I wish I saw this video before the Christmas break 😢 I took off 3 days off work and including the bank holidays it gave me about 6 days off. But I didn’t enjoy any of them at all and felt like there’s something wrong with me and my mental health not being able to enjoy time off work with family and friends. I was so excited to get back to work today and into my routine. Thanks for making this video as it really resonates with me and especially reading others’ peoples comments are really validating my feelings and making me realise just because it’s “Christmas” doesn’t mean all our stress and problems disappear
My family, who only lives a half hour away, never invited me to Thanksgiving, or for Christmas. No calls, cards or texts. I'm the black sheep. So much for "family".
l lost my husband to leukemia a few years ago! together for 28 y rs! We used to host parties and dinner, and birthday parties for friends , but when l lost him all my friends disappeared and l have yet to get an invite. It's hard going from a we to a me. The ironic part is the people that we as a group never paid to much attention to are the ones that have taken me in as a friend and l am now in that group. Life has a way of humbling and opening your eyes! This group l will never take for granate!
I hated the holidays as I became an adult. More responsibilities, saving money, paying rent and the added pressure of buying gifts for everyone. I think at one point i realized I had less people in my social circle and less people were with me around Christmas. My birthday is two days after Christmas so that just adds to the depression. Like you said, it really is just a day and you cant let it consume you.
I heard somewhere that 1 in 9 people spend Christmas alone. I used to spend it with family but not anymore. Sometimes I'd go abroad. This Christmas thing usually starts in September and drags on until the 25th of December. All that palaver for just one day! It's a nonsense. I get through it as quietly and painlessly as possible - on my own with my phone switched off.
It seems to drag on a bit. All for one day really. Also disrupts things. I'm always pleased when it's January and things back to normal. I think most adults are glad when it's over to be honest. It can be stressful and expensive.
Totally agree, we'll said,I always look forward to January too, It does drag on and personally get fed up with it being pushed down on our throats everywhere you go.
@ yes all these dates are a distraction from our higher purpose & path. Placed there strategically by sinister forces that want us to feel certain ways - and create certain outcomes in a collective slug mentality. Most don’t question it so we are unique & different!
Take control! I spent a lot less this year and went to the city my kids live and gave them the dates I was available. Saw all the grandkids for a bit and it all went smoothly. Next year I’ll spend even less, kids are approaching 49 and most of the grandkids are teens. I’m a senior citizen and will set my boundaries on what I’m willing to do. Today just me and hubby for a quiet day after our travel home yesterday.
I feel so alone especially since I'm now 30 and have never been in a relationship. The only girl that showed me interest treated me like crap and didn't even love me. My craving for love led me to keep pursuing her and it's been years and years. This time of the year for me is again marked by loneliness and negative/obsessive thoughts. It's been really hard to be honest.
Xmas eve I was feeling so low, I'm on my own, this morning I woke up in a silent house and didn't feel like eating, let alone cook. I went to the gym for a sesh with a couple guys who had the key, that transformed my day, I got home, prepped the veg, got it all cooked up lovely. I dished a dinner up for my elderly neighbour which he was thrilled and surprised with. Felt chilled most of the day, abit bored at times but thatl do for me. Better than being in a dark depression. And I had that same drive home last night from seeing my brother, don't know how I got home. Hang on in there guys, happier times are round the corner. Get into weight training if you're not already.
This has actually helped me today 25/12/2024 the loneliness has been causing me actual pain, it’s knowing what lots of people are doing today and I’m staring out of a window dreaming of better days
By Christmas, I just got out of Covid isolation and took a car drive with my parents and family. We went to the entertainment place 75 miles away, that I wanted to go and we had a good time. I always find some thing fun to do, even if I have to do it by myself. Yeah, I also told some friends, Christmas gift exchange will be deferred for 2 months due to Covid.
I randomly came across your video message here & it was quite truthful & candid. For a variety of reasons, this is the worst period in my life currently, which with it being Christmas certainly doesn't help. Thank you for your wisdom & effort, I subbed & liked your vid my friend.
I spent Xmas at a hotel. Then visited a Korean spa. Finally had a meal at the Asian food court. I’m aline but get out like an adventure. This way I have a plan to celebrate and not dwell on being alone. Also, my neighbors might be nosy so I leave for the day so it looks like I have family to visit. I don’t like visiting cousins or siblings as a single person. I always feel like the third wheel.
@whatsupbudbud Had a couple of Calima( wind from Sahara), couple cloudy days, but other than that been great . Not looking forward to going back to cold, drab UK.😑
I miss the big family gatherings and sing alongs! There was a big pre-Christmas get together last year, but nothing this year. Even my aunt’s pre-Christmas party was cancelled this year. The holidays are getting smaller and more isolated (everyone in their own family bubbles). I’ve had very lonely New Year’s Eves. This time of year can really bring you down!
This year has been weird. It doesn't feel like Christmas time or Christmas this year. It feels more like January. Every supermarket I shopped at was not playing Christmas music, there were only a few Christmas decorations around my neighborhood, and have not been in the Christmas spirit. I'm not complaining, but it feels weird. Nobody seems to be in the Holiday spirit, but that's okay. It seems like any other day.
Spot on Jay! well said matey 👌 *✨ HOPE ANCHORS THE SOUL *✨ I sadly lost my soul mate Marie last October to Cancer and I allso lost my best friend who sadly passed away this year he's body couldn't take anymore trauma and he had a heart attack. I've been on my own since. I love my pubs but I think I'm going to make some changes next year because when I go to pubs I'm just drinking all day and staring into space. Anyway I'm a happy spirit usually and hopefully next year I will make some changes.
Yes. I miss my husband. I feel like there is nothing left, especially given the recent election in the USA. I've been waiting and hoping that people would accept me for nearly 40 years - now I get it - they don't want to - they hate me - and you know what, that's ok? I get it now. I'll never feel as safe, nor as loved, nor as happy as when I had my husband - and that's my life. But thank you for being sensitive and kind.
The problem is having too much expectation of a date on the calendar. I just got back from Turkey and the atmosphere there at Christmas is much better than here - some nice decorations, but not the lousy music blasted everywhere and without the excessive crowds, shutdowns and freezing cold weather.
Grew up in a religious cult that doesn't like Christmas. Now every year, i do whatever i want. This year its home alone with junk food, a joint and trashy TV. Loving it ❤ come join! ❤
I feel this very hard. Last night was really bad. I was having a lot of bad ideation and wanted to just die. Today, I feel a lot different. I realized how ridiculous all this holiday nonsense really is and that many other people struggle the same way I was. A year ago, my ex of 11 years left me in early November, and I am still grappling with spending this time alone for a second year. It's not easy but I look back on the past year and all the progress I've made with myself from where I was when she left. I can honestly say that videos and messages from yourself and others really do make a big difference and have a huge impact on myself and others who are having a rough go of it. Thank you for everything you do. It's truly appreciated, and you're helping a lot of people in a big way. I hope you take care of yourself as well, Jay. ❤️🔥❤️🩹
Hi Jay, i agree with the premise of your video wholly. I like xmas stuff like carols and brass bands but you dont see those as much now. Every xmas i try and lay low but family and work colleagues get in my grill and become overbearing but old friends id like to see are scattered up and down the country at least 100 miles+ some with small kids so its not super easy to arrange meeting up. But despite things ive managed to wangle pleasing myself and being on my own and ive a new episode of wallace and the gromit and the last ever Gavin + Stacey to look forward to. Tidy!
Xmas is only one day of 365. Being single is freedom. I'd rather have that than be entangled in marriage to spend one day in a year with someone. Many women can ruin even this one day anyway😂
Yes, Christmas is overrated. It was different in the old days. People aren't as religious as they used to be. I just don't see the point of making such a big deal over it anymore.
it has been gobbled up by commercialism. People have become so dense that they just spend spend spend and that spending has overridden Christmas and genuine love. My cousin is one such example...people would get her gifts every year and she would go on the internet and search for the cost of every gift. If something was cheap, she'd be eternally offended. I think greed and selfishness are dominant today, whether it's Xmas, Easter or whatever
I wish I saw this video before the Christmas break 😢 I took off 3 days off work and including the bank holidays it gave me about 6 days off. But I didn’t enjoy any of them at all and felt like there’s something wrong with me and my mental health not being able to enjoy time off work with family and friends. I was so excited to get back to work today and into my routine.
Thanks for making this video as it really resonates with me and especially reading others’ peoples comments are really validating my feelings and making me realise just because it’s “Christmas” doesn’t mean all our stress and problems disappear
My family, who only lives a half hour away, never invited me to Thanksgiving, or for Christmas. No calls, cards or texts. I'm the black sheep. So much for "family".
Blessings and a happy Christmas period and 2025 for you.
l lost my husband to leukemia a few years ago! together for 28 y
rs! We used to host parties and dinner, and birthday parties for friends , but when l lost him all my friends disappeared and l have yet to get an invite. It's hard going from a we to a me. The ironic part is the people that we as a group never paid to much attention to are the ones that have taken me in as a friend and l am now in that group. Life has a way of humbling and opening your eyes! This group l will never take for granate!
I hated the holidays as I became an adult. More responsibilities, saving money, paying rent and the added pressure of buying gifts for everyone. I think at one point i realized I had less people in my social circle and less people were with me around Christmas. My birthday is two days after Christmas so that just adds to the depression. Like you said, it really is just a day and you cant let it consume you.
I heard somewhere that 1 in 9 people spend Christmas alone. I used to spend it with family but not anymore. Sometimes I'd go abroad. This Christmas thing usually starts in September and drags on until the 25th of December. All that palaver for just one day! It's a nonsense. I get through it as quietly and painlessly as possible - on my own with my phone switched off.
You're right about how it drags on for three months. Christmas is overrated.
It seems to drag on a bit. All for one day really. Also disrupts things. I'm always pleased when it's January and things back to normal. I think most adults are glad when it's over to be honest. It can be stressful and expensive.
Yeah I’m not sure why none of them question it & just go along like sheep…
Totally agree, we'll said,I always look forward to January too, It does drag on and personally get fed up with it being pushed down on our throats everywhere you go.
January is ok, but than comes valntines. And shit, here we go again...
@ yes all these dates are a distraction from our higher purpose & path. Placed there strategically by sinister forces that want us to feel certain ways - and create certain outcomes in a collective slug mentality. Most don’t question it so we are unique & different!
Take control! I spent a lot less this year and went to the city my kids live and gave them the dates I was available. Saw all the grandkids for a bit and it all went smoothly. Next year I’ll spend even less, kids are approaching 49 and most of the grandkids are teens. I’m a senior citizen and will set my boundaries on what I’m willing to do. Today just me and hubby for a quiet day after our travel home yesterday.
I feel so alone especially since I'm now 30 and have never been in a relationship. The only girl that showed me interest treated me like crap and didn't even love me. My craving for love led me to keep pursuing her and it's been years and years. This time of the year for me is again marked by loneliness and negative/obsessive thoughts. It's been really hard to be honest.
Jesus loves you my friend, have a look on him. Start asking your questions to him and he will provide! 🙏
Xmas eve I was feeling so low, I'm on my own, this morning I woke up in a silent house and didn't feel like eating, let alone cook. I went to the gym for a sesh with a couple guys who had the key, that transformed my day, I got home, prepped the veg, got it all cooked up lovely. I dished a dinner up for my elderly neighbour which he was thrilled and surprised with. Felt chilled most of the day, abit bored at times but thatl do for me. Better than being in a dark depression. And I had that same drive home last night from seeing my brother, don't know how I got home. Hang on in there guys, happier times are round the corner. Get into weight training if you're not already.
This has actually helped me today 25/12/2024 the loneliness has been causing me actual pain, it’s knowing what lots of people are doing today and I’m staring out of a window dreaming of better days
Blessings and a happy Christmas time for you.
By Christmas, I just got out of Covid isolation and took a car drive with my parents and family. We went to the entertainment place 75 miles away, that I wanted to go and we had a good time. I always find some thing fun to do, even if I have to do it by myself. Yeah, I also told some friends, Christmas gift exchange will be deferred for 2 months due to Covid.
I randomly came across your video message here & it was quite truthful & candid. For a variety of reasons, this is the worst period in my life currently, which with it being Christmas certainly doesn't help. Thank you for your wisdom & effort, I subbed & liked your vid my friend.
I spent Xmas at a hotel. Then visited a Korean spa. Finally had a meal at the Asian food court. I’m aline but get out like an adventure. This way I have a plan to celebrate and not dwell on being alone. Also, my neighbors might be nosy so I leave for the day so it looks like I have family to visit. I don’t like visiting cousins or siblings as a single person. I always feel like the third wheel.
Great video, Jay! The holidays really don't mean much to me anymore. They are just another day. I stay home with my spouse.
My Christmas wasn't too bad and went hiking in the snow in the morning and had dinner at my parents.
I loved Xmas when I had a woman in my life, 4 years alone now, and it hurts like hell to not have someone by my side at 61 😢
Thanks Jay for making this video, Have a Merry Christmas !
This and last year I have gone abroad. In Fuerterventura now, warm, sunny and go back on the 28th.
Didn't miss a thing about the UK 😀👍
Cool, I'm going there on Jan 10th to work/kitesurf (hopefully). How's the weather right now?
@whatsupbudbud Had a couple of Calima( wind from Sahara), couple cloudy days, but other than that been great . Not looking forward to going back to cold, drab UK.😑
@@ianrobert6239 I feel ya, not the best weather here in LV either. How long you staying there?
Thanks Jay I found your video at an opportune time. I've been struggling a bit this year. Happy Christmas!
I miss the big family gatherings and sing alongs! There was a big pre-Christmas get together last year, but nothing this year. Even my aunt’s pre-Christmas party was cancelled this year. The holidays are getting smaller and more isolated (everyone in their own family bubbles). I’ve had very lonely New Year’s Eves. This time of year can really bring you down!
Truth✍️🏾💯
This year has been weird. It doesn't feel like Christmas time or Christmas this year. It feels more like January. Every supermarket I shopped at was not playing Christmas music, there were only a few Christmas decorations around my neighborhood, and have not been in the Christmas spirit. I'm not complaining, but it feels weird. Nobody seems to be in the Holiday spirit, but that's okay. It seems like any other day.
Maybe the Christian Jewish Zionist Genocide has something to do with it
Spot on Jay! well said matey 👌 *✨ HOPE ANCHORS THE SOUL *✨ I sadly lost my soul mate Marie last October to Cancer and I allso lost my best friend who sadly passed away this year he's body couldn't take anymore trauma and he had a heart attack. I've been on my own since. I love my pubs but I think I'm going to make some changes next year because when I go to pubs I'm just drinking all day and staring into space. Anyway I'm a happy spirit usually and hopefully next year I will make some changes.
Merry christmas jay
Yes. I miss my husband. I feel like there is nothing left, especially given the recent election in the USA. I've been waiting and hoping that people would accept me for nearly 40 years - now I get it - they don't want to - they hate me - and you know what, that's ok? I get it now. I'll never feel as safe, nor as loved, nor as happy as when I had my husband - and that's my life. But thank you for being sensitive and kind.
What does the election have to do with anything ?
Even if you aren’t feeling it, once you go there and after you always feel better.
Every day can suck. It's your internal attitude that is the only thing that matters.
I’m not alone but I’m outcast I hide away in my room 😂solitude .
The problem is having too much expectation of a date on the calendar. I just got back from Turkey and the atmosphere there at Christmas is much better than here - some nice decorations, but not the lousy music blasted everywhere and without the excessive crowds, shutdowns and freezing cold weather.
Grew up in a religious cult that doesn't like Christmas. Now every year, i do whatever i want. This year its home alone with junk food, a joint and trashy TV. Loving it ❤ come join! ❤
I feel this very hard. Last night was really bad. I was having a lot of bad ideation and wanted to just die. Today, I feel a lot different. I realized how ridiculous all this holiday nonsense really is and that many other people struggle the same way I was. A year ago, my ex of 11 years left me in early November, and I am still grappling with spending this time alone for a second year. It's not easy but I look back on the past year and all the progress I've made with myself from where I was when she left. I can honestly say that videos and messages from yourself and others really do make a big difference and have a huge impact on myself and others who are having a rough go of it. Thank you for everything you do. It's truly appreciated, and you're helping a lot of people in a big way. I hope you take care of yourself as well, Jay. ❤️🔥❤️🩹
Reflect yourself all year then you're not overwhelmed on christmas time.
Hi Jay, i agree with the premise of your video wholly. I like xmas stuff like carols and brass bands but you dont see those as much now. Every xmas i try and lay low but family and work colleagues get in my grill and become overbearing but old friends id like to see are scattered up and down the country at least 100 miles+ some with small kids so its not super easy to arrange meeting up. But despite things ive managed to wangle pleasing myself and being on my own and ive a new episode of wallace and the gromit and the last ever Gavin + Stacey to look forward to. Tidy!
Hope you had a nice relaxed day mate 👍🏽
normally i dont like tattoos, but yours looks cool like
Without the Lord
Xmas is only one day of 365. Being single is freedom. I'd rather have that than be entangled in marriage to spend one day in a year with someone. Many women can ruin even this one day anyway😂
Too depressing for me. I think people need to be more successful.
Most people are no longer religious, so what's the point?
I have terrible depression...
Hold on 💯
Blessings and healing for you at this time.
@@JarebPSthanks
@@mpat100 thanks
Christmas is a religious holiday first or foremost. You spent time with family.
Why im getting this recommended vid even tho u uploaded this vid before 36mins
i don't know bro
Reassuring video
You are sound mate. Who the hell still falls for this festive crap? It's ridiculous how fake the positivity is in the world right now.
Yes, Christmas is overrated. It was different in the old days. People aren't as religious as they used to be. I just don't see the point of making such a big deal over it anymore.
I think Christmas has too me is all about greed. The true meaning has been lost.
it has been gobbled up by commercialism. People have become so dense that they just spend spend spend and that spending has overridden Christmas and genuine love. My cousin is one such example...people would get her gifts every year and she would go on the internet and search for the cost of every gift. If something was cheap, she'd be eternally offended. I think greed and selfishness are dominant today, whether it's Xmas, Easter or whatever