Nobody is perfect. Relationships are hard, But I've figured out that there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.
I genuinely want to find happiness as well. I've got someone special in my life, and even though we're not together at the moment, I can't picture my life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm all in to make it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to fix stuff.
Saying goodbye to someone you cherish is consistently difficult, yet in my case, I received support from a spiritual advisor who kept my marriage intact. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I value this advice. I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that following this path will bring about positive outcomes for me too; I long for her deeply.
I'm 42 and it's been almost 8 years since I've had a relationship, dated, or had sexual relations. The best thing I ever did was put the brakes on my promiscuous ways and to get right with the Lord. My obedience to God has saved me so much heartbreak, trauma, and drama. These gf/bf situationships are a worldly standard, a gray area, where marital benefits are expected without a real commitment. Never again. I discovered there was a lot of healing that needed to happen before I could even think about getting entangled with a man. Yes, sometimes I get a little lonely but would rather remain single for the rest of my days than to be in another toxic relationship. I was never married and the thought of being committed for life was really scary but God showed me His design and it's truly beautiful. I once was blind but now I see, all glory to God 🙏💕
This is one of THE BEST comments I've seen in a very long time! I am older than you, and I feel the exact same way! Don't pay any attention to any of the crowd and stay focused!
God knows. I met my person 2 yrs ago & bc of what I was shown, I tried to fast forward it 😂. I was promptly sat down and forced to have patience. The growth during our times of physical separation, I moved out of state, have allowed us to grow as individuals. The love and connection between us is beautiful and so sacred ❤.
Love hearing this. In Islam there’s no gf/bf relationships. We’re friends or husband and wife, no in between. Seems restrictive, but really it’s protection.
Stephen!!! That prayer works!! lol!! 😂. I have adverted some disasters. Hindsight is a motha! As soon as I ask this, I get a sign within 48 hours!! There have been many times I’ve ignored it..lol! Now that I’m in my 50s. I see dating so differently. Men my age and older are either newly divorced, half dead, depleted, trying to be 25, Mean and bitter…i can go on and on..I can take it or leave it. I really like being by myself…I hate that it took me hitting my 50s to truly appreciate who I am and the woman I have become. I love this space. No thirst here. I’m fully hydrated!! 😂😂😂😂
@@MeetStephanSpeaksI m like somebody, the true is we chat 9 months last year he have no time for me beause he like playen video's games sunday smoken weed he said loves me caring for me we both are born again christ he hiding a secret for me i afraid never meet him I m not sure he is the one for me.? Now I met other men he is from african he told me about marriage and childeren I said its to early lets met together i have not a band with him he smoke weed to I m don t like it brother.😂
God told me yes about the guy but he told me to wait but I’m the problem I want to push play but holy spirit gave me instructions to wait, and even the guy I’m talking to said to me he isn’t ready but he does want to marry me and don’t want to cease talking to me. But I’m like naw let’s push play. God kept telling me he’s making me a patient and praying woman. And even confirmed it to my mom who is a seasoned woman, and a woman of God. Help me Jesus to have patience
I thank the Lord that I decided to fix myself first and nourish my spirit and soul so I have been celibate since 2014. My body is a temple. Thank you Mr Labossiere.
For everyone saying “IF IT AINT THE RIGHT TIME THEN IT AINT THE RIGHT PERSON 💁🏼♀️” You’re basically saying you know better than God. Also, things aren’t instantaneous and maybe one of you needed to meet the other to be like “Okay, this is what I want and who I want, I need to work on myself a bit to prepare for him/her.”
Wow! I won’t lie, this felt personal. I was having an emotional struggle the other day. I’m 36, childless but on a self discovery journey to resolve my deficiencies so I can be better for me first so I can be great for my husband that God finds me
The Book of Ruth is one of my favorites. She made it known to Boaz that she was interested (she made sure to bathe and look good first 😉) , but she waited on his answer. Granted, Boaz was already good to her by indirectly providing for her, but he saw her faithfulness to The Lord so it wasn't hard for him to drip with love and become her husband. No dating. Just shacking up in the tent and bam.... married. 😅
Great video! The story of Ruth presenting herself and expressing interest in Boaz is a good example of a woman expressing her feelings. However, the story of God taking a rib from Adam and creating Eve and "brought HER unto the man" is an even better one!! That tells me, when God is involved is a done deal! The relationship will work! In addition the MAN (Adam) recognized his WIFE! How did he know that? Adam was asleep but he KNEW she was the one!! And they become one flesh! I'm paraphrasing (Genesis 2: 22-25). Side Note: I'm in no way a Bible scholar but I am a Believer and I do pray, read, study, listen to the Word etc. learning and growing daily and that example came to mind. Thank you for pointing out that there is no boyfriend/girlfriend relationships in the Bible. I never thought about that! Eliminating that in today's world would cut out so much drama, trauma, hurt and healing. Also, I got tickled when you were talking about the the singing in church. LOL. I've seen folks doing the most: hollering, crying, falling out on stage, being dramatic (basically acting and pretending) and won't even part their lips to speak to you so I pay them no attention. Sorry not sorry. Anyhoo, In the meanwhile, I'll continue to work on improving myself: getting closer to God, healing, hitting the gym, working on my purpose, etc.The waiting time will not be wasted!
I’m 38 years and I regret every moment I allowed someone to enter into my life in the name of relationship. Oh God I’m asking your forgiveness for my sins and give me the strength not to allow this to happen again and let me figure out the better position for me according to will of God.
These are questions to ask God: "Ask God this straightforward question is this man for me?" "How do I proceed?" "Is there anything that I need to resolve?" If you have found the one ask these questions: "If I feel that I've met the one should I express my feelings to him"? "Is this man where he needs to be spiritually?"
This was so powerful! What resonated most was the part about men worshipping differently than women. Dang, I didn’t realize that misalignment could carry so much misunderstanding. This affirms why I still maintain that a man’s relationship with the Lord is one of the things that matters most. This vid is worth saving, sharing and referencing! Thanks Stephan!
God comes to me through dreams and feelings, never through a voice. I am very high energy spiritually. Stephan, I look forward to the follow-up on this, and I hope you will discuss that not everyone may hear a voice. I never have, and yet I routinely hear from the Lord. ❤ 💯 Truth.
These prayers definitely work. I did this prayer about a man. God protected me by having that man block me and ghost me for no reason. Thank you for sharing this specific prayer.
I think you are an angel, not getting flirtatious, you are so intelligent and so on point, I thank God for your leadership and knowledge. May heaven always smile upon you 💗🙏
You have a beautiful aura, thank you very much for educating women and men about healthy relationships and how to achieve it. There are a lot of women like me that didn’t receive this type of education at home but want to relearn, be a woman of purpose and have a blessed marriage. May God continue giving you the wisdom to keep touching many people out there 🫶🏼
I was praying and asking God about someone and this video popped up so thanks Stephen for sharing this! Now I know what questions to ask God concerning a friend
I just connected with someone new, this message came just in time, i feel in my Spirit he could be the one, i will definitely use these steps to make sure, i have had so many counterfeits. Thank you 🙏
Great video. I knew something was off, ran from the no many years ago and married the wrong person. I am over 50 now. Not going to waste another year of difficult lessons. God knows what’s best for me. I CAN WAIT. In preparation. My latter days will be greater.
Thank You So much Stephen ❤ I really wish I had started listening to Your teachings earlier, it would have saved me from wasting so much time Am learning Alot here. God is leading me to my ordained spouse And You will be part of our success story😊
It's so interesting how you've made the point that eliminating boyfriend/girlfriend relationships would save people pain and trauma and actually make them *better* prepared for marriage. As a Muslim woman, I always get the question from non-Muslims about dating. How can we meet people and get married without dating, as we believe in Islam, God Almighty has prohibited dating and/or engaging in any kind of sexual relations before marriage. We as Muslims always knew this rule was for our own protection and inner peace. And I was pleasantly surprised to hear it from you, confirming this. Thank you. And I must say I've been following your content for a long time now, and feel most of the things you say truly resonate with my values as a Muslim. Thank you, Stephan, and appreciate all your sincere, honest and heartfelt advice about finding, nurturing, and protecting loving relationships!
Well I have just met this guy and for the first time in my life, whenever I think about him... my heart starts beating very fast and like I am going to have palpitations. I have never had that in my life ever before..... and things are going well so far. I have not forgotten to ask God to walk in front of me, though.
I was in a relationship for 5 years. Things are not quite ok between me the family . And I pray to God . Lord he is not the one for me remove my feelings for him. And I slowly notice that between me and ex is getting bad. And my feelings is not as before. Until I don’t miss him.
Thank you for the enlightenment. I realized I have become emotionally unavailable after my first relationship not going well, and I did realize it distanced me from God instead of bringing me closer. Such a sad thing but this helped me realized where I'm at now.
Love! Would be a good idea for both the man and the woman to go to God in prayer TOGETHER...make sure yall getting the same answer lol. I'm like you Stephan I don't go to church for the praise worship I go to learn the word of God, when we truly comprehend the word of God (make an effort we will not understand everything), seek first the kingdom of God and truly get to know God (OUR FATHER) there is no better feeling, he will add all else unto us and that includes joining together husband and wife, not for their sake but for his sake to accomplish his will and purpose.
A man cannot tell us about our intuition. You wouldn’t understand sir. You’re right about allot of things, but It’s good to ask God to remove a bad person. He gets rid of them with NO DOUBTS!
This is beyond true. We had issues, I miscarried and he wasn't there. God showed me he wasn't for me prior and the miscarriage was the last stamp. Peace and blessings
Let me relay my recent story. I recently met a man during Memorial Day weekend he had a death in the family a few days later. I responded with many texts to take as much time as you need and many prayers. We have not had a date since. We text every day we talk over the phone briefly and we believe God sent us to each other. This morning God told me to tell him about my most secret and sacred moments I have with him and which ones. Upon opening up my phone this morning God showed me this beautiful tree with Psalm 7 which he also wanted me to send. So I did. I believe there was a valid reason behind this request because God would never ask me to give my most personal and sacred moments I share with him otherwise ❤️. I truly believe he needed this for his spiritual health.
Thanks a lot as always for the insightful video, I love it. I really agree with you on the topic. I personally believe we need to involve God in everything we do or decide to do, I involve God in even my meal(s) preparations/cooking. During our enquiry moment, we should have an open mind about it and be very willing to accept the answer that God gives us (Yes or No) and not be unhappy if the response isnt what we want. I pray God blesses you (Stephan) with abundant Wisdom to keep doing such intelligent videos.
Thank you Broe... Commit yo ways unto God n He shall direct your paths❤🎉❤it's, important to hear wat God says abt the person whom we desire to be with.
This is a great topic, great advice. I will start out by asking if it is time to date because Lord knows the exhausting conversations and people I have e encountered
Meaningful video. I just finished reading the man God has for me. Learning more and more through your videos. Relationship coach definitely designed for you.
In our pursuit for preparing and seeking Yah's best for us, we must remember not to abandon our covenant with Him. Most of the times Yah's, no is because He knows that we aren't ready to receive is because Yah knows we may put His best before Him. We have to be and remain committed to Yah if/ when He release us to our Husband's and to be a wife and if he says, no. No doesn't mean denial. It just Yah's protection and most importantly keeping and strengthening our covenant with Him. Yah is a jealous God and He's Jealous over us too. His sons and daughters. Beautiful blessings to you always. Shalom.
If only one video you made unite all psychology, faith and philosophy about relationships and made you superstar anove all therapist, psyhologists, priests...it would be this one...!!!! God bless you, brother , you live and fullfill your mission!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🔥🙌🏽
Never regret those we spent time with it opens up our minds and hearts to the perfect person God has for us. Take the lessons from every relationship whether it was a short one or longer...we needed to learn and grow at that time
Stop peeping in my window 😅! I need to adjust my overactive unction! I have no tolerance for negativity from friends or from men! I am beginning to wonder if love will ever find me or will I ever experience what true love actually is! ❤❤❤
I LOVE THIS💗 Excellent job on this video ❤️💯 I love the topics of discussion 💓 I love the quote 💖 I love that you share your own personal experiences in your videos 👍🏼 The last topic… powerful message 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I always feel encouraged after watching your videos 🥹💗 Stephan, You’re an inspiration 💓 Thank you!!!
The one thing I would add when listening for Gods guidance is to go to His word, the Bible. Find a translation that you can relate to & really go thru the passages that speak to what you’re praying about. A concordance can help with finding the scriptures that you need. Love you Stephan…you are a very wise man who gives good counsel. Thank you!
Very valuable points to ask God, and methods for prayer. Make or break you points best considered and applied than suffering the consequences of incorrect thoughts and actions. Your real life examples let me know I'm not alone, give helpful suggestions, and why doing them is important, and at times critical. One important point for me to remember is "God's timing is best." I thank God for sending me your way. What I've learned and continue to learn has drastically changed and improved my understanding of myself, of men, and how I relate to others. Thank you Stephan!
Thanks For A Fresh Perspective. I Always Seen, And Treated Relationships As Personal Choices,And This Makes It Easy For Setting Boundaries And Easily Move On When Necessary, Because It's MY Choice. But One Relationship That I Believed Was "GOD Send" I Suffered, And Struggled With Letting Go When Lines Where Crossed Because It Was My Godly Present🎁. And The Nonsense Became "Tests" That I Had To Pass. That Was My Longest (18mon), Most Toxic Situation-ship Ever. But🤷🤷🤷. But Thank You
My problem is I always rationalized what I am hearing . I rely on my own understanding and not in the Lord’s. I need to pray and fast and appreciate your messages and most importantly I need to trust and have faith in the Lord’s understanding and have faith in his timing not mine.
(A thought that popped into my head, as Mr. Stephan briefly shared something about men and women and the Praise/Worship part at Church.) I think there needs to be an intense study on what true Worship means. If all Believers understood the two types of worship (personal/corporate); then there would not be such discomfort when it comes to Praise & Worship in our Church settings. True Worship is our reponse to the revelation of who God is. It does not have anything to do with song choices, or the way men and women enjoy the singing before the preached Word. Out of that response, there then are different forms of Worship. That is where singing, instruments, postures, praise, and etc. come into play. If one can stand and sing at a secular concert; then you should be able to participate in the corporate Worship experience with other Believers.
I totally agree with you Stephen. Asking God is very important. What will you do if you have been in 10 years relationship had a child got a house together and now I’m moving out of the house all because he thinks if two people love each other married is not important. It came to a place where I needed to ask God if this is for me let his will be done, if this is not for me God should take me out of it. Not I’m asking God to forgive me and have mercy on me because I have been doing things in my own well.
I asked recently if the person I was getting to know with interest of a relationship was the right one… God answered NO so fast I actually chuckled 🤭. I ended the relationship
@rachelcrowe7444 😆 God really does know how to throw in the sense of humor with this stuff. 😆 I work in a retail establishment where I see physically attractive women all around me, and of all ages, so I often pray, "Father, I seek your wisdom about her." when I see one. It has led to many hilarious moments. The one I remember most is when I prayed that, and said right afterward something like, "She looks kind of old though." and I really felt like God was laughing and saying that I was no spring chicken myself. 😂
This video was a direct answer to prayer in real time. I literally just came out of my prayer cave, asking God for the direction and clarity that you provided with your message. Thank you so much, Stephan. What is the best way to give back?
It would really help me forget COMPLETELY about my attachment to him, which I’m only attached at all because he makes his presence constantly known by stealing from me and erasing stuff
Found him but he brought so much pain and trauma and baggages to me. God even confirmed. I still question why God would want me to be with someone like him when he gave me so so much pain. Why isn’t he ready. I can only assume it’s because God had to show me to him to encourage him and to bring him back to God. This is the only way to bring him back to God and God saw He could use my life to encourage him. Still, it doesn’t change anything. The pain and trauma he gave and left me in. I became a different person because of what he gave me. So I left him for God to deal with because if God chose him for me He will need to work this all.
Thank you sooooo much, the last part you mentioned of, is he where God wants him to be spiritually, that's the major part i was worried about, although i prayed about it and i was assured to go ahead with this relationship i still struggled with fear because i had this mindset for a long time that being married to someone who's like a minister in the church is where there's safety, and even though I've seen, and gotten experience that its not true in all cases I've been scared of fully commiting to this relationship. But you mentioned not to evaluate based on my own perspective and since I've asked God i guess i can move on with it. Thank you for this video. God bless you.
I watched a video w/ Lisa Bilyeu and I so much enjoyed your lecture about asking God and listen to your inner self. I also like what you told about lust being strong that it may be confused to love. Before I even watched that video, I already went through a Major Depressive Disorder, and I started to go through that when I asked my fling to simply visit me without us having sexed. Because I knew I loved him and what he was doing was to ask from me a lot of times, and I wanted to set boundaries just so he can understand that what I truly want - a real connection. But he stopped visiting me. He never called me every Wednesday like he usually did. So I am standing strong on my decision, and whether I may end up losing my sanity, I will never text him or call him and most specially, I won't ever apologize just because I want to be respected and my gesture of respect to him was misunderstood by him. He truly looked like a Hooker, only that he's a guy. But with his actions, he's similar to a stripper - coming to my house, we sexed, then before he would go, I would prepare him food and give him a little cash. The only difference is that I cooked for him with all my heart and I even gave him a massage while he was asleep so he can release all of those stress he may have. But I decided to see the situation as it truly is, I was hurt but I made my decision. Now, I'm heartbroken because I stay strong on my decision. I always pray to God and I told God that if that man is truly my man, He will change him to become the exact man who I really need in my life, but if not, I keep on asking God to remove all of my emotions from him and help me heal. So... Here I am... Watching some of videos to understand people in relationship and I saw your video. Thanks. ~J🌹
True! my tongue has gotten me in trouble 😅😮Also true, no boyfriend & girlfriend thoughts, there is a romance time 3/6 months then marriage, not years of pseudo marriage! 😮not for me!
Thank you for taking the time and sharing this video! It's very helpful, I've learnt to ask God for advice on pretty much everything I do now, but I'm having a hard time trying to get a clear message in this regard because I really like this guy 😂😂😂. This video comes right on time. Thanks for sharing, much love! ❤
I agree asked God for the man for you a kingdom man not one on the outside of God family. Pray for the right one that you both can grow together in Christ Jesus.
I think a driving for force people or at in my case I felt pressured to get married before age 40 because of the whole biological clock thing. I was frustrated because I felt God made it so women have limited time to have kids but let men be able to have kids until almost their dying day. At 42 I'm on the fence about having kids now but I'm not closed off to it.
This is such a great video, many thanks. In cold fallen world it takes a lot of wisdom and courage to love. Mindfulness for everyone for healthy boundaries.
This was so good! Excellent video. I actually took notes on this one. By the way, I have a T-shirt that says elevation requires separation. Thank you, Bro.,Stephan! The Lord bless you and keep you!❤
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I believe God is talking through You, Thank You for sharing everything You've got. It's a huuge present for all of us in healing journey ♥️🙏
The only relationship God is concerned about is the one that leads to marriage, not long term boyfriend/girlfriend. Excellent point !
Nobody is perfect. Relationships are hard, But I've figured out that there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.
I genuinely want to find happiness as well. I've got someone special in my life, and even though we're not together at the moment, I can't picture my life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm all in to make it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to fix stuff.
Saying goodbye to someone you cherish is consistently difficult, yet in my case, I received support from a spiritual advisor who kept my marriage intact. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I value this advice. I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that following this path will bring about positive outcomes for me too; I long for her deeply.
You should... I promise you will not regret it
Abraham! I'm so happy for you and your wife that you overcame all your trials!
I'm 42 and it's been almost 8 years since I've had a relationship, dated, or had sexual relations.
The best thing I ever did was put the brakes on my promiscuous ways and to get right with the Lord. My obedience to God has saved me so much heartbreak, trauma, and drama. These gf/bf situationships are a worldly standard, a gray area, where marital benefits are expected without a real commitment. Never again. I discovered there was a lot of healing that needed to happen before I could even think about getting entangled with a man. Yes, sometimes I get a little lonely but would rather remain single for the rest of my days than to be in another toxic relationship. I was never married and the thought of being committed for life was really scary but God showed me His design and it's truly beautiful.
I once was blind but now I see, all glory to God 🙏💕
I feel the same
Do you live by yourself or with family
Ikk
This is one of THE BEST comments I've seen in a very long time! I am older than you, and I feel the exact same way! Don't pay any attention to any of the crowd and stay focused!
🎉🎉🎉AMEN SISTER 🎉🎉🎉
First things first: Have a relationship with the Lord and be connected to his voice.
Once you ask, He will reveal the answer. I asked God, and he gave me the confirmation I needed. Thank you Lord!🙏🏻🙏🏻❤❤
God knows. I met my person 2 yrs ago & bc of what I was shown, I tried to fast forward it 😂. I was promptly sat down and forced to have patience. The growth during our times of physical separation, I moved out of state, have allowed us to grow as individuals. The love and connection between us is beautiful and so sacred ❤.
Love hearing this. In Islam there’s no gf/bf relationships. We’re friends or husband and wife, no in between. Seems restrictive, but really it’s protection.
Thanks.
Same in Christianity. More or less. Friendship with man and woman mostly don't work
That is also the Biblical ( Christian) model.
Yessss in islam it save us
We can ask by doing istikhara
There is no protection. It'd just unhealthy controlling of a woman
'God is not looking to make the wrong guy the right guy'--- that sinks.
U are absolutely right God needs to be in every part of our lives I have messed up a few times wondering why things didn't work out
Absolutely and it happens to a lot of us
Boaz met Ruth in the field and found her attractive, then brought some food for her and her mother-in-law... That was a greenlight... 😊
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She went to his bedroom in the middle of the night
Stephen!!! That prayer works!! lol!! 😂. I have adverted some disasters. Hindsight is a motha! As soon as I ask this, I get a sign within 48 hours!! There have been many times I’ve ignored it..lol! Now that I’m in my 50s. I see dating so differently. Men my age and older are either newly divorced, half dead, depleted, trying to be 25, Mean and bitter…i can go on and on..I can take it or leave it. I really like being by myself…I hate that it took me hitting my 50s to truly appreciate who I am and the woman I have become. I love this space. No thirst here. I’m fully hydrated!! 😂😂😂😂
I’m happy to hear that 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaksI m like somebody, the true is we chat 9 months last year he have no time for me beause he like playen video's games sunday smoken weed he said loves me caring for me we both are born again christ he hiding a secret for me i afraid never meet him I m not sure he is the one for me.? Now I met other men he is from african he told me about marriage and childeren I said its to early lets met together i have not a band with him he smoke weed to I m don t like it brother.😂
God told me yes about the guy but he told me to wait but I’m the problem I want to push play but holy spirit gave me instructions to wait, and even the guy I’m talking to said to me he isn’t ready but he does want to marry me and don’t want to cease talking to me. But I’m like naw let’s push play. God kept telling me he’s making me a patient and praying woman. And even confirmed it to my mom who is a seasoned woman, and a woman of God. Help me Jesus to have patience
How did God told you yes?
Please wait. Because God knows everything that needs to happen in each of your lives. Please remember that God’s timing is perfect.
I thank the Lord that I decided to fix myself first and nourish my spirit and soul so I have been celibate since 2014. My body is a temple. Thank you Mr Labossiere.
I always tell people in relationships to take their time. Don't rush things!❤
For everyone saying “IF IT AINT THE RIGHT TIME THEN IT AINT THE RIGHT PERSON 💁🏼♀️”
You’re basically saying you know better than God.
Also, things aren’t instantaneous and maybe one of you needed to meet the other to be like “Okay, this is what I want and who I want, I need to work on myself a bit to prepare for him/her.”
Exactly!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks😊
Love this!
Wow! I won’t lie, this felt personal. I was having an emotional struggle the other day. I’m 36, childless but on a self discovery journey to resolve my deficiencies so I can be better for me first so I can be great for my husband that God finds me
The Book of Ruth is one of my favorites. She made it known to Boaz that she was interested (she made sure to bathe and look good first 😉) , but she waited on his answer. Granted, Boaz was already good to her by indirectly providing for her, but he saw her faithfulness to The Lord so it wasn't hard for him to drip with love and become her husband. No dating. Just shacking up in the tent and bam.... married. 😅
Thanks for sharing! 🙏
I love that you're more intentional about spirituality in your teachings. I must say that all of your teachings are amazing just as you are💐
Thank you 🙂 I truly appreciate that
@ Stephan ,Holy Spirit has spoken through you in your message .
Thank you .
"Let the healing begin"
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Great video! The story of Ruth presenting herself and expressing interest in Boaz is a good example of a woman expressing her feelings. However, the story of God taking a rib from Adam and creating Eve and "brought HER unto the man" is an even better one!! That tells me, when God is involved is a done deal! The relationship will work! In addition the MAN (Adam) recognized his WIFE! How did he know that? Adam was asleep but he KNEW she was the one!! And they become one flesh! I'm paraphrasing (Genesis 2: 22-25).
Side Note: I'm in no way a Bible scholar but I am a Believer and I do pray, read, study, listen to the Word etc. learning and growing daily and that example came to mind. Thank you for pointing out that there is no boyfriend/girlfriend relationships in the Bible. I never thought about that! Eliminating that in today's world would cut out so much drama, trauma, hurt and healing. Also, I got tickled when you were talking about the the singing in church. LOL. I've seen folks doing the most: hollering, crying, falling out on stage, being dramatic (basically acting and pretending) and won't even part their lips to speak to you so I pay them no attention. Sorry not sorry. Anyhoo, In the meanwhile, I'll continue to work on improving myself: getting closer to God, healing, hitting the gym, working on my purpose, etc.The waiting time will not be wasted!
I’m 38 years and I regret every moment I allowed someone to enter into my life in the name of relationship. Oh God I’m asking your forgiveness for my sins and give me the strength not to allow this to happen again and let me figure out the better position for me according to will of God.
These are questions to ask God:
"Ask God this straightforward question is this man for me?" "How do I proceed?" "Is there anything that I need to resolve?"
If you have found the one ask these questions:
"If I feel that I've met the one should I express my feelings to him"? "Is this man where he needs to be spiritually?"
This was so powerful! What resonated most was the part about men worshipping differently than women. Dang, I didn’t realize that misalignment could carry so much misunderstanding. This affirms why I still maintain that a man’s relationship with the Lord is one of the things that matters most. This vid is worth saving, sharing and referencing! Thanks Stephan!
God comes to me through dreams and feelings, never through a voice. I am very high energy spiritually. Stephan, I look forward to the follow-up on this, and I hope you will discuss that not everyone may hear a voice. I never have, and yet I routinely hear from the Lord. ❤ 💯 Truth.
I really agree with you on the topic Yes I truly believe put God First in everything we do or decide to do, God is so important in our lives ❤
If I knew what I know today it would have saved me a lot of times. I Love You ❤️!!!!
I’m glad you found this helpful
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I totally understand wanted someone to be the one just to find out their not
It happens a lot!
These prayers definitely work. I did this prayer about a man. God protected me by having that man block me and ghost me for no reason. Thank you for sharing this specific prayer.
Good to see that God is your foundation of your good counsel.
Always 🙌
Always Put God First!❤
This is so important for everyone. We must consult with God for confirmation. He will let us know. Keep going Labossiere. This is good sir💜💙🧡.
Yes indeed and thank you 🙂
@@MeetStephanSpeaks my pleasure🧡💜💛
Yes so true! ❤
I think you are an angel, not getting flirtatious, you are so intelligent and so on point, I thank God for your leadership and knowledge. May heaven always smile upon you 💗🙏
You have a beautiful aura, thank you very much for educating women and men about healthy relationships and how to achieve it. There are a lot of women like me that didn’t receive this type of education at home but want to relearn, be a woman of purpose and have a blessed marriage. May God continue giving you the wisdom to keep touching many people out there 🫶🏼
I was praying and asking God about someone and this video popped up so thanks Stephen for sharing this! Now I know what questions to ask God concerning a friend
I just connected with someone new, this message came just in time, i feel in my Spirit he could be the one, i will definitely use these steps to make sure, i have had so many counterfeits. Thank you 🙏
my brother may the glory be to thy father which is in heaven glorify his will 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
This is soooo good..GOD’S TIMING is BEST 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
HEALING is TRULY NECESSARY before the NEW RELATIONSHIP can be embraced 💕
Absolutely true... Thank you for calling this out. Read the Bible and doubts are whiped out once and for ever.
My pleasure
Love that you started with the truth...God.
I agree!!! 🙏🏿🙏🏿
Thank you 🙂
Great video. I knew something was off, ran from the no many years ago and married the wrong person. I am over 50 now. Not going to waste another year of difficult lessons. God knows what’s best for me. I CAN WAIT.
In preparation. My latter days will be greater.
Thank You So much Stephen ❤
I really wish I had started listening to Your teachings earlier, it would have saved me from wasting so much time
Am learning Alot here.
God is leading me to my ordained spouse
And You will be part of our success story😊
This was beautiful ❤❤
Beautiful vid, Steph!
Ladies NEEDED this reminder. 👍
Let's not be so desperate ladies and miss God!!!!!! 🙏🙌👍✌️😇💯
He loves us TOO much to settle.
It's so interesting how you've made the point that eliminating boyfriend/girlfriend relationships would save people pain and trauma and actually make them *better* prepared for marriage. As a Muslim woman, I always get the question from non-Muslims about dating. How can we meet people and get married without dating, as we believe in Islam, God Almighty has prohibited dating and/or engaging in any kind of sexual relations before marriage. We as Muslims always knew this rule was for our own protection and inner peace. And I was pleasantly surprised to hear it from you, confirming this. Thank you. And I must say I've been following your content for a long time now, and feel most of the things you say truly resonate with my values as a Muslim. Thank you, Stephan, and appreciate all your sincere, honest and heartfelt advice about finding, nurturing, and protecting loving relationships!
Well I have just met this guy and for the first time in my life, whenever I think about him... my heart starts beating very fast and like I am going to have palpitations. I have never had that in my life ever before..... and things are going well so far. I have not forgotten to ask God to walk in front of me, though.
I was in a relationship for 5 years. Things are not quite ok between me the family . And I pray to God . Lord he is not the one for me remove my feelings for him. And I slowly notice that between me and ex is getting bad. And my feelings is not as before. Until I don’t miss him.
Thank you for the enlightenment. I realized I have become emotionally unavailable after my first relationship not going well, and I did realize it distanced me from God instead of bringing me closer. Such a sad thing but this helped me realized where I'm at now.
Love! Would be a good idea for both the man and the woman to go to God in prayer TOGETHER...make sure yall getting the same answer lol. I'm like you Stephan I don't go to church for the praise worship I go to learn the word of God, when we truly comprehend the word of God (make an effort we will not understand everything), seek first the kingdom of God and truly get to know God (OUR FATHER) there is no better feeling, he will add all else unto us and that includes joining together husband and wife, not for their sake but for his sake to accomplish his will and purpose.
I found myself crying and confused which said enough I prayed and got dreams that seemed so real that he did not want me. So I walked away.
What did God say?
A man cannot tell us about our intuition. You wouldn’t understand sir. You’re right about allot of things, but It’s good to ask God to remove a bad person. He gets rid of them with NO DOUBTS!
This is beyond true. We had issues, I miscarried and he wasn't there. God showed me he wasn't for me prior and the miscarriage was the last stamp. Peace and blessings
Let me relay my recent story. I recently met a man during Memorial Day weekend he had a death in the family a few days later. I responded with many texts to take as much time as you need and many prayers. We have not had a date since. We text every day we talk over the phone briefly and we believe God sent us to each other. This morning God told me to tell him about my most secret and sacred moments I have with him and which ones. Upon opening up my phone this morning God showed me this beautiful tree with Psalm 7 which he also wanted me to send. So I did. I believe there was a valid reason behind this request because God would never ask me to give my most personal and sacred moments I share with him otherwise ❤️.
I truly believe he needed this for his spiritual health.
Truly appreciate your Godly counsel Stephan been single 14 years after my divorce I am waiting on God 🙏
Stephan, thank for the TRUTHS you shared in this video. Truth, even a hard truth, is always refreshing to hear.
Thanks a lot as always for the insightful video, I love it. I really agree with you on the topic. I personally believe we need to involve God in everything we do or decide to do, I involve God in even my meal(s) preparations/cooking. During our enquiry moment, we should have an open mind about it and be very willing to accept the answer that God gives us (Yes or No) and not be unhappy if the response isnt what we want.
I pray God blesses you (Stephan) with abundant Wisdom to keep doing such intelligent videos.
i'm 23 and i'm so glad that a found this video ❤Thank you your advice will help me a lot !!!
My pleasure 🙏❤️
Thank you Broe... Commit yo ways unto God n He shall direct your paths❤🎉❤it's, important to hear wat God says abt the person whom we desire to be with.
So true, Stephen. God's timing is everything. He truly knows when we are ready. Is there anything else I need to remove from my life. Speak the truth.
This is a great topic, great advice. I will start out by asking if it is time to date because Lord knows the exhausting conversations and people I have e encountered
That’s a great question to start with
Meaningful video. I just finished reading the man God has for me. Learning more and more through your videos. Relationship coach definitely designed for you.
In our pursuit for preparing and seeking Yah's best for us, we must remember not to abandon our covenant with Him. Most of the times Yah's, no is because He knows that we aren't ready to receive is because Yah knows we may put His best before Him. We have to be and remain committed to Yah if/ when He release us to our Husband's and to be a wife and if he says, no. No doesn't mean denial. It just Yah's protection and most importantly keeping and strengthening our covenant with Him. Yah is a jealous God and He's Jealous over us too. His sons and daughters. Beautiful blessings to you always. Shalom.
If only one video you made unite all psychology, faith and philosophy about relationships and made you superstar anove all therapist, psyhologists, priests...it would be this one...!!!! God bless you, brother , you live and fullfill your mission!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🔥🙌🏽
Never regret those we spent time with it opens up our minds and hearts to the perfect person God has for us. Take the lessons from every relationship whether it was a short one or longer...we needed to learn and grow at that time
Stop peeping in my window 😅! I need to adjust my overactive unction! I have no tolerance for negativity from friends or from men! I am beginning to wonder if love will ever find me or will I ever experience what true love actually is! ❤❤❤
Looking for the future video for exploring relationships without going the boyfriend/girlfriend route! That sounds really interesting
I LOVE THIS💗
Excellent job on this video ❤️💯
I love the topics of discussion 💓
I love the quote 💖
I love that you share your own personal experiences in your videos 👍🏼
The last topic… powerful message 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I always feel encouraged after watching your videos 🥹💗
Stephan, You’re an inspiration 💓
Thank you!!!
The one thing I would add when listening for Gods guidance is to go to His word, the Bible. Find a translation that you can relate to & really go thru the passages that speak to what you’re praying about. A concordance can help with finding the scriptures that you need.
Love you Stephan…you are a very wise man who gives good counsel. Thank you!
Very valuable points to ask God, and methods for prayer. Make or break you points best considered and applied than suffering the consequences of incorrect thoughts and actions. Your real life examples let me know I'm not alone, give helpful suggestions, and why doing them is important, and at times critical. One important point for me to remember is "God's timing is best." I thank God for sending me your way. What I've learned and continue to learn has drastically changed and improved my understanding of myself, of men, and how I relate to others. Thank you Stephan!
I truly appreciated this message and the reminder to me to always as God.
I'm just like you. I go in church at 11 when the message starts!
I’m grateful for the goodness of God
I prayed and waited for the time that God had granted and answered my prayer. He’s the man i prayed for 🙏
Thank You for this God-Specific Video . Hearing God’s voice and walking in God’s Plan is where the rubber meets the road ❤❤.
Thanks For A Fresh Perspective. I Always Seen, And Treated Relationships As Personal Choices,And This Makes It Easy For Setting Boundaries And Easily Move On When Necessary, Because It's MY Choice. But One Relationship That I Believed Was "GOD Send" I Suffered, And Struggled With Letting Go When Lines Where Crossed Because It Was My Godly Present🎁. And The Nonsense Became "Tests" That I Had To Pass. That Was My Longest (18mon), Most Toxic Situation-ship Ever. But🤷🤷🤷. But Thank You
My problem is I always rationalized what I am hearing . I rely on my own understanding and not in the Lord’s. I need to pray and fast and appreciate your messages and most importantly I need to trust and have faith in the Lord’s understanding and have faith in his timing not mine.
Yes please tell them. Ruth presented herself
(A thought that popped into my head, as Mr. Stephan briefly shared something about men and women and the Praise/Worship part at Church.) I think there needs to be an intense study on what true Worship means. If all Believers understood the two types of worship (personal/corporate); then there would not be such discomfort when it comes to Praise & Worship in our Church settings. True Worship is our reponse to the revelation of who God is. It does not have anything to do with song choices, or the way men and women enjoy the singing before the preached Word. Out of that response, there then are different forms of Worship. That is where singing, instruments, postures, praise, and etc. come into play. If one can stand and sing at a secular concert; then you should be able to participate in the corporate Worship experience with other Believers.
You really speak to me in every video. Although I’m not in a relationship now, you are giving me the tools for when the time comes. Thank you so much.
Thank you soooo much. I ended a relationship because I healed and learned a lot from you and a couple other RUclipsrs. Thank you.
I totally agree with you Stephen. Asking God is very important. What will you do if you have been in 10 years relationship had a child got a house together and now I’m moving out of the house all because he thinks if two people love each other married is not important. It came to a place where I needed to ask God if this is for me let his will be done, if this is not for me God should take me out of it. Not I’m asking God to forgive me and have mercy on me because I have been doing things in my own well.
Informative Information definitely will be putting these skills to use.
This has been the best video and advice thus far … I will be asking all these questions today. Recently started dating someone. Thank you SS
I asked recently if the person I was getting to know with interest of a relationship was the right one… God answered NO so fast I actually chuckled 🤭. I ended the relationship
@rachelcrowe7444 😆 God really does know how to throw in the sense of humor with this stuff. 😆 I work in a retail establishment where I see physically attractive women all around me, and of all ages, so I often pray, "Father, I seek your wisdom about her." when I see one. It has led to many hilarious moments. The one I remember most is when I prayed that, and said right afterward something like, "She looks kind of old though." and I really felt like God was laughing and saying that I was no spring chicken myself. 😂
I have prayer fir many years but I’m waiting on God I pray for it’s in his will not or n him aslo
This video was a direct answer to prayer in real time. I literally just came out of my prayer cave, asking God for the direction and clarity that you provided with your message. Thank you so much, Stephan. What is the best way to give back?
Thank you Stephen. This was great advice and wisdom from the most high Jehovah God! Proverbs 3:5
It would really help me forget COMPLETELY about my attachment to him, which I’m only attached at all because he makes his presence constantly known by stealing from me and erasing stuff
Found him but he brought so much pain and trauma and baggages to me. God even confirmed. I still question why God would want me to be with someone like him when he gave me so so much pain. Why isn’t he ready. I can only assume it’s because God had to show me to him to encourage him and to bring him back to God. This is the only way to bring him back to God and God saw He could use my life to encourage him. Still, it doesn’t change anything. The pain and trauma he gave and left me in. I became a different person because of what he gave me. So I left him for God to deal with because if God chose him for me He will need to work this all.
I tried before without Gods permission my marriage ended badly .This time around I’m putting God first. If it’s not from God. I don’t want it.
Thank you sooooo much, the last part you mentioned of, is he where God wants him to be spiritually, that's the major part i was worried about, although i prayed about it and i was assured to go ahead with this relationship i still struggled with fear because i had this mindset for a long time that being married to someone who's like a minister in the church is where there's safety, and even though I've seen, and gotten experience that its not true in all cases I've been scared of fully commiting to this relationship. But you mentioned not to evaluate based on my own perspective and since I've asked God i guess i can move on with it. Thank you for this video. God bless you.
I watched a video w/ Lisa Bilyeu and I so much enjoyed your lecture about asking God and listen to your inner self. I also like what you told about lust being strong that it may be confused to love. Before I even watched that video, I already went through a Major Depressive Disorder, and I started to go through that when I asked my fling to simply visit me without us having sexed. Because I knew I loved him and what he was doing was to ask from me a lot of times, and I wanted to set boundaries just so he can understand that what I truly want - a real connection. But he stopped visiting me. He never called me every Wednesday like he usually did. So I am standing strong on my decision, and whether I may end up losing my sanity, I will never text him or call him and most specially, I won't ever apologize just because I want to be respected and my gesture of respect to him was misunderstood by him. He truly looked like a Hooker, only that he's a guy. But with his actions, he's similar to a stripper - coming to my house, we sexed, then before he would go, I would prepare him food and give him a little cash. The only difference is that I cooked for him with all my heart and I even gave him a massage while he was asleep so he can release all of those stress he may have. But I decided to see the situation as it truly is, I was hurt but I made my decision. Now, I'm heartbroken because I stay strong on my decision. I always pray to God and I told God that if that man is truly my man, He will change him to become the exact man who I really need in my life, but if not, I keep on asking God to remove all of my emotions from him and help me heal. So... Here I am... Watching some of videos to understand people in relationship and I saw your video. Thanks. ~J🌹
True! my tongue has gotten me in trouble 😅😮Also true, no boyfriend & girlfriend thoughts, there is a romance time 3/6 months then marriage, not years of pseudo marriage! 😮not for me!
I really needed this! Thank you Stephan!
Ruth and Boaz, now that is an interesting love story she was prepared to humble herself at his feet. Pride could so easily have killed a great love ❤
Indeed, it is a great lesson to learn.
I don't think I've said hands off I'll handle it...but I find I had more important things to ask God for/about than a man.
Great advice! And SO relatable, Stephan. 💯I will adhere to these powerful instructions. Thank you🙏❤️ God bless!
Thank you very much Sir Stephan for the valuable advice, about relationship coupling the Love of and Guidance of our Lord God JESUS CHRIST 🙏 ❤️
Thank you for taking the time and sharing this video! It's very helpful, I've learnt to ask God for advice on pretty much everything I do now, but I'm having a hard time trying to get a clear message in this regard because I really like this guy 😂😂😂. This video comes right on time.
Thanks for sharing, much love! ❤
You’re welcome 🙏
I agree asked God for the man for you a kingdom man not one on the outside of God family. Pray for the right one that you both can grow together in Christ Jesus.
I think a driving for force people or at in my case I felt pressured to get married before age 40 because of the whole biological clock thing. I was frustrated because I felt God made it so women have limited time to have kids but let men be able to have kids until almost their dying day. At 42 I'm on the fence about having kids now but I'm not closed off to it.
This is such a great video,
many thanks.
In cold fallen world it takes a lot of wisdom and courage to love.
Mindfulness for everyone for healthy boundaries.
This was so good! Excellent video. I actually took notes on this one. By the way, I have a T-shirt that says elevation requires separation. Thank you, Bro.,Stephan! The Lord bless you and keep you!❤