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“NEVER take a woman on THESE DATES” *proceeds to list awesome date ideas*
*preceeds to list 90% of date ideas* like if i cant take a girl to ANY of those dates, where tf woukd i take her? Fucking skydiving? A overwelmingly expensive restaurant in the FIRST date???
@@paulovitorsouzanunes4854 You have to take her into her own house for a date ofc, that was the only thing not listed there that 100% would not be a long drive away
@@diablo.the.cheater oh, i asume that the "your home" clause, was aplicable both ways (and considering how much entitled this women are, i doubt that they would sattle to such a simple date)
They forgot to eliminate one more affordable idea: (public) libraries
I would be happy going to a Wendy’s with a guy like if one took me to Cheesecake Factory I’d be ecstatic
Edit: regardless as to who’s buying/paying for my own meal
Fun fact regarding the "African samurai" there was actually a real African samurai. He was a slave on a ship that stopped in Japan and a local lord was so impressed by his size and the colour of his skin that he bought him from the slave owner and made him a retainer. Long story short his prowess in battle was such that he earned his freedom and gained the rank of samurai
Holy fuck , we need a movie about this rn , I'd be a banger !
Edit : Thx ya'll for telling me that the movie already exists , I really apreciate it :D
@olakpasa6486 I think there's a movie about it called Yusuke. There's one with a black guy, and a white guy. There's also the man with the iron fists.
@@olakpasa6486 I think there is, actually. I can't remember the name though, sorry.
Literally came here to say this. The whole story is WILD. And I LOVE it!
There are a lot of stories of foreigners becoming samurais.
17:23 not to cut in with unrelated shit but I had a woman walk into my workplace with THE best breast cancer shirt. It had a pink ribbon, and text that read "of course they're fake; the real deal tried to kill me."
That woman's iconic.
Yes!
That is amazing 😂
Took me a moment, but WOW, that’s great!
Haha, love it 😅
Humor can truly help coping with awful things.
She is now our queen
"there's only 2 genders, even in animal kingdom"
Me, a biologist/geneticist: oh, boy... If only you knew...
Fr lol
yeah it's just some dude or woman who doesn't know anything about the animal kingdom.
Then if you take some time to observe fungi...
Remember how some fish can change gender?
Nudibranch
Speaking as a girl, I'm happy to go to a chain restaurant, coffee shop, ice cream, or the movies on a date. Of course that's because I want a relationship, not a submissive human ATM.
You don’t want a submissive human automatic teller machine or you don’t want a submissive human at the moment? Maybe later? 😊
Street tacos are probably one of the greatest foods in existence and probably don't meet the standards of this list. Tacos prove the entire list false.
@@cbrewitt What is wrong with you?
Yeah, me too :-D I have to say that a movie date is a great idea. Coffee dates are also great, especially as first dates. My hubby took me to a long walk around the town, we walked for hours, sat down for a cup of coffee for a couple of hours, and then continued walking :-D It was wonderful :-D
@@cbrewitt LOL I think ATM is the automatic teller machine, "at the moment" would be atm.
2010: "If you don't work harder you'll end up living in a van by the river!"
2020: "If you work harder, you too can afford to live in a van by the river!"
Good ol America.
2023 "... you might want to avoid the river because of the industrial waste spill, but maybe a parking lot will do!"
Nah, that's why the river has such great rent! Just don't get wet. You _will_ get cancer.
Does it count that I live in a van in the middle of the desert? Built it out myself.
@@elaexplorerthat sounds great.
The guy who's "concerned" about his girlfriend buying stuff is a very clear case of 'I don't like these things so you're wasting your money.'
Makes sense, I would agree with him if I was in that situation even if I liked that stuff,
Honestly I hope she broke up with him. That stuff is clearly well within her budget -- heck, most of it sounds like stuff I would buy for myself, and I _don't_ make "six figures". Also, he clearly doesn't share her interests (even to the extent that, apparently, I do!), and his "concern" comes off as awfully patronizing.
@@rossjennings4755 And bitter, he seemed quite jealous of her earnings.
exactlyyy, if its inside her possibilities, why the f care. shush@@rossjennings4755
The guy also clearly doesn’t understand how wanted people who have studied AI are. She’s not gonna get fired, instead she’s probably gonna find an even better paying job
The number of husbands who leave their wives after they lose their breast after cancer is utterly astounding. It’s incredibly sad.
My BIL!
Basically happened to Angelina Jolie...
Wonder if the group they sent Dad to was to try to prevent abandonment. To this day there's a ton of guys that divorce their wives when they get cancer, or debilitating illnesses. (Like Mr "7 months" Oh no, i won't get laid during Chemo)
To clarify, mom should have gotten therapy as well. I just wonder if that was a "Don't be a jerk and leave" intervention.
Women have to be loyal, but the men can just take off. What about "for better, for worse, in sickness and health"?
Imagine if we were to leave them as soon as they become impotent and lose their hair. We'd get so much hate.
Fun animal fact: alligators have been known to give each other piggyback rides. given that there is no evident evolutionary advantage to this behaviour, science has to assume they do this for fun
Awww, even the scary animals do cute things!
They also like flowers particularly the pink ones
thanks to both of you. those are adorable little images 🐊🌺
i mean you could argue that if they taking turns, they conserve on swimming energy that way. But more importantly: YOSHI!!!!!!!!
And bees roll wooden balls around for fun!
I think one thing that always makes me palm my face is just the idea people think people being of the LGBTQ+ community is political. Just for being themselves.
That be like if I told a straight couple to stop being political for casually dating.
It's just silly.
I mean have you seen the responses to the McDonalds Japan ads? People really do think that way
Ik, it upsets me so much that they reduce people to politics.
@@PretendingToBeAHumanyou can't meet a genocidal moron in the middle.
@PretendingToBeAHuman
Yeah, I think you're right. We can accept people who are different from us unless they're detrimental/harmful, but they objectify trans people and see them more as ideologies than emotional humans.
@@alyssabaerne9508nice try, mimicking youtube. Too bad it's still a shit take.
"Never take a woman on these dates-"
Solution: Take a man instead.
You can definitely date your homies as well ! Nothing forbids some good times with the homies, albeit we don't usually call that a date but who cares honestly.
Or more specifically have a woman take you instead of a man 😉
I would have taken a date to olive garden if one was near her, but instead went to a local place that was similar
@@Moho_braccatus You.
I like the way you think. 😆
LMFAO
As someone who spoke to queer men, yes, they told me that it's easier for them to bring boys to dates, rather than girls. they're more simple and less picky, making it easier for them to end in a good image if tehy're kinda broke and cant allow themselves anything else apart from a mcdonald's
For the AITA guy complaining that his girlfriend spends her own money: "The dumbest thing she ever has in her apartment is you"
the bf is jealous, sadly🙁
He's also dumb af. Megablocks makes Star Trek sets and Lego makes Star Wars. He clearly doesn't pay enough attention to detail when it comes to his gf's likes and interests. smh
I have a really well paying job, to the point my husband doesn't have to work. You know who is the last person to complain about what I buy? My husband. He knows what's up.
Yeah, that girl sounds awesome, and should dump his controlling boring ass.
It just sounds like she needs to get something else new in her flat - a new boyfriend.
I think that the guy pissed at his "immature" girlfriend (and seriously, you're 9-10 years apart; what did you expect?) is just mad that he's lost his leverage over her. I mean, she was a 20-something student sharing an apartment with 4 other people, and he was in his 30s with a stable job. That's just an inherent power imbalance. She probably had little to no fun money, so he was the one in charge of what frivolous things she got, and she'd always "owe him" in a sense for anything he helped her with or bought her.
Now she's not reliant on him at _all,_ and I suspect he's also jealous that she has so much disposable income after her financial goals for the month are met. Oh, and that she's not lavishly spending it on _him_ (because she owes him) or saving up to buy "herself" a house.
However, he is right about the renting. If you have the capability to save up money and you are renting, you will want to eventually, the sooner the better, buy a place to live. Every year you rent you are throwing away tens of thousands of dollars, or more, and just giving it to your landlord for absolutely nothing, and that's after they pay for maintenance and taxes on the property. You can't even take rent paid off your taxes.
@@david2869 On the other hand, renting means that a) _you_ don't have to bother with maintenance and b) you can at any time tell your landlord "I'll be moving out end of next month, toodeloo." For some people, that's worth more than owning the property.
@@rolfs2165 Yes, there can be advantages to renting, certainly. For the short term, renting is preferable. For the long term, owning is preferable. It depends on what your life is like.
@@rolfs2165for some people that’s not possible. As some landlords have their renters sign multi-year leases. And the only way to get out of those is to pay a steep termination fee (unless the landlord messes up big time and you’re leaving due to them not upholding their part of the lease.)
YES YES YES THIS!!!!! She's making 6 figures at 26!!! HE'S SO JELLY!!!!!!!!
I struggled with multiple EDs growing up, and was really skinny. It ruined my metabolism, and I have medical problems that partially made me go down that path. Now I have weight issues, and when I say I had EDs, people have said shit like "I can tell," when I'm actually in recovery and still struggle with it because of what happened post EDs. Body shaming is so frustrating.
First, I want it to be CLEAR that I am not being comical or making fun of you. What do you mean by EDs? I keep filling in the blanks with Erectile Dysfunction which has ( To my knowledge ) always been known as 'ED' for short but I get the strong feeling that isn't what you are talking about.
I‘m glad you‘re still here and are recovering. I‘m proud of you ❤
Sending you hugs, love, and extra spoons! (If you want them, of course.)
I agree with Morgan; I am so proud of you, too. It takes a heroic level of courage to admit that you have struggled with EDs.
Anyone who says something stupid or hateful to you about your medical history is revealing _their own_ lack of empathy, intelligence, compassionate curiosity, morality, strength, consideration, and thoughtfulness. The fault is in them, _never_ in you. They are so weakly insecure that they'd rather hurt people than ask a question.
Meanwhile, you've not only overcome the biology which made you susceptible to developing EDs, trained your brain to develop new pathways, managed your emotional and physical responses any time you experienced elevated stress and/or relapse, overcome the inertia of force of habit, accepted that there have been consequences from the EDs, believed in your self-worth, and fought through the bureaucracy of doctors and the medical system to get yourself help. Most of all, you've continuously made the choice to value yourself enough to fight back against the darkness which tries to consume you, knowing that the battle may become easier with time and practice, but it doesn't just go away.
You're a damn tough rockstar; you deserve to be celebrated! 🩵🤗🫂💖
Congratulations on remission. Enjoy! 🕊️
Struggled with bulimia for several years as a teen (along with a whole host of other things), was never "underweight" and hid it well so it got ignored. I also had a lot of muscle which meant I was heavier than I looked but it was mostly just related to other mental health issues. That particular issue does still come up occasionally but I couldn't help but laugh recently when I went our drinking with a group of people and ended up overdoing it which resulted in me throwing up in the street, a couple of people said something along the lines of "wow, I've never seen someone throw up silently and cleanly before" and I had to explain to them that oh yeah, that's from the bulimia where I had to be silent because the walls in the house were paper thin. People joke about that sort of thing without realising that it's a real problem that can have lifelong effects on your physical health and just because someone looks a certain way you don't know their past or what they might have struggled with
Another layer to the facepalm on the black samurai thing is that they weren't *adding* black people. Yasuke was an actual African warrior who served as a bodyguard to a missionary in Japan but was eventually made into a samurai under none other than Oda Nobunaga himself. His story is fascinating and absolutely anime worthy.
That person was just seemingly like "ANIME shouldn't have Black people because Black people are political" which is just a baffling excuse for racism for several reasons.
@@mastermarkus5307I like to pretend that anyone who ever says anything incredibly stupid like that is just doing it to bait people because they like making people angry. It makes the world seem like a better place.
Yeah, a lot of stuff has actually been recognizing him lately and I'm all for it. The latest Samurai Warriors (offshoot of the Dynasty Warriors games) added him, and apparently he's the male playable character for Assassin's Creed Red
@@BananaWasTaken I don’t know which is worse
Afro Samurai was garbage. Pretty generic and boring, females were props not characters. Very low bar for the remake.
Funnily enough, having deliveries made to my house and conveniently placed right underneath the big "BEWARE OF THE DOG" sign seems to have done the trick in dissuading people from taking my stuff. They don't need to know that my dog is a toothless old man who'd rather hide behind the couch and bark than actually attack anyone lol
plot twist: your dog is actually a 75 year old human
_10 psychic damage_
For anyone reading: read your local laws before having a beware of dog sign! Some US states at least will consider that as you knowing your dog is aggressive so if it ever does bite anyone it can be considered as a animal that is already known to be dangerous
@@thephilosophertentacles1951Oh no...I was super excited for a moment...
My "beware of" dog is a little 27 lb bordoodle who will at worst headbutt someone with her teeth on a hike if she's overexcited (she's still a puppy).
@ArcanineEspeon a lot of people with beware of signs have incredibly benign dogs. But accidents can happen.
I only know because I worked animal rescue in a state that had this type of law. Meaning robbers who got bit still got to claim owners knew their dog was aggressive and ensuing legal drama
On my friend's her first date (they've been married for 15yrs), the guy said he just needed to stop by a hardware store to replace something at home. My friend is mad for home repairs and she even refurbished her own basement so they took about 90 minutes in the big hardware store looking at everything then went for coffee. Match made in heaven LOL.
Match made in hardware store*
Match made in Home Depot
Heaven is whatever place you want it to be, so... Home Depot is it for some, I guess 😂
Brilliant.
Ok, lucky for him. Pretty sure many would get a bit unnerved if you make a pitstop to a hardware store. "Just wait here got to buy some more rope and duct tape. Ran out last weekend."
Fun fact: some men can actually breastfeed! Obviously you have the men who were AFAB but cis men can lactate too! It’s potentially a result of hypothyroidism, pituitary tumor, certain liver problems, and/or certain medications! My antipsychotic medication that I take for my bipolar disorder has the potential side effect of lactation!
A fun fact few seem to know
TIL that men can lactate due to abnormalities in metabolism
I wouldn't call it "fun". simply because of the medical issues but it's definitely interesting!😊
With the right prescriptions, men can breastfeed. It happens. However, I think if I remember right, the one medication that works best for making males lactate is not legally available in the USA because of some cancer risk or something. It has been a while since I read up on that stuff.
I’ve heard it’s actually quite similar in composition to female breast milk, but I have no clue if the volume would be sufficient for feeding a baby.
"The egg doesn't chase the sperm" is quite possibly the worst metaphor I have ever heard. If you like someone and you want to ask them out, go for it. Regardless of their or your gender.
"It's unnatural!" So are clothes, glasses and destilled booze.
And it's not like the sperm have any idea where they're going either
@@johannaweichsel3602oh but they do
isn't it that the egg actually gives of something (can't remember exactly what it's called) to attract the sperm to go the right direction?
@@2okaycolanah. They don't think or have instict to do or know anything. It's just a bunch of proteins and well places hormones (also, idk why it's so uncommon to know, the sperm only really "works" at the very start, they lose all energy required to swim pretty quickly and are carried most of the time by mucus and stuff)
The fourteen year old girl from Scotland voice KILLED me XD
Love what you do Click, keep doing it
I didn't realize teenage Scotland girls sound like 40-year-old burly men. 😆 I'm always learning new things from Clicky!!
That AI girl with geeky decor sounds like she actually has a personality and some joy in her life, unlike her beige wallpaper boyfriend.
BEIGE WALLPAPER BOYFRIEND?! AHAHAHAHAHAHA I'm adding that to my list of rare insults xD That is gold!
@@AnoukhHellstream In german we have the expression "someone with the charm of a "Raufasertapete" (woodchip wallpaper).
Also the age gap makes me feel like hes just depressed shes enjoying her 20's while hes just a boring person
@@jellyagogo7515it's not too late for him! I'm 40 and I'm literally sitting in front of my "irresponsibly expensive" gaming PC, planning where to hang the pretty art of video game characters I bought at Comic Con, and I just backed a TTRPG Kickstarter.
What's the point of having Grown Up Money if you don't spend it on things that make your life more joyful?
"oh toi horrible adulte fonctionnelle et capable d'être parfaitement autonome, comment oses-tu avoir des centres d'intérêts ?😮"
Also, the reason men traditionally pay for the meal is bc traditionally women were expected to be entirely financially dependent on men and therefore as incapable of paying for their own meals as a child would be. Being equal to men means having the same responsibilities as men, like paying for your own food if you have an income.
People who would rather have less Rights just to have fewer responsibilities just make me sad. Like, you'd rather have no agency just so you don't have to pay for things yourself?
I will always feel more at ease if I'm paying for what I ordered, but I think it's also polite for the person who asked the other person out to offer to pay for the date. Regardless of gender.
I think the ideal dating structure try to aim for is, of the first three dates, one it split evenly (or potentially covered by a third party if being set up on a blind date by them), one is planned and paid for entirely by one person, and the other totally planned and paid for by the other person.
While I made less than my husband when we started dating, I lived with my parents and he was paying for an apartment. So if I wanted to go somewhere a bit out of his budget, I paid. Seems simple.
I would actually appreciate a guy asking about the budget. Because I'll be honest, I would bring it up because I have every intention of splitting the bill always. The only time anybody gets to pay for food is if they trick me, or the weird game that we play when my family is involved and everyone is constantly trying to pay for the bill for everyone for some weird reason. When that happens basically I keep tally and make sure that I pay back by paying for another meal. Yes I literally keep a tally. For example my friend Quan has mastered the art of somehow managing to pay the bill anytime I go to the bathroom, so I owe him two events now. But I'm wise to it now, so I'm going to go to the bathroom before the event and then talk to the person who has the bill ahead of time, lol.
Here's a sad face palm moment about religious people and evolution. So I grew up in a very religious household and was also raised to think that people who believe in evolution were silly (then I went to college and learned what evolution actually is) anyway, my mom and dad as part of an anniversary trip, took a trip to The Ark, and I guess a "christian archeologist" determined that the animals on Noah's Ark looked different than today's animals (like wow, what a concept that clearly the religious folk came up with first) Anyway, in a weird way, I thought this was a good thing because I thought that now christians can lose this silly misguided concept of evolution, and I began to tell my mom as such...she then interrupts me and says "Actually it's not evolution, they were just the ancestors of our modern day animals".... I just kept my mouth shut
That is literally what evolution is though
...What did she think evolution was? I'm actually really curious, I wonder how many religious people actually believe in evolution, they just think it means something different
@@Crybaby_in_a_Tardisr/woooosh shield, here you go 🛡️
My parents were very deeply religious but they still believed in evolution. When I asked about this my dad said "Science is our way of figuring out how God made the world." It's wild to me that people think religion and science have to be opposites yet my dad believed in both.
@@AIHumanEquality as agnostic I can somewhat tolerate this notion, honestly believing in something like a higher being or life after death is it self not that bad (as long you don't harm others or yourself), but religion is where I draw the line, cause these are clearly just organisations to keep people in control and scamming them, at worst downright hurt and abusing them.
" The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog" does have every letter. the facepalm was them not seeing the letters.
It's called a pangram. Other examples AR "shockingly few discoteques provide jukeboxes" and "sphinx of black quartz judge my vow" (well those ones aren't perfect but there fairly close)
"A quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog" does have all 26 (English) letters. I agree with you that someone just didn't bother to look.
No it doesn't. I don't see æøå or œþç or other letters not in the English alphabet! There are other....
Continues to be a Dick about it just because that's what we do on the internet
@@navnher1135The modern english alphabet.
Anyone who would say anime is an escape from politics hasn't watched much anime. So many of them have politics, discussions of religion, war, environmentalism, etc.
i.e., any of the Gundam Wing series, any Studio Ghibli movie (always environmentalism and/or politics involved), Ghost in the Shell, Cowboy Bebop (they regularly bring up politics and commercialism), Outlaw Star, etc.
Anime doesn't ignore the serious topics. It just provides a different avenue for depicting them from different perspectives.
i watch anime to escape reality, so even though I enjoy some ghibli movie avery now and then I usually just watch dumb shit about dudes fighting or smth
Even one piece, one of the biggest anime ever, is VERY political
AoT, FMA Brotherhood, and One Piece all do a great job with the "absolute power corrupts absolutely" concept
Gate, too. Invasions, journalists asking certain questions in certain orders to trip you up, bunch a other stuff and all the different sides of a conflict too
Like imagine watching Grave of the Fireflies and saying Ghibli doesn't make political films. 😭
Miyazaki got an Oscar for Spirited Away, but refused to come to the states to recieve it was because he was against the Iraq War. One of the primary focuses of many of his films is the destruction of nature and how capitalistic growth and fighting against nature instead of living alongside it is dangerous.
And that's just the "kids movies" studio.
17:00 My grandma had cancer and a double mastectomy back in the 70s. She came home from the hospital to her abusive, disgusting, serial cheater husband and he said to her "Look at you, you're already with one foot in the grave". That's when she asked for divorce. Moral of the story: bad times can be a good moment to realize you've been with the wrong person for way too long and it's time to throw away the trash.
Your grandma sounds awesome!
aww poor grandma, glad she is safe now.
@@xd._.28234 thanks ^^ she would be 102 now, hasn't been with us for a while, but the rest of her life was much better without him 😁
@@CathySW 🤗❤
@@Selynn. rest in peace! I'm happy for you and her that she could live in peace the rest of her years
Girl making 6 figures and still putting into savings? Good for her! Hell yeah! She has a job that allows her to buy things she's probably always wanted, her spending will slow down. Let her enjoy herself. Goddamn.
Actually, if you are making 6 figures and aren't putting something into savings, then you need to seriously examine your spending habits!
Also, I'd love to have a woman who buys that kind of "immature" stuff with her spending money.
@@rolfs2165 Honestly, I think anybody would be lucky to have anybody who buys this kind of stuff with their free money instead of just blowing it all on Bitcoin, NFTs, MLMs, or whatever the current big scam is nowadays 🤣
Yeah, it's normal when someone gets their first real job.
Also like... she has a very well paying job in an extremely nerdy, competitive field. The things she's buying are part and parcel with the kind of person who would be able to do that. Idk who the dude thought he was dating
That lady waving her ass in the face of a ballpark employee who's just trying to do his job is straight-up sexual harassment, and the part that frustrates me is nobody seems to see it that way. I really shouldn't have to say this, but imagine some dude in the stands making pelvic thrusts at a female employee over and over, escalating when she doesn't respond and then posting it online with a caption about how she definitely has a boyfriend because her eyes weren't transfixed on his trouser bulge. That's essentially the same thing, but I don't think the most negative response would be "ha ha cringe". This shit isn't cute and it isn't funny, and who's doing it to who shouldn't matter.
Amen to that!
I don't think the term nobody really applies here, I certainly feel that way when I see sexual harassment from either gender. And I know others in my circle that feel the same... Edit: to be fair I do agree that it should be more generally seen as sexual harassment than is the reality right now.
Nooooo; the dissociation of women’s sexuality when they become mothers is ridiculous. People need to learn nuance and have respect for women as people first.
That won't happen unfortunately as long as assholes like Andrew Tate exist
And also, what would that means for porn and sex work in general? Sex workers and porn stars can‘t have children? Or their jobs shouldn‘t exist? It‘s so silly.
Women don't become sexless beings after giving birth? 🙄 No wonder no one in the world has siblings.
My 3 younger siblings probably came from acorns.
@saskiakraft there are definitely people who feel like sex work (and sex workers) should not exist. I tend to find them hateful rather than silly though.
Any other radical ideas?
You can really get that dude's perspective on relationships when he refers to her extra funds as "free money" not money that she worked for.
The "I sat her down and calmly explained" part struck me as weird too. Out of context I would have guessed that was coming from a parent lecturing a 12-year-old. This guy wants to dictate how an adult gets to spend the money that she's earned, and he thinks he gets good guy points for doing it by talking down to her as if she were a child? As opposed to what? Yelling at her?
To ladies who compiled the list of places not to go to on the first date: just tell him you want to go to a fancy restaurant, it's not that difficult! No need to gaslight peole into believing there is some kind of unwritten rule of unsuitable places 😑
Right? How else are supposed to know?
@@moon-moth1if someone says “hey I want to go to a fancy restaurant” that isn’t a legal obligation for the other person to take them there
@@moon-moth1
I know this is going to be mindblowing, but, stating your preferences to a date doesn't obligate that date to comply. A girl can say, "I want to go to X". The other person can say, "I don't". I know! MINDBLOWING!
Or just like, pay for the date yourself. As a woman, I hate when men refuse to let me pay for anything if I want to pay for it.
I mean, they didn't say a garbage dump site or a rehab is a bad first date idea so who knows
The guy around 36:00 is complaining about his partner, who is nearly a DECADE YOUNGER buying "immature" stuff? If you think she's immature, *why are you dating her.* I dunno man but an age gap that large when someone is just out of college and freshly in the job market is just suspicious and gross to me. 100% agree with her that he's being weird and controlling.
He mad because he lost the power inbalance over the relationship and couldnt claim it back
i’ve also noticed this pattern
Freshly out of grad school, not college. I do agree with everything you say but the partner has an advanced degree (which could possibly be another source of resentment or jealously on the part of the writer, along with the salary she makes)
Then they shouldn't get to vote either.
She is totally responsible with her own money and buys stuff that brings her joy, absolutely horrific.
I completely get the girl buying cool things now that she has such a good job’s reaction to her partner. I’m a law student and was talking to some of my classmates about how to motivate yourself to complete a particularly tedious project and discovered that we all have a ‘dream’ object that we’d like to buy. Everything from Lego sets, diamond rings, anime figurines, fancy watches and sports cars. All of us have something that ourselves or a loved one looked at when we were younger and said ‘when I have money I’ll own that/buy it for you’. If I had a partner that told me I couldn’t/shouldn’t buy my dad the expensive watch he always looks at when he thinks my mum and I are looking at jewellery or the anime figurine of my favourite character from when I was 10 that I’ve dreamed of owning once I was on a lawyer’s salary I’d probably be quite mad. Why work so hard if you can’t splurge on things that make you happy every once in a while?
We shouldn't be living to work but working to live (unless you absolutely love your job in which case you could be doing both).
I wouldn't be mad... I would just discard him... Hes way off his line
My psychiatrist encouraged me to get little things for myself as I complete steps in my recovery. Maybe something every big step. I march at an ants pace so it will take a while. Doctors also recommend a cheat day once a week, not like off the rails buffet eating or anything, but if you're dieting and craving a particular food all week you can hold out until cheat day and reward yourself. It helps you stick to it, and I feel like that's important for life, learning to set achievable goals, meeting them, and rewarding yourself in the appropriate manner and amount.
@@wartginunfortunately the capitalists won the cold war
I've seen so many posts where they call heterochromia "homophobia". Somehow I'm seeing posts for a Warrior Cats subreddit and scrolled past a post that was titled "They all have homophobia in their eyes" and I was like "they have what now".
That must be autocorrect, right?
Let me try:
Heterochromia ….
Nope, that’s not it. 😂
@@Philemaphobia spelling? its probably that
I think it's a deliberate boneappletea joke
Seconding the boneappletea thought. It's a meme at this point.
😂😮what ? ❤🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
On the topic of bullying and internet beef, this year a friend of mine from school burried her 13 yr old, she unalived herself after being bullied so intensely. Not long ago, an innocent man unalived himself after being targeted with false claims of pedophilia. This world needs a lot more kindness. Parents shouldnt have to bury their children.
People think bullying among kids is just "ya can't sit w/ us LOSER" or "LMAO Billy has a phone from 2008, hes POOR" caliber. Those people don't realize that
a.) kids are actually capable of learning morality and respect and empathy by displaying a lack of it and hopefully feeling guilty afterwards
b.) in the learning process they can be complete sociopaths
c.) they cause as much harm, or even worse as adult throwing a punch
Speaking from experience, this is just one of they ways adults underestimate the impact children have. To me this is scary.
@@unsightedshadow2780 absolutely, I remember how cruel childhood and highschool bullies were and it seems to get worse and worse. Another shitty part about my friend's daughter is the school is completely covering it up. And of course continue to do nothing to help prevent another suicide from bullying. I know there's limitations to what the school can do, but they're taking zero actions.
@@caitlinholloway2627that sucks ASS. I get that they’re probably covering it up so they don’t get sued or something but like?? It wasn’t THE SCHOOLS fault, they can’t perfectly control EVERY child, and it’s not like they ACTIVELY told the students to bully the poor girl.. but if they aren’t in trouble, then why are they hiding it? I hope this doesn’t happen again, I’m sorry for you and your friends loss.
Yup, in my small hometown we had a kid in my grade commit suicide in the school locker room. We were in middle school- I think I was like 13 at the time. We had a terrible class of boys that would bully this guy a lot. The girls would mostly just watch, a couple joined. The teachers wouldn’t do anything but maybe punish both the bully and a victim. Some of the teachers even joined in the bullying. It was no surprise when one day we got called to an assembly about what happened.
The school was quick to talk about that incident (because they didn’t help) but they wouldn’t plan anything for the anniversary of 2 students that got into an accident and died. The students that knew those kids were very upset because they were just a couple months away from graduating last year
@@unsightedshadow2780oh this is really true! When I was six I was constantly a targeting of bullying, threats were made on me and my glasses and other stuff. Some girl tried to hurt me with a broom once and threatened to hurt me and break my glasses, the school didn't take it seriously at all and wouldn't even tell the parents what their kids were doing expect for one little girl due to how pissed my parents were. I had to go on antidepressants which caused really bad side effects and I ended up SH-ing Infront of my parents while telling them I wanted to KMS. CPS was also on my parent's door due to me missing so much school bc my parents let me stay home so I didn't have to endure the bullying. I even had to go to the doctor every other day just to gets shots to stop panic attacks.
I've heard a woman put it well in a street interview. The only thing that should be offputting about someone taking you to McDonald's for a first date is that it shows a certain lack of effort and presentation. You can be cute and romantic without spending tons of money. Taking a first date on a picnic or a coffee date is cute and romantic, and you can keep the day in budget even if you offer to pay.
That being said, if you and your date aren't into hearts and flowers and candlelight, a lowkey hangout can be fun.
Maybe pitch it a little better. "Hey, wanna get some french fries and watch shitty movies?" sounds fun and laid back. "I dunno, why don't we just get some Big Macs?" sounds like you don't really give a shit.
I would agree with this outside of one key factor. In the USA McDonald's has gone downhill drastically over the years- like I'm not a fan of fast food at all but they are the worst at this point- last time I had any was because I was on a long road trip and we had been soaked in the cold rain half the day(had been visiting a junkyard for car parts) and wanted something hot and there was no where for miles- hot was all it was, all the taste was oil and salt. If someone is suggesting McDonald's I would genuinely be concerned about their ability to taste.
I know people that absolutely would love a MC Donald's date though, especially in the holiday season where they can get a scarf/socks/etc.! 😅
True. But Netflix and chill is just code for sex and run tho.
As a swede (and stereotypical scandinavian) my heart broke when they listed "coffee dates" as a no go for dates. HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO CONNECT WITH PEOPLE WITHOUT A FIKA??
The true outrage >:(
This triggered me too xD
Yes. As a Norwegian I feel your pain.
I don't even date anymore, but it really offends me..
Rest of the world connects with alcohol. But in Sweden I would also prefer coffee XD
Bullying someone about their weight only makes them feel even worse and want to soothe themselves with food so much more.
When my dad would criticize my eating as a kid, it didn't make me eat better, it just taught me to sneak food so as not to get criticized. I developed some very bad eating habits because of it.
comfort eating
Bullying by definition is not helpful. Being supportive, engaging with positive change, setting examples that are healthy and accessible are ways of helping someone, but bullying always by definition harms the person being affected. If it is not causing harm to them, it's not bullying! I just cannot even begin to understand why someone would think being a bully is a bragging point.
Right! The best motivators that I've found are 1) feeling physically better and 2) finding healthy foods that are easy to prep and tasty. God knows it's a work in progress, but shame has pretty definitively been proven a terrible motivator for me.
I could get the "boob theraphy" thing if it was to make sure spouses treated their partners appropriately after losing a body part (that many consider an integral part of being a woman). And you know, not making the loss harder. But why on earth would *she* not be offered counselling?
The 70's.
Well, it doesn't take away from her ability to clean, cook, be submissive in bed, or anything a wife should do according to the 70s.
Why would she be offered counselling ? You have a meatpie to get back to, Lady, go on now, daddy needs to cry over your boobas.
@@lorifiedler13 They had counseling for the men though. Like they weren't the ones who lost a body part.😭😭
@@steamyvegetables1445 The 70s. Long enough ago I can clock that it's inequality going on here.
it's sad, because the worst part of it is that boobs is only fat there. like a ball lof fat hanging. U can lose them due to an illness, anorexia or excessive muscle mass. And you're not less of a woman for losing them in whatever way, whether temporal or forever(im talking about cis women who lost theirs)
it's not even an organ determined by dna, because if a woman, or a transgender man take testosterone, they totally disspapear or partially, plus if you train your chest even more. What makes them be boobs is the hormone, if u stop taking it, or you supress the hormone with pills, it will disappear. By the logic of boobs equals woman, an anorexic and bodybuilder woman, both with barely to no boobs, arent women anymore. 🤡
hormones play like an 80% in one's appearence, if you take the opposite sex hormones eventually u wont look like a woman or man anymore. So yeah its stupid to reduce a piece of fat to a sex. It'd be different if you said xx=female and xy=male(in terms of sex), but its not even that
Imagine needing counseling to handle boob loss oh my god. My partner loves my boobs but fully understands they are very temporary (transmale) as I'm close to getting surgery. The fact he got counselling and not his wife, who is losing part of her body, absolutely baffles me
That's the worst part of that one! Like it would almost be excusable as a way to prepare for things changing - counseling and therapy can help with most things - if it were offered for both of them, but the fact that the wife wasn't given counseling just cinches it as something gross.
Congrats on your upcoming teet-yeeting.
I offer myself as tribute to the geeky tech girl once she dumps that guy. That is pretty much living the dream. I would absolutely would support her decorating choices.
me too! 😁
Right? She sounds like an awesome person!
Literally its like, ma'am, you are like 90% of the populations dream partner, please, please god lmao leave people that don't appreciate you 😭
I wanna be her shopping buddy! 😂
@@andy6877 so just having money and lots of things makes you a "dream partner"?
So glad stip clubs are still acceptable for first dates! Whew, I was getting worried.
Hey, you've gotta set unrealistic expectations in the relationship somehow, amiright?
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😹😹😹 this comment is gold.
What's even better is that somehow visiting your friend/family member in prison is a safe date. "Oh what did Jimmy do?" "You don't want to know"
@@jolteon345 oh shoot you’re right- 😂
You can only imagine how confused that guy was every time he saw a tire inflation device in a random place, like the hallway of a school or library.
In fairness to the man he may have just been exhausted from either working a lot or life stress. I think we've all had moments sometimes where stress or exhaustjon just makes our brains stop working correctly.
36:30 I fucking hope she breaks up with that guy. Like how does he have that audacity?! It's her money!
"the quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog" is a sentence I see a lot wn 'font examples', since it actually *does* contain all the letters of the english alphabet and can offer a good insight into how the text will actually look like using any given font
Yep. I remember it was part of learning how to type may decades ago.
Although I've known about this sentence for decades, I actually had to stop the video to check that the letters were, in fact, there. I'm taking it as a sign of my willingness to fact check things I "know" are real, and not of my sad gullible state.
@@lazykbysl had to check it too. Even though l've believed it unquestioningly for more than 50 years, having someone say it wasn't true really threw me. Lol.
@@angiebcraftsdesignI used it in typing classes in the 70’s
In the first date no-go list they do not mention BDSM dungeons.
Having gone on first dates to BDSM dungeons, with the right person they can work nicely. And they are remarkably safe because the people who run them want *NO* problems with the law.
No, I wouldn't recommend it. The first dates I took to dungeons I also met at dungeons.
They also don’t mention delis or supermarkets.
I mean. I'm on a bdsm hookup site and I bet a lot of them have done it
Yeah, I wouldn’t go there on a first date. But it’s also wayyyy better for a first date than somebody’s house.
@@darkstarr984 It's something to go to if you want a kinky date or a nsa date
I think the "14yr old" Scottish story might be an adult who is trying to get legal advice for intentionally creating a cp trading server without outing themselves. What 14 yr old girl would actually start a Loli server & wouldn't delete co from it?! I hope they aren't a parent trying to pin it on their 14 yr old daughter!
there is this but im too distracted by the image of a 14 year old girl speaking in a thick burly scottish accent to stop laughing
It’s the internet, I’m pretty certain that this is a completely plausible thing to happen… teens trying to find out what they like in life isn’t anything new… that said, it’s an extremely precarious situation if it isn’t fake
I know i was like “this has to be bait wtf? A loli shota server really??”
So the voice was spot on.
@@TheHitsubasaThe thing that is weird is that the server doesn't seem to be NSFW which means they would have no reason to specify "Loli/Shota" (Yes I know those terms aren't inherently sexual but in this context I fail to see what other options exist) this sounds like an adult who has a very basic knowledge of anime trying to pass as a child.
17:30 support groups for loved ones / partners / relatives are great and important. It's necessary to take care of yourself as you hold space for a loved one going through illness. It's also valid to talk about "silly" side topics like "i'm gonna miss her boobs", this is part of grief and it's fine.
The issue here is the priorities.
The fact that the wife didn't get counseling for her OWN cancer or the fact that OP does not express concern for his actual girlfriend and her health, those are issues.
Support groups are great!
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"I told my girlfriend she can't spend her own money from her very well-paying job on fun little things she enjoys, AITA?" Yes. Gaping, in fact. I would wager you've fit your entire head up there more than once.
Pretty sure we’ll see him again on r/AmITheEx soon. Just saying.
I don't think he's taken it out of there.
I had someone try to porch pirate a long Furby I commissioned. I was so worried because I paid about a hundred dollars for the Furby himself, and more to get him shipped from the UK to Texas. I come home and he’s sitting on my front porch. Someone took the Furby out and decided to put him back
Questioning what whoever it was thought when they opened up the package expecting something expensive, and got a Furby
That's amazing!!! :D porch piracy is really icky but their face must have been amazing when they opened your package lmaoooo
Maybe the eldritch furby gods just scared them away.
For those ladies that listed all those places ‘not’ to take them on dates, just take em to Chucky Cheese, I didn't see anything about not going there.
Hooters! That wasn't on there.
Isn't that a fast food chain?
@notville_no he didn't, show us the stream and time, then I'll believe you
23:56
Bruh, that is just straight up sexual harrassment
Imagine if it was a guy who started thrusting in her general direction, while she tried to ignore him
He'd be dead in 24 hours
Fun animal fact: my cats are very cute and make a little "mrrrrpp" Cat Activation Noise if you pet them when they're asleep.
Mine do the same thing! It's adorable
In the same vein, my kitten purrs so aggressively she accidentally chirps while she's purring
I love when cats do that little noise. Mine does that if they are focused on something and I sneak up on them or they are asleep and I touch them.
I've found it only happens when they are in a deep sleep which already is a sign of trust
@@Dovah_Slayer I think my cat trusts me. They are literally laying on my left shoulder leaning against my ear while they are cleaning themselves lol
Okay im always ashtonishes when men so often are like " first date at my place?" Like are they really that out of touch from how women think? Because that is like THE prime way for assault/murder or both to happen..... and im not trying my luck with anyone no matter how nice they may seem because shit like that happenes to women EVERYDAY
Yeah I had the exact opposite issue actually, I wanted to date this girl I haven't seen in years because we got along so well by message, and since I had no time available between work and cleaning the flat above the restaurant I was trying to sell during the week-ends, she legitimately offered to come help me clean up the flat.
I was like. Woman. Do you even care about your safety?
Not to mention, I had restraints laying around after years of bdsm relationship with my ex.
Long story short, she's amazingly comprehensive and wonderful, and I'm madly in love with her now. She trusts me more than I could ever hope for. And I'm tearing up writing this.
Anyway, I just needed to talk about it. Have a wonderful day.
As a woman. Some of those date places I 100% agree with that I would not want to go on a first date too. (your house, hookah lounge, church, family functions, the movies unless we get dinner after,) but denying red lobster is where I draw the line
Same. Someone’s never had cheddar bay biscuits and it shows.
Fave date is movie then food to discuss said movie 🍿
@@lydiaboll2872That, crab, and fish are good. Lobster is overrated.
Honestly, isn't a movie + food (either before or after) one of the best first date options available! 🤔
Movies alone just seem like a terrible idea because how do we get to know each other? Food after is good tho
"Never take a woman on THESE DATES" So like literally anywhere that isn't a 6 star restaurant that charges $200 per person. Got it. Big yikes
I would never go on a $200 per person first date, because I wouldn't want to pay for my plate. And I'm not letting somebody else pay $200 for my dinner, that's just probably going to lead to them trying to pressure me into sex because they "paid". And I'm not a hooker. :S I suppose if somebody wants to do a $200 per plate Dutch date then they're just weeding out people that aren't equally wealthy. 🤷
Honestly I'm pretty sure these women were just listing restaurants or places they didn't like, and the list is just as big as it is because they all had different opinions. Like I wouldn't go to Chili's on a date, not because it's not "expensive enough" for me, but because last time I went there I got explosive diarrhea.
.. says she was physically abusive, but says HE physically handled her? My guy if you are being abused, you have a right to defend yourself, but that phrasing? Nah, that doesn't suggest he's the one being abused.
Mutually violent relationships are more common than you’d think. Just because he’s perpetrator doesn’t mean she’s not.
@@pigcatapult oh I know, but that phrasing doesn't help his own case. When the reasoning he gives is less "She hits me so I hit her to stay safe" and more "she wouldn't do what I want" it makes him a bit less reliable as a narrator as far as calling someone else abusive.
i thought he said verbally abusive,, i bet her "verbal abuse" was "she didn't obey my every whim and she dared to say something i disagree with, that's abusive!!!"
Abusers feel entitled to cross their victim's boundaries whenever they want, so when she enforced her boundaries, she denied him something that he wrongly assumed he was entitled to.
@@firepuppies4086 All good and valid points.
For the lady that is making a decent amount of money and getting a rainbow freaking computer, **I** would be willing to replace her man and I'm straight! She sounds like a lot of fun and responsible as hell.
Ikr! I like Men but a gf who enjoyed cooking, had a lot of fun hobbies, and made a lot of money?!
Thats the perfect partner!!
Accusing her of being immature for buying things she likes, even though she has taken care of all the important things like bills, investments, etc., is just such a tell. He's jealous and feels entitled to be the one that should be getting to decide what to do with the 'disposable income' that SHE is making. Gah! Pathetic! She definitely has better options.
@@foxinabox5103 cooking is a basic life skill. Would she still be the perfect partner if she didn't make that money though? Everyone is making a big deal out of it, but if we (women) dare to demand that our male partner make a lot of money, we're gold diggers and whatnot. Money is an illusion. It's not real. It doesn't matter. It only seems like it does. One day you're all going to realise that, but by then it'll be too late.
@@Saranda4787 well, she would still be a good partner even if she didnt make the money.
And i didnt intend to make this into a gendered issue.
The point is that she seemed like a fun person, who had a sense of self and his bf is missing out on that.
Aaaaand the guy with the girlfriend undergoing chemo illustrates precisely why more couples break up when the woman gets sick then when the man does… The expectation is mind blowing.
Also why a woman is way more likely to be divorced by a man if she gets a mastectomy for breast cancer. Because apparently not wanting to die is selfish.
@@waffles3629I face-desked so hard I got a concussion when he read that section. Just a big oof all round
Messed up family history time!
My grandmother had a brain tumor for over a decade before she died. My grandfather almost immediately put her in a home and moved her best friend in, eventually divorcing my grandmother and marrying the "friend".
@@KangarooKommando same. This happened to a school friends mom. She had the choice of total mastectomy and done, or grueling chemo that 'might' work. She choose surgery and he filed for divorce. All of the kids stopped speaking to him and he blamed the mom "for turning them against me". Like dude, you did that yourself.
41:18 My mother had a "mailbox pirate" problem. Years ago, she used to be subscribed to a fancy and relatively expensive fashion magazine. Since the magazine was rolled to fit in the mailbox slit it always stuck out enough to be grabbed without unlocking the box.
So people used to just yoink the magazine because they could and didn't wanna pay for the subscription. She canceled it, and a neighbor once asked if she was still receiving those magazines. Mom was angry, but she let it slide (provided to make the neighbor's life a mess in small petty ways).
4:00 So he basically abused his wife and she filed for divorce with the help of her family after who knows how long he has been abusing her.
Dude told on himself so hard
There are men who actually think that a woman should never divorce, no matter what, some even want the law changed so it's not possible
@@tomlxyz These are probably the same type of men who would think it's a good thing when a woman r*pes a man (or worse, a young boy) because they would've "wanted it"... 🤮 these kinds of people are sick.
If she really abused him, like he said, he should be happy she divorced him
Semi-related thingie here, to me (at least until he said the god given mans' right to beat his wife bullscheisserin) it just seemed like anger issues. She abuses him emotionally, he fights back physically once, boom bam she's got the house and you're stuck with the mortgage. That wrong or is my mind projecting onto itself, my fingers and the keyboard?
Fun animal fact: An ostrich's long legs can stride up to 23 feet, similar to the bound of a cheetah, making it the fastest flightless bird on land
The Pontiac Firebird can go way faster and it’s flightless.
The black kites, otherwise known as fire hawks, spread wildfires by carying burning sticks in their beaks
That is a very interesting fact, huh 23 feet is crazy.
I mean, humans made trains, and those are on land...
@@_StarlightRose_ lol, now all I can imagine is those lil birds in firefighting uniforms doing controlled burns… idk, don’t ask me why… 😂
The only explaination I have for the „no long drive“ thing would be that some women might feel a bit uncomfortable about being in a car with a stranger for a somewhat longer period of time, possibly going through sussy/deserted areas. Other than that, I personally find it weird to be picky about a radius date places need to be within
No long drive, but im sure these same women would be just fine if you flew them in your private jet to an expensive restaurant in monaco.
Even that explanation is weird, because why would someone be strangers with the person they're dating? Wouldn't they have been friends for years already?
I would usually agree, but giving the rest of the list, I'm willing to bet the way more superficial answer is the right one...
@@Mizu_MelonLoL not in the U.S.. First dates may be the first time they are meeting in person or their first interaction outside of work/school/church. They may only know each other from online interactions. Only in very small rural or close knit areas do people date people they've known for years.
I think it's about feeling safe. If you get bad vibes mid-date and feel like you need to get out of there, you don't want to be an hour away from home in unfamiliar surroundings.
My favorite sentence that actually includes every letter from the alphabet came from tumblr: "Sphinx of black quartz, judge my vow"
@@serhiy-serhiiv in the 'my' it does!
Holy crap, that's awesome!!
"The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog" does in fact have every letter in the alphabet, Clicc was criticizing the people trying to "correct" the original post.
But I love your version! I gotta put that into my D&D game somehow.
As an Autistic woman with allergies I'd love it if my date took me to a buffet or at least a place with a build your own salad bar that you can add onto your meal. It's really helpful in avoiding things that can both trigger my allergies and my sensory issues.
Oh man, be careful with that. My allergies were manageable with cross contact when I was younger but now I can't actually go to buffets at all because they get contaminated with the stuff I'm allergic to and I can't tell and I end up getting really sick. I sure hope that that never happens to you because I just, I just cannot even imagine having sensory issues with food on top of food allergies that would just be terrible if you also had to be worried about cross contact. On the bright side, I do not eat garbage because I have to cook everything from scratch so almost no processed foods and almost no restaurant food. I can eat sushi at restaurants where they understand specifically what my allergies are because the sushi bar doesn't contain a lot of what I'm allergic to. I can eat some dishes at vegan places. That's it. (Mammals product allergy sucks)
ADHD woman with sensory challenges and a vegetarian: Big YES to buffets! :D Or at least big YES to planning the restaurant visit together and both checking if the menus work for us or not!
@@darcieclements4880 My food allergies are bell pepper (yet not spicy peppers, so I guess whatever makes bell peppers sweet instead of spicy is what I'm allergic to), pork, cinnamon, whole wheat, and artificial sweeteners. Out of those only the bell peppers and cinnamon causes difficulty with breathing/throat swelling, The others cause severe GI distress and in regards to the whole wheat I also break out in small, painful pimples all around my mouth.
Long as I stick to meats like seafood, chicken, and beef, don't get any refried beans (usually fried in pork lard), I'm usually pretty safe.
Sadly, a lot of people think I'm making up some or even all of my allergies. As a kid I even ended up in the hospital when adults bullied me into drinking hot chocolate made with artificial sweeteners. And one of my brothers has, in the past, tried to force me to eat pork.
And I avoid vegetarian/vegan places as they tend to have only whole wheat products and things with bell pepper. (The vegan and vegetarian diets tend to have the highest amount of allergens in their foods, in fact.)
@@JamiJRpeople who are willing to bully or trick people to eat things they're allergic to to prove some sort of stupid point are one of the worst kinds of people.
Working in America for most people is more like indentured servitude. We make just enough to survive so we can go back to work.
@@moon-moth1it is definitely dystopian. But there are ways to escape the system, sorta.
We work, to earn the right to work
@@moon-moth1It doesn't seem dystopian. It is a dystopian hellhole. I live next to America in Canada and it's like living next to a perpetual car pileup. Everyday there's more massive issues and rights being taken away.
Just call it for what it is, the modern day slavery with various things streamlined in favor of the slave owners. You get to make the owner rich while making as little as possible and the company owns you while you are there. You can bet if they could get away with it, they would try to get employees to live at the company and work 12-18 hours a day seven days a week. They only care about the money you make them. As soon as you don't make them money, you are replaced.
In the USA, most people are literally working paycheck to paycheck at a dead-end job because they know there are ten other hungry people willing to take their job if they get fired for asking for a raise.
I almost lost my temper when I asked my last employer for a reasonable cost of living raise. They went off on me saying they can't afford it everything is so expensive and they themselves are living on chicken since they can't afford beef. However, they have a new giant SUV with new tires in a house they own while I was living in a mobile home on rented land living a vegetarian diet because meat was too expensive to even buy and putting off car repairs because of cost. It wasn't like I was some new employee either. I had been working there for over six years with no raises in two years.
@@cameraslimeTo earn the right to give, ourselves the right to buy-
I'm an obese woman for lots of reasons but it really has shielded me from the worst of the harassment that women experience and that has always been an odd comfort to me. I applaud you for bringing that up.
I've heard plus-sized women do get harassed in more hateful ways, like guys hate them for existing, As opposed to the more objectifying forms.
In my case, I don’t get hit on, but get mocked. That’s because the problem isn’t ours, it’s these men. Was literally pumping gas and a guy drove by shouting, “Fat b-- shouldn’t wear that shirt!” If I’d been thin, he’d have still said something, just of a different theme.
@@83gemmme too, but I'd rather have dudes poke fun than be followed to my car while begging for my number/explicitly graphic descriptions of what they want to do to me
@@poisonedflowers Very true!
I call it a natural asshole filter. It filters out the assholes that only want to get in your pants, anyway. Doesn't stop the other kind, sadly.
15:14 “lapse in judgement” is not at all how I’d describe stalking someone 😭
I literally just went on ChatGPT and told it to pretend to be Sssniperwolf writing an apology post, and the result was... uncomfortably close to every apology post everyone ever makes, including Sssniperwolf's
That may be because it's litterally trained off of human writing. Of course it's going to be just like past human writing, there is no originality to it, ever. Especially ai generated art
Because it's all just very formal, stiff language. it all looks the same, and chatgpt is trained to mimic people's writing.
Yeah, Ive also noticed that the ai tends to talk about a topic like its hyping it or talking about its other worldy sucess, literally like any Ted talk
@@Scorchedlnfern0 A month late, but yeah, that was kinda what I was getting at to a degree. That a single ChatGPT result can feel like EVERY apology post just shows how (as the person below pointed out) formal, stiff language is used in every single one. Everyone's apology posts should be at least somewhat unique, but its like everyone took the same "Apology Post 101" course and never thought they'd need to use it so they only remembered the basics.
@@Sr.Anonimo-bk1uzbut they can't pronounce shit worth a crap! Watched a how to vacation in Hawaii narrated by AI and was almost physically ill by the way it said "o-ow-uh" for Oahu and "ka-wow-ee" for Kauai alone.
36:35 bro just can't handle a woman having hobbies and fun collectibles. She sounds like so much fun, and I hope she finds someone who will appreciate her fun side.
3:20 - That “Musky Husky” is *ONE* lab experiment away from becoming a supervillain.
That phrase will, at some point, get him kidnapped and turned into a furry who *can't* take off his fursuit.
42:43 Heterochromia, the eyes have different colours.
FNaF moment
Is he not already a supervillain? Just because we don't know if he has a volcano lair with a death laser doesn't mean he doesn't have one.
For years now, I've called him Max Lord. If the shoe fits... 😂
@erinhaury5773 I like that in part because lex Luther and other evil business types are way smarter than husky musky. Lex hides it well at least.
He's already a villain, just not a super one
As a chronically and severely ill woman...this shit is real. I can't tell you how many men including doctors are more concerned with my bf's troubles about my situation and lack of me being able to be his fuck toy and house slave than they are worried about me. Old male doctors often also make MY illnesses about them! Saying that MY suffering is hard on THEM and I am the one that needs to be understanding! But no, sexism isn't an issue. Switzerland loves women and respects us...we have just been dying for generations because "Women have hysteria"! *Sarcasm on that last bit but yeah, my 2 cousins killed themselves because they couldn't get help from Swiss doctors. I have heard so many horror stories and the lucky ones are immigrants that can go back to another country for treatment
36:45 How did this guy find the actual perfect woman and then fumble so hard he clipped through the floor?
If you dont love yourself? How could you love others?
Fun fact: Community notes began implementation before Musk was at the helm! A half point for him not immediately scrapping them like he has--or has tried to--with so many other essential features of the site, though.
Don't give him any ideas.
@@AIHumanEqualitywe need to limit how many times he gets fact checked, it might tip him over the edge
@@AIHumanEquality You're not wrong, but I also think no one can actually alter whatever "plans" he wants to enact on his overpriced internet analogy of an abstract art project.
There is actually a reason some women don't like going to the movies on a date. It doesn't allow for the couple to talk to get to know each other without being rude, and the whole point of a date is to get to know each other
But isn't the point of going on a movie date to have a common topic/conversation starter for after the movie? Or am I missing something?
@@kaworunagisa4009
That's what I would've thought. Movies and then hanging out with friends afterwards was a great way for my socially awkward teen self to open up and share my thoughts on some deeper ideas and opinions than the usual small talk.
@@kaworunagisa4009 Yes, but it's rude to talk during the movie and afterwards there usually isn't much time before the date is considered to be over, so some women prefer other date options
I would consider it a bit childish to go to the movies for a date, thats for friends or for teenagers first date. If all we talk about is the movie, how can we figure out if we are compatible?
@@greencaeilian5084Because simply saying who is your favorite character and why reveal a lot of thing about yourself, sf and fantasy typicaly are frequently political too.
A good way to know if your date if politicaly compatible.
Movies are rarely so empty that you have nothing to learn about each other ideology
i hate when someone is like "why did you make it political by adding X people?" like we didn't make it political it's just that you aren't the only kind of person (in my experience i hear this a lot about trans people in media, but this is about any hated minority)
24:05 this reminds me of that video that went viral of a woman sexually harassing men on a train, by sitting on their laps… and how it broke my heart when that one guy burst into tears(not sure if she sat a lil too hard or if it was social anxiety, but still). This needs to stop.
it’s actually sexual assault here and the men should totally press charges
Eww. I saw a clip of some woman doing that but, not the one where someone was so distressed by it. It's actually a vile thing to do and pretty sure it counts as some form of physical assault, if not SA.
With that person criticizing their girlfriend for buying normal really cool items that she could afford that are not a problem, WHERE THE HELL WAS THAT MAN BORN THE 30s? GEEZ LEARN TO HAVE FUN AND NOT BE STRICT.
It’s definitely disturbing. Though the age gap doesn’t help (he’s 9 years older than her) but he sounds like he wants to fully control what she spends HER money on, which is terrifying as hell as that could lead to financial abuse. That’s a definite red flag and hoping that his girlfriend is doing fine and hopefully not with him anymore.
I work for an actual guy born in 1933 who has the coolest shit ever in his house, so not an excuse.
I'm also in an age gap relationship (26 years difference) and that's not an excuse either.
The dude in this video is being a controlling, jealous, vindictive sour lemon with massive insecurity issues he won't admit to and belongs in therapy more than he does in any relationship.
Yup
Isn't 40 hrs a week the standard for a full time job for an adult? 70 would be insane for an adult, let alone a minor who should be in school as well.
@@moon-moth1 I know, and absolutely hate it.
But kids absolutely should not be forced into it.
If you want economic growth, get them to work 112 hours a week
@@minestar2247 no. Let them have a childhood and let's work on growing the value of the dollar rather than the number of dollars needed to buy things.
Geez, people really want to send children back into the mines and factories. This is insane and sheer stupidity.
@@minestar2247u wouldn't need economic growth if your needs were meet. Economy is a recent invention and I have yet to meet anyone that tells me why the economics is good. All they go is because otherwise you would be Comeis.
If I'd had asked my girl to eat a homemade sandwich on a bench in the parkinglot she would have said yes as well. Dates are not about the money but about finding out you fit together
As a non-binary here's my list. Keep in mind that "Bad dates" can totally work later in a relationship, with lots more trust in each other. However, as for first dates... here's the list:
Good first dates:
[ ] Beach and ice cream date.
[ ] Cute Café (coffee + bakery) date
[ ] Panera bread date
[ ] Bowling (drinks + food included) date
Bad first dates and why it's bad:
[ ] Cheesecake factory (too loud inside, making it hard to talk to each other)
[ ] Movies/Live Sports Events/Live Concerts (usually don't get to actually talk to the other person very much/ leaves little time to get to know each other)
[ ] Either person's house (makes you feel like you're already a missing person/ this is where I die)
[ ] Double dates/family meetings (too much too fast/ feels like their trying to pressure you into staying around longer since they already introduced you to friends and family)
[ ] Burgerking/ Jack-in-the-box/ McDonalds (feels like you're cheaping out on them and don't care too much. It's better to go to a local and cheap than fast food cheap.)
This!!!!
Also picnics are a cute first date, like in a nice park with the sunset and everything
Honestly I would still take the cheesecake factory....I havent eaten that in a long time😢😂 but 100% agreed
hello fellow enby
3 seconds ago 😮@@NotJpTem
As a Jew (and someone who has studied antisemitism for 5 years), I didn't see the octopus as antisemitic. I am not invalidating those who did, but I think it was seen as antisemitic since most Jews were, and still are, on high alert, with so many places and people we thought were safe turned out to want us dead or worse.
I try to view what people do with their intent in mind. An item by itself isn't antisemitic or racist unless it is a literal symbol of such (like the swastika for example). Too many people get too offended too easily. I've seen people get angry over a kid dressing as a ghost for Halloween because it kind of resembled some past racist stuff. I mean come on, the kid is dressed like a ghost, get over it lol. I too highly doubt this octopus was antisemitic in any way. Just a plushie.
I think you're being overly generous. These people are absolutely making accusations in bad faith. I don't think for a second their lying asses actually thought it was antisemitic.
@FloraWolfe-xe8ij it is partly intent, but it is also how it is taken by the majority of the group the hate is intended for. For example, Bradley Cooper using a prosthetic nose to play Bernstein is, no doubt to most Jews, antisemitic. Am I saying he intended it to be? No. Is it a system of deep-rooted antisemitism? Yes.
@@MmmHuggles That even is a question of context.
I'm not happy with Japanese art with it. It is/was a problem with Animeartbooks. 🙄
Now my but:
In India it is a very old symbol with completly diferent meaning that has nothing to do with it.
It is not that different as saying a Korean can't say e.g. naega which - I think - means "I am" or something.
But it is the exception and not the norm.
Meh, maybe being linked indirectly to people causing more deaths than the holocaust(which thankfully stopped before really starting to pick up) might get people to hate you more. Or it's christian/ europeans being ***holes again since forever
The first date list makes me think that the woman may not understand or care that a man who is good at picking up dates may go on a lot of first dates until he finds a woman he actually likes. Meaning if he's going out somewhere that costs $20+ a plate, he's going to go broke in a month or two.
I love that the first one was Cheesecake Factory, because that's the place the "I made my date wait an hour" lady refused to get out of the vehicle at.
"Child marriages safe". All this talk about needing to protect children from LGBT, and placed like Virginia have legal pedophilia as the victim is married to her predator.
There is also the fact that the venn diagram of women who have a problem with these places and women who only see men as walking ATMs is a fudging circle
I don't get the hate against the Cheesecake Factory, I've never eaten there, but apparently it's a thing where you can order pretty much anything, that sounds perfect for a first date where you don't know the other people's prefences/restrictions ˆˆ'
@@krankarvolund7771I’m pretty sure it’s because it’s that it’s too loud because of a comment somewhere else
I don't see a issue with the list as long as she says it's her preferences and not all agreed on by every women
@@Milk-ck1wv I think it's more the aggregation of the preferences of a bunch of women, with the caveat that probably not all women asked agreed on all the list
Like probably that most women like a ice cream date, but one don't so it got added to the list. Hence why there's so much things to not do and why it's a stupid exercise XD
I'm personally convinced the only reason The Troll thinks that Hermione and Harry should've ended up together is that she became too friendly with the movie writer.
I remember watching interviews with them when the first or second movie came out and him saying that Ron wasn't worth her and Hermione was his favourite character and she was so smart and she was awesome, etc., etc.
At the time The Troll disagreed with him! She said that Ron and Hermione were a better couple in the long run because they called each other out on their bull, and how Harry isn't that nice to her in his head at all, and a few other points. And now she's backing down on it!!!
It's like she read a fanfic of her own characters, forgot why she had the story written the way she did and then decided "ya know what, this guy has a point." ABOUT HER OWN STORY!! Girl.
I’ve been calling her “Joke” in my head (j.k., just kidding = joke) but then she’ll periodically do crap like this that just proves the nickname isn’t wrong
That list of "Women hate dates here" sounds more like a list of places they won't go with him
Remindes me of the TIK TOK video that the girl posted where she sat in the man car and said: Do you think this belongs (pointing to her big boned body) there and wouldn't leave the car (the update showes, that he had made a reservation to a fancy resturant, but she had been so late to the date, that they were far too late to it)
That list of 'bad dates' is just a massive red flag with 'extremely high maintance brat' painted on it.
42:43 Reminds me of a little story
Last year there were some workshops for our student associations and I went to the HR workshop.
At one point, one of the trainers was talking about activities we could organize to help younger members warm up to the associations, and she added that there are some activities which only work when there's more room.
She said "We need a big room because otherwise it's gonna be homophobic"
Immediately everyone went silent.
The trainer was confused. The other trainer, sitting behind her, was just quietly watching her.
One of the students asked "Why homophobic?"
"Because it's gonna be crowded" the trainer insisted
Another student asked "And what's that have to do with homosexual people?"
The poor trainer looked so confused as she said "Nothing. I was saying that it's gonna be crowded so it's homophobic"
You could feel everyone's confusion in the silence that followed.
I still joke about it with my friends. Heck, I'm losing it as I'm typing this.
CLAUSTROPHOBIC. the word is CLAUSTROPHOBIC
Was she blonde?
@@elisabethheiman2104 I don't remember because it wasn't relevant
@notville_stream and time please
When you confuse homophobia for claustrophobia and nobody corrects you because they're honestly too shocked that you could even possibly make that mistake.
"The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog" really does have all of the letters. W in brown, z in lazy, v in over, k in quick, etc.
I was looking for this, glad I'm not the only one confused lol
Yes, it was commonly used in typing tests (way back when those were still a thing) for that very reason.
Yep, came here to say this.
24:53 as a girl from Scotland, I can confirm this is accurate
The Click is just feeling the English energy lmao
13:01 it's actually so sad that natural things about people have become "political". Skin colour, gender, sexuality and possibly being a woman depending on where you live. It's actually disgusting that people view these things as "political" instead of just traits of people
That's what the world has devolved into nowadays
There are only two genders: man and political.
Honestly, the fact that people view women as analogous to black people is disgusting. And when you ask them why, they say it’s because the people they don’t like do it. But like… shouldn’t you be *opposing* those people’s viewpoints you find problematic, then?
The gender thing is mental retardation
This is just human nature. There's never been a time in history where things like these haven't been seen as somewhat "political".
I think the worst part about sNipewolf situation isn't even her response. Like, yeah, it's very corporate and scummy, but when that came out, RUclips had already PUSHED SOME OF THE BLAME onto Jacksfilms, by claiming "both parties were at fault" It's horrible and disgusting that they would do that, let alone not follow through with the intended punishment, which was tweeted out a few days prior. (Someone asked Team RUclips what the punishment would be if they were to dox someone on Twitter, and were told they would be removed from RUclips, as that's a violation of their TOS) So I don't even think Snipswolf is the worst offender in this. Because if a criminal does a crime, and isn't punished for said crime, there is not chance for them to learn from it.
Yeah! We need to keep the pressure until she is gone for good!
That shitty punishment literally says "It's JacksFilms' fault for his doxxing. Sssniperwolf will face zero consequences because she makes us a lot of money." AND "If you are making us a load of money, you could commit ANY crime and get away with it! Even murder and grooming minors!"
As someone who lives with quite severe chronic illnesses, the husband support group when the wife is sick hit close to home. I've seen more "support group for relatives", I've even gotten leaflets from my health care provider to give to my spouse. The support group for me? Oh, had to find that myself (on Facebook or pay to join a patient advocacy group for the illness or type of illness) and then the doctors say support groups are just complainers. Which is inherintly untrue, I've learnt SO MUCH from those groups, both scientific research on my illness and just how to live with it without losing hope. Those groups have literally saved lives, and mourned several losses. The community is amazing.
Doctors though... If the support groups are so bad, offer some "better" support groups then? Like you do for the relatives. Or better yet, have some empathy for your patients.
I've been to doctors who's just dismissed me because they don't have knowledge of my illness. They don't look it up, they just decide not to believe in it? Wild. So I started bringing an older, male relative to doctors visits. All of a sudden the tune changed, and there was sympathy! To the male relative... "It must be so hard to see your young relative suffer" hello, I'm right here? Nope.
I hope you’re doing okay.
If Click ever makes a company for plushies, I’d love if they had customizable EMDs so then they can be designed after people that genuinely emotionally support you
I love this!
13:15 Not only that, it's also historically accurate that he was black (the whole demon things that happen in the show, well, not so much). Like, the whole idea of the character is that he was the first african samurai, and the first foreign samurai, and the hardships he had to endure for it, as Japan had never dealt with a samurai being from outside Japan, and how he became Nobunaga's bodyguard. It's one of the few instances in which the color of their skin is relevant and shouldn't be changed in an adaptation.
Wait a minute, who the f even changes skin colors of characters who are based on ACTUAL REAL PEOPLE in an adaptation of ACTUAL HISTORICAL EVENTS?! That's like making a WW2 film starring Kanye West as Hit- ler!
@@ThePopo543 Well, it's loosely based on historic events (at least as far as I know), but yeah.
My first date with my husband was at a church. There was an exhibit of nativity scenes from all around the world (It was mid-December) and it was an amazing date. It was basically a museum date that happened to be in a (gorgeous) church. Bonus: There was a blizzard, so we were literally the only people there. We went to a hole in the wall pizza place afterward, and were also the only people there. 😂
So wholesome! We should make the “finding something local and free” activity date the norm instead of the boring coffee/drinks first date
Porch pirating exists in places where delivery drivers are on a schedule. To complete their rounds within the scheduled times, they have to leave packages on the front porch and continue their delivery runs, rather than ring the doorbell and get addressees to sign for them. Once upon a time, if you didn't answer the door, they made out a Post-It style slip saying they were sorry they missed you, where and when you could pick it up (if you needed it that day), and when they would next attempt a delivery.
Delivery drivers in France have a strict schedule too, and you get an email AND a paper in your mailbox telling you where to pick your delivery up if you aren't there when they show up.
The planning simply accounts for stuff like that. It's not a very chill job and it's still schedule-bound, but at least I've never had to worry about my stuff being stolen. It's not an excuse, wtf america.
@@GreyPunkWolfit’s also not true that you don’t get missed delivery notices - I got one last week. But a lot of deliveries, like from Amazon, don’t require signatures, and drivers are allergic to ringing doorbells.
Ugh. But the slips are such a shitty system for households where everyone works. The pickup locations don't stay open late enough to go to after work if you have any kind of commute!
And it's not like I can stay home from work just to receive a package. It's not a tenable system.
we still have that here, but we also delivery machines, where you can pick up your stuff 24/7, but you have 48 h from delivery. Just use a qr code from the email confirmation
@@strawberry_punch_artNow THAT is a real solution.
I have a similar story to the "sewer shower" clip. Someone I used to work with had an office directly under the bathroom on the floor above. She was gone on vacation for a week, had a bad morning before work, and then opened her office to find literal poop water dripping all over her office. It was on the carpet, walls, computer, her files and papers, desk, everything. She said she just closed the door, started crying and walked out. When our old boss asked her what was wrong she said, "its raining $h!t in my office!" And left. She didnt come back until it was fixed and cleaned up but said she didnt want that office anymore. I later moved into it and was always looking at the stains on the ceiling remembering the shit shower...
30:00 that is a reversible plushie where one side looks angry/upset and when you flip it inside out it will be a different color with a happy face. These types of plushies are great for people who struggle to show/communicate their emotions. It is so sad to me to see people want to pretend that it is something ugly just because they don't like someone
I had no problem with Greta Thunberg before this. Thought she was a cool person. But context is important. An octopus plushie isn't inherently antisemitic (I have a couple myself). This wasn't some random picture of her that had a plushie in it though. She was posting an anti-Israel post in which she and three other people held up signs. There was nothing else in the photo but them, the signs, and the octopus. And it was purposefully placed at the edge of an armrest (not just sitting in the background with other stuff).
Context is important. Just like the "A Okay" hand gesture got taken on by white supremacists. If you're using it to say "yum, delicious pizza!" Well then, you're fine. But right-wing politicians have used it at rallies/hearings to show a sign of support for white supremacy.
People aren't trying to say that octopus dolls are bad. They're fine. What they're getting upset about is that she had something in her photo that given the context can represent antisemitism. She may not have known what it meant, which is probably why she took the photo down. But someone who was in the photo with her, or who helped stage the photo (since that was the only other object in the picture) definitely knew what it meant.
Honestly it seems like Twitter/Tumblr’s favorite game in the past couple of years is “make up dogwhistles that don’t exist (or at the very least exaggerating the frequency of real ones)”, like I’ve seen quite a few supposed signs of “women who are p£do-baiting” which often gets *extremely* petty such as “owning stuffed animals” including some that are potentially harmful to neurodivergent women
@@SiRenfieldhey, tumblr is good now, the bad ones moved to twitter when it imploded
@@SuperHGB Eh fair albeit granted I said that because I am a current active Tumblr user and yes thankfully these people cooled down overtime but occasionally still creep up. And not even in the “far-right person actively searching for straw men” sense, human nature just happens sometimes. Hope that clears it up
@@SiRenfield yeah, it's generally better than any other social media, but it still sucks sometimes
The guy at 35:00 sounds like he hates his girlfriends personality. I hope she dumps him. If anybody insulted the Tolkien stuff i bought, they would be immediately blocked.
I don't know what kind of person she is, but from the info we have - doing well academically, being successful in her career, being responsible, being a lot of fun - she sounds like a real catch. That guy does not know what he has. If he is that bothered by her spending habits, then the two simply aren't a good fit.
I also hope she leaves him - or maybe he realizes he is looking for a different type of woman and leaves by himself.
I'm a woman and if I was still on the market to date, I would prefer a coffee date over a dinner date on a first date. It's easier to talk when you're not eating and getting worried about getting food stuck in your teeth. A coffee date can also be cut short in case you don't feel any chemestry and just want to go home, but you can also order a second cup in case you wanna stay longer and keep talking. It feels like a win to me with a coffee date.
Coffee ☕️ sounds good
A few days late, but here's a funny porch pirate story. Porch pirates are a bit of an issue where I live, and one day they stole a grocery bag off my porch. The only thing is that, that bag did not have any groceries in it. It had dog poop in it. So this porch pirate literally stole a bag of shit.
LMAO😂