This was a great summery of what fawning is and how to overcome. I am 37 and just learning about this concept, wow! I have been on the healing journey for a long time and made so much progress but only now realizing there is a name to my coping mechanisms since I was a kid.
I'm a recovering people pleasing fawner too. It was so eye opening for me when I began to really learn about and explore the intricacies and origin of this survival tactic. I'm delighted you're here and honored to be a part of your journey. In my book Healing in Your Hands I explore this concept more deeply 🤗💕
Good day Dr Kate. This was really helpful to me in accordance with my marriage and boundary issues my husband has been experiencing - tnk u. You shed the light on boundary issues like 'Me & Mommy are one', to 'I am separate'. You linked the compliant with 'please and appease' survival. Through your positive spin on fawning and the 'easy' way to manage it into better boundary development, you gave me hope that the development of boundary gates of 'I need to', 'I want to', I might want to' and 'I don't want to' is actually still possible. Vey grateful 3 u!
Thank you so much for your kind words and feedback! I'm glad to hear that my video was helpful in addressing your marriage and boundary issues. I appreciate your gratitude and I'm grateful to have been able to make a positive impact. Thank you for watching and supporting my channel! 💖
I used that response growing up, thank you for validating it ! Learning to set boundaries was the most life changing thing I did for myself as well as building emotional intelligence (they go along, now I know) :)
57 had no contact with my mother for 12 years. She's 78 now. I'm staying with her and struggling with childhood trauma. It just keeps bubbling up. I'm trying to move forward .... I had no idea.....Feeling more broken, like I've made no progress in my life? How can that be?
I'm truly sorry to hear about your experience. This is one of the common questions I get and I've created this video: www.tiktok.com/@dr.katetruitt/video/7324888967411813675 You're not alone in this and healing is possible. Sending you much warmth, strength and healing ❤️❤️🩹❤️
@DrKateTruitt Now I'm bawling my eyes out. Someone heard me! I can't even wrap my head around how difficult this has been. She's old and feeble and still a master narcissist and manipulator, I can't imagine what I thought coming here. I just want my mama to love me! I have no patience with her nonsense, and agree with very little of what she says. She definitely has some kind of dementia. I thought maybe I could find some closure and peace. She is struggling mentally and physically and I want her to be okay, but not at my expense. I feel I need to walk away or be destroyed. Shouldn't I be stronger than that? Thank you so very much for responding to me. I will most definitely keep on keeping on and look at the other videos.
You're welcome. Understanding this dual response is important in recognizing the complex ways people cope with and adapt to traumatic experiences. Sending you much warmth and healing ❤️❤️🩹❤️
The flight,fight, and freeze responses are autonomic ( involu tary). However, the fawn can not be autonomic because you need cognition to reason and placate the predator. Therefore, it is not an automatic survival response like the others. it's a learnt behaviour.
Interesting about identifying needs and wants in the context of boundary setting, would be interested in learning about needs in terms of being able to reach out and communicating them to the people around you......as someone who used to be very good at this, a very neglectful long term relationship had left me very out of of touch with myself struggling identify and meet my own emotional needs and communicate them effectively to others
I'm truly sorry to hear about what you're going through. You're not alone in this journey. Feel free to read this in-depth blog I wrote about Breaking the Pattern of People Pleasing to Live Our Best Lives: drtruitt.com/breaking-the-pattern-of-people-pleasing-to-live-our-best-lives/ A Guided Meditation for Setting Boundaries in Relationships with Dr. Kate Truitt: ruclips.net/video/BF-etPys9YU/видео.htmlsi=kvzLc7MzaByHbYJh Sending you much strength and healing ❤️❤️🩹❤️
So helpful thank you very much
You're welcome. I'm glad you find it helpful 💗 much warmth and healing your way
Love this Kate- “need to, want to, don’t want to.” Very helpful guide for an experienced fawner!
Thank you so much, I'm glad it was helpful 💗
This was a great summery of what fawning is and how to overcome. I am 37 and just learning about this concept, wow! I have been on the healing journey for a long time and made so much progress but only now realizing there is a name to my coping mechanisms since I was a kid.
I'm a recovering people pleasing fawner too. It was so eye opening for me when I began to really learn about and explore the intricacies and origin of this survival tactic. I'm delighted you're here and honored to be a part of your journey. In my book Healing in Your Hands I explore this concept more deeply 🤗💕
Good day Dr Kate. This was really helpful to me in accordance with my marriage and boundary issues my husband has been experiencing - tnk u. You shed the light on boundary issues like 'Me & Mommy are one', to 'I am separate'. You linked the compliant with 'please and appease' survival. Through your positive spin on fawning and the 'easy' way to manage it into better boundary development, you gave me hope that the development of boundary gates of 'I need to', 'I want to', I might want to' and 'I don't want to' is actually still possible. Vey grateful 3 u!
Thank you so much for your kind words and feedback! I'm glad to hear that my video was helpful in addressing your marriage and boundary issues. I appreciate your gratitude and I'm grateful to have been able to make a positive impact. Thank you for watching and supporting my channel! 💖
There's only so much beauty a man can handle before he loses his ability to focus. The soothing voice doesn't help..
What???
I was most definitely did this in my past.
I'm glad this was helpful 😊
I used that response growing up, thank you for validating it ! Learning to set boundaries was the most life changing thing I did for myself as well as building emotional intelligence (they go along, now I know) :)
You're welcome! I sincerely appreciate your kind comments💗
Thank you! This is really helpful.
You're so welcome! I'm glad you find it helpful 💗😊
57 had no contact with my mother for 12 years. She's 78 now. I'm staying with her and struggling with childhood trauma. It just keeps bubbling up. I'm trying to move forward .... I had no idea.....Feeling more broken, like I've made no progress in my life? How can that be?
I'm truly sorry to hear about your experience. This is one of the common questions I get and I've created this video: www.tiktok.com/@dr.katetruitt/video/7324888967411813675
You're not alone in this and healing is possible. Sending you much warmth, strength and healing ❤️❤️🩹❤️
@DrKateTruitt Now I'm bawling my eyes out. Someone heard me! I can't even wrap my head around how difficult this has been. She's old and feeble and still a master narcissist and manipulator, I can't imagine what I thought coming here. I just want my mama to love me! I have no patience with her nonsense, and agree with very little of what she says. She definitely has some kind of dementia. I thought maybe I could find some closure and peace. She is struggling mentally and physically and I want her to be okay, but not at my expense. I feel I need to walk away or be destroyed. Shouldn't I be stronger than that? Thank you so very much for responding to me. I will most definitely keep on keeping on and look at the other videos.
I love how you put a positive spin on all of these behaviors by mentioning the opportunities to make changes!🤗
Thank you for your comment, I'm glad to hear that you appreciate it and I'm glad it was helpful
thank you so much, this is exactly what I needed
You’re so very welcome. You’re definitely not alone. Sending you so much warmth and healing 💗
im a fawn /fight male there is hardly information on us thank you for providing some insight on fawn types
You're welcome. Understanding this dual response is important in recognizing the complex ways people cope with and adapt to traumatic experiences. Sending you much warmth and healing ❤️❤️🩹❤️
The flight,fight, and freeze responses are autonomic ( involu tary). However, the fawn can not be autonomic because you need cognition to reason and placate the predator. Therefore, it is not an automatic survival response like the others. it's a learnt behaviour.
Thank you for sharing your insight. 💕
This is a lot for me to process. But so good!!!
I'm glad this resonates with you 💗 Take the time to process what you need in your healing journey. Sending you warmth and healing ❤️❤️🩹❤️
Interesting about identifying needs and wants in the context of boundary setting, would be interested in learning about needs in terms of being able to reach out and communicating them to the people around you......as someone who used to be very good at this, a very neglectful long term relationship had left me very out of of touch with myself struggling identify and meet my own emotional needs and communicate them effectively to others
I'm truly sorry to hear about what you're going through. You're not alone in this journey.
Feel free to read this in-depth blog I wrote about Breaking the Pattern of People Pleasing to Live Our Best Lives: drtruitt.com/breaking-the-pattern-of-people-pleasing-to-live-our-best-lives/
A Guided Meditation for Setting Boundaries in Relationships with Dr. Kate Truitt: ruclips.net/video/BF-etPys9YU/видео.htmlsi=kvzLc7MzaByHbYJh
Sending you much strength and healing ❤️❤️🩹❤️