The Good, The Bad and The Ugly of Self-Help Books

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  • Опубликовано: 24 авг 2023
  • In today’s podcast, I dive deep into the world of self-help books. I talk about the books that have made a positive impact on my life and those that fell short of my expectations. Whether you’re a self-help book enthusiast or just starting out, you won’t want to miss this informative and engaging discussion.
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  • @stephanietucker2559
    @stephanietucker2559 10 месяцев назад +23

    While listening, I’m arranging my son’s marble run sets so I can take a picture and list it for sale on Facebook. This morning I sold my son’s Cub Scout stuff. Between these two sales, that will have earned me about $75. Decluttering, earning money, and listening to Cass is a win.

  • @thedirtprincess3293
    @thedirtprincess3293 10 месяцев назад +31

    I had to realize that im weird, and only a few folks will ever get me and be "my people". But... some of us are all three ...weird people, we need help with getting rid of the clutter, AND we also really like you and think you're cool. We would tjink you're cool in person, too. Not just on youtube and podcasts.

  • @mrandisg
    @mrandisg 10 месяцев назад +19

    I cried a little while I was listening to this. Until now, I'd told myself (and was even told by my therapist at one point) that reading and consuming all this self-help content without taking action was a waste of time if I never applied what I learned. (I stopped seeing that therapist about 2 years ago.) Thank you for letting me know I was (and they were) wrong! Although I did gain a lot of useful tools from therapy, which I have actually implemented in my life with some success, I eventually came to realize that not everything they taught me was helpful. (This became abundantly clear when they kicked me out of the program for missing "too many" appointments in a certain timeframe. How ridiculous is that when you're treating me for effing ADHD symptoms?!) *clears throat* Anyway, I really wanted to comment to say thank you, and to to add that as someone with poor working memory, the idea of listening to and reading the same messages over and over again IS what helps me remember them and commit them to my long-term memory where they belong. Repetition is key! So I very much appreciate the reminder. And speaking of repetition, I want to repeat this: Cas, you are amazeballs (to use your term hehe) and you have helped me more than you'll ever know. Keep doing what you do. 💖💖💖💖

  • @returnofthereasoner3200
    @returnofthereasoner3200 10 месяцев назад +9

    This will definitely date me, but the best, most helpful books I’ve ever read were by Don Aslett. He wrote “Clutter’s Last Stand” and a host of others.

    • @maryfoerter4222
      @maryfoerter4222 10 месяцев назад +2

      That was the book I first read as well, must be at least 25 years ago now!

  • @barbaradellarocco5132
    @barbaradellarocco5132 10 месяцев назад +20

    That was funny and helpful. I’m one of the weird ones too and have struggled with that my whole life. Sometimes it takes years and for me it took 64 to make a breakthrough after self help books upon books. I loved them and many got me through the next hurdle etc. Life does get better, never give up . Thank you for todays video. Found me at the right time which life seems to do 🙏🏼😆

  • @diannerogers8707
    @diannerogers8707 10 месяцев назад +10

    I don't have friends, and it bothered me, but I discovered I like to do what I want to do when I want to do it. I know you have to be a friend to have friends. I have many many acquaintances, temporary people that go in and out of my life. That's how I want it. I'm laying down now but you always motivate me!!! I've never been happier since meeting you and Dawn M.!!! You both are always on my TV RUclips ❤. You are my friends. Looking forward to the HQV(?)!!!! Thanks!! 💕💕💕💕

  • @lindamcdermott9980
    @lindamcdermott9980 10 месяцев назад +6

    Cas, this was one of the best podcasts I’ve heard. Your personal story and your becoming who you are today is so inspiring. No self help book could compete. I have gone the self help journey and wondered why I was feeling like a failure, blamed myself for everything that could possibly go wrong, I even blamed myself when it snowed! (Just think how powerful I thought I was!)… As life moved on and each day I did what needed to be done, raised four children as a single working mom with no extra support. I was too busy doing what needed to be done to get by, and always wondered why, in spite of the self help books, I couldn’t make things better. (High IQ vs. ADHD …. They counter act sometimes). It wasn’t until I retired and the last of the kids moved out, that I could really focus on myself. I am a RUclips junky, I have a degree in Home Economics, and a passion for art tutorials, so decluttering, decorating, painting, wire wrapping are my go to s. I turn the TV on at 8 pm for the cat, put it on mute, and binge on RUclips. Cas,, I’m so glad you are there. Thank you for sharing your story and insights on self help. Btw, I do have a library card, read books half way and listed to audiobooks but find I don’t pay attention…..
    Btw, again… I did read a whole book “The Common Well” by Stephen Meyer, it was so good, I actually read it twice!…. That was a first for me!
    Good luck with the flood plane lake in your back yard…..in Pennsylvania people can get flood insurance, if that is available where you are, you should consider it.

  • @annabelvnoucek2148
    @annabelvnoucek2148 10 месяцев назад +7

    I love self-help books. I have been reading them for decades. My experience is that they work - if you do the work. You have to realise that you have to do the work. The books tell you how and they are always there to go back to. They have really helped me.

  • @Louisbeth
    @Louisbeth 10 месяцев назад +7

    OMG!!! You are not weird, YOU ARE REAL! I uNader stand there are times that a little decorum goes a long way but people need to be so serious… You are great! I would love to have a friend like you anytime! My best dearest friends are my friends because I know there is no pretend. ❤😊

  • @intherockies
    @intherockies 10 месяцев назад +7

    Cas you are always helpful. Your experience has made you a strong person and you are helping so many others. You are motivational and down to earth and that's what we need and love. Thank you for this video. I listen (I love audible) to Christian self-help/inspirational books, and regular self-help books. I definitely need to do better. Not perfect just better and actually do 10-15 minutes every few hours because it matters. I have chronic pain and fatigue. If I wait until I feel good nothing will happen. As the old saying goes, "I can't, never could do anything."
    Plus we shouldn't talk negative about our lives because we are listening 😂
    Have a great day!

  • @JournalsByLeigh
    @JournalsByLeigh 10 месяцев назад +7

    Loved this episode!! You're definitely my kind of weird!!🤪

  • @laurafitzsimmons8017
    @laurafitzsimmons8017 10 месяцев назад +9

    I laughed so much and can relate to being weird! Love your content so much and so grateful for your voice!♥️♥️

  • @nonna628
    @nonna628 10 месяцев назад +2

    Cass, I love your weirdness. I think you’re the most authentic person on RUclips. I’m probably old enough to be your grandma and I think you’re awesome. I hope you are crazy proud of yourself because you deserve it.

  • @ItsCreedJameson
    @ItsCreedJameson 4 месяца назад

    I sit and listen to you while cleaning 5 days a week. I'm running out of videos. But THIS ONE! Your life is so much like mine every time you talk about your past I'm like what the douce!! I lost a ton of weight I was rowdy at one point. I was homeless. Just almost everything it's blowing my mind!! The real difference is the reason I got organized is because I found a wonderful man who I want to make a wonderful life for. I'm new to this. Always knew how never cared to. My ADHD kept me able to be blinded to mess. But caring now I watch your videos religiously. All day. Just while I'm cleaning you're usually with me. 😅 I'm the weirdo listening to you to hang out with you for a voice while I organize and I talk about inappropriate things at the dinner table. 😂😂😂

  • @lyndi9082
    @lyndi9082 10 месяцев назад +2

    Cas, you always give the tough talk I need to hear. If it was a YT Short, I'd be listening to that same "Stop! The only person in charge of you is you" on repeat ... things I know, but it's good to hear out loud. The other day you took questions, and one of the tough talks was about recycling and don't let trash hold you captive in your own home. My daughter convinced me as well, it's okay to trash the useful, or recycleables and get a fresh start. You always give me permission... like not reading the whole book. I thought I was the only one. I'm in a rut really since covid crap, and your energy helps! Keep being awesome!! ❤❤❤

  • @SpeakTruthBeKind
    @SpeakTruthBeKind 10 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you for the reminder to get some of these books from the library. 👍🏻 I also check the books at Goodwill - $2.00 hardback $1.00 paperbacks. Self Help books - the drive to learn and want to make your life better in just one small step at a time. Not everyone want to admit their problems and be willing to make the effort to change. I am a person that likes to hold a book in my hand and turn the pages and put a small sticker on spots that speak to me - then I go back repeatedly and reread them which helps the information to stick better. 😁 Thank you for sharing your thoughts from someone who isn’t into talking about buttholes at the dinner table😵‍💫…but hey, you do you! 😆😆

  • @HannahRainbow88
    @HannahRainbow88 10 месяцев назад +2

    Oh Cas, please don't ever change! 💗 The autism spectrum table is way more fun and enlightening than dull "normal" small talk will ever be!! 🤣
    You were the one who set the ball rolling on my self-help RUclips journey... Then i found Laura (GYST), Flyladies (Diane + Kat), Dawn, Dana and so on.
    Speaking of Dawn, she's the main one I've seen advocating for Blinkist - you should ask her about it / a discount code perhaps? (I know she had one a while back) 😊
    ... As ever, thank you for being you 👏😘

  • @sandee-zn9tq
    @sandee-zn9tq 7 месяцев назад +2

    Would love to see a list of self-help books & authors that have worked for your fans/ listeners.

  • @meshellyshell
    @meshellyshell 5 месяцев назад

    My partner gave me so much crap about my self-help collection and not being perfect by now. Thank you for making me feel better about them and the knowledge I have gained!

  • @jaynenicol1427
    @jaynenicol1427 10 месяцев назад +4

    Wealth of good stuff in this one Cas. Thanks so much for mentioning Brene Brown. I'd seen something of hers that was fabulous; then couldn't for the life of me remember her name.

    • @sherriramsey593
      @sherriramsey593 10 месяцев назад +1

      Oh my goodness, I've listened to Brene Brown over and over on Audible!!! Look for her podcast, too (many episodes, despite her ending it). Great interviews. So many topics covered. Enjoy the journey!

    • @sherriramsey593
      @sherriramsey593 10 месяцев назад

      Cass, all of your content is so appreciated. Thanks for mentioning Untamed. I'm putting it on my Audible wishlist. Ironically, Brene Brown had a great interview with Glennon Doyle, lol. You mentioned a bunch of books I will be checking out and several authors I've read. As for Tony Robbins... I would not pay to go to his events, either. In fact, I can't read him, lol. He's just not for me, like Brene Brown isn't for you. I DO recommend Mel Robbins, Jen Cincero, Meadow Devor, Brene Brown, Glennon Doyle... oh, and here's one: "Outliers" by Malcom Gladwell. Btw, I'm one of the weird ones, too. I'm okay with it now.

  • @terrieaves1682
    @terrieaves1682 8 месяцев назад

    Cass, I love listening to your podcast! We all think you're fantastic! I love your personality. So relatable.
    You have a wealth of great information!
    Thank you!

  • @lindamcadarra402
    @lindamcadarra402 9 месяцев назад

    TY Cas for telling the truth about life coaching because I was convinced that I wouldn’t get any better unless I sold my belongings to pay for the program, I just don’t have that kind of money. I struggled this week with just trying to find out how to buy butter

  • @kaywilliams1065
    @kaywilliams1065 10 месяцев назад +5

    I don't find you off-putting at all. Im a 12 year old boy trapped in a 58 year old GMA body. I don't care what your past was. You've helped me understand i don't have to organize only One way. Thank You ❤❤❤❤

  • @Blankenshipable
    @Blankenshipable 6 месяцев назад +2

    People do that with The Bible. They plug their ears and say, “no, no, no… Don’t tell me, I don’t want to hear.”
    People do feel judged by the Bible or Christians, but it’s the same process. Growing in knowledge at a rate where you are feeling that spark to keep on. Knowledge for today and revelation of where our future lies. Self improvement is incomplete without addressing the spiritual man / woman. Consume God’s word. Gain that knowledge even if it seems a little culty, as Cas put it.

  • @Celeste-new49
    @Celeste-new49 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you! I really needed to hear this right now. I'm going through a major life transition - in a few short years I'll be an empty nester plus I'm researching doing my final "career" being a digital nomad and finally living my life long dream. I can relate - I still struggle at moments and use my troubled past as an excuse to talk down to myself and self sabotage my plans. Your podcast and youtube channel have been great self-help for me - love the bonus stories too! "Weird" is the best kind of cool. take care

  • @davkmv
    @davkmv Месяц назад

    I have read self-help books off and on over the years. (Other times I have focused on books helping me improve my profession.) The two that had the biggest impact on my life were one on shyness in high school and Hinds Feet on High Places. Last time I looked for the shyness book I could not find it on Amazon. I wish Amazon would filter by author's last name because I know it started with a Z. The last few months, RUclips videos have been my self-help gurus (including you).

  • @bellaluce7088
    @bellaluce7088 10 месяцев назад +1

    Love you, Cas, "inappropriate" conversations and all! Those are often the best kind! It's true that borrowed motivation from self-help books can be fleeting, and the shame hangover when I don't magically change my life overnight can be brutal. But *quality* self-help books have helped me more than any therapist! The mindset shifts really can be lasting and truly transformational. Huzzah!

  • @kittenmixer812
    @kittenmixer812 Месяц назад

    I cracked up when I heard you say “hey Susan I don’t care about bologna on sale” hahaha and I don’t want to talk about the grass either! You’re the best.

  • @darlahkelley9800
    @darlahkelley9800 8 месяцев назад +1

    ❤Your Podcast is my Self Help ❤

  • @helenhosler7923
    @helenhosler7923 10 месяцев назад +1

    I love you!!!! You are so honest

  • @debraarbuthnott3380
    @debraarbuthnott3380 10 месяцев назад +1

    I am weird too!! I love your videos and podcasts. You speak to my heart. I have had to do a lot f work to get where I am now - still need work, but I am finally able to declutter my security blanket (my craft stuff and fabric) and you have helped - thank you so much. I have also watched a number of declutter people, read books etc., but I love your weirdness, it resonates.

  • @suzierice9730
    @suzierice9730 10 месяцев назад +1

    Loved absolutely all of it !! This was so good ! Thanks Cass 💫

  • @dptfo
    @dptfo 10 месяцев назад

    I use audible because I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old. Library books won't survive here, and on my phone, I can read with the lights off.
    I didnt up my credits, but for books that are less than $14, I just buy them. For books over $14, I put it in my wishlist and wait for the new credit.
    Also, I started listening to you for decluttering advice, because i was drowning, but I stayed for the weird. I'm an adhd ladybug (with cricket aspirations) and we tend to think the same on so many things. You've helped me so much. The dishes are done, the counters are clear, my washer and dryer are both empty, and all our clothes are put away, because of You. But yeah, I'm mostly just a weirdo who just likes to hang out with you, Cas. I like who you are as a person.

  • @abrareads
    @abrareads 10 месяцев назад

    I got finished getting ready for work, cleaned up after my dog in the yard, and did dishes. Thanks for the reminder to be up doing something while listening.

  • @JulieDeOutdoors
    @JulieDeOutdoors 8 месяцев назад

    I do read self help but I have to know quite a bit about who wrote it. I have a requirement of the author before I read one (not going to disclose what on here). I heard you mention keto, I slowly moved to eating keto 5 years ago and lost 50 pounds and have kept it off this long. I absolutely love keto, it wasn't just about loosing weight it was also getting healthier. Now I am thankful to have found decluttering/minimalism and getting rid of items I don't need, just like keto got rid of food my body doesn't need. The best way I have ever stuck to anything is slowly to move that way, baby steps (What About Bob?) is what I have always thought of it as. If there's a book that basically says, man up and do whatever it is...um no that doesn't work with me. It needs to encourage and guide me in the right direction a little bit at a time.

  • @jessicaledgerwood9005
    @jessicaledgerwood9005 2 месяца назад

    Just what I needed today! Thanks Cass!

  • @danielfitch4679
    @danielfitch4679 10 месяцев назад

    Cass, you are my absolute favorite to watch and listen to. You have helped me so much. I don’t think you are weird at all. You are so honest about your life. I have learned so much about myself by listening to you. Keep up the great work you do. I am so thankful for you! Keep being you in all you do!!!

  • @helenaroxbigtime
    @helenaroxbigtime 10 месяцев назад +1

    I love you bc you are not normal. You are better, interesting, intelligent and have the sweet voice of an angel

  • @lesleytownson6421
    @lesleytownson6421 9 месяцев назад

    Listening to this and the "fighting for your home" I've binned recycled & out out for donation 80 items! Many I've kept for many years! BIG WIN for me.
    Remember ...life is too short to stick with a book you're not enjoying, or does not "speak to you". This is why you and Dana K White, among others, speak to me more than other "gurus" who don't find decluttering or minimalism an issue - you all understand is "normal folk"! One of the first groups of stuff I declutter was self-help books on decluttering!

  • @lindamcadarra402
    @lindamcadarra402 9 месяцев назад

    Cas! You really are simply amazing! It takes real guts to share ur life with us! U are saving ALOT of people! TY my friend, yes, my friend, I’m honored to call you my friend and example! And we don’t know each other but I promise you, I’m offering my friendship to you and my support and even if that’s not in physical contact, I will always answer ur call and you and ur family and extended family will be in my prayers daily, nightly and when I’m a friend to someone, I mean it! I will never judge anything you share. Ya the best!❤xo Linda, Pa.

  • @marionvolk7067
    @marionvolk7067 3 месяца назад

    Ok this may sound weird (no pun intended 😊), I agree with everything you have said in this podcast. It is like the words and thoughts have been bouncing around in my head and you have the gift of speaking them. Just amazing, thank you.

  • @ginatheng9506
    @ginatheng9506 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks I think you are normal. Love hearing n watching you.❤

  • @Hansensarabeth
    @Hansensarabeth 10 месяцев назад +1

    This was great, Cas! I'm also so glad to know I'm not the only one who doesn't actually finish these books! ;)

  • @heathermoreland6015
    @heathermoreland6015 10 месяцев назад

    I listen to you Dawn and Dana, and your right, I have decluttered some and am still working on it. So thanks these messages are really helpful. I too have audible for self help and history and economics. It’s a weird mix but I enjoy it.

  • @ILikeBigCatsAndICannotLie
    @ILikeBigCatsAndICannotLie 10 месяцев назад

    I agree a lot of messages only resonate if it’s something we need at the time. I also think while it’s important to realize only we can move forward from this point by taking responsibility for our healing, growth, etc. we should realize the past may still affect us in ways we might but realize yet, which is part of the journey. ❤

  • @trishhargis8316
    @trishhargis8316 10 месяцев назад

    This "self help" message is very encouraging to me. Sure there are times you need someone to help you with learning things. But those are specific carefully chosen friends or professionals. There are other situations where I need information that helps. You and many other podcasts and self help books are INCREDIBLY helpful. The "friends" who push to DO certain things for you, ie your budget, do your unemployment for you, are not helpful and a horrible idea. Slow changes drive those "do it for you" people crazy. Thank you Cass for being honest. After all, normal is the wierdest!

  • @JesusIsTheLionOfJudah
    @JesusIsTheLionOfJudah 9 месяцев назад

    Awesome info, Cas, thank you! I don't mean to sound cheesy but I have to say that the greatest self-help book ever made is the Bible. A lot of what you're saying are biblical principles. The Bible ignites the fire we seek but the awesome thing is that it doesn't go away.

  • @dptfo
    @dptfo 10 месяцев назад +1

    I didnt finish any thing by Brene Brown, but I loved the parts in her book, "I thought it was just me (but it isn't)," about understanding shame. It resonated with me that shame has been holding me back my whole life, and it changed the way I talk to my kids and even my husband. It's worth the first few chapters anyway. I listen on audible, and im not the biggest fan of the narrator in this one.

  • @litheanne1563
    @litheanne1563 10 месяцев назад

    Bravo. Thank you.

  • @mermeow
    @mermeow 10 месяцев назад

    Today, purr usual, I'm listening to the podcast at work. I can't do any decluttering now, but I do follow Dana, Dawn, & others for motivation. I'm also in TYHB, & registered for the Organization HQ for the 2nd time. 🎉

  • @brittanyredden4808
    @brittanyredden4808 9 месяцев назад

    Oh my goodness! I relate to you so much in every podcast episode! Your personality, your struggles and the way you think about things and just blurt out randomly possibly inappropriate things lol. I don’t mean to sound like a creeper. I’m sorry if I do that is definitely not my intention but I just have to say something about how I feel like your a sister from another mister and also thank you for sharing your messages and helpful tips and information. I’ve gotten so much from everything you’ve created. I wish I could personally thank you and chat with you because we would have some interesting conversations but i understand that you likely get a lot of people who would like to talk with you also so i will just stay in my bubble. 😊 oh i am also very sure i gave ADHD as well if you can’t tell from my writing! Again sorry if this sounds like im being a creeper. I really don’t mean to it’s just your podcasts make me thrilled to know im not the only odd ball out here! 😅

  • @JoanneWhitlock
    @JoanneWhitlock 10 месяцев назад +1

    I’m weird too. I’m fascinated by self expression and misunderstandings. Learning about creativity and putting yourself out there at the moment. The war of art is fab. Just signed up for free struthless challenge re sharing your work if anyone else is interested in this kind of thing. PS. I write books too, please keep buying books!

    • @bellaluce7088
      @bellaluce7088 10 месяцев назад +2

      Yes to "please keep buying books!" I often hear buying books framed as a guilty indulgence or lack of frugality, but writing is a job, and paying people for their work is something to be proud of. Plus, having a copy to make notes in and refer back to helps the information sink in. We deserve that! : - )

  • @janeheller8917
    @janeheller8917 10 месяцев назад +1

    Needed to hear this 🥹💯🤷‍♀️😘

  • @kraichellecurren7892
    @kraichellecurren7892 10 месяцев назад

    Ooohhh weee she’s on one today 😂and I’m here for it. I adore her “weird”. She always shares these random, funny stories. She keeps it real without generic blah blah blah. I just love her❤

  • @lifeastheonlygirl
    @lifeastheonlygirl 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you. I have no other words.

  • @dawnjeffersramstad8401
    @dawnjeffersramstad8401 10 месяцев назад

    So your podcasts have replaced my Flylady timer. I did 3 hours of shopping with lists this morning. 42 minutes with you and all of that plus 3 loads of laundry is now away. Time for a cold fizzy water! Thanks!

  • @dptfo
    @dptfo 10 месяцев назад

    Our bookshelf has all our kids books organized in rainbow order, Home Edit style.
    My utensil drawer in my kitchen is grouped by size, like Marie Kondo suggested. (the rest of their advice got thrown out lol)
    And we have a family closet in our laundry room, like KC davis from How to Keep House While drowning. (And clothes are in bins for me and my kids inside a cabinet with doors, sorted into broad categories: "tops" and "bottoms", because of you, Cas. And unfolded, because there is zero dopamine in laundry for me, and if i feel obligated to fold, they stay in the dryer for days.)
    ((There is tons of dopamine in pretty shelves though, and in decanted spices and in making things look like they belong. So decanting the spices is next!!))
    I also loved Atomic Habits, by James Clear, and The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine, and Good Inside, by Becky Kennedy

  • @mindsjanne
    @mindsjanne 10 месяцев назад

    Im with you weirdo 😂 We would have fun and good conversations at a dinner table ❤
    I’m here for YOU. You talk to the inner me. So I feel seen and not alone with my outlook on life. And I’m also here for the constant messenge - so that the decluttering ball will keep rolling 🎉

  • @karenrich9092
    @karenrich9092 10 месяцев назад

    I feel the same way about certain podcasts lately. But I have 4 books by The Slob Sisters, Pam Young, and Peggy Jones, who set up a 3 x 5 card system in 1977. It is a WONDERFUL series of books.

  • @marym346
    @marym346 10 месяцев назад

    I started listening to you because of Hot Mess House. And I listened to all of your episodes in 3 months last year. I tried listening to Dawn and Dana (whom my sister really likes, with you almost as much). Dawn buys too much stuff for me.
    You and Peter Walsh I can relate to, and I'm happy that my decluttering journey is mostly on track. Keep it coming, buttholes and all!

  • @dianahegseth6279
    @dianahegseth6279 10 месяцев назад +1

    cass i bought your books an did not like them as someone else was the narrates them. I love to hear your voice etc. I would love to listen to them with you narating

  • @nadalynm.3145
    @nadalynm.3145 10 месяцев назад

    You’re the best, Cas.

  • @ellie448
    @ellie448 10 месяцев назад

    😭😭 I’m sorry Cass you where the victim the victim of a bad childhood 😭 but you grew above it. ❤
    I had a bad childhood too and I’m trying so hard to be better and get my life together

  • @ESPdigiartist
    @ESPdigiartist 10 месяцев назад

    I'm actually not in a decluttering phase in life, I've let go of more than is healthy already and if anything need to be accumulating, and decorating, I am actually in the currently needing to organize in a way that works for me rather than against me and setting up a cleaning routine that works for me rather than against me. Unfortunately it's very difficulty to find someone who isn't over emphasizing decluttering but still talking about any of this stuff.
    Still find a lot of what I hear here helpful.

  • @jennifercrouse
    @jennifercrouse 10 месяцев назад

    The thing about coaching, you need to have measurable goals that your coach can help you attain and keep you accountable to.

  • @JacquelynSpeaks
    @JacquelynSpeaks 10 месяцев назад

    MY GIRL! 💪

  • @severiner7168
    @severiner7168 10 месяцев назад

    We tend to expect change when we do the same thing over and over again. Why would you change if you do not change anything? I see it often! I think that's where Atomic Habits is useful, just change a little thing and bit by bit you'll get there. Enjoyed the podcast!

  • @kraziigurl313
    @kraziigurl313 10 месяцев назад

    Yup, I'm that weirdo 😁😆 you are addictive! I'm trying to get my house together and I have to have your voice in my head to keep me going 😂 thanks for sharing 💖

  • @juliegolick
    @juliegolick 10 месяцев назад

    I used to read a lot of self-help books, but in the end I realized that my issues just weren't going to be solved by self-help books. Let's be real: how many times do you need to read "create a budget" or "don't eat junk food" or "do a little bit every day"? Sure, if you don't know anything about personal finance, then read a personal finance book or three. But if you've acquired the knowledge and aren't putting it into practice, then there are deeper issues going on that won't be fixed by self-help books.
    Maybe it's because the book wasn't written for people who have your sort of brain. (e.g. Atomic Habits assumes that once you do something enough, it becomes automatic, but a lot of ADHD people have told me that their habits NEVER become automatic, even after decades. Atomic Habits won't work for them.) Maybe because it's written by and for people who never have the struggles that you have. (It's very easy to say "just check your calendar every day" if you've never had an issue checking your calendar every day.) Maybe it's because there's a trauma response that needs to be dealt with through personalized therapy. (If you're a hoarder because you grew up poor and are terrified of not having what you need when you need it, someone telling you to declutter isn't going to work for you.)
    The things that have helped me most, in order, are therapy, community (specifically, a community of people who are facing the same challenges I'm going through and who can be a support network), and skills acquisition. Self-help books can MAYBE help with the third, but can't help with the first two.

  • @darlahkelley9800
    @darlahkelley9800 8 месяцев назад +1

    Good 😊Morning 🌄 From Callie Girl 👧 🎉❤🎉😊❤🎉😊🎉❤

  • @janeheller8917
    @janeheller8917 10 месяцев назад

    I’m one of those weird people. Love being by myself now. I miss friends but alot we’re just users. This video was very eye opening…

  • @PhoebesWorldProductions
    @PhoebesWorldProductions 10 месяцев назад

    I don't read much, period. Never have. I've always struggled with reading was even in special classes in School, .... I CAN read, and Im grateful that I can, but.... I don't enjoy it... I'd much rather watch a You Tube video, than read a book.... And each time I HAVE read a self help book, I started reading it wondering if this would be "The one" .... THE book that would finally give me something that I can use, that would change my life.... but haven't found that book yet....for most of them, I just don't "relate" or the way the book is written just irritates me, or something.... All that being said... I'm not opposed to reading another one.... if I find one that is of interest to me.... like one that would help me with "Living the moment" and understanding that concept better.

  • @jenntheamazing
    @jenntheamazing 10 месяцев назад

    For the record, you are My People. Like, hard core we might be related or something.

  • @fondarush
    @fondarush 10 месяцев назад +1

    Can you get your old record expunged? I hope so. Have you reconciled with your parents, or do you want to? Life has been tough, and you are so helpful to others. Hang in there.

  • @kims3431
    @kims3431 10 месяцев назад +2

    You’re way nicer than Beth from Yellowstone. 🥰

  • @andreahinkel4102
    @andreahinkel4102 10 месяцев назад

    I think you make a wonderful friend.

  • @mysticalheart8107
    @mysticalheart8107 20 дней назад

    Good episode. I still appreciate Jordan Peterson 👍

  • @jenniferpalmer6516
    @jenniferpalmer6516 10 месяцев назад

    Hello, Cas!!!

  • @susanacosta4423
    @susanacosta4423 10 месяцев назад

    Another weirdo here!! 🙋🏻‍♀️
    I’m the queen of inappropriate comments too 😂. Still on the struggle bus getting out of my own way decluttering and creating a home I love but I haven’t given up

  • @lisabourque1321
    @lisabourque1321 Месяц назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @olivemaycards
    @olivemaycards 10 месяцев назад

    Go get a library card, Cas! I download lots of audiobooks for free :) I’m wondering if self help books function like a dopamine hit for us ADHDers. Or maybe they appeal to some other part of our weird psychology. I listen to/watch you and Dawn and Dana all the time so my inner monologue is at least 50% the 3 of you. Lol.

  • @limonade2684
    @limonade2684 10 месяцев назад

    You have become a wise woman. I wish the rule: do the dishes would be fluffy crab, but its not. 😅

  • @tamarshugert4600
    @tamarshugert4600 10 месяцев назад

    ???????
    I was just thinking about this topic.
    I have a question. I find myself a little flustered by all the information. Like I'm riding a wave of info, and I'm going to vomit from exses.
    Am I making sense?
    I just want a aha moment and to become zen with it all .

  • @marisolboone5404
    @marisolboone5404 10 месяцев назад

    I love this one tik tok it is soo funny it goes something like this (short version)”you wanna be weird soo bad noo ohh I wanna be normal but I cant cuz something is wrong with me psychologically” the people wear crazy cool clothes and my favorite one has a lady with a shark

  • @staff2thecats
    @staff2thecats 10 месяцев назад

    I love all of your material, but this one had me really laughing. Recently diagnosed with ADHD (been medicated for 2 1/2 weeks). Not caring about someone's kids soccer game took me out! I also do not care about who everyone is in every single picture you show me from some event. Your cousin's sister's kid who just graduated middle school does not mean a thing to me. If you want to show me their pet, I'm there! I'd rather talk about bunny poop than the news or the weather. It's freakin' hot, and I hate it. Being weird with a warped sense of humor is my comfort place.

  • @danavelazquez3812
    @danavelazquez3812 10 месяцев назад

    I’m glad I’m not he only one that has no friends because I’m weird!! Lol. I have horrible ADHD as well.

  • @lynnhendley8910
    @lynnhendley8910 10 месяцев назад +1

    I suggest a book . It's okay not to be okay.

  • @lynnhendley8910
    @lynnhendley8910 10 месяцев назад

    ❤ hi Cass. Do you have a good self help books list.

    • @jwarnstarsmile
      @jwarnstarsmile 10 месяцев назад

      A few of my favourites are: Love People, Use Things (The Minimalists), 10% Happier (Dan Harris - Audiobook only), Things That Matter (Joshua Becker)

  • @thecreativegramgram8592
    @thecreativegramgram8592 10 месяцев назад

    Cass, you would prob like the book Body Kindness by Rebecca Scritchfield

  • @ashoalcraft4404
    @ashoalcraft4404 10 месяцев назад +1

    I do like talking about buttholes at dinner. I also really like your butthole painting and I'm going to be devastated if it isn't in your next house tour once you have things set up. 😂

  • @ginashepard7
    @ginashepard7 10 месяцев назад

    Got up and loaded the dishwasher Cass!

  • @jemmalapostat3387
    @jemmalapostat3387 Месяц назад

    It's a shame I live in France, you sound like a great friend!!! 😉 Normal = boring 😅

  • @PageswithPaige
    @PageswithPaige 8 месяцев назад

    I’m listening for both reasons because I am the weirdo who talks about buttholes but I also need the help and wanting to shift the mindset

    • @PageswithPaige
      @PageswithPaige 8 месяцев назад

      I’m also a librarian and hope you’ve got your library card now :P

  • @solarhydrowind
    @solarhydrowind 10 месяцев назад

    Instead of making "some guru's" rules for living, why not try to convince (yourself and) others that your life has been an example of a wisdom that was and is all yours? I think young people want elders' wisdom. I think this because I always wanted my brief moments of peace to last, so I wouldn't have to go back to suffering with doubts... But it wasn't until this year, my 60th trip around the Sun, that a peaceful wisdom appeared...and i had been a big seeker of peace through self help. I tried to "do no harm" (and i cried a lot and stayed in talk therapy...) while getting closer to peaceful wisdom.

  • @marionvolk7067
    @marionvolk7067 3 месяца назад

    You say it is ok to be “meh”. I say it is ok to be content.

  • @chaoticpoodle
    @chaoticpoodle 10 месяцев назад

    Cas! 🎉 Cas! 🎉 Cas!

  • @TallyDrake
    @TallyDrake 10 месяцев назад +2

    Is this a re-upload? I'm having déjà vu.....

  • @QUEENVALDJON
    @QUEENVALDJON 10 месяцев назад +1

    We might be twins because I could have did this podcast and said word for word everything you said ☺️🌹🙋‍♀️😂☺️🤔😬🧐🤗❤️ADHD is Me also 👍

  • @shirleygermain5707
    @shirleygermain5707 10 месяцев назад +3

    Jordan Peterson is great. He says things we don't want to hear but should.

    • @khill8645
      @khill8645 10 месяцев назад +2

      Jordan Peterson has literally claimed that ancient civilizations knew about the structure of DNA because of art depicting Chinese deities. He might occasionally make a decent point, but that doesn't make him any less of a nutjob

  • @lesleytownson6421
    @lesleytownson6421 9 месяцев назад

    You know what? Your "weird" suggests to me that you're "my kind of people" ! To quote a book title, I think I'm "shy nerdy & socially inappropriate" !