I can relate to your comment. My suggestion pick and choose who u want in your world. Leave the past behind, but learn from it. Most of all be honest with your self.
I've always been the same and had problems interacting with people . Now I don't care I'm happy being alone. It's best to keep conversations polite with people and keep too your inner circle . People now getting annoyed if people are over friendly with them . People now are too concerned with themselves . It's all about them .
fitnessdavid MTL I sometimes come across as a social butterfly and many people think I’m an extravert. I’m not ever trying to act...its survival and what I learned as a child to make it. It comes out in social situations where I’m highly anxious. I either talk and laugh, life of the party...or shut down. I feel like I’m almost in flight or fight..and likely I am. I’m an ambivert and love my alone time. People who don’t know me well, totally misread me. I can be loud, silly and it’s almost like someone else is taking over...especially when I drink, which I often do in social settings to cover the anxiety. Please don’t assume it’s an act. There are times I annoy myself and so I will avoid a social situation because I’m afraid of how I might come across. I look confident and many laugh, but I also feel like I’m on the edge of a panic attack half the time. Walking, hiking, meditating by myself are all superior to social events...once in a while I do like socializing, but the anxiety is real. I’m sure I’ve annoyed people 😥
Exactly! Let NO ONE(especially toxic people) hold you back or you'll NEVER GROW! It took me years(I mean decades) to realize it I learned from history! BELIEVE ME!
Why do people hate me so much?? And why can't people like me for who I am.... I HATE when people tell me to act like someone I'm not.. I hate when people bully me when I never did anything to them. PLEASE HELP AND ANSWER ME
itsme, don't give up! You will meet genuine, caring people. The bullies will always be there, it's how you react to them. And it sounds like you are doing a good job standing up to them. Also, talk to a counselor. It will really help.
Just keep being you, not like any other. People are probably jealous of you. Deal with a bully by standing up to them. You will only have to do it once. Best wishes to you.
I was bullied severely in middle school and high school... it has affected me greatly to my adult hood. it's been 6 years since I was in highschool and it has affected me GREATLY in my work life, social life, relationship life. just the after effects have traumatized me greatly. I have social anxiety and it sucks... I don't have friends except my boyfriend whom I absolutely love and 2 old friends that I talk too about once a blue moon... so technically they have become acquaintances ..but it's always a text... I feel alone alot and can't ever express myself right. I feel like I'm not worthy alot of the time and that I don't measure up... it's hard to feel this way..
I feel you, I was bullied when I was in elementary and I guess I never coped up with it. I never learned to deal with people, and I always feel so lonely. I have few friends but just like you they are starting to be an acquaintance. It's a sad world... I don't want to feel miserable anymore :(
I feel u so much. I had been always a straight-up and genuine girl, sometimes people didnt like me but i didnt care. Until i was in High school and being boycotted by my classmates, not because i did sth wrong to them, but just because i was so different. After that i managed to get along with them a bit more and they told me i was more kind and sweet than they thought i was. Until now im in college but that still haunts me, i’m always conscious about what people might think of me, what if i say something wrong, what if they dont accept me. So i keep myself pretty distant from other people because thats how i feel safe. But they just thought i am cocky and hard to reach :) nobody understand my struggle
Same. I tried to work in person recently and everyone was so nice at first, but then my coworkers started calling me weird and ostracizing me. Now I just isolate myself again lol. I have such bad people skills
Gloria, you are not alone. And you are lucky to have those two friends. Better to have two people who really have your back than a bunch of shallow ones who you can't trust.
id try meditation sometimes i think that people may actually be cool once they get past the initial first impression Id increase confidence and self esteem and self acceptance this is what meditation does challenge your self take risk and face your fears. Im a pretty nerdy guy im strong but women that dont know me will judge me by the way I look . after no to long of a period of meditation i really dont care about whether or not people don't like me
Hardest thing to do is keep walking with your head up knowing who you are and love yourself regardless of who is or who is not in your life. Your best friend is you and God.
Let's just face it many people out there just don't know how to be a good friend. They don't accept themselves they way they are so they go around not accepting anyone else the way they are. My mother used to tell me "honey, I am the best friend you will ever had". And you know what? She was right.
im a really quiet person when im around people and i hate because i really want to say something but i cant. i want to be me but i cant. im shy quiet and worried.i dont know wat to do. im bad at conversations too bcause i dont know what to say, so i just keep my mouth zipped.how do i bcome more confident and be me and start being more chatty in conversations? plz help?
Just take deep breathes relax and just show your confidence show you have nothing to lose and more to gain boosts your confidence. Say whats on your mind. Like for example your surroundings you can initiate conversations that way. Another way is to pretend you know this person they will never know that you don't know them just say you look familiar do i know you from some where and the conversation will flow.
I am genuine and a good person and I don't have many friends. As a matter of fact those Superficial people don't even attempt to talk to me. There are so few true genuine people in NY.
I concur Allison, NY is a cesspool of fakery & misery , I'm serious as a heart attack..let's hang out one (1) time. Let me know @ your earliest convenience. If you think I smell, ugly, short, skinny, obese, corny, played out I'll find another way to connect with real folks this is my weirdo loner way of connecting. Take care..
I'm a guy and i really feel good from your motivation because in my class I'm very neutral automatically somehow and i sometimes feel left out because no one ever feels interested in talking to me even though I'm very kind and polite to everyone :(
i know exactly how you feel, i have a disability (aspergers) that makes it hard for me socially, and it often makes me feel left out, lonely and empty. I am polite too but people are full of s**t nowadays, you cant trust anyone... it's not you, its them...
Tommy Chappell I have a mid disability.. I can completely understand. . but keep doing you .. fuck everyone else .. because at the end of the day you are the best..
l know how you feel to, l have autism... but at the same time l am proud of it. because by thinking before acting and listen more than talk makes me to a kinder person.
Personally speaking, I have never fit in anywhere I've ever been. I was an outcast as a kid, and I am an outcast now. If other people do take a liking to me, it doesn't last long. Sooner or later they drop me. Most people, and it has been the same wherever I have ever been, just seem to be tolerant of me. My dad is 61 years old, and he is the same way. He doesn't have anyone he's really close with, and I am afraid that I will end up the same exact way.
The cowboy, no you won't. It is normal to have friends who drift in and out of your life. Don't lose hope in finding a deep connection with someone. And if you have a whole lof of acquaintances...that works too.
+Marie Dubuque, You say I will not end up like that. well there are aspects to what I mentioned in my first comment, but I don't feel that they are the kind of things that I want to be posting publicly on the internet. I believe in being discreet, especially in a public setting, and last thing that I or anybody needs is for their problems to go viral. So with that being said, is there any way that I could message you privately and relate to you these matters? Please don't think that I'm asking this to be weird or anything. I'm just merely trying to be careful as to what I post publicly.
I- i think you're my twin. 🤦♀️😹 Honestly your Dad being alone, is quite fortunate. He's saved from a lot of drama. People like you good, if not we were alone in our Mum's belly and we survived even as a fetus. 💁♀️ So we'll definitely make it, with or without people whilst being adults. Take it from someone who's tried to learn "body language online" to make my elder sisters like me/get their attention since childhood. I've even tried to act like I liked, "Scummy Man" by Artic monkeys. Because my elder sister thinks it's 🔥 Even that didn't work, and my ears are STILL traumatised. Other songs are not bad from him, but goodbye "Scummy man". 🙈😂 They still didn't like me no matter how I much i tried. I'm only in my late twenties, yet never felt so liberated to be nonchalant of people and only hopeful towards God/Allah. Why do you think grabdmas are so peaceful? They've learnt to not tolerate people's rubbish from years of experience. Young girls look young, but that's it. Most of them endure people's rubbish until they realise at an old age, (I've been there). Why wait, until we become a grandma/grandpa to have a drama- free life? Just my opinion. Feel free to feel as you wish. =)
This is awesome advice. I like to be genuine, authentic and down-to-Earth and over the years have found that some people get very turned off by this. Arrogant people can feel very threatened if you exude authenticity and they realise they can’t manipulate you.
Liked, favorited, most authentic video I've ever watched. Everything you said is true, and most people don't realize the things you said, and once they realize it they understand there is nothing wrong with them. Everyone struggles with this.
I kind of feel like this. For example a work, I'm always sitting alone in lunch and the few people who actually tried to get to know me disappears after less than 30 min. One example: A new girl sat down by my lunch table. We were talking a bit, after half the bread was over she went: Oh sorry, I'm in such a hurry. and she just bounced away and never talk to me. Other times people just don't want me around at all. They treat me like air and talks to others. How can I deal with these people Ann? I feel that I haven't done anything wrong to anyone.
I've always been shy and felt as if I was alone. I'm very picky with people and my trust is not gained easily. I usually pick the wrong people to put it into and end up being burned. I'm so sick of doing things for others and then never having anything nice done for me. It's draining. At least I have my mom and my boyfriend. :) I guess I just.. really wanted that silly girlfriend around.
Evernessa Nevermore I feel exactly the same. You are not alone. I always felt left out. I have my parents, my girlfriend and my best friend but sometimes I feel nobody else likes me and I feel bad.
I don't understand those people who, wherever they go, manage to please everyone and make lots of friends. They win many friends and win the hearts of many guys. Then there are people who cannot find a single person in their life who find them pleasant
How can I get over the mental barrier of thinking they don't like me and actually be myself and go out and start new conversations and friendships? Also I'm in high school and I'm really well known because I'm good in track. People do start conversations with me, but i always think I'm to unpopular, not pretty, not cool, not funny, and overall not likeable.
Nihssa, you said it yourself, you are likeable and well respected in your high school. Sure we all have insecurities, but honestly, you have so much going for yourself. And track is such a great sport to excel at. Keep it up. You're doing great!
girl you are drop dead gorgeus and based on your question you seem genuine, stop waiting for anyone to accept you, you must know you are the bomb, fuck these people that are making you feel akward, love yourself and keep it moving
I was having trouble fitting in at work, my coworkers didn't like me. They'd be all sarcastic and say things like you're too bossy and go away. It made me wonder if they really meant it? They said they were joking, but idk. What should i do?
I recommend creating a professional distance between yourself and your coworkers. Whether they are being honest are not in their jokes it should not take too much of your time. I recommend just focusing on being productive and paying attention to detail a while at work and keeping things simple as far as interacting with them. I'm saying this a difficult position personally in the construction industry.
The Bible states that in the last days that " the love of many will grow cold, " and also that "men will be without natural affection." It is here, do your best to be kind and love others, but be very wise in doing so. Also do not take it personally if shunned, human nature is as bad as it gets, Jeremiah 17:9. I do a best possible examination of myself, my words, and my behavior's, and move on. Remember, Jesus is the best friend, we can tell Him anything and He understands, we can pour our heart to Him. People will fail us and disappoint us, but Jesus will not fail us, He never does. Jesus loves us in spite of our shortcomings and many failures! I need Him every hour, every hour I need Him!
Thanks! But lets both pass it on to the One who deserves it most! The two most precious words that can proceed from our lips ever, " Thank You Jesus! "
He loves you! But you have to have a relationship with Him first in order to communicate with Him. That's why Jesus died for our sins, to bridge the gap and pay for what we could never pay for.
Selam, you are correct, the only way to begin a relationship with Jesus is to ask for forgiveness off our sins, in sincerity. At that point we become a Child Of God, and not before. Thank you Selam for mentioning this
I feel like people hate me on sight due to not always smiling or not having a pleasant look on my face I do try to work on it in the mirror and people who do like me tell me my face is fine so idk
I feel this all the time. Though I am an introvert I make a genuine effort to talk to everyone and be friendly. it all goes well till that one or 2 people show up who totally make me feel like shit. I get effected and leave the place feeling like crap. I feel like my energy is totally drained. It always happens to me and I dread going to any party now.
I don’t think anyone hates me , I think people are just indifferent to me. I have given up making friends. No one is particularly interested in me. Like someone else commented I cannot be bothered . The effort is not worth the result which is mostly just casual and surface level acquaintances despite trying to build a friendship . I used to be optimistic when younger and I never felt insecure about making friends until I realized very few people wanted to be my friend . And I can tell you it was not because of me doing something mean to them or me being weird or anything of the sort . I just came to the conclusion that my personality and persona is not really interesting to anyone to where they want me as a friend .
I feel I am blessed to hear your Truth in life. It is indeed me doing what I am interested in and other people will just come along. I also just have to show interest in other people too by asking them questions about how they got their interest in doing whatever they are doing, etc. and if they mention they went to a restaurant, I can talk about mexican food or whatever food the next time. You are a genius!!!!
100% agree, I've never been one to follow others just to "fit in" and have been hated on a lot due to that, but I finally realized it's their insecurity that's the problem, not me. :)
I can honestly say I'm a good person, friendly a great friend but I am in my late 20's and feel like it's always me trying to make plans, me trying to keep friendships so it makes me feel like I'm not good enough and doing something wrong
Hi Marie, I'm just wondering should I stay friends with people who treat me badly, not all the time but occasionally, or just keep looking for friends who only understand me and treat me with respect?
@@kehindejames2275 no they'll use you not respect you there's a difference .my family won't talk or acknowledge me if I'm broke and out of work .but as soon I get back on my feet they start being nice again .it's happened a few times . people will just use you for what you can do for them
Great points were made in this video, but I would also emphasize that people need to be in positive atmospheres far more in order to find happiness. Climb a mountain or a big hill, high places that take work to get to simply repel negative people. Civic groups that are truly working to improve your community attract wonderful people. Endurance sports such as swimming, running and cycling are full of people who tend to be emotionally stable/successful and have a positive outlook. Go to some races or even compete yourself if you can. Great environments attract great people.
THANK YOU for covering very touchy subjects like this. Amazingly enough, even my own relatives don't invite me on their hangouts with their friends. What crap. I got over it. I started making my own agenda. I would plan every day and one day my brother called me up and invited me to a pool party after YEARS. I told him I was already busy and had my day planned. He was appalled. He kept forcing me to show up but I kept saying, 'no, I already have my day planned'. It was GREAT.
This happened to me too. These people are self centered imbeciles. You are definitely not like them! Good for you in creating your own life and sticking it to them! You don't need them they are trash. Positive forward movement keep it going!
I haven't met the right people yet. I like that. I was thinking this yesterday. And I love writing songs and I'm going to an open mic so that is the place I think. This is encouraging.
I'm a senior in highschool but I don't have any friends. I just feel lost when I talk to other people. I don't know what to say or what to do. I haven't had any real friends. I always played by myself on the playground and I don't hang out with anyone. I'm going to a small community college next year so I'm hoping I can find a friend there.
You will. People mature in college. But college can also be a lonely place. That's why it's important to get involved...clubs, intramural sports. Find whatever interests you so you can meet people. Stick with it. You will do great!
I have always been shy and scared of people since I was little. I come from a different culture and when I was little people used to make fun of me because I was shy and couldn't talk and couldn't communicate. I was lonely my whole life and still am . every time I have a new friend I just lose them somehow, I feel guilty all the time I feel like everything always is my fault somehow it's so depressing.I really don't know how to hold a conversation I don't know how to look people in the eye and keep talking I have nothing to talk about most of the times I always feel like I'm boring. And now I am a mother of two children and I need to make friendship with other moms but I'm so scared that I would make another mistake or just not be able to talk and look stupid.
I found being moderate and do what you want to do is best thing to do, i try to be friendly with everyone too and some people are not gonna accept it, and might ignore you It doesn't matter, do whatever you like they either would buy it or not, both case are fine!! others behaviors are not our business !
You can't please everyone .you're only one person and they're always someone out there that won't agree with what you're saying ,doing whatever.you just have to do things for you without caring about others opinions
Mam, your advise & lifted hopes are 100% correct & I thank you for what you do but IMO some people as myself are "meant" to never fit in. In the past I would put up a facade or form myself like water in a glass in order to fit it & in all honestly it did work, I had friends but I realized that following the crowd & not expressing my opinion killed me inside. A year ago I made a promise to myself that no matter what I would be my own person in the world & it has left me without a friend in the world, I now express my opinion & speak my mind yet people tend to stray away from individuals like me because we tend to "try hard", I'm a deep person & when I want to get to know a person I ask allot of questions in order to connect but people get tense because they are use to that feeling of instant connection. Basically what I'm trying to say is that there are different strokes for different folks & one pice of advise isn't for the entire crowd. However you have made my heart skip a beat with your honesty :) thank you :) you have a new subscriber :)
People either hate me or are indifferent towards me despite being nice but not a pushover. Despite being outgoing and not boring. I've tried so hard for years. Now I'm done.
I'm tired of getting hurt. I feel like the only reason someone wants to be around me is if I have something to benefit them. I would rather be alone then hurt again. I know how to have a conversation I just don't like to be in a room full of people, and I don't like fake people.
Wow! This vid speaks to me. Going through right now @ my job. Most hate me! I don't know why. Before we were cool yet for the past 2-3 months I'm a step-child...
*HELP PLEASE* People don’t seem to like me very much. I’m super outgoing and have lots of energy/zest when I talk. I’m generally very positive-but I do make self-deprecating jokes idk if that influences that, just thought I’d mention. But I constantly get interrupted in group conversations, though when I mention it they’re usually like-oh sorry yeah go ahead. I notice that when a certain group at school I’m in is all eating together, people seem to sit as far away from me as possible. I shower regularly and brush my teeth. I practice good hygiene. People are usually nice but I feel like it’s surface level politeness. The people I feel like do generally like me don’t really hang out with me. We’ll sit together if we bump into each other but nothing intentional happens, even if it’s fairly easy for them to do so. And no one really comes to me for advice at all like I see other people do with their friends. Am I overthinking it? Or could their be something wrong with me that makes them dislike me? I don’t know what to do, HELP ME PLEASE!!
wow i’ve never felt so understood in my entire life 😕 it’s actually SO painful to have people dislike you when you never even got the chance to show them who you truly are beyond the first impression you gave off. no one else in my life seems to be dealing with this, i just don’t understand.
They are probably intimidated by you in some way...maybe your beauty or intelligence...some characteristic they wish they had. So you bring out their insecurities. Remember, secure confident people will offer true friendship and won't feel the need to bring anyone else down to build themselves up. Don't lose hope. You will find genuine, kind people. They are out there. You just have to be patient.
Well to be honest, I don wanna learn how to be an "actor". You said it yourself, they are very successful (I am very introverted and don't have any friends lol)
I’m the shyest most introverted person out there, my partner is a successful man and can fit in with any crowd with the jokes etc I’ve always stuck to a few people and now at 30 as a mother of 3 I can say I have 0 friends. My partner sees this as a problem and issue I need to resolve but I’m genuinely fine with it and I don’t feel the need at this present time to sacrifice my alone time when I’m free of the kids, to a bunch of wine swigging giggling women. I go to parties with him and to the pub etc and yes I talk to people and have a laugh but when I haven’t had a drink and I meet those people on the street they’re just dull and boring with nothing interesting to say and have completely different interests to me. If I wasn’t a mother I’d probably be the kind of person to go travelling alone and work abroad and maybe settle down with some cats on a hill and live happily ever after. Growing up I did have friends but family life was pretty non existent as my dad was an alcoholic. We moved house dozens of times and were very poor. I think because of my childhood and the fact it was lonely it has made it so I don’t feel i need human interaction other then my family. The only reason i need this to change and ignore what I actually want out of life is because of the disapproval of my partner and having been with him for over half my life, I haven’t ever had the opportunity to develop into the person I actually am.
"Ask someone questions about themselves"......the thing is, many/most people act like you're a stalker or Jack the Ripper if you try to ask questions...Even a simple "hey I like your blouse" I get looked at like I have 3 heads....So I just prefer to stay in my safe little cocoon and avoid people, I am polite, saying "please" and thank you" "hello" and "take care" and that is it these days......Sad, but it's the world we live in...
I'd been feeling this way for a few years now. And I have to agree the people who treat you mean when you have only tried to be a friend are the worst people to befriend. They will have you thinking you're crazy. It took me four years but I am now out of that relationship.
Hi Marie, I enjoyed your video. In my case, I some times think I'm under a curse or something. I'm in my mid 40's and have only 2 long time friends from when we were in college. We live in different countries, but we've kept in touch through the years. But in general, I find that it's not as much the making friends part, but the keeping them. that makes me wonder what is wrong. All seems to be well, then one day, they stop talking to me and even avoiding me. I have been told what happens to me is not normal. Your insight is much appreciated. Thank you!
Great video. 👍🏻 I'm 43 y.o. I have no close friends and I'm ok with that. At this point in life, I'm too tired to try to pursue other people. It's more like I need them to give me a good reason why we should get together. I'm more selective of who I invest my time in because I have a family and my husband is truly my best friend. I do have one friend I love who is 75 years old! I say keep an open mind to different age groups when it comes to friendship. I enjoy spending time with this 75 year old more than I do people my own age. Plus, I get the opportunity to help someone who needs it and appreciates it. We also have the best conversations.
I’ve been living in the same town for 22 yrs, graduated from here and I’ve had friends but very flaky friends. Put it this way I don’t have any connections with my friends I graduated with. Which is odd to me. It seems like the friends that I used to have dropped off the face of the earth around the same time
Nailed it! When you pull back and no longer being a yes person, I've lost 4 people in my group and they have now intentionally left me out. It's hard but I'm moving on.
OMG! I was always wondering why I never felt all the love back that I give. I'll hang in there because Summer will be here soon and just maybe I'll get out of this funk I'm in. You made me feel better. Thank you. You are a sweet person. :)
It's time for me to stop myself from letting ppl go forever out my life, on social media and in real life. I used to be ashamed of being a loner b*tch and complain about it all my life...I'm gd being myself, I'm not selling out for nobody.
Dear Marie. Thanks for all the advice in this video. I keep feeling lonely in the last years, because my whole life my friends and I were already friends from since I was born. When some of us became teenagers, I keep feeling like they are ignoring me while I keep helping them and they just don't appreciate what I do for them. Should I stop this in born friendship, or find a new friendship? I really need an answer.
Thank you so much for sharing such Wise Words. I only wish my younger Self had heard these words instead of forcing myself to be someone i am not and trying to fit in. You truly are helping so many People out there caught up in toxic Friendships.
I've noticed am more sociable with people who are open and easy going. But then when you genuinely show interest you end up being the one always calling checking up on them but nothing the other way round 🤷🏼♀️. I love my own space but it would be nice to have that friend who check up on you too
I thought I had met ppl that felt like this..but they ended up making me feel worse cus I'm even ignored around ppl who supposedly go through this..n it stings a little
Wow, I feel like you have read my mind ...I have a problem getting along with people.. and sometimes I feel like people always want to take advantage of me.. When I got married is when I lost most of my friends..which is what I found really weird.
I agree most ppl are shallow. They're also jealous bitter & spiteful. When I was younger I could fight them off. But now that I'm older I'm tired and have given up. It's a constant fight. So many ppl always wanting stuff from me and acting like I owed them. Whether it was my time my knowledge it always had to be me giving them my attention. It's even harder being a minority in the south in a relative smaller town. I hate it. I've lost all will to do what I enjoy bc there's always someone to ruin it. Dating is impossible as I encounter the most bizarre situations which makes the girl feel uncomfortable & eventually they lose interest bc they don't want to deal with the weird situations that they normally don't have to deal with. Can't have a nice car, bike, or even dress nicely as some idiot always has to run their mouth. So I got a boring economy car. Quit my business & pretty much just keep to myself. Gained weight & wallow in misery. Now no one bothers me. It's as if the hateful area I live in is saying yeah that's your place, he ain't nobody & that's how it should be. I hate this place. Just move you say, can't too much invested & no way to be free. Besides I've traveled to NY & across the world & it's the same. The world says I can't be good looking I can't be cool I can't be anything other than what they stereotype me as. My last salvation was a dear friend who I think just gave up on me. Doesn't answer my calls. Don't blame her. She probably had enough. I think about all the BS that I have to endure. Fake ppl who just want to ruin me. Can't even get a job with all the experience & education I have. What's worse my own family gloats about my misery. All the things I've done for them & this is how they repay me. There's all this fake sentiment on tv saying how wonderful ppl are. It's a lie to keep you going. I've met a lot of ppl in my life & have only come across 3 ppl who truly are great ppl. The rest always have some hidden agenda. They lie cheat & steal & bc I'm not like them they hate on me. I agree with you on that part ppl hate you when you're not like them.
you shouldn't buy your clothes or cars for other people, nor should you own a bussiness to impress other people, you do it for you. Do not give up, there are good people in the world, you just need to stop worrying about what others think! this is YOUR life not theirs. Own your business because thats your dream, speak to your friends and family because even though they gave up after awhile, you need to let go of the past and move on and forgive them. Not for them but for your own sanity. Just try to let go of the past and take each day at a time and take care of yourself.
Hey man it's been 3 years since your post but I can't help but reply. Sorry about your experiences, I can relate to most of what you say and over time I have come to a sad conclusion. Human beings are like a plague, we're a cancer to this planet and to be honest I am embarrassed to be a human, whilst looking into the eyes of animals of assorted forms I tend to feel inferior to them in a spiritual sense. My advice is care less what others think of you, easier said then done but take solice in the good things in your life. We don't need anyone elses approval to be ourselves. Fuck em all 😁
It's hard being able to trust people after being left out for a long time
100% Truth
My whole life pretty much
I can relate to your comment. My suggestion pick and choose who u want in your world. Leave the past behind, but learn from it. Most of all be honest with your self.
True
I'm with you also makes me sometimes when I'm driving 🚗 in my location when it comes to distraction makes me drive like a assholes
I've always been a loner, I've never meet anyone like me before.
i like you!
I'm like you too! :D
Same
I am too
I love to be a loner less drama in my life. It’s a lot of shitty and evil people out there.
You sound like a really good mother.
This is exactly how i feel....most of my life have not really fitted in!
Your not alone, I always been same person just like you without ppl approval
I've always been the same and had problems interacting with people . Now I don't care I'm happy being alone. It's best to keep conversations polite with people and keep too your inner circle . People now getting annoyed if people are over friendly with them . People now are too concerned with themselves . It's all about them .
Same here. I've met some great people and had various experiences in life but at the end of the day I'm usually on my own. For better or for worse.
Same omg. Why can’t I just meet someone who is like you. We both are similar
Ur not alone
It's always the nicest and most genuine people who don't fit in. Horrible people fit in everywhere.
You're so right about great social butterflies being the best actors...... Dated one
fitnessdavid MTL I sometimes come across as a social butterfly and many people think I’m an extravert. I’m not ever trying to act...its survival and what I learned as a child to make it. It comes out in social situations where I’m highly anxious. I either talk and laugh, life of the party...or shut down. I feel like I’m almost in flight or fight..and likely I am. I’m an ambivert and love my alone time. People who don’t know me well, totally misread me. I can be loud, silly and it’s almost like someone else is taking over...especially when I drink, which I often do in social settings to cover the anxiety.
Please don’t assume it’s an act. There are times I annoy myself and so I will avoid a social situation because I’m afraid of how I might come across. I look confident and many laugh, but I also feel like I’m on the edge of a panic attack half the time.
Walking, hiking, meditating by myself are all superior to social events...once in a while I do like socializing, but the anxiety is real. I’m sure I’ve annoyed people 😥
"If they dont help you grow you must let them go" this even means fam.
Very true James M.
Exactly! Let NO ONE(especially toxic people) hold you back or you'll NEVER GROW! It took me years(I mean decades) to realize it I learned from history! BELIEVE ME!
I tried everything for decades, people just don’t like me for no logical reason.
So sorry you have this issue
Why this Is so true
I don't understand why people don't like me. I've always felt like a misfit
Same here my friend, I’m sorry you feel that way. I use to feel that way.
@@lukehart7225 me too feel the same way
Why do people hate me so much?? And why can't people like me for who I am.... I HATE when people tell me to act like someone I'm not.. I hate when people bully me when I never did anything to them. PLEASE HELP AND ANSWER ME
itsme, don't give up! You will meet genuine, caring people. The bullies will always be there, it's how you react to them. And it sounds like you are doing a good job standing up to them. Also, talk to a counselor. It will really help.
u know what? bully is weak son of a bitch,i punched one of them once,a weak one thou and they stop doing shit
Just keep being you, not like any other. People are probably jealous of you. Deal with a bully by standing up to them. You will only have to do it once. Best wishes to you.
Find a therapist people don't care or can't help you they have not the ability to improve your life in my opinion.
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I was bullied severely in middle school and high school... it has affected me greatly to my adult hood. it's been 6 years since I was in highschool and it has affected me GREATLY in my work life, social life, relationship life. just the after effects have traumatized me greatly. I have social anxiety and it sucks... I don't have friends except my boyfriend whom I absolutely love and 2 old friends that I talk too about once a blue moon... so technically they have become acquaintances ..but it's always a text... I feel alone alot and can't ever express myself right. I feel like I'm not worthy alot of the time and that I don't measure up... it's hard to feel this way..
Pray.
I feel you, I was bullied when I was in elementary and I guess I never coped up with it. I never learned to deal with people, and I always feel so lonely. I have few friends but just like you they are starting to be an acquaintance. It's a sad world... I don't want to feel miserable anymore :(
I feel u so much. I had been always a straight-up and genuine girl, sometimes people didnt like me but i didnt care. Until i was in High school and being boycotted by my classmates, not because i did sth wrong to them, but just because i was so different. After that i managed to get along with them a bit more and they told me i was more kind and sweet than they thought i was. Until now im in college but that still haunts me, i’m always conscious about what people might think of me, what if i say something wrong, what if they dont accept me. So i keep myself pretty distant from other people because thats how i feel safe. But they just thought i am cocky and hard to reach :) nobody understand my struggle
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@@TrinhNguyen-qz6rp OMG. Same!
The only difference is that I stutter which makes even more hard to communicate and build friendships.
Story of my life
Mine too. It's so tiring now
My problem is;
I feel it everytime
Same😭😭
Right😭
me too😔
Oftem for me.
Me
I always feel like this. Every single day, every single minute. I live alone, work alone at home, and go 30-40 days without seeing another person.
How do you donit Tracy?
Same. I tried to work in person recently and everyone was so nice at first, but then my coworkers started calling me weird and ostracizing me. Now I just isolate myself again lol. I have such bad people skills
I totally understand you, i am alone myself and it's hard getting used to. It's depressing.
Check MBTI
Gloria, you are not alone. And you are lucky to have those two friends. Better to have two people who really have your back than a bunch of shallow ones who you can't trust.
***** Make new friends, or try and join in.
+Marie Dubuque Than you so much for all of your videos! You motivated me!
Nut case
+Kathryn Long same!!!
id try meditation sometimes i think that people may actually be cool once they get past the initial first impression Id increase confidence and self esteem and self acceptance this is what meditation does challenge your self take risk and face your fears.
Im a pretty nerdy guy im strong but women that dont know me will judge me by the way I look . after no to long of a period of meditation i really dont care about whether or not people don't like me
Hardest thing to do is keep walking with your head up knowing who you are and love yourself regardless of who is or who is not in your life. Your best friend is you and God.
Well said
God doesn't exist
Amen
this video is so helpful for me. I'm crying like a baby.
Don't cry. So many people are such lousy friends. Learn to enjoy your own company.
Let's just face it many people out there just don't know how to be a good friend. They don't accept themselves they way they are so they go around not accepting anyone else the way they are. My mother used to tell me "honey, I am the best friend you will ever had". And you know what? She was right.
My mom was a distrusting jerk and she still is. Consider yourself lucky.
im a really quiet person when im around people and i hate because i really want to say something but i cant. i want to be me but i cant. im shy quiet and worried.i dont know wat to do. im bad at conversations too bcause i dont know what to say, so i just keep my mouth zipped.how do i bcome more confident and be me and start being more chatty in conversations? plz help?
Just take deep breathes relax and just show your confidence show you have nothing to lose and more to gain boosts your confidence. Say whats on your mind. Like for example your surroundings you can initiate conversations that way. Another way is to pretend you know this person they will never know that you don't know them just say you look familiar do i know you from some where and the conversation will flow.
Same for me
I am genuine and a good person and I don't have many friends. As a matter of fact those Superficial people don't even attempt to talk to me. There are so few true genuine people in NY.
Allison R Oh yes we are.
Thats crazy exactly how i feel in my city.
@@chatterboxx66 me too in Vancouver.... Maybe she had a point about 'moving to a new city'... It's so hard to meet sincere and/or engaging ppl.
I concur Allison, NY is a cesspool of fakery & misery , I'm serious as a heart attack..let's hang out one (1) time. Let me know @ your earliest convenience. If you think I smell, ugly, short, skinny, obese, corny, played out I'll find another way to connect with real folks this is my weirdo loner way of connecting. Take care..
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Thank you for letting me feel better , they hate me at school 😞
ikr :(
I am very kind, fun and genuine without 1 friend. My dog is fantastic. Screw all the users. Love your show.
I'm a guy and i really feel good from your motivation because in my class I'm very neutral automatically somehow and i sometimes feel left out because no one ever feels interested in talking to me even though I'm very kind and polite to everyone :(
Nasser ifeelu
Zhiroh hmm
i know exactly how you feel, i have a disability (aspergers) that makes it hard for me socially, and it often makes me feel left out, lonely and empty. I am polite too but people are full of s**t nowadays, you cant trust anyone... it's not you, its them...
Tommy Chappell I have a mid disability.. I can completely understand. . but keep doing you .. fuck everyone else .. because at the end of the day you are the best..
l know how you feel to, l have autism... but at the same time l am proud of it. because by thinking before acting and listen more than talk makes me to a kinder person.
Personally speaking, I have never fit in anywhere I've ever been. I was an outcast as a kid, and I am an outcast now.
If other people do take a liking to me, it doesn't last long. Sooner or later they drop me. Most people, and it has been the same wherever I have ever been, just seem to be tolerant of me.
My dad is 61 years old, and he is the same way. He doesn't have anyone he's really close with, and I am afraid that I will end up the same exact way.
The cowboy, no you won't. It is normal to have friends who drift in and out of your life. Don't lose hope in finding a deep connection with someone. And if you have a whole lof of acquaintances...that works too.
+Marie Dubuque, You say I will not end up like that.
well there are aspects to what I mentioned in my first comment, but I don't feel that they are the kind of things that I want to be posting publicly on the internet.
I believe in being discreet, especially in a public setting, and last thing that I or anybody needs is for their problems to go viral.
So with that being said, is there any way that I could message you privately and relate to you these matters?
Please don't think that I'm asking this to be weird or anything. I'm just merely trying to be careful as to what I post publicly.
I feel u
I- i think you're my twin. 🤦♀️😹 Honestly your Dad being alone, is quite fortunate.
He's saved from a lot of drama. People like you good, if not we were alone in our Mum's belly and we survived even as a fetus. 💁♀️
So we'll definitely make it, with or without people whilst being adults.
Take it from someone who's tried to learn "body language online" to make my elder sisters like me/get their attention since childhood.
I've even tried to act like I liked, "Scummy Man" by Artic monkeys. Because my elder sister thinks it's 🔥
Even that didn't work, and my ears are STILL traumatised. Other songs are not bad from him, but goodbye "Scummy man". 🙈😂
They still didn't like me no matter how I much i tried.
I'm only in my late twenties, yet never felt so liberated to be nonchalant of people and only hopeful towards God/Allah.
Why do you think grabdmas are so peaceful? They've learnt to not tolerate people's rubbish from years of experience. Young girls look young, but that's it.
Most of them endure people's rubbish until they realise at an old age, (I've been there).
Why wait, until we become a grandma/grandpa to have a drama- free life?
Just my opinion. Feel free to feel as you wish. =)
This is awesome advice. I like to be genuine, authentic and down-to-Earth and over the years have found that some people get very turned off by this. Arrogant people can feel very threatened if you exude authenticity and they realise they can’t manipulate you.
Whoever you are naturally should be enough for everyone and if it’s not then they aren’t enough.
Liked, favorited, most authentic video I've ever watched. Everything you said is true, and most people don't realize the things you said, and once they realize it they understand there is nothing wrong with them. Everyone struggles with this.
Marie your wardrobes be GOREGOUS!! So are your words. Beautiful....!!!!!!
I kind of feel like this. For example a work, I'm always sitting alone in lunch and the few people who actually tried to get to know me disappears after less than 30 min.
One example: A new girl sat down by my lunch table. We were talking a bit, after half the bread was over she went: Oh sorry, I'm in such a hurry. and she just bounced away and never talk to me. Other times people just don't want me around at all. They treat me like air and talks to others. How can I deal with these people Ann? I feel that I haven't done anything wrong to anyone.
I've always been shy and felt as if I was alone. I'm very picky with people and my trust is not gained easily. I usually pick the wrong people to put it into and end up being burned. I'm so sick of doing things for others and then never having anything nice done for me. It's draining. At least I have my mom and my boyfriend. :) I guess I just.. really wanted that silly girlfriend around.
same here 😩
Evernessa Nevermore I feel exactly the same. You are not alone. I always felt left out. I have my parents, my girlfriend and my best friend but sometimes I feel nobody else likes me and I feel bad.
My goodness! This couldn't have been timed better! Very much needed right now! Thank you :)
I don't understand those people who, wherever they go, manage to please everyone and make lots of friends. They win many friends and win the hearts of many guys. Then there are people who cannot find a single person in their life who find them pleasant
I feel like that all the time especially when I'm out
How can I get over the mental barrier of thinking they don't like me and actually be myself and go out and start new conversations and friendships? Also I'm in high school and I'm really well known because I'm good in track. People do start conversations with me, but i always think I'm to unpopular, not pretty, not cool, not funny, and overall not likeable.
Nihssa, you said it yourself, you are likeable and well respected in your high school. Sure we all have insecurities, but honestly, you have so much going for yourself. And track is such a great sport to excel at. Keep it up. You're doing great!
+Marie Dubuque Thank you! sorry if I sounded stupid😶
girl you are drop dead gorgeus and based on your question you seem genuine, stop waiting for anyone to accept you, you must know you are the bomb, fuck these people that are making you feel akward, love yourself and keep it moving
how2art That just made my day! Thanks💕
Nihssa B do you live in South Florida, lol
I was having trouble fitting in at work, my coworkers didn't like me. They'd be all sarcastic and say things like you're too bossy and go away. It made me wonder if they really meant it? They said they were joking, but idk. What should i do?
I’m in the same exact boat
I recommend creating a professional distance between yourself and your coworkers. Whether they are being honest are not in their jokes it should not take too much of your time. I recommend just focusing on being productive and paying attention to detail a while at work and keeping things simple as far as interacting with them. I'm saying this a difficult position personally in the construction industry.
The Bible states that in the last days that " the love of many will grow cold, " and also that "men will be without natural affection." It is here, do your best to be kind and love others, but be very wise in doing so. Also do not take it personally if shunned, human nature is as bad as it gets, Jeremiah 17:9. I do a best possible examination of myself, my words, and my behavior's, and move on. Remember, Jesus is the best friend, we can tell Him anything and He understands, we can pour our heart to Him. People will fail us and disappoint us, but Jesus will not fail us, He never does. Jesus loves us in spite of our shortcomings and many failures! I need Him every hour, every hour I need Him!
thank you
Thanks! But lets both pass it on to the One who deserves it most! The two most precious words that can proceed from our lips ever, " Thank You Jesus! "
Hilux244 - Yeah Jesus has been really good to me. I don't mean any disrespect, but either he ain't up there, or he don't like me.
He loves you! But you have to have a relationship with Him first in order to communicate with Him. That's why Jesus died for our sins, to bridge the gap and pay for what we could never pay for.
Selam, you are correct, the only way to begin a relationship with Jesus is to ask for forgiveness off our sins, in sincerity. At that point we become a Child Of God, and not before. Thank you Selam for mentioning this
I feel like people hate me on sight due to not always smiling or not having a pleasant look on my face I do try to work on it in the mirror and people who do like me tell me my face is fine so idk
Maybe it's where you live.... try a different city
I feel this all the time. Though I am an introvert I make a genuine effort to talk to everyone and be friendly. it all goes well till that one or 2 people show up who totally make me feel like shit. I get effected and leave the place feeling like crap. I feel like my energy is totally drained. It always happens to me and I dread going to any party now.
I don’t think anyone hates me , I think people are just indifferent to me. I have given up making friends. No one is particularly interested in me. Like someone else commented I cannot be bothered . The effort is not worth the result which is mostly just casual and surface level acquaintances despite trying to build a friendship . I used to be optimistic when younger and I never felt insecure about making friends until I realized very few people wanted to be my friend . And I can tell you it was not because of me doing something mean to them or me being weird or anything of the sort . I just came to the conclusion that my personality and persona is not really interesting to anyone to where they want me as a friend .
I feel the same way why is it that people hate Bout me?
I feel I am blessed to hear your Truth in life. It is indeed me doing what I am interested in and other people will just come along. I also just have to show interest in other people too by asking them questions about how they got their interest in doing whatever they are doing, etc. and if they mention they went to a restaurant, I can talk about mexican food or whatever food the next time. You are a genius!!!!
32, thank you so much! Glad I could help.
Thank you Marie. This actually helped. It really did. It's just a shame that the right ones are hard to find.
100% agree, I've never been one to follow others just to "fit in" and have been hated on a lot due to that, but I finally realized it's their insecurity that's the problem, not me. :)
I think not fitting in has many advantages for one you’re the most underestimated person in the room, for another it’s a great advantage
Such good advice and so timely. Cut so many fake friends.
I have trust issues after family tried to destroy me. I am just a natural loner and I cherish it now.
Same
Same
You are truely a life coach and I have a lot of respect for you.
she is sincere, genuine and real. i can really connect.
I can honestly say I'm a good person, friendly a great friend but I am in my late 20's and feel like it's always me trying to make plans, me trying to keep friendships so it makes me feel like I'm not good enough and doing something wrong
Its harder when you're older too many users and people who take advantage.
Hi Marie, I'm just wondering should I stay friends with people who treat me badly, not all the time but occasionally, or just keep looking for friends who only understand me and treat me with respect?
+Mr_Cod if the behavior continues even though you have pointed out how his words make you feel, I would start looking for other friends.
No
+Marie Dubuque I have friends hahahahah
Mr_Cod look for friends who respect you
Thank you Marie!!! You are awesome
It's all about money, the more money you make the more people you gonna attract
Bryan Betancourt really? So people will respect you when there's money?
@@kehindejames2275 no they'll use you not respect you there's a difference .my family won't talk or acknowledge me if I'm broke and out of work .but as soon I get back on my feet they start being nice again .it's happened a few times . people will just use you for what you can do for them
@@kehindejames2275 Nope just use you.
I think that everyone I know is just ashamed to be seen with me😢☹️
Great points were made in this video, but I would also emphasize that people need to be in positive atmospheres far more in order to find happiness. Climb a mountain or a big hill, high places that take work to get to simply repel negative people. Civic groups that are truly working to improve your community attract wonderful people. Endurance sports such as swimming, running and cycling are full of people who tend to be emotionally stable/successful and have a positive outlook. Go to some races or even compete yourself if you can. Great environments attract great people.
THANK YOU for covering very touchy subjects like this. Amazingly enough, even my own relatives don't invite me on their hangouts with their friends. What crap. I got over it. I started making my own agenda. I would plan every day and one day my brother called me up and invited me to a pool party after YEARS. I told him I was already busy and had my day planned. He was appalled. He kept forcing me to show up but I kept saying, 'no, I already have my day planned'. It was GREAT.
This happened to me too. These people are self centered imbeciles. You are definitely not like them! Good for you in creating your own life and sticking it to them! You don't need them they are trash. Positive forward movement keep it going!
You are amazing Marie. Thank you! It feels better to know I am not fake and that I dont need to seek approval or change myself for others.
Thank you The Santoan! So glad it helped.
I love your videos. You re teaching me alot about to solve your own problems with people.
I haven't met the right people yet. I like that. I was thinking this yesterday. And I love writing songs and I'm going to an open mic so that is the place I think. This is encouraging.
I'm a senior in highschool but I don't have any friends. I just feel lost when I talk to other people. I don't know what to say or what to do. I haven't had any real friends. I always played by myself on the playground and I don't hang out with anyone. I'm going to a small community college next year so I'm hoping I can find a friend there.
You will. People mature in college. But college can also be a lonely place. That's why it's important to get involved...clubs, intramural sports. Find whatever interests you so you can meet people. Stick with it. You will do great!
I have always been shy and scared of people since I was little. I come from a different culture and when I was little people used to make fun of me because I was shy and couldn't talk and couldn't communicate. I was lonely my whole life and still am . every time I have a new friend I just lose them somehow, I feel guilty all the time I feel like everything always is my fault somehow it's so depressing.I really don't know how to hold a conversation I don't know how to look people in the eye and keep talking I have nothing to talk about most of the times I always feel like I'm boring. And now I am a mother of two children and I need to make friendship with other moms but I'm so scared that I would make another mistake or just not be able to talk and look stupid.
“They are better actors” 👏 I have learned I can’t trust those shallow people. But I am surrounded by them. No friends are better then fake one ☝️ 💯.
Marie, i try so hard to become friends with every one but they don't accept me. Please help i need advice
I found being moderate and do what you want to do is best thing to do, i try to be friendly with everyone too and some people are not gonna accept it, and might ignore you
It doesn't matter, do whatever you like they either would buy it or not, both case are fine!! others behaviors are not our business !
You can talk to me I'm open minded I don't judge I'm having the same problem you are your not alone
You can't please everyone .you're only one person and they're always someone out there that won't agree with what you're saying ,doing whatever.you just have to do things for you without caring about others opinions
It's ok
Bee yourself and one day there's will the right person become youe fren .
Not knowing anyone and not fitting in are two very different things.
Mam, your advise & lifted hopes are 100% correct & I thank you for what you do but IMO some people as myself are "meant" to never fit in. In the past I would put up a facade or form myself like water in a glass in order to fit it & in all honestly it did work, I had friends but I realized that following the crowd & not expressing my opinion killed me inside. A year ago I made a promise to myself that no matter what I would be my own person in the world & it has left me without a friend in the world, I now express my opinion & speak my mind yet people tend to stray away from individuals like me because we tend to "try hard", I'm a deep person & when I want to get to know a person I ask allot of questions in order to connect but people get tense because they are use to that feeling of instant connection. Basically what I'm trying to say is that there are different strokes for different folks & one pice of advise isn't for the entire crowd. However you have made my heart skip a beat with your honesty :) thank you :) you have a new subscriber :)
I'm currently going through a phase where I cannot find a certain lady that can stick around for the long term and even have a conversation
People either hate me or are indifferent towards me despite being nice but not a pushover. Despite being outgoing and not boring. I've tried so hard for years. Now I'm done.
Great video. I think the part where you talk about just doing what you love and people will come is dead on.
I'm tired of getting hurt. I feel like the only reason someone wants to be around me is if I have something to benefit them. I would rather be alone then hurt again. I know how to have a conversation I just don't like to be in a room full of people, and I don't like fake people.
Wow! This vid speaks to me. Going through right now @ my job. Most hate me! I don't know why. Before we were cool yet for the past 2-3 months I'm a step-child...
You are like a mother figure thank you
I don't have no friends I'm 27 the people I thought was friends were fake.
Ahh you have a nice voice and friendly nature … a nice soft spoken video thank you x
*HELP PLEASE*
People don’t seem to like me very much. I’m super outgoing and have lots of energy/zest when I talk. I’m generally very positive-but I do make self-deprecating jokes idk if that influences that, just thought I’d mention. But I constantly get interrupted in group conversations, though when I mention it they’re usually like-oh sorry yeah go ahead. I notice that when a certain group at school I’m in is all eating together, people seem to sit as far away from me as possible. I shower regularly and brush my teeth. I practice good hygiene. People are usually nice but I feel like it’s surface level politeness. The people I feel like do generally like me don’t really hang out with me. We’ll sit together if we bump into each other but nothing intentional happens, even if it’s fairly easy for them to do so. And no one really comes to me for advice at all like I see other people do with their friends. Am I overthinking it? Or could their be something wrong with me that makes them dislike me? I don’t know what to do, HELP ME PLEASE!!
Thanks heaps. Needed this!!
wow i’ve never felt so understood in my entire life 😕 it’s actually SO painful to have people dislike you when you never even got the chance to show them who you truly are beyond the first impression you gave off. no one else in my life seems to be dealing with this, i just don’t understand.
They are probably intimidated by you in some way...maybe your beauty or intelligence...some characteristic they wish they had. So you bring out their insecurities. Remember, secure confident people will offer true friendship and won't feel the need to bring anyone else down to build themselves up. Don't lose hope. You will find genuine, kind people. They are out there. You just have to be patient.
I love these vids amazing pep talk/advice ♥️
Well to be honest, I don wanna learn how to be an "actor". You said it yourself, they are very successful (I am very introverted and don't have any friends lol)
Same😂
I’m the shyest most introverted person out there, my partner is a successful man and can fit in with any crowd with the jokes etc
I’ve always stuck to a few people and now at 30 as a mother of 3 I can say I have 0 friends.
My partner sees this as a problem and issue I need to resolve but I’m genuinely fine with it and I don’t feel the need at this present time to sacrifice my alone time when I’m free of the kids, to a bunch of wine swigging giggling women.
I go to parties with him and to the pub etc and yes I talk to people and have a laugh but when I haven’t had a drink and I meet those people on the street they’re just dull and boring with nothing interesting to say and have completely different interests to me.
If I wasn’t a mother I’d probably be the kind of person to go travelling alone and work abroad and maybe settle down with some cats on a hill and live happily ever after.
Growing up I did have friends but family life was pretty non existent as my dad was an alcoholic. We moved house dozens of times and were very poor. I think because of my childhood and the fact it was lonely it has made it so I don’t feel i need human interaction other then my family.
The only reason i need this to change and ignore what I actually want out of life is because of the disapproval of my partner and having been with him for over half my life, I haven’t ever had the opportunity to develop into the person I actually am.
That was beautifully expressed
"Ask someone questions about themselves"......the thing is, many/most people act like you're a stalker or Jack the Ripper if you try to ask questions...Even a simple "hey I like your blouse" I get looked at like I have 3 heads....So I just prefer to stay in my safe little cocoon and avoid people, I am polite, saying "please" and thank you" "hello" and "take care" and that is it these days......Sad, but it's the world we live in...
It's better to be alone, then to be around bad company.
I'd been feeling this way for a few years now. And I have to agree the people who treat you mean when you have only tried to be a friend are the worst people to befriend. They will have you thinking you're crazy. It took me four years but I am now out of that relationship.
Hi Marie, I enjoyed your video. In my case, I some times think I'm under a curse or something. I'm in my mid 40's and have only 2 long time friends from when we were in college. We live in different countries, but we've kept in touch through the years. But in general, I find that it's not as much the making friends part, but the keeping them. that makes me wonder what is wrong. All seems to be well, then one day, they stop talking to me and even avoiding me. I have been told what happens to me is not normal. Your insight is much appreciated. Thank you!
Gloria Price. I have the same issue. It doesn't get any easier as I age.
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Great video. 👍🏻 I'm 43 y.o. I have no close friends and I'm ok with that. At this point in life, I'm too tired to try to pursue other people. It's more like I need them to give me a good reason why we should get together. I'm more selective of who I invest my time in because I have a family and my husband is truly my best friend. I do have one friend I love who is 75 years old! I say keep an open mind to different age groups when it comes to friendship. I enjoy spending time with this 75 year old more than I do people my own age. Plus, I get the opportunity to help someone who needs it and appreciates it. We also have the best conversations.
I’ve been living in the same town for 22 yrs, graduated from here and I’ve had friends but very flaky friends. Put it this way I don’t have any connections with my friends I graduated with. Which is odd to me. It seems like the friends that I used to have dropped off the face of the earth around the same time
thanks so much for that encouragement I really needed to hear that
Nailed it! When you pull back and no longer being a yes person, I've lost 4 people in my group and they have now intentionally left me out. It's hard but I'm moving on.
OMG! I was always wondering why I never felt all the love back that I give. I'll hang in there because Summer will be here soon and just maybe I'll get out of this funk I'm in. You made me feel better. Thank you. You are a sweet person. :)
It's time for me to stop myself from letting ppl go forever out my life, on social media and in real life. I used to be ashamed of being a loner b*tch and complain about it all my life...I'm gd being myself, I'm not selling out for nobody.
Love your channel, thanks for sharing these gems🙏
Dear Marie. Thanks for all the advice in this video. I keep feeling lonely in the last years, because my whole life my friends and I were already friends from since I was born. When some of us became teenagers, I keep feeling like they are ignoring me while I keep helping them and they just don't appreciate what I do for them. Should I stop this in born friendship, or find a new friendship? I really need an answer.
Dont give more than they give. Mirror them.
Thank you so much for sharing such Wise Words. I only wish my younger Self had heard these words instead of forcing myself to be someone i am not and trying to fit in. You truly are helping so many People out there caught up in toxic Friendships.
You made my day, truly. Thank you.
I've noticed am more sociable with people who are open and easy going. But then when you genuinely show interest you end up being the one always calling checking up on them but nothing the other way round 🤷🏼♀️. I love my own space but it would be nice to have that friend who check up on you too
I thought I had met ppl that felt like this..but they ended up making me feel worse cus I'm even ignored around ppl who supposedly go through this..n it stings a little
Isn't it tragic how the misfits don't like the other misfits because they are just as shallow?
Wow, I feel like you have read my mind ...I have a problem getting along with people.. and sometimes I feel like people always want to take advantage of me.. When I got married is when I lost most of my friends..which is what I found really weird.
I’ve felt like this all my life
Thank you Marie.
I agree most ppl are shallow. They're also jealous bitter & spiteful. When I was younger I could fight them off. But now that I'm older I'm tired and have given up. It's a constant fight. So many ppl always wanting stuff from me and acting like I owed them. Whether it was my time my knowledge it always had to be me giving them my attention. It's even harder being a minority in the south in a relative smaller town. I hate it.
I've lost all will to do what I enjoy bc there's always someone to ruin it. Dating is impossible as I encounter the most bizarre situations which makes the girl feel uncomfortable & eventually they lose interest bc they don't want to deal with the weird situations that they normally don't have to deal with.
Can't have a nice car, bike, or even dress nicely as some idiot always has to run their mouth. So I got a boring economy car. Quit my business & pretty much just keep to myself. Gained weight & wallow in misery. Now no one bothers me. It's as if the hateful area I live in is saying yeah that's your place, he ain't nobody & that's how it should be. I hate this place.
Just move you say, can't too much invested & no way to be free. Besides I've traveled to NY & across the world & it's the same. The world says I can't be good looking I can't be cool I can't be anything other than what they stereotype me as. My last salvation was a dear friend who I think just gave up on me. Doesn't answer my calls. Don't blame her. She probably had enough.
I think about all the BS that I have to endure. Fake ppl who just want to ruin me. Can't even get a job with all the experience & education I have. What's worse my own family gloats about my misery. All the things I've done for them & this is how they repay me.
There's all this fake sentiment on tv saying how wonderful ppl are. It's a lie to keep you going. I've met a lot of ppl in my life & have only come across 3 ppl who truly are great ppl. The rest always have some hidden agenda. They lie cheat & steal & bc I'm not like them they hate on me. I agree with you on that part ppl hate you when you're not like them.
Amen! 👌🏼
you shouldn't buy your clothes or cars for other people, nor should you own a bussiness to impress other people, you do it for you. Do not give up, there are good people in the world, you just need to stop worrying about what others think! this is YOUR life not theirs. Own your business because thats your dream, speak to your friends and family because even though they gave up after awhile, you need to let go of the past and move on and forgive them. Not for them but for your own sanity. Just try to let go of the past and take each day at a time and take care of yourself.
The Trumpian I understand you! Love yourself and have positive energy
It's been 2 years.. but I truly hope you're doing fine bud.. it's hard when everyone around you is a walking trashcan..
Hey man it's been 3 years since your post but I can't help but reply. Sorry about your experiences, I can relate to most of what you say and over time I have come to a sad conclusion. Human beings are like a plague, we're a cancer to this planet and to be honest I am embarrassed to be a human, whilst looking into the eyes of animals of assorted forms I tend to feel inferior to them in a spiritual sense. My advice is care less what others think of you, easier said then done but take solice in the good things in your life. We don't need anyone elses approval to be ourselves. Fuck em all 😁
Being young is wondering why you never fit in….
Getting older is understanding why you never did, and that you should have never wanted to anyways
Thank you for these encouraging words. I Really needed to hear this today