 'dressing authentically' both to be an example to my son to avoid conformity, and as a form of self expression. As Oscar Wilde once quipped 'be yourself, everyone else is taken'. Keep up the great content!
You have a splendid name, sir.
@@bigbadbith8422 Thank you! My mother is to thank for that one... Do not go gentle into that good night is her favourite poem.
The sacrifice you give to your loved ones or things which matter to you are not a burden. No nicer way of putting it. I would go as far as to say that they are a privilege.
Thank you - totally agree. Especially when experienced situations with lot of impact/stress in life. Also good to travel to third world countries.
Advantage #6: A gentleman can now freely wear Ushankas which make you look like "The Grand Poo-Bahh of the Royal Water Buffalos"!
Hi Ash, thank you very much for sharing these private matters. I really enjoy your videos and follow you since early of last year. I was wondering if you would like to share your thoughts on parenthood, as well. If I am not mistaken you are a father, too., as am I. What is a "good" dad in your point of view? How can one become a good father (to a son)? Thank you and best regards from Switzerland!
I will give that topic some serious thought. Not sure I feel like I'm qualified as yet!
cheaper car insurance
That is possibly the most important bonus of all.
The Rolex watch has only one purpose, but a big one. Trade it for your life if you're in the middle of a coup in Africa or South America.
I don't conform to silliness. I dress nicely for myself.