he should bs!!!!! learn a language tk time..anyways..this old man..can return to his country and stop being a househusband and the old lady stop grunting and whinning,,about things she does not deserve 1- she is not young anylonger!! 2- she isnot in a foreigner country.thus the responsibility is ON HER when you make ur bed=bringing a foreigner spouse,specially so a young girl to your country THE FK RESPONSIBITY IS ON YOU
Damn people dont read. He cant work for 5 years on his visa. Not even remotely. He can have his visa revoked or even tossed in prison. His wife knew this going in to the marriage, so she ir her family can't get upset about it. Its clear cut. Besides, no one ever makes a fuss when the wife cant work, like in 99% of these scenarios. Equal rights = equal standards.
I feel like he should have looked for remote work before he left or like signed up to those websites where you teach languages online. Like there’s ways you can prepare for this I feel but okay…
If someone's going to move to a whole new country in their late 40s without a job, I would think they would have some decent savings and investments...
If a woman works, and a man doesn’t work BUT can cook and clean, that’s a fair circumstance there. The woman works full time outside of home and the man works full time inside the home, why not?! 🤷♀️
He does know that according to Chinese law, he can get married and find a job, get a work visa not a family visa, and that after five years of paying taxes he will be available to apply for an ID card right?
1:36 There are ways to get around that... tutoring in English helps, maybe he can get a "special leniency", remote work... i think he just wants to be a "kept" man... isnt that every mans dream? Each country is different, its called researching where you want to live or who you marry, learn the culture, language & rules BEFORE hand... its understandable of the sisters' & families concerns.... Also TLC PAYS, hows he getting over that? The production company needs permission & licenses HOW IS HE DOING FILMING, GETTING PAID & NOT IN JAIL?
With a fiance visa lots of countries don't let you work at first... But China being so for the men working you think they let them work when they got over there!!!
Lily is simply a sugar Mama to Josh. A kept white man does more for her ego and status. She gets to control the relationship which brings her much joy and happiness as a wealthy Chinese woman. I hope Josh actually does all of the things that he says he can do to pull an ounce of his weight.
Can he not get a job where he is? Every episode it’s I don’t have money between both of them. That lady is living beyond her means. They didn’t need that extravagant apartment. He should’ve had a plan to have or make money. What’s he going to do just sit in the apartment all day playing games and telling people not to be loud? 🙄.
He's on a spousal visa which doesn't grant permission to work for 5 years. If he's ever found working a paying job, he'll be in trouble. As for the apartment, you have to understand that Chinese can be highly materialistic and showy. They got married in the US, but the long distance was killing their relationship; so Josh made the sacrifice and Lily showed her appreciation by spending on the apartment. I don't blame them. Maybe they should sell the apartment, but they're in China.
@@Ankns-ug5ihcan't he ask for a work permit separately? And were are his house money. He said he just sold his house. Were are those money. He didn't helped her with one cent. If she lives beyound her means is her problem. At least she has a job.
@loredanadincu7930 he said he had a little from selling his house.. But seeing how she over spends on unnecessary things ..I'm sure he's being extra careful with his.. especially since she did all those renovations even tho he told her not to..
He said he sold his house in the US. So where is that money, and why is he not contributing at least some of it to their joint household expenses? Also it is possible to find remote work in the US even though he is living in China. I think he just wants to be a house husband
I understand both sides. Obviously, Josh quite literally CAN'T work while in another country, but he's offering to make himself useful in every other way. The sister just wants what's best for her sister and that's completely relatable and understandable.
Reminder: he still has the right to work online and get paid on his American account. He still has the right to find an effing job and transfer his spousal visa to a working permit with residence permit. He still has the right to set up a business and sponsor his own visa. He still has the right to stop being a little b*tch
Of course he can't work!!! He just moved to a different country! Why are people so dumb in expecting him to have a job waiting for him once he lands?? When ANY man or woman moves to a different country, there is an alloted time that person is NOT ALLOWED to work while their paperwork is processed. Every country has their own rules. Seriously, educate yourselves. As for those saying he could work remotely, yes, that would be ideal, wouldn't it? However, for starters, remote jobs are very hard to come by. While there are a million posted out there, it's very difficult to land because there are hundreds of people applying for the same positions. Second, there are several people in the comments saying apparently China does not permit the immigrant to even work remotely so again, this goes back to every country has its own rules.
Most of the time women go and cant work, nobody makes a fuss. When it is a man, suddenly it's problem. Women have as much responsibility to provide for mutual household as a man does. If he cannot work, he cannot. The pressure is on her then I guess. Most men deal with it all the time.
Well, when you are in love, you see what you want to see. You don't want to think of any down sides or problems that can't be solved. I don't think Josh will be able to assimilate well into the life of an everyday Chinese husband. I know Lily truly loves him, and he loves her. Sometimes that's not enough to make your dreams come true. I'd like to be wrong, but I don't think so.
This is like another version of Darcy. Wants to be loved so bad. It’s hard to find a man if you’re a “left over woman” in China. This is a greater social problem that needs to be explored. Meanwhile, this guy is also a “left over” man because he lacks prospects. They want to make it work to meet each other’s needs. If shes heavily in debt - i dont think this guy will stick around.
common ahh this is not a 17 year old,this is a 70 year old granny in her country if she wants to be supported,this not so good looking male,could take her to the usa! then..but..not expect to work in asia..as it is not easy for non asia to get a job in asia the opposite may not be true,in the usa,she could work in a chinese restaurant
HELLO!!!!!!family...the no work rule is Chinese law. What do they want from him and of him? Same with Liliy...pretty sure the remodel was done on HER house. Its her long-term asset, not his. The constant reminder of his inability to provide is going to end thier marriage. And idont think this is her first rodeo. Isnt she a bit long in tooth for a traditional chinese wedding?idk, something is "off" with these 2. That or its a poorly thought out and poorly written TLC storyline
@@FlaviaGreen without a doubt! But selling his house didn't necessarily give him cold hard cash. For all we know he may have had very little equity, resulting in him selling the home, paying the mortgage off, paying the closing costs, and leaving him with just enough to pay his way over to China. Regardless, I hope he *does* have some cash stashed. He's gonna need it when she gets tired of him and boots him out of the house.
Sister looked at him and like 404 error
hahahah whutt??
😂😂
Ohhh my god😂😂😂😂😂
😅😅😅😅😅
😂😂😂💀
If he can't legally work in China for five years. He could put in serious full time learning chinese.
i agree with you there! ESPECIALLY since he promised her parents he would learn the language 5 years ago
@maddielove007 that was james that made that promise to thathas parents
She still has to work .house husband ... computer learn her language. He loves her
he should bs!!!!! learn a language tk time..anyways..this old man..can return to his country and stop being a househusband and the old lady stop grunting and whinning,,about things she does not deserve
1- she is not young anylonger!!
2- she isnot in a foreigner country.thus the responsibility is ON HER
when you make ur bed=bringing a foreigner spouse,specially so a young girl to your country
THE FK RESPONSIBITY IS ON YOU
or work in an online job that's USA based
Damn people dont read. He cant work for 5 years on his visa. Not even remotely. He can have his visa revoked or even tossed in prison. His wife knew this going in to the marriage, so she ir her family can't get upset about it. Its clear cut. Besides, no one ever makes a fuss when the wife cant work, like in 99% of these scenarios. Equal rights = equal standards.
Truth
You are right, but it's all useless words, no couple will survive this nonsense on reality TV. If they are even a couple...
Word
Well said!! 👏🏾
China doesn't have equal rights . You've got the wrong country
He cannot work remotely..?
He always looks shocked or lost. His eyes & mannerisms do not give off good energy.
I think he’s a lying under cover gay!
Mooching scammer!
I do not trust a word he says!!
I would just rent out that house and get a cheaper apartment for themselves
He can actually get a Z visa if he finds a job. But if he doesn’t have a bachelor degree, it would be next to impossible to get such a visa.
Josh reminds me of Geoffrey Pascal before he went to jail.
Yes creepy
Omg yes! That same empty stare look they both have
Did he have his own money at least?
He sold his house before he left, but he makes it seem like he’s broke.
I feel like he should have looked for remote work before he left or like signed up to those websites where you teach languages online. Like there’s ways you can prepare for this I feel but okay…
He can't legally work there for 5 yrs on a spousal visa
@@annicklagace7414if he worked abroad for a US company? Is it different.
I agree - and why does he have no savings?
@@notsureiL doubt he could on a spousal visa.. but I could be totally wrong ..
@@notsureiL no
If someone's going to move to a whole new country in their late 40s without a job, I would think they would have some decent savings and investments...
Not everyone just because of their age has a savings!!! It's expensive to live in America!!!
He sold his house. So, he’s got some money.
@@aprilmorison7238 then he shouldnt move
@@duygua1286 love does funny things!!
If a woman works, and a man doesn’t work BUT can cook and clean, that’s a fair circumstance there. The woman works full time outside of home and the man works full time inside the home, why not?! 🤷♀️
Agree
It seems like she buying his love don't know why
Green card?
@@jedensnow1084 what green card? They live in China.
He does know that according to Chinese law, he can get married and find a job, get a work visa not a family visa, and that after five years of paying taxes he will be available to apply for an ID card right?
Maybe he does not have a degree to support work visa application
1:36 There are ways to get around that... tutoring in English helps, maybe he can get a "special leniency", remote work... i think he just wants to be a "kept" man... isnt that every mans dream? Each country is different, its called researching where you want to live or who you marry, learn the culture, language & rules BEFORE hand... its understandable of the sisters' & families concerns.... Also TLC PAYS, hows he getting over that? The production company needs permission & licenses HOW IS HE DOING FILMING, GETTING PAID & NOT IN JAIL?
He getting money from TLC
HIT IT ON THE NOSE!!
The only reason he is here😂
“Oh darn, I can’t work.”
I don’t understand we import tons of things from China he can’t work but he can do business and have an online business with a US partner
With a us partner on a chinese spousal visa ??
And idk about China.. but here in canada even if you're working online.. it all has to be reported ..
Girl let him go he’s a “dead beat” you deserve better love than this
He can work, just needs to get the work visa, if he's on a marriage visa then he can't work. So I don't get it...he can find a job if he wants to...
Is lazzy is what is someone can working only if is like work
In other words he is a bump
Is it just me or is this season boring af😢
I am a Chinese but I don’t understand why he could not work . There is no such limitation in visa type for 5 years , that’s absurd
With a fiance visa lots of countries don't let you work at first... But China being so for the men working you think they let them work when they got over there!!!
Lol he just does not want to work probably
He can’t . I’m on a spousal visa in China and I can’t work
@@Sasa-wv7gd is it 5 years that you are not allowed to work? I am just wondering if he is telling the truth.
@@jacquiandp-dog7755 yes he needs to qualify to apply for a green card that’ll allow him to work
Lily is simply a sugar Mama to Josh. A kept white man does more for her ego and status. She gets to control the relationship which brings her much joy and happiness as a wealthy Chinese woman. I hope Josh actually does all of the things that he says he can do to pull an ounce of his weight.
Find a remote job
Josh is like a 10 year old kid.
Not to take away from the situation, but are those dead bats hanging behind the sister?
those are ducks
He is a complete narcissist. Poor Lily. She’s been used.
Can he not get a job where he is? Every episode it’s I don’t have money between both of them. That lady is living beyond her means. They didn’t need that extravagant apartment. He should’ve had a plan to have or make money. What’s he going to do just sit in the apartment all day playing games and telling people not to be loud? 🙄.
He's on a spousal visa which doesn't grant permission to work for 5 years. If he's ever found working a paying job, he'll be in trouble. As for the apartment, you have to understand that Chinese can be highly materialistic and showy. They got married in the US, but the long distance was killing their relationship; so Josh made the sacrifice and Lily showed her appreciation by spending on the apartment. I don't blame them. Maybe they should sell the apartment, but they're in China.
He can't until year 5 of living in China.
@@Ankns-ug5ihcan't he ask for a work permit separately? And were are his house money. He said he just sold his house. Were are those money. He didn't helped her with one cent. If she lives beyound her means is her problem. At least she has a job.
@loredanadincu7930 he said he had a little from selling his house..
But seeing how she over spends on unnecessary things ..I'm sure he's being extra careful with his.. especially since she did all those renovations even tho he told her not to..
He said he sold his house in the US. So where is that money, and why is he not contributing at least some of it to their joint household expenses? Also it is possible to find remote work in the US even though he is living in China. I think he just wants to be a house husband
remote work exists
Remote work hello it’s 2024! Its not 80s anymore.
His spousal visa forbids him from working for 5 years
Tell that to the Chinese government. He is not allowed to work.
He said on the show he can't work do you even watch?
Oh my goodness reduces excuses
This Josh is not a good man. Where is the money he sold his house and his savings..he can’t even help even ti buy dinner
I understand both sides. Obviously, Josh quite literally CAN'T work while in another country, but he's offering to make himself useful in every other way. The sister just wants what's best for her sister and that's completely relatable and understandable.
In my opinion I would still look for some type of job. I wouldn't listen to my wife or husband. Don't depend on anyone.
It's not about listening to his wife.. it's about him not being allowed for 5 yrs over there because he's on a spousal visa
wtf are those corpses hanging on the wall above Lily's sister?
I just kinda commented the same thing!! I asked if they were dead bats!
@@heatherhartman6474 😆
@@heatherhartman6474 They sure look like it! 🦇 🦇
They are ducks
@@heatherhartman6474ducks
It's not gonna last long.
Do you think the cast members are lying about their ages? Lily and Loren both look a lot older than they are claiming to be.
Reminder: he still has the right to work online and get paid on his American account.
He still has the right to find an effing job and transfer his spousal visa to a working permit with residence permit.
He still has the right to set up a business and sponsor his own visa.
He still has the right to stop being a little b*tch
You’re wrong lmao
Of course he can't work!!! He just moved to a different country! Why are people so dumb in expecting him to have a job waiting for him once he lands?? When ANY man or woman moves to a different country, there is an alloted time that person is NOT ALLOWED to work while their paperwork is processed. Every country has their own rules. Seriously, educate yourselves. As for those saying he could work remotely, yes, that would be ideal, wouldn't it? However, for starters, remote jobs are very hard to come by. While there are a million posted out there, it's very difficult to land because there are hundreds of people applying for the same positions. Second, there are several people in the comments saying apparently China does not permit the immigrant to even work remotely so again, this goes back to every country has its own rules.
Most of the time women go and cant work, nobody makes a fuss. When it is a man, suddenly it's problem. Women have as much responsibility to provide for mutual household as a man does. If he cannot work, he cannot. The pressure is on her then I guess. Most men deal with it all the time.
Why can her work in China isn,t there open work permit
Well, when you are in love, you see what you want to see. You don't want to think of any down sides or problems that can't be solved. I don't think Josh will be able to assimilate well into the life of an everyday Chinese husband. I know Lily truly loves him, and he loves her. Sometimes that's not enough to make your dreams come true. I'd like to be wrong, but I don't think so.
How does Lily have a sister in spite of the One-Child Policy?
You could have more kids if you paid “fee “ for the s2nd/3rd..
@@adelapsencikova4436 So basically bribe the Chinese government?
Thinking I should move to China then,my wife left me after lay offs back to back .
is this crap real ?
This is like another version of Darcy. Wants to be loved so bad. It’s hard to find a man if you’re a “left over woman” in China. This is a greater social problem that needs to be explored. Meanwhile, this guy is also a “left over” man because he lacks prospects. They want to make it work to meet each other’s needs. If shes heavily in debt - i dont think this guy will stick around.
Lily doesn’t have his back and is always throwing him under the bus
He can teach English!
If a man can support their wife financially, then a woman can support her husband financially too.
Completely ruins the dynamics of how a relationship should be, but yeah, go off.
@@Africaisthefuture-zh8bo It's called equality
Felt like I was watching a scene straight out of a Jet Li movie😂😂😂😂
common ahh this is not a 17 year old,this is a 70 year old granny in her country
if she wants to be supported,this not so good looking male,could take her to the usa! then..but..not expect to work in asia..as it is not easy for non asia to get a job in asia
the opposite may not be true,in the usa,she could work in a chinese restaurant
i wonder how long lily is going to tolerate josh being jobless.
Csn't he work as a private English tutor in the meantime?
No
@@dedu98why? I didn't watch the whole video tho, sorry
HELLO!!!!!!family...the no work rule is Chinese law. What do they want from him and of him? Same with Liliy...pretty sure the remodel was done on HER house. Its her long-term asset, not his. The constant reminder of his inability to provide is going to end thier marriage. And idont think this is her first rodeo. Isnt she a bit long in tooth for a traditional chinese wedding?idk, something is "off" with these 2. That or its a poorly thought out and poorly written TLC storyline
He has money. He sold his house to go there. He needs to chip in. Such a turn off a man who doesn't provide some financial assistance. Ugh!
@@FlaviaGreen without a doubt! But selling his house didn't necessarily give him cold hard cash. For all we know he may have had very little equity, resulting in him selling the home, paying the mortgage off, paying the closing costs, and leaving him with just enough to pay his way over to China. Regardless, I hope he *does* have some cash stashed. He's gonna need it when she gets tired of him and boots him out of the house.
Lily could hv come to U.S and Josh and her cn figure out the future
She has her business over there .. which obviously is doing quite well for her to have spent half a million on renovations for their place