It's unfortunate that so many humans throughout history have had such a bad experience with alcohol. I think in the best circumstance, alcohol and the culture around it, collecting, sampling and enjoying the different kinds of drinks the world has to offer can be a great hobby. I enjoy drinking wines and spirits. Sometimes I do imbibe a bit too much, but less and less often. I consciously curtail my intake now, and I restrict myself to only drinking on certain days, or only a number of days per week. If I think, well, I'll have a drink today, but it wasn't supposed to be my day, I'll not drink on that other day. But I understand that this is something that some people just cannot control. It's not their own fault, to an extent, it's that there's something innate genetically that makes some of us more easily addicted. The best that we can do is identify that trait early enough so that it doesn't cause irreparable harm. If having to stop alcohol intake entirely is the remedy, that it must be done.
Well done. We all have a different experience with booze. I’m a drink or 2 a month person. Some months no drinks and some more. I do understand others have better and worse relationships with alcohol
17 years (It happened gradually, so I'm not exactly sure when I actually quit for good) Best thing I ever did for myself. I was never addicted, but I definitely had an unhealthy consumption. And at some point it just didn't appeal to me anymore.
I'm a big fan of your channel and advice Ash. I'm 59 years old, live in the US, and have an interest in many of things you talk about in your videos. Currently, I'm battling prostate cancer so your videos are often pleasant diversions. Luckily, I think I'm winning the fight. Keep your good work.
Things which I gave up by age 41 Over spending and over buying, Phone addiction, Smoking, Anger, Sugar and Carbohydrates, Junk food, Overthinking. And Things which I am working on Spending quality time with my parents, Exercise, Drinking water, Money management, Acquiring Financial knowledge I learned many things from the chaps guide - moral compass , dressing better , grooming, presenting yourself , becoming a gentleman ,good manners , journalling , etiquettes etc etc ..
As Lao Tse once said “If you do not change direction, you may just end up where you are going!” For me, I gave up work, drink and bad diet all for serious health reasons and philosophical attitudes have guided me to a better life. From the Poetic Edda, ‘A man is wealthy, if he has food in the belly, a roof over his head and a fire in the hearth’. Meaning a life of simplicity and actively seeking a simple life, is all that a person needs.
Wise words, Ash. I’m a news junkie or at least used to be. I’m now more selective to avoid constant doom scrolling. Limit social media too. It’s mainly corrosive.
Very wise advice! Going through the COVID period taught me that NEWS is merely but a series of minor serial obsessions. Once one is over, they only move onto the next. The good news is, even by avoiding the news, you still manage to learn all you need to know. Although, in writing this, my students seem , somewhat miraculously, to avoid all news unless it involves a 'celebrity' of whom I have never heard.😀
I am a 55 year old dentist in America. I have been following you for a while. I believe this to be the most important and impactful video you have ever produced. I agree with your perspective 100%. Thank you for this great content!
A good friend once said, "Manners maketh man", and "Public service is a gentleman's true worth". Service in the RAF and the police force is more than validating 👍
Very wise words! Biggest thing for me is not comparing myself to others. Im happy with my lot in life and enjoy the simple things in life like getting into nature with the dogs. I dont even envy those with huge houses and expensive cars…..i just think of the stress that comes along with such material possessions who are probably financed to the eye balls
I run my own business and have been cycling to work, daily, for the past 36 years. Always makes me chuckle when new customers compliment me on the flash, sparkling Audi Q7 outside the office. That's owned by the office-clerk, who's going through the "this will impress other people" stage...😂 Great video, Ash - thanks!
I gave up smoking 50 cigarettes per day at 30. At 40 I decided to drastically reduce my alcohol consumption. At 67 I decided to give up working and retired. Of the three I must admit that giving up trading my time for money has brought me the greatest reward. I am married and have 2 children and 2 grandchildren. I heard Dr. David Suzuki say that he endured the responsibility of raising children so that he could enjoy his grandchildren. I agree. Find happiness and joy in the simple things you do daily. Each day is a gift if you let it be so.
It is amazing about the grip that social drinking has upon you. I gave up alcohol 700 days ago. Never going back to drinking. I sleep better and feel so much better and healthy. I have my weekends back to the full. No time is wasted.
Thanks for the video and advice Ash. For me I have given up caring what people think about me , because I know what is in my heart and that GOD is with me. I love your videos because they are a true CHAPS GUIDE !!! Thanyou Ash for your inspiring tales.. A true C
I'm 34 and I have to say, this video makes me realize that I'm way ahead of the curve. My twenties were absolutely BONKERS in terms of all the self-sabogaging sins this gentleman has listed. I dont regret wasting the last decade and a half womanizing, doing drugs and being a general cretin, as without it I'd have no standard by which to measure my progress. Today, I'm no longer a drug dealing prostitute. I'm a gainfully employed recovering addict who's 1 year and 16 days sober! Thank you for making these videos, guiding and inspiring a new generation of young men to become refined, curteous and cultured chaps. My father did the best he could teaching me about manhood but I'm grateful there are people like you out here who can help fill in the gaps.
I'm 51. I used to have a very stressful job. I also suffer from chronic back pain. I used to drink to manage the stress and back pain. I gave up alcohol about 10 years ago because it was destroying my health. I also decided to change my career into something completely different. This year I also gave up caffeine. I now commit to trying to walk every day , get some exercise and spend time in nature. I'm now self employed and my own boss. I do not earn as much money but my life is so much better. I'm healthier, happier and a better husband and father.
You are much more well off in every respect now Sir. Rather than playing the pointless game of money and prestige. You will live much longer and have a richer life!
As a younger guy(43 now) I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the commonalities between your story and mine. It’s advice content like this that lots of men need to hear…. Especially nowadays.
One thing I would add Ash is to indulge yourself with some things if they make you happy😊.Rather than omitting them from your life because they might seem shallow but realize that time is short so enjoy yourself within certain bounds as long as it doesn't damage your mental and physical health.Personally,clothes,a nice house,a few vintage watches,nice car etc. are just me.I enjoy these material things and wouldn't dream of apologizing for their inclusion in my life.Personal relationships and one's health are my priorities but some material things add joy to life.
Do things to impress others in your 50s is a waste of time. But in your twenties it is far from a waste of effort it is essential and that’s why we all do it.
@@alamore5084I smoked cigarettes from age 10 to 50 years . I was as fit as a butchers dog while still smoking 21 years ago . Since I gave up I felt like death warmed up for the last 20 odd years . Giving up smoking isn’t always a good thing , it can cause people to develop lung issues like Asthma & COPD , due to a sudden change in their system .
Excellent video, Ash! You’ve given me a lot to think about as well as confirmation that I’m heading in the right direction. Thank you for speaking the truth so effectively. Your wisdom and insight are very helpful. Thank you, Sir! 🫡
I wouldn't say it's something that I consciously gave up because it was causing me harm or not helping, but simply as a consequence of not having time to do it, I just stopped doing it and really don't miss it. As we started having kids, it just became harder and harder to watch TV, and sports on TV, and I just don't do it anymore and don't miss it. I don't subscribe to any TV package either through cable or the Internet. I watch RUclips, I watch and collect films, and the occasional streaming series, but very few, but otherwise I don't "watch" TV anymore. I went years without any awareness of even what the local sports teams were doing. I wasn't even aware that my local NFL team, The Eagles were contending for the Super Bowl the year they won it until December. I was that oblivious, not intentionally so, but I just was so out of it that I wasn't even aware.
Hey Ash. Another highly valuable contribution from your good self. If only more people had the benefit of your wise words. I see lots of comments about alcohol - so it's clear that's a factor in many peoples' lives. Your bit about materialism is entirely valid, but I guess we are all a little materialistic if we are honest with ourselves. Like all things, it's about moderation. Glad you are still giving your time to us 😊
Thank you for the content and wise words Ash, it's interesting when we think of success we first think of material possessions rather than maybe how we are as people I.e being kind, loyal, loving, being there for your family and friends. Material possessions are useful/necessary to a point but a fine line to not cross when chasing more is not more, thanks Mike
Great work letting go of alcohol Ash. I stopped 3.5 years ago for the same reasons as you did. I also grew up in the valleys where it was always expected for you to drink and drink heavily. All the bad things in my life, I can point directly to drink and there is a distinct thread of alcoholism in my family. It's hard but I recommend everyone to take a beat and enjoy alternatives. It doesn't have to be soft drinks at the bar. There are a wide variety of brews now that you can partake in and on many occasions, oblivious to the people you are sharing time with that you are not drinking alcohol. Indeed, you are your health too. Very wise words Sir. Keep up the great work!
Great wisdom. As the saying goes health is wealth. I train with weights 2 to 3 times a week, as I noticed my parents' muscle and posture decline very quickly after they retired. I too like watches. I wish I could go to 3 watches maximum 😂 We live in a very commercial world with comparisons in are thoughts. I like to spend time in nature with people less fortunate than myself which is good for the soul.
Well done sir, your wisdom and maturity are a result and testament of experience, discipline and mindset. The positive progression in your life journey is commendable congratulations and best wishes. your content is very much appreciated. thank you for sharing your experience
Although a certain amount of money, and the material goods and opportunities it can provide, can make for a dignified, comfortable existence, beyond a certain point people begin to be owned by their possessions and can fall into the trap of expending vast amounts of energy in amassing material goods rather than in cultivating relationships with people. (We've all heard the anecdotes about the corporate executive, thrice divorced, who doesn't even know the names of his/her grandchildren.) As I used to say to my dear, departed mother, who had an unhealthy attachment to material things and the status they provided, "One place you'll never see a luggage rack is on a hearse."
Lots of good advice. I do worry though that we are constantly advised to think of self first, self improvement and so on. In the past, team work and group activities made us a much more cohesive society who looked out for each other. I live in a village where most of the group activities, drama groups, sports clubs, scouts and others have ceased to exist because no one volunteers support any more.
What a wonderful video, spoken with candour about your experiences and choices. I can relate to the 'not comparing ourselves with others' straightaway. But being able to give free expression to one's creativity and not overcommitting oneself is a luxury most people do not have. They (we) are trapped in their own circumstances without an idea of a way out. But for those who have the luxury but not given adequate thought to it, this video could be an eye opener.
Good points here, each area you mention is worth an assessment. I’ve had to loose some boozy mates over the years, who always assumed I’d be free to sit in a pub for hours.. I do however feel a bit envious of Oak Lodge!
Cigarettes at 19, alcohol at 40. You don't need either to enjoy yourself! My regret is not ditching the booze much earlier. I get complimented regularly on how well I look now which NEVER happened to me when I was young. More time being present and able, money for coffees out whilst being a dapper chap💪
I gave up drinking as well this year because of depression. I have done some things like that as well. I work less I’m working 30 hours a week . I don’t do that as well I’m better as well
Great content, Ash. Similar to you, I quit the rat race at the age of 51. As a single man with no family commitments, my mortgage paid off, no other debts, and money / investments behind me, I swapped a well paid job for a much simpler life, indulging in my various hobbies, and greeting each new day like you would a Saturday. I have never looked back and now that my various other pensions have all kicked in, I am all the more appreciative of those additional years of complete freedom that I have so enjoyed and will hopefully continue to do so for a few more years to come. My early retirement had been in the planning for quite some time, and at considerable sacrifice in terms of holidays and luxuries foregone. I only pressed ‘GO’ when all of my individual financial milestones had been achieved. I also had a plan B in the unlikely event things went pear-shaped. They didn’t.
Oh, where to start on this topic at the age of 56. I've always wanted to retire into an interest. One of my main interests is hats, genuine panama hats. I'd like to open my own shop/boutique and source hats and other 'gentlmenly' products myself as I've always loved adventures. I hope to do this in the next 5 years.
We are all victims of the corporate Machine to a greater or lesser extent , it’s very hard to avoid the constant manipulation of the modern world . One of the great problems is as human beings we are naturally followers and conformists. We often want to be just like the rest only a little bit better but rarely take a pause to ask if we are happy .. Agree , people constantly needing approval and looking to impress others in a very superficial manner is often a foundation of unhappiness.
I'm 40 now...As they say, the hardest challenge is to know which bridges to burn, and which to cross... Giving something up, can often lead to transformation.... sometimes it leads to tough challenges, but in my experiences, (new job, moving country, ending relationships etc), it can lead to new chapters In terms of day to day, i no longer drink alcohol, don't smoke, and try to watch less tv (replaced by books).... also very slowly giving up all debt (4 more years before I'm debt free, apart from house) .... giving up dependancy on debt is life changing I would add one bonus - sugar and ultra processed food... I'm not there yet, but I'm trying
@@TheChapsGuide Ash thank you so much... and in terms of watches, I've discovered Sinn... wearing my EZM 3F with pleasure.... in my older years I'll have a Breguet or something of that level.. but enjoying this brutalist tool style. Practical and simple
Thanks for sharing this Ash. I’m in my 40s and realized that these 5 points you mentioned here are exactly how I feel nowadays. While I know I’m yet to be the best version of myself, I’m now no longer concerned about keeping up with the Joneses. I have grown a strong dislike for most things with noticeable brand logos on them. My Mercedes is now 10 years old and I simply don’t care about getting a newer one , Still cherish and enjoy it much as I did years ago. I have only 1 luxury watch that I practically wear and enjoy on a daily basis while actively hiding it under long sleeves most of the time. I am comfortable drinking in my own terms. I’ve got laid off, now running my own small business, and am happily rejecting offers as I am no longer chasing the numbers. It’s how I use what time I’ve got left that matters now.
Another great video, thanks, Ash. Please do comment on your multiple sources of income. I think this provides so much more financial security than someone who relies upon a paycheck from one employer.
I come from humble beginnings. But i've worked hard, and at once upon a time I had two jobs. The first house that I bought, i decided to turn that into a rental property, and I am planning on picking up another rental property. The self worth this has given me. It has completely changed my life. I'm hoping to retire at 55, so 15 years time. Which with a few rental properties behind me, it will make me a very wealthy man. However I make the mistake constantly of not living ''for the now''. Thank-you for reminding me, Ash
If I may add one - people you’ve outgrown. To be sure, old friends occupy a particularly special place. But, when the length of the relationship is the sole attribute while everything else (value system, outlook, ambition, etc.) increasingly diverges, it’s time to quit those people.
Goodmorning Sir from the South of France 🇫🇷 As per your normal form a grade A video ! Totally agree with everything you said a vital template for many to use. The cutting alcohol out and eating well are absolutely vital. Comparison is the thief of joy !!!!!
Hi ash, may i know your thoughts about expensive silk ties versus cheaper ones (also 100% silk)? Does the significant difference in price justified? Thank you
Such a great question - merits a video response I think. I'll put it on the list. But in brief - I've had both and there are huge differences, but these days I would never, ever pay a huge amount for a tie. So many elite level ties are floating around on the 2nd hand market at silly prices, it would seem pointless to invest big money in a branded tie these days.
You are 68% through you life.. with average life expectancy of 79 in uk. More than 2 thirds. Halfway is in the rear view mirror, which you keep referring to lol. However, your approach is inspiring in many aspects. As for making your own luck, I put this down to attitude. You cannot choose your circumstances, but you can always choose your attitude that gives you power over whatever situation your are in. Do you sit and wail about life’s turn of events, or roll up your sleeves and deal with them. Those that face into them will have better outcomes, and be deemed lucky.
"Who wants to live to be a hundred years of age, if you're a decrepit old wreck! I want to live to be a hundred years of age, but be fairly fit and sprightly for that age." You are, as ever, bang on the money, Ash
I never drank heavy, but ages 21-23 I probably had a beer a day every day; the really high calorie craft beers. Alcohol never ruled me, but moving from a daily drink to a monthly has saved my waistline and helped my wallet
I got diagnosed with cancer this year (I’m fine). It kicked me in the ass but got my butt moving. It made me realize at age 69 that there’s not much time. So I’m writing a book and started a T shirt company. And I’m more fit now than probably anytime.
Interesting! In sociology there’s a term very similar to “parvenu”, and that is “anomie”. Anomie is when there is a lack of social or moral standards, brought by economic change. An application of this is “anomic suicide”. For example, a man losing everything overnight gambling, and consequently committing suicide. It can also occur, more symbolically rather than physically, after a sudden accumulation of wealth as well. For example, winning the lottery and instead of investing in the future or in the community, you spend it on booze and designer clothes. More so affecting the soul.
Alcohol, smoking, drugs, TV license, driving (dangerous and expensive, also environment impact) some people need to do it but I can walk everywhere I want to go. There's a lot of pressure on people to get a car. My Dad has 4 kids and the second they all turn 17 they all need a car and driving lessons.
I’m 5+ years totally free of the booze …best thing I ever did. 👍🏼 I appreciate your videos. Thanks, Ash!
Well done! I'm about the same. Don't think I was an alcoholic, just got sick of waking up with a sore head. 😂
It's unfortunate that so many humans throughout history have had such a bad experience with alcohol. I think in the best circumstance, alcohol and the culture around it, collecting, sampling and enjoying the different kinds of drinks the world has to offer can be a great hobby. I enjoy drinking wines and spirits. Sometimes I do imbibe a bit too much, but less and less often. I consciously curtail my intake now, and I restrict myself to only drinking on certain days, or only a number of days per week. If I think, well, I'll have a drink today, but it wasn't supposed to be my day, I'll not drink on that other day. But I understand that this is something that some people just cannot control. It's not their own fault, to an extent, it's that there's something innate genetically that makes some of us more easily addicted. The best that we can do is identify that trait early enough so that it doesn't cause irreparable harm. If having to stop alcohol intake entirely is the remedy, that it must be done.
Well done. We all have a different experience with booze. I’m a drink or 2 a month person. Some months no drinks and some more. I do understand others have better and worse relationships with alcohol
17 years (It happened gradually, so I'm not exactly sure when I actually quit for good)
Best thing I ever did for myself. I was never addicted, but I definitely had an unhealthy consumption. And at some point it just didn't appeal to me anymore.
I'm nearly 4 years sober
The best thing I have ever done
Wisdom. Couldn't have said it better myself. Hope young people take your words to heart. Thank you, Ash
I'm a big fan of your channel and advice Ash. I'm 59 years old, live in the US, and have an interest in many of things you talk about in your videos. Currently, I'm battling prostate cancer so your videos are often pleasant diversions. Luckily, I think I'm winning the fight. Keep your good work.
I wish you a swift recovery to full health sir. My most sincere regards.
Things which I gave up by age 41
Over spending and over buying,
Phone addiction,
Smoking,
Anger,
Sugar and Carbohydrates,
Junk food,
Overthinking.
And Things which I am working on
Spending quality time with my parents,
Exercise,
Drinking water,
Money management,
Acquiring Financial knowledge
I learned many things from the chaps guide - moral compass , dressing better , grooming, presenting yourself , becoming a gentleman ,good manners , journalling , etiquettes etc etc ..
Thank you sir.
Retirement before 55 is an astounding accomplishment. Congratulations.
Thanks & good job! Don't settle (for toxic relationships). We got this. Let's go!
As Lao Tse once said “If you do not change direction, you may just end up where you are going!” For me, I gave up work, drink and bad diet all for serious health reasons and philosophical attitudes have guided me to a better life. From the Poetic Edda, ‘A man is wealthy, if he has food in the belly, a roof over his head and a fire in the hearth’. Meaning a life of simplicity and actively seeking a simple life, is all that a person needs.
Wise words, Ash. I’m a news junkie or at least used to be. I’m now more selective to avoid constant doom scrolling. Limit social media too. It’s mainly corrosive.
Very wise advice! Going through the COVID period taught me that NEWS is merely but a series of minor serial obsessions. Once one is over, they only move onto the next.
The good news is, even by avoiding the news, you still manage to learn all you need to know. Although, in writing this, my students seem , somewhat miraculously, to avoid all news unless it involves a 'celebrity' of whom I have never heard.😀
I am a 55 year old dentist in America. I have been following you for a while. I believe this to be the most important and impactful video you have ever produced. I agree with your perspective 100%. Thank you for this great content!
Thank you sir, that is much appreciated
The art of letting go is always difficult to acquire. Once acquired, it brings immense peace and joy. Each one to their own!
Good things to give up, i will forward this to my younger sons. Better to learn this earlier than i did in my life. 😊
A good friend once said, "Manners maketh man", and "Public service is a gentleman's true worth".
Service in the RAF and the police force is more than validating 👍
Very wise words! Biggest thing for me is not comparing myself to others. Im happy with my lot in life and enjoy the simple things in life like getting into nature with the dogs. I dont even envy those with huge houses and expensive cars…..i just think of the stress that comes along with such material possessions who are probably financed to the eye balls
I run my own business and have been cycling to work, daily, for the past 36 years.
Always makes me chuckle when new customers compliment me on the flash, sparkling Audi Q7 outside the office.
That's owned by the office-clerk, who's going through the "this will impress other people" stage...😂
Great video, Ash - thanks!
Good for you, Colin! Your have your values right.
I love the idea of having a woodland retreat. I have lots of woodlands around me and maybe I should start making use of it
Unfortunately the one near me is covered in dog muck. 🤢🤢
I gave up smoking 50 cigarettes per day at 30. At 40 I decided to drastically reduce my alcohol consumption. At 67 I decided to give up working and retired. Of the three I must admit that giving up trading my time for money has brought me the greatest reward. I am married and have 2 children and 2 grandchildren. I heard Dr. David Suzuki say that he endured the responsibility of raising children so that he could enjoy his grandchildren. I agree. Find happiness and joy in the simple things you do daily. Each day is a gift if you let it be so.
It is amazing about the grip that social drinking has upon you. I gave up alcohol 700 days ago. Never going back to drinking. I sleep better and feel so much better and healthy. I have my weekends back to the full. No time is wasted.
Very brave. Bravo!
THANKS Ash, a great video. I am 63 yrs old, and more or less have taken the same path and thoughts as you and feel in top shape and control .😊
Thanks for the video and advice Ash.
For me I have given up caring what people think about me , because I know what is in my heart and that GOD is with me.
I love your videos because they are a true CHAPS GUIDE !!!
Thanyou Ash for your inspiring tales..
A true C
Big hug from Portugal Ash !
I'm 34 and I have to say, this video makes me realize that I'm way ahead of the curve. My twenties were absolutely BONKERS in terms of all the self-sabogaging sins this gentleman has listed. I dont regret wasting the last decade and a half womanizing, doing drugs and being a general cretin, as without it I'd have no standard by which to measure my progress. Today, I'm no longer a drug dealing prostitute. I'm a gainfully employed recovering addict who's 1 year and 16 days sober! Thank you for making these videos, guiding and inspiring a new generation of young men to become refined, curteous and cultured chaps. My father did the best he could teaching me about manhood but I'm grateful there are people like you out here who can help fill in the gaps.
I'm 51. I used to have a very stressful job. I also suffer from chronic back pain. I used to drink to manage the stress and back pain. I gave up alcohol about 10 years ago because it was destroying my health. I also decided to change my career into something completely different. This year I also gave up caffeine. I now commit to trying to walk every day , get some exercise and spend time in nature. I'm now self employed and my own boss. I do not earn as much money but my life is so much better. I'm healthier, happier and a better husband and father.
Bravo sir - you have achieved Chap Nirvana!!!
You are much more well off in every respect now Sir. Rather than playing the pointless game of money and prestige. You will live much longer and have a richer life!
Back pain is the worse, i suffer with it too. Good on you, sir
Wise words.
As a younger guy(43 now) I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the commonalities between your story and mine. It’s advice content like this that lots of men need to hear…. Especially nowadays.
One thing I would add Ash is to indulge yourself with some things if they make you happy😊.Rather than omitting them from your life because they might seem shallow but realize that time is short so enjoy yourself within certain bounds as long as it doesn't damage your mental and physical health.Personally,clothes,a nice house,a few vintage watches,nice car etc. are just me.I enjoy these material things and wouldn't dream of apologizing for their inclusion in my life.Personal relationships and one's health are my priorities but some material things add joy to life.
Thanks for sharing this Ash. Great advice even for us older chaps.
I'm 41 and I have to say this was a very powerful video. I appreciate this wisdom and will definitely take it to heart and start implementing it.
You are so welcome
Excellent thanks
Do things to impress others in your 50s is a waste of time. But in your twenties it is far from a waste of effort it is essential and that’s why we all do it.
Wrong! It is NEVER essential. It's just that when we're young we're too daft to realise it.
Ash, you are the chap's chap.
Ash you got my respect with your view of material things
Ash, Your words are a bit of wisdom in themselves. Well said.
Another great video from one of the best channels on youtube.
Thank you Sir for all the amazing videos.
Glad you like them!
I quit smoking after 25 years doing so. Best thing ever.
Good for you Sir. I know firsthand how hard it is to do. Your lung capacity will improve enormously after doing so as well.💪
@@alamore5084 I can attest to that, it´s been 5 years already... Just no comparison.
@@alamore5084I smoked cigarettes from age 10 to 50 years . I was as fit as a butchers dog while still smoking 21 years ago . Since I gave up I felt like death warmed up for the last 20 odd years . Giving up smoking isn’t always a good thing , it can cause people to develop lung issues like Asthma & COPD , due to a sudden change in their system .
George Best: · In 1969, I gave up women and alcohol - it was the worst 20 minutes of my life.
Excellent video, Ash! You’ve given me a lot to think about as well as confirmation that I’m heading in the right direction. Thank you for speaking the truth so effectively. Your wisdom and insight are very helpful. Thank you, Sir! 🫡
Glad it was helpful!
EXCELLENT STUFF! Keep it up. Young men need perspective and lessons.
Thanks! Will do!
In my opinion, probably the best video that you have made, excellent advice 👍
Glad it was helpful!
Wow, what an incredible video! Thank you for this.
Fully distracted by that terrifying cobweb on the door 🙀
I wouldn't say it's something that I consciously gave up because it was causing me harm or not helping, but simply as a consequence of not having time to do it, I just stopped doing it and really don't miss it. As we started having kids, it just became harder and harder to watch TV, and sports on TV, and I just don't do it anymore and don't miss it. I don't subscribe to any TV package either through cable or the Internet. I watch RUclips, I watch and collect films, and the occasional streaming series, but very few, but otherwise I don't "watch" TV anymore. I went years without any awareness of even what the local sports teams were doing. I wasn't even aware that my local NFL team, The Eagles were contending for the Super Bowl the year they won it until December. I was that oblivious, not intentionally so, but I just was so out of it that I wasn't even aware.
Great comments Ash. One minor thing I recommend. Get hold of a new outdoor table. I suggest you buy an Ash Wood one.
Somebody once asked my cousin what she was giving up for Lent, to which she replied, "HOPE!" That still makes me laugh! 😂
Hey Ash. Another highly valuable contribution from your good self. If only more people had the benefit of your wise words. I see lots of comments about alcohol - so it's clear that's a factor in many peoples' lives. Your bit about materialism is entirely valid, but I guess we are all a little materialistic if we are honest with ourselves. Like all things, it's about moderation. Glad you are still giving your time to us 😊
Thank you for the content and wise words Ash, it's interesting when we think of success we first think of material possessions rather than maybe how we are as people I.e being kind, loyal, loving, being there for your family and friends. Material possessions are useful/necessary to a point but a fine line to not cross when chasing more is not more, thanks Mike
Great work letting go of alcohol Ash. I stopped 3.5 years ago for the same reasons as you did. I also grew up in the valleys where it was always expected for you to drink and drink heavily. All the bad things in my life, I can point directly to drink and there is a distinct thread of alcoholism in my family. It's hard but I recommend everyone to take a beat and enjoy alternatives. It doesn't have to be soft drinks at the bar. There are a wide variety of brews now that you can partake in and on many occasions, oblivious to the people you are sharing time with that you are not drinking alcohol. Indeed, you are your health too. Very wise words Sir. Keep up the great work!
Great wisdom. As the saying goes health is wealth. I train with weights 2 to 3 times a week, as I noticed my parents' muscle and posture decline very quickly after they retired. I too like watches. I wish I could go to 3 watches maximum 😂
We live in a very commercial world with comparisons in are thoughts. I like to spend time in nature with people less fortunate than myself which is good for the soul.
Well done sir, your wisdom and maturity are a result and testament of experience, discipline and mindset. The positive progression in your life journey is commendable congratulations and best wishes. your content is very much appreciated. thank you for sharing your experience
Although a certain amount of money, and the material goods and opportunities it can provide, can make for a dignified, comfortable existence, beyond a certain point people begin to be owned by their possessions and can fall into the trap of expending vast amounts of energy in amassing material goods rather than in cultivating relationships with people. (We've all heard the anecdotes about the corporate executive, thrice divorced, who doesn't even know the names of his/her grandchildren.)
As I used to say to my dear, departed mother, who had an unhealthy attachment to material things and the status they provided, "One place you'll never see a luggage rack is on a hearse."
Lots of good advice. I do worry though that we are constantly advised to think of self first, self improvement and so on. In the past, team work and group activities made us a much more cohesive society who looked out for each other. I live in a village where most of the group activities, drama groups, sports clubs, scouts and others have ceased to exist because no one volunteers support any more.
What a wonderful video, spoken with candour about your experiences and choices. I can relate to the 'not comparing ourselves with others' straightaway. But being able to give free expression to one's creativity and not overcommitting oneself is a luxury most people do not have. They (we) are trapped in their own circumstances without an idea of a way out. But for those who have the luxury but not given adequate thought to it, this video could be an eye opener.
I’m actually going to save this video, so I could come back to it in the future, near and distant.
Success in life is not measured by wealth and possessions but by personal contentment.
Great tips as always. Thanks for sharing. I'd be curious to see that video about incomes streams you mentioned possibly doing.
Thank you.
You're welcome!
Good points here, each area you mention is worth an assessment. I’ve had to loose some boozy mates over the years, who always assumed I’d be free to sit in a pub for hours..
I do however feel a bit envious of Oak Lodge!
I gave up sugar and carbs and feeling much better for it, mentally and physically.
@@sticksnstones5407 Well done. Sugar is one of the biggest problems in modern food.
Much appreciated thoughts that you have offered and I am pondering. Thanks Ash.
Glad it was helpful!
Great video. Wisdom!
Thank you!
Cigarettes at 19, alcohol at 40. You don't need either to enjoy yourself! My regret is not ditching the booze much earlier. I get complimented regularly on how well I look now which NEVER happened to me when I was young. More time being present and able, money for coffees out whilst being a dapper chap💪
wise man wise words 👌
Hi Ash....love your videos about oak Lodge and you ration packs from around the world....any more in the future ? Best wishes Grant
Hopefully - I'm trying to find a new nation to try out for my next review video.
I gave up drinking as well this year because of depression.
I have done some things like that as well.
I work less I’m working 30 hours a week .
I don’t do that as well I’m better as well
Hello Ash.
Hello!
Great content, Ash. Similar to you, I quit the rat race at the age of 51. As a single man with no family commitments, my mortgage paid off, no other debts, and money / investments behind me, I swapped a well paid job for a much simpler life, indulging in my various hobbies, and greeting each new day like you would a Saturday. I have never looked back and now that my various other pensions have all kicked in, I am all the more appreciative of those additional years of complete freedom that I have so enjoyed and will hopefully continue to do so for a few more years to come. My early retirement had been in the planning for quite some time, and at considerable sacrifice in terms of holidays and luxuries foregone. I only pressed ‘GO’ when all of my individual financial milestones had been achieved. I also had a plan B in the unlikely event things went pear-shaped. They didn’t.
Planning is the key to enjoying an early retirement. And it's well worth the effort!!!
Oh, where to start on this topic at the age of 56.
I've always wanted to retire into an interest. One of my main interests is hats, genuine panama hats. I'd like to open my own shop/boutique and source hats and other 'gentlmenly' products myself as I've always loved adventures.
I hope to do this in the next 5 years.
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Excellent video dude !
We are all victims of the corporate Machine to a greater or lesser extent , it’s very hard to avoid the constant manipulation of the modern world . One of the great problems is as human beings we are naturally followers and conformists. We often want to be just like the rest only a little bit better but rarely take a pause to ask if we are happy .. Agree , people constantly needing approval and looking to impress others in a very superficial manner is often a foundation of unhappiness.
I'm 40 now...As they say, the hardest challenge is to know which bridges to burn, and which to cross...
Giving something up, can often lead to transformation.... sometimes it leads to tough challenges, but in my experiences, (new job, moving country, ending relationships etc), it can lead to new chapters
In terms of day to day, i no longer drink alcohol, don't smoke, and try to watch less tv (replaced by books).... also very slowly giving up all debt (4 more years before I'm debt free, apart from house) .... giving up dependancy on debt is life changing
I would add one bonus - sugar and ultra processed food... I'm not there yet, but I'm trying
Bravo sir. You are doing well on the journey. Good luck in your future endeavours
@@TheChapsGuide Ash thank you so much... and in terms of watches, I've discovered Sinn... wearing my EZM 3F with pleasure.... in my older years I'll have a Breguet or something of that level.. but enjoying this brutalist tool style. Practical and simple
thx!
True words! 🕐⚙️🍸
Bravo! 👏
Enjoyable video
Thanks for sharing this Ash. I’m in my 40s and realized that these 5 points you mentioned here are exactly how I feel nowadays.
While I know I’m yet to be the best version of myself, I’m now no longer concerned about keeping up with the Joneses. I have grown a strong dislike for most things with noticeable brand logos on them. My Mercedes is now 10 years old and I simply don’t care about getting a newer one , Still cherish and enjoy it much as I did years ago. I have only 1 luxury watch that I practically wear and enjoy on a daily basis while actively hiding it under long sleeves most of the time. I am comfortable drinking in my own terms. I’ve got laid off, now running my own small business, and am happily rejecting offers as I am no longer chasing the numbers. It’s how I use what time I’ve got left that matters now.
Master of your own destiny sir. Congratulations
@@TheChapsGuide 🙏🙏🙏
Oak lodge it's a shed ash
It's his man cave. I need one too
Excellent....
Thanks a lot
You're saying everything I said years ago.
As a retired stockbroker we use to have an amusing saying for crazy clients : 'Money's only important if you don't die tomorrow!' LOL.
Still wearing a nice blue-collared shirt in this video. 😀
Unrelated, but that's a nice jacket. Would love to know the branding if you don't mind. 👌
John Lewis own brand (Any Days) Utility Jacket - purchased this year for £45
@@TheChapsGuide I appreciate it.
Another great video, thanks, Ash. Please do comment on your multiple sources of income. I think this provides so much more financial security than someone who relies upon a paycheck from one employer.
I come from humble beginnings. But i've worked hard, and at once upon a time I had two jobs. The first house that I bought, i decided to turn that into a rental property, and I am planning on picking up another rental property. The self worth this has given me. It has completely changed my life. I'm hoping to retire at 55, so 15 years time. Which with a few rental properties behind me, it will make me a very wealthy man. However I make the mistake constantly of not living ''for the now''. Thank-you for reminding me, Ash
Cant beleive were into Oak Lodge season already! Cosy.
Twilight Town, a Bonanza tv episode, helped me in my life journey .
I like that jacket. May I ask where you bought it from?
John Lewis utility jacket
@@TheChapsGuide Thanks. And yes, alcohol on your terms. A good bottle with good friends on rare occasions for me.
If I may add one - people you’ve outgrown. To be sure, old friends occupy a particularly special place. But, when the length of the relationship is the sole attribute while everything else (value system, outlook, ambition, etc.) increasingly diverges, it’s time to quit those people.
Good shout sir.
Goodmorning Sir from the South of France 🇫🇷
As per your normal form a grade A video !
Totally agree with everything you said a vital template for many to use.
The cutting alcohol out and eating well are absolutely vital.
Comparison is the thief of joy !!!!!
Hi ash, may i know your thoughts about expensive silk ties versus cheaper ones (also 100% silk)?
Does the significant difference in price justified? Thank you
Such a great question - merits a video response I think. I'll put it on the list. But in brief - I've had both and there are huge differences, but these days I would never, ever pay a huge amount for a tie. So many elite level ties are floating around on the 2nd hand market at silly prices, it would seem pointless to invest big money in a branded tie these days.
@@TheChapsGuide ok nice, looking forward for that video.
Hi Ash, Please sweep the cobwebs off the Oak Lodge door. It would make me feel better. Maybe you like the company? Haha. India Mark
Smoking, drinking, TV. Gave them all up ten years ago. That and toxic friendships. I’m 46
Watching from Dhaka Bangladesh 🇧🇩 watched it 3 times thanks a lot Ash
You are 68% through you life.. with average life expectancy of 79 in uk. More than 2 thirds. Halfway is in the rear view mirror, which you keep referring to lol. However, your approach is inspiring in many aspects. As for making your own luck, I put this down to attitude. You cannot choose your circumstances, but you can always choose your attitude that gives you power over whatever situation your are in. Do you sit and wail about life’s turn of events, or roll up your sleeves and deal with them. Those that face into them will have better outcomes, and be deemed lucky.
My Dad is 93 and still powering on like a trooper - even life expectancy is down to mental attitude!
"Who wants to live to be a hundred years of age, if you're a decrepit old wreck! I want to live to be a hundred years of age, but be fairly fit and sprightly for that age." You are, as ever, bang on the money, Ash
Is there another oak lodge MRE review coming?
I’m sure we can sort that out
I never drank heavy, but ages 21-23 I probably had a beer a day every day; the really high calorie craft beers. Alcohol never ruled me, but moving from a daily drink to a monthly has saved my waistline and helped my wallet
I want to give up procrastination. Can you help with a video?
Yes I can -
I got diagnosed with cancer this year (I’m fine). It kicked me in the ass but got my butt moving. It made me realize at age 69 that there’s not much time. So I’m writing a book and started a T shirt company. And I’m more fit now than probably anytime.
Bravo sir. I hope you have continued good health.
Interesting! In sociology there’s a term very similar to “parvenu”, and that is “anomie”. Anomie is when there is a lack of social or moral standards, brought by economic change. An application of this is “anomic suicide”. For example, a man losing everything overnight gambling, and consequently committing suicide. It can also occur, more symbolically rather than physically, after a sudden accumulation of wealth as well. For example, winning the lottery and instead of investing in the future or in the community, you spend it on booze and designer clothes. More so affecting the soul.
Alcohol, smoking, drugs, TV license, driving (dangerous and expensive, also environment impact) some people need to do it but I can walk everywhere I want to go. There's a lot of pressure on people to get a car. My Dad has 4 kids and the second they all turn 17 they all need a car and driving lessons.