I am loving this episode. I've always felt I don't have a psychic bone in my body but I do want to share one experience I had many, many years ago. My dad's mother passed away in the UK in her early 40's. Long before he married and I was born. One night I had a vivid dream I was talking to a British lady. I couldn't remember the dialogue, and there was a lot of background noise as if I was in a crowded pub. We were having quite an in-depth conversation. Once awake, I forgot about the dream. Sometime later I got interested in discovering my family tree. Dad gave me a box of his father's black & white negatives. A few of them I got developed. One was of a woman holding an infant. I asked my father who that lady was and he said it was his mother holding him as a baby. The only pictures I had ever seen of her were in her later years before she passed. Suddenly that dream came flooding back to me. The lady in the picture was the same lady I was talking to in my dream; my grandma! If only I could remember that conversation!
this interview has been such a fabulous soothing balm for my soul, you have no idea! thanks for creating this video :) my all or nothing thinking has hindered me FOR YEARS in so many aspects of my life, I think the biggest "ah-ha" for me in recent years has been coming to terms with the truth that things don't need to be "huge" and "ceremonial" etc. all of the time.
The way Claire talks about aphantasia is so relatable! It's like I can feel the shape of the thing rather than seeing it. Though I'll admit we're not exactly the same; I have a loud inner monologue, I'm talking to myself constantly! I also really relate to when you talked about fear: is it dangerous, or just intense? I didn't realize until recently that when I'd tap into my power or feel a spiritual connection and it felt scary, it wasn't dangerous it was actually just intense. Thanks for the lovely interview ❤
I have a graveyard I can walk to from my house in southern Indiana. It’s always felt so friendly. The graves of the people my street is named after are there. The people here are nice, say hi when they see you. The library paired with the historical society for a tour and I was the youngest person there (16) 😂 The tour guides were so animated and clearly loved what they do. That graveyard has the feeling of going to your grandparents almost. They want you to come hangout, you’re welcome anytime. I always ask the guardian if I can enter and it always feels like “Of course you can, you don’t need to ask.” I’ve taken my sister on a walk there and one rule I personally follow is to be quite. She has a very hard time with that, so I have to correct her. I always got a “don’t worry, we don’t mind” vibe, like they just liked having someone young visit.
The way I think of meditation is not to not have any thoughts but to not engage in my thoughts. Acknowledge they are there and let them pass by like a cloud.
Totally agree with the graveyard dirt discussion. It's disrespectful to just go and take stuff from a cemetery without having built a relationship that permits it. In my experience there needs to be some mutual exchange. Similarly there are spirits who don't want to be bothered so you do have to show respect and leave them alone if that's what they want.
Claire’s Memento Mori deck has been my travelling deck for a couple years now, and I definitely feel her energy in her deck. I loved hearing her advice and perspective, and Olivia you had such illuminating questions for her. When you guys talked about ancestor dreams I remembered when I dreamed about my great grandmother when I was having endodontic surgery 💀😅
Omg Claire thank you! I have struggled with visualization in my meditation and felt that I can’t do it right because I also cannot visualize. I do “see” in thoughts. I have done this since I was little, I call it pretending. Such a Wright odd me to no longer struggle to “see”. This interview was very enlightening, thank you Olivia I really enjoy your channel. Much Love….
I loved the conversation on inner monologue. Mine is also very loud. I meditate very often & need more sleep than the average person. I heavily use my third eye for visualization & learned to balance it w/ the others. I learned how to healthier deal w/ overthinking or worry through reiki. It had helped so much w/ reading tarot & my memory is the weirdest thing at times. I just really enjoy conversations like this. Thank you Olivia. Thank you Claire. Wishing the wanderlust coven a happy new year! 🖤🔮
Exercise is my meditation, too, as I also just know and can't "see" in my head. Aphantasia can be so frustrating to work around when there's so little direction on alternatives, especially for a very literal person such as myself. I love that there are a lot more people addressing it recently. It's so fascinating to hear how others' brains work and how they work around the "norm." Anyhow, I haven't done much spirit work, but I'm excited to have a place to start now. Thanks!
I’m so glad u speak about being a skeptic. I often feel invalid because I can be a skeptic at times. Also really like the meditation explanation. I can’t completely turn my thoughts off either 😅
Oh I love this episode! I remember when I was a kid I used to feel the ghosts around and since I was used to them to be just there it didn't scared me, but I can remember very clearly when THEY realized I could actually see/feel them and they started to try to grab my attention in any way they could, and that really freaked me out... but I remember talking to my grandma (i was around 13/14) and she told me "well, if you really want to talk to someone, like you really need to, but you call their name and they won't answer and you realize maybe they are wearing headphones or something... won't you tag they tshirt?" And that completely changed my mindset. It's not like they are being mean, they just need to talk to someone and you are the one that can actually talk to. It's just that, most of the time. There were some actually scary sh*t but they are usually just trying to talk about pretty much anything. They talk to me about the weather, and now that I'm a mom they talk to me about my kid a lot. It's actually pretty nice most days.
I LOVE that you mentioned interacting with spirits the same as people. The entire paranormal investigation community needs to get on board with that. ❤
100% yes! I’ve found that spirits are often thought of as unreasonably cruel and vengeful, and yet we treat them like tourist attractions. The best way to gain favor with spirits is often the same as with anyone else: just be a decent person!
Thank you very much. I am researching ghost hunting because of an energy that hangs out in my basement. I am going to check out Claire’s book and support a local person at the same time. Great video and thank you for serving as a guide on my witchery journey.
Ohhhh, I’m 2 minutes in and already loving it! The Antique Anatomy is my everyday deck I use, but I’ve never checked out Claire’s other work! Thank you for this interview ✨🤍
I love this episode. I will definitely purchase her book. The part talking about using graveyard dirt of ancestors so you can work with your ancestors. What about when there's no grave? Just ashes from cremation.
PS too- findagrave is AWESOME and they're always in need of volunteers to submit headstone pics. I've also learned in my own ancestry research that the headstone maker person (whatever their name is) didn't always know how to write the names correctly... my last name ends in "iard" but it's pronounced "yard" and that is how several headstones have been inscribed- but the spelling is wrong lol the same goes for census records... but I know for certain that the stones and census matches up to the right family members because of other contextual data (birth certificates, death certificates, letters, etc.) just something to be aware of!
Something I realized for my own workings>>>>>> Every banishing has a corresponding protection. My karma spells are misunderstood as attacks but that which I protect, and who protects me, is accompanied by a little understanding
It´s very interessting to see another creative person with Aphantasia like me. We´re just having a different kind of inner life, than others, while we´re still so creative people. Thanks for this amazing interview.
i feel as though i don’t feel nervous ever i feel hopeless? it’s always like talking to a wall, and like things make sense for a short time and then it slips from my fingers and i get no response from anyone lol. idk why but it’s made me wanna stop trying spirit work
If you're ever in the UK, come to London and go to Highgate cemetery (if you haven't been already). I recently went and it was such a beautiful experience. If you don't know what this cemetery is, just do a quick google. Loved this video! Wonderful interview!
Thanks so much for asking about cemeteries. I'm mostly doing ceremonial Magick, but there are mixed emotions I feel like as far as interpretation of what a "spirit" is. I haven't got that problem though as I've seen spirits my whole life. However, in ceremonial circles spirit work is cold, and conjuring spirits by force isn't something I feel is right. Been wondering how to use what I know and not be forceful at the same time.
You wouldn't believe how many "advanced" mediums think they are talking to who they called up. Then you realize you have literally been talking to a mimic spirit for years. Hint: It's NEVER good. Hint, they aren't from the good side.
I don’t traditionally see things in my minds eye, and I agree about being aware of what it would look like as a knowing. I also, don’t have an inner monologue. I intentionally think, but I don’t have that random thoughts running through my mind.
In the area I just moved to, they do cemetery walks hosted by the local museum. They talk about the towns history, and who these people were, as well as how to read some of the symbols. It was really cool, and I learned a lot. So if you're trying to get into working at a cemetery, see if the local museums or historical societies have events or resources you can work with. For my own practice, I've started having monthly coffee time with them. figured since I do coffee with friends, and I'm trying to make spirit friends, it made sense. Make sure you use stuff that doesn't have dairy or sugar though, and I try to wait until it's cooled down so I don't scald the plants.
I used her oracle deck memento mori deck, I wanted to see how my friend who passed away a few yrs ago. I was actually crying through the reading. She died from complications from having end stage renal disease which I have. But I have had a transplant.
Awesome discussion. Happy New Year 2023. Homes around the holy ground of ancestors works in ancestral craft the most. Though the related ancestors must be of same hereditary craft knowledge. Non magic ancestors are best not involved but can be prayed for to any relevant deity if present for governing the craft. Lots of love and light to you Olivia.
I have aphantaisa, the inability to visualize. I have no picture or movie I see in my mind, but I do have a running dialogue. I explain the difference is like one person is watching a sporting event on TV while I'm listening to it on the radio, no visual to see what6s happening. But, I also know my ideas, maybe not see it in a normal way, but I know. to meditate, I use sound and smell. I was able to visit a Buddhist temple that felt so peaceful, I could meditate into an almost trancelike state. So I use the types of sounds and smells they had there to duplicate as much as possible, my experience, singing bowls, chimes, drums, gongs, incense, herbs and spices, the droning sounds of chanting mantras, the deep hum of Ohm. I use as many tangible items as I can as a visual aide in all my workings. I'm disabled but I used to use exercise, walking in nature, etc.
This was very interesting and informative. I am just getting into my practice of the craft but have always had a connection with the paranormal. I have been doing paranormal investigations over the last year and I’m always interested in learning more about the spirit world. This video gave me a lot to think about. I work with someone who doesn’t visualize in the mind of have an inner dialogue, it was so weird when she was explaining it to me.
I love how you asked about the Freddy Ghost and why they show up like that! With no message or nothing, just to show face… I think you hit it on the nose. Some people are more inviting than others in real life & I think it’s the same for after like as well!! They just wonna say hey I believe if there’s no message!
I've never heard aphantasia described that way. Not seeing anything in your mind's eye. It just being black. That sounds terrifying to me, like waking up one day and suddenly being blind. My mind's eye is ridiculously vivid.
Anyone who says have no thoughts during meditation, is proposing a state of mine only recognized after death. Enlightenment is not devoid of or involved with anything.
It's the kind of thing that scared me so it's not for now but when I'm ready I'm honestly not sure I should go in the nearest cemetery because my young self was NOT respectful the last I went (+-7 years ago) so yeah.. 😅
Honestly, I just finished this book and it's more like a history lesson on seance nothing else. I feel clair would have spent more time writing about the actual seance divination rather than loading us with a lot of less necessary history. I didn't find it to be that interesting and informative as Olovia is trying to suggest it.
History is really important when it comes to practicing of any kind. Half of the book is information on where the divination and seance styles came from so that the reader has a better idea of how to hold the seances themselves and when to use which technique.
I am so sorry to have to be the one to say this but the sadness in your eyes and the hollowness in your voice have been killing me over the last few videos. I don't know why you seem this way to me but my intuition says you are hurting. I hope I am wrong but if I am not please take care of yourself and give yourself the love that you need.
As soon as she said she and her pronouns I immediately lost interest and respect for whatever she had to say, clicked off. Gen X’er has no time for that b.s 🤦♀️
I am loving this episode. I've always felt I don't have a psychic bone in my body but I do want to share one experience I had many, many years ago. My dad's mother passed away in the UK in her early 40's. Long before he married and I was born. One night I had a vivid dream I was talking to a British lady. I couldn't remember the dialogue, and there was a lot of background noise as if I was in a crowded pub. We were having quite an in-depth conversation. Once awake, I forgot about the dream. Sometime later I got interested in discovering my family tree. Dad gave me a box of his father's black & white negatives. A few of them I got developed. One was of a woman holding an infant. I asked my father who that lady was and he said it was his mother holding him as a baby. The only pictures I had ever seen of her were in her later years before she passed. Suddenly that dream came flooding back to me. The lady in the picture was the same lady I was talking to in my dream; my grandma! If only I could remember that conversation!
this interview has been such a fabulous soothing balm for my soul, you have no idea! thanks for creating this video :) my all or nothing thinking has hindered me FOR YEARS in so many aspects of my life, I think the biggest "ah-ha" for me in recent years has been coming to terms with the truth that things don't need to be "huge" and "ceremonial" etc. all of the time.
The way Claire talks about aphantasia is so relatable! It's like I can feel the shape of the thing rather than seeing it. Though I'll admit we're not exactly the same; I have a loud inner monologue, I'm talking to myself constantly!
I also really relate to when you talked about fear: is it dangerous, or just intense? I didn't realize until recently that when I'd tap into my power or feel a spiritual connection and it felt scary, it wasn't dangerous it was actually just intense. Thanks for the lovely interview ❤
I have a graveyard I can walk to from my house in southern Indiana. It’s always felt so friendly. The graves of the people my street is named after are there. The people here are nice, say hi when they see you. The library paired with the historical society for a tour and I was the youngest person there (16) 😂 The tour guides were so animated and clearly loved what they do.
That graveyard has the feeling of going to your grandparents almost. They want you to come hangout, you’re welcome anytime. I always ask the guardian if I can enter and it always feels like “Of course you can, you don’t need to ask.” I’ve taken my sister on a walk there and one rule I personally follow is to be quite. She has a very hard time with that, so I have to correct her. I always got a “don’t worry, we don’t mind” vibe, like they just liked having someone young visit.
The way I think of meditation is not to not have any thoughts but to not engage in my thoughts. Acknowledge they are there and let them pass by like a cloud.
Me too. It's allowing yourself to observe the thoughts and let them go.
Totally agree with the graveyard dirt discussion. It's disrespectful to just go and take stuff from a cemetery without having built a relationship that permits it. In my experience there needs to be some mutual exchange. Similarly there are spirits who don't want to be bothered so you do have to show respect and leave them alone if that's what they want.
Claire’s Memento Mori deck has been my travelling deck for a couple years now, and I definitely feel her energy in her deck. I loved hearing her advice and perspective, and Olivia you had such illuminating questions for her. When you guys talked about ancestor dreams I remembered when I dreamed about my great grandmother when I was having endodontic surgery 💀😅
Omg Claire thank you! I have struggled with visualization in my meditation and felt that I can’t do it right because I also cannot visualize. I do “see” in thoughts. I have done this since I was little, I call it pretending. Such a Wright odd me to no longer struggle to “see”. This interview was very enlightening, thank you Olivia I really enjoy your channel. Much Love….
I loved the conversation on inner monologue. Mine is also very loud. I meditate very often & need more sleep than the average person. I heavily use my third eye for visualization & learned to balance it w/ the others. I learned how to healthier deal w/ overthinking or worry through reiki. It had helped so much w/ reading tarot & my memory is the weirdest thing at times.
I just really enjoy conversations like this. Thank you Olivia. Thank you Claire. Wishing the wanderlust coven a happy new year! 🖤🔮
Exercise is my meditation, too, as I also just know and can't "see" in my head. Aphantasia can be so frustrating to work around when there's so little direction on alternatives, especially for a very literal person such as myself. I love that there are a lot more people addressing it recently. It's so fascinating to hear how others' brains work and how they work around the "norm."
Anyhow, I haven't done much spirit work, but I'm excited to have a place to start now. Thanks!
I’m so glad u speak about being a skeptic. I often feel invalid because I can be a skeptic at times. Also really like the meditation explanation. I can’t completely turn my thoughts off either 😅
Oh I love this episode! I remember when I was a kid I used to feel the ghosts around and since I was used to them to be just there it didn't scared me, but I can remember very clearly when THEY realized I could actually see/feel them and they started to try to grab my attention in any way they could, and that really freaked me out... but I remember talking to my grandma (i was around 13/14) and she told me "well, if you really want to talk to someone, like you really need to, but you call their name and they won't answer and you realize maybe they are wearing headphones or something... won't you tag they tshirt?" And that completely changed my mindset. It's not like they are being mean, they just need to talk to someone and you are the one that can actually talk to. It's just that, most of the time. There were some actually scary sh*t but they are usually just trying to talk about pretty much anything. They talk to me about the weather, and now that I'm a mom they talk to me about my kid a lot. It's actually pretty nice most days.
I LOVE that you mentioned interacting with spirits the same as people. The entire paranormal investigation community needs to get on board with that. ❤
100% yes! I’ve found that spirits are often thought of as unreasonably cruel and vengeful, and yet we treat them like tourist attractions. The best way to gain favor with spirits is often the same as with anyone else: just be a decent person!
Thank you very much. I am researching ghost hunting because of an energy that hangs out in my basement. I am going to check out Claire’s book and support a local person at the same time. Great video and thank you for serving as a guide on my witchery journey.
I just got her book, after I saw book review! I can’t wait to read it!!
Ohhhh, I’m 2 minutes in and already loving it! The Antique Anatomy is my everyday deck I use, but I’ve never checked out Claire’s other work! Thank you for this interview ✨🤍
I love this episode. I will definitely purchase her book. The part talking about using graveyard dirt of ancestors so you can work with your ancestors. What about when there's no grave? Just ashes from cremation.
I can relate so much to her😊 I thought I was doomed because I couldn’t visualize
PS too- findagrave is AWESOME and they're always in need of volunteers to submit headstone pics. I've also learned in my own ancestry research that the headstone maker person (whatever their name is) didn't always know how to write the names correctly... my last name ends in "iard" but it's pronounced "yard" and that is how several headstones have been inscribed- but the spelling is wrong lol the same goes for census records... but I know for certain that the stones and census matches up to the right family members because of other contextual data (birth certificates, death certificates, letters, etc.) just something to be aware of!
I really enjoyed this dialogue. I can’t wait to read her books!
Something I realized for my own workings>>>>>>
Every banishing has a corresponding protection. My karma spells are misunderstood as attacks but that which I protect, and who protects me, is accompanied by a little understanding
So weird & awesome how different the Witch's and Warlocks world is so different.
It´s very interessting to see another creative person with Aphantasia like me. We´re just having a different kind of inner life, than others, while we´re still so creative people. Thanks for this amazing interview.
New book with a cemetery chapter! Yay!!! 🎉
Wow the writing on the mirrors has been present in my reality… thanks for helping connect the dots!!
🤎🤎🤎Love the sweet dog in the background!!!
i feel as though i don’t feel nervous ever i feel hopeless? it’s always like talking to a wall, and like things make sense for a short time and then it slips from my fingers and i get no response from anyone lol. idk why but it’s made me wanna stop trying spirit work
If you're ever in the UK, come to London and go to Highgate cemetery (if you haven't been already). I recently went and it was such a beautiful experience. If you don't know what this cemetery is, just do a quick google. Loved this video! Wonderful interview!
I loved that you used raw dog in a witchy context.. hilarious 😂
I love this video I have always wanted to start ancestral work and trying to communicate with my grandad. X
I love this video❤️ thank you for helping educate me🖤🖤 the mirror thing is insane?!😯
Great episode! As always so much useful information. Thank you so much for doing this for us❤
I work directly with Holy Death (Santa Muerte) & she is POWERFUL! You can also work with your ancestors through her as well.
Omg
Antique anatomy is my Favorite deck!!!! So beautiful
Totally enjoyed this video. Great job ladies!
That was a surprisingly family-friendly way of using the word raw-dogging in a video. 😆
Thanks so much for asking about cemeteries.
I'm mostly doing ceremonial Magick, but there are mixed emotions I feel like as far as interpretation of what a "spirit" is.
I haven't got that problem though as I've seen spirits my whole life.
However, in ceremonial circles spirit work is cold, and conjuring spirits by force isn't something I feel is right.
Been wondering how to use what I know and not be forceful at the same time.
This is awesome! Thank you for all this information blessed be and happy new year 🎆 🙏☀️🌙⭐️
You wouldn't believe how many "advanced" mediums think they are talking to who they called up. Then you realize you have literally been talking to a mimic spirit for years.
Hint: It's NEVER good. Hint, they aren't from the good side.
I don’t traditionally see things in my minds eye, and I agree about being aware of what it would look like as a knowing. I also, don’t have an inner monologue. I intentionally think, but I don’t have that random thoughts running through my mind.
In the area I just moved to, they do cemetery walks hosted by the local museum. They talk about the towns history, and who these people were, as well as how to read some of the symbols. It was really cool, and I learned a lot. So if you're trying to get into working at a cemetery, see if the local museums or historical societies have events or resources you can work with. For my own practice, I've started having monthly coffee time with them. figured since I do coffee with friends, and I'm trying to make spirit friends, it made sense. Make sure you use stuff that doesn't have dairy or sugar though, and I try to wait until it's cooled down so I don't scald the plants.
Also Libraries! Our local library has sooooooooooooooo much on local history and such.
I'm so excited to watch this! I just got her book in the mail today 💗
This is interesting 😊thank you for explaining this
I used her oracle deck memento mori deck, I wanted to see how my friend who passed away a few yrs ago. I was actually crying through the reading. She died from complications from having end stage renal disease which I have. But I have had a transplant.
This was wonderful. Thank you!
Awesome discussion.
Happy New Year 2023.
Homes around the holy ground of ancestors works in ancestral craft the most.
Though the related ancestors must be of same hereditary craft knowledge. Non magic ancestors are best not involved but can be prayed for to any relevant deity if present for governing the craft.
Lots of love and light to you Olivia.
Spirits remind me of the random comments on a RUclips video. I loved this interview
I have aphantaisa, the inability to visualize. I have no picture or movie I see in my mind, but I do have a running dialogue. I explain the difference is like one person is watching a sporting event on TV while I'm listening to it on the radio, no visual to see what6s happening. But, I also know my ideas, maybe not see it in a normal way, but I know. to meditate, I use sound and smell. I was able to visit a Buddhist temple that felt so peaceful, I could meditate into an almost trancelike state. So I use the types of sounds and smells they had there to duplicate as much as possible, my experience, singing bowls, chimes, drums, gongs, incense, herbs and spices, the droning sounds of chanting mantras, the deep hum of Ohm. I use as many tangible items as I can as a visual aide in all my workings. I'm disabled but I used to use exercise, walking in nature, etc.
Really loved this episode 🫶
This was very interesting and informative. I am just getting into my practice of the craft but have always had a connection with the paranormal. I have been doing paranormal investigations over the last year and I’m always interested in learning more about the spirit world. This video gave me a lot to think about.
I work with someone who doesn’t visualize in the mind of have an inner dialogue, it was so weird when she was explaining it to me.
Thank you for sharing this 🥰 🤗😘
I love how you asked about the Freddy Ghost and why they show up like that!
With no message or nothing, just to show face… I think you hit it on the nose. Some people are more inviting than others in real life & I think it’s the same for after like as well!! They just wonna say hey I believe if there’s no message!
I've never heard aphantasia described that way. Not seeing anything in your mind's eye. It just being black.
That sounds terrifying to me, like waking up one day and suddenly being blind. My mind's eye is ridiculously vivid.
Anyone who says have no thoughts during meditation, is proposing a state of mine only recognized after death.
Enlightenment is not devoid of or involved with anything.
Super curious who that reader was - I want to learn more about a grandfather who was a practitioner and I need a reliable reader!
I agree spirit work is daunting at first
Shared this with my story because wow
It's the kind of thing that scared me so it's not for now but when I'm ready I'm honestly not sure I should go in the nearest cemetery because my young self was NOT respectful the last I went (+-7 years ago) so yeah.. 😅
I wish I could have met you when I lived in Denver…
Honestly, I just finished this book and it's more like a history lesson on seance nothing else. I feel clair would have spent more time writing about the actual seance divination rather than loading us with a lot of less necessary history. I didn't find it to be that interesting and informative as Olovia is trying to suggest it.
History is really important when it comes to practicing of any kind. Half of the book is information on where the divination and seance styles came from so that the reader has a better idea of how to hold the seances themselves and when to use which technique.
I love the videos and stuff but I have a question should I start making videos of witchcraft and stuff because I'm thinking about it just not sure
My parent's bedroom is haunted and im a new witch and idk what to do
please give me tips
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Hey there .. a quick curious question
Have any of you digged in an Arabian spirituality.. ancestors/folk magic..etc???
I would really like to know
I did not know you were cebuano! Thats so cool! Do you know your filipino ancestry?
Hi Clara, your method of meditation doesn’t sound pretentious to me at all. With me, I meditate most often when I’m sculpting.
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can u tell how to make a cursed notebook which is like a death note in real life
I am so sorry to have to be the one to say this but the sadness in your eyes and the hollowness in your voice have been killing me over the last few videos. I don't know why you seem this way to me but my intuition says you are hurting. I hope I am wrong but if I am not please take care of yourself and give yourself the love that you need.
As soon as she said she and her pronouns I immediately lost interest and respect for whatever she had to say, clicked off. Gen X’er has no time for that b.s 🤦♀️
soon as you posted this comment I knew you were a pretty hateful and bigoted person.
Your loss
I think that another way to show that you’re totally serious when contacting your ancestors is to ask them what their pronouns are.