When a man distances himself, I will not know if he is really done with me or he's scared of being vulnerable etc. And honestly, I came to realise that I don't want a man who is unable to communicate with me, so he can "maintain his control" and not come back. He's not wanted anymore. "his distance isn't a rejection" Seriously? How are you supposed to know that? On the recieving end, your man has gone without any explanation. So, it IS a rejection.
I am truly tired of trying to please Unpleasable people. I have seen people waste their entire life away trying and failing miserably and the Narc is still alive and Unhappy, even 💥 10 years Later Still Unhappy. Because God Has Not Created a Creature in this world that could make them happy. Life Is Way Too Short so please don't waste your own sake and sanity , Just Run Away And LIVE 💥 What You Feel, Want and Do Matters Too🎯😉❤️🔥🤘
@placebo106 That's what I found too. I've wasted so much of my life with educating men in being more open about their feelings, and seeking better communication. Those type men never change. It's a fact I learned sooo late. Same goes for those with personality disorders. Will never evolve. Emotionally immature or narc men can't communicate well and will leave you out in the cold. Whatever one does or tries, it just makes things worse. The pull and push, or hot and cold, is so frustrating and tiring. I've had to learn that leaving go is the best thing. Life is too short. Mothers and fathers, or other caretakers should bring their children up with more care on emotional development.
Either a man communicates or works to communicate or he bails. This is a form of ghosting. I don’t have the time, patience or Energy to be a therapist or a mommy.
All the things you have pointed out are signs of a person who is controlled by fears. They haven’t done any work on themselves to overcome these fears so their behaviour is contradictory and out of alignment. Do not engage in romantic relationships with these individuals on a serious level. Their contradictory behaviour is hurtful to others and lacks consideration for the other person’s feelings. They are primarily consumed by fears and self-preservation. This is hardly a person that is relationship quality. They do not have a relationship with Self.
@effortlesssuccess2585 Great advice. Very clear explanation I came to understand only soo late in life!! Giving my best and extreem efforts in all ways to get those type men out of their shells. Ugh. It was very tedious and ungratifying. Waste of time, love and effort, for me. Really. And, often the next woman benefited from all my decenial work on him!! She would be the introverted one! Now, it's my lucky turn to have a man who's emotionally mature, balanced and giving. Who's grown up properly, inside out, and communicates well, and is caring and kind. Meeting my own needs too. I wish for my M. Right to come into my life very soon. 🙏💕🌟 Btw, your avatar name sounds bliss to me!! Can you tell me more, please ? 🙂
I can only say 1 thing. All these behaviors leaves the other person hurt and in pain. Stay out of your persons life until you have your act together. Everything else is neither fair nor helpful.
Those type men or women, know how to entice the ones who give and listen more than others. They don't get their act together, alas. They want (false) control and don't have the emotional intelligence to seek deep inside themselves. Alas. 😔 I would like to know how to spot a man who has this behaviour before taking the plunge towards him. Coz they are so cunny at giving such great impressions of themselves. 😓
No, I get it. He is actually deciding on which relationship is easier for him, and when they dump you, it's because they are just not that into you....Very simple. Rejection, is rejection. N o need to waste anyone's time, more than they already have. ;)
@@Wisecookie-x2j He is with someone else, mine beloved too, there he was not afraid of his emotions, there he did feel vulnerable.. and overwhelmed Emotional immaturity is called...❤️🧡
He said, "You're the most wonderful woman I've ever met. I've never had feelings like this before. You're so special to me. Therefore I can't see you anymore."
- Fear of vulnerability - Overthinking his actions - Struggles with emotional regulation - Testing the depth of the connection - Striving for independence - Fear of expectations - Unresolved past trauma - Feeling unworthy of the connection - Protecting his masculinity And if u want the one i missed, watch the video :P
Thanks for the list!! It's a waste of time and effort with such men. But, one can't tell in the beginning... They hide these traits very well, to get you enticed until they have you in their net. And, afterwards It's a rollercoaster ride... of hot and cold, etc... They don't charge. And the tips in the video are counter productive. Any tips on how to spot these traits before getting involved ?? Thanks. 🙏
1.) Fear of Vulnerability: 0:56 2.) Over thinking His Actions: 1:59 3.) Struggles With Emotional Regulation: 2:49 4.) Testing the Depth of the Connection: 3:41 5.) Striving For Independence: 4:24 6.) Fear of Expectations: 5:08 7.) Unresolved Past Trauma: 5:51 8.) Feeling Unworthy of the Connection: 6:35 9.) Wanting to Maintain Mystery: 7:13 10.) Protecting His Masculinity: 7:49
Seeing the list, it's even more clear that those type men are emotionally unavailable, not mature. Scary, coz a majority have these traits nowadays... 😓😔
@@nurseyox9874 I was married for 20 years before my husband died and trust me my husband didn’t do any of the stuff being said here. A good man who is into you will not ghost you!!! Only immature men act like that so block him and move on, you dodged a bullet.
Read up on or watch RUclips videos to learn about Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant personality types and how this pointless cycle can go on for years between two people and the relationship never moves forward because of this exact behavior about every 3-6 months.
I thought he had fallen in love with me after almost 3 months of love bombing from his part. When I began to show interest, he said he did not want a relationship. By that time I had already realised he was a dismissive avoidant. I tried different things to make the relationship work, including giving him time and lots of space. Since nothing worked, I broke up for good. We "dated" for 4 months or so. It's been 2 years of no-contact from my part. I am sure I made the right decision.
This was very helpful. I was wondering about the little distancing times..... but everything said here gives me understanding I was lacking. Thank you!
If a man seeks control and the upper hand like this, it's no good. Unconstructive and not caring towards the other person's needs.😔 Flee such types. He wouldn't even be a good lover for a fling or short encounter. So don't go for that type !
Yeah, all these things happen with woman too. I’m exhausted being the only one to be brave and vulnerable with feelings. When a man exhibits this behavior, I start to lose respect because it shows me he’s not emotionally intelligent and operates from his ego. I’m not interested in that and don’t plan to wait around for him to feel comfortable while leaving me out in the cold.
Amazing video I wish I could have seen this video before 7 months I won't hv not spend my so much money behind tarot readers👍🤗☀💫🌈💯🙏 thank u sir for real explanation of mens
Thanks! But, how can you show appreciation and understanding when your man distances himself and goes no contact, for weeks??? Over and over, that push and pull... That's so counter productive ! Every time I showed appreciation when I felt he was pulling back, he even pulled back more !! And even blamed me unrighteously for things he had done or said. 😓 Ugh. And, what about his behaviour making a woman pull away then too? ... It's a pull a push mechanism. Not good at all. 😔
So they pull away, and want to know if we miss them and want us to reach out, but then we're not supposed to "chase" them. I have been through it too many times. If you want me, you get honesty. And you give honesty! I am too damn old and too damn tired for head games. Grow up and deal with your emotions.
Why are men so fearful this day and time? I don't understand. My generation of men were secure in their relationships and were intentional. They knew what they wanted in a relationship and pursued it. Emotions were expressed and not repressed.
Overwhelming rate of toxic masculinity. Woman now have to take masculine roles because can’t rely on them to have their ish together and not ruin our life. At least that’s been my experience
These psychological facts really help make sense of why men might pull away when they're falling for you. Understanding these behaviors can make a huge difference in how we navigate relationships.
I am amazed at all the comments 😢 Have you ladies never experienced the feeling of losing grip of your life when falling for someone very deeply? Not knowing how to deal with overwhelming emotions taking over? Feeling shaky, experiencing sexual tension?
I HAVEN'T BEEN IN REALLY LOVE SINCE 1988-1995 I'VE I FORGOT ABOUT LOVE ALL TOGETHER, AFTER HE DIED, I WENT INTO A NERVOUS WRECK I NEED TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL ALL ABOUT LOVE ❤💕💓✨
I will ask something else.Two years ago i was working with a guy and three other female colleagues.That guy fell for me i saw all the signs.But suddenly one day he decided to fool around with the other colleagues and in a dispute i had with one of the female colleagues he didn't even say something to back me up.Instead he gave right to the person that used to mock him behind his back....and he knew it that it was happening..... because that colleague was mocking all of us and i went against her.Now....how do you call that guy?????A failure???An eediot????A worthless person who could not stand in front of me????How do you call that person and what the signs of that video had to do with that case???
I think that is someone who lacks self-respect, who is unable to stand up for himself, and is controlled by fear of being rejected by others. So he chose to side with someone who he thought maybe has more power, instead of having integrity and backing you up. Someone like this is in my workplace - he seemed to like me, yet in the end chose to gang up on me with other people. People like this are weak. They are afraid to be true to their heart, they would rather wear a pathetic mask to try and feel safe and throw us under the bus in the process. They are only thinking about self-preservation and without working on themselves they will not be capable of truly loving another person since they will always betray the other person in times of need to save themselves, rather than standing up and being a masculine protector. Guys like this are not worth our time. Distance yourself and let go
How different we are! I would appreciate it cause that shows I am special, he want to share his happiness with his friends and says see! This is my woman!
Stoicism fig-leaf. Things are two you picknit up or leave it. If he choses leave it some stoic brainwash is meaningless. Leave means leave stop. This is taking responsability of your own choices. Why adding the colours of love on such a cold response? Obviously he loces more his image of stoic macho than somebody else A men to be a men needs stoic facade? Seriously ? Is better an honest enemy than unconfessed love.
He's too introspective and fears too much. This is a description of à man whom chooses virago stoicism instead of facing the truth. Man loves wearing masks to keep is virility image, this is différent than bravery which is facing things as they are and standing on battlefield as a true man. Seriously this is the damage the stoicism of society do to men, he wears masks as an ugly woman needs make up. A real man is not a kid pissing his pants but a diamond . Seriously Randy Orton is more than this man seeking to protect his stoic supposed virility.
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When a man distances himself, I will not know if he is really done with me or he's scared of being vulnerable etc. And honestly, I came to realise that I don't want a man who is unable to communicate with me, so he can "maintain his control" and not come back. He's not wanted anymore.
"his distance isn't a rejection" Seriously? How are you supposed to know that? On the recieving end, your man has gone without any explanation. So, it IS a rejection.
Valid point
I am truly tired of trying to please Unpleasable people. I have seen people waste their entire life away trying and failing miserably and the Narc is still alive and Unhappy, even 💥 10 years Later Still Unhappy. Because God Has Not Created a Creature in this world that could make them happy. Life Is Way Too Short so please don't waste your own sake and sanity , Just Run Away And LIVE 💥 What You Feel, Want and Do Matters Too🎯😉❤️🔥🤘
@placebo106
That's what I found too. I've wasted so much of my life with educating men in being more open about their feelings, and seeking better communication. Those type men never change. It's a fact I learned sooo late. Same goes for those with personality disorders. Will never evolve.
Emotionally immature or narc men can't communicate well and will leave you out in the cold. Whatever one does or tries, it just makes things worse. The pull and push, or hot and cold, is so frustrating and tiring. I've had to learn that leaving go is the best thing. Life is too short.
Mothers and fathers, or other caretakers should bring their children up with more care on emotional development.
Either a man communicates or works to communicate or he bails. This is a form of ghosting. I don’t have the time, patience or Energy to be a therapist or a mommy.
AGREED 💯💯💯💯
I like men that they are clear with his actions, direct and with big ball !
Most are cowards so good luck 😅
@@soyearold 🤣😂 like big balls too
All the things you have pointed out are signs of a person who is controlled by fears. They haven’t done any work on themselves to overcome these fears so their behaviour is contradictory and out of alignment. Do not engage in romantic relationships with these individuals on a serious level. Their contradictory behaviour is hurtful to others and lacks consideration for the other person’s feelings. They are primarily consumed by fears and self-preservation. This is hardly a person that is relationship quality. They do not have a relationship with Self.
Sounds about right!
Exactly.
This is the real answer, though no solution is given in the video. You've got it!
@effortlesssuccess2585
Great advice. Very clear explanation I came to understand only soo late in life!! Giving my best and extreem efforts in all ways to get those type men out of their shells. Ugh. It was very tedious and ungratifying. Waste of time, love and effort, for me. Really. And, often the next woman benefited from all my decenial work on him!! She would be the introverted one!
Now, it's my lucky turn to have a man who's emotionally mature, balanced and giving. Who's grown up properly, inside out, and communicates well, and is caring and kind. Meeting my own needs too.
I wish for my M. Right to come into my life very soon. 🙏💕🌟
Btw, your avatar name sounds bliss to me!! Can you tell me more, please ? 🙂
Very well said!
Then that is not the kind of man who is worthy of my heart
I can only say 1 thing. All these behaviors leaves the other person hurt and in pain. Stay out of your persons life until you have your act together. Everything else is neither fair nor helpful.
Those type men or women, know how to entice the ones who give and listen more than others. They don't get their act together, alas. They want (false) control and don't have the emotional intelligence to seek deep inside themselves. Alas. 😔
I would like to know how to spot a man who has this behaviour before taking the plunge towards him. Coz they are so cunny at giving such great impressions of themselves. 😓
No, I get it. He is actually deciding on which relationship is easier for him, and when they dump you, it's because they are just not that into you....Very simple. Rejection, is rejection. N o need to waste anyone's time, more than they already have. ;)
Exactly the point the time I leave! When a man doesn't know what he wants and becomes cold, it makes mi multiple cold. I leave. Interesting!
Sorry, I don't buy this. " Men are wired"? What are they, computers? These are signs of immaturity, if you meet such a man run!
Immature, yes.
He needs to grow a pair, get some courage or stay TF away. Period. Man up.
He is with someone else that’s how much he likes me
@@Wisecookie-x2j He is with someone else, mine beloved too, there he was not afraid of his emotions, there he did feel vulnerable.. and overwhelmed
Emotional immaturity is called...❤️🧡
Or he's married.
He said, "You're the most wonderful woman I've ever met. I've never had feelings like this before. You're so special to me. Therefore I can't see you anymore."
@@MIMIDSH weak weak weak.
He did you a huge favour. Now go heal, do you and watch when your real partner show up in your life.
Lol
To much pressure for him maybe.. or he is just not wanting to get into anything serious.. either way that is hard. Sorry to hear it.
- Fear of vulnerability
- Overthinking his actions
- Struggles with emotional regulation
- Testing the depth of the connection
- Striving for independence
- Fear of expectations
- Unresolved past trauma
- Feeling unworthy of the connection
- Protecting his masculinity
And if u want the one i missed, watch the video :P
Thanks for the list!! It's a waste of time and effort with such men. But, one can't tell in the beginning... They hide these traits very well, to get you enticed until they have you in their net. And, afterwards It's a rollercoaster ride... of hot and cold, etc... They don't charge. And the tips in the video are counter productive.
Any tips on how to spot these traits before getting involved ?? Thanks. 🙏
1.) Fear of Vulnerability: 0:56
2.) Over thinking His Actions: 1:59
3.) Struggles With Emotional Regulation: 2:49
4.) Testing the Depth of the Connection: 3:41
5.) Striving For Independence: 4:24
6.) Fear of Expectations: 5:08
7.) Unresolved Past Trauma: 5:51
8.) Feeling Unworthy of the Connection: 6:35
9.) Wanting to Maintain Mystery: 7:13
10.) Protecting His Masculinity: 7:49
Seeing the list, it's even more clear that those type men are emotionally unavailable, not mature. Scary, coz a majority have these traits nowadays... 😓😔
they get distant and run away! love is scary ❤
@@RancidPetals23 Women aren't scared of love.
@ not as much as men I think! 🤔
I was sure he was falling for me but he ghosted me 5 months ago. I've heard nothing since but he watches all my stories 🤷
@@nurseyox9874 I was married for 20 years before my husband died and trust me my husband didn’t do any of the stuff being said here. A good man who is into you will not ghost you!!! Only immature men act like that so block him and move on, you dodged a bullet.
Read up on or watch RUclips videos to learn about Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant personality types and how this pointless cycle can go on for years between two people and the relationship never moves forward because of this exact behavior about every 3-6 months.
I thought he had fallen in love with me after almost 3 months of love bombing from his part. When I began to show interest, he said he did not want a relationship. By that time I had already realised he was a dismissive avoidant. I tried different things to make the relationship work, including giving him time and lots of space. Since nothing worked, I broke up for good. We "dated" for 4 months or so. It's been 2 years of no-contact from my part. I am sure I made the right decision.
Is he a scorpio?
@@PinkRose-sw5ii I was blaming it on dismissive avoidant but found out he went to Paris with another girl a month ago 🥲
This was very helpful. I was wondering about the little distancing times..... but everything said here gives me understanding I was lacking. Thank you!
If a man can’t communicate, bye.😊
If a man seeks control and the upper hand like this, it's no good. Unconstructive and not caring towards the other person's needs.😔 Flee such types. He wouldn't even be a good lover for a fling or short encounter. So don't go for that type !
Yeah, all these things happen with woman too. I’m exhausted being the only one to be brave and vulnerable with feelings. When a man exhibits this behavior, I start to lose respect because it shows me he’s not emotionally intelligent and operates from his ego. I’m not interested in that and don’t plan to wait around for him to feel comfortable while leaving me out in the cold.
I did this to the man I really liked, for almost all the reasons explained in the video.
And it works just fine ?
Amazing video I wish I could have seen this video before 7 months I won't hv not spend my so much money behind tarot readers👍🤗☀💫🌈💯🙏 thank u sir for real explanation of mens
Hello, how to make the difference between domeone who act distant because of their caring and those who do not care?..not easy at times..
The reason doesn’t matter. If someone shows you they don’t care, that’s all you need to know.
This video is about emotionally avoidant men who cannot regulate their feelings and show them in a healthy way. Also not confident to be a real lover.
Thanks! But, how can you show appreciation and understanding when your man distances himself and goes no contact, for weeks??? Over and over, that push and pull... That's so counter productive !
Every time I showed appreciation when I felt he was pulling back, he even pulled back more !! And even blamed me unrighteously for things he had done or said. 😓 Ugh. And, what about his behaviour making a woman pull away then too? ... It's a pull a push mechanism. Not good at all. 😔
So they pull away, and want to know if we miss them and want us to reach out, but then we're not supposed to "chase" them. I have been through it too many times. If you want me, you get honesty. And you give honesty! I am too damn old and too damn tired for head games. Grow up and deal with your emotions.
And what about the trauma caused by emotionally stunted immature, insecure males
Why are men so fearful this day and time? I don't understand. My generation of men were secure in their relationships and were intentional.
They knew what they wanted in a relationship and pursued it. Emotions were expressed and not repressed.
Overwhelming rate of toxic masculinity. Woman now have to take masculine roles because can’t rely on them to have their ish together and not ruin our life. At least that’s been my experience
Fear of Vulnerability ? Rubbish ! It's because of her being nice and then Horrible ! He's working out whether she's worth bothering with !
These psychological facts really help make sense of why men might pull away when they're falling for you. Understanding these behaviors can make a huge difference in how we navigate relationships.
Thanks 4 the info.
I am amazed at all the comments 😢 Have you ladies never experienced the feeling of losing grip of your life when falling for someone very deeply? Not knowing how to deal with overwhelming emotions taking over? Feeling shaky, experiencing sexual tension?
I HAVEN'T BEEN IN REALLY LOVE SINCE 1988-1995 I'VE I FORGOT ABOUT LOVE ALL TOGETHER, AFTER HE DIED, I WENT INTO A NERVOUS WRECK I NEED TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL ALL ABOUT LOVE ❤💕💓✨
Magnetic Aura book by Takeshi Mizuki ain’t for everyone, it’s for people who actually want to get ahead.
I will ask something else.Two years ago i was working with a guy and three other female colleagues.That guy fell for me i saw all the signs.But suddenly one day he decided to fool around with the other colleagues and in a dispute i had with one of the female colleagues he didn't even say something to back me up.Instead he gave right to the person that used to mock him behind his back....and he knew it that it was happening..... because that colleague was mocking all of us and i went against her.Now....how do you call that guy?????A failure???An eediot????A worthless person who could not stand in front of me????How do you call that person and what the signs of that video had to do with that case???
I think that is someone who lacks self-respect, who is unable to stand up for himself, and is controlled by fear of being rejected by others. So he chose to side with someone who he thought maybe has more power, instead of having integrity and backing you up. Someone like this is in my workplace - he seemed to like me, yet in the end chose to gang up on me with other people. People like this are weak. They are afraid to be true to their heart, they would rather wear a pathetic mask to try and feel safe and throw us under the bus in the process. They are only thinking about self-preservation and without working on themselves they will not be capable of truly loving another person since they will always betray the other person in times of need to save themselves, rather than standing up and being a masculine protector. Guys like this are not worth our time. Distance yourself and let go
I’d call him a player
I'd call that a waste of your energy
Sounds like a bunch of control and manipulation tactics to me. Lack of care for the woman’s feelings out of the gate. Woman need emotional stability.
"I'd never belong to a club that would invite me to be a member"- Groucho Marx
Its not just men , women too . Same with avoidants with manipulation and breadcrumbs.
This made me happy cry 🥹
Yep…..
3rd party 🥳 ❤😊
you probably shouldn’t read the book Magnetic Aura if you’re cool with missing out on how attraction really works.
Yeah, I'll give it a miss
Thanks for the heads up
@@SunniestCherries
Is it a bot ad?
Why should women be putting up with these things all the time… what about our feelings? Enough already.
So true. We put up with too much sh*t.... 😓😔
if you’re not ready for real change, skip the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, it’s too much for most people.
Such mean are boys not men. They have a long way to go in terms of emotional maturity. In a way they are losers.
If a 28 year old successful man brings his best friend on our first date; what does that mean? I was turned off immediately.
How different we are! I would appreciate it cause that shows I am special, he want to share his happiness with his friends and says see! This is my woman!
He is just plain " weirdo "
I would be turned off too. Not good. 😓😔
@@Satori88888 It was our first date, I wasn’t “his woman.”
@jillfoley6834 doesn't matter , you going to be!
Am I a man psychologically? (I’m a woman)
Stoicism fig-leaf. Things are two you picknit up or leave it. If he choses leave it some stoic brainwash is meaningless. Leave means leave stop. This is taking responsability of your own choices.
Why adding the colours of love on such a cold response? Obviously he loces more his image of stoic macho than somebody else
A men to be a men needs stoic facade? Seriously ?
Is better an honest enemy than unconfessed love.
❤❤
Now I know😅
This îs straight out of a player’s playbook. Mind games are for immature men.
don’t read the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki if you’re fine staying like everyone else, it’s not for you.
Bois Having pair is not going to Wars 😂
❤
He's too introspective and fears too much. This is a description of à man whom chooses virago stoicism instead of facing the truth. Man loves wearing masks to keep is virility image, this is différent than bravery which is facing things as they are and standing on battlefield as a true man.
Seriously this is the damage the stoicism of society do to men, he wears masks as an ugly woman needs make up. A real man is not a kid pissing his pants but a diamond .
Seriously Randy Orton is more than this man seeking to protect his stoic supposed virility.
ugh.
Honestly, these characteristics sound narcissistic
seriously, don’t pick up the book Magnetic Aura unless you’re ready to see things differently, no joke.
Ah thanks, I won't even *consider* it now
@@SunniestCherries
Is that a bot ad? Coz there are many here who claim that book! Is it a fraud?