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When people click on this video, they're probably expecting to be validated that it's the "other" person's problem, but thank you for bringing self awareness, mindfulness and the real truth to the table.
What do you do when you subordinate your ego, things go wrong, the egomaniac does not learn from their mistakes, and it keeps happening over and over for months or years?
Isn't that just being passive instead of assertive? I don't see how being assertive in a situation would mean you have a large ego. My dad's ego says that I don't know anything about subjects I'm an expert on and that he is all knowing about subjects he knows nothing about. So I should be passive and nod and agree even when he's wrong?
No, this video is bullshit. They're telling you to submit and comply with problematic and narcissistic people who need to be put in check. Do not listen to this video's advice. Be assertive when faced with an egomaniac or they will trample and use you
What do you gain from being right in an argument? If you're truly an expert in some areas then you should have the confidence to not care what others opinions are on said topics. It has nothing to do with being submissive. Also, be open to the idea that you could be wrong on certain topics. There's always multiple perspectives to look at things through.
Ok, ok… what if you’re dealing with a know it all who thinks they know what needs doing but you can see what they are doing isn’t what needs doing… do you step in and say how about we try it this way? or do we tell them to get out of the bloody way and get it done!
LOL. I am the facility lead mechanic for our repair shop. I answer to many people up thru the chain of command but most specifically Dayshift Maint Leader (head boss) & Nightshift Frontline Leader. I would look at what I consider the most important aspect of what you are saying. Will someone get hurt going down that slippery slope? I also would look at there being more than one way to the same outcome. Who assigned 'Bob' to the job. If either of my bosses assigned that job to 'Bob' I would let 'Bob' know if he needs some info or help just give me a shout. I am lead by time in the company job title and amount of time being a diesel mechanic. Yea I am old. Humble yourself. I have mechanics from all the shifts ask me questions. If they have a problem, they come see me. If they have an issue with their job assigned to them, let's go to the boss and talk about it. Listening to the words spoken above and written below the short above here WORK. Humble yourself (not just me) also the fellow Mech. Check the EGO!! you accomplish NOTHING if the ears are not open, and mouth shut. We are all looking for the final goal. WORK ACCOMPLISHED!
This is truly the worst way to deal with this problem. If an idiot with an ego tells you something completely ridiculous you should subjugate yourself to it? Rejected Nice try...ok I really mean weak as shit try.
@@manojmurali7462Ask them to “prove it” to whatever they are saying. Then disengage anytime they show an ego. No response, or a simple huh. Counter the ego with the opposite emotion
i understand where you guys are coming from, and that can work in the workplace but if this is a close person who you see daily (person B) and their ego stops them from apologising when they are clearly wrong or they never take your advice and get angry when you try help them, even if person A has their ego in check, they still are frustrated because of how often they have to deal with person B's behaviour and they want to just use words that will help them break down the barrier of ego and the stubbornness that comes with it
Disagree…. I had an oppressive boss that was egotistical, arrogant, condescending…… and In respect to the company owner, I held my lip and was subordinate…… I agree that 2 egos bumping heads is only going to escalate things…..HOWEVER taking abuse from a weak, small man that thrives on bullying others is unacceptable. Oh, BTW, everyone on the shop floor felt the same, and I recently found out that this supervisor got in an argument with someone at the workplace (I no longer work there) and stormed off the job and never came back.
My stepdad always tells me bad he has a big ego.Im 16 years old .He always tells me how his better, more good looking,has more money,smarter and has more muscles then me.He tells me this even though his clearly better then me. He always brings me down.I just wish he could stop.I just wanna be loved.
Don't listen to this bullshit advice, man. They say to "Subordinate" your ego and keep yourself in check, but when people behave how you're describing your stepdad, they are the ones that need to be put in check. If everyone followed this video's advice the world would just be trampled by a bunch of narcissists because people should "subordinate" themselves. Don't be a pushover to narcissists
Jaydin.... thats a him problem. He likely had issues growing up as we all do. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you it merely means he hasn't resolved his own issues. I would bet he has been the best dad he could but he is as imperfect as you. Work with him. Express your concerns. I have a step daughter who calls me dad. I'm broken myself, but I try....her impute is valuable. So is yours. Love you Jaydin 49yr old USMC 4 daughter's
@@jaydinsjbls1163 Dads and daughters always have issues. I and my 4 daughters all have contentious issues. Some we work out some we set aside for later as neither are ready to work them on yet. This the reality of life. This IS life. With all people. It's our ability to recognize these truths that prepare us for success and acceptance that some things just are what they are for now.... I pray this helps
This is really bad advice for a life long people pleaser like me and has cost me literally millions of dollars. Now you guys take your own advice and submit to my post!!!
I lovvvve this! Also limiting your time w them is helpful and having a witness if at all possible when u are at work. If they are creating negative alliance, create positive ones to listen out.
Okay but that's just solving your own ego that doesn't solve their ego you can fall in line but how does that fix them... wouldn't that just give them a bigger ego? Another thing is how are you supposed to talk about it later if you had trouble bringing it up in the first place if that person doesn't want to hear you? I'm not arguing about it. But I do have to ask the question how does that fix the other person? ( Like for example if somebody's attacking you and you go to somebody and ask them how to keep them from attacking you. Are you going to tell them to just take it and and if you're not dead at the end of it are you going to just tell them to get up and walk away and pretend like it never happened.) Because that doesn't fix the problem that just teaches you how to be a ( and sorry if this sounds a little profound and extra) good Little bitch? So yes it does teach you how to fall in line and maybe control your own ego but that does not fix the problem itself a bully is going to keep bullying you until you fight back either that or you'll die simply because you never fought back. But at that point people only seem to care once that person is dead but at that point it doesn't really matter because you're already dead because you couldn't do anything to stop it because everybody was telling you not to do anything about it...
You're completely right. This video's "advice" is basically telling people to submit to manipulators and egomaniacs. Do NOT do this. If you give them compliance instead of assertion they will just get an ego boost and trample you even more
@@Mr.Virus__ facts. I like Jocko. But think about what a guy like McGregor would do if someone tried to dominate them. It wouldn’t be fun for that person. Sometimes you need some McGregor in you.
The point is that you can’t change someone like this. Nor is it your place, that’s the other side of the big ego coin. If you’re in a position where you can’t form a tolerable working relationship with bosses and colleagues, you should probably work on extracting yourself from that situation.
I have natural executive ability, but people management and communication have become my top learning priority. When I was 12 years old, I randomly said to myself, “More important than control, is Self-Control”. Wild stuff!
It's sounds on the surface like good advice for certain situations but it also sounds like a possible way to get fired. How do you handle situations if you're certain that the other way is the wrong way? The best way I know is to talk about the things and the differences, detach the people from the situation. Great video though thank you
Working with men's egos is so frustrating. Working on a deck or any job solving problems is almost impossible when there is a big ego. It's their way or the highway. A problem can have more than one solution, and having an open mind to choose the best solution is key. Throw your egos in the garbage.. It's's only pride in believing you're the ALL knowing one around. NO one knows everything, and never will.
I usually just say we will do it your way. And when they fail I don't say anything just now we will do this. I don't crush peoples egos they do it to themselves. It is like a cycle it is weird it gets inflated then it pops
I really don't get where they're coming from because what does my ego has to do with somebody else's ego if someone has a large ego and it affects people around them and it's very toxic how does me putting my ego in check has to do with that situation nope I totally disagree try again
Okay. The title does not match the content. I think that is the main disconnect. This is not "working with" someone with a big ego. This is setting aside our own self, for the sake of someone else. Which we can do, and is justified, but not always. We have issues with boundaries in our culture. At some point, this video should have said, "and as soon as youre away from this over-domineering person, you make arrangements so that you never have to deal with this person again. Someone who does not accept other's 'no' is dangerous, toxic for work culture and family culture." Until enough people refuse to "submit to" (because this isnt working with, if we cannot even represent our interests) the big ego, the person will never face the consequences of having it. They will never recognize the problem until enough people directly refuse to be bulldozed. We do not promote bullies.
I will add- many of us bulldoze our own boundaries for the sake of peace and not rocking the boat. This is enabling to bullies who take advantage of social norms. We must enforce the interpersonal consequences or they do not learn. When a person isn't interested in including us or ever allowing us to represent ourselves and our needs, we might as well walk away, because they aren't interacting with us. They're using us.
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Not sure if I agree with you. You left out that people have different Values. If impact and doing what is right is an important Value to me then how can I follow up with my boss idea of it contradicts my Value?
So if we subordinate our ego how to we stop ourselves being walked over and treated like a mug. It’s harder for women dealing with a colleague with a big ego trying to over power you. Would love some tips !!! Not my boss but a colleague that thinks he’s the boss of me
Good info. But you don't know the eagles I'm working with. They're headed to a hellish existence and they will not listen to any advice from anyone. I don't want to force it, but I feel like they're running out of time to learn it themselves.
Oh fuck no. I have a subordinate who takes every contradiction from his instruction (read: I countermanded it either on purpose or accidentally) and now his reputation is at stake and he looks bad and it’s embarrassing for him. He’s got a territory he covers, but he’s got three people above him that also have ownership of that territory, including me. He employs the expression “I’m happy to help” but the caveat is that we have to meet his strident requirements and if we don’t meet them he throws a temper tantrum with shouting and once he even broke his toe flinging a heavy object around, he was just so gosh darned happy to help. He’ll volunteer himself when he sees others failing to do their jobs (in his eyes) and then gets mad about it. I’m the bigger person and apologize if I make a mistake or forget something, and that is used to show that I’m wrong and he’s flawless: it was my fault he did what he did. He regularly made another female employee cry (she had no nerve for conflict even though she was a totally dismissive bitch). He gets frustrated with the mess that is our storage shed, and instead of helping clean and organize, he just shoved things out of the way and essentially hides them in illogical places, rather than coordinating on putting things in a permanent appropriate place. His job is too important to spend cleaning, but it’s okay for him to make your job harder trying to find tools. He actually took tools that were in their proper place and stored them in the attic “until we can clean the shed”. It’s gotta be his way or we’re being difficult and we’re not listening to him and we’re disrespectful and he calls me passive aggressive in a passive aggressive manner. It’s constant interventions and our mutual Director is a terrible manager and if I don’t have his support my voice means nothing. My director will actually bitch about this dudes behavior immediately after being his cheerleader in direct opposition to me I hate being the one able to take the abuse and double standards without going postal. But this guy can’t get reprimanded because his ego can’t take it. Why isn’t he fired? Nonprofit, desperate, and the other 350 days of the year he’s the biggest sweetheart and teddy bear and an amazing worker and we’d be fuuuuudged without him. It’s just finding ways to manage these occasional explosions and temper tantrums that’s a challenge. We’re still trying to armchair psychoanalyze him.
I'm in the road of peace and kindness and try to grow everyday but one of my best friend has so much ego i can't tell him so many things because he won't accept it and put his ego aside, he'll get upset. He also corrects me on alot of things i say like he knows everything, if i tell him something ik he'll be like hey ik know that already kinda of luke he's upset that im telling him something he doesn't know
What if Dave’s plan is dangerous and ill-advised, why go along with a bad plan? What if Dave is trying his best to ruin you? No offence, but this is terrible advice.
What if Dave's plan is s*** though? Like obvious s*** that you don't have to have a big ego to stand up and say that's a bad plan..... Because if you're doing somebody with a Giant ego and they have a horrible plan, they're laying out for everybody to do, but they're too stubborn for anybody to knock sense into them. What do you do? I know the first thing most people do is they end up growing their ego and clashing. But I mean if we're marching to our doom because this guy's leading us with his giant ego into doom. What do we do? And in case you don't get this, this is probably one of the most important questions of our world today as we have way too many leaders with giant egos that we must learn how to handle correctly. And we all must learn to put our egos aside. And your advice is good, but could you get a bit more in depth on more specific situations? For example, I'm dealing with an abuse of a narcissist in my family. I have absolutely found that I have also been an abusive narcissist back. So I started buttering myself and well this person is doing the same thing. So that's working but most wouldn't have stuck with this. They would have just distanced themselves from this person 100%. But this is my mother with an aneurysm and nobody else to look for her. So that wasn't going to be an option. But she has a giant ego. But because I'm around her enough I keep letting her see me. Put my ego in check and call my ego out.. and she started doing it to herself. Just truly a beautiful thing. But it's not really the norm. Most situations I see end up being 100% distance between and families breaking up sometimes to never come back together. All because of narcissism and inflated egos. But yeah what if Dave's s*** plan is s*** and just wrong? How do you handle his ego to get him out of his plan? Let's just assume it's something that you absolutely can't do, but he is going to push forward no matter what. You know. Like set off a nuclear bomb on another country...... Funny how this all keeps going right back to our leaders...
But why do I always have to bow down to people like this & then when I do it everyone gets mad & then im the problem? Like no I’m standing up for myself but it’s almost as if I’m not allowed too. But boss & peers can say whatever they want but I can’t. To me it a bunch of bullshit. Then people say “oh that’s just John or etc.” & that’s perfectly okay ? Yeah I don’t think so. Idk people can’t be reasonable anymore & refuse to see the other side. Which is why I just cut people off I don’t have patience anymore for small minded people. & I’m not a naturally cold person but the people I’m around everyday give me no choice but to be, & So be it.
Womp womp! Sounds like a YOU problem. Stop catering to those who don't respect you. If it isn't your job to be their Jester the don't play along with their games ? Are you dumb? If the answer is no, why do you choose to act dumb to yourself by questioning your own decisions in life? You are your own teacher. You control your life. Change is different and it's terrifying but a bird doesn't know how to fly unless it wants to spread its wings and sadly no wings are being spread due to the lack of flyers showing guidance.
I have this teammate in my sports team who thinks they are better than me even though I've beaten them almost every single we've played each other. When I beat him he throws temper tantrums and doesn't even shake my hand after the match is over. Once time I beat him and he smashed his racket and I told him to calm down and he then replied "shut up you always think your better than everyone else" I knew he saying out of defense because I usually am very self conscious and very shy around how interact with people. This is an ongoing problem. What should I do?
Take the absolute piss out of him. He doesn’t respect you as an opponent. He is hyper competitive (Google hyper competitive people). Know that he is psychologically abnormal. You are the normal person. He is the one with chronic low self esteem who only feels good when he feels superior to others (that includes you). Use sarcasm, teasing, mockery. He will think twice about attacking you if he is afraid of you. Make him fear you causing him narcissistic wounds (ridicule). Get bitchy basically. 😅
RUclips need to ban some of these podcast 🤦🏾♀️ i stopped listening after he said put your ego in check to deal with a big ego… lol what in the military advice is this does he have a degree in this field?
being able to take control over your own ego is a real strength.
Not when the other person's ego wants to cross your boundaries in the case of a relationship.
yes. this.
One thing to understand about our species, is that no single answer covers every situation.
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Sounds like a scam to play along with the entitled "American" dudes who have the privilege of socialism because they lack melanin.
When people click on this video, they're probably expecting to be validated that it's the "other" person's problem, but thank you for bringing self awareness, mindfulness and the real truth to the table.
What do you do when you subordinate your ego, things go wrong, the egomaniac does not learn from their mistakes, and it keeps happening over and over for months or years?
Exactly. This doesn't solve anything.
Agreed. These guys seem unaware
You leave. You can bother explaining your self, better to just leave though without a word.
@@airmanfair but people can't leave if it's their employer... Or child...
People tend to underestimate someone who is passive...what happens if it backfires? would they be ready when a passive person looses their edge?
Isn't that just being passive instead of assertive? I don't see how being assertive in a situation would mean you have a large ego. My dad's ego says that I don't know anything about subjects I'm an expert on and that he is all knowing about subjects he knows nothing about. So I should be passive and nod and agree even when he's wrong?
No you shouldn't. These jokers are absolutely idiots!
US Marine
No, this video is bullshit. They're telling you to submit and comply with problematic and narcissistic people who need to be put in check. Do not listen to this video's advice. Be assertive when faced with an egomaniac or they will trample and use you
Is he really wrong, or has the communist indoctrination spoiled your view? Take the right pill and your eyes will open wide.
I was thinking the same thing. How does being submissive stop me from being annoyed
What do you gain from being right in an argument? If you're truly an expert in some areas then you should have the confidence to not care what others opinions are on said topics. It has nothing to do with being submissive. Also, be open to the idea that you could be wrong on certain topics. There's always multiple perspectives to look at things through.
Ok, ok… what if you’re dealing with a know it all who thinks they know what needs doing but you can see what they are doing isn’t what needs doing… do you step in and say how about we try it this way? or do we tell them to get out of the bloody way and get it done!
LOL. I am the facility lead mechanic for our repair shop. I answer to many people up thru the chain of command but most specifically Dayshift Maint Leader (head boss) & Nightshift Frontline Leader. I would look at what I consider the most important aspect of what you are saying. Will someone get hurt going down that slippery slope? I also would look at there being more than one way to the same outcome. Who assigned 'Bob' to the job. If either of my bosses assigned that job to 'Bob' I would let 'Bob' know if he needs some info or help just give me a shout. I am lead by time in the company job title and amount of time being a diesel mechanic. Yea I am old. Humble yourself. I have mechanics from all the shifts ask me questions. If they have a problem, they come see me. If they have an issue with their job assigned to them, let's go to the boss and talk about it. Listening to the words spoken above and written below the short above here WORK. Humble yourself (not just me) also the fellow Mech. Check the EGO!! you accomplish NOTHING if the ears are not open, and mouth shut. We are all looking for the final goal. WORK ACCOMPLISHED!
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Submitting yourself to a big ego does not resolve that big ego. Yes two big egos clash but submitting one to another doesn’t resolve the problem
The most exhausting part of work is everyone’s egos. Everyone thinks they’ve got something special to say or contribute.
This is truly the worst way to deal with this problem.
If an idiot with an ego tells you something completely ridiculous you should subjugate yourself to it?
Rejected
Nice try...ok I really mean weak as shit try.
Absolutely true. Don't let idiots run around thinking they're right. Egomaniacs need to be put in check, not given ego boosts
Exactly.
@@Mr.Virus__ Can you tell us how you can shut them without losing your class ?
@@manojmurali7462Ask them to “prove it” to whatever they are saying. Then disengage anytime they show an ego. No response, or a simple huh. Counter the ego with the opposite emotion
i understand where you guys are coming from, and that can work in the workplace
but if this is a close person who you see daily (person B) and their ego stops them from apologising when they are clearly wrong or they never take your advice and get angry when you try help them, even if person A has their ego in check, they still are frustrated because of how often they have to deal with person B's behaviour and they want to just use words that will help them break down the barrier of ego and the stubbornness that comes with it
Exactly. Could work with a colleague, but not in deeper relationships.
Disagree…. I had an oppressive boss that was egotistical, arrogant, condescending…… and In respect to the company owner, I held my lip and was subordinate…… I agree that 2 egos bumping heads is only going to escalate things…..HOWEVER taking abuse from a weak, small man that thrives on bullying others is unacceptable.
Oh, BTW, everyone on the shop floor felt the same, and I recently found out that this supervisor got in an argument with someone at the workplace (I no longer work there) and stormed off the job and never came back.
Lol tell me about it these knuckleheads are clowns and definitely don’t walk the walk
My stepdad always tells me bad he has a big ego.Im 16 years old .He always tells me how his better, more good looking,has more money,smarter and has more muscles then me.He tells me this even though his clearly better then me. He always brings me down.I just wish he could stop.I just wanna be loved.
Don't listen to this bullshit advice, man. They say to "Subordinate" your ego and keep yourself in check, but when people behave how you're describing your stepdad, they are the ones that need to be put in check. If everyone followed this video's advice the world would just be trampled by a bunch of narcissists because people should "subordinate" themselves. Don't be a pushover to narcissists
Jaydin.... thats a him problem.
He likely had issues growing up as we all do.
It doesn't mean he doesn't love you it merely means he hasn't resolved his own issues.
I would bet he has been the best dad he could but he is as imperfect as you. Work with him. Express your concerns.
I have a step daughter who calls me dad. I'm broken myself, but I try....her impute is valuable.
So is yours.
Love you Jaydin
49yr old USMC 4 daughter's
Love u too we will work thing out
@@jaydinsjbls1163 Dads and daughters always have issues. I and my 4 daughters all have contentious issues.
Some we work out some we set aside for later as neither are ready to work them on yet.
This the reality of life.
This IS life. With all people.
It's our ability to recognize these truths that prepare us for success and acceptance that some things just are what they are for now.... I pray this helps
Sorry you're going through that kid. Don't let it get to you. Easier said than done. This comment hurt my heart
If you give in and agree to the plan of the guy with the big ego and his plan isn’t good you just agreed to a bad plan. Bad advice!
Sounds like advices that someone with a high ego wpuld give no to get his ego challanged
This is really bad advice for a life long people pleaser like me and has cost me literally millions of dollars. Now you guys take your own advice and submit to my post!!!
I lovvvve this! Also limiting your time w them is helpful and having a witness if at all possible when u are at work. If they are creating negative alliance, create positive ones to listen out.
Okay but that's just solving your own ego that doesn't solve their ego you can fall in line but how does that fix them... wouldn't that just give them a bigger ego? Another thing is how are you supposed to talk about it later if you had trouble bringing it up in the first place if that person doesn't want to hear you? I'm not arguing about it. But I do have to ask the question how does that fix the other person? ( Like for example if somebody's attacking you and you go to somebody and ask them how to keep them from attacking you. Are you going to tell them to just take it and and if you're not dead at the end of it are you going to just tell them to get up and walk away and pretend like it never happened.) Because that doesn't fix the problem that just teaches you how to be a ( and sorry if this sounds a little profound and extra) good Little bitch? So yes it does teach you how to fall in line and maybe control your own ego but that does not fix the problem itself a bully is going to keep bullying you until you fight back either that or you'll die simply because you never fought back. But at that point people only seem to care once that person is dead but at that point it doesn't really matter because you're already dead because you couldn't do anything to stop it because everybody was telling you not to do anything about it...
You're completely right. This video's "advice" is basically telling people to submit to manipulators and egomaniacs. Do NOT do this. If you give them compliance instead of assertion they will just get an ego boost and trample you even more
@@Mr.Virus__ honestly couldn't have said it any better myself
@@Mr.Virus__ facts. I like Jocko. But think about what a guy like McGregor would do if someone tried to dominate them. It wouldn’t be fun for that person. Sometimes you need some McGregor in you.
The point is that you can’t change someone like this. Nor is it your place, that’s the other side of the big ego coin.
If you’re in a position where you can’t form a tolerable working relationship with bosses and colleagues, you should probably work on extracting yourself from that situation.
I have natural executive ability, but people management and communication have become my top learning priority.
When I was 12 years old, I randomly said to myself, “More important than control, is Self-Control”. Wild stuff!
Either take turns being an asshole or one of you just spend your life docile and dominated. Forever.
It's sounds on the surface like good advice for certain situations but it also sounds like a possible way to get fired. How do you handle situations if you're certain that the other way is the wrong way? The best way I know is to talk about the things and the differences, detach the people from the situation. Great video though thank you
“Subordinate your ego” ❤
Working with men's egos is so frustrating. Working on a deck or any job solving problems is almost impossible when there is a big ego. It's their way or the highway. A problem can have more than one solution, and having an open mind to choose the best solution is key. Throw your egos in the garbage.. It's's only pride in believing you're the ALL knowing one around. NO one knows everything, and never will.
I usually just say we will do it your way. And when they fail I don't say anything just now we will do this.
I don't crush peoples egos they do it to themselves. It is like a cycle it is weird it gets inflated then it pops
I totally disagree with this. Circumstances hold value in the test.
I really don't get where they're coming from because what does my ego has to do with somebody else's ego if someone has a large ego and it affects people around them and it's very toxic how does me putting my ego in check has to do with that situation nope I totally disagree try again
Okay. The title does not match the content. I think that is the main disconnect. This is not "working with" someone with a big ego. This is setting aside our own self, for the sake of someone else. Which we can do, and is justified, but not always. We have issues with boundaries in our culture. At some point, this video should have said, "and as soon as youre away from this over-domineering person, you make arrangements so that you never have to deal with this person again. Someone who does not accept other's 'no' is dangerous, toxic for work culture and family culture."
Until enough people refuse to "submit to" (because this isnt working with, if we cannot even represent our interests) the big ego, the person will never face the consequences of having it. They will never recognize the problem until enough people directly refuse to be bulldozed.
We do not promote bullies.
I will add- many of us bulldoze our own boundaries for the sake of peace and not rocking the boat. This is enabling to bullies who take advantage of social norms. We must enforce the interpersonal consequences or they do not learn.
When a person isn't interested in including us or ever allowing us to represent ourselves and our needs, we might as well walk away, because they aren't interacting with us. They're using us.
I dropped my ego and left it behind it was the best thing for me because I know I am not the best. So u learn to drop ur ego.
With all due respect, I will disagree with you on this. Guys do this if you truly 100% hate yourselves. Otherwise, this is crap advice.
I need to subordinate my ego!! 😬
I've been doing this with the ego maniac in my life. Consistenly. He keeps taking charge then because I've capitulated.
Its simple enough but I struggled to understand. This video made it clear. I hope the lesson sticks 😂
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so if someone has a big ego just do whatever they say?
So basically, if someone has a massive uncontrollable ego, you should just let them run amok and act however they want and be a fool. Got it.
Exactly. If you don’t have the power to discipline them, then it’s not your place to change their behavior.
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When your ego was too big, you’ll find more and more people starting to just leave your life and that is your clue.
what if the person you are dealing with or submitting to consistently acts inappropriately or inconsiderately of others?
What if Dave been working there for 5 years, doesn't know what he's doing and sucks at doing the job?
wow thank you for this video
But he always always shows ego and it’s me listening and obeying him all the time. I don’t want to be under his control. So what to do then?
Not sure if I agree with you. You left out that people have different Values. If impact and doing what is right is an important Value to me then how can I follow up with my boss idea of it contradicts my Value?
But what happened when you subordinate your ego but that person tries to minimize you?
but what if you're right and they're wrong
The title is misleading, they are only speaking on the context of working with someone
Jocko legend!
I just found out I have an ego too. I used to think I don't 😂
So if we subordinate our ego how to we stop ourselves being walked over and treated like a mug. It’s harder for women dealing with a colleague with a big ego trying to over power you. Would love some tips !!! Not my boss but a colleague that thinks he’s the boss of me
Good info. But you don't know the eagles I'm working with. They're headed to a hellish existence and they will not listen to any advice from anyone. I don't want to force it, but I feel like they're running out of time to learn it themselves.
I just offended them with logics 😂😂😂
Oh fuck no.
I have a subordinate who takes every contradiction from his instruction (read: I countermanded it either on purpose or accidentally) and now his reputation is at stake and he looks bad and it’s embarrassing for him.
He’s got a territory he covers, but he’s got three people above him that also have ownership of that territory, including me.
He employs the expression “I’m happy to help” but the caveat is that we have to meet his strident requirements and if we don’t meet them he throws a temper tantrum with shouting and once he even broke his toe flinging a heavy object around, he was just so gosh darned happy to help. He’ll volunteer himself when he sees others failing to do their jobs (in his eyes) and then gets mad about it. I’m the bigger person and apologize if I make a mistake or forget something, and that is used to show that I’m wrong and he’s flawless: it was my fault he did what he did. He regularly made another female employee cry (she had no nerve for conflict even though she was a totally dismissive bitch). He gets frustrated with the mess that is our storage shed, and instead of helping clean and organize, he just shoved things out of the way and essentially hides them in illogical places, rather than coordinating on putting things in a permanent appropriate place. His job is too important to spend cleaning, but it’s okay for him to make your job harder trying to find tools. He actually took tools that were in their proper place and stored them in the attic “until we can clean the shed”.
It’s gotta be his way or we’re being difficult and we’re not listening to him and we’re disrespectful and he calls me passive aggressive in a passive aggressive manner. It’s constant interventions and our mutual Director is a terrible manager and if I don’t have his support my voice means nothing. My director will actually bitch about this dudes behavior immediately after being his cheerleader in direct opposition to me
I hate being the one able to take the abuse and double standards without going postal. But this guy can’t get reprimanded because his ego can’t take it.
Why isn’t he fired? Nonprofit, desperate, and the other 350 days of the year he’s the biggest sweetheart and teddy bear and an amazing worker and we’d be fuuuuudged without him. It’s just finding ways to manage these occasional explosions and temper tantrums that’s a challenge. We’re still trying to armchair psychoanalyze him.
Find someone who looks at you the way Jocko looks at Leif
So sit back and feed there ego , got it
My ego hates my ego
Great video btw.
If the plan makes sense i'll agree to what someone is doing but im not agreeing just so we dont clash etc
Thank you so much 😊
I implement all these principles into both my professional and personal life! And ya know what, it works!
Extreme ownership. 👊
Lie...do you work for them?
@@joewieczorek3523I'm not that lucky
How do you deal with one without one and is humble we know how to deal with a giant one ?
I'm in the road of peace and kindness and try to grow everyday but one of my best friend has so much ego i can't tell him so many things because he won't accept it and put his ego aside, he'll get upset. He also corrects me on alot of things i say like he knows everything, if i tell him something ik he'll be like hey ik know that already kinda of luke he's upset that im telling him something he doesn't know
What if Dave’s plan is dangerous and ill-advised, why go along with a bad plan? What if Dave is trying his best to ruin you? No offence, but this is terrible advice.
What if Dave's plan is s*** though? Like obvious s*** that you don't have to have a big ego to stand up and say that's a bad plan..... Because if you're doing somebody with a Giant ego and they have a horrible plan, they're laying out for everybody to do, but they're too stubborn for anybody to knock sense into them. What do you do? I know the first thing most people do is they end up growing their ego and clashing. But I mean if we're marching to our doom because this guy's leading us with his giant ego into doom. What do we do? And in case you don't get this, this is probably one of the most important questions of our world today as we have way too many leaders with giant egos that we must learn how to handle correctly. And we all must learn to put our egos aside. And your advice is good, but could you get a bit more in depth on more specific situations?
For example, I'm dealing with an abuse of a narcissist in my family. I have absolutely found that I have also been an abusive narcissist back. So I started buttering myself and well this person is doing the same thing. So that's working but most wouldn't have stuck with this. They would have just distanced themselves from this person 100%. But this is my mother with an aneurysm and nobody else to look for her. So that wasn't going to be an option. But she has a giant ego. But because I'm around her enough I keep letting her see me. Put my ego in check and call my ego out.. and she started doing it to herself. Just truly a beautiful thing. But it's not really the norm. Most situations I see end up being 100% distance between and families breaking up sometimes to never come back together. All because of narcissism and inflated egos.
But yeah what if Dave's s*** plan is s*** and just wrong? How do you handle his ego to get him out of his plan? Let's just assume it's something that you absolutely can't do, but he is going to push forward no matter what. You know. Like set off a nuclear bomb on another country...... Funny how this all keeps going right back to our leaders...
The ego check is being able to realize it’s not your place to change them; let them face natural consequences of their poor decisions.
But when i put my ego down she start insult me because i should not clash ego with her in the first place
She mock me so much...
But why do I always have to bow down to people like this & then when I do it everyone gets mad & then im the problem?
Like no I’m standing up for myself but it’s almost as if I’m not allowed too.
But boss & peers can say whatever they want but I can’t.
To me it a bunch of bullshit.
Then people say
“oh that’s just John or etc.”
& that’s perfectly okay ?
Yeah I don’t think so.
Idk people can’t be reasonable anymore & refuse to see the other side.
Which is why I just cut people off I don’t have patience anymore for small minded people.
& I’m not a naturally cold person but the people I’m around everyday give me no choice but to be,
& So be it.
Womp womp!
Sounds like a YOU problem.
Stop catering to those who don't respect you.
If it isn't your job to be their Jester the don't play along with their games ?
Are you dumb?
If the answer is no, why do you choose to act dumb to yourself by questioning your own decisions in life? You are your own teacher. You control your life. Change is different and it's terrifying but a bird doesn't know how to fly unless it wants to spread its wings and sadly no wings are being spread due to the lack of flyers showing guidance.
How to deal with someone with a giant ego: Don’t deal with them at all. You’re welcome.
Q: How do you deal with someone with a giant ego?
A: You dont have to deal with them in the first place.
Pov: you interact with mature students in college
Its not easy or simple.
Where is my comment I posted earlier?
I have this teammate in my sports team who thinks they are better than me even though I've beaten them almost every single we've played each other. When I beat him he throws temper tantrums and doesn't even shake my hand after the match is over. Once time I beat him and he smashed his racket and I told him to calm down and he then replied "shut up you always think your better than everyone else" I knew he saying out of defense because I usually am very self conscious and very shy around how interact with people. This is an ongoing problem. What should I do?
Ignore him. Let him have his temper tantrum.
Take the absolute piss out of him. He doesn’t respect you as an opponent. He is hyper competitive (Google hyper competitive people). Know that he is psychologically abnormal. You are the normal person. He is the one with chronic low self esteem who only feels good when he feels superior to others (that includes you). Use sarcasm, teasing, mockery. He will think twice about attacking you if he is afraid of you. Make him fear you causing him narcissistic wounds (ridicule). Get bitchy basically. 😅
What about that time Jonny Kim try to save Ryan job life? just let that stupid army medic kill your teammate?
ruclips.net/video/yujP3-AxXsI/видео.html 2:09:00
Wrong. These men have never been a woman dealing with a tiny man suffering from littlemanitis.
Hegelian Dialectic.. look it up! You will be changed.
RUclips need to ban some of these podcast 🤦🏾♀️ i stopped listening after he said put your ego in check to deal with a big ego… lol what in the military advice is this does he have a degree in this field?
You guys are nothing but ego???? Do you know how to turn it off and just be humble and delicate as you truly are? Little vulnerable children of GOD.
So basically be a beta???
Ahh
Garbage. Set personal boundaries and compromise based on a 3rd person's opinion.
Y’all still have egos y’all showing it here get Professional help god bless
I think I smell pork.
Arrogance and pride
Absolute bs. You can have a healthy ego that is in check and you still have to constantly hear their giant ego bs. This is terrible advice.
That’s bull crap
This is a terrible video didn’t help with shit you guys ain’t deal with real egos then 😭 it’s not the answer we looking for brothers
wasted three minutes of my life
Very bad advice
A four year old could’ve answered the way you did.
If any of you out there sound anything like this dude, then am sorry to tell you…… you sir have a giant ego 😂