Making Metal Friends
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- Опубликовано: 22 авг 2024
- In this video I discuss the possible downfalls of seeking only metalhead friends
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I think metalheads spotting other metalheads is like the equivalent of two dogs meeting each other and going " you are dog? I am dog to!"
One time at a convention I was wearing my battle jacket and this old 70yo grandma woman walked up to me and said "Heeell yeeaaa pan-a-fuckin-tera! 🤘"
That woman is a LEGEND
She is everything i want to be some day
I've been a metalhead for 22 years and none of my closest friends are metalheads. Friendship is a lot more complex than just sharing a common taste in music.
If you downplay a taste in music as "just music" then yes. But we all know it's much deeper than that, it's emotions, thinking, intelligence even very often, among other things. All friends I made through music, I have A LOT more in common with them than just music, but music was the catalyst. Pretty much everyone else I've met in life that doesn't share my taste in music, let's just say the relationships are just not as important or "deep" so to speak.
I've been a Metalhead since the 70s
@@MoonOvIce I didn't downplay music at all. I said that "friendship is a lot more complex than just sharing a common taste in music", I didn't say "just music" :) And what I meant by that is music by itself can't be the only common denominator in a friendship. Can music be a beginning of a friendship? Of course. I just shared my own experience. With that being said I'm happy that you've made friends through music :)
Salo-You meant you have been a Rocker since the 1970s then turn Metal in the early 1980.
Need fucking Metal to be a Metahead,no?
In my opinion what's really matter it's that your friends accept you and like you the way you are, that speaks very well about them. My friends in the last 15+ years are the same everyone respect each other's way of life. My old Metalhead friends from my old neighborhood were totally the opposite.
Something that sucks with "non-metal" friends is that when you're drinking or having a party you listen to their music the whole time (don't get me wrong, i listen and enjoy all kinds of music).
But i would much rather blast some metal while drinking or hanging out, and its not possible if your friends are not into it.
You can do other fun stuff with metal friends, but you can't listen to metal with non-metal friends
Ikr, we metalheads have to listen to their music for hours and when you put on 1 metal song thats like only 4 minutes long, every single one of them will be like "turn of that horrible noise".
@@woetroe4573 Time to make some new friends -haha.
@@vesuviacorpseflower4828 exactly hahah
True! In my family, my brother will blast some trashy sound cloud rapper (which he is entitled to like) on a speaker for an hour and no one will complain, but when I put on something relatively mild like Dream Theatre, it’s all “what the fuck is this”?
@@evilemuempire9550 Unfortunately it's musical intelligence that they aren't used to hearing ("All those notes...is it really necessary???" -haha!!
True fact: We are Metalheads and listen to the same music but that doesn't mean we have the same opinions, the same life views, the same life goals, the same whatever. Humans are strange creatures so we have to learn to get along well with each other.
The worst
“Yeah man I love death metal”
“Really!!? What bands you into?”
“Bring me the horizon and shit bro”
I met some dude in college who was really into death and viking metal, I'm into thrash, but we got along great! However, I have met two other metalheads older than me, they were jerks.
I tend too agree. I enjoy a beer but spend more time being healthy ( gym & running) and being positive. I enjoy DSBM, Black metal, funeral Doom & Gothic Doom and most are surprised when they ask what type off music I like and I’m 45 yrs old🤣🤦♂️🤭
@@bdawg3942 what does age have to do with musical taste?
I thought it was just a phase and that we would just grow out off it 👍
@@bdawg3942 musical preference is a "phase"? How ignorant....
🙄 geez your special, haven’t you ever heard the saying “ it’s only a phase and you will grow out of it”?
Go away dawg
The best advice I’d give is do it naturally don’t force it, I was at college in my battle jacket a few years back and some other metalhead approaches me speaking about my jacket, the next day he brought his to college and we started listening to metal and eating chicken and drinking beers we became brothers ever since even to this day. Also along the way we ran into another guy getting into heavy metal and he eventually started a jacket and started hanging with us then from there we met another metalhead that we go with to gigs, we’re all from separate towns and meet up whenever we’re all free too. I never tried to make a friend group full of metalheads but over time it built up naturally and I’d recommend everyone doing it this way! Also remember being the lone wolf sometimes is just as badass 🤘🏻
34 years of being a metal head and no slowing down, it's a personal thing that I don't push on others. So, I have a mix of friends from all walks of life, ethnicities, sexual orientation, and they all like diverse types of music. That being said. I think there's an underlying link when you meet someone else that's into metal, an unspoken acknowledgement that you get it, that you understand it, and that you love it.
Having the same interests and hobbies is a plus but not the core of a great friendship. Your hobbies and interests dont define you, your choices define you.
I suppose that depends on the type of person. I would say the music I play and like, the lyrics I write, define me a lot more than my passing life of technology or most of my jobs or how I was as a student or co-worker, those things are very secondary to me.
the user name hahaha cool!
As a single female metalhead it's difficult. Most of my metalhead friends are internet friends, it's so hard to make metalhead friends in the wild. I usually go to shows alone and it's hard to talk people at shows and most people are already grouped together.
Sincerely,
Introverted metal head girl
I'm in the same boat. I go to shows alone as well
@@michipichi0 Me too
Same here
A couple days ago I found out one of my coworkers was a massive metal head,it was a slow day at my job and it was late at night so me and him talked about grindcore,darkthrone,mesarthim,author and punisher,repulsion,power trip etc for 40 or so minutes one of my other coworkers (who isn’t a metal head at all) also got involved in the conversation it was really cool to find “one of my own people “ at work
Love it when something like that happens. My favorite was when I was working alone (nightshift and colleague had vacation), so I had put up some metal. A technician entered my workplace and without missing a beat: "Ah, Amorphis... Under The Red Cloud?"... To me, that was pretty impressive, seeing how it was a bonus track but he was completely correct. A genuine cool guy overall already but that was very nice.
This is something I've been thinking about a lot in terms of dating. I like to have some common ground musically with people, but I don't like placing a lot of emphasis on it. The most I really want as far as music taste goes is just someone I can maintain a conversation with about the stuff and isn't the kind to be dismissive of that music I'm into because it's either unconventional, underground, or older.
When I was a freshman in high school, I met a group of metalheads but we didn’t really have any other common interests aside from that. Eventually I switched schools and in my sophomore year met another metalhead. This time we had a lot of the same interests and we’re still great friends to this day
Going to my first metal concert in August, I hope it's nice and I am able to meet more genuine metal heads. Most I've ever seen in one spot is like 3 in my small city.
Same! What band are you going to?
@@woetroe4573 august 5 I'm going to see Black Label Society, Hate breed, and Anthrax on tour
@@jackloves8008s nice BLS and anthrax I hope you have a blast!
@@SatanenPerkele yeah im gonna wear earplugs too. You mean the same earplugs you wear when riding a harley motorcycle right? Those orange or yellow ones?
@@woetroe4573 If you are looking for good ear plugs for music, I would recommend ear plugs specifically made for music... Not sure what earplugs you wear for riding a motorcycle but if they are throwaway, I would look for something else. I have music earplugs from Crescendo (bought a few years ago in Het Sportpaleis, Antwerp, just before Apocalyptica and Sabaton) and I believe I bought regular ones (you have regular for 20 euro and pro for 50 euro), though I'm not sure what size. Anyway, they are silicone earbuds, fit rather perfectly and the sound filter does an amazing job: the sound with them is incredible, background noise is mostly filtered out, the sound is clearer (less busy), my ears are protected and when the music isn't playing, I can have a conversation. No cord though but they don't fall out, no matter how abusive I treat my neck, so not that much of an issue. And in general, don't skim on ear protection, it isn't something you want to lose. (I know I don't).
I've been a metalhead for 13 years, and I've met many other metalheads that are douche bags.. they'll see my battle vest, and patches, or I'll be wearing a Archspire, Mastodon shirt etc.. and they'll see it, and they'll be wearing a Cryptopsy shirt or something, and they'll still ignore or pass by me. So I guess it was meant for me to be a metalhead to myself.. normies don't like me, and people who share the same thing don't like me.. I love talking about many things. Nature, mythology, science, history, Pokemon (I've been a Pokemon fan for 19 years), Horror, Cemeteries etc...
Metal is my life, and helps me function.
I'm scared to make friends who aren't into metal, because I know that they'll play their music around me and except me to like it, but then when I play my music around them (with zero expectations) they'll say I'm weird🤷♀️
none of my friends are metalheads but none of them are judgemental. we always poke fun of eachother but never mean it, just because someone isn't a metalhead doesn't mean they'll like you less or judge you for being one. don't be afraid to make friends that are different from you, as long as you have other common interests and get along well :)
My best friend and I bonded over our love of video games and movies.
I'm gradually converting him into a metalhead, he got Raise your Horns stuck in his head the other day.
But I've known the guy for 20 goddamned years, he's always been cool!
my junior year of high school, I moved across the country. I wore my emperor shirt the first day at my new school and I met a friend group that way, because a guy at lunch noticed my shirt and invited me to sit with them lol
You totally nailed it at 1:53 I’ve been a metal fan since the 80’s and I haven’t had a “metal friend” since I graduated from High School. So obviously black metal became my favorite type of metal.
It would just be nice to have someone to hang out and listen to metal and go to concerts with
Agree . I have many Friends but none likes metal . Some old black sabbath sn iron Maiden can do . But not more 😅
I wish I had metal friends. My friends think bon Jovi and linkin park is as heavy as it gets.
Try to get them into it gradually if you're going to bands like
Axe
Waysted
Riggs
Motorhead
More
Rage *British band*
Holocaust '80s metal band
Iron maiden
Rainbow
Van Halen
Judas priest
Metallica
Metal Church
Anthrax
Overkill
Slayer!
Pantera
Testament
And then just let them go off on their own. That's how it happened to me.
@@thephoenixhasflown The thing is, metal music is usually either passed down from someone else, or discovered by the very curious (whom often, tend to be auto-didacts in a lot of subjects, science, philosophy, or what have you). If you have to "look something up", a lot of people give up really early on.
@@MoonOvIce I was actually around for the tail end of when they would sometimes play metal on the radio not hard classic rock, metal. Not a day goes by that I don't miss that great God of the airwaves. Godspeed.
@@thephoenixhasflown I tried getting one of them into KISS, and even offered him a free ticket to a KISS concert in Tampa. He passed saying he only knew one song. He mised an opportunity of a lifetime.
@@aleisterlavey1001 uh, oh.
I've never been the type of person who's looking for metalhead friends. I have this one friend who talks about metal most of the time and it gets really boring very quickly. That's why we don't see each other much nowadays.
And my best friend doesn't even like metal or rock much. Few bands (Sabaton, Amaranthe and Papa Roach from what I remember). We're just couple of goofballs that like roadtrips, travelling in general and talking about whatever comes to our minds. She's an awesome person.
I'm usually the only metalhead if we're going somewhere as a group anyway. I don't give a damn about my friends' music taste, I like them because they are what they are.
This actually got me thinking of a few things, in comparison to what you explained about jerk offs who attack your love for metal in one of your previous videos and trying to find a metal head friend as you explained here I've faced those things before as well and realised that having the same interests doesn't necessarily mean getting along and I've met a few people sharing interests in metal who at first seemed nice but then turned out to be jerk offs
I'm too black metal for having friends. Having friends isn't black metal lol
Haha!! What's the old Norwegian saying???..."No friends, no trends, no mosh" (something like that -ha).
‘No fun, no mosh, no core, no trends’
@@elisabethbetts2669 Ahh that's it!! Narrow-minded as hell...but I kinda get it too (especially the 'no core' part -ha). *with exceptions of course.
@@vesuviacorpseflower4828 people are only friends if they want something, it’s human nature. For a true friend, dogs are the best imo
@@elisabethbetts2669 I don't trust dogs actually...you're talking to a cat-person (haha). My Dad's side of the family have never liked dogs for generations and it was passed onto me. I like your profile pic though!! My girl and I try to take a walk in the woods every weekend...especially around sunset when the light pierces through the tree limbs!! It's so Type O Negative (ha).
when i was at middle school, high school in Thailand, there's not a single metalhead or even rocker at my school & i've been left isolated since i'm the only one in whole school. they listen to mainstream stuff like Drake while i'm the only one listen to Metallica (and i used to be so out of touch of pop / mainstream / chart music that i didn't know who Drake was).
I dont have many metal friends and my best friend and i are literally complete opposites she really likes cute stuff and she listens to pop music and in fact a lot of my friends are like that
I agree with you...Metal is a great way to meet people,but not the end all ,be all in a feiendship
The shirts and long hair always worked for me. It was harder when i went through a clean cut phase, but now im back.
Right on man! Could you imagine in a alternate universe there’s a metal language where people just say names of bands. Asking where to stop for lunch: “Gwar Septicflesh Mayhem, Tsjuder Kreator?” Dimmu Borgir Amon Amarth” I am fortunate enough to have a few full on metal heads and out bond continues to stay strong but what’s funny is my full on metal friends introduce me to their friends and they are like the ones you mentioned, bunch of stoner jerk offs with nothing in their future, so i just avoid them. Even my best friend since the third grade (we’re both in our early 20’s) I’ve introduced him to some of my music and that grew our bond stronger. Also, wanted to mention about the friends we make from meeting at shows, I’m still in touch with a couple but the majority I made were only temporary at the show and we never really got each other’s contacts. Just that short epic time of meeting someone new, hanging out for a bit can be really appreciated since that’ll probably be the last time you ever see them again. But it’s a cycle that happens over and over again. Stay awesome everyone!
1:06-1:16 Exactly! Just because your music is awesome doesn't mean you are.
I agree with you on this one. sure having the same taste in music is cool, but that shouldn't be the only thing you have in common.
the closer your friends are to you, the more you should have in common. might sound like a generalization, but in most cases its true.
I live in the Sacramento area and almost every metalhead and punks that I see at shows come off as pretty distant. Especially the girls. When the bands aren't playing they either zone out with their phones or huddle in tiny groups and drink heavily.
It's pretty rough being newly sober at 41 at shows and trying to strike up a convo with a cutie and being silently judged for not slamming shots.
Not only that, my only two friends are headcases. One had a drug induced meltdown and disappeared into the forest. And the other is an awkward idiot that gets very nervous around the ladies. Lol damn.
I don't necessarily look for metal friends, but for friends who are interested in music in generell. If you are really, and I mean really interested in music, you cant have a boring taste and you can maybe have jam sessions, and that's often a good start.
This video really hits home because I thought that being friends with people who dressed and listened to the same music as me would be great in middle school, however, they weren't really doing anything productive with their lives and were kind of depressing to hang around with. I regretted leaving my old friend group almost immediately and was grateful when they accepted me back with open arms. As someone who is a 4.0 student and loves cracking jokes, I wasn't able to find goths like me who actually cared about getting an education until high school and college. Nevertheless, it is important to remember that "normal" people can be just as badass and cool to hang with too. :)
You can care about education and not care about the system that much, not everything is black and white. In my teens I read A LOT but after highschool didn't want anything to do with formal education, taught myself programming and worked on that for about 7 years before deciding to actually make it official and go back to school, out of necessity mostly. I still read a lot of philosphy and other subjects, but met so many my age that had an "education" and their minds are basically stuck, never read anything either because school sucked the life out of them. It all depends on how people cope with things.
Goth is not Metal. You do know that, right? Do you even know what Goth music is or sounds like?
@@Anonymous-wb3nz Just because I'm goth and listen to goth music, does not mean that I have to limit myself to it. I also enjoy a large amount of metal, nu metal, hard rock, and punk as well. Being goth also does not limit who I am allowed to watch on RUclips or distinguish the difficulty I have found with making friends who are apart of my own subculture.
@@aliyahdobbs3225 do you even know what Goth music is?
@@thiscorrosion3843 YEEEEESSSS!!! I listen to a lot of goth music and bands like The Cure, Switchblade Symphony, Type O Negative, Sisters of Mercy, Lords of the New Church, etc.. However, I also enjoy a lot of metal music, hard rock, and just rock from the 80s and 70s as well. Just because I identify as a goth and listen to goth music, does not mean that I have to limit what other genres I can listen to as well. Listen to whatever moves you or speaks to you the most. 😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
I have recently lost a friend who had the exact same tastes in music I enjoy: black fucking metal. But that was the single one and only common ground we had. I didn’t know this guy from high school, his past or any of his background history. He was rather very introvert and mysterious. Enough said. That said I completely agree, you can never have a lasting friendship if it just hangs singularly on the music theme. It just doesn’t work that way.
Making friends who is also a Metalhead is great but I also like having friends who have different tastes in music like I’m friends with someone who loves kpop but also likes the same metal and rock bands as I do. I also like other things besides metal like I love anime, video games, and reading books and my other favorite genere of music is Lofi. If someone I’m having a conversation with also likes metal then that’s awesome but I also like hearing other people’s taste in music as well as their other interests. I also would love to go to a metal concert with people because I never been to one before.
I really enjoyed this video. It’s always great to meet other Metalheads but I always assume that they’ll be very different than me because that’s generally been the case. I tried my best to promote some Metal to my close friends along the years and it just never worked. Most people prefer what’s familiar to them and rarely ever expand from that. The adoption curve explains this pretty well. Most people just aren’t innovators and early adopters when it comes to music and that’s ok. I have many other interests and I’m ok with Metal not being an interest that I share with my friends, as frustrating as it can sometimes be.
All my friends are Metal fans, but Heavy Metal is not the only topic of every conversation with them.
We're also talking about video games, books and movies!
Album recommendation: The Slayerking - "Tetragrammaton"
🤘🏻STAY BRUTAL!🤘🏻
Not many metalheads in Perth ( WA), I definitely miss living in Scandinavia & Europe for metal pubs and constant gigs & festivals 😢.
My best friend isn't a metal guy at all, lol, he even makes fun of me for my music taste at times. Never gotten along with someone as much as I do with him, honestly.
Metal Singer here. Although I love having metalhead friends, but out of my friend circle, very few of them are metalheads and they're really amazing people to hang out with. I genuinely love being friends with people who are neutral to metal(don't like or hate metal). Most of my best friendships have been with people not into metal.
I’d love to make some metal head friends. None of my other friends like metal, and last year I moved down to Florida so I don’t really have people to go to shows with. I try to make friends at shows but mostly everybody is there with their friend or significant other so I find it hard to talk to them. I don’t think metal should be the only thing you have in common, but if it is, maybe you just go to shows with them and leave it at that or something. Also, I saw frozen soul yesterday, they were one of the openers for dying fetus! Great video.
Yeah I still have 2 close friends since high school & they're not metalheads, but now I do have a group of friends that we share love of music (and not just metal) but anything with guitar & drums.
Idk, I think sharing similar music taste goes a long way, as long as there's still respect & have each other's back.
Yeah, I think Varg proved thirty years ago that sharing similar music taste with someone won't automatically make you besties.
I’ve been a metalhead for 16 years and not all my friends are metalheads. Having a common interest in life is important than same taste in music.
I listen to so much metal everywhere that my best friend was like ( you know what, fuck it let me try what ever you're listening to ) He's a metal addict as much as me now, also all my friends like it too now, but not as much as homeboy🤘🤘🤘
I've heard it so many times but have never found out but what is the song in your intro?
Petition for there to be a Metal station on the radio like To say yes
This is the moistkritikal of metal
Just listened to the album you recommended..... absolutely love it
Great video 👍
Honestly, I don't care if my friends like metal or not. Although I try to look for at least one metal head friend, but that's very hard. I have a strong friendship with my friend that like she can bully my music and she lets me bully hers because we're that type of friends.
I search for friends mostly in metalheads, goths, punks, and even emos. It’s generally easier for me to get along with these types of people for me because of our common interests. That being said, if someone isn’t any of those things, it’s completely fine as long as they’re fun to hang out with. Some of my friends right now decided to shit on me for my taste in music, and they seem genuinely mad that I’m into metal. That to me is definitely grounds to stop being friends with somebody when it comes to not liking the same music.
I go to a metal show to mosh every month at the same place it's called mosh in a sanitorium and I have tons of metalhead friends nowadays and a couple months ago it helped me start my thrash metal band called speedburn I play lead guitar in the band
I have a range of friends that are different ages, some like metal music some don't. I manage to find common ground though. I just subbed to your channel! Great content btw! When's your birthday Metal Wolf? Just curious.
The one day I was in my usual metal bar waiting for a show. Usually the bar patrons hang out until shows start. One older lady stayed around, noticed my 61 49 patches on my jacket and said "The Crossroads". We struck up a conversation. It was awesome talking to her
my uncle met a VERY GOOD FRIEND for the metal! And my uncle made me a metalhead lml
You’re right but it is really nice to have friends that you can go to concerts and festivals with tough 😊👍🏻
No one going to comment on the sick Necrophobic shirt?😁🤘🏻
I unfortunately live in a town that legitimately has no metal scene. We have a bit of a punk scene but their awful people. And no metal. I've seen a few very beautiful girls who obviously like death metal come into my store. But they vanish. I've met some old metalheads but they vanish too. I really wanna find some people I can actually be around and have a good time (of course them be good people)
A lot of ppl with common music interests also have commonalities in other areas. I agree with all of what you’re saying but I do miss to be able to talk with someone about guitar playing or metal music in general on top of all the things you’ve mentioned. I live talking about religion and politics and ghosts and big foot. But I also like to talk about what’s going on in the metal scene. At age 40 it’s hard.
In my experience other metalheads are usually not the people I get along with. A lot of the metal I listen to has satanic or occult ideologies in which I actually adhere to and most metalheads Ive interacted with listen to the music but suppose the ideologies and for them it's usually just an image, so they are like posers to me. It's like that country song, they are songs about me and what I believe in and that's one of the main reasons I like certain metal bands, sure I like the instrumentation and I like metal that doesn't necessarily support my viewpoints, but I find that some people really lack understanding of the subject material that these bands write their music about. Like behemoth, I'm an avid reader of aleister Crowley, Israel regardie and Kenneth grant and there are tons of behemoth fans or black metal fans that hate Aliester Crowley and dont recognize the direct references to thelema.
As metalheads our numbers are dismal compared to non-metalheads. We are a rare breed of people. I have some metalhead friends that I never get to see or keep in contact with. Metal may not be our only common bond. We could talk about horror, science fiction, and suspense movies. Books, history, and politics. Unfortunately, most of my friends dislike metal. I wish more people would understand us but that is up to them! Everyone has a preference!
Me and my cousin love your vids keep rocking
I have metalheads friends, unfortunately I only have 2, the rest i don't speak to at all due to reasons but it's nice having people who like the same thing you do🤘
Edit: another ice black metal band would be called Imperial Crystalline Entombent
I used to try and priotize metal friends but as I got older it definitely made sense to not make our music tastes the main priority. I love my current friends, but I still listen to my music and rock some killer band shirts because they love me for being myself :)
I understand what you mean, but for me being into metal really does help with bonding into friendship. I do talk to others at work that aren't into metal, but they are not my friends. I don't go have a beer and hangout with them. Being into the same music honestly does help, cause if you're gonna hangout with me at my house it's Metal or nothing. Now I do have other conversations other than Metal bands with my friends, sometimes it's games, sports, or horror but it was the Metal that made us best friends. My dad has had the same friends for 40 years, it was the metal that bonded them. But again they don't always just talk metal they do in fact talk about other subjects. However, it was because of Metal that they all became best friends. I guess what I'm saying is, you can have other friends that aren't into Metal, but in the end they're Just Friends and not you're Best Bros to hangout with or travel to a Metal fest with.
The problem here seems to me what a person considers music to be. To me, and most metalheads I've met, music is almost spiritual (even though I'm not religious), it's art, it's above everything, it somehow explains everything and doesn't at the same time, it makes you question, it makes you feel, it gives you strength, hope or even knowledge. It is specially bonding when a lot of people that don't like it, happen to be extremely ignorant people that cannot get complex music (yes, I am aware there are very intelligent people out there that can pin-point exactly why they wouldn't like a type of music and with valid responses, but let's face it, that is not the majority of people in the world) or even listen to music at all.
If you just consider music "this one thing I like", the same way you like ice-cream or sports or some "fun" series on Netflix, then sure, bonding only over that seems extremely superficial.
I guess it depends on the value we put onto something. To me, metal music was a discovery that made me want to gain more knowledge and explore more about this weird world we live in, to question everything. Sure, there's a lot of idiots like on everything, and there are whole sub-genres that just want to "party" (though that in itself isn't bad), but I think metal is much more than that usually, and the fact that there are "no rules" makes it infinitely more interesting.
Don't really care about having "metal friends" but thanks to metal I feel a sense of community and of belonging.
For me its down to the person. What taste they have in music dosent matter to me . It would be cool to have a metalhead Friend , to go to concert and festivals with. Well it is what it is .
Usually metalheads who like the same bands will make great friends but of course it's not 100 percent. Also like you said I couldn't be friends with metalheads who had no goals in life and furthermore if they're real life Beavis/Butthead clones forget them. Also when I go to concerts that's when metalheads unite but sadly you only see those people on that one night.
Hey dude!! Loved the video. What’s the band on your shirt?
Well said . 👍
I'm just going to leave this: my wife is my best friend and shes not a metalhead at all. Our relationship is built on more important things such as our beliefs, values, and just the fact that we like spending time with each other. Aside from that, I have plenty of friends that are not metalheads but have been interested in the fact that I am and have asked questions out it. I also have other interests that I can connect with people such as movies, comics, and video games. Also, are there any fellow dog lovers here?
But there it is, maybe your taste in music is just another hobby for you, same as video games, movies and other things. That's fine, but not everyone thinks that way.
Ironically you and my husband would be best friends. You look just alike, own the same flags, and like the same horror movies. We live in Michigan and literally only have 1 true metal friend because we don't use drugs or do stupid shit.
I totally agree with you a good lasting friendship my best friend and I have alot more in common we love to cook shopping and ETC, im introducing her into more metal im getting her started with the bands that got me into metal she likes a few bands already so that's a start for her. hope you and I can be friends
I think this is a good video, especially for metalheads who are teens. I spent most of high school hanging out with mostly assholes becuase they were metalheads like me and I didn't really think I fit elsewhere. So I felt kinda stuck. Shared love of the genre definitely isn't everything.
I guess depends on the reason someone likes the music. Some metalheads like metal because it's "br00tal" and many of those are jerks, then there's intellectual reasons, emotional reasons, insecure reasons (a lot of interesting "weird" kids flock into metal too). Some of my best friends ever are metalheads, but I also met jerks of course.
I have been a metalhead since I was 12 years old. I've met some cool metalheads and some assholes who don't give a shit about any other but themselves. Most of my greatest friends who went to school with me aren't even metalheads. I used to have a huge grudge against preps, jocks, and popular kids but after meeting some who were nice, humble, kind, and respectful people I grew out of that mentality because I realized that there are assholes and bad people in almost every group of people. Hell, I even dated a preppy girl who liked me for who I am. So the thing is guys that don't befriend people for what they look, are into, or whatever, befriend them for who they are
I find that some can be gate keep-y. Not all, obviously. Back in my single days, talking with other single metal head dudes they seemed to be rather aggressive with their preferences..one got triggered at the mention of a certain Metallica album 😳 I am a melodic death metal girl but man his comment still took me aback dude brought it up himself too! Needless to say, my partner is 100% not into metal a single bit and that's absolutely okay. I remember I actually got some friends INTO metal because they were infact so open minded so we were even better friends than before. But yeah I am not in contact with them anymore because life and stuff but I still wish them the best. I totally wish I could find more metal head friends nowadays, music taste isn't everything but after a while it does get lonely that I don't have the ability to share a new metal release or recommendations and such.
I don't consider myself a metalhead but I have met a few in my life. Y'all remind me of gym bros, both can look intimidating but are some of the nicest people I've met.
It's like looking for other friends who are also heavily tattooed..
53 yr old metal head here. I have honestly never had metal head friends. Every single friend I've ever had in my entire life. I've never looked like a metal head and never dressed like one.
Man I wish I had metalhead friends. All my friends think metal is bad
Yes friendship is more complex!! I agree!!
We like the same music, and dress similarly… don’t mean we will click
and vice versa
we appear different, but somehow click
that’s how it’s been for me
I live in Los Angeles, where there’s lots of shows and heads around, but I don’t talk to them. At shows I’ll run into some I knew in high school, but we’re not exactly friends.
Agreed.
Making metal friends, let alone friends can be hard, in europe at least.
I don't care too much if we like the same bands or not, but their actual attitude instead.
Conclusion: metal or not, as long as you're cool. I'd rather be friends with a friendly non metalhead I can get on with than an unfriendly metalhead who I can't get on with.
Idc what music or stuff people are into. Will say though, my personal experience the greatest friends I’ve made were people who have a similar music taste. That’s just me though. But I won’t judge I’m willing to befriend anyone almost
I have a lot of friends who don't listen to metal and I'm good friends with and there is like 2 friends that listen to some metal but, it really just depends on the person if it would be a good friends ship or not even if you have same music taste
I like how he is soo nice even when he says "...go f yourself" We Canadians are special
I only want to make friends with Kjetil Vadir Haraldstad.
personally, I enjoy having some metalhead friends that will join me for concerts or festivals... Still - it takes a lot more to build a longlasting friendship than a common taste in music
Fuck metal, GRINDCORE RULES
I can't make metal friends because im the only metalhead at my school. Its sad as fuck.
Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mm, I get high with a little help from my friends
Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends.
I'm sure friends come in all different shapes &
Sizes.
Seeking only metalhead friends, that isn't something I would recommend. It shouldn't be a criteria for a friendship and if that's the only reason why you wouldn't be friends with someone, that's ridiculous. If you have enough other things in common, things you can do together, beautiful friendships can blossom. Having similar interests remain a very good foundation for a friendship, and whether it is metal or something else, it doesn't really matter. But in order for a friendship to last, I feel having something in common, is pretty essential. Every friendship that survived times of seeing each other not for a long time, were for me friendships built on on common interest and mostly metal. As for people who want to meet other metalheads in order specifically make some metal friends, I can encourage it but don't be desperate. A friendship has to form naturally. One of my closest friends, I met in a change encounter at a metal comedy gig and it all started with the idea: this is a cool person, she is someone I wouldn't mind seeing again at a concert. And the more we saw each other, the closer we became to the point that we are now very close friends. We are friends because we like each other as people, not solely because we like metal. If that's the only thing a friend has to offer, a shared interest, it isn't going to be a friend for long. Ask yourself, regardless of how you met, if I didn't like metal, would I want to be friends with this person or vice versa, if they weren't into metal, would I want ot be friends with them. If the answer is no, not friendship material. As for the best place to meet metal friends, personally I recommend festivals (the atmosphere is better than at concerts for friendship forming) or at events of metal bars/youth houses. It is where I met most of my metal friends.
I've made friends in the metal scene here but I've also met people I super dislike too. Shows and stuff are a good way to meet people but it's definitely not everything when it comes to being friends. Actually some of my best friends don't even like metal, one of them is a huge Taylor Swift fan, it's all good.
People are people but it is cool to have something in common.
You should collab with Killbot and GorGor Attack
It's all about personalities at the end of the day and our ultimate view of the world. If we disagreed on something aka form of music we put it aside and behaved like civilised human beings. I hate this attitude of "you don't like the music I like so I don't like you as a person."