Narcissist as Social Misfit

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  • Опубликовано: 9 июл 2023
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    The narcissist is incapable of social learning or relationships.
    Social learning theory
    Social-cognitive theory
    Self-efficacy
    emulation, imitation, mimicry
    Social motive,
    Social breakdown syndrome
    Social age and social clock
    Social maturity and social competence
    Social deficit
    Social imperception disorder
    Social role
    Mental age
    anchor and social anchoring
    Social comparison theory: contrast effect assimilation effect
    Reference group: membership group, aspirational group, dissociative group
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Комментарии • 54

  • @PMKPL
    @PMKPL 10 месяцев назад +26

    "Don't ask stupid questions- and you won't get lies in return'- I just love it!:)

  • @VictoriaMaryEvans
    @VictoriaMaryEvans 10 месяцев назад +111

    “I would prefer $10 over a $10 word - because I am a Jew,” made me laugh aloud!

    • @Danimoura1982
      @Danimoura1982 10 месяцев назад +7

      Me too 😂

    • @MCR1565
      @MCR1565 10 месяцев назад +4

      Just look it up! Lol! Made my night!

    • @taniaearle4457
      @taniaearle4457 10 месяцев назад +6

      He is hilarious 😅

    • @seriouscat2231
      @seriouscat2231 9 месяцев назад +4

      @@lindaabraham8715, it's a biblical thing. "To whom much is given, much is required" and "the fall of the best is the worst" and love of money is at the opposite end from loving God.

    • @fredifeinkost1985
      @fredifeinkost1985 6 месяцев назад +3

      That was one of his "Anti-Sam-Ethik" - Jokes. 😉

  • @maytruthprevail4668
    @maytruthprevail4668 10 месяцев назад +25

    I got a lot of answers from this video. The malevolent eldest sibling stole the lives of two siblings who were younger, one driven insane, the other driven to addiction. The Machiavellian Narcissist seems very satisfied these two are dead. The enabler, younger sibling is proping up this oldest sibling to ensure the abuse continues. I am the target.
    Great video. So much valuable information. Thank you Professor.

  • @marianatequiero28
    @marianatequiero28 10 месяцев назад +27

    “I’m a outcast ,,nobody likes me “ famous words from female ex partner

  • @kofokofo
    @kofokofo 10 месяцев назад +6

    When I’m public my ex would walk up super close to strangers and not realize that this should not be done.
    Many times they turned around and wondered what she is doing.
    Even when I told her she never got it.

  • @alinagoldstein7185
    @alinagoldstein7185 10 месяцев назад +14

    _In a serene ambiance, Jacqueline du Pré's rendition of Elgar's Cello Concerto in E minor, Op. 85 delicately resonates on repeat in the background, while I savour a fine Riesling.
    The harmonious union of Carmel-by-the-Sea's oceanic melodies gracefully blends, as I contemplate my selection of Dr. Sam Vaknin's raw honesty videos. From one child of a narcissistic mother to another, I salute you._ 💗 😗

  • @Interference1001
    @Interference1001 10 месяцев назад +18

    What a video, especially the last minutes. 🤯👍 To get to know the "inner world" of narcissists piece by piece intellectually is fascinating and (at the same time) frightening. Their "emptiness" (in the sense of "non-personality") was - thanks to your great understandable explanations - palpable. I have had this experience in my life otherwise only in direct personal contact with some narcissists. I have always felt these people as cold, not "tangible". No matter how friendly or charming they were on the outside, no matter how long we had contact. Now I understand why ... And in general: Envy is in my opinion an absolutely superfluous feeling. Far too much suffering in this world is based on envy or grudge ...

    • @Interference1001
      @Interference1001 10 месяцев назад +6

      Yes, I think so too. And the more authentic (and independent in a positive sense) the other person's personality is, the more envious the narcissist is. At least that's how it seems to me ... All the best on your way. 🌻

    • @sophiaseeker9335
      @sophiaseeker9335 9 месяцев назад

      ​@@ceceliablair9177🎯💯🎯💯🎯💯❤

  • @heatherwagar5868
    @heatherwagar5868 10 месяцев назад +32

    My ex covert narc is a teacher. There is always weird problems with his coworkers. I honestly don’t know how he pulls it off

  • @theloveflows8773
    @theloveflows8773 10 месяцев назад +24

    ❤Thank you Sam❤

  • @heidihaeni7783
    @heidihaeni7783 10 месяцев назад +9

    Is there any correlation with narcissists or borderlines and slovenliness? I'm not talking about the average person going through a time of overwhelm or grief, and not having energy/time to clean. There seems to be a pattern, especially with covert borderlines, of devaluing their own belongings, and leaving trails of possessions when they leave situations or people. They don't seem to care or want their old stuff, yet they can't be bothered to dispose of it properly.

  • @Kangaroo211
    @Kangaroo211 Месяц назад

    You have the best sense of humour 😂

  • @ChildofGod2890
    @ChildofGod2890 10 месяцев назад +7

    👌 👏 another masterpiece of a video. I can't thank you enough.
    May you forever be blessed.

  • @aminatl8155
    @aminatl8155 10 месяцев назад +13

    I just added you to my social profile ❤️‍🔥🙏🏾

  • @777Honeypie
    @777Honeypie 10 месяцев назад +6

    I've got coffee: I'm ready for this video. "Stand up and be counted. For what you are about to receive. ...Hail, to the good times
    'Cause Sam's got the right of way. ... For those about to rock, I salute you." -AC/DC
    I confession: I already had the coffee.

  • @truthteller-yu7kf
    @truthteller-yu7kf 10 месяцев назад +4

    Sam, in one of the shorts videos you speak about self improvement that is not goal oriented. Please make a video on this.

  • @kofokofo
    @kofokofo 10 месяцев назад +4

    My ex has fits all cluster b disorders. Mostly narcissist and borderline.
    She always complained about her mom. She is at home for 10-15 years with “depressions”. She also sends pictures and messages to random men to make the husband (ex father) jealous.
    My ex also said she is like her mom but she is not that bad because she has her horses. Can her mom be the cause of her craziness?

  • @metaphysicswithariyana2794
    @metaphysicswithariyana2794 10 месяцев назад +7

    Love the $10 words! 😉

  • @professorchaos9
    @professorchaos9 3 месяца назад +1

    I found your overt vs covert comparisons very accurate to my own personal experience. It is also very interesting how you make the link between overt and psychopaths. If you have material on this I would be very interested in seeing it, or perhaps a future video?

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  3 месяца назад +2

      Watch the interview with Kelly Brogan and follow the links in the description. Also search the comorbidities playlist.

  • @4helio214
    @4helio214 10 месяцев назад +14

    How to know that you're probably not a narcissist? I was diagnosed with ASD, but I always try to adapt by camouflaging. Sometimes It ressemble NPD so much. It terrifies me to think that I may be a black hole.

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  10 месяцев назад +9

      Search the channel.

    • @4helio214
      @4helio214 10 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@ceceliablair9177Thank you, I start to understand the differences ❤

    • @4helio214
      @4helio214 10 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@samvakninThank you professor Vaknin. I founded several videos. I believe that you are like the Pharos of Alexandria for so many people.

  • @noemibassal6484
    @noemibassal6484 10 месяцев назад +4

    An another master piece

  • @bngh12ful
    @bngh12ful 10 месяцев назад +6

    My genius

  • @KarinnaZarate
    @KarinnaZarate 10 месяцев назад +4

    Look it uppp haha! You’re the best

  • @sabinekahane3214
    @sabinekahane3214 10 месяцев назад +6

    Das ist ein ganz wichtiger Beitrag der ganz neue Bewertung von Motiven unternimmt! Ganz neue Betrachtungsweise und so verstaendnisvoll ❤️👍

  • @tionytim3333
    @tionytim3333 10 месяцев назад +2

    My Ex Narc has very poor people skills! Especially around groups of people. Totally incapable to solve conflicts.

  • @honeybee2699
    @honeybee2699 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you Professor. As always an insightful, accurate, informative lecture of yours. 👍👏

  • @Prometheuspredator
    @Prometheuspredator 10 месяцев назад +5

    Sam, You are so funny. I really enjoyed the toxic and toxin joke.

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  10 месяцев назад +12

      Tocsin and toxin. It was not a joke.

  • @eirikgundersen6226
    @eirikgundersen6226 10 месяцев назад +15

    Can you get better from this disease? I am afraid i have it.

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  10 месяцев назад +37

      Some behaviors can be modified. That's all.

    • @Bellapiccola309
      @Bellapiccola309 10 месяцев назад +10

      Are male and female narcissists simply the product of an enmeshed relationship with mom? Mommy issues? Would these enmeshed mothers also be classified as narcissistic?

    • @thewatchers5930
      @thewatchers5930 10 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@Bellapiccola309
      Narcissist children/adults generally come from a Narc Mom or sometimes a Narc Dad.
      Scapegoat child generally Empath (black sheep 🐑 outcast abused)
      Golden Child (generally Narc/carbon copy of Narc parent)
      Lost Child (forgotten one, neglected, high suicide rate) lost in the dysfunctional mess of Narc parent.
      Western Culture is Toxic
      All European lifestyles are literally abnormal.
      A society of guilt tripping shaming judgemental religions and government destroy basic dignities of humanity.

  • @user-ju8fn8fu9s
    @user-ju8fn8fu9s 10 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you so much Dear Professor ❤

  • @consciousearth76
    @consciousearth76 10 месяцев назад +2

    so how do you do if the narcisistic is yourself or how do i do if I am the narcisistic?

  • @thewatchers5930
    @thewatchers5930 10 месяцев назад

    What happens when you become numb to everything (freeze 🥶.mode)
    C-PTSD from Narc Mom to Narc Stalker receiving threats after moving several times???
    Roomate gaslighting with Narc predator.
    Quit an addiction and unable to cope

    • @alicesladdin829
      @alicesladdin829 9 месяцев назад

      Darling congratulations! If you can keep abstaining the clarity will help (see Dr Gabor Mate with Russell Brand in "under the skin") Possibly put up house share ad in health food shop or similar to find new untainted house all the best, Alice

  • @debraparker6404
    @debraparker6404 10 месяцев назад +5

    It is applicable to all even grandiose?