I've blown up her phone and done all the wrong things, 3 months since the breakup up I'm not going no contact I am moving on, trust me guys calling her or texting isn't gonna fix anything, they dumped you let them go, trust me please I don't want y'all to go through the pain I have and am going through.
Most people (including myself) have chased after a breakup - don't beat yourself up for it, but regaining your own sense of worth enough to walk away is very empowering - even if its an up and down sense of strength for a while you do pull out of it wiser and stronger with some time, I promise you.
Unfriend them from social media. Start working on you. Heartbreak is the best motivator. Who cares what there doing. Otta sight outta mind. Focus on your happiness and the right one will come. I was dumped after 5 years outta no where. Look at it as you guys got to expierice some of life's joys and learn on what not to do in your next relationship relationship.
Some say a new theory. It´s not about finding the "compatible" partner., like finding the "puzzle" piece that matches, your preferences but to become "compatible" partner during the process I guess Maybe people have to focus on the rhythm of the relationship, - when partner is relaxing, I will focus on my stuff, -when I am relaxing, my partner will do his stuff, - when partner is having free time, we do things together etc Empathy and gratitude is a key as well. and maybe its about focusing your mind and energy on things that work well, rather then focusing all the energy on weak spots that dont work. and later the weak spots disapear naturally, because couple focuses on things that work for them That is why intelligent people and musicians of classical music, have successful relationships, because they understand the word feeling is a healling, music is feeling, music is healing......they understand the words "physics" "quantum physics" etc , they understand strategic thinking without judging , they understand team work, synergy etc
I am an official CSI. I did it the last time too. I sat home and created there fantasy timeline all the way to there marriage. Pure obsession and here I am again. I have no self worth and I have so much fear and I am very co dependent. What’s weird is the beginning of the relationship I knew it was not going to work. I didn’t even think he was right for me. But I sold myself out and spent 4 years pretending and hiding the pain of severe verbal abuse. I can’t even organize the pieces of myself I sacrificed. My worth was never there but it was enough to get this toxic person to completely destroy me. When will I no contact myself. I need to get me back.
Ken, I messed up. I contacted his friend to ask how my ex was doing (he doesn’t post, I haven’t seen or heard from him in a year). Of course his friend hasn’t divulged ANY info. I asked him to put me out of my misery and tell me if he was seeing someone. Nothing. Now I feel worse. Guys, don’t do this
This video got me so emotional. My ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago and this has been the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through.I’ve had those dark moments where i just didn’t want to be alive. Every day is an uphill battle and I just don’t know how to get out of it. I feel like nothing without him
Do NOT stay in contact with any family members or friends. I did this and messed up because eventually it will get back to your ex. The father told me he wouldn't say anything and eventually did and it cost me 2 months of no contact. DONT DO IT
Sorry but how would you feel if one of your exes that you broke up with because you Wana move on, was in contact with close family?! Had an ex who would atill message my sister, i wasn't happy at all about it! It's unfair to family as they don't wanna be rude either but they are put in the middle.
I have such a good relationship with the family and we work at the same place and same department!! helppp ;( my ex is also working at same company but at different office ;(
Great video! I understand Mic's point of view. I put my ex on too big of a pedestal as well. We are both attractive, my ex and I. If anything I could do better but still I wanted to show her fully committed love. It didn't work, she left me still even though I treated her better than anyone ever did. Lesson learned. Now I watch these videos to be prepared IF I want her back. But I'm doing the work to the point im questioning whether I want her back.
I see everyone’s comments on here and it’s heartbreaking in itself. You all deserve so much more than the pain you’re feeling at the hands of someone you love. I think you all deserve to make your own decisions of course and Ken is such a gentle and guiding voice through this tough time. Remember that they threw you away though. You are NO ONES trash but you ARE someone’s treasure. Until you find them (ex or not) remember that life is drawing ever closer to a close with each passing day. Every time you idealize them or reminisce start making new pathways to remind yourself that THEY broke a promise to you. Replace that with a promise to yourself that YOU are just as much a prize as you esteem them to be. Listen to Ken, look at reality from a brutally honest prism, and feel everything deeply. If you don’t you will begin to act out of character and that would be the biggest betrayal of all.
depends on your situation. I had an amazing girlfriend but I messed up because I had a horrible year and fell into depression so neglected her for 1 full year. at which point she left me, which I cant blame her for. I'd want her back tho since now I'm a lot better. not sure if that will happen tho.
Coach Ken... I needed this. My name is Nick, funny enough. But I am Mick almost to the T. So similar in what she said. The dark limerence. I'm doing pretty rough. I needed this.
I understand, it's difficult to stay off social media. I found a solution. I signed up on alternative social media platforms that my ex isn't on. I can interact with it to my heart's content without getting triggered by news of my ex. This makes it way easier to maintain radio silence on the platform that I do share with my ex.
This spoke to me on so many levels, it’s almost like you told my story. I needed to find this video and thankful that I did. That same story was me 2-3 years ago and then he came back but he has gone again. I have stuck to the no contact except I keep checking his socials and I did it the whole time so to still feel connected. I hold onto that pain because that is the only thing that keeps me connected to him. There is still hope but I have to get it right for me. Even though I never pushed my agenda or speak of the past as I felt I wasn’t ready but was just happy he was back in my life and I tried to do everything possible to not drive him away it still happened. I have got to the stage of excepting that might be it and want to move on. I am 40 in a couple of months and he was the only man I truly loved. No one has ever come close and I’ve been broken up with before and moved on but this one changed me. Sometimes I am in the mind set that I honestly don’t think I want to be with anyone else and I’m ok with being alone. Not because I can’t bare the thought of going through another failed relationship. I just feel he was my big love with all his flaws, the unconditional love I have for him can’t be matched or will I settle just to be with someone because I’m sometimes lonely. I’m not sure what stage I am at. I have excepted that I won’t be a mum to my own biological children obviously their is other plans for me. This life for me is one of learning if I want to believe in reincarnation or this is just the cards I have been dealt with. Anyone who is younger and is going through this. Please listen to this video I wish I had heard this years ago.
Love that, "That's what you should be saying about God." Literally!! I started getting more into my Bible after my breakup, and I had the epiphany that I had been idolizing my ex like a false idol. I gave more time to him than God. It's crazy how relationships can envelop us so much, that we forget to give time to who actually matters. Ourselves and God ❤
Very happy for you! God pulled me from the brink more than once - I finally started learning how to love someone without worshipping them as a God replacement.
@@Chun_Leroy girrlll... He and I are done forever. We recently saw one another, found out he lied, then he said some racist stuff.... There's just no going back. My advice: when you're going through a tough time, balance out the distractions with reading your Bible 🧡 God is the one we should be obsessed with. We never have to be in no contact with him. Ladies, we have to stop casting our pearls before swine!!!
All i can say is after multiple breakups over the years i got used to breakups 80 percent of them came back but itll be up to u to decide but honestly u gotta work on yourself and become an even more badass version of ur self if ur not in shape nows the time to workout and transform also work on new skills to up your financials
I agree to a point - I'd say it this way - I like trying to make the woman I love happy - I just refuse to make her happiness in all things and in all ways my responsibility.
Micks ex just didn’t respect him & was told from someone, somewhere, that she could better & suspect another guy with a better job probably not with the same intentions as him, because when we woman start contradicting ourselves we just don’t want to be and the more the person tries to make us happy the more we take the piss if we are toxic,. I hope nick heals & finds someone who appreciates him, he deserves better.
Wow thank you so much for this. I keep getting praised and given affirmation since the breakup, and my ex literally was saying nothing but nice things about me as she broke up with me. Andyet it has hit me like a ton of bricks! Killed my sense of self esteem. Suddenly, it's like all these positive traits, and it wasn't enough.
Wished I had some of this advice when I was in my 20s and even 30s. I did everything wrong after a break up. Nowadays I slice and dice, any hint of not wanting my presence or attention is pretty much adios, and I’m out. It’s painful like a kick to the nads painful but eventually it fades. My good buddy is going through a break up and I’ve tried giving him a little advice about no contact and blah blah. And yup, he did exactly what most do, chase after and try to be “logical” and convince her to give him another chance. It’s been a month and she hasn’t come back. I don’t want to be insensitive and blast him over it but I’m really biting my tongue. It’s a mistake to try to fix anyone’s relationship, so hey, he’ll have to figure it out on his own. This much I know, the exes who really hurt me hit the wall around the age of 35, and I wouldn’t touch them w a ten foot pole. And forget about their mental state, they’re more damaged and physically unappealing. Cheers.
Hey Coach my friend tried to book another session but hasn't heard back, check your email buddy! She told me how much you helped her in your 1st session. You had her rolling on the floor, laughing sooo hard after he had stuck a painful knife through her heart. She hasn't been crying over him at all like she was before she talked to you. She's so beautiful but doesn't even know it and he's a class A Moron!!!!!
Great video Ken. I am a “Mick” and I’m currently going through what he did. I’m basically cyber stalking my ex while trying to maintain no contact. It’s a very dark place and I feel so ashamed of myself for being so obsessive over her. I just don’t know how to break free from it.
make a long list of her faults and review it multiple times daily. Make another list of your gifts and strengths - review it daily multiple times. Don't fight the feeling when you miss her - embrace it. It only proves you were sincere and feel things deeply. No shame there - but don't let the anxiety talk you into "fighting for her" - not an effective way to rebuild attraction
the only reason i am handling this break up is that the relationship was filling me with anxiety from day 1. i don't even feel like seeing him. nobody is worth death or poverty.
@free2bme604 I've been stuck 3 years too. Feeling hurt and defeated. Lost self esteem. I need to move and get a job. Didn't work the entire time I was with him.
Hey Coach! I booked a session with you a month ago. It was really helpful. At the end you said you would send me a personal email and if I booked another session you could move me up in the line. I really need to speak to you and get some advice asap. I never got the email so I'm hoping you see this comment and get back to me. Things have gotten way weirder and I could really use some help.
Doing the NO Contact and I'm worried how or if my x will respond or go through the normal phases. He is very immature, has an very messed relationship with his mother, extreme PTSD from his father's suicude which created deep guilt that his mom is alone. She uses this and is manipulative. Not my x is a 53 year old man thst lives with his mom, owes a car, bounces between jobs every 2 years. Me....I'm an ICU Nurse for the past 20 years, own my home and car and I'm very steady. He always seemed amazed that I picked him and never could understand why. I tried to explain to him that he should feel relief that I am with him because of his heart and not what he has. I don't need him to financially support me....I just want him to be with me and by my side. I chose him because he is the sweetest, goofy nerd that brings out the silly side in me. No clue what to do. We had a disagreement 3 weeks ago, I apologized in a text and told him I do love him that day. No response. We both handle anxiety different. He goes into flight mode while I go into fight mode. I yell when I'm afraid and he runs. Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Details matter so please let me know if you schedule a session at realcoachken.com and I can try to move you up to discuss more in depth, but based on limited info here I'd say that relationship with his mother and the trauma from the past with his dad can definitely create some disorders or significant challenges with someone. Covert narcs come from the kind of circumstance you describe. Past trauma, controlling mother, unusual closeness to that mother, emotional punishment if he displeases her - don't get locked in on being his savior. If you apologized and let him know you're still there then give him no contact and allow him to have a sense of loss. Eventually being in that unhealthy relationship with his mom will wear him down and very likely make him miss you and the potential life he could have with you - but right now more chasing will more than likely cause him to not feel the sense of loss you need him to feel.
Though your target audience seems to be men, I watch your content still. My ex didn't exactly break up with me but wanted to just slow down our communication and that I should have a lower expectation on the possibility of getting back together. He said he loved me but not on the same level as I did. When we fought it slowly killed his love for me, his words. I thought we could still chat because he didn't say we couldn't but just not a lot but it's been 9 days and I sent the last message. Was it wrong to assume he wants me to just leave him alone? Should I talk to him? I am so much in pain from this. Please advice on what I need to do?
Hi Ken, still waiting on clean slate with punch template after our call, sorry to comment on here but have sent a couple of emails with further context etc. It’s the army dude w BPD partner
Listened to 13 minutes of this up to the point where Mick asks the ex if he wants his new roommate to move out. I can see why this woman lost attraction to him. He is a simp. A secure man wouldn't be chasing after this insecure, uncertain, conflicting, wishy-washy woman. Secure people usually don't want to be in insecure relationships with insecure people.
I've tried to stick to no contact, but my ex reaches out every now and then and I do respond, but she doesn't always really engage. And when I reach out it almost seems to have the effect of repelling her. She won't talk on the phone but says I can text her. It's starting to feel like she is just keeping me around to make her feel good about herself, or to keep me as some sort of backup plan. Maybe it's in how I've been responding? Maybe she can tell that I've kept her at the center of my desires? Should I start ignoring her? Or should I maybe change how I respond and stop projecting my love, hope and desire.
I'd give her longer no contact and when she texts you don't respond in a way that makes it seem like you're excited for the honor of hearing from her - let her work to get your attention if she's started taking it and you for granted
I think I'm moving on but there's still a voice inside that says how can you forget her? Almost 90 days hard no contact. The relationship was great just small fight and poof, she called it off. Logic says it isn't going to be great if we get back now, but the heart is adamant. 😢
Coach Ken, it’s been almost 2 months. I have stayed no contact, but she has deleted me on facebook and Instagram, but I still have her on tik tok. And lately she has shared a couple things about “How we can never be again” And realizing being alone is better. What do I make of this?
@Coach Ken Is it still effective "No Contact" if I see her everyday at work? We do not talk. And it's been 15 months now. Do I need to quit in order for it to really be No Contact? I don't have any of her social medias or even her cell number.
I am probably on the verge of a divorce with my wife of 22 years. I have put together an exit plan. I have talked with my former boss ,about getting back my old job (She hate). Have a gym membership (which made her jealous) Basically Im taking back everything ,I gave up for her. If Im working on being better, and no contact. Im sure she will come back around. She is BPD I'm not sure I will go back. I still love her , so Im not sure I won't .
With the girl that broke up with me around 3 weeks ago it was similar, mutual breakup, not going to lie it hurts so so much, even when seeing new girls I think about her, but I accept things. I wouldn’t speak bad about her I have so much respect for her, I don’t want to get back with her but it hurts to be without her. She sent me a message a week after the breakup asking if we’d like to possibly get back together in June once she graduates and I did say I was open to the idea but also I’m not going to wait for her. I told her if she contacts me again in less than a month I’m going to block her number, I already unfollowed her on everything but it’s not easy.
My ex Narcissist left and said not to ever contact her again. After that, I have gone no contact. It's been 2 1/2 months. Will she still contact me again?
Yes, they more than likely will "Hoover" you, but it's not for the genuine reason that they miss you as a person. They miss the supply/fuel you gave them. It's usually very short-lived, and you end up even more hurt than before. Trust me on that. Hang in there and stay no contact if she's truly a narcissist.
Coach ken, it’s been 3 months of no contact with my ex boyfriend. He has the “completer or defender” mentality that you mentioned in another video where your ex is non confrontational and is a good guy. Do you think I should be the one to break no contact with him since I haven’t heard from him yet?
After 3 and a half years I got dumped because she lost attraction for me. She drew away and ended the relationship. I believe she's seeing someone else and went into dark limerence.I almost did a thing on the phone with her. She talked me down. I got therapy from the VA. Please get help if this happens. I'm in N.C. right now and she'll have to miss me. I believe that she might but I have to work on me.
@coachken- if she's still with another guy but constantly says hi to me and comes up to me about once a week or so at the gym and then bread crumbed and reached out to me for 4-5 months post break up- offered friendship after that- I respectfully declined- then blocked me, to unblock me and had a nice night together at a friends party, yet on Monday came up to me at the gym asking about me even though she's with another guy.... how to I proceed to draw her in and actually have her end that relationship with that guy
I am doing no contact and my ex is not stopping contact so I am ghosting him and feel terrible, he is begging me to break the silence and wants to stay in my life as friends and still wants me to talk to him and hang out. I don't want that at least till I'm over him but I would still take him back. Not sure how to proceed.
Coach Ken, my ex broke things off after a month. She said things moved faster than she realized, was going through a lot, and didn't think she could be in a relationship right now. I said that I understood but wanted to talk in person, she agreed and said that would be good. Because of this, i never really got to say that I'm okay with taking things slower, saying how much i care and wanted to support her through her tough times. Would it be a mistake to reach out and ask to talk in person? It's been a week. Won't lie, i really miss her, and that's why i want to reach out, but i also think that i might regret not trying to have that conversation? What are usually your thoughts on this?
I desperately need some advice. I'm devastated. I just ended my 13 years of relationship. 6 years ago, she cheated on me. She was seeing someone behind my back and it lasted 2 years but halted when one of her friend snitchrd on her. At that time, I'm so broken but I still forgave her, because the pain is unbearable. Yeah I'm stupid, i know. But she "changed". She just focus on me and our relationship. To the point that we're engaged. But last week, She's just different, I just glimpsed to her phone that she's chatting with someone. I asked who it was but she won't Iet me see it. She became this witch that she will fight for it just to not let me see it. I snapped and memories of her infidelity came rushing back to me. I then decided that we should break up. Then after 2 days, she texted me and she said that it was just their groupchat of her friends but her ex is on that gc and she just don't want me to get angry. What am I gonna do?
Only reason why i would wanna find out what my ex is doing. Is to figure whether or not relationship coaches are full of BS. But that cant let go bit. Is it normal or good to put a particular aspect of your life on hold if they werent there? Like i cant imagine doing a particular thing without a life partner.
how do you handle no contact if someone broke up with you because they had to move away? like we are still friends and on good terms we just aren't together because of the distance.
Instead of “Mick” fixating and going into dark limerence, he should have gotten counseling and maybe medication. That woman might have seen a future with him as consisting of having to watch other women throw themselves at Mick, especially knowing that her own looks would fade before his. Either way, she either wasn’t ready for commitment, or figured it was only a matter of time before it was him that pulled the plug on the relationship, and this was a test of sorts. I don’t believe in playing with a man’s heart. On some level she wanted to see if he would crash and burn from the breakup. Him getting a female roommate showed extremely poor judgment. If a woman breaks up with you she always has reasons. Maybe you’re a tightwad, maybe there’s a degree of insensitivity or inadequacy in the bedroom, maybe your eyes wandered too many times, maybe you talked to your mother or sister or brother or father or somebody way too long on the phone. Any or all of that was a future she didn’t want. It’s pointless to reveal reasons like this to the person you’re breaking up with. They’ll want to fix it overnight, but they’ll also never forgive you for pointing out your flaws or weaknesses.
I’m married, wife left me because 1. I wasn’t emotionally available enough and 2. Shes having an identity/purpose in life type crisis she doesn’t want to he known as only my wife but talks to me mostly every day and makes it confusing. Is no contact the move here? I want to fix and work on things but she says doesn’t know what she wants . I tried no contact for a week but it’s hard when she texts and calls me. Do I block her? Feels so selfish because i want to be there for her.
My wife of 10 years did the same thing to me and said the exact same things. We are almost done with the divorce process. I feel for you man. I couldn’t get through to her at all, and now she’s a shell of her former self. I wish you nothing but the best
@@jh_4104 hey, she signed the divorce papers. Idk what I could/can do. I ended up meeting someone new who is amazing. I’d be head over heels if I wasn’t still in pain but I haven’t gotten an inch from my wife. I guess she really just stopped loving me and I can’t change that.
Hi Coach Ken, my girlfriend and I had been together for 5 years. We broke up last July and I had been blocked on all platforms you can think of. After persistence with letters, I got her back but it only lasted 5 more months. My girlfriend left again after a fight just a little over a month ago and I tried being persistent again with voicemails, emails, letters, gifts, bypassing the block. And it led to her changing her number. I’ve tried more letters but nothing and now going full no contact. What can I do? How long should I go no contact now that I’ve pushed her away so far? When can I try again?
Am on mobile now so can't check but im pretty sure he did in the past. If not, Coach Lee have. They have very similar views and work together at times. Suggest you check him out if you haven't. Either way, the main point is to focus on yourself. You can't convince them to unblock you. It will just hurt your goal more. The fact that people block is because they think you will beg and annoy them. Or that they still have feelings in a way, and need to block you to prevent themselves. So its not hopeless. Dont give up. Work on yourself. Do things you always put aside. Even if it's just a tiny goal that takes 5 minutes to do. It will give you a confidence boost that will help you achieve more. And have energy for more.
@@priscillarodrigues7599Good, it's rough, i know.. hang in there! 💫 A block is rarely permanent. Esp if you feel you had something meaningful together.
what if you see this person at a work place ? And she is trying to have a conversation and looks at you all the time trying to get something out of you and is casual about it .Well she addmited she acted poorly but my radar is telling me she's just getting a dose of my attention .Also saying that my tone is negative but im just tired of it the game shes playing . Well she has bpd but i just try to be aloof about it im also very empathetic person i have made a barrier on this but i still feel the hurt in her even though im hurt aswell.Its more like i understand her behavior but i know my selfworth so in the end i agreed we are not compatible by this i probably ruined her perfect game
Also weird part after this im attracting girls even though im not doing anything in the sense that they are orbiting around me when they meet me since the "breakup" of this 2 month situationship maybe im just fed up with the bullshit
Mick - brother at what point do you finally get offended by the BS and stand up for yourself. Love you like a brother by send her packing at least in your own mind and go find someone who will respect your investment.
İt really depends on the personality of the dumper. After my break up i went into no contact and after 1.5 weeks later she texted me but she was giving me mixed signals and didn't really know what she wanted so after a few days of talking i couldn't stand this uncertanity and this time i cut off contact. My point is it definitely works for pulling that person back to you but it doesn't guarantee you to continue a healthy relationship with them
I'm hurting 💔 I fell in love with a man who told me that he was seeing other women. He slept with other women, He actively talked to several other women. I told him I was in love with him. He didn't reciprocate that sentiment. I talked to you and hung out with another man despite being in love. I had sex with the other man. The man that I have fallen in love with found out about it told me that it hurt him badly and wanted to break up. I love this man. Why the double standards why can he have an open relationship but wants me to be faithful 😢 I decided that it was unreasonable and resolved to not contact him. He has after wanting to break up....repeatedly told me how much he loves me I know in my soul that we are meant for each other. 😢😢 No contact, some contact I am devastated and confused
Sorry man, I'm finding you waffle on too much. I completely tuned out because you tried way too hard to set the scene. Try to be more succinct. This is meant to be Positive criticism and definitely not personal
To all the people wanting ex’s back. I got my wife back for her to leave me in 2020 height of Covid and move in with another man 2 months later. Fuck them all. I’ve been single ever since. If they leave let them. No contact just to get rid of the.
I've blown up her phone and done all the wrong things, 3 months since the breakup up I'm not going no contact I am moving on, trust me guys calling her or texting isn't gonna fix anything, they dumped you let them go, trust me please I don't want y'all to go through the pain I have and am going through.
Most people (including myself) have chased after a breakup - don't beat yourself up for it, but regaining your own sense of worth enough to walk away is very empowering - even if its an up and down sense of strength for a while you do pull out of it wiser and stronger with some time, I promise you.
dude we aint even wasting time chasing down any 304 that jets...instant block..
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
You doing ok?
Unfriend them from social media. Start working on you. Heartbreak is the best motivator. Who cares what there doing. Otta sight outta mind. Focus on your happiness and the right one will come. I was dumped after 5 years outta no where. Look at it as you guys got to expierice some of life's joys and learn on what not to do in your next relationship relationship.
Some say a new theory.
It´s not about finding the "compatible" partner., like finding the "puzzle" piece that matches, your preferences
but to become "compatible" partner during the process
I guess
Maybe people have to focus on the rhythm of the relationship,
- when partner is relaxing, I will focus on my stuff,
-when I am relaxing, my partner will do his stuff,
- when partner is having free time, we do things together etc
Empathy and gratitude is a key as well.
and maybe its about focusing your mind and energy on things that work well, rather then focusing all the energy on weak spots that dont work.
and later the weak spots disapear naturally, because couple focuses on things that work for them
That is why intelligent people and musicians of classical music, have successful relationships, because they understand the word feeling is a healling, music is feeling, music is healing......they understand the words "physics" "quantum physics" etc , they understand strategic thinking without judging , they understand team work, synergy etc
I am an official CSI. I did it the last time too. I sat home and created there fantasy timeline all the way to there marriage. Pure obsession and here I am again. I have no self worth and I have so much fear and I am very co dependent. What’s weird is the beginning of the relationship I knew it was not going to work. I didn’t even think he was right for me. But I sold myself out and spent 4 years pretending and hiding the pain of severe verbal abuse. I can’t even organize the pieces of myself I sacrificed. My worth was never there but it was enough to get this toxic person to completely destroy me. When will I no contact myself. I need to get me back.
Ken, I messed up. I contacted his friend to ask how my ex was doing (he doesn’t post, I haven’t seen or heard from him in a year). Of course his friend hasn’t divulged ANY info. I asked him to put me out of my misery and tell me if he was seeing someone. Nothing. Now I feel worse. Guys, don’t do this
Don't be too hard on yourself - very normal when the anxiety gets intense. It doesn't mean there's no chance now
Thank you for pulling Mick out of that very dark place. You are doing great work.
This video got me so emotional. My ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago and this has been the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through.I’ve had those dark moments where i just didn’t want to be alive. Every day is an uphill battle and I just don’t know how to get out of it. I feel like nothing without him
..the answer of why she left you is in the statement where you are thinking to unalive yourself..she aint the issue, you are...
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
@@archangelelmo i actually broke no contact more than I’d like to admit, but we’re actually back together ☺️ it took about 3 months
Do NOT stay in contact with any family members or friends. I did this and messed up because eventually it will get back to your ex. The father told me he wouldn't say anything and eventually did and it cost me 2 months of no contact. DONT DO IT
Yep.. I had lunch with my exes Mom.. it backfired on me big time!
Sorry but how would you feel if one of your exes that you broke up with because you Wana move on, was in contact with close family?!
Had an ex who would atill message my sister, i wasn't happy at all about it! It's unfair to family as they don't wanna be rude either but they are put in the middle.
So true
I have such a good relationship with the family and we work at the same place and same department!! helppp ;( my ex is also working at same company but at different office ;(
SILENCE IS DIGNITY
Amen
Great video! I understand Mic's point of view. I put my ex on too big of a pedestal as well. We are both attractive, my ex and I. If anything I could do better but still I wanted to show her fully committed love.
It didn't work, she left me still even though I treated her better than anyone ever did. Lesson learned.
Now I watch these videos to be prepared IF I want her back. But I'm doing the work to the point im questioning whether I want her back.
Great to see you posting again Ken! What a good and relatable story. Sometimes nothing throws us off in life more than a relationship falling apart.
I see everyone’s comments on here and it’s heartbreaking in itself. You all deserve so much more than the pain you’re feeling at the hands of someone you love. I think you all deserve to make your own decisions of course and Ken is such a gentle and guiding voice through this tough time. Remember that they threw you away though. You are NO ONES trash but you ARE someone’s treasure. Until you find them (ex or not) remember that life is drawing ever closer to a close with each passing day. Every time you idealize them or reminisce start making new pathways to remind yourself that THEY broke a promise to you. Replace that with a promise to yourself that YOU are just as much a prize as you esteem them to be. Listen to Ken, look at reality from a brutally honest prism, and feel everything deeply. If you don’t you will begin to act out of character and that would be the biggest betrayal of all.
depends on your situation. I had an amazing girlfriend but I messed up because I had a horrible year and fell into depression so neglected her for 1 full year. at which point she left me, which I cant blame her for. I'd want her back tho since now I'm a lot better. not sure if that will happen tho.
Coach Ken... I needed this. My name is Nick, funny enough. But I am Mick almost to the T. So similar in what she said. The dark limerence. I'm doing pretty rough. I needed this.
I understand, it's difficult to stay off social media. I found a solution. I signed up on alternative social media platforms that my ex isn't on. I can interact with it to my heart's content without getting triggered by news of my ex. This makes it way easier to maintain radio silence on the platform that I do share with my ex.
Mick did not give her the gift of missing him! First rule of Love: Don't put her on a pedestal!
I'm Mick. All that you described is me. How he's feeling, how he's thinking, how he's acting, how he's struggling.... Yeah. I needed this video.
Stay strong! Let me know if you want to talk or if I can be of any use realcoachken.com
the only get you should be getting is money and fresh box...no getting up in feelings allowed dude...thats why she left you...
This spoke to me on so many levels, it’s almost like you told my story. I needed to find this video and thankful that I did. That same story was me 2-3 years ago and then he came back but he has gone again. I have stuck to the no contact except I keep checking his socials and I did it the whole time so to still feel connected. I hold onto that pain because that is the only thing that keeps me connected to him. There is still hope but I have to get it right for me. Even though I never pushed my agenda or speak of the past as I felt I wasn’t ready but was just happy he was back in my life and I tried to do everything possible to not drive him away it still happened. I have got to the stage of excepting that might be it and want to move on. I am 40 in a couple of months and he was the only man I truly loved. No one has ever come close and I’ve been broken up with before and moved on but this one changed me. Sometimes I am in the mind set that I honestly don’t think I want to be with anyone else and I’m ok with being alone. Not because I can’t bare the thought of going through another failed relationship. I just feel he was my big love with all his flaws, the unconditional love I have for him can’t be matched or will I settle just to be with someone because I’m sometimes lonely. I’m not sure what stage I am at. I have excepted that I won’t be a mum to my own biological children obviously their is other plans for me. This life for me is one of learning if I want to believe in reincarnation or this is just the cards I have been dealt with. Anyone who is younger and is going through this. Please listen to this video I wish I had heard this years ago.
I’m 40. I’d date you and treat you right.
I hope you find the person who will complete you, we all deserve to be loved. Don’t give up.🙏🙏
Love that, "That's what you should be saying about God." Literally!! I started getting more into my Bible after my breakup, and I had the epiphany that I had been idolizing my ex like a false idol. I gave more time to him than God. It's crazy how relationships can envelop us so much, that we forget to give time to who actually matters. Ourselves and God ❤
Very happy for you! God pulled me from the brink more than once - I finally started learning how to love someone without worshipping them as a God replacement.
@@CoachKen make a video on this
@clair.Elliott are you still in nc?
@@Chun_Leroy girrlll... He and I are done forever. We recently saw one another, found out he lied, then he said some racist stuff.... There's just no going back. My advice: when you're going through a tough time, balance out the distractions with reading your Bible 🧡 God is the one we should be obsessed with. We never have to be in no contact with him. Ladies, we have to stop casting our pearls before swine!!!
The hardest part of all this is you can know all this, and listen to what he's saying but your heart is telling you everythings different.
1000% - Understanding can lessen the agony - but its still agony
wish i could thumbs up this a million times
Grateful for the one - thanks Denzil!
Wow!!! Best video I’ve watched in a long time! I have an apt set up with you! Thank you for this!
All i can say is after multiple breakups over the years i got used to breakups 80 percent of them came back but itll be up to u to decide but honestly u gotta work on yourself and become an even more badass version of ur self if ur not in shape nows the time to workout and transform also work on new skills to up your financials
Conclusion: you can't make a woman happy, so don't bother trying. She'll even leave Superman eventually.
I agree to a point - I'd say it this way - I like trying to make the woman I love happy - I just refuse to make her happiness in all things and in all ways my responsibility.
@@mountainman88 little sexist, but ok.
True though @@nafafonafafofo
Micks ex just didn’t respect him & was told from someone, somewhere, that she could better & suspect another guy with a better job probably not with the same intentions as him, because when we woman start contradicting ourselves we just don’t want to be and the more the person tries to make us happy the more we take the piss if we are toxic,. I hope nick heals & finds someone who appreciates him, he deserves better.
Wow thank you so much for this. I keep getting praised and given affirmation since the breakup, and my ex literally was saying nothing but nice things about me as she broke up with me. Andyet it has hit me like a ton of bricks! Killed my sense of self esteem. Suddenly, it's like all these positive traits, and it wasn't enough.
In the long term when you break up its always the best thing. No Contact just helps the process along love it!
Wished I had some of this advice when I was in my 20s and even 30s. I did everything wrong after a break up. Nowadays I slice and dice, any hint of not wanting my presence or attention is pretty much adios, and I’m out. It’s painful like a kick to the nads painful but eventually it fades. My good buddy is going through a break up and I’ve tried giving him a little advice about no contact and blah blah. And yup, he did exactly what most do, chase after and try to be “logical” and convince her to give him another chance. It’s been a month and she hasn’t come back. I don’t want to be insensitive and blast him over it but I’m really biting my tongue. It’s a mistake to try to fix anyone’s relationship, so hey, he’ll have to figure it out on his own. This much I know, the exes who really hurt me hit the wall around the age of 35, and I wouldn’t touch them w a ten foot pole. And forget about their mental state, they’re more damaged and physically unappealing. Cheers.
Hey Coach my friend tried to book another session but hasn't heard back, check your email buddy! She told me how much you helped her in your 1st session. You had her rolling on the floor, laughing sooo hard after he had stuck a painful knife through her heart. She hasn't been crying over him at all like she was before she talked to you. She's so beautiful but doesn't even know it and he's a class A Moron!!!!!
Great video Ken. I am a “Mick” and I’m currently going through what he did. I’m basically cyber stalking my ex while trying to maintain no contact. It’s a very dark place and I feel so ashamed of myself for being so obsessive over her. I just don’t know how to break free from it.
make a long list of her faults and review it multiple times daily. Make another list of your gifts and strengths - review it daily multiple times. Don't fight the feeling when you miss her - embrace it. It only proves you were sincere and feel things deeply. No shame there - but don't let the anxiety talk you into "fighting for her" - not an effective way to rebuild attraction
wow that sucks that you refuse to have self control...thats seriously estrogenic...
You are amazing …. So happy I found you and your wisdom.
the only reason i am handling this break up is that the relationship was filling me with anxiety from day 1. i don't even feel like seeing him. nobody is worth death or poverty.
This is so me the anxiety day 1 didn't feel right yet 3 years later and I lost my soul my money and me 😢I feel horrible I hate me
@free2bme604 I've been stuck 3 years too. Feeling hurt and defeated. Lost self esteem. I need to move and get a job. Didn't work the entire time I was with him.
Hey Coach! I booked a session with you a month ago. It was really helpful. At the end you said you would send me a personal email and if I booked another session you could move me up in the line. I really need to speak to you and get some advice asap. I never got the email so I'm hoping you see this comment and get back to me. Things have gotten way weirder and I could really use some help.
Great video, you’ve got a lot of heart
The Best video that you have Ever put out!! Thank you my coach ❤
Doing the NO Contact and I'm worried how or if my x will respond or go through the normal phases. He is very immature, has an very messed relationship with his mother, extreme PTSD from his father's suicude which created deep guilt that his mom is alone. She uses this and is manipulative. Not my x is a 53 year old man thst lives with his mom, owes a car, bounces between jobs every 2 years.
Me....I'm an ICU Nurse for the past 20 years, own my home and car and I'm very steady. He always seemed amazed that I picked him and never could understand why. I tried to explain to him that he should feel relief that I am with him because of his heart and not what he has. I don't need him to financially support me....I just want him to be with me and by my side. I chose him because he is the sweetest, goofy nerd that brings out the silly side in me.
No clue what to do. We had a disagreement 3 weeks ago, I apologized in a text and told him I do love him that day.
No response.
We both handle anxiety different.
He goes into flight mode while I go into fight mode. I yell when I'm afraid and he runs. Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Details matter so please let me know if you schedule a session at realcoachken.com and I can try to move you up to discuss more in depth, but based on limited info here I'd say that relationship with his mother and the trauma from the past with his dad can definitely create some disorders or significant challenges with someone. Covert narcs come from the kind of circumstance you describe. Past trauma, controlling mother, unusual closeness to that mother, emotional punishment if he displeases her - don't get locked in on being his savior. If you apologized and let him know you're still there then give him no contact and allow him to have a sense of loss. Eventually being in that unhealthy relationship with his mom will wear him down and very likely make him miss you and the potential life he could have with you - but right now more chasing will more than likely cause him to not feel the sense of loss you need him to feel.
Though your target audience seems to be men, I watch your content still.
My ex didn't exactly break up with me but wanted to just slow down our communication and that I should have a lower expectation on the possibility of getting back together. He said he loved me but not on the same level as I did. When we fought it slowly killed his love for me, his words.
I thought we could still chat because he didn't say we couldn't but just not a lot but it's been 9 days and I sent the last message. Was it wrong to assume he wants me to just leave him alone? Should I talk to him? I am so much in pain from this. Please advice on what I need to do?
Hi Ken, still waiting on clean slate with punch template after our call, sorry to comment on here but have sent a couple of emails with further context etc. It’s the army dude w BPD partner
Listened to 13 minutes of this up to the point where Mick asks the ex if he wants his new roommate to move out. I can see why this woman lost attraction to him. He is a simp. A secure man wouldn't be chasing after this insecure, uncertain, conflicting, wishy-washy woman. Secure people usually don't want to be in insecure relationships with insecure people.
I've tried to stick to no contact, but my ex reaches out every now and then and I do respond, but she doesn't always really engage. And when I reach out it almost seems to have the effect of repelling her. She won't talk on the phone but says I can text her. It's starting to feel like she is just keeping me around to make her feel good about herself, or to keep me as some sort of backup plan. Maybe it's in how I've been responding? Maybe she can tell that I've kept her at the center of my desires? Should I start ignoring her? Or should I maybe change how I respond and stop projecting my love, hope and desire.
I'd give her longer no contact and when she texts you don't respond in a way that makes it seem like you're excited for the honor of hearing from her - let her work to get your attention if she's started taking it and you for granted
I think I'm moving on but there's still a voice inside that says how can you forget her? Almost 90 days hard no contact. The relationship was great just small fight and poof, she called it off. Logic says it isn't going to be great if we get back now, but the heart is adamant. 😢
Don't go by numbers....She could be back after 120 days... 150 days......but until or if that happens, work on you my brother.
I appreciate the help Ken. But im at the end can't live like this
Mine blocked me since oct... :( i still cry and miss him
just rizz up another dude..your ex aint sh't
Coach Ken, it’s been almost 2 months. I have stayed no contact, but she has deleted me on facebook and Instagram, but I still have her on tik tok. And lately she has shared a couple things about “How we can never be again” And realizing being alone is better. What do I make of this?
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
Thank you for this video! Your videos are amazing ❤
@Coach Ken Is it still effective "No Contact" if I see her everyday at work? We do not talk. And it's been 15 months now. Do I need to quit in order for it to really be No Contact? I don't have any of her social medias or even her cell number.
Holy shit! Swap roles this is my current ex. He told me I needed space to find myself again.
Could you make a video about ADHD breakups and why we keep false self diagnosing and looking for disorders
I do have one on ADHD but plan to make more soon.
I am probably on the verge of a divorce with my wife of 22 years. I have put together an exit plan. I have talked with my former boss ,about getting back my old job (She hate). Have a gym membership (which made her jealous) Basically Im taking back everything ,I gave up for her. If Im working on being better, and no contact. Im sure she will come back around. She is BPD I'm not sure I will go back. I still love her , so Im not sure I won't .
With the girl that broke up with me around 3 weeks ago it was similar, mutual breakup, not going to lie it hurts so so much, even when seeing new girls I think about her, but I accept things. I wouldn’t speak bad about her I have so much respect for her, I don’t want to get back with her but it hurts to be without her.
She sent me a message a week after the breakup asking if we’d like to possibly get back together in June once she graduates and I did say I was open to the idea but also I’m not going to wait for her. I told her if she contacts me again in less than a month I’m going to block her number, I already unfollowed her on everything but it’s not easy.
Got no words...realy...im on the nc for the last few weeks...and the ex starts to sniff my websites...
My ex Narcissist left and said not to ever contact her again. After that, I have gone no contact. It's been 2 1/2 months. Will she still contact me again?
Yes, they more than likely will "Hoover" you, but it's not for the genuine reason that they miss you as a person. They miss the supply/fuel you gave them. It's usually very short-lived, and you end up even more hurt than before. Trust me on that. Hang in there and stay no contact if she's truly a narcissist.
she has found a new victim. don't let her back once she hoovered back
Nope. She's gone man. Chin up, shoulders back and move on. You got this. Day by day.
Coach ken, it’s been 3 months of no contact with my ex boyfriend. He has the “completer or defender” mentality that you mentioned in another video where your ex is non confrontational and is a good guy. Do you think I should be the one to break no contact with him since I haven’t heard from him yet?
i would like to know that too....mine is like that. he dont want stress so i dont know if he would ask me back even if he wants....
After 3 and a half years I got dumped because she lost attraction for me. She drew away and ended the relationship. I believe she's seeing someone else and went into dark limerence.I almost did a thing on the phone with her. She talked me down. I got therapy from the VA. Please get help if this happens. I'm in N.C. right now and she'll have to miss me. I believe that she might but I have to work on me.
Im in this situation 😢💔
This sounds a lot like narcissistic abuse...
Thank you Jason
@coachken- if she's still with another guy but constantly says hi to me and comes up to me about once a week or so at the gym and then bread crumbed and reached out to me for 4-5 months post break up- offered friendship after that- I respectfully declined- then blocked me, to unblock me and had a nice night together at a friends party, yet on Monday came up to me at the gym asking about me even though she's with another guy.... how to I proceed to draw her in and actually have her end that relationship with that guy
I'd pull back a bit - let her initiate and don't respond with so much that she gets the idea she can keep you on the side
Brilliant video Coach Ken, thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you for the kind words!
I am doing no contact and my ex is not stopping contact so I am ghosting him and feel terrible, he is begging me to break the silence and wants to stay in my life as friends and still wants me to talk to him and hang out. I don't want that at least till I'm over him but I would still take him back. Not sure how to proceed.
Same exact situation.
Im in that situation too, exept im she and its him who wanted to break things off😅
why does my ex keep blocking/unblocking even 6 months after and she came up to me at the gym yesterday and we had a pleasent talk
safe way to get your attention without admitting she's struggling to not think about you
because she knows you are a lil beta boy that she can play like a game of poker
Women drive me insane sometimes.
GO TO THERAPY, PEOPLE!
Gross
Coach Ken, my ex broke things off after a month. She said things moved faster than she realized, was going through a lot, and didn't think she could be in a relationship right now. I said that I understood but wanted to talk in person, she agreed and said that would be good. Because of this, i never really got to say that I'm okay with taking things slower, saying how much i care and wanted to support her through her tough times.
Would it be a mistake to reach out and ask to talk in person? It's been a week. Won't lie, i really miss her, and that's why i want to reach out, but i also think that i might regret not trying to have that conversation? What are usually your thoughts on this?
.at least you didnt wife it up..or you would be losing assets..quit sipping on the estrogen milk shakes and put some bass in your voice dude
I desperately need some advice. I'm devastated. I just ended my 13 years of relationship. 6 years ago, she cheated on me. She was seeing someone behind my back and it lasted 2 years but halted when one of her friend snitchrd on her. At that time, I'm so broken but I still forgave her, because the pain is unbearable. Yeah I'm stupid, i know. But she "changed". She just focus on me and our relationship. To the point that we're engaged. But last week, She's just different, I just glimpsed to her phone that she's chatting with someone. I asked who it was but she won't Iet me see it. She became this witch that she will fight for it just to not let me see it. I snapped and memories of her infidelity came rushing back to me. I then decided that we should break up. Then after 2 days, she texted me and she said that it was just their groupchat of her friends but her ex is on that gc and she just don't want me to get angry. What am I gonna do?
My ex's mom sometimes comments on my stories.
Well my no contact started 5 days ago and she just contacted me. WTH?
I see my ex every other day at the gym during no contact and not sure how to act or what to do, we met here
go to another gym or train in the park..there are easy solutions but you beta dudes are some victims..
Only reason why i would wanna find out what my ex is doing. Is to figure whether or not relationship coaches are full of BS.
But that cant let go bit. Is it normal or good to put a particular aspect of your life on hold if they werent there? Like i cant imagine doing a particular thing without a life partner.
how do you handle no contact if someone broke up with you because they had to move away? like we are still friends and on good terms we just aren't together because of the distance.
You have to first give them the break up. If you remain friend you are essentially on the porch camping out.
They can have their cake and eat it.
Instead of “Mick” fixating and going into dark limerence, he should have gotten counseling and maybe medication. That woman might have seen a future with him as consisting of having to watch other women throw themselves at Mick, especially knowing that her own looks would fade before his. Either way, she either wasn’t ready for commitment, or figured it was only a matter of time before it was him that pulled the plug on the relationship, and this was a test of sorts. I don’t believe in playing with a man’s heart. On some level she wanted to see if he would crash and burn from the breakup. Him getting a female roommate showed extremely poor judgment. If a woman breaks up with you she always has reasons. Maybe you’re a tightwad, maybe there’s a degree of insensitivity or inadequacy in the bedroom, maybe your eyes wandered too many times, maybe you talked to your mother or sister or brother or father or somebody way too long on the phone. Any or all of that was a future she didn’t want. It’s pointless to reveal reasons like this to the person you’re breaking up with. They’ll want to fix it overnight, but they’ll also never forgive you for pointing out your flaws or weaknesses.
I’m married, wife left me because 1. I wasn’t emotionally available enough and 2. Shes having an identity/purpose in life type crisis she doesn’t want to he known as only my wife but talks to me mostly every day and makes it confusing. Is no contact the move here? I want to fix and work on things but she says doesn’t know what she wants . I tried no contact for a week but it’s hard when she texts and calls me. Do I block her? Feels so selfish because i want to be there for her.
most of you dudes are spilling yur guts out, but already know the answer..block that b'tch and never marry ever again...
My wife of 10 years did the same thing to me and said the exact same things. We are almost done with the divorce process. I feel for you man. I couldn’t get through to her at all, and now she’s a shell of her former self. I wish you nothing but the best
@@jh_4104 hey, she signed the divorce papers. Idk what I could/can do. I ended up meeting someone new who is amazing. I’d be head over heels if I wasn’t still in pain but I haven’t gotten an inch from my wife. I guess she really just stopped loving me and I can’t change that.
I met someone new too but she just broke up with me last month. Can’t seem to catch a break.
@@jh_4104 just don’t force it , it will come
Hi Coach Ken, my girlfriend and I had been together for 5 years. We broke up last July and I had been blocked on all platforms you can think of. After persistence with letters, I got her back but it only lasted 5 more months. My girlfriend left again after a fight just a little over a month ago and I tried being persistent again with voicemails, emails, letters, gifts, bypassing the block. And it led to her changing her number. I’ve tried more letters but nothing and now going full no contact. What can I do? How long should I go no contact now that I’ve pushed her away so far? When can I try again?
Non contact until she contact you, it's the only solution. Live your life, meet another girls.
@@PeterTosh123, I agree, that's right！
Deep............
Mic jaguar?
Yeah well I wasn’t planning on falling for you
Gee I would date Nick......and I am old fashioned and believe in love.
coach ken pls do a video if they unfriended you and restricted you on social media?
Am on mobile now so can't check but im pretty sure he did in the past. If not, Coach Lee have. They have very similar views and work together at times. Suggest you check him out if you haven't. Either way, the main point is to focus on yourself. You can't convince them to unblock you. It will just hurt your goal more. The fact that people block is because they think you will beg and annoy them. Or that they still have feelings in a way, and need to block you to prevent themselves. So its not hopeless. Dont give up. Work on yourself. Do things you always put aside. Even if it's just a tiny goal that takes 5 minutes to do. It will give you a confidence boost that will help you achieve more. And have energy for more.
yes thanks im doing that
@@justinkantner
@@priscillarodrigues7599Good, it's rough, i know.. hang in there! 💫 A block is rarely permanent. Esp if you feel you had something meaningful together.
thst vid would be 5 seconds..'called move the fck on nga'
It sounds like this breakup was about her, not Mic.
WhT if u see them in the gym regularly
what if you see this person at a work place ? And she is trying to have a conversation and looks at you all the time trying to get something out of you and is casual about it .Well she addmited she acted poorly but my radar is telling me she's just getting a dose of my attention .Also saying that my tone is negative but im just tired of it the game shes playing . Well she has bpd but i just try to be aloof about it im also very empathetic person i have made a barrier on this but i still feel the hurt in her even though im hurt aswell.Its more like i understand her behavior but i know my selfworth so in the end i agreed we are not compatible by this i probably ruined her perfect game
Also weird part after this im attracting girls even though im not doing anything in the sense that they are orbiting around me when they meet me since the "breakup" of this 2 month situationship maybe im just fed up with the bullshit
Mick - brother at what point do you finally get offended by the BS and stand up for yourself. Love you like a brother by send her packing at least in your own mind and go find someone who will respect your investment.
no contact does Not work to get them back.
How long have you been in no contact?
of course it won't work if they find someone else and they are in the honeymoon phase. please don't let them come back if they cheated on you
İt really depends on the personality of the dumper. After my break up i went into no contact and after 1.5 weeks later she texted me but she was giving me mixed signals and didn't really know what she wanted so after a few days of talking i couldn't stand this uncertanity and this time i cut off contact. My point is it definitely works for pulling that person back to you but it doesn't guarantee you to continue a healthy relationship with them
I'm hurting 💔
I fell in love with a man who told me that he was seeing other women. He slept with other women, He actively talked to several other women.
I told him I was in love with him. He didn't reciprocate that sentiment.
I talked to you and hung out with another man despite being in love.
I had sex with the other man.
The man that I have fallen in love with found out about it told me that it hurt him badly and wanted to break up.
I love this man. Why the double standards why can he have an open relationship but wants me to be faithful 😢
I decided that it was unreasonable and resolved to not contact him.
He has after wanting to break up....repeatedly told me how much he loves me
I know in my soul that we are meant for each other.
😢😢
No contact, some contact
I am devastated and confused
Going thru this right now. It sucks. It really is sad and lonely.
Its been since jan we split...but day 0 of no contact...
And shes with another guy since December!
I need help please!
Can I get Mickes telefonnumer? lol
Sorry man, I'm finding you waffle on too much. I completely tuned out because you tried way too hard to set the scene. Try to be more succinct. This is meant to be Positive criticism and definitely not personal
this aint the entertain donsmy show..stop b'tching and find a vid that you can relate to or jog on to another channel
To all the people wanting ex’s back. I got my wife back for her to leave me in 2020 height of Covid and move in with another man 2 months later. Fuck them all. I’ve been single ever since. If they leave let them. No contact just to get rid of the.