I'm German and I lived in the UK for about 7 years. The loneliest time in my life. British people are not interested in friendship with foreigners if they have lived abroad themself. They just ignore you and speak just a minimum with you to be polite. I would have thought that the british and the german culture is alike but boy, was I wrong. So I returned back to Germany. In Germany social groups are vital. If you want solitude - stay home. But having friends and/or family is vital. For us germans it is out of question. It is like an important network. Holding and being held mentally and if necessary also be there for each other physically in case you need a hand with something (moving, building furniture or renovating), In the UK I had just very few foreigners as my network and that was too less for me. That goes back to those times where we lived in tribes and for some reason (and in my opinion) it is still very strong present with Germans. So if you would like to flee your solitude and creating a network, it would be an idea to think about a hobby and then connect with likeminded people (i.e. clubs for sport, hand craft, creativ art, walking, having animals, dancing ect. or visit a cours at the Volkshochschule). You decide and control then how much social contact you would want as an introvert. I'm an introvert too, but too much solitude can hurt a lot. Even for a strong, tall German woman.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's interesting to learn why German people support each other; it makes sense to me. And I appreciate your advice on hobbies! 😊
What a cute channel 🙂. I'm also introverted and live in Germany since forever but I don't feel like that was ever a problem for me personally...for my parents it was and they always wanted me to go outside and do something. I never had problems making friends either, even as an introvert because I like to talk to people. You seem to be more introverted than me and which is interesting. I wish you all the best for your life here! 😊In my opinion northern Germany is a good place for introverts because you can walk on the beach and enjoy the sea by yourself calm down. I loooove doing this by myself (well and with my dog).
Thank you for sharing your story😌 I've never been to northern Germany, and it's definitely a place I want to visit. Daily walks on the beach sound wonderful!😊
If you like dogs, they are the perfect companion for nice walks, and you can engage with other locals with your dog.. I'm from Germany and there's nothing more relaxing than long walks with my lab :)
I totally get what you're saying. As an introvert with social anxiety in Germany, I often feel the same way and I know that sense of loneliness, even though I actually prefer to keep my distance from people. It's nice to hear someone share similar thoughts. Sometimes, it just feels good to know you're not alone in this. And sometimes, you meet the best friends unexpectedly - like in RUclips comments, for example.
Thank you for your empathy😊 I didn't expect that there are quite some people who experience something similar to me. It does make me feel I am not alone😊
Found your channel occasionally today, and this video in particular makes me sad. It really conveys how you feel about living in this country - and I think we should do something about it! I want to offer you my friendship, or to help you find some friends wherever you live, so that you can enjoy your time here more and don't have to feel this way anymore.
Thank you for much for your kind words😊I appreciate lots of people offering me friendships in comments :) I'm discovering my way to enjoy my life and already trying new things this year😊
Hi Frau Samurai, thanks for your insightful videos. As a single woman from Germany I can relate. I think at the end of your video you’ve nailed it: It is about your inner feelings how you relate to what you are experiencing. I also do all those things you’ve mentioned alone: going for walks, eating in restaurants, going to the movies, visiting a museum and so on. There are no social restrictions on whatever you like to do if you do them alone. I never feel bad in any way about it. I just don’t care what other people MIGHT thinking. Somehow to ignore the others is also like growing wings - it somehow strengthens yourself: “HA! I don’t care, I can DO this.” ;-)) If you like to get some more friends as an introvert, I suggest you approach people you find interesting. Do it in an unobtrusive way - but Japanese people generally are in my experience. I know this might sound scary. But if you don’t show interest in those people they might never know that you are interested in any way. Or they might think that you rather like to be left alone. I think this is a big part why a lot of people are complaining that it seems tough to get friends in Germany: They just don’t signal their interest or are way to “forward” about it (what scares the Germans away). Most people will also respect your privacy when you get to know them. Don’t wait to pursue your dreams :-))) I also watched a lot of videos from people all over the world who are living abroad. And this friendship thing seems to be an issue all over the place not only related to German people. I lived some months in Canada. There I encountered a lot of foreign people who lived among themselves. And that might be a problem: How will you become friends with the people of the culture you live in if you are only connecting to people to other cultures? (I don't speak of you but generally.) And this was Canada - where all the people talk to each other all the time!
Thank you for your cheering comment😊 It is nice to know that German women enjoy solo activities here. It makes me feel I'm not alone. I've lived in Canada as well. I will share more stories of myself in another video. When we are living abroad, we need lots of colleges to make friends than usual for sure:)
Ich bin froh, dass mir RUclips Deine Videos vorschlug. Ich habe sie gerade alle angesehen und Deinen Kanal abboniert. Dein Videostil ist so wunderbar angenehm ruhig und authentisch. Ich mag es, dass Du kleinere "Fehlerchen", die einfach normaler Alltag sind, nicht herausschneidest. Du wohnst mit Sicherheit nicht in meiner Gegend, aber falls es Dich einmal nach Südwest-Deutschland verschlägt und Du Dich beim Spazierengehen alleine fühlst, würde ich mich anschließen - auch mit Rock im Winter. Ich kann vieles von dem nachempfinden, was Du in Deinen Videos beschreibst. Kino ist in Deutschland auch so ein Ort, an dem man ab und an komisch angesehen wird, wenn man alleine hingeht. Beim ersten Mal fühlte es sich seltsam an, aber ich wollte unbedingt den Film sehen. Schon beim zweiten Mal waren die Blicke egal und ich fragte mich, wieso nicht viel mehr Menschen Kino alleine genießen. Ich freue mich auf Dein nächstes Video, Frau Samurai! Grüße von Frau Dschigit. 💚
Dein Kommentar hat mich zum Lächeln gebracht😊Ich würde gerne spazieren gehen:) Ich möchte meiner Realität treuer bleiben. Deshalb bearbeite ich mein Video nicht, damit es unrealistisch aussieht😌
I've felt the same way ever since moving to Berlin 4 years ago. I feel like it's really difficult to meet new people, and as you said, even going for dinner alone is very awkward even though one of my favorite things is going for food. I think the last time I met someone new was when I decided to start taking Korean lessons almost 2 years ago, really would be nice if it was easier to get to know some people here. I hope you'll find some people in your environment so life get s a little easier, it's already difficult enough without being alone. Wish you all the best, take care! (also the food you were cooking in this video looks absolutely delicious 🤤)
Thank you for your comment😊 I didn't realize Berlin is similar to Düsseldorf. Probably anywhere we go, we will face the same situation. Very interesting to know the situation in other cities though!
I actually think that it's just a feeling that everyone feel when you doesn't live in your homecountry .But i get what you are saying haha ,awkward moments being in a room full of people and dont engage with them .I have a take on it ,that this thing actually happen because of social norms and also people tend to judge a lot ,people who are alone, they project their owninsecurities into others and make you feel miserable and lonely .What a weird feeling
I lived in Germany for some years. I found it difficult to make friends. Acquaintances, yes, but friends, no. German people are more reserved in the sense of, like, having a protective shield. They don't open up easily. That's my experience as a foreigner in Germany anyway. So I understand your feeling, I think. But their Mettwurst and Currywurst are tasty. 🙂 Eisbein with Sauerkraut is also good. Try to enjoy the time and make it fun for yourself. You'll be fine. 🖐 And may you have a very happy and successful 2025.👍🙂
Thank you for your empathy.😊Making friends in Germany as a foreigner can be challenging. I enjoy Currywurst and Schnitzel as well. I haven't tried "Eisbein with Sauerkraut," but I looked it up, and it seems like a very traditional German dish😋 Thank you for your wishes, and happy new year to you too!😊
👋🏻wir Deutschen sind sehr zurückhaltend was Freundschaften angeht 🤷🏼♂️aber wenn wir es zulassen halten sie meistens ein Leben lang. Habe etwas Geduld mit uns 😉. Deine Videos sind sehr schön gemacht und das Essen sieht lecker aus 👍🏻 Wünsche Dir ein schönes neues Jahr 🍀
Das ist sehr wahr.! Sobald Deutsche ihre Herzen öffnen, sind sie sehr zuverlässig😌Danke für deine Unterstützung und ich freue mich, dass dir mein Video gefallen hat😊Ich wünsche dir ebenfalls ein frohes neues Jahr.
Hello, i am a german woman and i love all about japan. I love your language and your food, japanese design and of course japanese people. I live in Düsseldorf and here are living many japanese people, i am very open minded and try to be kind and open when i met some japanese people, but my experience is very often very low refuse. So i might be thinking japanese people dont want many contact. By the way i would like to go for a walk with you or go together shopping in japanese supermarket at the immermannstreet. Best wishes!
Thank you for your lovely comment😊 I am one of those Japanese people in Düsseldorf. Many people are temporarily here and probably like staying in their own community. Thank you for staying kind to us🥰
Hello! A very warm greeting from Germany! 👋 I really like your videos! I like this calm way of depicting everyday life. ✨ I am sorry to hear that it is difficult to find your way in Germany and to make friends. The food always looks good. I like to eat the Nuremberg Rostbratwurst sausages. 😋 I keep my fingers crossed for you and wish you luck, health and happiness! All the best for 2025!
Thank you for your kind words! 😊 I'm not sure which is "Nuremberg Rostbratwurst", as there are so many sausages in Germany. 😂 Wishing you a Happy New Year and all the best! 😊
I am German who lived in Japan for some years, so it’s interesting to hear the perspective for a Japanese living in Germany. Thanks for sharing 😊 Its hard to make friends here, but if you do find friends you can easily have them for a lifetime. Are you in the northern or Southern part of Germany? Gambatte kudasai 🙏🏼
Liebe Grüße aus Köln 😊 ja wir brauchen etwas Zeit bis wir Freundschaft schließen , aber dann ist es oft eine sehr lange 😊. Ich hoffe du findest ein paar tolle Menschen um dich herum . Ich mag deine Videos. Gerne mehr davon 🤗 viel Glück und ein frohes neues Jahr
Vielen Dank für deinen netten Kommentar😊 Es braucht tatsächlich Zeit, Freunde zu finden, aber ich weiß auch, dass sie ziemlich zuverlässig sind, wenn sie sich erst einmal öffnen😌
It is nice to see the other point of view. I lived in Japan and live was very convenient. It was hard though to be anything else but a foreigner. In Germany I think people care a bit less or don't always give you that feeling. Most people use restaurants to catch up with friends or go out as a couple in Germany, but it is fun to have a nice meal and people watch for me. The variety of people you see is so diverse compared to Japan. Hope you can feel less unease to go out eating alone by viewing it more as entertainment or opportunity to learn something new about other people.
Thank you for your comment😌 In Japan, it is for sure difficult to live as a foreigner. I still hope you didn't make too much negative experience in Japan🙏
@@FrauSamuraiquite the opposite. I just know I don't want to work for a Japanese company in Japan 😅 Made some friends for life who I regularly visit when I am in Japan. Hope you feel at home after 8 years in Germany.
初めまして、ドイツ人です。 I also do lot's of things on my own instead of taking someone with me - for example those long walks. And i know you are looked at in a weird way if you do those things alone. I just decided not to feel pressured or embarressed although beeing starred at while doing so. Just ignore those. But i also get, you feel sad and lonely sometimes although it was your own will to do alone. It's the feeling of knowing there's no one you can rely on in times you need to. I hope you'll find some people who will match the way you need it. So far よろしくお願いします
Thank you for your comment😊 I believe people can enjoy solitude, but we also crave connections with others. Ultimately, what matters most is our true inner feelings. :)
I am an extroverted person but when i came to Sweden i became introverted due to some situations😅. Swedish are also reserved people. I am a filipina like to make jokes but for them i have to be careful on the words. I live in a society with different people from different cultures. On my 1st work, people there are introverts😁. And on my 2nd work they are extroverts😂. I can adjust on both worlds😁. By the way your food is delicious. Wanna try that looks yum! Upload more videos i like your style🥰.
Very inspiring again! Quite often I feel like that, too. I don't have many places where I can go to alone without feeling scrutinised and - maybe? - judged. Even if I'm making progress and don't care as much as I used to. When I was young it was a shame to be a woman alone in a restaurant or a bar. Something like " Oh, she must be very needy to appear in this place." I did it anyway but it was always tough. It feels good to "meet" a like minded person. To resonate with someone who talks about what is on my mind, too. Thank you for sharing! ❤ And as for being an "alien" in another country. After a busy family life of 25 years with kids and husbands, I went to Siberia when I was 51 and lived there for 6 years. I was nearly mute in the beginning because Russian, which I couldn't speak, was the only language. Good for me that I was working 60 - 80 hours a week, which I liked and was enough for a long time. There were very few Germans and funnily we shared the language but not the culture because most of them were from the East of Germany. After 45 years of Iron Curtain between the 2 Germanys their cultural experiences where very similar to the russian communists culture. Whereas my music, books, jokes, traditions were from the West and completely different. In the end the reason why I came back was, apart from family and friends, that I missed being with people of my cultural background. Fun fact : You return and are as lonely as you were in the other country. You have to start all over, outsider again because again you have no people who when through the same with you. After 13 years back here and even if I have a vibrant family which I love to pieces, I'm still struggling with feeling lonely and at times too much on my own. And at the same time enormously enjoy being alone. Well ... ❤ A Happy New Year!
Thank you for sharing your experiences😊 I also feel going back to my home country is also difficult if you live in a different country for quite a long time. Happy new year and wish you all the best in 2025😊
Hm, I am not familiar enough with Japanese culture on the experience side, but as for the German side: So long as you don't disturb them or break any written rules, no one will care what or how you do something. Especially with things like restaurants, the other guests will most certainly not care about or judge you in any way, in fact, they probably won't even really perceive you as anything distinct from the scenery in the first place. It's as you said, more a matter of one's own feelings how such situations are in Germany. That being said, if/once you do have German friends, but are an introvert, it's a way nicer experience than most places elsewhere, because German friends will schedule activities just like they will schedule work or other appointments, so most all activities are pre planned ahead of time and with a relatively set length and there is no problem or stigma in declining something that is uncomfortable or doesn't fit with your schedules or obligations when planning them. Just know that you will be expected to actually show up if you agreed to something. If you don't like feeling/being lonely, I'd recommend joining one of the many different hobby/activity clubs or associations. They can convene as little as once a month (or even fewer - there are of course also the opposite) and generally for a set amount of time, so it isn't necessarily a large commitment and the amount of expected social interaction is generally limited to the time spent there. They're a great way of making new acquaintances and from there eventually friends. Do note the distinction though, as that is something foreigners often seem to misinterpret, especially coming from cultures like the anglophone world. I visit different seminars and symposia about topics that interest me a few times a year for example. They get organized by an academic club I am part of and if one interests me, all I have to do is pay the attendance fee and book my attendance. So there isn't even ANY kind of regular attendance required. There is also usually an event held around christmas time where most of my club will visit an orchestra concert or opera together. These things are a great way to socialize on your own terms without too much commitment in time or interaction.
Thank you for your comment😊 I think my problem is I struggle to find friends to frequently go out with. Attending an orchestra concert or opera sounds wonderful. I've never experienced it, but I would truly appreciate this aspect of European culture! I hope to find lasting friends with whom to share these visits. :)
Interesting) I think, it would be technically more profitable for your channel, more people could see it, if you put youtube-subtitles for translation in different languages instead of fixed video texts
You really seem to like the Gouda from Rewe a lot :)). Actually its hard to believe a Japanese lady here feels kinda lonely. I thought its mostly men without having the right partner. I am an introvert too and it is quite hart for me to make friends. I also have no family left. I think Rowan Atkinson aka Mr Bean said once:" You gotta learn to like your own company" I think he is right in a way. On the other hand things can lead to depression if you feel isolated for too long. A good hobby always helps you then.
Haha, I need to laugh because I didn't realize how often I buy cheese. The longer I spend in Germany, the more friends I lose as people leave the city. You're right; feeling isolated for too long isn't healthy. I'm trying new things and moving forward. 😊
Kannst Du mir vielleicht verraten wo Du den Reis her hast? Ich wollte schon seit einer Weile Kurzkorn-/Rundkornreis kochen, finde aber hier in Deutschland leider nichts passendes. Viele Grüße!
Ich kaufe normalerweise Reis in einem asiatischen Supermarkt😊 Ich bin mir nicht sicher, wo du lebst, aber "Sushi-Reis" eignet sich für koreanische und japanische Gerichte. Wenn du einen japanischen Supermarkt finden kannst, bieten sie Reis von höherer Qualität an, obwohl er tendenziell teurer ist😌
ドイツへようこそ🙂 I came across your channel because I am very interested in Japanese culture. I understand that it is not easy for you to make new friends in your new environment. It is probably similarly difficult to make new friends even in Japan when you move to a foreign city from outside. But at least there is no language barrier. I assume from your grocery shopping that you live in or near Düsseldorf, which has the largest Japanese community in Germany. I therefore hope that you will quickly make friends here so that you are no longer lonely. One way to meet new people would be through a hobby or a club, such as the Japanese Club Düsseldorf. There are certainly many Germans who would like to be friends with Japanese people because they are interested in the culture. Personally, I would like to have Japanese friends to learn more about Japanese culture on a personal level, but unfortunately there is no way to meet Japanese people near me. As for your YT channel, it would be interesting to know more about their reasons for moving to Germany. I will definitely keep following your channel - がんばて ください ☺
Thank you for your comment! 😊 Making friends in different countries can be always challenging. Good guess-I live in Düsseldorf. I don’t have any Japanese friends here, but I'll explain why in another video. I hope you continue to be interested in Japan!
おはよう又はこんばんは、 I'm a citizen of Germany (by passport) and the citizen of the Universe. I'm introverted as well. When I eat out, I don't see anyone looking at me somehow unusually. Yes, some people might check other people in the eatery, however it is usually it i.e. nothing (more) special. That's possible because I am just an average looking male. I wonder, do you speak German? and how long have you been living here (in Germany)? バイバイ、ミスさん
Thank you for your comment😊 I've lived here for 8.5 years and speak German, but I'm still learning a lot. In the video "Why do I get hurt by the German languages?", I share a bit of my story. I would appreciate it if you could check it out!😌
Well, in México people are very socially, there are large families and so, I am not a social person, I don’t like to be around people, so I can say I am an introvert one but I feel good about it, I enjoy being alone and having time to be with me😊
I only partially agree with your statement that Japan gives people more opportunities to do things solo than Germany does. I totally agree with you when it comes to city life. Restaurants have seating for single guests and so on. However, I think those activities are limited to cities. On the other hand, in Germany it is much more common when single people follow their hobbies, or other activities by themselves. I think it is more common that someone in Germany will say, " I am interested in activity X. I will now start doing activity X by myself.", or "I will go to a school that teaches X". In Japan, I think you will almost only ever pursue a hobby with at least one friend. This difference is basically the big cultural difference of social cohesion, and being part of the whole in Japan vs. pursuing your own individuality in Europe. Just like the forced socializing you mention in the video when you have to go out regularly with work colleagues. In Germany you are forced much more to design your own life. That brings a lot of freedom, but it also requires a huge leap of faith. You have already done the biggest step of pursuing your individuality by deciding to relocate to Germany. :)
Thank you for sharing your idea:) Western culture emphasizes individuality, while Japan tends to lean towards collectivism. However, in Japan, we still often engage in activities alone which is actually funny😅
Es scheint viele Japanische Damen in Deutschland zu geben, den Kanälen nach zu urteilen. Deiner gefällt mir. Was hat Dich nach Deutschland gebracht ? Wie hast Du die Sprache gelernt oder lernst sie noch ? 侍さんは自己紹介お願いします。🙂
>Liebe geht durch den Magen< - deutsches Sprichwort. Ich empfehle einfach einmal Menschen die Dich interessieren zu einem gemeinsamen Essen privat einzuladen. 3-5 Personen - jeder kocht etwas zum Essen. Vorspeise, 1Gang, 2Gang, Nachspeise. Der beste Weg die Menschen kennen zu lernen.
I'm German and I lived in the UK for about 7 years. The loneliest time in my life. British people are not interested in friendship with foreigners if they have lived abroad themself. They just ignore you and speak just a minimum with you to be polite. I would have thought that the british and the german culture is alike but boy, was I wrong. So I returned back to Germany. In Germany social groups are vital. If you want solitude - stay home. But having friends and/or family is vital. For us germans it is out of question. It is like an important network. Holding and being held mentally and if necessary also be there for each other physically in case you need a hand with something (moving, building furniture or renovating), In the UK I had just very few foreigners as my network and that was too less for me. That goes back to those times where we lived in tribes and for some reason (and in my opinion) it is still very strong present with Germans.
So if you would like to flee your solitude and creating a network, it would be an idea to think about a hobby and then connect with likeminded people (i.e. clubs for sport, hand craft, creativ art, walking, having animals, dancing ect. or visit a cours at the Volkshochschule). You decide and control then how much social contact you would want as an introvert. I'm an introvert too, but too much solitude can hurt a lot. Even for a strong, tall German woman.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's interesting to learn why German people support each other; it makes sense to me.
And I appreciate your advice on hobbies! 😊
@@FrauSamurai 💝
I lived in Germany for 10 years and I feel you!
What a cute channel 🙂. I'm also introverted and live in Germany since forever but I don't feel like that was ever a problem for me personally...for my parents it was and they always wanted me to go outside and do something. I never had problems making friends either, even as an introvert because I like to talk to people. You seem to be more introverted than me and which is interesting. I wish you all the best for your life here! 😊In my opinion northern Germany is a good place for introverts because you can walk on the beach and enjoy the sea by yourself calm down. I loooove doing this by myself (well and with my dog).
Thank you for sharing your story😌
I've never been to northern Germany, and it's definitely a place I want to visit. Daily walks on the beach sound wonderful!😊
If you like dogs, they are the perfect companion for nice walks, and you can engage with other locals with your dog.. I'm from Germany and there's nothing more relaxing than long walks with my lab :)
Thank you for your comment:) That's actually a great idea😊
I totally get what you're saying. As an introvert with social anxiety in Germany, I often feel the same way and I know that sense of loneliness, even though I actually prefer to keep my distance from people. It's nice to hear someone share similar thoughts. Sometimes, it just feels good to know you're not alone in this. And sometimes, you meet the best friends unexpectedly - like in RUclips comments, for example.
Thank you for your empathy😊
I didn't expect that there are quite some people who experience something similar to me. It does make me feel I am not alone😊
Found your channel occasionally today, and this video in particular makes me sad. It really conveys how you feel about living in this country - and I think we should do something about it! I want to offer you my friendship, or to help you find some friends wherever you live, so that you can enjoy your time here more and don't have to feel this way anymore.
Thank you for much for your kind words😊I appreciate lots of people offering me friendships in comments :) I'm discovering my way to enjoy my life and already trying new things this year😊
Hi Frau Samurai, thanks for your insightful videos. As a single woman from Germany I can relate. I think at the end of your video you’ve nailed it: It is about your inner feelings how you relate to what you are experiencing. I also do all those things you’ve mentioned alone: going for walks, eating in restaurants, going to the movies, visiting a museum and so on. There are no social restrictions on whatever you like to do if you do them alone. I never feel bad in any way about it. I just don’t care what other people MIGHT thinking. Somehow to ignore the others is also like growing wings - it somehow strengthens yourself: “HA! I don’t care, I can DO this.” ;-))
If you like to get some more friends as an introvert, I suggest you approach people you find interesting. Do it in an unobtrusive way - but Japanese people generally are in my experience. I know this might sound scary. But if you don’t show interest in those people they might never know that you are interested in any way. Or they might think that you rather like to be left alone. I think this is a big part why a lot of people are complaining that it seems tough to get friends in Germany: They just don’t signal their interest or are way to “forward” about it (what scares the Germans away). Most people will also respect your privacy when you get to know them.
Don’t wait to pursue your dreams :-)))
I also watched a lot of videos from people all over the world who are living abroad. And this friendship thing seems to be an issue all over the place not only related to German people. I lived some months in Canada. There I encountered a lot of foreign people who lived among themselves. And that might be a problem: How will you become friends with the people of the culture you live in if you are only connecting to people to other cultures? (I don't speak of you but generally.) And this was Canada - where all the people talk to each other all the time!
Thank you for your cheering comment😊
It is nice to know that German women enjoy solo activities here. It makes me feel I'm not alone.
I've lived in Canada as well. I will share more stories of myself in another video. When we are living abroad, we need lots of colleges to make friends than usual for sure:)
Ich bin froh, dass mir RUclips Deine Videos vorschlug. Ich habe sie gerade alle angesehen und Deinen Kanal abboniert. Dein Videostil ist so wunderbar angenehm ruhig und authentisch. Ich mag es, dass Du kleinere "Fehlerchen", die einfach normaler Alltag sind, nicht herausschneidest.
Du wohnst mit Sicherheit nicht in meiner Gegend, aber falls es Dich einmal nach Südwest-Deutschland verschlägt und Du Dich beim Spazierengehen alleine fühlst, würde ich mich anschließen - auch mit Rock im Winter.
Ich kann vieles von dem nachempfinden, was Du in Deinen Videos beschreibst. Kino ist in Deutschland auch so ein Ort, an dem man ab und an komisch angesehen wird, wenn man alleine hingeht. Beim ersten Mal fühlte es sich seltsam an, aber ich wollte unbedingt den Film sehen. Schon beim zweiten Mal waren die Blicke egal und ich fragte mich, wieso nicht viel mehr Menschen Kino alleine genießen.
Ich freue mich auf Dein nächstes Video, Frau Samurai! Grüße von Frau Dschigit. 💚
Dein Kommentar hat mich zum Lächeln gebracht😊Ich würde gerne spazieren gehen:)
Ich möchte meiner Realität treuer bleiben. Deshalb bearbeite ich mein Video nicht, damit es unrealistisch aussieht😌
I've felt the same way ever since moving to Berlin 4 years ago. I feel like it's really difficult to meet new people, and as you said, even going for dinner alone is very awkward even though one of my favorite things is going for food. I think the last time I met someone new was when I decided to start taking Korean lessons almost 2 years ago, really would be nice if it was easier to get to know some people here. I hope you'll find some people in your environment so life get s a little easier, it's already difficult enough without being alone. Wish you all the best, take care! (also the food you were cooking in this video looks absolutely delicious 🤤)
Thank you for your comment😊
I didn't realize Berlin is similar to Düsseldorf. Probably anywhere we go, we will face the same situation. Very interesting to know the situation in other cities though!
I actually think that it's just a feeling that everyone feel when you doesn't live in your homecountry .But i get what you are saying haha ,awkward moments being in a room full of people and dont engage with them .I have a take on it ,that this thing actually happen because of social norms and also people tend to judge a lot ,people who are alone, they project their owninsecurities into others and make you feel miserable and lonely .What a weird feeling
Thank you for your empathy😊
I avoid large groups now, as being overly sociable feels like lying to myself.
I lived in Germany for some years. I found it difficult to make friends. Acquaintances, yes, but friends, no. German people are more reserved in the sense of, like, having a protective shield. They don't open up easily. That's my experience as a foreigner in Germany anyway. So I understand your feeling, I think. But their Mettwurst and Currywurst are tasty. 🙂 Eisbein with Sauerkraut is also good. Try to enjoy the time and make it fun for yourself. You'll be fine. 🖐 And may you have a very happy and successful 2025.👍🙂
Thank you for your empathy.😊Making friends in Germany as a foreigner can be challenging. I enjoy Currywurst and Schnitzel as well. I haven't tried "Eisbein with Sauerkraut," but I looked it up, and it seems like a very traditional German dish😋 Thank you for your wishes, and happy new year to you too!😊
🌺🙋🏻♀️It depends on the region you are living in 🙋🏽♀️ best way is to join a „Verein“ Germans love Japanese Culture 😍💐
@@Palatinata Das denke ich auch.
Especially people in northern Germany are like that. The pandemic really made it worse :(
👋🏻wir Deutschen sind sehr zurückhaltend was Freundschaften angeht 🤷🏼♂️aber wenn wir es zulassen halten sie meistens ein Leben lang. Habe etwas Geduld mit uns 😉. Deine Videos sind sehr schön gemacht und das Essen sieht lecker aus 👍🏻
Wünsche Dir ein schönes neues Jahr 🍀
Das ist sehr wahr.! Sobald Deutsche ihre Herzen öffnen, sind sie sehr zuverlässig😌Danke für deine Unterstützung und ich freue mich, dass dir mein Video gefallen hat😊Ich wünsche dir ebenfalls ein frohes neues Jahr.
Suffering (Nice channel love the concept)
Thank you for your compliment😌
Hello, i am a german woman and i love all about japan. I love your language and your food, japanese design and of course japanese people. I live in Düsseldorf and here are living many japanese people, i am very open minded and try to be kind and open when i met some japanese people, but my experience is very often very low refuse. So i might be thinking japanese people dont want many contact.
By the way i would like to go for a walk with you or go together shopping in japanese supermarket at the immermannstreet. Best wishes!
Thank you for your lovely comment😊
I am one of those Japanese people in Düsseldorf. Many people are temporarily here and probably like staying in their own community. Thank you for staying kind to us🥰
Hello!
A very warm greeting from Germany! 👋
I really like your videos! I like this calm way of depicting everyday life. ✨
I am sorry to hear that it is difficult to find your way in Germany and to make friends.
The food always looks good. I like to eat the Nuremberg Rostbratwurst sausages. 😋
I keep my fingers crossed for you and wish you luck, health and happiness!
All the best for 2025!
Thank you for your kind words! 😊 I'm not sure which is "Nuremberg Rostbratwurst", as there are so many sausages in Germany. 😂 Wishing you a Happy New Year and all the best! 😊
I am German who lived in Japan for some years, so it’s interesting to hear the perspective for a Japanese living in Germany. Thanks for sharing 😊 Its hard to make friends here, but if you do find friends you can easily have them for a lifetime. Are you in the northern or Southern part of Germany? Gambatte kudasai 🙏🏼
Thank you for your comment😊I hope you enjoyed your stay in Japan🙏
I live in Düsseldorf, West Germany. :)
Liebe Grüße aus Köln 😊 ja wir brauchen etwas Zeit bis wir Freundschaft schließen , aber dann ist es oft eine sehr lange 😊.
Ich hoffe du findest ein paar tolle Menschen um dich herum .
Ich mag deine Videos. Gerne mehr davon 🤗 viel Glück und ein frohes neues Jahr
Vielen Dank für deinen netten Kommentar😊
Es braucht tatsächlich Zeit, Freunde zu finden, aber ich weiß auch, dass sie ziemlich zuverlässig sind, wenn sie sich erst einmal öffnen😌
It is nice to see the other point of view. I lived in Japan and live was very convenient.
It was hard though to be anything else but a foreigner.
In Germany I think people care a bit less or don't always give you that feeling.
Most people use restaurants to catch up with friends or go out as a couple in Germany, but it is fun to have a nice meal and people watch for me. The variety of people you see is so diverse compared to Japan.
Hope you can feel less unease to go out eating alone by viewing it more as entertainment or opportunity to learn something new about other people.
Thank you for your comment😌
In Japan, it is for sure difficult to live as a foreigner. I still hope you didn't make too much negative experience in Japan🙏
@@FrauSamuraiquite the opposite. I just know I don't want to work for a Japanese company in Japan 😅
Made some friends for life who I regularly visit when I am in Japan.
Hope you feel at home after 8 years in Germany.
初めまして、ドイツ人です。
I also do lot's of things on my own instead of taking someone with me - for example those long walks. And i know you are looked at in a weird way if you do those things alone. I just decided not to feel pressured or embarressed although beeing starred at while doing so. Just ignore those. But i also get, you feel sad and lonely sometimes although it was your own will to do alone. It's the feeling of knowing there's no one you can rely on in times you need to. I hope you'll find some people who will match the way you need it.
So far よろしくお願いします
Thank you for your comment😊
I believe people can enjoy solitude, but we also crave connections with others. Ultimately, what matters most is our true inner feelings. :)
I am an extroverted person but when i came to Sweden i became introverted due to some situations😅. Swedish are also reserved people. I am a filipina like to make jokes but for them i have to be careful on the words. I live in a society with different people from different cultures. On my 1st work, people there are introverts😁. And on my 2nd work they are extroverts😂. I can adjust on both worlds😁. By the way your food is delicious. Wanna try that looks yum! Upload more videos i like your style🥰.
Thank yo for your lovely compliment😊
Very interesting to know about your change and how people are in Sweden! 😂
Very inspiring again!
Quite often I feel like that, too. I don't have many places where I can go to alone without feeling scrutinised and - maybe? - judged. Even if I'm making progress and don't care as much as I used to. When I was young it was a shame to be a woman alone in a restaurant or a bar. Something like " Oh, she must be very needy to appear in this place." I did it anyway but it was always tough.
It feels good to "meet" a like minded person. To resonate with someone who talks about what is on my mind, too.
Thank you for sharing!
❤
And as for being an "alien" in another country. After a busy family life of 25 years with kids and husbands, I went to Siberia when I was 51 and lived there for 6 years. I was nearly mute in the beginning because Russian, which I couldn't speak, was the only language. Good for me that I was working 60 - 80 hours a week, which I liked and was enough for a long time.
There were very few Germans and funnily we shared the language but not the culture because most of them were from the East of Germany. After 45 years of Iron Curtain between the 2 Germanys their cultural experiences where very similar to the russian communists culture. Whereas my music, books, jokes, traditions were from the West and completely different. In the end the reason why I came back was, apart from family and friends, that I missed being with people of my cultural background.
Fun fact : You return and are as lonely as you were in the other country. You have to start all over, outsider again because again you have no people who when through the same with you. After 13 years back here and even if I have a vibrant family which I love to pieces, I'm still struggling with feeling lonely and at times too much on my own.
And at the same time enormously enjoy being alone. Well ...
❤ A Happy New Year!
Thank you for sharing your experiences😊
I also feel going back to my home country is also difficult if you live in a different country for quite a long time.
Happy new year and wish you all the best in 2025😊
Sounds interesting...having worked for 6years in Siberia 😮
Hm, I am not familiar enough with Japanese culture on the experience side, but as for the German side: So long as you don't disturb them or break any written rules, no one will care what or how you do something. Especially with things like restaurants, the other guests will most certainly not care about or judge you in any way, in fact, they probably won't even really perceive you as anything distinct from the scenery in the first place. It's as you said, more a matter of one's own feelings how such situations are in Germany.
That being said, if/once you do have German friends, but are an introvert, it's a way nicer experience than most places elsewhere, because German friends will schedule activities just like they will schedule work or other appointments, so most all activities are pre planned ahead of time and with a relatively set length and there is no problem or stigma in declining something that is uncomfortable or doesn't fit with your schedules or obligations when planning them. Just know that you will be expected to actually show up if you agreed to something.
If you don't like feeling/being lonely, I'd recommend joining one of the many different hobby/activity clubs or associations. They can convene as little as once a month (or even fewer - there are of course also the opposite) and generally for a set amount of time, so it isn't necessarily a large commitment and the amount of expected social interaction is generally limited to the time spent there. They're a great way of making new acquaintances and from there eventually friends. Do note the distinction though, as that is something foreigners often seem to misinterpret, especially coming from cultures like the anglophone world.
I visit different seminars and symposia about topics that interest me a few times a year for example. They get organized by an academic club I am part of and if one interests me, all I have to do is pay the attendance fee and book my attendance. So there isn't even ANY kind of regular attendance required. There is also usually an event held around christmas time where most of my club will visit an orchestra concert or opera together.
These things are a great way to socialize on your own terms without too much commitment in time or interaction.
Thank you for your comment😊
I think my problem is I struggle to find friends to frequently go out with. Attending an orchestra concert or opera sounds wonderful. I've never experienced it, but I would truly appreciate this aspect of European culture! I hope to find lasting friends with whom to share these visits. :)
Interesting) I think, it would be technically more profitable for your channel, more people could see it, if you put youtube-subtitles for translation in different languages instead of fixed video texts
Thank you for your idea:) I will consider about that😊
You really seem to like the Gouda from Rewe a lot :)). Actually its hard to believe a Japanese lady here feels kinda lonely. I thought its mostly men without having the right partner. I am an introvert too and it is quite hart for me to make friends. I also have no family left. I think Rowan Atkinson aka Mr Bean said once:" You gotta learn to like your own company" I think he is right in a way. On the other hand things can lead to depression if you feel isolated for too long. A good hobby always helps you then.
Haha, I need to laugh because I didn't realize how often I buy cheese. The longer I spend in Germany, the more friends I lose as people leave the city.
You're right; feeling isolated for too long isn't healthy. I'm trying new things and moving forward. 😊
@@FrauSamurai well if you want new friends maybe we can be friends? I live in Hamburg though
@sayonarababy335
Thank you for your kind offer😊I appreciate lots of people offering me friendships in comments :)
@@FrauSamurai I know its weird but for people like us there is barely any other chance to meet someone.
🙋🏻♀️It depends on the region you are living in 🙋🏽♀️ best way is to join a „Verein“ Germans love Japanese Culture 😍💐
Thank you for your comment😊
I’ll look for a club like that.😌🙏
Welcome in the country of introverts by the way.
Thank you for welcoming😊🙏haha
May i know where do you buy that pork? It doesnt seem like the usual cuts from Rewe?
I buy them at Korean supermarket in Düsseldorf:)
But I also know if you go to the butcher, you can ask them to cut very thin😌
Kannst Du mir vielleicht verraten wo Du den Reis her hast? Ich wollte schon seit einer Weile Kurzkorn-/Rundkornreis kochen, finde aber hier in Deutschland leider nichts passendes.
Viele Grüße!
Ich kaufe normalerweise Reis in einem asiatischen Supermarkt😊 Ich bin mir nicht sicher, wo du lebst, aber "Sushi-Reis" eignet sich für koreanische und japanische Gerichte. Wenn du einen japanischen Supermarkt finden kannst, bieten sie Reis von höherer Qualität an, obwohl er tendenziell teurer ist😌
ドイツへようこそ🙂
I came across your channel because I am very interested in Japanese culture.
I understand that it is not easy for you to make new friends in your new environment.
It is probably similarly difficult to make new friends even in Japan when you move to a foreign city from outside.
But at least there is no language barrier.
I assume from your grocery shopping that you live in or near Düsseldorf, which has the largest Japanese community in Germany.
I therefore hope that you will quickly make friends here so that you are no longer lonely.
One way to meet new people would be through a hobby or a club, such as the Japanese Club Düsseldorf.
There are certainly many Germans who would like to be friends with Japanese people because they are interested in the culture.
Personally, I would like to have Japanese friends to learn more about Japanese culture on a personal level, but unfortunately there is no way to meet Japanese people near me.
As for your YT channel, it would be interesting to know more about their reasons for moving to Germany.
I will definitely keep following your channel - がんばて ください ☺
Thank you for your comment! 😊
Making friends in different countries can be always challenging.
Good guess-I live in Düsseldorf. I don’t have any Japanese friends here, but I'll explain why in another video. I hope you continue to be interested in Japan!
おはよう又はこんばんは、
I'm a citizen of Germany (by passport) and the citizen of the Universe.
I'm introverted as well. When I eat out, I don't see anyone looking at me somehow unusually. Yes, some people might check other people in the eatery, however it is usually it i.e. nothing (more) special. That's possible because I am just an average looking male.
I wonder, do you speak German? and how long have you been living here (in Germany)?
バイバイ、ミスさん
Thank you for your comment😊
I've lived here for 8.5 years and speak German, but I'm still learning a lot. In the video "Why do I get hurt by the German languages?", I share a bit of my story. I would appreciate it if you could check it out!😌
Well, in México people are very socially, there are large families and so, I am not a social person, I don’t like to be around people, so I can say I am an introvert one but I feel good about it, I enjoy being alone and having time to be with me😊
I heard lots of good reputations about Mexican people😊I'm glad you enjoy being alone though😌
You break my heart.
If this means you are having empathy for me, I thank you for that:)
@FrauSamurai yes. Empathy and sympathy.
Ganbatte kudasai.
I only partially agree with your statement that Japan gives people more opportunities to do things solo than Germany does. I totally agree with you when it comes to city life. Restaurants have seating for single guests and so on. However, I think those activities are limited to cities. On the other hand, in Germany it is much more common when single people follow their hobbies, or other activities by themselves. I think it is more common that someone in Germany will say, " I am interested in activity X. I will now start doing activity X by myself.", or "I will go to a school that teaches X".
In Japan, I think you will almost only ever pursue a hobby with at least one friend. This difference is basically the big cultural difference of social cohesion, and being part of the whole in Japan vs. pursuing your own individuality in Europe. Just like the forced socializing you mention in the video when you have to go out regularly with work colleagues. In Germany you are forced much more to design your own life. That brings a lot of freedom, but it also requires a huge leap of faith. You have already done the biggest step of pursuing your individuality by deciding to relocate to Germany. :)
Thank you for sharing your idea:) Western culture emphasizes individuality, while Japan tends to lean towards collectivism. However, in Japan, we still often engage in activities alone which is actually funny😅
Es scheint viele Japanische Damen in Deutschland zu geben, den Kanälen nach zu urteilen. Deiner gefällt mir. Was hat Dich nach Deutschland gebracht ? Wie hast Du die Sprache gelernt oder lernst sie noch ? 侍さんは自己紹介お願いします。🙂
Danke für deinen Kommentar😊Ich werde bald Informationen über mich in einem Video bereitstellen:)
@@FrauSamurai 楽しみ !
>Liebe geht durch den Magen< - deutsches Sprichwort. Ich empfehle einfach einmal Menschen die Dich interessieren zu einem gemeinsamen Essen privat einzuladen. 3-5 Personen - jeder kocht etwas zum Essen. Vorspeise, 1Gang, 2Gang, Nachspeise. Der beste Weg die Menschen kennen zu lernen.
Danke, dass du mir neue deutsche Wörter beigebracht hast😊 Es ist eine gute Idee, Leute einzuladen und einige meiner Gerichte zu servieren:)