The guy who lied that OP was going to homecoming with him has a bright, bright future ahead of him as the lovely guy in the neighbourhood who everyone suddenly learns one day has been abusing his wife.
Naw.. Outta all the other guys in the video, he had his shit on straight. And clearly an intellectual to boot. As well as charismatic enough to get all the friends to believe him over her (people will typically take the girl's side, 9/10). Good actor to boot. TBH, the dude is probably a politician now. Besides, how many women have ruined men's reputations just because she didn't like the guy (the number of false rape accusations alone..)?
@@sizlax Except ppl don't take the girl's side unless they can make it into the "damsel" narrative. But people (especially men) will always turn quick on girls when it comes to ANYTHING related to relationships/sex/etc. Hence why Metoo, feminism, women's rights acts, violence against women acts, the fact that femicide even exist. Oh, right, and the literal fucking video you just watched, one of literally thousands. And you. You praise the fucker who did that shit. It's NOT uncommon. It's very, very common, and it's also why the fuck 90% of rapists DON'T get convicted. Because people don't fucking believe women. For a demonstration to those reading this: This person whom I am talk to, will not believe my words, a woman, despite the actual data and history and this video behind it.
I’ve been there, wondering what I’m doing wrong and what I can change about myself to make people like me. My life changed the day I stopped doing things based on others opinions and started living the life I wanted. Trust me, if you’re doing hobbies or activities you actually enjoy, you will find you like who you become and people will respond to your positive energy.
My mom’s a therapist and she says that all of her clients who have severe mental illnesses don’t believe they have a problem. Meanwhile patients who don’t and believe they are crazy usually aren’t. So I think you’re good
Just as a general rule, dont hit on a girl in settings where she cant easily & safely escape the situation. Examples being: • while she's in a car with you • while shes doing her job / behind the counter talking to customers • while shes using public transport • while shes in your house • while you're in the office together etc etc. Just in general, dont treat busy people like your own personal captive audience.
i vote to add "during class" to this list. I had a guy in one of my classes who had a history of sexual harassment, and i obviouly couldn't leave when he was being a creep. Luckily i was moving to another school anyways.
This. I’ve had a few guys try to hit on me while at work and it stressed me out bad because I knew I couldn’t leave. Please leave female workers alone. It’s not the place for flirting or asking for phone numbers.
@@Kate-is5mz It's equally horrible how men have to explain BASIC rules of being a respectable human being, to women. Like, not telling men how much they mean to you, and how much you love them, as final messages before ghosting them, and screwing them over psychologically, then wondering why so many men are psychologically fucked.. It's like going to a neighborhood store, twisting the caps off a buncha things and spitting in them, then putting the caps back on, but then getting upset when you go to purchase something, and it's got someone's spit in it.. Despite what popular politics tells you on facebook, and suggested RUclips videos, women aren't the only ones suffering from ignorance on the other side of the gene pool. Edit: just for the record, the woman that did this to me, was online-only situation, so she was in no way 'trapped'. She could have told me how she really felt, and I encouraged her to do so (in a kind and patient manner).
@@Kate-is5mz No, my bad, it's all men's fault. Apologies milady! I forgot my place underneath your boot. Seriously though, it's both gender's fault. But the men's side is seldom heard since feminazis tell us to shut up whenever we have an opinion. On top of the fact that we're raised not to be open about our emotions or feelings, and only to express anger, and never be too happy or you're 'gay'. Then they try to chalk that BS up to "biology", despite the fact that I'm far more maternal than my mother ever was. I'm just saying, there's a lot of misconceptions, and I've had a shitload of.. mostly bad experiences with women (that I've been nothing but genuinely nice towards). So if I can recognize that both sides have issues, then so should you. Just to clarify my stance within the context of these comments, there's no misconception about the actual issues that women are going through, so your comment wasn't really needed. It was purely inflammatory, and logistically the equivalent of tossing a glass of tears into the ocean. In closing, before you start going off about socalled privilege/patriarchy. I'm physically unattractive, got nasally speech(strongly stigmatized as being a feature of the mentally handicapped), not close to rich, and went most of my life with undiagnosed autism, and grew up mostly abused, neglected, and unloved, so yea, even if those fancy titles you like to give to men are accurate for some men, I am in no way, shape, or form, in that category of men.
If you are in the front seat of a car and you realise you are being abducted by the driver, your best chance is to pull the handbrake in a corner or yank the steering wheel - yes of course you'll cause a car crash, but it's a better option than going to the second location, and your chances of becoming a meat fleshlight will decrease dramatically.
Yeah my mom told me about this she also told me that if I’m driving and get hijacked or something crashed but make sure I lean back and aim for the passager seat more so that I wouldn’t get hurt.
7:29 That also confuses me so much. That happened to me once as well - a guy approached me and asked for my number. When I told him I had a partner, he flat out told me he doesn't believe me and I must be lying. As if it were completely impossible that if he found me attractive enough to approach me some other guy might find me attractive enough to be in a relationship with me? What the heck?
@ShutmonMayhem Neo see I think that becomes an issues because one if we're in a relationship I want you to care more about yourself than me and vice versa. I need to know that if I hurt you or did something wrong you would tell me so I can correct it. Also "nice guys" would throw me off because I'm genuinely wondering why you are so nice? What's the catch...I'm waiting for you to switch up on me. That's my own trust issues coming out, but I think that's the reason why people dont typically like "nice guys"
That second one was ridiculous cause so many of OP's friends just went along with the Nice Guy and didn't even try and get OP's story over the whole situation. Like, do some people not get both sides of a story before tkaing sides? The gas station one made me lol a bit. The way he was acting was like out of some super cheesy teenage movie/book.
I know this is a whole year after your comment, but unfortunately, you'd be surprised with how many people do that. I'm in college atm and one of my male friends came to me and explained that it seemed like everyone in our social circle was cutting him off with no explanation and that he needed the emotional support of the group because a new girl to our friend group had taken advantage of him while he was drunk. Apparently, I was one of the few people who hadn't cut him off or treated him differently. Turns out, the girl who took advantage of him when he was drunk while she was stone cold sober went around telling everyone else in the circle a totally different story except for me because I had seen her throw herself on him on many occasions despite him having a girlfriend and her knowing of this because he spoke up and because she went out of her way to contact his gf in the past. When I spoke up about how everyone in our friend circle was treating our buddy like shit without even hearing his side of events out, their response to me was "Don't get mad at us because we're not the origin of this story of events. You need to apologize for being so aggressive to us." It's safe to say they aren't my friends anymore and I didn't apologize because I had no reason to, but I've come to the realization that a lot of people won't get both sides of stories to not step on toes so to speak.
The fact NOBODY bothered to corroborate what he said to her shows just how much they really truly cared. The real kicker is that they still did not even ask her side after she “stood him up”. They just assumed she knew. Those “friends” are just as guilty as that “nice guy”.
@@firefly3003 THAT’S FUCKING HORRIBLE!! I wish I could say I couldn’t believe it but unfortunately the world is like this. I hope your friend is okay people should believe male rape victims exist
Creep with the butter knife. Do NOT discount a butter knife as a weapon. I've seen one sharpened in just a few minutes to where the owner then SHAVED with it.
Theres plenty to choose from but the ones that stand out: 1. Went on a blind date with a guy, it went well but he brought his pyjamas and a sleeping bag with him because he "assumed he would stay over". I told him he assumed wrong and im going home. He said he'd walk me back but i didnt want him to so he followed me home saying "i dont understand why you dont trust me im a nice guy". Not nice enough to respect my boundaries. 2. A guy I was just "seeing" threw a genuinely terrifying hissy fit when i didnt realise when hed changed his mind and wanted a relationship with me (wed just been F-buddies up until then). 3. A male friend invited me to a house party at his and all our mutual friends would be there. I turned up and it was dinner with just me, him and his parents and they referred to me as "his new girl". I was uncomfortable but didnt want to be rude so i acted pally with him and asked to go home. After not hearing from him for weeks i started seeing someone and began receiving death threats from him and our mutual friends that i led him on. Apparently he was entitled to me because hes a "nice guy" while i had no idea he even liked me! I hardly knew him we only had a short chat and that was enough for him to start calling me his gf. Wtf.
i had a dude who i had no idea even liked me end up getting super aggressive because i didn’t want to sit with him before his next class for 2 hours, instead of going home and writing my essay that was due that week
@@tylerstewart3181 psychopaths thinks that they have right to other people because they see every one that isn't bether then as inferiore beings, and depending in where they are on the scale may literally throw someone under the buss if they feel they deserved it or if you are in there way. Nice guys is just entitled "kids" in a grown man's body and they can grow out of it, psychopathy is permenent.
It's a term for people who believe they are entitled to someone's love because they believe they're a nice person. Normally once they don't get that love or relationship they're looking for they say something similar to "I'm so nice, girls always go for bad guys but never us good guys who will actually love you and gift you things and give you the best relationship of your life". So it's normally used in place of calling someone a douche.
This happened few years ago on Steam. I met a guy and after having some nice time chatting he sent me a friend request. Since I didn’t have any friends on Steam and was pretty desperate I accepted it. But as soon as he found out I was a girl he got very romantic with me. He would ask very personal questions like where I live, which school I went to and how I looked, which made me very uncomfortable. When I finally mustered up the courage and told him straight-up that I wasn’t interested in him he got really pissy, throwing insults and being all like “you’re breaking my heart”. I ended up blocking him and have never heard of him since. And this is the second time I encountered someone who quickly got romantic with me the moment I told them I was a girl. If this is all they do I might aswell say my gender is attack helicopter.
This is always the case in social media unfortunately. Guys online always get turned on once they realize they're talking to a girl who they don't know but only care about the fact she's a "girl." This is also a huge advantage for catfishing. Personally, I've befriended female friends and end up liking one of them but I understand that by making her uncomfortable I lose the friendship. Sometimes guys joke around with females and do make romantic or sex jokes, so you can just ignore them. But when they ask you personal questions, block them immediately.
once canceled a date with a guy i thought i really liked. it was cold and rainy and the closest bus stop to my house was a 40 min walk away BEFORE the ride. he started getting upset and said "i forgot you only like f*ckbois and not nice guys" and i almost broke my brain trying not to give three different responses at once
@BanquetOfTheLeviathan for me it depends. i prefer to meet in neutral territory at first though. i never go out without a way home either. idk how people do it any other way
Ok I’m not as mad as the nice guys because most of us here know they’re trash. But the people in the stories who defend the nice guys and pressure the girls into dating them have a special place in hell waiting for them. They’re the ones who give these pathetic creeps power in the first place and make it harder for girls to speak up when they are uncomfortable. Consent people ever heard of it? (And yes I’m aware that nice girls pressure guys into dating them because they’re wahmen but I’m specifically talking about nice guys since that’s what this particular subreddit is about)
you don't have to include that disclaimer for emotionally fragile manchildren, you know. when men are throwing pity parties for men, women aren't allowed to draw attention to women. therefore, it's only fair that when women's problems are being addressed, men shouldn't be allowed to draw attention to men. we need to stop pandering to their tantrums.
@@flannelpillowcase6475 I noticed that one too. Men are allowed to stick up for other men that are being wronged but if a woman does the same for another woman they get all shocked like there's not women that give other women advice about life. Sometimes two or more women is more intimidating then one because it makes it harder on one of them to approach you if you always got somebody with you. There's plenty of subredits and places men can go now to post or comment they don't always have to bud in between two women having a discussion. It always seems like there ploting something now of days or in some type of legal trouble. I might be a bit paranoid but you can never be to careful with anyone and putting your guard down for them is never the best move because it might just make things worse.
@@flannelpillowcase6475 I love the dichotomy of “pity parties for men” vs “womens issues being addressed” lol That being said I couldn’t agree more. Time and a place for both. Both sides have their issues, and both sides need to be addressed. Sadly, some people get offended if their problems aren’t talked about 100% of the time
@@flannelpillowcase6475 tf dude. Why aren't guys allowed to draw attention to the exact same issue that a women may have? that's just... fucked up. Guys are told to repress so much and it's an issue, we also need to talk about that. I'm not a guy btw, before you try to throw a "oh dude stop the pity party" at me.
After some time, women develop such a good 6th sense for catching and avoiding “nice guys” before they do you damage that it may look like paranoia to some. When I don’t get those vibes from a guy, I genuinely want to spend more time with them, and even if I wasn’t immediately attracted to them at first, I may start to catch feelings. You can tell when a guy is around you just because they want something (usually sex) from you, and it makes us feel extremely nervous, and sometimes afraid.
5:00 reminds me of a dude in my highschool. He would flaunt being gay openly which at first seems nice, but he would flirt with tons of guys even when they were uncomfortable. He never said bisexual, always claimed he liked guys. However he also had a girlfriend at the time. Eventually got caught cheating with said girlfriend... with another girl. idk if he's the bigger idiot or if she was for staying with him that long.
Sat next to a guy in a lecture at uni, chatted to him during breaks in the lecture. Seemed to be getting on ok and he knew one of my mates and got on with him but had an off feeling about him. Anyway probably like 4th convo break in the lecture and he asks if I wanna get a drink at the end of the lecture and that I could invite some of my mates if I wanted. Could tell it was obviously him trying to ask me out so told him I had a boyfriend. “Oh yeah, what course is he on?” “Oh well he’s actually not in uni, he’s doing an apprentiship back in (home city)” “Oh ok, so do you wanna go out for that drink then?” Later found out he’d tried similar shit with almost every girl in his halls. Grim.
it seems like he has the mindset that if your boyfriend isn’t physically there at the same location then it’s fine for you to cheat. ‘what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him’ i’ve heard that line before
Not to be a prude (and I don't know the entire story, or what was "off" about the guy), but he was just asking, you didn't say no, he just asked again to confirm, you said no, and then he dropped it. Sounded fine to me. He even offered for you bring other people along, probably trying to create a tight niche group of friends or something. And why do you care if he asked other women out? You have a boyfriend. Lol.
i had someone’s texting me pretending to be someone from a different state, and they tried to be all nice to me and i was courteous to them. then it started getting creepy seeing as he was wanting to message me the next day (it was an unknown number) and so i pretended to be a guy. he got mad at that and was like ‘don’t text random people next time’ and ‘if you got a man bro code i’m sorry dude’ and i’m like bruh just leave me alone. i know who it is, and changed my number since this dude has been stalking me by using an app that changes your phone number to find a way back into my life
If I was in the situation of the first one, I would’ve immediately called the police about threats to self injury. We don’t know how far these delusional people can go and honestly it’s pathetic that that guy tried to blackmail OP. I used to be manipulative when I was younger (although I do think this man who is blackmailing is someone who is legal). yes the classic “I’ll off myself if you leave” was used, but I was 12, had a slew of mental health issues, and in an abusive situation that in which ppl never taught me what I should do when facing rejection, hence, the way to deal with creepy people are just to avoid contact, call authorities if self harm is threatened, and leave it be.
My natural reaction to that would be to say "go ahead" but apparently now you can be convicted of manslaughter for that. Guess I'll just have to keep my snarky bitch comments to myself
That weird gut feeling you get as a woman... the way he is making you feel so incredibly uncomfortable, it's something every girl has experienced at least once. It makes you wanna run away and hide.
Ex coworker. We used to have a good chat at the smoking shelter, and added each other on fb, like you do with coworkers. Not long after I quit, he starts using messenger to chat to me, seemingly innocent stuff, but I always got a weird vibe. I mentioned my fiance a few times during the weirder topics, and it's like he blanked him out. Weird vibes got stronger. Fiance noticed me not wanting to chat with him anymore, and that I didn't feel comfortable just telling him to f*** off. He reminded me that I can always block and unfriend him. And so I did. And then I made my fb super private, and haven't had any contact from him, yet. Then there was a guy who was a bit of an outlier to the friend group. When friends noticed my face as he caressed my shoulder during a group drink, they pulled him away before I decked him. They kept him away until he moved over an hour away, and we can't mention his name 3 times in a group meeting without blessing things and signing the cross in case he suddenly turns up.
Lord. If you feel like you have to point out to a girl that other guys would force themselves on her but because you're **such a nice guy** you wouldn't, you're not a nice guy. A good guy wouldn't voice his thoughts if they went there -- and most of the time, they don't. (There is a big difference between having terrible thoughts and acting on them, but if you're voicing them to point out that you would "never do that", you're acting on them and making them someone else's problem. Please keep your distressing thoughts either to yourself, or strictly between you and your therapist. That shit is out of my pay grade.)
@@jaalanodaicyr868 I want to say that warning a friend about online safety is a perfectly good thing to do, because speaking neutrally, it is, but I don't know the context of why you warned her or what you said. It's just as possible that the warning came from a place of warning her not to look "slutty" or anything of that nature, or that it was otherwise a patronising, unsolicited warning on your part. There's a difference between being a good friend, and patronising a girl or young woman because you assume she doesn't know what she's doing or how it might look to others. I don't know her or you, so if you're asking me to call your instance the exception and say what you did is fine, please excuse me if I don't (you know, in absence of all the facts).
@@rachelfox8108 No its all good 🤣 it probably was pretty creepy. But thats kind of the point. I meant that sometimes when guys say things like that it is to actually protect somebody from others in the future. Anyways, it didnt upset her and we are still good friends so I guess the way I did it was fine 😁
Fun story I have (I don't think it's a nice guy story, more just the guy in dumb as shit). My brother was out on the lash with my cousin (before family stuff got ugly) and one of his "mates", who is... SO thick. SO dumb. Like, I can't even describe how stupid he is. Anyway, they get talking with some lasses and the girls are liking what they hear so they start talking about venturing off together (maybe have a little swangity bangity boom bang, maybe just to exchange numbers, who knows?). Anyway, as the girls prepare to head off, my brother's dumbass friend *loudly* proclaims "Oh! It's alright, we're not gonna rape you or anything." The girls freeze up. "Rape" has been mentioned. Now, instead of three guys they could hang out with, they see potential threats. They make excuses, disappear into the bar and are never seen again. The second they do disappear, my brother and then-cousin turns to him and says "WHY THE FUCK DID YOU SAY THAT!?". The idiot tries to protest that "Well, we're not gonna rape them!", oblivious to the fact that it's implied you're not going to. Upon realizing the girls aren't coming back, the idiot says "They were probably slags anyway" and my then-cousin shouts at him "THAT WAS THE POINT!!". Point being, never take a horny moron with you on the pull: He will cockblock you EVERY time (oh, my brother has soooooo many stories of this guy...)
It's not enough was out asked repeatedly and never stopped eventually lost patience and talked shit about me to other co workers.. he acted so pitiful about me saying no , I have a husband, I'm not interested... he was over half my age and I overheard him talking to his kids .. it was always a constant thing for him to keep asking .. met quite a few guys that also didn't respond well to me saying no when they pushed boundaries and would grope me
Exactly. I'm single but I categorically refuse to use that as an excuse (/lie/defense mechanism) as to why NO is my answer. 1) These assholes don't care anyway and 2) I don't need a goddamn reason. But every word that comes out of their mouth that isn't "bye" after that is further justification for my position.
Based comment. For real, you never hear women say shit like “the MALES are in the other room” or “go ask the MALES”… it’s always “the boys are in the other room” or “go ask the guys.” But so many men will refer to women as “FeMaLeS” and play dumb when you point out why that’s wrong. (Or maybe they aren’t playing and are really just that dumb… )
@@RedRoseSeptember22 yes there is. Using the term female and then whipping around and using terms like boys, men, guys are sexist. Female is a word used to describe something with specific genitals or hormones. This word applies to animals, bugs, and other living things. It also applies to humans but we have a word for female or male humans. Woman or man. Using females to talk about women is subtle dehumanization.
@@RedRoseSeptember22 It's a sign a guy is sexist if he uses those terms, and also grammatically incorrect. Female is an adjective. It would be like saying "a boring" or "a pretty" it's just wrong. Now you can say "a boring person" or "A pretty person" which is also why if a guy uses female outside of academia and without also using males, he is stupid.
I have met a few “nice guys.” When I was 17-27, there was a guy that was 20 years older than me. My parents were suspicious of him, but had no proof. He was a tutor for a while that I friended on Facebook. He started to be creepy the day I turned 21. I found out he was very creepy to other women too. Poor man died alone from an untreated concussion. I do think there was a genuinely good part of him, he just scared off anyone that could make that part come out.
The one I feel the most sorry for is the one who had the jerk essentially ruin their high school social life by lying to everyone about asking them to homecoming
In amongs us, a guy wanted my number, saying how he was nice and could be trusted blah blah blah I said no and he started to insult me ALL kinds of names...like...they had to ban cause he wouldnt stop, no matter how many times everyone told him to stop-
@@railgunawesome7114 it’s dehumanizing. I don’t see anyone call men “males.” when people use the term female over woman, it’s a lot like referring to an animal. like why can’t we just call women “women”?
@ yeah it is... when you use the term female it’s a lot like referring to an animal, like a female dog. you don’t call men “males” so why call women females?? it’s dehumanizing, especially when women are referred to as females while men are just referred to as men or guys.
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@@sashac8240 I disagree, men get called males all the time. But I do see your point, as mostly when being referred to as a male it is during a negative situation or to refer to something they don’t like about men. Perhaps you are right
You know, hearing stories like this makes me happy my behavior (if I was single and flirted with women) is so straight forward. Seriously, even my "don't hit on them at all", "playfully flirty but know when to stop" or "direct to the point" behaviors (it varies depending on situation) seems like a smooth operator in comparison.
Remember folks: literally anyone can be a predator. Gay, straight, male, female, black, white, young, old, friend, stranger, it’s irrelevant. Don’t ever assume someone can’t be a predator because of who they are
My worst situation with a niceguy must've been when i tried to tell him something the whole day, ignored me, then when i refused to tell him on command he 1.Tried to yank me from the buss i was getting on 2.told me he was gonna kill himself and it'll be my fault 3.said i should kill him because he isnt "dying for me" 🤦♀️
The homecoming guy. Girl, none of those ppl are your friends if no one bothered to check with you. Better to distinguish that from early on. Nothing lost there
Homecoming one: Even if I was lying I think I would've just screamed "I'm a fucking lesbian and have a girlfriend leave me alone", I mean all the high school boys sucked anyways so whatever. I then would've called his mother and told her if she didn't straighten out her son I was going to press charges even if I couldn't. I also would've taken a tape recorder to school, got him to admit the truth and plastered it everywhere and made sure future bosses knew what a creep he is to women.
If I've learned anything from these stories and real life, it's to never make any friends online or in person, never leave my house or go to an open window and to sleep with a gun and be ready with pepper spray when I go to collect the rain water I'm now going to have to live on 🤦😂😭
Guy asked for my snap at a party right before I left and I gave it to him. Had to take care of my f’ed up friend so I decided (in my head) that I would add him back the following day. Few days later I heard he was telling people that were still there that I was a b!tch because I said I would add him but didn’t … at that point it was 5 in the morning 😐 Not a crazy story but whew
one nice guy (or girl) is threatening to kidnap me. i’m scared to block them out of fear that they’ll hurt me. i’m 13, i shouldn’t have to deal with this.
@@-brightme-496 yeah, i guess i’m fine. i told these people that my mom found out about me talking to people i don’t know in person on games and stuff and that i needed to add them on an alt. i feel somewhat safer, but still a bit unsafe.
My neighbor that was in the same grade as me ... who seemed ok ... I hung out with him a couple times out side of school just at his house because my sister hung out with his sister and they had a Ps2 (we had a wii) and I loved playing and watching gta vice city started randomly coming over to my house unannounced a couple of times he got Handz and I moved or just went in another room ... once I started dating one of his friends he asked my boyfriend at the time my number then texted me the following I’m seriously quoting it word for word “I know you guys keep the basement door unlocked and I’m going to come over in the middle of the night when you are sleeping and rape you” I deleted the text so fast I was in the grocery store and wasn’t thinking straight texting was a new thing then and I didn’t realize that that kind of stuff would be a good thing to show the police ... needless to say I checked the basement door every night before going to bed and the first story window a couple times before calming down a figuring this was just something he said and wasn’t actually going to do it ... he (30) and his sister (26ish) still live at the house he has a kid that lives there and his sister has 2 kids that live there ... I see them outside sometimes when I go to my moms house ... he messaged me a couple months ago on Facebook to “see how everything is going for me” I blocked him immediately
I'm just going to put this out here to the person Second Story I don't think any friendship is worth saving if friends aren't confirming with you that you're going out on a date with somebody that literally is out to destroy your whole entire social life especially friendships and relationships with other people because clearly those are the type of people who don't listen and they don't care as long as they look good defending somebody that looks innocent instead of guilty and I'm pretty sure eventually those people that the second poster was friends with eventually felt like shit for betraying you because they probably did eventually see that guy's true intentions and when he was capable of doing the others when it happened as so many others and they kept talking about the exact same thing you went through so believe me when I say this it's on them not you and they're the ones that screwed up their friendship and would rather choose to also care about the idea of looking good for somebody they don't even know
@@maisies515 sure. The simp will blow his entire paycheck on only fans while the sociopath with get angry if you don't blow him for opening the door for you.
My husband always was "mr nice guy" when he cheated. He would accuse me and say I did all the things he did to me and or me through. That way he could better relate to other women, and seem the victim that he was looking for to take my place.
That first one is creepy.i would have finally agreed to meet him then shown up with my brothers and their friends and watched while they beat the crap out of him.
Not a girl, but.... Went to the movies with this guy. He seemed nice, but they always do. It was fine until I had to piss. He followed me into the bathroom and locked the door behind him. I pissed and, when I turned around, he was blocking the door. He said he'd only move if I gave him a handy, so I grabbed and twisted. He sounded like an elephant with its nuts caught in a circular fan and I made like a tree and got the fuck out of there.
@@flannelpillowcase6475 Do I find the situation funny? No, it was the scariest experience of my life. Do I look for the humor in the darkest moments so I can go on living my life with as little psychological impact as possible? Yes.
17:31 I went on a date once with a guy who dressed exactly like this too, he was a weeaboo who wanted to lose his virginity and boy was I glad I didn't put out for him 😂
I take it you've had an 'outie' configuration down there your whole life, yeah? Girls are taught from a very young age that 'boys will be boys' and that we should 'act lady-like'. Going on a rant against abusive, creepy, or rude men usually goes poorly for the woman in the situation; even in the perspective of other women. We're seen as unreasonable, hormonal, crazy, or even abusive ourselves if we try to speak out against the bad guys in our lives. Sexism, my dude. It's one helluva drug, and most of the population is steeped in it from birth.
because if you piss off the creep you might escalate them into doing something worse out of anger. they should not be treated like sane people you gotta be careful and hopefully know who you are dealing with
These dudes have probably never heard of the term "there is one of many fishes in the sea, it is sometimes best to let go". I've been in many relationships in my high school years, but never have I had the thought to make a secne or rumor about it. Mostly it was the other way around where it was the girls that stirs up the comotions, the boys however just nodded and smiled before giving each other respect for being with so many girls.
That wasn't a nice guy. That was a criminal. Nice guys have two categories, one who claims to be nice and the other who is claimed to be nice by other people. Never trust a guy who says he's nice. He's the opposite. I'm very sorry for that person did to you.
Ha. That reminds me of the time I accidentally picked up a prostitute in the rain thinking she was walking/hitchhiking to the store or something. Took me a minute to realize what she was talking about when I asked where she needed to go, then pulled right back over and let her out not even a quarter mile down the road. Lmao.
seemed really nice, always let me get a ride after marching band if I needed it... asked me if I would fudge him every time, and also when we were alone. :/ I really thought that he would have been a good friend.
'Nice ' does not equal 'Good' A 'nice guy' tends to be someone who treats their 'good' behaviour as some kind of transaction eg: You owe me because I treated you like you were a persons instead of a woman and I should be rewarded for that with sex. A 'good guy' does good things because it's in their nature to be a good person. They don't do it to buy sex-points, they do it because it's the right thing to do and it never occurs to them to write it all down in their heads in bill-form to cash in at a later date because that is PLAIN FUCKING EVIL. (Honestly, HONESTLY, could some of the sketchier commenters on this at least try to wrap their heads around the idea that women are not an outlying novelty in human society to be only tricked and coerced into sexual situations and are actual human beings with thoughts, aspirations and beliefs all of their own just like they are??) ^Sorry for that last rant. I guess I just don't understand why men seem to have such a crazy lack of what's often called 'basic human empathy' and that's somehow womens fault...
@@EndlessSummer888 Not all of us women are emotional beasts, but maybe that's one of the reasons I'm single. Guys tend to see me as a friend or sister or nerdy discussion buddy and I'm A-OK with that arrangement lol. I'll take a Legend of Zelda lore argument or an hours long talk on what infinity is over someone trying to hug and stuff. If I remember right women are about 70/30 emotional/ rational and men are the inverse. "Nice guys" tend to fall in the emotional category as they let their desires control them instead of thinking thoroughly through a plan and critically thinking on themselves, instead blaming those awful women for making them feel bad. Remember, only the Sith deal in absolutes fam. Saying all women are emotional and all men are logical is like saying all dogs are good bois and all cats are devil spawn... aka not 100% accurate and more often than not the opposite.
Doesn't work always work. I was a fat kid in school, the more popular gossip girls kept trying to "hook me up" with their friend, asking if I liked her. We never interacted, I barely spoke, I was renown as a fat nerd from a poor family, can you see how easily that lie unraveled? Five years of that shit...
I once met a dude on AlloTalk who got mad when I told him I was aromantic and then tried to force me into some creepy violent r*pe RP in DMs. Luckily for me, there was a mod in the room I was(not to mention that we were friends) in so the creep got IP banned
Met a nice neighbor guy who was a nice single dad...kids played together twice.. we have a few coffee / wake n bake hang outs...i kept telling he he was just a friend...we only hugged twice ( over a 2mnth period )...then basically he starts creeping around my basement and robbing me 😒
He lied about his age and had a live in girlfriend and went into overdrive when I didn't want anything to do with him, he stalked my job for weeks until our director had him trespassed didn't stop him at all he'd hangout across the street
@@markparkinson6947 he acted 17 and dressed like it and hungout at all the teen gathering spots he was 24 and had other teens but to him I was special (his words)
@@amarareed2432 Damn, that sucks! It’s bad enough that he lied about his age and his girlfriend, but to not even leave you alone after you established that you did not want to hange out with him, makes the guy a massive douchebag. And from the sound of things, the director is also a douchebag for allowing this to happen.
@@markparkinson6947 actually my manager thought he was being sweet and she used to allow him into the store, our director of security took over the situation after he checked the guy out and had him trespassed. The manager ended up being fired a week later cause she hired him knowing he was banned from the store.
@@amarareed2432 Wait, so both the manager and the security director allowed him in the store? That’s weird. And also, the manager is a very bad manager, indeed.
My story: I'm having thoughts about ending myself with my **Nerf gun** that I have sitting next to me, but I think I'd better if you sent me nude pictures.... Before this he had full on brainwashed and manipulated me into trusting him, and making me pity him, so I sent him pictures.... and I still regret doing it in SO many different ways, but I don't want to go more into details about them.
Not super crazy about "females" being added in the title when it wasn't included in the original askreddit question, which is especially ironic considering the subject matter is people who dehumanize women by thinking their affection is a prize to be won. Good thread to put out there, but :/
My freshman year of hs I started talking to a senior, we hung out a couple of times since he was friends with one of my cousins. So we’d all hang out at my gmas house and it was chill. But one time we went alone to a date to a kermes (just like food stands and rides outside of a local church, the whole town pretty much goes) and when he brought me back home we kissed and not be mean but he kissed really really bad. And after that I wasn’t much into him and when I told him I wanted to just be friends he got pissed and said to just stop talking to him. So I did. And later on I found out thru some of my senior volleyball teammates that he had told people I had sex with him on multiple occasions and that he cut me off bc I was a whore.. I was so fucking pissed off. Such a loser.
Back in highschool, this nice guy tried to fuck with me and spread rumors about me. Once he even tried to get me to drink shit he brought at a party. I got fed up with it and bullied him 'till he transfered. 🙄 I can play dirty. 😼
I was called a b**** for not sending a guy a picture of my armpit. I was asked if I was gay because I didn't want to see the penis of a man I've never even heard of before. I was asked if I was gay because I didn't want to date a guy whom I never met and I wasn't interested in him. A guy sent me a photo of self harm because I didn't want to send him a photo (this was after he said I could trust him). I was asked if I was a boy because I didn't want to send a complete stranger a photo of my boobs.
Showing up at my front door dressed in a diaper wearing a bonnet on his head. He was 6'7" tall and a year older (high school). Had a bumble bee shaped floral arrangement because I'd been bitten on my neck by a huge junebug. Nice idea kind thought but you're wearing a diaper made from a fitted bedsheet. Just....no
So I (18F at the time,now 21) was staying over at an older friend's place who I'll call Saph. We were and still are big in the cosplay scene,and I was staying over at his place so we could all meet in the same town and travel to where the convention was all at once. Now Saph wasn't exactly the sanest person in the universe,he was in a really bad shape upstairs and I did notice that,but stuck with him we were each other's closest friend at the time. Big big yikes for me. Now he seemed to have taken some kind of liking for me that wasn't reciprocated by me,and I had noticed that when his hugs became not-so-friendly anymore,like if i put my arm around his shoulder,he'd reach for my waist and squeeze it slightly,sometimes even my hip. Plus his compliments sounded more and more flirty but I had DumbBitchItis at the time so I didn't notice the plethora of red flags or refused to acknowledge them as I had nobody else at the time. We were just there,sitting on the couch at night while watching TV and I started to get a little shaky,as I suffered from severe night terrors. He offered to let me sleep in his arms so I just quietly climbed in his arms and tried to calm down. After that,I woke up to him saying "It's 1:30 in the morning,how about we go to sleep now huh?" In a weird singsongy tone. Like he was talking to some sort of little kid. I stupidly thought it was just him trying to act a little more soft spoken to wake me up since I did just have a breakdown in his arms and I walked off to the guest bedroom with Saph following me in tow for some reason. I had forgotten my pyjamas at home so he just said "Don't worry I will give you some of my clothes ~" in that same overly sugary sweet tone. I said "I'm fine,don't worry." And I got a "Come on,why not? I have some clothes to spare!" As an answer. I hugged him,gave him a heartfelt thank you and got into bed,with him sitting on the edge of it. When I laid down I thought he was gonna get up and leave but he,and I kid you not,lifted the covers and tucked me in like I was a 4 year old. At this point this cutesy behavior seemed more creepy than cute so I tried to talk to him: "Uh why are you tucking me in?" "Because I want to?" "Uhh...I'm not a small child. I'm 18 years old." "So? I'm the older one here,so you're still small to me ~" "Oookay,good night Saph." After I fell asleep,I did hear some scuffling and had a dream about a figure standing in the doorway,but I brushed it off because it was one of my most reoccurring nightmares at the time. When I got up I greeted Saph who looked at me with a big smile,I looked at the clock and said "Awww Saph,why didn't you wake me up? We were supposed to go to the plaza!!" And this MF just casually said "I didn't wake you up,you looked so peaceful ~" I started laughing but then froze in place when I put two and two together and figured out that he must've watched me sleep for him to say this,bonus creepy points for me suspecting that the figure in the doorway could've been him watching me sleep instead of just a random nightmare,and the scuffling to back that theory app. I wanted to get out of there asap but my hometown was there hours away and I didn't have a ticket to go back until the next day. The rest of my stay was...Awkward to say the least.
@@rikeshneupane8965 Some random guy who's place I was staying over and seemed to have a liking for me started talking to me after I had a panic attack in a sickly sweet tone that sounded like he was talking to a kid. He did that because "He was older than me and thought he was cute or smth." Then he tucked me in the covers while still talking like that and the next day he indirectly told me he watched me sleep at some point. So he treated the barely 18 girl he wanted to do de NaSti with like a little girl and watched her sleep too. Yep.
@@rikeshneupane8965 Don't worry nothing happened in that house besides me going from being really thankful he helped me calm my panic attack and being lucky to have him as a friend to hoping he wasn't trying to initiate some sort of DDLG clusterfuck with me.
Isn’t the title of this video kinda ironic when you consider the topic? Like, you never hear women say shit like “the males are in the other room” or “go ask the males”… it’s always “the boys are in the other room” or “go ask the guys.” But so many men will refer to women as “FeMaLeS” in casual conversation, and be dismissive when you point out how dehumanizing that is… (I think it’s different when saying something like “a female character” or “male biology”, though.)
@@alisonlee4386 doesn't girls sound too young? Not quite synonyms with "females" or "women"? Not trying to be dismissive, just wondering what would be a logical equivalent for a group of women, but equivalent to guys?
Im a guy, but this is why you always give out a burner number on dating apps. Guys have a similar problem, but with girls making up stories to bum money
The guy who lied that OP was going to homecoming with him has a bright, bright future ahead of him as the lovely guy in the neighbourhood who everyone suddenly learns one day has been abusing his wife.
That guy has a special place in hell waiting for him. I bet he’s still telling people about being stood up to this day.
Doesn't anyone thought to ask OP about her thoughts?
Wait, she's the new kid...
Naw.. Outta all the other guys in the video, he had his shit on straight. And clearly an intellectual to boot. As well as charismatic enough to get all the friends to believe him over her (people will typically take the girl's side, 9/10). Good actor to boot. TBH, the dude is probably a politician now. Besides, how many women have ruined men's reputations just because she didn't like the guy (the number of false rape accusations alone..)?
@@sizlax Except ppl don't take the girl's side unless they can make it into the "damsel" narrative. But people (especially men) will always turn quick on girls when it comes to ANYTHING related to relationships/sex/etc. Hence why Metoo, feminism, women's rights acts, violence against women acts, the fact that femicide even exist. Oh, right, and the literal fucking video you just watched, one of literally thousands.
And you. You praise the fucker who did that shit. It's NOT uncommon. It's very, very common, and it's also why the fuck 90% of rapists DON'T get convicted.
Because people don't fucking believe women.
For a demonstration to those reading this: This person whom I am talk to, will not believe my words, a woman, despite the actual data and history and this video behind it.
@@sizlax dude no. He was in the wrong. Period.
Honestly, if your friends stop talking to you without first asking for your side of the story, then they did you a favor.
Period
100%
Facts
man i needed that, had this happen to me yesterday and was so upset about it. your comment helps me be less beat up about it. bless you bitch ily
Agreed, although the ostracizing must have sucked hard in high school
If you’re only trying to be a nice guy to impress women... you’re not one. Don’t try to be a nice guy, concentrate on being a good man.
Exactly nobody wants a nice guy they want a good man
This.
Good man yourself
This is amazingly worded.
Just be yourself!
I’m always self conscious of my actions and am afraid I’m actually one of these “nice guys,” then I read these stories and think I’m probably not
@Ashley Buchanan self conscious = you never know things for sure about youself
I’ve been there, wondering what I’m doing wrong and what I can change about myself to make people like me. My life changed the day I stopped doing things based on others opinions and started living the life I wanted. Trust me, if you’re doing hobbies or activities you actually enjoy, you will find you like who you become and people will respond to your positive energy.
My mom’s a therapist and she says that all of her clients who have severe mental illnesses don’t believe they have a problem. Meanwhile patients who don’t and believe they are crazy usually aren’t. So I think you’re good
I think if your worried about it then you’re probably not
I used to be somewhat of a nice guy. I was just very clingy. Most likely caused by years of bullying and exclusion.
Just as a general rule, dont hit on a girl in settings where she cant easily & safely escape the situation.
Examples being:
• while she's in a car with you
• while shes doing her job / behind the counter talking to customers
• while shes using public transport
• while shes in your house
• while you're in the office together
etc etc. Just in general, dont treat busy people like your own personal captive audience.
I am sure that they know. They do it by choice.
i vote to add "during class" to this list. I had a guy in one of my classes who had a history of sexual harassment, and i obviouly couldn't leave when he was being a creep. Luckily i was moving to another school anyways.
This. I’ve had a few guys try to hit on me while at work and it stressed me out bad because I knew I couldn’t leave. Please leave female workers alone. It’s not the place for flirting or asking for phone numbers.
@@Kate-is5mz It's equally horrible how men have to explain BASIC rules of being a respectable human being, to women. Like, not telling men how much they mean to you, and how much you love them, as final messages before ghosting them, and screwing them over psychologically, then wondering why so many men are psychologically fucked.. It's like going to a neighborhood store, twisting the caps off a buncha things and spitting in them, then putting the caps back on, but then getting upset when you go to purchase something, and it's got someone's spit in it.. Despite what popular politics tells you on facebook, and suggested RUclips videos, women aren't the only ones suffering from ignorance on the other side of the gene pool.
Edit: just for the record, the woman that did this to me, was online-only situation, so she was in no way 'trapped'. She could have told me how she really felt, and I encouraged her to do so (in a kind and patient manner).
@@Kate-is5mz No, my bad, it's all men's fault. Apologies milady! I forgot my place underneath your boot.
Seriously though, it's both gender's fault. But the men's side is seldom heard since feminazis tell us to shut up whenever we have an opinion. On top of the fact that we're raised not to be open about our emotions or feelings, and only to express anger, and never be too happy or you're 'gay'. Then they try to chalk that BS up to "biology", despite the fact that I'm far more maternal than my mother ever was.
I'm just saying, there's a lot of misconceptions, and I've had a shitload of.. mostly bad experiences with women (that I've been nothing but genuinely nice towards). So if I can recognize that both sides have issues, then so should you.
Just to clarify my stance within the context of these comments, there's no misconception about the actual issues that women are going through, so your comment wasn't really needed. It was purely inflammatory, and logistically the equivalent of tossing a glass of tears into the ocean.
In closing, before you start going off about socalled privilege/patriarchy.
I'm physically unattractive, got nasally speech(strongly stigmatized as being a feature of the mentally handicapped), not close to rich, and went most of my life with undiagnosed autism, and grew up mostly abused, neglected, and unloved, so yea, even if those fancy titles you like to give to men are accurate for some men, I am in no way, shape, or form, in that category of men.
If you are in the front seat of a car and you realise you are being abducted by the driver, your best chance is to pull the handbrake in a corner or yank the steering wheel - yes of course you'll cause a car crash, but it's a better option than going to the second location, and your chances of becoming a meat fleshlight will decrease dramatically.
Noted
Yea thank you 🙏🏽
i didn’t think about this!
Starting a car crash gets people's attention, which is your best bet for getting help. Do literally anything to stop that car.
Yeah my mom told me about this she also told me that if I’m driving and get hijacked or something crashed but make sure I lean back and aim for the passager seat more so that I wouldn’t get hurt.
7:29 That also confuses me so much. That happened to me once as well - a guy approached me and asked for my number. When I told him I had a partner, he flat out told me he doesn't believe me and I must be lying. As if it were completely impossible that if he found me attractive enough to approach me some other guy might find me attractive enough to be in a relationship with me? What the heck?
i swear their brains are fried
Because he already built you up to be his ideal fantasy dream girl and couldn't believe that you have a life
Remember when "nice guy" meant shy and awkward with girls and not a flat out psychopath?
Well, not that it matters, but everybody seems to hate both versions equally..
@@ambientnoiseaddict XD
@ShutmonMayhem Neo see I think that becomes an issues because one if we're in a relationship I want you to care more about yourself than me and vice versa. I need to know that if I hurt you or did something wrong you would tell me so I can correct it. Also "nice guys" would throw me off because I'm genuinely wondering why you are so nice? What's the catch...I'm waiting for you to switch up on me. That's my own trust issues coming out, but I think that's the reason why people dont typically like "nice guys"
I want to go back to those days.
Chads have got women all figured out. They just treat women like shit. And it works!
That second one was ridiculous cause so many of OP's friends just went along with the Nice Guy and didn't even try and get OP's story over the whole situation. Like, do some people not get both sides of a story before tkaing sides?
The gas station one made me lol a bit. The way he was acting was like out of some super cheesy teenage movie/book.
@Corpsefoot Gaming Yup. If they were true friends they would have gotten OP's side of the story at least.
They probably thought it was a romantic surprise like one of those clichés in fiction lmao
I know this is a whole year after your comment, but unfortunately, you'd be surprised with how many people do that. I'm in college atm and one of my male friends came to me and explained that it seemed like everyone in our social circle was cutting him off with no explanation and that he needed the emotional support of the group because a new girl to our friend group had taken advantage of him while he was drunk. Apparently, I was one of the few people who hadn't cut him off or treated him differently. Turns out, the girl who took advantage of him when he was drunk while she was stone cold sober went around telling everyone else in the circle a totally different story except for me because I had seen her throw herself on him on many occasions despite him having a girlfriend and her knowing of this because he spoke up and because she went out of her way to contact his gf in the past.
When I spoke up about how everyone in our friend circle was treating our buddy like shit without even hearing his side of events out, their response to me was "Don't get mad at us because we're not the origin of this story of events. You need to apologize for being so aggressive to us." It's safe to say they aren't my friends anymore and I didn't apologize because I had no reason to, but I've come to the realization that a lot of people won't get both sides of stories to not step on toes so to speak.
The fact NOBODY bothered to corroborate what he said to her shows just how much they really truly cared. The real kicker is that they still did not even ask her side after she “stood him up”. They just assumed she knew. Those “friends” are just as guilty as that “nice guy”.
@@firefly3003 THAT’S FUCKING HORRIBLE!! I wish I could say I couldn’t believe it but unfortunately the world is like this. I hope your friend is okay people should believe male rape victims exist
Creep with the butter knife. Do NOT discount a butter knife as a weapon. I've seen one sharpened in just a few minutes to where the owner then SHAVED with it.
In prison, maybe.
I mean yeah. Surprise or not but there are cases with someone getting stabbed by it. You just have to plunge it really hard I guess.
Put your body weight behind it, and it will go stabby stabby just like any other knife.
eyes vs a butter knife doesn’t stand a chance. we know who would win that fight
Theres plenty to choose from but the ones that stand out:
1. Went on a blind date with a guy, it went well but he brought his pyjamas and a sleeping bag with him because he "assumed he would stay over". I told him he assumed wrong and im going home. He said he'd walk me back but i didnt want him to so he followed me home saying "i dont understand why you dont trust me im a nice guy". Not nice enough to respect my boundaries.
2. A guy I was just "seeing" threw a genuinely terrifying hissy fit when i didnt realise when hed changed his mind and wanted a relationship with me (wed just been F-buddies up until then).
3. A male friend invited me to a house party at his and all our mutual friends would be there. I turned up and it was dinner with just me, him and his parents and they referred to me as "his new girl". I was uncomfortable but didnt want to be rude so i acted pally with him and asked to go home. After not hearing from him for weeks i started seeing someone and began receiving death threats from him and our mutual friends that i led him on. Apparently he was entitled to me because hes a "nice guy" while i had no idea he even liked me! I hardly knew him we only had a short chat and that was enough for him to start calling me his gf. Wtf.
i had a dude who i had no idea even liked me end up getting super aggressive because i didn’t want to sit with him before his next class for 2 hours, instead of going home and writing my essay that was due that week
Ah...so nice guy means psychopath. Got it.
Its ”nice Guy” so someone who thinks they have the right to other ppl bcs they’re nice
@@benjamined5519 aka, psychopath
@Atman Gotango Fucking this. This right here.
@@tylerstewart3181 psychopaths thinks that they have right to other people because they see every one that isn't bether then as inferiore beings, and depending in where they are on the scale may literally throw someone under the buss if they feel they deserved it or if you are in there way.
Nice guys is just entitled "kids" in a grown man's body and they can grow out of it, psychopathy is permenent.
It's a term for people who believe they are entitled to someone's love because they believe they're a nice person.
Normally once they don't get that love or relationship they're looking for they say something similar to "I'm so nice, girls always go for bad guys but never us good guys who will actually love you and gift you things and give you the best relationship of your life".
So it's normally used in place of calling someone a douche.
This happened few years ago on Steam. I met a guy and after having some nice time chatting he sent me a friend request. Since I didn’t have any friends on Steam and was pretty desperate I accepted it. But as soon as he found out I was a girl he got very romantic with me. He would ask very personal questions like where I live, which school I went to and how I looked, which made me very uncomfortable. When I finally mustered up the courage and told him straight-up that I wasn’t interested in him he got really pissy, throwing insults and being all like “you’re breaking my heart”. I ended up blocking him and have never heard of him since.
And this is the second time I encountered someone who quickly got romantic with me the moment I told them I was a girl. If this is all they do I might aswell say my gender is attack helicopter.
This is always the case in social media unfortunately. Guys online always get turned on once they realize they're talking to a girl who they don't know but only care about the fact she's a "girl." This is also a huge advantage for catfishing. Personally, I've befriended female friends and end up liking one of them but I understand that by making her uncomfortable I lose the friendship. Sometimes guys joke around with females and do make romantic or sex jokes, so you can just ignore them. But when they ask you personal questions, block them immediately.
once canceled a date with a guy i thought i really liked. it was cold and rainy and the closest bus stop to my house was a 40 min walk away BEFORE the ride. he started getting upset and said "i forgot you only like f*ckbois and not nice guys" and i almost broke my brain trying not to give three different responses at once
@BanquetOfTheLeviathan for me it depends. i prefer to meet in neutral territory at first though. i never go out without a way home either. idk how people do it any other way
Ok I’m not as mad as the nice guys because most of us here know they’re trash. But the people in the stories who defend the nice guys and pressure the girls into dating them have a special place in hell waiting for them. They’re the ones who give these pathetic creeps power in the first place and make it harder for girls to speak up when they are uncomfortable. Consent people ever heard of it?
(And yes I’m aware that nice girls pressure guys into dating them because they’re wahmen but I’m specifically talking about nice guys since that’s what this particular subreddit is about)
you don't have to include that disclaimer for emotionally fragile manchildren, you know. when men are throwing pity parties for men, women aren't allowed to draw attention to women. therefore, it's only fair that when women's problems are being addressed, men shouldn't be allowed to draw attention to men. we need to stop pandering to their tantrums.
@@flannelpillowcase6475 I noticed that one too. Men are allowed to stick up for other men that are being wronged but if a woman does the same for another woman they get all shocked like there's not women that give other women advice about life.
Sometimes two or more women is more intimidating then one because it makes it harder on one of them to approach you if you always got somebody with you.
There's plenty of subredits and places men can go now to post or comment they don't always have to bud in between two women having a discussion.
It always seems like there ploting something now of days or in some type of legal trouble. I might be a bit paranoid but you can never be to careful with anyone and putting your guard down for them is never the best move because it might just make things worse.
@@flannelpillowcase6475 I love the dichotomy of “pity parties for men” vs “womens issues being addressed” lol
That being said I couldn’t agree more. Time and a place for both. Both sides have their issues, and both sides need to be addressed. Sadly, some people get offended if their problems aren’t talked about 100% of the time
@@flannelpillowcase6475 tf dude. Why aren't guys allowed to draw attention to the exact same issue that a women may have?
that's just... fucked up.
Guys are told to repress so much and it's an issue, we also need to talk about that.
I'm not a guy btw, before you try to throw a "oh dude stop the pity party" at me.
@@honkhonk3192 what are you talking about
Let's all say it with me: if you have to say you're a nice guy, you are not a nice guy.
The Tywin Lannister method:
If you have to state what you are constantly, you are likely the opposite.
After some time, women develop such a good 6th sense for catching and avoiding “nice guys” before they do you damage that it may look like paranoia to some. When I don’t get those vibes from a guy, I genuinely want to spend more time with them, and even if I wasn’t immediately attracted to them at first, I may start to catch feelings. You can tell when a guy is around you just because they want something (usually sex) from you, and it makes us feel extremely nervous, and sometimes afraid.
Hone coming guy is crazy. Also OP should have said no she never agreed to go out with him and why would she, and why didn't any of them ask her.
Teenage boys. Meh.
She's better off without those 'friends'
It's because the story isn't real
Yeah story is fake, who would not called her after 10 mins of waitin?
@@viktormelisik2649 friends' aren't even listenig to her side
5:00 reminds me of a dude in my highschool. He would flaunt being gay openly which at first seems nice, but he would flirt with tons of guys even when they were uncomfortable. He never said bisexual, always claimed he liked guys. However he also had a girlfriend at the time. Eventually got caught cheating with said girlfriend... with another girl.
idk if he's the bigger idiot or if she was for staying with him that long.
Some people get very attached i guess. I feel bad for her though.
Sat next to a guy in a lecture at uni, chatted to him during breaks in the lecture. Seemed to be getting on ok and he knew one of my mates and got on with him but had an off feeling about him. Anyway probably like 4th convo break in the lecture and he asks if I wanna get a drink at the end of the lecture and that I could invite some of my mates if I wanted. Could tell it was obviously him trying to ask me out so told him I had a boyfriend. “Oh yeah, what course is he on?” “Oh well he’s actually not in uni, he’s doing an apprentiship back in (home city)” “Oh ok, so do you wanna go out for that drink then?” Later found out he’d tried similar shit with almost every girl in his halls. Grim.
it seems like he has the mindset that if your boyfriend isn’t physically there at the same location then it’s fine for you to cheat. ‘what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him’ i’ve heard that line before
Not to be a prude (and I don't know the entire story, or what was "off" about the guy), but he was just asking, you didn't say no, he just asked again to confirm, you said no, and then he dropped it. Sounded fine to me. He even offered for you bring other people along, probably trying to create a tight niche group of friends or something.
And why do you care if he asked other women out? You have a boyfriend. Lol.
The guy that let the guy drive him "home" was super scary, glad he was able to get away.
First story: This is why I NEVER answer calls from unknown numbers and never reply to texts from numbers I don't recognize.
i had someone’s texting me pretending to be someone from a different state, and they tried to be all nice to me and i was courteous to them. then it started getting creepy seeing as he was wanting to message me the next day (it was an unknown number) and so i pretended to be a guy. he got mad at that and was like ‘don’t text random people next time’ and ‘if you got a man bro code i’m sorry dude’ and i’m like bruh just leave me alone. i know who it is, and changed my number since this dude has been stalking me by using an app that changes your phone number to find a way back into my life
I wish I could do that, but I get calls from unknown numbers all the time due to school and work.
@@cutienerdgirl I think your smartphone might have a "auto-ignore unknown numbers"-function.
@@davecullins1606 Uh...I can't ignore unknown numbers because I get calls from new numbers all the time due to my job and class projects.
@@cutienerdgirl download Truecaller
Someone should not have to prove they have a bf to get rid of someone
If I was in the situation of the first one, I would’ve immediately called the police about threats to self injury. We don’t know how far these delusional people can go and honestly it’s pathetic that that guy tried to blackmail OP. I used to be manipulative when I was younger (although I do think this man who is blackmailing is someone who is legal). yes the classic “I’ll off myself if you leave” was used, but I was 12, had a slew of mental health issues, and in an abusive situation that in which ppl never taught me what I should do when facing rejection, hence, the way to deal with creepy people are just to avoid contact, call authorities if self harm is threatened, and leave it be.
My natural reaction to that would be to say "go ahead" but apparently now you can be convicted of manslaughter for that. Guess I'll just have to keep my snarky bitch comments to myself
That weird gut feeling you get as a woman... the way he is making you feel so incredibly uncomfortable, it's something every girl has experienced at least once. It makes you wanna run away and hide.
I understand you very well. I'm girl and I know that feeling. Makes me wanna throw up.
What makes you uncomfortable exactly?
Ex coworker. We used to have a good chat at the smoking shelter, and added each other on fb, like you do with coworkers. Not long after I quit, he starts using messenger to chat to me, seemingly innocent stuff, but I always got a weird vibe. I mentioned my fiance a few times during the weirder topics, and it's like he blanked him out. Weird vibes got stronger. Fiance noticed me not wanting to chat with him anymore, and that I didn't feel comfortable just telling him to f*** off. He reminded me that I can always block and unfriend him. And so I did. And then I made my fb super private, and haven't had any contact from him, yet.
Then there was a guy who was a bit of an outlier to the friend group. When friends noticed my face as he caressed my shoulder during a group drink, they pulled him away before I decked him. They kept him away until he moved over an hour away, and we can't mention his name 3 times in a group meeting without blessing things and signing the cross in case he suddenly turns up.
Lord. If you feel like you have to point out to a girl that other guys would force themselves on her but because you're **such a nice guy** you wouldn't, you're not a nice guy. A good guy wouldn't voice his thoughts if they went there -- and most of the time, they don't.
(There is a big difference between having terrible thoughts and acting on them, but if you're voicing them to point out that you would "never do that", you're acting on them and making them someone else's problem. Please keep your distressing thoughts either to yourself, or strictly between you and your therapist. That shit is out of my pay grade.)
Idk man, I warned my female friend about what could happen because I felt like she was being irresponible with her online info and pictures.
@@jaalanodaicyr868 I want to say that warning a friend about online safety is a perfectly good thing to do, because speaking neutrally, it is, but I don't know the context of why you warned her or what you said. It's just as possible that the warning came from a place of warning her not to look "slutty" or anything of that nature, or that it was otherwise a patronising, unsolicited warning on your part. There's a difference between being a good friend, and patronising a girl or young woman because you assume she doesn't know what she's doing or how it might look to others. I don't know her or you, so if you're asking me to call your instance the exception and say what you did is fine, please excuse me if I don't (you know, in absence of all the facts).
@@rachelfox8108 No its all good 🤣 it probably was pretty creepy. But thats kind of the point. I meant that sometimes when guys say things like that it is to actually protect somebody from others in the future. Anyways, it didnt upset her and we are still good friends so I guess the way I did it was fine 😁
Fun story I have (I don't think it's a nice guy story, more just the guy in dumb as shit). My brother was out on the lash with my cousin (before family stuff got ugly) and one of his "mates", who is... SO thick. SO dumb. Like, I can't even describe how stupid he is. Anyway, they get talking with some lasses and the girls are liking what they hear so they start talking about venturing off together (maybe have a little swangity bangity boom bang, maybe just to exchange numbers, who knows?). Anyway, as the girls prepare to head off, my brother's dumbass friend *loudly* proclaims "Oh! It's alright, we're not gonna rape you or anything."
The girls freeze up. "Rape" has been mentioned. Now, instead of three guys they could hang out with, they see potential threats. They make excuses, disappear into the bar and are never seen again.
The second they do disappear, my brother and then-cousin turns to him and says "WHY THE FUCK DID YOU SAY THAT!?". The idiot tries to protest that "Well, we're not gonna rape them!", oblivious to the fact that it's implied you're not going to. Upon realizing the girls aren't coming back, the idiot says "They were probably slags anyway" and my then-cousin shouts at him "THAT WAS THE POINT!!".
Point being, never take a horny moron with you on the pull: He will cockblock you EVERY time (oh, my brother has soooooo many stories of this guy...)
I have a SO I’ve been with for over 5 years, but I never say the “sorry I have a bf” reason. “No, I’m not interested” is good enough.
Sometimes it's not enough for them though. They may not learn to take a hint.
The threat of another dude, who might be bigger and stronger, sounds like a good reason to me.
It's not enough was out asked repeatedly and never stopped eventually lost patience and talked shit about me to other co workers.. he acted so pitiful about me saying no , I have a husband, I'm not interested... he was over half my age and I overheard him talking to his kids .. it was always a constant thing for him to keep asking .. met quite a few guys that also didn't respond well to me saying no when they pushed boundaries and would grope me
Exactly. I'm single but I categorically refuse to use that as an excuse (/lie/defense mechanism) as to why NO is my answer. 1) These assholes don't care anyway and 2) I don't need a goddamn reason. But every word that comes out of their mouth that isn't "bye" after that is further justification for my position.
Tried to take me into his car,lemme tell yall how fast I RANNN
The fact the title refers to women as “females” but men as “guys”…smh this is a huge part of the problem
Based comment. For real, you never hear women say shit like “the MALES are in the other room” or “go ask the MALES”… it’s always “the boys are in the other room” or “go ask the guys.” But so many men will refer to women as “FeMaLeS” and play dumb when you point out why that’s wrong. (Or maybe they aren’t playing and are really just that dumb… )
There's nothing wrong with "females" or "males" though.
@@RedRoseSeptember22 yes there is. Using the term female and then whipping around and using terms like boys, men, guys are sexist. Female is a word used to describe something with specific genitals or hormones. This word applies to animals, bugs, and other living things. It also applies to humans but we have a word for female or male humans. Woman or man. Using females to talk about women is subtle dehumanization.
@@RedRoseSeptember22 It's a sign a guy is sexist if he uses those terms, and also grammatically incorrect. Female is an adjective. It would be like saying "a boring" or "a pretty" it's just wrong. Now you can say "a boring person" or "A pretty person" which is also why if a guy uses female outside of academia and without also using males, he is stupid.
@@RandomUser36536 fr i hate that.
I have met a few “nice guys.” When I was 17-27, there was a guy that was 20 years older than me. My parents were suspicious of him, but had no proof. He was a tutor for a while that I friended on Facebook. He started to be creepy the day I turned 21. I found out he was very creepy to other women too. Poor man died alone from an untreated concussion. I do think there was a genuinely good part of him, he just scared off anyone that could make that part come out.
The one I feel the most sorry for is the one who had the jerk essentially ruin their high school social life by lying to everyone about asking them to homecoming
I'm so glad that man got out of the car ok! Good on him for having a window breaker!
All these stories are filling me with anxiety, rage, and flash backs, but this one is extra special
In amongs us, a guy wanted my number, saying how he was nice and could be trusted blah blah blah
I said no and he started to insult me ALL kinds of names...like...they had to ban cause he wouldnt stop, no matter how many times everyone told him to stop-
I can not imagine the level of CRINGE I am experiencing 💀😬
I’m folding like a lawn chair
I’m smiling and shaking and having a spasm because of this next level cringe
Cringe? Cringe is the rape capital of the world in the DRC region of Africa. You kids got it easy.
13:00 dude that guy was definitely going to murder him.
the irony of using “females” in the title omggg
I don’t get why people are so against describing women as females. I see women around me describe themselves as females sometimes too.
The term woman isn’t any different from the term female. What do you want to be called?
@@railgunawesome7114 it’s dehumanizing. I don’t see anyone call men “males.” when people use the term female over woman, it’s a lot like referring to an animal. like why can’t we just call women “women”?
@ yeah it is... when you use the term female it’s a lot like referring to an animal, like a female dog. you don’t call men “males” so why call women females?? it’s dehumanizing, especially when women are referred to as females while men are just referred to as men or guys.
@@sashac8240 I disagree, men get called males all the time. But I do see your point, as mostly when being referred to as a male it is during a negative situation or to refer to something they don’t like about men. Perhaps you are right
You know, hearing stories like this makes me happy my behavior (if I was single and flirted with women) is so straight forward. Seriously, even my "don't hit on them at all", "playfully flirty but know when to stop" or "direct to the point" behaviors (it varies depending on situation) seems like a smooth operator in comparison.
Remember folks: literally anyone can be a predator. Gay, straight, male, female, black, white, young, old, friend, stranger, it’s irrelevant. Don’t ever assume someone can’t be a predator because of who they are
My worst situation with a niceguy must've been when i tried to tell him something the whole day, ignored me, then when i refused to tell him on command he
1.Tried to yank me from the buss i was getting on
2.told me he was gonna kill himself and it'll be my fault
3.said i should kill him because he isnt "dying for me"
🤦♀️
The homecoming guy. Girl, none of those ppl are your friends if no one bothered to check with you. Better to distinguish that from early on. Nothing lost there
Once again, I feel compelled to apologize for my entire gender.
There are a lot of crazy bitches out there, too.
@@DuchessofEarlGrey but this subreddit is about men, not women, let's stick to that for now.
@@akito2491 Why?
Dont be, its not your fault there's creeps out there.
@@HorrorOfTheNocturnal SCP-1471 moment
Homecoming one:
Even if I was lying I think I would've just screamed "I'm a fucking lesbian and have a girlfriend leave me alone", I mean all the high school boys sucked anyways so whatever. I then would've called his mother and told her if she didn't straighten out her son I was going to press charges even if I couldn't.
I also would've taken a tape recorder to school, got him to admit the truth and plastered it everywhere and made sure future bosses knew what a creep he is to women.
Jesus, these guys are serial killers in the making.
That second story....wow. That points to a psychopath with toxic tendacies. Nope.
If I've learned anything from these stories and real life, it's to never make any friends online or in person, never leave my house or go to an open window and to sleep with a gun and be ready with pepper spray when I go to collect the rain water I'm now going to have to live on 🤦😂😭
I can't tell if you are serious or not. 😅
Basically my life
Guy asked for my snap at a party right before I left and I gave it to him. Had to take care of my f’ed up friend so I decided (in my head) that I would add him back the following day. Few days later I heard he was telling people that were still there that I was a b!tch because I said I would add him but didn’t … at that point it was 5 in the morning 😐
Not a crazy story but whew
one nice guy (or girl) is threatening to kidnap me. i’m scared to block them out of fear that they’ll hurt me. i’m 13, i shouldn’t have to deal with this.
Omg. What?! Are you ok rn girl?!
@@-brightme-496 yeah, i guess i’m fine. i told these people that my mom found out about me talking to people i don’t know in person on games and stuff and that i needed to add them on an alt. i feel somewhat safer, but still a bit unsafe.
Ik im a year late but they can't do anything to you. As much as they threaten it (online at least) they do it with intent of scaring you.
My neighbor that was in the same grade as me ... who seemed ok ... I hung out with him a couple times out side of school just at his house because my sister hung out with his sister and they had a Ps2 (we had a wii) and I loved playing and watching gta vice city started randomly coming over to my house unannounced a couple of times he got Handz and I moved or just went in another room ... once I started dating one of his friends he asked my boyfriend at the time my number then texted me the following I’m seriously quoting it word for word “I know you guys keep the basement door unlocked and I’m going to come over in the middle of the night when you are sleeping and rape you” I deleted the text so fast I was in the grocery store and wasn’t thinking straight texting was a new thing then and I didn’t realize that that kind of stuff would be a good thing to show the police ... needless to say I checked the basement door every night before going to bed and the first story window a couple times before calming down a figuring this was just something he said and wasn’t actually going to do it ... he (30) and his sister (26ish) still live at the house he has a kid that lives there and his sister has 2 kids that live there ... I see them outside sometimes when I go to my moms house ... he messaged me a couple months ago on Facebook to “see how everything is going for me” I blocked him immediately
I'm just going to put this out here to the person Second Story I don't think any friendship is worth saving if friends aren't confirming with you that you're going out on a date with somebody that literally is out to destroy your whole entire social life especially friendships and relationships with other people because clearly those are the type of people who don't listen and they don't care as long as they look good defending somebody that looks innocent instead of guilty and I'm pretty sure eventually those people that the second poster was friends with eventually felt like shit for betraying you because they probably did eventually see that guy's true intentions and when he was capable of doing the others when it happened as so many others and they kept talking about the exact same thing you went through so believe me when I say this it's on them not you and they're the ones that screwed up their friendship and would rather choose to also care about the idea of looking good for somebody they don't even know
I can see where you are coming from.
There's a difference between a simp (nice guy) and a sociopath people
Is there? Or are they one and the same
@@maisies515 sure. The simp will blow his entire paycheck on only fans while the sociopath with get angry if you don't blow him for opening the door for you.
My husband always was "mr nice guy" when he cheated.
He would accuse me and say I did all the things he did to me and or me through. That way he could better relate to other women, and seem the victim that he was looking for to take my place.
That first one is creepy.i would have finally agreed to meet him then shown up with my brothers and their friends and watched while they beat the crap out of him.
Or just called the police...
I love being invisible to these types of people.
Not a girl, but....
Went to the movies with this guy. He seemed nice, but they always do. It was fine until I had to piss. He followed me into the bathroom and locked the door behind him. I pissed and, when I turned around, he was blocking the door.
He said he'd only move if I gave him a handy, so I grabbed and twisted.
He sounded like an elephant with its nuts caught in a circular fan and I made like a tree and got the fuck out of there.
do you still find this funny a year later, i wonder?
Nice one. He won't try that again in a hurry.
@@flannelpillowcase6475 Do I find the situation funny? No, it was the scariest experience of my life.
Do I look for the humor in the darkest moments so I can go on living my life with as little psychological impact as possible? Yes.
@@AJDaniels5298 wow that's weird and messed up
Last one, i hear that so much the tempt him crap, he can learn self restraint
Those window breaker things sound pretty handy to keep around.
17:31 I went on a date once with a guy who dressed exactly like this too, he was a weeaboo who wanted to lose his virginity and boy was I glad I didn't put out for him 😂
Dont be a nice guy be a good person
Prime example...
Don’t be nice be kind, there is a difference
Lmao, wide words…😔
How did any of you hold your tounge. I would have gone on a rant
I take it you've had an 'outie' configuration down there your whole life, yeah? Girls are taught from a very young age that 'boys will be boys' and that we should 'act lady-like'. Going on a rant against abusive, creepy, or rude men usually goes poorly for the woman in the situation; even in the perspective of other women. We're seen as unreasonable, hormonal, crazy, or even abusive ourselves if we try to speak out against the bad guys in our lives. Sexism, my dude. It's one helluva drug, and most of the population is steeped in it from birth.
@@hauntedshadowslegacy2826 ain’t that the truth
because if you piss off the creep you might escalate them into doing something worse out of anger. they should not be treated like sane people you gotta be careful and hopefully know who you are dealing with
These dudes have probably never heard of the term "there is one of many fishes in the sea, it is sometimes best to let go". I've been in many relationships in my high school years, but never have I had the thought to make a secne or rumor about it. Mostly it was the other way around where it was the girls that stirs up the comotions, the boys however just nodded and smiled before giving each other respect for being with so many girls.
I know not all guys are creeps like this. There are a lot of guys who are actually nice and just get a bad reputation because of these wierdos.
I have zero trust in guys for reasons and I don't like it, because I'm never gonna be able to open up :(
that's perfectly fine
Last nice guy I knew was my ex, guy was a little unhinged. Glad I broke up with the bloke.
A “nice guy” invited me to work on a class project and drugged and raped me. So yeah, that was the worst.
I'm so sorry, I send you all the love in healing
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hope you where able to have him put away.
That wasn't a nice guy. That was a criminal. Nice guys have two categories, one who claims to be nice and the other who is claimed to be nice by other people. Never trust a guy who says he's nice. He's the opposite. I'm very sorry for that person did to you.
That's fucked up
Right.....
The best part of this is "females" in the title 🤣
Exactly how come no one's talking about that
@@meghaghosh2545 I thought it was part of the "nice guy" joke but now I'm not sure lmaooo
i used to be one of those "nice guys" but now i just intentionally get friendzoned so i make friends
Men offering a ride very rarely mean just a car ride.
Ha. That reminds me of the time I accidentally picked up a prostitute in the rain thinking she was walking/hitchhiking to the store or something. Took me a minute to realize what she was talking about when I asked where she needed to go, then pulled right back over and let her out not even a quarter mile down the road. Lmao.
seemed really nice, always let me get a ride after marching band if I needed it... asked me if I would fudge him every time, and also when we were alone. :/ I really thought that he would have been a good friend.
'Nice ' does not equal 'Good'
A 'nice guy' tends to be someone who treats their 'good' behaviour as some kind of transaction eg: You owe me because I treated you like you were a persons instead of a woman and I should be rewarded for that with sex.
A 'good guy' does good things because it's in their nature to be a good person. They don't do it to buy sex-points, they do it because it's the right thing to do and it never occurs to them to write it all down in their heads in bill-form to cash in at a later date because that is PLAIN FUCKING EVIL.
(Honestly, HONESTLY, could some of the sketchier commenters on this at least try to wrap their heads around the idea that women are not an outlying novelty in human society to be only tricked and coerced into sexual situations and are actual human beings with thoughts, aspirations and beliefs all of their own just like they are??)
^Sorry for that last rant. I guess I just don't understand why men seem to have such a crazy lack of what's often called 'basic human empathy' and that's somehow womens fault...
Welp..... a nice guy I knew threw mutual friends faked a brain tumor, went has far to fake a surgery so I would help him with his recovery.
thnak god i am ugly, being invisible to girls have some advantages after all
@@EndlessSummer888 you still live in 1950? xd
that never happens
@@EndlessSummer888 Not all of us women are emotional beasts, but maybe that's one of the reasons I'm single. Guys tend to see me as a friend or sister or nerdy discussion buddy and I'm A-OK with that arrangement lol. I'll take a Legend of Zelda lore argument or an hours long talk on what infinity is over someone trying to hug and stuff. If I remember right women are about 70/30 emotional/ rational and men are the inverse. "Nice guys" tend to fall in the emotional category as they let their desires control them instead of thinking thoroughly through a plan and critically thinking on themselves, instead blaming those awful women for making them feel bad.
Remember, only the Sith deal in absolutes fam. Saying all women are emotional and all men are logical is like saying all dogs are good bois and all cats are devil spawn... aka not 100% accurate and more often than not the opposite.
What are they ?
Doesn't work always work. I was a fat kid in school, the more popular gossip girls kept trying to "hook me up" with their friend, asking if I liked her. We never interacted, I barely spoke, I was renown as a fat nerd from a poor family, can you see how easily that lie unraveled? Five years of that shit...
@@EndlessSummer888 They operate on emotions?! Uh oh, we got a genius over here everybody! Who'd a thunk it? 😒
I once met a dude on AlloTalk who got mad when I told him I was aromantic and then tried to force me into some creepy violent r*pe RP in DMs. Luckily for me, there was a mod in the room I was(not to mention that we were friends) in so the creep got IP banned
What is Allotalk? It sounds like he should have already known
Met a nice neighbor guy who was a nice single dad...kids played together twice.. we have a few coffee / wake n bake hang outs...i kept telling he he was just a friend...we only hugged twice ( over a 2mnth period )...then basically he starts creeping around my basement and robbing me 😒
He lied about his age and had a live in girlfriend and went into overdrive when I didn't want anything to do with him, he stalked my job for weeks until our director had him trespassed didn't stop him at all he'd hangout across the street
How old did he portray himself as, and what was his actual age?
@@markparkinson6947 he acted 17 and dressed like it and hungout at all the teen gathering spots he was 24 and had other teens but to him I was special (his words)
@@amarareed2432 Damn, that sucks! It’s bad enough that he lied about his age and his girlfriend, but to not even leave you alone after you established that you did not want to hange out with him, makes the guy a massive douchebag.
And from the sound of things, the director is also a douchebag for allowing this to happen.
@@markparkinson6947 actually my manager thought he was being sweet and she used to allow him into the store, our director of security took over the situation after he checked the guy out and had him trespassed. The manager ended up being fired a week later cause she hired him knowing he was banned from the store.
@@amarareed2432 Wait, so both the manager and the security director allowed him in the store? That’s weird.
And also, the manager is a very bad manager, indeed.
Ironically, these kinds of people are anything but nice.
My story: I'm having thoughts about ending myself with my **Nerf gun** that I have sitting next to me, but I think I'd better if you sent me nude pictures....
Before this he had full on brainwashed and manipulated me into trusting him, and making me pity him, so I sent him pictures.... and I still regret doing it in SO many different ways, but I don't want to go more into details about them.
Not super crazy about "females" being added in the title when it wasn't included in the original askreddit question, which is especially ironic considering the subject matter is people who dehumanize women by thinking their affection is a prize to be won. Good thread to put out there, but :/
wah
@@dissimulii huh?
@@ulawan5 He's saying you sound like a whiny 🚼.
@@edwardgaines6561 I disagree with his suggestion, then.
My freshman year of hs I started talking to a senior, we hung out a couple of times since he was friends with one of my cousins. So we’d all hang out at my gmas house and it was chill. But one time we went alone to a date to a kermes (just like food stands and rides outside of a local church, the whole town pretty much goes) and when he brought me back home we kissed and not be mean but he kissed really really bad. And after that I wasn’t much into him and when I told him I wanted to just be friends he got pissed and said to just stop talking to him. So I did. And later on I found out thru some of my senior volleyball teammates that he had told people I had sex with him on multiple occasions and that he cut me off bc I was a whore.. I was so fucking pissed off. Such a loser.
In the second story, I feel really bad for you that you lost so many "friends" cuz that guy wouldn't take a hint
Back in highschool, this nice guy tried to fuck with me and spread rumors about me. Once he even tried to get me to drink shit he brought at a party. I got fed up with it and bullied him 'till he transfered. 🙄 I can play dirty. 😼
a lil bit hard to read the texts
This is where the phrase ‘Nice Guys’ finish last come from
I was called a b**** for not sending a guy a picture of my armpit. I was asked if I was gay because I didn't want to see the penis of a man I've never even heard of before. I was asked if I was gay because I didn't want to date a guy whom I never met and I wasn't interested in him. A guy sent me a photo of self harm because I didn't want to send him a photo (this was after he said I could trust him). I was asked if I was a boy because I didn't want to send a complete stranger a photo of my boobs.
11:37 Our boy Frank is about to do a pro gamer move.
Showing up at my front door dressed in a diaper wearing a bonnet on his head. He was 6'7" tall and a year older (high school). Had a bumble bee shaped floral arrangement because I'd been bitten on my neck by a huge junebug. Nice idea kind thought but you're wearing a diaper made from a fitted bedsheet. Just....no
So I (18F at the time,now 21) was staying over at an older friend's place who I'll call Saph. We were and still are big in the cosplay scene,and I was staying over at his place so we could all meet in the same town and travel to where the convention was all at once. Now Saph wasn't exactly the sanest person in the universe,he was in a really bad shape upstairs and I did notice that,but stuck with him we were each other's closest friend at the time. Big big yikes for me. Now he seemed to have taken some kind of liking for me that wasn't reciprocated by me,and I had noticed that when his hugs became not-so-friendly anymore,like if i put my arm around his shoulder,he'd reach for my waist and squeeze it slightly,sometimes even my hip. Plus his compliments sounded more and more flirty but I had DumbBitchItis at the time so I didn't notice the plethora of red flags or refused to acknowledge them as I had nobody else at the time. We were just there,sitting on the couch at night while watching TV and I started to get a little shaky,as I suffered from severe night terrors. He offered to let me sleep in his arms so I just quietly climbed in his arms and tried to calm down. After that,I woke up to him saying "It's 1:30 in the morning,how about we go to sleep now huh?" In a weird singsongy tone. Like he was talking to some sort of little kid. I stupidly thought it was just him trying to act a little more soft spoken to wake me up since I did just have a breakdown in his arms and I walked off to the guest bedroom with Saph following me in tow for some reason. I had forgotten my pyjamas at home so he just said "Don't worry I will give you some of my clothes ~" in that same overly sugary sweet tone. I said "I'm fine,don't worry." And I got a "Come on,why not? I have some clothes to spare!" As an answer. I hugged him,gave him a heartfelt thank you and got into bed,with him sitting on the edge of it. When I laid down I thought he was gonna get up and leave but he,and I kid you not,lifted the covers and tucked me in like I was a 4 year old. At this point this cutesy behavior seemed more creepy than cute so I tried to talk to him:
"Uh why are you tucking me in?"
"Because I want to?"
"Uhh...I'm not a small child. I'm 18 years old."
"So? I'm the older one here,so you're still small to me ~"
"Oookay,good night Saph."
After I fell asleep,I did hear some scuffling and had a dream about a figure standing in the doorway,but I brushed it off because it was one of my most reoccurring nightmares at the time. When I got up I greeted Saph who looked at me with a big smile,I looked at the clock and said "Awww Saph,why didn't you wake me up? We were supposed to go to the plaza!!" And this MF just casually said "I didn't wake you up,you looked so peaceful ~" I started laughing but then froze in place when I put two and two together and figured out that he must've watched me sleep for him to say this,bonus creepy points for me suspecting that the figure in the doorway could've been him watching me sleep instead of just a random nightmare,and the scuffling to back that theory app. I wanted to get out of there asap but my hometown was there hours away and I didn't have a ticket to go back until the next day. The rest of my stay was...Awkward to say the least.
Someone summarize this for me
@@rikeshneupane8965
Some random guy who's place I was staying over and seemed to have a liking for me started talking to me after I had a panic attack in a sickly sweet tone that sounded like he was talking to a kid. He did that because "He was older than me and thought he was cute or smth." Then he tucked me in the covers while still talking like that and the next day he indirectly told me he watched me sleep at some point.
So he treated the barely 18 girl he wanted to do de NaSti with like a little girl and watched her sleep too. Yep.
@@theycallmet3061 oh
@@theycallmet3061 that’s tough
@@rikeshneupane8965 Don't worry nothing happened in that house besides me going from being really thankful he helped me calm my panic attack and being lucky to have him as a friend to hoping he wasn't trying to initiate some sort of DDLG clusterfuck with me.
These stories hit way too close to home 💀 I hate nice guys with a serious passion they're literally delusional
Isn’t the title of this video kinda ironic when you consider the topic? Like, you never hear women say shit like “the males are in the other room” or “go ask the males”… it’s always “the boys are in the other room” or “go ask the guys.” But so many men will refer to women as “FeMaLeS” in casual conversation, and be dismissive when you point out how dehumanizing that is… (I think it’s different when saying something like “a female character” or “male biology”, though.)
What is the femine equivalent to guys? Gals? Just curious
@@gnhun101 probably just girls
@@alisonlee4386 doesn't girls sound too young? Not quite synonyms with "females" or "women"? Not trying to be dismissive, just wondering what would be a logical equivalent for a group of women, but equivalent to guys?
Shit like this happens when you take movies too seriously
I have Asperger's and he pissed me off. This shit is no joke
Imagine a religious guy blaming you for their own fall from grace as if you are the devil.
Getting that glass breaking Keychain after this
Plot twist...
They’re not nice guys
I hate guys who act nice just bc they want to get laid. This bullshit needs to stop-
Fr fr
When he told me that he stole things and was part of a gang. I ran real fast after that.
Im a guy, but this is why you always give out a burner number on dating apps.
Guys have a similar problem, but with girls making up stories to bum money
There is another Reddit category called "nice girls" too, so there is recognition that women are capable of behaving in the same way.
There are nice guys but these “nice guys” only want a reward if they put on an “nice guy” act
NEVER BE ALONE W A "NICE GUY" EVER. TRUST YOUR GUT