@We Called Game he means you can be irresponsible and learn when you're younger don't be so cautious because once you get older like the other person said everything has consequences and you'll anyway have to be responsible
@We Called Game an example of it can be like you can buy a new video game when your young but when you have a family,kids and pets to worry about(money wise) buying a video game might not be the first thing you’d want to buy. Does that make sense?
oh man, i feel this one so much it made me cry. you’re not alone dude, i have EDS, ME and POTS which is slowly destroying my health and independence but i’m refusing to allow it destroy my love for life and my passions.
“Cherish the moments you have with mom and dad.” Both passed before I was 18 and I would absolutely love more guidance but don’t have that parental figure helping me learn how to do things
Adopt new sources of guidance if you can! People who inspire you, people who give good advice, people who are wise and have experience of living. You don't even have to know them in real life, they can be authors, painters, musicians, teachers, scientists, religious or spiritual figures or whatever. They can be books or movies or podcasts. Guidance doesn't have to come from one place or person. I know it's not the same thing as real parental figures, but it's still useful as hell.
man my dad passed away recently, i'm lucky enough to still have my mom but i'm worried I'm going to have to learn everything on my own too. Do you have any advice?
@@licuslunar9533 my big piece of advice is to never give up and to surround yourself with people that love you. For me, I have two older sisters (one tries to help me learn but she’s barely older than me.) and my friends have been my anchor. Also, if you need any help I’m here. I’ve been thinking of setting up a RUclips and TikTok to kind of talk about these experiences and tips for people going through similar stuff
Interesting that no one said what I would’ve said: that there is more than one path in life. You don’t need to go the college > corporate job > marriage > kids route. You can skip any or all of those steps.
2:51 this is very true. Many Asian children grow up with extreme insecurity. I teared up top because what she said is exactly what I am struggling with rn
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" BE UNAPOLOGETIC Never be afraid of expressing yourself and to stand up for yourself, please stop taking everything so personal and seriously. You're gorgeous and you deserve every bit of others attention. YOU DESERVE THE WORLD"
my advice: “nobody knows you better than yourself not even your parents. don’t let people guilt you into thing. don’t let people make you feel shitty for things you love. be grateful for your body. don’t hang out with those two people.”
"You may think you're better than them, but don't underestimate anyone. That kid who you thought was a clown? He's probably a lawyer now." Also, "Having good grades isn't something to almost die over. Seriously. Take care of your mental health."
It's really heartbreaking and sad that most people thought or still think that they're not good enough or don't deserve any happiness or opinion...just know that you'll always matter to someone out there😊
“You’re trans. And that’s okay. Don’t run from it and don’t let anyone anyone’s views on that affect how you see yourself. at the end of the day your opinion of yourself can make or break you.”
id tell myself that you dont need to take shit from people, and you deserve to be treated with basic human kindness. and that while things are really hard now, they will get better. you’ll find your people. people who you love, and who love you just as much. please dont be too hard on yourself either, you look good. also, you’re trans.
Something I'll say to my younger self is "Your emotions aren't a weakness. Feel your emotions, be happy, be sad, be angry, be hopeful. It's okay to let go and show them." I definitely remember times where I would run away from people or hide my face because my dad always scolded me for being happy or being sad.
“don’t always try to be there for everyone!” that’s what I’m still telling myself everyday and that’s what I would tell me younger self too. just try to be there for yourself first, later you can try and help others.
Changing yourself for acceptance is the saddest thing ever and I know that. It’s ok if you are a little lost as we all are, just be yourself and you are going to make it! ~stay healthy and safe 😊.
This was a punch to the gut. I spent many years in therapy attempting to undo all the self hatred my parents gave to me. . . I am going back soon again to deal with more realizations of racial self hate thank to my step mom. I wish I knew back then that both my mothers never had my best interest at heart.
“You’re doing the best you can. Listen to yourself more. Even the people that love you are failing you in some ways, and it’s okay to want to do what feels right for yourself this time. Thank you for making the way for me to live.”
Mine would be to take recovery more seriously. I started going to therapy in 2017 for a porn addiction and started attending self help groups. Problem was that being 21-22 at the time, I didn't take my addiction as seriously as I should have and felt that I could take care of it on my own and eventually stopped going. It took another 4 years of being an addict and coming out to my mom about my problems for me to take recovery seriously and started therapy back up again Jan 2021 and now, while have had some isses inbetween, am roughly about 4 months clean. I never could have done it without the help of my mom and my therapist
"Do not hold onto things or people that do not matter anymore." "Leave when your gut is telling you to." "If they treat you badly, they are not real friends."
When I hear ppl say they do things to be excepted by their friends that they don’t wanna do I just can’t relate man. I was bullied as a kid, after high school I have basically had zero “friends” . I have been completely alone outside of family and I have zero regrets towards it. It’s great being alone IMO. No one to worry about but yourself or to please but urself. Although having a gf would be nice 😅. But not gonna force that either
I've been with my SO since I was 16 and he was 17(high school sweethearts). We are 30 now and still going strong. Maybe the key is we haven't gotten married (tbh we'd rather use the money for traveling 😋)
"Don't listen to what mom says all the time she's still gonna be projecting her own insecurities don't worry you won't be anything like her" while i still want my mothers validation i'm learning that I don't need it and I'm gonna be my own person 100% one day not who she wants me to be cause I'm not my mom's doll i'm her child
My advise would be to my younger self: “Things will get worse before they get better, live day by day, make better choices in men, trust the process and don’t give up!”
That last one. She nails ot everytime. Real talk. To my younger self. Dudes and acceptance isn't the goal. Learning and having fun is. I need to tell self fix your priorities!
Me to my younger self: Sometimes what others want from you, including your family, isn't what you want. That's ok. You're allowed to disappoint people. It's their feeling, not yours. Find the balance.
Im having a hard time in highschool right now because I'm worried about myself and my future but honestly this video kind of helped me. It feels like they are talking to me and trying to help me.
I will tell myself: nobody has the right answer for everything, not your parents, not yourself, not the bible, neither your friends. Nothing is white or black.
Baby read the Bible. Read it through the Bible app Either than that; protect your spirit Damn; believe in something. Weather crystals or Buddha or whatever But your spirit is the most important
I would say to my end of high school/start of college self: please quit beating yourself up over not being more popular, going to parties, or sleeping with girls. There is nothing wrong with you for not partaking in that whole scene and if anyone judges you for it, that's their problem not yours. Stop worrying and just live your life.
I would say: -Standing up for yourself will threaten people. Don't let that stop you from standing up for yourself. -Your life doesn't have to look like the lives of other young guys in tv and movies (endless dates and girlfriends, muscular physique, party every weekend, lots of traveling) for your life to matter.
*One advice I would give to my future self:* “Don't be too addicted to Social Media. The internet is known for its arrogant, uncompromising users, and trolls. Internet trolls can be terrible for the sake of a joke. However, in reality, the terrible things we experience and the toughest things we go through aren’t on the internet at all; the most unrelenting thing we go through is life itself, and in a sense, the joke is on us.”
My advice: "It's okay to not know, you don't need to live this perfect life for others this is YOUR life the possibilities are endless you can literally be anything you want"
My advice to my younger self: don't listen to mom, always trust dad, transfer to a different elementary school that doesn't make you wear uniforms, take taekwondo lessons when you're in middle school, be patient with your little brother, go to that cute boy's birthday party or else you'll regret it, don't screw up your Instagram password, get good grades so you don't go to summer school, don't kiss that senior on your last week as a freshman at high school in front of the guy you love even though you're going through peer pressure, take driving lessons the summer after 9th grade, stay in choir and attend 3 concerts so that you'll be in choir junior year and senior year, take AP classes junior year to avoid being surrounded by idiots and apply to colleges, only pay for yourself, attend any football game with your friends, and don't jaywalk or else you'll miss out on the best times of your life: prom and senior week.
Don't care what others think of you and be yourself/be different because at the end of the day, you will inspire atleast 1 other person in their head to be themselves and look up to you when they are scared to be their true self ❤️
I 100% relate to the girl speaking at 2:50 - some of us have parents who didn't know to tell us that we're enough, and that REALLY is something I still struggle with at age 29. I wish every day that I could just flip a switch and step into myself and my confidence and self worth and take up space without doubting myself even for a second. But we move, we work towards it.
From me to me: Sometimes success does not come in the form of progress. Sometimes it is standing resolute in your current position when everything in you wants to step back or quit. Even those types of success deserve resounding applause. Acknowledge and celebrate those wins.
“You don’t need to accept being treated badly. Just because you don’t want to be alone”
That hit deep 💔
*accept
@@dalerodrigues543 sorry I always get those confused 🤷🏻♀️
@@dbr3815 hey nothing to be sorry about it's alright.
@@Anis-67 I did. Sorry I forgot you could edit comments
yeah, it did.
"THE OLDER YOU GET, THE HARDER IT IS TO BE IRRESPONSIBLE " at 4:32. Agreed on that one bud.
@We Called Game he means being irresponsible holds a much larger consequence once you get older
@We Called Game he means you can be irresponsible and learn when you're younger don't be so cautious because once you get older like the other person said everything has consequences and you'll anyway have to be responsible
@We Called Game an example of it can be like you can buy a new video game when your young but when you have a family,kids and pets to worry about(money wise) buying a video game might not be the first thing you’d want to buy. Does that make sense?
“It’ll slowly all be okay. Your health will continue to decline, but you will learn to love life anyway and enjoy the little things.
This helped me
This one is solid❤️
, Shrek is the best movie ever."
oh man, i feel this one so much it made me cry. you’re not alone dude, i have EDS, ME and POTS which is slowly destroying my health and independence but i’m refusing to allow it destroy my love for life and my passions.
@@caelanoldacc Wish you all the best
My advice would be: talk about your past trauma, don't feel guilty about it and never start self harming.
That’s a good one. I’m working on this right now :)
Me too
Damn I needed to hear that. Thank you :)
@@TanaBueno you're very welcome and pls know that you're never alone so always talk to others💕
@@laura.bt83 👍🏼👍🏼
“Cherish the moments you have with mom and dad.” Both passed before I was 18 and I would absolutely love more guidance but don’t have that parental figure helping me learn how to do things
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Hey brother I hope you have a good day and always remember that you are here for a reason and it’s ur time to shine
Adopt new sources of guidance if you can! People who inspire you, people who give good advice, people who are wise and have experience of living. You don't even have to know them in real life, they can be authors, painters, musicians, teachers, scientists, religious or spiritual figures or whatever. They can be books or movies or podcasts. Guidance doesn't have to come from one place or person. I know it's not the same thing as real parental figures, but it's still useful as hell.
man my dad passed away recently, i'm lucky enough to still have my mom but i'm worried I'm going to have to learn everything on my own too. Do you have any advice?
@@licuslunar9533 my big piece of advice is to never give up and to surround yourself with people that love you. For me, I have two older sisters (one tries to help me learn but she’s barely older than me.) and my friends have been my anchor. Also, if you need any help I’m here. I’ve been thinking of setting up a RUclips and TikTok to kind of talk about these experiences and tips for people going through similar stuff
“Don’t swim towards the egg.” Is what I would tell my younger self.
*1/2 of your younger self
@@Pratik_Singh Back when I was deep inside of my mom.
yea bad times ahead for sure
If you were trying to make a joke then you nailed it man!
YES LMAO
“Don’t care what people think, they don’t pay your bills”
!!!!
Periodd
What if they do
“Don’t get in the car, there is no ice cream” 😳 omfg were they kidnapped??
I hope not
THAT ONE CAUGHT ME SO OFF GUARD. WAYY TO EARLY IN THE VIDEO 😂😂😂
Lets say they got the popsicle
I thought she was talking about when your parents trick you to go someplace you don't want to go to with a white lie, now idk 😳
Probably rape
Me to my younger self: “Don’t be everyone’s backbone when they don’t do anything for you just to be validated.”
“ You are not the Centre of the universe. 9/10 times nobody is looking at you or cares that you spent 2 hours doing your hair. Don’t fear judgment”
You spend two hours doing your hair? Lmao I totally regret not looking after my hair and I have grey hair at 16
Actually, you ARE the center of the universe.
Interesting that no one said what I would’ve said: that there is more than one path in life. You don’t need to go the college > corporate job > marriage > kids route. You can skip any or all of those steps.
Sooooooo true! 💯 Especially when you realize that that shit isn't meant for everyone and not everyone can have those things.
2:51 this is very true. Many Asian children grow up with extreme insecurity. I teared up top because what she said is exactly what I am struggling with rn
You are loved by the Almighty God who created you. Praying for healing, love, and reconciliation with your parents. May God continue to bless you.
"Stop trying to be everyone's friend"
Underrated
My advice to myself: “Say no. You’re always allowed to say no. It’s not your fault.”
This is something I really need to learn to say... I keep saying yes and end up putting myself in uncomfortable/unpleasant situations
@@adedamola8761 goofy
mine would be if someone is doing something dodgy, WALK AWAY
"You're allowed to make a big deal about things that are important to you"
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Pay attention to your health and be your own advocate. See the doctors and make sure they listen. Don't think health issues will just go away.
" BE UNAPOLOGETIC Never be afraid of expressing yourself and to stand up for yourself, please stop taking everything so personal and seriously. You're gorgeous and you deserve every bit of others attention. YOU DESERVE THE WORLD"
I felt this one. I hope to one day get those negative feelings away because I still have to deal with them daily. I wish you the best!
my advice: “nobody knows you better than yourself not even your parents. don’t let people guilt you into thing. don’t let people make you feel shitty for things you love. be grateful for your body. don’t hang out with those two people.”
Here’s mine : Don’t let sexual harassment stop you from loving + embracing your body. 🦋
I’m sorry this happened to you love
hope you're doing better now my g!
I'm sorry but happy you've overcome this and are strong as ever. Continue to share your story! All love
I hope you are doing 💜
"You may think you're better than them, but don't underestimate anyone. That kid who you thought was a clown? He's probably a lawyer now."
Also,
"Having good grades isn't something to almost die over. Seriously. Take care of your mental health."
It's really heartbreaking and sad that most people thought or still think that they're not good enough or don't deserve any happiness or opinion...just know that you'll always matter to someone out there😊
“You don’t need to accept being treated badly just because you don’t want to be alone” well that hit hard 😢
Me too my younger self: “Learn self-love and self-acceptance, because everything else will fall into place.”
“You’re trans. And that’s okay. Don’t run from it and don’t let anyone anyone’s views on that affect how you see yourself. at the end of the day your opinion of yourself can make or break you.”
id tell myself that you dont need to take shit from people, and you deserve to be treated with basic human kindness. and that while things are really hard now, they will get better. you’ll find your people. people who you love, and who love you just as much. please dont be too hard on yourself either, you look good. also, you’re trans.
Something I'll say to my younger self is
"Your emotions aren't a weakness. Feel your emotions, be happy, be sad, be angry, be hopeful. It's okay to let go and show them."
I definitely remember times where I would run away from people or hide my face because my dad always scolded me for being happy or being sad.
"You dont owe anyone anything your life is yours.
I love this one! Totally true
FAXXXXXXXXXX
“Keep pushing, I love you” is HANDS down the beat advice!
“don’t always try to be there for everyone!”
that’s what I’m still telling myself everyday and that’s what I would tell me younger self too.
just try to be there for yourself first, later you can try and help others.
Changing yourself for acceptance is the saddest thing ever and I know that.
It’s ok if you are a little lost as we all are, just be yourself and you are going to make it!
~stay healthy and safe 😊.
Mine would be: “don’t trust your relatives too much and do not depend on them, it’ll destroy you because they don’t feel the same towards you”
Oof this hits hard
This was a punch to the gut. I spent many years in therapy attempting to undo all the self hatred my parents gave to me. . . I am going back soon again to deal with more realizations of racial self hate thank to my step mom. I wish I knew back then that both my mothers never had my best interest at heart.
“You’re doing the best you can. Listen to yourself more. Even the people that love you are failing you in some ways, and it’s okay to want to do what feels right for yourself this time. Thank you for making the way for me to live.”
I feel like it wouldn't be that bad to watch this every year to remind myself that some of this shit is always true no matter where you're at in life
Mine would be to take recovery more seriously. I started going to therapy in 2017 for a porn addiction and started attending self help groups. Problem was that being 21-22 at the time, I didn't take my addiction as seriously as I should have and felt that I could take care of it on my own and eventually stopped going. It took another 4 years of being an addict and coming out to my mom about my problems for me to take recovery seriously and started therapy back up again Jan 2021 and now, while have had some isses inbetween, am roughly about 4 months clean. I never could have done it without the help of my mom and my therapist
I wish I'd seen this earlier in life. I'm so grateful to people who give out such advice to younglings in general. You da best!
Me to my younger self: don't overthink just fkn relax and everything will be alright. Just stay focused on your goal.
dont be such a perfectionist, youre doing great, dont overthink about small details! - from myself to myself
"you need to pass through this to become a better person, keep in your way"
The last one was beautiful, you never know what someone is going through. I hope everyone knows they matter and they are loved by someone.
"Don't hit the breaks until you hear the glass break"
you got this bro.
“Stand up for myself more often” “DONT BE AFRAID” 💯
"Do not hold onto things or people that do not matter anymore."
"Leave when your gut is telling you to."
"If they treat you badly, they are not real friends."
To my younger self : You are beautiful the way you are 🥺❤
I'm failing college and this video really helped to make me feel like I am worthy of happiness, I hope I will figure it out.
When I hear ppl say they do things to be excepted by their friends that they don’t wanna do I just can’t relate man. I was bullied as a kid, after high school I have basically had zero “friends” . I have been completely alone outside of family and I have zero regrets towards it. It’s great being alone IMO. No one to worry about but yourself or to please but urself. Although having a gf would be nice 😅. But not gonna force that either
I've been with my SO since I was 16 and he was 17(high school sweethearts). We are 30 now and still going strong. Maybe the key is we haven't gotten married (tbh we'd rather use the money for traveling 😋)
"Hold on to her. Tell her how much you love her evey single day. Show her how much you love her in every way."
"When she asks the soon to be sister inlaw to be in the bridal party, SAY NO!"
Hey you’re that guy from the vids!
we need the story behind this one 👀
@@moochimichimoo It's way too long to tell on here, but believe me...it is the craziest wedding story you've ever heard.
fuuuuuuuck! My friend might be a little late on that. He's already pulled the plug.
@@mercygirl317 His sister is part of the bridal party
3:05 omg i just wanna hug her
"Don't listen to what mom says all the time she's still gonna be projecting her own insecurities don't worry you won't be anything like her"
while i still want my mothers validation i'm learning that I don't need it and I'm gonna be my own person 100% one day not who she wants me to be cause I'm not my mom's doll i'm her child
My advise would be to my younger self: “Things will get worse before they get better, live day by day, make better choices in men, trust the process and don’t give up!”
“ don’t need to accept to be treated badly because you don’t want to be alone “
That last one. She nails ot everytime. Real talk.
To my younger self. Dudes and acceptance isn't the goal. Learning and having fun is. I need to tell self fix your priorities!
Please in the next interview ask them " what would they like to say to their kids in the future" i really wonder their responses
Me to my younger self: Sometimes what others want from you, including your family, isn't what you want. That's ok. You're allowed to disappoint people. It's their feeling, not yours. Find the balance.
ngl most of these are kinda relatable 😅😂
“A lot of your life is going to feel like it was the wrong timing and for that reason, cherish every moment you have”
You should do "What advice would you give your pre-pandemic self?" I'd love to see that one!!
The director of cut actually gives the best commentary, i love it
Advice to my younger self: Start Nursing School straight out of high school 👏🏾
Why
For me, it all comes back to loving and believing in yourself.
3:25 can we talk how good she looks
"You don't have to accept being treated badly just because you are alone" THIS
This is inspirational, thank you!
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@@pussinbootsisme8983 true 😌
“Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re gonna be great !”
2:26 she made me feel so comforted
Im having a hard time in highschool right now because I'm worried about myself and my future but honestly this video kind of helped me. It feels like they are talking to me and trying to help me.
I love how they always end these serious videos with Queen LL Royale! She is always spitting straight facts and keeping it 💯👌🏾
I will tell myself: nobody has the right answer for everything, not your parents, not yourself, not the bible, neither your friends. Nothing is white or black.
The Quran does.
@@haykalmahdi3564 to my younger self it doesn't/didn't.
@@haykalmahdi3564 No
@@haykalmahdi3564 No
Baby read the Bible.
Read it through the Bible app
Either than that; protect your spirit
Damn; believe in something.
Weather crystals or Buddha or whatever
But your spirit is the most important
I would tell my younger self: "Never try to lose weight in an unhealthy way! Good body shape means nothing if u are sick."
I'd tell my younger self to enjoy life, that is the best way to live it.
I would say to my end of high school/start of college self: please quit beating yourself up over not being more popular, going to parties, or sleeping with girls. There is nothing wrong with you for not partaking in that whole scene and if anyone judges you for it, that's their problem not yours. Stop worrying and just live your life.
as a really young person... i needed this thank you
3:52 i died omg BEAUTIFUL
“Try new things. You do need people in your life. Get out of your hometown sooner. Also, your daddy issues are a reflection of him, not yourself.”
“you’re beautiful” “love yourself”
I would say:
-Standing up for yourself will threaten people. Don't let that stop you from standing up for yourself.
-Your life doesn't have to look like the lives of other young guys in tv and movies (endless dates and girlfriends, muscular physique, party every weekend, lots of traveling) for your life to matter.
this was weirdly motivational
Look at all these beautiful people.
I'd tell my younger self to take my college fund, buy a cheap house, and just focus on writing.
*One advice I would give to my future self:* “Don't be too addicted to Social Media. The internet is known for its arrogant, uncompromising users, and trolls. Internet trolls can be terrible for the sake of a joke. However, in reality, the terrible things we experience and the toughest things we go through aren’t on the internet at all; the most unrelenting thing we go through is life itself, and in a sense, the joke is on us.”
"Go to therapy." If I would've just asked for the help I needed sooner, everything would be so different.
My advice: "It's okay to not know, you don't need to live this perfect life for others this is YOUR life the possibilities are endless you can literally be anything you want"
Don't let your ego eat up your character. Stay vigilant, stay humble.
You don’t need to be accept treated badly, just because you don’t want to be alone. . .
the sooner you embrace the stuff that makes you different the easier your life gets 😍
"The pain in your past was not your fault and you eventually heal and find the family you always needed."
I would tell myself, be vulnerable. Let yourself be love and love others. Talk your emotions
These videos are so genuine and down to earth.
This is one of my favorite videos of my life. Thank you
My advice to my younger self: don't listen to mom, always trust dad, transfer to a different elementary school that doesn't make you wear uniforms, take taekwondo lessons when you're in middle school, be patient with your little brother, go to that cute boy's birthday party or else you'll regret it, don't screw up your Instagram password, get good grades so you don't go to summer school, don't kiss that senior on your last week as a freshman at high school in front of the guy you love even though you're going through peer pressure, take driving lessons the summer after 9th grade, stay in choir and attend 3 concerts so that you'll be in choir junior year and senior year, take AP classes junior year to avoid being surrounded by idiots and apply to colleges, only pay for yourself, attend any football game with your friends, and don't jaywalk or else you'll miss out on the best times of your life: prom and senior week.
Fucken hell it said what would you say to your younger self no re-write your whole life Christ
Don't care what others think of you and be yourself/be different because at the end of the day, you will inspire atleast 1 other person in their head to be themselves and look up to you when they are scared to be their true self ❤️
ah the combo of the guy who was self conscious about balding + his one punch man hoodie omg perfect ugh i love both
I 100% relate to the girl speaking at 2:50 - some of us have parents who didn't know to tell us that we're enough, and that REALLY is something I still struggle with at age 29. I wish every day that I could just flip a switch and step into myself and my confidence and self worth and take up space without doubting myself even for a second. But we move, we work towards it.
Preach, I just stopped caring it's mentally taxing to impress your parents and family, I'm sorry I'm not a 90% student mom deal with it
"you're not perfect BUT nobody is." Yeah, sometimes i tend to forget that. Thankyou ::)
me to myself: you are so so loved. don’t take that for granted
From me to me: Sometimes success does not come in the form of progress. Sometimes it is standing resolute in your current position when everything in you wants to step back or quit. Even those types of success deserve resounding applause. Acknowledge and celebrate those wins.
Idk how they do it but why does everyone look so beautiful. Seriously everyone in a cut episode always look like models.
' Don't waste time ' me to my younger self