Thank god someone felt the same!! Huge respect for Indra and all she has achieved and for her loved ones for crossing whatever barriers they were able to cross...for supporting her in their own ways.... but equally important to realise that even this narrative must change and there is still a long way to go!...
No ...I have a problem with it too . I go to buy my things n get some things 4 home voluntarily ...even my mother in law is not overbearing like this woman's mom . She should be proud of her accomplishments n can send the 2 helps to get what she needs .
@@sreebindua2560 patriarchal women were the backbone of patriarchal society. Now I hope we break this stereotype bcoz it's going to be a big prblm 4 all women .
Exactly I have a problem with that too... Once I was helping one of my classmates on writing an article on Indra Nooyi for college magazine and I told her about this incident of Indra's life and my classmate was like ''Oh! So you want me to add fun element also in this article? ".. and I was like what is funny in this incident 😞😞
@goenje shuya I agree with you on the whole colonism thing. We respected women, but my question is are we (when I say we I mean the whole country) respecting them now? Maybe your parents are good people. Not all parents are like that. Well my family is also like yours but the people around me are not. There are parents who literally so patriarchal, even in small things as food, their son deserves to eat first, eat more, eat nutritious but their daughter can survive with just a roti(I saw this first hand when I went to my friends house) , they not correcting their sons when they are mistreating their sisters. I'm not saying everyone are like that, but a lot of them are. We are a few lucky ones, not all are as lucky as us. There are still parents who think that their daughter doesn't need any education beyound their school, (a family friend, stopped going to their house after the incident) .
@goenje shuya I agree with you on everything you just said. But I don't this sex education is going to be a norm in the educational system any time soon. What we can do at this point is teach out sons and daughters about it, if every single family does it I think we will cover majority of the population. We also might need strict laws and punishments, along with the basic sex education.
@goenje shuya please read history of sati it came in during mogul invasion as the threat subsided it sounded stupid to follow so should rape must also should sound stupid and crazy to be perpetuate it and parents and society need to help
Why can't her husband get the milk????really , why isn't he the son,the father and the husband??...... Patriarchal thought harmful both for men and women. This speech is not at all inspiring, tell horrible truth of our society....
We live in a toxic patriarchal society where men are supposed to be the superior gender and women are treated like a doormat.....a man will get praises if he just can financially support his family and nothing else whereas a women won't even be appreciated if she works day and night both the roles of a homemaker and a working woman....she won't ever be recognised for her efforts....people will only find flaws and faults even if she's trying her best to handle everything smoothly and that is the sad reality...
Yes horrible truth ... that's why very few women succeed in their careers after marraige... because they sacrifice everything for their husband and I think this is the foolish thing any women will do ... there are many ways to tackle the situation ...
Her husband is tired according to her mother when he came back at 8 pm. She came back at 10 but she is made of iron how can she get tired? Even if she works till 12 am it doesn't matter but her husband returns at 8pm and can't even lift the finger. My parents are the same
Maybe her mother didn't feel comfortable asking her son in Law to go to grocery store, but she could have definitely asked the two 'helps' they had at home to get the milk instead of giving an earful to her daughter ...
@goenje shuya Judgements are done based on work not sure what computation and scales you are using here she is proud happy woman where she happily watches her kids smile on her success kudos to her mom and dad to have gotten all of it done.
To inspire us to get milk at 10 PM after work even though the husband and 2 helps are at home? No, thank you. I prefer to be treated lovingly and with some damn respect by my own family.
Most Indian parents ingrain into their children that they shouldn’t forget their family no matter what they achieve or are trying to achieve. Ok, sounds like a simple thing to ask for. But no one thinks about the implications- 1. The child is never going to be able to fully devote to their ambition, like Indra said, its going to be a constant battle. 2- the child is going to have a relation with the parents that’s purely based on attachment and expectations, and not one of genuine love and respect. Most Indian parents want to have a dependent relation with their kids, where kids are dependent on them until they are the age where they can finally do everything by themselves, and the parents can depend on the kids when they are older. Whereas it is absolutely possible to have the same exact relation where you simply do things out of love and respect and not dependence. This is the story of most Indian kids because of which they are not able to achieve their full potential in life. Hats off to Indra for achieving her dreams despite of the conflict in her personal life, which I can imagine, was not easy.
Well said, in most of the cases parents-kids relationship here is basically based on duty and respect and not pure love and affection. This should change.
@goenje shuya Stop explaning me all these bs. I've been a victim of abuse all my life btw. Do you really think, I care for my father, who has always abused me out of love and affection? Nope, I take care of him only to follow my duty as a son and nothing else.
@goenje shuya Regular beatings due to trivial reasons. He thrashed with a belt, slapped me, kicked me and what not. Do you expect me to show love and affection to hi just because he's my dad?
@goenje shuya Woah, so, you're normalising abuse. Damn, you're an incredible person. Also, don't come to me with all these nonsense called destiny. We create our own destiny and no one else does it.
That's fking law of nature, this is how human survived in the battle of races. You fking anti science people living in delusional style and expecting to achieve imaginary things. Loners 😂😂😂
Just too sad. That an inspirational figure is struggling with same issues like us. No matter what women achieve. Women in Indian society are partially responsible for this fate.
@@gillbates1509 she is right about that too. Some women perpetuate misogyny as well. It's a sad reality in our country. It's not their fault because they are victims of this patriarchal and mysoginistic structure too.
It's in all societies, especially in western cultures... you always have to prove yourself.... especially if you're from a different culture.. that's life.
This ways polish girls....my sister is credit officer in big australian bank only after mom inspired him like this....indian values makes u strong.....
Not misogyny but how families and the work of everyone in home is necessary. The same lady who asked her to bring milk was the one who made her dream big.
@@keshav2011chaudhary absolutely correct. And if you still gotta glorify the support she got for being a girl, u r still with us. Brother, no matter how much you think that women are shouting feminism and lashing out at misogyny unnecessarily, we do taste being not valued as much even if not intensely like the previous centuries. We are not stupids to not to see the inherent misogyny. There is nothing you can do about.. The least that you could do is acknowledge it, acknowledge that it exists instead of giving vague points like you made. Men & women are sometimes like, now this is the limit of women empowerment and what more are you expecting. This is ridiculous attitude
@Katie Homes No need to worry ....India and Indians know how to takecare of India ,and its present and future..Indians are very good forecasters ,planner and executer ,basically the female population,and holistically all Indians from top to bottom ..
We teach true feminism to the world...we never had any conflict regarding old views and new views....old always accepted the change and the new respect the wisdom.....and it starts from the kitchens in india.....i might not be anything near to indira nooyi but was brought up with the same principles and wish for my daughters to also follow their dreams and at the same time live through and for others
@@ShivaniJuyal No dear it's not. My daughter is going to to a PhD in the US and gonna join as a professor afterwards. And I'm certain all my friends are the same. We all are proud Indian moms😀🙏.
You feel that way but given the Father would have asked the son to get the milk. Happens to me ;). But woman in India do sacrifice a lot. Indian woman are special... And always will be.
No it doesn't. She was talking about her mom and mother in law and not about herself. So she has come a long way and wouldn't let her children go through what she went through. Its a mindset problem with our parents generation. As we grow up and start to question things new generation indians find it to be a mindset issue with the older generation.
when she said 'sometimes' her mother said she was proud of her. I felt that. it is not just south indian brahmins who hide their pride for their kids , it is Asians in general actually. I believe parents go too far , to not show how proud they are of their kids' achievements.
It's just too much to handle sometimes I believe for kids. To have parents who never appreciate you. Maybe, they don't mean it in a bad sense but they fail to understand that sometimes children need to feel that security and satisfaction that their parents are happy and proud of their achievements.
Makes me appreciate my mom.... Who is a simple woman... didn't complete her graduation even but all my life i can remember her pushing me to be someone who's identity is not confined to kitchen... Be more... I am no CEO ofcourse ... Not even close ... To the talent of this extraordinary woman but its sad that her mother can negate her achievements that are inspiring generations of women as if its nothing and that her husband is tired...its eye opening... actually what's even more sad is this story is something we all have faced in some degree... Being reduced to stereotypical roles no matter how much we try to break them ....
This is one perfect example of how Indian families are.... Women in the families are not that supportive mostly. All they care is getting the girls married or keeping their daughter in laws under control.. It's mostly the fathers and brothers who support or even try to listen....
Someone important once said, if the institutions aren't democratic then the oppressed always dreams to be the oppressor. That is what was expected of our mothers, to tame their daughters. How can we expect one to empower someone else while being in chains herself.
The message is - anybody can replace you as a president but nobody can take your place as the mother. President/ chairman/ CEO - all are human beings. Their body works the same way even after they become President. So the message is stay close to your family and be grounded always. Family comes first. The reaction would have been the same even for a man
Pros of South Asian Countries : You feel less lonely , close relation and support from family , people dont send you to orphanages just because you are old . Cons : Toxic masculinity where men are expected to never cry and be strong , females not treated equally .
@Gabe Coud lmao, when we use toxic relationship, toxic boss, toxic parents, toxic teachers, toxic spouse, do we mean that all these things are inherently toxic? Nope. In the same way toxic femininity exists. So don't get flown away with everything mra s teach you and think for yourself. Masculinity is certainly not toxic. But certain people start to think that narcissism and controlling behaviour is masculine. That's when they become victims toxic masculinity.
@Gabe Coud certainly it's not recognised just as toxic bosses, toxic parents, toxic spouse, toxic teachers aren't recognised words and are still very much existent.
@Gabe Coud "not recognised term". Well dictionary.com defines it, Cambridge dictionary defines it. There are reviewed and published papers on toxic masculinity from multiple universities. Term is used in gender studies and social studies. Then how is this not "recognised term".
@@holypunk12 Representations matter. It may not be as much as the movie shows but it exists. Being blind to it is as good as being a part of it. Good day mate, may "the society you live in" increase 😊
@@ChaitraHNDancer may be not as much as the movies shows- thats my point ! I dont support any such behaviour but in todays world i dont see it.. it may be good movie 40-50 years back....or somewhere u live in this type of discrimination exists ..I do not know.. first half they made it to show some issues with littlr legitimacy so that sabarimala issue can be shown same light ! I been to sabarimala many times my younger days , never seen my mom or sister being subjected to any similar treatment.
@@holypunk12 2 things, 1. Just because it's not there at your home doesn't mean it's not there elsewhere. Even if it's 0.1 percent, it needs to be named and shamed. Just because you don't or haven't witnessed means that you deny the existence of it. Rather accept that you and only you aren't aware of it. 2. The subtleties with which women have been subjected to gender roles are higher in middle class families. We don't even know we are being programmed to accept things like you have to serve the family you get married into. It just happens. Bonus point: unaware and denying the existence of it are 2 very different things. Hope you will find the thick line between those soon👍 good day.
I see failed entities creating an echo chamber against a fierceful alpha Lady. 😆😆. I see Victimhood which is the only failure in an woman. From Queen Elizabeth to Indira Nooyi, never lived in a beta world. That's why these women lead the world.
And thats why you'll never be CEO - It takes tremendous perseverance and give & take in life, not fancy ENTITLED BUZZ WORDS. Powerful Empowered Devis >>>>> WESTERN FEMINISM
@@aryas2372 Same people who did not ask for your Violent Lash Out statement. PS: Thats hate speech for assuming my gender identification and calling me Dude. I do not identify as that.
@@aryas2372 Most hard working people people did not get to the top without having humbling moments. IN has the Grit to handle hard things and hence was chosen.
@@AX-fx7ng It is hate speech as well to say that I cannot be a CEO. You’re cyber-bullying me. “Dude” is a gender-neutral term, but I guess you have been living under a rock. Also, kindly keep your opinions to yourself or openly post them in the comment section, not as a reply to me. You are very much unwelcome. I will also not grace your following replies, if any, with a reply of my own because I find them unworthy of my time.
@@michellewest6929 no, there's no sexist here. Infact there's nothing about discrimination or inferiority. You just don't know Indian parents. We are fine with their behavior. It happens in every stage of our life. Nobody is bigger than Mother in Indian home, even if you are billionaire or CEO of big companies, Indian Mom talks like exactly how Indira nooyi has described in the video and we love that.
@@sid-thesloth6041 First of all, you don't speak for all indians out there. Kids attempt suicide from the tremendous pressure of trying to be the perfect daughter. What Indra's mom is like what most Indian parents are but that is not okay. Most of their parents' love is almost always conditional and it IS toxic.
Wow...have learned soo much from seeing how people respond to this professionally accomplished lady putting herself down. People always say 'fight for women's equality' and whatnot, but one needs to see see first-hand how to do this. Soooo many women tell proudly about how they were cut down or their professional accomplishments ignored by people who are supposed to be supporting them. For the impressionable young girl hearing such a testimony, it will sound like all women- no matter how much they have achieved- should have someone around them who discredits their accomplishments every so often in order to "return them to their rightful place". I think older women who were forced to be the traditional wife and mother and never had any opportunities to follow their dreams tend to feel extremely jealous of the opportunities that today's younger women have. This makes the older women even more defensive of archaic tribal customs that destroy women. It is Indra Nooyi's mother... [not her father/brother/husband/son/uncle]... who pretended like Ms Nooyi's professional accomplishments were not as important as her being the servant of the house. Ms Nooyi also discloses that her mother never went to college. This habit of older women shutting down the younger women is repeated all over the developing world. In the Middle East and some African nations, it is the older women who insist on preserving Female Genital Mutilation. It is these older women [not men] who risk all sorts of dangers such as wild animals and robbers to travel from village to village slicing off bits of young girls' bodies because "culture". I believe that one of the greatest enemies that girls and women with great dreams have to contend with in the 21st century is their older female relatives who were never given the opportunity to pursue their own dreams in their professional and personal lives. This is a far more difficult battle to fight than the one against male misogynists.
So inspirational and such a big source of inspiration, extremely motivating talk, she is a great role model for everyone, very successful and very humble lady. Meanwhile hello from Turkey.
Sometimes grown up children just need to tell the parents to stop passing their toxicity to future generations. Indira should worry more about the mother passing on this sexist,toxic views to the third generation .
How is that toxic ? Does she look unhappy about her relationship with mom . If you are watching with western lense you won't understand . This is a typical relationship which there is in South asian families . Kids listen to their parents and do whatever they want to do . Most of parents just threaten and don't do anything serious . Even this attitude helps in keeping us grounded .
@@fida80 Thats your way of thinking. This model of listening to your parents, and obeying them all the time, does not work for almost all family. Now the idea is really nice to live in a joint family with your cousin and siblings forever and always following your elders order . But this idea causes huge problems and history said people become depressed and many things in this model. Now look at her she is strong emotionally, and mentally. Now think most people are not like that way, they kill them self or leave their family for this kind of treatment. Your looking at this in one way, if can look every way possible, and you said Western lense, your wrong many people are living like this, out side india you just IGNORED them. Nothing is WESTERN. Reply your thoughts and opinions. Again thanks for reply.
No that's not a toxic relationship, as a person one should always able to balance both family and work. And its parents responsibility to keep their childrens as much grounded as possible and give them the reality check in between .
@@humblemedico147 if you think telling your daughter, "getting milk is solely the woman's job" is keeping them grounded, then you're the toxic one. & toxic people defend other toxic people.
I worked at a big company. And had the opportunity to go to the home of our female director as her husband was involved in one of our projects and we went to their home to meet him. To our surprise, our director (who was a woman) came out with tray which had tea and biscuits for us!! We were feeling really weird that she was serving tea and biscuits to us but then it was HER home and we were guests! This shows class and the quality of that person. There is nothing misogynistic about being a woman of your own home. It also showed her attitude towards her employees. My respect for her grew a 1000 times in that one gesture!
No problem in that, the question here is of no such big person go out and do everything. There is a difference in serving guests and being slave and being the only responsible person at home. Every member of house should share the work load equally. In India only a woman, no matter home maker or working woman is liable to work. Not man.
@@aashkaar8935 Indra Nooyi never says that it's only a woman's responsibility! She always talks about delegating responsibilities not just to the spouse but also to the extended family. Her mom was from a diff era when women did not work in offices.
i dont understand why she is sharing this story so proudly... its immense shame that still indian household values patriachial mindset more...she should have confronted this stupidity she is passing very wrong message that even if one women is so independent all her crown is made to be thrown out, what for... she should have not shared this stupid story...her achievements are way more to look up to, by highlighting this incident she is somehow coming out as someone that is flag brearer of patriarchy
I mean it’s wrong that her mother said that but she is the one who made her who she is and also She has every right to share her story cuz that’s was also a part of her life and yeah her mother has that mindset cuz she was from conservative family but then also she encouraged her daughter to become who she is
The only way a family can stay together and happy is dumping the crowns in the garage. What her mother said holds good even for men. It's her respect towards her son-in-law that stopped from asking him to get milk. I m sure she would have asked her son if he was available. She is sharing this with pride not because she wants to highlight that she is the flag bearer of patriarchy, that's how the life should go on to have harmony at home and at work.
Patriarchy is everywhere in this world and women are marginalised . Also don't try to judge indra nooyi as she is only sharing a mere incident. She is very smart and celebrated personality in corporate world. This was the thought process of her mother......not of the husband. Even in European and American countries, a very large population of women do household work with their jobs as its very expensive to owe a housemaid.
Was it really her mother who said that to her? Honestly to me it sounds more like the lady was her MIL... Indra is being nice and hence calling the lady her mother so as to not sound like a cliche DIL... Whatever the case hats off to you Indra Mam... For breaking all glass ceilings and inspiring billions of girls around the globe 🙌🙏👍
If her mother asked her to bring milk instead of asking her son in law to do so.. she is a true perpetuator of patriarchy.. and this lady flaunting this incident so proudly.. she is really out of her mind.. why such things are only a woman's duty to take care of the house even if she is working.. why can't the husband have equal responsibility in all the chores???....she herself needs to introspect what wrong her mother did to her first... Then preach the world..😑😏
Girl she just wants to say whoever you are either a ceo or anyone. You should throw your crown out in the garage and then come into the house because no one can take her place as a mother, as a wife etc. Same goes for men whoever you are when you come home you should be a father, a husband etc so what's wrong in that
People tend to forget or ignore their family after they achieve something big. So her mother wanted to say don't forget your family etc I dont think anything is wrong in this and even the men in her family supported Indira for her decisions. So if it was a patriarcal family they won't have done that right?
Let us not forget that we are talking about a woman born in the pre-independence era in India when patriarchy was at its peak! Inspite of the fact that Mom had limited exposure to the outside world, she allowed her daughter to pursue her higher education in a foreign country, to establish a career of her own and to marry someone of her own free will...decisions which were unthinkable in a conservative South Indian family for which Mom must have been heavily criticised by society then!! She may have been concerned if her daughter's career growth may harm her family relationships at home, and her way to keep her daugher firmly grounded. Of course it is to Indra Nooyi's credit that she broke out of the system, balanced all her roles and reached this space in her life!
This is exactly how my mother is. Obviously Indra mother is jealous of her. Look they let us study like everyone else becoz of society rules. But when you actually are achieving something it's Ur mother, sister and others who will try to put u down . No matter what u buy for them still they make fun of u Infront of others and try to put u down. Story of my life. Am 36 and my mother is a bitch. It took me 35 years to realize it's not my problem anymore. i didn't do anything.
I know it very well how it feels like when ur own family never recognises ur success just bcoz u r a girl n constantly shows u d limits u should follow.....
Wow so many feminists firing up in the comments . She is speaking of a mother who would be 70 year old mother , how can you expect her to be so radically gender neutral . She encouraged her studies and high aspirations , can't you people see that . Stop bashing everyone. Human behavior changes come very slowly.
Feminists would obviously be raged cuz this is sexist. According to her mother such things only have to be done by women cuz men are apparently men and its not their job to do it. Her mother could also have asked him to get the milk after she arrived as he has got enough rest and she just had come home so obviously is tired. Still she didnt do it.
Now that is a great mom, she taught her kids to challenge themselves to reach greater heights in life yet constantly reminds them of the roots of their life is always FAMILY. She reminds me of my mom. What a beautiful way of showering love.
@@zr8393 I never said what her mother said wasn't sexist. I just said the high expectations part was more than sexism part. I do agree a Patriarchial mindset made her mother say that also
@@LoveLove-fp2rn hey not arguing with you on this but understand the context on an individual basis here. This is Indira Nooyi who is a multi millionaire. She can afford all the paid labour she wants. Yet her mom expects her to do things as part of familial responsibility. That's why I said high expectations.
I feel like no matter how modern or forward thinking an Indian family is, there are always these references to gender defined roles either through moms trying to teach their daughters to put family first, or relatives coming up with wedding discussions as soon as the girl hits 18, and so on. As an Indian girl raised in a relatively forward thinking family, I can say that these were more like threats as to what could happen if I don’t study well and learn to take care of myself. On the contrary, the boys in the family may chose to take these comments as a responsibility towards their sisters or could use these to avoid the same responsibility ( asking the girls to dress a certain way, go out at a certain time, study only certain courses and avoid others etc). Ultimately, these comments harm the boys in the family more than they do determined and goal oriented girls 🤷🏻♀️ And then there are reserved families that ... well I hope the girls find their happiness in whatever their life has to offer.
"we have to live in fear that it could happen" one wrong move or mistake and bhoom nothings left for us to dream , since our life is not Just ours , it's the maryada , izzat of the family so we have to live according to their expectations
Poor Indian woman never appreciated Her story not telling her mom was strict Her story telling her husband was male shavounist and never gave her mom and her respect enough that she could ask him to bring milk
To all you women hitting out at this, simple thing - her mother is treating her as a daughter, not as royalty. And this is real deal. Whether u t a man or woman, u can wear your crowns at work, but when u come home, u absolutely have to switch roles when it comes to your little ones. Even If your dad/mom is a great achiever, to u they are your parents ? And that relation is most important ! Simple …
I guess Indira HAS to mention her 'South Indian brahmin' origin in every interview. In this one, the one with Nandan Nilekani and another with NYT, she flaunts it as it was some kind of achievement.
Yep. I don't get why she does that. And those same western people blame us for casteism n such thing. We ourselves give shit to fellow countrymen if they keep talking about their caste all the time.
She's proud of her ancestry. An ancestry which celebrates the oldest civilization in the world. The Vedic way of life began with the Brahmin way. That's nothing not to be proud of. They make up half of the Indian foreign diaspora. And they're aspirational beyond normal. They make up 3 Nobel prizes and most of the corporate heads. They just work and achieve. Still Brahmin bashing continues.
@@naiyayika? Indians criticise islamic rulers and britishers but expect not to criticise brhamins who have excluded Dalits from basic human rights. What ancestry she had those who have excluded 25% of the population from basic human rights and preach about britishers.
Did anyone understand the message here? I am so lost in the comments below. What she is saying is your position in the public or workplace is replaceable but your title of mother, wife, daughter and so on should not be. Put in your work towards that aspect of life as well.
We must raise our society to the level where men should be held equally responsible for human relationships. We as homosapians were supposed to be nurtur based society not financial based. But providing and earning beyond the needs is basically showing off , a competition , not a requirement of our offsprings. It is a fairly new concept when you look at the time line of human evolution.
A man would not be told "remember your place as a husband and son-in-law when you enter this house." Never. His achievement would have been celebrated. That's the difference. The message you spoke about was pretty clear. But the same thing is not said to a man when he achieve's such heights. In that case his spouse (if he's married) is asked to Support her husband and give up her ambitions, as he's doing well for himself and will take care of her.
Poor lady ..she can't say that her mother said it ! Appreciated her for her achievements !! But she assumed that her mother surely proud of her .. feeling really bad for her right now ...she is really really lucky that she got father & grandfather who didn't treat her as a girl ! They hv treated her as a human being first !
What iconic company. A diabetic patients making company. A really shame indira to work in a company that created ruckus in the health of people in world.
People have to be sheep then. It is THEIR decision to consume stuff that harms their health. It is illogical and dumb to blame the company and the employees.
Smiling emoji at the end for mom is not nice 2 read. Just an request sincerely, since, it's about mom you are talking about... excuse me if you feel otherwise.
Leave your crown in garage??? Come on. I earned it. Nobody handed it to me because I was someone's son. Ii earned it and I am going to fucking sleep in it.
It's just insane how many hate her for being proud of her ancestry. She's a Brahmin from South India. Possibly the most successful ethnicity in the world. Ashkenazi of India. They make up half of the American diaspora and 3 of the 4 Nobel prizes. And still they bash her for being proud of being Brahmin. They work like hell. Are as aspirational as anyone can be. Unlike the contemporary Indian parent that want them to marry or get a degree or a job. That's why Brahmins moved on and are basically ruling global corporates from mastercard, Google, pepsi and microsoft. And others still blame Brahmins and allow reservation to pull themselves back. It's pathetic.😐
Woow perfect mother. She made Indira realise that at the end of the day it will be only the family which wil stand by her through her thick and thin. Accolades , glory, positions will all come and go but at the end only the family and her near and dear ones who have stood by her will see her through till the end of her life. No one can doubt it was her mother who guided her to where she reached let's not forget that at all. Having done that her mom also believed that her family which is the rock will need to be appreciated by indira and taken care off by her. Great values imbibed by indira.
Whatever great things she says, ultimately she is the leader of the company which is one of the major causes for the obesity epidemic. Doesn't that invalidate everything ?
The phone you are using causes depression and insomnia in all age groups. By ur logic the phone is the problem and not the people who use it without control..
@@minty_drawer6925 Smartphone : a small computing device that gives you a window to the world..The uses are unlimited. Yes, it can be abused Pepsi/coke : drinks with zero nutrition..Causes obesity in children. ..And causes so many more diseases... Nothing positive to be said other than it tastes good. Yes.. They are comparable
ஆரியர் சரியா? அவள் திராவிடர் அல்லவா? ஏன் அவளை தமிழ் என்று அழைக்க வேண்டும்? அவள் தமிழ் பிரம்மம் பெண். நீங்கள் கோவில்களில் உள்ள அனைத்து பிராமணர்களையும் குறிவைத்துள்ளதால், எங்களைப் பற்றி பெருமை கொள்ளாதீர்கள்.
As an Indian you know that you are doing well when your parents discuss the mistakes you are doing and not the accomplishments and that you could have done better when it's vice versa!😂
This not misogyny.. I am a south Indian male and my mom made me do house hold chores even in my 30s. I would wash utensils , mop the floor, dry the washed cloths etc. My mom would simply say you might be a Manager at your office but when you come home you need to help me with house hold chores. It was a reasonable request and I felt it is anyone's duty to help their parents or to do household chores irrespective of gender. Today we have a maid who helps in house hold chores but me and my sister carry out our duties are son and daughter
This is sad. Not once did she say that her family celebrated her achievements. It felt that they kept reminding her what her “actual” responsibilities should be. If this were a man he would be called accomplished but because it’s a woman- check your crown at the door. How dare a woman place her self worth in her career? That’s not her “real” role in life😕
Problem of patriarchy is so deep rooted that it persist even in educated family....she had to bring milk even her husband was there before ...everybody took it as a joke...but even Indra nooyi also had to faced it!
Ladies ...wear that damn crown..EVERY FUCKING WHERE !!! Stop this misogynist idea of dissecting a woman and stripping her away from her choices n ambition.. don't listen to such kind of parents who bear the brunt of their generation 🙏🏽5
Good inspiration story. No problem with house hold chores but if they do not respect the crown at home, nobody outside would respect. If husband is tired so is the wife. I follow Sidha Murtiji more who talks about true equalization.
What her mother said was unfortunate but I also understand and feel bad for her mother . She definitely wanted to live big and do great things but due to the time and financial condition she has to succumb to society norms and realized her dreams will never come true. They way she ask her daughters to dream big but at the same time threatens them. Shows her flame to dream big is still present but at the same time she is scared that her daughters might hv to give them up. There is conflict going on inside due to the circumstances she grew up. I sometimes find it hard to entirely blame parents to think certain way bcz these r the people unlike us who hv to only hear or witness borderline they hv to go through it. They had to live it and eventually it become a part of them.
I totally agree with you whatever you have written over here is so damn true nice to find someone who looks at the other side too rather than vehemently blaming someone what other people are doing over here
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I had heard this story many years back.. People were praising it..Thought I was the only one having problems with this misogynistic story...
Thank god someone felt the same!! Huge respect for Indra and all she has achieved and for her loved ones for crossing whatever barriers they were able to cross...for supporting her in their own ways.... but equally important to realise that even this narrative must change and there is still a long way to go!...
No ...I have a problem with it too . I go to buy my things n get some things 4 home voluntarily ...even my mother in law is not overbearing like this woman's mom . She should be proud of her accomplishments n can send the 2 helps to get what she needs .
Yes. Even I felt the same. The husband was tired... but the mother didnt care if the duaghter was tired.
@@sreebindua2560 patriarchal women were the backbone of patriarchal society. Now I hope we break this stereotype bcoz it's going to be a big prblm 4 all women .
Exactly I have a problem with that too...
Once I was helping one of my classmates on writing an article on Indra Nooyi for college magazine and I told her about this incident of Indra's life and my classmate was like ''Oh! So you want me to add fun element also in this article? "..
and I was like what is funny in this incident 😞😞
The sad reality of the patriarchal world. The nail on the coffin was a woman saying it to another woman and a man coming to the rescue.
@goenje shuya then why I have never seen an indian parent being this strict/high demanding with their sons. Don't they want their sons to succeed?
@goenje shuya I agree with you on the whole colonism thing. We respected women, but my question is are we (when I say we I mean the whole country) respecting them now? Maybe your parents are good people. Not all parents are like that. Well my family is also like yours but the people around me are not. There are parents who literally so patriarchal, even in small things as food, their son deserves to eat first, eat more, eat nutritious but their daughter can survive with just a roti(I saw this first hand when I went to my friends house) , they not correcting their sons when they are mistreating their sisters. I'm not saying everyone are like that, but a lot of them are. We are a few lucky ones, not all are as lucky as us. There are still parents who think that their daughter doesn't need any education beyound their school, (a family friend, stopped going to their house after the incident) .
@goenje shuya I agree with you on everything you just said. But I don't this sex education is going to be a norm in the educational system any time soon. What we can do at this point is teach out sons and daughters about it, if every single family does it I think we will cover majority of the population. We also might need strict laws and punishments, along with the basic sex education.
I think you dont know Indira Nooyi, watch more of her videos please before passing judgement. she has explained how her family men stood behind her.
@goenje shuya please read history of sati it came in during mogul invasion as the threat subsided it sounded stupid to follow so should rape must also should sound stupid and crazy to be perpetuate it and parents and society need to help
*Plot Twist* - Her Indian Mum wanted her to Drink More Milk not PEPSI !!
LMAO 🤣
It's not funny ! 🙄
💯😄
Why can't her husband get the milk????really , why isn't he the son,the father and the husband??......
Patriarchal thought harmful both for men and women. This speech is not at all inspiring, tell horrible truth of our society....
We live in a toxic patriarchal society where men are supposed to be the superior gender and women are treated like a doormat.....a man will get praises if he just can financially support his family and nothing else whereas a women won't even be appreciated if she works day and night both the roles of a homemaker and a working woman....she won't ever be recognised for her efforts....people will only find flaws and faults even if she's trying her best to handle everything smoothly and that is the sad reality...
Cause her mother wanted to teach her daughter about how important family is. It’s just a matter of One-Day.
Because her mother in law don't asked him to do so......it's about indra nooyi and her mother.....not about her husband....so don't blame.
Yes horrible truth ... that's why very few women succeed in their careers after marraige... because they sacrifice everything for their husband and I think this is the foolish thing any women will do ... there are many ways to tackle the situation ...
Her husband is tired according to her mother when he came back at 8 pm. She came back at 10 but she is made of iron how can she get tired? Even if she works till 12 am it doesn't matter but her husband returns at 8pm and can't even lift the finger. My parents are the same
Wth this is so messed up .
The husband come by 8 and couldn’t he get it ?
Watttt
That's what Indian family system is!
Ikr its like weird
Yeah. Sad and pathetic. Like he couldn’t have gone out and got it himself?
@Reel Time I missed to add "most" Indian family system!
Maybe her mother didn't feel comfortable asking her son in Law to go to grocery store, but she could have definitely asked the two 'helps' they had at home to get the milk instead of giving an earful to her daughter ...
Only if her mother know how her daughter will be a insipiration to a generation of girls. ❤️❤️❤️
@goenje shuya Judgements are done based on work not sure what computation and scales you are using here she is proud happy woman where she happily watches her kids smile on her success kudos to her mom and dad to have gotten all of it done.
I like ur nose 🥴
To inspire us to get milk at 10 PM after work even though the husband and 2 helps are at home?
No, thank you. I prefer to be treated lovingly and with some damn respect by my own family.
@@s3narasi This is "internalised misogyny". Improve your scales and standards, instead. You really need that. 🙄
@@user-jo3go8fe3g True !!
Most Indian parents ingrain into their children that they shouldn’t forget their family no matter what they achieve or are trying to achieve. Ok, sounds like a simple thing to ask for. But no one thinks about the implications- 1. The child is never going to be able to fully devote to their ambition, like Indra said, its going to be a constant battle.
2- the child is going to have a relation with the parents that’s purely based on attachment and expectations, and not one of genuine love and respect. Most Indian parents want to have a dependent relation with their kids, where kids are dependent on them until they are the age where they can finally do everything by themselves, and the parents can depend on the kids when they are older. Whereas it is absolutely possible to have the same exact relation where you simply do things out of love and respect and not dependence.
This is the story of most Indian kids because of which they are not able to achieve their full potential in life. Hats off to Indra for achieving her dreams despite of the conflict in her personal life, which I can imagine, was not easy.
Well said, in most of the cases parents-kids relationship here is basically based on duty and respect and not pure love and affection. This should change.
@goenje shuya Stop explaning me all these bs. I've been a victim of abuse all my life btw. Do you really think, I care for my father, who has always abused me out of love and affection? Nope, I take care of him only to follow my duty as a son and nothing else.
@goenje shuya Regular beatings due to trivial reasons. He thrashed with a belt, slapped me, kicked me and what not. Do you expect me to show love and affection to hi just because he's my dad?
@goenje shuya Woah, so, you're normalising abuse. Damn, you're an incredible person. Also, don't come to me with all these nonsense called destiny. We create our own destiny and no one else does it.
That's fking law of nature, this is how human survived in the battle of races. You fking anti science people living in delusional style and expecting to achieve imaginary things. Loners 😂😂😂
Just too sad. That an inspirational figure is struggling with same issues like us. No matter what women achieve. Women in Indian society are partially responsible for this fate.
@Trees Emeralds are you SERIOUS
@@gillbates1509 she is right about that too. Some women perpetuate misogyny as well. It's a sad reality in our country. It's not their fault because they are victims of this patriarchal and mysoginistic structure too.
It's in all societies, especially in western cultures... you always have to prove yourself.... especially if you're from a different culture.. that's life.
Your mom knows better, because a family is like an investment that you hate in your youth, but you feel thankful about when you grow old.
This ways polish girls....my sister is credit officer in big australian bank only after mom inspired him like this....indian values makes u strong.....
Don’t know why people laughed at the inherent misogyny.
Ikr. I too was thinking the same.
I could only hear ladies voice in the bg
I couldn't laugh a bit
Not misogyny but how families and the work of everyone in home is necessary. The same lady who asked her to bring milk was the one who made her dream big.
@@keshav2011chaudhary absolutely correct. And if you still gotta glorify the support she got for being a girl, u r still with us. Brother, no matter how much you think that women are shouting feminism and lashing out at misogyny unnecessarily, we do taste being not valued as much even if not intensely like the previous centuries. We are not stupids to not to see the inherent misogyny. There is nothing you can do about.. The least that you could do is acknowledge it, acknowledge that it exists instead of giving vague points like you made. Men & women are sometimes like, now this is the limit of women empowerment and what more are you expecting. This is ridiculous attitude
Story of all dreamy girls who dream big and born & brought up in conservatively cultured family :)
@Katie Homes No need to worry ....India and Indians know how to takecare of India ,and its present and future..Indians are very good forecasters ,planner and executer ,basically the female population,and holistically all Indians from top to bottom ..
@@nivss6790 Yeah Indians are good at planning for future..that's why they have 1.3 billion people ..due to their future planning ability🤣
@Katie Homes india was the country where womens didnt had to fight to get right to vote and we have more female diety
We teach true feminism to the world...we never had any conflict regarding old views and new views....old always accepted the change and the new respect the wisdom.....and it starts from the kitchens in india.....i might not be anything near to indira nooyi but was brought up with the same principles and wish for my daughters to also follow their dreams and at the same time live through and for others
True
This speech has so many problematic connotations.
Correct ! Mothers of india don't let their daughters flourish.
@@ShivaniJuyal No dear it's not. My daughter is going to to a PhD in the US and gonna join as a professor afterwards. And I'm certain all my friends are the same. We all are proud Indian moms😀🙏.
@Nightingale Lightingale 🙏🙏❤️
You feel that way but given the Father would have asked the son to get the milk. Happens to me ;).
But woman in India do sacrifice a lot. Indian woman are special... And always will be.
No it doesn't. She was talking about her mom and mother in law and not about herself. So she has come a long way and wouldn't let her children go through what she went through. Its a mindset problem with our parents generation. As we grow up and start to question things new generation indians find it to be a mindset issue with the older generation.
when she said 'sometimes' her mother said she was proud of her. I felt that. it is not just south indian brahmins who hide their pride for their kids , it is Asians in general actually. I believe parents go too far , to not show how proud they are of their kids' achievements.
Specifically india and china cuz we probably are the most competitive societies
It's just too much to handle sometimes I believe for kids. To have parents who never appreciate you. Maybe, they don't mean it in a bad sense but they fail to understand that sometimes children need to feel that security and satisfaction that their parents are happy and proud of their achievements.
@Trees Emeralds wow what an interpretation. How can you be so pessimistic?
Was including Brahmin so important?
Exactly, what has a caste name which is very well known for discrimination to do with this, I hated it in her speech too which made it slid to trash
Makes me appreciate my mom.... Who is a simple woman... didn't complete her graduation even but all my life i can remember her pushing me to be someone who's identity is not confined to kitchen... Be more... I am no CEO ofcourse ... Not even close ... To the talent of this extraordinary woman but its sad that her mother can negate her achievements that are inspiring generations of women as if its nothing and that her husband is tired...its eye opening... actually what's even more sad is this story is something we all have faced in some degree... Being reduced to stereotypical roles no matter how much we try to break them ....
This is one perfect example of how Indian families are.... Women in the families are not that supportive mostly. All they care is getting the girls married or keeping their daughter in laws under control.. It's mostly the fathers and brothers who support or even try to listen....
Don't marry Indians then, marry people from matriarch
Simple marry a guy who earns less than you or jobless
He will do chores for you
The equal life you wanted will be received lol
Someone important once said, if the institutions aren't democratic then the oppressed always dreams to be the oppressor. That is what was expected of our mothers, to tame their daughters. How can we expect one to empower someone else while being in chains herself.
The message is - anybody can replace you as a president but nobody can take your place as the mother. President/ chairman/ CEO - all are human beings. Their body works the same way even after they become President. So the message is stay close to your family and be grounded always. Family comes first. The reaction would have been the same even for a man
@@thecapatalistpropagator_9470 not true.. I have cousin who's husband is jobless with bad attitude
Grew up in a conservative family & went on to become the CEO of Pepsico. Damn girl, good luck!
Well she worked hard.
Pros of South Asian Countries : You feel less lonely , close relation and support from family , people dont send you to orphanages just because you are old .
Cons : Toxic masculinity where men are expected to never cry and be strong , females not treated equally .
Well that's funny, people do send parents to orphanages in India atleast and that too mostly in urban areas
@ SWATI DAS don't give a shit about those replies u know how to deal with them IGNORE 😎
@Gabe Coud lmao, when we use toxic relationship, toxic boss, toxic parents, toxic teachers, toxic spouse, do we mean that all these things are inherently toxic? Nope. In the same way toxic femininity exists. So don't get flown away with everything mra s teach you and think for yourself. Masculinity is certainly not toxic. But certain people start to think that narcissism and controlling behaviour is masculine. That's when they become victims toxic masculinity.
@Gabe Coud certainly it's not recognised just as toxic bosses, toxic parents, toxic spouse, toxic teachers aren't recognised words and are still very much existent.
@Gabe Coud "not recognised term".
Well dictionary.com defines it, Cambridge dictionary defines it. There are reviewed and published papers on toxic masculinity from multiple universities. Term is used in gender studies and social studies. Then how is this not "recognised term".
I can see how "The great Indian Kitchen" movie was a perfect representation of our society.
May be the society u live in ! That movie shows an extreme case which i never see in my experience !
@@holypunk12 Representations matter. It may not be as much as the movie shows but it exists. Being blind to it is as good as being a part of it. Good day mate, may "the society you live in" increase 😊
@@ChaitraHNDancer may be not as much as the movies shows- thats my point ! I dont support any such behaviour but in todays world i dont see it.. it may be good movie 40-50 years back....or somewhere u live in this type of discrimination exists ..I do not know.. first half they made it to show some issues with littlr legitimacy so that sabarimala issue can be shown same light ! I been to sabarimala many times my younger days , never seen my mom or sister being subjected to any similar treatment.
@@holypunk12 I think you don't known what is the ground level reality of our family system and society.
@@holypunk12 2 things,
1. Just because it's not there at your home doesn't mean it's not there elsewhere. Even if it's 0.1 percent, it needs to be named and shamed. Just because you don't or haven't witnessed means that you deny the existence of it. Rather accept that you and only you aren't aware of it.
2. The subtleties with which women have been subjected to gender roles are higher in middle class families. We don't even know we are being programmed to accept things like you have to serve the family you get married into. It just happens.
Bonus point: unaware and denying the existence of it are 2 very different things. Hope you will find the thick line between those soon👍 good day.
"Deep down I am sure my parents are proud" Classic reason to console asian children.
One of the reasons i don't want to marry.
I am talking about her mother in law,nothing against men.
I am not misandrist.
Well.....i can bring milk everyday.....so it won't be a problem.
@@Physics_ well that solves one of the problems 😂😂😂😂
@@sakshisingh1899 oh😂 i thought it was the only problem
But you aren't indira
@@countdracula2695 am i saying that i am Indira, i am talking about the rules and regulations for women in our society
She is proudly saying some pretty misogynistic things. This is messed up! If you want people to stay grounded, this is not exactly the way.
Exactly my thoughts!
Well, who can be better deserving than you to cAnCeL her. Lol 🤣🤣🤣
@@abhishekchaubey9417 haan haan ofcourse this is what the twitter canceling is. :) no doubts. keep it up bro!
I see failed entities creating an echo chamber against a fierceful alpha Lady. 😆😆. I see Victimhood which is the only failure in an woman. From Queen Elizabeth to Indira Nooyi, never lived in a beta world. That's why these women lead the world.
@@riderpikachu7403 I am sure you are a ceo of some company as well. Happy for your success man!
This makes me really sad. Honestly, I would have lashed out.
And thats why you'll never be CEO - It takes tremendous perseverance and give & take in life, not fancy ENTITLED BUZZ WORDS.
Powerful Empowered Devis >>>>> WESTERN FEMINISM
@@AX-fx7ng Dude, who’s asking for your opinion here?
@@aryas2372 Same people who did not ask for your Violent Lash Out statement. PS: Thats hate speech for assuming my gender identification and calling me Dude. I do not identify as that.
@@aryas2372 Most hard working people people did not get to the top without having humbling moments. IN has the Grit to handle hard things and hence was chosen.
@@AX-fx7ng It is hate speech as well to say that I cannot be a CEO. You’re cyber-bullying me.
“Dude” is a gender-neutral term, but I guess you have been living under a rock.
Also, kindly keep your opinions to yourself or openly post them in the comment section, not as a reply to me. You are very much unwelcome.
I will also not grace your following replies, if any, with a reply of my own because I find them unworthy of my time.
Indra there is some serious problem with mother's attitude
No, thats normal and people are okay with parent's behavior like that.
No this is normal mother and great and smart mother , the way she raised her daughter
@@sid-thesloth6041 No, in no way is it normal or acceptable to be sexist.
@@michellewest6929 no, there's no sexist here. Infact there's nothing about discrimination or inferiority. You just don't know Indian parents. We are fine with their behavior. It happens in every stage of our life. Nobody is bigger than Mother in Indian home, even if you are billionaire or CEO of big companies, Indian Mom talks like exactly how Indira nooyi has described in the video and we love that.
@@sid-thesloth6041 First of all, you don't speak for all indians out there. Kids attempt suicide from the tremendous pressure of trying to be the perfect daughter. What Indra's mom is like what most Indian parents are but that is not okay. Most of their parents' love is almost always conditional and it IS toxic.
Wow...have learned soo much from seeing how people respond to this professionally accomplished lady putting herself down. People always say 'fight for women's equality' and whatnot, but one needs to see see first-hand how to do this. Soooo many women tell proudly about how they were cut down or their professional accomplishments ignored by people who are supposed to be supporting them. For the impressionable young girl hearing such a testimony, it will sound like all women- no matter how much they have achieved- should have someone around them who discredits their accomplishments every so often in order to "return them to their rightful place".
I think older women who were forced to be the traditional wife and mother and never had any opportunities to follow their dreams tend to feel extremely jealous of the opportunities that today's younger women have. This makes the older women even more defensive of archaic tribal customs that destroy women. It is Indra Nooyi's mother... [not her father/brother/husband/son/uncle]... who pretended like Ms Nooyi's professional accomplishments were not as important as her being the servant of the house. Ms Nooyi also discloses that her mother never went to college. This habit of older women shutting down the younger women is repeated all over the developing world.
In the Middle East and some African nations, it is the older women who insist on preserving Female Genital Mutilation. It is these older women [not men] who risk all sorts of dangers such as wild animals and robbers to travel from village to village slicing off bits of young girls' bodies because "culture". I believe that one of the greatest enemies that girls and women with great dreams have to contend with in the 21st century is their older female relatives who were never given the opportunity to pursue their own dreams in their professional and personal lives. This is a far more difficult battle to fight than the one against male misogynists.
Never could have said it better.
Thank you for saying this …it needed to be said…women themselves are their own worst enemies they don’t men to do it for them !!!
So inspirational and such a big source of inspiration, extremely motivating talk, she is a great role model for everyone, very successful and very humble lady. Meanwhile hello from Turkey.
he's tired, literally has a whole meaning attached to it!!
Sometimes grown up children just need to tell the parents to stop passing their toxicity to future generations. Indira should worry more about the mother passing on this sexist,toxic views to the third generation .
The condition in which women are today is largely due to Old age ladies who have been taught patriarchy by their families.
Now that is a TOXIC ☣️relationship.
Not everyone can live like that and no one should live like that.
How is that toxic ? Does she look unhappy about her relationship with mom . If you are watching with western lense you won't understand . This is a typical relationship which there is in South asian families . Kids listen to their parents and do whatever they want to do . Most of parents just threaten and don't do anything serious . Even this attitude helps in keeping us grounded .
@@fida80
Thats your way of thinking.
This model of listening to your parents, and obeying them all the time, does not work for almost all family.
Now the idea is really nice to live in a joint family with your cousin and siblings forever and always following your elders order .
But this idea causes huge problems and history said people become depressed and many things in this model.
Now look at her she is strong emotionally, and mentally.
Now think most people are not like that way, they kill them self or leave their family for this kind of treatment.
Your looking at this in one way, if can look every way possible, and you said Western lense, your wrong many people are living like this, out side india you just IGNORED them. Nothing is WESTERN.
Reply your thoughts and opinions. Again thanks for reply.
No that's not a toxic relationship, as a person one should always able to balance both family and work. And its parents responsibility to keep their childrens as much grounded as possible and give them the reality check in between .
@@humblemedico147 well then why the husband didn't get the milk. It worked with her bcoz she is strong..
@@humblemedico147 if you think telling your daughter, "getting milk is solely the woman's job" is keeping them grounded, then you're the toxic one.
& toxic people defend other toxic people.
Thank you Brut for bringing such an exclusive interview 🙏🏻
The way she speaks shows the confidence she carries 👍
I worked at a big company. And had the opportunity to go to the home of our female director as her husband was involved in one of our projects and we went to their home to meet him. To our surprise, our director (who was a woman) came out with tray which had tea and biscuits for us!! We were feeling really weird that she was serving tea and biscuits to us but then it was HER home and we were guests! This shows class and the quality of that person. There is nothing misogynistic about being a woman of your own home. It also showed her attitude towards her employees. My respect for her grew a 1000 times in that one gesture!
No problem in that, the question here is of no such big person go out and do everything. There is a difference in serving guests and being slave and being the only responsible person at home. Every member of house should share the work load equally. In India only a woman, no matter home maker or working woman is liable to work. Not man.
@@aashkaar8935 Indra Nooyi never says that it's only a woman's responsibility! She always talks about delegating responsibilities not just to the spouse but also to the extended family. Her mom was from a diff era when women did not work in offices.
@@tejug1161 okay dear. 😊
Women will always be pulled down but you can’t let them, you must persevere 💙
Crooked logic.
Wot
The incredibly sad reality many girls go through.
i dont understand why she is sharing this story so proudly... its immense shame that still indian household values patriachial mindset more...she should have confronted this stupidity she is passing very wrong message that even if one women is so independent all her crown is made to be thrown out, what for...
she should have not shared this stupid story...her achievements are way more to look up to, by highlighting this incident she is somehow coming out as someone that is flag brearer of patriarchy
Did u notice she said South Indian Brahmin, That explains it
I mean it’s wrong that her mother said that but she is the one who made her who she is and also She has every right to share her story cuz that’s was also a part of her life and yeah her mother has that mindset cuz she was from conservative family but then also she encouraged her daughter to become who she is
Thank god I’m not the only one who thought of this ..........
The only way a family can stay together and happy is dumping the crowns in the garage. What her mother said holds good even for men. It's her respect towards her son-in-law that stopped from asking him to get milk. I m sure she would have asked her son if he was available. She is sharing this with pride not because she wants to highlight that she is the flag bearer of patriarchy, that's how the life should go on to have harmony at home and at work.
Patriarchy is everywhere in this world and women are marginalised . Also don't try to judge indra nooyi as she is only sharing a mere incident. She is very smart and celebrated personality in corporate world. This was the thought process of her mother......not of the husband. Even in European and American countries, a very large population of women do household work with their jobs as its very expensive to owe a housemaid.
I remember when I came 3rd in my primary school and my mother was going crazy about that😂
Ya pros of being a male in indian society good for u
@@mehulsharma4884 discriminating comment.
@@maheshthorat7568 You don't think yours was? Such is the nature of misogyny
Was it really her mother who said that to her? Honestly to me it sounds more like the lady was her MIL... Indra is being nice and hence calling the lady her mother so as to not sound like a cliche DIL... Whatever the case hats off to you Indra Mam... For breaking all glass ceilings and inspiring billions of girls around the globe 🙌🙏👍
Thanks..brut...what a wonderful interview!!
I don't like this, this no way motivational..she is in conflict ...where to praise her mom or speak her frustration 🤔
Yeah it is kind of motivational, but there's the internalised sexism and having high expectations from women
It’s unfortunately the truth too!
Congrats on her leaving India and making it big..I want to do the same...
what disgrace comment , never ever disrespect you mother country !
I wanna move to USA as well
If her mother asked her to bring milk instead of asking her son in law to do so.. she is a true perpetuator of patriarchy.. and this lady flaunting this incident so proudly.. she is really out of her mind.. why such things are only a woman's duty to take care of the house even if she is working.. why can't the husband have equal responsibility in all the chores???....she herself needs to introspect what wrong her mother did to her first... Then preach the world..😑😏
Wow thats really sad in my opinion...
Sounds kinda messed up to be honest 😕
You should have taken a stand against it instead of setting it as an example. Such a shame.
Girl she just wants to say whoever you are either a ceo or anyone. You should throw your crown out in the garage and then come into the house because no one can take her place as a mother, as a wife etc. Same goes for men whoever you are when you come home you should be a father, a husband etc so what's wrong in that
People tend to forget or ignore their family after they achieve something big. So her mother wanted to say don't forget your family etc
I dont think anything is wrong in this and even the men in her family supported Indira for her decisions. So if it was a patriarcal family they won't have done that right?
@@abdulmannanbagwan9405 People are used to finding something negative out of everything and cry.Nothing new.
All those who think women are overrepresented , just look at the sexism they face
Let us not forget that we are talking about a woman born in the pre-independence era in India when patriarchy was at its peak! Inspite of the fact that Mom had limited exposure to the outside world, she allowed her daughter to pursue her higher education in a foreign country, to establish a career of her own and to marry someone of her own free will...decisions which were unthinkable in a conservative South Indian family for which Mom must have been heavily criticised by society then!! She may have been concerned if her daughter's career growth may harm her family relationships at home, and her way to keep her daugher firmly grounded. Of course it is to Indra Nooyi's credit that she broke out of the system, balanced all her roles and reached this space in her life!
This is exactly how my mother is. Obviously Indra mother is jealous of her. Look they let us study like everyone else becoz of society rules. But when you actually are achieving something it's Ur mother, sister and others who will try to put u down . No matter what u buy for them still they make fun of u Infront of others and try to put u down. Story of my life. Am 36 and my mother is a bitch. It took me 35 years to realize it's not my problem anymore. i didn't do anything.
An Indian mother can never be 'jealous' of her own kids. Are you nuts ??
That's the reality of life of Indian professional women...❤❤❤
I know it very well how it feels like when ur own family never recognises ur success just bcoz u r a girl n constantly shows u d limits u should follow.....
Wow so many feminists firing up in the comments . She is speaking of a mother who would be 70 year old mother , how can you expect her to be so radically gender neutral . She encouraged her studies and high aspirations , can't you people see that . Stop bashing everyone.
Human behavior changes come very slowly.
It's MIL ,not mother, Ya I think as per your post she should be thankful that they let her work
Feminists would obviously be raged cuz this is sexist. According to her mother such things only have to be done by women cuz men are apparently men and its not their job to do it. Her mother could also have asked him to get the milk after she arrived as he has got enough rest and she just had come home so obviously is tired. Still she didnt do it.
My grandmother died at 94 and I can assure you she was better than this
Dude my dadi is 76, she gets happy in every achievement of mine. Good people are there in every generation. Be it young ot old. This is no defense.
Again not all can be same and by the people I've seen she is a lot better. I have seen casteist and misogynistic people in this generation.
Now that is a great mom, she taught her kids to challenge themselves to reach greater heights in life yet constantly reminds them of the roots of their life is always FAMILY. She reminds me of my mom. What a beautiful way of showering love.
How scary this is, how much it triggers my anxiety.
This kind of lady who spread patriarchy.... she turned the wheel
A great soul this lady is
Optimistic soul😍✨👍Samastha loka sukino bavanthu🙏🙏🙏❤Radhey krishna🌹🌹🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤
Story of almost every girl from middle class in India
This is more of Indian parents having high expectations which can never be satisfied than sexism
A guy will never be treated like that. You are so sexist you can't see sexism
@@zr8393 I never said what her mother said wasn't sexist. I just said the high expectations part was more than sexism part. I do agree a Patriarchial mindset made her mother say that also
This is why I don't always go for arranged marriage route. I would rather choose my husband and take the responsibility for the choice.
You do know that being an Indian wife /mom means an insane amount of unpaid labour, right? I'm sure you do know. You just don't give a crap
@@LoveLove-fp2rn hey not arguing with you on this but understand the context on an individual basis here. This is Indira Nooyi who is a multi millionaire. She can afford all the paid labour she wants. Yet her mom expects her to do things as part of familial responsibility. That's why I said high expectations.
I feel like no matter how modern or forward thinking an Indian family is, there are always these references to gender defined roles either through moms trying to teach their daughters to put family first, or relatives coming up with wedding discussions as soon as the girl hits 18, and so on. As an Indian girl raised in a relatively forward thinking family, I can say that these were more like threats as to what could happen if I don’t study well and learn to take care of myself. On the contrary, the boys in the family may chose to take these comments as a responsibility towards their sisters or could use these to avoid the same responsibility ( asking the girls to dress a certain way, go out at a certain time, study only certain courses and avoid others etc).
Ultimately, these comments harm the boys in the family more than they do determined and goal oriented girls 🤷🏻♀️
And then there are reserved families that ... well I hope the girls find their happiness in whatever their life has to offer.
That's it.... Wow... Hats off...why people don't understand such a simple thing...
"we have to live in fear that it could happen"
one wrong move or mistake and bhoom nothings left for us to dream , since our life is not Just ours , it's the maryada , izzat of the family so we have to live according to their expectations
I don't understand how she is condoning being put down. Humility is one thing. This is, no matter what you you need to be of service.
Poor Indian woman never appreciated
Her story not telling her mom was strict
Her story telling her husband was male shavounist and never gave her mom and her respect enough that she could ask him to bring milk
To all you women hitting out at this, simple thing - her mother is treating her as a daughter, not as royalty. And this is real deal. Whether u t a man or woman, u can wear your crowns at work, but when u come home, u absolutely have to switch roles when it comes to your little ones. Even If your dad/mom is a great achiever, to u they are your parents ? And that relation is most important ! Simple …
Im glad my family doesnt treat me like that..
I guess Indira HAS to mention her 'South Indian brahmin' origin in every interview. In this one, the one with Nandan Nilekani and another with NYT, she flaunts it as it was some kind of achievement.
Yep. I don't get why she does that. And those same western people blame us for casteism n such thing. We ourselves give shit to fellow countrymen if they keep talking about their caste all the time.
She's proud of her ancestry. An ancestry which celebrates the oldest civilization in the world. The Vedic way of life began with the Brahmin way. That's nothing not to be proud of. They make up half of the Indian foreign diaspora. And they're aspirational beyond normal. They make up 3 Nobel prizes and most of the corporate heads. They just work and achieve. Still Brahmin bashing continues.
@@naiyayika? Indians criticise islamic rulers and britishers but expect not to criticise brhamins who have excluded Dalits from basic human rights. What ancestry she had those who have excluded 25% of the population from basic human rights and preach about britishers.
Did anyone understand the message here? I am so lost in the comments below. What she is saying is your position in the public or workplace is replaceable but your title of mother, wife, daughter and so on should not be. Put in your work towards that aspect of life as well.
Does it hold good for males too?
We must raise our society to the level where men should be held equally responsible for human relationships. We as homosapians were supposed to be nurtur based society not financial based. But providing and earning beyond the needs is basically showing off , a competition , not a requirement of our offsprings. It is a fairly new concept when you look at the time line of human evolution.
Her mother would not dare talk like this to her husband
Thank you for the voice of reason
A man would not be told "remember your place as a husband and son-in-law when you enter this house." Never. His achievement would have been celebrated. That's the difference. The message you spoke about was pretty clear. But the same thing is not said to a man when he achieve's such heights. In that case his spouse (if he's married) is asked to Support her husband and give up her ambitions, as he's doing well for himself and will take care of her.
Poor lady ..she can't say that her mother said it ! Appreciated her for her achievements !! But she assumed that her mother surely proud of her .. feeling really bad for her right now ...she is really really lucky that she got father & grandfather who didn't treat her as a girl ! They hv treated her as a human being first !
Great woman..proud
Truth of Indian family
What iconic company. A diabetic patients making company. A really shame indira to work in a company that created ruckus in the health of people in world.
I have news for you. Several companies including the one you're using right now are like that. Everyone has to make a living somehow
Are you literally that stupid??? It's your choice to drink it or not! And also anything in moderation is fine.
And the end of the day it's the consumers' choice. Make informed decisions rather than blaming it on the company
People have to be sheep then. It is THEIR decision to consume stuff that harms their health. It is illogical and dumb to blame the company and the employees.
I remembered this words from my late mother 😂😂
Smiling emoji at the end for mom is not nice 2 read. Just an request sincerely, since, it's about mom you are talking about... excuse me if you feel otherwise.
No offense here but why are women told to shove their crown while a man can flaunt it everywhere.
You are spitting facts. You dont have to mention 'no offence'.
Leave your crown in garage??? Come on. I earned it. Nobody handed it to me because I was someone's son. Ii earned it and I am going to fucking sleep in it.
Wow ❤❤✌!!! Thanks a lot for putting up this video
It's just insane how many hate her for being proud of her ancestry. She's a Brahmin from South India. Possibly the most successful ethnicity in the world. Ashkenazi of India. They make up half of the American diaspora and 3 of the 4 Nobel prizes. And still they bash her for being proud of being Brahmin.
They work like hell. Are as aspirational as anyone can be. Unlike the contemporary Indian parent that want them to marry or get a degree or a job.
That's why Brahmins moved on and are basically ruling global corporates from mastercard, Google, pepsi and microsoft. And others still blame Brahmins and allow reservation to pull themselves back.
It's pathetic.😐
I have hugh respect for this lady❤️
Woow perfect mother. She made Indira realise that at the end of the day it will be only the family which wil stand by her through her thick and thin. Accolades , glory, positions will all come and go but at the end only the family and her near and dear ones who have stood by her will see her through till the end of her life. No one can doubt it was her mother who guided her to where she reached let's not forget that at all. Having done that her mom also believed that her family which is the rock will need to be appreciated by indira and taken care off by her. Great values imbibed by indira.
Whatever great things she says, ultimately she is the leader of the company which is one of the major causes for the obesity epidemic. Doesn't that invalidate everything ?
Its extreme capitalism that causes the obesity not she. She's just doing her job .
The phone you are using causes depression and insomnia in all age groups. By ur logic the phone is the problem and not the people who use it without control..
@@minty_drawer6925
Smartphone : a small computing device that gives you a window to the world..The uses are unlimited. Yes, it can be abused
Pepsi/coke : drinks with zero nutrition..Causes obesity in children. ..And causes so many more diseases... Nothing positive to be said other than it tastes good.
Yes.. They are comparable
@@avibratz941 history is full of people who were 'just doing their job' ..But caused tremendous harm
Her mom though👎👿 You wear your crown like a damn Queen 👑 You are an inspiration to many 💜
Indian culture and values are hard to dethroned from minds and hearts of people.
It is indeed sad ...
What does she mean by that statement that you are a mother, wife etc.. means woman of the house who is supposed to serve? Like a domestic help? Uggs.
தமிழனென்று சொல்லடா தலை நிமிர்ந்து நில்லடா🔥🔥
ஆரியர் சரியா? அவள் திராவிடர் அல்லவா? ஏன் அவளை தமிழ் என்று அழைக்க வேண்டும்? அவள் தமிழ் பிரம்மம் பெண். நீங்கள் கோவில்களில் உள்ள அனைத்து பிராமணர்களையும் குறிவைத்துள்ளதால், எங்களைப் பற்றி பெருமை கொள்ளாதீர்கள்.
She said she is brhamin
As an Indian you know that you are doing well when your parents discuss the mistakes you are doing and not the accomplishments and that you could have done better when it's vice versa!😂
I'm glad people find this story problematic. I heard this story around 2012. Even then, I found myself getting very uncomfortable.
Why is she telling this story so proudly? That's a lot of misogyny
This not misogyny.. I am a south Indian male and my mom made me do house hold chores even in my 30s. I would wash utensils , mop the floor, dry the washed cloths etc. My mom would simply say you might be a Manager at your office but when you come home you need to help me with house hold chores. It was a reasonable request and I felt it is anyone's duty to help their parents or to do household chores irrespective of gender. Today we have a maid who helps in house hold chores but me and my sister carry out our duties are son and daughter
The great Indian kitchen....
Never ever can a women find a place of honour
Bitter Truth in any country ... no country has gender equality
This is sad. Not once did she say that her family celebrated her achievements. It felt that they kept reminding her what her “actual” responsibilities should be. If this were a man he would be called accomplished but because it’s a woman- check your crown at the door. How dare a woman place her self worth in her career? That’s not her “real” role in life😕
May I say it for you ?
Sweetest gesture of humanity
...yet refused
It's not an easy path. It needs Lots of effort, time, and luck too. In India, men get all the household items but some claim they get it.
Problem of patriarchy is so deep rooted that it persist even in educated family....she had to bring milk even her husband was there before ...everybody took it as a joke...but even Indra nooyi also had to faced it!
i never know all of our future ceo's are here lol
Ladies ...wear that damn crown..EVERY FUCKING WHERE !!! Stop this misogynist idea of dissecting a woman and stripping her away from her choices n ambition.. don't listen to such kind of parents who bear the brunt of their generation 🙏🏽5
I thought this video would be very inspiring 💀
Good inspiration story. No problem with house hold chores but if they do not respect the crown at home, nobody outside would respect. If husband is tired so is the wife. I follow Sidha Murtiji more who talks about true equalization.
I don't understand why people are laughing !! Its purely gender discrimination
More alarming is "Get Milk" and not "Get Cola"...the black sugary drink is for everyone else.
What her mother said was unfortunate but I also understand and feel bad for her mother .
She definitely wanted to live big and do great things but due to the time and financial condition she has to succumb to society norms and realized her dreams will never come true.
They way she ask her daughters to dream big but at the same time threatens them. Shows her flame to dream big is still present but at the same time she is scared that her daughters might hv to give them up.
There is conflict going on inside due to the circumstances she grew up.
I sometimes find it hard to entirely blame parents to think certain way bcz these r the people unlike us who hv to only hear or witness borderline they hv to go through it. They had to live it and eventually it become a part of them.
I totally agree with you whatever you have written over here is so damn true nice to find someone who looks at the other side too rather than vehemently blaming someone what other people are doing over here
@goenje shuya you wrote the truth 👍
@goenje shuya I have read every reply you've written in this comment section. You've spoken nothing but the truth so far. Hats off to you!
I don't know 😂 but at first I thought she was wearing a sari 😂😂