I love this video!! A long time ago, I was "in love" with this guy who I never even dated. It took me a year and a half to get over him! You once said that time doesn't heal all wounds, it's what you do with that time. I can't agree more. I think that forcing yourself to get into hobbies forces yourself to move on. I wanted to get over him so bad, I got a job and started volunteering. I went to school full time, worked 20 hours a week, and volunteered on the weekends. I was also up till 2am every night studying. I was so busy, I literally didn't have any time to miss him! Do this, and I promise you'll be over you ex super soon :)
“Desperation is the strongest smell in the world” loved it, have always lived by this philosophy but never have heard it being said better. Love your videos! 👍🏽
With me, I never been in love, however I been in extreme infatuation or as shallon said, "amused". The last guy I never dated, but he hurt me very badly because my ego was very bruised. I have low self esteem to begin with, so having someone sink your confidence even lower really sucks. I know a womans confidence shouldn't come from a man, but I was so hurt by him because all my 26 years I been hurt and treated badly my shitty men that I feel thats all im ever going to know. I choose to stay single because I want to work on myself and not worry anymore about toxic jerks.
Seriously though! It's not like I don't have an exciting life. I just moved to London, but that doesn't compare to the excitement of a new Shallon video!
Really appreciated Shallon's video which really helps a lot. The truth is the person we really crazily crush on are the ideal person we long to be. "He just amuses you" really helps, cuz true love deserves to be relaxed and peaceful. Thanks to Shallon's words that help me get rid of depression =)
Thank you so much, you just clarified my relationship with my college boyfriend who I always thought was ‘the one that got away’. He was never right for me but I fixated on him due to other things that were Happening in my life at that time...... my mind is releasing that feeling of regret now.... you are superb!
I SO needed this! Broke up with someone earlier this year and knew it was the right thing to do but have been obsessing over him for months. Reframing the relationship is really helping me heal and move on with my life. I no longer feel like a hostage to my own emotions.
i'm still in that type of situation and it sucks! the more i try to forget about him, move on with someone new, and that's the exact time he'll show up. all the fucking time. whenever i feel i'm over him, something tells me i'm not. this video was much needed. thank you, Shallon!!
I have this issue with almost all the fairly reasonable guys I’ve dated. I have changed my brain chemistry into forgetting about why the relationship didn’t work and the less than desirable treatments I endured for the sake of not wanting to let go. This was very helpful for processing my first love and most recent breakup. Love the “hurt locker” and the thinking of where I was and what they represented. Thanks for adding to my self talk to letting go and getting over the past.
Omg! The psychological perspective you give is right on target and it takes a lot of transparency and confidence to share your very private errors, pains and therapy but thanks because it is very insightful and helpful. And it's such a bonus of including Love lessons based on the holloywood celebrities😉👌🏼
Thank you!!! Its so true sometimes we love to fixiate ourselves with all the possibilities that "that guy or girl" could've brought to our lives but we forget the in reality they were never meant to be anything mayor just a memory.. As far as Selena Gomez we love to view celebrities as this perfect person that has all her or his life together when in reality its the furthest thought from the truth... They're just as human as the rest of us 💁🏻💕
You NEED to do love lessons we can take from Jason and Trisha’s breakup! Idk if you watch them but their breakups are worth watching! I have so many friends who do unhealthy things in relationships like those two are doing, and I feel like you’d have ALOT to say about them! Love you! #shallontourage
I have been waiting for this video! Like, I cannot believe how on point it was, the separation period, the attachment, the inner struggle! It was like you were reading my mind! I've liked the same guy for two years, and I'm totally going to try this! Thanks Shallon ❤️
This is 100% true! I love your videos because it’s nice to know you’re not alone going through something. I will definitely try this, thank you so much for creating such meaningful content 😊💗
your videos on getting over fuckboys have helped me BEYOND MEASURE. i never thought a video could help me change my life perspective so quickly, but yours always do. thank u so much x
This is the best video I've ever seen on RUclips! This video has helped me so much! Please do more videos like this discussing ex's and heartbreak. You give great advice!
Oh wow, I feel sooo good after watching this! Thank you so much, couldn't even say which quote out of this is my favorite one. Extremely helpful, what a relief! Hi from Germany! :)
Hi, I’m a silent watcher normally but I just found your channel...AND I love it and you. ❤️ You might have already made this but I’d love to see your advice on dating someone twice!
The situation with "my" hurt locker has some parallels with yours. I met him freshman year and had a crush on him, but didn't really start to obsess over him until after I broke up with my boyfriend of two months. My ex and I used to be best friends and were for most of high school. I got bored in the relationship and any feelings I had for him were snuffed out like a candle. I handled the breakup poorly, by dumping him one high school morning after not talking to him for about two weeks. He wanted to be friends after we broke up, but I didn't. My Hurt Locker was in Yearbook with me and I didn't *really* start paying attention to him after I broke up with my longtime BFF. My Hurt Locker got dumped by his girlfriend not long after that, which sucked for him because she is a textbook serial dater. She started dating this guy from one of my Psych classes who was a total dirtbag, and I *knew* that it wasn't going to end well (and it didn't). Serial Dater also hated me for reasons I'll probably never figure out, which drove me crazy. I asked out Hurt Locker and he turned me down, but I still wanted to talk to him and be friends because I didn't want to deal with the guilt I was feeling over my ex. Sometimes I COMPLETELY forget I was with someone before imprinting on my Hurt Locker, which is super strange. My ex kept trying to reach out to me, and just wasn't taking the hint that I wanted nothing to do with him. I blocked him on Facebook for awhile, but then unblocked him after I had mostly gotten over that guilt. I didn't send him a friend request, but I got one from him a few weeks after that, and we're Facebook Friends™ at best. We haven't really talked in awhile, but I'm no longer freezing him out.
Even more if you where best friends before. If i where you i would try and reach out and at least explain what happened he probably just wants closure. so sad.
I need help idk know what my feelings towards this guy are, me and him started talkin a few months ago and we hook up. Then days later after we hook up we didn’t talk and he ghost out and after a month we hook up he started datin another girl and dat hurt me cuz after dat hook up I catch feelings for him. And months passed and I saw him again and when he saw me he just mean mugged and gave me a dirty look , now again I saw him like 2 days ago and he tried to hug me and asked me how was I, but idk what his intentions are with me and idk if I truly love him or is it just in obsession? My heart tells me dat maybe he likes me and dat I still got chance we can date but my mind tells me he doesn’t like u cuz if he did he will never asked out another girl.
On the topic of Selena Gomez: Accroding to the notorious blind item site Crazy Days and Nights, Selena Gomez lost that kidney due to a drug addiction, and is still struggling with it on Kidney 2.0
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Damn best line ever; we are fixated on possibility not the person.
Your videos are like a little therapy sessions for all of us. Thank you so much.
I love this video!! A long time ago, I was "in love" with this guy who I never even dated. It took me a year and a half to get over him! You once said that time doesn't heal all wounds, it's what you do with that time. I can't agree more. I think that forcing yourself to get into hobbies forces yourself to move on. I wanted to get over him so bad, I got a job and started volunteering. I went to school full time, worked 20 hours a week, and volunteered on the weekends. I was also up till 2am every night studying. I was so busy, I literally didn't have any time to miss him! Do this, and I promise you'll be over you ex super soon :)
Omg gurll we are literally the same person! It took me that long too & i did exactly what you did😂
“Desperation is the strongest smell in the world” loved it, have always lived by this philosophy but never have heard it being said better. Love your videos! 👍🏽
SHE HAS SOME BAD ASS expressions and i love it!
Its so true. Its not that you just like them, you want to BE them. Its like infatuation.
With me, I never been in love, however I been in extreme infatuation or as shallon said, "amused". The last guy I never dated, but he hurt me very badly because my ego was very bruised. I have low self esteem to begin with, so having someone sink your confidence even lower really sucks. I know a womans confidence shouldn't come from a man, but I was so hurt by him because all my 26 years I been hurt and treated badly my shitty men that I feel thats all im ever going to know. I choose to stay single because I want to work on myself and not worry anymore about toxic jerks.
Oh my, 2018 Shallon praising a Selena Gomez song, I'd have never guessed 😂
This was so needed and at the right time you have no idea! I love you so much Shallon, you’re always there when I need it most❤️
Why do I get excited every time Shallon uploads a video? I have been having the same reaction for 3+ years!
Seriously though! It's not like I don't have an exciting life. I just moved to London, but that doesn't compare to the excitement of a new Shallon video!
GURL SAME
Really appreciated Shallon's video which really helps a lot. The truth is the person we really crazily crush on are the ideal person we long to be. "He just amuses you" really helps, cuz true love deserves to be relaxed and peaceful. Thanks to Shallon's words that help me get rid of depression =)
This girl is a goddess for all the womankind💕💕💕
Thank you so much, you just clarified my relationship with my college boyfriend who I always thought was ‘the one that got away’. He was never right for me but I fixated on him due to other things that were
Happening in my life at that time...... my mind is releasing that feeling of regret now.... you are superb!
This. Yes. I FINALLY can understand why I cared so much for this guy. THANK YOU
boy do i wish i discovered your videos earlier .. would have saved me years of emotional damage
I SO needed this! Broke up with someone earlier this year and knew it was the right thing to do but have been obsessing over him for months. Reframing the relationship is really helping me heal and move on with my life. I no longer feel like a hostage to my own emotions.
Thank you for being so honest and sharing your insight and experience.
I wish I had this video when I was trying to get over my first bf in high school.
i'm still in that type of situation and it sucks! the more i try to forget about him, move on with someone new, and that's the exact time he'll show up. all the fucking time. whenever i feel i'm over him, something tells me i'm not. this video was much needed. thank you, Shallon!!
I have this issue with almost all the fairly reasonable guys I’ve dated. I have changed my brain chemistry into forgetting about why the relationship didn’t work and the less than desirable treatments I endured for the sake of not wanting to let go. This was very helpful for processing my first love and most recent breakup. Love the “hurt locker” and the thinking of where I was and what they represented. Thanks for adding to my self talk to letting go and getting over the past.
Omg! The psychological perspective you give is right on target and it takes a lot of transparency and confidence to share your very private errors, pains and therapy but thanks because it is very insightful and helpful. And it's such a bonus of including Love lessons based on the holloywood celebrities😉👌🏼
FANTASIES ARE PERFECT BUT SO ARE YOU I LOVE YOU OK BAI
Thank you!!! Its so true sometimes we love to fixiate ourselves with all the possibilities that "that guy or girl" could've brought to our lives but we forget the in reality they were never meant to be anything mayor just a memory.. As far as Selena Gomez we love to view celebrities as this perfect person that has all her or his life together when in reality its the furthest thought from the truth... They're just as human as the rest of us 💁🏻💕
I love how frankly you talk about these things. It's as if you're saying all the words I couldn't bring myself to say.
You NEED to do love lessons we can take from Jason and Trisha’s breakup! Idk if you watch them but their breakups are worth watching! I have so many friends who do unhealthy things in relationships like those two are doing, and I feel like you’d have ALOT to say about them! Love you! #shallontourage
This is Shallon's best video of all time 🥰
I really really needed to hear this! Thank you soooo much! I would love to know more about Hurt Locker.
Omg you are amazing. This video is like a free therapy.
I have been waiting for this video! Like, I cannot believe how on point it was, the separation period, the attachment, the inner struggle! It was like you were reading my mind! I've liked the same guy for two years, and I'm totally going to try this! Thanks Shallon ❤️
Omg I needed to hear this. Love you Shallon!!!
This is 100% true! I love your videos because it’s nice to know you’re not alone going through something. I will definitely try this, thank you so much for creating such meaningful content 😊💗
Best video I’ve ever seen. I watch all ur videos and this one spoke to me so much.
Omg i absolutely love you!!! You are literally the definition of girl power
your videos on getting over fuckboys have helped me BEYOND MEASURE. i never thought a video could help me change my life perspective so quickly, but yours always do. thank u so much x
I need to listen to on loop from the middle on
This is the best video I've ever seen on RUclips! This video has helped me so much! Please do more videos like this discussing ex's and heartbreak. You give great advice!
This video has saved my whole love life.
Oh wow, I feel sooo good after watching this! Thank you so much, couldn't even say which quote out of this is my favorite one. Extremely helpful, what a relief!
Hi from Germany! :)
I am so happy I get the honor of saying I’m Shallon’s #1 stan.
one of your best videos
You are strumming my pain and teaching me soooo much right now! I'm so glad I found you. I'm resonating with every word you say!
When she said "he amused me", my mind instantly went like "he understood me" and that, ladies and gentlemen, was my AHA moment
He or she
that song made me feel some type of way too😭😭
I really wish I could afford therapy, and honestly I love your videos. Totally agree with your advice in my personal situation.
omg so true! exactly what happened to me and now I see that I definitely needed this idea of him, not the guy. So grateful for the insights!
It's not love it's ur ego.. I felt that
OMG, This makes so much sense. Thank so much ;)
I wish I was this video when I was still in highschool
I need to watch this every night. Ty
Hi, I’m a silent watcher normally but I just found your channel...AND I love it and you. ❤️ You might have already made this but I’d love to see your advice on dating someone twice!
Wow this video helped me so much to put everything in place in my life. Thank you!
Wow shallon ur great seriously ur videos are always appropriate keep posting plz
You always say the right things shallon thanks ! I needed this
Love this video. Thank you! 💖
Thanks girl! Made a lot of sense.
Legit the best video you've made xx
Seriously I adore you...love love! So helpful!
The situation with "my" hurt locker has some parallels with yours. I met him freshman year and had a crush on him, but didn't really start to obsess over him until after I broke up with my boyfriend of two months. My ex and I used to be best friends and were for most of high school. I got bored in the relationship and any feelings I had for him were snuffed out like a candle. I handled the breakup poorly, by dumping him one high school morning after not talking to him for about two weeks. He wanted to be friends after we broke up, but I didn't. My Hurt Locker was in Yearbook with me and I didn't *really* start paying attention to him after I broke up with my longtime BFF. My Hurt Locker got dumped by his girlfriend not long after that, which sucked for him because she is a textbook serial dater. She started dating this guy from one of my Psych classes who was a total dirtbag, and I *knew* that it wasn't going to end well (and it didn't). Serial Dater also hated me for reasons I'll probably never figure out, which drove me crazy. I asked out Hurt Locker and he turned me down, but I still wanted to talk to him and be friends because I didn't want to deal with the guilt I was feeling over my ex. Sometimes I COMPLETELY forget I was with someone before imprinting on my Hurt Locker, which is super strange. My ex kept trying to reach out to me, and just wasn't taking the hint that I wanted nothing to do with him. I blocked him on Facebook for awhile, but then unblocked him after I had mostly gotten over that guilt. I didn't send him a friend request, but I got one from him a few weeks after that, and we're Facebook Friends™ at best. We haven't really talked in awhile, but I'm no longer freezing him out.
wow i feel bad for you ex he deserves better
Even more if you where best friends before. If i where you i would try and reach out and at least explain what happened he probably just wants closure. so sad.
Thank you so much I really needed this video.
I love you. This open my eyes. Thank you sm :')
This video is SO helpful 🙌🏽 Love you !
This was great!!! Subscribed!!
I totally agreee with you I do not believe thirteen reasons should be on tv
This was so helpful! Thank you! 💕
I ❤️ you Shallon! Love from Paraguay 🌹
Holy shit this is so spot on
BIG FACTS 💯
great content as always
Thank you❤️❤️❤️
I need help idk know what my feelings towards this guy are, me and him started talkin a few months ago and we hook up. Then days later after we hook up we didn’t talk and he ghost out and after a month we hook up he started datin another girl and dat hurt me cuz after dat hook up I catch feelings for him. And months passed and I saw him again and when he saw me he just mean mugged and gave me a dirty look , now again I saw him like 2 days ago and he tried to hug me and asked me how was I, but idk what his intentions are with me and idk if I truly love him or is it just in obsession? My heart tells me dat maybe he likes me and dat I still got chance we can date but my mind tells me he doesn’t like u cuz if he did he will never asked out another girl.
Why you hooking up with people. Love will not happen when you do that that's disgusting. Stop fucking everyone
Thanks doll 💗
What do you think about “opposites attract”?
Thank you so much..
Well what if that person is my best friend and I actually do love him?
you look beautiful!
pls upload more videos love u
This video is the shit 🙌🏼❤️❤️
Love u from france 😘
On the topic of Selena Gomez: Accroding to the notorious blind item site Crazy Days and Nights, Selena Gomez lost that kidney due to a drug addiction, and is still struggling with it on Kidney 2.0
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I love 13RW it brings so much awareness
I thought you hated that song 😂😂
13 reasons why is bomb 😂 I love it ❤️
How did she lose her kidney ??
Shallon Lester tea
@@shallonlester Bulls*** you say this because you clearly hate Selena