Thank you so much for this overwhelming support from everyone 🙏 I'm truly blown away by how many people have reached out & commented. I can't explain how much it all means to me. Especially those people who even helped me by becoming patreons. That support means more to me than I can put into words. Sorry if I can't reply to every comment. I'm doing my best but I wasn't expecting this much support ❤️ I wasn't expecting any help or support. I purely made this to help others speak out about what they may be going through but too afraid to speak up. As you've seen from this video if I can do it for the world to see don't be embarrassed confiding in a mate 👍
You said this is nothing compared to what you've been through in the past. As a man in my late 60's who's certainly seen the ups and downs of life, my advice is to use what you've been through in the past to draw strength from to handle what you are now facing. You've done it before so you know what you are capable of mate, and can do it again.
You have to go to your son. That will fill the voids, give your life purpose, and the payoff is the love you'll get in return. The joy thats missing is giving back, that's why sharing and helping with this video feels good. Give back to your son. He needs you and you need him.@Campingdownunder
You did NOTHING wrong. Any normal spouse would’ve said to go for 3 months as you’ve secured a job. It’s her loss, do not think you have done anything wrong at all.
Agreed; she wanted to live in the new area, so it made sense for him to start working in the new area and get established. Then she gets pissy about him not waiting 3 months before going to the new area? Come on.....that's some mind job.
Mate being away for 3 months is nothing. If that's all it's taken for her to leave, she probably isn't the most loyal person in the world. I get that there are always other things going on. Relationships are so bloody complicated and some other little things have probably compounded, but at the same time, 3 months away to try and get a head start on your new life together is nothing but a small amount of patience and support. If it wasnt now, then it would have been in a month, a year etc. Endure the sting and come out stronger for it. God bless brother, never apologise for following your dreams 👍
Do you really think that crap is helpful? No matter how you slice it, what he’s done has got him there. I understand you’re trying to be supportive but you’re actually just enabling. ‘If you you want more of what you’ve got, do more of what you’ve done’. He is 100% responsible for his situation, that’s the simple fact.
@@newforestpixie5297calling his wife “a cow” is not helpful at all. People fall apart. No matter what he cares about her so calling her names just makes him feel bad and defensive, so good for you for being that guy. It happens….obviously, she didn’t pack it in over 12 weeks.
Women won't divorce unless they've already got someone else lined up and ready to go. Impossible to have a committed relationship while that's secretly going on.
She lined his replacement up long before he made the move to do this. I feel for this man, I've seen it happen to a friend and it's probably the greatest act of betrayal I've ever witnessed. @@daronykoy8244
Hang in there. I lost everything at 60 and wasn't sure what I was going to do. I had already retired on just a partial pension and had health issues that prevented me from returning to work. It was a terrible 2 years sorting everything out, but now at 67 I have to say I have never been happier in my whole life. You are never too old to begin from where you are. You have your rv, you are still young, you have a job. Why throw your money away on a house? Nothing wrong with renting a room and spending most of your time travelling. It is your time, follow your dreams, travel, explore. Maybe in time your son will see what an adventure your life is and want to join you camping. Hang in, it gets better, I promise.
Don’t take this the wrong way, but she was looking to end your relationship regardless of wether you left or not. A normal relationship would get over you being absent for 3 months, and her finding another partner quickly also suggests that had little to do with it either. It sounds like it was a convienent reason for her to blame you and get what she wanted. Absolutely not your fault at all, don’t let her twist it like it was.
Exactly what Instated above. She had the backup guy long before the 3 months. When the time came to choose not to be able to see that “other” guy she chose to brake it up.
100% agree with this - women are incredibly capable at twisting things to make men feel terrible. honestly mate you're well away from this one... she sounds awful 3 months is NOTHING
Women are extremely good at creating an excuse based on blaming the bloke. They'll never tell the truth that they just got sick of you. I know because I'm a woman.
Nah mate you don’t have to take responsibility for anything. You made a big move to better your family, if she folded after 3 months that speaks volumes about her and not you. You seem like a really great bloke, and you’re so brave to speak about your feelings. No idea why I was recommended this but you’ve gained a subscriber! Take this opportunity to explore and take everything in freely. Look forward to updates and hope things get better
I lost everything at age 57 and was left with a heap of debt. Sounds like she was never going to move anyway and probably had someone else in the pipeline. All I can say is respect for putting this together. Keep your head up brother and just keep moving forward one day at a time.
Your channel has been around since 2006. This video that you've posted 6 days ago has more views than any other video you've made. That's a lot of love and support brother. Keep on going!
Farrk mate I feel for you. My wife left a 28 year marriage and 3 kids to find the spark. Lost everything including all future dreams . Bought a caravan, no rent al dramas or expense, live on my own now, won’t ever rely on someone else to provide happiness. Been 6 years now and gets better every day. Hang in there bud 🤙
Sorry to hear that mate. This is the third time I've started from scratch with nothing. It bloody sucks. Glad to hear things improved for you. I'd actually prefer living out of a caravan than a house. At least your free to travel where ever you like & find work anywhere 👍
@@Campingdownunder yeah that’s right. Rent’s cheap, bout $100-120/week electricity included, no bond no rent in advance no lease. There’s always something going on in parks, keeps you from dropping off the radar. It’s your own house you can do what you want when you want. I personally would think about heading back to the parents for a bit and set yourself up for your new adventure. And spend some time alone to process what’s gone down. Don’t put too much faith in the modern woman. If they’re single at this age they’re meant to be. There’s a lot of information out there by both male and female psychologists on how the female mind works. Do a little research, accept any faults of your own, you’ll no doubt find some peace of mind. If your crazy enough to have another go at least you’ll no what red flags to look for. It’s hard to come up with a plan when your devastated but that worked for me and looking back on 6 years I don’t think I could do anything better. Best of luck and stay strong 🤙
My hometown was hit with a suicide of a 38 year old this week. Seeing you sharing your struggles means so much more than you could possibly know. Thank you.
If a woman won’t work a hard as you have to get this far she’s not worth your time especially if she jumped straight into the arms of another! I look at relationships like this - Is it equal ? Do you get back what you give or do you have to give give give to maybe get something? Does she weaponise anything in your present relationship or from your past relationships, Don’t spend your life needing a partner I’m on my own after 4 serious relationships 6 kids, The damage family break ups family courts and greedy selfish people hav caused kills men ! It took me years of depression to realise I’m at my best alone, I make seriously great money cleaning and bird proofing solar panels for my self it’s crazy money ! Good luck reach out if you need. Cheers pj
I’m nearly 40 and have been through some shit. Videos like this are really important because it shows real life and its ups and downs. When you’re going through hell, keep going!
I don't think you realize how many men needed to hear you. As a young man myself, I can speak for many of us...Thank you for opening up in a world where, as men, we are unconsciously told to hide our worries and "be strong". Life is extremely hard, and it feels like we are expected to be these dull rocks, and that we shouldn't show any of our emotional depth. We need brothers like you in our lives to share with. Thank you.
Amazing share. Single mom and psychologist so I get where you’re coming from on so many levels. It will change, there are always choices.. And there are always helpers. Just keep showing up for yourself and it will all fall into place. You’ve got this!! 💖
I would disagree. Evidence shows people are the biggest healers for mental health. Loneliness is more damaging to your health than smoking. You need one or two people you can see every week just for enjoyment. A minority of people can do the hermitd life, but not many.
@@MrZoomah Have to agree there, even introverts need to be around people, just less than normal. I find I can't be around too many people but I also can't be alone for too long. It's a balance.
There's some truth to what both you and the OP says. Humans do feel best when we have a close circle of peers. But too many people are not happy with themselves, and look for happiness from others. 'I will be happy when I get a girlfriend/boyfriend'. That is a surefire way to have a TOXIC relationship. To only be happy because of someone else, is to leech their happiness. These people jump from relationship to relationship as in, they're not single for a long time at all. Which imo sounds like what Camping Downunder's Ex is like. To derive your happiness from another and not yourself, means you will sap their happiness. How can you truly love someone else if you don't love yourself first? The answer is, painfully.@@MrZoomah
Mate, this is the first time I have seen one of your videos which was just by chance. I can assure you it's not your fault at all. You did what any responsible person would have done in your situation. Now you have to bite the bullet again and go back for your son. He's your responsibility not your mates and you have to put his needs ahead of what you want at the moment. Once you have some stability and security in you and your son's life then you can reevaluate. Hopefully you will see this when you have your break and your head clears. Best wishes.
Yes mate This may not be want you want or need at the moment. But it seems like the best want or forward. You could get the job back or a job and settle in a different area in S.A. for a while to see how things go. Never be in a rush to live your life,as that's not really living. A. God Bless.
Firstly congratulations on the bravery to share this to the world. It takes immense courage. Secondly, I would go see the doctor. You might be amazed the additional clarity and personal resources you gain with appropriate support. Third and last, I am typically against people offering advice to people on the internet. I don't know the full situation and who makes me qualified. With that in mind, I do however agree with the comment I am replying to. There is no shame in going back to be with your so , rebuilding and then having another crack in a year or two.
Agree with this comment. Go back and you'll feel better being with your son and he'll feel better having you around also. It doesn't mean you've failed in trying to make a change in your life, the relationship breakdown wasn't part of the plan and threw you curve ball. Time to go back and regroup, get some stability for the time being and reduce the stress levels so you can think clearly again and then you'll find a way forward. Improvise, adapt and overcome. Best of luck
Dude, this is insane. You only moved there in the first place for family reasons. You’re very brave to speak so candidly. I hope everything works out for you ❤
Don't anybody say the RUclips algorithm doesn't work. Never seen your channel before but this video popped up. I've lost everything too. Home, car, dogs, job, belongings....basically my entire life. I have no kids and my family couldn't care less. Nightmares every night, wake up to shock at my reality every morning etc etc. And you're right, there is absolutely nothing worse than feeling completely alone on this planet. We'll be okay though man, we'll get back up there. Well done on making this video, you are crushing it!
Yeah same, i think it's because i've looked some outdoors/camping/construction videos that yours popped up and i'm happy to have seen it. It made me remember that happiness don't last forver so it's cool to enjoy it while it's last
Thanks for speaking about it mate. My ex wife cheated with 7 other people and convinced my family I cheated on her and I got blamed. When I looked for help all I got told was to man up and get over it. You are a true man for sharing too help others.
@@perrrry That's a disgusting sexist comment, I'm an Aussie women and was cheated on probably up to 5 x times with different girls (one as young as 14 - omfg this is rape - she also had endured SA from her dad for years so was a little messed up re: relationships with men; as soon as I found out he'd been cheating and lying about his whole identity, I left). I had to get a restraining order against him when he falsely claimed I'd broke and entered his house, only to type a Word doco (?) on his PC. He also said he'd secretly filmed us being intimate and would post that online. I was only 18-19 at the time and had no experience in looking for psychopathic liars. Revenge porn, staling weren't crimes in 2011 (or so I was told). I was lucky he was too lazy to be really dangerous, he threatened to kill me, my dog, my family by burning down the house. I woke up my parents screaming in my sleep thinking he was on top of me, violating me (edit: he was outside, across the road, watching the house, breaking the restraining order but because of CHOGM, the police were too busy to enforce). Don't ever make such a sexist statement again. We all suffer from low-empathy, worthless people, no matter the gender.
@@skullsaintdeadI agree. However, I do think women are significantly less loyal in relationships. And when they cheat, there’s always an excuse ( there is absolutely no excuse for cheating) most guys at least own it, and take responsibility. Women always blame someone or something else. That is awful that happened to you. I’m so sorry you had to go through that .
@@skullsaintdead jesus calm down. Learn what the purpose behind a questionmark, and reading the first 5 lines of your comment you kinda imply there is some truth to it. " I'm an Aussie women and was cheated on probably up to 5 x times with different girls"
As an Aussie Mum with a son who has Down Syndrome and Autism and who is currently going through treatment for brain cancer, thanks for keeping it real. Im on meds for anxiety and depression and youre right it doesnt stop the hits coming, but it helps me deal with them as best i can and keep moving forward. I hope you reach a happier place soon...you never know whats around the corner.
I’m also a mum with a child with down syndrome and Autism and another Tucson with Autism I’m so sorry to hear about your health. I’ve healthy issues but nothing compared to what you’re going through. :-(
Men need to hear this. We don't talk about it nearly enough. Good on you for having the courage to put it out there authentically. You've helped more people with this hard hitter than we'll ever know. All the best mate
Hey Brother, single dad here with a special needs kiddo. I had this vid pop up in suggested and RUclips has done myself and probably plenty of others a huge favour by doing so. I'm a huge advocate for speaking up, even more so for men, so you are doing a huge service to heaps of communities. A HUGE cheers! 🍻 I'm just getting back into camping myself so I'll be supporting ya all the way. My motto above all else - If you're not doing what makes you happy, then what on earth are you doing! So, keep on doing that.. ya love the outdoors, ya love Perth, (so do I), your vids make a difference and sharing your thoughts always helps. Always here for a chat if ya need another ear. ✌️
Rock on Marc you seem like a great dad. Men these days have it harder than ever. I lost my father in Law and my dad. My Dad most recently, 3 years ago. He was my best friend. I have 2 daughters and they are incredible so that really helps me.
When we embrace the change it makes it easier, focus on your channel you can make difference in someone else's life by sharing you're truth. My suggestion if I was you,work for now stay with that lady save your money, when she leaves quit your job and get to know yourself again, head to a area that's affordable and start again. People that jump into relationships quickly after ending one haven't healed, don't be hard on yourself, if she couldn't wait 3 months that shows you her commitment level to the connection..enjoy the ride. be flexible with change, most people freak out, reality is change is much better than staying in stagnate energy. Heal your heart and trust in process. .Let go of the idea you can't do it on you own, you can and you will. Best of luck buddy. Nothing is permanent remember that !😊
@@MomeGnome that's your opinion is it?,you are not being helpful, I mentioned he look for gold while being there,that's a way of garnering income,it earns you money, doesn't fall into the hobby bracket,maybe that is a way out, I don't know,until you actually are the father of a teenage son with a disability and don't have your own home or not much money like the both of us are going through I am sorry but you really wouldn't have any idea of our situation 🆗
I'm not a camper....but this video popped up and I'm suffering terribly from depression. So you've got a new subscriber. I'm happy to watch and hope for your upswing to happen soon.
So sorry to hear you are suffering from depression. My wife also has depression and I just feel helpless. I really hope you get better, sending you all my love!
We dont belong here, even through your depression youre thinking of someone elses well being. youre an angel, and Jesus is calling you.....just listen. I love you and i pray that you hear Him.
You're not alone mate, theres many of us out here drowning in depression and financial difficulties and our families are suffering too. I'm so glad your video popped up in my feed. Keep being open and posting your progress. Don't give up. It's hard but you've taken the first step by reaching out. I'm glad you did. Answers might open up and maybe you can encourage many others as you go.
I met a writer/author when I was living in LA. I asked him, what is your most important advice for a story teller, writer. He told me, tell the real, the ugly, the hurt. It's what people can relate to. With you brother, I'm in the thick of it too.
Yehhhhhhh!!!!! The ugly, painful truth so needs to be shared… we’re such a wounded species 😢 the facade is sooooo damn boring! 😅this man is an absolute legend! May he be totally blessed… & you too eastongreen🥰🌟❤🌟
Man ,,All I Can Say is Stay strong,,,Don't Give up,,,WE All Go thru this Sort of stuff,,,And Its Fukn Hard !!,,,Much Respect for telling it like it is !!
When my marriage fell apart I hit a wall so I went to see a mental health nurse, he told me how I was feeling was perfectly normal and if I didn’t feel like that he would be concerned. My relationship with my kids is better than ever and I have been with my partner now for 6 years married for nearly 1, it gets better mate. If you were looking after some bird and her 5 kids and she finds someone new in such a short time that says more about her than you. Accept the hard times and celebrate the good no matter how small and day by day it will get better, good luck
Yeah I’d take that as a huge load off my shoulders and now you’ve got more time and money to focus on himself and his kid and find a new partner that respects him
"If you were looking after some bird and her 5 kids and she finds someone new in such a short time that says more about her than you" I totally agree and it was something that stood out to me.
@@taiopaisley1928 lotta guys have been dry for so long that they are just tools for women who wet their willy. a good willy sucker will never be lonely, and will always search for the richest willy
My brother, ive lost everything more then once..and im still here and prospering😎 my point is, the mind is powerful, it controls the body, when your hard to deny, your chances greatly increase. The beautiful thing about a brokenheart, is what was inside. Kia kaha my bro❤
I gotta tell you, despite how you're feeling now.. posting a video like this and everything you have disclosed in the video shows tremendous strength and courage. Thank you for sharing. Hang in there.
Unfortunately when it comes down to it a parent will always choose their kids decision over a partner and kids will generally play along with plans right up until the 11th hour. In this situation I’d say she got cold feet after 3 months of separation and probably wasn’t that invested in the relationship.
@craiglaing2417 it didn't take 3 months. Within a week of me being gone she was already car pooling with this new guy as we all worked together. I only found out 3 weeks later through other workers. Then not long after that he moved in as a house mate to help cover rent. Not long after that she left me & they've been dating ever since
@@Campingdownundersheesh! Well I think it worked out for the best even though it’s put you in your current position. You may or may not have been stuck in a worse position if you’d stayed with her for the 3 months. Anyway enjoy that road trip and time away. It’s good to disconnect every now and then to help refocus 👍
This is the first time I've come across your channel but wow I'm seriously touched by your candor. Thank you for expressing these feelings that so many of us experience but often struggle to articulate. Great thing that you're doing for the community, we're all connected by our love of seeing these parts of Australia but also all have experiences in life that can obscure the beauty of it. Gonna be following your story from now on and have no doubt that with this sort of attitude you'll land on your feet and find that stability again. Much love
I’m in my 60’s. I’ve struggled with depression since my early teens. Life didn’t turn out the way I thought it would. I count my blessings though: I’ve been married for 40 years; I have a roof over my head; I have a steady job; I have positive people around me. I still struggle. I hope you find some answers on your 10 day trip with your friend. You’re not alone. Definitely not after this video. 👏🏻
I’m the same. I’m in my early 60s. I’ve had major depression since my late teens. My life took the rocky road. Nothing was easy. I think you have to appreciate what you do have. A roof over your head, food in your belly etc. it’s only now I’ll be able to do a bit of travel and spoil myself a bit but my health isn’t great anymore.
37 here, same boat. Got so many things I want to do in my head but always feel stuck. Definitely didn't turn out like I thought it would but you do have to try and look at the good stuff that's going on, even if life isn't what you want it to be
@@protocoldroid7388yeah when a 60 year old says since their teens it means “for a while”. Did it make you feel better? Sounds like you relate more than you’d let on if you just said nothing.
Wow. I’ve never seen a video like this before. Possibly the best mental health advice I’ve seen. Your strength and courage to be so vulnerable is heartbreaking. I really do hope you weather this storm and see the sunshine and rainbow afterwards. You’re in a situation a lot of fathers find themselves in. Just by sharing you’ve made us realise we’re not suffering on our own. God bless you and enjoy your camping trip with your mate.
I'm not really in to camping, but I stumbled across this video when you first posted it. I just spent the last 40 minutes trying to find it again to check in and see how you're doing. I hope you're doing okay ❤
I'm doing a lot better thank you. Not much has changed with my situation besides I've moved into a more stable share house. But I'm staying positive that things will improve 😀
Not sure if you'll read this mate. But I can give you one thing that you can do now that has always helped me out. At the end of each day just write down 3 good things that happened to you. Could be as simple as you saw an interesting bird when you were out walking that you've never seen before. Keep the positive thoughts flowing and you will be amazed what can change in a year
I know this isn't for everyone, but I decided relatively early in my life not to get married/move in with anyone. Was just a personal choice, I still dated and had some pretty long-term relationships, but I've just seen marriage (or the equivalent of co-habiting) destroy so many men that I've known, both financially and emotionally, I just figured it wasn't for me. I really couldn't be happier to be honest. Luckily, I never had a major urge to have kids. When kids are involved, this whole calculation changes, but really with the right mindset I think living alone can be fantastic. Obviously if a relationship just ended, it's going to be rough going for a while, but yeah... Keep an open mind about it and don't be too hard on yourself. Men can be really hard on themselves, especially when they've convinced themselves they've failed their family. It's important to take responsibility, but men have a tendency to take on too much IMO.. Again, don't be too hard on yourself.
went through the same with my daughter didnt see her for 6 yrs, your son will come back and believe me it will be better, head up and sounds rough but keep doing what You want/need to do
As soon as you shared about your partner blaming you for the 3 months decision, I knew it wasn’t about you . Clearly she had already exited the relationship and was only thinking of herself and I am so sorry to hear that. I went through a terrible marriage break up, so I know how hard it can be. Let me tell you from a women’s perspective, because you really need to hear this, “ It was not your fault “! My advice is, yes find a counselor to talk to, and keep doing the things you love , find some good mates and take good care of your health. Once your head is in a good place, things will look much better and life will start to flow again. I don’t know how old your son is, but I am sure given time things will evolve for the better where he is concerned. Might be good to do some research into ndis funding and help with housing for him near you, if you cannot find a place together. Though everything you have done is not the ideal, and you’re currently struggling, please know that things can improve. My whole life changed some years ago and I now suffer from a disability, that prevents me from travelling like you do.. and I love 4x4, fishing, camping etc so watching RUclips channels like yours help fill a void for me and keep inspiring me to keep fighting to get better. I do have my own 4x4 and Hobie kayak and camper but can only do very short trips. I would love to travel full time, but it’s not possible. So while I am on the couch struggling, I watch others enjoying their adventures, which brings me a lot of joy and helps pass the days I’m in terrible pain. So here is my message, please enjoy your life, pick up your camera and keep posting as there are plenty of people like me whose lives are blessed by being taken on adventures while sitting at home. I certainly would have gone stir crazy 🤪 without vids like yours. I lost my youngest son, 6 years ago so I understand the depths of depression, and I had to find the smallest things to cling to, to hang on, and find away through it.. find what makes “you” happy and everything else will eventually fall into place! Right now you’re grieving your losses and that’s normal, but please make a decision to not stay in grief and find the joy you deserve. Best wishes and stay strong .
I came to the comments looking for this. SHE was already out of the relationship before he left. SHE set that up by encouraging him to plan the move. I am not someone who sides with men, I've had to watch this twice looking for holes to blame him. But Yes. SHE CAUSED THIS not him. He needs to get on meds temporarily go to therapy, and go about his life. Work save money. Nothing wrong with living in a vehicle.
Thank you so much for your advice. I'm so sorry to hear about what you've had to go through. My son is 21 & has been with the NDIS since he was 18. We've been trying to organise housing for him & possibly myself as well as I'm his carer but it's taken months so far & we still have no idea what's happening. We have a meeting with them this week. Hopefully we can get an answer. He's happy to move across here as long as he has a bed each night
I pushed her away over the past year as we were in a bad place in our relationship. She was actually the one putting in all the effort trying to fix our relationship even seeking professional help to try & better herself. But I did nothing. I should have put equal effort into fixing or at least attempting to fix our relationship after about 8 months of trying as hard as possible to fix things in the end she just gave up. So I do still take blame even though we were both in the wrong & the way she ended it wasn't the right way to go about it
@@Campingdownunder Your honesty is refreshing. You’ve totally got this. Just the way you explained both sides of the situation shows you’re already processing everything, which is an awesome step. As others suggested; work, earn, take time to adjust, contact with your son, some trips to refresh with like-minded friends & you will get there. It may take longer than you want but if you keep focused on your goals things will start happening.
AHD with your spelling I highly doubt you know exactly the prices of both. And he could sell his car? Maybe when he keeps going homeless his car is still a place he can always fall back on, a last resort maybe? Who says he’s driving it EVERY single day to use fuel? Assumptions.
I'd never seen your channel pop up before now and I just wanted to comment and say how much appreciate you sharing this kind of thing, it's so important for men to talk about what's going on for them especially about costardy issues and struggling to be in kids lives, to have this demonstrated in a casual video is exactly what so many people need to see! All the best with your journey mate, you've got this so just keep on keeping on and don't isolate yourself completely for too long!
Mate I listened to every word you said and I was touched by your raw honesty. It made me feel like you were talking directly to me. Your story is very similar to mine, and where your at is very similar to me. I can really empathise with you in your pain. I have tremendous respect for your honesty. I just subscribed after watching your this clip. Please keep us all in the loop.
I hope you read these comments. I’ve never watched any of your videos before and this video just popped up in my feed. I never comment either, but I want to share that you are not alone. Praying for you, Paul.
Hey bro - really appreciate you speaking out, we need to talk about real sh*t more often rather than the social media gloss and fakery. I don’t have any answers for myself or anyone else, sadly, but all I can say we just have to keep getting up and going every day. You just don’t know what’s around the corner. Keep talking about things, it will help. Best wishes for you mate
Any blokes priority is to secure an income for their family, you made the right decision. Stop the doom. Keep fit keep fighting. You sound persistent, you can talk well and you’re doing something. Keep looking for answers - they are out there! Good luck.
I was a my rock bottom a year ago, thanks to people like you I came out of it, i am the happiest I have ever been in the last 20 years. I promise you that the same will happen to you. It's ok to not be ok. You are an inspiration to all men out there. Things will get better brother, stay strong. Sending love from 🇨🇦 Canada
Glad you’re doing better these days dude. I’m from Canada as well And I have to ask, is your username “landmine lieutenant” a reference to Celph Titled?
Traveling helps a lot! Even if you have nothing, starting fresh in a brand new place that no one knows you, going to a new church, joining a men’s group, or finding a new job helps tons. Be honest with your position, with the new people you meet, don’t be too proud to say you’re starting from scratch, etc. people will generally understand and try to help. I’m in a great place right now but God knows I’ve been in that spot so many damn times it’s depressing. You’re not the only one who’s been there, don’t be ashamed
It sounds like you’re happiest when you’re out, camping and exploring, and making the videos to share with those of us who can’t do the same. There are people who would never see the beauty of nature except to your videos. Life has many high points and dark valleys. Follow your passion and head towards the light.
As a woman, it is shocking to me that she found someone else so soon. That seems like betrayal, whether or not she was upset that you left 3 months early. You did nothing wrong. Stop taking the blame. I wish you well.
Easy to say that when you only hear one side of the story, I'm telling you there's alot more to it and been going on alot longer than betrayed on here. She's living the life she deserves now with respect and support, a mum of 5 with no support is no way to live
My thoughts exactly. My husband live in another state from me for 3 years and I never would have thought to dump him and definitely not get another man.
Mate. I hit rock bottom 3 years ago. My partner of 6 years cheated on me with a close friend. I packed up and started again. I was also in a job that I didn't see a future in. Fast forward three years, I've just gotten engaged and am focusing on a new career that brings me fulfilment. I could never have seen where I am today, but I hope that you can keep moving on every day and just taking one step forward. Even just taking the step of sharing this with us is such a huge one to begin with. Much love mate
You’ve got this! ❤ it may seem like everything has fallen apart but what I’ve always said is everything happens for a reason. I am proud that you’re taking the time to talk about it because so many of us are going through something similar to this but we sit in silence and hold it all in! Thank you for being brave and just know time heals everything and you are better off.
Thank you for posting this. You're not alone brother. I've lost not everything, but most everything too. Husband, step child, health, ability to do my nursing job, and thus ability to provide for myself. Extremely hard times but there is a way through. One day, one hour, one minute at a time. You're a brave man and I admire your honesty and vulnerability.
Thank you for being so brave and talk about your personal struggles. As a serving law enforcement officer, we had yet lost another member to suicide just days ago. Please keep moving forward and just believe everything will work out! They just WILL. Please don’t stop fighting for those you love and love you. ❤
@@MGTOWGreatestHits He did say it's on him for moving too quickly and not waiting. I watched his previous video about his kids and seems like he's selfless to a fault. He left his first wife who cheated on him from the start with so many men she couldn't count and left her two cars and all the house furniture so he started from scratch. He got another partner and started from scratch again I don't like the term man-up, but having some bloody self respect would've saved this guy a lot of money so he's not constantly on struggle street.I'd be fighting DHS tooth-and-nail if my ex was abusing my kids like that and I couldn't see them. I'd make her chase me for child support.
@@seanrawlinson Totally! It’s the pathetacism mode, sitting there whining like a baby about some rotten skank, leaving his own son with a friend, it’s a recipe for the situation he’s in. I’m a single dad with full time care of my son and we homeschool and we’re both so unbelievably happy with that, our energy and resources go to that, I’m not chasing dirty cheating whores or letting anyone cuck me or take my time, energy or finances away from us, and that must be number one priority. He should be thinking more like this particularly given how finite his resources are.
Thank you for sharing your innermost feelings and the things that many people are too scared to share. I am not super familiar with your channel but you have gained a new supporter. Even if you may feel physically alone at this time, there are 1000s of people on this channel who support you as a person. If necessary reaching out for counseling or other mental health support can be good too. You got this man bad times will always pass ❤
This is a very important video. You’ve shown people that you can be feeling down and hopeless but by sharing those thoughts, and taking time to clear your head, you can get through this. Such an important message for all of us, but guys especially. No one has the “perfect life”. There are great times, and there are shit times. That’s life. Thank you for sharing. First of your videos that I’ve seen. I’ve now subscribed, so I’m looking forward to hearing your updates. Good luck with finding your way through. You’ll get there. Sending lots of love from Qld Xx
I think you should look at this as a new chapter in your life, you have a nice camper set up, you have your freedom, and most importantly, you have your health. I lost my health to cancer, I'm ok after surgery, but left with disabilities, I can no longer do the things I love. If you have your health, you have everything you need.
I am absolutely not a camper or remotely interested in camping but for some reason I got this video on my feed. Take care mate, keep your head up. I respect that you take responsibility for your part but it honestly doesn't seem like you did a lot wrong. And about taking meds: they are not about changing your circumstances, see them as a crutch if you suffer from anxiety. All the best, just hang in there!!
Sorry that you’re going through all this, brother! Praying that you find the change that you are after ❤ Thank you for trying to stay positive through the rough times. You are a legend and are loved!
I just discovered your channel. This story is absolutely touching. You had a plan to better your families lives, and 3 months is no time. You coulda had a head start for everyone. But it didn’t work out. Stay in contact with your son daily, video call especially. Find side work, stack up cash, and socialize. Meet new people. I’m not religious, but listening to Dave Ramsey and dr John Delony helps me a lot.
Hey dude. Sounds like a pretty woeful situation you've found yourself in. I think you hit the nail on the head with the idea of moving back to get yourself back to a stable and reliable situation. The "same" is not always such a negative thing. Especially when you're trying to fix issues as fragile as yours. I used to post fairly similar content and cover similar issues but deleted the lot because I felt so much shame and weakness from it. It is not easy or natural for a lot of people to be that open or vulnerable. Whatever you do decide, sounds like you've got some great humans in your life that you can chat with and vent to. That's a huge asset you have. Take good care of yourself and your boy.
Same, I hadn’t seen any of your other videos, but stayed and watched until the end. I really appreciate the realness. It’s a rare thing to find these days. I can see a real joy and passion in what led you there, hold that close. Hoping this community can hold you up now!
Man your comment made me sad, I've had more than a fair share of dark days mate, just remember life can turn upside down and leaves you feeling nothing but hopelessness but has a strange way of turning back around. Just don't go it alone share it with someone.
I get that feeling a lot. And man does it scare people (friends AND mental health professionals) when I say that I just want to sleep and not wake up until I'm 'well' in my head, my heart and my soul ! It's not that I don't want to be alive - I very much do! My desire IS to enjoy life AND to be able to be at peace and confident in my ability to cope in difficult times. I want to have the equanimity to embrace life's challenges and be able to make mindful decisions in the way I have in the past. But so often now there's a thick and discombobulating mental and emotional pall surrounding me. It envelops and attaches to me. It drags off me so heavily; it obscures my path and taints my objectivity so much that life seems unsolvable and overwhelming. I get so lost in that murkiness, so tired of trying to climb up and out into clarity, that I just want take a mental holiday. Take a time-out from the struggle and come back refreshed and in better shape to cope with everything. And I don't want to just sleep, because of the oppressive and vivid nightmares. I just want to switch off for a while, recharge, recover and then return to life, back in charge of my mental health.
You were chasing a dream, she didn’t have enough faith to wait. You don’t know me at all, but I’m proud you’re still here. Dealing with all that and you’re still here. I’m looking up to you! Please stay with us and not give up. You have our support
Mate, so brave being open and vulnerable - starting the chat and showing you don't have to keep your struggles to yourself. You've got a community around you and shows if you reach out there will always be someone there to support you xx
@@DrGreenThumbNZLmate he made a video last year basically saying how broke he was and didn’t seek donations. He’s just trying to shed a light on men’s mental health.
Hey mate, I lost my son last year. He was addicted for years prior to that. Just hang in there mate, dig down for that next bit of positively. Things get better bit by bit, you are right we are not alone. There is always hope, always. Thank you so much for sharing! I lost a son, it is the most unimaginable emptiness and permanent thing I have experienced. You have yours, even though right now you are not together. Things will change, just keep on the course. We sometimes have to appreciate the things we have to help us through the very rough times.
There is nothing embarrassing about your situation. Thank you for being humble enough to share. God bless you. Praying our lord Jesus will give peace. Forgiveness will bring you so much clarity and free you from the things your ex put you through ❤️
It's a brave thing to spill your guts online to strangers. You have a lot to gain from these experiences, and I believe that you will look back at this time and will be glad it turned out in your favor. Thanks for sharing 😌
I really enjoyed watching this. I finally realised that I am not the only one going through this. I am in the exact same situation. Yet I am now 50 years old. The depression and anxiety are so full on! I spend most days contemplating which tree is the strongest, for my body weight It’s taken balls to publish this!
Please seek help mate. I know you probably have but I don't know what else to say. Please don't follow through with the permanent solution . You never know what is round the corner and there is no coming back from suicide. It's painful I understand but please stay in the fight.
Thank you for your honesty and your bravery ❤ I hope your reset trip goes well. You may be alone in your struggle but you are not struggling alone. Sending positivity your way.
Sometimes, one day at a time is all that you can manage, and that’s alright. Don’t beat yourself up. In my hard times I’ve often had to remind myself “This too, shall pass”, and eventually, it does. Wishing you well, brother.
Firstly, love your raw honesty in your challenges. Men are the important in society and it's essential to recognise the mental health aspect. Stay strong. It takes two to make a relationship work so don't be too hard on yourself, but good to own your mistakes. Making a living is hard and life isn't always easy. Stay strong.
@@Campingdownunderit’s true. I lost everything ten years ago. It hurts like nothing I ever experienced and still does if I let it. But life goes on regardless and you make the best of it. You will be fine, give it time and don’t dwell on it, don’t blame yourself and keep on doing what you love.
I 3rd this comment. It’s been my experience that closure of a life chapter allows a new chapter to commence. I encourage you to keep your exciting dream to work, live, and explore WA. May your new home be ‘just around the corner’ and within your budget. Thank you for sharing your raw feelings. May you be blessed by doing so.
My 10 year relationship has just ended mate. I moved out of the family home and into my campervan just after the New Year, so I can totally relate to how you must be feeling. Keep moving forward, things WILL get better, trust me. Hey, they can't get any worse for either of us can they! I've suffered with depression my entire adult life and I'll be starting counselling on Monday. I'm also joining the local gym, as exercise has always helped in the past for me. Small steps forward is all we take right now matey 💪
My parents separated when I was 8, it’s been a long time now and my parents are able to be in the same house now thankfully. They are now doing much better, my mom shattered my dads whole world. I can promise you ten years later they are both doing well and level headed enough to live in the same house for me instead of moving back to the city. It will get better♥️ I’m proud of you for continuing to move forward. I wish you the very best in your life to come.
Well done it’s good to have a plan. Man or woman this stuff is hard. Sadly it’s socially easier for women to open up than men, good on you for your courage. Hoping for the best for you.
councelling does sht.. learn from what happened.. do what you want with your life, fk them.. so many guys, friends, commited suicide, because of women.. fk that..leave, start again. you cant see in there head, they allways have alterior motives.. they win all the time. back in the 70,s. to claim ''madnes'', kill your wife, it was 3 yrs jail.. not now, there protected.. they dont realise, without men,,nothing happens.. girl friend said ,70,s, whats the most important thing in your life,, i said,, my car,, she said, what about me,, i said,,no car,, no you.. work it out..
If she loved you, she would have waited. If people you love don't care to be with you, start over where you are and build your life back for you. Try to have some fun! Don't blink too fast. You'll be 60 and wonder where all that time went. Be content with yourself.❤
good on you mate for opening up like that. this is the realest thing ive seen on youtube in a long time. more men need to speak up about ther issues. im sure this video will serve as a good example that it is ok for men to speak up about how ther feeling and u may even save some lives. Hope everything works out for you mate 🤙
I hear you loud and clear mate.. I am 77 sold up gotta van and a Hilux , spent the last year on the road….but…. I am alone. The only lady I loved went back to America six years ago. You sound as if you have got a handle on it all. Just keep doing things like you are doing. You don’t need drugs. Live YOUR life, your son will be OK. I feel for you. A very hard video to make. Stay safe. Jerry 👍🙂😊
Never seen your stuff before, just popped up on my homepage. I hope this burst of views gives you the momentum needed to push through this bad time. Brave video. All the best.
Hey Paul it's Tim here from the old Big River days! Very sorry to hear about your current situation. One step in front of the other champ. You got this mate!
Thanks for sharing your story and helping others to know they are not alone. Your video came as a random recommendation but has really touched my heart. God wants you to know that He loves you and understands your struggles. Hang in there mate, I am praying that things look up for you ❤
Oh my God mate....I feel for you....I'm a 62 year old lady lived in my little motorhome for 5 years now after 20 year relationship breakdown...and boy do I feel lonely, depressed and don't know what to do sometimes but I do try to be positive and look at what I've got...wish I had someone to share my love of travelling Australia and nature also. You're only young...make the most of it...I'm sure things will get better for you....don't worry be happy...turn the music up and SING....(no sad songs tho) ❤
I appreciate the comment 👍 I'm glad to see your making the most of your situation and staying positive aswell. I always try and stay positive. But it's pretty hard sometimes
You're completely in the right my friend. Move forward, make friends, bring your son over and forget that someone horrible chucked it in for something she wanted
As you can see from the comments below, your'e not alone mate. Many of us have been, or are going through something similar, myself included. I've been homeless, lived on the banks of the Namoi river for 2 years in a two man tent getting work when I could but things got better. Maybe you could go and see Centrelink and explain that you need to go back and live with your son, as I think that should be the priority right now for both of your mental healths. Maybe they can find some emergency accomodation for you and help with relocation. I know it's a long shot, but you have nothing to loose by asking. Hope it all goes well for you buddy, chin up.
Commenting just to pass on some love. This took a lot of courage to post and I know it will help others be brave as well to know they are not alone and it’s ok to not be ok. Sometimes the best medicine is Mother Nature. Wishing you well!
It sounds that this lady was not committed to you and it was you that was making all the changes for her. At this moment it is important that you look after yourself and your mental healthcare and take one day at a time. 💙
You've done everything right mate, 3 months is a very short period especially to move so far, secure a job and a house under the current circumstances. Just focus on yourself now and let your future find you.
This comment section is the closest thing to what I imagined a mens channel would look like. So much gratitude for you making this video. Keep on keeping it real!
Wow that's a cold woman. 3 months?!? Sounds like she was already fishing in someone else's pond. Stay cool brother, your life will be better despite the heartache.
Thank you so much for this overwhelming support from everyone 🙏 I'm truly blown away by how many people have reached out & commented. I can't explain how much it all means to me. Especially those people who even helped me by becoming patreons. That support means more to me than I can put into words. Sorry if I can't reply to every comment. I'm doing my best but I wasn't expecting this much support ❤️ I wasn't expecting any help or support. I purely made this to help others speak out about what they may be going through but too afraid to speak up. As you've seen from this video if I can do it for the world to see don't be embarrassed confiding in a mate 👍
Hey mate I've sent you a msg on Facebook
Hopefully I responded to it. I've responded to all the messages I can see on Facebook 👍@@lifestyledownunderadventur5456
You said this is nothing compared to what you've been through in the past. As a man in my late 60's who's certainly seen the ups and downs of life, my advice is to use what you've been through in the past to draw strength from to handle what you are now facing. You've done it before so you know what you are capable of mate, and can do it again.
You have to go to your son. That will fill the voids, give your life purpose, and the payoff is the love you'll get in return. The joy thats missing is giving back, that's why sharing and helping with this video feels good. Give back to your son. He needs you and you need him.@Campingdownunder
Hey mate I know life’s hard right now but keep pushing keep trying, life’s not easy but your situation is temporary and things will get better.
You did NOTHING wrong. Any normal spouse would’ve said to go for 3 months as you’ve secured a job. It’s her loss, do not think you have done anything wrong at all.
Agreed; she wanted to live in the new area, so it made sense for him to start working in the new area and get established.
Then she gets pissy about him not waiting 3 months before going to the new area? Come on.....that's some mind job.
yes 12 weeks soon goes for gods sake. cow .
Mate being away for 3 months is nothing. If that's all it's taken for her to leave, she probably isn't the most loyal person in the world.
I get that there are always other things going on. Relationships are so bloody complicated and some other little things have probably compounded, but at the same time, 3 months away to try and get a head start on your new life together is nothing but a small amount of patience and support.
If it wasnt now, then it would have been in a month, a year etc. Endure the sting and come out stronger for it.
God bless brother, never apologise for following your dreams 👍
Do you really think that crap is helpful? No matter how you slice it, what he’s done has got him there. I understand you’re trying to be supportive but you’re actually just enabling. ‘If you you want more of what you’ve got, do more of what you’ve done’. He is 100% responsible for his situation, that’s the simple fact.
@@newforestpixie5297calling his wife “a cow” is not helpful at all. People fall apart. No matter what he cares about her so calling her names just makes him feel bad and defensive, so good for you for being that guy. It happens….obviously, she didn’t pack it in over 12 weeks.
The fact that she found someone so fast tells you everything. You can be something great.
Seems liked she literally had someone on the sideline just waiting for you to go peacefully
@@daronykoy8244 i was thinking the same thing. She is blaming you so she can keep her secret unoticed and play victim.
Women won't divorce unless they've already got someone else lined up and ready to go. Impossible to have a committed relationship while that's secretly going on.
She lined his replacement up long before he made the move to do this. I feel for this man, I've seen it happen to a friend and it's probably the greatest act of betrayal I've ever witnessed. @@daronykoy8244
Perhaps, it also doesn’t take ppl long to fall in love if they’re emotionally needy. Choose your partner wisely
Wait, 3 mths she ended it AND found someone else?? Mate, you are NOT the problem! Hope things turn out for the best for you. Hang in there 💞
seriously! with 5 kids as well! Gross
Yeah, I can't roll my eyes hard enough at her 🙄
Technically she was already cheating on him.
So she just jumped ship.
Poor guy, sounds like he's better off without her. @@the-based-jew6872
who are already popping out kids of their own@@GillianMulholland
Hang in there. I lost everything at 60 and wasn't sure what I was going to do. I had already retired on just a partial pension and had health issues that prevented me from returning to work. It was a terrible 2 years sorting everything out, but now at 67 I have to say I have never been happier in my whole life. You are never too old to begin from where you are. You have your rv, you are still young, you have a job. Why throw your money away on a house? Nothing wrong with renting a room and spending most of your time travelling. It is your time, follow your dreams, travel, explore. Maybe in time your son will see what an adventure your life is and want to join you camping. Hang in, it gets better, I promise.
Don’t take this the wrong way, but she was looking to end your relationship regardless of wether you left or not. A normal relationship would get over you being absent for 3 months, and her finding another partner quickly also suggests that had little to do with it either. It sounds like it was a convienent reason for her to blame you and get what she wanted. Absolutely not your fault at all, don’t let her twist it like it was.
Exactly what Instated above. She had the backup guy long before the 3 months. When the time came to choose not to be able to see that “other” guy she chose to brake it up.
100% agree with this - women are incredibly capable at twisting things to make men feel terrible. honestly mate you're well away from this one... she sounds awful
3 months is NOTHING
You haven’t lost your kids, you can just go home, living that far away from them will be difficult, to be honest I see it as your choice.
Women are extremely good at creating an excuse based on blaming the bloke. They'll never tell the truth that they just got sick of you.
I know because I'm a woman.
Absolutely agree.
Nah mate you don’t have to take responsibility for anything. You made a big move to better your family, if she folded after 3 months that speaks volumes about her and not you. You seem like a really great bloke, and you’re so brave to speak about your feelings. No idea why I was recommended this but you’ve gained a subscriber! Take this opportunity to explore and take everything in freely. Look forward to updates and hope things get better
Plus she has 5 kids... faaack that 😅 the man dodged a bullet
Agree 100%
Same, new sub
Agree, woman fold all the time if things get a bit harder.
And another one. Nothing wrong with any decisions you made. Folding after 3 months like most have said is your ex loss.
I lost everything at age 57 and was left with a heap of debt. Sounds like she was never going to move anyway and probably had someone else in the pipeline. All I can say is respect for putting this together. Keep your head up brother and just keep moving forward one day at a time.
My exact thoughts too.
This was my thoughts also she 100% was seeing someone
No doubt she will be back once his channel blows up
Your channel has been around since 2006. This video that you've posted 6 days ago has more views than any other video you've made. That's a lot of love and support brother. Keep on going!
Farrk mate I feel for you. My wife left a 28 year marriage and 3 kids to find the spark. Lost everything including all future dreams . Bought a caravan, no rent al dramas or expense, live on my own now, won’t ever rely on someone else to provide happiness. Been 6 years now and gets better every day. Hang in there bud 🤙
Sorry to hear that mate. This is the third time I've started from scratch with nothing. It bloody sucks. Glad to hear things improved for you. I'd actually prefer living out of a caravan than a house. At least your free to travel where ever you like & find work anywhere 👍
@@Campingdownunder yeah that’s right. Rent’s cheap, bout $100-120/week electricity included, no bond no rent in advance no lease. There’s always something going on in parks, keeps you from dropping off the radar. It’s your own house you can do what you want when you want. I personally would think about heading back to the parents for a bit and set yourself up for your new adventure. And spend some time alone to process what’s gone down. Don’t put too much faith in the modern woman. If they’re single at this age they’re meant to be. There’s a lot of information out there by both male and female psychologists on how the female mind works. Do a little research, accept any faults of your own, you’ll no doubt find some peace of mind. If your crazy enough to have another go at least you’ll no what red flags to look for. It’s hard to come up with a plan when your devastated but that worked for me and looking back on 6 years I don’t think I could do anything better. Best of luck and stay strong 🤙
Good for you buddy. Can’t wait to get back on the road again in my van. 🇦🇺
@@Campingdownunder sounds like you answered your own question. A caravan could work for you and your son while you decide what you want to do next.
@@scooterdude2030 i agree with you, older single women are single for a reason. i call them R.U.O.s ... recreational use only.
My hometown was hit with a suicide of a 38 year old this week. Seeing you sharing your struggles means so much more than you could possibly know. Thank you.
It takes a real man to express his true feelings.
If a woman won’t work a hard as you have to get this far she’s not worth your time especially if she jumped straight into the arms of another!
I look at relationships like this -
Is it equal ? Do you get back what you give or do you have to give give give to maybe get something?
Does she weaponise anything in your present relationship or from your past relationships,
Don’t spend your life needing a partner I’m on my own after 4 serious relationships 6 kids,
The damage family break ups family courts and greedy selfish people hav caused kills men !
It took me years of depression to realise I’m at my best alone,
I make seriously great money cleaning and bird proofing solar panels for my self it’s crazy money !
Good luck reach out if you need.
Cheers pj
I’m nearly 40 and have been through some shit. Videos like this are really important because it shows real life and its ups and downs. When you’re going through hell, keep going!
Yeah it's a pretty shit club to be a part of, unfortunately more and more of us are joining every day.
Me too brother
This guy is smoking meth.
Almost 40. Fucked up a lot.
@AHD2105 Sell his vehicle which helps him get a bit of income? And you think you can get a decent house for a Hilux? Is this what they call girl math?
Dude, the courage to film this and go through all this and still keep going. This is the beginning of a big triumph, for sure.
I don't think you realize how many men needed to hear you. As a young man myself, I can speak for many of us...Thank you for opening up in a world where, as men, we are unconsciously told to hide our worries and "be strong". Life is extremely hard, and it feels like we are expected to be these dull rocks, and that we shouldn't show any of our emotional depth. We need brothers like you in our lives to share with. Thank you.
Amazing share. Single mom and psychologist so I get where you’re coming from on so many levels. It will change, there are always choices.. And there are always helpers. Just keep showing up for yourself and it will all fall into place. You’ve got this!! 💖
The moment you realise you don't need anyone to be happy is the moment you'll start feeling better, Wishing you all the strength in these hard times.
Very true.
I would disagree. Evidence shows people are the biggest healers for mental health. Loneliness is more damaging to your health than smoking.
You need one or two people you can see every week just for enjoyment.
A minority of people can do the hermitd life, but not many.
@@MrZoomah Have to agree there, even introverts need to be around people, just less than normal. I find I can't be around too many people but I also can't be alone for too long. It's a balance.
Exactly ..it's not good to be sooo needy ....
There's some truth to what both you and the OP says. Humans do feel best when we have a close circle of peers. But too many people are not happy with themselves, and look for happiness from others. 'I will be happy when I get a girlfriend/boyfriend'. That is a surefire way to have a TOXIC relationship. To only be happy because of someone else, is to leech their happiness. These people jump from relationship to relationship as in, they're not single for a long time at all. Which imo sounds like what Camping Downunder's Ex is like.
To derive your happiness from another and not yourself, means you will sap their happiness. How can you truly love someone else if you don't love yourself first? The answer is, painfully.@@MrZoomah
As a 30 year old man this hits really hard. Thank you for being open and showing that this is real life.
At 30 You're just beginning to live. There's so much ahead of you; you have no idea.
Happy Trails. 👍👍
Mate, this is the first time I have seen one of your videos which was just by chance. I can assure you it's not your fault at all. You did what any responsible person would have done in your situation. Now you have to bite the bullet again and go back for your son. He's your responsibility not your mates and you have to put his needs ahead of what you want at the moment. Once you have some stability and security in you and your son's life then you can reevaluate. Hopefully you will see this when you have your break and your head clears. Best wishes.
this is the correct answer
I agree. This is the way forward.
Yes mate This may not be want you want or need at the moment. But it seems like the best want or forward. You could get the job back or a job and settle in a different area in S.A. for a while to see how things go. Never be in a rush to live your life,as that's not really living. A. God Bless.
Firstly congratulations on the bravery to share this to the world. It takes immense courage.
Secondly, I would go see the doctor. You might be amazed the additional clarity and personal resources you gain with appropriate support.
Third and last, I am typically against people offering advice to people on the internet. I don't know the full situation and who makes me qualified. With that in mind, I do however agree with the comment I am replying to. There is no shame in going back to be with your so , rebuilding and then having another crack in a year or two.
Agree with this comment. Go back and you'll feel better being with your son and he'll feel better having you around also. It doesn't mean you've failed in trying to make a change in your life, the relationship breakdown wasn't part of the plan and threw you curve ball. Time to go back and regroup, get some stability for the time being and reduce the stress levels so you can think clearly again and then you'll find a way forward. Improvise, adapt and overcome. Best of luck
Dude, this is insane. You only moved there in the first place for family reasons. You’re very brave to speak so candidly. I hope everything works out for you ❤
Don't anybody say the RUclips algorithm doesn't work. Never seen your channel before but this video popped up. I've lost everything too. Home, car, dogs, job, belongings....basically my entire life. I have no kids and my family couldn't care less. Nightmares every night, wake up to shock at my reality every morning etc etc. And you're right, there is absolutely nothing worse than feeling completely alone on this planet. We'll be okay though man, we'll get back up there. Well done on making this video, you are crushing it!
Yeah same, i think it's because i've looked some outdoors/camping/construction videos that yours popped up and i'm happy to have seen it. It made me remember that happiness don't last forver so it's cool to enjoy it while it's last
How about we start a TG channel for our sorry asses and work together to get filthy rich?
@@MarketingStrategies28 what's TG?
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@@mikehenry7878 YT delete stuff
Thanks for speaking about it mate. My ex wife cheated with 7 other people and convinced my family I cheated on her and I got blamed. When I looked for help all I got told was to man up and get over it. You are a true man for sharing too help others.
Australian women knows absolutely nothing about loyality do they?
Is your name David by any chance? Its just that youve described someone I know.
@@perrrry That's a disgusting sexist comment, I'm an Aussie women and was cheated on probably up to 5 x times with different girls (one as young as 14 - omfg this is rape - she also had endured SA from her dad for years so was a little messed up re: relationships with men; as soon as I found out he'd been cheating and lying about his whole identity, I left). I had to get a restraining order against him when he falsely claimed I'd broke and entered his house, only to type a Word doco (?) on his PC. He also said he'd secretly filmed us being intimate and would post that online. I was only 18-19 at the time and had no experience in looking for psychopathic liars. Revenge porn, staling weren't crimes in 2011 (or so I was told). I was lucky he was too lazy to be really dangerous, he threatened to kill me, my dog, my family by burning down the house. I woke up my parents screaming in my sleep thinking he was on top of me, violating me (edit: he was outside, across the road, watching the house, breaking the restraining order but because of CHOGM, the police were too busy to enforce). Don't ever make such a sexist statement again. We all suffer from low-empathy, worthless people, no matter the gender.
@@skullsaintdeadI agree. However, I do think women are significantly less loyal in relationships. And when they cheat, there’s always an excuse ( there is absolutely no excuse for cheating) most guys at least own it, and take responsibility. Women always blame someone or something else. That is awful that happened to you. I’m so sorry you had to go through that .
@@skullsaintdead jesus calm down. Learn what the purpose behind a questionmark, and reading the first 5 lines of your comment you kinda imply there is some truth to it. " I'm an Aussie women and was cheated on probably up to 5 x times with different girls"
As an Aussie Mum with a son who has Down Syndrome and Autism and who is currently going through treatment for brain cancer, thanks for keeping it real. Im on meds for anxiety and depression and youre right it doesnt stop the hits coming, but it helps me deal with them as best i can and keep moving forward. I hope you reach a happier place soon...you never know whats around the corner.
Stay strong
I’m so sorry, you have so much on your plate. Blessings to you and your dear son. 💕
I’m also a mum with a child with down syndrome and Autism and another Tucson with Autism I’m so sorry to hear about your health. I’ve healthy issues but nothing compared to what you’re going through. :-(
Self sacrifice is the purest form of love there is.❤ You should be very proud of your character.
May God give you strength, answers and help.
Men need to hear this. We don't talk about it nearly enough. Good on you for having the courage to put it out there authentically. You've helped more people with this hard hitter than we'll ever know. All the best mate
Hey Brother, single dad here with a special needs kiddo. I had this vid pop up in suggested and RUclips has done myself and probably plenty of others a huge favour by doing so. I'm a huge advocate for speaking up, even more so for men, so you are doing a huge service to heaps of communities. A HUGE cheers! 🍻 I'm just getting back into camping myself so I'll be supporting ya all the way. My motto above all else - If you're not doing what makes you happy, then what on earth are you doing! So, keep on doing that.. ya love the outdoors, ya love Perth, (so do I), your vids make a difference and sharing your thoughts always helps. Always here for a chat if ya need another ear. ✌️
Rock on Marc you seem like a great dad. Men these days have it harder than ever. I lost my father in Law and my dad. My Dad most recently, 3 years ago. He was my best friend. I have 2 daughters and they are incredible so that really helps me.
When we embrace the change it makes it easier, focus on your channel you can make difference in someone else's life by sharing you're truth. My suggestion if I was you,work for now stay with that lady save your money, when she leaves quit your job and get to know yourself again, head to a area that's affordable and start again. People that jump into relationships quickly after ending one haven't healed, don't be hard on yourself, if she couldn't wait 3 months that shows you her commitment level to the connection..enjoy the ride. be flexible with change, most people freak out, reality is change is much better than staying in stagnate energy. Heal your heart and trust in process. .Let go of the idea you can't do it on you own, you can and you will. Best of luck buddy. Nothing is permanent remember that !😊
Single dad too. Have to tornados at home. Kudos for you. And keep it up
Yeah Marc, I am a single father with a young bloke who has cerebral palsy, sometimes life throws you curve balls but you gotta do what you gotta do
@@MomeGnome that's your opinion is it?,you are not being helpful, I mentioned he look for gold while being there,that's a way of garnering income,it earns you money, doesn't fall into the hobby bracket,maybe that is a way out, I don't know,until you actually are the father of a teenage son with a disability and don't have your own home or not much money like the both of us are going through I am sorry but you really wouldn't have any idea of our situation 🆗
I'm not a camper....but this video popped up and I'm suffering terribly from depression. So you've got a new subscriber. I'm happy to watch and hope for your upswing to happen soon.
So sorry to hear you are suffering from depression. My wife also has depression and I just feel helpless. I really hope you get better, sending you all my love!
Go see a doctor they can really help 👌
We dont belong here, even through your depression youre thinking of someone elses well being. youre an angel, and Jesus is calling you.....just listen. I love you and i pray that you hear Him.
Try Ketamine therapy. I was severely depressed for 3 years and I was cured after 4 treatments. It's expensive, but worth it.
Stop watching yt. It makes you more depressed
You aint lost everything, you've gained your freedom back.
and that expensive truck
@@terrytownsend5583 Wow, you really didn't get the point of this video, did you?!
Ìve been happily married for 14 years and I'm really free my wife has never stopped me doing anything
Classic reply from a teen.
@catsandcrafts171
..honestly, the uploader need to stop chasing females... he can't afford to live but has no intrest on working....🤦♂️
Hang in there. We've all been thru shit. It'll get better.
You're not alone mate, theres many of us out here drowning in depression and financial difficulties and our families are suffering too. I'm so glad your video popped up in my feed. Keep being open and posting your progress. Don't give up. It's hard but you've taken the first step by reaching out. I'm glad you did. Answers might open up and maybe you can encourage many others as you go.
I met a writer/author when I was living in LA. I asked him, what is your most important advice for a story teller, writer. He told me, tell the real, the ugly, the hurt. It's what people can relate to. With you brother, I'm in the thick of it too.
Yehhhhhhh!!!!! The ugly, painful truth so needs to be shared… we’re such a wounded species 😢 the facade is sooooo damn boring! 😅this man is an absolute legend! May he be totally blessed… & you too eastongreen🥰🌟❤🌟
Man ,,All I Can Say is Stay strong,,,Don't Give up,,,WE All Go thru this Sort of stuff,,,And Its Fukn Hard !!,,,Much Respect for telling it like it is !!
When my marriage fell apart I hit a wall so I went to see a mental health nurse, he told me how I was feeling was perfectly normal and if I didn’t feel like that he would be concerned. My relationship with my kids is better than ever and I have been with my partner now for 6 years married for nearly 1, it gets better mate. If you were looking after some bird and her 5 kids and she finds someone new in such a short time that says more about her than you. Accept the hard times and celebrate the good no matter how small and day by day it will get better, good luck
Yeah I’d take that as a huge load off my shoulders and now you’ve got more time and money to focus on himself and his kid and find a new partner that respects him
@@goseone412 absolutely
"If you were looking after some bird and her 5 kids and she finds someone new in such a short time that says more about her than you" I totally agree and it was something that stood out to me.
Year thats so fucking quick she must be a supermodel
@@taiopaisley1928 lotta guys have been dry for so long that they are just tools for women who wet their willy.
a good willy sucker will never be lonely, and will always search for the richest willy
Hang in there mate. We all here to support you ❤
My brother, ive lost everything more then once..and im still here and prospering😎 my point is, the mind is powerful, it controls the body, when your hard to deny, your chances greatly increase. The beautiful thing about a brokenheart, is what was inside. Kia kaha my bro❤
This video shows how strong you really are. The Universe will provide, and you have all of us cheering you on.
I gotta tell you, despite how you're feeling now.. posting a video like this and everything you have disclosed in the video shows tremendous strength and courage. Thank you for sharing. Hang in there.
yeah look mate, if she caused drama over a 3 month thing, she wasn't worth it, its laughable. chin up mate, you got this 🦾🦾 keep up the great content
I suppose that goes both ways
Unfortunately when it comes down to it a parent will always choose their kids decision over a partner and kids will generally play along with plans right up until the 11th hour. In this situation I’d say she got cold feet after 3 months of separation and probably wasn’t that invested in the relationship.
@craiglaing2417 it didn't take 3 months. Within a week of me being gone she was already car pooling with this new guy as we all worked together. I only found out 3 weeks later through other workers. Then not long after that he moved in as a house mate to help cover rent. Not long after that she left me & they've been dating ever since
@@Campingdownundersheesh! Well I think it worked out for the best even though it’s put you in your current position. You may or may not have been stuck in a worse position if you’d stayed with her for the 3 months. Anyway enjoy that road trip and time away. It’s good to disconnect every now and then to help refocus 👍
Yep brother got out of it luckily 🙌
This is the first time I've come across your channel but wow I'm seriously touched by your candor. Thank you for expressing these feelings that so many of us experience but often struggle to articulate. Great thing that you're doing for the community, we're all connected by our love of seeing these parts of Australia but also all have experiences in life that can obscure the beauty of it. Gonna be following your story from now on and have no doubt that with this sort of attitude you'll land on your feet and find that stability again. Much love
Everybody loves a good comeback story. Keep going and don't give up!
I’m in my 60’s. I’ve struggled with depression since my early teens. Life didn’t turn out the way I thought it would. I count my blessings though: I’ve been married for 40 years; I have a roof over my head; I have a steady job; I have positive people around me. I still struggle. I hope you find some answers on your 10 day trip with your friend. You’re not alone. Definitely not after this video. 👏🏻
I’m the same. I’m in my early 60s. I’ve had major depression since my late teens. My life took the rocky road. Nothing was easy. I think you have to appreciate what you do have. A roof over your head, food in your belly etc. it’s only now I’ll be able to do a bit of travel and spoil myself a bit but my health isn’t great anymore.
Are you sure or did some woke doctor just tell you you had "depression" when you were down for a while?
I'm 40 and struggling hard with anxiety and depression
37 here, same boat. Got so many things I want to do in my head but always feel stuck. Definitely didn't turn out like I thought it would but you do have to try and look at the good stuff that's going on, even if life isn't what you want it to be
@@protocoldroid7388yeah when a 60 year old says since their teens it means “for a while”.
Did it make you feel better? Sounds like you relate more than you’d let on if you just said nothing.
Wow. I’ve never seen a video like this before. Possibly the best mental health advice I’ve seen. Your strength and courage to be so vulnerable is heartbreaking. I really do hope you weather this storm and see the sunshine and rainbow afterwards. You’re in a situation a lot of fathers find themselves in. Just by sharing you’ve made us realise we’re not suffering on our own. God bless you and enjoy your camping trip with your mate.
I'm not really in to camping, but I stumbled across this video when you first posted it. I just spent the last 40 minutes trying to find it again to check in and see how you're doing. I hope you're doing okay ❤
I'm doing a lot better thank you. Not much has changed with my situation besides I've moved into a more stable share house. But I'm staying positive that things will improve 😀
As a fellow SA I appreciate what you’ve done, I’m living in NSW now and married. I sometimes suffer from depression and you’re not alone mate.
Not sure if you'll read this mate. But I can give you one thing that you can do now that has always helped me out. At the end of each day just write down 3 good things that happened to you. Could be as simple as you saw an interesting bird when you were out walking that you've never seen before. Keep the positive thoughts flowing and you will be amazed what can change in a year
Great Advice 👌👌
Agree 100%
This is great advice and amazingly powerful to reset your mindset.
I’m in my 60s and the last 13 years I’ve been on my own. It’s been the happiest time of my life once you get used to it
I know this isn't for everyone, but I decided relatively early in my life not to get married/move in with anyone. Was just a personal choice, I still dated and had some pretty long-term relationships, but I've just seen marriage (or the equivalent of co-habiting) destroy so many men that I've known, both financially and emotionally, I just figured it wasn't for me. I really couldn't be happier to be honest. Luckily, I never had a major urge to have kids. When kids are involved, this whole calculation changes, but really with the right mindset I think living alone can be fantastic. Obviously if a relationship just ended, it's going to be rough going for a while, but yeah... Keep an open mind about it and don't be too hard on yourself. Men can be really hard on themselves, especially when they've convinced themselves they've failed their family. It's important to take responsibility, but men have a tendency to take on too much IMO.. Again, don't be too hard on yourself.
me too, 66.. love it.. i think for me,, not them..
10 more years big daddy, you will soon have to meet your maker.
went through the same with my daughter didnt see her for 6 yrs, your son will come back and believe me it will be better, head up and sounds rough but keep doing what You want/need to do
As soon as you shared about your partner blaming you for the 3 months decision, I knew it wasn’t about you . Clearly she had already exited the relationship and was only thinking of herself and I am so sorry to hear that. I went through a terrible marriage break up, so I know how hard it can be. Let me tell you from a women’s perspective, because you really need to hear this, “ It was not your fault “! My advice is, yes find a counselor to talk to, and keep doing the things you love , find some good mates and take good care of your health. Once your head is in a good place, things will look much better and life will start to flow again. I don’t know how old your son is, but I am sure given time things will evolve for the better where he is concerned. Might be good to do some research into ndis funding and help with housing for him near you, if you cannot find a place together. Though everything you have done is not the ideal, and you’re currently struggling, please know that things can improve. My whole life changed some years ago and I now suffer from a disability, that prevents me from travelling like you do.. and I love 4x4, fishing, camping etc so watching RUclips channels like yours help fill a void for me and keep inspiring me to keep fighting to get better. I do have my own 4x4 and Hobie kayak and camper but can only do very short trips. I would love to travel full time, but it’s not possible. So while I am on the couch struggling, I watch others enjoying their adventures, which brings me a lot of joy and helps pass the days I’m in terrible pain. So here is my message, please enjoy your life, pick up your camera and keep posting as there are plenty of people like me whose lives are blessed by being taken on adventures while sitting at home. I certainly would have gone stir crazy 🤪 without vids like yours. I lost my youngest son, 6 years ago so I understand the depths of depression, and I had to find the smallest things to cling to, to hang on, and find away through it.. find what makes “you” happy and everything else will eventually fall into place! Right now you’re grieving your losses and that’s normal, but please make a decision to not stay in grief and find the joy you deserve. Best wishes and stay strong .
I came to the comments looking for this. SHE was already out of the relationship before he left. SHE set that up by encouraging him to plan the move. I am not someone who sides with men, I've had to watch this twice looking for holes to blame him. But Yes. SHE CAUSED THIS not him.
He needs to get on meds temporarily go to therapy, and go about his life. Work save money. Nothing wrong with living in a vehicle.
Thank you so much for your advice. I'm so sorry to hear about what you've had to go through. My son is 21 & has been with the NDIS since he was 18. We've been trying to organise housing for him & possibly myself as well as I'm his carer but it's taken months so far & we still have no idea what's happening. We have a meeting with them this week. Hopefully we can get an answer. He's happy to move across here as long as he has a bed each night
I pushed her away over the past year as we were in a bad place in our relationship. She was actually the one putting in all the effort trying to fix our relationship even seeking professional help to try & better herself. But I did nothing. I should have put equal effort into fixing or at least attempting to fix our relationship after about 8 months of trying as hard as possible to fix things in the end she just gave up. So I do still take blame even though we were both in the wrong & the way she ended it wasn't the right way to go about it
Her other relationship will probably not last, it sounds more like a rebound relationship instead of a new rock steady one.@@Campingdownunder
@@Campingdownunder Your honesty is refreshing. You’ve totally got this. Just the way you explained both sides of the situation shows you’re already processing everything, which is an awesome step. As others suggested; work, earn, take time to adjust, contact with your son, some trips to refresh with like-minded friends & you will get there. It may take longer than you want but if you keep focused on your goals things will start happening.
Mate don’t ever stop making these vids. Your helping so many people.. you could be saving someone’s life.
I'm already feeling more positive after watching it
Don't be selfish dude
AHD with your spelling I highly doubt you know exactly the prices of both. And he could sell his car? Maybe when he keeps going homeless his car is still a place he can always fall back on, a last resort maybe? Who says he’s driving it EVERY single day to use fuel? Assumptions.
I'd never seen your channel pop up before now and I just wanted to comment and say how much appreciate you sharing this kind of thing, it's so important for men to talk about what's going on for them especially about costardy issues and struggling to be in kids lives, to have this demonstrated in a casual video is exactly what so many people need to see! All the best with your journey mate, you've got this so just keep on keeping on and don't isolate yourself completely for too long!
Mate I listened to every word you said and I was touched by your raw honesty. It made me feel like you were talking directly to me. Your story is very similar to mine, and where your at is very similar to me. I can really empathise with you in your pain. I have tremendous respect for your honesty. I just subscribed after watching your this clip. Please keep us all in the loop.
I also just subscribed because of the courage and vulnerability it took to make this video.
It sounds like you’ve had a lucky escape ….things will get better ❤🏴
Absolutely what I was thinking
I hope you read these comments. I’ve never watched any of your videos before and this video just popped up in my feed. I never comment either, but I want to share that you are not alone. Praying for you, Paul.
Don't ever apologize for been authentic
Thank u for sharing your story. Stay strong and have faith in yourself.❤
Hey bro - really appreciate you speaking out, we need to talk about real sh*t more often rather than the social media gloss and fakery. I don’t have any answers for myself or anyone else, sadly, but all I can say we just have to keep getting up and going every day. You just don’t know what’s around the corner. Keep talking about things, it will help. Best wishes for you mate
Any blokes priority is to secure an income for their family, you made the right decision. Stop the doom. Keep fit keep fighting. You sound persistent, you can talk well and you’re doing something. Keep looking for answers - they are out there! Good luck.
I was a my rock bottom a year ago, thanks to people like you I came out of it, i am the happiest I have ever been in the last 20 years. I promise you that the same will happen to you. It's ok to not be ok. You are an inspiration to all men out there. Things will get better brother, stay strong. Sending love from 🇨🇦 Canada
Glad you’re doing better these days dude. I’m from Canada as well
And I have to ask, is your username “landmine lieutenant” a reference to Celph Titled?
Traveling helps a lot! Even if you have nothing, starting fresh in a brand new place that no one knows you, going to a new church, joining a men’s group, or finding a new job helps tons. Be honest with your position, with the new people you meet, don’t be too proud to say you’re starting from scratch, etc. people will generally understand and try to help. I’m in a great place right now but God knows I’ve been in that spot so many damn times it’s depressing. You’re not the only one who’s been there, don’t be ashamed
@@Day-ZDukeyes sir, the one and only
That's a beautiful positive story bro, well done
It sounds like you’re happiest when you’re out, camping and exploring, and making the videos to share with those of us who can’t do the same. There are people who would never see the beauty of nature except to your videos.
Life has many high points and dark valleys. Follow your passion and head towards the light.
Perfectly said! ❤
You have brothers around the world thinking of you mate. More than most of us ever get. Stay strong. You have life in you.
As a woman, it is shocking to me that she found someone else so soon. That seems like betrayal, whether or not she was upset that you left 3 months early.
You did nothing wrong. Stop taking the blame. I wish you well.
It's very common in my experience that women move on very quickly with a new man.
Easy to say that when you only hear one side of the story, I'm telling you there's alot more to it and been going on alot longer than betrayed on here. She's living the life she deserves now with respect and support, a mum of 5 with no support is no way to live
@@mrmisterno1only when gold digging
Because they don't. She already found someone prior to the breakup
My thoughts exactly. My husband live in another state from me for 3 years and I never would have thought to dump him and definitely not get another man.
Mate. I hit rock bottom 3 years ago. My partner of 6 years cheated on me with a close friend. I packed up and started again. I was also in a job that I didn't see a future in. Fast forward three years, I've just gotten engaged and am focusing on a new career that brings me fulfilment.
I could never have seen where I am today, but I hope that you can keep moving on every day and just taking one step forward. Even just taking the step of sharing this with us is such a huge one to begin with.
Much love mate
You’ve got this! ❤ it may seem like everything has fallen apart but what I’ve always said is everything happens for a reason. I am proud that you’re taking the time to talk about it because so many of us are going through something similar to this but we sit in silence and hold it all in! Thank you for being brave and just know time heals everything and you are better off.
Thank you for posting this. You're not alone brother. I've lost not everything, but most everything too. Husband, step child, health, ability to do my nursing job, and thus ability to provide for myself. Extremely hard times but there is a way through. One day, one hour, one minute at a time. You're a brave man and I admire your honesty and vulnerability.
Please keep in close contact to the people that you care about. It's the hardest thing to do but the best
❤❤❤ stay strong 💪
Thank you for being so brave and talk about your personal struggles. As a serving law enforcement officer, we had yet lost another member to suicide just days ago. Please keep moving forward and just believe everything will work out! They just WILL. Please don’t stop fighting for those you love and love you. ❤
Stop blaming yourself please. Life happens, sh!t happens. Stay strong. Good luck. You're not alone. Sending love. ❤
The problem is, he’s not blaming himself.
@@MGTOWGreatestHits thats dead right, needs to take some ownership stop blaming others. Man up
@@MGTOWGreatestHits He did say it's on him for moving too quickly and not waiting. I watched his previous video about his kids and seems like he's selfless to a fault.
He left his first wife who cheated on him from the start with so many men she couldn't count and left her two cars and all the house furniture so he started from scratch. He got another partner and started from scratch again
I don't like the term man-up, but having some bloody self respect would've saved this guy a lot of money so he's not constantly on struggle street.I'd be fighting DHS tooth-and-nail if my ex was abusing my kids like that and I couldn't see them. I'd make her chase me for child support.
@@seanrawlinson Totally! It’s the pathetacism mode, sitting there whining like a baby about some rotten skank, leaving his own son with a friend, it’s a recipe for the situation he’s in. I’m a single dad with full time care of my son and we homeschool and we’re both so unbelievably happy with that, our energy and resources go to that, I’m not chasing dirty cheating whores or letting anyone cuck me or take my time, energy or finances away from us, and that must be number one priority. He should be thinking more like this particularly given how finite his resources are.
Thank you for sharing your innermost feelings and the things that
many people are too scared to share. I am not super familiar with your channel but you have gained a new supporter. Even if you may feel physically alone at this time, there are 1000s of people on this channel who support you as a person. If necessary reaching out for counseling or other mental health support can be good too. You got this man bad times will always pass ❤
This is a very important video. You’ve shown people that you can be feeling down and hopeless but by sharing those thoughts, and taking time to clear your head, you can get through this. Such an important message for all of us, but guys especially. No one has the “perfect life”. There are great times, and there are shit times. That’s life.
Thank you for sharing. First of your videos that I’ve seen. I’ve now subscribed, so I’m looking forward to hearing your updates. Good luck with finding your way through. You’ll get there.
Sending lots of love from Qld Xx
I think you should look at this as a new chapter in your life, you have a nice camper set up, you have your freedom, and most importantly, you have your health. I lost my health to cancer, I'm ok after surgery, but left with disabilities, I can no longer do the things I love.
If you have your health, you have everything you need.
I am absolutely not a camper or remotely interested in camping but for some reason I got this video on my feed. Take care mate, keep your head up. I respect that you take responsibility for your part but it honestly doesn't seem like you did a lot wrong. And about taking meds: they are not about changing your circumstances, see them as a crutch if you suffer from anxiety. All the best, just hang in there!!
Sorry that you’re going through all this, brother! Praying that you find the change that you are after ❤ Thank you for trying to stay positive through the rough times. You are a legend and are loved!
I just discovered your channel. This story is absolutely touching. You had a plan to better your families lives, and 3 months is no time. You coulda had a head start for everyone. But it didn’t work out.
Stay in contact with your son daily, video call especially. Find side work, stack up cash, and socialize. Meet new people.
I’m not religious, but listening to Dave Ramsey and dr John Delony helps me a lot.
Hey dude.
Sounds like a pretty woeful situation you've found yourself in.
I think you hit the nail on the head with the idea of moving back to get yourself back to a stable and reliable situation. The "same" is not always such a negative thing. Especially when you're trying to fix issues as fragile as yours.
I used to post fairly similar content and cover similar issues but deleted the lot because I felt so much shame and weakness from it. It is not easy or natural for a lot of people to be that open or vulnerable.
Whatever you do decide, sounds like you've got some great humans in your life that you can chat with and vent to. That's a huge asset you have.
Take good care of yourself and your boy.
First time I’ve come across you and I sat and watched this. Very touching, keep pushing mate. All the best
Same, I hadn’t seen any of your other videos, but stayed and watched until the end. I really appreciate the realness. It’s a rare thing to find these days. I can see a real joy and passion in what led you there, hold that close. Hoping this community can hold you up now!
I really needed this. I'm in such a dark space and feel like I've lost everything. Often I hate waking up
Man your comment made me sad, I've had more than a fair share of dark days mate, just remember life can turn upside down and leaves you feeling nothing but hopelessness but has a strange way of turning back around. Just don't go it alone share it with someone.
I get that feeling a lot. And man does it scare people (friends AND mental health professionals) when I say that I just want to sleep and not wake up until I'm 'well' in my head, my heart and my soul ! It's not that I don't want to be alive - I very much do! My desire IS to enjoy life AND to be able to be at peace and confident in my ability to cope in difficult times. I want to have the equanimity to embrace life's challenges and be able to make mindful decisions in the way I have in the past. But so often now there's a thick and discombobulating mental and emotional pall surrounding me. It envelops and attaches to me. It drags off me so heavily; it obscures my path and taints my objectivity so much that life seems unsolvable and overwhelming. I get so lost in that murkiness, so tired of trying to climb up and out into clarity, that I just want take a mental holiday. Take a time-out from the struggle and come back refreshed and in better shape to cope with everything. And I don't want to just sleep, because of the oppressive and vivid nightmares. I just want to switch off for a while, recharge, recover and then return to life, back in charge of my mental health.
So many people suffer .. and we loose good people to easy so please stay strong..
You were chasing a dream, she didn’t have enough faith to wait. You don’t know me at all, but I’m proud you’re still here. Dealing with all that and you’re still here. I’m looking up to you! Please stay with us and not give up. You have our support
It's madness to think a woman with 5 kids would leave security for a poor plan
Mate, so brave being open and vulnerable - starting the chat and showing you don't have to keep your struggles to yourself. You've got a community around you and shows if you reach out there will always be someone there to support you xx
he just wants donations
@@DrGreenThumbNZLmate he made a video last year basically saying how broke he was and didn’t seek donations. He’s just trying to shed a light on men’s mental health.
Hey mate, I lost my son last year. He was addicted for years prior to that. Just hang in there mate, dig down for that next bit of positively. Things get better bit by bit, you are right we are not alone. There is always hope, always.
Thank you so much for sharing! I lost a son, it is the most unimaginable emptiness and permanent thing I have experienced. You have yours, even though right now you are not together. Things will change, just keep on the course. We sometimes have to appreciate the things we have to help us through the very rough times.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost mine too back in 2013. You're right, it's the hardest thing I've ever gone through.
Sending you the biggest hug.
So sorry to hear about your Son mate.
There is nothing embarrassing about your situation. Thank you for being humble enough to share. God bless you. Praying our lord Jesus will give peace. Forgiveness will bring you so much clarity and free you from the things your ex put you through ❤️
I’m sorry for your loss brother. You’re going to get through this.
It's a brave thing to spill your guts online to strangers. You have a lot to gain from these experiences, and I believe that you will look back at this time and will be glad it turned out in your favor. Thanks for sharing 😌
I really enjoyed watching this. I finally realised that I am not the only one going through this.
I am in the exact same situation. Yet I am now 50 years old. The depression and anxiety are so full on! I spend most days contemplating which tree is the strongest, for my body weight
It’s taken balls to publish this!
Please seek help mate. I know you probably have but I don't know what else to say. Please don't follow through with the permanent solution . You never know what is round the corner and there is no coming back from suicide. It's painful I understand but please stay in the fight.
Sorry to hear about your suffering mate. Do what you can to survive the hardest times and try to keep going. You can do it 🙏
Choose Jesus and you will be freed from Satans prison 🙏🏽❤️ he comes to lie, decide and steal souls
Hi mate, don't know you at all but would do anything to help you. Kills me to hear you are struggling that much.
Keep putting one foot in front of the other, I thought happiness was no longer obtainable at one point, but I found it. Keep on swimming.
Thank you for your honesty and your bravery ❤ I hope your reset trip goes well. You may be alone in your struggle but you are not struggling alone. Sending positivity your way.
Praying for you and your son mate . Hopefully a speedy solution is just around the corner
Hey bro, thank you for sharing. You may not see it now but things will get MUCH better. Much love from New Zealand.
Sometimes, one day at a time is all that you can manage, and that’s alright. Don’t beat yourself up.
In my hard times I’ve often had to remind myself “This too, shall pass”, and eventually, it does.
Wishing you well, brother.
Firstly, love your raw honesty in your challenges. Men are the important in society and it's essential to recognise the mental health aspect. Stay strong. It takes two to make a relationship work so don't be too hard on yourself, but good to own your mistakes. Making a living is hard and life isn't always easy. Stay strong.
Hang in there mate when one door closes another will open, sometimes the worst things in life can happen for the best! 😉✌️
Thanks mate I hope so 😀
@@Campingdownunderit’s true. I lost everything ten years ago. It hurts like nothing I ever experienced and still does if I let it. But life goes on regardless and you make the best of it. You will be fine, give it time and don’t dwell on it, don’t blame yourself and keep on doing what you love.
I second that. My worst life experience turned out to be a blessing in disguise, although it took several years for me to realise it!
I 3rd this comment. It’s been my experience that closure of a life chapter allows a new chapter to commence. I encourage you to keep your exciting dream to work, live, and explore WA. May your new home be ‘just around the corner’ and within your budget. Thank you for sharing your raw feelings. May you be blessed by doing so.
My 10 year relationship has just ended mate. I moved out of the family home and into my campervan just after the New Year, so I can totally relate to how you must be feeling.
Keep moving forward, things WILL get better, trust me.
Hey, they can't get any worse for either of us can they!
I've suffered with depression my entire adult life and I'll be starting counselling on Monday. I'm also joining the local gym, as exercise has always helped in the past for me.
Small steps forward is all we take right now matey 💪
My parents separated when I was 8, it’s been a long time now and my parents are able to be in the same house now thankfully. They are now doing much better, my mom shattered my dads whole world. I can promise you ten years later they are both doing well and level headed enough to live in the same house for me instead of moving back to the city. It will get better♥️ I’m proud of you for continuing to move forward. I wish you the very best in your life to come.
Well done it’s good to have a plan. Man or woman this stuff is hard. Sadly it’s socially easier for women to open up than men, good on you for your courage. Hoping for the best for you.
councelling does sht.. learn from what happened.. do what you want with your life, fk them.. so many guys, friends, commited suicide, because of women.. fk that..leave, start again. you cant see in there head, they allways have alterior motives.. they win all the time. back in the 70,s. to claim ''madnes'', kill your wife, it was 3 yrs jail.. not now, there protected.. they dont realise, without men,,nothing happens.. girl friend said ,70,s, whats the most important thing in your life,, i said,, my car,, she said, what about me,, i said,,no car,, no you.. work it out..
If she loved you, she would have waited. If people you love don't care to be with you, start over where you are and build your life back for you. Try to have some fun! Don't blink too fast. You'll be 60 and wonder where all that time went. Be content with yourself.❤
good on you mate for opening up like that. this is the realest thing ive seen on youtube in a long time. more men need to speak up about ther issues. im sure this video will serve as a good example that it is ok for men to speak up about how ther feeling and u may even save some lives. Hope everything works out for you mate 🤙
I hear you loud and clear mate.. I am 77 sold up gotta van and a Hilux , spent the last year on the road….but…. I am alone. The only lady I loved went back to America six years ago. You sound as if you have got a handle on it all. Just keep doing things like you are doing. You don’t need drugs. Live YOUR life, your son will be OK. I feel for you. A very hard video to make. Stay safe. Jerry 👍🙂😊
Never seen your stuff before, just popped up on my homepage.
I hope this burst of views gives you the momentum needed to push through this bad time. Brave video. All the best.
Hey Paul it's Tim here from the old Big River days! Very sorry to hear about your current situation. One step in front of the other champ. You got this mate!
Thanks for sharing your story and helping others to know they are not alone. Your video came as a random recommendation but has really touched my heart. God wants you to know that He loves you and understands your struggles. Hang in there mate, I am praying that things look up for you ❤
Oh my God mate....I feel for you....I'm a 62 year old lady lived in my little motorhome for 5 years now after 20 year relationship breakdown...and boy do I feel lonely, depressed and don't know what to do sometimes but I do try to be positive and look at what I've got...wish I had someone to share my love of travelling Australia and nature also. You're only young...make the most of it...I'm sure things will get better for you....don't worry be happy...turn the music up and SING....(no sad songs tho) ❤
I appreciate the comment 👍 I'm glad to see your making the most of your situation and staying positive aswell. I always try and stay positive. But it's pretty hard sometimes
@@Campingdownunder I totally understand
I got deserrted by my wife after 8 children. Over time one recovers. It me 10 years.
Be happy
Im gere to talk always
You're completely in the right my friend.
Move forward, make friends, bring your son over and forget that someone horrible chucked it in for something she wanted
As you can see from the comments below, your'e not alone mate. Many of us have been, or are going through something similar, myself included. I've been homeless, lived on the banks of the Namoi river for 2 years in a two man tent getting work when I could but things got better. Maybe you could go and see Centrelink and explain that you need to go back and live with your son, as I think that should be the priority right now for both of your mental healths. Maybe they can find some emergency accomodation for you and help with relocation. I know it's a long shot, but you have nothing to loose by asking. Hope it all goes well for you buddy, chin up.
Commenting just to pass on some love. This took a lot of courage to post and I know it will help others be brave as well to know they are not alone and it’s ok to not be ok. Sometimes the best medicine is Mother Nature. Wishing you well!
It sounds that this lady was not committed to you and it was you that was making all the changes for her. At this moment it is important that you look after yourself and your mental healthcare and take one day at a time. 💙
You've done everything right mate, 3 months is a very short period especially to move so far, secure a job and a house under the current circumstances. Just focus on yourself now and let your future find you.
This comment section is the closest thing to what I imagined a mens channel would look like. So much gratitude for you making this video. Keep on keeping it real!
What is a 'men's channel'??
@@nicolab2075 A channel talking about men's issues? Is that part not obvious?
@@seanrawlinson Sorry
@@nicolab2075 All good :)
Wow that's a cold woman. 3 months?!? Sounds like she was already fishing in someone else's pond. Stay cool brother, your life will be better despite the heartache.