I'm 58 and never been married. whenever I would introduce a woman into my life, my peace and serenity always turned into chaos and drama. Being single is freedom. The only chaos I have in my life is what's going through my head.
It's strange, isn't it? It's almost as if peace is scary to them, chaos is what they seem to be the most comfortable with...not me. The key for men, I believe is to manage fomo. You don't have to go out every night, you don't have to always make the scene..you can choose when you engage. Another key is to not be accessible at all times; you can let your closest friends know where you live and that's it. The more people that know where you live, the more that people will interrupt you and your solitude. Trust and believe, that many people are entitled and they believe they are entitled to your time at all times. I had to learn all of these things. Now I jealously guard my peace, quiet, and freedom. The reward is reflection and serenity. Best wishes for you and your life and continued peace.
I hear you I was out on Saturday evening the friend and I shared the tabs on the evening.. But definitely exspensive and it was just an OK time.. The music wasn't my personal taste.. As it's the festive season vibe I thought there would be more people out.. It actually wasn't as busy
I have everything I want within my four walls. I hate it when there is a knock at the door. I don't answer it. I'm happy to have a mutual disconnect with the crap outside.
I’m the same way. I have a nice old house in the country that I’m renovating and a hunting dog and that’s all I need. Yes two feral cats too. When I get on dating apps, I never wanna go on dates with any of these women because they’re so greedy. Stay strong brothers. I don’t answer the door either. That’s so funny you said that.
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 the lifestyle of all of it was exhausting. Physically, and mentally. Bartenders get women thrown at us constantly, but even that got boring. Broken trash for the most part. I built a lifestyle of peace now, and I protect that.
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 Exhaustion, physically and mentally. I decided to create a lifestyle of peace, quiet, drug free, and defend it with everything. Also, women throw themselves at bartenders, there's no shortage of them, but even that got boring. Its like a competition to them, superficial, and just left me with the impression - "This is what you want for your life? You're too dumb to even b@ng".
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 Exhaustion, physically and mentally. Decided to leave the party and create a life of peace and depth with myself. There's no shortage of women being a bartender, but even that got boring - superficial, same face, different name. Left me with the impression of them "This is what you want for your life? You're d*mb".
You are all FINALLY coming around to realize what I have known for the last 20 years. Society ain't worth it. Women aren't worth it. Stay home, do your own thing and enjoy your peace and tranquility. Going out is a waste of time and money. People simply aren't worth the aggravation.
I just turned 40 and i recently got out of a 3 year relationship with the most mentally ill and toxic woman ive ever known. I now know that I suffered severe emotional abuse from this woman and now that im finally alone again, i realize that i no longer care about women or socializing anymore. The one thing i never had before was peace so now i prefer to relax at home after work with my pets....where i actually receive unconditional love. And now, i will finally spend money on myself instead of some woman.
Socializing and connecting with intelligent non-biased and open to life people can be a blessing and it's really what life is about. Unfortunately this is becoming more and more of a fantasy
Depends on how you frame it perhaps. I often have intelligent discussions online. I currently have 3 types of social experiences: (1) general chat and discussions with good friends (I mainly have 1 chat friend and 1 e-mail friend) (2) RUclips/SoMe comments and similar (3) more personal convos, like phone with mother I don't really like face-to-face convos usually because they're more infested with stilted, artificial communication, but it can be nice to have a multi-hour face-to-face chat with an intelligent and nuanced person. I just don't feel the need personally tho -- at least most of the time I don't. Sometimes I do however want to meet a woman and have long conversations with her and get to know her, but at best I'd fall into another vagina trap, so it's kind of a silly idea. The idea of a woman who combines soft female behavior with a good intellect is alluring (and probably dangerous anyway).
I am 55 and married about 10. However as soon as I talk to others I am disappointed. No critial thinking. Only world critics, no soloution for life. My wife is Thai. So I do not have to deal with the same western expectations. It is not for everybody and I think the same with marriage.
Staying at home as a Man shows many high level traits. It shows that you are confident in yourself, comfortable with yourself, that you are supremely self-confident, and to need no one to give you self- validation, or attention. It shows that you are a thinker, it shows stoicism, it shows that you do not need to follow trends, or whatever the rest of the mainstream so city is doing. It shows complete independence. These restraints that modern society shuns, and has long ago lost its value for them. And, any person who looks down upon this as being a hermit, anti-social, a loser, a loner, or whatever other subterfuge they think, it shows how shallow they truly are. I am especially speaking to you young Men out there. Do not let this warped mainstream society cause you to cast negative thoughts upon your self. I am speaking for myself too. I am 59 yoa, and of the old guard. You Boys stay strong, and look out for yourselves.
At 58 yrs old in nyc and did time in the U.S. Army in the 80s. I was a sex crazed attic. All the money i spent on clothes,cars ,alcohol all that nonsense is not worth it. You young guys be greatful you have this valuable info. Us gen x ers learned the hardway. Good luck fellas. Save your money youll be glad you did once you get my age. Peace to all.God bless
Young guys are definitely not lucky. Things have gotten continually worse. Things were still good until about 2008. (Socially and Economically). Being 38 in 2004 would have been a dream. Being 28 in 1994 would have been paradise.
@@BruizerBlue Yes it was. The mature women in 2004 were very fine, I tell you. Women born in 1949-50 have often been my favourites. Good looking, healthy, no feminists. Now women are vegan, are tatooed. No beauty. What got into them???
@@BruizerBlueNot in Romania where in the 90s you had 200%+ inflation. And everything was so dirty. I'm glad I was a child then to not perceive it. Plus good quality music for children like eurodance.
Not going out is how l lost my wife of 20 years. As a man l was happy to unwind at home, but not her. She kept pushing and l kept saying no. Now shes gone. Well at least l have my peace and quiet now.
I've been called "boring" because I don't smoke, drink, do drugs or go to bars. I don't do social media and I'm very introverted. The comment came from someone who's addicted to social media.
Same I do none of those . I have many hobbies /goals . I study my languages , read books , play games here and there , workout, movies every now and then , watch movies , study as I’m in school… there’s a lot to do . No social media , no girls for headaches , it’s peaceful .
I did a lot of pubs and clubbing in my younger days , and I didn’t much like it back then , it was peer pressure I suppose , I have no interest in socialising now in expensive pubs with fake people .
We are the same. I spent my 20s going out, now i am 44 i spend all my spare time in the gym and in my own flat reading books, watching youtube. I will be mortgage free within 8 months. I dont even date, i dont eat out,i go on vacations 3 times a year thats all.
I just got back from going out tonight, Columbia SC. Lots of single women all in groups talking to each other. Many of them were married and looking miserable. They seem to just want " validation", just like in a dating app. The hive mind is the New normal.
I totally get all of this now I’m 52. Absolutely spot on. I’m single & live in peace. Work place is full of toxic narcissistic types & back stabbers & total tosspots. So glad to get home to peace & quiet.
@@gtporschers especially if it is white collar , its a cesspit of corporate climbers who will stop at nothing to get that promotion or raise by screwing anyone over who comes in their way.
This is me now, I agree with all the comments, for a long time I thought I was the odd one. Women's role these days seems to be to first contradict me and then confuse me. The more I learn about people the more I like my cat Hamish, cheers.
I've been feeling all of this for the last 30 years, at least. I've always been painted as negative/boring, etc, because of it. It's good to know, I just cottoned on early, and I'm not the only one that feels this way about all this stuff. Thank you.
This might be a touchy one, but I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic: Adults who go out and get plastered for their birthdays. I’m of the mentality that an adult shouldn’t be celebrating their birthday. I never liked celebrating my own. Always felt awkward. But that’s another can of worms I’d rather keep shut for now. But adults going out and getting belligerent drunk because they were born that day? It’s got to be one of the lowest common denominator activities I’ve ever seen. Keep up the good work, mate.
On the topic of adults celebrating birthdays, I stopped giving a shit about celebrating my birthday when I turned 30. After that, I started treating my birthday as just another day. My family cares a great deal about it, but, I don't.
I was born between Christmas and New Year's so my birthday was always forgotten and/or simply not celebrated when I was a child. That carried over to my adult life. I haven't actually celebrated a birthday since I was 21 (42 now). Anyway, your statement about adults getting drunk on their birthday being a trashy behavior seems true. Those same people always exhibit a plethora of other trashy behaviors on every other day of the year.
I could care less about my birthday. When I turned 16, I didn't care anymore, and don't like the attention now. I have never been drunk, and think it is stupid to live that way.
Back in my 20's, I tried going out, socializing, and possibly meeting a lady. Not happening. I was, and am, on the skinny side. The ladies would look at me, roll their eyes, and look elsewhere. Certainly not at me, nor my direction. I took a break, then tried later in life. Now what did I find? Divorced women with children, and even a bigger anti male attitude. Especially towards me. Why was that? Well, these divorced women were looking for divorced males. A single, never married male? What was wrong with me? Did I just spend the last 10-15-20 years in jail or prison? I hear you brother. It's no better here across the pond either.
I'm 66, been there, seen it, done it ... family and friends all died, made new friends and they all died ... now life has become way too expensive, complicated, and dangerous = as a result I'm trapped in a perpetual recurring 'Twilight Zone' nightmare (watch the series) and the only way out is death - and the Reaper can't get here soon enough !
The problem is when you go out to have peace. There always someone wants to provoke you don't know them never seen them before. So at the end you wish you stayed at home.
We men like healthy routine and the stability and peace that comes with it. Many, if not most women, on the other hand, abhor routine and predictability. Therefore, they'll create drama and/or conflict out of nowhere to self-stimulate, sometimes to the point of destroying relationships. While I love my family and friends, I find being around people for long periods draining. The larger the crowd, the more draining. Worst of all, however, for me, is living with a woman, constantly wondering if your keeping her entertained enough to secure her loyalty. I'm in my 60's, single, retired and like who I've become. I live alone and enjoy my own company, take care of myself and find my solitary hobbies/activities very enjoyable...and many of them don't cost a dime. IMHO, once you realize buying things doesn't make you happy (something in which many females are sorely lacking) the world is your oyster.
I used to be out in my out in my 20's, spent my 30's with my now ex partner, divorced just before my 40th, went back out for a year or 2, when did some many people become A-holes? So my 40s to 50s, i just prefer to get home, chill out, watch something on TV, I don't drink much the odd single malt whiskey from time to time, before another 10 to 11 hour shift at work, 6 days per week. I am not seeking a partner as I would rather be left alone in peace and quiet.
There's a lot of elements to this. When i was in my 20's and 30's i loved going out chasing women, but the game has changed a lot. Most women don't seem to like to being approached now, so a lot of interactions are based on social media or apps. I feel for younger guys these days who wont experience what we did in bars and clubs. When you get older you leave all that shit behind and prefer your own company.
I gave up alcohol during the first U.K. lockdown. I don’t miss it at all. Too many women are wine alcoholics and once you stop drinking, drunk women are tiresome to be around.
Same here, not touched a drop in three years. I do go out a couple of times a month with a mate, I prefer gigs and concerts, I'm then spared the usual "whhhyyyy arrrrrreeernnn't yooooou driiinnkkkiing" crap I get from extremely intoxicated British women out in bars. I'm divorced and can't help but notice that a lot of women, both working and middle class, are looking for a drinking buddy and not a meaningful relationship.
Yes!! I do that a lot (I recently moved to Twickenham from the Midlands). Amazing architecture in London, esp around the centre. A lot of people just walk past and don't take notice, but I love it! Personally, I don't take any pictures as I enjoy seeing the real thing!
I am done wasting my time with people who do not have my mindset or similar goals. I wasted so much time with people who just later on discard me like nothing despite not even being on bad terms. I've had uncles, cousins, friends, and my former best friend/girl friend all discard me like trash for no reason other than they got "bored" of me or they didnt get what they want. Wasted so much time, money, and energy on these people that I am done doing things for people. If it doesnt serve me and my purpose to hell with them/that!
I've always been a reclusive person. ever since I was in my early 20's. never really cared for night clubs, bars or got interested in picking up bad habits. the only time I enjoy going out. is when I'm hanging out with a good friend from work, stopping by my local coin shop to buy precious metals for my hobby. I also enjoy my peace too much, making currency to build up my bank accounts and trying to stay in shape.
2020 changed the world my friend , I hate going out nowadays (I’m not that old mid 30’s) high streets being deliberately destroyed and the nightlife industry crumbling didn’t help. Glad I lived my late teens and 20’s the way I did , but these youngens coming up will never get the chance to
I agree. I used to love going out into the CBD on the weekend. Couldn’t think of anything worse, now. Nowadays, a quick dinner down the local pub a kilometre and a half away at six and home by eight-thirty is a big night.
I agree with you 100%. I’ve just turned 35 and hit the wall on going out, it has been wearing thin for some years now. I’m reflecting on the money I spent in a couple of months (and years) of partying in the summer it just seems a waste although I’ve plenty of stories and experiences from it. For months now I have barely touched alcohol or drugs and have saved a fortune, feel healthier, more grounded and the brain fog is lifting. I see it like I save £100 a night not going out and feel great the next morning. I sit home with clarity and peace, feeling more content and excited for what I can now create in the future!
Also started on calisthenics this year and I started too become more distant from people who drink and use substances and this channel i watch everyday love your videos keep them up
Call for me when the weather is nice. I’ll go after dinner on Friday night and go by myself but the rest of the time I’m here at home enjoying peace, quieter, or watch a video or this music playing instruments. You know I have other other things I can do to occupy my time you knowface clean you know just different small things but most the time I stick to myself and it’s peaceful and quiet no stress I go to work when I do have work to do. I don’t have any right now but when I have work to do I sleep.
My former friends gave me a nick Ghost, since I vanished into the night one day, and no one heard from me for over 12 years, my online presence is more than scarce, and I didn't regretted that decision at all! Sold my apartment at the city, and bought a cabin-like place in the high elevation, surrounded by nature and forest, and I created Vatikan-like state, within a state :) With my rules, and my own moral code, which sometimes didn't overlap with society rules, but even the law leaves me alone, since I'm not hurting anyone, and unlike in the city, I found myself a job that I love, by accident, I working off some debt, and ended up being their go-to guy for everything, for a decade now! I interact with females, but am VERY selective, like deep meaningful conversation more important than anything, and that doesn't happen every day, sadly, sometimes years pass
Im a girl,but I agree with you. Society is stupid now. I think all the people with common sense stay home and the crazy one are out. I think except work is better to avoid people, many are just a waste of time and money
I love going out only to go play basketball on a court,go to the cinema,eat on a restaurant/pizzeria or generally do something physically active. Anything else is too much of a drama for me or pointless in any way. And im only 27.
It's winter now but that's all i did this summer, I played basketball every day, went for a finishing run, etc. It is even worse in canada, i don't know where you from but here, it is just not worth it.
@neoreign I'm from Greece so the weather is good enough to go play on any day I want,except when it's windy or rainy. It's always better than going out drinking shit drinks and paying them expensive.
Super video bruh you are definitely spot on , I was on my way home and just knew I would never go out again I loss total interest I stay in and build my body..
If you do crave socialization , do it at home, drink at home .. have one or two friends and just enjoy the game or poker or cigar . No need to be out and about .
I hated cool when I was young. Everyone around me was chasing it. I wasn't. I avoided those people. I followed my own interests. As Morpheous would describe it. The closest to chasing cool I get, is living inside my own residual self image.
I don't go out at night. Gyms, cafes..food shopping or the thrift stores. Ect. I'm alone but I am never lonely. Women don't want me. Because it's always a real let down. So not only do I feel like sht...but I feel worse the next day. So now that I'm doing what I do.. Happy. Or at least Content.
I like going to the magazine section of my nearby library, so I can read up on different interesting things that I see in those magazines. While in the library I see other women, but to me they are just a distraction, I don't pay much attention to them as I know they don't even know I exist. I'm happy being alone without such a woman in my life.
I stopped and realized that planning to go never goes well, especially when others ditch you or want to cause mayhem in public. Now my evenings consist of TV watching and video games.
Everything is too expensive and you don’t get value for it. Driving is a nightmare and you’ll get ticketed for nothing regardless if a crimes was committed or not, once in a crowded area, you might get mugged or drugged or accused of something you didn’t do. This society sucks too bad.
Glad my getting royally f’d up warehouse project and club days are over.. happy it happened when it was still a good and inexpensive experience and had the option, unlike now…but glad it’s over.
Thank you for this video, I was about to blow some money and go to Toronto for New Years and I am not doing that anymore, I'll stay at home at the comfort and safety of my own domain, thank you and thanks RUclips for recommending this video to me on this day.
never got the ppoint of going out, getting wasted. never. i did it until i was 19. it was fun. it was what it was back in the early naughties. but i always prefered to go for a walk, practice music, sitting in the garden. all by myself.
I wish I spent more time at home or engaged in my current pastimes rather than "going out" as I did from age 18 to 25. What a waste of time, money and health that was.
I stay home because it is where I would rather be. It is also safer for me. There is zero chance that I will have some short guy with a chip on his shoulder try to pick a fight with me (it happens quite a bit). There is zero chance of a woman using me for free drinks or food. It costs me nothing and the commute can't be beat. I also have zero interest in socializing with anyone. TBH other than my kids I don't like people and would rather be around them as little as possible (people, not my kids lol ). I've spent my life being told how it is MY responsibility and obligation to care for everyone one all while these same people tell me how selfish I am when I insist on the same care being brought my way. So now I say "Stuff it. You're on your own" and my life is finally mine.
I went out last night and the city's pubs and bars were full of the usual Christmas jumper thugs. I don't drink alcohol, but I wanted to meet friends I'd not seen in ages. Last week I went to see a Queen tribute band by myself in a rural town about 30 miles away, what a night, and no arseholes. Sadly, gone are the days where door security would deny entry to a bar/club if someone was visibly intoxicated.
The walking dead was a metaphor for the world today. When you leave your home its zombies everywhere. So what i have done is created a home that is like a vacation resort. This way when im at home, i feel like im on vacation. I have 2 freezers packed with the highest quality elk, venison, trout, bison and enough dry foods to sit at home for months and not go hungry. I have everything i need if the grid were to shut down and have no electricity to have electricity and live just as if the grid wasnt down. And to keep from ever getting bored i play guitar, take care of over 100 house plants, garden im season, and have 2 cats that entertain me far more then humans. Im alone most of the time and absolutely love it. The irony is i could probably have any woman i want. Im 51 with the body of a 21 year old athlete but when a man reaches a certain level of self love and self mastery, he no longers desires a woman in his life. Women.are for needy, weak men who have no self respect and need basically a pacifier and a woman to change his diaper when he gets lonely and needs a woman.(whose only using him) to fill that void he hasnt learned to fill himself. I highly suggest every man make his home a vacation resort and i know most of yous wont stay away from women because you'll never outgrow the pacifier but to each his own as long as shes loyal to you
I wish I had heard this earlier in life. I've always been one who gravitates towards solitude and doing my own thing but was always made to feel like something was wrong with me and that I wasn't living my life correctly unless I was out chasing girls..
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Yee dude with that face you better stay inside, there's nothing for you outside
I'm 58 and never been married. whenever I would introduce a woman into my life, my peace and serenity always turned into chaos and drama. Being single is freedom. The only chaos I have in my life is what's going through my head.
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53 here, never married, and feel just like you. I have Great peace in my life too.
It's strange, isn't it? It's almost as if peace is scary to them, chaos is what they seem to be the most comfortable with...not me.
The key for men, I believe is to manage fomo. You don't have to go out every night, you don't have to always make the scene..you can choose when you engage.
Another key is to not be accessible at all times; you can let your closest friends know where you live and that's it. The more people that know where you live, the more that people will interrupt you and your solitude.
Trust and believe, that many people are entitled and they believe they are entitled to your time at all times.
I had to learn all of these things.
Now I jealously guard my peace, quiet, and freedom. The reward is reflection and serenity.
Best wishes for you and your life and continued peace.
I hear you I was out on Saturday evening the friend and I shared the tabs on the evening.. But definitely exspensive and it was just an OK time.. The music wasn't my personal taste.. As it's the festive season vibe I thought there would be more people out.. It actually wasn't as busy
They cannot act another way. That's their nature. Chais is feminine, order is masculine.
The dumbest night of the year approaches - New Years. Stay strong, kings, and stay home...
That was the best line of it all - I felt this way my entire life about new years and I am very social person
Overpriced and over crowded.
Yes! After being married for 15 years now divorced 5 years. Staying home and going to bed early is very peaceful and tranquil.
Cannot wait to stay in and watch the drama unfold on social media.
I agree . I worked New Year’s Eve , then had next two days off, which was better, than going out on new year’s eve
I have everything I want within my four walls. I hate it when there is a knock at the door. I don't answer it. I'm happy to have a mutual disconnect with the crap outside.
I haven't answered a phone call from an unrecognizable number in 30 years.
I don't answer either and I ask people to call before showing up unannounced.
No call no answer.
Showing up unannounced is rude and intrusive.
F*ck yeah🍻
I’m the same way. I have a nice old house in the country that I’m renovating and a hunting dog and that’s all I need. Yes two feral cats too. When I get on dating apps, I never wanna go on dates with any of these women because they’re so greedy. Stay strong brothers. I don’t answer the door either. That’s so funny you said that.
Get more dogs! 😅@@ridiculousnessineveryway191
Used to be a bartender. I quit, and stopped going out to bars 3 years ago. Don't miss it at all.
Oh tell me what made you quit?
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 the lifestyle of all of it was exhausting. Physically, and mentally. Bartenders get women thrown at us constantly, but even that got boring. Broken trash for the most part. I built a lifestyle of peace now, and I protect that.
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 Exhaustion, physically and mentally. I decided to create a lifestyle of peace, quiet, drug free, and defend it with everything. Also, women throw themselves at bartenders, there's no shortage of them, but even that got boring. Its like a competition to them, superficial, and just left me with the impression - "This is what you want for your life? You're too dumb to even b@ng".
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 Exhaustion, physically and mentally. Decided to leave the party and create a life of peace and depth with myself. There's no shortage of women being a bartender, but even that got boring - superficial, same face, different name. Left me with the impression of them "This is what you want for your life? You're d*mb".
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 I've tried 4 times to tell you, but youtube wont let me post it for some reason. I'll try again tomorrow.
They used to call me a hermit when I was in school. I've always preferred my own company.
Yeah, but young females dont like beta males
Wise men all end up as hermits … 😎
Nothing feels better than ordering a pizza at home, watching a movie then falling asleep. No female drama to deal with
You are all FINALLY coming around to realize what I have known for the last 20 years. Society ain't worth it. Women aren't worth it. Stay home, do your own thing and enjoy your peace and tranquility. Going out is a waste of time and money. People simply aren't worth the aggravation.
I just turned 40 and i recently got out of a 3 year relationship with the most mentally ill and toxic woman ive ever known. I now know that I suffered severe emotional abuse from this woman and now that im finally alone again, i realize that i no longer care about women or socializing anymore. The one thing i never had before was peace so now i prefer to relax at home after work with my pets....where i actually receive unconditional love. And now, i will finally spend money on myself instead of some woman.
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Wise choice. I suggest you go to therapy to get over the toxic relationship you left.
Socializing can be a chore. It costs a lot too.
Yes it's a waste of time and energy. There are much better things to do.
Socializing and connecting with intelligent non-biased and open to life people can be a blessing and it's really what life is about. Unfortunately this is becoming more and more of a fantasy
Depends on how you frame it perhaps. I often have intelligent discussions online.
I currently have 3 types of social experiences:
(1) general chat and discussions with good friends (I mainly have 1 chat friend and 1 e-mail friend)
(2) RUclips/SoMe comments and similar
(3) more personal convos, like phone with mother
I don't really like face-to-face convos usually because they're more infested with stilted, artificial communication, but it can be nice to have a multi-hour face-to-face chat with an intelligent and nuanced person. I just don't feel the need personally tho -- at least most of the time I don't.
Sometimes I do however want to meet a woman and have long conversations with her and get to know her, but at best I'd fall into another vagina trap, so it's kind of a silly idea. The idea of a woman who combines soft female behavior with a good intellect is alluring (and probably dangerous anyway).
i don't need the attention and validation like i did in my early 20s/30s. Also it got me nowhere, it is all fake.
Well said
Socializing is just a nice way of saying "engaging in herd behavior". You never find wise men in crowds.
I am 55 and married about 10.
However as soon as I talk to others I am disappointed. No critial thinking. Only world critics, no soloution for life. My wife is Thai. So I do not have to deal with the same western expectations. It is not for everybody and I think the same with marriage.
@@Valen-xu2wylotta smart men have to find their own individual path and perform some crazy moves to stay sane in this upside down sociey
NEVER👌🏾!
I can never get enough of my humble abode!
Staying at home as a Man shows many high level traits. It shows that you are confident in yourself, comfortable with yourself, that you are supremely self-confident, and to need no one to give you self- validation, or attention. It shows that you are a thinker, it shows stoicism, it shows that you do not need to follow trends, or whatever the rest of the mainstream so city is doing. It shows complete independence. These restraints that modern society shuns, and has long ago lost its value for them. And, any person who looks down upon this as being a hermit, anti-social, a loser, a loner, or whatever other subterfuge they think, it shows how shallow they truly are.
I am especially speaking to you young Men out there. Do not let this warped mainstream society cause you to cast negative thoughts upon your self. I am speaking for myself too. I am 59 yoa, and of the old guard. You Boys stay strong, and look out for yourselves.
Or just a miserable git
Help me out. What is a git?!
@@williamconrad6561😂
At 58 yrs old in nyc and did time in the U.S. Army in the 80s. I was a sex crazed attic. All the money i spent on clothes,cars ,alcohol all that nonsense is not worth it. You young guys be greatful you have this valuable info. Us gen x ers learned the hardway. Good luck fellas. Save your money youll be glad you did once you get my age. Peace to all.God bless
Young guys are definitely not lucky. Things have gotten continually worse. Things were still good until about 2008. (Socially and Economically).
Being 38 in 2004 would have been a dream.
Being 28 in 1994 would have been paradise.
Chaos has spread on Earth. Times have changed. Brace yourselves for impact
@@BruizerBlue Yes it was. The mature women in 2004 were very fine, I tell you. Women born in 1949-50 have often been my favourites. Good looking, healthy, no feminists. Now women are vegan, are tatooed. No beauty. What got into them???
@@BruizerBlueNot in Romania where in the 90s you had 200%+ inflation. And everything was so dirty. I'm glad I was a child then to not perceive it. Plus good quality music for children like eurodance.
I too was a sex crazed party animal. I'm done with it now and realise how fake it really is
Not going out is how l lost my wife of 20 years. As a man l was happy to unwind at home, but not her. She kept pushing and l kept saying no. Now shes gone. Well at least l have my peace and quiet now.
I've been called "boring" because I don't smoke, drink, do drugs or go to bars. I don't do social media and I'm very introverted. The comment came from someone who's addicted to social media.
So what do you do then? I don't really do any of those things either
Same I do none of those . I have many hobbies /goals . I study my languages , read books , play games here and there , workout, movies every now and then , watch movies , study as I’m in school… there’s a lot to do . No social media , no girls for headaches , it’s peaceful .
You are doing the right thing bro who cares what they all think , They are just jealous of you .
I did a lot of pubs and clubbing in my younger days , and I didn’t much like it back then , it was peer pressure I suppose , I have no interest in socialising now in expensive pubs with fake people .
We are the same. I spent my 20s going out, now i am 44 i spend all my spare time in the gym and in my own flat reading books, watching youtube. I will be mortgage free within 8 months. I dont even date, i dont eat out,i go on vacations 3 times a year thats all.
Well played
I'm older but do the same thing. I have a dog though.
Why did you go out to lose your time on strangers ?
Same here. Im 37 and done with womens & the fake society.
I just got back from going out tonight, Columbia SC. Lots of single women all in groups talking to each other. Many of them were married and looking miserable. They seem to just want " validation", just like in a dating app. The hive mind is the New normal.
Home 🏠 is where his ❤ heart is.
I totally get all of this now I’m 52. Absolutely spot on. I’m single & live in peace. Work place is full of toxic narcissistic types & back stabbers & total tosspots.
So glad to get home to peace & quiet.
@@gtporschers especially if it is white collar , its a cesspit of corporate climbers who will stop at nothing to get that promotion or raise by screwing anyone over who comes in their way.
Haven’t heard “tosspots” for a while … 😂
There is nothing like having a deep meaningful conversation with a woman. That’s why I love being single
Im 57 and single work third shift. I love the quiet of my house and my cats. No interest in others.
I am 22 going on 23 in march I have given up alcohol this year and have become a full time gym goer best thing I have ever done in my life
This is me now, I agree with all the comments, for a long time I thought I was the odd one. Women's role these days seems to be to first contradict me and then confuse me. The more I learn about people the more I like my cat Hamish, cheers.
I've been feeling all of this for the last 30 years, at least. I've always been painted as negative/boring, etc, because of it. It's good to know, I just cottoned on early, and I'm not the only one that feels this way about all this stuff. Thank you.
This might be a touchy one, but I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic: Adults who go out and get plastered for their birthdays.
I’m of the mentality that an adult shouldn’t be celebrating their birthday. I never liked celebrating my own. Always felt awkward. But that’s another can of worms I’d rather keep shut for now.
But adults going out and getting belligerent drunk because they were born that day? It’s got to be one of the lowest common denominator activities I’ve ever seen.
Keep up the good work, mate.
@@Men_of_Tomorrow ugh ! , nothing worse than being around drunk people.
On the topic of adults celebrating birthdays, I stopped giving a shit about celebrating my birthday when I turned 30. After that, I started treating my birthday as just another day.
My family cares a great deal about it, but, I don't.
"Adults"?
I was born between Christmas and New Year's so my birthday was always forgotten and/or simply not celebrated when I was a child. That carried over to my adult life. I haven't actually celebrated a birthday since I was 21 (42 now).
Anyway, your statement about adults getting drunk on their birthday being a trashy behavior seems true. Those same people always exhibit a plethora of other trashy behaviors on every other day of the year.
I could care less about my birthday. When I turned 16, I didn't care anymore, and don't like the attention now. I have never been drunk, and think it is stupid to live that way.
Back in my 20's, I tried going out, socializing, and possibly meeting a lady. Not happening. I was, and am, on the skinny side. The ladies would look at me, roll their eyes, and look elsewhere. Certainly not at me, nor my direction.
I took a break, then tried later in life. Now what did I find? Divorced women with children, and even a bigger anti male attitude. Especially towards me.
Why was that? Well, these divorced women were looking for divorced males. A single, never married male? What was wrong with me? Did I just spend the last 10-15-20 years in jail or prison?
I hear you brother. It's no better here across the pond either.
I'm 66, been there, seen it, done it ... family and friends all died, made new friends and they all died ... now life has become way too expensive, complicated, and dangerous = as a result I'm trapped in a perpetual recurring 'Twilight Zone' nightmare (watch the series) and the only way out is death - and the Reaper can't get here soon enough !
You can NEVER put a price on ☮️ peace because peace is priceless.
Only bachelors living alone truly know peace … 🎉
@ma3stro681 I here you and I see you and for the MOST part agreed no doubt about it no doubt.
The problem is when you go out to have peace. There always someone wants to provoke you don't know them never seen them before.
So at the end you wish you stayed at home.
We men like healthy routine and the stability and peace that comes with it. Many, if not most women, on the other hand, abhor routine and predictability. Therefore, they'll create drama and/or conflict out of nowhere to self-stimulate, sometimes to the point of destroying relationships. While I love my family and friends, I find being around people for long periods draining. The larger the crowd, the more draining. Worst of all, however, for me, is living with a woman, constantly wondering if your keeping her entertained enough to secure her loyalty. I'm in my 60's, single, retired and like who I've become. I live alone and enjoy my own company, take care of myself and find my solitary hobbies/activities very enjoyable...and many of them don't cost a dime. IMHO, once you realize buying things doesn't make you happy (something in which many females are sorely lacking) the world is your oyster.
I used to be out in my out in my 20's, spent my 30's with my now ex partner, divorced just before my 40th, went back out for a year or 2, when did some many people become A-holes? So my 40s to 50s, i just prefer to get home, chill out, watch something on TV, I don't drink much the odd single malt whiskey from time to time, before another 10 to 11 hour shift at work, 6 days per week. I am not seeking a partner as I would rather be left alone in peace and quiet.
Well said!
My man If I would work 10 to 11h 6 days a week then look out fora partner is the last thing i would really want!😂 You dont even have time for that!
There's a lot of elements to this. When i was in my 20's and 30's i loved going out chasing women, but the game has changed a lot. Most women don't seem to like to being approached now, so a lot of interactions are based on social media or apps. I feel for younger guys these days who wont experience what we did in bars and clubs. When you get older you leave all that shit behind and prefer your own company.
I gave up alcohol during the first U.K. lockdown. I don’t miss it at all. Too many women are wine alcoholics and once you stop drinking, drunk women are tiresome to be around.
Same here, not touched a drop in three years. I do go out a couple of times a month with a mate, I prefer gigs and concerts, I'm then spared the usual "whhhyyyy arrrrrreeernnn't yooooou driiinnkkkiing" crap I get from extremely intoxicated British women out in bars.
I'm divorced and can't help but notice that a lot of women, both working and middle class, are looking for a drinking buddy and not a meaningful relationship.
Every word is so accurate of my day-to-day life. Peace is everything to me.
In London I go out for walks to enjoy the architecture.
Yes!! I do that a lot (I recently moved to Twickenham from the Midlands). Amazing architecture in London, esp around the centre. A lot of people just walk past and don't take notice, but I love it! Personally, I don't take any pictures as I enjoy seeing the real thing!
Most are choosing to pay rent,car payment,and buy groceries.
Even when i was at my 20s and going to bars more than half times were waste of time , money and reduce of health. I'm 42 now.
Bars are money-leeching devices for hive-minded individuals with no imagination
I am done wasting my time with people who do not have my mindset or similar goals. I wasted so much time with people who just later on discard me like nothing despite not even being on bad terms. I've had uncles, cousins, friends, and my former best friend/girl friend all discard me like trash for no reason other than they got "bored" of me or they didnt get what they want. Wasted so much time, money, and energy on these people that I am done doing things for people. If it doesnt serve me and my purpose to hell with them/that!
I've always been a reclusive person. ever since I was in my early 20's. never really cared for night clubs, bars or got interested in picking up bad habits. the only time I enjoy going out. is when I'm hanging out with a good friend from work, stopping by my local coin shop to buy precious metals for my hobby. I also enjoy my peace too much, making currency to build up my bank accounts and trying to stay in shape.
2020 changed the world my friend , I hate going out nowadays (I’m not that old mid 30’s) high streets being deliberately destroyed and the nightlife industry crumbling didn’t help. Glad I lived my late teens and 20’s the way I did , but these youngens coming up will never get the chance to
I'm 37 I think all those lock downs did a number on humanity
I agree. I used to love going out into the CBD on the weekend. Couldn’t think of anything worse, now. Nowadays, a quick dinner down the local pub a kilometre and a half away at six and home by eight-thirty is a big night.
So true about hangovers. When not having a hangover trumps the party the night before, quitting drinking is pretty easy … 🎉
I'm 49, and I used to go out all the time. I quit drinking a few years ago, and I stay home and chill now. I could care less about going out.
I agree with you 100%. I’ve just turned 35 and hit the wall on going out, it has been wearing thin for some years now. I’m reflecting on the money I spent in a couple of months (and years) of partying in the summer it just seems a waste although I’ve plenty of stories and experiences from it. For months now I have barely touched alcohol or drugs and have saved a fortune, feel healthier, more grounded and the brain fog is lifting. I see it like I save £100 a night not going out and feel great the next morning. I sit home with clarity and peace, feeling more content and excited for what I can now create in the future!
Also started on calisthenics this year and I started too become more distant from people who drink and use substances and this channel i watch everyday love your videos keep them up
The REAL reason why he chooses to STAY at home 🏡 is simple because it's his place of ☮️ peace nothing more and nothing less.
Call for me when the weather is nice. I’ll go after dinner on Friday night and go by myself but the rest of the time I’m here at home enjoying peace, quieter, or watch a video or this music playing instruments. You know I have other other things I can do to occupy my time you knowface clean you know just different small things but most the time I stick to myself and it’s peaceful and quiet no stress I go to work when I do have work to do. I don’t have any right now but when I have work to do I sleep.
My former friends gave me a nick Ghost, since I vanished into the night one day, and no one heard from me for over 12 years, my online presence is more than scarce, and I didn't regretted that decision at all! Sold my apartment at the city, and bought a cabin-like place in the high elevation, surrounded by nature and forest, and I created Vatikan-like state, within a state :) With my rules, and my own moral code, which sometimes didn't overlap with society rules, but even the law leaves me alone, since I'm not hurting anyone, and unlike in the city, I found myself a job that I love, by accident, I working off some debt, and ended up being their go-to guy for everything, for a decade now! I interact with females, but am VERY selective, like deep meaningful conversation more important than anything, and that doesn't happen every day, sadly, sometimes years pass
Im a girl,but I agree with you. Society is stupid now. I think all the people with common sense stay home and the crazy one are out. I think except work is better to avoid people, many are just a waste of time and money
You have hit the nails on the head once more, i love my peace and quiet!
Society is crap !!
FACTS
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@@handsomeX IM MAKING FUTURE PLANS TO LIVE IN ASIA FULL TIME. I CANT STAND NORTH AMERICA FOR MANY REASONS. THE BEST YEARS OF MY LIFE WASTED HERE
I only go out if i know i NEED to go out and i keep it just strictly business.
True words,you come to relise this once you hit middle age
I never went to bars. What is there to do ? Video games are infinitely better.
I love going out only to go play basketball on a court,go to the cinema,eat on a restaurant/pizzeria or generally do something physically active. Anything else is too much of a drama for me or pointless in any way. And im only 27.
It's winter now but that's all i did this summer, I played basketball every day, went for a finishing run, etc. It is even worse in canada, i don't know where you from but here, it is just not worth it.
@neoreign I'm from Greece so the weather is good enough to go play on any day I want,except when it's windy or rainy. It's always better than going out drinking shit drinks and paying them expensive.
Super video bruh you are definitely spot on , I was on my way home and just knew I would never go out again I loss total interest I stay in and build my body..
My buddy knocked up a nightmare woman. It’s literally made me celibate. I’m terrified of sleeping with anyone now.
Condoms bro, thank me later
@@Knights189nah, he's right. Just go monk altogether. Let this society fall
That’s why I got a vasectomy
This is world-wide. Cheers!
Absolutely correct without any questions. No drama_____
If you do crave socialization , do it at home, drink at home .. have one or two friends and just enjoy the game or poker or cigar . No need to be out and about .
My nights out involve long motorcycle rides to Bateman's bay and Narooma on the Nsw south coast, I went to a nightclub once and hated it.
I relate 100%
I live in america its absolutley horrible how stupid people actually are out here screw this lame society
Unbelievable how relatable this is.
I hated cool when I was young. Everyone around me was chasing it.
I wasn't. I avoided those people. I followed my own interests.
As Morpheous would describe it.
The closest to chasing cool I get, is living inside my own residual self image.
I don't go out at night. Gyms, cafes..food shopping or the thrift stores. Ect.
I'm alone but I am never lonely.
Women don't want me. Because it's always a real let down. So not only do I feel like sht...but I feel worse the next day.
So now that I'm doing what I do.. Happy. Or at least Content.
I used to stay gone in my 20s. I don't think the engine in my car ever cooled off for about 12 years.
I like going to the magazine section of my nearby library, so I can read up on different interesting things that I see in those magazines. While in the library I see other women, but to me they are just a distraction, I don't pay much attention to them as I know they don't even know I exist. I'm happy being alone without such a woman in my life.
I stopped and realized that planning to go never goes well, especially when others ditch you or want to cause mayhem in public. Now my evenings consist of TV watching and video games.
@@brandonperkins176 living to the fullest in 2024. This crappy society doesn't leave much other choice
Good to hear someone saying much of what I've always thought. Wouldn't mind being out if the people were decent quality but most of them eint.
With maturity comes sensibility.
Im 49 years old I keep to myself and work and live a simple life...I have no time for games.
Everything is too expensive and you don’t get value for it. Driving is a nightmare and you’ll get ticketed for nothing regardless if a crimes was committed or not, once in a crowded area, you might get mugged or drugged or accused of something you didn’t do.
This society sucks too bad.
I was scared to think what you've put into words. Thank you.
I love being a hermit
It's expensive, women are flaky, and it's draining
Right. What's the use of compulsive socializing nowadays?
Sir, you have just put into words exactly how i feel. Thank you.
Glad my getting royally f’d up warehouse project and club days are over.. happy it happened when it was still a good and inexpensive experience and had the option, unlike now…but glad it’s over.
I found going sober to spur more energy to want to get outdoors more. Still often solitude but the boosted aspiration is undeniable.
I come home after work, cook a nice meal, watch sports or play Xbox to unwind I don’t wanna be around people except when I’m at work
Thank you for this video, I was about to blow some money and go to Toronto for New Years and I am not doing that anymore, I'll stay at home at the comfort and safety of my own domain, thank you and thanks RUclips for recommending this video to me on this day.
So very very true 😊
never got the ppoint of going out, getting wasted. never. i did it until i was 19. it was fun. it was what it was back in the early naughties. but i always prefered to go for a walk, practice music, sitting in the garden. all by myself.
This message is endorsed 150% by this 49-year old Kenyan 🇰🇪 Never married, no kids, missing out on nothing.
Well spoken word to the Wise 😅
Absolutely I'm with you, contentment is peace, 👍
I'm 25 and been to a club only once and hated it
Never been myself, but seems like a bogus place.
@FullUhFools not my scene anyway some like them but I like peace and quiet
I was a stockman, then a soldier. Both of those 'jobs' meant many months out bush, no females, no distractions.
This channel is gold. Thank you 🙌🙌
Glad you enjoy it!
True
I wish I spent more time at home or engaged in my current pastimes rather than "going out" as I did from age 18 to 25. What a waste of time, money and health that was.
I stay home because it is where I would rather be. It is also safer for me. There is zero chance that I will have some short guy with a chip on his shoulder try to pick a fight with me (it happens quite a bit). There is zero chance of a woman using me for free drinks or food. It costs me nothing and the commute can't be beat. I also have zero interest in socializing with anyone. TBH other than my kids I don't like people and would rather be around them as little as possible (people, not my kids lol ). I've spent my life being told how it is MY responsibility and obligation to care for everyone one all while these same people tell me how selfish I am when I insist on the same care being brought my way. So now I say "Stuff it. You're on your own" and my life is finally mine.
I went out last night and the city's pubs and bars were full of the usual Christmas jumper thugs. I don't drink alcohol, but I wanted to meet friends I'd not seen in ages.
Last week I went to see a Queen tribute band by myself in a rural town about 30 miles away, what a night, and no arseholes.
Sadly, gone are the days where door security would deny entry to a bar/club if someone was visibly intoxicated.
Nice video keep up the good videos. Peace mind is what us men need 😊
I feel like he is describing my life
A solo hiking trip works out best for me 🥾⛰️
The walking dead was a metaphor for the world today. When you leave your home its zombies everywhere. So what i have done is created a home that is like a vacation resort. This way when im at home, i feel like im on vacation. I have 2 freezers packed with the highest quality elk, venison, trout, bison and enough dry foods to sit at home for months and not go hungry. I have everything i need if the grid were to shut down and have no electricity to have electricity and live just as if the grid wasnt down. And to keep from ever getting bored i play guitar, take care of over 100 house plants, garden im season, and have 2 cats that entertain me far more then humans. Im alone most of the time and absolutely love it. The irony is i could probably have any woman i want. Im 51 with the body of a 21 year old athlete but when a man reaches a certain level of self love and self mastery, he no longers desires a woman in his life. Women.are for needy, weak men who have no self respect and need basically a pacifier and a woman to change his diaper when he gets lonely and needs a woman.(whose only using him) to fill that void he hasnt learned to fill himself. I highly suggest every man make his home a vacation resort and i know most of yous wont stay away from women because you'll never outgrow the pacifier but to each his own as long as shes loyal to you
Thanks for speaking the truth king, added you to my playlist “Fight Back Against The Matrix” ⚡️👊🏻⚡️
I wish I had heard this earlier in life. I've always been one who gravitates towards solitude and doing my own thing but was always made to feel like something was wrong with me and that I wasn't living my life correctly unless I was out chasing girls..