Think on this: How many possessions do you have that belonged to your grandfather? My grandfather spent a life collecting "stuff." He died in 1987. The only thing I now have of his is a brass knuckleduster! The fact is that material possessions are rather like socks. As we know, there is a "Bermuda Triangle" for socks. They just disappear, or one half of them does. Or they become beyond repair. Whatever way you look at it, they just disolve into the ether. Perhaps they end up in the same place as pencils and umbrellas? To illustrate my point about the hole down which possessions fall. Of 22,000 Supermarine Spitfires built, only 179 survive and many of these are wrecks. Sic transit gloria mundi. And thus it is with all material possessions. They should all be viewed as a transitory ornament and treated as such.
Big fan from the U.S. Thank you for what you provide to the world Ash. These videos are invaluable to many generations of men who want to be intentionally well dressed, composed and ready to take on life with their best foot forward. Cheers!
An audit is always a good idea Ash. This is driven home if you ever have the misfortune of doing a house clearance for a relative who has died. You find all the unworn items, or that watch that was only taken out of the box once. Those cuff-links that had clearly never been worn and the assorted brick-a-brack that can only be bound for the skip, even in the best regulated household. What if I died tomorrow? Which poor soul would be clearing and dividing my things? I look at this this way. You never know in this life when you might have to 'sofa surf.' It can happen to the best of us. If that happened, what could you carry in one ruck sack? That certainly concentrates the mind in the auditing process.
I totally agree. I decided a couple of years ago in order not to become a hoarder, if I purchased something I would have to get rid of something. It’s life changing! So far this year I’ve sold on eBay to the total of over £7000! Anything I haven’t worn in least 2 years I’ve sold. Buy a new watch, sell a watch I’ve lost interest in. I’ve slimmed down my wallet collection to 5 from 12. I’ve replaced several pairs of shoes with Crocket and Jones. I’ve done all this without touching my salary, which has pleased my wife. It’s truly liberating. You can have too much stuff.
As someone who is turning 23 today, your example resonated with me a lot haha. As per your example, I have a 7/8 year old car, and whilst I have considered changing it, I realise it is unnecessary lifestyle inflation!
Thank you for this thoughtful video. It was an indictment on me and my actions. I appreciate your comment about a gentleman not taking too much. As a husband and father of 5 I need to be taking whatever is left. Sometimes I feel choked by all my stuff and need to sell it on eBay so can breath again. Working my way to a simple life. Some of the most happy people I know have just what they need. A good reminder about the Christ Child being born in a manager surrounded by beasts. Peace Chap.
Sound advice, Ash. In life I think everything reduces to three factors to determine happiness: health; money; and time. Think of a circle divided into these three segments. When young, we have time and health but maybe little money. When older we have more money but maybe less time and our health may become compromised etc. The challenge is keeping things in equilibrium and it may never be perfectly achieved. In terms of clothing, if I haven’t worn it for 12 months, it goes to charity. Less is more.
Good sound advice. At one time my modest house was becoming full of unnecessary items and clothes I rarely if at all used. Following an audit I set myself some questions regarding the stuff I own: Do you need it? Can you afford it? Is it well made? Will it last and is it sustainable (quality build and timeless style)? Do you have space for it? Will it bring you joy? My wardrobes and drawers contents are certainly neater these days and the local charity shops now have a selection of 1980's Tie Rack neckties!
Doing an audit of our sartorial wardrobe is the "Gold Standard" that will definitely keep us from having too much stuff as always thanks for the video!
Excellent advise. My weight changes all the time that a reason I have so many dress shirts and slacks which many are chinos. With different dilots in color. I’ve always been a traditionalist since college. I feel my style is timeless. Even my white buck shoes.😂
My weight also fluctuates, partly because of medication and partly because of gluttony on my part. Is the first rule for a chap that this shouldn’t happen and that a chap should be no heavier than average?
Along the lines of your recommendation to get rid of what you haven't worn in 2 years, I try to practice Marie Kondo's advice of getting rid of things that don't spark joy. Periodically, I'll look at shoes or clothes and if they don't spark joy, I donate them. Usually they're not worth my time selling them.
The advice about not buying duplicates of things you have is interesting. I tend to do this. If I like something, for some reason, I want a spare, as if I will like it twice as much. It makes little sense in most cases and thank you for the good advice.
Stuffocation is something too many of us can suffer from, without us realising. Your advice and commentary, on the subject, is excellent. We must all be more mindful of the issue.
Great message and a timely one! I think that focussing on quality and longevity is a great way to have greater style and lower impact overall. As a student of environmental science, I often think about the impact of my lifestyle choices. I am drawn towards the philosophy of ‘true materialism’ coined by Wendell Berry, who suggested that we should seek to be MORE materialistic, by being more engaged and educated about the things we buy, care for them well and love them forever! Keep this up!
Brilliant insights here, Ash. I often tell people that they should be investing in personal relationships and meaningful experiences rather than drowning themselves in superfluous consumer goods. -One thing you'll never find is a luggage rack on a hearse. "He was fully sensible to the advantages of the Installment Plan/And had everything necessary to the Modern Man/ A phonograph, a radio, a car, and a frigidaire." -The Unknown Citizen, W.H. Auden
The big problem with the question is it fundamentally misunderstand 'Chap Nirvana' although what you wear is a big part of it, it does remain just that, only part of it. Your internal self is arguably just as, if not moreso, important as how you present your external self. Yes, you can own all the suits, hats, or whatever you'll ever need, but learning and mental improvement is something that should always continued to be worked on.
I couldn't agree more. I much prefer buying a decent piece of clothing paying a bit more than a piece of clothing that's cheap, and looks cheap. I am 63 yrs old from a poor background and no very well the value of money. I like the idea of one in/one out.
Thanks for sharing this information with us. I needed to see this one. I appreciate your time and content. I'm in the middle of minimizing my life. I live in the USA and am a long haul driver. Thanks again
I've heard health referred to more frequently as the only real wealth, so I would conclude that wealth, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. It's also a very common experience to have been disappointed by humans in general. Speaking from my own experience, I would also disagree with your quote on that basis. With a few notable exceptions in my family and friendship circle, I find time spent with pets much more beneficial to my emotional and mental health and sense of well-being than most people in my family of origin or those I have mistakenly regarded in the past as 'good friends'.
As always, a great video!!! But I am wondering, but did you misunderstand his letter and his thoughts? For me, his letter has a much deeper sense, than your summary of "Do I have enough stuff?". I read something completely different, between his lines. The stuff (he talked about) were examples to underpin his mindset and knowledge, in my opinion. What I understood: He (or: his mindset!) reached a status, he is happy with! He told, that he is satisfied with his style-situation (as he said); so he is happy with his type of "style" he developed, not with his "amount of items in his wardrobe". He found his own style, he is happy with; nor can't he improve his style anymore (I quote his words). On the contrary: He says: IF he continues, it may become a materialistic thing. Means: He had (nearly) no materialistic approach till today! He (I quote again his lines): Dresses smartly, treats others respectfully, etc. - in his own perception, he reached his chap-nirvana; because he is comfortable with his mindset and his life - without any materialistic approach! He is knowledgeable (!!) about watches, pens, dining, wine, etc. - he is not happy because of his "two watches". As well as: Your own definition of a "chap nirvana" has nothing to do with a materialistic approach - it is more a mindset, etc. A better much summary / and interesting question would be: Is there is risk of standstill, if I reach my "chap nirvana" with my mindset? Is it necessary to continue the process of self-development? How could I continue to develop my habits, knowledge, style, etc. without the risk to become materialistic? etc .... Nevertheless, a great video about "too much stuff"!
5 pairs of dress shoes are truly sufficient. Learn combining items to create new looks like for 1 sport coat different shirts and trousers, avoid unessassary accessories like tie pins etc. I really think sprezzatura is a good mindset where less is more, where one searches to remove an item yet still look effortlessly stylish. Trying to reduce buy avoiding buying an item if it wears out unless it is absolutely needed. Also using up fragrances or donating them instead of collecting and using once in a blue moon. If you have a car small and old but brings you from A to B is enough, let the big cars for the rich braggers. I know companies dread to hear that mindset but one should live for himself not for them. And for myself what I absolutely make sure is my wife's wardrobe is always much bigger never the opposite.
Definitely got some nice ralph lauren and lacoste polo shirts had them years still in good condition they actually look good still fantastic quality. 🎉
Hey Ash. I discovered your channel just recently from the angle of watches. But I must say I've enjoyed your recent content on finances and over- buying. You have a great way of explaining things and making dead-on recommendations. I look forward to further topics like this. PS As I've got older I have got off the excess consumerism bandwagon and have a philosophy of 'being happy with my lot in life'. I too tend to use a periodic audit to check things that I need. It works. Cheers from Canada..
Hi Ash, great video. I've been wanting to keep an inventory for a while, but I can't find a suitable system. I have a mental wardrobe list, but lately, my purchases, especially for shoes and watches, have been getting out of hand. When organizing, I often see things I don't use. While most of my purchases are on sale or second-hand, I make the mistake of buying for the future or as a backup.
With clothing, it might be better to have less. Our shape changes. Where we go and no longer go changes. Styles change. Our style evolves and changes. Our color preferences change. Our location may also change. Tell us how many shoes you have Ash.
Thanks again Ash! The journal-audit is absolutely something I’m going to focus on practicing. This video came right on the heels of not buying a pair of service boots as I already have a solid pair- the temptation was almost overwhelming though! But it leaves financial room to plug actual gaps in my wardrobe.
If you’re wondering how much you need in life keep this in mind. Diogenes and Ben Franklin will be highly regarded long after Trump and Andrew Tate are forgotten. Who would you rather emulate?
Very solid advice Ash; one in, one out. Clothing is like furniture, you buy good and buy once, and keep with the classic you can pair to extend the wardrobe.
spot on with phones, the upgrades are things you will barely notice, will hardly use, and quickly forget about! i'm trying to consistently audit my wardrobe; i've been working out and so am moving on the clothes that do not fit me. As an aside, i also am learning more about fit and understanding that the clothes i own never really fit me very well in the first place! Also as my style journey is taking me in a more casual direction at present i am picking up bomber jackets, harringtons, quilted jackets, polo shirts etc. i'm the sort of person to buy something and keep it for a long time and to try to take care of my clothes, expensive or not (normally NOT!).
I avoided that step by following advice here and elsewhere to donate/toss everything that no longer works and make fit the stuff that does. Now at 50% of prior stuff level. Lots of tailoring bills, but few new items, mostly shoes and some hats. Steered clear of cars and watches. Staying classic vs. trendy means few people see cardigans, corduroys, used chukka boots, gray suits, fedora hat, or a used peacoat as materialistic. They simply think you are old.
In regard to people being richer than ever, globally, from 2001 until forever, the middle class is two percent of the population, while the poor and the rich are each 49% of the population. Science fiction movies such as Robocop and The Terminator predicted that this would happen. The writers of these movies were spot on. From 2000 and prior, globally, the middle class was always 80% of the population, while the poor were always 19% and the rich were always one percent.
Great video once again, I think I’m in desperate need of selling a lot of clothes I haven’t worn in over a year. Life just keeps getting in the way at the moment of me actually listing everything for sale!
I can relate to this. I had an obsession with buying fountain pens and had to start reducing this. Alot of people purchase then leads to hoarding as they get a buzz from buying stuff. Your advice is spot on to invest and not keep up the Jones.
i think chap Nirvana is a journey and not a destination. It's not really about possessions, indeed it campaigns against the buy it, wear it and throw it away culture.
But if you buy a quality item with a view that it will last long time don't then, a couple of years later, buy another one. I see people who are shoe connoisseurs have dozens of pairs of quality handmade shoes each pair made to last a lifetime and beyond. What's the point? We've got a maximum of one pair of feet each.
I'm sort of pushed this way by circumstance. I simply don't have space to accumulate, which is good. I have a shirt for every day, a black shirt and a few for occasions such as wearing with my kilt in black tie.a suit a day for the workweek and a couple of coats. And the general few chinos and couple of jeans. Now I'm a one in one out as I'm probably over capacity 😂 I really should do an audit though 🤔
Totally agree with everything you said Ash. Only thing I do when clearing out the wardrobe is to give the unwanted to charities. Mostly military and cancer, for which I have connections to both.Thank you and God bless🙏
We live at a time when people in the west have more things / money than our grand parents. But, they dressed very well and at our time people dress badly in camparison to people in the past…. Less is more.
Hello Ash, A very timely video for me. Earlier this evening, I searched "How to be satisfied with one watch" on yt, without many helpful results. I currently own over 2 dozen watches, many of them luxury pieces, and I've started to realize, what on one hand seems like a horological collection that displays my knowledge, taste, and acumen for fine timepieces, on the other hand is starting to feel excessive and almost distasteful. I think I'm going to sell off one of my prized Omega watches, because I don't need it, I have 4 other Omega, and way too much capitol wrapped up in my hobby. I also have too many guitars and tobacco pipes, I plan on doing similar exercises with those collections. I hope to trim my possessions and materialism down a bit without a knee jerk reaction (like the Dave Ramsey approach, sell it all if you're in debt) that would invalidate the time and care I've put into curating these things. Thanks for being there to help me work through some of these less popular thoughts. Eppe
As a passionate collector, by default, you have too much. How many watches do you need? especially if these watches are conceived to last a lifetime? That’s when you need to consider trading-in rather than buying. On more mundane things (consumables), it really doesn’t make any sense to purchase too much.
Good morning Ash, Chaps Stuff... Not all Chap stuff, but I have an active and varied lifestyle. Work stuff, Green stuff, Outdoors, Smart stuff, scruffs stuff, Workshop stuff (tools etc) car stuff (2 Cars and a motorbike), Running stuff, Camping stuff, more green stuff. Too much stuff, too little space (my one wardrobe is a bit full). I have 2 sheds of stuff (not clothing obviously) and my wife a shed of her own (hobby stuff)... I could "off load" some but it is all vital for one purpose or another (especially the green stuff). I have twin teenage daughters with all their stuff. I am trying currently to proffer ideas of minimal size when asked about what I want for Christmas. We all have and need stuff. Definitely, in this day and age, being in debt (some hugely) has been normalised. I don't play "keeping up with the Joneses" my stuff is quality rather than fashion. There is stuff I want, but I know I don't need it. I don't stress over this at all. Having too little time to enjoy things is my problem. I am lucky, I guess, I have workwear provided that means I only need my own clothes for evenings and weekends (though sometimes that's green stuff I don't buy) I rarely buy clothing now as I have as much as I need, though I am in the market for a white Dinner jacket and a Navy DB blazer (no rush though). As per usual, all sage advice. Until next time *salutes
From my 20's to mid 30's I was quite happy being reasonably minimalist I had the one suit, the one dress watch, an every day watch (usually a G-Shock that I would replace after 5 - 6 years as it got grubby, damaged etc), a few pairs of dress shoes (Black and Brown), obviously Jeans, T-Shirts, trainers had a shorter life span as they got worn frequently and usually replaced after a year as jeans would start to rip in places and T-Shirts start to stretch and warp, especially on the neck area, I had the same pool of Jackets for about 15 years (Padded Winter, Cotton Safari style, windbreaker etc). But 8 years ago after deciding to smarten up my appearance, started of small like ditched the Trainers for Casual Boots, A nice Watch, Shirts/Polo for T-Shirts and if going out to meet friends or family, the effort was made with the inclusion of Brown Brogues, tucked in Shirts, Sports Jacket etc, since then I have gone a bit mad and over the top, frequently buying new items and now I really do have too much 'stuff', the biggest offenders, watches, Shoes and Sports jackets. I have got to a stage where enough is enough and its time to get rid of what I don't wear and only replace like for like from now on.
Try contemplating your navel and uttering Ohm in a loud voice. Chap nirvana is just around the corner. A wonderful illusion all gentleman should experience.👍🧐😎🧘☯️👑🎩 Cheers 🥂
There is nothing inside a Rolex that isn’t inside a $1000 dollar Swiss mechanical watch. Please explain to everyone exactly why a submariner is worth 15K and why when you walk into a dealer you can’t buy one. I’ll wait.
Excellent. Special thanks going out to Frank's write-in and for your insights on the topic. Fantastic presentation in a format that is instantly useable and memorable. This info was extremely helpful and timely for me personally as a chap-in-training. After years of kit/life upgrades I reached my fulfillment 'critical mass' earlier this year, but continued on with acquisitions using many of the pitfall thoughts and phrases you mentioned....perhaps from social conditioning but more so I think out of sheer habit. I think now I'll be able to mentally reference this vid as I dial-back acquisitions and pursue a more fulfilling refinement/maintenance mode. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and methods. Well done sir.
Yes, I have too much stuff - most of us do. I’m trying to get better - not buying stuff I don’t need, wearing and using stuff until it wears out, and repairing rather than replacing. I’m getting better at not purchasing things for the sake of it, and when I do buy stuff now, I buy for longevity and repairability. I’m pretty happy with what I now possess. If anything it’s the newer stuff (electronics mainly) which never seem to quite work that disappoint……..
This is good, sensible advice. One of the things that lead me to splashing cash is an enthusiast's approach to menswear, whereby I desire this or that feature: 'Oh, I don't have a lightweight, peak lapel jacket', I have a winter one, but not a Summer one' for example.
Great video Ash! Love the topic just like your previous on financial and investment considerations. As I actually do, I have no issues having forty silk ties, eight pairs of trousers, eight sportcoats, blazers, three pairs of leather shoes, a jacket, coat, felt hat, flat cap, four leather bags, twenty wristwatches, eight rings and thirty-five physical books. All of these have cost me total of 2,200 Euro, because I buy pre-owned. All are serving me well. All of these things were already produced and are ready to keep me going and feeling well. The thing about classic menswear and lifestyle is to save a lot of time and money through cost per wear and reduciton in needed time to make decisions.
Fantastic video. I’ve finally reached the point in my life where I do not need any validation of my success. I’m perfectly happy with myself, I have some nice things, but I have the ultimate satisfaction of ENOUGH. I’m tickled and happy when my friends buy a new car or move into a bigger house. I enjoy it with them…and it’s free for me and it’s true freedom.
I’ve followed the 1-in, 1-out policy for a few years now, and it has worked wonderfully. I have also convinced my wife to do the same. That’s a very good way to not accumulate stuff you don’t need
I have a lot of stuff. But I feel o.k. with it because I pretty much use everything that I have but I'm trying not to add any more. Unfortunately, I feel like I want to buy the Doc Martin Season 10 dvd set, lol.
Funny that this video comes out on the day I received the first of two pairs of boots I purchased within the same weekend. I pre-ordered my made-to-order boots on Saturday and pounced on a second pair when I saw a sample sale from another. Both were locally made by our local artisans. They're both of good quality leather and good year welted and now I feel the need to ask myself: Have I gone too far on these purchases?
My aunt who work in health and I talked, she said I might have OCD which can lead to overspending. So I now sent a budget for myself on my day off if I ever go shopping or something, try not to go over the limit & do a mental audit on what I already have & would like to add. I mostly now shop online because it’s more convenient but still sometime go to stores if they have it in stock to see how it is.
One of the richest man in the history, King Solomon, said that all the things a man can acquire or be desired by his heart is only futile and chasing after the wind. Materialistic way of life is the perfect recipe for sadness and disappointment. For me, life is best when used for family and friends, but most of all, for my Creator
If you can afford to buy a better coat and up your game, donate or sell your old coat first. You`ll never have too much and you might do a good gentlemanly deed in the process. To your benefit, imagine all the extra space you will gain, the time and energy saved by keeping it simple while still inviting novelty into your life. Thank you for a great video Ash!
Ash I like the idea of one in and one out and I like the idea of the audit. My wife is constantly buying me trousers and shirts at the Goodwill telling me what a good deal they are and I tell her I can't possibly wear all of them please stop buying the clothes. 😂 I am a little shoe heavy at the moment but plan on culling some of them out. Best regards Ron
Wealthy people don't have to worry about caring about collecting stuff in the same way because they can afford larger storage spaces and more furnishings more multiple dwellings and such. I just watched a Shark Tank re-run where two guys had started a business where they provide your travel clothes shipped to your destination and waiting at your hotel so you wouldn't have to check your bags, which might have been great for a business traveler who only wants to carry a laptop. Mark instantly shot the idea down as absurd unless for holiday travelers who want to have t-shirts and swim trunks waiting, the kind of purchases many people enjoy as souvenirs in travel shopping, and Laurie got all disgusted by the idea that she would have to wear used clothing as if the idea itself was complete revulsion and that nobody in the world would ever agree to that.
Love this video! Really well put! I wish more influencers like yourself would do a version of this for their take on the subject. Thank you and happy holidays from the US 🎉
Think on this: How many possessions do you have that belonged to your grandfather? My grandfather spent a life collecting "stuff." He died in 1987. The only thing I now have of his is a brass knuckleduster!
The fact is that material possessions are rather like socks. As we know, there is a "Bermuda Triangle" for socks. They just disappear, or one half of them does. Or they become beyond repair. Whatever way you look at it, they just disolve into the ether. Perhaps they end up in the same place as pencils and umbrellas?
To illustrate my point about the hole down which possessions fall. Of 22,000 Supermarine Spitfires built, only 179 survive and many of these are wrecks. Sic transit gloria mundi.
And thus it is with all material possessions. They should all be viewed as a transitory ornament and treated as such.
Big fan from the U.S. Thank you for what you provide to the world Ash. These videos are invaluable to many generations of men who want to be intentionally well dressed, composed and ready to take on life with their best foot forward.
Cheers!
Glad you like them!
An audit is always a good idea Ash. This is driven home if you ever have the misfortune of doing a house clearance for a relative who has died. You find all the unworn items, or that watch that was only taken out of the box once. Those cuff-links that had clearly never been worn and the assorted brick-a-brack that can only be bound for the skip, even in the best regulated household.
What if I died tomorrow? Which poor soul would be clearing and dividing my things?
I look at this this way. You never know in this life when you might have to 'sofa surf.' It can happen to the best of us. If that happened, what could you carry in one ruck sack? That certainly concentrates the mind in the auditing process.
I made the mistake of thinking I should keep the crap. I am now its prisoner as it consumes my time as I figure out how to get rid of it all.
I totally agree. I decided a couple of years ago in order not to become a hoarder, if I purchased something I would have to get rid of something. It’s life changing!
So far this year I’ve sold on eBay to the total of over £7000!
Anything I haven’t worn in least 2 years I’ve sold. Buy a new watch, sell a watch I’ve lost interest in. I’ve slimmed down my wallet collection to 5 from 12. I’ve replaced several pairs of shoes with Crocket and Jones. I’ve done all this without touching my salary, which has pleased my wife. It’s truly liberating. You can have too much stuff.
I love that idea. I must try and give that a go!
As someone who is turning 23 today, your example resonated with me a lot haha. As per your example, I have a 7/8 year old car, and whilst I have considered changing it, I realise it is unnecessary lifestyle inflation!
Many happy returns sir. Have a great birthday!
By the way, my car is 7-years old and I have no intention of changing it for a very long time indeed!
@@TheChapsGuide Thank you very much, a true gent as always :)
Thank you for this thoughtful video. It was an indictment on me and my actions. I appreciate your comment about a gentleman not taking too much. As a husband and father of 5 I need to be taking whatever is left. Sometimes I feel choked by all my stuff and need to sell it on eBay so can breath again. Working my way to a simple life. Some of the most happy people I know have just what they need. A good reminder about the Christ Child being born in a manager surrounded by beasts. Peace Chap.
I watched this video three times. An important message from a genuine gentleman for us.
Congratulations on surpassing 50k subscribers, Ash! Great advice in this video. 😊
Thanks so much!!
Those luxury watches are pretty outrageous tbh...
Sound advice, Ash. In life I think everything reduces to three factors to determine happiness: health; money; and time. Think of a circle divided into these three segments. When young, we have time and health but maybe little money. When older we have more money but maybe less time and our health may become compromised etc. The challenge is keeping things in equilibrium and it may never be perfectly achieved. In terms of clothing, if I haven’t worn it for 12 months, it goes to charity. Less is more.
Great concept. A healthy approach!
Big fan from Bolivia! Thank you for all the great content.
Good sound advice. At one time my modest house was becoming full of unnecessary items and clothes I rarely if at all used. Following an audit I set myself some questions regarding the stuff I own: Do you need it? Can you afford it? Is it well made? Will it last and is it sustainable (quality build and timeless style)? Do you have space for it? Will it bring you joy? My wardrobes and drawers contents are certainly neater these days and the local charity shops now have a selection of 1980's Tie Rack neckties!
Bravo sir.
Quality is the way to go. Good tips.
Thanks Ash. This and your earlier "life audit" video are a great road map for a better approach to life.
Glad it was helpful!
Doing an audit of our sartorial wardrobe is the "Gold Standard" that will definitely keep us from having too much stuff as always thanks for the video!
Excellent advise. My weight changes all the time that a reason I have so many dress shirts and slacks which many are chinos. With different dilots in color. I’ve always been a traditionalist since college. I feel my style is timeless. Even my white buck shoes.😂
So true!
My weight also fluctuates, partly because of medication and partly because of gluttony on my part. Is the first rule for a chap that this shouldn’t happen and that a chap should be no heavier than average?
Along the lines of your recommendation to get rid of what you haven't worn in 2 years, I try to practice Marie Kondo's advice of getting rid of things that don't spark joy. Periodically, I'll look at shoes or clothes and if they don't spark joy, I donate them. Usually they're not worth my time selling them.
The advice about not buying duplicates of things you have is interesting. I tend to do this. If I like something, for some reason, I want a spare, as if I will like it twice as much. It makes little sense in most cases and thank you for the good advice.
Stuffocation is something too many of us can suffer from, without us realising. Your advice and commentary, on the subject, is excellent. We must all be more mindful of the issue.
Great message and a timely one! I think that focussing on quality and longevity is a great way to have greater style and lower impact overall. As a student of environmental science, I often think about the impact of my lifestyle choices. I am drawn towards the philosophy of ‘true materialism’ coined by Wendell Berry, who suggested that we should seek to be MORE materialistic, by being more engaged and educated about the things we buy, care for them well and love them forever! Keep this up!
Brilliant insights here, Ash. I often tell people that they should be investing in personal relationships and meaningful experiences rather than drowning themselves in superfluous consumer goods. -One thing you'll never find is a luggage rack on a hearse.
"He was fully sensible to the advantages of the Installment Plan/And had everything necessary to the Modern Man/ A phonograph, a radio, a car, and a frigidaire." -The Unknown Citizen, W.H. Auden
Or when starting out after the initial audit. One in, two out. Two lower quality items have to go, to accommodate one good replacement
Good tip, I'll have to remember that. Thankyou
The big problem with the question is it fundamentally misunderstand 'Chap Nirvana' although what you wear is a big part of it, it does remain just that, only part of it. Your internal self is arguably just as, if not moreso, important as how you present your external self. Yes, you can own all the suits, hats, or whatever you'll ever need, but learning and mental improvement is something that should always continued to be worked on.
I couldn't agree more. I much prefer buying a decent piece of clothing paying a bit more than a piece of clothing that's cheap, and looks cheap. I am 63 yrs old from a poor background and no very well the value of money. I like the idea of one in/one out.
Thanks for sharing this information with us. I needed to see this one. I appreciate your time and content. I'm in the middle of minimizing my life. I live in the USA and am a long haul driver. Thanks again
Glad it was helpful!
"The only real wealth is family and friends!" There has never been more truth to this than today
I've heard health referred to more frequently as the only real wealth, so I would conclude that wealth, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.
It's also a very common experience to have been disappointed by humans in general. Speaking from my own experience, I would also disagree with your quote on that basis. With a few notable exceptions in my family and friendship circle, I find time spent with pets much more beneficial to my emotional and mental health and sense of well-being than most people in my family of origin or those I have mistakenly regarded in the past as 'good friends'.
As always, a great video!!!
But I am wondering, but did you misunderstand his letter and his thoughts? For me, his letter has a much deeper sense, than your summary of "Do I have enough stuff?". I read something completely different, between his lines. The stuff (he talked about) were examples to underpin his mindset and knowledge, in my opinion. What I understood: He (or: his mindset!) reached a status, he is happy with! He told, that he is satisfied with his style-situation (as he said); so he is happy with his type of "style" he developed, not with his "amount of items in his wardrobe". He found his own style, he is happy with; nor can't he improve his style anymore (I quote his words). On the contrary: He says: IF he continues, it may become a materialistic thing. Means: He had (nearly) no materialistic approach till today! He (I quote again his lines): Dresses smartly, treats others respectfully, etc. - in his own perception, he reached his chap-nirvana; because he is comfortable with his mindset and his life - without any materialistic approach! He is knowledgeable (!!) about watches, pens, dining, wine, etc. - he is not happy because of his "two watches". As well as: Your own definition of a "chap nirvana" has nothing to do with a materialistic approach - it is more a mindset, etc.
A better much summary / and interesting question would be: Is there is risk of standstill, if I reach my "chap nirvana" with my mindset? Is it necessary to continue the process of self-development? How could I continue to develop my habits, knowledge, style, etc. without the risk to become materialistic? etc ....
Nevertheless, a great video about "too much stuff"!
5 pairs of dress shoes are truly sufficient. Learn combining items to create new looks like for 1 sport coat different shirts and trousers, avoid unessassary accessories like tie pins etc. I really think sprezzatura is a good mindset where less is more, where one searches to remove an item yet still look effortlessly stylish. Trying to reduce buy avoiding buying an item if it wears out unless it is absolutely needed. Also using up fragrances or donating them instead of collecting and using once in a blue moon. If you have a car small and old but brings you from A to B is enough, let the big cars for the rich braggers. I know companies dread to hear that mindset but one should live for himself not for them. And for myself what I absolutely make sure is my wife's wardrobe is always much bigger never the opposite.
Definitely got some nice ralph lauren and lacoste polo shirts had them years still in good condition they actually look good still fantastic quality. 🎉
I get it. But, um…aren’t you sitting there wearing a Rolex? But I shouldn’t have anxiety about not being able to afford extravagant stuff. Hmmmmm…🤨
Hey Ash. I discovered your channel just recently from the angle of watches. But I must say I've enjoyed your recent content on finances and over- buying. You have a great way of explaining things and making dead-on recommendations. I look forward to further topics like this.
PS As I've got older I have got off the excess consumerism bandwagon and have a philosophy of 'being happy with my lot in life'. I too tend to use a periodic audit to check things that I need. It works.
Cheers from Canada..
Chap nirvana is a nudist colony. It’s the only place where clothes don’t make the man.
Hi Ash, great video.
I've been wanting to keep an inventory for a while, but I can't find a suitable system. I have a mental wardrobe list, but lately, my purchases, especially for shoes and watches, have been getting out of hand.
When organizing, I often see things I don't use. While most of my purchases are on sale or second-hand, I make the mistake of buying for the future or as a backup.
Thanks. Good points. Have you heard of the hedonic treadmill? This is an area I need to work on.
With clothing, it might be better to have less. Our shape changes. Where we go and no longer go changes. Styles change. Our style evolves and changes. Our color preferences change. Our location may also change. Tell us how many shoes you have Ash.
Never. I am sworn to secrecy by the Covert Shoe Owners Uunion.
I have too many shirts, its ridiculous. I never should have started buying anything striped or checked...
I should have stuck to just solid colors 😆
Not to worry. You can wear the checks and stripes on weekends, and the solids with a tie when the occasion demands it.
Thanks again Ash! The journal-audit is absolutely something I’m going to focus on practicing. This video came right on the heels of not buying a pair of service boots as I already have a solid pair- the temptation was almost overwhelming though! But it leaves financial room to plug actual gaps in my wardrobe.
If you’re wondering how much you need in life keep this in mind. Diogenes and Ben Franklin will be highly regarded long after Trump and Andrew Tate are forgotten. Who would you rather emulate?
First!
Dress hats and watches...dangerous rabbit holes I recently fell into... 😅
Shopaholics of His Majesty's Internet Unite!
Very solid advice Ash; one in, one out. Clothing is like furniture, you buy good and buy once, and keep with the classic you can pair to extend the wardrobe.
spot on with phones, the upgrades are things you will barely notice, will hardly use, and quickly forget about!
i'm trying to consistently audit my wardrobe; i've been working out and so am moving on the clothes that do not fit me. As an aside, i also am learning more about fit and understanding that the clothes i own never really fit me very well in the first place! Also as my style journey is taking me in a more casual direction at present i am picking up bomber jackets, harringtons, quilted jackets, polo shirts etc. i'm the sort of person to buy something and keep it for a long time and to try to take care of my clothes, expensive or not (normally NOT!).
Great topic and excellent points, Ash. Chap nirvana both elusive yet obtainable to some degree for all.
Thank you,
Starlight
You're very welcome
I avoided that step by following advice here and elsewhere to donate/toss everything that no longer works and make fit the stuff that does. Now at 50% of prior stuff level. Lots of tailoring bills, but few new items, mostly shoes and some hats. Steered clear of cars and watches.
Staying classic vs. trendy means few people see cardigans, corduroys, used chukka boots, gray suits, fedora hat, or a used peacoat as materialistic. They simply think you are old.
In regard to people being richer than ever, globally, from 2001 until forever, the middle class is two percent of the population, while the poor and the rich are each 49% of the population.
Science fiction movies such as Robocop and The Terminator predicted that this would happen. The writers of these movies were spot on.
From 2000 and prior, globally, the middle class was always 80% of the population, while the poor were always 19% and the rich were always one percent.
Great video once again, I think I’m in desperate need of selling a lot of clothes I haven’t worn in over a year. Life just keeps getting in the way at the moment of me actually listing everything for sale!
I can relate to this. I had an obsession with buying fountain pens and had to start reducing this. Alot of people purchase then leads to hoarding as they get a buzz from buying stuff. Your advice is spot on to invest and not keep up the Jones.
i think chap Nirvana is a journey and not a destination. It's not really about possessions, indeed it campaigns against the buy it, wear it and throw it away culture.
But if you buy a quality item with a view that it will last long time don't then, a couple of years later, buy another one. I see people who are shoe connoisseurs have dozens of pairs of quality handmade shoes each pair made to last a lifetime and beyond. What's the point? We've got a maximum of one pair of feet each.
Educated video ❤
Keep up the good
Thanks a lot
I'm sort of pushed this way by circumstance. I simply don't have space to accumulate, which is good.
I have a shirt for every day, a black shirt and a few for occasions such as wearing with my kilt in black tie.a suit a day for the workweek and a couple of coats. And the general few chinos and couple of jeans. Now I'm a one in one out as I'm probably over capacity 😂
I really should do an audit though 🤔
Totally agree with everything you said Ash. Only thing I do when clearing out the wardrobe is to give the unwanted to charities. Mostly military and cancer, for which I have connections to both.Thank you and God bless🙏
Never order online when you're sleepy. You might regret it the following day says the person who's done it.
I agree. And never "drive" a computer when you are under the influence!
We live at a time when people in the west have more things / money than our grand parents. But, they dressed very well and at our time people dress badly in camparison to people in the past…. Less is more.
Ash! You got me into Abbots shoes, and that new perfume. And you gave me the desire for an Explorer .. so I blame you for my constant spending 😂
Hello Ash,
A very timely video for me. Earlier this evening, I searched "How to be satisfied with one watch" on yt, without many helpful results. I currently own over 2 dozen watches, many of them luxury pieces, and I've started to realize, what on one hand seems like a horological collection that displays my knowledge, taste, and acumen for fine timepieces, on the other hand is starting to feel excessive and almost distasteful. I think I'm going to sell off one of my prized Omega watches, because I don't need it, I have 4 other Omega, and way too much capitol wrapped up in my hobby. I also have too many guitars and tobacco pipes, I plan on doing similar exercises with those collections. I hope to trim my possessions and materialism down a bit without a knee jerk reaction (like the Dave Ramsey approach, sell it all if you're in debt) that would invalidate the time and care I've put into curating these things. Thanks for being there to help me work through some of these less popular thoughts.
Eppe
Good luck.
John Steed was the first man that I ever saw wearing a bowler hat and I thought that he was so very dapper.
Bring back the bowler!
Bring back Mrs Peel!😀
Sound advice, thank you! 😊
Sir I really appreciate your videos
It's my pleasure
That jacket is killer!!
Practical advice Ash, thank you.
Starlight
You’re welcome 😊 Chris
Chapdom . Funny .
As a passionate collector, by default, you have too much. How many watches do you need? especially if these watches are conceived to last a lifetime?
That’s when you need to consider trading-in rather than buying.
On more mundane things (consumables), it really doesn’t make any sense to purchase too much.
Agreed
Less is more!
So true!
It’s not a 3 bedroom 2500 square foot house. It’s a one bedroom 2500 square foot house with two walk-in closets
Fantastic video! Thanks!
Glad you liked it!
Good morning Ash, Chaps
Stuff...
Not all Chap stuff, but I have an active and varied lifestyle.
Work stuff, Green stuff, Outdoors, Smart stuff, scruffs stuff, Workshop stuff (tools etc) car stuff (2 Cars and a motorbike), Running stuff, Camping stuff, more green stuff. Too much stuff, too little space (my one wardrobe is a bit full). I have 2 sheds of stuff (not clothing obviously) and my wife a shed of her own (hobby stuff)... I could "off load" some but it is all vital for one purpose or another (especially the green stuff). I have twin teenage daughters with all their stuff.
I am trying currently to proffer ideas of minimal size when asked about what I want for Christmas.
We all have and need stuff. Definitely, in this day and age, being in debt (some hugely) has been normalised. I don't play "keeping up with the Joneses" my stuff is quality rather than fashion.
There is stuff I want, but I know I don't need it. I don't stress over this at all.
Having too little time to enjoy things is my problem.
I am lucky, I guess, I have workwear provided that means I only need my own clothes for evenings and weekends (though sometimes that's green stuff I don't buy)
I rarely buy clothing now as I have as much as I need, though I am in the market for a white Dinner jacket and a Navy DB blazer (no rush though).
As per usual, all sage advice.
Until next time
*salutes
From my 20's to mid 30's I was quite happy being reasonably minimalist I had the one suit, the one dress watch, an every day watch (usually a G-Shock that I would replace after 5 - 6 years as it got grubby, damaged etc), a few pairs of dress shoes (Black and Brown), obviously Jeans, T-Shirts, trainers had a shorter life span as they got worn frequently and usually replaced after a year as jeans would start to rip in places and T-Shirts start to stretch and warp, especially on the neck area, I had the same pool of Jackets for about 15 years (Padded Winter, Cotton Safari style, windbreaker etc). But 8 years ago after deciding to smarten up my appearance, started of small like ditched the Trainers for Casual Boots, A nice Watch, Shirts/Polo for T-Shirts and if going out to meet friends or family, the effort was made with the inclusion of Brown Brogues, tucked in Shirts, Sports Jacket etc, since then I have gone a bit mad and over the top, frequently buying new items and now I really do have too much 'stuff', the biggest offenders, watches, Shoes and Sports jackets. I have got to a stage where enough is enough and its time to get rid of what I don't wear and only replace like for like from now on.
Try contemplating your navel and uttering Ohm in a loud voice. Chap nirvana is just around the corner. A wonderful illusion all gentleman should experience.👍🧐😎🧘☯️👑🎩 Cheers 🥂
Could I ask what brand of jacket you're wearing here, I rather like the style.
It’s a corduroy utility jacket by Jack Wolfskin
@@TheChapsGuide Thanks, I had a look at their website, interesting stuff.
Oh, the irony! From a channel that has hundreds of videos touting the virtues of buying expensive things!
Not expense oriented - quality oriented. There is a profound difference sir!
There is nothing inside a Rolex that isn’t inside a $1000 dollar Swiss mechanical watch. Please explain to everyone exactly why a submariner is worth 15K and why when you walk into a dealer you can’t buy one. I’ll wait.
Excellent. Special thanks going out to Frank's write-in and for your insights on the topic. Fantastic presentation in a format that is instantly useable and memorable. This info was extremely helpful and timely for me personally as a chap-in-training.
After years of kit/life upgrades I reached my fulfillment 'critical mass' earlier this year, but continued on with acquisitions using many of the pitfall thoughts and phrases you mentioned....perhaps from social conditioning but more so I think out of sheer habit. I think now I'll be able to mentally reference this vid as I dial-back acquisitions and pursue a more fulfilling refinement/maintenance mode.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and methods. Well done sir.
A topic I've been dealing with alot lately. Thanks for sharing your advice on it!
Yes, I have too much stuff - most of us do. I’m trying to get better - not buying stuff I don’t need, wearing and using stuff until it wears out, and repairing rather than replacing. I’m getting better at not purchasing things for the sake of it, and when I do buy stuff now, I buy for longevity and repairability. I’m pretty happy with what I now possess. If anything it’s the newer stuff (electronics mainly) which never seem to quite work that disappoint……..
This is good, sensible advice.
One of the things that lead me to splashing cash is an enthusiast's approach to menswear, whereby I desire this or that feature: 'Oh, I don't have a lightweight, peak lapel jacket', I have a winter one, but not a Summer one' for example.
Great video Ash! Love the topic just like your previous on financial and investment considerations. As I actually do, I have no issues having forty silk ties, eight pairs of trousers, eight sportcoats, blazers, three pairs of leather shoes, a jacket, coat, felt hat, flat cap, four leather bags, twenty wristwatches, eight rings and thirty-five physical books. All of these have cost me total of 2,200 Euro, because I buy pre-owned. All are serving me well. All of these things were already produced and are ready to keep me going and feeling well. The thing about classic menswear and lifestyle is to save a lot of time and money through cost per wear and reduciton in needed time to make decisions.
Fantastic video. I’ve finally reached the point in my life where I do not need any validation of my success. I’m perfectly happy with myself, I have some nice things, but I have the ultimate satisfaction of ENOUGH. I’m tickled and happy when my friends buy a new car or move into a bigger house. I enjoy it with them…and it’s free for me and it’s true freedom.
I’ve followed the 1-in, 1-out policy for a few years now, and it has worked wonderfully. I have also convinced my wife to do the same. That’s a very good way to not accumulate stuff you don’t need
I have a lot of stuff. But I feel o.k. with it because I pretty much use everything that I have but I'm trying not to add any more. Unfortunately, I feel like I want to buy the Doc Martin Season 10 dvd set, lol.
Funny that this video comes out on the day I received the first of two pairs of boots I purchased within the same weekend. I pre-ordered my made-to-order boots on Saturday and pounced on a second pair when I saw a sample sale from another. Both were locally made by our local artisans. They're both of good quality leather and good year welted and now I feel the need to ask myself: Have I gone too far on these purchases?
My aunt who work in health and I talked, she said I might have OCD which can lead to overspending. So I now sent a budget for myself on my day off if I ever go shopping or something, try not to go over the limit & do a mental audit on what I already have & would like to add. I mostly now shop online because it’s more convenient but still sometime go to stores if they have it in stock to see how it is.
My grandfather used to say, “Cheap people pay twice”
One of the richest man in the history, King Solomon, said that all the things a man can acquire or be desired by his heart is only futile and chasing after the wind.
Materialistic way of life is the perfect recipe for sadness and disappointment.
For me, life is best when used for family and friends, but most of all, for my Creator
If you can afford to buy a better coat and up your game, donate or sell your old coat first. You`ll never have too much and you might do a good gentlemanly deed in the process. To your benefit, imagine all the extra space you will gain, the time and energy saved by keeping it simple while still inviting novelty into your life. Thank you for a great video Ash!
Ash I like the idea of one in and one out and I like the idea of the audit. My wife is constantly buying me trousers and shirts at the Goodwill telling me what a good deal they are and I tell her I can't possibly wear all of them please stop buying the clothes. 😂 I am a little shoe heavy at the moment but plan on culling some of them out. Best regards
Ron
Great minds not only think alike, but also at his he same time, it seems! I have too much of everything and it gets me down!
Great , i thought im doing good in terms of spending but this video opened my eyes , thank you!
Everyone should watch this at least once a month.
Well, I could go on a bit about cost and quality, BUT the companies are producing FAR MORE than most of us are consuming.
I guess it's Fast Fashion vids week, but already too late to head off all them Black Friday shoppers, anyway.
Wealthy people don't have to worry about caring about collecting stuff in the same way because they can afford larger storage spaces and more furnishings more multiple dwellings and such. I just watched a Shark Tank re-run where two guys had started a business where they provide your travel clothes shipped to your destination and waiting at your hotel so you wouldn't have to check your bags, which might have been great for a business traveler who only wants to carry a laptop. Mark instantly shot the idea down as absurd unless for holiday travelers who want to have t-shirts and swim trunks waiting, the kind of purchases many people enjoy as souvenirs in travel shopping, and Laurie got all disgusted by the idea that she would have to wear used clothing as if the idea itself was complete revulsion and that nobody in the world would ever agree to that.
I prefer natural fabrics and all that already.
Also, when's the last time any of the Sharks had to CHECK THEIR BAGS instead of just getting on their own jet???
Most the Business Commuters have been eliminated now by Zoom and such.
Never underestimate the power of whatching your ideas in print 👍🏼
Great advice!
Glad it was helpful!
I remember someone said, "greed does not say enough" ❤
Love this video! Really well put! I wish more influencers like yourself would do a version of this for their take on the subject. Thank you and happy holidays from the US 🎉
I hope so too!
Awesome video! It's also important to remember an old Chinese proverb. "Nothing is yours forever. Not even your own body."
So true!
Great outfit, great video. Thanks Ash!
My pleasure!
Great video.
Glad you enjoyed it
$500-$1000 for a cell phone.
Absolutely ridiculous. Sure it does a lot but a computer will do everything a cell phone except TALK on the road.
50k subs 🎉 kudos Sir Chap! ❤
Thanks! 😃