Surviving A Breakup - Russell Brand
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- Опубликовано: 20 янв 2019
- How have you dealt with heartbreak?
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It's not the breakup that's difficult. It's the memories that follow.
Revenger079 yep it’s always the memories that hurt the worse and prove to be the most difficult to get rid of
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Great comment
I hope you can reach the point when u ll still gonna love them but find the courage to move on and to start heal8ng ur self. It doesnt ned to be a sad story. it happened for a reason and it ended for a reason. and you have all the right in the world to cherish those memories. even with the pain that will never go. but yeah don't look at it with bitter. it was beautiful be thankfull and god bless
it happened the same thing to me, about a month ago, it sucks bro, wish you a happy recovery!!!! :)
Never thought Russell Brand would be the person to save me.
Hehehe. There is beauty in that eh? And inspiration knowing there is the potential for consciousness and sense in places you didn't expect.
Fully! Far out.
Same here.
Right. So much wisdom!
Same here! That’s life! finding wisdom as long as you have the mind open
The hardest part about a breakup is losing your best friend too.
😭
Damn this hits so hard and true
Not if you have other great friends you can rely on.
I had a same problem, then I realized that you need to be surrounded by more good friends and you can count of them, then it is not such a big problem to loose another because we are loosing good and best friends, this is how it is and will always be. What we can do is invest this pain and use it for work more and harder. Be better ready next time is the best way what to do after everytime you get through this. Then it is like normal thing to you (If it happens again of course). But Im sure that after some experience, everybody knows what exactly to do next time.
Not only did she dump me at a very low point in my life, and i lost my best friend, but I lost a bunch of friends who sided with her. I was absolutely broken by the breakup because she also monkey branched to the "friend" I should not worry about within about a month. I initially was also very broken about the supposed friends that I lost but in time came to realize that no true friends will ever do that to you and understand now that "losing" them was a blessing. Believe me, in time, the fog starts to clear and you see things for what they are and when you do, that is when you start taking your power back
I watched this a year ago, at the time the pain was unbearable and I lost all my will to live. For everyone reading this: I know it’s incredibly hard right now and it feels like there’s no way out but I promise that there’s light at the end of the tunnel♥️ I still think about it every now and then but the pain has faded. You can do this!
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I literally wrote a list of everything bad in my last relationship immediately after the breakup, and I read it recently. My mind was blown away by the number of things I'd forgotten about. We really do tend to idealize people.
Facts omg
We tend to do that with death aswell soon as someone dies you forget about how big of a piece of shit they were
4it4k that's what I realized, I forget a lot
I did a list of the good/bad things about my ex. It helped me recognize, realize and remind that it wasn't worth it and that I deserve better.
U encouraged me to do the same, let me prepare my pen 😈
Who ever you are reading this
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Please never give up ❤️
Tom Stokes thank you 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
thanks babe 💋
Thanks Brodie
Thank you
Tom Stokes such a kind words
Happiness to you, whom ever you may be🙏
Sometimes its not the person you miss, but the person you felt like when you were with them.
So true wow
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Breakups don't bother me anymore. It's the fact that finding consistent and honest people is becoming increasingly difficult. People are getting desperate and forgetting what it means to be a true human being. It's feeling lonelier and lonelier, even in a relationship.
Facts.
You're right, and it's so sad.
Very true
Yep once you survive get pissed, goto the gym get jacked up, play guitar, overcome legal problems and other bullshit that I am not even going to get into. Yes breakups mean shit. All women just want it easy. They will never tell you this and because they are a woman they don't have too. Again you gotta be Alpha male and bring the truth out of them. What I have learned throughout all my years is the time, pain, sacrifice, that you invest in yourself to become a better person is the only guarantee to be successfully person. Everything is contemporary. Talk is cheap. Carrying your own weight, bettering self, and learning from your mistakes takes a lifetime. But yes I can totally agree more. Good people of character and in general are really really getting harder to find in this World where negativity is a constant. Be strong. Stand for your principals. Yes we fail but you get up, fix your problems, and let it be a life lesson for you to not fuck up. Otherwise you will be entraped in the cycle. The idea is you want to break from it and move foward and be an accomplished indiviual. When you look back you can tell yourself. Well at least I got to accomplish a dream against all odds.
It is! Like how do people get enthusiastic about this prospect?
1 - Accept that the break up is the right thing and it's happened
2 - Accept that you can not control nobody except yourself
3 - Realize that you cannot invest your well-being in the perception of another person
4 - Learn to let go and move on
5 - Trust that the future is going to be OK for you
Print this and put it by your nightstand.
I just did... broken heart is awful
Wow, Russell copied all your advice.
Thank you
thank you!!
I had the best man but because of insecurity I lost him, can’t live with myself. I miss him every damn day and my biggest wish in this life is us getting back together
The hardest pain about breakups is this : waking up in the morning.
Especially if you happen to have a dream about your ex and everything seems realistic until you wake up in reality when nothing of that relationship exists anymore.
I have been in a relationship for 8 years. After we broke up, I found a new girl and have been with her for almost a year and we ended up breaking up a few days ago.
Same thing happens if you don't really take the time to heal guys.
I realised that the only way to get better at this, is by waking up and instantly putting yourself in the beast mode. What is the beast mode you may say? Well, beast mode is when you open your eyes in the morning and see a beast and instead of getting afraid of it you attack it.
The people who will understand this metaphore will get my point very quickly.
Stay strong fellas, you got this.
Hi,
How is your breakup.
I have really good advice for you.
It really works for me.
Within 1 minute I overcame from my breakup.
Let me know if you need my help.
100% work this trick.
Thank you
@@priya7889 what is it about ? advice is always good
How is your breakup now. Is it over
hey how are u now
Great advice brother...❤️
ONE YEAR ON... I remember watching this a year ago when a 7 year relationship ended. I was a broken shattered man. I was crying everyday and could barely sleep. For anyone who is now going through the pain please believe it gets better over time. Despite not being ready for a new relationship I am over the heartbreak and you will be too. Please reach out to your support network. Please pursue activities your soul needs to live. Dont deprive your basic needs for mind body and soul. If you need medical help or a therapist please arrange it. I had 5 months of therapy which helped me immensely and saved my life. Stay strong everyone you will be okay I promise 😊
I’ve just found this post. I’m 7 months in and I’m a complete wreck. I can hardly sleep and I cry everyday. It’s bad cause we have a son, who I hardly see. So a double whammy of pain. It’s impossible to see a future right now. I hope it gets better. It helps hearing others that are pulling through.
@RskeDwg I'm sorry to hear. I promise things will get better over time. When you are able to try and spend time with your support network (friends and family). Get involved in activities you like such as a sports team. In time you will be okay I promise
Nobody is mentioning ages if your younger 18-35 it's always gonna be a little easier but when it's a break up and your in your 50's it's 100 times harder and the future is bleaker I'm late 50's and just came out of a 20+ year rationship and it's been 8 months and I'm still a fookin wreck and fearing the worst for myself and only my dog us stopping me.
Literally just had a really hard breakup. This really helped
Is he, like...a therapist now? I don't know what to think about people not knowing this very common knowledge like they have never been through a break up before.
@@TheSlong123 all I know is this video came at exactly the right time and helped me out. I've never been through anything like this before and the bit about the reality you made in your head together really hit me hard
Same
@@TheSlong123 I think these kind of ideas come more easily to some than others, it depends on what kind of mental tools you've been granted through upbringing, environment etc. I personally find this advice very helpful and it's clearly helping others too.
@@myguitarsings3636 Literally is literally the most overused word in the English language.
Literally.
When you walk away from a relationship ensure you write down all that was wrong with it and keep it close to you.
Great idea!
@@PacificNWGrl You're welcome! When you begin to miss them give the list a check. You'll be surprised how much time helps you to forget. Don't allow that to happen. We always look back on the past with rose tinted glasses!
@For Paws I'm glad you've got away. Now you can live your best life but be aware of the Hoover!
Good advice my friend. I'll try to follow it.
Couldn't have said it any better!
"The hardest part of ending is starting again."
-Mike Shinoda
Going thru my first breakup of 6 years and 1 day. I’m not sure I will survive this, as it is the worst thing I’ve ever went through in my life. I’m not sure I have the strength to get thru life going forward. I cry myself to sleep every single night. Life has lost the meaning. I’m filled with bad thoughts, ruminations, guilty, sadness and emptiness. To whoever’s going through this, im so sorry you’re going through this and I would hold you and cry with you if i could.
It is excruciating and I'm sorry you're going through it. I am currently as well and struggling to sleep and function. It's the second time of breaking up with him and somehow its more painful. Right now, its ok to let it out, to cry and to mourn the loss of the person you loved so much, and the life you thought you would have had. I'm trying to talk to close friends and to express all the pain. Hang in there, we will get through this.
How are you doing now fabio?
yesterday I ended up losing the love of my life because I was too controlling. Since then the pain I feel feels like it's going to kill me. Everything hurts, even my body hurts. I keep trying thoughts all the time about how I wish everything could go back to normal, but there's no way. How does anyone survive this? I'm so sorry you're going through this
Hey fabio, I hope you're doing okay buddy.
It's okay to mourn and it's okay to feel what you feel. I've found the most important thing to remember in all of this is that you are responsible for how you feel. Although it may not be youre fault that you are where are you are, its important to remember it's your move next.
Hang in there Fab, Try to stay positive. Dont beat yourself up too hard. You'll pull through, remember that.
Bro I think Im gonna break up soon with my gf and just hit the gym dude!Don't let that to beat you!I'm really sorry because it feels horrible!
Since the breakup with the woman I loved I’ve spent countless hours on RUclips on many content creators and dating coaches but none have been more helpful than this. Simple and direct. Thank you Russel, you are a kind man
i'm so sad bro same situation. what do we do?
SonyCamry realize that we are more than capable of being loved, move on and find another potential partner. Best of luck my friend
@@SonyCamry Stay off Facebook! Or at least have a friend put your settings so you don't see their updates or whatever. I quit using FB for about a year and the first time I got on it bam! Looked her up, found out she got married and I felt like ass for a whole month.
@@TheCrain i can't stop looking bro i miss her so much
@@SonyCamry It gets 1% better every day. Start working out or something of the like.
Just remember ALL the horrible emotional pain they've brought you during the relationship and you'll be goddamn happy it's finally over.
I brought my ex emotional pain (I brought bad habits from a previous relationship over, which I regret not recognising that they were unhealthy) but she brought very little in that regard. I was the toxic one and it's hard to take, knowing you were the bad partner.
@@MikeJackson690 going through that rn, how are you doing now? Were you able to forgive yourself ?
I'm trying to get back on the dating scene but it's very tough, starting over isn't easy, especially when you're conscious of it.
But yes, I have almost forgiven myself, mostly because I know I'm a far better person now than I was then, and hopefully someday someone will reap the benefits of that.
I hope you can give yourself the time you need to recover. You're obviously aware of your mistakes and that makes you a good person in itself. Don't rush anything, you'll get there.
I'm beginning to think that the comments like this cliché are posted by bots.
Best advice.
I just broken up with the person I thought I would be with forever. She was genuinely everything I wanted in a person but after some time it became obvious that I loved her more than she loved me. I am so emotionally distraught and don't know what to do with myself. I didn't lose just a lover, I lost my second half. Thank you so much for this video. This is just what I needed to see and hear to help me move along in my journey, thank you so much.
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Dr Steve also helped me restored mine. I'm so much happy now ☺️😊🥳😇. I might know or not know what you are passing through, but I can assure you that if you are able to get in touch with him things will get better 😇. Sending you positive love and energy 💕👩❤️👩💕💕💓 You are always loved. ♥️♥️💗
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It’s very difficult when everything in your life is falling apart and the only good thing you had to look forward to was your lover, and now they’re gone, and you have nothing.
We'll get through it man, I know we will.
Thank you Russell. I’m going through a break up right now and I feel like I’m in absolute hell. The spiritual, emotional and physical pain is literally unbearable atm. I can’t see a way out and I’m terrified. I just hope one day I come out of this stronger. To anyone reading this and going through the same thing, I wish you nothing but all the strength and love in the world.
Love you all.
Peace ❤️
Thank you.
yeekers Very good !! 😊 It’s just stunning what time does. Hope you’re ok, too ! 🙏🏻
yeekers And it will only get better. Thankyou too.
Glad this turned out great
Sonny Dortmund so happy for u !!
To anyone feeling any sense of guilt after ending a relationship with someone who you found so hard to leave, remember - it is never your job to fix anyone. Each person is their own, and it’s our own duty to look after OURSELVES. How can you love someone if yourself is suffering in the process? Sometimes you have to hurt yourself by leaving, to then prosper in the bigger picture x
…. “How can you love someone if yourself is suffering in the process “ ….that hit me , hard.
Yeah we're all just lying stepping stones for eachother. No one actually matters. Get out there. Use people and remember relationships arent worth it.
Right? Just leave when they are at their worst.
Just wanna say thank you, i am suffering to let her go and moving on cause i feel so much guilt for her. Cant stand if she wont be okey after we broke up
❤️thank u
I got a little distracted by how his mustache connects to the hair inside his nose.. But anyways, I'm going through the most difficult breakup I've ever had, it literally HURTS, take away my strength, my energy, even my willingness to eat.. Damn, how come I miss her so much =(
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Everyone reading this you are a fucking animal use this pain to get better go to the gym, you’re heartbroken you have unlimited power and energy you gotta get up and boss up that girl you’re sad about is nothing compared to what you can be you’ve got this soldier I promise you never give up
I watched this 6 months ago. Heartbroken about a toxic boy that didn't care for me.. Now im single and feeling better than ever. Stop settling for less, break up with that toxic person who is ruining your happiness.. Time heals wounds.. focus on yourself and your selfworth and everything will be okay.. May the universe bless you❤️
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Thanks for leaving this comment, I've just had a break up and it's helped me feel better, glad you're doing well now!
How did u handle the initial stages
@@amymccall2000 I hope you are feeling better ❤️🙏
@@1970anfield i was mentally breaking up with him while in a relationship... When you break up it's important to not have any contact and delete all pictures or anything that reminds u of them.. that will really help.. after that it's a roller-coaster of emotions but it will get better
These small very direct chats are so much more helpful than you realize... thank you.
It's when they decide to "try again" which is code for sniffing you out and then deciding they were right NOT to come back and then leaving all over again - that's what I've just been through
It's been 6 days since being broken up with, it's such a stange process between the pain, anger and confusion. And yeah, letting go of the idea of the future with that person is so hard as you get older. Feels like you wasted years of your life. I know most likely I'll meet someone else, but it's the idea of having to show them who you are, investing more time, only for what...what if it doesn't work out? Makes me so sad. I also live across the world from my family and friends, and so mainly rely on phone calls for support. The loneliness is hard.
Keep the head up Sarah. It'll be easy to tell your story to the right one, they will be listening intently.
I never thought Russell Brand would be my breakup therapist 😂 yet here I am.
Update: Two months later, after embracing these steps I've truly ACCEPTED my journey and I'm back to being myself.
How are you doing now?
@@bigmac9726 update?
@@bigmac9726 hope you are feing better beautiful soul 🙏😊💖
@@bigmac9726 Great to hear you’re in a much better place. Out of curiosity, what made you not take him back despite his apologies?
My ex fiance and I broke up half a year ago and it's been hard trying to let go and move on after ten years together. This is just what I needed to see and hear to help me move along in the journey, thank you.
💓💓💓 hope that you start to feel more yourself as time progresses!
It really is hard, but you gotta believe that it served a greater purpose.
How are you doing now? Hope you're ok.
How are you now??
@@adelesmith7827 I'm doing good! Since commenting I've met some guys, and am currently dating a really great guy! Hasn't always been easy for us, but we've been working on things together and are making it through together. :)
My and my partner were together 6 years and broke up, I watched this video numerous times. 4 months later we spoke and got back together. I now feel that was the best worst mistake I ever made because 7 months later we are apart again and now I have to start this feeling all over again...
I wish I had more self worth without her.
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Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks..
Message him on Whatsapp.
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When he said after the relationship ends you forget all the things you didn’t like about person, that one hit hard.
just remember all we truly have is the present. In essence, memories are just thoughts.
This might sound weird but "in essence memories are just thoughts changed my life a little bit
Going through the agony for the first time in my life. Thank you for this advice x
Wow, it can be so hard, but it's doable!
I got to 39 before I joined the club this year. I was naive before.
Same, Jen. I hope you've moved on and are in a better place now!
My problem after a break up is that even tho there were some bad times I can’t think about any of them. I can only things about the good memories which makes me miss my now ex boyfriend. Also we didn’t argue and he treated me right. Which was nice. But I kinda think that it would be easier for me if he first made me hate him.
Remember guys that having a partner is extra in your life. You’re able to have a wonderful life alone, and then when there is a right time you’ll meet the right person. You’re the only one to take care of yourself so do it and just keep your head up.
I live by that rule: if you’re meant to be with someone- you’ll be with them. If you guys don’t work out then that person wasn’t meant to be yours. And there’s someone out there still waiting for you.
Good luck you all. Be strong!
when i saw this a couple of days after a breakup, deep down i knew those things mentioned were right, but my brain just refused to accept it, it was like i couldnt believe in it fully, but now, almost a year later i can see and believe that all of these things he says are true
Wise words, thank you. Broke up with my boyfriend two days ago. Finally had the guts to be honest with myself and admit that I deserve more than I was getting.
how are you now?
@@io4317 I am doing really good now. Thank you for asking! It definitely was the right decision. After 7 months of radio silence, we talked again. We sometimes still text or call, but it's just that. Hope you're well! Have a good day :)
@@a.f8663 im happy to hear you're doing better :)
Same same same ❤️
Yesssss going through this right now
I refer to this 3 minute video when I feel myself starting to slip into a broken heart over the same guy. Thanks Russell.
Same here (but over my ex GF), it's been just over 14 months and I'm generally better now, but here I am, slipping this evening. Erch.
Hope you're doing well now.
Remember, it's not your heart that was broken, it's your expectations. Hearing this helped me out, hope it does the same for you.
Carleigh Rous, you are too precious to be with such guy!
I've literally watched this about 50 times sporadically over the last 10 months and I always come back to it when I feel the need to text her. I may not be all the way there yet, but you help me get a little closer each time. Thank you, Russell. Not only for this video, but for the wisdom and lessons you share throughout your channel. I hope I get to thank you personally someday, or that you at least see this, as I honestly believe you helped save my life.
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This is fucking hard, I miss her, and I don't know how someone that has received your attention, love, care,trust, faithful for years can suddenly say, it's over thanks for your time, like you were a disposable thing, it hurts very bad on every level, and I don't now what to do to get over, I tried but is overwhelming.
@Box Addict I’m a woman and that isn’t true. Some women maybe but not all.
It's not helpful to demonise women, I'm sure they'd something similar about men.
Hang in there though David. It doesn't feel like it, but it will get better...hopefully it already is, a bit, by now.
Im in the same situation. Dropped me like a stone a month ago. I already had mental health issues before and its extremely difficult. Women are cruel when they don't want you and when you still love them I don't think there is a worse feeling. I just miss loving her it gave me a lot of happiness, its true the love is within.
@Box Addict well your comment doesn’t address my statement at all. No wonder women want to dump you with that attitude.
@@crikeymos22 Yeah, if you're a straight man and you get your heart broken, it's gonna be by a woman. Likewise with a straight woman and a man. There are plenty of crappy people of both sexes unfortunately! This whole 'red pill' thing, I hadn't heard of it before - another deeply disturbing conspiracy complex.
Like Jim Morrison said, 'Women seem wicked when you're unwanted...'
This was so simple yet so helpful. Throughout my life, breakups have been the most triggering events for anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts. It’s so true that I idolise certain people and my relationships with them. I’m going to get back on antidepressants in the next couple of days to try to find that hope for the future again. I’m right here *virtually* holding hands with anyone else in this situation right now. I won’t give up if you won’t.
Would you say that antidepressants have helped you or rather turned out to be negative in the long run?
Try lsd, itll actually work for depression. Pharmaceuticals never work.
I would like to knownif anti depressants helped..25 year marriage breakup and am on the precipose
@@dangerscouser Yes, antidepressants can help.
Make sure you do all the other things necessary too. Start working out, see friends and family, make sure you're happy in your job, consider looking for someone else to date.
If you choose antidepressants, they do help. And they don't have to be with you forever.
Im going through so much , thank you for your channel . Thank you for your help
It's going to be ok Emma. The best is yet to come.
Emma, it does get better. I went through hell 5 years ago, after being betrayed by someone I cared and loved so much. I still think of the person sometimes, but not as in the past. My advise, try going through the dating process, even if you have no desire to do it. But dont commit to any relation with a broken heart, unless the person is absolutely the one you have always been looking for.
❤
Remember, sitting around for a couple of hours thinking bout it won’t do ya any good, go out and spoil yourself.
From one Emma to another, I am going through it as well. We’ll get through this. You’re not alone. 💜
This is the best breakup advice video I've ever watched. Clear, honest, straight to the point. Nothing more to say really.
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks..
Message him on Whatsapp.
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The worst is realize what he said in the begining, all the plans for the future have to be undone.
Sometimes the time passed and all the good energy and possibilities was wasted with the wrong person.
And that time will never be recovered.
A year ago I never would have imagined that I would be here, needing this video..... 😩
How.are u now??
This honestly helped me so much I recently got broken up with my ex boyfriend after he realized that his own personal issues were getting far worse to the point it was affecting us and our relationship. Not only that but I’m moving away for school. It sucks to think that after showering someone with so much love and support, it’ll never be enough when they have their own inner demons to deal with. I’m trying to stay positive and wish him the best, but it’s so hard to do when you saw them slowly lose feelings over time...
Crazy this one comment hit me different because this is literally what I am going through. Same exact story except I am a man and she was a woman, and man it really does and I tried everything to preserve it, it just hurts. I thought I was going to marry this woman!!
How did u manage the initial stages. I'm broken and can't think
@@1970anfield right there with ya. its crazy but i found that the best way to me to not have it on my mind all the time is to not compromise on my work and to get into fitness. over the past two days its been better, as ive been hitting the gym hard and running outdoors. i find that im only thinking about her and the happy memories and the other intrusive thoughts when im not engaging my body and mind in shit thats productive and beneficial for myself.
It's been a week, and its so hard. If you need to talk, I'm here along with many other people.
@@moistskipper thanks I did that too. Went for my usual 2 hour walks and blocked out any thoughts of him. About 7pm (his 7am), he texted. Made small talk and didn't talk abt anything serious. He said he was upset about his work and didn't want to explain and that he didn't 'leave'. Whatever it was, I realise I need to be prepared in case he does leave one day. Not to be on guard, but just learn how to cope If it happens. I tell myself it's his loss if he wants to leave me. I'm not perfect but when I love, I love all the way. Good and bad I guess. I'm glad you're hanging in there. So good to hear from so many ppl
I’ve been watching this repeatedly for 4 months.
Just when I think it’s getting better, it feels like it gets worse.
This definitely helps in the moment though. Thank you, Russell.
Thank you more than words can express. 2.40 of your wisdom is what I needed to hear to start living the rest of my life. Much love and respect to you Russell and to anyone else that reads this ❤❤❤
Remember guys, you never LOSE a breakup. Losing isn’t a term in the world of romance and love. Instead replace that word with “learning.” If you no longer have that loved one in your life, no matter the cause, you never lost. Learn from their mistakes or your own.
According to experience, focus on something you LOVE - hobby or passion really helps. Putting your ENERGY into that rather than in the pain, can change EVERYTHING !
Hobbies are vastly underrated.
Whilst in the midst of all the chaos and pain that a break up seems to have brought me, I turned to Google and RUclips for advice and wisdom on how to deal/feel and navigate my way through a breakup.
I discovered Russell's video...a lot of it hit home. I started typing out this comment, then had to click back to see if Russell had one L or two, lost everything I'd already written and that was enough to set me off crying again, good grief. Then I read Hamza's comment and off I went again...all practicality and logic goes out the window when so tender and raw....love you lot for sharing your pain and reality...May we all be strong enough to find our next steps...
It's nice to come back to these old Russell videos when he was still a sane person.
I’m doing my best to let go and move on. Thanks Russell
What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. You will agree in time if you don't at this present moment. If personality matches your natural beauty then you'll have no problem finding another person to love. Try to enjoy the roller coaster in the mean time. Life is too short.
Going through exactly this right now, it's such a desperate feeling of abandonment because we were just looking at the relationship completely differently, I never thought this would happen and the hardest thing at the moment is looking back and thinking of all the 'last times' because you never know and never think it's going to be the last time, you feel so lost, but now is about finding myself and becoming better, I hope anyone who is reading this does the same and finds a way to get back up!
How are you now?
if you see this, can you give me an update about your situation? its been +2 years since you posted that, i wonder how much time takes to heal a little bit the pain im feeling
@@NIKO-ul3ge That's exactly why I asked , I want to know if it's gets better . I ruminate all day every day (I have autism so it might be obsessive ) I'm exhausted from the mental torture 💔💔💔
@@NIKO-ul3ge Sorry to hear you're feeling pain . What's your story ?
@@Humbledone. broke up with my girlfriend about 3 days ago, after that i realized what was wrong about my part and that made our relashionship end, everyone say to me "use this as a lesson for the next person" but i dont want other person
One night, after an argument that took like 5 to 6 hours, I was feeling terribly exhausted. Started thinkin about what is best for us, but genuinely. I came to a realization that it was impossible to work it out at this point in time, with that version of ourselves. It wasn't a one night decision, you know, it was a 1.5yr relationship :'. We made the breakup talk in tears for hours, hugged each other maybe for the last time, said goodbye to each other with love and graditude... Maybe, in future our paths will cross again. I'm really struggling rn since it is so fresh. I'm missing him a lot... I terribly wonder if he is okay... I also feel so lost. I was so focused on this relationship that I became so distant to myself. I don't know what is "myself" anymore, you know... It's hard but I believe that "everything will work out in the end". One day I will start to feel ok by myself. I'm gradually healing each day.
Well at least you had a breakup conversation for hours. I got nothing, zero breakup talk with her. No words of warning. I just was discarded as a piece of garbage. Trust me, that's the worst kind of pain that you'll never know. Even so, I've managed to find another chance to be happy with other person. And I will try again, and again, and again... until I find happiness or there's no more people to try. I am a warrior and nothing can destroy me!!! 🙂
@@joemarz2264 It's literally a fight and we are warriors. I cant say "it's a journey, time heal" etc. Cuz what kind of journey is it, I cry everyday, forcing myself to do daily stuff? Congrats bro, i really admire you. breaking up without knowing anything why, without a sensible reason would be terribly confusing and mind killer. i would think about it constantly. it must be hard to go through. glad you're doing well now. We broke up for good, but i knew that it would hurt like hell and it does. But i'm still fighting. I hope i can have a stronger mindset and find some peace one day.
i feel very scared of that i'm gonna die all alone and no one won't want to be with me, no one will accept me completely. but what keeps me going is the hope and my passions/dreams.
This is so hard
şimdi nasılsın 7 ay sonra@@beytulk
My relationship of 8 years has just ended. We went through so much together, illness, losing jobs and family issues. I never thought that I will experience this moment. I always thought we would grow old together and we are meant together. Currently I am going through a dark period in my life and his words that he is not happy with me any longer just hurting so much. When I confronted him he told me that he has been thinking about this the last 6 months and already chatting somebody. I feel so so betrayed...
How are you now?
Its kinda similar to my situation but my problem is that i know that i caused her alot of stress and bad feelings because I was so immature and never had a relationship before (we moved in together with 17, I moved 500km to her and left all my friends and family). Basically i am at fault and i cant blame her but i was willing to change (and was in the process of doing so) i just didnt know that she felt that bad living with me. She broke up with me like its nothing after an amazing holiday we had together while i was completely invested in the relationship. The hardest part is that she immediatly found someone new (maybe she even saw him while we were together i had no idea because i trusted her and never thought this could happen) and doesnt give a shit about me.
When she was at her low, her own mother basically gave up on her, she slowly lost her friends, couldnt go to school anymore and it wasnt certain she could live a normal life again because of her medical condition I didnt leave her and never would have and thank god she recovered and is in the process of finishing her school.
Ironically, now that she doesnt need me anymore because she noticed that school isnt that intimidating as she thought it was, I helped her build up her ego and realize her worth and she got a social circle again (and another guy who was interested in her) she just left me because of my immature actions in the past (drinking too much, not talking to her for some time after an argument, being too critical to her, not giving her enough attention when she really needed it etc). The thing is that this time was pretty hard for me not only because of covid but because i also basically had to not only take responsibility for me but also for her at the age of 17-19. Also i knew noone at that town, we had financial issues and I began to work in an uncomfortable setting for very low money. As a result of this I was completely overwhelmed and acted like a piece of shit and started to drink too often while playing computer games.
But i have changed and am willing to change and thought that she would appreciate that and communicate if there are problems with me (in my world everything was fine and i was enjoying that she finally recovered and wasnt so dependent on me anymore). Also the financial issues were in the process of finally getting resolved. So i thought everything was finally fine but she already crafted an exit plan at that time, provoked me into an argument and after that left me. The best thing was how i bought her flowers one day before that and she came back a week later with flowers from another guy while mine were dying in a corner :,).
And as i said before: the worst part is that
- i cant even blame her and
- all the things she didnt do for me for so long, which we resolved together over the years she now propably does for the new guy.
My heart is broken ...the one I love has decided to not love me back after almost 6 years ... thank you for this video ...I know the medicine to take ,now I just have to take it :(
Hit the gym, set and achieve goals, and do the no contact....you'll be fine......
Thank you Dave I am doing that now 1 week in no contact , hitting the gym looking and feeling better and setting business goals and achieving them ! I do see the light at the end of a long tunnel
I just broke NC about 25 mins ago, good thing she has me blocked on VM and email, as once I sent it, I so fucking regretted doing it....thank god I'm blocked and that shit went to spam......she won't see it, think that I am not contacting her, she will eventually unblock me and never see my asshole insecure comments I made tonight....... sometimes being blocked works in your favor
Justin check out Cory Wayne, he's the man
I’m 48 beautiful and smart gal.. was married for 20 yrs. my life is complete in so many ways, but I won’t deny I miss a companionship sometimes 😆 not for sex bc that’s just a compliment aver all. But to talk to cuddle to tell this person , honey don’t worry I’m here for you.. I promise all will be just fine.. “ I’m loving 🥰 myself more and practicing a better life style, I am the light of my soul, I’m beautiful and I am blessed 🙏🏿thanks for reading though. Oh did I mention I look like a 40 yrs old cute woman and not almost 50? Thanks to my new and brilliant life style.
If you dated a girl or guy with NPD.. Just be glad you got out alive and WORK on yourself.. Sweat it out.. You'll be fine.. Zero contact.. Grey rock, what ever you wanna call it... Move on. You are better.
@@tanikshagokhale2602 narcissistic personality disorder
I think the term gets thrown around a lot. It would even be difficult for a professional to diagnose (In my opinion) let alone an every day person because a lot of cluster B disorders have overlapping characteristics. Not to mention the person might just be up themselves, or passive aggressive, manipulative, have those sorts of tendencies ect not necessarily a disorder. I think its more important to see the red flags rather than getting caught up diagnosing :)
I think everyone has narcissistic traits. Some are more outwardly narcissistic than others though.
What defines someone as having NPD? How do you know you or I don't have it?
@@rachaelb1283 if you have been through what i have been through you will know what BPD AND NPD is. and you'll be able to identify it.
@@ShyanTheLegend coz i feel empathy.
I always thought you were funny but i never thought you'd lay out why breakups hurt and how to overcome them for me in such a profound way. Thank you.
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back
W-hatsap him⏬
Thank you Russel.
I recently saw your quote about the passing of a parent, and how even in a perfect world it will happen. Your words have been so helpful to me. Thank you.
I have learned the hard way that I have to be healthy by MYSELF FIRST, in order to have a healthy romantic relationship. I spent years searching and my desperation showed. I ended up in abusive relationships for a long time. I haven't been in a committed relationship in years while I worked on myself and I used to be someone who COULDN'T be alone. Now I'm ready to try again. I'm glad I waited and didn't continue to fill my life with just anyone to avoid loneliness.
Ah, a conscious mind. All the best to you. I too have felt like what you describe, and I was like a beacon for vampires (people who suck the life out of you) who just take advantage of you.
If you are happy and content within your own space and mind, then you are ready. Now spread those beautiful wings of yours and show the world how wonderful you are!
@The viva warrior she might benefit from being in Sex, and Love Addicts Anonymous, SLAA. It helped me deal with some of the darkest reasons for why I couldn't be alone...
That 12-step program is featured in Judd Apatow's Netflix show, "Love." The character Mickey goes there.
@The viva warrior you're so welcome. The show may be triggering so please keep that in mind. SLAA however, helped me deal with and heal some of my most unhealthy behaviors. Good luck to your friend. You're awesome to care for her so much.
Been single for 7 years. Had to respectfully decline advances from women, 2 recently in the last month, who work at the company I work for that all the dudes want, on the purpose that I'm trying to be a better man for myself and my future kids. Was in a train wreck of a relationship 7 years ago and slowly over the years have trying to build myself up. My parents had a toxic relationship all cause my father went out and cheated multiple times. My mother has only been with 1 man which is him. Friends and family members look at me perplexed when I tell them I'm not interested in being in a relationship, cause I'm still trying to mold myself on who I want to be as a man. I'm pretty broken inside from having a traumatic past, 27 years old and still growing. I find it truer each day when I read somewhere that if you're not comfortable being alone, you're not ready to have company. Sorry for the rant, just glad I'm not the only one lol
@Joel Majola right. I live in a new city and I have no idea what dating is like here. I'm in early recovery for food issues, so won't be dating at the moment. Need to put some real abstinence together first. Have you been in any 12-step programs?
Just lost a girlfriend and my best friend of over 3 years through an email formatted text. We had a future planned and I've been ripped apart. This helped. Thank you
Jon Pichette Fuck bro, it will get better with time. Feel for you.
I hope you are better now ...
Hey Jon. I gotta know how you're doing. I'm in the exact same boat right now. 3 years in. She was my best friend. She was my everything. We had plans and ambitions.
What's happened to you since? How long did it take to overcome?
@@twinblade63 Hello Melon Head,
Took me awhile to get over it. Try and focus on yourself and do things that will make a positive difference. It helps trust me. Turns out we may be getting back together. Being civil with your ex allows for that opportunity. Thanks for your interest good luck with yourself
@@Mc.Jonalds
I really appreciate your response after all this time. Glad to hear you're in good shape.
You're absolutely right - keeping busy and working towards something positive for myself has been the ultimate healer.
I did stay civil with my ex, we parted on what I'd call "good terms" (no mean/angry/vengeful insults or actions taken on either side - it was basically pure sadness, more than anything, for both of us), so who knows what may happen in the future.
What I know now is that I'll be alright either way.
All the best to you
Seen many videos about this now, many just wanna sell their channel with their information.
Russell, thank you for being genuine and real ❤
I just feel that my days are so empty without her
This is weird sharing my story with a bunch of people in a comment section, My ex girlfriend and I started dating when I was 14 and she was 15.
We spent six beautiful years together growing, blossoming, understanding every feature of each other from top to bottom. We were children and we didn’t know what love meant and what love was but we did.
We both came to terms that we understood we outgrew each other as lovers but were the best of friends. It wasn’t a feeling of wanting to be in love with anybody else but a feeling of regret to never learn who were as individuals. We both ended it on a good note but the pain and hole in my heart remains open like a freshly cut wound. I’m 21 years old now and am trying to learn more about me.. more about the world... more about people. Men’s mental health is extremely under prioritized.
This video came in at the right time. If you read this, you’re not alone and you’re worth so much more. Love yourself. 💛
I’m in the exact same situation, almost 6 years together from 15 years old we’re now both 21 and with no signs at all she broke up with me 3 days ago because she wants to find out who she is as a person and doesn’t want a relationship anymore. The hardest thing is that it’s not something I want as we both always spoke about being together forever having a dream house and a big family, even a week before we spoke about those things. The hard part is trying to move on from all the good memories and going from chatting everyday to not at all. It will be hard to see her going ahead with life without me but as I told her I’m proud of where shes got too in life.
Now I need to figure out how to get over her as I still love her very much
@@stephenwilliams3607 are you better now my guy?
Best and realist part of this video is towards the end when you said as soon as you break up you start reminiscing about all the positives and forget about all the bad shit in the relationship! So true! Don’t forget how you got here!
My god I wish this video was longer. His words are extremely helpful
Thank you, I do need to change. I was so comfortable that I became lazy and neglected the things that mattered to her, I learned a lot about love and family. That if you love someone you have to show interest in people they love to. I just wish I knew this sooner, I shouldn't have been so selfish.
1 week passed since my so left me after being together for almost 6 years. I felt and still feel devastated since then. It just happened without any sings. When I get sad I come back to this video and remind myself that the things aren't as bad as I imagine. This video really helps a lot.
Thank you for this.
Hello Bokehmon, do you seek professional scope on how to get along with her??
yo bro just broke up w my girl after 6 years i hope you are doing well man
Me too. Mine 6years. Today is 2nd day we're not contacting each other anymore ☹️
Mine too, was a hard break up after 6 years. I didn’t wanna leave but he pushed me away, he started talking to another girl and that feeling sank even harder for me. I wanna know, are you okay now? Please reply ❤️
Are we all were with another6 years cause i was too.
Wow. This hurts, been with a girl for 2.5years and we brokeup. I must say initially u feel like u can withstand the emotions. But it breaks u down. This is what i did
I allowed my self to grieve and feel sad. For at least 30mins, in doing so. Picked up a hobby of recording my self on audio and accepting this was good for me. She brought the worst outta me and she never experienced luv the way i did. At the end of the day, i am the one who has experience luv in my life, i just experienced it with the wrong person. So be happy even if she was the one who asked for a breakup. Respect her decision and know that u have never lost luv. U just gave it to the wrong person. Pick a hobby, make an audio life log and put all what u going thru there. Your phone will never judge u. Do this for at least 2 to 3 weeks and i promise u. U will start seeing changes
Thank you , I just came through this video and I am hurting and tears can't seem to stop flowing. I hope this helps
4 yr relationship is over. What’s crazy is I’m the one who ended it. It’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever been through. I’m 41 she is 32. She wants kids and I don’t so I had to walk away. The hardest part is the morning when I wake up. As soon as my mind connects with my body the anxiety hits. I’ve lost 13 lbs in one month from not eating. I’m sorry to whoever is in this pain right now. You’re not alone and trust me, as much as you’re thinking of your lost partner, they are thinking about you too.
You arent alone and will get over this ! I am in a 2 year + r/s with my current gf and i found this video because i had sudden flashbacks of my ex whom we ended things almost 4 years ago and i had so many memories of her, and all i had for good memories that flocked in my head whilst i discarded the bad ones
My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday, our reasons are the same as yours pretty much, I wanted to build with him and have a family but he wasn't ready. I have this pain and tightness in my chest that hurts so bad 😢
I love this, I really love this. I'm not going through a breakup and don't ever want to be broken that way, but seeing how pure you are moves me.
Damn good timing, sir.
This is a helpful and an incredibly concise dose of the main components of moving on healthily I believe. I reckon Russell probably did a load of those bad things mentioned in that documentary, but this is a great demonstration for why he mustn’t be cancelled or rated as a completely bad person. He is complex and contributes a lot of good to the world as well. Just a fallible human.
happy to say I'm one the lucky ones that rid themselves of heartbreak within minutes of understanding what this video truly means. you have to find it deep within yourself to accept and appreciate what was at the time it happened and to not regret it but most importantly you have to open the oppertunity to move foward because it's always there. although I still have some sour feelings and regrets. you have to know the difference between having love for some and being in love With someone. and if your anything like me please don't make your happiness dependant on someone else's company because when they disappear and they will eventually, then and only then will you realise that it's not her love that you are craving and needing, its the feeling that you are unworthy of any love at all. Once you know the difference deep within you can then forgive and forget. even if you don't know me just know you are worth all the love in the world and trust me the future will be kind to in time if you let it.
@Donna Belleriv what's this now?
Going through a rough moment right now, I'm coming back to this video anytime I feel down or think about her, just to remind myself of what's important. Thanks Russell
Russell is a lovely human being. Really wonderful of him to make this. I wish I could send this video to an earlier me. I totally went the "Oh no, they were perfect, what am I gonna do?" type direction for a long time. Remembering the best bits only, and waving aside the real problems.
I needed this. Thank you Russell. Time will heal, change will heal, I will heal.
you will heal
"All the imaginary.." that was liberating alone. This entire short video was so packed. Love it.
It's been almost 4 months since I left my then-partner, and it's been so incredibly difficult. This was the video I've been needing this whole time. Thanks, Russ.
It’s incredible the timing I’m seeing this video and powerful message. Going through a difficult moment and break up. Thanks for this.
I watch a lot of your most recent videos and gained from the accepting path to an open shared knowledge future..
Even your getin' dumped vid brings a comfort today.
Listening to this on repeat a few times really helps me stay grounded when I experience social turmoil… THANKYOU for sharing your perspective with us!
Literally going through a breakup i'm glad this was in my recommendations
Lee Pritchard I hope you get through as well, I’m sorry it happened. You’ll feel better over time I promise (:
Thanks Russell. my girlfriend broke up with me yesterday and today has been the hardest. Never cried so easily and repetitively, but what you said made sense. Thanks mate x
Russell has lightened my positivity what a bloke ! X
Gosh, how much content you can make in a 2-minutes talk! Thank you for the reminders and the hope in good language and atmosphere..
Well done, Russell 💟 It's great having these smaller videos too and getting to see you/hear your thoughts more often.
I believe that you change more lives, and things like this help more than you realize. You're an incredible mind, Russell. The world is lucky to have you
I have watch this video several times and helped me going through a very hard break up. Thanks man!
Thank you so much. I did not expect this to be so comforting, but this video was the first thing that helped me come up for air right after my breakup.
I needed this dose of reality and reminding for breakfast this morning. I've never personally met you Russell but you've been public enough that I know of you a bit since I've liked pretty much all of your work. I am very proud of you even as a stranger out in the world it's really inspiring and phenomenal to me to see the growth publicly you've had let alone what we don't even know. Keep sending little bells, please!
Blue Monday??? I learned to listen for the 1st time today(took a while ) and found out that I'm not as clever as I think,and if you really pay attention to that person,you disagree with,no better than...I think you'll find you have a lot more in common and the relationship turns instantly into an unbelievable connection!!! I never knew today would be the day that I could see all relationships for what they really are...if this is supposedly the most depressing day of the year,well this year is going to be one loving,happy,,path to beautiful connections and the ability to grow and learn!!! Push through your fears as hard as it is,I'm so grateful for my connection with Russell ,and love to you all !!! Xx
I have watched this video many times 2 years ago, My advice is= In time, You’re gonna be alright. In time, you’re going to realize that your life isn’t over, you realized that they are not perfect, and neither do you. In time, you will heal! In the words of Russell, you are worthy of love. God bless you guys 👍🤜🏻
I know of a man who can reunite you and your ex back together. He restored back my broken relationship of 12 years by helping me to get back with my ex. He is a very good man who understands people situation, his name is Goldie Edward
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@@princessshingleyt1.2mviews61 um.. no, but thank you 🙏
These words make me feel better Deborah, thank you!
When you have no one to talk to or have no one to give you the right thing to say. In this situation Russel and this video is something you’ll need
Agreed. I recieved the same advice years ago when I lost ones dear to me. Took me years to apply it, but definitely works.👍
You are my new spiritual guru I love this channel so much. I take all your advice to heart you are extremely well spoken
I think it's great that you look up to Russell;I do too. Please remember that your soul is your own guru. Russell Brand does a lot of Kundalini yoga. Check it out. Even if you don't want to do the physical yoga you may resonate with the mantras. Love your way...
Wow. This really made me feel about better.. I’m definitely going to rewatch it 500x’s. Thank you!
Words of wisdom , just what I need !
Thank you