Thank you for saying that. Depression makes you want to give up in many ways. I hope she does find love whether it be with a man, best friend, companion, etc. She deserves to be happy.
@1:05 to @2:10 I've been in that space. That's what Depression feels like. It feels like wanting to improve, but you just can't leave that safe space behind. It's difficult to describe specifically what I felt. Thankfully, I feel better now. I have a bigger "demon" that's conquering life & trying to be successful and choking depression to death slowly everyday. Excluding all those factors (Mansion,Food,etc) she have in life
That is me exactly. I always get irritated with my siblings cause they're always posting pictures of something they did and I say why don't you invite me and they say it's because I always say no. So my brother asked if I would have went if they asked me and I said no lol.
So what if somebody doesn't k kw what Amazon is ??????? It's one thing to know what it is ...it's another thing g to use it .... I never use it. There is also the Amazon rain forest ... btw.
Agreed. I work in a group home and I think that would be a fantastic place for her. The company I work for houses a very wide range of needs from fully dependent to moderately independent. And when the rona isn't going on, we send them to a day program and they have make friends, do activities, etc.
it's just about presentation. mom is caked in youthful-ish makeup and is well dressed. daughter is depressed & tired and probably doesn't care as much about keeping up appearance. take off all of mom's makeup and put her in a nightgown, I'm sure she looks her age. she for sure acts younger though!
Yesssssss I wallowed in it for YEARS but you have to force yourself OUT. Get out every day and be accountable. It's SO hard when you are so down you just don't have the energy to do it but if you don't you will die. Period!
I have very severe OCD and it has caused me to try and kill myself in the past. It can be just as deadly. Sometimes I just want the OCD voice in my head to stop.
I relate to the disabled sister in the sense that my family treated me badly because they didn't understand my depression and OCD. I'm happier now though, in a long term relationship, made new friends, living in much better circumstances ect. So it is possible to improve! I learned, from Dr. Phil actually, to not engage with my toxic family, break the cycle and create a happy, healthy life of my own.
I disagree to an extent. The mom and sister do sound judgmental but she knew how they were already. She should've never moved in with her mom, it created a recipe for toxicity depending on family members who are insensitive to pain and struggle.
@@travelseatsyellowlab You clearly have never been associated with a person like her; because if you did, then you would understand. You can't help people who are not willing to help themselves.
@@robinloraditch9746 Trust me, I have seen these scenarios before. When you have sank to a point where you don't know who you are, it's important to have a true support system. This woman has clearly had her confidence badly shaken.
@@travelseatsyellowlab There is more to it. I don't know if you was able to watch more of the show. Her mother and sister had said how she has had to be "taken care of" all of her life. So she's an indigent that relied on her former spouse and now she's relying on her (elderly) mother for care. She herself admitted that her mother did her a disservice by not teaching her life skills and damaged her by sheltering her. If that's not victim mentality, then I don't know what is.
Kaylon Centers I don’t think they’re toxic or insensitive. Family or not it is reasonable that would be tired of being full time physical and emotional caretakers. Not wanting to be someone’s literal lifeline 24/7 doesn’t make you an “insensitive family member”, it makes you human. They could definitely handle the whole situation better but I feel like your not acknowledging how physically and emotionally exhausting it can be to have someone else’s whole world on your shoulders.
in her defense, sometimes it can feel like that (thankfully i've not had to deal with this myself, but have had a lot of patients who have needed to). Compulsions can sometimes be unmanageable without medication, and those compulsions can be lethal.
Well actually not only can it stop suppressing any suicidal ideation but depending on which medication she is on for her issues withdrawals could actually kill her
She is depressed. I feel sad for her. Depression can really be toxic. Plus I think that she created a shield to protect herself but it has the reverse effect. May be she could find someone who can understand her and overcome that phase. She does not seem like a bad person. Losing your husband can be extremely hard.
Exactly I know some who lady who’s daughter pushing fifty is exactly like this lady ! She is aggressive rude and overly medicated and drinks alcohol to suppress her depression ! Sleeps all day and up all night ! Always wearing her pyjamas and dressing gown ! She is evil and attacked People ! She don’t work and lives with her mother who is enabling her bad behaviour because she is scared to challenge her !
@@Popanda9227 She doesn't need to find a man who understands her, she needs to find someone who won't enable her and take any of her BS, which is highly unlikely because what man in their right mind would take on such a train wreck
Because she couldn't be in a normal, committed, relationship with a man whose brain is fully developed. Sounds mean, but an older gentleman with Asperger's or a developmental delay would be the ideal situation. Even if brad pitt did want to date this woman, we would all say its a scam to get her inheritance; she's not all there. Doesn't mean she cant experience and enjoy life in the same ways we do, but there is certainly a different map to reach that point for her/those like her.
She has OCD, that's where she needs to start. Therapy. People born with mental related illnesses don't grow out of it. They need therapy, relearning, adapting and accepted.
You dont see her on daily basis so there must be certain things that you can't recognize like narc tendencies on the mom. A lot of narcs are really charming and look fun to hung around with.
Really? OMG! I have seen faaaaaar more unattractive women AND men happily married or with someone and believe it or not......they do love each other. Shocking.....I know. You must be very attractive but guess what......when you get older....you will not look like you do now. I hope you find love before that happens. JS
Really sometimes people can be inconsiderate. She is really depressed. All she wants is a better life like all of us . But she also does not want to get out of her comfort zone , and that is a common reaction for depression. KB I do not know how exactly you perceive that video .May be in a bad way since Dr Phil is known for its extravagant guests. But she is not as bad and superficial... as the others . Her case is just sad. She only need help and support. And what u said is a prove u as well need help to overcome your superiority complex. But well u see, btw someone lost and depressed and your kind , I feel more empathy toward that women.I also was to address this to the others in this comment section. If u think you r superior because everything is fine for u . Just wait to be depressed, with nobody trying to emphasize with u.
I kinda feel sad for her, she seems extremely depressed after losing her husband. I mean when she said she just wants friends. It must be a lot for her mother to have a child so unable to help themselves.
People like you are why she continues to sulk in her own sadness. She's an adult, who doesn't need more excuses or people to feel bad for her. She needs to take ownership of her life and do what she needs to do. Just my opinion 🤷♀️
bigboy are you an alcoholic? it gets easier but it’s extremely hard. i would have to excuse myself at social gatherings to go burst into tears because I wanted to be “normal” and enjoy myself like everyone else. It’s very hard. But I get what you’re saying in the sense that all you have to do is NOT drink.
I honestly understand this woman... when someone you feel is the only person in the world that loves you passes away you can seriously fall into the deepest depression and not care about doing anything else in life- pray for this woman, don’t judge her... she just desperately is in need of love
ALN 102 Yes- you’re right - but sometimes you go through such a devastating loss that you develop real mental issues from it.... look up Shell shock, PTSD, anxiety, phobias & other mental issues that people develop from having been traumatized by an event. Your brain remembers the event so much that it changes your body chemistry and mental stability. The only way out of that is with Neurofeedback therapy or some other psychological help to heal it. I’ve heard of people that commit suicide after the death of a loved one because the pain is unbearable - whether you lose a child, parent, sibling, spouse or any other close person to you... this can happen. She just needs really good mental therapy help to help re-program her mind away from this everyday control. Also, you can look up “Dessa ted talk” about how she couldn’t get over a 10 year relationship and what they found in the brain that causes a person to be stuck and never able to let go.
@@ALN-ns4kw This response makes me think that you've got your own troubles with relationships. Have you never developed any deep bonds? The loss of a loved one never really stops hurting, ever. You'll always miss them. 7 years, 15 years....40 years... Time is irrelevant. I just think this woman needs to try to find some help learning how to COPE with the loss and learn tools that will help her get from day to day.
This lady look so creepy to me. The house also look creepy. Seems like she don’t have any emotions or something is cold about her, even when she laughed it didn’t seem real.
It sounds to me like she crashed when her husband passed away. This poor woman, I feel so sorry for her but, it's time to get up and get into gear and start living again..
Way to go Dr. Phil show. You have just invited gold-digging scammers to her doorstep. Some 40 something con man will pop up on her doorstep with a bunch of flowers and the Best of Laverne and Shirley on DVD and glom on to this woman til momma dies and reap her fortune.
I have an incurable disease, I’m actually on serious medication monitored by doctors, I’ve had trauma in my life (including a really bad divorce), I’ve lost everything monetarily and was actually bedridden for almost 3 years from my illness. You know what... I kept going by getting therapy, learning to live and push thru pain so I could work full time, buy myself a home and live a productive life. Seeing that “sick” , lazy woman and her pathetic excuses made my stomach turn. Nobody is going to just give you that idealic life you want... you have to make it happen yourself. She is just lazy and has been allowed to wallow. Grow up woman!
Been there sweetie. It's so much easier to just sit on couch and do nothing. We just have to wake up and try and keep trying until we find our purpose again. And....ignore that hateful guy that posted what he said. Bully's will be bully's.....they don't help the situation.
@@palmbalm Dude? Really? That was an opinion you couldn't kept to yourself. Just try to not be mean. Having a good heart is a rare thing these days. Grow up.
I have mental illnesses, I have suffered with them all of my life, I’ve suffered depression, anxiety, and an eating disorder that had me in multiple organ failure by the time I was 20, guess what, - I don’t live with my family - I live on my own, pay my rent, pay my bills - I cook my own meals, do my washing, maintain my house - I don’t take mass medications, I take antidepressants and work with a naturopath to help with vitamins, minerals and more natural ways of helping - I do work closely with my gp, dietician, psychologist and psychiatrist to work on some of my issues and how to better cope - I don’t use my illness as an excuse, yes I have struggled, yes sometimes it was harder, but I am still a strong independent human and proud of myself for taking care of my life This lady makes me so mad, she gives everybody who struggles with mental health issues a bad name. Many people struggle with mental health issues and they still manage to maintain a life.
She sounds like my sister. "They're awful to me because I'm disabled and I want them to take care of me while I do nothing to help myself and they need to change" no. Its frustrating to have to deal with someone who just expects everything to be done for them smh
OCD is a terrible disorder. I have had symptoms since I was a young child. If you don't fight it constantly it WILL take over your life. Depression is also something that will take away most of your energy and motivation. She has a long road ahead of her but it's worth going down.
This lady is in pain and has plenty of sorrow...she has a great spirit she just need a social life..and. Love ...i love her...i get it...counseling will help....she has a lot of animosity. 2....butt that can be changed.....she will be fine....
Omg she’s just such a victim. She doesn’t want to take care of herself. Mom totally enabled her! And Lavern n Shirley?! That was so fake even back then, how she can watch it still....wow!
Was Laverne and Shirley supposed to be "real"? 😩🤦🏼♀️😂 That show went off the air well after I was born so I could totally be wrong but wasn't that show a sitcom? Wtf are you even getting at? Lmfaooo it's so hilarious to me that *_that_* is a thing you zeroed in on. 😂😂😂😂😂
Laverne and Shirley was a scripted television show.Are you so removed from the real reality of life that you don’t know the difference between a sitcom that scripted and reality TV? 😂
Linda Lauren OMG DUH! And a BADLY SCRIPTED one at that! THAT IS the point! We used to crack up at the stupidity of it...that’s why I zeroed in on that! Of all the shows.....if you haven’t seen it, it was a spin off of Happy Days, about 2 blue collar hard working gals in the 50s. I know; why did I watch it you ask? Back then there was only 4 main stations and a couple of small local stations THAT’S IT! Lol can you imagine in today’s media environment! So the entire country watched the same stuff, no choice! Removed from reality? Lol, I think it must’ve been YOUR fav show cause you’re just TOO insulted by that! And with all the shows, movies and media that’s happened from then till now... I find it telling she gravitated to that one. Point is she doesn’t want to be self reliant, irregardless of any mental disorder(s) she has, and she physically TRIES to reflect victim! Her Mom did her no favors! Until and unless she wants anything other in life it’s not going to happen. Looks like she is happy right where she’s at! Calm down Linda, a sense of humor did good things for me, try it!
When you have OCD mixed with deep seated depression it is very normal to be tired even if you've slept the whole afternoon away. Is it healthy? No. But will ridculing them actually help them become healthy? No, tough love and compassion do in more ways than one.
OCD and Depression don’t necessarily have to make a person a miserable and hypochondriac life waster. I have OCD and Schizoaffective disorder, and I work and don’t act worse than I actually am. I do take medications.
Sorry, it's hard to pity someone that just shuts herself away and let's her mom cater to her every whim. I have OCD, I have an autoimmune disease, clinical depression since I was 10 and social anxiety yet instead of caving into myself and letting myself be a victim of circumstance, I make an effort. Some days are harder than others but knowing I at least try every day makes me feel like I'm accomplishing something. It's time to buck up and grow up. I get grief is hard, trust me I know, but all you are doing is letting down your loved ones that have passed. How does she think her partner would feel seeing her now? You're supposed to live, not just merely exist.
i like how with her mother she yelling and crying that she’s tired and in pain but then once she’s talking about herself with mike she’s calm and just fine
I really feel for her. She finally did what was "normal" and socially acceptable, being in a long-term relationship, and then he passes away. That's awful.
I think ther is a real big need for this sort of thing to be addressed! There are more and more people who are experiencing both sides of this. I for one, feel that i was dancing on the edge of this mentality where i wanted a 'small' life but was struggling every day with hope... Having enough hope to lean into living.
You can find happiness being alone. You don’t need a man to make you happy. I am a widow and I have friends, I go out, I ride a motorcycle, I do crafts, I garden, I laugh, and I enjoy life! I’m getting the most out of life because I know that it could be taken away in a heart beat! Live, love yourself and be happy!
she is lost and depressed. Don't be hard on that women . Contradiction is common during depression. U wants better but fear to live your comfort zone. Be considerate. Because I am sure that one day , when u feel as lost as her .Where depression may toxify your character... you will need someone to be considerate toward u.
I adore the mom!!!!! My heart honestly breaks for the sister. She was so out of it and it seems like when she lost her husband something in her snapped and she never came back.
Nic E It's hard to stay in touch with the world when you are stuck in the past like she is, She is suffering from depression, And it's making it hard for her to go out without being scared of whats to come. You guys can be really insensitive.
This woman shows signs of autism. Like, her OCD and hypochondria could be her special interest. Ultimately she needs a very organized environment and treatment to get what she needs.
She seems to be stuck in victim mode. Being at her Mom's all the time is fuelling her depression, the apathy & victimhood. She needs to leave the TV alone & go to the park, the library, take classes, the gym & DO stuff.
Omg. This just seems devastating. Hopefully she can find someone to make her not feel so alone. When her mom passes and she doesn’t find love, she’s going to die alone 💔 her mother also seems more alive and youthful.
Awesome home!!! She misses her husband but she needs the desire to get out too. Her depression would ease up if she would make herself get out and enjoy life around her. I know its hard. I feel where she's coming from. The mom pretty awesome herself!!
Honestly to me.. if i was in her shoes i would cherish the moments i had with my soulmate and live my life alone until we meet again..no need to find someone else.
Awe the second she said her type was worry I felt sympathy only because my husband has same thing. He was diagnosed OCD at age 11 but it’s not like he has issues with routine just the worry loop. It’s been hard but I’m very laid back so we have to balance each other. When most people can say to themselves “eh I’ll worry later” is not an option. It just goes around and around and I feel so bad for the battles he has in his head all the time.
Reminds me of my own mother, who refuses to do online banking, or even call the banks automated 800 number to check her balance...so she calls the actual bank every other day wanting to know her balance....
Normally, I find that to be the first flag of a serious mental issue. Every single person I have met who has a fear of technology has mental health problems, often so bad that they can't really work.
The life I want is to be alone. To be able to take care of my animals and plants and myself... If I could never see another human I’d be happy. Serene solitude in my home in the forest would be so blissful and I wish for it so badly every day.
plzz do not judge badly that woman . I feel sad for her . She is really depressed. And Depression , as serious as this one can be extremely toxic. It can change completely someone. She does not seem as a bad person overall . May be inside she is someone else. Don't be too quick in judging badly someone. I know that Dr Phil is known for its extravagant guests but she does not seem to be the same.
There is NOTHING SMALL about falling in love for a second time, gaining more friends, and having a home by the water. That, to me, is huge.
Yep that's a full life for me !!! Lol
But if you come from a family that is pretty wealthy, a home by the sea and a few friends is not a big deal..
Yeah. Impossible too
Idealistic life doesn't help us , it makes us only more dreamy and passive i think , but again she's not that healthy.
Thank you for saying that. Depression makes you want to give up in many ways. I hope she does find love whether it be with a man, best friend, companion, etc. She deserves to be happy.
"I want a few more friends.."
*30 seconds later*
"I like to be alone."
Yeah I feel you
Bern K 😆😆😆😆 I can totally relate.
@1:05 to @2:10 I've been in that space. That's what Depression feels like. It feels like wanting to improve, but you just can't leave that safe space behind. It's difficult to describe specifically what I felt. Thankfully, I feel better now. I have a bigger "demon" that's conquering life & trying to be successful and choking depression to death slowly everyday. Excluding all those factors (Mansion,Food,etc) she have in life
Me too, me too.
That is me exactly. I always get irritated with my siblings cause they're always posting pictures of something they did and I say why don't you invite me and they say it's because I always say no. So my brother asked if I would have went if they asked me and I said no lol.
sounds like an introvert personality. I have that problem too, and I'm an INFJ.
I think he found the one person who doesn’t know what amazon is.
I know I cringed so hard to that
Chris .P. Bacon yeah hahaha his smirk too when he said it then it slowly went away lol
Alot of people don't know
🤦🏽♀️😂🤣😂
So what if somebody doesn't k kw what Amazon is ??????? It's one thing to know what it is ...it's another thing g to use it .... I never use it.
There is also the Amazon rain forest ... btw.
She makes that chair look really comfortable
ChildofGodFirst no no the chair just looks really ploofy
My heart breaks for her. As a life long depression sufferer I know that low all too well. Praying for her!
Lol
facts
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She needs to be in a group home...she would have friends and all he needs would be met...problem solved
U know that's a good idea is better to have one room white a friend than aminsion white no body around
Agreed. I work in a group home and I think that would be a fantastic place for her. The company I work for houses a very wide range of needs from fully dependent to moderately independent. And when the rona isn't going on, we send them to a day program and they have make friends, do activities, etc.
Right..a group home by the water
Lynn Martin 😂😂😭
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She’s really got that “I don’t need to change everyone else does” mindset huh
Depression makes you think nothing will ever change or get better and you that you can't influence or change anything about your life.
Shed be a real catch for somone lol
Nire Strunk depression doesn’t say that it’s only other people’s fault though, which is what I was addressing
Nire Strunk well said
Nire Strunk - depression makes you feel like you are the problem. It doesn’t make you self centred and think that you are the only one who is correct.
This lady's idea of a "Small Life" is a whole lot different than mine!! 😂
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Birdie Jeffers IKR?!? She’s living in a mansion and wants to retire and live by the ocean.
You and me both 😂😂😂 I’m like sis that sounds extravagant
Nicole Boynton 😂😂😂😂
Right? I was thinking she was going to say a little cabin in the woods with her dog and sketch book or something.
I feel bad for her, maybe she misses her husband as well, thats why she doesn't wanna move on.
She does want to move on , she says that . She doesn't know how.
@@3moon376 poor her and her ocd condition scares her as well, I hope she will be alright, I didn't watch the full episode.
Depression is a crappy disease!
@@julieboyd8646 very crappy sister😭
3 Moon It’s an evil cycle.
Her mom honestly looks younger than her...
it's just about presentation. mom is caked in youthful-ish makeup and is well dressed. daughter is depressed & tired and probably doesn't care as much about keeping up appearance. take off all of mom's makeup and put her in a nightgown, I'm sure she looks her age. she for sure acts younger though!
ania also the mom rich, she probably got work done on her face
The mum has had a face lift for sure and also has a full face of make up
Dam
Botox
Depression can be fatal. OCD can be tiring..
I have moderate OCD and it can be very exhausting and frustrating. When my anxiety goes up, my OCD gets 10x's worse 🙄
Yesssssss I wallowed in it for YEARS but you have to force yourself OUT. Get out every day and be accountable. It's SO hard when you are so down you just don't have the energy to do it but if you don't you will die. Period!
I have very severe OCD and it has caused me to try and kill myself in the past. It can be just as deadly. Sometimes I just want the OCD voice in my head to stop.
I relate to the disabled sister in the sense that my family treated me badly because they didn't understand my depression and OCD.
I'm happier now though, in a long term relationship, made new friends, living in much better circumstances ect. So it is possible to improve! I learned, from Dr. Phil actually, to not engage with my toxic family, break the cycle and create a happy, healthy life of my own.
@@alexvensel5730 good fo you.
She has a victim mentality. Blaming mother and sister, and they need to change.
I disagree to an extent. The mom and sister do sound judgmental but she knew how they were already. She should've never moved in with her mom, it created a recipe for toxicity depending on family members who are insensitive to pain and struggle.
@@travelseatsyellowlab You clearly have never been associated with a person like her; because if you did, then you would understand. You can't help people who are not willing to help themselves.
@@robinloraditch9746 Trust me, I have seen these scenarios before. When you have sank to a point where you don't know who you are, it's important to have a true support system. This woman has clearly had her confidence badly shaken.
@@travelseatsyellowlab There is more to it. I don't know if you was able to watch more of the show. Her mother and sister had said how she has had to be "taken care of" all of her life. So she's an indigent that relied on her former spouse and now she's relying on her (elderly) mother for care. She herself admitted that her mother did her a disservice by not teaching her life skills and damaged her by sheltering her. If that's not victim mentality, then I don't know what is.
Kaylon Centers I don’t think they’re toxic or insensitive. Family or not it is reasonable that would be tired of being full time physical and emotional caretakers. Not wanting to be someone’s literal lifeline 24/7 doesn’t make you an “insensitive family member”, it makes you human. They could definitely handle the whole situation better but I feel like your not acknowledging how physically and emotionally exhausting it can be to have someone else’s whole world on your shoulders.
She said *I wanna get this over with* 😂 lmao
Pearl Swirl Laverne and Shirley add was almost over so...
Me the minute I clock in at work.
Like she's got so much on her schedule 🤣🤣🤣
😀😀Like shopping for a wedding gown😀
FIRST THING SHE SAID😂
Her not getting the Amazon joke 😩😩😩 and his face when she didn’t get it 😑😑😑
Hehehehe
"If I don't have my medication, I will DIE!"
No lady, you will stop acting like a damn zombie
in her defense, sometimes it can feel like that (thankfully i've not had to deal with this myself, but have had a lot of patients who have needed to). Compulsions can sometimes be unmanageable without medication, and those compulsions can be lethal.
im on medication, and if i wasnt medicated, i would have killed myself years ago. i can now take care of myself, and go to school.
I mean we dont know but she could be talking about a physical disease medication and it having side effects too. Not for sure but a possibility.
Well actually not only can it stop suppressing any suicidal ideation but depending on which medication she is on for her issues withdrawals could actually kill her
Lmao
Not many people would want to be friends with her because she’s an energy vampire! She doesn’t want to change!
She is depressed. I feel sad for her. Depression can really be toxic. Plus I think that she created a shield to protect herself but it has the reverse effect. May be she could find someone who can understand her and overcome that phase. She does not seem like a bad person. Losing your husband can be extremely hard.
Exactly I know some who lady who’s daughter pushing fifty is exactly like this lady ! She is aggressive rude and overly medicated and drinks alcohol to suppress her depression ! Sleeps all day and up all night ! Always wearing her pyjamas and dressing gown ! She is evil and attacked People ! She don’t work and lives with her mother who is enabling her bad behaviour because she is scared to challenge her !
Depression convinces you that nothing is going to change or get better and that you can't change.
LM F lazy leech.
@@Popanda9227 She doesn't need to find a man who understands her, she needs to find someone who won't enable her and take any of her BS, which is highly unlikely because what man in their right mind would take on such a train wreck
Are we gonna glaze over the fact that she said she wanted someone “childlike”?
That means fun!
Because she couldn't be in a normal, committed, relationship with a man whose brain is fully developed. Sounds mean, but an older gentleman with Asperger's or a developmental delay would be the ideal situation. Even if brad pitt did want to date this woman, we would all say its a scam to get her inheritance; she's not all there. Doesn't mean she cant experience and enjoy life in the same ways we do, but there is certainly a different map to reach that point for her/those like her.
She has OCD, that's where she needs to start. Therapy. People born with mental related illnesses don't grow out of it. They need therapy, relearning, adapting and accepted.
I like that mum.
She's actually quite funny and lovely.
the mum looks great. Super lively and in touch with reality
Oh my goodness I love her! The hat, the champagne... she's fabulous!
You dont see her on daily basis so there must be certain things that you can't recognize like narc tendencies on the mom. A lot of narcs are really charming and look fun to hung around with.
@@joshua50101 there is no way you can give this lady a diagnosis of narcissism based on this clip..😂🤦🏾♀️✌🏾..stop..lol
I would watch a reality show with her. She's a riot.
Why does the mom look younger than the daughter? At this point she really let herself go. If she finds a man he’ll be a saint
K B odd right? If I didn’t know better I would’ve thought they were switched lol
Really? OMG! I have seen faaaaaar more unattractive women AND men happily married or with someone and believe it or not......they do love each other. Shocking.....I know. You must be very attractive but guess what......when you get older....you will not look like you do now. I hope you find love before that happens. JS
4 Julz lmao chill, no one cares on what you have to say in a comment section. Sounds like you can’t find love now that you’re older. Go smoke a joint
If she finds one he will be as sick as she.
Really sometimes people can be inconsiderate. She is really depressed. All she wants is a better life like all of us . But she also does not want to get out of her comfort zone , and that is a common reaction for depression. KB I do not know how exactly you perceive that video .May be in a bad way since Dr Phil is known for its extravagant guests. But she is not as bad and superficial... as the others . Her case is just sad. She only need help and support. And what u said is a prove u as well need help to overcome your superiority complex. But well u see, btw someone lost and depressed and your kind , I feel more empathy toward that women.I also was to address this to the others in this comment section. If u think you r superior because everything is fine for u . Just wait to be depressed, with nobody trying to emphasize with u.
Wants a simple life, wants house on water, friends, husband, with out going anywhere getting online or trying to meet ppl, money with out a job.
😂😂😂😂😂
Considering where she is mentally, I don’t blame her. She has OCD and is clearly really affected by it.
Amber Nicole Massey and she likes being alone🙄
Who doesn't?
Amber Nicole Massey Sounds good to me! I can do without the man though. They take too much energy.
I kinda feel sad for her, she seems extremely depressed after losing her husband. I mean when she said she just wants friends. It must be a lot for her mother to have a child so unable to help themselves.
People like you are why she continues to sulk in her own sadness. She's an adult, who doesn't need more excuses or people to feel bad for her. She needs to take ownership of her life and do what she needs to do.
Just my opinion 🤷♀️
Right after that she said she likes to be alone. Her view of a small life is interesting too. She seems more like a very old brat.
The mother looks healthy and good than the daughter.
Random person The daughter has the face of depression
Samantha Sam so sad :(
Mom definitely has had cosmetic surgery and it is not good. She’s got those crazy eyes
Jelly Donut
“Crazy eyes”😂
Botox..fillers..fancy hat
Thats like a spacious but neat hoarder house! Its jus too much .. look how many chairs they got🤦🏾♂️
Mom is fabulous 😘
B. Williams the house is huge. Lots of room to put chairs lol
The mom is a whole mood 😂😂
Anyone else getting little Edie Beale "Grey Garden" vibes here? Seriously, Just look it up.
I was thinking the same thing. ❤
Same!
YAS! they are just precious but this daughter is so sad 😭 she lost her other half. So damn heartbreaking.
Yup
That's the first thing I thought
Coach Mike is so boss. 18 years of sobriety and doesn’t even flinch when an old lady “cheers” him with a glass of champagne.
Ginger Brew yeah, it’s called 18 years if sobriety. Alcoholics aren’t powerless.
Shannon B nope not powerless, but powerless over alcohol. That’s in step one of AA verbatim.
bigboy are you an alcoholic? it gets easier but it’s extremely hard. i would have to excuse myself at social gatherings to go burst into tears because I wanted to be “normal” and enjoy myself like everyone else. It’s very hard. But I get what you’re saying in the sense that all you have to do is NOT drink.
'I'm on some very serious medication'
👁️ 👁️
Sheesh the mom acts and looks more young and lively than the daughter
I honestly understand this woman... when someone you feel is the only person in the world that loves you passes away you can seriously fall into the deepest depression and not care about doing anything else in life- pray for this woman, don’t judge her... she just desperately is in need of love
Arcadia Ardana I was thinking the same thing, I can’t imagine having someone by my side for 30 years and then just gone one day. I wouldn’t recover.
But losing a partner is something most people will have to deal with at some point.... 7 years of doing nothing but controlling her family is not ok
Nicole Devine I totally agree
ALN 102 Yes- you’re right - but sometimes you go through such a devastating loss that you develop real mental issues from it.... look up Shell shock, PTSD, anxiety, phobias & other mental issues that people develop from having been traumatized by an event. Your brain remembers the event so much that it changes your body chemistry and mental stability. The only way out of that is with Neurofeedback therapy or some other psychological help to heal it. I’ve heard of people that commit suicide after the death of a loved one because the pain is unbearable - whether you lose a child, parent, sibling, spouse or any other close person to you... this can happen. She just needs really good mental therapy help to help re-program her mind away from this everyday control. Also, you can look up “Dessa ted talk” about how she couldn’t get over a 10 year relationship and what they found in the brain that causes a person to be stuck and never able to let go.
@@ALN-ns4kw This response makes me think that you've got your own troubles with relationships. Have you never developed any deep bonds? The loss of a loved one never really stops hurting, ever. You'll always miss them. 7 years, 15 years....40 years... Time is irrelevant. I just think this woman needs to try to find some help learning how to COPE with the loss and learn tools that will help her get from day to day.
This lady look so creepy to me. The house also look creepy. Seems like she don’t have any emotions or something is cold about her, even when she laughed it didn’t seem real.
Medications
Not maybe, she does suffer from depression and medications make her look obviously not healthy in speech and actions. I wish her luck!
so creepy and detached from reality. has the mentality of someone who has never had to be independent or develop resilience.
birdhead73 I’m leaning more towards it being meds. She look spaced out.
She's suffering dear
She’s so heartbreaking. Catatonic like. I feel bad for her.
Look like she living big to me 😑🤷🏽♀️
Yeah she's gotta different idea of living small than I do 😂😂😂
S F ... that’s not what the title says 😑🤦🏽♀️! Lol 😂
It sounds to me like she crashed when her husband passed away. This poor woman, I feel so sorry for her but, it's time to get up and get into gear and start living again..
i have a feeling that he was taking full care of her an she was just entitled ....she knows she can not find another man like him.
"I just want this done as soon as possible so I can leave" - me, everyday at work 😂
lol RIGHT!
Did she really just say "child like" WTF
I think she means someone who is fun because she's not 😋🤣
Child like means laughing and joking and having lots of energy. Not really funny.
She means an person who is fun and innocent
Yeah that struck me as odd, I think she wants someone emotionally stunted tbh, maybe it'd make it easier for her to manipulate and control
“I am a very private person” says a lady on national tv. Seems very comfortable not paying bills, and complaining all day long.
I'm sure it wasn't her idea to be on TV
@@swimfast724 - nobody forced her onto national TV.
My god. That’s a small life for this lady? She would hate my life
Susannah Chan I do. I work take care of my family. Be happy
Exactly! She would not survive😫
Way to go Dr. Phil show. You have just invited gold-digging scammers to her doorstep. Some 40 something con man will pop up on her doorstep with a bunch of flowers and the Best of Laverne and Shirley on DVD and glom on to this woman til momma dies and reap her fortune.
L B : 😂🤣😂
I was thinking the EXACT same thing.
Wow that’s smart
lol or you just gave someone a really good idea 🤣🤣🤣 no but really I hope that doesn't happen to her lol
She did that to her own pathetic self.
"WHAT!? WHAT DID HE SAY!?
THEYRE SELLING CHOCOLATE!?"
Bwahahahahaha.... ah classic Spongebob...
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hello YOUNG lady! Is your MOTHER home?
MOM!!!
:2nd End; omg 😂😂😂😂
Sweet sweet chocolate... I always hated it! 🤣🤣
I have an incurable disease, I’m actually on serious medication monitored by doctors, I’ve had trauma in my life (including a really bad divorce), I’ve lost everything monetarily and was actually bedridden for almost 3 years from my illness. You know what... I kept going by getting therapy, learning to live and push thru pain so I could work full time, buy myself a home and live a productive life. Seeing that “sick” , lazy woman and her pathetic excuses made my stomach turn. Nobody is going to just give you that idealic life you want... you have to make it happen yourself. She is just lazy and has been allowed to wallow. Grow up woman!
Polly Pocket sorry about this but no one cares about your divorce or your sob story lmfaooo
H N i actually care
@@palmbalm , you are a jerk.
Been there sweetie. It's so much easier to just sit on couch and do nothing. We just have to wake up and try and keep trying until we find our purpose again. And....ignore that hateful guy that posted what he said. Bully's will be bully's.....they don't help the situation.
@@palmbalm Dude? Really? That was an opinion you couldn't kept to yourself. Just try to not be mean. Having a good heart is a rare thing these days. Grow up.
I have mental illnesses, I have suffered with them all of my life, I’ve suffered depression, anxiety, and an eating disorder that had me in multiple organ failure by the time I was 20, guess what,
- I don’t live with my family
- I live on my own, pay my rent, pay my bills
- I cook my own meals, do my washing, maintain my house
- I don’t take mass medications, I take antidepressants and work with a naturopath to help with vitamins, minerals and more natural ways of helping
- I do work closely with my gp, dietician, psychologist and psychiatrist to work on some of my issues and how to better cope
- I don’t use my illness as an excuse, yes I have struggled, yes sometimes it was harder, but I am still a strong independent human and proud of myself for taking care of my life
This lady makes me so mad, she gives everybody who struggles with mental health issues a bad name. Many people struggle with mental health issues and they still manage to maintain a life.
She sounds like my sister. "They're awful to me because I'm disabled and I want them to take care of me while I do nothing to help myself and they need to change" no. Its frustrating to have to deal with someone who just expects everything to be done for them smh
This woman won't find another until she learns to love herself. She also has very unrealistic expectations about relationships.
Just the opposite. She's self-consumed. She needs to stop thinking only about herself.
OCD is a terrible disorder. I have had symptoms since I was a young child. If you don't fight it constantly it WILL take over your life. Depression is also something that will take away most of your energy and motivation. She has a long road ahead of her but it's worth going down.
“I think they need to change” *shoes kicked up in a conglomerate mansion* @3:28
This lady is in pain and has plenty of sorrow...she has a great spirit she just need a social life..and. Love ...i love her...i get it...counseling will help....she has a lot of animosity. 2....butt that can be changed.....she will be fine....
She needs mindfullness meditation to get her out the ocd
What's with all the "...."
EXACTLY!
Omg she’s just such a victim. She doesn’t want to take care of herself. Mom totally enabled her! And Lavern n Shirley?! That was so fake even back then, how she can watch it still....wow!
Was Laverne and Shirley supposed to be "real"? 😩🤦🏼♀️😂 That show went off the air well after I was born so I could totally be wrong but wasn't that show a sitcom? Wtf are you even getting at? Lmfaooo it's so hilarious to me that *_that_* is a thing you zeroed in on. 😂😂😂😂😂
No appreciation for the good old days.
It wasn't meant to be real. Just entertaining.
That is a great you are tripping
Laverne and Shirley was a scripted television show.Are you so removed from the real reality of life that you don’t know the difference between a sitcom that scripted and reality TV? 😂
Linda Lauren OMG DUH! And a BADLY SCRIPTED one at that! THAT IS the point! We used to crack up at the stupidity of it...that’s why I zeroed in on that! Of all the shows.....if you haven’t seen it, it was a spin off of Happy Days, about 2 blue collar hard working gals in the 50s. I know; why did I watch it you ask? Back then there was only 4 main stations and a couple of small local stations THAT’S IT! Lol can you imagine in today’s media environment! So the entire country watched the same stuff, no choice! Removed from reality? Lol, I think it must’ve been YOUR fav show cause you’re just TOO insulted by that! And with all the shows, movies and media that’s happened from then till now... I find it telling she gravitated to that one. Point is she doesn’t want to be self reliant, irregardless of any mental disorder(s) she has, and she physically TRIES to reflect victim! Her Mom did her no favors! Until and unless she wants anything other in life it’s not going to happen. Looks like she is happy right where she’s at!
Calm down Linda, a sense of humor did good things for me, try it!
Imagine being brought to tears from being tired... from doing NOTHING ALL DAY. That's wild.
It's called DEPRESSION. Look it up.
When you have OCD mixed with deep seated depression it is very normal to be tired even if you've slept the whole afternoon away. Is it healthy? No.
But will ridculing them actually help them become healthy? No, tough love and compassion do in more ways than one.
Gee Garcia I can relate to her
How do you not know what depression is ?
She relishes being the victim and controlling everyone around her. Total passive aggressiveness.
CA Bayern Eh...? Wow you guys are very insensitive/not sympathetic
At least she's not aggressive aggressive.
OCD and Depression don’t necessarily have to make a person a miserable and hypochondriac life waster. I have OCD and Schizoaffective disorder, and I work and don’t act worse than I actually am. I do take medications.
Sorry, it's hard to pity someone that just shuts herself away and let's her mom cater to her every whim.
I have OCD, I have an autoimmune disease, clinical depression since I was 10 and social anxiety yet instead of caving into myself and letting myself be a victim of circumstance, I make an effort. Some days are harder than others but knowing I at least try every day makes me feel like I'm accomplishing something.
It's time to buck up and grow up.
I get grief is hard, trust me I know, but all you are doing is letting down your loved ones that have passed. How does she think her partner would feel seeing her now? You're supposed to live, not just merely exist.
Girl I applaud you 🙌 she is just using her sickness as excuse.
That mom is rockin it! She's a riot.
These two are almost Grey Gradens together. They just need a bunch of cats.
They have the cats already.
@@rosaleeharris9251 I saw that in another clip after I made this comment. 😆
i like how with her mother she yelling and crying that she’s tired and in pain but then once she’s talking about herself with mike she’s calm and just fine
I really feel for her. She finally did what was "normal" and socially acceptable, being in a long-term relationship, and then he passes away. That's awful.
why does the mom wear the fuzzy hat in every shot? i’m-
Shrub signature look!
It’s probably a comfort item that means something to her.
Maybe balding . It's a leak tho she looks young as heck
I too, thought about balding, hair thinning atleast.
The mom got work done. I hate be this shallow but the daughter could use some.
Is...is that the mom's house? If so, I mean...I'd be living with my mom too!
I have family members that I have totally cut out of my life because they are toxic and now I am doing just fine .
I think ther is a real big need for this sort of thing to be addressed! There are more and more people who are experiencing both sides of this.
I for one, feel that i was dancing on the edge of this mentality where i wanted a 'small' life but was struggling every day with hope... Having enough hope to lean into living.
This is so horrible. Her husband died and then this is what happened to her. This is actually HEARTBREAKING
When she said "I'm really tired. I don't know how much longer I can hang on." That really hit home with me.
Anyone else notice that change in her voice when Mike came up vs when she spoke/whined to her mom? She's a master manipulator.
And what does this woman, who describes herself as physicall and mentally (depression, OCD) ill, have to offer a man??
You can find happiness being alone. You don’t need a man to make you happy. I am a widow and I have friends, I go out, I ride a motorcycle, I do crafts, I garden, I laugh, and I enjoy life! I’m getting the most out of life because I know that it could be taken away in a heart beat! Live, love yourself and be happy!
0:32 ''The only thing i wanna do is to fall in love again"
*later*
2:17 ''Im a very private person and id like to be alone''
Mood
Yeah
she is lost and depressed. Don't be hard on that women . Contradiction is common during depression. U wants better but fear to live your comfort zone. Be considerate. Because I am sure that one day , when u feel as lost as her .Where depression may toxify your character... you will need someone to be considerate toward u.
Literally me
@@Popanda9227 m8, you said this to the wrong person bc i dont give af. 😂
I adore the mom!!!!! My heart honestly breaks for the sister. She was so out of it and it seems like when she lost her husband something in her snapped and she never came back.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a more humorless person. She’s very self centered and delusional.
Nic E she really is
Nic E It's hard to stay in touch with the world when you are stuck in the past like she is, She is suffering from depression, And it's making it hard for her to go out without being scared of whats to come. You guys can be really insensitive.
Depression makes you that way.
This is how my mom is and it’s so heartbreaking.
This woman shows signs of autism. Like, her OCD and hypochondria could be her special interest. Ultimately she needs a very organized environment and treatment to get what she needs.
Your mom is so glamorous I love it I want to be just like her when I’m at age
She don't make any sense about what she wants out of life and she wants a man that's child like !!!!
She seems to be stuck in victim mode. Being at her Mom's all the time is fuelling her depression, the apathy & victimhood. She needs to leave the TV alone & go to the park, the library, take classes, the gym & DO stuff.
Omg. This just seems devastating. Hopefully she can find someone to make her not feel so alone. When her mom passes and she doesn’t find love, she’s going to die alone 💔 her mother also seems more alive and youthful.
Awesome home!!! She misses her husband but she needs the desire to get out too. Her depression would ease up if she would make herself get out and enjoy life around her. I know its hard. I feel where she's coming from. The mom pretty awesome herself!!
She is extremely depressed she needs help, and is still grieving. I hope she becomes better.
Honestly to me.. if i was in her shoes i would cherish the moments i had with my soulmate and live my life alone until we meet again..no need to find someone else.
If I could live with her mom in that fantastic house I totally would. I have generalized anxiety disorder and depression and I feel for her.
"How are ya?"
"I just want this done as soon as possible so we can leave"
Awe the second she said her type was worry I felt sympathy only because my husband has same thing. He was diagnosed OCD at age 11 but it’s not like he has issues with routine just the worry loop. It’s been hard but I’m very laid back so we have to balance each other. When most people can say to themselves “eh I’ll worry later” is not an option. It just goes around and around and I feel so bad for the battles he has in his head all the time.
Laverne and Shirley that’s hilarious
Very strange energy, but seems deep down like a sweet person
“I don’t have a computer, I don’t want one” 🙄
Reminds me of my own mother, who refuses to do online banking, or even call the banks automated 800 number to check her balance...so she calls the actual bank every other day wanting to know her balance....
the Tan Van work at a bank. Know people like this lol. Can confirm.
A computer is probably the best chance she has to meet a man and friends. Sad but true.
Normally, I find that to be the first flag of a serious mental issue. Every single person I have met who has a fear of technology has mental health problems, often so bad that they can't really work.
Reneau Robinson your point? She doesn’t have to have one lol
The life I want is to be alone. To be able to take care of my animals and plants and myself... If I could never see another human I’d be happy. Serene solitude in my home in the forest would be so blissful and I wish for it so badly every day.
Imagine not knowing what amazon is in 2020. My 70 year old grandmother knows what it is.
So this is who arrested development based Lucille and Buster off of😂😂😂
Her sister treats her badly because she feels like she doesn’t get the attention of her mother. It’s sad really :(
plzz do not judge badly that woman . I feel sad for her . She is really depressed. And Depression , as serious as this one can be extremely toxic. It can change completely someone. She does not seem as a bad person overall . May be inside she is someone else. Don't be too quick in judging badly someone. I know that Dr Phil is known for its extravagant guests but she does not seem to be the same.
Had to do a double take on mom. At first glance thought she had a sick afro. I was wrong.
Seems she needs a ton of grief counseling because she sits in front of the tv and numbs out, rather than feel the loss and move forward.
I can get the tired feeling. I have severe & reoccurring MDD and OCD. I go weeks with just staying confined in my room.
Seriously, depression is exhausting.
Childlike?!?! Well that’s not a good start.
She seems like a lovely person...and her voice is so soothing
If i was the younger sister i couldnt wait to inherit all that and just place the sister in an assisted community of some sort
She wants everything but does nothing to get what she wants.
Toho Master Depression kid. You should learn about it before commenting about it
I want to be as fabulous as the mom when I’m old😂😂
I love the mom lmao she cracks me up I wanna be her friend
My heart breaks for her!
Bless her heart I hope she finds true love ❤️
Really nice house, it's older looking decor but that's what I love
These doctor Phil episodes are getting more and more depressing
Polabeer I agree
I feel SO bad for her